Life Postpartum Has Been Harder than Expected | Slowing Down, Hormone Changes & Feeling Angry
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Really what I'm asking here is does having babies just make you a crazy mama all the time with your emotions? :P
😂facts !!!! I love that you continue to share your raw self tho. ❤don’t ever change that. Thank you for sharing . We are just around 30 months PP BF and my hormones are still all out of whack 😅.
Expecting baby #5
You'll be fine!
I've never considered myself very emotional. 🤔
Have you heard of L-Theanine supplements? They are amazing for stress, anxiety and Rage. 🩷
I would love to try your Cookie Recipe from this video!! Where could I find it? ♥️🤍♥️
For me yes absolutely, what's started to help me is when I start to get mad I just remind myself "anger is a choice" then I do my best to keep reminding myself that and calm down. I have a fiancé, a 1 year old, and a preemie whose adjusted age is just now 10 days old and she's nearly been alive for 2 months. We had a lot of craziness when she was first born because I was NOT ready to have her so early and the circumstances were not the best and her coming early could have been prevented if people would have listened to me when I said was in preterm labor 5 hours before they finally decided to take me to the hospital. It was not my fiancés fault because he was staying home with our oldest while I went in to get the medication to stop the labor. Then his dad kept saying it was braxton hicks and he knows because "he's done this a few times". So naturally I was so angry when we get to the hospital 5 hours later and I'm dilated to a 5 and by the time they went back to get my fiancé I was dilated to a 7. I nearly had the baby without him if the hospital hadn't been giving me meds to try to slow my labor I would have. Also the thing that made me so mad is that if they wouldn't have finally listened I would have had my daughter at home, she wasn't breathing and her heart kept slowing down she very likely would not have survived the birth. They finally listened when I yelled through the phone at the end and told them that they need to get over here because I need to go to hospital so they can stop the labor because I've had a child before and I've had braxton hicks and like I've told them several times I was gonna have the baby. If we would have gotten there earlier when it started they probably could have stopped the labor and I wouldn't have had to go through so much and she would have been healthy. Its stressful but like I said anger is a choice if I focus on that all the time then I will drive myself crazy.
i was telling my friend about not having time to do anything around the house. She said "don't let a problem to be solved become more important than someone to be loved" and that really made me feel soooooo much better!
🥹 love that
Oooh, I felt that deep
I love that perspective 🥹
Love that saying!!
just recently became a mom and oh lord.. no one prepares you for what post partum is like. The lack of sleep, the mourning of your old life, the changing body, the angriness, the wanting to keep everything organized and tidy but not always being able to. It’s a lot. I appreciate you sharing and opening up with us. Makes me feel a little less alone. Thank you! & you got this too!
I’ve never related to a video as much as this one. I’m a new mom with a 3 month old .. I needed this video so badly. It’s crazy that sometimes ppl don’t know how much they really are helping other ppl.. thank you for always being real and raw in your videos. Been watching you for a very long time. ❤
Ugh, Nicole, this video is one of your best. Completely authentic and relatable. Tbh I personally had to stop following a lot of mama content on social media and YT because I felt like so much of it sets unrealistic expectations of motherhood. But this post gets it right. Motherhood and the postpartum phase are so hard and full of very valid emotions. Thanks for sharing this one and not editing out the tough parts. It hits home for a lot of mamas incl me. 😢
Thank you for this very honest comment and feedback 🥹🤎
People just taking motherhood and parenting for granted without understanding that it is harder than most 9-5 jobs
This comment should be pinned. The biggest truth… yet everyone looks down on us.
Oh my. Love your videos! Thanks for sharing 🩵
I relate to this video soooo much, thanks for posting it
Not me crying with you! I’m 32wk pregnant and I already feel mom guilt since I can’t play with my 2.5 year old son like we used to, I hope my emotions don’t get worse after postpartum.
My son Rhythm has those same teethers! Love em
This is the most relatable postpartum video I’ve ever watched. Thank you for making me feel less alone 💕 you’re the best!
Really had to see this video xxx thank you
Hugs to you, beautiful Mum ❤ About working from home. Even if Mom is not working from home, being with the baby (and with 2 kids the other half of the day) is a full-time job. A very exhausting one (I am a doctor, but now i’m a stay at home mom of 3 kids). After the 3rd kid we (my husband and I) don’t even try to explain to people “what we do all day”. Those, who don’t understand, won’t understand.
I also gave birth nearly 5 months ago and it's crazy how similar live goes here :D. I feel these ups and downs, problems with sleeping, loosing my hair everywhere, loving my baby so much but missing some freedom. You and your cold coffee are not alone ! Greetings from Germany
Thank you for sharing. I’m 6 weeks pp with my second and I can relate to everything you’ve said. I’m already finding myself questioning everything I’m doing, feeling guilty if I feed to sleep, should I be getting him to sleep on his own, contact napping, not having 1:1 time with my toddler etc even though it’s the second time I still feel like a FTM who knows nothing. It’s very overwhelming
I’m crying with you. Three months pp. 😢
Babies are a reminder that you need to relax! Preach sister!!! ❤❤❤❤
Lady you do not need to explain yourself @ daycare. Every child is different and not all will become "traumatised" going to daycare. My son has just turned 2 and he started daycare at 17 months BECAUSE he was ready, loves to socialise and is a happy kid, he loves it. I work on the days he is there which is 3, rest of the week im at home with him.
Im currently pregnant with baby No2 and really thankful he is at daycare a few days a week as it gives me time to spend with baby 121 which is exactly what my son had with me. You are doing great as a mom, your son is so happy and a chilled baby x
I think the emotions you are experiencing is completely normal. along with the body going through tremendous hormonal stress in recovery becoming a mothers 1,2,3 times etc is a huge shift in our everyday lives.
I really do believe that becoming mothers the emotions we experience also surface a lot of beliefs that have expired for us. Like learning how to accept help, not trying to “do it all”. Essentially it’s mind & body cleansing and clearing to build a bigger capacity for our bigger lives. Keep letting yourself feel into these experiences with grace. ❤
I like this crazy Nicole a lot 😂 lots of emotions, a bit of rage, cold coffee and trying to feed yourself with a baby strapped on your chest. And also the tears 😅 this is the real post partum and it’s a looooong journey. Post partum is not over until the mom says it’s over.
My 2 year old has learned so much from daycare! There are so many days that she asks to see her friends. I love spending time with her, but my husband and I aren’t as fun as her friends.
Thank you for being so real. I am 5 month postpartum and rage is crazy. I also have a toddler so it can be so overwhelming trying to do everything at once. I’m at the point where I’m learning to slow down for me and my mental health I’m meal prepping and separating house chores. And just enjoying my kids they are growing up too fast. Wishing you the best!
❤✨Mama… you Got This!!! I am proud of You❤️✨…for doing what makes your Family work!!!🎉❤✨…
Its not hormones, you’re tired…I can relate with having a 4 month as well.
I am exactly at this stage right now, already have one under 2 years old + just had a second baby (two weeks ago) and it's very overwhelming. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I’v been subscribed to you for years. You’re so beautiful & and an amazing mama 💖
My boy is 6 months now & your videos have been perfect timing. This video helped my sister & I (her baby born 12 days before mine 😍) I don’t think I have ever commented. I usually don’t comment, I just watch 😆. BUT! This video helped my sister & I understand our sadness we both felt around 4 months after giving birth. I didn’t know it was even a thing & once I was aware from your video that helped us so much! Thank you for this. Truly❤. You’re so humble & strong & you are such an amazing human. I have an 11 year old (yes we started all over again 😅). So happy we did, we waited so long since we were younger with our first. But I do feel a distance from my 11year old because of how much his brother needs from us. But it’s okay I learned. Since he’s older we told him mom & dad need to give him some of our extra time for him to grow & be a great boy just like he is! Now he’s 6 months old & he is enjoying his little brother even more because he’s more aware. He too has waited forever for his brother 🩵💙 But I try to find little ways to show him I care. It’s definitely getting better as the baby gets older. Anywho! I could go on & on but I just wanted to say thank you for mixing in the realness of it all. I love seeing your videos, they are wholesome & fun, educational. You’re a boss! Just because I don’t have my own business or anything doesn’t mean that I’m not a boss in my own way. Understand that everyone. Remember you can be a boss & a great mom in your own way. Having gratitude each day that my family is together. My babies are happy & I give my all to have them experience this beautiful life in the best way I can. That also means I try to have awareness of how I’m feeling too & give myself grace. Especially when I don’t have time for myself. I found that being aware & kind to yourself can go a long way. Even if you don’t have time for yourself when you need it. Keep it up all you Mamas & Daddas!
If your worried about being a great parent, chances are your already doing great ❤💕
In Europe most children go to daycare from age 3 months or at least two years old. It is recommended!
This will sound weird I was a little afraid to watch this video. I was like what if I watch this and its going so easy for her when I'm currently 4 months PP and STRUGGLING. 4 month sleep regression.. changing hormones .. milk supply on a roller coaster and my 3 year old has been in a difficult season. It's just nice to know we are not alone ❤ also PP rage is sooooooo real. I had it with my first. It's all just so hard. Thanks for always sharing the good bad and everything in-between!
Gosh I had such a hard time early PP. A year and half later and I finally feel normal-ish again. It makes me unsure if I want a 2nd baby 😅 it is something that only moms understand. I remember all too well, the sadness, anger, fatigue, mourning but complete and utter happiness at the same time. Wild!
Watching from Germany! Really love your honest content! >3 Is it possible to hear about your sleep routine with Oakley?? Would love to see what you are doing to make him sleep through the night!! Kudos
As a mom I felt this 110%!! The EMOTIONS! During pregnancy I realized how crazy hormones make you because I was constantly annoyed by my husband and one night we were sleeping and I woke up and just looked at him and felt instant anger and I thought “this is definitely hormonal because he’s not even doing anything! He’s just sleeping and breathing and I’m annoyed my him” 😂🤦🏻♀️ he was such a good sport 😂
How lucky you are, your tears are because you have a beautiful baby 🙏 my darling Nicole I cry everyday for the one I lost , she was only 23 years young and the absolute love of my life 😢💔❤️🩹
God bless you and your beautiful family. May he keep them safe always 🙏
I just wanted to say that I needed the solidarity so bad. Thank you for your openness and honesty for this stage in parenthood. I'm four months postpartum today, and I've been feeling the rage and overwhelm (it doesn't help that I have a temperamental velcro baby with low sleep needs, I feel like I'm on hard mode here). I also am having a hard time learning to let go and slow down. I know it will get better
You say you're a mess but i think you look great!! Your dkin particularly is beautiful.
Thank you again for being so honest with how you feel. ❤❤🙏🙏
Haha, I talked about your skin before the skincare moment !!
Thank you for being so real.. I am able to relate to each word you mentioned here.. I am 15 days postpartum and have a sick toddler at home past 1 week and it’s the most toughest time in our life.. people think I am normal but my body is not able to support me to do any work and help with anything at home.. just hoping everyone can recover soon at my house.. everyone’s so frustrated and angry and irritated and tired taking care of the toddler as he’s sick with ear infection..
Praying for you mama 🤍 stay strong
I’m pregnant with twins for the first time and just found your channel. Thank you for keeping it real. It is what it is. You’re handling it really well as you are so self aware and can name things, talk about them, reflect on them. It matters a lot. It sets a wonderful example even if it’s not all figured out (when is it ever) ❤
On top of sleep deprived emotions, I had hyperthyroid-type anxiety, caused by the iodine in my post natal supplements. Only figured that out 5 years later. Can't tolerate iodine or Methyl B in multivitamin 😢
Hi there! This is my first time commenting. (Ever) I am a mom of now 3 beautiful girls. My baby was born 11/3. I started following you towards the end of my pregnancy, which was a really hard time for me. I literally feel like every video you post, I’m like on the exact same page as you. I was just balling my eyes out to my husband last night… I exclusively breast feed as well and am feeling literally the exact same way you are about not wanting help, not wanting to do the bottle/do want to so I can do something for myself.
Anyways. I just wanted to finally comment and say thank you. You’re a beautiful momma and I relate to you so much. I would watch your videos to fall asleep those last few weeks of being pregnant and it helped me not feel so alone. Thank you for being an inspiration. I hope I can do the same for others some day.
This was one of the sweetest comments and I can’t thank you enough for sharing. Sending you so much love during this time . We’re in this together 🤎
Hi! 9 months postpartum now and no longer breastfeeding. I have some facial discoloration. Any skincare recommendations for skin darkening and sensitivity?
Edit: Also thank you so much for posting the reality of the up and down emotions. Since having my second baby and also having a toddler I just feel so overwhelmed sometimes and just really looking forward to feeling like “me” again yet I don’t even know who “me” is because I’ve changed so much.
I've also been experiencing the postpartum anger. I'm home with my 4 and 2 year old, plus my 7 week old and there are moments where I just lose myself. My midwife recommended ashwaganda to help with mood regulation. I've ordered it so I'm hoping it helps. Postpartum is hard, but also such a beautiful and precious time.
I am 10 months pp now and want to thank you for sharing the realities of the pp journey. It’s so relatable and exactly how I was feeling throughout. More of this type of content needs to be shared! Those who haven’t gone through it don’t understand how it is. Love your videos!
Whats the name of your herbal coffee? What's everything you put in it? 😊
I’m 4.5 months PP. Thx for being so real. You got this mama.
Being a stay-at-home mom is a full commitment
I work from home full time and also have a 2 year old and a 4 month old who are home full time, no help, no day care. What’s even more crazy is that I live part time in the city with my partner and part time an hour out of the city with my dad. I take the little boys back and forth every couple days. Let’s just say I’m not excelling in some areas of my life. I’m just keeping my head above water. We do what we can.
That would be a lot to handle. You’re doing amazing
I am 4 months pp and feel all of this so much. The emotional roller coaster has been the biggest surprise. I have never cried so much in my life.
Love following along on your motherhood adventure and watching all of your videos ❤
Where are your earrings from?
You are glowing !
Two weeks post partum and this is so relatable whew…
Postpartum is hard!!!!!¡
I was a stay at home mom for the first two years with my first and was so blessed to be able to do that. I noticed such a huge difference once my daughter started to go to daycare. It's so beneficial for them to be around other kids so I totally get it.
Felt semi-normal for the first time 13 months after having my baby. Thanks for sharing the raw emotions ❤
Thank you for sharing ❤
Omg. Today I was feeling so low and torn apart between wanting to be with my daughter who is 1.5 y.o. and wanting to do other things in life that I don’t have the time for. This thought also made me feel so guilty because I know that she’s so small for only a short period of time and I just have to be present and accept that even though this is a hard period, it will pass and then I’ll eat myself missing it. These feelings are so confusing. And then I watched this video. And it made me feel so much better, knowing that it’s normal to feel what I feel. So thank you. I’m hoping we’ll find the answers we’re looking for.
Totally relate! I’m six months postpartum with an almost 3 year old as well. Def experiencing postpartum rage this time around-just stressful to balance it all!
This is so lovely thank you for your transparency and posting what it’s really like! I’m so impressed that you’re working, setting up cameras and doing so much so fresh into your postpartum journey! You’re doing an amazing job Mama!
Can very much relate! 7 wks postpartum and can understand everything you’re feeling. ❤
The best newborn bubble time but also a lot as you figure out a new routine
I’ve been watching your videos for a long time now and I still absolutely love your content. Thanks for your honesty and you are doing a brilliant job. Keep going mama you can do this x
Thank you for being part of this community
useful video, thanks)
Sending love!
Don’t understand why that person was asking why Sage is in day care…. Each to their own! I was an early childhood educator before I became a teacher - I highly recommended early childhood education/day care… it really is good for their social, emotional and physical development. You are doing great Mumma! X
Congratulations on this video Nikole.
Postpartum was really really hard for me as well..😭 Daycare really helped me with my mental health and my work commitments.
I experienced more anger with my second as well. I think it’s also the fact that you have to get up and keep your first born on their regular schedule plus the baby. It’s just a lot. It doesn’t matter how horrible your night was your other one needs the same care and their regular schedule. That’s how I felt at the beginning anyway.
I also felt the sadness missing my husband and first born when you’re stuck with the other one nursing and all and can’t do all the family time thing that you’re used to.
My son’s almost 2 now and things are much smoother.You’re doing a great job! ❤
Thank you for sharing! ❤ I’m 9 months postpartum, and feel the same way as you are. It started around 4 months, and it just got worse since. 😢
I had my second child a daughter in December and I have a 2 year old son . A few weeks ago my son got sick and we had to keep him home and now waiting for a new daycare he has been home for over a month. I definitely love this time with both kids but I definitely feel the weight of the world in this moment. I keep reminding myself they are only this age for so long and it really helps me keep my sanity. We got this mama !!! You are doing amazing
When you were crying in bed and Oakley was looking at you I cried right along with you 😢 thank you for being so real with us and showing the struggles and blessings that come with postpartum. You are always so inspiring to me. ❤️
I’ve been mia and just now catching up on your posts… I can’t believe how big Oakley is now and how much he looks like Sage! Wow!!!! Sooooo cute!
My daughter (soon to be 4) started preschool in September and it has been the best for her for the same reasons you mentioned and I do not work but I’ve never been more busy in my life! Taking care of home and having a husband with a dama ding job leaves everything up to me and it’s A LOT! Grateful for those hours to catch up on things while she’s at school.
Wow this is just so so relatable! Even two years pp I’m still like this sometimes. My hormones are still off.
Happy to hear you related to it. I love sharing moments like this and normalizing things we think only us are experiencing
So happy to see Oakley he is so calm 💓 and growing nicely.
It amazes me that people have second children lol. My son is almost 14 months old and my husband just had a vasectomy a couple weeks ago 😅 my son had reflux and colic though - I genuinely think I have ptsd from my postpartum period. His first 10 months were so hard, I can't imagine having a second baby but I know not all babies are like that.
I feel ya with the emotions. Motherhood is so HARD! You've got this mama. Also, I took your advice and ordered Teeccino! As an avid coffee drinker for 20 years, I was shocked with how delicious the herbal coffee was! And bonus, no jitters!
I agree 💯 with your speech at the 5th minute of this video. Kids will also learn for each other which is good for their development. Working from home doesn’t mean NOT working.
Ugh super relatable. Here in 4 months PPD solidarity.
Thank you for sharing & for your vulnerability (really I see it as strength though). I am out of this phase but remembering it so vividly with my second little one. It’s so important we show each other real life as women, thank you thank you!!!
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I’m on the same boat and I know how you feel !! Especially first 3 months were one of the hardest times I’ve ever experienced in my life !! But people have been telling me that things are gonna get better after that so let’s hang in there !! 🥰🙌
Recently I've been watching interviews with Dr Erica Komisar and she's been incredibly insightful about paretning and listening to her made me so convincted to embrace motherhood and to be there for my toddler as much as I can. Its also a realisation that I do miss working but I know I'm blessed to be able to stay at home and not have any fomo with my daighter. I totally get about the guilt of bottle feeding, that's why I exclusively breastfeed my almost 2 yo ( I never pumped). According to Erica we get 25 summers with girls and 28 with boys 🙏🏼
Oakley is such a cute accessory!
THANK YOU SO MUCH for being so authentic and sharing about real post partum, motherhood, hormones and all. I can relate so much, and you truly make me feel more normal and less alone. So, thank you ❤
You are so welcome!
Yesss!! I am 5 months post partum with baby number 2 and the hormonal rage has been huge this time. So glad you are normalising it and sharing with others ❤
I'm 3 months postpartum with my 2nd baby and I could not relate more! 😭 Thank you so much for your vulnerability. ❤
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I’m two months postpartum, and I’m feeling the exact same. Too much to do and too little time. Feel the exact same way about my first and my husband. Stay strong.
4 month postpartum here aswell 🙋🏼♀️ This video was soo spot on! Lots of love from New Zealand❤
why did "I can't see Oakley your head is in the way" make me laugh so hard LOL
Five weeks post-partum here, I so greatly appreciate your raw emotion and honesty. Feeling much of the same, but so grateful for every moment with my little one.
I remember the postpartum rage. It was rough! Hang in there ❤
I can relate so much thank you! Im also postpartum about 5,5 weeks with my second and have also a toddler running around. The hardest thing for me is finding a way to give both of my children enough attention, especially with my toddler i dont feel its enough. i can not play so much with her now and she is looking for attention in a way. Besided that i feel so guilty that my newborn is not getting the attention that my first born had. Sometimes when the baby cries I need to finish my task with my toddler, like with potty training and stuff.
This shit is hard. And also the hormones that are shifting continue. I also still want to keep the house clean and do big organizing stuff. Its a lot.
All I’ll say is 4 months postpartum here… so same ✌️
Thanks for this realistic view into post partum life! I love that you didn't force a "perfect" video and stayed true to how you were genuinely feeling. Btw, youre doing great!!!
I understand you mama❤ I have the same feeling like you right now. Your kids are the same age as mine. Sending lots of prayers, love and hugs for you ❤❤❤❤❤
Why are you so cute with your talks!!! It looks like you speak to my every single thoughts running inside of me
Is weird how my mom had 6 kids she’s Hispanic and never had a time to feel bad she said was too busy to think about feelings .she didn’t have time anyways she work and clean and cook .this times are so complicated for people I wonder why ? She not even had help with my dad at all it was all her. Too much technology around us . Get out and enjoy life with the babies walk them and be out to keep them tired .i used to go hiking with the baby and my toddler back in the days we were out a lot and found lots of friends with kids to keep myself busy and also play dates with the kids too.no worries this times will passed let feelings go cry and keep moving eventually you will laugh later on .
You're not complaining you're being real and honest. My boy just turned 3 months old a couple of days ago and I feel like my emotions getting more up and down every day... this is actually helpful to know I'm not going crazy but still healing. Thank you for your content! 💕
You are super adorable! You’re associating all this with baby but I guess this goes out to all women who are juggling with lots of cuteness and work at the same time!! You are giving company to sooooo many unsaid emotions…. You rock ❤️❤️
Aw I just wanna give you a big hug. Thank you for letting us in and being very transparent what postpartum can be like.
Thank you for being so authentic. And I would love the video about your milk coming in. And my baby is 8 months and still feel like that my hormones and emotions are up gmmd down
❤love you!!😊 take good care.
Soooo relatable!!!!
Youre doing awesome ❤
Best video❤❤❤so honest ❤❤