I have a daughter who is an alcoholic. She doesn’t drink everyday but when she does she becomes confrontational. Never physically abusive but argumentative. I agree, it is useless to argue back.
Then when they take a few days "off" from drinking .. Say Sunday & Wednesday. They are nice but question our hostility! I nvr know how my husband's going to be by the end of the day. Dealing w/an alcoholic is like dealing w/a person w/bi polar. It really messes w/my head & I'm @ the point of divorce bc he doesn't seem to care. His father died from heart attack and alcohol abuse also.
This is the worst thing in the world. Nothing harder in life to deal with IMO. It can be so abusive. She hit it on the head. Guy is powerless. Cant react and always our fault. Toughest thing in life. Do you call police? Do you really want that involved? The anxiety it creates is extemely painful. Where does one go. What do you do with the kids watching it? I honestly cant believe alcohol was the legal drug out of all the drugs. We are so backwards. I get it. The world would burn down if it was taken away but my lord it causes more pain and anxiety than any other drug in a family . Sure there are worse that will kill you dead but this is slow death of the souls of all around the alcoholic. Including the alcoholic.
Couldn’t agree more with this. Alcohol does so much damage, yet it’s legal, while cannabis is still largely criminalized and deemed “illegal and harmful”.
She will fixate on one statement I make when I mistakenly lose my cool and can't keep my mouth shut anymore after taking the verbal and physical abuse for hours.
if you swear at her once after hours of her abusing you, suddenly the entire universe must stop and address how your comment made her feel. never mind about the hours of verbal abuse she started with, suddenly, your insult is the #1 priority. and she won't talk about anything else but rant about how you're verbally abusive
I am going through similar experiences...I ran away from my wife to stay at a shitty motel. She's belligerent, abusive and threatening....I really tried my best to get her off alcohol and switch to pot...
I hear you saying that it is better to just leave the room than to argue with the person. Leaving the room for another room may be necessary to keep your physical body safe.
Sometimes the anger thats directed at you, and in that blackout state, sometimes theres another person or origin in their eyes and not you. Stuff from the past they aint overcome
I’m at the point that I just go to bed when the kids go to bed & hope my husband doesn’t come wake me up to yell at me in the middle of the night when he has been drinking. But what do you do about morning yelling? A lot of morning if my husband drank the night before he will yell at me before he leaves for work, about how he does everything for the family & I do nothing (that’s a nice way of putting it) which isn’t true, I am a stay at home mom currently & my house may not be sparkling clean with floors you could eat off but the house is clean just not to his standards I guess (his moms house is always perfect) but staying at home isn’t just about cleaning, we have 3 amazing kids & that I spend time teaching & playing with. I also have lots of hobbies I like to do during the day. It just seems like I’m not enough for him. Forgot to say by the time he gets home from work he doesn’t say anything about the yelling, he just goes on like it never happened (And here I am still replaying everything in my head) If I do bring it up it just starts another fight.
I'm really sorry you've been going through this. I know how hard it could when someone you love doesn't appreciate your efforts. But I really think you should have a serious discussion about this with your husband and ask him to mind his drinking habits. Chances are that he'd be willing to work on it. If it still continues, be ready to leave. You and kids do not deserve that.
Hi Tron. How are you doing? I hope there's at least one responsible adult in your life to take care of and protect you. Thank you for posting your comment. Sending you a big hug.❤
Great video. I now understand why when my husband became violent on Christmas Day he didn't want to leave the house. Love the information you provided wish I found out about this channel earlier ❤
hello! I appreciate the value you are bringing to the people that need you. I've been watching your videos from another account for a year now. I wanted to see if it's possible to interview you and bring awareness and my journey with addiction. from a Pharmacist and Personal Perspective. Let me know how I can contact you. thank you!
What's worse is when both people are drinking! Before I stopped drinking my husband and I had an agreement to not have any serious discussion if we had been drinking.
@@PutTheShovelDown For the most part, yes. But I'm not sure it would work for everyone since we never became physically violent, and even in our worst arguments, we didn't scream and yell - it was no more than sharp, hurtful words.
My son unleashed a barrage of alchol anger on me about his childhood and my struggles as a single mother raising him. Although he has apologized, it changed the dynamics of our relationship because it really hurt me how disrespectful he was. I'm still trying to rationalize his right to his feelings 5 years afterwards. 😢
Maybe you need to validate your don’s anger AND stop only caring about yourself!! Your SON was the one who FELT Abused! Whether real ir in his head, HE BELIEVES IT! Address the issue, STOP being stubborn, OR DON’T - You already lost him
First off, parenting is unbelievably difficult. Being a single mother requires even more sacrifice and is that much more difficult. No one gets it right 100% of the time and no one is given out awards for a job well done. That being said, something that sticks out is your use of "disrespectful." It's kind of a weird thing to get hung up on, if you had any kind of real relationship with your kid. Instead of being focused on what he was actually trying to communicate, you're focused (5 years later?) on HOW he said it? Or did you just not like what he said, as if him saying something you don't agree with is somehow disrespectful in itself? Whatever the scenario, if you're still hurting over it 5 years later, he probably is too.
I was shite faced drunk a while ago with my mum and sister. I don't remember much of it but I was told I started crying and shouting and swaring at my mum about mu childhood. The thing is if someone has been hurting about something since there childhood 5 years is nothing so don't be angry with him because you have a say in the matter. For him to be upset about something that happened long ago he is more hurt than you
Get out of the relationship as fast as you can. It will NEVER END WELL. My sister was a horrible person when she drank, I realized that was who she was and the hatred came out when she drank. She died 2 weeks ago. . . seizures suddenly and her brain was so soaked in blood from the booze, she bled out her ears.
I’m sorry for your loss, that’s a sad thing to see happen to your sister even if she was difficult to be around. My ex boyfriend is an alcoholic and it broke us up. He was horrible and abusive but I still grieve loosing him, I’m sad he just cant be normal
There's no going back after you leave, even if they get help it doesn't erase all the abuse it's best to just go your separate ways permanently. Nobody should have to suffer like that.
@@jeannieGrey I disagree, if they've turned their life around why should they not try and work it out with their husband/wife, especially if there was no physical abuse!!!
Thank you for highlighting the issue for guys. I'm struggling with a partner who is a violent drunk. I've had pinching, scratching and hitting. Also had her chasing me when I try to retreat. The videos really help!
@@jessicaacosta3055 I'm very sorry to hear that. It's exhausting and nerve-wracking living that way. In my situation I owned the house, and had the police remove my partner after an episode where several expensive items were badly damaged. I still see my partner very regularly, but we don't live together now.
One thing that isn’t mentioned is when the angry drunk tries to threaten their own life right in front of you. But if you’re not there, their telling you that they hope they die when they drive away or say you’ll be lucky if their alive the next day
Yeah happens to my father everytime you have to grapple him. Drunk people are cowards, if they want to kill themselves they shouldn't announce it to the whole world. They would just silently kill themselves. I could've strangle my father to death many times but I'm always thinking about my mom, it always saddens me to see her bruises when she grapples/restrain him.
Of course not every drunk is angry but some are. My alcoholic daughter calls her father and me every name in the book when she gets really drunk. She screams that she hates us and that we are the reason she drinks. She has told me she “really” hopes I “die soon”. She gets very angry and aggressive. She has hit me and pushed me down in the floor twice. One time, she tried to put me out of her house in 5 degree weather. I was visiting her at this time at a distance of seven hundred miles away from my home. It was very late at night. I was scared. So, don’t be so quick to say all drunks are mean Or that no drunks are mean. She definitely is! This is my only child. I’m afraid of her when she visits. She doesn’t believe she has a problem. It’s been twenty years of hell.
I understand completely they don't understand how scary they are when they blackout & break things, & get aggressive it's scary because when they come at u u can't help but to throw up hands to protect yourself or push them away then it's even more scary because now mine will start saying I hit him every time even if my knee brushes his in passing & he's angry & blacked out he'll start saying I purposely kneed him & then get really crazy, break furniture, punch holes in walls, even come at me, It's downright a demonic takeover of their body by "spirits", there's a reason they call it that, the empty blackness in their eyes is truly frightening no matter what happens & how bad it is, they do it again, it's been 5 yrs of this for me I can't imagine it being my own daughter it's heartwrenching, my prayers are with you. 😢
Thanks! It’s unbelievable How accurate your videos are And How Well your wordings are choosen. You say things in a humane way, not in theoretical terms That also students learn And no one reallllyyyy understands. Thanks a lot! It’s invaluable. I wish I found tis a lot earlier!
Leave the relationship, its not gonna get better unless the person stops drinking, you have to do this for yourself rather than for the other person, you are the most important person in this situation
Thank you for this video. Can you make one about spouses who become flirty or promiscous, or use porn when drunk who have never behaved this way sober over 27 years of marriage?
My gurl friend is a heavy drinker breakfast .lunch. dinner 7 days a week she can't function without it always has a nasty attitude and very disrespectful towards me constantly
She doesn't take time off from drinking she goes from treatment center to treatment center. She doesn't get aggressive until she gets low on booze. She drinks herself into the hospital usually tales a couple weeks
Going here cause i just experienced an angry drunk days ago. I am not related or have any relationship with this person except his my friend's brother that we hang out with. It was my 1st time, we didn't know he was like that even his brother.. We were all up until dawn because he won't stop. I was scared but i was more scared with what the person will do to themselves. He was punching walls and threathened anyone who wants to disagree with him. I don't think I'll ever hang out with that person drunk or not. We couldn't leave him because we were in another city. It was a traumatizing moment.
What if I'm the father struggling with an explosive disorder issue and I have to retreat from the overwhelming desire to physically advenge his false accusations of past wrong doing, all I can tell his friends is to stay away from me. I retreat to protect myself from acting on these urges, he assumes it's out of cowardice. They've told me they've warned him to stay away from me if he's going to try and intice me into a physical altercation.
Hello I am 13 years old and my mom gets drunk and abuses me ( strangles Me , hits me, punches me, holds me down, says she is gonna kill me I hide that is how I’m alive now pulls my hair pushes me while holding my neck I can go on) what should I do she doesn’t often get hangovers but is the same in the morning as far as I know not on anything no one will help me and there is really nothing worse than telling the school I know what you’re thinking but please trust me I know my life my mom my teachers ( it’s also July right now no school ) and I just know that it would only make it worse someone please help me and tell me what to do ( she is only like this 97% of the time )
How is it when the person who is addicted to alcohol does not want to do anything about it. He gets very abusive both physical and verbal. He wants me to accept it and live with it. It's 7 years
Mine too it's been 5 yrs 😥. He always says he's a functioning alcoholic, it wouldn't even be a problem if I didn't make a big deal out of it, & he's wrong it's a huge problem. I'm 45 I just want to come home & relax I'm constantly worrying about what's going to set them off tonight.
Thank you. Everything in your video is right on. Great: “ don’t feed in.” Maybe be “nice’ aka deescalate. Or Leave if hurtful. Ok. . I have ptsd. My boyfriend has ptsd. Regardless, knkw better, do best
Yeah 1 year sober I tried drinking just one day had physical horrible trauma with partner I punch I need help I’m really not a alcoholic I dont think I’m not drinking anymore ruined my sobriety for nothing 😢
What do you do with a drunk who doesn’t know who you are where they are? Don’t stick around….hmmm. Should I walk to the next city? Then what? Now I’m homeless.
what if every time you go to call the cops they say they will leave you every time forever? This is the biggest threat. Same with getting them any help. " you do that I will leave FOREVER"???
Use to be a happy funny drunk ion really drink no more because I get mean now and I think it's because of trauma I went through while drinking and it brings back flash backs or your just sick of certain things that are never said out loud till drunk
Ithank you I feel the support here and in aa but the most difficult thing is there are members of my family that will never forgive are if I get upset about something they always use my drinking problem are mental health problems against me so it was and is still hard to cut some family members out of my life for the sake of my sobriety and my. Sanity so I just wanted to say I really enjoy listening to this podcast ❤️🙏
Drunks are not angry and mean…… that’s a dangerous stereotype, an illness doesn’t define them, some are aggressive I understand, but some need to feel and process and learn about there emotions, with no cruel intentions. Allow them to be angry or hurt without blaming it on addiction…. Or you take away their validity as a human being. It’s not necessarily abusive…… they have a right to have a crap day too. Needed to say that. I’m not a troll, I just felt I wanted to put my opinion across xxxi understand some of your points for sure, but actually, most alcoholics really can’t be bothered with arguments, they’d rather be left alone when hitting the bottle x
She is talking about an angry drunk. So yes she means the angry drunk. No they aren't all angry but there is a difference between a bad day or an angry drunk. What's dangerous is staying when it gets violent. This is awareness not stereotyping.
Well my ah is angry when he drinks and that's every single day. So yeah it's more the norm bc alcohol over time does something bad to their brain, and it allows whatever anger they feel to come out more easily.
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Omg. THANK YOU. I’m a man struggling with a mean wife and alcohol. I didn’t think we were a recognized group. I’m crying here. 🤦♂️
I feel your pain, does she blame it on you?
Hope all is well In life brother, you deserve better
I have a daughter who is an alcoholic. She doesn’t drink everyday but when she does she becomes confrontational. Never physically abusive but argumentative. I agree, it is useless to argue back.
I’m wit u bro
Praying for you
Then when they take a few days "off" from drinking .. Say Sunday & Wednesday. They are nice but question our hostility! I nvr know how my husband's going to be by the end of the day. Dealing w/an alcoholic is like dealing w/a person w/bi polar. It really messes w/my head & I'm @ the point of divorce bc he doesn't seem to care. His father died from heart attack and alcohol abuse also.
So true about hem questioning our hostility! Often times they don't remember what happened (or at least how bad it was)!
Glad u left and found happiness
This is the worst thing in the world. Nothing harder in life to deal with IMO. It can be so abusive. She hit it on the head. Guy is powerless. Cant react and always our fault. Toughest thing in life. Do you call police? Do you really want that involved? The anxiety it creates is extemely painful. Where does one go. What do you do with the kids watching it? I honestly cant believe alcohol was the legal drug out of all the drugs. We are so backwards. I get it. The world would burn down if it was taken away but my lord it causes more pain and anxiety than any other drug in a family . Sure there are worse that will kill you dead but this is slow death of the souls of all around the alcoholic. Including the alcoholic.
Couldn’t agree more with this. Alcohol does so much damage, yet it’s legal, while cannabis is still largely criminalized and deemed “illegal and harmful”.
She will fixate on one statement I make when I mistakenly lose my cool and can't keep my mouth shut anymore after taking the verbal and physical abuse for hours.
I can relate a lot. You are not alone
100% right.
if you swear at her once after hours of her abusing you, suddenly the entire universe must stop and address how your comment made her feel. never mind about the hours of verbal abuse she started with, suddenly, your insult is the #1 priority. and she won't talk about anything else but rant about how you're verbally abusive
I am going through similar experiences...I ran away from my wife to stay at a shitty motel. She's belligerent, abusive and threatening....I really tried my best to get her off alcohol and switch to pot...
leave
I hear you saying that it is better to just leave the room than to argue with the person. Leaving the room for another room may be necessary to keep your physical body safe.
💯💯💯💯
Sometimes the anger thats directed at you, and in that blackout state, sometimes theres another person or origin in their eyes and not you. Stuff from the past they aint overcome
I’m at the point that I just go to bed when the kids go to bed & hope my husband doesn’t come wake me up to yell at me in the middle of the night when he has been drinking. But what do you do about morning yelling? A lot of morning if my husband drank the night before he will yell at me before he leaves for work, about how he does everything for the family & I do nothing (that’s a nice way of putting it) which isn’t true, I am a stay at home mom currently & my house may not be sparkling clean with floors you could eat off but the house is clean just not to his standards I guess (his moms house is always perfect) but staying at home isn’t just about cleaning, we have 3 amazing kids & that I spend time teaching & playing with. I also have lots of hobbies I like to do during the day.
It just seems like I’m not enough for him.
Forgot to say by the time he gets home from work he doesn’t say anything about the yelling, he just goes on like it never happened (And here I am still replaying everything in my head) If I do bring it up it just starts another fight.
I'm really sorry you've been going through this. I know how hard it could when someone you love doesn't appreciate your efforts. But I really think you should have a serious discussion about this with your husband and ask him to mind his drinking habits. Chances are that he'd be willing to work on it.
If it still continues, be ready to leave. You and kids do not deserve that.
It’s definitely abuse and shocking!
👍
I’m a 10 year old who has to deal with a very drunk dad.
Im so sorry.
We love you, keep out of his way as much as you can. You are a good person and deserve the best part of growing up.
@@AmericanPatriot-1776 yeah.
I love you
Hi Tron. How are you doing? I hope there's at least one responsible adult in your life to take care of and protect you. Thank you for posting your comment. Sending you a big hug.❤
I as the angry drunk don’t wana make people feel feel bad anymore I am trying to understand my self
Great video. I now understand why when my husband became violent on Christmas Day he didn't want to leave the house. Love the information you provided wish I found out about this channel earlier ❤
Hi Oluchi, I'm glad this was helpful! 😊
hello! I appreciate the value you are bringing to the people that need you. I've been watching your videos from another account for a year now. I wanted to see if it's possible to interview you and bring awareness and my journey with addiction. from a Pharmacist and Personal Perspective. Let me know how I can contact you. thank you!
Yes my daughter becomes very verbally abusive on occasions and it's awful.
My current partner has a drinking problem.. he gets so angry like a light switch in his brain . It’s so scary:(
What's worse is when both people are drinking! Before I stopped drinking my husband and I had an agreement to not have any serious discussion if we had been drinking.
That's a very smart agreement to make. We're you able to hold to the agreement?
@@PutTheShovelDown For the most part, yes. But I'm not sure it would work for everyone since we never became physically violent, and even in our worst arguments, we didn't scream and yell - it was no more than sharp, hurtful words.
My son unleashed a barrage of alchol anger on me about his childhood and my struggles as a single mother raising him. Although he has apologized, it changed the dynamics of our relationship because it really hurt me how disrespectful he was. I'm still trying to rationalize his right to his feelings 5 years afterwards. 😢
Maybe you need to validate your don’s anger AND stop only caring about yourself!! Your SON was the one who FELT Abused! Whether real ir in his head, HE BELIEVES IT! Address the issue, STOP being stubborn, OR DON’T - You already lost him
First off, parenting is unbelievably difficult. Being a single mother requires even more sacrifice and is that much more difficult. No one gets it right 100% of the time and no one is given out awards for a job well done.
That being said, something that sticks out is your use of "disrespectful." It's kind of a weird thing to get hung up on, if you had any kind of real relationship with your kid. Instead of being focused on what he was actually trying to communicate, you're focused (5 years later?) on HOW he said it? Or did you just not like what he said, as if him saying something you don't agree with is somehow disrespectful in itself?
Whatever the scenario, if you're still hurting over it 5 years later, he probably is too.
I was shite faced drunk a while ago with my mum and sister. I don't remember much of it but I was told I started crying and shouting and swaring at my mum about mu childhood. The thing is if someone has been hurting about something since there childhood 5 years is nothing so don't be angry with him because you have a say in the matter. For him to be upset about something that happened long ago he is more hurt than you
Get out of the relationship as fast as you can. It will NEVER END WELL. My sister was a horrible person when she drank, I realized that was who she was
and the hatred came out when she drank. She died 2 weeks ago. . . seizures suddenly and her brain was so soaked in blood from the booze, she bled out
her ears.
I’m sorry for your loss, that’s a sad thing to see happen to your sister even if she was difficult to be around. My ex boyfriend is an alcoholic and it broke us up. He was horrible and abusive but I still grieve loosing him, I’m sad he just cant be normal
Leaving the relationship is the best thing until they decide to change on their own with the help of a doctor. LoL
There's no going back after you leave, even if they get help it doesn't erase all the abuse it's best to just go your separate ways permanently. Nobody should have to suffer like that.
@@jeannieGrey I disagree, if they've turned their life around why should they not try and work it out with their husband/wife, especially if there was no physical abuse!!!
@@austin8037 Emotional abuse leaves hefty scars as well, not including affairs, lying, and stealing.
@@jeannieGrey Yes, the behaviors are so disrespectful that you lose your respect for them and begin to resent them. That doesn't just go away.
My goodness she is so spot on about the behaviors.
Thanks Manfred!
Record them.
Thank you for highlighting the issue for guys. I'm struggling with a partner who is a violent drunk. I've had pinching, scratching and hitting. Also had her chasing me when I try to retreat. The videos really help!
So did you stay? I’m going through this right now and I want to stay with him but I just can’t keep tolerating the drunk abuse 😢
@@jessicaacosta3055 I'm very sorry to hear that. It's exhausting and nerve-wracking living that way. In my situation I owned the house, and had the police remove my partner after an episode where several expensive items were badly damaged. I still see my partner very regularly, but we don't live together now.
Biggest issue for sure. Worst ever and hardest thing in life ever.
One thing that isn’t mentioned is when the angry drunk tries to threaten their own life right in front of you. But if you’re not there, their telling you that they hope they die when they drive away or say you’ll be lucky if their alive the next day
Yeah happens to my father everytime you have to grapple him. Drunk people are cowards, if they want to kill themselves they shouldn't announce it to the whole world. They would just silently kill themselves. I could've strangle my father to death many times but I'm always thinking about my mom, it always saddens me to see her bruises when she grapples/restrain him.
Validate the drunk lies huh?
Of course not every drunk is angry but some are. My alcoholic daughter calls her father and me every name in the book when she gets really drunk. She screams that she hates us and that we are the reason she drinks. She has told me she “really” hopes I “die soon”. She gets very angry and aggressive.
She has hit me and pushed me down in the floor twice. One time, she tried to put me out of her house in 5 degree weather. I was visiting her at this time at a distance of seven hundred miles away from my home. It was very late at night. I was scared. So, don’t be so quick to say all drunks are mean Or that no drunks are mean. She definitely is! This is my only child. I’m afraid of her when she visits. She doesn’t believe she has a problem. It’s been twenty years of hell.
I understand completely they don't understand how scary they are when they blackout & break things, & get aggressive it's scary because when they come at u u can't help but to throw up hands to protect yourself or push them away then it's even more scary because now mine will start saying I hit him every time even if my knee brushes his in passing & he's angry & blacked out he'll start saying I purposely kneed him & then get really crazy, break furniture, punch holes in walls, even come at me, It's downright a demonic takeover of their body by "spirits", there's a reason they call it that, the empty blackness in their eyes is truly frightening no matter what happens & how bad it is, they do it again, it's been 5 yrs of this for me I can't imagine it being my own daughter it's heartwrenching, my prayers are with you. 😢
I'm watching as a gay man with a gay male partner. This video is helpful in parts, but missing a situation
Thanks! It’s unbelievable How accurate your videos are And How Well your wordings are choosen. You say things in a humane way, not in theoretical terms That also students learn And no one reallllyyyy understands. Thanks a lot! It’s invaluable. I wish I found tis a lot earlier!
Wow! Thanks for your kind words of support! I'm so glad you liked it 😁
This gave me memories and things I need to know for the near future! Thank you!!!
You are so welcome, Ardarius!
Im going thru this right now
Same here. People become so delusional about stuff.
And then the angry drunk watch this video and counter everything 😂
What I hear you saying is "The rational mind has left the building. Do not argue or reason with them because they are not thinking rationally."
The rational mind has left the building, indeed!
Yup. Stuff makes no sense at all.
I stupidly, would try to argue with them and explain the truth. Then I realized he lives in his own mind.
This decsribes the situation with my alcoholic wife almost to a T.
I constantly deal with this
Leave the relationship, its not gonna get better unless the person stops drinking, you have to do this for yourself rather than for the other person, you are the most important person in this situation
Thank you for this video. Can you make one about spouses who become flirty or promiscous, or use porn when drunk who have never behaved this way sober over 27 years of marriage?
Great suggestion. I'll add that to my list of topic ideas 😃
Drunk words or actions are sober thoughts.
Lol
Just kicked my friend/roommate straight out of my house for being a dumbass drunk. Find a new home buddy. That's how a dealt with it.
what does it mean when they get really angry when they're sober, and really sweet when they're drunk....?
It means they're in withdrawal when they're sober which makes them very irritable, and that they have to have a drink to relax.
My gurl friend is a heavy drinker breakfast .lunch. dinner 7 days a week she can't function without it always has a nasty attitude and very disrespectful towards me constantly
She doesn't take time off from drinking she goes from treatment center to treatment center. She doesn't get aggressive until she gets low on booze. She drinks herself into the hospital usually tales a couple weeks
Going here cause i just experienced an angry drunk days ago. I am not related or have any relationship with this person except his my friend's brother that we hang out with. It was my 1st time, we didn't know he was like that even his brother.. We were all up until dawn because he won't stop. I was scared but i was more scared with what the person will do to themselves. He was punching walls and threathened anyone who wants to disagree with him. I don't think I'll ever hang out with that person drunk or not. We couldn't leave him because we were in another city. It was a traumatizing moment.
just pack your bags guys or ladies and get outta there like pronto.
My Sister drinks and is violent. God help me.
What if I'm the father struggling with an explosive disorder issue and I have to retreat from the overwhelming desire to physically advenge his false accusations of past wrong doing, all I can tell his friends is to stay away from me. I retreat to protect myself from acting on these urges, he assumes it's out of cowardice. They've told me they've warned him to stay away from me if he's going to try and intice me into a physical altercation.
Thank you!
PLEASE KEEP SAVING LIVES!
Thanks Ago! 😁
Hello I am 13 years old and my mom gets drunk and abuses me ( strangles Me , hits me, punches me, holds me down, says she is gonna kill me I hide that is how I’m alive now pulls my hair pushes me while holding my neck I can go on) what should I do she doesn’t often get hangovers but is the same in the morning as far as I know not on anything no one will help me and there is really nothing worse than telling the school I know what you’re thinking but please trust me I know my life my mom my teachers ( it’s also July right now no school ) and I just know that it would only make it worse someone please help me and tell me what to do
( she is only like this 97% of the time )
This broke my heart reading this. Have you any family around?.
How is it when the person who is addicted to alcohol does not want to do anything about it. He gets very abusive both physical and verbal. He wants me to accept it and live with it. It's 7 years
Mine too it's been 5 yrs 😥. He always says he's a functioning alcoholic, it wouldn't even be a problem if I didn't make a big deal out of it, & he's wrong it's a huge problem. I'm 45 I just want to come home & relax I'm constantly worrying about what's going to set them off tonight.
Thank you. Everything in your video is right on. Great: “ don’t feed in.” Maybe be “nice’ aka deescalate. Or Leave if hurtful. Ok. . I have ptsd. My boyfriend has ptsd. Regardless, knkw better, do best
You hit the nail on the head, doc!
Na he's just rude and nasty
Describes my mother to a T
Yeah 1 year sober I tried drinking just one day had physical horrible trauma with partner I punch I need help I’m really not a alcoholic I dont think I’m not drinking anymore ruined my sobriety for nothing 😢
What do you do with a drunk who doesn’t know who you are where they are? Don’t stick around….hmmm. Should I walk to the next city? Then what? Now I’m homeless.
what if every time you go to call the cops they say they will leave you every time forever? This is the biggest threat. Same with getting them any help. " you do that I will leave FOREVER"???
Also a good video if you yourself might be too drunk but still able to be reasoned with. Thanks.
A mean drunk has asked me to marry him hes already been abusive and doesn't remember should I not marry him
No, you shouldn't. You should RUN! 🏃♀️💨
What do you think?
Is this basically true for all addictions that might turn someone angry?
Most of the time, but these tactics may not be as effective if you're dealing with someone who is having psychosis or is angry on a stimulant.
for me personally my drugs of choice (alcohol and opioids) both make me extremely angry and very short with people.
Very miss and hit on points hmm someone hiding something
Use to be a happy funny drunk ion really drink no more because I get mean now and I think it's because of trauma I went through while drinking and it brings back flash backs or your just sick of certain things that are never said out loud till drunk
If you are a mean drunk, then that is who you are deep down.
Put on your armor of light. You earned it
thanks
You're welcome!
You from Greenville SC?
My brother 😕
Me that’s why I’m sober
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Ithank you I feel the support here and in aa but the most difficult thing is there are members of my family that will never forgive are if I get upset about something they always use my drinking problem are mental health problems against me so it was and is still hard to cut some family members out of my life for the sake of my sobriety and my. Sanity so I just wanted to say I really enjoy listening to this podcast ❤️🙏
@@PutTheShovelDown thank you again for the support
Drunks are not angry and mean…… that’s a dangerous stereotype, an illness doesn’t define them, some are aggressive I understand, but some need to feel and process and learn about there emotions, with no cruel intentions. Allow them to be angry or hurt without blaming it on addiction…. Or you take away their validity as a human being. It’s not necessarily abusive…… they have a right to have a crap day too. Needed to say that. I’m not a troll, I just felt I wanted to put my opinion across xxxi understand some of your points for sure, but actually, most alcoholics really can’t be bothered with arguments, they’d rather be left alone when hitting the bottle x
She is talking about an angry drunk. So yes she means the angry drunk. No they aren't all angry but there is a difference between a bad day or an angry drunk. What's dangerous is staying when it gets violent. This is awareness not stereotyping.
www.alcohol.org/effects/drinking-and-fighting/
Well my ah is angry when he drinks and that's every single day. So yeah it's more the norm bc alcohol over time does something bad to their brain, and it allows whatever anger they feel to come out more easily.
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