Thank you for bringing a voice of compassion to the topic. If the whole debacle around Harry & Meghan has revealed anything, it's how much our society lacks understanding, empathy and compassion.
Unfortunately, he is still and always will be in the public eye. Sadly for him, he chose a wife who craves it while he looks to be traumatised by it. I hope he finds peace 🙏
That's half-true, I think. We've learned that today's society does not patronize those who are willing to damage their own families on a global stage. They generally won't patronize those caught lying or caught grossly exaggerating, either. Society in this way can set healthy boundaries and teach lessons. I think the problem that Harry had was trying to make the public his "therapist". He saw his mother try it, and it was successful for her in terms of great public support. But this is the age of social media. If Diana did the same today, people would confront her about traumatizing her children by airing her husband's sins to the world. They would ask how she could expose them to gossip, expose them to taunting in school, and to risk fracturing an emotional bond with their father. They would question why she was putting her emotional needs first, at the expense of her children's. Voices would bring tough love, as well as support, hate, craziness from the human family. Harry is receiving the overwhelming realities of the world that she did not. And hopefully, he'll come to accept responsibility for inviting it all in.
Thank you Gabor, to t😮ell what you think about Harry, how traumatised he was, and his mother and father both were. I really am surprised by the venom of so many people who judge him mercilessly. And the way the British press hunts him and his wife down is beyond believe. There is no compassion there, it seems, only hatred.
❤🎉connection and love for Every Child yeahhhhhhhhhh, I want the whole planet to know and experience this kind of love...the parties would be Amazing!!!😊🌻🧡🎊
I run a animal sanctuary. We aren't all buying into the insanity. Have hope. But I have had social services called on me by detractors. I dare to shout.. emporer is naked😅
From reading some comments, it just shows how much we as a society are traumatized and don’t even realize it . We are unable to have compassion for other people and yet we make our own mistakes . to be human is to grow and be better tomorrow than today and hold space for others as they try to heal
Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and billionaire families in the USA, like the Priztkers, promoting and funding the trans agenda. Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and their normalizing and legalizing PEDO relationships. Let me hold the space for your mental illness and call it compassion.
I can understand the trauma of his mother's death but he also had a lot of money and support. I lost my mother at 13 saw her screaming with a tumour, my father had mh and could not cope. We had little money. I was told just get on with life and I had to. If you have to get on or sink you get on. He should now move on not just wine about everything in life.
He is not whining.....he's trying to get ahead by starting foundations, marrying, having children, starting " Invictus games" All in the dam public eye. All the West does is judge, judge and judge when we don't want to understand.
That's so rich coming from a woman who has never been vilified by the all country by pess and tabloids. Whine about everything? It's his life why does it bother you? You moved on cause u were loved. Your dad never told ur mom that u were a spare after being born. Ur dad never left ur mom on that day just to spend time with his mistress. No one has a F right to tell others how and when to move on frm their trauma. H has been the scapegoat of his family n tabloids n the likes of u have always been quite. Please just move on from him n let him be . Keep ur nose off his business, he never forced you to read or listen to anything about him.
Money is controlled by his father, and eventually prince william. You have to suck up to them and be docile maintain good flow of allowance. If you're going to be a working royal, you cant take up other work. Your income has to come from the institution exclusively. It's a form of courtier control. It's how that family works, like a gilded cage exactly.
Money is nothing his mum is the number one some are strong and can move on some can not millions of pounds means nothing that not bring his mum back, i lost all my family i live on my own it was not easy but i had to change my life and find a new way not every one can do that. We need to stop blaming and understand some can cope some can not.
I really admire Harry for speaking publicly about his trauma. I think he is a true renegade, a truth teller and an inspiration. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I sense that he genuinely wants to help people by sharing his story. He's definitely helped me. I was silent about my trauma for way too long. When high profile speak out about what they have been through they inspire others to do the same and help us know that we are not the only one. I really admire famous people who use their fame to help others. I recommend the series he did with Oprah called The Me You Can't See for anyone who hasn't seen it. I felt really validated when I watched it. Whatever traumatic experiences you have had to endure in your life, you are not alone, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you deserve to be heard, seen and supported❤
I'm grateful to you, Gabor and Rangan, for bringing this compassionate voice to the Harry 'situation'. I feel very sad about the family breakdown and hope that the brothers can one day see beyond their current differences, but it is difficult to see how that can happen when media (social and otherwise) persist in adding fuel to the flames of discord. All families have problems, but few are under so much external pressure. I wish Harry and Meghan, William and Kate, Charles and Camilla the best. I honestly believe that they are all caring people who genuinely want the best for each other, but they are stuck. More voices like yours are needed to take a more objective and genuinely concerned stance. I am sick of the vitriol.
Just a question do you still feel the same after the staged NYC chase by blackgrid who was called by them or his wife maybe. Or maybe the picture of her smiling at the back of the cab while Harry looked like a triggered mess. Or the tragic death of his mother been associated with that mockery of a snail paced car chase🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️ At some point eyes need to open to the real truth. either our eyes or his eyes if it's such that the wife is the puppet master calling the shots.
@Trash Panda 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 It's okay oo. But FYi there has been footage from blackgrid the Meghan hired paps showing who has been driving recklessly blocking traffic. But its okay 👍🏾 I do note that none of that means anything to you. I am not rude. I respect your position 👌🏿.
@@Du-Massesit’s funny to me how any criticism of Harry or Meghan elicits this “blame the Murdoch business/man” yet Harry is employed with Murdoch’s wife at the Aspen institute, where they are BOTH working to make sure that WE, the regular citizens cannot have our speech - Unless it is All Positive for the elites, of which Harry definitely is one and will always be.
This is what I see in Harry. A human being. I love that. 👑♥I also miss Princess Dianna who was a Humanitarian. That, they have in common. Reflected in his demeanor. I would love to meet him.
Yes! I agree this invasion of privacy makes it almost impossible for a person like Harry to find the peace he needed. He was trapped in grief and trauma at the tragic loss of his mother. It is only now that he has found the love of a good woman that he feels he can let all that trauma out. Because now he feels safe.
The brit media and the brit national pastime of bullying and hate should be distressing to anyone with a brain. Speaking up about mental health takes strength and courage and those who whinge about talking about trauma is small minded. H. has made a sane important decision to live a better life and cares that his kids are treated better than he was.
From a family that abused and betrayed who I Am I have stood up to mine and told the world also. No more pretending. I admire and Trust what Harry needs; shame to those who criticize and I only see they want to bury the lies and trauma they never acknowledged in their own family’s. Where ever you are Harry, I understand and I will always care🪷
Harry and Meghan is expected to live with the disrespect thrown at them by family and media. Especially Meghan she should be grateful to be associated with this wealthy abusive family and how dare this black woman complain about their behavior towards her. When we all witnessed their disgusting attitude at the Commonwealth Service and the late Queens funeral Kate Camilla and Sophie were just plain and simple downright rude towards Meghan.
the problem is learning. He did not need to put down his family and criticize. he has children so he won't repeat the things that he did not like. He doesn't need to air the family secret or impose his idea not over his family but the public too. The other problem is the wife she is not normal so did not give him any support. WE never see his real kids in public and see how he treat them.
I got vilified when I didn't want to brush things under the carpet and decided to confront the pink elephant in the room. I understand Harry. I didn't want to live like a robot and be inauthentic to myself. Now Harry has a family, children he loves unconditionally, a loving wife, and mother in law that's providing love like a mother.
I don’t think you know what you’re talking about you sound ridiculous! She had money and fame and was loved long before she met Harry! What do you want to do is verify her and you don’t know her get a life and stop being so poisonous
It seems like "Harry" is more important than the rest of us peasants who grew up more emotionally deprived and with hardships much greater than "Prince Harry". Harry has the economic means to have many material posessions and and pay for all the mental health an medical care he will ever need. He's in a position to meet all kinds of people, make friends. and earn millions. I'm a person whose mother abandoned me and my sister as a child, been widowed and divorced and live in low income housing and can't afford the medical and things I need and no one is asking if they can help me so Harry has so many advantages than the majority of us peasants. Harry's not the the only child who lost a parent to violence and didn't receive the emotional support he/she needed. My god there are thousands upon thousands around the world suffering much greater than Harry.
Does that make his mental health, his experiences any less important? You have completely missed the point! It's attitudes such as yours that are what is wrong with this World.
I'm sorry for your trauma. I'm sorry for everyone's trauma. But thankfully, our personal traumas have not been played out in the public eye and compounded by media moguls, whose intrusions into our private lives have compounded and amplified our trauma purely to make money off of us. Then when we dared to say 'enough!' those same media moguls have not gone on to vilify us out of spite. Imagine your story splashed across multiple papers and news headlines, but they are effectively blaming you for all the things that have traumatized you. Then imagine that happening every single day constantly from the day your traumas began. That is what is happening still to Harry. Having a privileged life has effectively amplified his trauma, not protected him from.
Harry is a public figure compared to the rest of us. Isn't his advocacy of talking about mental health a good way of starting the conversations in our respective families and workplace? Certainly no one would talk about our own issues except to those that know us. Let us appreciate his compassion and openness instead of bashing him.
Using the front exit after an event calling the attention of photographers then putting out on media that they almost died like his mother did many years ago is shameful way of dealing with his problems.
@blackenergy Seeing you support and appreciate what they do, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your own life 💛 🤎 🙏🏾
@@mayc8674 your comment is based on journalism trash - she was there ot get an award for her work. Others there got awards for their work and not one journalists shared anything about the celebration of the women there - they chose to find trash: horrible journalists.
My mother’s à Brit & was brought up to be cold & dismissive of any type of family abuse or trauma. I can relate to Harry. Look what speaking up did to his sense of belonging to his messed up family of origin. My speaking up has gotten me the same result - pushed out into the cold.
So, if you think all Brits are like that you're sadly mistaken. Think Harry is the messed up one, not the rest of his family. Who goes about admitting he's addicted to drink and drugs and expect anyone to take him seriously, Harry!
Thank you so much for shining a light on the toxicity of our attitudes towards mental health and the way the media can fuel societies judgemental attitudes to it. As a retired mental health worker my career took me from the "mad or bad" views of institutional psychiatry to community psychiatry and counselling to the more enlightened theories of psychodynamic psychotherapy. Your wonderfully compassionate take on this topic has not only affirmed many of my own thoughts and beliefs my own intergenerational family traumas have contaminated my own parenting practice but also has given validity to many of my own arguments against the distorted social media reports about Prince Harry and the Royal family. Thank you for shining light into this dark place.
Great content. I feel sorry for Prince Harry. Hope he is strong enough to keep going. He had no need to go to his dads coronation. But walked into the event with all eyes on him like a boxer going into the ring. He is a cery brave and strong human being
Lol 😂 no he’s not. He a coward who backstabbed him own brother who ALSO lost his mother and cruelly discarded his entire British family cos he fell under the spell of a toxic liberal American narcissist who was not fit to be in the BRF.
How brAvE of him to show his face to the family and friends he LIES about! How bRAvE he is to face those to whom he is a traitor - in every sense of the word.
@@NobodyOrdinary royal family aside the only person you need to worry about is your own family. He also fought for his country and is a veteran. Show some god dam respect
@@Icemanr85 show HIM respect? For being in the military? For “serving his country? - a country in which I do not live so save your advice. He’s almost a traitor!! If nothing else, because he wrote exact room layouts in his book that could get his family, The Heads of State, murdered. Because , unlike her and Meghan, the other family members actually have been in real danger. His father has had several assassination attempts. His aunt barely escaped with her life after a kidnapping attempt killed a couple of her bodyguards. Harry and Meghan had a Vespa trailing them from a block behind. 😱
He is still a well loved figure in the world . watching from South America . I can’t understand the vitriol and hatred against him . Thank you for this episode.
That’s because the majority would rather vilify harry who fell in love got married and respected his wife and family, Robin have an affair! I’m supportive of Camilla who is having an affair with his father throughout his father’s marriage what does that tell you?
From the time Harry was born I watched him grow and the trauma he went through. I read the Spare and I love this riveting book. Everyone must read this book. Royal family is very disappointing and dysfunctional. He is a hero in this lifetime. Thanks for this podcast. Dr. Gabor Mate you said it all as is. Dr. Gabor I witnessed everything. Dr. Gabor Mate I know your podcast will reach far and wide and people be better listening to your lesson. Dr. Chatterjee of all the people on earth the royals are the most dysfunctional race. They have no soul.
Yeah I feel for his brother William who ALSO lost his mother and has been backstabbed by his jealous envious younger brother and the toxic narcissist Markle.
How is what you @pdias8469 said Not Hateful? Harry’s book is ADMITTEDLY full of lies about his friends and family, and he has violated their privacy even as he is screaming to Be given his own. You’re willing to judge his family with hate in your heart whilst also proclaiming that Everyone must be as virtuous as 👼you 👺
This is such a useful, insightful and compassionate interview. Thank you. I’m appalled by intensity of the bullying and taunting flowing so forcefully towards Harry. I can’t understand the level of hatred. So sad. So unforgiving.
Is why mental health is so important, to learn how to move on and forgive. Am so glad Harry gives his children hugs, SO THAT THEY WILL FEEL HUMAN .......!! Read some of Harry's Spare book. Such beautiful English, well-spoken and sensitive is music to my ears. ❤
Just because the Royal Family don't hug in public, does not mean they don't hug at home. What insanity is this to judge a family by their tabloid articles and lack of Instagram "perfection".
@Anna_Key Actually, no, they do not. In the 50 plus years I have known them and spent time in with them I have yet to witnessed that kind of affection from the Queen, Philip or Charlie.
Really appreciate this support for Harry. Reading Spare made me really understand him and his struggles, and it is horrible that society is going after him and his wife in this way. I hope this vitriol will pass.
Yes, hopefully society will leave him alone and he'll stop getting into the media. And seeing you support him, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your life 💛🤎 Good luck.
It’s interesting how he’s only concerned with reconnecting with the RF but niether of them have made any effort to reconnect with the dying father that single handed my raised Meghan - they’re all entitled full of shit people like the whole monarchy
@@Anna_Key unfortunately the press is made of women and men who fear to lose their job if their don't come up with garbage about even the best people on this planet. If they could access the moon, or the stars they would find something disgusting to write. They even criticise Dr. Gabor Maté after listening to his video. They have not paid attention. It is sooooo hopeless. No wonder many people have mental issues reading all the nastiness people who don't know someone are ready to write. Horrible. Thank you Dr. Gabor Maté for your truth.
How much our children need a hug. Depriving them of this brings several consequences. Both in the case of Harry, William and their father Charles, living in the Royal Family, which has been dysfunctional, is why Harry and his wife decide to distance themselves from the toxic family and have a more normal life for their children. Excellent opportunity to have a quieter life.
I lost my mom also at a young age. But my grandmother and Aunt pulled me through with love. Sometimes it was difficult but most of the time I made my life with the help of god. The death date I’m. Very sad but my life my family help me and I know I will see her again. I wonder if Harry knows Jesus as his Savior the comforter. He is not comforted nor has he had a loving life. I’m sorry for him.
Let’s be clear about a few things… Harry alone wasn’t traumatized by the death of his mother. Unlike his brother, Harry didn’t have the pressure on him of being a future king and having to comport yourself accordingly. He was given so much slack from the public for his transgressions, from the Nazi uniform outfit to the drug use , crazy Vegas, etc. He could have left the Royal family without writing such personal ( and subjective) things in a ‘tell all ‘ and without dragging the family through the trenches. If he actually lived out the privacy that he claims he so desperately wants then there’s room for empathy. He has done quite the opposite. Regardless of the reasons,he is not a child. He has the access to the best therapy money can buy. There are no excuses for his behavior. I have lived through the wreckage of a narcissist and it’s never enough for them.
This is a really invalidating and insensitive response. Are you saying that Harry isn't entitled to his trauma because his brother was, at the time, a notch above him in the line to the throne? All royals (including those that aren't second to the throne) have immense pressures on them to conform to their social roles lest they be hammered by the media for not living up to expectations. Every member of this family has been given slack for one thing or another - it's the reality of their privilege. One thing i'll say is that Harry has lived his entire life in the spotlight. For decades, the tabloid media have gotten away with distorting and mischaracterizing the truth about Harry and his family. So, I understand why he has decided that he wants to finally take control of the narrative of his own life in a public way. Contrary to what everyone says, he hasn't dragged his family through the trenches. He's never denigrated or belittled anyone in his family - the media does that. It seems that people just like to think that because he is spotlighting a side of his family that is less than perfect. Even more, Harry is doing the unthinkable in British society: talking publicly about his mental health issues. As a side note, empathy is not conditional. If you're naturally empathetic, your empathy is given freely without judgment, no matter the situation. You don't have to agree with someone or support their behaviour to empathise with them.
@@kessa892 Difference is Harry and his wife are using his mother death as a weapon against his brother (who is only 2 years older). While William stayed strong, moved on and is using his experience to give strength to other young people. And stop with that bs about empathy. EMPATHY IS CONDITIONAL. And it should be. That's what we have brains for - to judge. Without it we wouldn't be able to learn anything. People who don't use it are easy to be fooled or abused. You wouldn't feel empathy towards Dahmer or Watts. Would you?
@@Laura-lc2io And people like you are EXACTLY what I'm talking about - you're just pulling stories out of your ass at this point! Harry's using his mother's death to get at Will... in what universe does this even make sense?! Your evidence being that you dislike what he's done so he MUST have nefarious intentions? Harry has been incredibly open and vulnerable about his experience with losing his mother and its highly insensitive to even suggest an ulterior motive when you have zero evidence to back up your claim. Empathy is NOT conditional. I won't even press this point even further because only empaths will understand that expressing compassion is a natural response to hearing about somebody's struggles. If you don't feel that way, then I'm sorry - you sound like you haven't been modeled unconditional compassion from those around you. I understand Dahmer had a horrible upbringing which contributed significantly to his sociopathy - I feel compassion for this and I'm sorry to anyone that has had to face abuse or dysfunction in their childhood. Doesn't mean I agree with his actions (didn't you read what I said above?). Idk who Watts is.
@@kessa892 Only narcissists need their feelings validated Harry's mental health focus is a grift. He is the last one to speak on the subject. All he's done is profit by trashing his family .Poor Harry shits on everyone because he lost his mother 🤮 Many people suffer some kind of trauma. It's an inevitable part of life. At some point we must move on take on grown up responsibility for our grown up behavior. My sibling commited suicide when I was 15. My aunt and uncle died in a car accident and left behind 8 kids. JFK Jr was 3 and his sister 6 when their father got his head blown off in front of the world. Life moves on ,we all learn to get past tragedies. Harry is not special
@@lindaeasley5606 I'm afraid you're terribly, terribly mistaken. Validation is a fundamental part of maintaining a healthy emotional state. Everyone needs it. All validation refers to is the process of being understood and accepted by your family and peers. Giving validation is showing that you care about someone. If your spouse is upset about something, do you shut them out and tell them to get over themselves? Or do you sit with them, listen to their feelings and concerns, accept them for what they are and help them to feel better? The latter is validation. Narcissists need a constant supply of validation, it's true, because they often don't receive any as children. They're willing to use and hurt people to get it. This is not to say that all children who don't receive validation turn out to be narcissists. Based on what I've seen, Harry now seems very emotionally grounded - narcissists rarely are. He's definitely come a long way. Btw, vulnerating yourself by sharing your personal story (as Harry has done) is not a symptom of narcissism! If so, then that means that anyone who has ever written an autobiography is a narcissist, which is obviously absurd. I'm truly sorry to hear about your sibling, aunt and uncle - that must have been incredibly difficult for your family to go through. It's true that life goes on and among the best ways to do so is to grieve openly with loved ones. Grief is an important part of heartbreak recovery and its important to get it right from the start so it doesn't transform into 'complicated grief' - when painful emotions don't lessen with time. It's apparent that Harry was dealing with complicated grief for a long time. By going to therapy and doing the work, Harry is taking responsibility of his feelings. He's even gone a step further by sharing with the world that it's ok to not be ok when you don't receive the right support during times of grief. Harry is certainly not the last one to speak on the subject. There is a major stigma around mental illness and many are unwilling to even acknowledge it. It was revealed in the interview that Harry and William, together, wanted to campaign in raising awareness around mental health struggles - surely the first in the family to do so. Unfortunately the Queen disapproved and they were told to focus on something else. It's heartening to see that Harry has continued to speak on something that is clearly important to him now that he has the freedom to do so.
What a breathe of freshair. The people here in UK seem so cold. Treat the royals like their property. Harry had guts to break away. Thank you. I always felt this about Harry. I feel for William.
There are many people who has gone through life's difficulties & trauma but Harry is extra ordinary that becomes destructive not only to himself but destroying & hurting his other members of his own family.
"taken aim" at his family. That is a direct quote of the media narrative. That narratove is to shift the conversation. He spoke of them cause that's his lived his experience. Of course they are mentioned. He spoke on his trauma his healing. Please try to see the media narrative. it's toxic to the real conservation going on.
Everyone in life has issues. The point of the British Royal Family is to give their people strength. To “never complain, and never explain”. To “keep calm and carry on” As Harry did not live up to this mantra, as his brother has, and certainly as the Queen has, he doesn’t belong in the royal family.
I don’t follow stories about Harry, but I do read and listen to Gabor Mate. I can certainly relate to the difficulties that a family member can experience when they stop participating in the dysfunction. It is very difficult to remain connected to people who are stuck in denial and refuse to recognise the ‘love’ they are offering is actually very damaging. If you care for a person, you make an effort to understand them. When you understand that your treatment of them is harmful, you make a commitment to change. When you prioritise your love for a person, it is easy to change. But when you have other, higher priorities, you will sacrifice the person who is highlighting the problem. You will sacrifice them and you will claim that they are the problem. Harry is a scapegoat. The scapegoat is not the problem. The problem is the problem.
His brother was awful to Harry. Trying to talk about how the situation could work, William got so angry that he punched Harry so hard that Harry fell, broke the dogs feeding bowl and cut his head! If that’s what happens when you try to TALK with your family and members respond with physical attacks, how can anyone think this family is doing well? Harry and Meghan made the right choice!
@LaniAnne402 his brother also lost his mom, don't forget that. Both William and Catherine tried to point Harry's attention to his mental health and he refused (watch the videos from the Heads together events when all 3 of them worked together). What he tried to talk with Harry that night was Meghan's treatment of the personnel. And Harry never said that his head was cut.
I love that you mention the gingers, because my mom, my sister and my younger brother are all gingers and deeply sensitive and they do have to do extra measures to manage their pain while at the same time they manage their pain very well. I am a ginger adjunct, and I am profoundly sensitive myself. People always tell me how nice I am and it surprises me because I think I’m just me and I’m not doing anything special.
He is perpetuating the cycle. He’s literally stepped from one dysfunctional situation to another. To break the cycle he needs to own his past, make peace with it and move on. Blaming others is not healthy therapy. He needs to own his current actions and step up, step out and step into his potential. His current drama triangle is toxic af.
Not the way he is going about doing it. By directions of a narcissistic wife he will only end up destroyed. The latest stunt is prime example. Using the front exit after attending an event and then comparing their "paparazzi chase" to his mother's when she died is unexcusable.
Harry is a cycle breaker and an abused person. For that, he has become the problem. They're constantly trying to gaslight him. As a member of the public and a supporter of Harry & his beautiful wife Meghan, I'm very proud of the strives Harry has made to walk a different path and stop the line of abuse.💞💕💞💕💞💝💖💝💘💖❤️🩹❤️.
@@joannebaker4925 interesting answer, you're the one who stated he was " a cycle breaker'" ive merely asked you what cycle he has broken ......you can't answer the question, so fine,... you don't know, ..guess it sounded good & compelling when you wrote it - you really ought to be able to substantiate it however - but you can't, or you would've..
Any person that leaves a toxic family dynamic and can talk about it, is a hero in my book. It amazes me how hateful people have been towards him. People comment that he is a "Prince" and really has nothing to complain about! He's a human being, just like the rest of us and HIS pain is played out in the media.
@pmc8119. I absolutely agree 💯. I went no contact from my family of origin over 20 years ago. I’ve been supportive of Harry from day one. I understood him always bc I’ve done what he’s done and experienced nothing but venom and literally hatred from my own family and so called friends. It took a lot to do what I did but I had to for my own survival and peace. It is such a joke that in our country we have a MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS DAY. We are such a small minority who really try to recover from severe abuse and neglect. The only support we get are in cyber places like this. It is disgusting.
Harry is my hero. He's had the courage to pull away from that Soap Opera of a 'Royal' family and strike out on his own. The love and support Harry and Meg have for each other, and their family is admirable. You go Harry.
And let's hope he gets clean and sober as Harry is NOT just a "recreational" marijuana user, he's an addict whose dysfunctional family enabled him his whole life and now he chose a wife with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder as that feels normal to him.
@@countessAugusta Seriously, raised by the dysfunctional family and now married a wife with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, poor guy is trapped on both ends.
@@luciahermias9717 Yes, it is unbelievable. Why? Harry is loving, happy and very popular, and is in 💕 love. Beautiful to see them together and with their boutiful children. It is as Piers Morgan is not ok! What happened?
It is not difficult to feel compassion for his losses, but he is profoundly lacking compassion, empathy or understanding for his brother or anyone else who also suffered. William played the big brother and there are many pictures of him clearly watching out for Harry, while stuffing his own grief. Gabor is supposed to be so understanding , but he has never spoken about the need for (Harry) giving the same compassion that he wants and even demands. Making millions exposing the flaws of your family, while making yourself the innocent victim is miles from empathetic. And even after years, he has not looked at a bigger picture than his own pain.
If you have grown up in an uncaring narcissitic family with bullying elder siblings then you can't understand Harry. Harry's not relatable to people who've had a perfect upbringing. You can't emphases with what you don't know.
What great sadness to hear about this generational deprivation within Harry’s Royal family. What Great Joy to know that Harry is trying to ensure his children do not suffer deprivation like he did. Harry has the perfect mate in Meghan to ensure their children are cuddled and loved to break that multi-generational deprivation.
People need to see the human being that dealt trauma that is still affecting him now, people seem to think just because he was born in a royal family, he should not feel the effects of that trauma.
I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like to grow up in an institution like the RF. I would say a rarefied environment like that lacked expressions of love and warmth. The focus is more on public duty and service. If the RF and the people around them identified with their roles very seriously, it would be a very surreal experience to deal with so much formality, protocol, masks and personas. I’d say “gilded cage” is apt. But also utterly surreal like puppets in a theatre On top of that the relationship with the public is disturbing from my point of view, where they are treated as Icons- venerated and separate to, but also a sense of ownership by, the general public. People projecting their own selves, ideals, devotion and love or hate on to them all the time. I’m saying it’s disturbing to be having that kind of experience and relationship with the world I’m obviously speaking from my perspective as an outsider. Imagine being born into that, it’s all normalised. But you’d know something wasn’t right, something is missing. How can any of us judge Harry really, we have no idea. It was/is a different reality he was born into A lot of anger and venom is directed at him for speaking out against his family. I haven’t followed this much or read his book…but I’ve read a fair few comments here and elsewhere about Harry hurting his “loving family”. This is quite complex as there seems to be a lot of projection and idealisation going because they are the/ “our” ROYAL family. “How dare he!?” Not saying they weren’t loving in the best way they could, you could actually say that about every family. But of course they nonetheless can cause a huge amount of damage and pass on generational trauma. I understand I’m going to be lacking nuance about the queen saying they can’t be half in/ half out. However that is also a common pattern in dysfunctional families. You will be scapegoated and cut off if you don’t tow the family line. If Harry’s behaviour is a little worrying at times as I’ve heard people say, I wouldn’t be surprised. I’d say he’s having a colossal culture shock having so much freedom, and adjusting to “normal” life as a civilian. He’s also had a monumental loss with being effectively cut off from his family and the RF institution. He could be having an identity crisis, as anyone would who has gone though so much change. Especially difficult in a public facing role where there is so much judgment directed at him. I’d say give him some time and he’ll find himself. He’ll gather up his true inner strength and power, beyond anything he had when in the RF. I believe he’s got a VERY big role, yet to be played out. He is an instigator of change. And that is always going to be messy, chaotic and met with resistance, especially so when going against the force of the monarchy. But I do believe ultimately change is inevitable, and also needed. And Harry is still playing a big part in the monarchy, whether he is recognised as a member of it or not. He is really spotlighting the monarchy for our attention. Whether the monarchy will ultimately survive is the question, but it will definitely need to evolve and adapt.
I have all the compassion for Prince Harry. He has a broken heart since childhood and still he wanted to find love, family. I may not agree with some things but I am not in his shoes, and I thank I am lucky to have anonimity.
Sad really he’s just trying to be himself but even his brother doesn’t underdtand him even his father too, Harry is Harry no matter what no filters he says what on his mind but the haters and newscaster is unbelievable, bless you and be brave God is watching you!
I agree 1000% and I am so grateful you shared this comment, although I fear that too few will be sufficiently open in heart, mind or spirit to see or appreciate it.
First rule of spirituality is NOT HURTING others. That is the most important part. Harry has done nothing but that ever since he married. How did this individual realise all this ONLY Fter marriage? I would like to ask dr. Gabor..
I totally agree you can see the trauma when he is around the press or his family in england.i wish him a happy loving life for him and his family in america. A really strong person fighting for his future
I have compassion for how isolating and controlled his life must have been. But this interview drove home a point for me. He's 38 years old, Dr. Mate called him a young man, for every one else on earth, that's an adult. And they've mostly used any extra chances they've had by then. Most people would find themselves deported, without a chest full of medals for military service. I don't wish any harm to come to him, like I said, I bet his childhood was really hard. But when we discover that a criminal or even just a poor person, came from a hard, deprived background, people are so intolerant and judgemental and call it excuse making. I wish some of this compassion for Harry, could transfer to the millions of other people who have come from a hard place and don't end up fabulously wealthy and famous. And I disagree that he is vilified for talking about emotional pain. I think the public has shown a greater than usual tolerance or even interest in his emotional pain, compared to the emotional pain of others. A typical truck driver or nurse wouldn't get nearly as much attention paid to their emotional pain, and would find friends and family and acquaintances withdrawing and even speaking poorly of them behind their backs.
A shame people choose to look the other way when spite & dishonesty & certainly cruelty are on public display. I’m sure Harry gave Dr. Matè the truth of his actions knowing he would be publicly discussing him. Corrupt persons are very honest about their corruption, of course.
A typical truck driver or nurse wouldn't have their personal trauma amplified by media moguls who splash it across headlines in order to line their own pockets either. Nor publicly vilify them when they decided they had had enough. Effectively turning the nation against them by flooding the world with constant negative stories. Harry is not the villain here. Meghan is not the villain, either. The media moguls & who have paid millions for invasive photographs and hacks into private telephone messages are the villains.
They need to analyse Markle and then everything will become crystal clear. Theres no doubt that Harry has trauma and relies on substances still and certain people to get him through life. Problem is that he has the wrong people around him who encourage and enable the wrong ways of dealing with his problems and are only out for what they can get out of him and his titles and contacts around the world. Harry will meet a very sticky end unfortunately unless he miraculously wakes up to what hes married and Markle will just carry on as normal with that disgusting grin on her face conning everyone she comes into contact with. Poor children, they are innocent in all of this 😑
@Helen Shg I think he's most definitely smart but now he's entrenched humself and his children with a wife who is intent on the spotlight at all costs. Just sad for him, but he made the choices that are bringing him down. I hope he wakes up and escapes from her soon !
William went through losing his mother too and knowing he was one day to be king, was not allowed to be himself. He had/has to carry that burden. Prince Harry was more allowed to be himself than William. The Royal family are dysfunctional but so is most families. Harry is a man now not a 12 year old boy.
I always thought a psychiatrist has to keep his patient's data secret. I certainly wouldn't continue with a psychiatrist spilling my problems all over the media.
This segment is referring to a conversation that Harry and Gabor had publicly. Gabor isn't revealing anything that Harry hadn't already revealed on camera himself so nothing said here is secret. Besides, if Harry genuinely had an issue with it, I doubt this video would be up, so we can assume that it's fine.
Harry had every right to leave the Royal Family and become financially independent. I admired him for that. But then they did the Oprah interview and made their issues with his family public. Very cruel and deceitful thing to do to his family.
Maybe he felt he had to do that to keep them safe. *staying silent, he probably wouldn't have gotten out alive. If ya'll don't think the royals are incredibly corrupt, you are not paying enough attention
I too lost my mother & sister at Harry's age, in a car accident as well! Yes it took years for the healing to begin! You can't go on live TV and expect all the truth to come out when looking for views and money! Secondly I could not start healing until I dealt with my addictions! You can't be stoned out of your mind expecting wholeness! That's the therapy I was taught! Also to be presently in a dysfunctional family let alone what he went through with his RF certainly does not help! People comment how Harry was never touched, give me a break there is a lot of evidence to the contrary !Part of Harry's healing (so he says) was the constant flashes of photographers, yet he has never had it worse with his wife in Cali, Hollywood no less! The day you stop blaming everyone for your life decisions, is when the true healing begins! It's called insight! You can't be yourself until you're truly yourself, off drugs!
Maybe during your next session, you could discuss with your therapist how to have a little more empathy and be less a little less judgmental. True healing also starts when you stop trying to find the faults in other people's lives and stop invalidating people's trauma. Also, he said that he takes these drugs in appropriate doses and within a safe environment. It helps to reconnect with himself, who the hell am I to suggest he's lying? Idk why people are acting like he's shooting up with dirty needles in a back alley. Also, I'm sorry to hear about your mother and sister. I would think with the years of healing you've undergone you would know that everybody has different ways of healing. The ayahuasca is only one facet of what seems to be a much larger system of healing for Harry.
Yes Prince Philips mother who was a Princess in the Greek Royal family and they were expelled from Greece and she had a breakdown but then was diagnosed with "schizophrenia"and put into an asylum for years.She then came out though and became a nun and helped shelter Jewish people during the 2nd WW.She became a truely remarkable woman which just goes to show that this so called "schizophrenia"is another bogus diagnosis as she managed to recover from what is considered "unrecoverable disease"requiring lifelong medication!!
The queen also had great cousins who were locked away for being "mentally handicapped and disabled"...but then thats what happened to alot of people in those days,out of sight out of mind.
I think Harry has been badly served by his therapists - who seem to have spent their time validating his victim identity --- instead of helping him through the process of healing
@rosehill9537 not even with a gun to my head. Dr. Mate presented at our hospital a few times over the years....he's got some great attributes, but he's not a psychiatrist - he's an addictions guy. So I don't consider him a therapist, don't feel he was actually doing therapy, nor was I referring to him. Just noting what several professionals have pointed out about talk therapy methods and how badly they have served Harry. It's pretty obvious
@katiehill619 so u are commenting on a video u won't watch? What other experts? Have they spoken to Harry as making any claims about his therapy experience without consultation isn't clinically sound opinion as they have zero idea how he actually is. Unlike Gabor who has spoken to Harry personally. They would be just cashing in on the anti Harry narrative. We have already seen and had other so called experts exposed as liars for hire when it comes to the Sussexes.
If, dear, you listen to the intervew, H. does not consider himself a “victim”. The best “therapy” was to seek help, drop the royal handcuffs, leave a dysfunctional family, speak up, make his own business and family decisions, marry, have his own family and want a better more loving life for his children in a beautiful part of California. Good choice on all fronts.
@@fionanov1948 If only he would do that - I'd be all for it. Instead he regularly puts his entitlement, arrogance and lies on display, pretends to be a philanthropist while the 'causes' he supports abuse indigenous people and he does nothing.
The establishment murdered his mother, he must be so confused and angry. I am disgusted how people are treating him and Megan. He has had the courage to break the illusion of the "firn" the royal family are a corrupt mafia with a bunch of pedophiles, Andrew, his uncle Mount Batton and the amount of sex offenders who where knighted. As a UK citizen i am absolutely done with the monarchy, our queen is dead, the adulterous queen we have now is nothing more than a fanily wrecker a jezabell spirit, definitely not the actions of a Godly women, we are Christian country with a whore as a queen, if this family lived in our towns we would shun them.
The negative comments/diatribes in the video are quite revealing. Harry is just as human as the rest of us. Thank you Dr Chatterjee for interviewing Dr Mate. 👍
Thanks for interviewing this Doctor I became a new sub I think Prince Harry undermines his own intelligence because all his life he’s been told he’s thick. I beg to differ
I was also raised without physical touch. I don’t feel deprived at all. But I married a man who was extremely absent in the physical touch and words of affirmation areas. That I did resent. I put as much physical touch into my children until they didn’t want it. I have one child who didn’t want to be hugged and today she doesn’t like physical touch even when her husband puts his arm around her. I think some people just don’t need it as much or even like it. I am not one to hug much except my grandchildren. I love them up to bits but they never liked it much either. It’s so dependent on your personal love language and need.
'I was also raised without physical touch.' I don’t feel deprived at all???? But I married a man who was extremely absent in the physical touch and words of affirmation areas.' If you had been shown love, you might not have wanted to be married with someone not showing love as it is so important for you and your children. You have obviously suffered some form of trauma from it.
I'm not a psychiatrist but have worked with autistic and high functioning Aspergers individuals. Sometimes this is a symptom. I came across an interesting video recently called "Adults with autism." Almost deleted it but watched and learned that it described many of the behaviors I experienced with a difficult house guest recently who also doesn't like touch and other things.
@@martinadewsnap2337 you’re so right. I wouldn’t have thought it was okay to live without it even though I craved it. I later went on to be with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder who love bombed me and I didn’t see the flags. I was so starved for affection, that didn’t end well as you can imagine. I’ve been alone for 13 yrs now.
Finally, a voice of reason. The truth will set you free. And for those who vilify Harry, they need therapy.And they should know that the royals are human beings just like them and should not make them out to be what they’re not.
I've gotten so used to ignoring anything on social media about Harry and Meghan, due to not wanting to give them the clicks for the algorithms. It's a refreshing change to hear Harry treated with compassion. Thankyou!
Thats all fine, and understandable. There was no need to make such a scandal and drama about it. If you want to live a happier, emotionally gratifying life, just do it quietly, without making such a fuss...if you allow the whole world to pry into your private, most intimate life, then they will destroy you. People love to gossip and pick on the odd one out, like in a chicken coop.
THE WORLD PRIE'S INTO THEIR LIVES!! I don't blame them for wanting to tell their story! Megan went from being a beloved duchess to the most hated woman in the world, literally, in a week's time! Gd forbid, they can't have anyone upstage Catherine so Megan had to go!!! Suddenly she was princess pushy, a narcissist, dragging Harry along, can't have babies of her own. Her mother was a jailbird. If it was bad, it was Megan! They were prolly looking for ways to blame her for the gloomy weather!
I have two narcissistic parents, I lost my father and my brother, and that does not excuse my behavior, I am the only one responsible for my actions. Harry is cognitively disturbed, cruel, with an addictive personality!!! IMHO
thank you Doctors some people have become so toxic with no empathy or compassion and continually bash him and his family for every little thing they have not shown him and his family any respect at all and i find that these same people would not survive what they dish out to him and his wife they forget he and his wife are also human even if he is a prince all he wants is to live his life with his family and be happy and people do not want them to have that they work pay their bills and do not owe any of these toxic people anything all of us whether black white etc have a responsibility to change the world and bring love and kindness to it we cannot go on as it is with killings of innocent people insults etc
I am so furtune to listen to Gabor Maté on humanity, on childhood, on mental health...and here on Harry and how people's expectations are. To me, it's astonishing how grown-ups depende on glamour and power of king's, queen's, and princesses to represent theire own dignity and country, and point finger with disgust when theire soapbubble collapses. It seems like a hole country is collapsing when a royal member goes his own way. Strange, strange.
I couldn’t agree more Drs Mate & Chatterjee. The senseless vilification of Prince Harry is a sad indictment of the depth of sheer ignorance & blind prejudice in the media & sadly most of the people of Britain & I find it not unlike witnessing predatory crocodiles on a feeding frenzy , sickening ! 💕🙏💕
I agrée i feel and command Prince Harry fir his courage and the best rewards of all will be his children that in the future will thank him for his courage This is not easy to speak up against the monarchy
I have so much compassion for the lonely prince. So sad that his family and the critical public do not realise that his childhood pain still haunts him. Sensitive like his mother could not handle the trauma in a loveless environment
Y don't ppl understand he lost his mother at very young age, he's missing his mom's guidance. Life style of Royals r very different fm ordinary ppl. Give him a break.
yeah, I hate hearing H & M bashing, it's so cruel. He didn't ask to be born in such a dysfunctional family. WOW! Grandma said enough of talking about mental health, back to royal duties........OMG !! Typical delusional family. I use to get told that all the time..... don't talk, don't ask that, we don't say that, we don't ask that ! I'm really concocting what words would be appropriate to word whip these people who try to tell you what to say and what to ask... with the harshest reality possible. It's unacceptable, Queen or no Queen.
Just because someone is rich doesn’t make them less human than the rest of us. They have the same emotional struggles. It doesn’t magically disappear just because they have money. Harry doesn’t think himself more important.
Harry is very strong & balanced by now. His goal is using the huge platform he has to enlightening others about how to recover or cure from mental health problems. 🥰
Harry, stay strong and lift your head up high. Let out the pain no matter what they tell you! It helps other people who had trauma as kids. The so call ROYALE family only care about how they appear to other people. Its all about pride!
This sad drama we look at it from a another country as whole British nation having a blind eye on emotional mental health issues and childhood trauma. There's no compassion or empathy from Royal family members, public or media to Harry and his family. Harry is a good example of person who went through childhood truma and still suffering mental health issues but try to empower others by his book and interview but it failed. When it comes to Crown no compassion for weak emotions and feelings. You need to be tough and brave. The duty to country come first. They forget Royal family humans with feelings. They need to have strict Occupational Health & Safety policies for Royal family on mental health issues as Public Servants. They are working royals should allowed to have stress leave. May be they have already.
Talk about your own trauma if you like if it helps but to lash out at close family members and resort to making hurtful comments about his brother to me is unacceptable.
Harry is a beautiful soul. No matter how the media positions him, he radiates power and fearlessness to stand for his truth, not others truth Prince or pauper, Harry is admired and well loved by many.. He walked away from a castle to enjoy peace with the woman he has chosen and loves For the haters, check your mirrors, and reflect upon your lives🙏
I wonder how our ancestors lived through unimaginable conditions 100 to 300 yrs ago! People who have lived through Childhood trauma will benefit from therapy but they also need some gratitude to the great aspects of their lives! 1st world problems!
Ok, so I get all that, but he still publicized private information about his family, all over the world, against their wishes. That’s rude and unfair. Did he consider what that would do them, Their image, their reputation, and how this would effect his personal relationship with them. This should have been taken up with them privately, or he should have worked his issues out privately with his counselor. This family betrayal was done at their expense and for fame and money.
I think Markle has a large influence on that. If he hasn't met her I don't think he would have aired his grievances so publicly and to hurt his family. Meghan definitely encouraged him.
I feel soooo sorry for Harry. The way he is been treated mow shows he is right all the time. Am sure he has suffered been alone for a long time. I pray the Lord help him, guide and protect him n family in Jesus name amen ❤❤❤
I see Meghan and Harry as wanting a better future together and for the kids. Sometimes u dont fully wake up until u have babies and you open your heart to them and yourself. Its a vulnerable time for them is all and they are crying out to be heard and understood. Meghan is his wife and stuck it out with royal family as best she could. Better than his previous girlfriends who wete too smart to touch it. So lets rejoice that we can care @ them and rise to the occasion. I dont feel good @ condemning them in any way. We have to accept a bigger role on our own lives and stop glaring at them. Meghan always has Harrys hand and is compassionate. Who said she had to be perfect? Thats Kates job !💞👩🎤
"Because he is speaking about something you are not supposed to speak about" this not only made sense to me in the context of Harry but also the reaction of my grown children when I left their father.
Loved this. I'm a redhead.. who specialises in trauma and sensitivity - because I understand it. How interesting that we need more anaesthesia! I also react horribly to anaesthetic with vomiting afterwards and sometimes during dental work I bleed more too. Sensitivity is such a broad phenomenon. And it affects everything about us mentally AND physically.
Thank you for bringing a voice of compassion to the topic. If the whole debacle around Harry & Meghan has revealed anything, it's how much our society lacks understanding, empathy and compassion.
Society does not empathy
Unfortunately, he is still and always will be in the public eye. Sadly for him, he chose a wife who craves it while he looks to be traumatised by it. I hope he finds peace 🙏
That's half-true, I think. We've learned that today's society does not patronize those who are willing to damage their own families on a global stage. They generally won't patronize those caught lying or caught grossly exaggerating, either. Society in this way can set healthy boundaries and teach lessons. I think the problem that Harry had was trying to make the public his "therapist". He saw his mother try it, and it was successful for her in terms of great public support. But this is the age of social media. If Diana did the same today, people would confront her about traumatizing her children by airing her husband's sins to the world. They would ask how she could expose them to gossip, expose them to taunting in school, and to risk fracturing an emotional bond with their father. They would question why she was putting her emotional needs first, at the expense of her children's. Voices would bring tough love, as well as support, hate, craziness from the human family. Harry is receiving the overwhelming realities of the world that she did not. And hopefully, he'll come to accept responsibility for inviting it all in.
exactly!! I feel deep empathy for Harry's trauma.... He seems to be the only healthy person in a very dysfunctional ( Charles!!!! ) family
Thank you Gabor, to t😮ell what you think about Harry, how traumatised he was, and his mother and father both were. I really am surprised by the venom of so many people who judge him mercilessly. And the way the British press hunts him and his wife down is beyond believe. There is no compassion there, it seems, only hatred.
In Samos, the island where I was born, we say that "in order for a child to grow up properly, needs the participation of the whole village".
they have a whole village to themselves
❤🎉connection and love for Every Child yeahhhhhhhhhh, I want the whole planet to know and experience this kind of love...the parties would be Amazing!!!😊🌻🧡🎊
@@martinadewsnap2337we all do....earth
At last heard someone try and understand the human side of the situation Wish there are more people like this
The sad thing is most people in this world are dysfunctional look at how we treat animals, totally lacking in compassion!
You nailed it ❤
Yes correct, I agree totally.
I run a animal sanctuary. We aren't all buying into the insanity. Have hope. But I have had social services called on me by detractors. I dare to shout.. emporer is naked😅
We are one life, all so precious 💕
How refreshing to hear a public voice grounded in true compassion.
Thank you! ‘A gale of venom.’ Is absolutely right. It should be considered the fingerprint of the UK.
From reading some comments, it just shows how much we as a society are traumatized and don’t even realize it . We are unable to have compassion for other people and yet we make our own mistakes . to be human is to grow and be better tomorrow than today and hold space for others as they try to heal
If you want real healing, you need to get real and face the truth of what is.
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Amen
Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and billionaire families in the USA, like the Priztkers, promoting and funding the trans agenda. Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and their normalizing and legalizing PEDO relationships. Let me hold the space for your mental illness and call it compassion.
❤ 100 percent agree ❤ severely lacking in compassion and an unwillingness to realise their own pain has been triggered.
Thank you bringing a voice for Prince Harry.
I can understand the trauma of his mother's death but he also had a lot of money and support. I lost my mother at 13 saw her screaming with a tumour, my father had mh and could not cope. We had little money. I was told just get on with life and I had to. If you have to get on or sink you get on. He should now move on not just wine about everything in life.
He is not whining.....he's trying to get ahead by starting foundations, marrying, having children, starting " Invictus games" All in the dam public eye. All the West does is judge, judge and judge when we don't want to understand.
That's so rich coming from a woman who has never been vilified by the all country by pess and tabloids. Whine about everything? It's his life why does it bother you? You moved on cause u were loved. Your dad never told ur mom that u were a spare after being born. Ur dad never left ur mom on that day just to spend time with his mistress. No one has a F right to tell others how and when to move on frm their trauma. H has been the scapegoat of his family n tabloids n the likes of u have always been quite. Please just move on from him n let him be . Keep ur nose off his business, he never forced you to read or listen to anything about him.
Money is controlled by his father, and eventually prince william. You have to suck up to them and be docile maintain good flow of allowance. If you're going to be a working royal, you cant take up other work. Your income has to come from the institution exclusively. It's a form of courtier control. It's how that family works, like a gilded cage exactly.
@@thelivingrisi7233 bit like normal employment
Money is nothing his mum is the number one some are strong and can move on some can not millions of pounds means nothing that not bring his mum back, i lost all my family i live on my own it was not easy but i had to change my life and find a new way not every one can do that. We need to stop blaming and understand some can cope some can not.
We’re so lucky to have Dr. Mate. Thank you for your love and compassion 🙏💜
I really admire Harry for speaking publicly about his trauma. I think he is a true renegade, a truth teller and an inspiration. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I sense that he genuinely wants to help people by sharing his story. He's definitely helped me. I was silent about my trauma for way too long. When high profile speak out about what they have been through they inspire others to do the same and help us know that we are not the only one. I really admire famous people who use their fame to help others. I recommend the series he did with Oprah called The Me You Can't See for anyone who hasn't seen it. I felt really validated when I watched it. Whatever traumatic experiences you have had to endure in your life, you are not alone, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you deserve to be heard, seen and supported❤
I'm grateful to you, Gabor and Rangan, for bringing this compassionate voice to the Harry 'situation'. I feel very sad about the family breakdown and hope that the brothers can one day see beyond their current differences, but it is difficult to see how that can happen when media (social and otherwise) persist in adding fuel to the flames of discord. All families have problems, but few are under so much external pressure. I wish Harry and Meghan, William and Kate, Charles and Camilla the best. I honestly believe that they are all caring people who genuinely want the best for each other, but they are stuck. More voices like yours are needed to take a more objective and genuinely concerned stance. I am sick of the vitriol.
The vitriol is dangerous.
Just a question do you still feel the same after the staged NYC chase by blackgrid who was called by them or his wife maybe. Or maybe the picture of her smiling at the back of the cab while Harry looked like a triggered mess. Or the tragic death of his mother been associated with that mockery of a snail paced car chase🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️
At some point eyes need to open to the real truth. either our eyes or his eyes if it's such that the wife is the puppet master calling the shots.
@@izzyakin9759you are repeating Rupert Murdoch media talking points and not anything based on reality so your annoyance is built on fiction.
@Trash Panda 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 It's okay oo. But FYi there has been footage from blackgrid the Meghan hired paps showing who has been driving recklessly blocking traffic. But its okay 👍🏾 I do note that none of that means anything to you. I am not rude. I respect your position 👌🏿.
@@Du-Massesit’s funny to me how any criticism of Harry or Meghan elicits this “blame the Murdoch business/man” yet Harry is employed with Murdoch’s wife at the Aspen institute, where they are BOTH working to make sure that WE, the regular citizens cannot have our speech - Unless it is All Positive for the elites, of which Harry definitely is one and will always be.
This is what I see in Harry. A human being. I love that. 👑♥I also miss Princess Dianna who was a Humanitarian. That, they have in common. Reflected in his demeanor. I would love to meet him.
We all have trama, but not all of us have media and photographers following us around ,invading every area of our lives.
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Yes! I agree this invasion of privacy makes it almost impossible for a person like Harry to find the peace he needed. He was trapped in grief and trauma at the tragic loss of his mother. It is only now that he has found the love of a good woman that he feels he can let all that trauma out. Because now he feels safe.
Oh how sad blah blah fish cakes.
Exactly
The brit media and the brit national pastime of bullying and hate should be distressing to anyone with a brain. Speaking up about mental health takes strength and courage and those who whinge about talking about trauma is small minded. H. has made a sane important decision to live a better life and cares that his kids are treated better than he was.
From a family that abused and betrayed who I Am I have stood up to mine and told the world also. No more pretending. I admire and Trust what Harry needs; shame to those who criticize and I only see they want to bury the lies and trauma they never acknowledged in their own family’s. Where ever you are Harry, I understand and I will always care🪷
Harry and Meghan is expected to live with the disrespect thrown at them by family and media. Especially Meghan she should be grateful to be associated with this wealthy abusive family and how dare this black woman complain about their behavior towards her. When we all witnessed their disgusting attitude at the Commonwealth Service and the late Queens funeral Kate Camilla and Sophie were just plain and simple downright rude towards Meghan.
the problem is learning. He did not need to put down his family and criticize. he has children so he won't repeat the things that he did not like. He doesn't need to air the family secret or impose his idea not over his family but the public too. The other problem is the wife she is not normal so did not give him any support. WE never see his real kids in public and see how he treat them.
@@monamorgan2588 Protecting his children! He loves his kids.
I got vilified when I didn't want to brush things under the carpet and decided to confront the pink elephant in the room. I understand Harry. I didn't want to live like a robot and be inauthentic to myself. Now Harry has a family, children he loves unconditionally, a loving wife, and mother in law that's providing love like a mother.
I certainly hope Harry has all those things.
He seems like he's the one in that family who's going to win at life, in the end.
Loving wife? She loves herself no one else. Oh and money and fame!
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I don’t think you know what you’re talking about you sound ridiculous! She had money and fame and was loved long before she met Harry! What do you want to do is verify her and you don’t know her get a life and stop being so poisonous
It seems like "Harry" is more important than the rest of us peasants who grew up more emotionally deprived and with hardships much greater than "Prince Harry". Harry has the economic means to have many material posessions and and pay for all the mental health an medical care he will ever need. He's in a position to meet all kinds of people, make friends. and earn millions. I'm a person whose mother abandoned me and my sister as a child, been widowed and divorced and live in low income housing and can't afford the medical and things I need and no one is asking if they can help me so Harry has so many advantages than the majority of us peasants. Harry's not the the only child who lost a parent to violence and didn't receive the emotional support he/she needed. My god there are thousands upon thousands around the world suffering much greater than Harry.
Does that make his mental health, his experiences any less important? You have completely missed the point! It's attitudes such as yours that are what is wrong with this World.
I'm sorry for your trauma. I'm sorry for everyone's trauma. But thankfully, our personal traumas have not been played out in the public eye and compounded by media moguls, whose intrusions into our private lives have compounded and amplified our trauma purely to make money off of us. Then when we dared to say 'enough!' those same media moguls have not gone on to vilify us out of spite.
Imagine your story splashed across multiple papers and news headlines, but they are effectively blaming you for all the things that have traumatized you. Then imagine that happening every single day constantly from the day your traumas began. That is what is happening still to Harry.
Having a privileged life has effectively amplified his trauma, not protected him from.
Harry is a public figure compared to the rest of us. Isn't his advocacy of talking about mental health a good way of starting the conversations in our respective families and workplace? Certainly no one would talk about our own issues except to those that know us. Let us appreciate his compassion and openness instead of bashing him.
@@pmc8119 Truth!!!
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Harry, we have your back and always will. Do what you do, and do so confidently. You have earned our respect 🙏
Using the front exit after an event calling the attention of photographers then putting out on media that they almost died like his mother did many years ago is shameful way of dealing with his problems.
@blackenergy Seeing you support and appreciate what they do, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your own life 💛 🤎 🙏🏾
@@mayc8674 your comment is based on journalism trash - she was there ot get an award for her work. Others there got awards for their work and not one journalists shared anything about the celebration of the women there - they chose to find trash: horrible journalists.
My mother’s à Brit & was brought up to be cold & dismissive of any type of family abuse or trauma. I can relate to Harry. Look what speaking up did to his sense of belonging to his messed up family of origin. My speaking up has gotten me the same result - pushed out into the cold.
Me too ❤️🩹❤️
Grow a pair.
So, if you think all Brits are like that you're sadly mistaken. Think Harry is the messed up one, not the rest of his family. Who goes about admitting he's addicted to drink and drugs and expect anyone to take him seriously, Harry!
@@lindamaguire4422 Well said. Harry is a national embarrassmrnt. The way he and his wife treated the Queen and Prince Phillip is beyond contemptable.
He chose to leave the Royal Family. He chose to participate in the Oprah interview and to write a bitter book.
Thank you so much for shining a light on the toxicity of our attitudes towards mental health and the way the media can fuel societies judgemental attitudes to it. As a retired mental health worker my career took me from the "mad or bad" views of institutional psychiatry to community psychiatry and counselling to the more enlightened theories of psychodynamic psychotherapy. Your wonderfully compassionate take on this topic has not only affirmed many of my own thoughts and beliefs my own intergenerational family traumas have contaminated my own parenting practice but also has given validity to many of my own arguments against the distorted social media reports about Prince Harry and the Royal family. Thank you for shining light into this dark place.
Great content. I feel sorry for Prince Harry. Hope he is strong enough to keep going. He had no need to go to his dads coronation. But walked into the event with all eyes on him like a boxer going into the ring. He is a cery brave and strong human being
Brave?? He is a coward and a weak man. Get the fog out of your eyes
Lol 😂 no he’s not. He a coward who backstabbed him own brother who ALSO lost his mother and cruelly discarded his entire British family cos he fell under the spell of a toxic liberal American narcissist who was not fit to be in the BRF.
How brAvE of him to show his face to the family and friends he LIES about! How bRAvE he is to face those to whom he is a traitor - in every sense of the word.
@@NobodyOrdinary royal family aside the only person you need to worry about is your own family. He also fought for his country and is a veteran. Show some god dam respect
@@Icemanr85 show HIM respect? For being in the military? For “serving his country? - a country in which I do not live so save your advice. He’s almost a traitor!! If nothing else, because he wrote exact room layouts in his book that could get his family, The Heads of State, murdered. Because , unlike her and Meghan, the other family members actually have been in real danger. His father has had several assassination attempts. His aunt barely escaped with her life after a kidnapping attempt killed a couple of her bodyguards. Harry and Meghan had a Vespa trailing them from a block behind. 😱
He is still a well loved figure in the world . watching from South America . I can’t understand the vitriol and hatred against him . Thank you for this episode.
That’s because the majority would rather vilify harry who fell in love got married and respected his wife and family, Robin have an affair! I’m supportive of Camilla who is having an affair with his father throughout his father’s marriage what does that tell you?
From the time Harry was born I watched him grow and the trauma he went through. I read the Spare and I love this riveting book. Everyone must read this book. Royal family is very disappointing and dysfunctional. He is a hero in this lifetime.
Thanks for this podcast. Dr. Gabor Mate you said it all as is. Dr. Gabor I witnessed everything. Dr. Gabor Mate I know your podcast will reach far and wide and people be better listening to your lesson.
Dr. Chatterjee of all the people on earth the royals are the most dysfunctional race. They have no soul.
Yeah I feel for his brother William who ALSO lost his mother and has been backstabbed by his jealous envious younger brother and the toxic narcissist Markle.
How is what you @pdias8469 said Not Hateful? Harry’s book is ADMITTEDLY full of lies about his friends and family, and he has violated their privacy even as he is screaming to Be given his own. You’re willing to judge his family with hate in your heart whilst also proclaiming that Everyone must be as virtuous as 👼you 👺
Wow how can you know these things? You're an expert on souls ?Most dreadful comment ever.Fear for your own soul and seek treatment.
@@littleangel18 you are certainly no angel to speak evil about Meghan is not toxic, narcissistic....,
@@NobodyOrdinary you did not read the book.
All human beings are cable of making mistakes, no one is perfect.🤔
This is such a useful, insightful and compassionate interview. Thank you. I’m appalled by intensity of the bullying and taunting flowing so forcefully towards Harry. I can’t understand the level of hatred. So sad. So unforgiving.
Totally agree. The people who are venting about him, hate themselves too.
Maybe because he’s a racist hypocrite and picks and chooses and contradicts what he says
Is why mental health is so important, to learn how to move on and forgive.
Am so glad Harry gives his children hugs, SO THAT THEY WILL FEEL HUMAN .......!!
Read some of Harry's Spare book. Such beautiful English, well-spoken and sensitive is music to my ears. ❤
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Just because the Royal Family don't hug in public, does not mean they don't hug at home. What insanity is this to judge a family by their tabloid articles and lack of Instagram "perfection".
Crimea river its the same thing you do to Harry and Meghan hate them bace on the tabloid nonsens
They don't. It is frowned upon.
@@heatherjones5506 at home they do, just not in public
@Anna_Key Actually, no, they do not. In the 50 plus years I have known them and spent time in with them I have yet to witnessed that kind of affection from the Queen, Philip or Charlie.
@@heatherjones5506 you don't know what happens at home. You only see their public persona.
Really appreciate this support for Harry. Reading Spare made me really understand him and his struggles, and it is horrible that society is going after him and his wife in this way. I hope this vitriol will pass.
Yes, hopefully society will leave him alone and he'll stop getting into the media. And seeing you support him, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your life 💛🤎
Good luck.
You do know that spare is full of disproven lies.harry is not very bright and has done way too many drugs and has alcohol problems.
Spare was propaganda - he conveniently left out bits about his racial slurs towards Pakistani soliders … he only told you what he wanted you to hear
It’s interesting how he’s only concerned with reconnecting with the RF but niether of them have made any effort to reconnect with the dying father that single handed my raised Meghan - they’re all entitled full of shit people like the whole monarchy
@@Anna_Key unfortunately the press is made of women and men who fear to lose their job if their don't come up with garbage about even the best people on this planet. If they could access the moon, or the stars they would find something disgusting to write. They even criticise Dr. Gabor Maté after listening to his video. They have not paid attention. It is sooooo hopeless. No wonder many people have mental issues reading all the nastiness people who don't know someone are ready to write. Horrible. Thank you Dr. Gabor Maté for your truth.
How much our children need a hug. Depriving them of this brings several consequences. Both in the case of Harry, William and their father Charles, living in the Royal Family, which has been dysfunctional, is why Harry and his wife decide to distance themselves from the toxic family and have a more normal life for their children. Excellent opportunity to have a quieter life.
Well they are Philanthropist & Humanitarian they need to expose themselves to the public, but people think that a quiet life is to be Hermits.
Resonated very well! Much thanks for bringing it up.
I lost my mom also at a young age. But my grandmother and Aunt pulled me through with love. Sometimes it was difficult but most of the time I made my life with the help of god. The death date I’m. Very sad but my life my family help me and I know I will see her again. I wonder if Harry knows Jesus as his Savior the comforter. He is not comforted nor has he had a loving life. I’m sorry for him.
Let’s be clear about a few things…
Harry alone wasn’t traumatized by the death of his mother. Unlike his brother, Harry didn’t have the pressure on him of being a future king and having to comport yourself accordingly. He was given so much slack from the public for his transgressions, from the Nazi uniform outfit to the drug use , crazy Vegas, etc. He could have left the Royal family without writing such personal ( and subjective) things in a ‘tell all ‘ and without dragging the family through the trenches. If he actually lived out the privacy that he claims he so desperately wants then there’s room for empathy. He has done quite the opposite. Regardless of the reasons,he is not a child. He has the access to the best therapy money can buy. There are no excuses for his behavior. I have lived through the wreckage of a narcissist and it’s never enough for them.
This is a really invalidating and insensitive response. Are you saying that Harry isn't entitled to his trauma because his brother was, at the time, a notch above him in the line to the throne? All royals (including those that aren't second to the throne) have immense pressures on them to conform to their social roles lest they be hammered by the media for not living up to expectations. Every member of this family has been given slack for one thing or another - it's the reality of their privilege. One thing i'll say is that Harry has lived his entire life in the spotlight. For decades, the tabloid media have gotten away with distorting and mischaracterizing the truth about Harry and his family. So, I understand why he has decided that he wants to finally take control of the narrative of his own life in a public way. Contrary to what everyone says, he hasn't dragged his family through the trenches. He's never denigrated or belittled anyone in his family - the media does that. It seems that people just like to think that because he is spotlighting a side of his family that is less than perfect. Even more, Harry is doing the unthinkable in British society: talking publicly about his mental health issues.
As a side note, empathy is not conditional. If you're naturally empathetic, your empathy is given freely without judgment, no matter the situation. You don't have to agree with someone or support their behaviour to empathise with them.
@@kessa892 Difference is Harry and his wife are using his mother death as a weapon against his brother (who is only 2 years older). While William stayed strong, moved on and is using his experience to give strength to other young people.
And stop with that bs about empathy. EMPATHY IS CONDITIONAL. And it should be.
That's what we have brains for - to judge. Without it we wouldn't be able to learn anything. People who don't use it are easy to be fooled or abused. You wouldn't feel empathy towards Dahmer or Watts. Would you?
@@Laura-lc2io And people like you are EXACTLY what I'm talking about - you're just pulling stories out of your ass at this point! Harry's using his mother's death to get at Will... in what universe does this even make sense?! Your evidence being that you dislike what he's done so he MUST have nefarious intentions? Harry has been incredibly open and vulnerable about his experience with losing his mother and its highly insensitive to even suggest an ulterior motive when you have zero evidence to back up your claim.
Empathy is NOT conditional. I won't even press this point even further because only empaths will understand that expressing compassion is a natural response to hearing about somebody's struggles. If you don't feel that way, then I'm sorry - you sound like you haven't been modeled unconditional compassion from those around you. I understand Dahmer had a horrible upbringing which contributed significantly to his sociopathy - I feel compassion for this and I'm sorry to anyone that has had to face abuse or dysfunction in their childhood. Doesn't mean I agree with his actions (didn't you read what I said above?). Idk who Watts is.
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Only narcissists need their feelings validated
Harry's mental health focus is a grift. He is the last one to speak on the subject. All he's done is profit by trashing his family .Poor Harry shits on everyone because he lost his mother 🤮
Many people suffer some kind of trauma. It's an inevitable part of life. At some point we must move on take on grown up responsibility for our grown up behavior.
My sibling commited suicide when I was 15. My aunt and uncle died in a car accident and left behind 8 kids.
JFK Jr was 3 and his sister 6 when their father got his head blown off in front of the world. Life moves on ,we all learn to get past tragedies.
Harry is not special
@@lindaeasley5606 I'm afraid you're terribly, terribly mistaken. Validation is a fundamental part of maintaining a healthy emotional state. Everyone needs it. All validation refers to is the process of being understood and accepted by your family and peers. Giving validation is showing that you care about someone. If your spouse is upset about something, do you shut them out and tell them to get over themselves? Or do you sit with them, listen to their feelings and concerns, accept them for what they are and help them to feel better? The latter is validation. Narcissists need a constant supply of validation, it's true, because they often don't receive any as children. They're willing to use and hurt people to get it. This is not to say that all children who don't receive validation turn out to be narcissists. Based on what I've seen, Harry now seems very emotionally grounded - narcissists rarely are. He's definitely come a long way. Btw, vulnerating yourself by sharing your personal story (as Harry has done) is not a symptom of narcissism! If so, then that means that anyone who has ever written an autobiography is a narcissist, which is obviously absurd.
I'm truly sorry to hear about your sibling, aunt and uncle - that must have been incredibly difficult for your family to go through. It's true that life goes on and among the best ways to do so is to grieve openly with loved ones. Grief is an important part of heartbreak recovery and its important to get it right from the start so it doesn't transform into 'complicated grief' - when painful emotions don't lessen with time. It's apparent that Harry was dealing with complicated grief for a long time. By going to therapy and doing the work, Harry is taking responsibility of his feelings. He's even gone a step further by sharing with the world that it's ok to not be ok when you don't receive the right support during times of grief.
Harry is certainly not the last one to speak on the subject. There is a major stigma around mental illness and many are unwilling to even acknowledge it. It was revealed in the interview that Harry and William, together, wanted to campaign in raising awareness around mental health struggles - surely the first in the family to do so. Unfortunately the Queen disapproved and they were told to focus on something else. It's heartening to see that Harry has continued to speak on something that is clearly important to him now that he has the freedom to do so.
What a breathe of freshair. The people here in UK seem so cold. Treat the royals like their property. Harry had guts to break away. Thank you. I always felt this about Harry. I feel for William.
There are many people who has gone through life's difficulties & trauma but Harry is extra ordinary that becomes destructive not only to himself but destroying & hurting his other members of his own family.
"taken aim" at his family. That is a direct quote of the media narrative. That narratove is to shift the conversation.
He spoke of them cause that's his lived his experience. Of course they are mentioned. He spoke on his trauma his healing.
Please try to see the media narrative.
it's toxic to the real conservation going on.
Everyone in life has issues. The point of the British Royal Family is to give their people strength. To “never complain, and never explain”. To “keep calm and carry on”
As Harry did not live up to this mantra, as his brother has, and certainly as the Queen has, he doesn’t belong in the royal family.
I don’t follow stories about Harry, but I do read and listen to Gabor Mate. I can certainly relate to the difficulties that a family member can experience when they stop participating in the dysfunction. It is very difficult to remain connected to people who are stuck in denial and refuse to recognise the ‘love’ they are offering is actually very damaging. If you care for a person, you make an effort to understand them. When you understand that your treatment of them is harmful, you make a commitment to change. When you prioritise your love for a person, it is easy to change. But when you have other, higher priorities, you will sacrifice the person who is highlighting the problem. You will sacrifice them and you will claim that they are the problem. Harry is a scapegoat. The scapegoat is not the problem. The problem is the problem.
Cogent commentary!!!
His brother was awful to Harry. Trying to talk about how the situation could work, William got so angry that he punched Harry so hard that Harry fell, broke the dogs feeding bowl and cut his head! If that’s what happens when you try to TALK with your family and members respond with physical attacks, how can anyone think this family is doing well? Harry and Meghan made the right choice!
@@LaniAnne402 You have read one version of events. Other versions will be available.
@@LaniAnne402 yeah, i remember, the story in Spare, but i dont know if its true...u think?
@LaniAnne402 his brother also lost his mom, don't forget that. Both William and Catherine tried to point Harry's attention to his mental health and he refused (watch the videos from the Heads together events when all 3 of them worked together). What he tried to talk with Harry that night was Meghan's treatment of the personnel. And Harry never said that his head was cut.
I love that you mention the gingers, because my mom, my sister and my younger brother are all gingers and deeply sensitive and they do have to do extra measures to manage their pain while at the same time they manage their pain very well. I am a ginger adjunct, and I am profoundly sensitive myself. People always tell me how nice I am and it surprises me because I think I’m just me and I’m not doing anything special.
I feel so bad for Harry and the hate being spewed at him!
His haters are just petty and jealous of him.
He dishes out a lot of hate as well so he has to expect a response.
@@soulpowerful ....Are you speaking from a point of propaganda or what you know to be the actual truth?
Harry has openly shown support for the Sussex Squad, a vitriolic and Hateful group if there ever was one.
@@soulpowerfulwhat hate has he dished out
Harry is a cycle breaker. Respect.
He is perpetuating the cycle. He’s literally stepped from one dysfunctional situation to another. To break the cycle he needs to own his past, make peace with it and move on. Blaming others is not healthy therapy. He needs to own his current actions and step up, step out and step into his potential. His current drama triangle is toxic af.
Not the way he is going about doing it. By directions of a narcissistic wife he will only end up destroyed. The latest stunt is prime example. Using the front exit after attending an event and then comparing their "paparazzi chase" to his mother's when she died is unexcusable.
Harry is a loose cannon. Concern.
By destroying his relationships w his biological paternal family for a toxic liberal American narcissist and World Wide Privacy tour - what a joke!
Agree it is a gale of hate. Hope Harry & Meghan can get through all the hate & nastiness.
What about the hate they have put out into the world?
Harry is a cycle breaker and an abused person. For that, he has become the problem. They're constantly trying to gaslight him. As a member of the public and a supporter of Harry & his beautiful wife Meghan, I'm very proud of the strives Harry has made to walk a different path and stop the line of abuse.💞💕💞💕💞💝💖💝💘💖❤️🩹❤️.
You support them, so maybe you will get to experience a love, or a child like Harry and Meghan. 💛🤎
What cycle has h broken?
@@debra7699 you figure it out 🤔.
@@joannebaker4925 interesting answer, you're the one who stated he was " a cycle breaker'" ive merely asked you what cycle he has broken ......you can't answer the question, so fine,... you don't know, ..guess it sounded good & compelling when you wrote it - you really ought to be able to substantiate it however - but you can't, or you would've..
@@debra7699 I wish you naysayers would pay attention or may be you cannot, sad!
Any person that leaves a toxic family dynamic and can talk about it, is a hero in my book. It amazes me how hateful people have been towards him. People comment that he is a "Prince" and really has nothing to complain about! He's a human being, just like the rest of us and HIS pain is played out in the media.
Your compassionate, well stated response warms my heart and gives me hope!!! 🙏
@pmc8119. I absolutely agree 💯. I went no contact from my family of origin over 20 years ago. I’ve been supportive of Harry from day one. I understood him always bc I’ve done what he’s done and experienced nothing but venom and literally hatred from my own family and so called friends. It took a lot to do what I did but I had to for my own survival and peace. It is such a joke that in our country we have a MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS DAY. We are such a small minority who really try to recover from severe abuse and neglect. The only support we get are in cyber places like this. It is disgusting.
Harry is my hero. He's had the courage to pull away from that Soap Opera of a 'Royal' family and strike out on his own. The love and support Harry and Meg have for each other, and their family is admirable. You go Harry.
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And let's hope he gets clean and sober as Harry is NOT just a "recreational" marijuana user, he's an addict whose dysfunctional family enabled him his whole life and now he chose a wife with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder as that feels normal to him.
Yes. The further the better😂
@@countessAugusta Seriously, raised by the dysfunctional family and now married a wife with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, poor guy is trapped on both ends.
Some hero. Cares about no one else but himself
Prince Harry is the real victim of all these circumstances, he deserves respect from the public....and the media !!
P.morgan hate Harry with passion ,i don't understand why?
@@luciahermias9717 Yes, it is unbelievable. Why?
Harry is loving, happy and very popular, and is in 💕 love.
Beautiful to see them together and with their boutiful children.
It is as Piers Morgan is not ok!
What happened?
Thank you Dr Gabor thank you gentlemen. Your views are very welcome. ❤
It is not difficult to feel compassion for his losses, but he is profoundly lacking compassion, empathy or understanding for his brother or anyone else who also suffered. William played the big brother and there are many pictures of him clearly watching out for Harry, while stuffing his own grief.
Gabor is supposed to be so understanding , but he has never spoken about the need for (Harry) giving the same compassion that he wants and even demands.
Making millions exposing the flaws of your family, while making yourself the innocent victim is miles from empathetic. And even after years, he has not looked at a bigger picture than his own pain.
Agree.
Also agree.
If you have grown up in an uncaring narcissitic family with bullying elder siblings then you can't understand Harry. Harry's not relatable to people who've had a perfect upbringing. You can't emphases with what you don't know.
You are right. It's very true. Also, heartbreaking.
You must be engaging with media on another planet.
What great sadness to hear about this generational deprivation within Harry’s Royal family. What Great Joy to know that Harry is trying to ensure his children do not suffer deprivation like he did. Harry has the perfect mate in Meghan to ensure their children are cuddled and loved to break that multi-generational deprivation.
People need to see the human being that dealt trauma that is still affecting him now, people seem to think just because he was born in a royal family, he should not feel the effects of that trauma.
Literally no one is thinking that. You’re just pulling that out of your butt
I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like to grow up in an institution like the RF. I would say a rarefied environment like that lacked expressions of love and warmth. The focus is more on public duty and service.
If the RF and the people around them identified with their roles very seriously, it would be a very surreal experience to deal with so much formality, protocol, masks and personas. I’d say “gilded cage” is apt. But also utterly surreal like puppets in a theatre
On top of that the relationship with the public is disturbing from my point of view, where they are treated as Icons- venerated and separate to, but also a sense of ownership by, the general public. People projecting their own selves, ideals, devotion and love or hate on to them all the time. I’m saying it’s disturbing to be having that kind of experience and relationship with the world
I’m obviously speaking from my perspective as an outsider. Imagine being born into that, it’s all normalised. But you’d know something wasn’t right, something is missing. How can any of us judge Harry really, we have no idea. It was/is a different reality he was born into
A lot of anger and venom is directed at him for speaking out against his family. I haven’t followed this much or read his book…but I’ve read a fair few comments here and elsewhere about Harry hurting his “loving family”. This is quite complex as there seems to be a lot of projection and idealisation going because they are the/ “our” ROYAL family. “How dare he!?”
Not saying they weren’t loving in the best way they could, you could actually say that about every family. But of course they nonetheless can cause a huge amount of damage and pass on generational trauma.
I understand I’m going to be lacking nuance about the queen saying they can’t be half in/ half out. However that is also a common pattern in dysfunctional families. You will be scapegoated and cut off if you don’t tow the family line.
If Harry’s behaviour is a little worrying at times as I’ve heard people say, I wouldn’t be surprised. I’d say he’s having a colossal culture shock having so much freedom, and adjusting to “normal” life as a civilian. He’s also had a monumental loss with being effectively cut off from his family and the RF institution. He could be having an identity crisis, as anyone would who has gone though so much change. Especially difficult in a public facing role where there is so much judgment directed at him.
I’d say give him some time and he’ll find himself. He’ll gather up his true inner strength and power, beyond anything he had when in the RF. I believe he’s got a VERY big role, yet to be played out. He is an instigator of change. And that is always going to be messy, chaotic and met with resistance, especially so when going against the force of the monarchy.
But I do believe ultimately change is inevitable, and also needed. And Harry is still playing a big part in the monarchy, whether he is recognised as a member of it or not.
He is really spotlighting the monarchy for our attention. Whether the monarchy will ultimately survive is the question, but it will definitely need to evolve and adapt.
I have all the compassion for Prince Harry. He has a broken heart since childhood and still he wanted to find love, family. I may not agree with some things but I am not in his shoes, and I thank I am lucky to have anonimity.
Sad really he’s just trying to be himself but even his brother doesn’t underdtand him even his father too, Harry is Harry no matter what no filters he says what on his mind but the haters and newscaster is unbelievable, bless you and be brave God is watching you!
I feel he is deeply spiritual and seeking with fervor to know the meaning of life.
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Lol who exactly 👀
I agree 1000% and I am so grateful you shared this comment, although I fear that too few will be sufficiently open in heart, mind or spirit to see or appreciate it.
First rule of spirituality is NOT HURTING others. That is the most important part. Harry has done nothing but that ever since he married. How did this individual realise all this ONLY Fter marriage? I would like to ask dr. Gabor..
@@hussainanoordeen5754 Not true... Both Harry AND Will talked together publicly about this issue long before Harry married...
I totally agree you can see the trauma when he is around the press or his family in england.i wish him a happy loving life for him and his family in america. A really strong person fighting for his future
Thank You ! this is the truth as I see it also
Thank you so much for this beautiful video. 🇭🇷
I have compassion for how isolating and controlled his life must have been. But this interview drove home a point for me. He's 38 years old, Dr. Mate called him a young man, for every one else on earth, that's an adult. And they've mostly used any extra chances they've had by then. Most people would find themselves deported, without a chest full of medals for military service.
I don't wish any harm to come to him, like I said, I bet his childhood was really hard. But when we discover that a criminal or even just a poor person, came from a hard, deprived background, people are so intolerant and judgemental and call it excuse making. I wish some of this compassion for Harry, could transfer to the millions of other people who have come from a hard place and don't end up fabulously wealthy and famous.
And I disagree that he is vilified for talking about emotional pain. I think the public has shown a greater than usual tolerance or even interest in his emotional pain, compared to the emotional pain of others. A typical truck driver or nurse wouldn't get nearly as much attention paid to their emotional pain, and would find friends and family and acquaintances withdrawing and even speaking poorly of them behind their backs.
Gabor is in his 70's so a 38 year old is a young man. Another who has completely missed the point!
@@pmc8119 That's ok, given time I bet you will.
A shame people choose to look the other way when spite & dishonesty & certainly cruelty are on public display. I’m sure Harry gave Dr. Matè the truth of his actions knowing he would be publicly discussing him. Corrupt persons are very honest about their corruption, of course.
A typical truck driver or nurse wouldn't have their personal trauma amplified by media moguls who splash it across headlines in order to line their own pockets either. Nor publicly vilify them when they decided they had had enough. Effectively turning the nation against them by flooding the world with constant negative stories.
Harry is not the villain here. Meghan is not the villain, either.
The media moguls & who have paid millions for invasive photographs and hacks into private telephone messages are the villains.
@@TheKim369great comment and great reply❤
They need to analyse Markle and then everything will become crystal clear. Theres no doubt that Harry has trauma and relies on substances still and certain people to get him through life. Problem is that he has the wrong people around him who encourage and enable the wrong ways of dealing with his problems and are only out for what they can get out of him and his titles and contacts around the world. Harry will meet a very sticky end unfortunately unless he miraculously wakes up to what hes married and Markle will just carry on as normal with that disgusting grin on her face conning everyone she comes into contact with. Poor children, they are innocent in all of this 😑
I assume you think you are smarter than Harry. Pat yourself on your back. I think Harry is smart enough to know what he is doing.
@Helen Shg I think he's most definitely smart but now he's entrenched humself and his children with a wife who is intent on the spotlight at all costs. Just sad for him, but he made the choices that are bringing him down. I hope he wakes up and escapes from her soon !
It's not uncommon that narcissists and empath make a union.
How can anyone else know or judge someone else's relationship, or decide what their character defects are? Comments like this are so destructive.
And you conclude about Meghan how? Stop being fed by media and RF. Meghan has been ok till she met the english people.
William went through losing his mother too and knowing he was one day to be king, was not allowed to be himself. He had/has to carry that burden. Prince Harry was more allowed to be himself than William. The Royal family are dysfunctional but so is most families. Harry is a man now not a 12 year old boy.
He was two weeks shy of 13. Harry is a master of manipulation and bs.
I always thought a psychiatrist has to keep his patient's data secret. I certainly wouldn't continue with a psychiatrist spilling my problems all over the media.
This segment is referring to a conversation that Harry and Gabor had publicly. Gabor isn't revealing anything that Harry hadn't already revealed on camera himself so nothing said here is secret. Besides, if Harry genuinely had an issue with it, I doubt this video would be up, so we can assume that it's fine.
Gisela you are taking issue with what Gabor is saying about Harry? Haha you are delusional!
Yes.
People making assumptions tend to be all wrong and make an Axyz#@ of themselves all the time 😅😂🤣...
Harry had every right to leave the Royal Family and become financially independent. I admired him for that. But then they did the Oprah interview and made their issues with his family public. Very cruel and deceitful thing to do to his family.
Maybe worry less about other's decisions and focus more on your own mental health journey. That's more productive, yeah
Sometimes the story just needs to be told.
Maybe he felt he had to do that to keep them safe. *staying silent, he probably wouldn't have gotten out alive.
If ya'll don't think the royals are incredibly corrupt, you are not paying enough attention
I too lost my mother & sister at Harry's age, in a car accident as well! Yes it took years for the healing to begin! You can't go on live TV and expect all the truth to come out when looking for views and money! Secondly I could not start healing until I dealt with my addictions! You can't be stoned out of your mind expecting wholeness! That's the therapy I was taught! Also to be presently in a dysfunctional family let alone what he went through with his RF certainly does not help! People comment how Harry was never touched, give me a break there is a lot of evidence to the contrary !Part of Harry's healing (so he says) was the constant flashes of photographers, yet he has never had it worse with his wife in Cali, Hollywood no less! The day you stop blaming everyone for your life decisions, is when the true healing begins! It's called insight! You can't be yourself until you're truly yourself, off drugs!
Maybe during your next session, you could discuss with your therapist how to have a little more empathy and be less a little less judgmental. True healing also starts when you stop trying to find the faults in other people's lives and stop invalidating people's trauma. Also, he said that he takes these drugs in appropriate doses and within a safe environment. It helps to reconnect with himself, who the hell am I to suggest he's lying? Idk why people are acting like he's shooting up with dirty needles in a back alley. Also, I'm sorry to hear about your mother and sister. I would think with the years of healing you've undergone you would know that everybody has different ways of healing. The ayahuasca is only one facet of what seems to be a much larger system of healing for Harry.
Absolutely.
There’s no other way
Was nt there some relations of the Royal Family that were locked away in an Ayslum ? Can anyone shed any light on this please
Yes Prince Philips mother who was a Princess in the Greek Royal family and they were expelled from Greece and she had a breakdown but then was diagnosed with "schizophrenia"and put into an asylum for years.She then came out though and became a nun and helped shelter Jewish people during the 2nd WW.She became a truely remarkable woman which just goes to show that this so called "schizophrenia"is another bogus diagnosis as she managed to recover from what is considered "unrecoverable disease"requiring lifelong medication!!
The queen also had great cousins who were locked away for being "mentally handicapped and disabled"...but then thats what happened to alot of people in those days,out of sight out of mind.
Thank you for talking about Prince Harry's issues. I feel so sad, he and his little family persistently facing negative comments from Media
I think Harry has been badly served by his therapists - who seem to have spent their time validating his victim identity --- instead of helping him through the process of healing
I think you need to listen to the video again. U missed where Gabor addresses this idea of Harry as a victim.
@rosehill9537 not even with a gun to my head. Dr. Mate presented at our hospital a few times over the years....he's got some great attributes, but he's not a psychiatrist - he's an addictions guy. So I don't consider him a therapist, don't feel he was actually doing therapy, nor was I referring to him. Just noting what several professionals have pointed out about talk therapy methods and how badly they have served Harry. It's pretty obvious
@katiehill619 so u are commenting on a video u won't watch? What other experts? Have they spoken to Harry as making any claims about his therapy experience without consultation isn't clinically sound opinion as they have zero idea how he actually is. Unlike Gabor who has spoken to Harry personally.
They would be just cashing in on the anti Harry narrative. We have already seen and had other so called experts exposed as liars for hire when it comes to the Sussexes.
If, dear, you listen to the intervew, H. does not consider himself a “victim”. The best “therapy” was to seek help, drop the royal handcuffs, leave a dysfunctional family, speak up, make his own business and family decisions, marry, have his own family and want a better more loving life for his children in a beautiful part of California. Good choice on all fronts.
@@fionanov1948 If only he would do that - I'd be all for it. Instead he regularly puts his entitlement, arrogance and lies on display, pretends to be a philanthropist while the 'causes' he supports abuse indigenous people and he does nothing.
The establishment murdered his mother, he must be so confused and angry. I am disgusted how people are treating him and Megan. He has had the courage to break the illusion of the "firn" the royal family are a corrupt mafia with a bunch of pedophiles, Andrew, his uncle Mount Batton and the amount of sex offenders who where knighted. As a UK citizen i am absolutely done with the monarchy, our queen is dead, the adulterous queen we have now is nothing more than a fanily wrecker a jezabell spirit, definitely not the actions of a Godly women, we are Christian country with a whore as a queen, if this family lived in our towns we would shun them.
I guess when all the haters come out, it just proves he is on the right path 💗 stay safe and loved Prince Harry!
Do you also support MeGain? 😐
I cannot give criminal behavior a pass . Sorry. Nice that you can.
Harry is the biggest hater there is .. look at all the hate he’s spread but yet his entitlement means he forces people to refer to him as Prince lmao
The negative comments/diatribes in the video are quite revealing. Harry is just as human as the rest of us. Thank you Dr Chatterjee for interviewing Dr Mate. 👍
Thanks for interviewing this Doctor I became a new sub I think Prince Harry undermines his own intelligence because all his life he’s been told he’s thick. I beg to differ
I was also raised without physical touch. I don’t feel deprived at all. But I married a man who was extremely absent in the physical touch and words of affirmation areas. That I did resent. I put as much physical touch into my children until they didn’t want it. I have one child who didn’t want to be hugged and today she doesn’t like physical touch even when her husband puts his arm around her. I think some people just don’t need it as much or even like it. I am not one to hug much except my grandchildren. I love them up to bits but they never liked it much either. It’s so dependent on your personal love language and need.
'I was also raised without physical touch.' I don’t feel deprived at all???? But I married a man who was extremely absent in the physical touch and words of affirmation areas.' If you had been shown love, you might not have wanted to be married with someone not showing love as it is so important for you and your children. You have obviously suffered some form of trauma from it.
I'm not a psychiatrist but have worked with autistic and high functioning Aspergers individuals. Sometimes this is a symptom. I came across an interesting video recently called "Adults with autism." Almost deleted it but watched and learned that it described many of the behaviors I experienced with a difficult house guest recently who also doesn't like touch and other things.
@@martinadewsnap2337 you’re so right. I wouldn’t have thought it was okay to live without it even though I craved it. I later went on to be with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder who love bombed me and I didn’t see the flags. I was so starved for affection, that didn’t end well as you can imagine. I’ve been alone for 13 yrs now.
Finally, a voice of reason. The truth will set you free. And for those who vilify Harry, they need therapy.And they should know that the royals are human beings just like them and should not make them out to be what they’re not.
I've gotten so used to ignoring anything on social media about Harry and Meghan, due to not wanting to give them the clicks for the algorithms. It's a refreshing change to hear Harry treated with compassion. Thankyou!
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Thats all fine, and understandable. There was no need to make such a scandal and drama about it. If you want to live a happier, emotionally gratifying life, just do it quietly, without making such a fuss...if you allow the whole world to pry into your private, most intimate life, then they will destroy you. People love to gossip and pick on the odd one out, like in a chicken coop.
THE WORLD PRIE'S INTO THEIR LIVES!!
I don't blame them for wanting to tell their story!
Megan went from being a beloved duchess to the most hated woman in the world, literally, in a week's time! Gd forbid, they can't have anyone upstage Catherine so Megan had to go!!! Suddenly she was princess pushy, a narcissist, dragging Harry along, can't have babies of her own. Her mother was a jailbird. If it was bad, it was Megan! They were prolly looking for ways to blame her for the gloomy weather!
@katyayani9092 she was never loved. Stop assuming and talk for others. You don't talk for me and my opinion.
It does show how evil humans really are. They love to jump on people who have suffered.
Meghan took advantage of Harry and encouraged him to commercialize his childhood challenges
Great to see intelligence and insight at play.
I look forward to Harry moving on from his ":hurt people hurt others" phase. I would love for him to have a redemption arc.
That won’t happen until he gets rid of his narcissistic harpy.
@@ALT-vz3jn I suspect you're onto something.
@@ALT-vz3jn that is such a venomous comment. How can you feel good writing such unwarranted comments: what do you get, Horrible!
I have two narcissistic parents, I lost my father and my brother, and that does not excuse my behavior, I am the only one responsible for my actions. Harry is cognitively disturbed, cruel, with an addictive personality!!! IMHO
You got it!!!!! How interesting that the famous Gabor Mate PhD didn’t see that at all!
This comment is right for William, who deeply lazy and colérique, William is agressif and narcissistic jealous human being
@@odilengai1789 And might I add a victim also of that dysfunctional family.
So Harry is wrong from walking away from toxicity hmmm when does he get a break
@@odilengai1789 HEAR!HEAR!!!👍👍🙌🙌
Hi from Guyana so true of Prince Harry Story .
thank you Doctors
some people have become so toxic with no empathy or compassion and continually bash him and his family for every little thing
they have not shown him and his family any respect at all and i find that these same people would not survive what they dish out to him and his wife
they forget he and his wife are also human even if he is a prince
all he wants is to live his life with his family and be happy and people do not want them to have that
they work pay their bills and do not owe any of these toxic people anything
all of us whether black white etc have a responsibility to change the world and
bring love and kindness to it
we cannot go on as it is with killings of innocent people insults etc
Thank Thank you Thank you❤️❤️🙏🏾
We have no idea how gifted we are to be ordinary. May Harry find his extraordinary humanity in being ordinary.
I am so furtune to listen to Gabor Maté on humanity, on childhood, on mental health...and here on Harry and how people's expectations are.
To me, it's astonishing how grown-ups depende on glamour and power of king's, queen's, and princesses to represent theire own dignity and country, and point finger with disgust when theire soapbubble collapses. It seems like a hole country is collapsing when a royal member goes his own way.
Strange, strange.
I couldn’t agree more Drs Mate & Chatterjee. The senseless vilification of Prince Harry is a sad indictment of the depth of sheer ignorance & blind prejudice in the media & sadly most of the people of Britain & I find it not unlike witnessing predatory crocodiles on a feeding frenzy , sickening ! 💕🙏💕
The vilification of Harry started when he lied about the RF. Before he pulled that most people had compassion for him. It’s his own fault.
I agrée i feel and command Prince Harry fir his courage and the best rewards of all will be his children that in the future will thank him for his courage
This is not easy to speak up against the monarchy
I have so much compassion for the lonely prince.
So sad that his family and the critical public do not realise that his childhood pain still haunts him.
Sensitive like his mother could not handle the trauma in a loveless environment
If Gabor Maté would find himself, he would show us his most beautiful smile and make everyone smile!
He found himself, but wears the mask of this struggles.
I really have a different view on that.
he is sharing the pain of people suffering from trauma how is that fun?
@@martinadewsnap2337 it’s sad because they need to receive joy.
He is perfect as he is.
Y don't ppl understand he lost his mother at very young age, he's missing his mom's guidance. Life style of Royals r very different fm ordinary ppl. Give him a break.
yeah, I hate hearing H & M bashing, it's so cruel. He didn't ask to be born in such a dysfunctional family. WOW! Grandma said enough of talking about mental health, back to royal duties........OMG !! Typical delusional family. I use to get told that all the time..... don't talk, don't ask that, we don't say that, we don't ask that ! I'm really concocting what words would be appropriate to word whip these people who try to tell you what to say and what to ask... with the harshest reality possible. It's unacceptable, Queen or no Queen.
Just because someone is rich doesn’t make them less human than the rest of us. They have the same emotional struggles. It doesn’t magically disappear just because they have money. Harry doesn’t think himself more important.
Harry is very strong & balanced by now. His goal is using the huge platform he has to enlightening others about how to recover or cure from mental health problems. 🥰
Harry, stay strong and lift your head up high.
Let out the pain no matter what they tell you!
It helps other people who had trauma as kids.
The so call ROYALE family only care about how they appear to other people.
Its all about pride!
I guess the RF is worried. But i do hope Harry will make a good decision, and find his way back. Wherever he belongs. 🍀👍
This sad drama we look at it from a another country as whole British nation having a blind eye on emotional mental health issues and childhood trauma. There's no compassion or empathy from Royal family members, public or media to Harry and his family. Harry is a good example of person who went through childhood truma and still suffering mental health issues but try to empower others by his book and interview but it failed. When it comes to Crown no compassion for weak emotions and feelings. You need to be tough and brave. The duty to country come first. They forget Royal family humans with feelings. They need to have strict Occupational Health & Safety policies for Royal family on mental health issues as Public Servants. They are working royals should allowed to have stress leave. May be they have already.
Talk about your own trauma if you like if it helps but to lash out at close family members and resort to making hurtful comments about his brother to me is unacceptable.
How did they lash out?
He didn't lash out .. he spoke his truth
His truth???
That wife of his made this conversation polarised. She is a narcissist hell bent on destroying eveyrhing on her path.
Harry is a beautiful soul.
No matter how the media positions him,
he radiates power and fearlessness to stand for his truth, not others truth
Prince or pauper, Harry is admired and well loved by many..
He walked away from a castle to enjoy peace with the woman he has chosen and loves
For the haters, check your mirrors, and reflect upon your lives🙏
So very Well Said!!! 🙏
I wonder how our ancestors lived through unimaginable conditions 100 to 300 yrs ago! People who have lived through Childhood trauma will benefit from therapy but they also need some gratitude to the great aspects of their lives!
1st world problems!
Ok, so I get all that, but he still publicized private information about his family, all over the world, against their wishes. That’s rude and unfair. Did he consider what that would do them, Their image, their reputation, and how this would effect his personal relationship with them. This should have been taken up with them privately, or he should have worked his issues out privately with his counselor. This family betrayal was done at their expense and for fame and money.
Don't forget Markle and her bad influence on him.
I think Markle has a large influence on that. If he hasn't met her I don't think he would have aired his grievances so publicly and to hurt his family. Meghan definitely encouraged him.
People love to beat the person that doesn't want to follow a given protocol. But we need to have compassion for others that are suffering.
I feel soooo sorry for Harry. The way he is been treated mow shows he is right all the time. Am sure he has suffered been alone for a long time. I pray the Lord help him, guide and protect him n family in Jesus name amen ❤❤❤
OMG! Shakes her 5 year old's hand as a welcome back greeting...... lord God Almighty... that just stunned me... (oOo)
I see Meghan and Harry as wanting a better future together and for the kids. Sometimes u dont fully wake up until u have babies and you open your heart to them and yourself. Its a vulnerable time for them is all and they are crying out to be heard and understood. Meghan is his wife and stuck it out with royal family as best she could. Better than his previous girlfriends who wete too smart to touch it. So lets rejoice that we can care @ them and rise to the occasion. I dont feel good @ condemning them in any way. We have to accept a bigger role on our own lives and stop glaring at them. Meghan always has Harrys hand and is compassionate. Who said she had to be perfect? Thats Kates job !💞👩🎤
"Because he is speaking about something you are not supposed to speak about" this not only made sense to me in the context of Harry but also the reaction of my grown children when I left their father.
Loved this. I'm a redhead.. who specialises in trauma and sensitivity - because I understand it. How interesting that we need more anaesthesia! I also react horribly to anaesthetic with vomiting afterwards and sometimes during dental work I bleed more too. Sensitivity is such a broad phenomenon. And it affects everything about us mentally AND physically.