SubhanAllah My husband has all these qualities that you mentioned. He himself left us and is living separately. i was begging for him to come back but now I realized it was Allahs will to remove shaitaan from my home. May be it was best for our children to not witness the toxicity in our relationship. Im hoping he divorces me soon. incase he comes back, im learning how to deal with him. May Allah help me in this process. Thank you sister!
Some people become religious because they know they have made mistakes and ruined others life. After so many years I came to know that my mother is npd .Now she is religious but her behaviour has not changed much.
Yes religiousness does not change a narcissist, therapy will do that inshaAllah. Religious practice can even be used as a tool of manipulation for narcissists
I am struggling with a husband who had 2 narcissistic parents. It is so hard to make progress or have happiness, he is an unhappy person with fragile self esteem, although he has a farcade of someone with an inflated ego. When there is conflict you cant get ahead.
She will never change ...even reciting Quran reading or writing it .... Because they use religion only to cover their dark side of her ...... U may thank to your lord that he Show you real face so u can protect yourself .... M going through same ... I just hate religious people's .... But Alhumdulillah ALLAH show me reality ...Islam is totally opposite Built ur relation with book of ALLAH ... It the only way that help you
SubhanAllah... Allah presented me with surah Yusuf during Ramadhan. And now while searching this topic, its the surah again. Allah has bn very good to me in good times and difficult ones. He's always bn there to gv guidance. I was really feeling drained and He uplifts my spirits again سبحان الله و بحمده ...سبحان الله العظيم..
Jzk khair for an Islamic perspective on Narcissism! A much needed topic, especially when trying to form boundaries with family members - whilst keeping religion in mind. Looking forward to watching your other videos!
I am glad to finaly see more conversations about narcissism especially in Islam. My question is will nacrsissist ever change and realise what they are doing is wrong.I am shocked and confused how is it that you have some muslims,who pray,fast month of Ramadan and even go to Hajj but are the most arrogant,selfish,manipulative,dishonest,they are willing to take aadvantage of most kind hearted person for their selfish gains and have no emphathy at all. Are they mentally ill or just evil?
Narcissism is not a mental illness but a personality disorder, and there are levels. I say that their actions are inspired by Shaytan because they imitate the attitude of Shaytan. They are responsible for how they treat others, regardless of how they want to blame everyone but themselves. Allah has put the cure to everything on the earth. Talk therapy, working with the narc to bring their heads and hearts out of darkness, is one way. It's not surprising a narc will appear so religious because narcs want to be seen as the best kind of person. For Muslims, that's a sheikh or an imam. It's why we have to be so careful with our intentions. Narcs can't do anything for the sake of Allah, and so they will not be rewarded.
@@faridaaali6170 You misunderstand how a narcissist practices religion. They do acts of worship, making sure everyone knows about it, to show off. This is not done for the sake of Allah or else you would not know about it. That is the difference between someone who is a sinner who does good sometimes and a narcissist. Narcissists could look religious, sound religious and smell religious, but how do they act when no one is watching?
@@SakinaBinterik wow thank you so much, Ive been searching about muslim narcisstic You have the best explanation, Its makes me at ease thingking that my narcisstic mother will not get rewarded by Allah,from all her abusive and drama Anyway thank you so much !
Was searching for a answer really dealing with the issue of narcissism instead of scholars brushing it off & ma sha Allah found your channel . I'm even more happy that being a female you choose to spoke on such a sensitive & ignored issue . I hope your message & knowledge reaches to more people suffering out their from narcissism . May Allah truly reward you for this act sister Ameen sumameen jazakallah khairun ❤️ sending much love
Asalamu alaikum. I am on the first steps of my healing journey after experiencing narcissistic abuse for over a decade at the hands of a Muslim man. This is an incredible insight you have shared and a fresh perspective of this personality disorder from the angle of Islam. May Allah reward you for your efforts sister.
Sister It’s been 27 yrs I’ve put up with a narcissist husband and his family. He’s the most pious man, but terrible to me. He yells at any opportunity if he can’t deal with a situation or looks bad in an argument. Its his coping mechanism, he sees red and doesn’t care about the consequences. Doesn’t apologise. He brings out the worst in me when he shouts and yells. He’d shout at his mum & sisters, now they don’t want to know him. He’s had therapy but he still can’t help yelling. I’ve asked him to leave now because my mental & physical health is deteriorating because of it. I’ve tried so hard to resist as I know he’d be alone because of it. He’s tried hard to change, but it’s done too much damage to my children and me. My children say nothing to him, they don’t get involved but I can’t tolerate it anymore. I’m really tired. Sick of his intimidation and yelling. He’s tried so hard to beat me down but I won’t allow it, his dad did the same to his mother. I’ve let go, he’s not worth saving
Masha allah. Sister a very beautiful way to look.at things in us humans and how we can study them and become a better human. I hope Allah keeps opening our hearts and senses and keeping us clean and free from Pride. Ameen.!
Indeed. However, it is not always possible or safe to get away from them. This series of lectures offers advice for those from whom you cannot separate
@@shafinaabdul2898 Perhaps you feel trapped, but Allah does not define you by your experience. You can free your mind and refuse to be treated in this way. Stand up for yourself in a way that is safe, and may Allah support you
@@shafinaabdul2898May Allah make a way for you where there seems to be none, Ameen Ya Rabb. He Is The Revealer, The Opener, SubhanAllah!!! May He assist all those who are suffering from this, Ameen, myself included. How are you now, dear sister?❤
@@SakinaBinterikcan swimming or shifting place help ? i just got out of that person 6 months she even used to critize and hit me physically now she try to be religious 247 everything is correct few days ago she hurted a kitten
Alhamdullilah thank you so much for the knowledge of this information because I didn't understand why people behaviour are like this but thanks to you, it all makes totally sense. May allah bless you
I love love your channel, you deserve millions of views. I have been binge watching your content and taking notes. Thank you for your content, I wish people could analyze the Quran this way because there is so much more we don't know. Watching your video made me realize this even more.
Alhamdullilah sister for this work you have done. My boys don’t believe the abuse I go through. I am the evil woman for asking him for divorce I am the crazy one for been angry and frustrated. One of them said to me; the problem is you that don’t believe daddy???? is like I will divorce 3 man Is pain that I don’t wish to anybody.
Alhamdulillah, Jezak Allahu khairan for your kind words. I am sorry that you are going through this. May Allah relieve you and make your sons excellent, righteous men
Subhanallah. This is why Yusuf AS never reached out to his family when he was an adult. Even after decades, they accused Benjamin as being a 'thief' like his brother (Yusuf) before him. They would have killed him Subhanallah, at the age of 45 (25 years too late) and with recent experience, the nuances in this Surah are astounding. Al hamdullah. Thanks for this video
This was such a thorough breakdown and beautiful explanation jazaakillaahu khayra. I really appreciate how much time and effort you put into explaining this from an Islamic lens, it makes a lot of sense. May Allaah bless you in your endeavors
My husband is a narcissist. I prayed to Allah to give me a lovely in laws and husband who will love me. But Allah give me narcissist family instead. I feel like Allah is joking me. Now I realize this is a test. I will relay completely on Allah. I have been testing severely by Allah right now.
May Allah make it easy for you to get relief. Seek help from Allah, and do not allow yourself to be abused. Remember that Sabr patience is an action word!
Do you ever consider your actions and thoughts which have led you to marry a narcissist. Do not blame Allah, instead look within and see what you are attracting to yourself.
@@flyhigh9944 The first narcissist person I met in my life is my aunt and my elder sister. I have been mentally torture by them since I am young. I thought every relationship should feel like this. But because they are family, they still have mercy on me. My mother in law is worse narcissist that I have ever seen. I think that's why I am attracted to these people into my life.
@@flyhigh9944 Do you really think that's helpful? The first step is learning how to deal with the situation, or get out safely, and then heal and reflect. Narcissists choose nice people many times, empaths who care. Nothing wrong with being like that.
@@SakinaBinterik thank you for speaking about this personality disorder from Islamic perspective. I think people dont realize how much damage these individuals can do to peace in the family. We must protect ourselves.
2:00 Yes. Thank you for not pandering to the popular errors of modernity on this point. Narcissism is a choice for evil, as the Christian account plainly declares. Cain had a real moral choice.
I have an NPD wife. We just had a tough argument two weeks ago, since she lived 5 hours away from where I live due to work, she was not answering my calls and messages. We have a 4yo son btw and it is so sad he's like "Malcolm in the middle" here. Now, what's worse, her mother believed every word she said bad about me. She message me this morning and it wasn't true, I had to block her number to get a peace of mind. I really don't know how long we have to be like this. All I can do is dou'a.
My parents, sisters, husband and full in-law family narcissist....i have 6 years old child son..from my childhood me and now me and my son suffer a lot.. I don't know what i do?? Please pray for me 🙏🏻🙏🏻...Allah help us😢
Assalamualaikum thankyou sister for this video.I can't cut ties with them bcoz they are someone in my family.yet I maintain some distance so as to not get hurt again .I will seek help from Allah ,to get peaceful life for everyone in this world, and not fall in the trap of shaytan
It's important to remember that cutting ties means not helping them when they need your help. Cutting ties does not mean setting emotional or physical barriers to being abused or hurt, even emotionally
This topic Narcissim. There are different categories types in Narcissim.. Giving information on Narcissism its like a thick dictionary book in deep explanation that never end. I have watched all types videos on Narcissism on youtube. It's only Depend which type of Narcissism you are dealing with.
@@ahmedmehmed8423 This is an issue that the courts in your area must deal with inshaAllah. In the meantime, learn how to make barriers for yourself to prevent harm to yourself until the situation is resolved
I'm Muslim and my family is so called christian.they are really followers of shaitan.and he inspires them against me..Allah is destroying them 1 by 1.and this is by there own hand.suban Allah is my guide and protector.so I feel what it feels like
Please guys remember the Allah SWT gives children Parents who are Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths so that he can test them. It's an exam the children are taking so by passing they can enter Jannah. Please remember that cheating in exams is not allowed. Let Allah SWT test them without you interfering in the test. Allow them to sit this wonderful exam independently and on merit.
I really hope that by cheating on exams you are not referring to learning the tools to manage them, limit contact when they are being harmed and even moving away from them to defend themselves. The test is there, the solutions are many. There is NO barakah or blessing in allowing oneself to be harmed, we do not harm ourselves, and help the oppressor by preventing their oppression.
The knowledge we have now is that it is a personality disorder and it can be treated with talk therapy. It is upon the narcissist to acknowledge that they need to start changing, which a narcissist is not likely to do. We don't condemn anyone as long as their soul is still in their body. The important thing is to have hope (from a distance) and make du'aa. There are people who have sought and benefitted from therapy from narcissism. In addition to that, there are some who only mimic narcissistic characteristics because they have been conditioned to do so, and these too will also be able to get out of it and behave in a healthy way insha Allah.
What if both parents are narcissistic ? And its hurting and harming me physically and psychologically and killing me every single day. I suffered from cancer (from stress nd trauma of death of grandmother ) i suffer from panic attacks and took antidepressants as 15 yr old , i suffer from depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive behavior thats self harming. I lost interest in everything , went silent , they're still on full outrage . I tried everything with them from confrontation to expressing understanding empathy and love and needs , they only used it against me in disgusting ways . I managed to study abroad alone for a year but they followed and continued their torturing. I graduated as the second rank on my class from the Psychological counseling department, im 23 and have a job. I just wanna start living my life . Is leaving an option as a muslim girl? What about marriage , after leaving , they would never accept to be in their lives ... I feel fed up to my bones and furious to cause real harm to me or them.
When I made Allah my priority I feel much easier im my heart and life even problems does not seem so bad alhamdullilah. I am still married to one but, is hard to leave we have a child together but, with Allahs help I started to heal from all abuse
Assalamualaikum,, my sister is a big time narcissist she destroyed my life separated me from my parents and my loved ones and did every possible bad thing she wanted to do intentionally hurt me.. I'm recovering
How about dealing with a Narcissistic sibling? Im 18 (guy) and live with my older sister who left Islam and is a Narcissist. Makes my life way harder in every aspect. Especially with her unhygienic habits, where i have to clean everytime i use the bathroom so that i can practise Islam and pray etc. What do i do?
The tools of the narcissist are all the same. Create boundaries and refuse to be used or disrespected. Be careful, and wise. May Allah help you out of your situation.
@@SakinaBinterik Well theres nothing i can do to not be disrespected, otherwise she might revolt in worse ways. But i do refuse to be used most of the time.
I recognize that narcissism is ever increasing in western society. I am wondering how prevalent narcissism is in Islamic societies. It seems to me that the doctrines of these societies caters to and may breed narcissists -particularly in males. People need to honestly address this issue beginning with the one they call the shining example for all humankind. Narcissists are like little gods of their own little cult. How are behaviors and rules of this any different than the classic narcissist?
Exactly, societal ills of all kinds, including narcissism, breed well in unhealthy environments. Yet one sister from South Asia told me after attending my halakahs on the topic that she felt everyone in her country is a narcissist! Definitely Muslims have fallen from the path of the Quran and Sunnah, as we actually follow Shaytan in creating and behaving like narcissists.
That being said, narcissists are made when parents are ineffective. We used to be healthier as families, but we now allow, condone, and inflict abuse, insult or abandon our children, and this above all things is what creates a narcissist, not society: the family
i’m not sure if i’m allowed to stop talking to my cousin who i think is a narcissist. there was one incident but i forgave her. we haven’t spoken in 5 years and i chose to not reach out to her because in my opinion she has narcissistic traits and when i used to speak to her i didn’t feel positive or that happy bc of some things she does to me + other people. - am i allowed to continue not speaking to her or should i reach out? - i don’t want Allah SWT to not accept my ramadan for not speaking to this relative :(
The sin in not keeping family ties is to refuse to help them when they ask and Allah knows better. We must protect ourselves from harm, this is important in Islam. You do not have to expose yourself to harm in the name of keeping family ties. It is clear your cousin isn't trying to keep family ties with his or her behavior
If you watch the rest of my playlist you can find where I have noted how to manage a narcissist who has authority over you. 'The Muslim Narcissist' book is also quite helpful
SubhanAllah
My husband has all these qualities that you mentioned. He himself left us and is living separately. i was begging for him to come back but now I realized it was Allahs will to remove shaitaan from my home. May be it was best for our children to not witness the toxicity in our relationship. Im hoping he divorces me soon. incase he comes back, im learning how to deal with him. May Allah help me in this process.
Thank you sister!
Ameen! A broken home is not the one where there is divorce, but instability and harm taking place. May Allah make it easy for you.
May Allaah grant you the best of both the worlds sister ❤
@NabeelaRehman-yx6yf Ameen
Some people become religious because they know they have made mistakes and ruined others life. After so many years I came to know that my mother is npd .Now she is religious but her behaviour has not changed much.
Yes religiousness does not change a narcissist, therapy will do that inshaAllah. Religious practice can even be used as a tool of manipulation for narcissists
Spiritual narcissist
@@SakinaBinterik so true. Sometimes I wonder how can someone who is religious create so much division and turn people against each other.
I am struggling with a husband who had 2 narcissistic parents. It is so hard to make progress or have happiness, he is an unhappy person with fragile self esteem, although he has a farcade of someone with an inflated ego. When there is conflict you cant get ahead.
She will never change ...even reciting Quran reading or writing it .... Because they use religion only to cover their dark side of her ...... U may thank to your lord that he Show you real face so u can protect yourself ....
M going through same ... I just hate religious people's .... But Alhumdulillah ALLAH show me reality ...Islam is totally opposite
Built ur relation with book of ALLAH ... It the only way that help you
Narcissist abusive is extremely hard to believe until you've experienced it and even when you experience it it's still hard to believe by yourself
SubhanAllah...
Allah presented me with surah Yusuf during Ramadhan. And now while searching this topic, its the surah again. Allah has bn very good to me in good times and difficult ones. He's always bn there to gv guidance. I was really feeling drained and He uplifts my spirits again
سبحان الله و بحمده ...سبحان الله العظيم..
It is very difficult to deal with person who is arrogant. I have come across many narcissists in life
Yes when you consider that it's a reaction to childhood trauma, it is obvious why there are so many
I have shared your video with my daughters lina 17yo, Luma 12yo, may aAllah bless sister
Jezak Allahu khairan, may Allah bless your daughters and the rest of your family
Jzk khair for an Islamic perspective on Narcissism!
A much needed topic, especially when trying to form boundaries with family members - whilst keeping religion in mind.
Looking forward to watching your other videos!
The rest of the series is on my channel too!
I am glad to finaly see more conversations about narcissism especially in Islam. My question is will nacrsissist ever change and realise what they are doing is wrong.I am shocked and confused how is it that you have some muslims,who pray,fast month of Ramadan and even go to Hajj but are the most arrogant,selfish,manipulative,dishonest,they are willing to take aadvantage of most kind hearted person for their selfish gains and have no emphathy at all. Are they mentally ill or just evil?
Narcissism is not a mental illness but a personality disorder, and there are levels. I say that their actions are inspired by Shaytan because they imitate the attitude of Shaytan. They are responsible for how they treat others, regardless of how they want to blame everyone but themselves. Allah has put the cure to everything on the earth. Talk therapy, working with the narc to bring their heads and hearts out of darkness, is one way.
It's not surprising a narc will appear so religious because narcs want to be seen as the best kind of person. For Muslims, that's a sheikh or an imam. It's why we have to be so careful with our intentions. Narcs can't do anything for the sake of Allah, and so they will not be rewarded.
@@faridaaali6170 Forgiving someone and opening yourself up for more oppression are 2 SEPARATE THINGS
@@faridaaali6170 You misunderstand how a narcissist practices religion. They do acts of worship, making sure everyone knows about it, to show off. This is not done for the sake of Allah or else you would not know about it. That is the difference between someone who is a sinner who does good sometimes and a narcissist. Narcissists could look religious, sound religious and smell religious, but how do they act when no one is watching?
@@SakinaBinterik wow thank you so much,
Ive been searching about muslim narcisstic
You have the best explanation,
Its makes me at ease thingking that my narcisstic mother will not get rewarded by Allah,from all her abusive and drama
Anyway thank you so much !
You're welcome
Was searching for a answer really dealing with the issue of narcissism instead of scholars brushing it off & ma sha Allah found your channel . I'm even more happy that being a female you choose to spoke on such a sensitive & ignored issue . I hope your message & knowledge reaches to more people suffering out their from narcissism . May Allah truly reward you for this act sister Ameen sumameen jazakallah khairun ❤️ sending much love
Ameen, Jezak Allahu khairan
@@SakinaBinterikwa iyyaki ♥️
Asalamu alaikum. I am on the first steps of my healing journey after experiencing narcissistic abuse for over a decade at the hands of a Muslim man. This is an incredible insight you have shared and a fresh perspective of this personality disorder from the angle of Islam. May Allah reward you for your efforts sister.
Wa Alaikum salaam, Alhamdulilleh you are healing. May Allah make it easy for you to find support, help and ease after your hardship.
Great points made . Very different and unique perspective and makes so much sense
Glad you think so!
Sister It’s been 27 yrs I’ve put up with a narcissist husband and his family. He’s the most pious man, but terrible to me. He yells at any opportunity if he can’t deal with a situation or looks bad in an argument. Its his coping mechanism, he sees red and doesn’t care about the consequences. Doesn’t apologise. He brings out the worst in me when he shouts and yells. He’d shout at his mum & sisters, now they don’t want to know him. He’s had therapy but he still can’t help yelling. I’ve asked him to leave now because my mental & physical health is deteriorating because of it. I’ve tried so hard to resist as I know he’d be alone because of it. He’s tried hard to change, but it’s done too much damage to my children and me. My children say nothing to him, they don’t get involved but I can’t tolerate it anymore. I’m really tired. Sick of his intimidation and yelling. He’s tried so hard to beat me down but I won’t allow it, his dad did the same to his mother. I’ve let go, he’s not worth saving
Masha allah. Sister a very beautiful way to look.at things in us humans and how we can study them and become a better human. I hope Allah keeps opening our hearts and senses and keeping us clean and free from Pride. Ameen.!
Ameen
You don’t have to feel obligated to keep a relationship with anyone who repeatedly abuse you
Indeed. However, it is not always possible or safe to get away from them. This series of lectures offers advice for those from whom you cannot separate
@@SakinaBinterik yes, very much... Can't get away... Fully trapped
@@shafinaabdul2898 Perhaps you feel trapped, but Allah does not define you by your experience. You can free your mind and refuse to be treated in this way. Stand up for yourself in a way that is safe, and may Allah support you
@@shafinaabdul2898May Allah make a way for you where there seems to be none, Ameen Ya Rabb.
He Is The Revealer, The Opener, SubhanAllah!!! May He assist all those who are suffering from this, Ameen, myself included.
How are you now, dear sister?❤
@@SakinaBinterikcan swimming or shifting place help ? i just got out of that person 6 months she even used to critize and hit me physically now she try to be religious 247 everything is correct few days ago she hurted a kitten
Alhamdullilah thank you so much for the knowledge of this information because I didn't understand why people behaviour are like this but thanks to you, it all makes totally sense. May allah bless you
Ameen
@@SakinaBinterik when is part five coming out?
Alhamdulillah very enlightening. Precise and powerful
Jezakallahu khairan
I love love your channel, you deserve millions of views. I have been binge watching your content and taking notes. Thank you for your content, I wish people could analyze the Quran this way because there is so much more we don't know. Watching your video made me realize this even more.
Jezakallahu khairan 😁
Ma sha Allah. Can't wait for the next video.
Thank you so much sister. You have no idea how much this video means to me. May Allah bless you endlessly ❤️
Ameen!
Subhan Allah, alhamdullilah Allahu Akbar.May Allah reward you dear sister Ameen. I find peace and comfort listening to your videos ❤
Jezak Allahu khairan
Alhamdullilah sister for this work you have done.
My boys don’t believe the abuse I go through. I am the evil woman for asking him for divorce I am the crazy one for been angry and frustrated.
One of them said to me; the problem is you that don’t believe daddy????
is like I will divorce 3 man
Is pain that I don’t wish to anybody.
Alhamdulillah, Jezak Allahu khairan for your kind words. I am sorry that you are going through this. May Allah relieve you and make your sons excellent, righteous men
@@SakinaBinterik insha allah
Keep speaking about it sister
I really appreciate your video's, jazaaki Allahu gayr❤ your sister in Islam
Subhanallah. This is why Yusuf AS never reached out to his family when he was an adult.
Even after decades, they accused Benjamin as being a 'thief' like his brother (Yusuf) before him.
They would have killed him
Subhanallah, at the age of 45 (25 years too late) and with recent experience, the nuances in this Surah are astounding. Al hamdullah.
Thanks for this video
Masha'Allah this is incredible. I wish you were my therapist. May Allah reward your efforts.
This was such a thorough breakdown and beautiful explanation jazaakillaahu khayra. I really appreciate how much time and effort you put into explaining this from an Islamic lens, it makes a lot of sense. May Allaah bless you in your endeavors
Jezakallahu khairan, wa iyyakum
Love it. JazakAllahu kheiran dearest sister
My husband is a narcissist. I prayed to Allah to give me a lovely in laws and husband who will love me. But Allah give me narcissist family instead. I feel like Allah is joking me. Now I realize this is a test. I will relay completely on Allah. I have been testing severely by Allah right now.
May Allah make it easy for you to get relief. Seek help from Allah, and do not allow yourself to be abused. Remember that Sabr patience is an action word!
Do you ever consider your actions and thoughts which have led you to marry a narcissist. Do not blame Allah, instead look within and see what you are attracting to yourself.
@@flyhigh9944 The first narcissist person I met in my life is my aunt and my elder sister. I have been mentally torture by them since I am young. I thought every relationship should feel like this. But because they are family, they still have mercy on me. My mother in law is worse narcissist that I have ever seen. I think that's why I am attracted to these people into my life.
@@flyhigh9944 Do you really think that's helpful? The first step is learning how to deal with the situation, or get out safely, and then heal and reflect. Narcissists choose nice people many times, empaths who care. Nothing wrong with being like that.
@@SakinaBinterik thank you for speaking about this personality disorder from Islamic perspective. I think people dont realize how much damage these individuals can do to peace in the family. We must protect ourselves.
How have you not blown up your a geniusssss Allhahuakbar mashallah. May Allah raise your ranks
May Allah make me better than you think of me, Ameen
2:00 Yes. Thank you for not pandering to the popular errors of modernity on this point.
Narcissism is a choice for evil, as the Christian account plainly declares.
Cain had a real moral choice.
This is also why we must have some hope for them, as they have the option to seek therapy and become beneficial people
I have an NPD wife. We just had a tough argument two weeks ago, since she lived 5 hours away from where I live due to work, she was not answering my calls and messages. We have a 4yo son btw and it is so sad he's like "Malcolm in the middle" here. Now, what's worse, her mother believed every word she said bad about me. She message me this morning and it wasn't true, I had to block her number to get a peace of mind. I really don't know how long we have to be like this. All I can do is dou'a.
thank you for taking the time to create this it's definitely helping me put things into perspective about a few people in my life.
My parents, sisters, husband and full in-law family narcissist....i have 6 years old child son..from my childhood me and now me and my son suffer a lot.. I don't know what i do?? Please pray for me 🙏🏻🙏🏻...Allah help us😢
Asalamulaikum sister, thank you for sharing this. Just wondering when part 2 will be released.
jazakhAllah ❤
wa iyyakum
Assalamualaikum thankyou sister for this video.I can't cut ties with them bcoz they are someone in my family.yet I maintain some distance so as to not get hurt again .I will seek help from Allah ,to get peaceful life for everyone in this world, and not fall in the trap of shaytan
It's important to remember that cutting ties means not helping them when they need your help. Cutting ties does not mean setting emotional or physical barriers to being abused or hurt, even emotionally
Mufti Menk said you are completely allowed to create huge distance away from them forever. It's not called breaking ties, so no sin on you.
Mashallah sister you help
ماشاءاللّٰه sister good
Jezakallahu khairan
This topic Narcissim. There are different categories types in Narcissim.. Giving information on Narcissism its like a thick dictionary book in deep explanation that never end. I have watched all types videos on Narcissism on youtube. It's only Depend which type of Narcissism you are dealing with.
What depends on what 'kind'? The attitudes and behaviors are all satanic and harmful.
@@SakinaBinterikthese are the type. Overt narcissism
Covert narcissism
Antagonistic narcissism
Communal narcissism
Malignant narcissism.
@@ahmedmehmed8423 This is an issue that the courts in your area must deal with inshaAllah. In the meantime, learn how to make barriers for yourself to prevent harm to yourself until the situation is resolved
I'm Muslim and my family is so called christian.they are really followers of shaitan.and he inspires them against me..Allah is destroying them 1 by 1.and this is by there own hand.suban Allah is my guide and protector.so I feel what it feels like
May Allah guide them and protect you
Thankyou sister
You're welcome
Mashallah 👌
Please guys remember the Allah SWT gives children Parents who are Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths so that he can test them. It's an exam the children are taking so by passing they can enter Jannah. Please remember that cheating in exams is not allowed. Let Allah SWT test them without you interfering in the test. Allow them to sit this wonderful exam independently and on merit.
I really hope that by cheating on exams you are not referring to learning the tools to manage them, limit contact when they are being harmed and even moving away from them to defend themselves. The test is there, the solutions are many. There is NO barakah or blessing in allowing oneself to be harmed, we do not harm ourselves, and help the oppressor by preventing their oppression.
If narcissim is an illness will they still be accountable?
The knowledge we have now is that it is a personality disorder and it can be treated with talk therapy. It is upon the narcissist to acknowledge that they need to start changing, which a narcissist is not likely to do. We don't condemn anyone as long as their soul is still in their body. The important thing is to have hope (from a distance) and make du'aa. There are people who have sought and benefitted from therapy from narcissism. In addition to that, there are some who only mimic narcissistic characteristics because they have been conditioned to do so, and these too will also be able to get out of it and behave in a healthy way insha Allah.
Narcissism is a behaviour who skillfully know what they are doing. Only the mentally ill wont be help accountable.
What if both parents are narcissistic ? And its hurting and harming me physically and psychologically and killing me every single day. I suffered from cancer (from stress nd trauma of death of grandmother ) i suffer from panic attacks and took antidepressants as 15 yr old , i suffer from depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive behavior thats self harming. I lost interest in everything , went silent , they're still on full outrage . I tried everything with them from confrontation to expressing understanding empathy and love and needs , they only used it against me in disgusting ways . I managed to study abroad alone for a year but they followed and continued their torturing. I graduated as the second rank on my class from the Psychological counseling department, im 23 and have a job. I just wanna start living my life . Is leaving an option as a muslim girl? What about marriage , after leaving , they would never accept to be in their lives ... I feel fed up to my bones and furious to cause real harm to me or them.
Have you involved the authorities? You do not have to live like that. Abuse is haram, and also against secular law.
I’m going through this too sister it’s so heartbreaking I can’t even breathe most days feels like I’m suffering inside alone 💔💔💔
Please move away! You are normal and strong 💪
When I made Allah my priority I feel much easier im my heart and life even problems does not seem so bad alhamdullilah.
I am still married to one but, is hard to leave we have a child together but, with Allahs help I started to heal from all abuse
This content is amazing, and will drive some views from an Instagram page focused on mental health.
I am not an authority on mental health, but feel free to share
Beautiful video 👍🇮🇳
Jezakallahu khairan
My narcstc mother does not act according to what she says, she acts oppositely.
May Allah guide us all to better behavior
Assalamualaikum,, my sister is a big time narcissist she destroyed my life separated me from my parents and my loved ones and did every possible bad thing she wanted to do intentionally hurt me.. I'm recovering
wa Alaikum salaam, I am sorry that happened to you. I am glad you are recovering. May Allah heal you and guide her
@@SakinaBinterik jazakallah for replying I felt good that somebody really knows narcissists and how it is dealt with in Islam
How about dealing with a Narcissistic sibling?
Im 18 (guy) and live with my older sister who left Islam and is a Narcissist. Makes my life way harder in every aspect. Especially with her unhygienic habits, where i have to clean everytime i use the bathroom so that i can practise Islam and pray etc.
What do i do?
The tools of the narcissist are all the same. Create boundaries and refuse to be used or disrespected. Be careful, and wise. May Allah help you out of your situation.
@@SakinaBinterik Well theres nothing i can do to not be disrespected, otherwise she might revolt in worse ways. But i do refuse to be used most of the time.
Finally
I recognize that narcissism is ever increasing in western society. I am wondering how prevalent narcissism is in Islamic societies. It seems to me that the doctrines of these societies caters to and may breed narcissists -particularly in males. People need to honestly address this issue beginning with the one they call the shining example for all humankind. Narcissists are like little gods of their own little cult. How are behaviors and rules of this any different than the classic narcissist?
Exactly, societal ills of all kinds, including narcissism, breed well in unhealthy environments. Yet one sister from South Asia told me after attending my halakahs on the topic that she felt everyone in her country is a narcissist! Definitely Muslims have fallen from the path of the Quran and Sunnah, as we actually follow Shaytan in creating and behaving like narcissists.
That being said, narcissists are made when parents are ineffective. We used to be healthier as families, but we now allow, condone, and inflict abuse, insult or abandon our children, and this above all things is what creates a narcissist, not society: the family
i’m not sure if i’m allowed to stop talking to my cousin who i think is a narcissist.
there was one incident but i forgave her. we haven’t spoken in 5 years and i chose to not reach out to her because in my opinion she has narcissistic traits and when i used to speak to her i didn’t feel positive or that happy bc of some things she does to me + other people.
- am i allowed to continue not speaking to her or should i reach out?
- i don’t want Allah SWT to not accept my ramadan for not speaking to this relative :(
The sin in not keeping family ties is to refuse to help them when they ask and Allah knows better. We must protect ourselves from harm, this is important in Islam. You do not have to expose yourself to harm in the name of keeping family ties. It is clear your cousin isn't trying to keep family ties with his or her behavior
My npd mother gives secret silent tremnt
Narc survivor
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Discard them.
My mother turns my sister, sisters in-law and others aganstme and shows I am wrong and notshe
I am sorry this is happening to you. May Allah clear your mind and heart and give you a way out of this hardship right away
How should we deal with narcissistic parents?
If you watch the rest of my playlist you can find where I have noted how to manage a narcissist who has authority over you. 'The Muslim Narcissist' book is also quite helpful
Every person may have some negative traits to certain limits but if someone have such traits to extreme level they r npd
Some can be managed, and some can't. It's more about balancing how much effort you are willing to make in keeping them close
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What if ypu are married to one
Keep watching the series, I get to that