@@knightlaugh141 man I was so close to getting my dream girl but I f*** up and i had good confidence but now she’s drained it I need advice on what to do now Edit: never mind what I wrote I went again and this time I got the girl how the tables have turned
The best revenge is move on & self love.. I'm on 2 months after breakup, not cry anymore just feel nothing sometimes happy sometimes remember again, I'm still trying improve self and try focus to self love.. wish me luck
@@shalinisingh012 don't worry you will be happy.. it almost a year for me, I even forgot I commented this video 😂 it's getting better every day and I become better than I used to be. The breakup taught me & change me a lot, I become more self love & know better about self. The key is love yourself first, control your emotion, do whatever makes u happy, be present & pray to God. Even now I feel grateful about the breakup.. Just remember nobody is perfect, God will gift you something better because you deserve it, be proud with yourself.
Girl, I’m on a little over a month, and it’s absolutely terrible. He said he loved me and left me the next day. Just feel terrible. And went to my best friend about it and she left me for him. So now they’re together and I see it everyday. And honestly I feel so useless and worthless and not good enough. Thank you for letting me know it’s going to get better though
sorry but I'm gonna have to disagree with step 4, I would think (depending on old relationship factors with that individual) you should be or at least try to be friends/ be friendly with that person. the only reason I say this is because it will give you better closure which let's face it, everyone needs. the more hate you have against your ex the weaker you really are.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counselor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤️
Agree on all points and you're right about the revenge...its not worth it. You owe yourself piece of mind and the self love you deserve. Thanks for advice!
How..and why would I even try to get revenge on someone who I once cared about, or who once cared about me (even if they were only pretending..). Never..
I think it depends on the circumstances of the break up and how the partner treated the other in the relationship itself. If they were abusive and disrespectful, that's one thing but if someone's salty because they broke up, then it's kinda shitty. I understand feelings are raw and it's hard not to feel some type of way but what's the sense in bashing somebody just because your relationship ended with them?? Why do break ups always have to be treated as a right or wrong situation?? Sometimes shit just happens and things don't work out, no need for the immaturity.
I think you should talk to your friends. Probably an adult to be preferred bc they know how to deal with it and won’t give bad advise but being alone is a trap sometimes I promise
I agree with this and that’s probably the only point I disagreed with. Isolation isn’t necessarily healthy. Other people can help you process things and heal from the pain.
I hope you’re doing better gooosly . I’m going through a break up 4 years recently myself.. just trying to find myself and find peace. Wish you the beat
@@petejimenez6358 I am in the same situation like you. 3 years. We don't speak for a week. It's difficult but relaxing. I still don't know what should I do because I know she is a bad influence for me. I guess that only time will decide for me. This is our 3 rd and biggest brokeup that we had as a couple. I hope that you will go out ok from this and I wish you the best!
I’m sorry friend. Mine of 3 years ended things a few months ago and im still struggling like it was yesterday. I hope you have found happiness in you life once again. It’s still hard for me to act like nothing happened. I’m hurting so bad right at this moment, im writing this with tears in my eyes. I hope you are okay 🥺
i failed the social media one, and it actually bit me in the ass because he told me that his friends (who i allowed access to my close friends story) told him about all the shitty things i said on my story, which i posted the same day he was about to reach out again. had i not done that, there probably would've been a chance at us. talk about it behind closed doors, and don't seek attention or validation for your feelings through social media like i did, folks! it's just a good thing that it pushed him to tell me that he's choosing to never look back, and that i'm okay with that decision. definitely don't feel great regretting saying such really gross things, but i know that it just means that i wouldn't have been and still am not ready yet to try for us. moving on, im really hopeful for the next person and i only hope now that he and i cross paths again when we are both much healthier and happy with our lives
Number one don't listen to this dude he don't know what he's talking about first of all everything you're going to go through that's what you're going to go through I would just stop and think if that's possible about your actions I wouldn't the one thing I do agree with is don't chase them I wouldn't do that ever I'd be too embarrassed I just went through a bad breakup and I ain't chasing shit accept my feet away from these fools the other thing you should do you should talk to somebody about this because it really hurts so don't listen to people when they say don't talk about this that's just a bunch of crap and let me tell you he looks like the kind of guy that probably would stalk them throw rocks at them and everything else good luck ladies
I unfortunately reach out to much. I miss him like crazy. I tried blocking him off everything recently. That only lasted 2days😭 I wish I could move on & heal. My heart aches so much. It's so hard forcing a smile when all I wana do is cry. He was my best friend💔😢🥺😭
@b.services9851 Yes, I don't talk to him still till this day. I have him blocked on FB & one day I decided to unblock him & he wrote me begging for our friendship & nope I blocked him again. He's in a relationship with someone tho. It's been way more than a year since we broke. As of now I don't think I would like to be friends with him. Unfortunately I can't move pass my grudge. I'm better w/o him in my life. Hate that I lost my bestfriend. Emotionally im in a better place now. We heal & we move on, but the memories will always remain❤️🩹
Today is my boyfriend's birthday, and he broke up with me. I'm walking away today from immaturity, someone who wants to be free, and someone who wants me to be completely obedient. Today, I am set free! I hope he has a great life, because he'll remember me, he'll try and come back. I know my worth. My head is high because now I can truly be ME!
I didnt seek revenge, but my ex ended up catching herpes from the girl he cheated with. So, karma took care of him. Now he regrets cheating, but, it's too late now! 🤷♀️
she wanted to be friends after the breakup. and then i see her on social media lowkey talking shit about our relationship. she also started seeing other ppl three weeks after we broke up. found out she accidentally sent me a text message that was supposed to be for someone else. i feel so much pain that i want to get out of my own body. i realize she never loved me for me, and she only loved me when she was happy with me. that’s why it’s easy for her to look for a replacement. while here i am, still grieving.
I’m sorry. I’m going through the same thing ina way. He told me he wanted a break for a week but ended up blocking me on social media and not even talking to me at all again until I called him out for it and he told me he still loved me and he was working on himself but turns out he was posting this other girl on his stories. It freaking hurts, especially because I put all my effort into him. It’s a waste of time grieving over someone like that when they couldn’t care less about how you feel. I hope you feel better and find someone who truly deserves you
@@slowedvibes5348 hey i’m pretty late but thank you and i’m sorry that you’re going through the same thing 🥺 i know it hurts right now, some days it feels okay and some days it all comes back, but i really believe that we’ll find people who will reciprocate the love, acceptance, and respect that we offer because there’s still so many out there that we haven’t met yet and we still have the rest of our lives to seek them out. aside from getting the love that you want from others, i hope that you’re giving yourself some love too and that you’re not being hard on yourself. we spent so much time trying to love someone the way they want us to that we forget to love and appreciate ourselves. i hope you feel better and better each day. 🥺
Hey for the ppl here, there us this guy that puts a lot of effort on to me, but I really want to just focus on my studies, he's in my friendgroup, I rlly have no idea what to do, I don't want to hurt him, but he loves me way more than I do him and I think he's starting to be emocionally dependant on me even though I know I'm not going to stay with him all my life. I think I should leave him but I don't want to have to leave my friends behind. I rlly want to just stay friends with him but pls anyone if u have anything to tell me I rlly need to know what I should do
@@Maria-sq4jl End the sex thing if you're doing that. There's no such thing as a "fuck buddy" because one of you will fall in love. Be honest, but did you lead him on? Stop the flirting or even doing nice things for him, even a little flirt would draw him closer and closer to you. Only you would know when you're actually flirting. You probably liked the attention that you got from it, but you're making worse. If you have interests in someone, then you should let him know. If you truly see him as a friend, then it shouldn't be a problem for you to openly let him know.
Im curious to know what the reason is for not telling your friends about the breakup? In my mind i feel thats the best thing you can do is to talk about it with people you trust and love that way you can work through the emotions you may be facing as opposed to go through the rollercoaster alone and possibly going back or spiraling.
Question: me and my ex broke up due to financial and mental health, I already told him not to blame himself for us breaking up. I want to wait for him but also support him, cause he says he doesn't feel like a man and I wanna make sure his crown doesn't fall off, I want him to know he is a king. Because I believe we are great for each other but the time isn't the right time
You can be friends with them BUT not immediately, only after you went through the breakup and of course if it was a good person AND the relationship ended peacefully.
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Never seek revenge ❤ it’s very easy to feel vengeful but ultimately growing into your ultimate version is a far better pay of . Cuz in seeking revenge you are keeping yourself self stuck in an old identity and pattern
I really needed this video this time. I am at a endpoint of 8 years old relationship and I am still in doubt. Don't know how to overcome it. Every memory our future plans are all in my mind and I am crying hard. But i know it's necessary.
I used to want to be friend with my ex but the more I tried the more he took me for granted. Only one day I dreamed that I I walked into his room and he was there with other girl so I closed the door, walked away and said sorry to them. That pain was horrible and felt so real. As a nice girl, I do not deserve that. That experience would be the real thing if I still keep being around him. After that dream, isolation and no contact him are no longer difficult for me. Of course we still respect each other so if I or him text or call each other, the other will reply politely just as a human being so we won’t feel being ignored. But overall, I have absolutely no intentions now to contact with him 😅.
This really help me 😭😭 im going through a toxic relationship and I wanted to seek revenge so bad 😭😭 but this helped me think twice about my choices and if I didn't watch this I wouldn't have thought of a better way myself ❤
Sometimes reaching out isn't a problem if you were the one that caused the breakup. It takes a bigger man to own up to his mistakes say goodbye take care and move on.
wow i m proud of my self i only text him direct after he left than he ignored me so i desited with huge pain to forget him i dit all u say even i give up about something realy extrimly value for me that he have still just as i never wana talk to this monster again ..
It all depends on how you did go apart if u can stay friends. My ex and me were friends b4 the relationship, we are gone apart in a good way, without any big arguments, just Lots of tears. It's okay for both sides to stay platonic, soo... Just decide it for yourself
Exactly! My ex and I just broke up after 4years and we want to stay friends because we were good friends before the relationship . It’s easier to cope what’s happening too…we also didn’t do anything bad to each other just growing apart.
@@worldofmango1409 if someone is dumping me i am not going to be around them and help them process their loss. As soon as I hear "its over" i am too, over. Becouse I dont devaluate myself. I stay in no contact. They made the choise. Aries con. 🤷🏻♂️
@@worldofmango1409 I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years just yesterday. We didn't fight or anything, we talked about everything and realized we're better of apart. We are awsome besties and still care for one another (on a platonic level this time). But it hurts so much still. Like I feel happy and horrible at the same time How you holding up now??
For me it happened yesterday, didn't see that coming and still in shock of it. Also I'm all alone and the only way of talking to friends and family is whats app or skype. Like i only had him here and now idk what to do?!
@@sanazrahbari7623 hang in there. I’m going through this myself. After almost 4 years and an engagement ring on my finger he decided he didn’t want to get married. Just like that! And then ghosted me! It’s really hard especially when you think everything was going good
@@christinehammond3936 thank you dear 💗 and I am sorry to hear about what happened 😔 it wasn't not fair to you. Idk maybe it is a sign that we are better without them.
Been doing the opposite and it is just not good. He's right. Starting doing what he suggests now. Take it from someone who learns the hard way... Do what he suggests! Chasing does not work!
him and I loved each other very much. we both are faithful and shared stuffs to each other. We knew we loved each other. No one has every cheated on one another. but we didn't understand each other. I was being a childish and always wanted more. He was the one that distanced himself when we argued. We planned future together. But since we argued the last time he said he wants to focus on himself and told me to do the same
My bf broke up with me and I feel like I have nothing left. The week before he was telling me he loved me, and now his friend came to me telling me he doesn’t like me anymore, and so I asked my bf if it was true and he said it was. I feel like my whole world is gone and there’s nothing to live for. I need him back, he really felt like my soulmate and we were so good together, and now for no reason this happened. I feel really betrayed by him but I feel like it’s my fault
I am deep in a break up myself right now, but, You need to look at this with an objective lens. Mine was a pretty healthy and mutual break up, but it still hurts because we both still love each other. It’s just not our time. In your situation, he did break up with you. You have to let that sink in and anyone who loves you would never let you go. People tell us who they are the first time and we need to believe them. Through the next, while you need to look back at what was going wrong, you’re in this halo effect phase of things and reminiscing, all the nostalgia, which makes you feel like you want him more; that’s messing with your head. He will most likely come back, but you need to be strong and ask yourself why is he coming back? If he does. Then, hopefully you’ve moved on to better things. I’m sorry you’re in a lot of pain right now he thinks you’re still there so he’s going to treat you that way.; don’t let him. Get involved in new things new hobbies, new people cut your hair buy some new clothes whatever you gotta do. You will get through this it’s like stopping a drug addiction; one day at a time. If he does happen to come back, you should only be with the realization of what went wrong on his side of things, and a changed person, and a slow reentry into each other’s lives. Anything less than that would be a hard pass for me and it should be for you; you are worth better than that. It’s easy to blame yourself as the sole reason for the break up - but a relationship takes two. Him, breaking up and making it about you shows more about his character and his limitations than it does about you; this is important information. You want someone who’s going to stay through difficult times not run all the best.
Girl almost same. After date 2 and talking daily for 2 weeks he went silent but still talked in person like we were friends. I had to wring the truth out of him.
Mines been a year aswell and now he goes out with my best friend - I likes him for like 3 years and then we found out we were going to the same school together (we used ti do trampoline together outside of school) and I didn’t rlly know them then but I did have a crush on them. Then like a year and a few months in into the school year (the second acedemic year) I put something on my snap story, he said it was rlly good, then we started talking. Then we went out and my best friend tricked me into saying I love her more than him- like 5 hours into relationship- and she sent him the ss. He said I love you and I said it back, but he said, well do u love me more than ur best friend! I didn’t know what to do cuz we just go let together! So I said… well she is my bestfriend and we only got together today… so I said I love you back and he kinda stoped texting me like only once after that. Then that night, I would have thought he would send me a good night text. Well he didn’t. So when I was lying in bed, I had a horrible gut feeling like ur about to be sick, and it was when I was thinking of him- my first ever real boyfriend - and this kept me up till one in the morning - I decided to break up with him at one in the morning so I could get some sleep without feeling sick to my tummy. Anyway, I was still awake till 2, then I deleted the message, but I already put single on my story and a few people had saw it - luckily not him (he didn’t see the message yet) so I deleted the message and story and re sent it at like 7 in the morning before school and put it on my story again- my first ever real boyfriend that lasted like just less than a day! I still regret breaking up with him to this day. Like 3 or 4 years liking him and dating for a day. Then breaking up was all my fault. His response to my message tho was “alright” I was like wth at least show that u cared!!!
There is one thing you should never do after you break up -- never listen to any random people telling you what to or not to do after your break up. If u want to ask ur ex question ask! Or u want to beg . beg. U want to walk away ? Wall away . The bottom line is. Don't make urself wonder and thinking . Do anything that won't make u regret.
Thank u needed to hear this, my relation ship is early of like a month and the guy is not focusing in class anymore, I think I need to leave him, but he's in my friends group idk I'll do my best to just let things go as they are supposed to
I don’t stalk or anything to my ex, He just keeps coming into my head since 2017 and it’s still going at first I thought “It’s because we broke up recently” But it’s still going and now I want to know why
My biggest problem is going thru millions of our text messages😢 Lol and were not realky going thru a breakp we were FWB /lovers got in one agruement ABOUT LOVE now we havent spoke in 3 days and im sick!!!! I know He has to be🤦🏾♀ too! Neither wants to be the 1st to text/call.🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
I respectfully disagree with 3 and 4. My friends are my support system. I need them to support me. Also staying friends with your ex can be positive. Just because you’re ex’s doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.
I should have left my ex a long time ago, but I stuck around and dealt with all his bullshit and let him stress me out, only for him to come into some money and break up with me. Held him down for years, never again…lesson learned. I can’t talk to my friends and family because they are the ones that told me to leave him years ago and I didn’t listen, at this point it will be an I told you so moment for everyone. 🤦🏽♀️
I really needed to hear number 5. I just broke up with a guy recently after I found out he was cheating & I wanted to ruin his life. But now.. after seeing this I’m good. Thanks for this video! It helped :)
No matter what people or experts says if they truly love each other they will be back together eventually, in my case it is different, she ask for a break and we argue on that coz we we were having long distance relationship so we argue and we both ended up saying let's end this relationship "it's been 4 days since we are not in touch and tomorrow is her birthday" I wanted to wish her but also i don't want to disturb her again so I'm not going to wish her, I'm hurt from her words.
It’s so hard when you have kids with the person and they are small so we have to keep in contact. Ughh I just don’t want to feel anything anymore, cause he sure did move on 😒
What about if she cheated or something equivalent? What if someone's mother does that with his or her father? The place you are providing this advice from is far away from all this. Please give advice on that topic if someone is going through that pain and struggle.
I needed that T shirt. It was an emotional hook for me. It was one of my favorites, and I wanted a clean cut: nothing left behind. He didn't let me get it back. Now I have to buy a new T shirt every time I am in the store. 😁
In my humble opinion... I posted my ex-girlfriend's stuff back to her over a month later after the break up. Not to reach out to her in hopes she'll contact me. I did it because it wasn't mine to keep and I returned it because despite her being not a good person, I take accountability for my role and after the breakup, I moved on and in a better place because of what happened. She still has my stuff and I know she won't give it back. That's the difference between me and her. I can forgive her not because I still care about her, but because I am at peace with it all. But this guys has it nailed down. Still great advice 💯
I think if you want to be friends with them, you can be. My dad had a wife who they divorced together, not because they didn’t like eachother or something, just not what they were looking for. They were friends way before and after the marriage and breakup but better as friends
My ex got married and he invited me to his wedding but I didn't go. He wasn't a bad person either. Now I'm about to get married, should I invite him too or not? Should I be the better person too or maintain my standard of moving on?
I will fail at number 4 because we are in year five and he said he is not ready for a relationship and doesn’t want to hurt me. So decided to end things but hopes we can still be friends and I do too.
Another rule should be don’t kill yourself or hurt yourself ❤️
I already am
@Alice donot play with someone's feelings, god is watching u
@@knightlaugh141 man I was so close to getting my dream girl but I f*** up and i had good confidence but now she’s drained it I need advice on what to do now
Edit: never mind what I wrote I went again and this time I got the girl how the tables have turned
😅😂😂😂 ain’t doing that
i hurted myself ..
The best revenge is move on & self love..
I'm on 2 months after breakup, not cry anymore just feel nothing sometimes happy sometimes remember again, I'm still trying improve self and try focus to self love.. wish me luck
Girl! It's been 5 days for me. I feel miserable!! I hope you found your way out of this.good luck
@@shalinisingh012 don't worry you will be happy.. it almost a year for me, I even forgot I commented this video 😂
it's getting better every day and I become better than I used to be. The breakup taught me & change me a lot, I become more self love & know better about self.
The key is love yourself first, control your emotion, do whatever makes u happy, be present & pray to God.
Even now I feel grateful about the breakup..
Just remember nobody is perfect, God will gift you something better because you deserve it, be proud with yourself.
Girl, I’m on a little over a month, and it’s absolutely terrible. He said he loved me and left me the next day. Just feel terrible. And went to my best friend about it and she left me for him. So now they’re together and I see it everyday. And honestly I feel so useless and worthless and not good enough. Thank you for letting me know it’s going to get better though
Me too 2 months now and am healing ❤
It's been 3years it hurts like hell.
“Number one dont reach out to them” anddddd I failed at the step one itself.
Your ex man is a loser, move on
What’s up with all the bots
sorry but I'm gonna have to disagree with step 4, I would think (depending on old relationship factors with that individual) you should be or at least try to be friends/ be friendly with that person. the only reason I say this is because it will give you better closure which let's face it, everyone needs. the more hate you have against your ex the weaker you really are.
Same
same babes
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counselor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤️
There are others yiu are h r heloung
Amen!!! No contact really works
yeah but no contact for the person who has been broken up with. Not the person who broke up
so true never devalue yourself for seeking validation
Agree on all points and you're right about the revenge...its not worth it. You owe yourself piece of mind and the self love you deserve. Thanks for advice!
What about my mental peace what if really want revenge and maybe my mental health will get better 😅 implant to murder hum thi 😂😂😂😂 jk lol
How..and why would I even try to get revenge on someone who I once cared about, or who once cared about me (even if they were only pretending..). Never..
@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984exactly. Making matters worse is a moot point .
Another rule is don’t talk crap about them after the break up
Oops
But tbh talking crap about them really helps the mind and you feel better 😂😂😂😂😂
too late.
I think it depends on the circumstances of the break up and how the partner treated the other in the relationship itself. If they were abusive and disrespectful, that's one thing but if someone's salty because they broke up, then it's kinda shitty. I understand feelings are raw and it's hard not to feel some type of way but what's the sense in bashing somebody just because your relationship ended with them?? Why do break ups always have to be treated as a right or wrong situation?? Sometimes shit just happens and things don't work out, no need for the immaturity.
I think you should talk to your friends. Probably an adult to be preferred bc they know how to deal with it and won’t give bad advise but being alone is a trap sometimes I promise
I agree with this and that’s probably the only point I disagreed with. Isolation isn’t necessarily healthy. Other people can help you process things and heal from the pain.
My girlfriend of 4 years just broke up with me. Not taking it well but needed to hear this. Thank you.
I hope you’re doing better gooosly . I’m going through a break up 4 years recently myself.. just trying to find myself and find peace. Wish you the beat
@@petejimenez6358 I am in the same situation like you. 3 years. We don't speak for a week. It's difficult but relaxing. I still don't know what should I do because I know she is a bad influence for me. I guess that only time will decide for me. This is our 3 rd and biggest brokeup that we had as a couple. I hope that you will go out ok from this and I wish you the best!
@@petejimenez6358 how is it going brother, here to talk
I’m sorry friend. Mine of 3 years ended things a few months ago and im still struggling like it was yesterday. I hope you have found happiness in you life once again. It’s still hard for me to act like nothing happened. I’m hurting so bad right at this moment, im writing this with tears in my eyes. I hope you are okay 🥺
@@BradyDoesntMiss how are you feeling now brother
i failed the social media one, and it actually bit me in the ass because he told me that his friends (who i allowed access to my close friends story) told him about all the shitty things i said on my story, which i posted the same day he was about to reach out again. had i not done that, there probably would've been a chance at us. talk about it behind closed doors, and don't seek attention or validation for your feelings through social media like i did, folks! it's just a good thing that it pushed him to tell me that he's choosing to never look back, and that i'm okay with that decision. definitely don't feel great regretting saying such really gross things, but i know that it just means that i wouldn't have been and still am not ready yet to try for us. moving on, im really hopeful for the next person and i only hope now that he and i cross paths again when we are both much healthier and happy with our lives
Number one don't listen to this dude he don't know what he's talking about first of all everything you're going to go through that's what you're going to go through I would just stop and think if that's possible about your actions I wouldn't the one thing I do agree with is don't chase them I wouldn't do that ever I'd be too embarrassed I just went through a bad breakup and I ain't chasing shit accept my feet away from these fools the other thing you should do you should talk to somebody about this because it really hurts so don't listen to people when they say don't talk about this that's just a bunch of crap and let me tell you he looks like the kind of guy that probably would stalk them throw rocks at them and everything else good luck ladies
You must be talking about yourself/yall men. Praying for you! Prayer is the best!
I unfortunately reach out to much. I miss him like crazy. I tried blocking him off everything recently. That only lasted 2days😭 I wish I could move on & heal. My heart aches so much. It's so hard forcing a smile when all I wana do is cry. He was my best friend💔😢🥺😭
I have really bad separation anxiety
After a breakup
It's very hard for me right now
Any updates?
@b.services9851 Yes, I don't talk to him still till this day. I have him blocked on FB & one day I decided to unblock him & he wrote me begging for our friendship & nope I blocked him again. He's in a relationship with someone tho. It's been way more than a year since we broke. As of now I don't think I would like to be friends with him. Unfortunately I can't move pass my grudge. I'm better w/o him in my life. Hate that I lost my bestfriend. Emotionally im in a better place now. We heal & we move on, but the memories will always remain❤️🩹
@AppleHead84 Hey girl! How you feeling? I hope God has given you the strength to heal & move on❤️🩹🥹
We are on the same boat sis😂did you move on😢how did you do it
I like the last one. The best way to get even is to get better. But I say why seek revenge......just live YOUR BEST LIFE, JUST GET BETTER!
Basically behave as if they never happened or existed in your life.
Today is my boyfriend's birthday, and he broke up with me. I'm walking away today from immaturity, someone who wants to be free, and someone who wants me to be completely obedient. Today, I am set free! I hope he has a great life, because he'll remember me, he'll try and come back. I know my worth. My head is high because now I can truly be ME!
I didnt seek revenge, but my ex ended up catching herpes from the girl he cheated with. So, karma took care of him. Now he regrets cheating, but, it's too late now! 🤷♀️
she wanted to be friends after the breakup. and then i see her on social media lowkey talking shit about our relationship. she also started seeing other ppl three weeks after we broke up. found out she accidentally sent me a text message that was supposed to be for someone else. i feel so much pain that i want to get out of my own body. i realize she never loved me for me, and she only loved me when she was happy with me. that’s why it’s easy for her to look for a replacement. while here i am, still grieving.
I’m sorry. I’m going through the same thing ina way. He told me he wanted a break for a week but ended up blocking me on social media and not even talking to me at all again until I called him out for it and he told me he still loved me and he was working on himself but turns out he was posting this other girl on his stories. It freaking hurts, especially because I put all my effort into him. It’s a waste of time grieving over someone like that when they couldn’t care less about how you feel. I hope you feel better and find someone who truly deserves you
@@slowedvibes5348 hey i’m pretty late but thank you and i’m sorry that you’re going through the same thing 🥺 i know it hurts right now, some days it feels okay and some days it all comes back, but i really believe that we’ll find people who will reciprocate the love, acceptance, and respect that we offer because there’s still so many out there that we haven’t met yet and we still have the rest of our lives to seek them out. aside from getting the love that you want from others, i hope that you’re giving yourself some love too and that you’re not being hard on yourself. we spent so much time trying to love someone the way they want us to that we forget to love and appreciate ourselves. i hope you feel better and better each day. 🥺
@@maku636 thank you so much I hope I do meet the right person someday 🥺 I wish the same for you ❤️ much love
Hey for the ppl here, there us this guy that puts a lot of effort on to me, but I really want to just focus on my studies, he's in my friendgroup, I rlly have no idea what to do, I don't want to hurt him, but he loves me way more than I do him and I think he's starting to be emocionally dependant on me even though I know I'm not going to stay with him all my life. I think I should leave him but I don't want to have to leave my friends behind. I rlly want to just stay friends with him but pls anyone if u have anything to tell me I rlly need to know what I should do
@@Maria-sq4jl End the sex thing if you're doing that. There's no such thing as a "fuck buddy" because one of you will fall in love.
Be honest, but did you lead him on? Stop the flirting or even doing nice things for him, even a little flirt would draw him closer and closer to you. Only you would know when you're actually flirting. You probably liked the attention that you got from it, but you're making worse.
If you have interests in someone, then you should let him know. If you truly see him as a friend, then it shouldn't be a problem for you to openly let him know.
The best revenge is living well.❤
It will be like heaping hot coals upon their heads.
Thank you man, I need this as I am trying to move on ❤
Im curious to know what the reason is for not telling your friends about the breakup? In my mind i feel thats the best thing you can do is to talk about it with people you trust and love that way you can work through the emotions you may be facing as opposed to go through the rollercoaster alone and possibly going back or spiraling.
Am all heart broken💔now but trying to comfort myself I just can't be myself
Question: me and my ex broke up due to financial and mental health, I already told him not to blame himself for us breaking up. I want to wait for him but also support him, cause he says he doesn't feel like a man and I wanna make sure his crown doesn't fall off, I want him to know he is a king. Because I believe we are great for each other but the time isn't the right time
You can be friends with them BUT not immediately, only after you went through the breakup and of course if it was a good person AND the relationship ended peacefully.
I really am against being friends with an ex.
And what for?
@@carloslopezdesilanes628 just saying you can if you want, not that you should or that is convenient
@@MonkeyDLuffy60073why do you think its a bad idea?
My situationship asked me to stay friends, idk what to think about that… it’s been almost 5 months and still heartbroken
"Be careful who you trust Sergeant, people you know can hurt you the most."-Ghost💀MW2
Omg thank you for this ..
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Awesome advice! I extremely agree with the last one: the best revenge is working on yourself
Great advice another should be don't move on too fast take time to love on your self do something better with the time you wasted on your ex.
Never seek revenge ❤ it’s very easy to feel vengeful but ultimately growing into your ultimate version is a far better pay of . Cuz in seeking revenge you are keeping yourself self stuck in an old identity and pattern
this deserves more recognition
Your advice is spot on, thank you.
I really needed this video this time. I am at a endpoint of 8 years old relationship and I am still in doubt. Don't know how to overcome it. Every memory our future plans are all in my mind and I am crying hard. But i know it's necessary.
I used to want to be friend with my ex but the more I tried the more he took me for granted. Only one day I dreamed that I I walked into his room and he was there with other girl so I closed the door, walked away and said sorry to them. That pain was horrible and felt so real. As a nice girl, I do not deserve that. That experience would be the real thing if I still keep being around him. After that dream, isolation and no contact him are no longer difficult for me. Of course we still respect each other so if I or him text or call each other, the other will reply politely just as a human being so we won’t feel being ignored. But overall, I have absolutely no intentions now to contact with him 😅.
This really help me 😭😭 im going through a toxic relationship and I wanted to seek revenge so bad 😭😭 but this helped me think twice about my choices and if I didn't watch this I wouldn't have thought of a better way myself ❤
Dude just straight up called me out.
Sometimes reaching out isn't a problem if you were the one that caused the breakup. It takes a bigger man to own up to his mistakes say goodbye take care and move on.
terrible. this is just for superficial and shallow relationships that weren’t even real in the first place.
wow i m proud of my self i only text him direct after he left than he ignored me so i desited with huge pain to forget him
i dit all u say even i give up about something realy extrimly value for me that he have still just as i never wana talk to this monster again ..
his brst friend text me call me but i must ignored him as i dont want my ex narc cheater to know anything about me anymore..
It all depends on how you did go apart if u can stay friends. My ex and me were friends b4 the relationship, we are gone apart in a good way, without any big arguments, just Lots of tears. It's okay for both sides to stay platonic, soo... Just decide it for yourself
Exactly! My ex and I just broke up after 4years and we want to stay friends because we were good friends before the relationship . It’s easier to cope what’s happening too…we also didn’t do anything bad to each other just growing apart.
@@worldofmango1409 if someone is dumping me i am not going to be around them and help them process their loss. As soon as I hear "its over" i am too, over. Becouse I dont devaluate myself. I stay in no contact. They made the choise. Aries con. 🤷🏻♂️
@@worldofmango1409 I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years just yesterday. We didn't fight or anything, we talked about everything and realized we're better of apart. We are awsome besties and still care for one another (on a platonic level this time). But it hurts so much still. Like I feel happy and horrible at the same time
How you holding up now??
@@shylock5477it means you still have feelings for him listen to your heart.
If they're nice, then maybe, but any other is just a punch to the gut and your self-worth.
Growing up better day by day for the only sake of my revenge
That's my motto for living
Yes, talk to your friends. (Not HIS friends). They are there to support you and help you cope with your pain.
That's rightt, I got rid of everything, didn't talk to my ex nothing, left that in the past where it belongs.
I'm not doing any of that and it's still hard moving on. It's only been a month since we went no contact, but ugh. When does it stop hurting?
For me it happened yesterday, didn't see that coming and still in shock of it. Also I'm all alone and the only way of talking to friends and family is whats app or skype. Like i only had him here and now idk what to do?!
@@sanazrahbari7623 hang in there. I’m going through this myself. After almost 4 years and an engagement ring on my finger he decided he didn’t want to get married. Just like that! And then ghosted me! It’s really hard especially when you think everything was going good
@@christinehammond3936 thank you dear 💗 and I am sorry to hear about what happened 😔 it wasn't not fair to you. Idk maybe it is a sign that we are better without them.
Never
@@sanazrahbari7623 I'm so sorry. How are you doing now?
Been doing the opposite and it is just not good. He's right. Starting doing what he suggests now. Take it from someone who learns the hard way... Do what he suggests! Chasing does not work!
him and I loved each other very much. we both are faithful and shared stuffs to each other. We knew we loved each other. No one has every cheated on one another. but we didn't understand each other. I was being a childish and always wanted more. He was the one that distanced himself when we argued. We planned future together. But since we argued the last time he said he wants to focus on himself and told me to do the same
And what happened now?? If you don’t mind me asking
Dont talk about it to your friends? That’s just putting away emotion
My bf broke up with me and I feel like I have nothing left. The week before he was telling me he loved me, and now his friend came to me telling me he doesn’t like me anymore, and so I asked my bf if it was true and he said it was. I feel like my whole world is gone and there’s nothing to live for. I need him back, he really felt like my soulmate and we were so good together, and now for no reason this happened. I feel really betrayed by him but I feel like it’s my fault
I am deep in a break up myself right now, but, You need to look at this with an objective lens.
Mine was a pretty healthy and mutual break up, but it still hurts because we both still love each other. It’s just not our time.
In your situation, he did break up with you. You have to let that sink in and anyone who loves you would never let you go. People tell us who they are the first time and we need to believe them.
Through the next, while you need to look back at what was going wrong, you’re in this halo effect phase of things and reminiscing, all the nostalgia, which makes you feel like you want him more; that’s messing with your head.
He will most likely come back, but you need to be strong and ask yourself why is he coming back? If he does.
Then, hopefully you’ve moved on to better things. I’m sorry you’re in a lot of pain right now he thinks you’re still there so he’s going to treat you that way.; don’t let him. Get involved in new things new hobbies, new people cut your hair buy some new clothes whatever you gotta do.
You will get through this it’s like stopping a drug addiction; one day at a time.
If he does happen to come back, you should only be with the realization of what went wrong on his side of things, and a changed person, and a slow reentry into each other’s lives. Anything less than that would be a hard pass for me and it should be for you; you are worth better than that.
It’s easy to blame yourself as the sole reason for the break up - but a relationship takes two. Him, breaking up and making it about you shows more about his character and his limitations than it does about you; this is important information. You want someone who’s going to stay through difficult times not run all the best.
Thank you 🙏 😊
Never ever take them back, someone else better waiting on you men
It's hard brother
Bro ladies r the one breaking up , n men become heartless after that so , no teach thief how to steal, it sucks 🤧
He broke up with me and we weren’t even dating.🤦🏽♀️🤣
Girl almost same. After date 2 and talking daily for 2 weeks he went silent but still talked in person like we were friends. I had to wring the truth out of him.
My ex is my classmate.Seeing him everyday makes me feel worse.Its really so hard for me to move on.
Mines been a year aswell and now he goes out with my best friend - I likes him for like 3 years and then we found out we were going to the same school together (we used ti do trampoline together outside of school) and I didn’t rlly know them then but I did have a crush on them. Then like a year and a few months in into the school year (the second acedemic year) I put something on my snap story, he said it was rlly good, then we started talking. Then we went out and my best friend tricked me into saying I love her more than him- like 5 hours into relationship- and she sent him the ss. He said I love you and I said it back, but he said, well do u love me more than ur best friend! I didn’t know what to do cuz we just go let together! So I said… well she is my bestfriend and we only got together today… so I said I love you back and he kinda stoped texting me like only once after that. Then that night, I would have thought he would send me a good night text. Well he didn’t. So when I was lying in bed, I had a horrible gut feeling like ur about to be sick, and it was when I was thinking of him- my first ever real boyfriend - and this kept me up till one in the morning - I decided to break up with him at one in the morning so I could get some sleep without feeling sick to my tummy. Anyway, I was still awake till 2, then I deleted the message, but I already put single on my story and a few people had saw it - luckily not him (he didn’t see the message yet) so I deleted the message and story and re sent it at like 7 in the morning before school and put it on my story again- my first ever real boyfriend that lasted like just less than a day! I still regret breaking up with him to this day. Like 3 or 4 years liking him and dating for a day. Then breaking up was all my fault. His response to my message tho was “alright” I was like wth at least show that u cared!!!
I just went through a breakup, and honestly, it hurts, bit these tips are helpful thanks
Most often we know what we should do , the challenge is the strengths you say we shouldnt do
There is one thing you should never do after you break up -- never listen to any random people telling you what to or not to do after your break up. If u want to ask ur ex question ask! Or u want to beg . beg. U want to walk away ? Wall away . The bottom line is. Don't make urself wonder and thinking . Do anything that won't make u regret.
Thank u needed to hear this, my relation ship is early of like a month and the guy is not focusing in class anymore, I think I need to leave him, but he's in my friends group idk I'll do my best to just let things go as they are supposed to
I know your message will make me feel better
I don’t stalk or anything to my ex, He just keeps coming into my head since 2017 and it’s still going at first I thought “It’s because we broke up recently” But it’s still going and now I want to know why
My biggest problem is going thru millions of our text messages😢
Lol and were not realky going thru a breakp we were FWB /lovers got in one agruement ABOUT LOVE now we havent spoke in 3 days and im sick!!!! I know He has to be🤦🏾♀ too! Neither wants to be the 1st to text/call.🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
It's like you were reading my mind! Thank you for it!
I never did any of these and I feel stronger than ever ❤️
Finally a male dating coach who actually gives good advice
It sucks when you get super close to someone’s family and then you never see them again
I respectfully disagree with 3 and 4. My friends are my support system. I need them to support me.
Also staying friends with your ex can be positive. Just because you’re ex’s doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.
I needed this earler
Thanks that is so helpful I need all of the information thanks so much
2 days later it finally hits me
Best way to get even is to be better❤
Thanks. ❤
Thank you ❤
I should have left my ex a long time ago, but I stuck around and dealt with all his bullshit and let him stress me out, only for him to come into some money and break up with me. Held him down for years, never again…lesson learned. I can’t talk to my friends and family because they are the ones that told me to leave him years ago and I didn’t listen, at this point it will be an I told you so moment for everyone. 🤦🏽♀️
I am greatful to you for all these advices. I made some of these mistakes but could control myself early. Thank you 🙏🙏
Good advice, except for the part about talking to friends.
You should definitely talk about how you are feeling and seeking comfort from friends.
I really needed to hear number 5. I just broke up with a guy recently after I found out he was cheating & I wanted to ruin his life. But now.. after seeing this I’m good. Thanks for this video! It helped :)
No matter what people or experts says if they truly love each other they will be back together eventually, in my case it is different, she ask for a break and we argue on that coz we we were having long distance relationship so we argue and we both ended up saying let's end this relationship "it's been 4 days since we are not in touch and tomorrow is her birthday" I wanted to wish her but also i don't want to disturb her again so I'm not going to wish her, I'm hurt from her words.
Omg thank you I needed that
It’s a good idea to reach to your friends.
Nah bro they laugh at me
@@pog5652 they not friends
It’s so hard when you have kids with the person and they are small so we have to keep in contact. Ughh I just don’t want to feel anything anymore, cause he sure did move on 😒
Some people manage to stay friends with their mums and siblings etc, id love that but it has not ever successfully played out in long term.
What about if she cheated or something equivalent? What if someone's mother does that with his or her father? The place you are providing this advice from is far away from all this. Please give advice on that topic if someone is going through that pain and struggle.
I needed that T shirt. It was an emotional hook for me. It was one of my favorites, and I wanted a clean cut: nothing left behind. He didn't let me get it back. Now I have to buy a new T shirt every time I am in the store. 😁
In my humble opinion...
I posted my ex-girlfriend's stuff back to her over a month later after the break up. Not to reach out to her in hopes she'll contact me. I did it because it wasn't mine to keep and I returned it because despite her being not a good person, I take accountability for my role and after the breakup, I moved on and in a better place because of what happened. She still has my stuff and I know she won't give it back. That's the difference between me and her. I can forgive her not because I still care about her, but because I am at peace with it all.
But this guys has it nailed down. Still great advice 💯
I think if you want to be friends with them, you can be. My dad had a wife who they divorced together, not because they didn’t like eachother or something, just not what they were looking for. They were friends way before and after the marriage and breakup but better as friends
My ex got married and he invited me to his wedding but I didn't go. He wasn't a bad person either. Now I'm about to get married, should I invite him too or not? Should I be the better person too or maintain my standard of moving on?
Don't tell your friends or social media. Tell that to my backstabbing ex who got every friend she could involved
Thank you bro!
I needed to hear this, thank you
Thanks bro❤❤❤❤
I've already done number 3 today 😢
😭 lmao i was going to return his shirt today
This is why I hope we never break up 😭😭😭 I always wanna know o have him as a friend if nothing more 🥺🥺
Thank you 😔
Thank you
You right will fellow Your advice
Number 1 is hard
Number 2 is hard
Number 3 : yeah
Number 4 : no not at all
Number 5 : 😭 how?
I will fail at number 4 because we are in year five and he said he is not ready for a relationship and doesn’t want to hurt me. So decided to end things but hopes we can still be friends and I do too.
Thanks my boy i will follow all your instructions 😊
#3 for the win!! Totally agree 👌🏻
Me and my ex broke up like 7 months ago and I still cry and and I still miss him so much I just can’t seem to let go no matter what ❤