Man, I'm autistic and a robotics engineer I would love to sit and talk about rockets with your son! It's nice to see such awareness of his condition, I didn't get diagnosed until I was 26 years old, and I went through a lot of bullying and misunderstanding with my family not knowing how to deal with me. You're a great dad and raising an awesome intelligent son!
I'm starting college for Civil Engineering, & you guys give me reassurance that I can be screened for ASD in the future when I'm able, and that I still have many years in my life to figure these things out! Question though, do you think it's better to go through college diagnosed or undiagnosed?
Protect this child at all costs! 😢. As an late diagnosed autistic this made me cry. Just feeling all the things I used to feel-remembering being that age.
I am 49 and I stemmed all my life. Had a hard time on school but loved to learn. 6yrs to get BA and three 1/2 yes for masters! I did it even with the constant starting a task while thinking of three other things but texting my family. It’s always just mind in overdrive! Taking a class this weekend on rekki to heal my mind n quite the noise 🎉🎉. I am curious if I am but I will test my two sons 10, 8urs old.
Same here. I did similar things at school. I've had struggles but i've always masked them. I have never been diagnosed. My son was diagnosed 4 months ago.
I also have light/high functioning autism. Connor reminds me of myself. He seems very mature for his age. I have been told when I was growing up that I am more mature than most adults. I am still told that I am more mature than most people. I was diagnosed with it at age two.
autism is autism, there's no 'light autism' unless you are mistaking autism for some co-ocurring conditions (think about it mathematically and you'll see what I mean). what you referring to is called low support needs, not 'high-functioning'.
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
That is not what we came for, we have no need to go anywhere. We came to your neurotypical world to show how love can be chosen/emanated/given even though it is barely received; on the contrary. We care for you neurotypical humans, not for your stupid systems and tools which you love to worship so much.
Hello Connor, I am 16 years old and I was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism 12 years ago. I find it really hard to make friends and to find like minded people. I always feel a sense of relief whenever I make a friend. In my spare time, I like to research, watch tv, and play videos. Quite frankly, I am glad that you cherish the moments you have at home. Home is very much my comfort zone, it provides me a sense of peace and compensation. So you know Connor, you are a very articulate and intelligent individual!
Conner, I forgot to tell you, I’m so proud of you, and I’m a scared Grandma of a 6yr old with the spectrum. I’m so proud and you bring a little relieve into my spectrum world
I also have a 6 year old grandson with autism and he is struggling in school. Thanks young man for explaining this to us so we can have knowledge to help our grandchildren.
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
@@-TammyJean- I have a 9 year old grandson with autism as well. The best thing his parents have done is deciding to homeschool him. He is thriving now. I still worry about things though. Hugs.
Tears!!! I wish this world will be more educated when it comes to Autism. Great Job Connor!! You have great support at home. Good job dad!! Thank you for sharing this video!!!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Connor, I am SOOOOOO showing this to my son …. He struggles to accepts his autism doesn’t always have to be a challenge. I can tell from just listening to you that you are just as super bright and creative as my boy… what a wonderful example and role model you are for your amazing and perfectly perfect community… can’t wait to show him…
Hey, Connor. My name is Amanda. I am a adult with High Functioning Autism or as you so eloquently put it “light” Autism. A little tip to help with Dyspraxia. When you are running especially in a confined space touch the walls. This will help orient you in space and time so you are less likely to run into things. I still sometimes trip and stub my toe though, even now. I hope that makes sense and helps. I wouldn’t want you to break your toe. Good luck out there! 🙂
I stubbed, and subsequently broke, my toe in a swimming pool once pushing off the side. When I told my friend I was with at the time he was laughing at my reaction to it and didn't believe me and asked how it was possible to do that. I said I didn't know but I did. Well about 5 or so minutes later my whole toe turned deep purple. And finally I could point that out and say see!! I'm not lying. My friend then felt bad about teasing me, but also said that only I could manage to do that. Lol! Editing to add that at the time neither of us knew I had high functioning autism. So my friend wasn't being mean. I didn't find out until I was in my 40's!
No running in the house is not a rule anymore? I thought that was taught in Parenting101 and had nothing to do with whether you are special needs or not. Back in the old days, when remote controls first came out, if you were a little and wanted to be like your Dad, you'd get a key ring with all the unuseful keys to keep in your pocket. Just like Dad. If you ran past the tellie, it would change channels because of the keys jingling in your pocket. If your Dad missed the Red Sox hit a home run then, oh boy! That is why you don't run in the house.
Thanks Conner! Your relative (your Dad is my cousin) who is 16 years old has "light Autism" and has similar feelings as you. He's most comfortable at home too. He can blend in in public (mask) but he breaks down when he comes home from the social stress he experienced and from masking so much. Thanks for being brave and sharing your feelings! You're awesome!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
“home is the most comfortable place” i am really happy to hear this. for me it was really uncomfortable place until i started to live alone. but i’ve found the most comfortable place for me (after my room) - techno clubs. people don’t watch you in the eyes, you can move like you want, everyone respect your personal space, no small talks if you don’t want them, you can have a verity of smiles on your face (this is my steaming- crazy smiling) and if someone sees it, they think you’re on dr*gs. music goes through you, moves all your organs.
@MpFor real now?? In every single comment you hide your little add- phrase? Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
Techno clubs is literally the worst place for ppl with autism to go to , I can’t think of a worse place , loud noises, crowded spaces, flashing lights, drunks all over, conversations everywhere , it’s gotta be #1 On the nightmare list for an aspie (i have Asperger’s)
Thank you, Connor, for putting your thoughts into words so well! It seems like you were trying very hard to answer your Dad's questions as best you could, even though some of them were a little challenging. I would like to thank you very much for making this video, and for sharing your experiences and knowledge with others. 😊
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
My friend has high functioning Asperger's and nor only has she attained a BA in interior design, but also work in communications. She hates crowds and noises that suddenly pop up behind her. She's better in mathematics than I am, but tended to be a little literal-minded when I first met her. I used to nickname her "Saavik" from "Star Trek: The Wrath of Khan", but she's more like Cdr. T'Pol in "Enterprise".
❤❤❤ my 6 year old was having issues with having friends and with teacher. We requested an IEP, and they found that she is on the Spectrum. They called her someone who needs little support, because academically she is in the 90% percentile. Thank you for doing this video. I can see how smart you are and it makes me feel that my daughter is not alone in her light Autism. ❤
When my 4 year old was diagnosed with mild autism about 5 months ago, your channel was the first place to give me hope. I can't express how much I appreciate your videos. Judging by my kid's response to the speech therapy and OT in this short span of time, I feel like he is most similar to Connor. Today, I kinda think of Ian, Connor and Alistair like I would think about my own nephews.
My son 4 yo diagnosis with moderate autism in 2.5 yo, now he doing therapy (ABA VB) and showing improvements little by little.. oh ya, and the first channel i look up to is from Mary barbera..
@@rivainursetyo9296 Please look into the dangers of ABA more, new research shows that it can be very damaging and possibly even traumatic for autistic kids! They teach you how to hide your autism and they teach boundaries as a bad thing, which can lead to problems with setting any boundaries at all later in life which can be really dangerous. I'm not trying to say what you should and shouldn't do with your kid, but please do be aware of the possible negative long term effects of ABA
@@evelyl6620 if not already engaged in some occupational therapy (speech & fine motor mvmt skills). I like the social-relational approaches I’ve seen so far. (Floor time developmental learning, Rdi for children ready to engage in back and forth communication and social skills learning)
Hi Connor thank you so much for sharing, I’m 24 and your insight made me realize I masked like my whole teenage years even at home until recently. My mom told me the other day I “act more like myself like when I was a kid” now and I think it’s because we moved around a lot and FINALLY settled down and I feel comfortable at home again…🌸
Hi Connor, I am on the spectrum too. I really liked your analogy that stimming is just like breathing. Good luck to you! You are articulate and self-aware :)
He is awesome! I wish him all the best in his future. I'm 27 and I haven't realised until recently what my "problem" was. Great to see such a supportive dad😊
@@casluvs I am 100% confident gut biome influences dna expression.....and gut biome is influenced from pre-birth (mother's biome), and inherited at birth through direct biome transfer through exposure... SO yes, everyone on the broad category of "spectrum" should be on an organic, low acid diet, free of preservatives, fillers, gums,, etc..., and most importantly, low refined sugar. Anyhow....as society becomes more on the spectrum from the food it eats, get back to me on this.....but please, do your own observations. Bad dIet run in families stronger than genes.
@@glen.simpson what? One cannot "become" autistic, they are either born autistic, or they are never gonna be autistic at all, lol Has literally nothing to do with diet
@@mparagames wait and see... it is the gut biome of the mother, whom shares it with the child, then subsequent diet factors, that dictates most of these developmental delays now being called asd... so yes, true asd, if there is such a thing now that it's been "spectrumized" would be genetic, not congenital. AGain, diet and biome dictate dna expression..... even if that's hard for you to believe.
What an extremely bright and inquisitive, articulate, and well spoken, young man!! Although we all have our strengths and weaknesses, those who are gifted and blessed with extraordinary minds like this will go on to be the experts of the future
Good job Conner. My teenage son has " light autism" also. School very stressful for him and me as well knowing what he had to deal with ,but he is the most wonderful child in the world to me. Very proud of you
I’m so impressed with you Connor and I’m also impressed with your father the way he is being so much a part of the conversation with you I love the fact that you can be so mature at your age to see there’s nothing wrong with isolating between what you’re calling stemming or how you might act in a social environment masking I believe the more genuine human being is when you’re alone with your family and allowed to just be yourself I guess that’s what you’re calling steming. You seem so honest and genuine Connor I wish I could be more like you if everybody was more like that it would be a better world!
Love this, thanks. I have a 5-year-old who is pretty much just like Connor, and it's really helpful to see how other kids and families do life with autism!
Thanks Connor you are another version of my son looking a lot like you physically and phychologically, and myself at your age! I transmitted my Aspie world to my son and I’m proud of it. Take care
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Thank you so much for doing this video, Connor! I have 2 grand kids who are not high functioning like you. It's very hard sometimes but I think I'm getting better at understanding them. Hear you speak so clearly - so well spoken, focused and intelligent - made me smile. My grand kids are getting help and I hope they are like you when they get older... though I would not be upset as long as they can live and be happy. Well done, young man!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Thank you Connor for your video. I have learnt much more about Autism and this is going to help us look after the lads with Autism that we work with in our Men's Shed in Adelaide, Australia. Keep up the great work Connor.
I'm on the higher functioning end of the spectrum and since I'm a girl, it took me 14 years to get a diagnosis. My main struggles are social interaction and sensory issues. I have no idea how to make friends and most things people find nice (pastel colors, bland foods, taking baths, talking about trends) I hate, and the things I like (bright colors, silence, sharp tastes, being dry, talking about deep aspects of life) people hate. I am now 16 years old and got an official ASD diagnosis 1.5 years ago, right before my 15th birthday. I started noticing weird things in myself when I was 8, I kept telling people about it and all I got was "You're just really smart" (my IQ is somewhere around 150ish) and so I just stopped saying anything. 5 more years of suffering later I received my first phone and one of the first things I did was look up my behaviors to see if anything matched them. Turns out it was one of 2 things: ASD or ADHD. I researched for 6 months before finally telling my parents that I thought I might be autistic. They told me it wasn't possible, because they had met autistic kids and I didn't scream, kick or bite. After 6 more months I was able to get therapy and my therapist scheduled an ASD assessment. I walked into the neuropsychologist's room and after 30 minutes of talking, before the tasks were even given to me, she said "You know... You are right. You are autistic, I can see it" and not even a month later I was diagnosed. My mom apologized for not believing me. My dad still doesn't believe I have autism and says I am just a lazy brat. It hurts to hear him say that, but I'm learning to ignore it. All my old teachers said "Oh but she doesn't look autistic, are you sure you had the right diagnosis?" or even worse "Well but she's got such mild autism, if she even does have it in the first place, she surely doesn't even struggle that much!" Meanwhile my brain: "Hi!! Did you know that dogs sweat through their tongue???? Because they have hair so if they sweat from their skin they would be constantly wet! Do you want to be my friend? ...No no no that sounds weird they will think I'm weird... Let's try again... Hi. I'm Rebecca. I'm 16. I like dogs. Do you want to be friends?" (that usually is perceived weird anyway so people kind of walk away and I spend the following week thinking what I did wrong...) Also my brain: "Loud noise, loud noise, loud noise!!! Flap your hands, it will help... Oh wait, no there's people... Ignore the noise, ignore it!" until eventually KABOOM (meltdown/shutdown) Also my brain: "OOOH LOOK THERE'S SOMEONE NAMED PIERRE! You should definitely talk about your favorite singer!" goes up to person: "Did you know that there's a Canadian band called Simple Plan and..." Just because people don't see the struggles, it doesn't mean they aren't there. I'm commenting both for this video and the "Your Child Doesn't Look Autistic!" one. Sorry if it's too long. I had a lot of things on my mind hehe. Also hi Connor! I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to make this video! Wish you and your family a great day/week/month/year
I love how honest your comment is. no need to mask how you feel and what your brain does. You deserve to be heard about your struggles, their hard enough as it is without people their comments. really wish for the people around you to try to give you more respect. Rememer you deserve it!
I read it all and let me tell you, thats was a very accurate description of how I felt growing up. Im now a bit older then you and just recently realizing what I have, but its definately similar to your experience besides me not actually going up to people because I was too scared of them judging me (rsd from adhd if youre aware of what that is)... we wouldnt even need therapy if we were accepted by our true selves, but guess what, no, youre just too weird apparently to speak your own mind about whats going on in it... yeah, the not stimming around people struggle is also real for me, probably also due to rsd and/or maybe anxiety. Gathering knowledge about it made me realize I have another autistic friend ahah she was always perceived as weird because she wouldnt care about "norms" she would burp and not give a damn, she would be constantly stimming in class, picking wax out of her ears or rubbing her legs in a circular motion 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh, and ralph from the simpsons is probably autistic too. Anyway, today more then ever, I realized autistic / neurodivergent people is who I feel confortable with, because I dont feel I need to put on a mask (which I never even learnt how to anyway), so yeah. And I would totally not mind to be your friend and I wish more people see you that way. Because youre awesome! 👋 Because youre a very smart person, let me also tell you most people dont realize it till much later, because we have it mild, and so we tend to not really care until it deeply affects us and/or use coping mechanisms to deal with certain emotions we dont want to feel (until we "cant" hold the pain anymore and we really feel the need to figure ourselves out and why we are rejected). Also adhd/add (very common comorbidity), especially add, which goes invisible to most people, may put some of us in an even harder spot to figure out whats really wrong... And I might wrong, but I would bet this kid was only diagnosed because he has an autistic brother already and because of his particular articulate speech, which I and many other autistic people dont really have. If you see me on the streets and talk to me, you wouldnt really be able to pick anything that easily, just that Im a very shy person, but with the knowledge I have about autism now, I picked it up as soon as he started talking...
@@embuscadochifreinexplicaca5960 What you said means so much to me! Officially I am diagnosed with autism and anxiety but my therapist said I could be also diagnosed with ADHD and OCD (but they "wouldn't help me get a job when I'm older") so I understand the ADHD struggle, though I have more of an inattentive form of ADHD. I also am in therapy for DID because of childhood stuff and honestly it doesn't really help my overall situation. I would love to be friends, though I'm not sure how as we can't really have lengthy conversations on TH-cam comment sections ^^'
@@games_bond7221 Well, thats good youre getting the therapy you need, even if it doesnt help much. About the adhd diagnosis in specific not really helping you when you are older, thats not really true if you have it (or it gets) that bad like someone like me, because atleast the meds for it, they certainly help with the executive dysfunction struggles and the RSD aka it helps me being who I really want to be around people, if that makes sense. I also started developing OCD at one point, but somehow magically, I dont struggle with it much anymore, but at one point, I "needed" to read the same paragraph or line of text of a book like 10 times to feel good and not anxious. Do you have in-stagram or d-iscord? (fear of youtube deleting the comment because they dont seem to like certain words lol)
My 18 year old son , Noah, is high functioning. Noah said it was very hard to focus at school too. Ya’ll are so incredibly intelligent! Much love from Alabama ❤
Thank you for these insights Connor. As the mom to a high-functioning autistic child (who is now an adult studying electrical engineering) , I really appreciate everything you said, your thoughtful explanations. They help me understand my son so much better and love him for who he is. And also help him navigate this world. I wish you all the best Connor. Thank you for your courage and honesty.
The amount of insight Connor has is refreshing & admirable. A great visual video for people to understand the basics of ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
I have high functioning autism and anxiety.Sometimes I scare to have eye contact because it makes me feel uncomfortable and giving me anxiety.I love to make EDM music becuase it gives me comfortable. Thanks for the video Connor!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Well if it makes you feel better, eye contact with mammals can be a sign of aggression so it makes sense to feel uncomfortable with it. If you stare at humans or any mammal, it's confrontational. People are not supposed to make too much eye contact with you, if they do then they're just rude. Even in a conversation, you're supposed to look away sometimes, not make eye contact square on the entire time. Looking away is a sign of respect. That's why a dog that respects its owner/pack will look away from eye contact for the most part.
This video popped up on my recommended list of videos. I am so glad such channels exist. I too am autistic (HF). I am 44 years old and didn't suspect to be autistic until 7-9 years ago. I told some of the folks who knew me ever since I was young and they totally agreed that I have many symptoms of Asperger's more specifically. Good luck to you and your entire family.
Wow what a perfect kid. I especially love how Conner seems comfortable in his skin talking about autism positively. Most adults with autism are like “Woe is me..” I personally love being autistic and realize all of the down sides have only to do with the rest of the world not understanding yet.
Thank you Connor for being so open and sharing your experience with autism. I was diagnose with high functioning autism after 62 year and I finally know why I did and do certain thing now .When I was a kid I mask a lot but did not even know to use the word mask . I just want to thank your whole family for sharing. It really helps to understand as I share some of the traits you and your brothers have. At my age we did not have the therapy treatments we have today.
I love this conversation. My son is four years old with autism and does all these things. Connor explained about engagement with things that interested him in coordination. Connor for president! God speed. You're fantastic, like my baby! :) Thank you again for the video.
Many thanks for sharing your world with me. I learn so much in understanding my 3 year old’s world. This help me a lot in relating to my son and helping him. Great job Connor.
My daughter is 14 and has "light" autism(I love that) she is an amazing kid, smart funny creative, kind, and loving. I am so glad to have found your channel. Thank you
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
My grandson has high functioning autism. It's helpful to hear you share information about yourself for me to better understand my grandson. Thank you Connor !
Thank you, Conner; you did great at clarifying. My child just got diagnosed with ADHD, On High Spectrum function, Sensory Disorder, and the list continues. I am trying to learn everything that I can. Thank you, Dad, for posting these videos.
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Ian, Connor and Alistair are such lovely, intelligent, charming young men and these videos are delightful. I was diagnosed this year at 53. It's been a struggle but this channel both helps and warms my heart. Thank you for sharing your family with us.
What you do is awsome Connor, because you help a parent like me understand better my own son. He is not as verbal as you are so he can't always explain what he is going through. So by talking about your experience, you help him although everybody is different , and there is "ligher" forms of autism , there are still things in commun.
It made me so happy when he said home is the most comfortable place. I wish I could’ve been able to say the same at his age. It’s so awesome that he and his brothers have such a supportive home and family.
Wow! He reminds me soooo much of my daughter. She's 15 and high functioning autistic also. She's so smart and such an amazing artist. She also won Math Student of the Year at her school last year. She doesnt allow her autism to get in her way. She actually says she likes having the type of autism that she has because it's like a "super power." (her words not mine) She can hyper focus on things and once she learns something she never forgets it. She's an awesome kid and I wish you guys lived in Maryland because I know our kids would get along very well.
@Mp truly? In every single comment you hide your little add- phrase? Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
@@TableForOne01What an unnecessary b**chy comment.. ew. It's called relating and sharing. You see that the uploader hearted her comment, right? So give the facepalm to yourself maybe. 🙃
Kudos!! From one parent with more than one child with Autism out of 4 to another parent with the experience. Thank you for sharing. I often use videos like yours to help my husband (their step-father) better understand our children, their needs, and how they function. My oldest has ADHD and other health issues, my two in the middle are ADHD and borderline Autistic. It is NOT EASY!! Parenting is not easy, but many do not realize how much harder it is when your children have special needs, especially more than one. You also don't always get the help you need with 504's, IEPs, and etc when they are functioning. Sending hugs and prayers from our family to yours. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤
He reminds me so much of my kids. I have 6 and we have recently started seeking diagnosis for the oldest. My husband and I have suspected for a couple years (after research) that we are both likely high functioning. I love how you speak so respectfully to Connor. I often feel like I'm speaking to grownups trapped in little growing bodies when I'm talking to my kids. We homeschool all of ours, so they're very deep into their interests and very poor at masking. The amount of anxiety I've had my whole life from masking versus my children's inability to mask and their comparative lack of stress... It's a double edged sword, and difficult to navigate. I'm so happy to see the world becoming more accepting and accommodating towards high functioning autism and the amazing things we have to offer.
Thank you so much Connor. My grandson is on the spectrum and your video is helping me understand better what he is experiencing and helps me to figure out ways to be more supportive of him in a meaningful way. Thanks to your Dad too, for the videography work. You guys are doing a great service. :D
Very smart young man! Conner, thank you for sharing about your autism. It helps the rest of us that don’t know much about your problems to understand. I appreciate your courage.
Your son is gorgeous. 100% autism is a gift! My son is just like yours. You left out the greatest gift=creativity! Thinking in pictures! These beautiful minds are truly creative geniuses and can see in alternative ways most people cannot. Embrace this uniqueness. My love, no need to mask or hide your autism, be proud. God made you this way on purpose, as He told me about my son. He does not make mistakes. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. Psalms 139:14 NKJV ❤
Masking isn’t usually a decision, we just do it as a survival mechanism. Like he said, it’s like breathing, it’s don’t automatically. As we get older we can decide to learn how to unmask but it comes with great risks. We can loose our whole families and friends. But after so many years masking, some of us have no choice but to unmask and loose all our friends and family.
“We’re okay with you stimming at home right?” “Yeah” Thing is… all of us out here.. we don’t NEED to be okay with it, Connor. You don’t need to mask. If someone judges you for it, take it as a blessing because you’ve just seen their true colors upfront. You know not to put your heart and trust into that person. It may sting people people treat us badly but often times it’s truly for the best as we learn from the start who they truly are as a person.
Yes completely agree. It’s ok to stim at home AND anywhere else. The onus is on the public to feel comfortable with it, not for autistic individuals to have to keep masking for other people’s comfort.
I think this is somewhat unfair for the general population: some stimming behaviors can be very alarming if people are unfamiliar with the source of the behavior (self-soothing). It could point to some serious neurological condition, like seizures, to the untrained eye. That doesn't make people bad, just concerned and unfamiliar.
@@bernlin2000 if the stimming is self-harm, it's most likely due to trauma or what you mentioned, but telling someone to stop rocking because you simply don't like it is stupid when you can 9/10 walk away and control your own autonomy. It only makes them uncomfortable that others aren't conforming to their norms which is the ableism everyone suffers from.
Connor reminds me of my identical twin boys. They articulate their words so well and are intelligent beyond’s their years. My twins were diagnosed at 3 years old. I just found your channel and it reminds me im not the only one walking the autism journey with my children and family ❤️
Conner, thank you!! 🙏🙏🙏 You give me hope for my own 2 year old son. I am terrified. When he goes into his loops, I feel as if I lost him. He is non verbal and I want nothing more then to have a dialogue with him. Thank you so much for giving me a glimpse into his world.
You are an amazing person. Thank you for teaching folks about how the world is for you. My daughter also has autism "light". Videos like yours help her feel less alone. Rock on! You inspire me.
I'm almost 70 and only learned a few years ago that I was autistic. I fortunately stumbled into engineering where quite a high percentage are autistic, most without realising it. Had a great career and family. Knowing my condition mostly helped my wife understand me better.
Connor, you remind me of my son who has autism and ADHD. You are smart and well spoken like him. I’m glad you and my son live in a world that is trying to learn and understand autism. Thanks for helping us all learn and grow!
I love how this is from your kids point of view! So many parents and people in general act like Autistic people's opinions aren't important. Especially about ourselves!!
i laught they way he says "a lot of times" at 4:24 like it still hurts cos I do that a lot that I had my one little toe broken in 2 pieces, now it's permanently broken.
I am a 14 year old boy from Ireland with Autism. Being autistic is something I prefer not to take notice of. However, being autistic is very annoying as I easily have issues understanding people, issues with school, etc. Thanks for this awesome video. It helps me relate to you guys, and it helps me realise I am not alone (Even though I have friends with autism too).
Hello Connor. My name is Emma and I live in England. My son is 16 years old and has autism, he is what you call 'Light Autistic ' too and he does well at school. He does find it very hard to make friends through. Thank you for making the video, it's so good to hear different perspectives. X
You are uniquely gifted to encourage others with Autism,and to educate others to be more understanding.Your parents most love you so much! Have a great day!
Hi Connor. Wow, what an interesting video you made. That takes guts, well done young man! I've learnt so much from you and wanted to say thank you. Well done, You are very intelligent and brave and I'm sure you will help many people this way. 😁
This is great content, thank you so much. People being undiagnosed causes SO much hurt both to themselves and later on the people they depend on them (I think my mom might be undiagnosed). And then, I know people that have been diagnosed early on and yet have felt (scratch that, they HAVE BEEN) so discriminated against, it's very heartbreaking. So awareness and acceptance, which is what this channel brings about, is SO great. Thanks again.
I was questioning whether or not we got the right diagnosis for my 5 year old today and Connor’s video reminded me so much of his mannerisms and behaviors. My son is so articulate and expresses well with words so the drs and I were a bit conflicted, but I see my kiddo in the way Connor explains, his shifting while talking, his tone of voice and the way he’s making eye contact. You seem like a wonderful young man, Connor! I hope my son continues to grow to be as articulate and bright as you are
I am 55 and was diagnosed with high functioning autism / Aspergers syndrome 10 years ago. Whilst I recognize all the things that you are talking about, I must say that I am very grateful that I didn't grow up 'wearing the spectrum T-shirt', as it were. It helped me to work harder to overcome the typical challenges we guys struggle with. I became a teacher and an expert at masking. Having said this, receiving my diagnose at 45 was a game changer and a joy. Today I proudly 'wear my Asperger T-shirt' and celebrate being autistic. I work with kids like you and they are my best friends.
I'm 42 and just found out I have Asperger's. I understand and agree with your point of feeling joy by knowing now. I feel like so much finally makes sense.
You’re lucky! I didn’t get diagnosed until my late 30s. I’m one of the many who developed severe C-PTSD from being isolated and made to feel that something was “wrong” with me for my whole life. If I had known it was just autism, I would have been able to cope MUCH better. Living life constantly masking will destroy your mental health - especially if you don’t even know that you’re masking, let alone why. Ideally, I would have found out as a late teen or young 20 something. Growing up undiagnosed definitely made me tougher and more resilient. ..but it also broke me eventually. I’m not saying you’re wrong btw. I 100% understand what you’re saying and it’s totally valid. It’s a spectrum and everyone’s different! I’m just offering a different perspective.
Yeah, everyone's experience is different and valid, I personally think that it depends on how much it has affected someone's life, sometimes people can be cruel and bully you, and trying but not getting the results you wanted can be detrimental to mental health and can lead to the appearance of Depression/Anxiety, so yeah, it's not as easy in all situations but is good some people can overcome this through their own will.
I'm 52, diagnosed in 2003 with aspergers. I feel much the same way you do. I think too much special attention is being put on it, like a t-shit as you say. I think possible too much focus is on the kids, and too little is paid on us adults, to learn from our experience. As an adult 'on the spectrum' as they say, I find it extremely difficult to find any social support or find professionals who can even treat me. It's all about the kids. over 25 with autism?.... sorry, you are now on your own. Nobody even knows how to treat you.
Great job, Connor!!! Home is definitely the best place. You don't have to be an actor, and you can lose yourself in everything that interests you. I've been "acting" for 60 years and I didn't even realize it. Now that I found out about my "light autism", it all makes perfect sense. Thanks for being brave enough to do this video!!! 🤗
Thank you Connor for giving people your point of view as your are "low ASPD". I learned alot in that short video. You are a very articulate and intelligent person.
I love this video my son is 7 and has autism and I think this is amazing it will bring awareness and understanding to others. GOD bless you and your family
Man, I'm autistic and a robotics engineer I would love to sit and talk about rockets with your son! It's nice to see such awareness of his condition, I didn't get diagnosed until I was 26 years old, and I went through a lot of bullying and misunderstanding with my family not knowing how to deal with me. You're a great dad and raising an awesome intelligent son!
Same how I grew up too
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Same for me, I was diagnosed at 18, 25 now, mechanical engineer, lot of misunderstanding with my family too.
Software engineer here, I can certainly relate
I'm starting college for Civil Engineering, & you guys give me reassurance that I can be screened for ASD in the future when I'm able, and that I still have many years in my life to figure these things out!
Question though, do you think it's better to go through college diagnosed or undiagnosed?
Holy smokes Dad you're raising some class act kids. You're a big inspiration to other dads like myself.
#YEYFATHERFIGURES
Totally agree my son is 6 and is diagnosed, he can't talk so is so much struggle
lol what??? i dont get it
@@badboygoodgirl what don't you get?
@Mp what kind of herb are you referring to? Cbd? Mj? Something else?
Protect this child at all costs! 😢. As an late diagnosed autistic this made me cry. Just feeling all the things I used to feel-remembering being that age.
Protect every child @ all costs
Oh darling, me too!
I am 49 and I stemmed all my life. Had a hard time on school but loved to learn. 6yrs to get BA and three 1/2 yes for masters! I did it even with the constant starting a task while thinking of three other things but texting my family. It’s always just mind in overdrive! Taking a class this weekend on rekki to heal my mind n quite the noise 🎉🎉. I am curious if I am but I will test my two sons 10, 8urs old.
Same here. I did similar things at school. I've had struggles but i've always masked them. I have never been diagnosed. My son was diagnosed 4 months ago.
as a dad of a late diagnosed son this give me hope my son is the same way.
I also have light/high functioning autism. Connor reminds me of myself. He seems very mature for his age. I have been told when I was growing up that I am more mature than most adults. I am still told that I am more mature than most people. I was diagnosed with it at age two.
autism is autism, there's no 'light autism' unless you are mistaking autism for some co-ocurring conditions (think about it mathematically and you'll see what I mean). what you referring to is called low support needs, not 'high-functioning'.
Connor is very smart and talks so mature for his age. Love him!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
@@bolinhong2598 please could you forward the TH-cam about the Dr. oyallo . Tia
@@marybarnett3517 his link is th-cam.com/channels/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg.html
@@annikenlittle9644 That's a weird and personal question. Plus who cares?
@@philipphilip2174Boys Wear Goodnites Diapers? Cool.
Very articulate and intelligent kid, Connor is. Very impressive. Actually, he talks so much better than neurotypical kids his age. Way to go 👍🏼
@NaomisFoundationautism can't be healed or cured because it is not a disease
He’s freaking amazing ‼️‼️‼️
I don't think he articulates himself better than neurotypical kids his age, that's a bizarre claim.
@@tastypymp1287 that’s a very autistic thing to say
Im 23 and autistic and i talk like him. As in I still talk like a child.
You’re a smart and articulate kid. You’ll go far in life.
That is not what we came for, we have no need to go anywhere. We came to your neurotypical world to show how love can be chosen/emanated/given even though it is barely received; on the contrary.
We care for you neurotypical humans, not for your stupid systems and tools which you love to worship so much.
I have HFA too
Hey Connor, when I was your age, I had trouble making eye contact with others
Its not all it takes today
No he won't. He should just give up now.
What an intelligent, well spoken , child. He is definitely going to be just fine 😊
@NaomisFoundationnot at all how it works
Just because he can talk doesnt mean he will go fine.
I was thinking the same exact thing!
Hello Connor, I am 16 years old and I was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism 12 years ago. I find it really hard to make friends and to find like minded people. I always feel a sense of relief whenever I make a friend. In my spare time, I like to research, watch tv, and play videos. Quite frankly, I am glad that you cherish the moments you have at home. Home is very much my comfort zone, it provides me a sense of peace and compensation. So you know Connor, you are a very articulate and intelligent individual!
The roblox pfp is just perfection
I am the same, i wish i could make friends but i find it really hard and anxious. Home is my favourite place!
@@7katterdickhead 🙄
Dr. Oyalo's autism herbal medicine brought remarkable improvements in my child's behavior and communication skills. Highly recommended
These children are awesome!
Conner, I forgot to tell you, I’m so proud of you, and I’m a scared Grandma of a 6yr old with the spectrum. I’m so proud and you bring a little relieve into my spectrum world
Me too Millie, I have a 6 year old autistic grandson and Connor, you bring understanding into our world. Thank you.
I also have a 6 year old grandson with autism and he is struggling in school. Thanks young man for explaining this to us so we can have knowledge to help our grandchildren.
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
@@-TammyJean- I have a 9 year old grandson with autism as well. The best thing his parents have done is deciding to homeschool him. He is thriving now. I still worry about things though. Hugs.
I relate to you. I'm a very scared mom of a child with autism he's almost 6 and his meltdowns scare me sometimes. It changes him.
Tears!!! I wish this world will be more educated when it comes to Autism. Great Job Connor!! You have great support at home. Good job dad!! Thank you for sharing this video!!!
What a great boy! He is so well spoken and Insightful.
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Stick a sock in it buddy .
Connor, I am SOOOOOO showing this to my son …. He struggles to accepts his autism doesn’t always have to be a challenge. I can tell from just listening to you that you are just as super bright and creative as my boy… what a wonderful example and role model you are for your amazing and perfectly perfect community… can’t wait to show him…
Hey, Connor. My name is Amanda. I am a adult with High Functioning Autism or as you so eloquently put it “light” Autism. A little tip to help with Dyspraxia. When you are running especially in a confined space touch the walls. This will help orient you in space and time so you are less likely to run into things. I still sometimes trip and stub my toe though, even now. I hope that makes sense and helps. I wouldn’t want you to break your toe. Good luck out there! 🙂
great tip!
Have either tried steel toe shoes? I'm just curious! Great video, positive and informative (and adorable). 😀
I trip over everything! Maybe wearing special shoes in the house would be helpful. Thank you!
I stubbed, and subsequently broke, my toe in a swimming pool once pushing off the side. When I told my friend I was with at the time he was laughing at my reaction to it and didn't believe me and asked how it was possible to do that. I said I didn't know but I did. Well about 5 or so minutes later my whole toe turned deep purple. And finally I could point that out and say see!! I'm not lying. My friend then felt bad about teasing me, but also said that only I could manage to do that. Lol!
Editing to add that at the time neither of us knew I had high functioning autism. So my friend wasn't being mean. I didn't find out until I was in my 40's!
No running in the house is not a rule anymore? I thought that was taught in Parenting101 and had nothing to do with whether you are special needs or not. Back in the old days, when remote controls first came out, if you were a little and wanted to be like your Dad, you'd get a key ring with all the unuseful keys to keep in your pocket. Just like Dad. If you ran past the tellie, it would change channels because of the keys jingling in your pocket. If your Dad missed the Red Sox hit a home run then, oh boy! That is why you don't run in the house.
He is so intelligent and very self aware! ❤
Thanks Conner! Your relative (your Dad is my cousin) who is 16 years old has "light Autism" and has similar feelings as you. He's most comfortable at home too. He can blend in in public (mask) but he breaks down when he comes home from the social stress he experienced and from masking so much. Thanks for being brave and sharing your feelings! You're awesome!
Thanks Sabrina!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
You are all awesome. Fantastic video
What is steming?? Or stimming. Thankyou so much your a lovely young man to share your knowledge with others Rotha (Australia)
@Mp Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
He is so sweet and he speaks beautifully!
I'm honestly impressed by how smart and eloquent this young man is, I truly wish him all the best!
People with Asperger’s are generally more intelligent than the average person
@Mp Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
So proud of Connor and his dad. Amazing. Inspiring.
“home is the most comfortable place”
i am really happy to hear this. for me it was really uncomfortable place until i started to live alone. but i’ve found the most comfortable place for me (after my room) - techno clubs. people don’t watch you in the eyes, you can move like you want, everyone respect your personal space, no small talks if you don’t want them, you can have a verity of smiles on your face (this is my steaming- crazy smiling) and if someone sees it, they think you’re on dr*gs. music goes through you, moves all your organs.
@MpFor real now?? In every single comment you hide your little add- phrase? Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
Techno clubs is literally the worst place for ppl with autism to go to , I can’t think of a worse place , loud noises, crowded spaces, flashing lights, drunks all over, conversations everywhere , it’s gotta be #1 On the nightmare list for an aspie (i have Asperger’s)
@@michaelselz3389 maybe, you’ve been in clubs without techno culture
Connor is a very smart young man. He is so mature for his age he should become a teacher, and he explains things so clearly.
He’s gonna be a rocket scientist , obviously
@Mp Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
Thank you, Connor, for putting your thoughts into words so well! It seems like you were trying very hard to answer your Dad's questions as best you could, even though some of them were a little challenging. I would like to thank you very much for making this video, and for sharing your experiences and knowledge with others. 😊
My boyfriend has autism and he can’t express his feelings to me
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
My friend has high functioning Asperger's and nor only has she attained a BA in interior design, but also work in communications. She hates crowds and noises that suddenly pop up behind her. She's better in mathematics than I am, but tended to be a little literal-minded when I first met her. I used to nickname her "Saavik" from "Star Trek: The Wrath of Khan", but she's more like Cdr. T'Pol in "Enterprise".
@Mp Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
Dr. Oyalo's autism herbal medicine brought remarkable improvements in my child's behavior and communication skills. Highly recommended
What a bright kid with a nice family. He is going to do great.
I love this!! Thank you 🙏🏾
Great helpful video what great child
Mr. London?! lol. What are you doing here??
❤❤❤ my 6 year old was having issues with having friends and with teacher. We requested an IEP, and they found that she is on the Spectrum. They called her someone who needs little support, because academically she is in the 90% percentile. Thank you for doing this video. I can see how smart you are and it makes me feel that my daughter is not alone in her light Autism. ❤
When my 4 year old was diagnosed with mild autism about 5 months ago, your channel was the first place to give me hope. I can't express how much I appreciate your videos. Judging by my kid's response to the speech therapy and OT in this short span of time, I feel like he is most similar to Connor. Today, I kinda think of Ian, Connor and Alistair like I would think about my own nephews.
My son 4 yo diagnosis with moderate autism in 2.5 yo, now he doing therapy (ABA VB) and showing improvements little by little.. oh ya, and the first channel i look up to is from Mary barbera..
@@rivainursetyo9296 Please look into the dangers of ABA more, new research shows that it can be very damaging and possibly even traumatic for autistic kids! They teach you how to hide your autism and they teach boundaries as a bad thing, which can lead to problems with setting any boundaries at all later in life which can be really dangerous. I'm not trying to say what you should and shouldn't do with your kid, but please do be aware of the possible negative long term effects of ABA
@@rivainursetyo9296 if ABA works for you, go for it! Ignore those internet voices who would condemn you for trying to help your child.
@@Finnloaf do you know of an alternate treatment??
@@evelyl6620 if not already engaged in some occupational therapy (speech & fine motor mvmt skills).
I like the social-relational approaches I’ve seen so far. (Floor time developmental learning, Rdi for children ready to engage in back and forth communication and social skills learning)
His explanations are brilliant. The stimming being like breathing is a brilliant explanation
I have 2 Autistic children who are also severe language delayed. I really appreciate this video. Thank You Connor! 🙏
I myself have high functioning Autism and can relate. Your not the only one bro. I also like how easygoing and open you are as well.
Hi Connor thank you so much for sharing, I’m 24 and your insight made me realize I masked like my whole teenage years even at home until recently. My mom told me the other day I “act more like myself like when I was a kid” now and I think it’s because we moved around a lot and FINALLY settled down and I feel comfortable at home again…🌸
Hi Connor, I am on the spectrum too. I really liked your analogy that stimming is just like breathing. Good luck to you! You are articulate and self-aware :)
He is awesome! I wish him all the best in his future. I'm 27 and I haven't realised until recently what my "problem" was. Great to see such a supportive dad😊
maybe your diet?
@@glen.simpson???? What is wrong with you
@@casluvs I am 100% confident gut biome influences dna expression.....and gut biome is influenced from pre-birth (mother's biome), and inherited at birth through direct biome transfer through exposure...
SO yes, everyone on the broad category of "spectrum" should be on an organic, low acid diet, free of preservatives, fillers, gums,, etc..., and most importantly, low refined sugar.
Anyhow....as society becomes more on the spectrum from the food it eats, get back to me on this.....but please, do your own observations. Bad dIet run in families stronger than genes.
@@glen.simpson what? One cannot "become" autistic, they are either born autistic, or they are never gonna be autistic at all, lol
Has literally nothing to do with diet
@@mparagames wait and see... it is the gut biome of the mother, whom shares it with the child, then subsequent diet factors, that dictates most of these developmental delays now being called asd... so yes, true asd, if there is such a thing now that it's been "spectrumized" would be genetic, not congenital. AGain, diet and biome dictate dna expression..... even if that's hard for you to believe.
What an extremely bright and inquisitive, articulate, and well spoken, young man!! Although we all have our strengths and weaknesses, those who are gifted and blessed with extraordinary minds like this will go on to be the experts of the future
Good job Conner. My teenage son has " light autism" also. School very stressful for him and me as well knowing what he had to deal with ,but he is the most wonderful child in the world to me. Very proud of you
I’m so impressed with you Connor and I’m also impressed with your father the way he is being so much a part of the conversation with you I love the fact that you can be so mature at your age to see there’s nothing wrong with isolating between what you’re calling stemming or how you might act in a social environment masking I believe the more genuine human being is when you’re alone with your family and allowed to just be yourself I guess that’s what you’re calling steming. You seem so honest and genuine Connor I wish I could be more like you if everybody was more like that it would be a better world!
Thank you for making of this video. My 14 year old son is high functioning autism and I am truly grateful he picked me to be his mom. God bless you.
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Love this, thanks. I have a 5-year-old who is pretty much just like Connor, and it's really helpful to see how other kids and families do life with autism!
Thanks Connor you are another version of my son looking a lot like you physically and phychologically, and myself at your age! I transmitted my Aspie world to my son and I’m proud of it. Take care
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Thank you, Connor and Dad ! My son is 4 with the same condition. This gives us a great view of what's ahead .
Thank you so much for doing this video, Connor! I have 2 grand kids who are not high functioning like you. It's very hard sometimes but I think I'm getting better at understanding them. Hear you speak so clearly - so well spoken, focused and intelligent - made me smile. My grand kids are getting help and I hope they are like you when they get older... though I would not be upset as long as they can live and be happy. Well done, young man!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Thank you Connor for your video. I have learnt much more about Autism and this is going to help us look after the lads with Autism that we work with in our Men's Shed in Adelaide, Australia. Keep up the great work Connor.
I'm on the higher functioning end of the spectrum and since I'm a girl, it took me 14 years to get a diagnosis. My main struggles are social interaction and sensory issues. I have no idea how to make friends and most things people find nice (pastel colors, bland foods, taking baths, talking about trends) I hate, and the things I like (bright colors, silence, sharp tastes, being dry, talking about deep aspects of life) people hate. I am now 16 years old and got an official ASD diagnosis 1.5 years ago, right before my 15th birthday. I started noticing weird things in myself when I was 8, I kept telling people about it and all I got was "You're just really smart" (my IQ is somewhere around 150ish) and so I just stopped saying anything. 5 more years of suffering later I received my first phone and one of the first things I did was look up my behaviors to see if anything matched them. Turns out it was one of 2 things: ASD or ADHD.
I researched for 6 months before finally telling my parents that I thought I might be autistic. They told me it wasn't possible, because they had met autistic kids and I didn't scream, kick or bite. After 6 more months I was able to get therapy and my therapist scheduled an ASD assessment. I walked into the neuropsychologist's room and after 30 minutes of talking, before the tasks were even given to me, she said "You know... You are right. You are autistic, I can see it" and not even a month later I was diagnosed. My mom apologized for not believing me. My dad still doesn't believe I have autism and says I am just a lazy brat. It hurts to hear him say that, but I'm learning to ignore it. All my old teachers said "Oh but she doesn't look autistic, are you sure you had the right diagnosis?" or even worse "Well but she's got such mild autism, if she even does have it in the first place, she surely doesn't even struggle that much!"
Meanwhile my brain: "Hi!! Did you know that dogs sweat through their tongue???? Because they have hair so if they sweat from their skin they would be constantly wet! Do you want to be my friend? ...No no no that sounds weird they will think I'm weird... Let's try again... Hi. I'm Rebecca. I'm 16. I like dogs. Do you want to be friends?" (that usually is perceived weird anyway so people kind of walk away and I spend the following week thinking what I did wrong...)
Also my brain: "Loud noise, loud noise, loud noise!!! Flap your hands, it will help... Oh wait, no there's people... Ignore the noise, ignore it!" until eventually KABOOM (meltdown/shutdown)
Also my brain: "OOOH LOOK THERE'S SOMEONE NAMED PIERRE! You should definitely talk about your favorite singer!" goes up to person: "Did you know that there's a Canadian band called Simple Plan and..."
Just because people don't see the struggles, it doesn't mean they aren't there.
I'm commenting both for this video and the "Your Child Doesn't Look Autistic!" one.
Sorry if it's too long. I had a lot of things on my mind hehe.
Also hi Connor! I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to make this video! Wish you and your family a great day/week/month/year
I love how honest your comment is.
no need to mask how you feel and what your brain does.
You deserve to be heard about your struggles, their hard enough as it is without people their comments.
really wish for the people around you to try to give you more respect.
Rememer you deserve it!
@@discotoscadisney Thank you so much for the nice reply!!! I honestly thought nobody would read it haha ^^
I read it all and let me tell you, thats was a very accurate description of how I felt growing up. Im now a bit older then you and just recently realizing what I have, but its definately similar to your experience besides me not actually going up to people because I was too scared of them judging me (rsd from adhd if youre aware of what that is)... we wouldnt even need therapy if we were accepted by our true selves, but guess what, no, youre just too weird apparently to speak your own mind about whats going on in it... yeah, the not stimming around people struggle is also real for me, probably also due to rsd and/or maybe anxiety. Gathering knowledge about it made me realize I have another autistic friend ahah she was always perceived as weird because she wouldnt care about "norms" she would burp and not give a damn, she would be constantly stimming in class, picking wax out of her ears or rubbing her legs in a circular motion 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh, and ralph from the simpsons is probably autistic too. Anyway, today more then ever, I realized autistic / neurodivergent people is who I feel confortable with, because I dont feel I need to put on a mask (which I never even learnt how to anyway), so yeah. And I would totally not mind to be your friend and I wish more people see you that way. Because youre awesome! 👋
Because youre a very smart person, let me also tell you most people dont realize it till much later, because we have it mild, and so we tend to not really care until it deeply affects us and/or use coping mechanisms to deal with certain emotions we dont want to feel (until we "cant" hold the pain anymore and we really feel the need to figure ourselves out and why we are rejected). Also adhd/add (very common comorbidity), especially add, which goes invisible to most people, may put some of us in an even harder spot to figure out whats really wrong... And I might wrong, but I would bet this kid was only diagnosed because he has an autistic brother already and because of his particular articulate speech, which I and many other autistic people dont really have. If you see me on the streets and talk to me, you wouldnt really be able to pick anything that easily, just that Im a very shy person, but with the knowledge I have about autism now, I picked it up as soon as he started talking...
@@embuscadochifreinexplicaca5960 What you said means so much to me! Officially I am diagnosed with autism and anxiety but my therapist said I could be also diagnosed with ADHD and OCD (but they "wouldn't help me get a job when I'm older") so I understand the ADHD struggle, though I have more of an inattentive form of ADHD. I also am in therapy for DID because of childhood stuff and honestly it doesn't really help my overall situation. I would love to be friends, though I'm not sure how as we can't really have lengthy conversations on TH-cam comment sections ^^'
@@games_bond7221 Well, thats good youre getting the therapy you need, even if it doesnt help much. About the adhd diagnosis in specific not really helping you when you are older, thats not really true if you have it (or it gets) that bad like someone like me, because atleast the meds for it, they certainly help with the executive dysfunction struggles and the RSD aka it helps me being who I really want to be around people, if that makes sense. I also started developing OCD at one point, but somehow magically, I dont struggle with it much anymore, but at one point, I "needed" to read the same paragraph or line of text of a book like 10 times to feel good and not anxious.
Do you have in-stagram or d-iscord? (fear of youtube deleting the comment because they dont seem to like certain words lol)
My 18 year old son , Noah, is high functioning. Noah said it was very hard to focus at school too. Ya’ll are so incredibly intelligent! Much love from Alabama ❤
Thank you for these insights Connor. As the mom to a high-functioning autistic child (who is now an adult studying electrical engineering) , I really appreciate everything you said, your thoughtful explanations. They help me understand my son so much better and love him for who he is. And also help him navigate this world. I wish you all the best Connor. Thank you for your courage and honesty.
The amount of insight Connor has is refreshing & admirable. A great visual video for people to understand the basics of ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
I have high functioning autism and anxiety.Sometimes I scare to have eye contact because it makes me feel uncomfortable and giving me anxiety.I love to make EDM music becuase it gives me comfortable.
Thanks for the video Connor!
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
I’m neurotypical and I absolutely hate eye contact as well. You aren’t alone. ❤️
Well if it makes you feel better, eye contact with mammals can be a sign of aggression so it makes sense to feel uncomfortable with it. If you stare at humans or any mammal, it's confrontational. People are not supposed to make too much eye contact with you, if they do then they're just rude. Even in a conversation, you're supposed to look away sometimes, not make eye contact square on the entire time. Looking away is a sign of respect. That's why a dog that respects its owner/pack will look away from eye contact for the most part.
This video popped up on my recommended list of videos. I am so glad such channels exist. I too am autistic (HF). I am 44 years old and didn't suspect to be autistic until 7-9 years ago. I told some of the folks who knew me ever since I was young and they totally agreed that I have many symptoms of Asperger's more specifically. Good luck to you and your entire family.
That's so interesting to know. I'm in my early 20s and I think I may have autism. But getting a diagnosis is expensive.
Wow what a perfect kid. I especially love how Conner seems comfortable in his skin talking about autism positively. Most adults with autism are like “Woe is me..” I personally love being autistic and realize all of the down sides have only to do with the rest of the world not understanding yet.
Woe not whoa 😂
Absolutely beautiful interview!!! Thank you Connor and dad!!! xxx
Thank you Connor for being so open and sharing your experience with autism. I was diagnose with high functioning autism after 62 year and I finally know why I did and do certain thing now .When I was a kid I mask a lot but did not even know to use the word mask . I just want to thank your whole family for sharing. It really helps to understand as I share some of the traits you and your brothers have. At my age we did not have the therapy treatments we have today.
What an impressive young man with an equally impressive vocabulary.
Thank you Conner! My grandson is autistic and I have a close bond with him. Sending Love, keep working on your Space Dreams,. We need you.
I love this conversation. My son is four years old with autism and does all these things. Connor explained about engagement with things that interested him in coordination. Connor for president! God speed. You're fantastic, like my baby! :) Thank you again for the video.
Many thanks for sharing your world with me. I learn so much in understanding my 3 year old’s world. This help me a lot in relating to my son and helping him. Great job Connor.
My daughter is 14 and has "light" autism(I love that) she is an amazing kid, smart funny creative, kind, and loving. I am so glad to have found your channel. Thank you
Thank you for making these videos. They are helpful for families with children who have autism. My daughter also has high functioning autism. 💙
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Me too, I want to be a pediatrician when I am older
Thank you Connor so much for sharing. My grandson is autistic so you're helping me to understand him better.
Such a smart and handsome young man. He is so well-spoken. I wish him well. He will do great things in life.
My grandson has high functioning autism. It's helpful to hear you share information about yourself for me to better understand my grandson. Thank you Connor !
Thank you, Conner; you did great at clarifying. My child just got diagnosed with ADHD, On High Spectrum function, Sensory Disorder, and the list continues. I am trying to learn everything that I can. Thank you, Dad, for posting these videos.
I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on TH-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too
Thank you, Connor, for being so strong, brave and vulnerable to make this video. And thank you, dad, for facilitating. It was really helpful for me.
Ian, Connor and Alistair are such lovely, intelligent, charming young men and these videos are delightful. I was diagnosed this year at 53. It's been a struggle but this channel both helps and warms my heart. Thank you for sharing your family with us.
You give me more hope. Thankyou!!
What you do is awsome Connor, because you help a parent like me understand better my own son. He is not as verbal as you are so he can't always explain what he is going through. So by talking about your experience, you help him although everybody is different , and there is "ligher" forms of autism , there are still things in commun.
What a sweet and intelligent boy, you've got! Thanks for making this video! And you're doing a great job!
Connor is so smart. So articulate.
It made me so happy when he said home is the most comfortable place. I wish I could’ve been able to say the same at his age.
It’s so awesome that he and his brothers have such a supportive home and family.
Wow! He reminds me soooo much of my daughter. She's 15 and high functioning autistic also. She's so smart and such an amazing artist. She also won Math Student of the Year at her school last year. She doesnt allow her autism to get in her way. She actually says she likes having the type of autism that she has because it's like a "super power." (her words not mine) She can hyper focus on things and once she learns something she never forgets it. She's an awesome kid and I wish you guys lived in Maryland because I know our kids would get along very well.
umm can conner have the mic back please, lady... ok, thank you...🙄 🤦♀️
@Mp truly? In every single comment you hide your little add- phrase? Please stop spamming. Nobody needs "saving from the spectrum". This is just plain false and hurting information about HeRBs...
@@TableForOne01 Let them talk about their kid, and frankly it's none of your concern.
@@TableForOne01What an unnecessary b**chy comment.. ew. It's called relating and sharing. You see that the uploader hearted her comment, right? So give the facepalm to yourself maybe. 🙃
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Conner you are a rock star!
I sent this to my 21 year old son who we are just getting diagnosed as conner reminded me so much of him.
Thank you buddy!
What a smart boy. He is very blessed to have such good parents. Having "light autism" myself, I couldn't have explained everything he said any better.
Kudos!! From one parent with more than one child with Autism out of 4 to another parent with the experience. Thank you for sharing. I often use videos like yours to help my husband (their step-father) better understand our children, their needs, and how they function. My oldest has ADHD and other health issues, my two in the middle are ADHD and borderline Autistic. It is NOT EASY!! Parenting is not easy, but many do not realize how much harder it is when your children have special needs, especially more than one. You also don't always get the help you need with 504's, IEPs, and etc when they are functioning. Sending hugs and prayers from our family to yours. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤
Are your children taking any medication for Adhd? Have their symptoms improved? My 4 year old boy is autistic with ADHD.
He reminds me so much of my kids. I have 6 and we have recently started seeking diagnosis for the oldest. My husband and I have suspected for a couple years (after research) that we are both likely high functioning. I love how you speak so respectfully to Connor. I often feel like I'm speaking to grownups trapped in little growing bodies when I'm talking to my kids. We homeschool all of ours, so they're very deep into their interests and very poor at masking. The amount of anxiety I've had my whole life from masking versus my children's inability to mask and their comparative lack of stress... It's a double edged sword, and difficult to navigate.
I'm so happy to see the world becoming more accepting and accommodating towards high functioning autism and the amazing things we have to offer.
"Poor at masking" sounds like they're living their best lives. If more people unmask, then fewer will have to feel obligated to do so.
Thank you so much Connor. My grandson is on the spectrum and your video is helping me understand better what he is experiencing and helps me to figure out ways to be more supportive of him in a meaningful way. Thanks to your Dad too, for the videography work. You guys are doing a great service. :D
Thank you for sharing your experience Connor!
Dad, you’re doing a great job!
Very smart young man! Conner, thank you for sharing about your autism. It helps the rest of us that don’t know much about your problems to understand. I appreciate your courage.
Your son is gorgeous. 100% autism is a gift! My son is just like yours. You left out the greatest gift=creativity! Thinking in pictures! These beautiful minds are truly creative geniuses and can see in alternative ways most people cannot. Embrace this uniqueness.
My love, no need to mask or hide your autism, be proud. God made you this way on purpose, as He told me about my son. He does not make mistakes.
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
Psalms 139:14 NKJV ❤
Masking isn’t usually a decision, we just do it as a survival mechanism. Like he said, it’s like breathing, it’s don’t automatically. As we get older we can decide to learn how to unmask but it comes with great risks. We can loose our whole families and friends. But after so many years masking, some of us have no choice but to unmask and loose all our friends and family.
love this dads compassion and respect! he’s lucky to have you
“We’re okay with you stimming at home right?”
“Yeah”
Thing is… all of us out here.. we don’t NEED to be okay with it, Connor. You don’t need to mask. If someone judges you for it, take it as a blessing because you’ve just seen their true colors upfront. You know not to put your heart and trust into that person. It may sting people people treat us badly but often times it’s truly for the best as we learn from the start who they truly are as a person.
Yes completely agree. It’s ok to stim at home AND anywhere else. The onus is on the public to feel comfortable with it, not for autistic individuals to have to keep masking for other people’s comfort.
True, and at the same time, masking is important because it serves as a protection. You don't always want to be the odd one out.
@@juliz2500 It doesn’t. We don’t care about the same things you do it’s okay.
I think this is somewhat unfair for the general population: some stimming behaviors can be very alarming if people are unfamiliar with the source of the behavior (self-soothing). It could point to some serious neurological condition, like seizures, to the untrained eye. That doesn't make people bad, just concerned and unfamiliar.
@@bernlin2000 if the stimming is self-harm, it's most likely due to trauma or what you mentioned, but telling someone to stop rocking because you simply don't like it is stupid when you can 9/10 walk away and control your own autonomy. It only makes them uncomfortable that others aren't conforming to their norms which is the ableism everyone suffers from.
Connor reminds me of my identical twin boys. They articulate their words so well and are intelligent beyond’s their years. My twins were diagnosed at 3 years old. I just found your channel and it reminds me im not the only one walking the autism journey with my children and family ❤️
Conner, thank you!! 🙏🙏🙏
You give me hope for my own 2 year old son.
I am terrified. When he goes into his loops,
I feel as if I lost him. He is non verbal and
I want nothing more then to have a dialogue with him. Thank you so much for giving me a glimpse into his world.
You are an amazing person. Thank you for teaching folks about how the world is for you. My daughter also has autism "light". Videos like yours help her feel less alone. Rock on! You inspire me.
I'm almost 70 and only learned a few years ago that I was autistic. I fortunately stumbled into engineering where quite a high percentage are autistic, most without realising it. Had a great career and family. Knowing my condition mostly helped my wife understand me better.
Connor, you remind me of my son who has autism and ADHD. You are smart and well spoken like him. I’m glad you and my son live in a world that is trying to learn and understand autism. Thanks for helping us all learn and grow!
I love how this is from your kids point of view! So many parents and people in general act like Autistic people's opinions aren't important. Especially about ourselves!!
i laught they way he says "a lot of times" at 4:24 like it still hurts cos I do that a lot that I had my one little toe broken in 2 pieces, now it's permanently broken.
I am a 14 year old boy from Ireland with Autism. Being autistic is something I prefer not to take notice of. However, being autistic is very annoying as I easily have issues understanding people, issues with school, etc. Thanks for this awesome video. It helps me relate to you guys, and it helps me realise I am not alone (Even though I have friends with autism too).
Hello gentleman. God bless you smart boy mashallah
Is in the age of my son with same diagnosis.
I like your channel good luck 👍
Hello Connor. My name is Emma and I live in England. My son is 16 years old and has autism, he is what you call 'Light Autistic ' too and he does well at school. He does find it very hard to make friends through. Thank you for making the video, it's so good to hear different perspectives. X
You are uniquely gifted to encourage others with Autism,and to educate others to be more understanding.Your parents most love you so much! Have a great day!
Hi Connor. Wow, what an interesting video you made. That takes guts, well done young man! I've learnt so much from you and wanted to say thank you. Well done, You are very intelligent and brave and I'm sure you will help many people this way. 😁
This is great content, thank you so much. People being undiagnosed causes SO much hurt both to themselves and later on the people they depend on them (I think my mom might be undiagnosed). And then, I know people that have been diagnosed early on and yet have felt (scratch that, they HAVE BEEN) so discriminated against, it's very heartbreaking. So awareness and acceptance, which is what this channel brings about, is SO great.
Thanks again.
I’m a 57 year old female nurse. This really resonates with me. I really appreciate how articulate and honest Connor is being in this video.
I was questioning whether or not we got the right diagnosis for my 5 year old today and Connor’s video reminded me so much of his mannerisms and behaviors. My son is so articulate and expresses well with words so the drs and I were a bit conflicted, but I see my kiddo in the way Connor explains, his shifting while talking, his tone of voice and the way he’s making eye contact.
You seem like a wonderful young man, Connor! I hope my son continues to grow to be as articulate and bright as you are
I am 55 and was diagnosed with high functioning autism / Aspergers syndrome 10 years ago.
Whilst I recognize all the things that you are talking about, I must say that I am very grateful that I didn't grow up 'wearing the spectrum T-shirt', as it were.
It helped me to work harder to overcome the typical challenges we guys struggle with.
I became a teacher and an expert at masking.
Having said this, receiving my diagnose at 45 was a game changer and a joy.
Today I proudly 'wear my Asperger T-shirt' and celebrate being autistic.
I work with kids like you and they are my best friends.
I'm 42 and just found out I have Asperger's. I understand and agree with your point of feeling joy by knowing now. I feel like so much finally makes sense.
You’re lucky! I didn’t get diagnosed until my late 30s. I’m one of the many who developed severe C-PTSD from being isolated and made to feel that something was “wrong” with me for my whole life. If I had known it was just autism, I would have been able to cope MUCH better. Living life constantly masking will destroy your mental health - especially if you don’t even know that you’re masking, let alone why.
Ideally, I would have found out as a late teen or young 20 something. Growing up undiagnosed definitely made me tougher and more resilient. ..but it also broke me eventually.
I’m not saying you’re wrong btw. I 100% understand what you’re saying and it’s totally valid. It’s a spectrum and everyone’s different! I’m just offering a different perspective.
@@clicheguevara5282 I totally agree with you.
Thank you for seeing my point, though.
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Yeah, everyone's experience is different and valid, I personally think that it depends on how much it has affected someone's life, sometimes people can be cruel and bully you, and trying but not getting the results you wanted can be detrimental to mental health and can lead to the appearance of Depression/Anxiety, so yeah, it's not as easy in all situations but is good some people can overcome this through their own will.
I'm 52, diagnosed in 2003 with aspergers.
I feel much the same way you do. I think too much special attention is being put on it, like a t-shit as you say. I think possible too much focus is on the kids, and too little is paid on us adults, to learn from our experience. As an adult 'on the spectrum' as they say, I find it extremely difficult to find any social support or find professionals who can even treat me. It's all about the kids. over 25 with autism?.... sorry, you are now on your own. Nobody even knows how to treat you.
Great job, Connor!!! Home is definitely the best place. You don't have to be an actor, and you can lose yourself in everything that interests you. I've been "acting" for 60 years and I didn't even realize it. Now that I found out about my "light autism", it all makes perfect sense. Thanks for being brave enough to do this video!!! 🤗
You’re such an inspiration, Connor! I hope my 4yo son will be as good and kind like you ❤
Thank you Connor for giving people your point of view as your are "low ASPD". I learned alot in that short video. You are a very articulate and intelligent person.
Omg thank you for this I have an 8 year old who is high functioning and I’m all alone as a parent trying to advocate for him at school.
I love this video my son is 7 and has autism and I think this is amazing it will bring awareness and understanding to others. GOD bless you and your family