Also, when my brother was nonverbal, I wanted him to have a language. So I taught him sign language. But with every single word he learned, he spoke it. The sign language opened up his ability to speak. Fascinating!
That's why many kids with speech problems are taught sign language. My brother has Down syndrome and is on the autistic spectrum. When we were kids, he was taught to sign and he still sometimes does. My daughter has Asperger's and her speech therapist recommended to teach her sign language. Unfortunately I have forgotten how to sign and I could understand her very impaired speech, so I never got around of doing that.
Same! I totally clam up... Can't think of responses. Can't tell when it's my turn to talk. Lose track of topic etc. It's hard. One on one though... I'm golden.
When my boyfriend and I began dating I didn't know he had asperges, he tried to hide it because he didn't want me to think of him as "different". Unfortunately, this caused problems in the relationship, and my family/friend's perception of him. I came from a background where my family and I had no understanding of asperges. We got engaged and the relationship broke down, he went into shut down during a time where I had a serious operation. 11 months on he's opened up to me about it, and we're back together. I'm trying to better understand so I don't misconstrude behaviours. Thank you so much Dan for putting yourself out there and helping people like me better understand. I've found your videos a great source of support. Very grateful x
After I received a diagnosis it all made sense. I remember my grandma always forcing me to do eye contact and forcing me to eat the food I hated. And how they said something was wrong with me when I was in elementary school and I was always being bullied for being quiet. I never understood why my being quiet or being alone made everyone around me so uncomfortable.
The problem isn't talking, it's knowing when to stop xD Conversations with me is 80% you listening to me having a conversation with myself and occasionally having some input if you get the chance.
For me, putting my talking on PAUSE, and giving ANOTHER PERSON a chance to talk is manageable, but it is A VIABLE DISCIPLINE I HAVE TO PUT ENERGY INTO, like making an effort to eat healthy, Like cleaning the workout floor of the YMCA in 40 minutes or less; Like not taking millions of things super personally, or Holding onto resentments and other SOUR GRAPES, ETC
Heyy no problem!! Thank you so much for the comment! I have a free ebook www.theaspieworld.com/ebook Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
I have 2 autistic sons. Both are high functioning Asperger's. It's really disheartening to see how much people try to shove them into a box. I've spent the last 17 years teaching my oldest, and now my youngest to never apologize for being who they are, they're perfect in all their imperfections and to love themselves.
I get what your saying. Our son was diagnosed with Aspberger’s at three years old. Over time, people would say things like we could get disability money for him etc and we would say no. He didn’t need any special equipment or devices and we didn’t want him to have some label slapped on him that might hold him back in some way or make people judge him before they even got to know him. We wanted him to do whatever makes him happy in life and progress on his own merit, not because someone might feel sorry for him. Not sure I said this very well but basically we’ve raised him like our other child, to believe he can do anything with hard work and perseverance. Although there are things he never managed to accomplish like riding a bike but he’s trying.
1. I have Aspergers Syndrome and my IQ was tested at 137. Unfortunately I'm heavily cognitively impaired, meaning that my brain is just very, very slow to process information. I can cut through information quickly, but it just won't stick. My learning style is experiencing, and even then it takes me a hundred times of experiencing the same thing with the actual intention of seeing the lesson there. 2. Yes, we are able to mask well. That doesn't mean we're comfottable making conversation AT ALL. It's utterly draining. It's exhausting. Most of us need recovery time relative to talking time. I've had to call some people this week and whenever I experienced a setback due to the conversation not leading to the outcome I had expected, I needed one to two hours off basically wiping my brain clean before I could return to my desk and go on with my tasks. 3. True. I have a special interest in linguistics. The downside of that is that people tend to think, "oh, she's so eloquent, she's really on top of everything", when my cognitive hurdles really don't let me be on top of anything that I haven't built up from the bottom myself or is not a very special skill of mine. Additionally, speaking with wide vocabulary doesn't mean that what is said is also what is experienced, because we have the hardest time finding the right word to the way we feel inside. I have a record of not getting the help I was desperate to get because I couldn't make it clear how much I felt in danger. I don't know the 'trigger words' that make doctors/teachers/etc. realise a kind of urgency. Inability to transport emotion through tone of voice/being overwhelmed and unable to cry because we're so great at not falling apart in front of other people lets us walk away and suffer in silence when we were actually in dire need of help. 4. Yes, people with Aspergers Syndrome do better with understanding and following a schedule than 'classic autistics' are. Please keep in mind that the majority of us has gone through at least one episode if depression some time in their life, it's a very common comorbidity. And we're extremely sensitive to all kinds of things. There are many, many people with Aspergers out there struggling to get or hold down a job because our 'outward performance' is the actual work we do. And it's completely dependent on things going according to our inner schedule. We can be thrown off or at least distracted for a while when there are unexpected changes in our surroundings, they could be as small as a coworker having changed their hair. Now imagine arriving at work in the morning with a detailed mental outline for your day, and as you walk through the door, your boss runs past you just throwing a 'good morning, you're doing someone else's job today' your way. Every bit if grip you had on what was going to happen at work just flew out the window. Often times, when that happened, I didn't get my grip back at least until the weekend. 5. Yes, I was very quick to talk, and also quick to write and read. I always grabbed the newspaper as a child, and when I was about 4, my grandma started to teach me the Alphabet. I learned to write my name and read within that year. When I was 5, I was already so ahead of everything that I started to learn English as a second language (they advertised Disney educational VHS on TV as a support for older children who took English classes in 3rd grade. Later in school, I beat every native speaker in every English class I attended.)
Take the MBTI personality test. There is nothing wrong with you. The field of socionics will explain your cognitive preferences and you'll see them going forward as strengths, not weaknesses. I bet you are one of the "NT" varieties.
I feel this, thanks. Language has always been something I could lock down, easily. I can usually explain a problem, or describe a food, or make comparisons in ways that people find uncanny. Part of it is just kind of getting how the trick of language is done. I learned spanish to fluency very quickly as well, and when I travelled in south america, was often mistaken for a native. It makes it difficult for people to understand how hard it is for me to do so many other things when I can explain directly and succinctly what is happening. Something about being able to verbalize things cogently makes people around me believe that the insurmountable problem I'm facong is actually well in hand, and all I need is a little confidence or encouragement. Ironically, if i weren't able to describe the problems I face, and more people became privy to the aftermath of my frustration, it would be obvious to them that I was having trouble processing all of the information I was being presented with. Case in point: after about 15 years of speaking spanish fluently, I still only understand about 30-50% of what is said to me.
well honestly it never had to do with intelligence, its more has to do with perception and the process of it, overload sensory. All your troubles can be linked to just perception imbalance
I am a parent, my son was diagnosed with in the spectrum. He just graduated from high school in 2020. Currently he's studying culinary, he's aiming for his associates. Whenh e started he was scared and wanted to give up, but he communicated with his professors and continued. We are extremely proud of how far he has come. ❤ you son.
amen , inspiring , im just curious as i think of 2 vlunteers at the foodbnank if thers ever strugglse between asbgerger people that both have such communicating with eachother , and at 1 point is it differing persoinil;itys , anxiety ocd adhd etc to
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he can now respond to name, orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏
My brother is autistic. He has fragmented speech and considered low IQ. But it isn't true. He helps out at his friend's farm. If a tractor isn't working, he will stand there and stare at it. After a few minutes he will go to the farmer and say, "That broke there". So then the farmer will have someone come look at it and every single time, that's EXACTLY what is wrong. Also, my brother can sit in any tractor, look at the controls and then right away know how to drive it. He wasn't taught. / I have Aspergers. I might know a lot but I can't do what he can do.
@Karrie Dee far too few of those... and far too many gaslighting d-bags. Js. I suck at making new friends. Being able to see through everyone's bs just makes you more alone, I find.
I have Asperger’s. And I do have a degree in the medical field. I didn’t find out that I had Asperger’s syndrome until I was in my 40s I have a high IQ. And as an person who studied in the field of psychology, I found that some adults who have autism are smarter than we know. They don’t verbally tell us because they don’t want to waste their time explaining what they know, because they think people should already know.
It could be as well that they get villianized for what they come up with, people seem to only value logic when it is in their favor if my experience is anything to go by and i am not entirely certain if i am autistic in any form yet.
My personal observation is that Aspergers have no difficultly talking or communicating, even complex subjects. The problem is that Aspergers will attempt to engage in the conversations but lack the social awareness to understand if the other person(s) want to engage. What's personally frustrating is that I'll attempt to engage with a group and not have any takers. But will be approached later in private by a member of that group who understood and wanted to talk but didn't because they realized the others didn't. I feel like there are secret Aspergers everywhere. They may have better social awareness or they simply can observe that I am the same but the conversation isn't a popular move. I have embarrassed myself plenty of times, but I've met some really awesome people hiding in the crowd. I have never had a private conversation with a "stupid" person. No matter how complex the subject even the most unsuspecting person wonders about black holes and theoretical physics, the cutting edge, new ideas in general. What is so disappointing is how many people love talking about that stuff but will hide it because they think the group doesn't. People shine so bright as individuals. We are so stupid in groups.
My son can go on for days about black holes, military,planets etc. I had to train myself to listen even if I cant engage or am busy. I supply my ears for him to talk. He often will follow me through the house talking to me about the ecosystem and planets 🤣🤣. Sometimes I'll tell him"son try to calm yourself just a little"(even though I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do)because hell be on overdrive with mounds of facts and information. Hes such a bright star in my life. I'm proud that I can call myself his mom💖
I take great exception to some asshole telling me that I am SPAMMING FACTS THAT everyone understands. I will continue sharing my views on Facebook. Tough shit if someone has a problem with that!
I was just diagnosed with ASD and ADHD at the age of 35. It's incredibly frustrating because I had evaluations as a very young child that clearly show I've been symptomatic of both these conditions my entire life. I believe it was ignored or overlooked because I'm both female and high intelligence. Under DSM-IV I should have been ADD/Aspergers, but nobody helped me.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved
@@touchwood3599I'm 51 and just recently found out that I have ASD. I was diagnosed with manic depression with a mood/anxiety disorder when I was 27. I also have ADHD, OCD, C-PTSD. This has been a game changer for me. I now know WHY I do the things that I do/think the way that I do. So much has been ignored when we were growing up, and the "schools" treating us like we're stupid/rejects. 😡
My husband is in the same boat. No one ever discusses the trauma of having to grow up thinking you’re some sort of problem, when in fact you have an actual diagnosable disability. It’s like telling a cancer patient, “well just try harder to be well”. I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this. I hope that you now have some support ❤
A quick tip for fellow buddies on the spectrum: If people complain a lot about the way you talk, move, or do things, all the time. Don't get desperate for pleasing everyone by always walking perfectly "right", or saying the things that people want to hear, or being afraid of being seen as "weird", they might never stop complaining no matter how anxious we are trying to follow the rules. Instead look out for yourself as well as the others. If someone is annoyed by your presence but you didn't do anything offensive, didn't invade their space and you are being polite to them, that is their freaking problem. We are different, but that doesn't mean people won't like us. When we show acceptance and respect to others, some people will do the same to us, just give them the freedom to choose. By experience in workplace and in life, I noticed that it's far easier to get friends by not being a problem to others than doing big favours to them. You might not be noticed by the majority immediately, but when people notice that you listen to their thoughts, talk honestly about what you believe (even if it's weird), and doesn't return negative emotions socially (like being angry, or being afraid). Some people will stick to you lol.
Two of my children were diagnosed, which ironically led to my wife's diagnosis. Which was actually comforting because she masked but there were always those odd moments. Love channels like this to better understand their world.
Good Citizen of the North People accuse me of being on drugs too. I stutter a lot and can’t keep eye contact long, I say things backwards and sway side to side. I’ve never been diagnosed as anything but my youngest son has autism, so he may have gotten it from me. But yeah, it’s depressing at times being judged by people when they don’t understand who you REALLY ARE!
@@MollyMcBooter i feel this and my friend. Kinda hard being ALWAYS suspected of something just because you act weirdly. They should teach this in their curricula 😑
When I read this it brought me automatically back to my confrontation with police they spent like ten minutes searching me cause they thought I was taking some hard shit.
I would sometimes get this too when I was in my twenties, but from random people in the street when they stopped me to ask something. I think it was because I looked and dressed pretty chilled (think bright, baggy clothes and stuff) in addition to my having slightly slow processing of answering questions. So, those things put together probably made people think I was high on something. Also, I struggle with knowing what context people are talking about and that's probably got some similarity to how people might be on certain drugs. How was it for Good Citizen? Were there features they might have been picking up on which led them to a wrong assumption?
Same here, I think it was a classification problem for me. I used to put things like showering in the "do before going out" category. Meaning, when I don't go out, I might be neglecting myself. I'm trying to shift to doing things because I want to take care of myself, and I think that has made it much easier.
I used to be so embarrassed telling my friends but I was about 16 when I learned how to shower and wash my hair by myself but I wasn’t embarrassed that my mom was still helping me at 16
Thank you! My son is 12 and I often feel like I am failing at his independance!! But you have reassured me that he will get it one day. Just at his pace and that is ok.
Caitlin Lyons I’m 15 and I still can’t do my hair or wash my hair without my mum. I have many other traits of autism but could that be one? I know you probably aren’t professional but I was just wondering because my mum calls me lazy but I just physically don’t know and can’t do it.
omg i feel this so much! i didn’t properly wash my hair through the shower method (like normies do, haha) until i was 15. i used to have take a bath, and slowly tilt my head back into the water.
@@NicoleStLouis-is2hc you shouldnt feel embarrassed I mean if it ever gets to the point where you do feel embarrassed I can always help you wash you're hair in the shower 😄 I have high functioning aspergers so I guess it wouldn't feel so awkward 🤣
I am 70, self-diagnosed Asperger’s. I had a successful career in physics and had not heard the term until my 50s. I always felt I was odd. My son was professionally diagnosed Asperger’s but not until his 20s. He struggled in school but got into college. He lives independently but low wage. He has more challenges than me. I think he presents as an underachieving neurotypical.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he can now respond to name, orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏
I'm also in my 70s, actually have a few related diagnoses--nonverbal learning disability, auditory processing disorder, visual processing disorder. So backhand I was diagnosed. I am happy and feel I had a good life but had huge problems growing up. I still have some issues that are related/ would be long story. I don't have kids. Rare to someone around who is our age who knows anything about this. Rarer still to find anyone who has any diagnoses at all.
Wow! I am 69 and strong Asperger’s, with a chemical engineering degree and an MBA. I was self diagnosed at 50. I always knew I was different, probably weird is a better word. :). For the most part I loved the difference! I could do things the other women could not. I teach chemistry/physics to teenagers and love working with the Asperger’s and Autism students.
My child with Asperger's was moved to a higher age group in kindergarten because his language skill was beyond any of his peers. That sadly meant that all the other areas where he was lagging behind in was extra obvious.
So so so glad I found you! My son is 14 and has ADHD and Aspergers...and an IQ of 133...but only has 1 friend...breaks my heart. He is so very caring, loving, funny, and so gifted with technology...particularly hardware design and repair. I am smarter than a bag of rocks but not a genius like him! I am a very social person and love exercise very different from my son so....it is sometimes hard to connect. He will go on and on about retro tech and rewiring for hours and I’m like...(eyes glazed over)’Wanna workout?!’ Lol...he runs the other way... God has gifted him in so many ways but he has been bullied and has not found his people yet...we just want to help him utilize all of his gifts to the fullest...thanks for your videos
@Kristin McClellan if your son is anything like me 1 good close friend is more valuable than a roomful of people called friends. I was quite content focusing on the my interests at that time. As he matures and if he choses to go to higher education focusing on an engineering, math, computer science or science field, he may all of a suddenly feel he fits in very well. It happened for me.
Working out is probably very uncomfortable and tormentful for someone on the spectrum. His people are computer wizards, take him to a teen computer club where they play with linux and programming.
My son was diagnosed with high functioning Aspergers when he was in grade school. His therapist had to teach him how to use slang words so he could try to relate more to his peers. I don’t think he ever really caught on. I call him my Albert Einstein. 🙂 He’s 18 now and in college.
My son might be on the spectrum, hasn't gotten diagnosed, goes to speech and OT, he's super athletic. Hearing that your son is in college, eases my worries. ♡
Star Olivio it’s nothing bad they thought i was on it, but i just used to have signs when i was younger but now I’m fine got adhd tho and stuff so yeah, loads of famous people are on it so you should be fine all the best xx
I have aspergers and although not instinctively, I actively use the road man slang with them, not to be accepted but just to make them feel more at ease with me to ease them from my true evil and cold intentions
Always. Since I was very young I’ve felt that everyone else seemed to know how to do things, understand the rules of games, and socializing. It’s always felt like being on the outside and watching life as if it’s on a TV.
I felt that way, too, but I attributed it to being the oldest child in my family and having older parents. I thought it was because I didn't have older brothers and sisters to learn from.
I had a patient with Aspergers, he was highly intelligent and super sweet when I could understand his psyche. Thank you so much for posting! He kept apologizing for being “an asshole” but he really wasn’t. He kept saying, “ma’am I don’t mean to be a smartass but...” such a joy to treat him and loved talking to him!
One of my daughters didn’t speak until she was almost 2 years old, at which time she said in a perfectly articulate voice, “Mother would you hand me my softly blanket please?” My husband and I were frozen. Unfortunately, she wasn’t diagnosed until the 7th grade.
Observing, processing, making sure I was well prepared so I could do it correctly... ever since childhood! I hadn't experinced delayed speech, but I was instead an early reader. My mom used to read to me a lot, and didn't point to the words as she read. One sentence she had read, "If they want to cook I will let them cook," I responded, "Look Mommy. Two cooks," and I pointed to the words myself, "Cook and Cook." She must have been astounded, as she still tells the story some "forty-several" years later.
I work at a high school with all types of students. Those with ADHD, autism, PTSD, ect. I love my job and I love them. I try to learn as much as I can so that I can help and build up these wonderful, sweet students. Thank you for your channel and your hard work.
My grandson, age 21 , has never been diagnosed. He has always been unusually bright with excellent verbal skills since a baby. However social skills very slow. He is now an adult and see him blossoming. I have also seen him struggle all of his life. I want to be the best support I can be 4 him. This video is excellent. Thank u 4 sharing such important information.
The interesting thing here is that I was diagnosed with "Aspergers Syndrome/High Functioning Autism" back in 2006 (age 17) but my "functioning level" varies from day to day. Sometimes I can manage my life just fine with no assistance, and sometimes I need to be told to get out of bed and go to work. Sometimes I need to be reminded to brush my teeth, but the next day I will have everything in my routine completed well ahead of schedule. I can write with an incredibly complex lexicon, and usually speak just fine, but some days I can't string a sentence together coherently. Other times I am the one organising everyone else with my lists and my routines. My husband is the same with his ability to function and he got his diagnosis last year. We just generally go by the label "autistic" and leave it at that because it doesn't give people preconceived (and usually incorrect) ideas about what our lives are like or how well we can mask.
I relate so much to this, there are many days where i can't look people in the eye even if i try so hard to do it, or with the communication skills and writing, i can pick up all the sentences spontaneously to give sense to a sentence and be actively in a conversation, and there are other days where i just can't even say a word or i try really hard to talk, it's very complex thing because there are days where i can feel very good and have rest but my body is still needing more isolation or something else to cope with tiredness, i'm not even sure if i'm burnout or something but sometimes i can mask so well, sometimes i'm just very autistic.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he can now respond to name, orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏
@Bolin Hong ew. No, he isn't. Your son is masking like crazy because you have shown his true self isn't welcome around you. You could have caused PTSD and there's a good chance he will have a breakdown later in life because of your behaviour.
@@ahriarah2268 Your last part is what I relate to so hard. I never know if I just need isolation or I’m burnout or what. I try to force myself past it sometimes and fall into this internal pit of dread and I don’t want to do anything. Everything becomes tiring and I beat myself up over it, it’s so hard sometimes.
@@AliCatGtz hon, when we try to force ourselves past it, it puts enormous pressure on us and recovery time is longer. I’m still identifying triggers that will lead to burnout. Family gatherings burn me out so I’m extremely gentle with myself for at least two days afterwards. An appointment in the morning will burn me out for the rest of the day so I cocoon after appts. A doctors appt may take me at least a day to recover from. Sometimes just acknowledging that I’m being gentle with myself is a comfort 👍
I dropped out of high school because they were teaching math so slowly that I got bored with it and I really had no interest in writing for the other subjects so I found them very difficult to focus on and complete assignments. I worked construction for a few decades and had some social groups when I drank/did drugs but was generally a loner with only one or two close friends. I taught myself to build computers and then program them just for fun using books, web tutorials and experimentation. I "lucked" into an I.T. help-desk job when I was around 40 and was fortunate that I was given tasks based on ability rather than college diploma so I was the only programmer and database administrator for the company after only 3 years and have been working in the field since. My IQ was measured somewhere in the 140-150 range (I don't remember exactly). When my son was born, he was extremely intelligent - reading his own birthday cards at his 3rd birthday party by sounding out words like "congratulations" rather than just memorized words. On his kindergarten art work, he would occasionally write things like 3^2 = 9 or other things no kindergartner is expected to know. As he got older, he started to develop "quirks" and I suspected autism. I looked up the traits of autism to see if maybe they were a match for my son. I started down the list and every trait i kept saying "yeah but everyone's like that". About halfway down the list it became "yeah but everyone's like that. Aren't they?". By the time I got to the bottom of the list it became "OH! Everyone's NOT like that! I'M LIKE THAT!". At my age, I'm comfortable in my skin and have a good career so I've never bothered to get a formal diagnosis. I gave up drugs and drinking decades ago - I was never addicted, I just did it a lot to fit in with the groups I was hanging out with. Smoking weed helped with the anxiety but limited my intelligence/short-term-memory so I gave that up too. We gave up on the standard education system for my son. His IQ has been measured a few times - the lowest was 135 and the highest was around 150 (They didn't give a number, they said 99.9th percentile). They couldn't teach math/science at his level in elementary school and he was struggling with subjects that involved writing and didn't have interest in (sound familiar). He qualified for Intermediate Algebra on the placement test for the local junior college when he was 9 but his reading level was at about an 8th grade level (still great for a 9 year old but not ready for college). We're not trying to push him to be Doogie Howser or anything but we're trying to keep him learning at a pace where he's comfortable and the college environment is soooo much better for him. There's no colorful artwork on the walls. There are no screaming kids on the playground while he's taking a test. The kids at the college respect him and congratulate him for being there rather than ostracizing him or making fun of him for being different. My son's 11 now and has straight "A"'s in college (He did Geometry and Java programming last semester). We found a great home-school group that offers "a la carte" classes for English, history and other subjects where we don't feel he's ready for college-level. It was a struggle finding a path that worked for him and I actually attended college classes with him for the first few semesters (one advantage to being a high-school dropout with a flexible schedule). We're going to try an acting class next semester (along with Trigonometry). I think having to repeat scripted conversations with other actors will help with his social skills as well as give him some much-needed interaction with someone other than his family. I realize this turned into a novel. I just wanted to share with people who are on their own journey so they realize they're not alone. Thanks for all you do in these videos. I'm going to share with my son to see if he's interested in subscribing.
Lol Fiona he is American, it’s math here. My 3 sons all love math and hate writing, too. The middle one especially is on a track similar to yours, at 9 he is in algebra I. Rather than play with toys, he sits or runs around and imagines things, mostly with sci fi and superhero themes. He wants to be an engineer in the military. I don’t know if we are all aspies or just geeks but either way we’re wired differently.
The Anachronistic Life Sounds like a genius child! My IQ has never been tested but I am 14yo girl with Asperger’s. I would estimate my IQ to be 115-130 or something around that (above average but not ”gifted” (iq over 130)) We have different school system here but I skipped 1 grade 😌 I have always been decent at English and math 😂 My dream is to become a computer programmer
@The Anachronistic Life - When I was researching autism, I noticed that a common career is electrical engineering (my dad) and a common hobby is coin collecting (his dad). I realize that's anecdotal but actual research shows there's definitely a genetic component in some if not all cases.
I was married to an Aspie (he passed away last December), my daughter is an Aspie, and I have many traits myself. I was also VP of the Orange County Asperger's Support Group (Southern California) and helped parents, children, teens and adults on the spectrum connect with services and assistance. That being said, I have to disagree with you about IQ levels. Because tests are created for NTs, most people on the spectrum being tested are not getting accurate results. The tests don't take into account any processing disorders so common on the spectrum, especially those on the "lower" (I really hate that description) end of the spectrum. Since so many people assume that non-verbal autistics don't understand anything, a lack of intelligence is presumed. They are capable of so much more than parents, teachers and professionals give them credit for! I would wager that if appropriate tests could be constructed for those on the "lower end" of the spectrum, they'd outscore the test writers! Just my two cents, and I really enjoyed your video!
I agree. My second cousin has not been formally diagnosed. However, he shows signs of classic autism, but his intellect is very high. He majored in astrophysics, but could not live on campus due to his condition. He had to move back home. As for myself, I have several traits for “high functioning” Asperger Syndrome. I am mostly alone and have difficulty engaging with others socially. I do have two friends although it’s very difficult to talk with strangers or even family. I have been able to work, but I don’t have to talk so it is easier for me. I have never been formally diagnosed either, but my mother believes I am as she sees several things I do are aspie traits.
#2. I want to caveat your 2nd point. People with Asperger Syndrome also have trouble talking (I had to go to speech therapy for a few years when I was younger). After we learn how to, we do talk, ... a lot. Also, we still have trouble communicating when we're stressed and the like, but our vocabulary is great. Our vocab - A+ Our Communication Skills - C to F
Hi. I am here because my daughter (6) has been diagnosed with high functioning asd. And my 4 year old daughter is currently being tested. My wife and I are just trying to prepare ourselves to help them in everyway that we can! Thank you very much for creating this video!
i would look into testing for adhd or autism for you and your spouse, it’s more likely for a parent to also have it! (and it might help you with building relationship as your kiddos get older)
You’re putting your 4 year old through rigid examinations for Aspergers? He/she’s four f*cking years old. you want to help your child? Leave them the F*CK alone. Jesus Christ you people are mental
One thing to note... if you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism, My son was diagnosed at age 2 as non-verbal, classical autism. 40% of non-verbals do not "speak." He began talking when he was 4. My son has periods of enlightenment. At one time, floor time was a challenge, but one day he decided to set down and play with his OT therapist. He loves patterns... last summer he hid behind the counter when the clerk spoke to him, this summer he placed an order with a clerk for a chocolate chip muffin and an orange juice. Just as every person not on the spectrum, has their own journey, those on the spectrum have their journeys unique to them as well. As a Mother, if there is one thing I advocate a lot with, is my Son is not his diagnosis. My son, likes apples, video games, reading, playing in the dirt. He likes to build things. Once again, sooo appreciate your channel in educating. It gives me hope for my son's future.
I did not realize I was an Aspie until I was in my early fifties. That's when I started working with kids with disabilities. it was through my research on that subject I made the discovery that explained so much of my life. I always knew I saw things differently than most people and struggled a lot with social situations. But now that I know what it is that made me different, and have found new strategies for communicating and dealing with people, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me. Be able to be a part of forums like this is very helpful. Thanks!
Me too! There are many very subtle ways that aspie’s present. I have trouble with handwriting and when I was teaching I met students with the same problems to work on.
I was self-diagnosed (with the help of my husband) when I was in my early fifties. That's when our child was diagnosed and everything just fell right into place.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s when I was 40 (in 2020) after my therapist and friends recommended I do so. I’ve never been interested in being like other people but have always liked to make friends; I was lucky enough to be able to find friends at various points in my life but it’s become far harder as I’ve got older because I tend to feel as though I have to get it right first time. I’ve had a few jobs but most of them taught me that I can’t handle anything public facing (I did a lot of bar work but the public interactions, especially the false friendliness, exhausted me). I was passionate about music growing up and started to write songs, but even though I was in a band everyone around me kept discouraging me from it so I’ve had to keep it a secret that I still write and record. Along with songwriting (which is one of only a few interests I have) I read a lot of philosophy and am currently teaching it, though I had to drop out of a PhD because my supervisor wouldn’t give me a structure. I still have a somewhat childlike view of the world. I’m 42 but I dream about ‘what I want to do when I’m older’. I feel like I have to please others in order to avoid making them angry (I’ve been hit quite a lot because I’m quite direct and never apologise for anything that wasn’t my fault) but I also want to be different from them and not care what they think of me. It’s very difficult because I’ve found a lot of people don’t like it when someone is ‘just different’. Anyhow, my life isn’t all terrible! I’ve been in a great relationship for 16 years with someone who also has Asperger’s and we do a lot of things together, but she doesn’t want to live with me and it’s getting to a point where loneliness is affecting my physical health (I never lived alone until 2010, and have lived alone since then; I don’t like it). I have no financial security and while I dream about ways that might change they’re always far-fetched like being a professional songwriter (my dream job).
Being a professional songwriter is definitely not far-fetched. These days you have the advantage of the internet. Where there is a will, there is a way.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved
I'm 36, and got diagnosed having aspergers last september. Got in touch with a psychologist after a number of confrontations with the management at my workplace, and i finally got confirmation of why i had always felt so different from everyone else. It was such a relief. I liken it to finding a piece of a puzzle i didnt know i was lacking. Luckily, i'm no longer in danger of losing my job, though i am working with the national welfare agency to find a more suitable job. Since i got the diagnosis things have become so much better for me. I've been struggling with anxiety and depression, and just knowing why i feel the way i feel sometimes is such an empowering feeling. To know the demon by its name will strip it of its power over you.
I understand completely about finding your missing puzzle piece. After watching a "Top Twenty" video about things that people with autism spectrum find extremely irritating, so many puzzle pieces bounced across my mind and fell right into place. I was so ecstatic that, as my usual, I "leaked"! I compare it to a pressure relief valve letting go-- I look like I'm upset to the point of crying, sobbing, and trying to talk past the lump in my throat, and people who don't know "that's me" get confused. No, I'm not sad or mad, this happens when I get so full of (happy, love, gratitude, appreciation, relief, etc) that it leaks out of my eyes.
@@rebeccamay6420 a lot of people here speak to holding together & the apparent stoicism that comes with all this, and I relate to that part hard (why I'm reading these comments, expected to speak to that more readily, & empathizing with the original post more), yet conversely, so much this too. Being a guy (or thereabouts, barely), I've freaked out so many guys by trying to continue a talk through tears that come up, staying lucid & calm, but voice trembling, telling them I can be thin skinned, & to just ignore it. It's not the stoic me they've come to expect, it must be really serious, they can't even listen they have such alarm bells going off. sometimes it's just an emotional subject man, maybe it's important & worth talking about...people get really uncomfortable not compartmentalizing logic from emotion: I've never understood that part. Feels so unhealthy. What part of logic tells people that it's logical to tell someone they shouldn't feel an emotion, like that solves anything, you know? Or people like Richard Dawkins & Sam Harris, talking about how religion is counter to logic & science, needing eradication. Sure, great evils perpetrated through history in the name of god time & again, sure I'm pretty atheistic myself, but what picture of health is it that says that one part of the brain is good & another is lesser & not to be valued, then goes around speaking from the amygdala about the dangers of emotional thinking & the need for its eradication. These layers are so important & should really do a lot to inform all one's "rational" decisions. It's baffling when they don't see their own blind spots. We need so much better of a culture in regards to allowing for and teaching emotional processing to people.
@@Kelos7 the shortest verse in the (KJV) Bible says so much in two words: "Jesus wept." This describes his reaction when seeing his closest friends mourning the death of Lazarus, even though he knew he had gone there to resurrect Lazarus. 📖❤️ If you believe what the Bible says is true, you will recognize that Jesus had a pre-human existence. As the first of God's creative works, he was made to perfectly reflect his Father's qualities, and he was a Master Worker by his Father's side through the rest of the creative Days. Of all the creative works, his favorite was Humankind - we were also made in God's image, reflecting God's qualities. Humans feel deep emotions because God feels the same emotions, as did Jesus when living on earth. As he was moved to tears by intense emotions, so should we expect to have intense emotions that move us to tears. It is not a sign of weakness, but an indicator of how closely we resemble the most powerful being in all existence -- our Father, Creator, God. Scripture references available at www. JW .org -- type the key words in the Search bar. Feel free to follow along in your own copy of the Bible.
I have autism, I was originally diagnosed with Severe Language impairment before I was diagnosed as hfa, I’m not offended by labels of Iq , I know I ain’t no Einstein and I’m fine with that
I have moderate intellectual impairment with "autistic spectrum disorder " but my only symptoms are social impairments. I'm confused. I wish I could say I have it but the other therapists say that I don't, only one says I do.
@@birdlover6842 diagnosing something like asperger or autism can be really hard since autism is a spectrum and people’s symptoms get to vary a lot, many times people can’t really tell the difference between neurotypical and some neurodivergent individuals. So you might be either neurotypical or a high functioning neurodivergent. I’m having a similar situation, one of my therapist has suspections of me having asperger syndrome, but I haven’t got a diagnose yet because there’s no enough information to tell yet
I spent my entire life feeling like an alien. As if I didn’t belong here. I’ve struggled my entire life to function normally and have also felt like I was a failure- no matter what I achieved. About ten years ago, I learned a had attention deficit disorder; that made a lot of things make sense, but not everything. Three months ago- I found the right therapist who had me evaluated for Aspergers; and now I finally have the missing piece of my puzzle. It’s made all of the pieces fit together and now I have names and words to identify the things i experience and the way that I function in the world. It is a huge relief! I can now research and learn how to best live with my kind of brain. In addition- it’s also a reminder of the neglect and abuse I came from and a testament to the failure of my parents ; my school and the education system itself. There were obvious signs that I was not okay. My parents paid for my education; so everyone looked the other way. If you saw my report cards- you would know something was wrong. I was passed along because I was intelligent and had a high IQ and because my education was expensive. Thank you for your channel!! I’m so happy I found you. 😁
I completely understand what you are talking about!! I have ALWAYS KNOWN as well as EVERYONE ELSE that has ever met me that I was very very different but I never knew why. I always felt like an alien from another planet because I never ever got how life worked ever. I was faking my whole life because I was trying to do what everyone else was doing but they always seemed like they knew what they were doing and why. I was just doing stuff that they did because when I didn't it was a big deal. It was and still is exhausting trying to remember all of the rules and public behaviors that are considered appropriate. I always thought everyone must feel this way but why do they do these things then? I never understood. I remember thinking to myself in public places "I hope they don't catch me trying to be one of them ". I knew I wasn't like everyone else since birth I just never knew why. I was always the "weirdo", "crazy", whatever, I heard it my whole life. I don't know why I never sought help either. I just figured this is the way my life is so oh well and I would try to fit in harder next time. Academically I am smart which helped me throw people off with my quirkiness. I have a professional degree and license so I believe that people questioned my eccentricities but thought "she passed the licensing board so she must be ok". I just recently found out in the last 2 years that I am high functioning autistic. Now the world makes sense. It doesn't change anything but at least I know what made me an alien
I’m sure our parents did the best they could at the time. Not sure how old you are but my brother is an aspie and my mom almost certainly is also myself but my mom still believes only males can be on the spectrum so I was just an odd and problematic girl growing up and my whole life but I’m actually trying to understand things now meanwhile my mother is very lost and her life is sad.
@@aloalo3727 people often assume that being on the "spectrum" is a rare thing, but the often unseen truth is that almost all people in the world can more or less be diagnosed to be on the so called "spectrum", it's all about functionality difference, a diagnose is a generalization of certain behaviors, back in the day, only people who were deemed to not being capable of adapting to "society" would ever receive a diagnose, because those individuals were deemed "problematic" and people being people, wanted "reasons" for "problematic" behavior. You being diagnosed in this age, more or less mean you're more conscious about your own functionality differences than many other people. When we are babies, children, we observe the world and our surroundings, we mimic what happens around us, it's more or less done unconsciously, that you even realized your own behavior was an "act" already made you more mentally mature than a good portion of the population. People who aren't aware of their behavior are often referred to in popular medias as NPC (non-playable character) as they don't question why they do the things they do, they just do the same as "everyone" else, monkey see, monkey do. Mimicry may be a childish aspect of people, but it's still one of our first steps in learning anything, being aware of why you learn something is the next step, being able to apply it in other areas is even better. Well, seeing this is an old post of yours, I don't expect any reply, so have a nice day.
I’m a tattoo artist who recently got diagnosed with ASD or Aspergers. I went undiagnosed for 25 years and I really appreciate learning all of this. Thank you for the videos!
I found out I had aspergers at 19 and I can honestly say having aspergers has definitely had its ups and downs in my life but I’m just happy that it’s made me who I am today and thank you for this content. It’s dope.
I am here because my son has ASD1 (Aspergers). We live in Ontario Canada. My son is 9 years old. I like watching videos of individuals who are adults with autism. Thank you for making this videos.
I have several friends with autism spectrum condition. I found your channel a year or so ago when looking for more information. Videos like this improve my understanding and have also helped my relationship with my best friend.
My 11 years old son was diagnosed with mild autism. He is very gentle with everyone and his teachers in school are very amazed with his intelligence thinking out of the box. I can't have enough of him as he is so loving and don't talk much unless he got something to explain. He is very popular with his friends as well. May God bless him with a long prosperous life.
I am 25, turning 26 in a few weeks and I found out I was on the spectrum this weekend. I am a construction electrician and this explains ALL of my anxiety about work. Thank you for your video's. I'm excited to learn how my brain works!
5:26 I wouldn't say "obsession" or something close too it, for vocabulary. More like, sponge. Sponge works better, cause you don't actively seek out new words, you just go about your business , hear it and the word simply gets absorbed. Now you know a new big word, simply cause... the word found you as I where going along minding your own business and it just got sucked into your life. So pretty much, Unwitting Word Magnet Sponge! You don't seek out a larger vocabulary, it just magnetizes onto you and you absorb it, just for passing by.
I like the sponge analogy. That person with a huge vocabulary didn't set out to acquire it. The person is a passive recipient. Does anyone do this with languages? I have older relatives who had way, way more exposure to Polish than I did, yet I blow them out of the water. I'm mystified by this and frequently see it in my line of work as well. How can a person with no sensory or cognitive issues be surrounded by a language and pick up almost nothing of it???
You need to absorb the importance of proof reading. I have Asperger's. And I will freak out if I have used the wrong version of a word, or misspelled one.
@@crystalmyers7166 Unless you think you are going to get attacked for what words you use, triggering fight or flight response, Freaking out over misspellings and the wrong usage is not a feature of Asperger Syndrome. That is an OCD for grammer correction that risk becoming a form of prejudice towards people with Dyslexia. And I bet most the time, the spelling grammer mistakes are usually insignificant and the message soften times still easily understood. So perhaps, stop hating or stop trolling.
I'm at writer and editor, and love language. I often use words that other people don't and wonder why they can't understand me. My friends call me 'pencyclopedia'. They don't even google they just ask me. Interesting, I do have good verbal skills, but socially I do struggle, especially in a group setting. At school I was bullied for being smart. So that was really interesting. Thanks for explaining that. I'm probably Aspie.
Aspergers isn't a diagnosis in my nordic country (hasn't been in MANY years) and many others anymore, so I'm very surprised when people still use it. In my country the so called "Aspergers" is just autism, since autism is seen as a spectrum, like the name says: autism spectrum disorder. some people just have "milder" symptoms than others. Many people today see the Aspergers diagnosis as ableist, since for years and years people with that diagnosis were seen as the "good autistic" people, having less visible symptoms that would bother neuro typical people. many neurotypical people feel uncomfrotable of seeing people with autism with more visible symptoms, they were/are mocked and judged more than those with non visible symptoms. I'm also autistic, I was diagnosed just this year at the age of 36 (I'm female).
I have Asperger's 1. Mine is "Language/Literature" 2. Zero ability to understand intention of other person when talking to them 3. Exceptional prose writing skill 4. Yes, consciously needed to learn worldly skills, didn't learn them automatically like neurotypical people, but do manage somewhat 5. Yes, no speech delay The one thing that is a hindrance to me is my mind is unable to connect the dots (eg events) and second I'm too honest, i believe everything I'm told, i get backstabbed a lot
@@whatsgoingon6256 there are many tests available online. But i recommend watching this video. For me, except the motor/balance problem, it is 100 percent accurate. I'm pasting the link below: th-cam.com/video/gdSzM3MHfOA/w-d-xo.html
i have aspergers and i had delayed speech i’m also really into psychology but i also have dyslexia so my spelling skills are really bad so i stutter sometimes.
I’m autistic with two kiddos with autism. Myself and my older son would be on the “higher” end of the spectrum and my younger son in the middle to lower aspect. I’m a wheelchair expert and make wheelchairs for folks with disabilities. Great content!
I’m an aspie and I love history. I excelled in other topics but history was my best. I even got an associates degree at the same time of my high school graduation. I did suck with my social life and bullying but nothing keeps me down
41yo, successful software engineer, father of 3, fit, living overseas, ASD level 2 diagnosed a few months ago. - hyperacusis - tinnitus - emotional meltdown after long domestic arguments - priorities on logic and honesty over politeness - difficulty integrating certain groups like jocks bantering - there is often one single right way of doing things (like chopping onions)
Yeah, I'm not much younger, also a software developer / technical artist with ADD & Aspergers. Also, probably about to be a dad, & probably to only boys as luck may well have it. I've never been able to integrate with...jocks, or really any overtly male culture either, so I've always felt mostly intrepidation at the prospect of raising a son, let alone only sons. Hard to know what to make of it, but you never know who they'll be either.
Not autistic, but I do have schizophrenia and I have many autism/aspberger like traits. I have sensory issues, mental breakdowns, average IQ, good verbal skills. I just don’t like large crowds, certain textures/colors, smells. You could never tell I have schizophrenia until you get deep into conversation with me...or I have a mental breakdown. Life can be very difficult but I do my best. ❤️
I was diagnosed with high functioning autism at an early age. Surprisingly, I work as a server in a fine dining restaurant where I make great money. Even though I've never received therapy, I have adapted to act neurotypical and honestly, aspergers is not much of a problem in my life anymore. On days where I'm exhausted, my true personality does tend to show more, but most people dismiss it because I come off as a genuine, quirky guy. I love to make others laugh and love to have conversations, and I have perfected maintaining eye contact.
My friend is extremely high-functioning autistic. He graduated college, dates; extremely intelligent. He does Miss a few social cues here and there but I don't see much difference between him and everyone else.
I think it’s interesting coming across this video 4 years later, in a time when “Asperger’s Syndrome” is no longer in formal clinical use (at least in the US), and instead it gets rolled into the wider ASD spectrum. This makes more sense to me, as I have always felt these not to be different conditions, but differences in scale and intensity of the same condition.
I’m a mom who recognized all my children’s struggles as the same struggles I had as a child. They, fortunately, were diagnosed and we got help. I’m working on overcoming all the trauma of not having a childhood diagnosis. My mom was obsessed with my IQ, but hated my idiosyncrasies.
My oldest child was diagnosed at 24. I think if she is autistic then the second child is probably autistic as well. I am frustrated at all of the doctors therapists, psychologists etc who dealt with her over 20+ years didn't get it right.
I am 80 and a retired special ed teacher for students with severe disabilities. I can count at least 5 times when a student was placed in my class because of verbal or social problems, but they were very intelligent. I quickly recognized these students and worked to get them into appropriate classes that recognized their intelligence. It is extremely interesting for me to see these podcasts of people on the spectrum so I can listen to their perspective. Thank you, so much
I'm 63 and tested top 10 in my state in mechanical aptitude and received a scholarship to a technical institute a month before I flunked out of high school. The high school at one point had put me in special ed. class. I wish you would have been the teacher. :)
I self diagnosed as having Aspergers several years ago. No need for a formal diagnosis, I'm older and have lived my whole life with this, not realizing this was even a thing. I have the sensory and social issues, high IQ and have managed to function, but with huge anxiety and not coming close to my potential. I have been the proverbial victim of abusers, due to my 'condition' I guess. Aspergers is so different from Autism, I don't understand why it doesn't have it's own classification. Sure, it shares some symptoms, but it's more different than the same. I needed help and support through my life, but it just wasn't recognized or available, I am intelligent, and can present very well, but everything which involved other people was always so confusing and exhausting, so I basically just survived rather than excelled or thrived, always blaming myself for not trying hard enough. Now I'm retired, self diagnosed and dealing with the grief of the loss of a lifetime of wasted potential. The one positive is that I can stop blaming myself for my failure. I understand myself now and live quite happily with my 2 dogs.
My story is similar. I plowed through my career as a computer programmer. I’m now a senior software engineer and at 65 years old, thinking I should probably retire. I am self diagnosed after suffering several meltdowns resulting in self inflicted injuries. I then went through autistic burnout while continuing to work, making my recovery longer than it may have been. I’ve worked remotely for years, enabling me keep my condition hidden from my team. Even working from home has become much more difficult since my burnout. I’ve told a my family, some of whom literally scoffed at my confession. As if having a successful career excludes the very possibility of neurodivergence. I was astounded of my own ignorance as I learned just what autism is. Of course now I recognize my daughter and all three of my sons display classic spectrum traits. My grandchildren also on the spectrum. One is non-verbal. I agree with your thinking a diagnosis is of no matter. I would prefer to work on myself through therapy and self reflection. One of my special interests is bicycling and in retirement I plan to become more active with my cycling club and take up bike camping. Best wishes to you. I too spend energy regretting my ignorance of my condition but like you, I feel better knowing my failed relationships have a root cause.
I am 58 and I have learned a lot about myself just by listening to your self-understanding experiences. I must have Asperger's because I fit the mold you are describing in Autism vs. Asperger's nearly 100%. In high school, I was gifted at learning foreign language, algebra & geometry, geography (maps) and I can't stand trying small talk in any social settings. I am suddenly clumsy with my eye-hand coordination, I still spill things spontaneously because my hands suddenly jump thinking I need to catch the cup, glass or whatever, even a bowl of soup for no apparent reason. I enjoy your personal revelations on how you manage to live with all of your conditions interacting among themselves. Tricky business just being consistent!
I know this is three years old, but my 9 year old has autism/aspergers. There is a HUGE difference, so I don't really like that we have split from it so much that we cannot call it what it is so we as parents can understand the differences better now. Now it's a number on a scale, not a clear, here is the difference. It makes it harder for us to navigate in my opinion. Thank you for your video! ❤️
Love your clear non judgemental way of explaining. I have an adult son who I believe has Aspergers but he gets upset when I try to raise the topic. Understanding more helps me understand him more
I’m 23 and just coming to terms with the fact I may have autism. Yours and Yo Sandy Sam’s videos have been so amazing for helping me realise this fact and understand that there are other people struggling through the same things as me. Thank you so so so much
It's been a month since I got diagnosed, your videos helped me to get motivated to get myself diagnosed. It's been quite an experience and in retrospect it's funny how many of the things that made me feel isolated where due to an undiagnosed ASD. The best part tbh is that the aspie community is amazing and filled with interesting people
I’m a music teacher and am coming into contact with more students on the spectrum. For a few months now, I’ve wanted to learn more about how autism is related to music and made it a 2023 goal. These students are remarkable and I love meeting them at their learning level…I just want to understand how to communicate with these kiddos more effectively.
I’m just a 12 year old trying to figure out whats wrong with me, cause my mom doesn’t even care enough to realize there is something wrong with her own daughter. :)) Tysm everyone, I got diagnosed a few months ago and so did my sister, you guys really helped
It's not common for adults to know, plus, if you have it, the chances are she has it too and might need to enter her own journey of discovery. Persevere with them, maybe do a list of her traits on her behalf, then take her the blank test for her to fill in her self x
Hi,I'm a mom of a 14 years old,sometimes it's hard to find out without help, try to write her a letter letting her know that you feel different from others and send videos like this one to her cell so she can start getting some inf.that's how my daughter communicates w us most of the time. Good luck, and if you need a friend maybe my daughter can be. She's very friendly but doesn't have many friends, we live in Los Angeles. Y can send you my wattsup.let me know.
Oh sweetheart, you are loved. Keep your head up. You were made unique by. God. You communicate different and act different than most, but there is an often hidden minority of others who communicate in the same way you do! You are not a tragedy! God loves you! I promise to pray for you!
I was diagnosed last year with ASD along with DID, OCD and Bipolar. I'm also gifted and I have synesthesia. (Which is a double edge sword, btw) Einstein has never been confirmed to be Asperger. Never knew how to tie my shoes or chew or even fold a piece of paper until I was 8 years old. But at that age I was already reading books from college. Started reading when I was 7 months. I had selective mutism, meaning I would only speak 3% of the time. My mom would say: "Go and play with the other kids" I would go and then go back to solitude. My mom: "Alone again?" Told her: "You told me to go. You never told me to stay." On my first day at school I thought they brought me into a farm. All the children were shouting and running like crazy so I ran away from class and I hide in the library which it would become my temple for the next 15 years. I expected the video to be more detailed but it was detailed enough for people who are not in the spectrum. Thank you for spreading awareness about ASD.
@@VetaPhoenix….While talking to her, Call her from another phone and ask to speak with you. Don't try it when Saturn is rising.....it caused the dinosaur extinction.
My 5-year old daughter was diagnosed at 2 with autism. Struggling with speech so much right now. Thank you for sharing so much info. It’s so powerfully helpful to me as a parent.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best. #droyalo
Thinking about it, language is more emotional than logical, which explains why people on the spectrum often talk later than their peers if at all. Possibly, we need a fuller understanding of the word before we're comfortable using it, which helps develop our technical understanding of the language down the line. There are of course those of us who speak early, which could be explained by higher IQs helping them to decode the language easier, alternatively an early talent at masking
Yo Brotha, since the Aspbie community has taken a little more control over the vernacular, we don't refer to Spectrum folks as high or low functioning, but rather high or low SUPPORT. This is in reference to helping the Normies know how to deal with us without referring to each other in terms that denote personal value. Just an FYI! Keep up the great work educating the Typicals!
That's really helpful actually thank you :) I wasn't ever really sure how to describe my sister's autism without it sounding potentially derogatory so I'll keep this in mind.
The diagnosis of Asperger's is actually done away with (yay!) See Chloe Hayden's video on why Asperger's needs to go. We are all autistic, and at varying levels of support.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m a mom with ADHD, and getting my diagnosis as an adult was really life changing for me in many ways. It helped me to feel seen and understand my own pathology. Therefore I have been trying to crack the puzzle on how my children think and respond to the world around them by seeing what brain type they have. There was a lot about my son that I thought lined up with Autism, but then many things that didn’t. Hearing you talk about Asperger’s really is so enlightening He maintains pretty decent eye contact and has fairly decent social skills, however he can’t always pick up on social queues for example when someone is overwhelmed by his hyper fixations or if someone is getting upset he won’t know until there is very clear verbal communication or an explosive reaction His language has always been incredible. But he has missed physical development markers. Poor coordination etc He is dyslexic and has ADHD and struggles with reading and writing, but his ability to recognise patterns and sequencing, and small details most people would miss..off the chats So amazing He has physical ticks like jumping and hand flapping I was so confused before but your videos have helped me to understand now what direction we should be looking in. Because the spectrum is so big, having sub categories helps a huge amount in my opinion Thank you so much I couldn’t find any video out there like this
I have two young daughters who are diagnosed with autism. I came across your video talking about women/girls who are diagnosed with autism and I've seen a few of your other videos and now I'm questioning myself. I've never been diagnosed, and I've never even considered it until coming across your videos and the information resonates with me.
Hey!! Well autism is in the genes as far as science can make out, so it is a possibility. Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
Hey, I just heard the last symptom of autistic children was delayed speech. My son, even with Asperger's, didn't talk until he was around 5. I had his hearing tested when he was 3, and they told me he was stupid. But I knew better. He took speech therapy at school, kindergarten through high school. (We just happened to land in a great school district!) His vocabulary is now excellent... And, yes, he will talk my ears off about subjects he enjoys.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved
I was diagnosed with Asperger's and had a speech delay. I couldn't speak at all until I was almost 4 and still have some trouble forming words. In preschool, I was able to read before I was able to talk. All of the other Asperger's symptoms do line up with my experience, though. Not that it matters anymore since Asperger's was merged into Autism Spectrum Disorder and no longer exists as a separate diagnosis.
My son (7) was diagnosed with ADHD last year and is about to have testing and evaluation done for ASD or other processing issues. We wouldn't be shocked if it does come back as 'Aspergers' (though we know it's no longer the phrasing used). I enjoy your channel as it's helped me better educated myself and my understanding from the perspective my son might have in terms of his own lived experience.
Thanks for this! To answer your question, I came upon this because I’ve gotten really close to someone with Asperger’s, ADHD and dyslexia. So I was trying to get a better understanding.
This actually explains a lot for me; I was only recently diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum as an adult. My IQ is around 150 (based on an IQ test I had in my early 20's), when in school my teacher had actually noticed something which he wrote in a school report; that being that I had the ability to understand some very complex topics that the other students struggled to grasp, but the flip side was that I also struggled with the simple things that others found easy. My number one topic in school was science. Later on as an adult I have gotten into deep philosophical topics; things like that just tend to click in my brain, allowing me to often easily see and understand things others dont. I struggle in social situations; I hate being the center of attention and prefer being on my own rather than with others. I also sometimes forget how to spell words, usually the more simple ones. About the speech delay thing; Apparently when I was first starting school, my teachers had problems understanding me because my speech wasn't properly developed, not like the other children. I struggled with learning to speak and to read and write. Also, my entire life, even when I was a child, I have felt that I am different, not special, just different, like I dont really fit in somehow...
On understanding complex topics but struggling with simple ones, I loved algebra at school and was good at it but I can't tell the time on an analogue clock.
@@baffledmouse Thats really interesting. I can tell time on an analogue clock, but it took me a long time, must longer than everyone else, but I eventually got it. The reason it took me longer is because, due to having ASD, we dont tend to learn the same as everyone else. I have a friend who also has ASD, and when I met him, he too could not tell the time on an analogue clock. I offered to try to teach him, but he said there was no point as he had been all through school and college, and in all those years no one had been successful in teaching him. Long story short, I gave it a go and used the way that I think about things in order to try and teach him. He can now tell the time, and it took me about 20 mins to teach him, and he got it, he said it was like something just clicked with the way I showed him. He still prefers digital time to analogue, but he can look at an analogue clock and tell the time...
Hi Dan, Thank you for sharing your knowledge between Asperger's and Autism. I was never actually diagnosed as having autism but my IQ in school was below average and always needed one on one help with tests given to me verbally and worded differently to understand the question. Now as an adult and in an autism program, i still struggle with communication and social hindrances. At the early days, they never even had tests to diagnose autism let alone talked about,. Now i am close to finally getting help from a regional center for support. Thanks again. Ryan.
I’m a behavioral therapist, this was just super interesting for me to watch. Working and understanding with autistic children has truly made me consider if I’m a part of the spectrum. There’s so many things about it that I still don’t know and feel like i should know.
I was diagnosed at 55 with Asperger syndrome and ADHD. Im always smarter in any group. Now, I understand why, and I have accepted my uniqueness and difference with the people in general
BRO I got diagnosed after 25 years of not knowing! (I have Aspergers/High Functioning Autism). I'm just starting my channel that will emphasize more on how us older people survive in this society. The IQ is so true! We are so awesome! I'm stoked to have found your channel! Cheers! Aloha
Found out at 51 that I'm an Aspie. Found it very helpful and a relief in many ways, but the social skills deficits and anxiety are still really a barrier for me. My career was in the medical field. I still consume technical books and new learning all the time, to the frustration of my spouse, as I call short in many other areas despite my strengths. We live in rural area and I just don't feel useful or competent or fit in anywhere socially so I feel lonely and bored a lot. My hope is that we can move and buy a house that will allow me to create a space in our home that will allow small groups of ASD people to meet in a safe place for social and creative activities that is welcoming and accepting of our glorious uniqueness. It's very hard to be different than 99% of people
Hey - just so you know - 100% of people are DIFFERENT from 100% of people! You've succeeded at finding a spouse and keeping a marriage together, which a LARGE number of us are unable to do, and have a career doing something you like, which many people haven't been able to! Count your blessings, you're one of the lucky folks, even if you ARE a bit bored right now - good luck with your future!
I'm autistic. I hate math too. I think classic autism is right-brained autism. Whereas Aspergers is left-brained autism Left-Brained Functions Motor Skills, Verbal Skills & Social Skills Maths/Sciences Language and Coding Following Directions Teamwork Analysis and Application Social Adjustment Cognitivity Sobriety Appropriation Classic ASD/MASCULINITY Nonverbalism Social maladjustment Troubles following directions Bigger problems handling emotions Recapping left-brained functions Functions meant for neurotypicals, Asperger-autistics or females. Some neurotypicals or females maybe not. But yes for the most part. Whereas classic-autistics or males in general are not fit in this area for the most part of course. Not all maubfprarrasllômasculiniturrublezza
Hey! Thank you so much for the video. I was showing it to my nearly 9 year old son who has got aspergers. I want him to understand himself and how his mind and brain work. I appreciate it!
Finally I'm diagnosed at 41 well I got my answers now I wish I was diagnosed earlier because it would help me and my parents a lot, pity it would solve a lot of problems, diagnosis at early age helps a lot don't be afraid of the diagnosis or feel ashamed, knowing your condition only helps... So yes accept ur condition and search for answers, please accept and do not live in denial.... It's not your fault or smt you should be ashamed of
Hi there I can understand where you are coming from . As I only got diagnosed at the age of 45yrs that was last year's. And also wish I had known sooner so i could of gotten help at a younger age. So I could understand it better. I've got the diagnosis but no help understanding the condition.
@@heatherrennie2117 yes but now at least you know when to ask for help when there is a problem that u cannot solve alone, you know why you were considering things differently than the others and you know when to ask for help, ignorance of our condition makes life harder and more difficult to cope with, accept it and do not feel ashamed, it's a just syndrome that we were born with, not our fault
Am I the only one who has intentionally avoided a formal diagnosis? All my life has been a constant and very stressful fight to mimic "normies", and I think I succeeded well enough, but even so I retired early because of this stress. I knew I was on this spectrum, but I always thought that if formally diagnosed I would have lost the will to continue this fight and my career would have suffered accordingly.
IQ only measures how well a person can answer the questions on the IQ test. The test is usually quite pointed as far as what the test is looking for or is able to measure.
I'm 82 years old and have come to realize in the past several years that i may be on the autism spectrum plus BPD and CPTSD. Due to my age and location and insurance limitations, a professional assessment or diagnosis of any of these conditions is not likely to occur. But I have found videos like yours to be helpful in raising my level of understanding of my problems, past and present. Thank you.
I think it is wonderful that you are doing these videos. I was recently told by a psychologist that I very probably have ASD, or Aspergers. It blindsided me and now I am trying to find out all I can about it. It can be really difficult, because even when people who have some form of autism talk about what it is like, not all of it applies to me and then I am very uncertain that I have Aspergers, but then some of it will also make a lot of sense. The more people tell their stories, the more people can find someone who has similar experiences.
I’m working with an agency and they strongly suspected I have aspergers after watching me in a group situation weekly and by doing 1-1 sessions. I’m trying to do a bit of research so I can understand it better and all your videos are making everything in my life make sense for the first time.
I am not diagnosed as having autism or asperger's, but I'm being screened for it due to concern from parents and doctors. I watched this video for a bit more Information.
I was showing signs of Autism as a child, but never was diagnosed. I have trouble with various things from socializing to on the spot problem solving. I just go with the motions with socializing as I feel I am expected to respond with and panic when I am in a situation where I need to figure out something on my own. It impacts work, education, and my driving and it sucks.
I'm 57, was only diagnosed last fall. When I was in school, 70s-1984, this wasn't a thing. A lot of kids with Aspie symptoms were usual labeled ADD or ADHD. I was treated as a brat, and looking back at how some kids treated me, they thought I was low intellect. Despite the fact that I was reading Shakespeare or Psychology Today. I just couldn't learn in the typical American public school. So I discovered the library, and taught myself.
When you were talking about IQ and mentioned history among the topics a person who has Asperger's can be interested in and super good at, I appreciated that a lot. Most people think it's more of a maths/science/informatics/technology thing, but now I got confirm that it can be about things like history too! I'm not officially diagnosed with anything but trying to figure out if I could be on the spectrum and I have an insane passion and deep interest in history so...it was nice hearing someone mentioning that 🤗
I have Aspergers :) I'm not amazing at maths and science, but I can do them relatively well. I'm studying child development. I love talking but I have bad social skills, I tend to talk over people and I don't get the "flow" of conversation. I have a pretty good vocab and I love big words. In terms of life skills, im a bit lazy and my mum still does a lot of my chores but I want to move out one day so im going to have to learn and I want to. I didn't have any developmental delays as a child, but I did struggle with making friends and social skills. I loved this video as I have never really thought about the differences or have known what they are
That sounds sorta like me. Though I was never allowed to be lazy. I did my chores or I got my ass beat and punished. Can't blame them. No one cleans up after you other then you when you live alone. Also, can agree to the science and math. I'm better at history and creative writing. War history is my favorite.
@@collinspecht6725 I'm not allowed to be lazy, I just get away with it a lot. My mum tries to make me do stuff, but she's a pushover and if I leave them she will eventually do them. I don't encourage this attitude and I do do as she asks a lot of the time. My lack of motivation/lazyness is in part down to my depression and other mental health problems.
Yes, I am easily bored, high I.Q. and my life work (Other then being a Monk) is master picture framer. I started working with wood at 6. In 8th grade, I built a 5 tier spice rack, from 1 piece of pine board lumber. I retired in 2001, to go back to St.Gregory's Abbey, and begin my Vows. I am building a workshop at my house (5500sqft) and I collect antiques, rugs and art. The best part of being a picture framer, was getting to frame 25-30 pieces of art a week and never spend a penny on art!!! I do have a large collection, and I am a restorer and conservator, and I also make meusem grade display boxes. I guess if you don't tell a kid he can't do something, he will never know he can't, and he will do it anyway. Brother James Kendall Moore OSB (OFS OSC.)
I’m a 78 year old Canadian lady who married a 65 year old man 17 years ago who had never been married. I know his parents & only sibling, an older brother, (all with Jesus now) would’ve wondered why Colin was obviously rather “different”. I myself am the one who suddenly realized why Colin seemed rather different when I was watching a video in TH-cam, explaining details about Asperger’s….which I had never heard of before. We had been married for several years when I happened upon this video. I realized that the details being explained about Asperger’s was like he was describing Colin! Colin doesn’t mind my telling people he has Asperger’s. He does indeed have extensive knowledge of certain topics which he had found particularly interesting…..such as astronomy, history, geography, languages, and he’s amazingly able to instantly memorize phone numbers….which is particularly beneficial for me….with my memory worsening with age. Colin will be 83 in May, so of course he tires quickly and easily now. But I’ve learned how to calm him down when he so easily gets frustrated when looking for something! He HATES having to search for things! He becomes very easily overwhelmed if given more than one task. He’ll angrily say, “ONE THING AT A TIME!! ONE THING AT A TIME!!” He can’t tolerate loud sounds. Even if a sound isn’t loud, but IS REPITATIVE, he HAS to IMMEDIATELY find out what’s causing it. But he CAN AND DOES carry on an intelligent conversation. Another subject he excels at is biblical facts. We’re evangelical Baptists. He has ZERO patience,….and NO SENSE of LOGIC!! God blessed ME with a crazy sense of humour. Colin TRIES to also copy my kind of humour….and seems to THINK he’s being funny,….but never is. He also picks up on certain phrases I’ve said once in awhile….and soon “claims them as his own”…by frequently mimicking me. lol Once in awhile he does embarrass me…..like when he was trying to pay a friend a little extra, when buying something from the friend. The friend politely refused to accept the extra bit of money,…..so, to my horror and dismay, Colin THREW the money at him with frustration!! But the fellow, who was French-Canadian, and just slowly learning English, forgave him….graciously. I couldn’t explain Colin’s mental condition to him because his English was not good enough to understand me. But you’re right about an Aspie’s intelligence. He IS INDEED QUITE intelligent. 😁👍🏻❤️
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Anyone ever feel like they’re in a play they didn’t get the script for?
Nah just a waking nightmare where i'm afraid that all of this is in my head and i'm drooling in a chair somewhere
I feel like I’m the one in the play.. faking everything to fit in
I always thought of it as a neverending theater sport.
This is a perfect discription!
Kay Reiz exactly. It’s exhausting
Also, when my brother was nonverbal, I wanted him to have a language. So I taught him sign language. But with every single word he learned, he spoke it. The sign language opened up his ability to speak. Fascinating!
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That's why many kids with speech problems are taught sign language. My brother has Down syndrome and is on the autistic spectrum. When we were kids, he was taught to sign and he still sometimes does. My daughter has Asperger's and her speech therapist recommended to teach her sign language. Unfortunately I have forgotten how to sign and I could understand her very impaired speech, so I never got around of doing that.
That is interesting...
That's amazing!
I used sign language as well with my son and he learned it quickly. It helped so much with accelerating his language.
I’m Aspergers, I’m good at one-on-one conversations, but in social groups I tend to not communicate well with the Normies.
Same! I totally clam up... Can't think of responses. Can't tell when it's my turn to talk. Lose track of topic etc. It's hard. One on one though... I'm golden.
I'm the same. When there's 2 plus me I end up watching verbal tennis lol
Same. Group convos overwhelm me, unless I really like the people and it's not too crazy/loud
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XanthiaJo I am so good at verbal tennis... Should be a sport. 😆
When my boyfriend and I began dating I didn't know he had asperges, he tried to hide it because he didn't want me to think of him as "different". Unfortunately, this caused problems in the relationship, and my family/friend's perception of him. I came from a background where my family and I had no understanding of asperges. We got engaged and the relationship broke down, he went into shut down during a time where I had a serious operation. 11 months on he's opened up to me about it, and we're back together. I'm trying to better understand so I don't misconstrude behaviours. Thank you so much Dan for putting yourself out there and helping people like me better understand. I've found your videos a great source of support. Very grateful x
After I received a diagnosis it all made sense. I remember my grandma always forcing me to do eye contact and forcing me to eat the food I hated. And how they said something was wrong with me when I was in elementary school and I was always being bullied for being quiet. I never understood why my being quiet or being alone made everyone around me so uncomfortable.
Ignorance is a bane to society and individual
Ha, another video not surpassing the best
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I had the same thing as you except it was the TA at school doing that to me
@@youarealooser121 You cared enough to reply, and guess what:
Nobody asked
My mom always forced me to look people in the eye. Now when I look at her when she is talking she always says why are you looking at me like that.
The problem isn't talking, it's knowing when to stop xD
Conversations with me is 80% you listening to me having a conversation with myself and occasionally having some input if you get the chance.
That’s me I get told I talk just to hear myself talk 😭
For me, putting my talking on PAUSE, and giving ANOTHER PERSON a chance to talk is manageable, but it is A VIABLE DISCIPLINE I HAVE TO PUT ENERGY INTO, like making an effort to eat healthy, Like cleaning the workout floor of the YMCA in 40 minutes or less; Like not taking millions of things super personally, or Holding onto resentments and other SOUR GRAPES, ETC
for me, getting me to talk is difficult, but once you get me on a topic that i'm obessed with, you can't get me to shut up.
I prefer let other people talking and I'm lurking in the background. But with friends I'm very open.
Always knew there was something wrong with my wife
I’m 35 and just now figuring that I’m on the spectrum. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
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Me too
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I got diagnosed at 7, welcome to the club buddie
I have 2 autistic sons. Both are high functioning Asperger's. It's really disheartening to see how much people try to shove them into a box. I've spent the last 17 years teaching my oldest, and now my youngest to never apologize for being who they are, they're perfect in all their imperfections and to love themselves.
This hits home for me and my sons th-cam.com/video/5fTBM_3sdwE/w-d-xo.html
I get what your saying. Our son was diagnosed with Aspberger’s at three years old. Over time, people would say things like we could get disability money for him etc and we would say no. He didn’t need any special equipment or devices and we didn’t want him to have some label slapped on him that might hold him back in some way or make people judge him before they even got to know him. We wanted him to do whatever makes him happy in life and progress on his own merit, not because someone might feel sorry for him. Not sure I said this very well but basically we’ve raised him like our other child, to believe he can do anything with hard work and perseverance. Although there are things he never managed to accomplish like riding a bike but he’s trying.
Bc these people are low in empathy and this creates social problems, of course! There was a study last year that came out about young children.
So Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, and Elon Musk are "on the spectrum" !! Psychology run riot !
@@insertmyidentityherebs. I'm ultra empathic. Your lack of understanding makes you look uneducated.
1. I have Aspergers Syndrome and my IQ was tested at 137. Unfortunately I'm heavily cognitively impaired, meaning that my brain is just very, very slow to process information. I can cut through information quickly, but it just won't stick. My learning style is experiencing, and even then it takes me a hundred times of experiencing the same thing with the actual intention of seeing the lesson there.
2. Yes, we are able to mask well. That doesn't mean we're comfottable making conversation AT ALL. It's utterly draining. It's exhausting. Most of us need recovery time relative to talking time. I've had to call some people this week and whenever I experienced a setback due to the conversation not leading to the outcome I had expected, I needed one to two hours off basically wiping my brain clean before I could return to my desk and go on with my tasks.
3. True. I have a special interest in linguistics. The downside of that is that people tend to think, "oh, she's so eloquent, she's really on top of everything", when my cognitive hurdles really don't let me be on top of anything that I haven't built up from the bottom myself or is not a very special skill of mine. Additionally, speaking with wide vocabulary doesn't mean that what is said is also what is experienced, because we have the hardest time finding the right word to the way we feel inside. I have a record of not getting the help I was desperate to get because I couldn't make it clear how much I felt in danger. I don't know the 'trigger words' that make doctors/teachers/etc. realise a kind of urgency. Inability to transport emotion through tone of voice/being overwhelmed and unable to cry because we're so great at not falling apart in front of other people lets us walk away and suffer in silence when we were actually in dire need of help.
4. Yes, people with Aspergers Syndrome do better with understanding and following a schedule than 'classic autistics' are. Please keep in mind that the majority of us has gone through at least one episode if depression some time in their life, it's a very common comorbidity. And we're extremely sensitive to all kinds of things. There are many, many people with Aspergers out there struggling to get or hold down a job because our 'outward performance' is the actual work we do. And it's completely dependent on things going according to our inner schedule. We can be thrown off or at least distracted for a while when there are unexpected changes in our surroundings, they could be as small as a coworker having changed their hair. Now imagine arriving at work in the morning with a detailed mental outline for your day, and as you walk through the door, your boss runs past you just throwing a 'good morning, you're doing someone else's job today' your way. Every bit if grip you had on what was going to happen at work just flew out the window. Often times, when that happened, I didn't get my grip back at least until the weekend.
5. Yes, I was very quick to talk, and also quick to write and read. I always grabbed the newspaper as a child, and when I was about 4, my grandma started to teach me the Alphabet. I learned to write my name and read within that year. When I was 5, I was already so ahead of everything that I started to learn English as a second language (they advertised Disney educational VHS on TV as a support for older children who took English classes in 3rd grade. Later in school, I beat every native speaker in every English class I attended.)
Take the MBTI personality test. There is nothing wrong with you. The field of socionics will explain your cognitive preferences and you'll see them going forward as strengths, not weaknesses. I bet you are one of the "NT" varieties.
I can relate to this so much. This is crazy. I feel so validated and much less alone. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️
I feel this, thanks. Language has always been something I could lock down, easily. I can usually explain a problem, or describe a food, or make comparisons in ways that people find uncanny. Part of it is just kind of getting how the trick of language is done. I learned spanish to fluency very quickly as well, and when I travelled in south america, was often mistaken for a native. It makes it difficult for people to understand how hard it is for me to do so many other things when I can explain directly and succinctly what is happening. Something about being able to verbalize things cogently makes people around me believe that the insurmountable problem I'm facong is actually well in hand, and all I need is a little confidence or encouragement. Ironically, if i weren't able to describe the problems I face, and more people became privy to the aftermath of my frustration, it would be obvious to them that I was having trouble processing all of the information I was being presented with. Case in point: after about 15 years of speaking spanish fluently, I still only understand about 30-50% of what is said to me.
well honestly it never had to do with intelligence, its more has to do with perception and the process of it, overload sensory. All your troubles can be linked to just perception imbalance
This hit home so hard it took my breath away. You're telling my story to the letter, no pun intended. Actually, I just lied. It was intended. 😆
I am a parent, my son was diagnosed with in the spectrum. He just graduated from high school in 2020. Currently he's studying culinary, he's aiming for his associates. Whenh e started he was scared and wanted to give up, but he communicated with his professors and continued. We are extremely proud of how far he has come. ❤ you son.
Hi my daughter is also has high functioning autism.....her speech is not clear... But she copies everything quickly.
amen , inspiring , im just curious as i think of 2 vlunteers at the foodbnank if thers ever strugglse between asbgerger people that both have such communicating with eachother , and at 1 point is it differing persoinil;itys , anxiety ocd adhd etc to
Thank you for sharing! My son just got diagnosed and I am so nervous for his future.
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My brother is autistic. He has fragmented speech and considered low IQ. But it isn't true. He helps out at his friend's farm. If a tractor isn't working, he will stand there and stare at it. After a few minutes he will go to the farmer and say, "That broke there". So then the farmer will have someone come look at it and every single time, that's EXACTLY what is wrong. Also, my brother can sit in any tractor, look at the controls and then right away know how to drive it. He wasn't taught. / I have Aspergers. I might know a lot but I can't do what he can do.
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THIS. Ppl see "high functioning" as exclusive, but I can see what you're good at that no one else can.
👏👏I Aploglize To Your brother
@Karrie Dee maybe... it can also be hell.
@Karrie Dee far too few of those... and far too many gaslighting d-bags. Js.
I suck at making new friends. Being able to see through everyone's bs just makes you more alone, I find.
I have Asperger’s. And I do have a degree in the medical field. I didn’t find out that I had Asperger’s syndrome until I was in my 40s I have a high IQ. And as an person who studied in the field of psychology, I found that some adults who have autism are smarter than we know. They don’t verbally tell us because they don’t want to waste their time explaining what they know, because they think people should already know.
Or with a fear that nobody really understands us😢
Me. I am articulate. Educated and interested in and (understand) physics. Brother is Aspie too. We call neurotypicals dregs of humanity...😮
@@mysticwisdomfairy412so true misunderstanding
It could be as well that they get villianized for what they come up with, people seem to only value logic when it is in their favor if my experience is anything to go by and i am not entirely certain if i am autistic in any form yet.
@@patryn36 so true
My personal observation is that Aspergers have no difficultly talking or communicating, even complex subjects. The problem is that Aspergers will attempt to engage in the conversations but lack the social awareness to understand if the other person(s) want to engage.
What's personally frustrating is that I'll attempt to engage with a group and not have any takers. But will be approached later in private by a member of that group who understood and wanted to talk but didn't because they realized the others didn't.
I feel like there are secret Aspergers everywhere. They may have better social awareness or they simply can observe that I am the same but the conversation isn't a popular move. I have embarrassed myself plenty of times, but I've met some really awesome people hiding in the crowd.
I have never had a private conversation with a "stupid" person. No matter how complex the subject even the most unsuspecting person wonders about black holes and theoretical physics, the cutting edge, new ideas in general. What is so disappointing is how many people love talking about that stuff but will hide it because they think the group doesn't.
People shine so bright as individuals. We are so stupid in groups.
My son can go on for days about black holes, military,planets etc. I had to train myself to listen even if I cant engage or am busy. I supply my ears for him to talk. He often will follow me through the house talking to me about the ecosystem and planets 🤣🤣. Sometimes I'll tell him"son try to calm yourself just a little"(even though I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do)because hell be on overdrive with mounds of facts and information. Hes such a bright star in my life. I'm proud that I can call myself his mom💖
I agree
I take great exception to some asshole telling me that I am SPAMMING FACTS THAT everyone understands. I will continue sharing my views on Facebook. Tough shit if someone has a problem with that!
As Q said once: "I don't do well in groups. It's difficult to work in groups when you're Omnipotent."
@@howardmunro5464 Can you really be an Aspie if you have a Facebook account?
I was just diagnosed with ASD and ADHD at the age of 35. It's incredibly frustrating because I had evaluations as a very young child that clearly show I've been symptomatic of both these conditions my entire life. I believe it was ignored or overlooked because I'm both female and high intelligence. Under DSM-IV I should have been ADD/Aspergers, but nobody helped me.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved
Same
@@touchwood3599I'm 51 and just recently found out that I have ASD. I was diagnosed with manic depression with a mood/anxiety disorder when I was 27. I also have ADHD, OCD, C-PTSD. This has been a game changer for me. I now know WHY I do the things that I do/think the way that I do. So much has been ignored when we were growing up, and the "schools" treating us like we're stupid/rejects. 😡
My husband is in the same boat. No one ever discusses the trauma of having to grow up thinking you’re some sort of problem, when in fact you have an actual diagnosable disability. It’s like telling a cancer patient, “well just try harder to be well”. I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this. I hope that you now have some support ❤
I am sorry you had to go thru this. It is a fallen world. :(
A quick tip for fellow buddies on the spectrum: If people complain a lot about the way you talk, move, or do things, all the time. Don't get desperate for pleasing everyone by always walking perfectly "right", or saying the things that people want to hear, or being afraid of being seen as "weird", they might never stop complaining no matter how anxious we are trying to follow the rules. Instead look out for yourself as well as the others.
If someone is annoyed by your presence but you didn't do anything offensive, didn't invade their space and you are being polite to them, that is their freaking problem. We are different, but that doesn't mean people won't like us. When we show acceptance and respect to others, some people will do the same to us, just give them the freedom to choose. By experience in workplace and in life, I noticed that it's far easier to get friends by not being a problem to others than doing big favours to them.
You might not be noticed by the majority immediately, but when people notice that you listen to their thoughts, talk honestly about what you believe (even if it's weird), and doesn't return negative emotions socially (like being angry, or being afraid). Some people will stick to you lol.
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So fucking stressful. Like, can I just exist? Thank you.
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I didn't find ppl who like me for ME until much later in life. Anyone else?
@@sirenswake9768 I still haven't found people like that yet. Gotta keep working and studying until I can have my own home and life : /
Two of my children were diagnosed, which ironically led to my wife's diagnosis. Which was actually comforting because she masked but there were always those odd moments. Love channels like this to better understand their world.
i have asperger's and am trying to figure out why cops treat me like a drug addict during confrontations.
Good Citizen of the North People accuse me of being on drugs too. I stutter a lot and can’t keep eye contact long, I say things backwards and sway side to side. I’ve never been diagnosed as anything but my youngest son has autism, so he may have gotten it from me. But yeah, it’s depressing at times being judged by people when they don’t understand who you REALLY ARE!
@@MollyMcBooter i feel this and my friend. Kinda hard being ALWAYS suspected of something just because you act weirdly. They should teach this in their curricula 😑
Same. People always wonder why I don't look at them when I speak to them
When I read this it brought me automatically back to my confrontation with police they spent like ten minutes searching me cause they thought I was taking some hard shit.
I would sometimes get this too when I was in my twenties, but from random people in the street when they stopped me to ask something. I think it was because I looked and dressed pretty chilled (think bright, baggy clothes and stuff) in addition to my having slightly slow processing of answering questions. So, those things put together probably made people think I was high on something. Also, I struggle with knowing what context people are talking about and that's probably got some similarity to how people might be on certain drugs.
How was it for Good Citizen? Were there features they might have been picking up on which led them to a wrong assumption?
Hygiene has always been a problem. If I have something to look forward to, I tend to be more caring of myself. But, it has always been a problem.
Same here, I think it was a classification problem for me. I used to put things like showering in the "do before going out" category. Meaning, when I don't go out, I might be neglecting myself.
I'm trying to shift to doing things because I want to take care of myself, and I think that has made it much easier.
Ye same I forget to shower for a few days.
I definitely tend to neglect myself in some aspects. All the basics covered but anything extra, is often just a bit overwhelming I feel.
I made showering a part of my routine. I can't miss it on a work day that is for certain.
Why is showering unpleasant? Dont you feel greasy?
I used to be so embarrassed telling my friends but I was about 16 when I learned how to shower and wash my hair by myself but I wasn’t embarrassed that my mom was still helping me at 16
Thank you! My son is 12 and I often feel like I am failing at his independance!! But you have reassured me that he will get it one day. Just at his pace and that is ok.
Caitlin Lyons I’m 15 and I still can’t do my hair or wash my hair without my mum. I have many other traits of autism but could that be one? I know you probably aren’t professional but I was just wondering because my mum calls me lazy but I just physically don’t know and can’t do it.
@@libbybrearley8341 you arent lazy!
omg i feel this so much! i didn’t properly wash my hair through the shower method (like normies do, haha) until i was 15. i used to have take a bath, and slowly tilt my head back into the water.
@@NicoleStLouis-is2hc you shouldnt feel embarrassed I mean if it ever gets to the point where you do feel embarrassed I can always help you wash you're hair in the shower 😄 I have high functioning aspergers so I guess it wouldn't feel so awkward 🤣
I am 70, self-diagnosed Asperger’s. I had a successful career in physics and had not heard the term until my 50s. I always felt I was odd. My son was professionally diagnosed Asperger’s but not until his 20s. He struggled in school but got into college. He lives independently but low wage. He has more challenges than me. I think he presents as an underachieving neurotypical.
feel like autistics need to disband from shitty America for any opportunity at life
Give him your love. All any parent can do....at the end of the day. Best wishes to you both.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he can now respond to name, orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏
I'm also in my 70s, actually have a few related diagnoses--nonverbal learning disability, auditory processing disorder, visual processing disorder. So backhand I was diagnosed. I am happy and feel I had a good life but had huge problems growing up. I still have some issues that are related/ would be long story. I don't have kids. Rare to someone around who is our age who knows anything about this. Rarer still to find anyone who has any diagnoses at all.
Wow! I am 69 and strong Asperger’s, with a chemical engineering degree and an MBA. I was self diagnosed at 50. I always knew I was different, probably weird is a better word. :). For the most part I loved the difference! I could do things the other women could not. I teach chemistry/physics to teenagers and love working with the Asperger’s and Autism students.
My child with Asperger's was moved to a higher age group in kindergarten because his language skill was beyond any of his peers. That sadly meant that all the other areas where he was lagging behind in was extra obvious.
So so so glad I found you! My son is 14 and has ADHD and Aspergers...and an IQ of 133...but only has 1 friend...breaks my heart. He is so very caring, loving, funny, and so gifted with technology...particularly hardware design and repair. I am smarter than a bag of rocks but not a genius like him! I am a very social person and love exercise very different from my son so....it is sometimes hard to connect. He will go on and on about retro tech and rewiring for hours and I’m like...(eyes glazed over)’Wanna workout?!’ Lol...he runs the other way... God has gifted him in so many ways but he has been bullied and has not found his people yet...we just want to help him utilize all of his gifts to the fullest...thanks for your videos
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@Kristin McClellan if your son is anything like me 1 good close friend is more valuable than a roomful of people called friends. I was quite content focusing on the my interests at that time. As he matures and if he choses to go to higher education focusing on an engineering, math, computer science or science field, he may all of a suddenly feel he fits in very well. It happened for me.
Such high IQ, i Hope you help him find a way to use it to the fullest and I hope he will find happiness
Sound like my mum you do. Its actually a compliment with a humourous touch.
Working out is probably very uncomfortable and tormentful for someone on the spectrum. His people are computer wizards, take him to a teen computer club where they play with linux and programming.
My son was diagnosed with high functioning Aspergers when he was in grade school. His therapist had to teach him how to use slang words so he could try to relate more to his peers. I don’t think he ever really caught on. I call him my Albert Einstein. 🙂 He’s 18 now and in college.
My son might be on the spectrum, hasn't gotten diagnosed, goes to speech and OT, he's super athletic. Hearing that your son is in college, eases my worries. ♡
Star Olivio it’s nothing bad they thought i was on it, but i just used to have signs when i was younger but now I’m fine got adhd tho and stuff so yeah, loads of famous people are on it so you should be fine all the best xx
I love that!
I have aspergers and although not instinctively, I actively use the road man slang with them, not to be accepted but just to make them feel more at ease with me to ease them from my true evil and cold intentions
@@lordanielthedarklord1338 wym having assburgers doesn't make you just be evil and cold. Tf???
Always. Since I was very young I’ve felt that everyone else seemed to know how to do things, understand the rules of games, and socializing. It’s always felt like being on the outside and watching life as if it’s on a TV.
I felt that way, too, but I attributed it to being the oldest child in my family and having older parents. I thought it was because I didn't have older brothers and sisters to learn from.
I remember in my first playground fight, I asked "are we allowed to kick?" 🤣🤣😅😅
Same here....☹️
I had a patient with Aspergers, he was highly intelligent and super sweet when I could understand his psyche. Thank you so much for posting! He kept apologizing for being “an asshole” but he really wasn’t. He kept saying, “ma’am I don’t mean to be a smartass but...” such a joy to treat him and loved talking to him!
One of my daughters didn’t speak until she was almost 2 years old, at which time she said in a perfectly articulate voice, “Mother would you hand me my softly blanket please?” My husband and I were frozen. Unfortunately, she wasn’t diagnosed until the 7th grade.
Other people ask for scribes why shouldn't he?
Maybe she didn't feel a NEED to communicate until then! Lol
Observing, processing, making sure I was well prepared so I could do it correctly... ever since childhood!
I hadn't experinced delayed speech, but I was instead an early reader. My mom used to read to me a lot, and didn't point to the words as she read. One sentence she had read, "If they want to cook I will let them cook," I responded, "Look Mommy. Two cooks," and I pointed to the words myself, "Cook and Cook." She must have been astounded, as she still tells the story some "forty-several" years later.
i didnt talk until i was 4 and it was 1 word i have aspergers not autism
I didnt speak until 3 - 4 yrs old my parents said I'd point at everything
I work at a high school with all types of students. Those with ADHD, autism, PTSD, ect. I love my job and I love them. I try to learn as much as I can so that I can help and build up these wonderful, sweet students. Thank you for your channel and your hard work.
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My grandson, age 21 , has never been diagnosed. He has always been unusually bright with excellent verbal skills since a baby. However social skills very slow. He is now an adult and see him blossoming. I have also seen him struggle all of his life. I want to be the best support I can be 4 him.
This video is excellent.
Thank u 4 sharing such important information.
The interesting thing here is that I was diagnosed with "Aspergers Syndrome/High Functioning Autism" back in 2006 (age 17) but my "functioning level" varies from day to day. Sometimes I can manage my life just fine with no assistance, and sometimes I need to be told to get out of bed and go to work. Sometimes I need to be reminded to brush my teeth, but the next day I will have everything in my routine completed well ahead of schedule. I can write with an incredibly complex lexicon, and usually speak just fine, but some days I can't string a sentence together coherently. Other times I am the one organising everyone else with my lists and my routines. My husband is the same with his ability to function and he got his diagnosis last year.
We just generally go by the label "autistic" and leave it at that because it doesn't give people preconceived (and usually incorrect) ideas about what our lives are like or how well we can mask.
I relate so much to this, there are many days where i can't look people in the eye even if i try so hard to do it, or with the communication skills and writing, i can pick up all the sentences spontaneously to give sense to a sentence and be actively in a conversation, and there are other days where i just can't even say a word or i try really hard to talk, it's very complex thing because there are days where i can feel very good and have rest but my body is still needing more isolation or something else to cope with tiredness, i'm not even sure if i'm burnout or something but sometimes i can mask so well, sometimes i'm just very autistic.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he can now respond to name, orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏
@Bolin Hong ew. No, he isn't. Your son is masking like crazy because you have shown his true self isn't welcome around you. You could have caused PTSD and there's a good chance he will have a breakdown later in life because of your behaviour.
@@ahriarah2268 Your last part is what I relate to so hard. I never know if I just need isolation or I’m burnout or what. I try to force myself past it sometimes and fall into this internal pit of dread and I don’t want to do anything. Everything becomes tiring and I beat myself up over it, it’s so hard sometimes.
@@AliCatGtz hon, when we try to force ourselves past it, it puts enormous pressure on us and recovery time is longer. I’m still identifying triggers that will lead to burnout. Family gatherings burn me out so I’m extremely gentle with myself for at least two days afterwards. An appointment in the morning will burn me out for the rest of the day so I cocoon after appts. A doctors appt may take me at least a day to recover from. Sometimes just acknowledging that I’m being gentle with myself is a comfort 👍
I dropped out of high school because they were teaching math so slowly that I got bored with it and I really had no interest in writing for the other subjects so I found them very difficult to focus on and complete assignments. I worked construction for a few decades and had some social groups when I drank/did drugs but was generally a loner with only one or two close friends. I taught myself to build computers and then program them just for fun using books, web tutorials and experimentation. I "lucked" into an I.T. help-desk job when I was around 40 and was fortunate that I was given tasks based on ability rather than college diploma so I was the only programmer and database administrator for the company after only 3 years and have been working in the field since. My IQ was measured somewhere in the 140-150 range (I don't remember exactly).
When my son was born, he was extremely intelligent - reading his own birthday cards at his 3rd birthday party by sounding out words like "congratulations" rather than just memorized words. On his kindergarten art work, he would occasionally write things like 3^2 = 9 or other things no kindergartner is expected to know. As he got older, he started to develop "quirks" and I suspected autism.
I looked up the traits of autism to see if maybe they were a match for my son. I started down the list and every trait i kept saying "yeah but everyone's like that".
About halfway down the list it became "yeah but everyone's like that. Aren't they?".
By the time I got to the bottom of the list it became "OH! Everyone's NOT like that! I'M LIKE THAT!".
At my age, I'm comfortable in my skin and have a good career so I've never bothered to get a formal diagnosis. I gave up drugs and drinking decades ago - I was never addicted, I just did it a lot to fit in with the groups I was hanging out with. Smoking weed helped with the anxiety but limited my intelligence/short-term-memory so I gave that up too.
We gave up on the standard education system for my son. His IQ has been measured a few times - the lowest was 135 and the highest was around 150 (They didn't give a number, they said 99.9th percentile). They couldn't teach math/science at his level in elementary school and he was struggling with subjects that involved writing and didn't have interest in (sound familiar). He qualified for Intermediate Algebra on the placement test for the local junior college when he was 9 but his reading level was at about an 8th grade level (still great for a 9 year old but not ready for college). We're not trying to push him to be Doogie Howser or anything but we're trying to keep him learning at a pace where he's comfortable and the college environment is soooo much better for him. There's no colorful artwork on the walls. There are no screaming kids on the playground while he's taking a test. The kids at the college respect him and congratulate him for being there rather than ostracizing him or making fun of him for being different.
My son's 11 now and has straight "A"'s in college (He did Geometry and Java programming last semester). We found a great home-school group that offers "a la carte" classes for English, history and other subjects where we don't feel he's ready for college-level. It was a struggle finding a path that worked for him and I actually attended college classes with him for the first few semesters (one advantage to being a high-school dropout with a flexible schedule). We're going to try an acting class next semester (along with Trigonometry). I think having to repeat scripted conversations with other actors will help with his social skills as well as give him some much-needed interaction with someone other than his family.
I realize this turned into a novel. I just wanted to share with people who are on their own journey so they realize they're not alone. Thanks for all you do in these videos. I'm going to share with my son to see if he's interested in subscribing.
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mathssssssssssssss please
Lol Fiona he is American, it’s math here. My 3 sons all love math and hate writing, too. The middle one especially is on a track similar to yours, at 9 he is in algebra I. Rather than play with toys, he sits or runs around and imagines things, mostly with sci fi and superhero themes. He wants to be an engineer in the military. I don’t know if we are all aspies or just geeks but either way we’re wired differently.
The Anachronistic Life Sounds like a genius child! My IQ has never been tested but I am 14yo girl with Asperger’s. I would estimate my IQ to be 115-130 or something around that (above average but not ”gifted” (iq over 130))
We have different school system here but I skipped 1 grade 😌 I have always been decent at English and math 😂 My dream is to become a computer programmer
@The Anachronistic Life - When I was researching autism, I noticed that a common career is electrical engineering (my dad) and a common hobby is coin collecting (his dad). I realize that's anecdotal but actual research shows there's definitely a genetic component in some if not all cases.
I was married to an Aspie (he passed away last December), my daughter is an Aspie, and I have many traits myself. I was also VP of the Orange County Asperger's Support Group (Southern California) and helped parents, children, teens and adults on the spectrum connect with services and assistance.
That being said, I have to disagree with you about IQ levels. Because tests are created for NTs, most people on the spectrum being tested are not getting accurate results. The tests don't take into account any processing disorders so common on the spectrum, especially those on the "lower" (I really hate that description) end of the spectrum.
Since so many people assume that non-verbal autistics don't understand anything, a lack of intelligence is presumed. They are capable of so much more than parents, teachers and professionals give them credit for! I would wager that if appropriate tests could be constructed for those on the "lower end" of the spectrum, they'd outscore the test writers!
Just my two cents, and I really enjoyed your video!
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YES!
I agree. My second cousin has not been formally diagnosed. However, he shows signs of classic autism, but his intellect is very high. He majored in astrophysics, but could not live on campus due to his condition. He had to move back home. As for myself, I have several traits for “high functioning” Asperger Syndrome. I am mostly alone and have difficulty engaging with others socially. I do have two friends although it’s very difficult to talk with strangers or even family. I have been able to work, but I don’t have to talk so it is easier for me. I have never been formally diagnosed either, but my mother believes I am as she sees several things I do are aspie traits.
Do you live in Aspens Colorado?
@@subverter1.188 no, I don't.
#2. I want to caveat your 2nd point. People with Asperger Syndrome also have trouble talking (I had to go to speech therapy for a few years when I was younger). After we learn how to, we do talk, ... a lot. Also, we still have trouble communicating when we're stressed and the like, but our vocabulary is great. Our vocab - A+ Our Communication Skills - C to F
Hi. I am here because my daughter (6) has been diagnosed with high functioning asd. And my 4 year old daughter is currently being tested. My wife and I are just trying to prepare ourselves to help them in everyway that we can! Thank you very much for creating this video!
i would look into testing for adhd or autism for you and your spouse, it’s more likely for a parent to also have it!
(and it might help you with building relationship as your kiddos get older)
You’re putting your 4 year old through rigid examinations for Aspergers? He/she’s four f*cking years old. you want to help your child? Leave them the F*CK alone. Jesus Christ you people are mental
One thing to note... if you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism, My son was diagnosed at age 2 as non-verbal, classical autism. 40% of non-verbals do not "speak." He began talking when he was 4. My son has periods of enlightenment. At one time, floor time was a challenge, but one day he decided to set down and play with his OT therapist. He loves patterns... last summer he hid behind the counter when the clerk spoke to him, this summer he placed an order with a clerk for a chocolate chip muffin and an orange juice. Just as every person not on the spectrum, has their own journey, those on the spectrum have their journeys unique to them as well. As a Mother, if there is one thing I advocate a lot with, is my Son is not his diagnosis. My son, likes apples, video games, reading, playing in the dirt. He likes to build things. Once again, sooo appreciate your channel in educating. It gives me hope for my son's future.
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Aspie kids can be terrifically bright. They each need someone to see them shine ☆
Charlene Tyger love this. I've had many autistic children and not one has had the same challenges
I did not realize I was an Aspie until I was in my early fifties. That's when I started working with kids with disabilities. it was through my research on that subject I made the discovery that explained so much of my life. I always knew I saw things differently than most people and struggled a lot with social situations. But now that I know what it is that made me different, and have found new strategies for communicating and dealing with people, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me. Be able to be a part of forums like this is very helpful. Thanks!
Me too! There are many very subtle ways that aspie’s present. I have trouble with handwriting and when I was teaching I met students with the same problems to work on.
I was self-diagnosed (with the help of my husband) when I was in my early fifties. That's when our child was diagnosed and everything just fell right into place.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s when I was 40 (in 2020) after my therapist and friends recommended I do so. I’ve never been interested in being like other people but have always liked to make friends; I was lucky enough to be able to find friends at various points in my life but it’s become far harder as I’ve got older because I tend to feel as though I have to get it right first time. I’ve had a few jobs but most of them taught me that I can’t handle anything public facing (I did a lot of bar work but the public interactions, especially the false friendliness, exhausted me).
I was passionate about music growing up and started to write songs, but even though I was in a band everyone around me kept discouraging me from it so I’ve had to keep it a secret that I still write and record. Along with songwriting (which is one of only a few interests I have) I read a lot of philosophy and am currently teaching it, though I had to drop out of a PhD because my supervisor wouldn’t give me a structure.
I still have a somewhat childlike view of the world. I’m 42 but I dream about ‘what I want to do when I’m older’. I feel like I have to please others in order to avoid making them angry (I’ve been hit quite a lot because I’m quite direct and never apologise for anything that wasn’t my fault) but I also want to be different from them and not care what they think of me. It’s very difficult because I’ve found a lot of people don’t like it when someone is ‘just different’.
Anyhow, my life isn’t all terrible! I’ve been in a great relationship for 16 years with someone who also has Asperger’s and we do a lot of things together, but she doesn’t want to live with me and it’s getting to a point where loneliness is affecting my physical health (I never lived alone until 2010, and have lived alone since then; I don’t like it). I have no financial security and while I dream about ways that might change they’re always far-fetched like being a professional songwriter (my dream job).
Dam bro a lot of similarities there i ive like that even today. Austism can be hard bht guess were both with it
Being a professional songwriter is definitely not far-fetched. These days you have the advantage of the internet. Where there is a will, there is a way.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved
Relationships for 16 years, that already sounds like accomplishment and you have found your passion for music.. sounds quite great life.
God do I relate to this. Somedays I just want to run away and make art forever. But this is the world we've built
I'm 36, and got diagnosed having aspergers last september. Got in touch with a psychologist after a number of confrontations with the management at my workplace, and i finally got confirmation of why i had always felt so different from everyone else. It was such a relief. I liken it to finding a piece of a puzzle i didnt know i was lacking. Luckily, i'm no longer in danger of losing my job, though i am working with the national welfare agency to find a more suitable job.
Since i got the diagnosis things have become so much better for me. I've been struggling with anxiety and depression, and just knowing why i feel the way i feel sometimes is such an empowering feeling. To know the demon by its name will strip it of its power over you.
I understand completely about finding your missing puzzle piece. After watching a "Top Twenty" video about things that people with autism spectrum find extremely irritating, so many puzzle pieces bounced across my mind and fell right into place. I was so ecstatic that, as my usual, I "leaked"! I compare it to a pressure relief valve letting go-- I look like I'm upset to the point of crying, sobbing, and trying to talk past the lump in my throat, and people who don't know "that's me" get confused. No, I'm not sad or mad, this happens when I get so full of (happy, love, gratitude, appreciation, relief, etc) that it leaks out of my eyes.
Same...
@@rebeccamay6420 a lot of people here speak to holding together & the apparent stoicism that comes with all this, and I relate to that part hard (why I'm reading these comments, expected to speak to that more readily, & empathizing with the original post more), yet conversely, so much this too. Being a guy (or thereabouts, barely), I've freaked out so many guys by trying to continue a talk through tears that come up, staying lucid & calm, but voice trembling, telling them I can be thin skinned, & to just ignore it. It's not the stoic me they've come to expect, it must be really serious, they can't even listen they have such alarm bells going off. sometimes it's just an emotional subject man, maybe it's important & worth talking about...people get really uncomfortable not compartmentalizing logic from emotion: I've never understood that part. Feels so unhealthy.
What part of logic tells people that it's logical to tell someone they shouldn't feel an emotion, like that solves anything, you know? Or people like Richard Dawkins & Sam Harris, talking about how religion is counter to logic & science, needing eradication. Sure, great evils perpetrated through history in the name of god time & again, sure I'm pretty atheistic myself, but what picture of health is it that says that one part of the brain is good & another is lesser & not to be valued, then goes around speaking from the amygdala about the dangers of emotional thinking & the need for its eradication. These layers are so important & should really do a lot to inform all one's "rational" decisions. It's baffling when they don't see their own blind spots. We need so much better of a culture in regards to allowing for and teaching emotional processing to people.
@@Kelos7 the shortest verse in the (KJV) Bible says so much in two words: "Jesus wept." This describes his reaction when seeing his closest friends mourning the death of Lazarus, even though he knew he had gone there to resurrect Lazarus.
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If you believe what the Bible says is true, you will recognize that Jesus had a pre-human existence. As the first of God's creative works, he was made to perfectly reflect his Father's qualities, and he was a Master Worker by his Father's side through the rest of the creative Days. Of all the creative works, his favorite was Humankind - we were also made in God's image, reflecting God's qualities. Humans feel deep emotions because God feels the same emotions, as did Jesus when living on earth. As he was moved to tears by intense emotions, so should we expect to have intense emotions that move us to tears. It is not a sign of weakness, but an indicator of how closely we resemble the most powerful being in all existence -- our Father, Creator, God.
Scripture references available at www. JW .org -- type the key words in the Search bar. Feel free to follow along in your own copy of the Bible.
So you make all your coworkers uncomfortable and they bend the knee to you bc you're different? Sign me up!!
I have autism, I was originally diagnosed with Severe Language impairment before I was diagnosed as hfa, I’m not offended by labels of Iq , I know I ain’t no Einstein and I’m fine with that
I Have Autism I Was Diagnosed With Autism At Age 14 I'm 27 Years Old Now Iv'e Been Living Interdependently On My Own For 2 Years & 12 Months So Far
I have moderate intellectual impairment with "autistic spectrum disorder " but my only symptoms are social impairments. I'm confused. I wish I could say I have it but the other therapists say that I don't, only one says I do.
@@birdlover6842 diagnosing something like asperger or autism can be really hard since autism is a spectrum and people’s symptoms get to vary a lot, many times people can’t really tell the difference between neurotypical and some neurodivergent individuals. So you might be either neurotypical or a high functioning neurodivergent. I’m having a similar situation, one of my therapist has suspections of me having asperger syndrome, but I haven’t got a diagnose yet because there’s no enough information to tell yet
@@ENJERUNE helo is speech delay also happens to a high functioning or an asperger? i just need some light regarding this matter.. thank you
hey caitlin.. can i ask you a question regarding speech delay for toodler.. at what age did you start your verbal communication?.. thank you...
I spent my entire life feeling like an alien. As if I didn’t belong here. I’ve struggled my entire life to function normally and have also felt like I was a failure- no matter what I achieved. About ten years ago, I learned a had attention deficit disorder; that made a lot of things make sense, but not everything. Three months ago- I found the right therapist who had me evaluated for Aspergers; and now I finally have the missing piece of my puzzle. It’s made all of the pieces fit together and now I have names and words to identify the things i experience and the way that I function in the world. It is a huge relief! I can now research and learn how to best live with my kind of brain. In addition- it’s also a reminder of the neglect and abuse I came from and a testament to the failure of my parents ; my school and the education system itself. There were obvious signs that I was not okay. My parents paid for my education; so everyone looked the other way. If you saw my report cards- you would know something was wrong. I was passed along because I was intelligent and had a high IQ and because my education was expensive. Thank you for your channel!! I’m so happy I found you. 😁
Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad that you've found some answers x
Your comment made me see myself differently. Like understand myself. Thank you too.
I completely understand what you are talking about!! I have ALWAYS KNOWN as well as EVERYONE ELSE that has ever met me that I was very very different but I never knew why. I always felt like an alien from another planet because I never ever got how life worked ever. I was faking my whole life because I was trying to do what everyone else was doing but they always seemed like they knew what they were doing and why. I was just doing stuff that they did because when I didn't it was a big deal. It was and still is exhausting trying to remember all of the rules and public behaviors that are considered appropriate. I always thought everyone must feel this way but why do they do these things then? I never understood. I remember thinking to myself in public places "I hope they don't catch me trying to be one of them ". I knew I wasn't like everyone else since birth I just never knew why. I was always the "weirdo", "crazy", whatever, I heard it my whole life. I don't know why I never sought help either. I just figured this is the way my life is so oh well and I would try to fit in harder next time. Academically I am smart which helped me throw people off with my quirkiness. I have a professional degree and license so I believe that people questioned my eccentricities but thought "she passed the licensing board so she must be ok". I just recently found out in the last 2 years that I am high functioning autistic. Now the world makes sense. It doesn't change anything but at least I know what made me an alien
I’m sure our parents did the best they could at the time. Not sure how old you are but my brother is an aspie and my mom almost certainly is also myself but my mom still believes only males can be on the spectrum so I was just an odd and problematic girl growing up and my whole life but I’m actually trying to understand things now meanwhile my mother is very lost and her life is sad.
@@aloalo3727 people often assume that being on the "spectrum" is a rare thing, but the often unseen truth is that almost all people in the world can more or less be diagnosed to be on the so called "spectrum", it's all about functionality difference, a diagnose is a generalization of certain behaviors, back in the day, only people who were deemed to not being capable of adapting to "society" would ever receive a diagnose, because those individuals were deemed "problematic" and people being people, wanted "reasons" for "problematic" behavior. You being diagnosed in this age, more or less mean you're more conscious about your own functionality differences than many other people.
When we are babies, children, we observe the world and our surroundings, we mimic what happens around us, it's more or less done unconsciously, that you even realized your own behavior was an "act" already made you more mentally mature than a good portion of the population. People who aren't aware of their behavior are often referred to in popular medias as NPC (non-playable character) as they don't question why they do the things they do, they just do the same as "everyone" else, monkey see, monkey do. Mimicry may be a childish aspect of people, but it's still one of our first steps in learning anything, being aware of why you learn something is the next step, being able to apply it in other areas is even better. Well, seeing this is an old post of yours, I don't expect any reply, so have a nice day.
I’m a tattoo artist who recently got diagnosed with ASD or Aspergers. I went undiagnosed for 25 years and I really appreciate learning all of this. Thank you for the videos!
I found out I had aspergers at 19 and I can honestly say having aspergers has definitely had its ups and downs in my life but I’m just happy that it’s made me who I am today and thank you for this content. It’s dope.
i found out in first grade. i have the narrator's dxs but also tourettes. i've never been good at masking.
Why did I read aspergers as newspapers lol
I am here because my son has ASD1 (Aspergers). We live in Ontario Canada.
My son is 9 years old. I like watching videos of individuals who are adults with autism. Thank you for making this videos.
I have several friends with autism spectrum condition. I found your channel a year or so ago when looking for more information. Videos like this improve my understanding and have also helped my relationship with my best friend.
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More ppl like you! Just TRYING to understand is POWERFUL
@Tessa I need friends and family like you
My 11 years old son was diagnosed with mild autism. He is very gentle with everyone and his teachers in school are very amazed with his intelligence thinking out of the box. I can't have enough of him as he is so loving and don't talk much unless he got something to explain. He is very popular with his friends as well. May God bless him with a long prosperous life.
Thank you so much for the comment!
I am 25, turning 26 in a few weeks and I found out I was on the spectrum this weekend. I am a construction electrician and this explains ALL of my anxiety about work. Thank you for your video's. I'm excited to learn how my brain works!
5:26 I wouldn't say "obsession" or something close too it, for vocabulary. More like, sponge. Sponge works better, cause you don't actively seek out new words, you just go about your business , hear it and the word simply gets absorbed. Now you know a new big word, simply cause... the word found you as I where going along minding your own business and it just got sucked into your life.
So pretty much, Unwitting Word Magnet Sponge! You don't seek out a larger vocabulary, it just magnetizes onto you and you absorb it, just for passing by.
I was finding that words in books repeated to often so I began reading the dictionary. The storyline sucked but I got new words.
I like the sponge analogy. That person with a huge vocabulary didn't set out to acquire it. The person is a passive recipient.
Does anyone do this with languages? I have older relatives who had way, way more exposure to Polish than I did, yet I blow them out of the water. I'm mystified by this and frequently see it in my line of work as well. How can a person with no sensory or cognitive issues be surrounded by a language and pick up almost nothing of it???
You need to absorb the importance of proof reading. I have Asperger's. And I will freak out if I have used the wrong version of a word, or misspelled one.
@@crystalmyers7166 Unless you think you are going to get attacked for what words you use, triggering fight or flight response, Freaking out over misspellings and the wrong usage is not a feature of Asperger Syndrome. That is an OCD for grammer correction that risk becoming a form of prejudice towards people with Dyslexia. And I bet most the time, the spelling grammer mistakes are usually insignificant and the message soften times still easily understood. So perhaps, stop hating or stop trolling.
I'm at writer and editor, and love language. I often use words that other people don't and wonder why they can't understand me. My friends call me 'pencyclopedia'. They don't even google they just ask me. Interesting, I do have good verbal skills, but socially I do struggle, especially in a group setting. At school I was bullied for being smart. So that was really interesting. Thanks for explaining that. I'm probably Aspie.
LOL "Jenopedia" is my nickname at work, funny to see I'm not the only one...
Aspergers isn't a diagnosis in my nordic country (hasn't been in MANY years) and many others anymore, so I'm very surprised when people still use it. In my country the so called "Aspergers" is just autism, since autism is seen as a spectrum, like the name says: autism spectrum disorder. some people just have "milder" symptoms than others. Many people today see the Aspergers diagnosis as ableist, since for years and years people with that diagnosis were seen as the "good autistic" people, having less visible symptoms that would bother neuro typical people. many neurotypical people feel uncomfrotable of seeing people with autism with more visible symptoms, they were/are mocked and judged more than those with non visible symptoms. I'm also autistic, I was diagnosed just this year at the age of 36 (I'm female).
I have Asperger's
1. Mine is "Language/Literature"
2. Zero ability to understand intention of other person when talking to them
3. Exceptional prose writing skill
4. Yes, consciously needed to learn worldly skills, didn't learn them automatically like neurotypical people, but do manage somewhat
5. Yes, no speech delay
The one thing that is a hindrance to me is my mind is unable to connect the dots (eg events) and second I'm too honest, i believe everything I'm told, i get backstabbed a lot
Whoa you sound like me
How can I test?
Very similar. It definitely makes us vulnerable, particularly to narcissists
Same here !! 😊😊😊
@@whatsgoingon6256 there are many tests available online. But i recommend watching this video. For me, except the motor/balance problem, it is 100 percent accurate.
I'm pasting the link below:
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i have aspergers and i had delayed speech i’m also really into psychology but i also have dyslexia so my spelling skills are really bad so i stutter sometimes.
I’m autistic with two kiddos with autism. Myself and my older son would be on the “higher” end of the spectrum and my younger son in the middle to lower aspect. I’m a wheelchair expert and make wheelchairs for folks with disabilities. Great content!
who asked tho
@@oliverbeck6839 Do they need your permission to speak? No, they don't. You can stop being rude, thank you very much.
@@oliverbeck6839 🤓
I have Asperger’s and I feel like an alien from another planet. This human society is really strange to me.
Same
***ing same
Me too
Same,👍💯I felt as though I was an alien
& Me. 💚😁
I’m an aspie and I love history. I excelled in other topics but history was my best. I even got an associates degree at the same time of my high school graduation. I did suck with my social life and bullying but nothing keeps me down
41yo, successful software engineer, father of 3, fit, living overseas, ASD level 2 diagnosed a few months ago.
- hyperacusis
- tinnitus
- emotional meltdown after long domestic arguments
- priorities on logic and honesty over politeness
- difficulty integrating certain groups like jocks bantering
- there is often one single right way of doing things (like chopping onions)
yeap, the worst for me when it comes to jocks bantering is that they usually are always trying to touch me and keep asking why i am so serious
Yeah, I'm not much younger, also a software developer / technical artist with ADD & Aspergers. Also, probably about to be a dad, & probably to only boys as luck may well have it. I've never been able to integrate with...jocks, or really any overtly male culture either, so I've always felt mostly intrepidation at the prospect of raising a son, let alone only sons. Hard to know what to make of it, but you never know who they'll be either.
Not autistic, but I do have schizophrenia and I have many autism/aspberger like traits. I have sensory issues, mental breakdowns, average IQ, good verbal skills. I just don’t like large crowds, certain textures/colors, smells. You could never tell I have schizophrenia until you get deep into conversation with me...or I have a mental breakdown. Life can be very difficult but I do my best. ❤️
You have the encouragement!!! Brave woman
I was diagnosed with high functioning autism at an early age. Surprisingly, I work as a server in a fine dining restaurant where I make great money. Even though I've never received therapy, I have adapted to act neurotypical and honestly, aspergers is not much of a problem in my life anymore. On days where I'm exhausted, my true personality does tend to show more, but most people dismiss it because I come off as a genuine, quirky guy. I love to make others laugh and love to have conversations, and I have perfected maintaining eye contact.
My friend is extremely high-functioning autistic. He graduated college, dates; extremely intelligent. He does Miss a few social cues here and there but I don't see much difference between him and everyone else.
Lucky you!! I have problems to get organized my ideas in my mind before to speak and then to express them in a detailed way
Functioning labels are gross because they just measure how inconvenient you are to neurotypical people. Please stop.
I disagree , you should never have to change who you are for anyone else no matter how good it is for them, you matter more than other people.
Wow good,
I think it’s interesting coming across this video 4 years later, in a time when “Asperger’s Syndrome” is no longer in formal clinical use (at least in the US), and instead it gets rolled into the wider ASD spectrum. This makes more sense to me, as I have always felt these not to be different conditions, but differences in scale and intensity of the same condition.
I think it's pathetic aspergers isn't a term anymore we don't want to be in the same category as autism
Yeah, I feel like people use it to differentiate between autism and Asperger’s anyway. Trying to make themselves feel superior
@@natashamurray66 Sounds like you've got some serious internalized issues to work out
I’m a mom who recognized all my children’s struggles as the same struggles I had as a child. They, fortunately, were diagnosed and we got help.
I’m working on overcoming all the trauma of not having a childhood diagnosis. My mom was obsessed with my IQ, but hated my idiosyncrasies.
My oldest child was diagnosed at 24. I think if she is autistic then the second child is probably autistic as well. I am frustrated at all of the doctors therapists, psychologists etc who dealt with her over 20+ years didn't get it right.
My iq is above average - but I’m rubbish at speaking
Ditto. This is why I chose science as a profession. I don’t have to talk to anyone very much.
Same here. My IQ is above average but my speech & communication skills is terrible.
me too
Same
IQ above average doesn't mean you excel at all sorts of intellect, intelligence is complex and there are different types of intellect.
I’m a mother of a teenage son who’s being tested for Aspergers. We know and love many friends who are on the spectrum as well ❤️
I am 80 and a retired special ed teacher for students with severe disabilities. I can count at least 5 times when a student was placed in my class because of verbal or social problems, but they were very intelligent. I quickly recognized these students and worked to get them into appropriate classes that recognized their intelligence. It is extremely interesting for me to see these podcasts of people on the spectrum so I can listen to their perspective. Thank you, so much
I'm 63 and tested top 10 in my state in mechanical aptitude and received a scholarship to a technical institute a month before I flunked out of high school. The high school at one point had put me in special ed. class. I wish you would have been the teacher. :)
"Don't worry, it's just his Aspergers" -- Martin Freeman as Watson, in 'Sherlock'.
I self diagnosed as having Aspergers several years ago. No need for a formal diagnosis, I'm older and have lived my whole life with this, not realizing this was even a thing. I have the sensory and social issues, high IQ and have managed to function, but with huge anxiety and not coming close to my potential. I have been the proverbial victim of abusers, due to my 'condition' I guess. Aspergers is so different from Autism, I don't understand why it doesn't have it's own classification. Sure, it shares some symptoms, but it's more different than the same. I needed help and support through my life, but it just wasn't recognized or available, I am intelligent, and can present very well, but everything which involved other people was always so confusing and exhausting, so I basically just survived rather than excelled or thrived, always blaming myself for not trying hard enough. Now I'm retired, self diagnosed and dealing with the grief of the loss of a lifetime of wasted potential. The one positive is that I can stop blaming myself for my failure. I understand myself now and live quite happily with my 2 dogs.
My story is similar. I plowed through my career as a computer programmer. I’m now a senior software engineer and at 65 years old, thinking I should probably retire. I am self diagnosed after suffering several meltdowns resulting in self inflicted injuries. I then went through autistic burnout while continuing to work, making my recovery longer than it may have been. I’ve worked remotely for years, enabling me keep my condition hidden from my team. Even working from home has become much more difficult since my burnout. I’ve told a my family, some of whom literally scoffed at my confession. As if having a successful career excludes the very possibility of neurodivergence. I was astounded of my own ignorance as I learned just what autism is. Of course now I recognize my daughter and all three of my sons display classic spectrum traits. My grandchildren also on the spectrum. One is non-verbal. I agree with your thinking a diagnosis is of no matter. I would prefer to work on myself through therapy and self reflection. One of my special interests is bicycling and in retirement I plan to become more active with my cycling club and take up bike camping. Best wishes to you. I too spend energy regretting my ignorance of my condition but like you, I feel better knowing my failed relationships have a root cause.
Grieving the loss of a lifetime of potential...Amen.
I am 58 and I have learned a lot about myself just by listening to your self-understanding experiences. I must have Asperger's because I fit the mold you are describing in Autism vs. Asperger's nearly 100%. In high school, I was gifted at learning foreign language, algebra & geometry, geography (maps) and I can't stand trying small talk in any social settings. I am suddenly clumsy with my eye-hand coordination, I still spill things spontaneously because my hands suddenly jump thinking I need to catch the cup, glass or whatever, even a bowl of soup for no apparent reason.
I enjoy your personal revelations on how you manage to live with all of your conditions interacting among themselves. Tricky business just being consistent!
Asperger's isn't used anymore it's just asd
I know this is three years old, but my 9 year old has autism/aspergers. There is a HUGE difference, so I don't really like that we have split from it so much that we cannot call it what it is so we as parents can understand the differences better now. Now it's a number on a scale, not a clear, here is the difference. It makes it harder for us to navigate in my opinion. Thank you for your video! ❤️
Love your clear non judgemental way of explaining. I have an adult son who I believe has Aspergers but he gets upset when I try to raise the topic. Understanding more helps me understand him more
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I’m 23 and just coming to terms with the fact I may have autism. Yours and Yo Sandy Sam’s videos have been so amazing for helping me realise this fact and understand that there are other people struggling through the same things as me. Thank you so so so much
It's been a month since I got diagnosed, your videos helped me to get motivated to get myself diagnosed.
It's been quite an experience and in retrospect it's funny how many of the things that made me feel isolated where due to an undiagnosed ASD.
The best part tbh is that the aspie community is amazing and filled with interesting people
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I’m a music teacher and am coming into contact with more students on the spectrum. For a few months now, I’ve wanted to learn more about how autism is related to music and made it a 2023 goal. These students are remarkable and I love meeting them at their learning level…I just want to understand how to communicate with these kiddos more effectively.
I’m just a 12 year old trying to figure out whats wrong with me, cause my mom doesn’t even care enough to realize there is something wrong with her own daughter. :))
Tysm everyone, I got diagnosed a few months ago and so did my sister, you guys really helped
Try reaching out to your mom. She can't help you if she doesn't know how. Best of luck to you sweetheart
lucky you might get help earlier, i'm in highschool already so i got to deal with this shit
It's not common for adults to know, plus, if you have it, the chances are she has it too and might need to enter her own journey of discovery. Persevere with them, maybe do a list of her traits on her behalf, then take her the blank test for her to fill in her self x
Hi,I'm a mom of a 14 years old,sometimes it's hard to find out without help, try to write her a letter letting her know that you feel different from others and send videos like this one to her cell so she can start getting some inf.that's how my daughter communicates w us most of the time. Good luck, and if you need a friend maybe my daughter can be. She's very friendly but doesn't have many friends, we live in Los Angeles. Y can send you my wattsup.let me know.
Oh sweetheart, you are loved. Keep your head up. You were made unique by. God. You communicate different and act different than most, but there is an often hidden minority of others who communicate in the same way you do! You are not a tragedy! God loves you! I promise to pray for you!
I was diagnosed last year with ASD along with DID, OCD and Bipolar.
I'm also gifted and I have synesthesia.
(Which is a double edge sword, btw)
Einstein has never been confirmed to be Asperger.
Never knew how to tie my shoes or chew or even fold a piece of paper until I was 8 years old.
But at that age I was already reading books from college.
Started reading when I was 7 months.
I had selective mutism, meaning I would only speak 3% of the time.
My mom would say: "Go and play with the other kids"
I would go and then go back to solitude.
My mom: "Alone again?"
Told her: "You told me to go. You never told me to stay."
On my first day at school I thought they brought me into a farm. All the children were shouting and running like crazy so I ran away from class and I hide in the library which it would become my temple for the next 15 years.
I expected the video to be more detailed but it was detailed enough for people who are not in the spectrum.
Thank you for spreading awareness about ASD.
I've had Attention Deficit Disorder since I was...……………………...Hey look !....A Quarter.
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@@VetaPhoenix….While talking to her, Call her from another phone and ask to speak with you. Don't try it when Saturn is rising.....it caused the dinosaur extinction.
My friends called me Doug from up haha
ADOS - Attention Deficit Oooh Shiny! XD I know all about that one.
I’ve had friends say, “You’re like a crow, “Ooooh shiny object.”” I fail to see the problem.
My 5-year old daughter was diagnosed at 2 with autism. Struggling with speech so much right now. Thank you for sharing so much info. It’s so powerfully helpful to me as a parent.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best. #droyalo
Thinking about it, language is more emotional than logical, which explains why people on the spectrum often talk later than their peers if at all.
Possibly, we need a fuller understanding of the word before we're comfortable using it, which helps develop our technical understanding of the language down the line.
There are of course those of us who speak early, which could be explained by higher IQs helping them to decode the language easier, alternatively an early talent at masking
Yo Brotha, since the Aspbie community has taken a little more control over the vernacular, we don't refer to Spectrum folks as high or low functioning, but rather high or low SUPPORT. This is in reference to helping the Normies know how to deal with us without referring to each other in terms that denote personal value. Just an FYI! Keep up the great work educating the Typicals!
That's really helpful actually thank you :) I wasn't ever really sure how to describe my sister's autism without it sounding potentially derogatory so I'll keep this in mind.
The diagnosis of Asperger's is actually done away with (yay!) See Chloe Hayden's video on why Asperger's needs to go. We are all autistic, and at varying levels of support.
Registered Nurse. Parent of a very shy, anxious adult son. Great aunt of an Amazing Aspie nephew.
Wow I have since 2 years sometimes Anxiety because I got a burn out. I hate that so much.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m a mom with ADHD, and getting my diagnosis as an adult was really life changing for me in many ways. It helped me to feel seen and understand my own pathology. Therefore I have been trying to crack the puzzle on how my children think and respond to the world around them by seeing what brain type they have. There was a lot about my son that I thought lined up with Autism, but then many things that didn’t. Hearing you talk about Asperger’s really is so enlightening
He maintains pretty decent eye contact and has fairly decent social skills, however he can’t always pick up on social queues for example when someone is overwhelmed by his hyper fixations or if someone is getting upset he won’t know until there is very clear verbal communication or an explosive reaction
His language has always been incredible. But he has missed physical development markers. Poor coordination etc
He is dyslexic and has ADHD and struggles with reading and writing, but his ability to recognise patterns and sequencing, and small details most people would miss..off the chats
So amazing
He has physical ticks like jumping and hand flapping
I was so confused before but your videos have helped me to understand now what direction we should be looking in. Because the spectrum is so big, having sub categories helps a huge amount in my opinion
Thank you so much
I couldn’t find any video out there like this
I have two young daughters who are diagnosed with autism. I came across your video talking about women/girls who are diagnosed with autism and I've seen a few of your other videos and now I'm questioning myself. I've never been diagnosed, and I've never even considered it until coming across your videos and the information resonates with me.
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Hey, I just heard the last symptom of autistic children was delayed speech. My son, even with Asperger's, didn't talk until he was around 5. I had his hearing tested when he was 3, and they told me he was stupid. But I knew better.
He took speech therapy at school, kindergarten through high school. (We just happened to land in a great school district!)
His vocabulary is now excellent... And, yes, he will talk my ears off about subjects he enjoys.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved
I was diagnosed with Asperger's and had a speech delay. I couldn't speak at all until I was almost 4 and still have some trouble forming words. In preschool, I was able to read before I was able to talk. All of the other Asperger's symptoms do line up with my experience, though. Not that it matters anymore since Asperger's was merged into Autism Spectrum Disorder and no longer exists as a separate diagnosis.
My son (7) was diagnosed with ADHD last year and is about to have testing and evaluation done for ASD or other processing issues. We wouldn't be shocked if it does come back as 'Aspergers' (though we know it's no longer the phrasing used). I enjoy your channel as it's helped me better educated myself and my understanding from the perspective my son might have in terms of his own lived experience.
Thanks for this! To answer your question, I came upon this because I’ve gotten really close to someone with Asperger’s, ADHD and dyslexia. So I was trying to get a better understanding.
This actually explains a lot for me; I was only recently diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum as an adult. My IQ is around 150 (based on an IQ test I had in my early 20's), when in school my teacher had actually noticed something which he wrote in a school report; that being that I had the ability to understand some very complex topics that the other students struggled to grasp, but the flip side was that I also struggled with the simple things that others found easy.
My number one topic in school was science. Later on as an adult I have gotten into deep philosophical topics; things like that just tend to click in my brain, allowing me to often easily see and understand things others dont.
I struggle in social situations; I hate being the center of attention and prefer being on my own rather than with others. I also sometimes forget how to spell words, usually the more simple ones.
About the speech delay thing; Apparently when I was first starting school, my teachers had problems understanding me because my speech wasn't properly developed, not like the other children. I struggled with learning to speak and to read and write.
Also, my entire life, even when I was a child, I have felt that I am different, not special, just different, like I dont really fit in somehow...
I strongly empathize and relate to your first three paragraphs @gr3ywolf I experienced those same things too
Same here about not finding a fit.
On understanding complex topics but struggling with simple ones, I loved algebra at school and was good at it but I can't tell the time on an analogue clock.
@@baffledmouse Thats really interesting. I can tell time on an analogue clock, but it took me a long time, must longer than everyone else, but I eventually got it. The reason it took me longer is because, due to having ASD, we dont tend to learn the same as everyone else.
I have a friend who also has ASD, and when I met him, he too could not tell the time on an analogue clock. I offered to try to teach him, but he said there was no point as he had been all through school and college, and in all those years no one had been successful in teaching him. Long story short, I gave it a go and used the way that I think about things in order to try and teach him. He can now tell the time, and it took me about 20 mins to teach him, and he got it, he said it was like something just clicked with the way I showed him. He still prefers digital time to analogue, but he can look at an analogue clock and tell the time...
Maybe most of your soul's attention had to be on all that activity so that there was little left for proper, clear speech and spelling.
Hi Dan, Thank you for sharing your knowledge between Asperger's and Autism. I was never actually diagnosed as having autism but my IQ in school was below average and always needed one on one help with tests given to me verbally and worded differently to understand the question. Now as an adult and in an autism program, i still struggle with communication and social hindrances. At the early days, they never even had tests to diagnose autism let alone talked about,. Now i am close to finally getting help from a regional center for support. Thanks again. Ryan.
I’m a behavioral therapist, this was just super interesting for me to watch. Working and understanding with autistic children has truly made me consider if I’m a part of the spectrum. There’s so many things about it that I still don’t know and feel like i should know.
I was diagnosed at 55 with Asperger syndrome and ADHD.
Im always smarter in any group. Now, I understand why, and I have accepted my uniqueness and difference with the people in general
BRO I got diagnosed after 25 years of not knowing! (I have Aspergers/High Functioning Autism). I'm just starting my channel that will emphasize more on how us older people survive in this society. The IQ is so true! We are so awesome! I'm stoked to have found your channel! Cheers! Aloha
Found out at 51 that I'm an Aspie. Found it very helpful and a relief in many ways, but the social skills deficits and anxiety are still really a barrier for me. My career was in the medical field. I still consume technical books and new learning all the time, to the frustration of my spouse, as I call short in many other areas despite my strengths. We live in rural area and I just don't feel useful or competent or fit in anywhere socially so I feel lonely and bored a lot. My hope is that we can move and buy a house that will allow me to create a space in our home that will allow small groups of ASD people to meet in a safe place for social and creative activities that is welcoming and accepting of our glorious uniqueness. It's very hard to be different than 99% of people
Hey - just so you know - 100% of people are DIFFERENT from 100% of people! You've succeeded at finding a spouse and keeping a marriage together, which a LARGE number of us are unable to do, and have a career doing something you like, which many people haven't been able to! Count your blessings, you're one of the lucky folks, even if you ARE a bit bored right now - good luck with your future!
I have ASD, for the IQ part when you said we tend to focus on math and science I was like "nope, not at all forme" then, history ah ok good for me
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I'm autistic. I hate math too. I think classic autism is right-brained autism. Whereas Aspergers is left-brained autism
Left-Brained Functions
Motor Skills, Verbal Skills & Social Skills
Maths/Sciences
Language and Coding
Following Directions
Teamwork
Analysis and Application
Social Adjustment
Cognitivity
Sobriety
Appropriation
Classic ASD/MASCULINITY
Nonverbalism
Social maladjustment
Troubles following directions
Bigger problems handling emotions
Recapping left-brained functions
Functions meant for neurotypicals, Asperger-autistics or females. Some neurotypicals or females maybe not. But yes for the most part. Whereas classic-autistics or males in general are not fit in this area for the most part of course. Not all
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@@ichheieelsenorandorayashi4824 Yeah. I'm not great at math. But my English(literature), science, and history? I excelled.
I agree, in fact, it's a stereotype. My time at high school was ruined by this attitude.
Hey! Thank you so much for the video. I was showing it to my nearly 9 year old son who has got aspergers. I want him to understand himself and how his mind and brain work. I appreciate it!
Finally I'm diagnosed at 41 well I got my answers now I wish I was diagnosed earlier because it would help me and my parents a lot, pity it would solve a lot of problems, diagnosis at early age helps a lot don't be afraid of the diagnosis or feel ashamed, knowing your condition only helps... So yes accept ur condition and search for answers, please accept and do not live in denial.... It's not your fault or smt you should be ashamed of
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I can understand where you are coming from . As I only got diagnosed at the age of 45yrs that was last year's. And also wish I had known sooner so i could of gotten help at a younger age. So I could understand it better. I've got the diagnosis but no help understanding the condition.
@@heatherrennie2117 yes but now at least you know when to ask for help when there is a problem that u cannot solve alone, you know why you were considering things differently than the others and you know when to ask for help, ignorance of our condition makes life harder and more difficult to cope with, accept it and do not feel ashamed, it's a just syndrome that we were born with, not our fault
Am I the only one who has intentionally avoided a formal diagnosis? All my life has been a constant and very stressful fight to mimic "normies", and I think I succeeded well enough, but even so I retired early because of this stress. I knew I was on this spectrum, but I always thought that if formally diagnosed I would have lost the will to continue this fight and my career would have suffered accordingly.
I am a mum of a 33 year old man with Asperger. He showed me your channel. Brill. Thanks for the help
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IQ only measures how well a person can answer the questions on the IQ test. The test is usually quite pointed as far as what the test is looking for or is able to measure.
I'm 82 years old and have come to realize in the past several years that i may be on the autism spectrum plus BPD and CPTSD. Due to my age and location and insurance limitations, a professional assessment or diagnosis of any of these conditions is not likely to occur. But I have found videos like yours to be helpful in raising my level of understanding of my problems, past and present. Thank you.
I think it is wonderful that you are doing these videos. I was recently told by a psychologist that I very probably have ASD, or Aspergers. It blindsided me and now I am trying to find out all I can about it. It can be really difficult, because even when people who have some form of autism talk about what it is like, not all of it applies to me and then I am very uncertain that I have Aspergers, but then some of it will also make a lot of sense. The more people tell their stories, the more people can find someone who has similar experiences.
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I’m working with an agency and they strongly suspected I have aspergers after watching me in a group situation weekly and by doing 1-1 sessions. I’m trying to do a bit of research so I can understand it better and all your videos are making everything in my life make sense for the first time.
I am not diagnosed as having autism or asperger's, but I'm being screened for it due to concern from parents and doctors. I watched this video for a bit more Information.
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@@redbirddeerjazz ok thank you for the advice I'll take a look.
@@redbirddeerjazz to be honest I didnt find ASAN very helpful but thanks for the advice!
I was showing signs of Autism as a child, but never was diagnosed. I have trouble with various things from socializing to on the spot problem solving. I just go with the motions with socializing as I feel I am expected to respond with and panic when I am in a situation where I need to figure out something on my own. It impacts work, education, and my driving and it sucks.
I'm 57, was only diagnosed last fall. When I was in school, 70s-1984, this wasn't a thing. A lot of kids with Aspie symptoms were usual labeled ADD or ADHD. I was treated as a brat, and looking back at how some kids treated me, they thought I was low intellect. Despite the fact that I was reading Shakespeare or Psychology Today. I just couldn't learn in the typical American public school. So I discovered the library, and taught myself.
When you were talking about IQ and mentioned history among the topics a person who has Asperger's can be interested in and super good at, I appreciated that a lot. Most people think it's more of a maths/science/informatics/technology thing, but now I got confirm that it can be about things like history too! I'm not officially diagnosed with anything but trying to figure out if I could be on the spectrum and I have an insane passion and deep interest in history so...it was nice hearing someone mentioning that 🤗
Same ! I was reading Shelby Foote in 5th grade but I can’t remember numbers long enough to add them together!
My life has been about conceited neurotypicals always badgering me to do things THEIR WAY, and cope with situations THEIR WAY.
Or we can be artists and musicians or singers…there are aspies with amazing right sided brain talent and average to poor math skill.
I have Aspergers :) I'm not amazing at maths and science, but I can do them relatively well. I'm studying child development. I love talking but I have bad social skills, I tend to talk over people and I don't get the "flow" of conversation. I have a pretty good vocab and I love big words. In terms of life skills, im a bit lazy and my mum still does a lot of my chores but I want to move out one day so im going to have to learn and I want to. I didn't have any developmental delays as a child, but I did struggle with making friends and social skills. I loved this video as I have never really thought about the differences or have known what they are
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That sounds sorta like me. Though I was never allowed to be lazy. I did my chores or I got my ass beat and punished. Can't blame them. No one cleans up after you other then you when you live alone. Also, can agree to the science and math. I'm better at history and creative writing. War history is my favorite.
@@collinspecht6725 I'm not allowed to be lazy, I just get away with it a lot. My mum tries to make me do stuff, but she's a pushover and if I leave them she will eventually do them. I don't encourage this attitude and I do do as she asks a lot of the time. My lack of motivation/lazyness is in part down to my depression and other mental health problems.
@@collinspecht6725 History is really interesting and I LOVE creative writing :)
@@kerezymaii ooo what kind of writings do you like to write?
Yes, I am easily bored, high I.Q. and my life work (Other then being a Monk) is master picture framer. I started working with wood at 6. In 8th grade, I built a 5 tier spice rack, from 1 piece of pine board lumber. I retired in 2001, to go back to St.Gregory's Abbey, and begin my Vows. I am building a workshop at my house (5500sqft) and I collect antiques, rugs and art. The best part of being a picture framer, was getting to frame 25-30 pieces of art a week and never spend a penny on art!!! I do have a large collection, and I am a restorer and conservator, and I also make meusem grade display boxes. I guess if you don't tell a kid he can't do something, he will never know he can't, and he will do it anyway. Brother James Kendall Moore OSB (OFS OSC.)
I’m a 78 year old Canadian lady who married a 65 year old man 17 years ago who had never been married. I know his parents & only sibling, an older brother, (all with Jesus now) would’ve wondered why Colin was obviously rather “different”. I myself am the one who suddenly realized why Colin seemed rather different when I was watching a video in TH-cam, explaining details about Asperger’s….which I had never heard of before. We had been married for several years when I happened upon this video. I realized that the details being explained about Asperger’s was like he was describing Colin! Colin doesn’t mind my telling people he has Asperger’s. He does indeed have extensive knowledge of certain topics which he had found particularly interesting…..such as astronomy, history, geography, languages, and he’s amazingly able to instantly memorize phone numbers….which is particularly beneficial for me….with my memory worsening with age. Colin will be 83 in May, so of course he tires quickly and easily now. But I’ve learned how to calm him down when he so easily gets frustrated when looking for something! He HATES having to search for things! He becomes very easily overwhelmed if given more than one task. He’ll angrily say, “ONE THING AT A TIME!! ONE THING AT A TIME!!” He can’t tolerate loud sounds. Even if a sound isn’t loud, but IS REPITATIVE, he HAS to IMMEDIATELY find out what’s causing it. But he CAN AND DOES carry on an intelligent conversation. Another subject he excels at is biblical facts. We’re evangelical Baptists. He has ZERO patience,….and NO SENSE of LOGIC!! God blessed ME with a crazy sense of humour. Colin TRIES to also copy my kind of humour….and seems to THINK he’s being funny,….but never is. He also picks up on certain phrases I’ve said once in awhile….and soon “claims them as his own”…by frequently mimicking me. lol Once in awhile he does embarrass me…..like when he was trying to pay a friend a little extra, when buying something from the friend. The friend politely refused to accept the extra bit of money,…..so, to my horror and dismay, Colin THREW the money at him with frustration!! But the fellow, who was French-Canadian, and just slowly learning English, forgave him….graciously. I couldn’t explain Colin’s mental condition to him because his English was not good enough to understand me. But you’re right about an Aspie’s intelligence. He IS INDEED QUITE intelligent. 😁👍🏻❤️