I just listened to the previous talk by another scholar and was horrified. Many husbands walk out on their wife because they fancy something new, leaving the wife destitute. I know Sharia to be just, and this talk has confirmed this. My daughter is just going through a divorce after years of abuse and neglect with two children. To say he does not have to provide for them and tge sisters are seeking the haram, is horrible and very wrong. The Prophet (saw) told us to look after the orphans and widows. Divorce is worse than death. Thanknyou for this.
Ladies ask for references when sheikhs share opinion and do your research. Level of knowledge varies by sheikhs and area of expertise also varies. So much books on Marriage... but Divorce and Child Custody dont have much books from Islamic Perspective. Its important to know otherwise you get screwed and listen to misleading sheikhs not knowledgeable enough on it. Alot of children's lives ruined because of absent fathers, and parents not knowing about rights of child in Islam after divorce. Girl child that reaches puberty dont have a wali in her life that's problem for marriage. Sons dont have father showing him how to be a man --- mothers cant do that. Also lots of Muslim kids in foster care- sometimes both parents are not able to care for child.
I definitely agree with the children issues you mentioned- you are spot on. Kids must have access to both parents and their relatives. Do not let emotions take over- keep the differences between adults. Also, the divorce is also a test from Allah- so are you going to deal with it positively ( make dua for your partner, say kind words, apologise etc) or negatively ( backbite? Preventkids from visiting their father? Etc? ) Never approach kuffar law before setting scholars/ mufti/ Shariah Council otherwise you might ruin your Hereafter.
Take down this video. it is not helpful. read book Bulug Al-Maram. It contains the laws of custody ! YOU are not speaking about Hadiths on custody in Islam, which is ALLAH's legislature. So take this video I suggest, then go study the laws of Hadaaanah, then make video where you Tafseer on the laws of Hadaan based on Rasoelllah SAW's rulings.
I am very interested in this topic. Can you clarify or explain what you think the sheikh omitted?can you also state the exact hadiths for sake of reference, so I may continue studying them in my own. Also the boomk you mention, which school of fiqh is it based on?JAK
My ex is refusing to follow any of the Islamic rulings, and instead is taking 50% of the property and forcing me to pay spousal maintenance. This is despite her lieing، cheating and stealing during the marriage. I have even shown her the evidence, but she refuses to listen and only follows the method to get the most money for herself
@@mohammedali111 thank you brother. I have sent her that video on WhatsApp. But social services have convinced her that it is her right. I will be homeless, penniless, and unable to see my child. In fact the social worker started shouting at me and telling me that there is no Islam in this country
I hope your situation has changed, and that you are seeing your children. A scholar once said to me that what is written for you is what you will get in this dunya. Also, this is your test in this dunya.. some ppl have cancer, other have limbs missing etc... but this is your test. Have sabr, Allah will reward you. Also, move on in life. Allah has given you health... build your future again and get closer to Allah. Sometimes some test brings your closer to Allah.
She cannot take half if she has not contributed whatever she put she can take. Anything above that she has transgress Allah's limits and devouring the wealth of another Muslim as mentioned in the hadiths she will pay in good deeds on the day of judgment and bear your sins in return.
Wrong. Your advice is wrong about the marriage contract. The conditions put in marriage contracts can not be illegal in islam. Even its put in it becomes invalid
The ex husband that abandon wife and kids...your best bet get a good lawyer so you can get you fair share financially and visitation...the imams are bias they side with men especially the cultural imams...they will answer to Allah in afterlife, the mehr thats unpaid is hellfire, father who abandon his kids through adulthood cannot be wali. Estrange Fathers die alone dont worry his kids will not give a shit when they are adults.
@@farhiyaa4880 don't commit kufr and make others join you. If a man didn't pay his mehr then why did you marry in the first place? That was the first and clear sign of irresponsibility. Or did you set your mehr to something he couldn't afford in the first place?
I just listened to the previous talk by another scholar and was horrified. Many husbands walk out on their wife because they fancy something new, leaving the wife destitute. I know Sharia to be just, and this talk has confirmed this. My daughter is just going through a divorce after years of abuse and neglect with two children. To say he does not have to provide for them and tge sisters are seeking the haram, is horrible and very wrong. The Prophet (saw) told us to look after the orphans and widows. Divorce is worse than death. Thanknyou for this.
Ikr
I was scared for the future
Thank you may Allah reward you.
does this apply to Canada?
Ladies ask for references when sheikhs share opinion and do your research. Level of knowledge varies by sheikhs and area of expertise also varies.
So much books on Marriage... but Divorce and Child Custody dont have much books from Islamic Perspective.
Its important to know otherwise you get screwed and listen to misleading sheikhs not knowledgeable enough on it.
Alot of children's lives ruined because of absent fathers, and parents not knowing about rights of child in Islam after divorce.
Girl child that reaches puberty dont have a wali in her life that's problem for marriage.
Sons dont have father showing him how to be a man --- mothers cant do that.
Also lots of Muslim kids in foster care- sometimes both parents are not able to care for child.
I definitely agree with the children issues you mentioned- you are spot on.
Kids must have access to both parents and their relatives. Do not let emotions take over- keep the differences between adults.
Also, the divorce is also a test from Allah- so are you going to deal with it positively ( make dua for your partner, say kind words, apologise etc) or negatively ( backbite? Preventkids from visiting their father? Etc? )
Never approach kuffar law before setting scholars/ mufti/ Shariah Council otherwise you might ruin your Hereafter.
Allah say give hump of gold in baqara
Take down this video. it is not helpful. read book Bulug Al-Maram. It contains the laws of custody ! YOU are not speaking about Hadiths on custody in Islam, which is ALLAH's legislature. So take this video I suggest, then go study the laws of Hadaaanah, then make video where you Tafseer on the laws of Hadaan based on Rasoelllah SAW's rulings.
I am very interested in this topic. Can you clarify or explain what you think the sheikh omitted?can you also state the exact hadiths for sake of reference, so I may continue studying them in my own. Also the boomk you mention, which school of fiqh is it based on?JAK
UNCLES AND GRAND PARENTS HAVE NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER.
My ex is refusing to follow any of the Islamic rulings, and instead is taking 50% of the property and forcing me to pay spousal maintenance. This is despite her lieing، cheating and stealing during the marriage. I have even shown her the evidence, but she refuses to listen and only follows the method to get the most money for herself
I tried to give you a response but it was deleted! Please watch Assim Al Hakeems video on your issue.
@@mohammedali111 thank you brother. I have sent her that video on WhatsApp. But social services have convinced her that it is her right. I will be homeless, penniless, and unable to see my child. In fact the social worker started shouting at me and telling me that there is no Islam in this country
I hope your situation has changed, and that you are seeing your children.
A scholar once said to me that what is written for you is what you will get in this dunya. Also, this is your test in this dunya.. some ppl have cancer, other have limbs missing etc... but this is your test. Have sabr, Allah will reward you.
Also, move on in life. Allah has given you health... build your future again and get closer to Allah. Sometimes some test brings your closer to Allah.
She cannot take half if she has not contributed whatever she put she can take. Anything above that she has transgress Allah's limits and devouring the wealth of another Muslim as mentioned in the hadiths she will pay in good deeds on the day of judgment and bear your sins in return.
@@namin8400she might be taking it for her children bc the father would give away their inheritance to his supportive family members
Wrong. Your advice is wrong about the marriage contract. The conditions put in marriage contracts can not be illegal in islam. Even its put in it becomes invalid
can you tell me something about men that divorce leave there wife and children and never looks back to his children. what does islam say about this?
Its not right. At least take care of the kids that's his kids
I know right, men in this society do this, this has to CHANGE!!!!!!
The ex husband that abandon wife and kids...your best bet get a good lawyer so you can get you fair share financially and visitation...the imams are bias they side with men especially the cultural imams...they will answer to Allah in afterlife, the mehr thats unpaid is hellfire, father who abandon his kids through adulthood cannot be wali. Estrange Fathers die alone dont worry his kids will not give a shit when they are adults.
@@farhiyaa4880 don't commit kufr and make others join you. If a man didn't pay his mehr then why did you marry in the first place?
That was the first and clear sign of irresponsibility.
Or did you set your mehr to something he couldn't afford in the first place?
@@farhiyaa4880 if you go to the kafir laws you have committed kufr. You are not allowed to take a penny of his wealth after divorce
What if he said he will give £160 per month and then doesn't give a penny.
Actually he never gave me anything over 13years only took from me.
How can someone pay that £160 everyday .i think uh dreaming
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I think u playing with low u whant to make low of allah same like off west
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