Why I ran away from Indonesia for being gay (and how I did it)

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  • @miumithea
    @miumithea 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13662

    such a deep voice for such a small guy. lovely.
    edit: guys, 2k? really?

    • @stephenng53
      @stephenng53 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      LOL right???

    • @lizakawgaz9563
      @lizakawgaz9563 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Avan kpop kuy

    • @lizakawgaz9563
      @lizakawgaz9563 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      کوی ئەلحوشتر😂😂😂

    • @avankpop1455
      @avankpop1455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      لیزااا کوی ژنی سیهونی

    • @avankpop1455
      @avankpop1455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@lizakawgaz9563 کچی بەحەی پێم بڵێ ژنی جیمینی

  • @maggieryan9047
    @maggieryan9047 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4293

    Yos, your story breaks my heart! I am a 73 year old American Mom/Grandmother. My oldest son and my oldest grandson are both gay. I have NEVER had a problem with this! I love them, I love their friends and partners as if they were my own. Please know that you and Max have my love and acceptance, as well! Much love, warm hugs, many blessings! ❤

  • @CL-ke2hf
    @CL-ke2hf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4195

    I’m not surprised that his family reacted the way they did. Indonesians can be judgmental and I come from an Indonesian family. So I completely understand what he’s going through

    • @hoyeonsgf8371
      @hoyeonsgf8371 4 ปีที่แล้ว +214

      Same here in malaysia and im not planning to coming out anytime soon,,im so scared

    • @yashpangti
      @yashpangti 4 ปีที่แล้ว +133

      Not only Philippines but most of the Asians.

    • @pukakeneki905
      @pukakeneki905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Yash Pangti Is Thailand an exception? correct me if I’m wrong

    • @lilyamethyst844
      @lilyamethyst844 4 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      Puka Keneki not really I guess... i mean they’re still asians and A LOT of asian parents are against the lgbt community

    • @yanahpasha5064
      @yanahpasha5064 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      Saya bukan pedukung LGBT, tp bukan brarti saya tidak menghargai pilihan orang.

  • @medenaandrada4903
    @medenaandrada4903 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    I am mom. And I want to tell you that I'm so sorry for everything you went through telling the truth to your family. I wish you to be happy and healthy to live with your husband ❤

  • @reveranttangent1771
    @reveranttangent1771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2594

    My sympathies, I haven't spoken to my family for 16 years.

    • @reveranttangent1771
      @reveranttangent1771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @Franzlazy Ramos thank you

    • @reveranttangent1771
      @reveranttangent1771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @haley thank you

    • @guragura9194
      @guragura9194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @iori1391 they need forgive them for what? for they been homophobe and abandoned for that?
      they have to recover their forgiveness

    • @delightfulblueberries7405
      @delightfulblueberries7405 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Hey buddy it must be hard but I'm fucking sure you have friends who love you an care about you so so much. Hope your life's great man.

    • @reveranttangent1771
      @reveranttangent1771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @Lil RE most of us love our families, but, as the song says, "sometimes love, it just ain't enough."

  • @tasyanadiah1874
    @tasyanadiah1874 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6077

    Wtf he is really Indonesian? I thought he was Korean or Japan... i still can't beleive 😱

    • @jedyzanya.officiel
      @jedyzanya.officiel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +121

      tasya nadiah me too. Haha.

    • @stevan3271
      @stevan3271 4 ปีที่แล้ว +277

      Heloo baby... hahaha... still asia looks jepang and korea and indonesia and philipins and thailand.... looks like asian boy... hahahaha

    • @angelicayori8893
      @angelicayori8893 4 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      tasya nadiah hhh me look this same Japan 🇯🇵

    • @strawberryshake6176
      @strawberryshake6176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +269

      Highly likely that he is an Indonesian born chinese

    • @clarisarismawati4547
      @clarisarismawati4547 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      Me too, he has that japan looks lol

  • @svnkm1894
    @svnkm1894 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3909

    Being a gay/lesbian in asian country is not fun at all...

    • @jesamor2509
      @jesamor2509 4 ปีที่แล้ว +220

      well not really in the Philippines .. gays are like the most fun people .. they often make people happy

    • @jyu6977
      @jyu6977 4 ปีที่แล้ว +181

      Except in Thailand :v they r already acceptinh

    • @maggiezhang701
      @maggiezhang701 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      china is fine

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... 4 ปีที่แล้ว +169

      Thailand and Taiwan are more accepting countries.

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... 4 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      @@maggiezhang701 Nope.

  • @cherylbatiste3817
    @cherylbatiste3817 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I’m a mother and three years ago my daughter came out as bisexual. I have no problem with it, but she didn’t tell me first. I always told my kids I would support them and love them no matter what.
    When parents love their kids, it should be no matter what. As long as they are happy and not getting hurt. I’m glad that you are living your life the way you want to.❤️

  • @patriciaross5442
    @patriciaross5442 4 ปีที่แล้ว +915

    Dear Yos, as a great grandmother of 78, my oldest son is trans. Your story broke my heart. I’ll never get to New York, or wherever you two are, so please consider this as a giant hug for you. Many blessings to you both and continued success. 🙏 grams

    • @ilikelechocobar1220
      @ilikelechocobar1220 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      You sound like a kind lady!

    • @fraciaondari1571
      @fraciaondari1571 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Your so understanding ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @halewich
      @halewich 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You have a good heart Ms. Ross. Hugs to you as well.

    • @tossapixeltoyournoelle
      @tossapixeltoyournoelle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      As a trans who is stuck in a home who doesn’t wanna love me and support me, this means alot. Thank you. ❤️
      update: I finally runaway from home. I'm surviving for now but my dream to be in a country where the laws aren't so against people of the LGBT+. 05/02/2021

    • @mariselaquevedo8598
      @mariselaquevedo8598 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ilikelechocobar1220 .

  • @kuro16fxa35
    @kuro16fxa35 4 ปีที่แล้ว +430

    So actually one of my friends couple of days ago confessed that he was gay, I was supportive because if you want to love someone it doesn't matter what gender you are, if you're happy that's all that matters.

    • @MaxYos
      @MaxYos  4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Awe 😢 lots of love to u and ur friend

    • @kuro16fxa35
      @kuro16fxa35 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thk we appreciate it 🥰, lots of love for you and your partner as well😘

    • @uzairahmed7885
      @uzairahmed7885 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@kuro16fxa35 .., Best wishes for your friend,
      I'm still hiding myself from myself but one day I think I'll accept it ,,,

    • @muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387
      @muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Peace be upon you, as a human beings who has been blessed with a feelings together with a good nature, you definitely need to listen to me, I just want to say that:-
      If you got anyone in your life that ever said to you as for example ''how did it come to this?'' in the unkind ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you look at straight into their eyes and you saying:
      1. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God.
      2. Either we're good person or we're the type of a person who put a barriers, why should there need to be a barriers to loves between one another.
      3. Nobody should ever feel belittled for whoever they love.
      4. I believe that God will please, and embraces with ours' kind and loving spirits.
      5. Whenever you come close to God, He will never judge you by your sexual desire, He will judges and look at you, based on what kind of people you are.

    • @jeyales4664
      @jeyales4664 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We appreciate it !Lots of love ❤❤

  • @jennyliao9915
    @jennyliao9915 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2176

    I’m actually bi, living in Taiwan. Even though it’s legal for gay couple to get marry in Taiwan, my parents are still homophobic. It’s really hurt that every time my parents say “I’m not homophobic, but I don’t want my children to be a gay.” As one of the victim, I just want to give you a huge hug and tell you how amazing you are. Take care.

    • @YukiTheOkami
      @YukiTheOkami 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      many parents actually feel that way and are not homophobic not really
      they are just worred they think if you were straigt wou would be happier and you would have a much easyer life
      try to ask them calmly what they exactly feel and then you might can explain to them that you yust cant choose who to fall in love with
      and that you dont care if its a little harder as long as your heart feels as peace
      just dont yell at them
      and remember especially bi sexuality is not proper unerstood even by the lgbt comunity
      so for real just ask them what exactly they are worried about
      when i outet my self as a trans guy (female to male) my father a little shoked but not cause he was disguisted or anything
      he asked him self if he raised me wrong (i was raised kinda gender neutral) or if it is cause i dont had a mother and all
      and he was worred about the operations and all that or that i would change as a human and i really neddet to ask him again and again to figure all that out

    • @alanaadams1330
      @alanaadams1330 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      And it’s really so sad that many parents are actually like that with their children, and then claim to not be homophobic but literally disown and ignore their children’s sexuality because they don’t want it to be their child.

    • @iliveonatropicalisland6086
      @iliveonatropicalisland6086 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Taiwanese pansexual here! We can do this, taiwan is getting more tolerant! 💪

    • @chainedsilent6255
      @chainedsilent6255 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I’m not Taiwan or gay but it just reminds me of one of my favorite Tawainese actors, Aaron Yan who’s also gay. All I gotta say is your parents brought you up and you can love them for it, but at the end of the day live for you and love for you. Just do what makes you happy lol

    • @yxhhuang3362
      @yxhhuang3362 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I’m also from Taiwan and I’m greatful that my parents accepted me and when I told them I litterly cried but my dad just laughed and said it’s nothing to cry about, and I did tell my friends about it but they actually supported me and when I saw the person I liked they would always support me

  • @honkonohalbae5172
    @honkonohalbae5172 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I can see you are strong enough and good to see your happy life with Max. Good Luck!!

  • @bsb8899
    @bsb8899 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2383

    I understand all about the topic, but... I really like his voice

    • @lovethelove3
      @lovethelove3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Same idk it’s very relaxing to me

    • @rafaelfactor120
      @rafaelfactor120 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Me too it's so soothing

    • @mayradougherty2501
      @mayradougherty2501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      To me as a mother of 3 sons and 2 grand sons. He is so cute/ beautiful in a way 🌻

    • @lovethelove3
      @lovethelove3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@mayradougherty2501 mhm

    • @khateninabequilla9513
      @khateninabequilla9513 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      go for it...that what makes you happy...😊

  • @marieamiss2743
    @marieamiss2743 4 ปีที่แล้ว +983

    Listening to your story of what happened to you when your family found out you are gay broke my heart and I cried. I was raised as a Catholic, going to church every Sunday and holy days, attending a Catholic school and my mum was an old fashioned Catholic Irish woman. When she died I was 25 and that's when I stopped going to church. I have 2 beautiful children, daughter and son out of wedlock and I raised them with the help from my brothers and sister as a single parent. My son came out to me about 6 years ago, we were walking along the road we live on and I was so proud of him that I hugged him and told him how much I love him. I still say I love him everyday and how much I'm proud of him. He's my beautiful boy and so are you ❤️ I hope one day your family will say they're sorry for what they did to you and that they were wrong to do what they did to you. I know my mum would have loved my son for being gay because she knew that my brother was gay before she died. If I could I would hug you and say I love you and I'm proud of you for being you 🥰❤️ sorry I prattled on 🥴

    • @jacklinebinamungu4865
      @jacklinebinamungu4865 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      You are such amazing and understanding human being😉

    • @leawilliams7596
      @leawilliams7596 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      😍😍

    • @marieamiss2743
      @marieamiss2743 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you for your kind words ❤️

    • @ninalyubov9575
      @ninalyubov9575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    • @imelda6488
      @imelda6488 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Or one day he will say his sorry for what he did to his family and that he were wrong to do what he did to his family. Will see

  • @26152B
    @26152B 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1494

    his face is literally this emoji 🥺

    • @Lola-ui2zf
      @Lola-ui2zf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Yeah,u are so right.He is so cute

    • @sarapraisy3024
      @sarapraisy3024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      He is so cute and innocent . I didnt expect that voice from this little body .

    • @universe3331
      @universe3331 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Looks like anime ☺️

    • @BLITTYY
      @BLITTYY 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That’s so cuteeee🥰

    • @aloevera1269
      @aloevera1269 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      SO CUTE

  • @jayz131189
    @jayz131189 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    i apologize of behalf netizen of Indonesia if they leave negative comments or negative though on ur all page but they still read n keep still watching just leave negative. i apologize for theirs ignorance. perhaps they better in future.i am sorry if i have negative comment or negative though on ur page from bottom of my heart I'm sorry 🙏🏿 gbu y'all n have a nice day❤️

  • @radhiyahf1762
    @radhiyahf1762 4 ปีที่แล้ว +578

    Damn I'm from Indonesia and I know exactly stereotype of being gay in here. I'm so sorry for your terrible time back then, but you went through it and I'm so proud of you, you're amazing and I'm glad you did it. Just wanted you to know that I always support you from here. Can't wait to see your vlog that coming. Last I'm so sorry for my poor English 🙏

    • @chouxcream13
      @chouxcream13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      "if you're gay, it means you're sick af"
      They treat LGBT people like sick people tho? Religiously dangerous country

    • @jeonriri2307
      @jeonriri2307 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Kasih subina ny kek, aku ga ngrtii:(

    • @lol-fh6rp
      @lol-fh6rp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I'm indonesian and i'm really grateful that my friends accept me for being myself (i'm bisexual) even though my parents are really conservative i really can't imagine if my friends didn't accept me i think i won't even be here anymore...

    • @onisetiawan533
      @onisetiawan533 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@chouxcream13 I agreed, what I hate more is when they said "LGBT+ was sinners"
      In my deep down inside of me, I really want to slap them very hard -,-

    • @dragonboimmdvideos
      @dragonboimmdvideos 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      same here. oh my god this is such my life goal... im so glad someone actually did it before me, it's such a powerful motivation for me 😭 wish me best of luck so i will also be able to do the same🌈

  • @vendwinas.r5938
    @vendwinas.r5938 4 ปีที่แล้ว +706

    I'm an Indonesian and... Indonesian people are really that scary about sexual orientation. BUT THE ONE I REALIZED THAT YOU'RE SO BRAVE AND I'M SO PROUD OF YOU. Makasih sudah bercerita tentang semuanya 💚💚

    • @yongyash9205
      @yongyash9205 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Kebanyakan di anggap penyakit kalau punya orientasi seksual yg berbeda🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @rasyadahhalimah2706
      @rasyadahhalimah2706 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@yongyash9205 memang penyakit

    • @rasyadahhalimah2706
      @rasyadahhalimah2706 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@yongyash9205 tanya saja k psikiater dan ingat juga kisah umatnya nabi luth yg diazab oleh Allah.

    • @nnd2703
      @nnd2703 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@rasyadahhalimah2706 lgbtq itu bukam penyakit, sudah ada study nya

    • @sarifatonah1033
      @sarifatonah1033 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      kaum jahiliyah pun menyebar Astagfirallah , dimna Masa kebodohan manusia datang

  • @hugecake4178
    @hugecake4178 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2071

    I'm gay, Malaysian-Indonesian, and has been living with my boyfriend in Indonesia for almost 7 years. I haven't come out to anyone. Nobody even suspected me & boyfriend are gays. We never have any idea to come out to anyone else, even to our family, and didnt see the need for it. We're quite happy with our situation right now. Just some view from me to everyone, if you think coming out isnt that important, dont do it. Especially when you think that the negative impacts will be much greater than the positive ones. Its your sexuality, your private matters, no need to share with everybody if you think they wont accept it.

    • @ninalyubov9575
      @ninalyubov9575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    • @ravina6686
      @ravina6686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +137

      It's important to make sure you're safe above all else. But just in case they find out one day, please have a plan to stay safe!

    • @hugecake4178
      @hugecake4178 4 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      @@ravina6686 yeah, we haven't think much about that. Our only exit option that we always talk about is moving to Thailand. I hope nothing drastic will happen if anybody found out. The thing is, my partner's family will be much more accepting of our situation, and it'll be quite different with my family. I hope it just in my head and they'll accept it too.
      Happy pride month anyways for all who celebrate it 😇😇😇

    • @queengreentea8149
      @queengreentea8149 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      How you guys doin'? Is everything okay so far?

    • @hugecake4178
      @hugecake4178 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      @@queengreentea8149 everything is still ok so far, nobody ever suspected anything, or showing their suspicion and start digging into our life. We're quite private about our relationship, not too much PDA, just going out together when hanging out with other friends and taking holiday just when there're other people too. We always celebrate every special occasions such as our anniversary, or each other's birthday just the two of us in our place. Usually doing something romantic like candle light dinner or doing naughty things 😉😉😉

  • @thisisnotkento
    @thisisnotkento 2 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    Filipino-thai gay here! I know it's hard to be gay in a Muslim majority country, but to all the Indonesian gays out there, I hope y'all are still doing well. Love y'all 😘

    • @adrianwakeisland4710
      @adrianwakeisland4710 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That's because of the sexual hypocrisy of the society in general of the muslim majority countries like indonesia. If not because of their sexual hypocrisy, sama sex marriage was already very strictly legal in all of indonesia, at all until now, since the indonesian independence.

    • @petrusariawan2556
      @petrusariawan2556 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      But he is not muslim. He and family are christian

    • @Park-zv2gc
      @Park-zv2gc ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@petrusariawan2556that is, max's country of origin is a country with a majority Muslim population

    • @alvoryou
      @alvoryou ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@petrusariawan2556 who said he is muslim?

    • @bmje6638
      @bmje6638 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      المشكلة ليس الإسلام فقط بالرغم من اني مسلمة عربية و لكن كل الإنسان يمتلك عقل يعرف بأن المثلية جريمة ...كما أنها جريمة اخلاقية راجعو انفسكم الحياة قصيرة جدا و لا يعلم الانسان متى يواجة ربة الله العظيم مالك الملك

  • @rahayudiahwiyanti2952
    @rahayudiahwiyanti2952 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1617

    Im an indonesian. I will never do anything bad for any people with their sexual orientation. I proud of u guys who brave to coming out like this. ❤

  • @inay2862
    @inay2862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    when I ran away from home wasnt because my parents is homophobic, but they just doesnt understand me as a person it self. I ran away to AUS, was the BEST experience ever. I know how it feels to be free! it’s amazing!
    be it they are our parent, still.. we are human being, not a possession nor an object. we have feelings. pain is real. getting away from pain for the goodness of ourself by all means away from our parent or family is the only choice we have. kudos to you Yos! wish you much blessing and happiness you deserve!!

  • @blueeeyore2106
    @blueeeyore2106 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1055

    I am gay and I live in southeast asia, I've dealt with conversion theraphy at my school and even a priest tried to change me whatsoever when I was only 12/13 and it was the darkest years of my life, and it still destroys me everyday, please wish the best for me to get out of this situation and move out. 🥺

    • @tufan4230
      @tufan4230 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      don't ever forget that you are not alone in this journey. i like to hear I'm not alone because it shows me that there are lives that are similar to mine. everything is going to be okay. hold on to yourself and your heart.

    • @vincentbocil8880
      @vincentbocil8880 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Fpi otw gruduk

    • @IAMASELENATOR92
      @IAMASELENATOR92 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I pray that you find freedom

    • @bruuuuuuuh911
      @bruuuuuuuh911 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Pertanyaan skg, lu mau berubah apa kgk?

    • @AyuAdel214
      @AyuAdel214 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hey, youre so strong, i wish you well, everyone deserves happiness

  • @Justjyp27
    @Justjyp27 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    As a gay half Thai-Taiwanese I’ve lived in the Thailand 3/4 of my life. Fortunately, my family is quite open-mindful I think I am very lucky after watch this video and your story is so sad and touched af 😢. STAY STRONG 💪 AND JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE ❤

  • @ElangCaca
    @ElangCaca 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1229

    I am a lesbian from Indonesia n I lived with my girlfriend in Hong Kong for 8 years

    • @adikbungsuelsa8357
      @adikbungsuelsa8357 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Kakak sehat2 ya disana😭😭

    • @ElangCaca
      @ElangCaca 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@adikbungsuelsa8357 ea sehat, cm covid 19 tiba2 mendadak parah

    • @adikbungsuelsa8357
      @adikbungsuelsa8357 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@ElangCaca disini jg parah kak, parah bgt😭
      Sekarang sih baru 80-90 ribu, Hampir 100 ribu😭

    • @mamamawl
      @mamamawl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      ih udah lama ya kak
      semoga langgeng ya kak

    • @ElangCaca
      @ElangCaca 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@mamamawl amin,3x malah jd melebihi saudara, ortunya jg ortuku jg udah pd tau.lebih ke saling mendukung,mengerti dll. Krn walaupun aq begitu, I do not agree same sex marriage 😊

  • @arinugraha4454
    @arinugraha4454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +779

    Hi Yos, I'm from Indonesia, I know how you are , I can feel what you feel is very difficult to be different from the others. But remember Yos you are not alone there are we who support your decision, there is a husband, your friend and many others Yos. Greetings of love ❤️

    • @FirstnameLastname-bm9lr
      @FirstnameLastname-bm9lr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      *husband
      👍😆

    • @arinugraha4454
      @arinugraha4454 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@FirstnameLastname-bm9lr yes husband sorry😅😁

    • @mockingjay1707
      @mockingjay1707 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Calon penghuni rumah singgah waria 🤣🤣

    • @del4604
      @del4604 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      love is love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜💓💞

    • @davesquash13
      @davesquash13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      I'm from indonesia too.. and i know your feeling. Cause i'm a gay too... It's kinda hurting me but i still try to keep this inside. Still don't let everybody know it.

  • @rockie4546
    @rockie4546 4 ปีที่แล้ว +994

    As a parent, I am sad to hear that parents can’t just love their children for who they are. As long as my son is not hurting others as he grows I think did my job. He is free to love who he wants as long as that person loves him back. Parents have to realize that children have their own wills and are not copies of themselves. They have their own personalities and desires in life. Glad you were able to be strong and do what was best for you even though it was hard. It’s hard when your family is toxic.

    • @raidengamer1193
      @raidengamer1193 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I wish I had a parent like you
      literally my family are so homophobic and religious and I live in a country where it's legalized to be executed for being gay, and literally I'm going through the hellest hell of my life and I'm still a teenager.
      I've tried killing myself many times before and still trying. I just can't bear it.

    • @nazaninjamei6219
      @nazaninjamei6219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@raidengamer1193 i realize you. me too:(

    • @chiefpanthera8542
      @chiefpanthera8542 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      we all hope the family we need is like the best,but we all is never good,even our self,if we dont have a mom,we never born,thats the case here,people will change,im sad for him for being gay.friend is friend,gay is man with man,u should love girl and never love a man like u love a girl,thats the case here,understand that first, so we can live in harmony.

    • @nazaninjamei6219
      @nazaninjamei6219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@chiefpanthera8542 maybe I didn't realize you good, but you're saying the same thing that homophobics say. I mean why a man shouldn't love a man when its their sexuality! Wa just wanna live with fair and not to be told you shouldn't love a person with your own gender. This is not our choise and I can't realize why people don't wanna understand and keep saying man should be with a girl! It's as rediculous as LGBTQ family walk around and say to people "you girl shouldn't love a boy" or oposite.
      Straight people didn't choose to be straight, it's what they borned exactly as same as us.
      So I don't know what's wrong seriously.

    • @chiefpanthera8542
      @chiefpanthera8542 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nazaninjamei6219 yeah u know u have limit for what u should love, but for a gay, god not make man penis for a penis, god make penis for girl so we can put our penis into ovari, even if u love a man, how come u born? U never born, u should think. If that just a hobby i can forgive that. But that's his husband. I'm not say I'm counter him, i just say, i don't blame for what he become. U can't even having a good sex if u a gay or lesbian, using tool? Nah, people keep using it, that's why gay and lesbian is officially good right now.

  • @Alre
    @Alre ปีที่แล้ว +7

    these kind of videos actaully gives me some sense of hope 🥺
    it's nice to see that some people can get out of that kind of environment or situation, and it's harder at some places, but at least there's a chance that one day, everything'll become better for all of us!

  • @brendaberliana6943
    @brendaberliana6943 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3061

    The worst case if you're LGBT and you're live in Indonesia.

    • @mikemondano3624
      @mikemondano3624 4 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      Right. Like LGBTQ is a bed of roses.

    • @ryu662
      @ryu662 4 ปีที่แล้ว +277

      For that, i am agree that LGBT out of Indonesian country.. they can happy but not in indonesia.. so, they should go from here 🤷‍♀️

    • @vvdy7447
      @vvdy7447 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@ryu662 agree wth u

    • @joshuak4599
      @joshuak4599 4 ปีที่แล้ว +169

      @@ryu662 They can be happy in Indonesia if the people around them weren't so close-minded. LGBT-friendly countries used to be homophobic at one point as well, only after great philosophical development did we learn to value human life and individual freedom. It is horribly immoral to discriminate against people based on their sex, sexual orientation, race, religion etc. How would you feel if being a Muslim, for example, led to you being harassed, killed or locked up? Should the Uighurs from China just leave their country, or should China stop persecuting them?

    • @flygroundd
      @flygroundd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@ryu662 really agree:(

  • @intanmunir3194
    @intanmunir3194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5880

    Family: Trying to lock him and make him go through a conversion therapy..
    Yos: Yeah.. Im gonna do whats called a pro-gamer move.

    • @dragulia_venaro
      @dragulia_venaro 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      is he a gamer?

    • @deanchezyajudisthira7478
      @deanchezyajudisthira7478 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Yea... its... big brain time... 🌚👌

    • @allhailnamjesus9052
      @allhailnamjesus9052 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      No no no no...
      Pro gaymer move...

    • @tino8850
      @tino8850 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@allhailnamjesus9052 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @supershepherd
      @supershepherd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@dragulia_venaro No, it's a joke about how he tricked his fam to get to the US.

  • @ChristinPedrosa
    @ChristinPedrosa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1731

    I’m an Indonesian, a christian, straight. But whenever my church starts talking about praying for LGBTQ and its conversion, I feel uncomfortable. It is written in the Bible that the most important is LOVE. So I will support LOVE no matter if it’s straight or gay. 🙃 To all my LGBTQ friends out there, be strong ❤️

    • @eywa9711
      @eywa9711 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      sama aja lo mempermainkan tuhan
      udah dilarang malah ngelanggar

    • @nianugroho
      @nianugroho 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@eywa9711 Tuhan kan katanya Maha Pemaaf, jadi bisa aja dong dia memaafkan orang yang berbeda dari norma yang ada. Ngga usah sewot, nanti kena stroke.

    • @yosaal-assad3946
      @yosaal-assad3946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@nianugroho lha terus gunanya Tuhan ciptain hukum agar tidak berzina tu apa blok

    • @Ohm_Gulf_Gang
      @Ohm_Gulf_Gang 4 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      I am a Christian too and I hate how much the Christians are unaccepting of LGBTQA people!!

    • @nianugroho
      @nianugroho 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@yosaal-assad3946 ya tanya aja ama Tuhan. Nggak usah goblok-goblokin orang. Kalo situ mau ikut ajaran agama, ya silakan. Nggak usah menghakimi orang yang gak mau ikut ajaran agama. Belum tentu yang dianggap dosa, ngga diampuni Tuhan. Kan Tuhan Maha Pemaaf. Luasnya ampunan Tuhan kan kita nggak tau. Just be happy for others, even if you can't understand it.

  • @benjib284
    @benjib284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    The only way you can be happy is being who you are. As a gay man ♂️ I struggle with my own sexuality but once I came out I was love, accepted and proud. So don't let no one stop you go out there and be happy and enjoy life. 🌈🇵🇷❤️😘👍💯

  • @jesslim8454
    @jesslim8454 3 ปีที่แล้ว +619

    As a mother, my heart breaks hearing your story. You are so strong and I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all of that but so glad that you can now be yourself.

    • @Syraa-Raa
      @Syraa-Raa ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God never sleeps, mother. We don't know what people have done in their lives

    • @vergil5198
      @vergil5198 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah he is strong, but would be strong enough if he didn't do this sin called gayshit. Tell them mother

    • @amy87174
      @amy87174 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is not his true self. This is the product of today's media.
      I hope he gets a normal, natural view of life.
      Why do you think it took centuries for men to make laws that allow men to marry men???
      Please save your kids for this tumor of society.

    • @myaar7358
      @myaar7358 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@amy87174 no matter what you try to tell yourself no amount of "saving" is going to stop someone from being gay, it also took centuries for women to have rights but do you think we shouldnt just because dumb humans took centuries?

  • @thelunathatudontknowirl3134
    @thelunathatudontknowirl3134 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1240

    I'm Indonesian, I'm Bisexual, my family's are homophobic, and I'm planning to get out of the country for college! Hope it goes well... :'D
    Edit: waw, makasih suportnya! This has been the most support I've gotten!

    • @ravaelr2093
      @ravaelr2093 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Hope everything goes well for you!! 💞

    • @rpoetri9502
      @rpoetri9502 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      semangat yaa! 😭🙌🏻💖💞🌈

    • @yeniyuliyanti351
      @yeniyuliyanti351 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Love yourself

    • @marsyanuradzani111
      @marsyanuradzani111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      fighting! 💓🖤🥺

    • @ryuuisnothere
      @ryuuisnothere 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same, I'm gonna do that too if i have the chance. Good luck btw!!

  • @coffeelattea
    @coffeelattea 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1114

    i'm from indonesia and when i watch this video and see the comment honestly i'm not really like when indonesian people comment on this video then say something that cons to gay, cuz even idk how it's feel but i really happy see gay/lesbian couples i think they're really cute and i really support something like this cuz people have their own decision and whatever they decision as long as it's doesn't harm anyone i think it's okay . hope you can have a better life now.

    • @nasmonie1236
      @nasmonie1236 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      sorry, but in any religion if you like the same sex it is said to be haram, but YOS must keep up the spirit, don't forget the family in Indonesia okey FIGHTING 💜

    • @ukaeel9078
      @ukaeel9078 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Fujoshi mana suaranya😂

    • @aurel7334
      @aurel7334 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ukaeel9078 Yashh di sinii😁

    • @febbyamalia5422
      @febbyamalia5422 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Ya karena indonesia mayoritas islam. Apalagi agama disini ga nerima lgbt. Ditentang keras. Bener si yang punya ni yt dia tau dia gay dan gatau mo ngapainn drpd bawa aib d indo mendding sekalian aja ke luar negeri yang meng izinkan ada nya gay. Tp ya trima resiko kehilangan keluarga. Tp gmn lg keluarga e juga gamau punya anak kek diaa. Ya dia juga ga mikir perasaan mamanya apa pasti sedih pol mamahnya.

    • @rahmanhakim293
      @rahmanhakim293 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@nasmonie1236 laugh in taoism

  • @LuciferMorningstar-zu1ud
    @LuciferMorningstar-zu1ud ปีที่แล้ว +27

    My boyfriend lives in Jakarta and he tells me he has to be careful with being a gay man. He's miserable being in the closet. I absolutely applaud you and your bravery!! And you're absolutely GORGEOUS OMG!!! YOU'RE GORGEOUS

  • @elainecampbell8083
    @elainecampbell8083 3 ปีที่แล้ว +935

    Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for the struggles you've gone through. My Mother once said to me that sometimes you have to go outside of your family to find out who your family really is. Meaning those who support you and love you. Having to speak your truth of who you are can really be hard (in different forms, being gay or in addition to being gay). Just being who you really are takes courage and finally standing up and saying who you are can sometimes disrupt or even ruin family dynamics. It is painful and yet liberating. You can't be who your family wants you to be. You have to be you, or it's suffocating, and you live your life full of regret because you never really got to live. I am so glad for you that you were brave. And by the way, I am a straight Christian and love others just as they are. We are enough, and perfectly made. :)

    • @hoangngocha8339
      @hoangngocha8339 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Your mom's so amazing!

    • @kaydian7124
      @kaydian7124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      This got me crying, oh my gosh. It's been so hard trying to let go, like especially like leaving my dad's place in trying to find a better environment and such, and just move on in life. I really wish I still had my mom around to help guide me since I'm doing this on my own(I'm 22, but it's so hard and I feel so empty without her these years) then breaking off with my dad, loosing my job, being pansexual and not knowing what else to do with my life). But I love these words of encouragement (even thou it was meant mostly for Yos, but I'm so happy i was able to see a comment like this).

    • @ice-rk1dd
      @ice-rk1dd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@kaydian7124 heyyy, 6 months past... r u OK now? :)

    • @kaydian7124
      @kaydian7124 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ice-rk1dd yes I'm a bit better now, thanks for asking 🤗

    • @bryleamosser4210
      @bryleamosser4210 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I have a question so I’m straight and I know that but I like to watch gay couples like max and yos does that mean I’m not 😅 sorry I’m just so confounded but I know I’m straight is it wired I like to watch boy boy love 😅❤ plz someone tell me I also live in a very strict homophonic household so I was just wondering

  • @ellahaalasaadaf7997
    @ellahaalasaadaf7997 4 ปีที่แล้ว +368

    I am really surprised, many people say that yos is wrong and long typing lecturing yos as if he is a good person, even though the long sentence is an allusion to yos. If you think it's wrong to leave, why are you still watching? all religions do not allow lgbt, who said it was allowed? there is no. but here talking about humanity, and again praying for someone it is not necessary to comment. enough in heart then your god knows what prayers you say. Staysafe for you and your husband😊

  • @ridhafathima6257
    @ridhafathima6257 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1013

    You can’t just “change” your sexuality-

  • @girlnextdoor0703
    @girlnextdoor0703 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    You’re such a survivor. You flourished despite everything and you’re amazing.

  • @joseemg1922
    @joseemg1922 4 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    Thank you for sharing your story. My boys are 19 and 20 now. I have been telling them every year since they were 10, that if they bring a girlfriend or boyfriend home, it does not matter to me or their Dad as long as they are happy. Just one more person to love. Pas de chum ou de blonde encore....

    • @Oxideacid
      @Oxideacid 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You're an amazing parent.

    • @lauraaa6634
      @lauraaa6634 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish every parents in my country are just like you ... geez why i need to born in here

    • @reyviewchannel97
      @reyviewchannel97 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lauraaa6634 nothing Will you get from hate where you born, it's something you can't change, but you can change but fight back for your own rights , yeah it's better or you just can like mostly LGBT people do in my country, running away to others country

    • @SimbiAni
      @SimbiAni 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      "one more person to love" is the best phrase ♡♡♡♡

    • @akiseharu_
      @akiseharu_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love you maam/sir You and your husband are a good parents and an open minded one and I can tell you raised your childrens well.

  • @giampietroc.8529
    @giampietroc.8529 4 ปีที่แล้ว +205

    what would we (lgbt people) be without our girl best friend?!
    SHOUT OUT TO PATRICIA queen!!!

  • @aurelia007anjell
    @aurelia007anjell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    the moment i saw "Indonesia" in the title i already knew it's gonna be bad. and it did get really bad. glad you get the life you've always longed for and i'm glad you're happy! all the best for you and max❤

    • @tadanarilee6003
      @tadanarilee6003 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Most Asian countries not really accepting lgbt. Which is good

  • @vito-boni
    @vito-boni ปีที่แล้ว +84

    You're so brave! As an Indonesian, this is an absolute heart breaking situation. I'm also gay and my social environments are homophobic. This is a very tough challenge to deal with.

    • @adrianwakeisland4710
      @adrianwakeisland4710 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      No wonder why indonesia deserved to be disrespected and punished by azab like what happened in aceh at dec. 26, 2004 and donggala at sept. 28, 2018 because of homophobic attitude of indonesians.

    • @vito-boni
      @vito-boni ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@adrianwakeisland4710 I would say it's not azab, but it's a natural phenomenon. It's just happened by nature. Bc, no one deserved that type of punishment, if you believe in God. Yes, homophobic act is horrible and wrong. I really hope people learn and understand of the nature of homosexual.

    • @adrianwakeisland4710
      @adrianwakeisland4710 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@vito-boni ikr. But the judgemental indonesians keep insisting lgbt like yos deserved to be hit by azab coz they are deviant. If we based on your logic, what happened in pompeii is not azab actually.

    • @Vivinovianafebriani
      @Vivinovianafebriani ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I know how you feel, i'm divergent too but living in here its something more difficult for me.. indo susah mau menerima orang2 kek kita bang,, mereka akan bawa2 agama dan mengazab kita, sedih banget gak si padahal kitanya juga gak mau dilahirkan kek gini.. but saya sekarang sudah berdamai dengan diri sendiri menggap ini its something special gift from god...

    • @adrianwakeisland4710
      @adrianwakeisland4710 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Vivinovianafebriani lihat apa terjadi di indonesia. Indonesia pantas banget sih diazab seperti apa yg terjadi di aceh di des. 26, 2004, padang di sept. 28, 2009, donggala dengan palu di sept. 28, 2018 dan stadium kanjuruhan di okt. 1, 2022. Kebanyakan yg korban yg ditewas azab di semua kota2x/tempat2x homofobik yg ku sebut mendukung lgbt dan pernikahan sesama jenis kelamin di indonesia?

  • @bellabemon
    @bellabemon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1073

    As an Indonesian , i don’t mind about him being gay. it’s just why does he looked like just popped out from some cgi movie or anime?

    • @dannyvn2010
      @dannyvn2010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

      Maybe you are open-minded. I am tourist and i visited JKT 2 times and i myself witnessed a gay guy being assaulted during daylight time near my hotel. Nobody helped, nobody cared. Not intend to argue you over this topic nor judge culture, i just tell what i did see

    • @ryu662
      @ryu662 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@dannyvn2010 because, here we hate LGBT.. the case about LGBT still Taboo here.. and personally, idc about what happened to them too...
      But, if the case like you its too much to ignore that.. or maybe the other guess just afraid something happened to them if they help him...

    • @dannyvn2010
      @dannyvn2010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      @@ryu662 If you are straight ( as i suppose you are), why you care of sexual orientation of a one guy you meet? Gay or straight just matter when in bed. What i witnessed in JKT not only too much for me but it also stops me to visit Indonesia again nor to consume its products.

    • @bellabemon
      @bellabemon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Idk but maybe it’s for safety reasons, I didn’t hate gay but for my safety i would not try to involve in another people business. Perhaps it’s not because the people who are assaulted was gay. Perhaps it’s because they don’t want to involved with another people problems. Not only in indonesia, you would find that in anywhere. Anyway, yea true it’s hard to live as gay in Indonesia. Because most of people in indonesia are very much religious. You can’t deny that there’s no religion that allowed people to be gay, so probably that’s why being gay in Indonesia was unacceptable. It’s a doctrine that stays for more than centuries. We can’t just hope to change people opinions and traditions in one day right? And isn’t that still same in any country ? There will be always people who are homophobic.

    • @hiltromsify
      @hiltromsify 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      @@ryu662 why do you personally hate the lgbt though? Don't say that "because my religion tells me so". I honestly wanna hear something reasonable. What have they done to you?

  • @RizqiNR
    @RizqiNR 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1370

    Apapun yang kamu pilih itu adalah pilihan mu untuk kebahagiaan mu sendiri, kehidupan mu milik dirimu sendiri. Selalu bahagia ya👌🏼✨

    • @Dapsdapsdaps
      @Dapsdapsdaps 3 ปีที่แล้ว +117

      Malu2 in indo lah anjim dia bahagia indonesia yg malu

    • @alvinabasista6820
      @alvinabasista6820 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Bener banget kalau di indonesia itu udh dicap yg aneh aneh,gini deh w buknya bela belain lu tong cuma ya kalau itu yg lo mau yaudh gak masalh cuma lu wjib tau rata rata asia dan tempt lu lhr itu mayoritas nya “ANTI BANGET" gay kalau lu pen jadi gay ya......lu harus pergi dri negara itu....itu ajasih bro

    • @Miawwwwww-v4g
      @Miawwwwww-v4g 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Mending pergi dari indo sih kayak yang orang jerman itu juga gay. Ada youtube nya sama tik tok nya

    • @edward3433
      @edward3433 3 ปีที่แล้ว +207

      @@alvinabasista6820 LOW MINFED PEOPLE KEK KLEAN HARUSNYA GAK DILAHIRKAN DI DUNIA . JADI ORANG ITU YANG TERBUKA . TERIMA ORANG APA ADANYA . LU KIRA DIA MAU JADI GAY? DIA SUKA JADI GAY? NONTON SAMPE HABIS DULU ANJINK . TAUNYA NGOMEN MULU HINA MULU MAKANYA NEGARA KLEAN MISKIN . 99% LOW MINDED PEOPLE .

    • @xylverramxv2282
      @xylverramxv2282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +162

      @@alvinabasista6820 maybe you're homopobic, dia jga ga mau jadi gay, tapi keadaanny begitu, maybe di indonesia banyak yg anggap gay itu menjijikan, bahkan menghina², tapi hargai dia😷

  • @andyyolesen
    @andyyolesen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    As an artist, I sponsor LGBTQ student scholarships worldwide... one such student was Miko in Indonesia, who is a transgender person, that walked the hallways of an Indonesian University for 5 years dressed as a girl and eventually graduated. As a veteran, I feel we are all connected in LGBTQ activism, something I learned early on in my arrival, of the extensive activism of the veterans before me. You could not have landed in a better place than Canada, with all our rights, but keep in mind, there is always going to be homophobes, as you know full well. Every step we take alive is activism enough, to just survive and love who we are. You are a beautiful couple. Stay optimistic. Happiness is the journey and you will always be loved by so many of your TRUE family in LGBTQ community life. Peace and love to you both always.

    • @jhobelzonlazaga643
      @jhobelzonlazaga643 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish I have this kind of support too☺️ Im from the Philippines btw.☺️

  • @gisellealvesandrade1080
    @gisellealvesandrade1080 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this. It's really sad for a person to have to be what they are not. You were very brave to fight for your dreams and your freedom. Congratulations on your initiative. I pray today that you are very happy and that no person in the world has to run away to be happy. I send my love, my solidarity and a big hug to you from Brazil. You are in my heart. ❤️ 🇧🇷

  • @springday8732
    @springday8732 3 ปีที่แล้ว +536

    not only Indonesia bro...
    This is the real truth of most of asian countries ...

    • @pandjela05
      @pandjela05 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      not just asia, europe tooo im from contry on balkan, Serbia and its same too ,my mother told me that she would ,,kill herself" if me or my brother are gay/lesbian soo i guess i will never thold her the truth. Ther is a lot of demonstration in past few years in my contry for leting lgbtq+ get meried and adopt kid, buth there is no point Serbia is a roten mentality contry and for not-streight pesrson normal life wll never be normal.
      My gf and i are planing to go to canada after university and get meried if oure relationship work till that day

    • @diannenavas
      @diannenavas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Not just indonesia or europe its every where in the world there is a legal case here in the u.s going on right now that is trying to pass a law where lesbians/gays wont be allowed to adopt kids

    • @springday8732
      @springday8732 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I hate this bloody homophobic world.

    • @kobo-kanaeru
      @kobo-kanaeru 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      *thailand?

    • @finnahsesay
      @finnahsesay 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      May be other countries are better
      In African countries no

  • @alfn573
    @alfn573 4 ปีที่แล้ว +425

    Okey, he is from indo but i like that pronounce when him talking english. WOWWW GUYSS

  • @Tzipiii
    @Tzipiii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1262

    I got some Felix's vibes. His deep voice doesn't match his smol face...
    Edit: woww so many *stray* *stays!*
    Mom. I'm famous! Hahaha.
    I LOVE Y'ALL.

  • @cynthiadillon6759
    @cynthiadillon6759 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Your story is truly a touching one. Unfortunately your DNA can never be changed .You are who You are .I'm so glad you had a friend who was able to help you . Live your life proud and enjoy it with your beautiful husband.. ( For those who have to hide there identity ,I hope you can remain strong ! I hope you too can find someone who can be by your side.. ) Lots of love to all of you ..❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @chittachan6914
    @chittachan6914 4 ปีที่แล้ว +943

    I have a boyfriend
    But my boyfriend is gay. I don't blame that he's gay, I can accept that.
    But I'm afraid he won't accept me to be a friend after this :')

  • @VioletPapillon
    @VioletPapillon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +733

    As a mother myself i really hope that your family will accept the whole you one day. Hopefully sooner than later.
    I always wonder why i should care about what gender my son likes. It is simply not important! Of course i care which kind of person he falls in love with, i want him to be with a good person. But the gender of that person? Nothing i should worry about.To this day he dated some girls, some boys and a non binary person. All of them where nice young people, well behaved and kind hearted, thats what matters.
    Only wish i have is that he finds his true love.
    (And get me some grandkids, if possible. Biological, adopted, i dont care! Lucky me, he wants kids too in the future, yay! hopefully his love will want kids too. Time will tell.)

    • @__-yh1kn
      @__-yh1kn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      I wish each n every parents were like you and would think differently like you and was as accepting..😢 I wish my parents were like you then I wouldn't have to be depressed and fake smile all the time..😔

    • @VioletPapillon
      @VioletPapillon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Dear, sadly you are not alone. I really wish that every parent would finally be accepting, the sad truth is: Just because one has children does not make him or her a real parent.
      But please, dont give up! Find your own way, for yourself.
      I wish you tons of luck and happiness for your live, be proud of yourself and never forget: its your life and yours alone. Go and make it the way you want!

    • @ravaelr2093
      @ravaelr2093 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You are such a lovely parent! I wish there were more as supportive as you :))

    • @VioletPapillon
      @VioletPapillon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Haha, my son had to do more chores the last days because i am ill, he would disagree with the lovely. ;)
      He complains a lot, but he does the chores just to help me. I am so blessed to have him!
      And thats how it should be, i think. We are blessed to have children, to have the opportunity to raise the little ones into good humans. To be a part of them and to leave a kind of legacy with them.
      We all just have one life. Better do something good with it.

    • @seeinfo7742
      @seeinfo7742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      As a mother i hope oneday he know n realize that life not just about freedom, may God give his parent strenght.

  • @felixsbestie8721
    @felixsbestie8721 4 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    “i guess through their eyes i was different, but im the same person.” My tears fell down.
    i just cant understand people, just because they r gay, it doesn’t mean youre not you, it doesn’t mean youre change after the come out, nothing change, nothing different, the only different is they likes someone of the same gender.
    keep going babie, may you surrounded by good people, live freely, i wish you have a wonderful day. 🦋

  • @loumaeve
    @loumaeve 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Kamu orang kuat, salut. Semoga ada banyak orang yang memang nggak berani come out di berikan jalan yang terbaik. Entah bagaimana caranya. Love you Yos.

    • @ditamuharvasyah2992
      @ditamuharvasyah2992 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@qilsjsk3412 setiap org beda pendapat beda sifat

    • @ramnesktp4465
      @ramnesktp4465 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sehat sehat orang waras

  • @aetheriumm
    @aetheriumm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1619

    When you say, “I’m gay/lesbian” in my country, you’ll get a reply like: “Nice joke lol.”

    • @fifaveng3649
      @fifaveng3649 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      In here it's like taboo😂.and they will treat me until I die with depression or anxiety 😂though I. Straight.. peoples toxic words literally kill ..I feel vary bad lgbt and gay community they committed suicide..it's ok to be different until and unless it's harmless

    • @adelsvlog4643
      @adelsvlog4643 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      In iran:
      Ok. Do ur homework....
      Or maybe what is that?
      Or......

    • @PepeRjrj
      @PepeRjrj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Light Bringer Where are you from???

    • @SuperZamForever
      @SuperZamForever 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What’s your country?

    • @PepeRjrj
      @PepeRjrj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Light Bringer How your country hates gays and doesn't know them???

  • @Nallely.g1927
    @Nallely.g1927 4 ปีที่แล้ว +163

    La intolerancia es lo peor que puede ocurrir a los seres humanos. Tienen derecho a ser felices.
    Mis bendiciones para ti y para tu esposo

  • @Arkinas
    @Arkinas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +517

    Off- Topic, but your eyes are beautiful.

    • @itsmetricia9545
      @itsmetricia9545 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      That's what I've been thinking this whole tiimmeee

    • @ahmedbarakat2809
      @ahmedbarakat2809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me too it is so beautiful

    • @euphoria-jungkook5565
      @euphoria-jungkook5565 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I stare at them and i still do

    • @dyah5603
      @dyah5603 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      *lens

    • @stephenng53
      @stephenng53 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Loli Ver obviously he’s wearing lenses but the actual shape of his eyes are really nice and cute

  • @Dania3101
    @Dania3101 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    thank you for sharing your story, you are so strong. i am also indonesian who's currently living in indonesia and i dont know if i would be able to get my freedom. i think it's nearly impossible. i have hopes that someday i would have the chance to move to other country but then again i would still have to be in contact with my homophobic relatives. tapi di sisi lain i dont want to leave my family bc theyre my family and i love them.... but i dont know how would i manage tinggal di indonesia sampe bertahun-tahun and keep on hiding my identity... cape pusing mau matik

    • @xvq8080
      @xvq8080 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same. i'm actually from indo as well. indonesia itself is not islam base country. tapi pemerintahnya yg g sadar bahwa indo gk kaya di saudi . i hope you get what you want someday Love😘
      NB: ak genderqueer muslim

  • @madfantasies
    @madfantasies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    OMG he is such an angel and it’s so heartbreaking that he had to go through all that. I’m so glad that he had amazing people around him like his friend in Indonesia and Max. I hope the best for you guys❤️❤️

  • @jeremiahgriffin9521
    @jeremiahgriffin9521 3 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    Even though we are from completely different countries and different generations; I feel like your story was the same as mine!
    It was easier for me to travel, because I'm already American, but also harder because; at the time, I didn't have any friends in real life that I thought I could get to help me. I had met many supporting friends on line, but my parents took away any computers or electronic devices I could have used to reach out to them.
    In the end, I had to take a lot longer to plan and, carefully save up money.
    Just know that someone you've never met before is relating to you, feeling stronger for it, and loving you back.
    If anyone else is in this situation, please learn from what Yos has said and please reach out to friends, or even me, for advice.

    • @moderatelymodest
      @moderatelymodest ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s really nice of you to offer.

  • @kyungsoowifeu_8591
    @kyungsoowifeu_8591 4 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    It's okay not to be okay 💪
    But, jangan pernah lupa untuk mendoakan ibumu setiap malam agar kelak ketika di umurnya yang panjang beliau bisa menerimamu dengan segala apapun yang kamu punya❤️
    Tetaplah sehat dan selalu berjuang meski kadang depresi datang padamu sewaktu-waktu.
    Jangan takut tentang dunia, jangan pernah takut untuk mencintai siapapun.
    Berjuang di tanah orang dengan kondisimu demikian, kamu sudah melakukan yang terbaik :)
    Jangan menyerah dan selalu berbuat baiklah pada banyak orang❤️

  • @MDIS
    @MDIS ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My late mother passed on with anger and resentment, not accepting me as gay and my dad kicked me out to live on my own without any support or care. My parents were abusive and violent and I am lucky that I can now stand on my own and live a life that is slowly progressing in my own way.

  • @zhu1
    @zhu1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +296

    so unrelated but this dude has one of the prettiest pair of eyes I’ve ever seen like damn.

    • @Levi-zc3oe
      @Levi-zc3oe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Ikr he looks like the character straight outta anime😍

    • @reyviewchannel97
      @reyviewchannel97 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He use softlens

    • @cartduet5810
      @cartduet5810 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Riza yup

    • @oopsy-daisy
      @oopsy-daisy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@reyviewchannel97 Underneath them, you can tell his eyes are stunning ☺

  • @qlnguyen301
    @qlnguyen301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    Lesson: DO NOT LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU HATE YOURSELF! YOU ARE PRECIOUS IN YOUR WAY, STYLE, AND APPEARANCE.

  • @bitchienasty3839
    @bitchienasty3839 4 ปีที่แล้ว +354

    I didnt expect how rough and hard ur life was. I remember when i saw u for the first time on instagram, i really thought that u were the luckiest person ever, i mean... u can married to someone that u love and thats such a biggest dream for every single gay😂. But we all know that in every happy ending, there is always be the struggle behind that. Keep it up yos! Idk but i feel like im officially the new fan of u. Really love hearing how u explain this😂 Love ya❤❤. Next videonya ditunggu yaaaa😃😄

    • @MaxYos
      @MaxYos  4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      aww your message made me smile

    • @oktawjannah
      @oktawjannah 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ignya apa kak?

    • @bitchienasty3839
      @bitchienasty3839 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@oktawjannah ig nya dia? @yoscw kalo gk salah

    • @uzairahmed7885
      @uzairahmed7885 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bitchienasty3839 .., Sweet talk,
      And I also know the pain for being single gay

    • @darkvader9217
      @darkvader9217 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Being gay and single is one of the hardest things we’ll ever go through...
      Our emotions hit us the hardest...
      The time when I had real hope for being in a loving relationship is so gone by now that I’m really trying to work out how to live alone my whole life... well sometimes it makes me wish i never had a life...

  • @ZIV04
    @ZIV04 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    i am in the same situation currently of trying to be straight and being a ' good daughter' and going through convertion therapy weekly and i go to prayers and everything to try to convince them that i'm not a lesbian anymore all of that being after i ran away from home and police fetching me back home and i can't believe that it is also your case and i was super surprised tbh and now i am just studying and planning to leave my country with a good education and being independent after university so i hope i can do so just as you did ❤❤
    p.s i'm from mauritius and from a muslim family so i totally kinda relate

    • @frankwong2833
      @frankwong2833 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am sorry to hear that you are going through what he was going through right now. Be strong, you will make it. You don't need others to define, you are who you are ! ❤❤

  • @Haru6N
    @Haru6N 4 ปีที่แล้ว +548

    YOS AKU SAYANG BANGET SAMA KAMU. SEHAT DAN BAHAGIA TERUS YA. MAKASIH UDAH JADI ORANG YANG KUAT. tapi yos mereka kan udah ngebolehin kan akhirnya, DAN JUGAA SEMOGA SEMUA MASALAH YG DULU UDH GA JADI BAYANGAN GELAO DAN MENAKUTKAN BUAT KAMU
    TOLONG BILANG MAX, JAGAIN YOS. KALAU ENGGAK NANTI AKU SANTET HIHI KIDDING

    • @maadlubis3555
      @maadlubis3555 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Salah DIDIKAN.

    • @meow-dm1bb
      @meow-dm1bb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Maad Lubis maksud lo salah didikan apaan?

    • @maadlubis3555
      @maadlubis3555 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@meow-dm1bb smua dari dasar.kurang didikan

    • @bonnieculla6210
      @bonnieculla6210 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@maadlubis3555 brainded homophobe uclim spotted

    • @rikawansaklara5844
      @rikawansaklara5844 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Setujuu, semoga yang dulu tidak menggangu pikiran kakak yang sekarang haisss, habis kata-kata dah. Meski engga terlalu tahu bahasa inggris tapi saya tahu dari nada suara, dan yah dari sikap tingkah laku, sedih pastiya, tapi semoga semua berjalan lancar ya.
      Hah tetal tahu saya

  • @dan0_096
    @dan0_096 4 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Aqui las que hablen en español
    Chiques espero que ninguna/o este pasando por algo parecido a su historia
    Y si lo estan pasando sean fuertes porque tarde o temprano seran felices

  • @G.0x
    @G.0x 3 ปีที่แล้ว +587

    Im indonesian, and my dad and mom are okay with it that im bi. Some of my family members starded to do some distance with me. I lost alot of friends. But i still standed up for myself and told myself that buddha loves me, now im a confident girl in indonesia! Even the people that works in shops where i come alot knows im bi, they were proud of me, and one of them made a bi-sexual flag for me. Handmaded! I love them ♡

    • @anpongmtm6322
      @anpongmtm6322 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Are you Buddhist ? I heard there are some Buddhist in Indonesia but I'm not sure.

    • @suryal.5834
      @suryal.5834 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's so wonderful! I hope there will be more of these people here. Wishing you all the best

    • @G.0x
      @G.0x 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@anpongmtm6322 yes i am Buddhist

    • @anpongmtm6322
      @anpongmtm6322 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@G.0x wow that's nice ! Stay strong and believe in what you are, I wish you the best. Love from Thailand ❤

    • @reipixs3494
      @reipixs3494 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'M HAPPY FOR YOUU!!

  • @elenafloresvalero6257
    @elenafloresvalero6257 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    you are a very brave boy. I was very distressed by what you said. I have children and grandchildren and I would never make them suffer like this. I love them all as they are and how they feel. I send you all my love and I wish you to continue having this happiness with your partner for many many years. from Montevideo, Uruguay (P.S. you are very beautiful and your husband very handsome)

  • @inKOsense
    @inKOsense 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    That's a brave story Yos. Just being you. Everything happens for a reason. So, live your life.

  • @idkharis
    @idkharis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1147

    1.8 dislikes? really I'm sure that this is his family move.

    • @strawberry1225
      @strawberry1225 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      lmaoooo

    • @idkharis
      @idkharis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      loona _chan maybe the whole indonessia is his family xD

    • @shabrinazalfaamalia1294
      @shabrinazalfaamalia1294 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@idkharis not me :)

    • @bangseto6847
      @bangseto6847 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Just because the content is about gay and Indonesian it's enough to make most of Indonesian people hate this video. Worse case is if the story telling about the fact that homophobic in Indonesia are the bad guy. Hopefully your life is better now.

    • @shabrinazalfaamalia1294
      @shabrinazalfaamalia1294 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@bangseto6847 it's so sad that realized Indonesia people is very phobia with this. The word that they used sometimes very very bad and never thought it would hurt anyone. Being gay isn't a fault. No one who wanted to be gay in their life. I hope someday, many people would realized that do a hate comment for someone life isn't a good things :")

  • @aqilahshahab9879
    @aqilahshahab9879 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1126

    I'm from Indonesia too, and I'm a muslim so yes my whole family is religious and so I'm. So I'm quite understand your feeling, and also happy for you that you can be like who you're now. Actually thanks to all the yaoi things that i read/saw it's like i open the new door to a more realistic world, it's a complicated world indeed. So to all the LGBT people outside there i really wish you all the best for your life and love ❤

    • @iloveme2097
      @iloveme2097 4 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      As Muslim, this is so wrong. Mendukung mereka untuk menjadi seperti itu, itu juga salah besar. Tapi apapun itu hak mereka.

    • @muhamadnuryaman298
      @muhamadnuryaman298 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      :')

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@iloveme2097 As a secular humanist, "acts" of homosexuality between two consenting adults is not immoral or wrong. Islam adalah satu cara bagi anda untuk membenarkan anda membenci dan prasangka terhadap orang gay.

    • @farhismoo7809
      @farhismoo7809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      @@iloveme2097 tdinya pen ngomong kek gni jg :v tpi sudahlah tmpat kita bukan dsni :'v biar kita ngomongnya ini salah tpi mereka tetep membenarkan dn mndukung LBGT. Klo non muslim yg mendukung sih "mungkin" sah" aja.. tpi klo seseorang muslim pun ikut mendukung?! sya rasa gk etis 😳

    • @iloveme2097
      @iloveme2097 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      @@Noa...... Islam tidak pernah mengajarkan saya untuk membenci kaum LGBT, tapi kami sebagai Muslim tidak akan pernah mendukung aksi sebagiam manusia yg menyimpag tersebut. Mereka menyebut mempunyai kelainan seks, ya itu benar separuh nya lagi itu adalah penyakit.
      Mereka mempunyai hak, tapi memberitahu seseorang tentang kekeliruan itu juga kewajiban kita, Di terima atau tidak itu sepenuhnya hak mereka

  • @lindaang7814
    @lindaang7814 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I just found your chanel. New subscriber here 🤚. And I'm Indonesian. So proud of you Yos, listening to your story really break my heart. Hope you always be you and be happy. Always supporting you from 🇺🇸.

  • @confusedandamess4103
    @confusedandamess4103 4 ปีที่แล้ว +517

    so im an indonesian and im straight.
    but this is so sad to hear. cant imagine how hard it is to you especially when it comes to your parents.
    i've honestly been supporting lgbt pretty much long time ago. and for the first time i kinda feel scared cus people like my friends would start a rumour about me that they thought im a homosex too. but then i started to get brave more and more. cus i know this isnt wrong like what other people say.
    my family is a homophobic and im the only one who understand about the lgbt. like this is their life and i should respect it. people have different past and different opinion. and i think that each of a person mind would be affected by other people around them. and since most of indonesian are muslim and lot of them are againts the lgbt so it would make sense that people in indonesia are homophobic too.
    so yeah its fine to be whoever you want. thats what you want then thats your life. i support you and your future. and dont forget we always here for you.
    ily!! be safe! :D
    Edit: people in the replay ask my bi pfp so im gonna tell you, i came out like 2 months ago and im gonna be honest i kind of forgot that ive written this comment. So im sorry if anyone feel ofended by this, i really didnt mean to

    • @biasaajaanjink8641
      @biasaajaanjink8641 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Gw sebenarnya bukan benci sama LGBT cuman gw khawatir aja sama mereka ntar menghadap Tuhan😭

    • @andriandri8913
      @andriandri8913 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@biasaajaanjink8641 mantapkali

    • @biasaajaanjink8641
      @biasaajaanjink8641 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@andriandri8913 aokwokwok dahlah 😭👍

    • @suhailghifaar2340
      @suhailghifaar2340 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Gw jadi ngeri anjim☹☹

    • @andriandri8913
      @andriandri8913 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      kenapa kalian bisa ada di sini?

  • @lillyepheyakayettoh4423
    @lillyepheyakayettoh4423 4 ปีที่แล้ว +319

    Is he even human?
    That voice
    That face
    The skin
    OmG he's too perfect

  • @reginagreen2416
    @reginagreen2416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +186

    I've promised myself, if in the future i'm gonna have a child / children and they come out gay, i will 100% definitely support them!!! And with other gay people i'm supporting you guys❤❤❤

    • @sasamiami1816
      @sasamiami1816 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      GOOD! That's the Spirit!

    • @reginagreen2416
      @reginagreen2416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Lil RE I'm an 100% LGBTQ supporter❤❤❤

    • @septiantriwardana5239
      @septiantriwardana5239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      aw you're so sweet ❤️❤️❤️ thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @OOOMHDGhalyMuplihPane
      @OOOMHDGhalyMuplihPane 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you regina

  • @presleyduhaney7578
    @presleyduhaney7578 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I am so happy for you Yos. And so glad you met Max. He’s so good for you. You are both awesome

  • @gabriellachristina9548
    @gabriellachristina9548 4 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    I must admit that it is hard living as a lesbian in Indonesia. There are times where people will start talking bad just because ure gay especiall in senior high school, it was very terrifying. I remember i always planned to study undergraduate overseas and not coming back since junior high school, but I couldnt do that. And now I have the chance to go out finally (im a 2nd year undergraduate student) ill spend my time wisely there. I always imagined myself with the lgbtq+ flag in the lgbt parade, it will be satisfying for me to finally feel the freedom. I would like to run away from my family and this country too.. bcs I dont think I can live life to the fullest here.. My mom is a psychiatrist and she knew about this but all shes just denial about me being gay.. she knew that i was depressed but she just gave me anti depressant for months and my family is very religious.. all i can do is just pretend im going out for the sake of my education, its hard bcs it makes me feel guilty...

    • @hellohi7972
      @hellohi7972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      you have to do what is best for you and your future. don’t feel guilty when it’s your family’s fault for not accepting you. I wish you all the best💗💗

    • @KimFebriany
      @KimFebriany 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It feels great I can finally relate with somebody

    • @electraboogaloo1321
      @electraboogaloo1321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      youre so incredibly strong

  • @danielmendez4065
    @danielmendez4065 4 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    😪
    Esta es una historia muy hermosa
    Dejando de lado todo lo que viviste
    Miremos lo desde otro lado
    Hiciste todo por ti, por ser libre y para ser quien eres
    Ameee esta historia es un mensaje hermoso

    • @whatsuplucyana1258
      @whatsuplucyana1258 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Carlos Rojas hermoso

    • @Gus-tt9pr
      @Gus-tt9pr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Totalmente

    • @marianokrause-merkel1840
      @marianokrause-merkel1840 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Adhiero claramente a tus palabras. Y todavia en America la violencia contra la comunidad LGBT es tan grande que solo unos pocos paises son realmente seguros. En Europa es mas facil pues la mayor parte del continente es libre.

    • @vanjamarsic3051
      @vanjamarsic3051 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      1

  • @ednasanchezcarcamo5089
    @ednasanchezcarcamo5089 4 ปีที่แล้ว +199

    De verdad que entiendo por lo que tuviste que pasar, mi hijo también era gay, y cuando me lo dijo llorando , lo único que pude hacer fue abrazarlo con todas mis fuerzas y todo mi amor, pues sabía muy bien a lo que se estaba enfrentando.
    Un mundo que no está preparado para ver a los chicos gay, ser felices, para comprender su estilo de vida y su preferencia sexual, y yo también lloré, pero el que me lo haya dicho, me hizo sentir aún más orgullosa de Él, por tener esa valentía, de reconocer quien era y que quería de la vida.
    Mi hijo logre muchas cosas, viajo por muchas partes del mundo, trabajo mucho, y logró alcanzar sus metas, y eso lo hace ante mis ojos, respetarlo y amarlo mucho más, no tuvo mucha suerte en el amor 💔, pero aún así amo con todas sus fuerzas.
    El ya no está con nosotros, partió a una mejor vida en la presencia de Dios, y aunque lo extraño con toda mi alma, se que ahora si es feliz en donde está, y yo celebro su vida , y te repito FUE , ES y SEGUIRA SIENDO MI GRAN ORGULLO !!!! TE AMO MI AMOR DE DIOS 💖💋💖💋💖😇😇🙏😢

    •  3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Que linda ☺️su hijo también estará orgulloso de tenerla como madre ♥️😇

    • @Sebastian-el5uu
      @Sebastian-el5uu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Que hermosa eres y una buena madre 😻

    • @angelacoucke6761
      @angelacoucke6761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Me hizo llorar señora lamento lo de su hijo y triste que nunca haya encontrado como dicen allí si media naranja pero la tuvo a usted que fue importante ojalá todas las madres supieran comprender a sus hijos me recuerda a mi mamá ya que yo también tengo un hermano mayor que es gay y tuve ver como era duro para el crecer en la época de los 80 y 90 para el pero hoy gracias a Dios encontró el amor y es feliz

    • @valentinamejiatapia1809
      @valentinamejiatapia1809 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Lamento lo que le paso a su hijo, de seguro su hijo también la esta apoyando desde el cielo ❤

    • @ЖаминаЧанкулаева
      @ЖаминаЧанкулаева 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Вы прекрасная мать 🤗 пусть будет счастлив ваш сын на Небесах 🙏🏻✨💖✨

  • @Lulu-ih9by
    @Lulu-ih9by 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for trusting us with your story. It's so sad how so many of us have to hide who we are because “different” and that if we don't hide we run the risk of getting bullied, neglected and alienated or even abuse but our family. Living in a homophobic country is one of the most stressful things to deal with, especially when we now the consequence of being outted. If I could have one wish it would be that NO ONE ever has to worry/fear the rejection, humiliation or stress that comes with being outted, because as an asexual living in a homophobic household and country I would never wish that on my enemy and it sucks when ppl undermine how much courage and strength it takes to come out. Just remember you are stronger than any dark times you have ever faced.

  • @fajarhasmoro3742
    @fajarhasmoro3742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    In Indonesia, being gay or bisexual, you should think all could peoples say to you with cruel words ever. I just think, why somebody need to judge each other actually they never know anything. They will see you as a criminal, it's so sad when they look down you so bad

    • @ferlyakbar1305
      @ferlyakbar1305 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Iya gitu deh :')

    • @ivaendina5684
      @ivaendina5684 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Welp Indo people always relate everything with religion but lack of humanity tho

    • @thepriceofsalt9003
      @thepriceofsalt9003 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@ivaendina5684 i'm not against religion but it's terrible that a lot of asian cultures/families hate or even punish their children or people in the society for having a different sexual orientation. we're not beasts, we're not crazies, we're just trying to live as ourselves. if you've never had depression/anxiety/struggled with your own sexuality, you wouldn't really know how it feels to suppress a part of yourself and pretend you can change, think that you don't deserve to be alive anymore because of how isolated you feel.

    • @Bellmomongan
      @Bellmomongan 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, tjat is hard to accept gay in Indonesia... Same as me, I have friends are gay and lesbian... But I can't accept if my kid like that, because of religion...
      But I have love, so others... May be they accept you as their son but not as gay... Need time to accept the truly you... Someday they will love you as you are, but they don't want you stay in Indonesia if you married with a man...
      Love you mom n dad... And respect them n their thought, so you can tell them to respect your life too...

    • @happyperson7150
      @happyperson7150 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You know about "Double Standard"?
      Nah

  • @elektra6473
    @elektra6473 4 ปีที่แล้ว +197

    This makes me very sad to hear. My daughter showed me this video, because she wanted to show me why she loves me so much. I am a parent of a 17 yr old now. But I found out my daughter was bisexual when she was 15. Of course as a parent there are so many emotions going through your head. What are people going to think what are they going to say not only friends but family. So I sat her down and I Asked her about what The text message I saw on her phone and she was in shock. She explained that she really didn’t know how she felt about boys and girls that she was finding herself. I told her that as a parent my worry is more about the ignorant people in the world. But that I would rather her be with some one that loves her regardless gender than being with someone of the opposite sex that will mistreat her. and with all the hate and judgement out there she didn’t and wasn’t getting it from me and her dad. I know it’s hard to go through something like this But please like I tell my children the last result should be hurting yourself or going into a deep depression and I know it’s easier said than done but with that said always think about everybody continues living and continues their own life so why should you deprive yourself from living the life you want. Just please don’t do anything crazy ❤️💋🙏🏻

    • @alex-kq6it
      @alex-kq6it 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      And that fellas, is how you raise a kid.

    • @behappiness6544
      @behappiness6544 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Proud of you Lady ~ every soon to be mom take a note

    • @elektra6473
      @elektra6473 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Be Happiness thank you

    • @reyviewchannel97
      @reyviewchannel97 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She lucky,

    • @elektra6473
      @elektra6473 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Riza thank you...

  • @nanamonica9590
    @nanamonica9590 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    It was like a movie,i could literally imagine how it was like while hearing your story,you really had a rough time but i hope its better for the future,thank you for sharing your wonderful story.💜

  • @rtjahyadi7868
    @rtjahyadi7868 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Same here, i’m from indonesia too, totally understand what you went through, i love my indonesian heritage but it’s a hell to live for people like us there. I live totally true to myself in New Zealand, oftentimes I don’t wanna travel back to Indonesia to see my family because I’m gonna have to go back into the closet again

    • @xvq8080
      @xvq8080 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      that's awful. i hope you doing great from there. i appreciate that.😘

    • @moderatelymodest
      @moderatelymodest ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am glad u can be urself in New Zealand atleast

    • @raya7390
      @raya7390 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well musli* people make everything hell

  • @foreveraline
    @foreveraline 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    Omg you went through things so hard that I can't even imagine...I hope one day your family understand that being gay isn't wrong... it's just love in all kinds of ways. Thank you for the video. You're amazing and strong! Pride ^^

    • @rianadehidayat7596
      @rianadehidayat7596 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Its wrong dude

    • @foreveraline
      @foreveraline 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rianadehidayat7596 You should mind your own business

    • @rianadehidayat7596
      @rianadehidayat7596 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      HIV AIDS

    • @foreveraline
      @foreveraline 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Straight people have HIV too...dude, you're crazy...Free yourself too

  • @erizaadifarobi8143
    @erizaadifarobi8143 4 ปีที่แล้ว +133

    Aku merinding dan gak nyangka, ternyata di balik happy ending, there's also a struggle. I'm gay too, and i know how it feels like for being gay in Indonesia. Its hard, really. Hope u always be happy with ur husband!

    • @sabill219
      @sabill219 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Smngat gan>.

    • @scy_rain3691
      @scy_rain3691 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Do you know about Renhard Sinaga?? XD

    • @erizaadifarobi8143
      @erizaadifarobi8143 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Salsa Bila makasiiih sist💕

    • @dindarara3808
      @dindarara3808 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Semangatttt
      Tetaplah menjadi orang yang baik,
      Meskipun seperti apa dirimu,
      Karna yg terpenting kamu tetap baik baik baik baik

    • @dellaryn
      @dellaryn 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@scy_rain3691 tau terus knp?

  • @JBDeoLad
    @JBDeoLad 4 ปีที่แล้ว +412

    He's like an animated CGI character. His eyes nose and lips.

    • @eitje5110
      @eitje5110 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Eyes nose lips? Taeyang song? Haha

    • @JBDeoLad
      @JBDeoLad 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@eitje5110 555+! Eyes nose lips.

    • @Joelblue
      @Joelblue 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@1stparadynamican wait he is 26?????????

    • @Joelblue
      @Joelblue 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@1stparadynamican sorry I dont enough attention to the video you see I was reading some comments while listening to the video

  • @ThaiDan
    @ThaiDan 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm sorry you had to go through that situation. Prayers for your success going forward, and thank you for sharing your story.

  • @user-ki6bz3lo6h
    @user-ki6bz3lo6h 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    “And growing up I hated myself for it, and I hated being gay so much.” that sentence hurt my heart. I was raised in a religious family. And as I got older I started to question religion. No one should ever hate themselves or be made to feel guilty or ashamed of who their true being is. Sometimes we like to look for answers & guidance outside of ourselves & that could be very dangerous because doing so leaves our minds and spirits exposed & vulnerable to being fed poison. The only place to find answers & guidance is from within. No one knows your soul better than yourself. I’m sorry that you had to leave your family & home to feel free. But I am happy that you were brave enough to choose yourself & put your happiness first. That does not make us selfish it makes us incredibly strong. Sending so much love, & prosperity your way. ♡

    • @amy87174
      @amy87174 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What's the time stamp when he said that?

  • @Laura-qy7ly
    @Laura-qy7ly 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    It’s nice to see someone so humble on TH-cam and not be anything other than themselves. Your heart really stands out in these videos. You seem so genuine in the way that you’re not outrageously chasing clout like a lot of youtubers. People subscribe simply to see you . Thanks for bringing simplicity and sincerity back to the web! ❤️

  • @sekar6932
    @sekar6932 3 ปีที่แล้ว +397

    I'm so sorry to hear that, tapi kamu keren banget😭😭 semoga selalu bahagia ya!!

    • @IamKarrie487
      @IamKarrie487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Yang bener semoga dapet dihadayah,dia bahagia tapi dalam bahagia yang salah

    • @anandawira3174
      @anandawira3174 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@IamKarrie487 udah lah bro
      Dia good looking
      Kita?bisa apa.cuma nhingetin ehh dihujat:)

    • @chogoi9853
      @chogoi9853 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@anandawira3174 good looking juga bukan ciptaan tuhan

    • @ardan7568
      @ardan7568 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Aneh ya, ada aja orng kek gini... Yg salah dibela2, suka heran ama cewe ginian sumpah

    • @paramita.4719
      @paramita.4719 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Vikram gw ga bela

  • @lmarcelletti
    @lmarcelletti 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was so touched listening to you and to your story. Thank you for sharing with us. I am sure many people who are going through a situation like that will be inspired by you and hope might come at the end of the tunnel. I am 60, and it was difficult and of course, I hate myself as well and I was so scare to loose the people I loved (my family). I had luck, because I went out to study and, even it took me years to come out (24), I had a wonderful experience, maybe the best one. After so many years, one of the things that make me extremely happy and hopeful is to see the young people being able to create their own true stories and being able to live something that was so difficult at my time. When I see two young men walking holding hands, a smile comes to my face. Thank yo, Yos, and wish you and Max a long a beautiful life together!

  • @ViperMoon0
    @ViperMoon0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +384

    Im still very confused about my sexual orientation. I have a feeling I'm bi and I'm attracted to women more than men. I recently just found out my family is very homophobic, especially my mom. I somehow asked her a question without making her suspicious of me being LGBTQ+. She told both me and my sister that we were going to be kicked out and disowned if we were a part of LGBTQ+. My sister argued with her but she was only 8 and couldn't do anything. I was so shocked and scared down to my spine. I went into my room and it was at this moment that I knew I can never come out to them until I have a stable life with a job, a car, an apartment, a business, a career, etc. I'm so terrified but I also wanna run away. I'm actually only 12.

    • @webtoonoverload4026
      @webtoonoverload4026 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Am so sorry you're going through that

    • @ViperMoon0
      @ViperMoon0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@webtoonoverload4026 it's alright. Thank you

    • @nanayaru
      @nanayaru 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Oh my god... That must be hard... I recommend you to make plans. The best plans you can think for your future! And I don't recommend to come out until then. It sounds dangerous

    • @ViperMoon0
      @ViperMoon0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@nanayaru I don't plan to come out until I can take care of myself. It is dangerous for me to come out so I'm trying to "be" as straight as possible in front of family

    • @nanayaru
      @nanayaru 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@ViperMoon0 yeah yeah that's the right thing to be safe!

  • @shmily02
    @shmily02 4 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I'm straight girl from Vietnam. In Vietnam, people are very easy with gay. There are many gay people who have come out successfully and are supported by their families and society. I am sorry for your story. I hope you will overcome your sadness. Fighting!!! I'm really really like you

    • @shmily02
      @shmily02 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wilson Sc.Jordan yes. And many of them have succeeded in their career

    • @thischannelisaliveagain1608
      @thischannelisaliveagain1608 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Indonesia does not allow bisexuals or gays, because they are Muslim countries and in gay Muslims it is haram (please understand)

    • @Ttsgjirdc
      @Ttsgjirdc 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@thischannelisaliveagain1608and what? does this mean that you need to kill or beat people who don't look like you? This is the Middle Ages, in any case. This is savagery and it is not for nothing that Islam is considered a terrorist religion in most cases. China and Israel were right

  • @JeffRebornNow
    @JeffRebornNow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    My boyfriend's mother was from Peru, and his father was in the US State Department. We met in college and on X-mas break I went to Lima with him. He came out to his mother while we were there and she told him he was dead to her. It was a mess. A few weeks later when we were back in the states, she called him. He said to her, Why are you calling a dead person? And she said, Sometimes the dead can be resurrected. LOL You just never know.

    • @matheohno
      @matheohno 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Wow , so my fathers family is from Korea I live in Germany . I’m Queer and Non-Binary and when I have a Girlfriend I want to go with her to Korea . But I don’t know how my family would react . I’m pretty sure that my family in Germany will be supporting .

    • @JeffRebornNow
      @JeffRebornNow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@matheohno The Germans are enlightened and very accepting.

    • @palomac4408
      @palomac4408 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      "The dead can be resurrected" the AUDACITY

    • @JeffRebornNow
      @JeffRebornNow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@palomac4408 It was pretty funny. She was Catholic, after all.

    • @algi4350
      @algi4350 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is kinda funny to me because I'm from Peru lol. I hope your boyfriend and his mom are ok now

  • @bphipps312
    @bphipps312 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi guys, recently found your channel so catching up on past videos. Just wanted to say YOU MADE IT! I a similar experience and your advice is spot on.once I was secure I told my family and got lots of negative feedback but by then I didn't care so basically cut myself off from my family to be ME! Know your videos are impacting in a positive way and wish you both every happiness. Sending good vibes and virtual hugs 🤗 ❤