Sharing Chinese Food - What is a preferred activity in autism?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ต.ค. 2024
- So I had posted a different version of this on tiktok - which caused a ton of misinterpretation. This video is NOT about food - it's about accessing language for Abbey's autism. For Abbey, expressive language is a core part of her frustration and social isolation. So I practice every chance I get. A preferred activity is something of high interest/value to the person on the spectrum. I ask Abbey if she is willing to share ('Sharing is caring' is from her show Love On the Specturm and a phrase she and her boyfriend David use often.) I use her interest and connection to this to get more expressive language - getting her to access words to express what she wants. And she does a brilliant job. The more vested she is in the activity or request - the more language we get - I've been doing this for years and it has helped a ton. Moral of the story - if you create a simple/gentle obstacle to the preferred interest - you might get more language exercised.
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Such a small, simple pleasant exchange, really a teaching moment, with an ultra-caring mom.
She is lucky to be so loved and understood.
If you read these, good on you mom!
I think it's really important when we have safe foods to have boundaries surrounding them, since we can't eat the other options. I really appreciate how Abbey isn't afraid to assert her boundaries.
Yes, it’s really hard for me when people want my safe foods, because they say I can have theirs so if seems fair to them, but I can rarely eat any of them. I hate being thought of as someone who doesn’t share. I wish I had lots of extra money to just buy enough of my favorite foods for everyone.
Absolutely. I was at a party and I had specifically ordered a pizza with no cheese. I despise the taste. Almost everyone there ate my pizza. When I expressed nicely for them to leave it for me, they said just eat the other pizzas. It sounds crazy but I started bawling and went home
@@helixmoore7636 It does not sound crazy. I think I would have done the same thing! If I possibly have money, I buy one order of my safe food to eat, and one to share. If I have the money, this can work at parties. However, when living with others, if I get a box of cereal for me and one to share, the other person or people usually eat mine, when “ours” is gone.
@@helixmoore7636 That's just rude af. I don't eat meat so if someone ate my meatless option and told me to take the other stuff I'd leave as well.
I'm a stepfather to an Autistic son and this really helps me as I learn, Thankyou.
What a wonderful young woman! Mom, you have done such a great job with your daughter. She is precious.❤
Swear i adore abbey. And mom, YOU ROCK TOO! 💘
she's precious what a woman amazing
What a fantastic mom, respect.
She is so cute!..good job mom,christine..Good job Abbey!
Each video I watch on your channel warms my heart more and more. Thank you so much. I love your dynamic with your daughter.
When I was a kid my dad would always, always finish his food and without asking start eating from my food/ice cream etc. So now as an adult I hate the idea of someone taking my food especially once its already in my plate.
*My youngest son is Autistic. I think of it as a blessing. A very unique and special relationship.* 😊
*You have raised a wonderful young woman. I wish you both an incredible life filled with lots of fun.* ❤️
ASMONGOLD'S MOUTH 😭🤣
I use this same technique with my young daughter to build up those emotional language centres every day with different activities - be it choosing clothes, deciding to brush teeth, or choose a TV show. 90% of the time I don't care how garbled her answers are as a 3.5 year old - it's about showing logic, accessing emotional feelings, rationalising, and then being able to speak up and express herself. It's interesting to see the parallels here as you build Abbeys confidence and provide her reassurance.
I love this. You are such a sweet mom.
Well done. You can be very proud of your daughter. My daughter is on Spectrum as well. These videos help me to see she'll be ok with a good guidance.
God bless her pure precious soul
Abbey doesn’t share foood hahaha😂
Love you Abbey and David ❤
What a sweetheart
I'm a little confused as to why it mattered to announce who paid for it all? When i heard that I instantly thought "oh, that's how she is going to get her to share🙄"
Yeah that was weird huh
She's the sweetest brat 💜
she's super cute 😍
She's such a good looking girl!
A cooking colab with the channel "get down with sean and marley" would be great.
Love this so much!
And there it is. She wants what she wants 😊
SHALL WE SPLIT IT?!? 😂❤
She didn't really solve the problem because the only socially acceptable answer to "I paid for all of them, can I have some of yours" is "yes". To solve the problem, she could have said "if you tell me before ordering next time, I'll make sure there's another one I'm also happy with". Or just "I'm autistic and it's important to me not to share". Not just patronising the person who paid saying they have enough choice so "no"!
Mulan😂😂 she’s so funny! I love Mulan too. And I love Abbey on Netflix ❤️✨
My autistic daughter refuses to share her food 😂❤ good job abbey for finding other options!😊
Ha ha. My daughter also. If you ask her can I have some, she says eat your own 😂 She's 11
As a city bus driver of 31 years,
l never share food with anyone.
Especially Chinese food.
She doesn’t like to share. She showed that all the way back to when David brought her gummies, and wouldn’t share.
SHE IS NEURODIVERGENT. The logic that may seem “normal” or obvious for someone that’s neurotypical may not for an autistic individual.
And I saw that show. She said that she wanted to save her appetite for dinner when he asked her to share the gummy bears. ✨
My son doesn't like to share his food either unless it is his idea. We ask if he would like to share if he says no....we leave it alone. It's the same with everyone really. Do you always want to share your food? Lol
Abbey is significantly affected by autism, and needs guidance regarding this. As her wonderful mom did x
I don't like to share and I'm not Autistic, sure we all have some kind of mental disorder, but that doesn't make someone bad because they don't want to share. I've personally shared too much to people that didn't deserve it throughout my life. 🤷
Listen. She was very polite and kind about it.
she reminds me
of my son so so much
I get it, my safe and specific foods are mine. I'm not sharing, especially with all the meat eaters who want some of my veggie meals. It's not like I can just have some meat in exchange. Respect the boundaries we set up regarding food.
Why did her mom asked who paid for it? That was kind of weird
If I notify my husband to leave me a bite if there is left from his portion then he does..but this after 2 years marriage! At the beggining I had to learn its not mean selfish.....with time and patience it came from himself.
where can one get "problem solving prompts and solutions" like this from?
"who payed for it" wow, I get it, but like I guess I don't understand any of this.
If you read the description it might make more sense. - I got a lot of haters on the original post of this claiming I was stealing Abbey's food, etc. But this video is about language not food. Abbey has had 20 years of speech to even have this exchange - people looking to help those with expressive language deficits are always looking for new ideas to help in this area.
@@Christine-Abbeysmom I mean no jest, I figured your asking of that question was in building, not razing. It was just an out of left field question to hear.
josh ur a clown lmao
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Did she go to village glen
yes
I live in Studio City. I guess I'm your neighbor. You always go to the same places I do.
Abbey is such a beautiful girl
How far can you?
Amazing job or kinda rude?
Why in the hell does her mom talk to her like she’s 5??
What is her name
It seems like an intrusion of your daughters privacy and dignity to me, just my opinion
That depends on whether Abbey consented. Abbey is pretty open.
@@ReineDeLaSeine14can she consent though if she doesnt fully grasp the concept..
That's the best part about opinions. You can have your own even if it's wrong.
@@babysam3768stop infantilizing her and treating her like someone incapable of learning or understanding anything. You think you’re trying to stand up for her, but you’re just treating her like a child. Watch the show and get some actual perspective for the kind of person Abbey is and what she’s capable of.
@@Bee-rt5qf Or you could stop acting like there’s no difference between her and neurotypical people. That isn’t infantilizing. It’s weird to be so defensive over your perceived right to see her be exploited on camera constantly.
tfw no autistic gf
bros...
Shes cute af
Autism lmao i have it bad and no one cares
Imagine an airhead on ice trying to give you directions!!?
You have as well stay lost😂
Maybe decide, before
More jumping up and down please Christine
Classy
@@darrenlynch9047 I mean we are already exploiting them for content. This person I would expect to show up eventually.
Maybe one day you’ll make it out of your mom’s basement.
Probably not though.
This woman does not have autism
Curious as to how you know? What are the exact « symptoms » or sign of autism that she’s *not* expressing so we all know what an « actual » autistic person looks/acts like? Are you a para? Teacher? Instructor? Doctor? Therapist? Psychologist? What are your personal experiences that make you so qualified to make this call? It’s so interesting how people can diagnose just by looking at someone. Your intelligence must be incredible, you must be a top specialist.
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None of this looks real. It looks like bad acting.
Fake ???
what a sad woman taking advantage of her mother
Onlyfans?
fake lmao
Ur making money exploiting your poor daughter she's basically paying for it
😄 'promosm'
lo-main is king
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