Why you shouldn't vent anger (according to science and philosophy)
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- We celebrate and even glamorize anger as a society. But should we believe the hype? This video shows why we shouldn’t vent anger and why we’re better off preventing and reducing this emotion altogether.
Video: Why you shouldn't vent anger (according to science and philosophy)
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00:00 Introduction
01:53 A philosophy of anger
06:02 The science of venting
10:33 Arousal-decreasing activities
"When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred." -- Thomas Jefferson
Good advice
I should try that in the future
I think Einzelgänger is a mind-reader, whenever I deal with a particular issue, he post a video on that topic right away. Blessed to have you in the TH-cam Philosophy Community. 🙏
No doubt! 🙏
literally this is something i have been fixated on thinking about for several days. it’s insane
literally this is something i have been fixated on thinking about for several days. it’s insane
It is really creepy! I just blew up at someone; I go to youtube and what is the first video in the cue? Was Einzelgänger listening???😉 Well, perfect timing with a very helpful message. 🙏🙏🙏
Same thing here. Amazing timing.
Vegeta is a perfect example of this. Vegeta had above average skill level and constantly trained hard to get better. As powerful as he was he was held back by his anger. In his hard battles he often showed a hard outburst but always short lived and the calmer opponent won the fight. Goku was more relaxed and jovial in his day to day and took things less serious. Is why I believe he had more energy to put towards when it came time to fighting and training. Goku was the most powerful character because of this. If your body is always in fight or flight your brain is not able to put the same amount of energy on other things. Staying calm in the middle of a storm. Not letting the external affect your internal. Than your internal has more energy to put external. Great video as always. Many blessings to all 🙏🏾
Bringing the real life examples. I like that.
I fux wit this
Goku's anger at the death of Krillen is what allowed him to become a Super Saiyan thus giving him the power to defeat Freiza. Gohan's anger turned the tide of the battle against Raditz and again against Cell. If we're going to explore the effects of anger in the DBZ universe, we have to look at all characters not just Vegeta.
Vegeta glazer
@@zhouyu6557 you are correct in saying that anger was a key in those transformations but you also have to see where the source of that anger came from. Both Goku and Gohan's anger came from them losing their loved ones and wanting to protect from further loss. Both characters were pretty docile when not fighting. Neither walked around angry most of the time like Vegeta. So when they got really angry it was from a place of love which I believe is what made it different and what helped them reach new levels. Blessings 🙏🏾
I always feel awful and stupid when I have an anger outburst. I always regret I didn't handle it calmly. I feel out of control and stupid for letting someone push my buttons. The older I get, the more I feel so much better when I don't over-react in these situations. I feel better just walking away when I have the choice to do so. Wish I'd learned this long ago.
Yes, and the one trying to make you angry is satisfied when they're successful, and dissatisfied when they're not
Perhaps it comes with our environment. I grew up with a family who has to raise their voice when they disagree or confront some kind of conflict. They did tell me not to get angry but they don't show me how. In the end, I get easily agitated in any shortcomings. Hopefully, I will become more calmer in time.
I let my anger out at my co worker once. I felt nothing but regret. Every time I get angry, I try to remind myself how I felt during that moment. Now, I have better control over it. In fact, I don't think I had an angry outburst since.
Good point there , after the incident comes the regret👍
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Like a week ago?🤣
exactly . nothing but regret. no catharsis. lesson learned 👌💪
Good to hear, I still strugling to keep my anger these days😢
As an adult with ADHD, anger and I are old frenemies.
Emotional disregulation is a demon we must wrestle with all our lives.
* I actually like shooting my bow 🏹 as a stress reliever. I don’t see it so much as violence, but I picture it as holding something tight, like a negative feeling, and then releasing it.
I had a lot of anger issues when I was on adderall and they disappeared entirely when I got off it. Something to consider if you’re medicating. I learned to cope with ADHD without my meds and I am much happier
@@brianschwarm8267 Oh absolutely! My anger management was worse when I was on adderall. I have been traditionally unmedicated most of my life. Big Pharma calls it “self medicating” and doesn’t like the idea of people growing their medicine in their backyards,🌴 (I don’t do that, I am rubbish at growing plants) and Big Pharma (or money) controls a few of this world’s politicians.
Reminds me of a grouchy old wizard I know of who preached that magic was good and all, but the world runs on money. 💰
Emotional disregulation is a demon we with ADHD must CONQUER. Trust me, it is possible. To say that "we" as people with ADHD have to wrestle with emotional dysregulation our whole lives implies that there is something wrong with us, and that we are permanently stuck that way. That simply isn't true, is disempowering and misleading, and is rooted in victim mentality. I'm not judging you, just trying to dispel ignorance. I believed the same way for a very long time. The truth is that YOU have the power to overcome your emotional disregulation. YOU are strong, creative, sensitive, intelligent and capable.
I was diagnosed with ADD at age 10 and have been on and off stimulant meds until I decided to stop permanently a year ago. I switched to drinking green tea instead of coffee too. Stimulants do not help regulate your emotions (on the contrary), they only help you dissociate from them temporarily. I learned how to regulate my emotions and nervous system through lifestyle & diet changes, somatic therapy, yoga and meditation. Now most of the downsides of having ADHD are easily manageable for me and I became a coach to help others do the same. Don't give up hope brother.
Emotional disregulation is a demon we must CONQUER*. Saying that we with ADHD must "wrestle with all our lives" is simply not true, is disempowering, and is rooted in victim mentality. It implies that we are born broken, and there's nothing we can do except take hard drugs to manage it.I'm not judging you, just trying to dispel ignorance. I believed the same for a long time because I let my parents and others in authority convince me that there was something permanently wrong with me. It's sad that this persists today with so much evidence to the contrary. ADHD is simply a result of being born with a sensitive nervous system and experiencing overstimulation, chaos and trauma that is practically inevitable in modern life. YOU have the power to regulate your emotions and nervous system. You are wise, calm, creative, intelligent capable, sensitive, and in control of your emotions
I was diagnosed with ADD at age 10 and have been on and off stimulant medications for 20 years. I decided to stop permanently one year ago. I also switched from coffee to green tea. The truth is that stimulants do not help regulate your emotions (on the contrary), they only help dissociate from them temporarily. I learned to regulate my emotions and nervous system through introspection, journaling, somatic therapy, yoga and meditation. Now the downsides of my so-called "ADHD" are minimal and easily manageable. I became a coach so I could help other people do the same, with or without ADHD. Don't give up hope brother, you can overcome this demon.
Emotional disregulation is a demon we must CONQUER*. Saying that we with ADHD must "wrestle with all our lives" is simply not true, is disempowering, and is rooted in victim mentality. It implies that we are born broken, and there's nothing we can do except take hard drugs to manage it.I'm not judging you, just trying to dispel ignorance. I believed the same for a long time because I let my parents and others in authority convince me that there was something permanently wrong with me. It's sad that this persists today with so much evidence to the contrary. ADHD is simply a result of being born with a sensitive nervous system and experiencing overstimulation, chaos and trauma that is practically inevitable in modern life. YOU have the power to regulate your emotions and nervous system. You are wise, calm, creative, intelligent capable, sensitive, and in control of your emotions
I was diagnosed with ADD at age 10 and have been on and off stimulant medications for 20 years. I decided to stop permanently one year ago. I also switched from coffee to green tea. The truth is that stimulants do not help regulate your emotions (on the contrary), they only help dissociate from them temporarily. I learned to regulate my emotions and nervous system through introspection, journaling, somatic therapy, yoga and meditation. Now the downsides of my so-called "ADHD" are minimal and easily manageable. I became a coach so I could help other people do the same, with or without ADHD. Don't give up hope brother, you can overcome this demon.
A Vegeta appeared in the thumbnail... It's super effective!
Anger is one thing but it isn't healthy to keep bottling things up. Swearing (as long as it is not focussed at someone) has a number of benefits! Unexpressed anger breeds resentment. There is such a thing as healthy anger- telling people when they are taking the piss is important so that you aren't treated as a doormat.
Thats all im saying. ❤
Venting implies it's bottled up and needs to be, well, vented. Calmly expressing your issue with something as it arises is very different to venting.
In short - balance! Balance in everything.
@@AdamOwenBrowning when you present it this way, it does sound alot more conscious and thoughtful❤️Respect❤️
Don't supress any emotion but instead give forgiveness for your peace
Maybe I'm misinterpreting the video, but I'm thinking that the studies are showing that "bottled up anger" or "repressing anger" isn't actually a thing. The healthy alternative is hard work since it requires rewiring our brains to remain calm in the moment and breathe and let it pass. Lately when faced with hard moments of infuriating morons I've been reflecting on the insignificance of this moment, this person, and how much it won't matter 1,000 years from now, or probably even 1 year from now. This video and it's studies seem to be reinforcing it. Humans aren't as advanced as we think we are and we have a lot of work to do, I'm rewiring my brain to think that children act out, and adults have created skills to move through anger calmly and properly.
Not sure I particularly agree with everything said, my man. Personally I find that physical activities have made me better at regulating my emotions, particularly running. In essence, I find when I routinely incorporate these into my day, I rarely arrive at anger in the first place, and are more likely to approach stress with a sense of poise and reason. If I’m misled by the emotion, then again it returns me to my center, where I can dispel the emotion with logic and reason.
I think he is talking about only going running as a result of an anger triggering event. That would be just a coping mechanism. What you are describing is probably already a habit. Doing regular physical activity will decrease stress levels in the first place so that you can be more mindful. then you don't get angry in the first place
Anger is probably a surface symptom for something else. Oftentimes, this could be fear. Along with this, many other things.
Anger is often depression turned outwards
Realized recently for me it was fear, anger pushed me away from my family and friends, gave me a justification to avoid my fear which was just some social awkwardness. So much strife for so little reward. Once i let it go and just faced my fear, it dissolved in a moment when i saw how it had warped my perception.
Most likely depression, particularly in males. Angry guy is almost definitely also sad guy. Sad guy is much more likely to become angry guy.
I have read in a psychology journal that venting reinforces our brain to get to a state that needs venting in the future because venting feels good. Almost like a smoker smoking cigarettes. They create an environment in their body that reinforces getting that fix.
Yeeeh😊
I have been venting lately. This is a great reminder that I should stop and accept stillness.
I agree with this… venting is needing someone else to validate your anger… if you can validate it yourself, you can let it go
Another reason showing that common sense is no proof in an argument. Science needs to provide it
Would ypu perhaps share the journal you got that from? I'd be interested to read into that myself.
Anger has always been a problem for me, I have calmed down over the years compared to my younger years, but it does come out now and then. Hearing the negatives about anger, I must add that it can sometimes be positive. Twice in my life, my life has been in danger, and my anger has saved my life. The first occasion was when a person ran up behind me as I was walking home in the early hours, with the intention of robbing me. He hit me over the head with a metal bar, then tried to stab me with a knife. He failed to fell me, I snatched the metal bar from him, and battered him until he was unconscious and bloodied, and no further threat to me. The second occasion was an industrial accident, where I was trapped under some very heavy machinery, had I not lost my temper, which gave me the strength to remove the machinery from off my body, then I would most likely had perished, as no-one else was around to help me. Sometimes anger saves life.
As it is a tool of fear , it helps us to survive. Awesome take.
@@blackmonarch2380a tool of fear? That's sounds like a weasel take. Not getting angry is the tool of fear. Being scared to put lessers in their place or punch them in the face comes from the fear of this bitch made society causing trouble in our lives. It's too many weak people saying anger is bad but it's okay for evil to go unfettered by the anger less.
I like anger. Not all the time, just every now and then. I think it’s part of being human. I try to channel my anger as motivation for working harder.
As long as you're not hammering nails!
I agree but replace anger with hate
I think hate makes us human
But "hate is a strong word" they say
We're gaslit into rejecting our hate
I believe this generates anger
I believe anger is imperfect hate
@@Jay_Hendrix hate is not the feeling thats causes us anger. Anger stems from fear as does hate.
The concept of venting anger never set right with me. It's not like anger is a physical thing that can build up pressure on a container. I feel like the more you indulge in your anger the more likely you will do so the next time.
I love the Stoics - Seneca's essay on anger is fantastic, and Epictetus is incredibly compelling. Nonetheless, I also love Chekhov's beautifully presented criticism of the Stoics in 'Ward Number 6'. It's only a short story, but a very powerful one, and for me, it is the best argument against Stoicism. Have a read if you like to challenge your beliefs
Burnout.. working non stop for 10-12-14-16-18 hrs can generate a short fuse as our capacity to take on additional stress is substantialy reduced. Thats why rest, meditation, breathing exercises, sleep, taking a naps just laying down and relaxing can reduce the sensitivity to stress from outside factors and increase our capacity to take on more stress
If anger were solely negative and had no benefits, it would not exist according to evolutionary psychology. So I think it is necessary to understand anger in both a positive and negative way, and to learn to harness the positive aspects and control or eliminate the negative ones.
As it is a tool, like all things in life, nothing should be wasted in use and potential.
We crave sugar and technically it has a benefit, but we are better off without it, just because something has a use doesnt mean there isnt a better way to do things.
If you don't control your emotions, your emotions control you.
emotions control you because that is being human... it takes quite a lot of mindfulness to keep a logical brain about oneself all the time.
@John-PaulHunt-wy7lf More like be gone Moon!
I've been venting my anger my entire life. It really hurts my own self. Thank you man for posting this video. There's been certain times where I give in to my own anger, and I regretted it all. Theres nothing good in anger. And thats why today I will try my very best to live an anger free life.
It's the same as "being happy". Neither achieve any tangible result. Instead, get sheet DONE. The end, 'n that's it. 💪😎✌️
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (book I)
Anger is life force fella, I blocked mine for my whole life and scared myself silly about venting it, it was utter bollocks, it’s just energy moving through, although we as a society have learnt to suppress it, that and the other emotions of course!
Letting anger out is something you should do very judiciously.
There are times when nothing else will get the job done, sad though it may be.
The trick is realizing that using anger to achieve your ends is the personal emotional equivalent of smashing the emergency glass.
It should only ever be a last resort
"To be angry at others, you must first resist your own unpleasant feelings" - Hillside Hermitage
Can u explain please???
I Dint get it..
Since I'm early, let me take the time to thank you for all the marvelous insights you've given us over the years.
It's very much appreciated. 👍👏🙏🙏
As someone going through an anger filled situation right now, this video helped me a ton. I've been venting to my friends about it and it starts to make me angry all over again. It started to feel like a vicious cycle, I'm so glad I found this video.
Anger is hurt’s bodyguard
"Speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret" idk who said that but 💯💯
I’m so grateful that you make captions for these videos.
I’ve always been angry since I was a little child it’s all I know even around myself
I don’t think venting it out ever helps
But I also never knew how to not be angry
I don’t have outbursts anymore it’s just all inside me not going away
I will try meditation and mindfulness
In Buddhism they say like: those who fully come to terms with the fact of their eventual death, all their conflicts, enmities, resentments are silenced. Something like that.
It is a profoundly liberating statement and simultaneously a very depressing one. Don't know which is more.
Another brilliant and thought provoking video Einzelganger bro. Thank You.
I love the Buddhist perspective on this. The concepts of impermanence and surrender have helped me a lot
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"
- Buddha.
Memento mori
Time is the only resource.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (book I)
@@coolbreeze5683 All religion have the same view, they all say that u should hold ur anger
Freud also writes that blocked emotion, nevrosis can be released by humour. Laughter is just as relieving as anger and the better way.
How about dealing with anger by engaging in activities that require a lot of attention so you literally have to divert your attention from anger to something else?
Like "Sorry, anger, I don't have time for you"
Sometimes in this world, if we dont get angry in some occasions people will take advantage of us.
Anger is an emotion to be used wisely with control.
This is a great topic. I've always been told to go workout or do something physical if I'm angry about something. I started linking those activities with my angry feelings and that bred more aggressive feelings.
Talking through why I'm angry with someone or learning to put the anger into perspective in my mind seems to re-train my brain to go into calming mode instead of jumping to aggressive forms of venting.
This channel has helped me more than anything
When anger swells I tell myself we’re all gonna die and return to the nothingness forever then everything seems trivial
Exactly! In 100 yrs, none of our human nonsense is gonna matter 😅 it DOES put a lot of things in perspective
A Vegeta thumbnail on an Einzelganger video? Today’s my lucky day
Science actually backs physical release of intense emotions through things like exercise and cathartic yelling
Maybe because of ADHD but for me without physical outlet it is difficult to calm down. Telling someone who will involuntarily throw next object to "just calm down" is like telling a bullet to "just stop". In my experience it is better to work on not getting angry over small things then at controlling the anger.
💯 friend
You will never be punished FOR your anger, but you will always be punished BY your anger.
One must understand that until they can rule their mind, it will rule them.
Hi, I don’t know if you read all these comments, but I’ve found that exercise is a great way to deal with anger, frustration and anxiety. I try to exercise at least 30 min every day.
It’s been shown that prehistorically, human beings used to be physically active all day long. It’s how we were meant to be. But now, we don’t. And so, our stress hormones build up instead of being used for what it was originally intended, which is to work out your stress hormones through physical activity.
100%
makes sense
I have always dealt with anger as long as I can remember, and I used to think that venting anger was the best way to deal with it (even psychiatrist recommended to me) but I can tell you that after screaming and shouting I always felt a deep feeling of regret and shame. Anger can make anyone do or say something that can seriously harm others and themselves, I can tell you that by experience. Overtime I believe I have made some progress and improvements in this area, it all comes down to the simple realization of "There is not a single problem that can be solved by anger, but any problem can be made worst by it".
What the fuck are you even talking about? Why can’t I be angry if I’m fucking angry? Who says it’s not healthy to express? It’s just the reality of the moment, denying it is utter madness
For me, anger and shame have been dancing intimately all my life.
Oh damn I feel this
I enjoy the increasing quality of video production 😁
I can only agree but it is very nuanced, expressing might look like venting but verbalizing without screaming helps me process things with reason and logic and find many times that ilogic thougths or expectations emerge from those bursts, allowing me to think beyond the moment and deal with the experience.
Letting anger out is something you should do very judiciously.
There are times when nothing else will get the job done, sad though it may be.
The trick is realizing that using anger to achieve your ends is the personal emotional equivalent of smashing the emergency glass.
It should only ever be a last resort.
Venting is part of the process, it lets off some of the pressure so that the rest is easier to deal with. It's OK to vent, but probably on one's own.
I agree. Whilst it may be true it has some good uses in the right condition, it may be too uncommon of an ocurrance for it to be generally recomendable
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...Your channel name makes everything you just said so sus.
@@ephraimwinslowokay and? Are you actually going to engage with the content of what he’s saying or?❤
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Nope.
Just like how that extraneous emoji ruled you out of the serious discussion column.
A good quote my medic just told me. " It is perhaps most necessary to have patience whenever we do no want to have patience". I am trying to calm myself right now. Petty people with petty problems.
Man I remember this guy with 80k subs …. Wild!
I have a complicated history with anger. While I've been aware of the harmful nature of anger, I didn't know more about it until now. Thanks for posting!
I notice the media that portrays anger positive is action movies. In those movies and tv shows, direct confrontation is the solution. In other genres, anger produces mixed results.
The Timing timing timing! Of this release!
Thank you!
seeing this video felt so timely because i just listening to Marshall B. Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication series and he shared this belief that anger only leads to more violence, but i think his belief is that anger isn't a bad thing to experience inherently, but that it's a signal to oneself that a need of theirs is not being fulfilled, and they should take it as an opportunity to deconstruct that internally so they can later approach others in a more compassionate way
Every time you lose it, you lose. Stay cool, calm & collect. Mae West said it best.
It is very different to move your energy to release it from having violent thoughts or intentions. As Bruce Lee says: Express with emotion, not with violence.
Incredibly helpful as always. Accessible, profound insights with top-shelf video and script editing. Absolute respect for viewer time, but more than that. I'm talking myself into a tshirt purchase
Thank you so much for making this video. Really shines a different light on how to deal with Anger.
I am a neuropsychologist and also just read this study....I LOVE it!!!! I share this with my students. Absolutely LOVE your channel and now I see you have many followers!!!! So happy for you!!!! I started listening to you from the beginning 😁 I tell all my students about your channel. You provide such excellent topics!!!! Thank you ever so much and have a splendid day 🌻
Thank you for your compliments and sharing my work with your students. I'm honoured :). Have a nice day, too!
Anger is important for ensuring boundaries are respected
Also.. you shouldn't keep anger inside of you (according to science and philosophy). Moderation is the key.
Yep. Very unhealthy to suppress emotions. Suppressed anger can actually turn into chronic pain
@@leonkennedy3398THANK YOU❤ according to most of the comments, you’re wrong for feeling this way. Ain’t that a lil off?
Science is corrupted and sold.
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But...vice versa....
Expressing too much anger too often also may cause physical
and/or mental problems.
Nonreaction
equals ✌
@joannaedwards6325 you're letting built up anger out. But you should also not let every little thing anger you. A good balance
I think it is more accurate to say that we should avoid "wrath" rather than anger itself. Anger is classified as one of the few basic human emotions in psychology, along with sadness, happiness, fear, surprise, and disgust. "Anger" is more accurately viewed as a feeling--rather than an action. It is what you do with that emotion that determines if it is healthy or not. So if you use your emotion of anger to inflict disorder in the world around you (considered wrath), that would be considered negative. But you can utilize your emotion of anger for positive things aswell. The video makes very valid points on the need to control anger, and this is expressed thoroughly in Buddhist philosophy. In Buddhism, when you feel anger it is considered the "first bullet" and this is unavoidable for everyone, but when you take this anger and cause inappropriate chaos, that is considered the "second bullet." It is within our grasp to control and even eliminate this "second bullet." Some examples of "good" anger include Ghandi's peaceful protest, MLK peaceful protest, and even Jesus' anger in the temple. To eliminate anger is asking to eliminate a basic human emotion, which is to reject an aspect of the humanity that lives in you. It is thus more important to learn how to control and direct it to more productive avenues.
TLDR:
Anger = human emotion and often necessary. Need to learn how to control and use rather than "avoid."
Wrath = negative expression of anger; bad and should be avoided. (what the video is more specifically referring to)
❤❤❤ You won't believe how much I needed this video - right now! Thank you so much.
I'm so glad for that video.
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Anger is nothing to be ashamed of. It comes from a place of wanting security and safety. Unhealthy anger is terrible though. The meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome Anger by Harper Daniels was helpful for me. Anger can be a great teacher if observed and not responded to with negativity.
Nothing to be ashamed of? It’s a low level fight or flight emotion that shows weakness of character not strength and hurts others because the person with anger can’t control their own reality. A practice of control and dominance. It is shameful.
Observation is necessary yes. Until it no longer exists.
@@xbemos Anger is a primal emotion, nothing to be ashamed of. It's being unable to accept it or directing it at one's self or others in the form of blame that is toxic.
@@magueysunset that’s a train of thought that most spiritual practices would not agree w. It’s primal yes. But the entire goal of evolution is to overcome weaknesses of flesh.
I really hope many people watch this video
yep
Whenever I feel like I'm gonna spill, I remind myself that my emotions are never a result of outside influences. If I ever do spill, I just say something super quick just to get it out and move on. I never dwell.
I love your work, congratulations for such good job 👏
What a valid and well put perspective on anger. I really needed this today dealing with an angry coworker. Thank you 🙏 everyone be well.
i found the idea that "there's no reason to be angry. anger betrays reason" interesting. i'd like to watch/read more content from this point of view
Excellent video. I wonder if some of this can be extrapolated to other emotions like sadness or anxiety. It’s surprising how popular a therapist with a masters degree will tell you to hit a pillow. It’s no wonder why some things are the way they are, seems discouraging. I have found that knowing my suffering from anger is a choice, wanting not to have the feeling last more than it has too and manual labor help, along with music. I agree with the stoic and buddhist stance on the subject. Those two ways of thought, plus taoism, have helped me tremendously overcome my rage episodes. Taking that one second before reacting is practicing my freedom.
As always, thank you for the video, I appreciate it.
Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.
It's one thing to know that anger is bad, but another to actually control yourself in a tense situation.
"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured"
- Mark Twain.
"Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools"
- Ecclesiastes.
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"
- Buddha.
I sat with my Anger long enough to learn his true name was Grief.
I have a feeling the need to vent anger is linked to desire for at least some control of the situation. It feels like an active response rather than passive acceptance. It might be that we feel it as a sign of weakness to not do anything, and so anger is deployed as a form of defense strategy (i.e. angry and strong > calm and weak). But clearly, as explained in the video, this strategy backfires.
I love all your videos. Keep it up👍
What you are saying is 100% true. Outward venting of anger is destructive in every sense. How many children have lived through a childhood of house hold anger only to turn that learned behavior on themselves. Now that is truly tragic.
Thank you. I was in dire need of these words
What an excellent video. Another excellent video. Such an amazing channel.
Love that you put vegeta in the thumbnail!❤️
Can’t agree. Righteous anger is a powerful emotion to stop harm or evil.
Thank u! Another awesome video
I needed this. I’m a pretty calm person, but I have definite anger issues that I need to work on.
Whenever i feel sudden anger arising in me, instead of directing it to someone or myself, I write it out or type it out on my phone. “I am so angry right now!” “I am so angry with so and so at the moment!” “Why am i feeling so angry…maybe its because…” are some of the things i write right away and that immediately activates my frontal cortex and get me out of my primitive/narcissistic limbic system. I recommend it to everyone ❤ Peace ❤
This works absolutely so, great recommendation! Peace.🫀♾️
It's crucial to develop healthier emotional regulation techniques that not only prevent the escalation of anger but also foster stronger, more constructive relationships. 🔑
That was fantastic!!
I shouted a lot of angry things at my annoying neighnor from inside my apartment (hoping she would hear) for a year.
Soon after I got some painful arthritis.
Coincidence ?? idk.
anger is a defense mechanism to a weakness.
that weakness is pain.
we all feel angry because we were hurt or offended.
Fascinating. Thank you for this valuable knowledge.
Anger, a rabbit hole we pull one another into, that is actually a bottomless pit.
agreed. anger should only be used for life threating situations or emergencies. most people abuse or overuse it with diminishing and detrimental effects. anger is a symptom of a problem that should be solved or avoided. my mother used this all the time on business and relationships, it only just drains her energy and easily forget the wrongdoings of her enemies and my father.
I'd love to experience anger as a normal person. Could probably work on it then but for someone depressed and stuck in their head anger is like a best friend handing you a gun with the confidence to end it all. It shortcircuits your mind, there's no point in tackling the anger at the point cause it's just woken up a worse demon for you to contend with - suicide.
Ironically, I see this video after quitting my job for this same reason. Thank you for the info 🙏 really appreciated.
Informative as always.
Just when i needed it thank you for the wisdom
A very important content for me personally. Thank you wholeheartedly.
Benjamin Franklin: 'Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one.'
Emotions are healthy and natural. Expression of emotions is healthy and natural. The determining factor in this case is the individual. Their temperaments, impulses and urges. If your emotions run wild and become destructive, its not a problem with the emotion, its a problem with the individual.
I don’t get it!
Thank you for this
I needed this so bad.. thank you for posting the vegeta. It hooked me
This was interesting and I learned something very useful. I am old but when I was young I thought Freud was full of crap. I did not know, however, that venting anger could be bad. Everyone, everywhere said it was good to get it out. Being old, it takes to much of my valuable energy to be angry. I don't like to vent anymore and I do feel more peaceful. From now on I will let all anger go like a balloon. This video is very very helpful. Thank you!!!
Interesting! I will take this knowledge with me moving forward
"the anger is the place that you go, when you can't support the saddness" words of older swordsmith talking with guts, from berserk
Anger is hurt’s bodyguard
@@wendyzanck9387 guts agree, do you read or watched berserk? from kintaro miura
@@mundart9824 no never heard of it
@@wendyzanck9387 is a very good comic
Only time I felt anger rise to a super high level, was at school and the school bully was chipping away. After one little encounter where i remained steadfast, as he walked away i took some deep calming breaths. A fellow student who was petrified of the bully asked me about it, about me deep breaths. I told him, he wants a fight and i am not willing to give him one but i wont back down either and so i need to remain calm and the breaths help... But i would get agitated driving on the road until one day while at a set of light that would take me 3 changes to get through, upon the green way way way ahead the woman in front started throwing her arm up and gesturing and shouting to the cars so very far ahead, they weren't moving quick enough. I realised then, her anger came from her inability to control the elements of her trip and that meant the other drivers. And i realised something else, the danger of superimposing my driving experience onto others, and that wherever I am going will still be there. And i would rather people drive within their skills than exceed those skills and crash, even if their skills almost cause crashes. And as i cannot control any other driver, i should go with the flow, like a cork bobbing on the water as a river takes it down stream. And from that moment, i have never angered again behind the wheel. Cut me off? Figures. Don't see me? Figures. Zip in and out? Figures and clearly hasn't done the math and how little that will gain them. Lane ending and want to squeeze where there is no gap? Figures, there you go, come in and be gone from my space. I now drive like a retired person with zero sense of urgency and it is so peaceful.
Anger, as long as it isn't turned outward, is a catalyst for change. Fuel.