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- Parents struggling to cope with their violent autistic children are not being properly supported by local authorities, the National Autistic Society has told us.
BBC's Victoria Derbyshire programme's reporter Noel Phillips has been to meet families affected.
The Local Government Association says while "councils are working hard to make sure children with autism and other special needs get access to the support they need... they have been put in an impossible situation due to increasing demand and historic underfunding".
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My son is on the same spectrum. However, I am a single parent doing it on my own. As soon as he was 18 I fought and fought to get him on SSI. After many times of being denied he was finally approved. Immediately I put him in assisted living. I cannot control a grown man bigger than myself. The threat of harm is too much to live with even if it is your own child that you love so much, but you cannot help. You feel like a failure on a daily basis. And there is nothing you can do about it.
what is SSI?
@@danwalsh4988 Social Security Income.
If you made it thru 18 years you did enough.
You have nothing to be ashamed of, dear lady. You have done everything you could and made the right choice even though it was so hard.
Lmao i got roasted by a No u and your mom
who the fuck was in charge of the background music
Vernatrozz John was.
Vernatrozz who can relate! WOOOH
Really, like why is the Mask Off instrumental playing in the background at around 4:00 ??
That SquidKid lmaooooo right
that's what I was thinking lol
I hate how the only autism portrayed in the media is the aesthetic kind where they turn out to be geniuses no one knows about severe autism it kills me
Edit: I also want to acknowledge that the people with high functioning autism also face lots of stereotypes about their autism. I still feel like the people, like my brother, who is like the kids shown here are not known about at all.
Aoife Temple the "genius" artists are highly rare not many exist
No, that's highlighted too. It's called the pity documentaries that are made about them. Both major ends are highlighted (genius and barely capable), but we're never portrayed as people.
Agree with this. We really only see the geniuses on the media and the people who are on the higher functioning end of the spectrum but it seems like the lower functioning end of the spectrum is completely forgotten.
Acacia O'Donnell because the blue puzzle autistic society is hell bent on portraying autistic people as geniuses but it's just a front. I've met heaps of kids with autism. The overwhelming majority were just simpletons with brain damage. Parents and family of autistic people need a reality check and a wake up call. They are highly delusional
I’d say it’s the other way around, how els would you explain the idiotic masses believing all autistic people are emotionally and academically, retarded, bruits.
My son cannot talk , cannot toilet train , scream constantly is always hyper never sits down never sleeps it’s so exhausting and unless people have dealt with something similar they have no idea how it feels
Get respite services if you can.
There is no such word as can’t
Well that might be the most severe possible case of autism. You probably will need assistance from social service to take care of him
@@catguy4996 social services wont help they will just put the kid in care
Then perhaps you should consider sources such as Collaborative & Proactive Solutions, Applied Educational Neuroscience, the Neurosequential Model, Beyond Behaviors, Low Arousal, or Ukeru.
These parents are exhausted!
That's shortisum
Riley Rees-Tucker NOT horrible. Truth can hurt. But not as much as getting beaten up by your child. Don't be cruel to these desperate parents.
LJK Designs LTD did u mean "we" would be dead by now instead?
Mary Anne Clifton yep they are. I know from experience. I am the problem
They want to die
M’y daughter works with autistic children. One day a child of 10 came to class with a purple lip. The school was very concerned as this child said it was his dad that did it. The parents were contacted and yes the father had hit him very hard. Because he found him strangling his younger sister till she was blue. He had to stop him. These parents have a very hard time
I have no clue how Cameron's parents handle him?
I would be more than desperate.. 30 seconds Cameron's baby voice...
that immediately switches normal once he gets full attention.
UGH...Poor parents!
I feel so sorry for the other kids in the family.
What causes Autisim anyway?
I hope we find a cure!
@@pattymelt-go3fv there is no cure for autism and what I don’t understand is why you people can’t accept it as it is instead of immediately jumping to asking for a cure to it
I think Autism is from women taking depression medicine whilst pregnant but I'm not sure if that is why .
@@pattymelt-go3fv There is no cure for autism. I’m sorry, but you can’t cure a permanent brain disability. That’s just not possible. The only thing people can do is be patient with it and accept it for what it is.
@@KennethRachel-xi7dvno! No! No! Find Wikipedia !
Honestly, I dont wanna ever have children. Mental illness runs in my family. And would literally shatter my world if a kid of mine rose up to have some sort of mental illness. I 'd rather live and die alone over living with such agony. Stop saying its a blessing! That child is as much struggling as their parents are. I wouldnt want my child to suffer. It would be like a harsh stab to my heart
It is a lottery. If Autism runs in your family, there is a likelihood of you also having an autistic child.
I agree- Autism to this level can be incredibly dangerous to the parents and other siblings.
@@Oakleaf700 Schizophrenia, depression, autism, epilepsy have marathons in my family.
Same my biggest fear I've a brother and ive 2 nephews with it ,heart breaking the 2 nephews cant speak and my brother is in a living assistance facility 😢
@XaiderMaider No sweets. You're a beautiful human being and a beautiful soul. I didnt mean by my words that people with whatever disability shouldn't exist.. all i meant is i don't have the heart and courage for it. I hope it would get better for you. We're all struggling in some way or another. Just remember that!
Just bc you don’t have kids don’t mean you’ll die alone. You can live a beautiful, full child free life. Many adults do.
My son, now 36 years old, is very severely autistic. He also has violent, dangerous outbursts. I was a single parent with 2 other young children when he was little. By age 4, 5, 6 he was very difficult & dangerous to care for. His first placement in a residential program was at age 7. He lived there for 4 years. He then came home for a couple years but was still impossible to care for so again he entered a residential facility and he's been there for the last 22 years. I can't even imagine how our lives would have played out had we not had help for him. I am very grateful to have my son in a residence where he is well cared for and cared about. I'm in my 60s now and although I worry about him all the time (I'm still his mom & he's still my baby boy!!!) I do have assurance that after I'm gone he's going to be ok.
Just to clarify - when he's been in residential care I haven't abandoned him! I've always been, and am, very involved in his life. I'm involved in all aspects of his care from medical, medication, dental decisions to his everyday care decisions such as what & how much he eats to buying his clothing, underwear, shoes, etc. My husband and I even made him a special bed recently as he kept tearing apart & breaking up typical bed frames & headboards. I also make him special sheets for his bed as he tears off store bought sheets and then destroys them. I even change his bedding weekly & then launder his special bedding at home then take it back the next week or so. I will always be involved with my son and his care as long as I am able!!!
I applaud to you. Parents with autistic children or family members are very strong, doing anything to their child. Like they said in the video, sometimes they cried when they slept, and I couldn't imagine that, every day. I'm very sorry about your son, but he will always love you. Thanks for sharing your side of the story, and have a good day
Who else was too lazy to read it all
It sounds like you feel extremely guilty (that he is in a home) and you shouldn't.
I hate that you feel like you have to explain and justify yourself . People have to understand that you as a parent also have other responsibilities and there is just so much a single person can do and there is no shame whatsoever in saying : I need help I cant do this on my own.I have very very high respect for you and your love for your son and am sure he knows he has an absolutly awesome loving caring mum.Much love from Germany
Robin Auras If someone is not in your position they have no right to judge the choices you felt you had to make for the health and safety of everyone involved. I can’t imagine being in that situation, you just have to do the best you can💜 sending you love!
I live in the US. A friend of mine has a severely autistic son. Her husband died when their son was still a child, so she was a single mom. Her son grew up. He had always had violent outbursts, but now he was dangerous. He destroyed his bedroom and their bathroom. He attacked and injured his mother several times. He was hospitalized and sedated several times. Public school couldn’t manage his behavior either. His mom put him in a day program for kids with special needs. He came home nights and weekends. She has had to fight every step of the way to get services that were desperately needed. She always worked full time. They have never been on welfare. For years she lived in fear that her son would kill her. She finally had to put him in a residential program, which she never wanted to do. She visits him several times a week. What the parents of children with severe autism have to go through is worse than we can even imagine.
My son is only 6 but his violent outburst are getting worse. It's hard to control him sometimes. I have bite scars, busted lip, and bruises. It's incredibly heartbreaking to see your child like this.
Hope things have improved for you Heather, if you don't mind me asking how is your situation now?
@@svetavinogradova4243 I think you should move on, Sveta. Does it really give you pleasure to hurt people as you do?
@@Robinicat You cannot digest truth? Only unreasonable people are hurt by the truth. And this truth needs to be OUT THERE, because there are people who NEED this truth, as they will change their behaviour.
I have no need to hear your personal thoughts about me - you have no right whatsoever to give orders to adults in a conversation under freedom of speech. Desist.
@@svetavinogradova4243you seem autistic
Did things get better? My daughter is 6 next month and I’m dealing with the same thing, her strength is not normal! She attacks herself and me every single day it’s so draining!
my sister has severe autism and I grew up with her hitting, pulling our hair, throwing drinks, etc when she was angry. people don't TRULY understand unless they've been through it themselves.
What you mean is that you've been through someone autistic doing that to you. That's not the same as knowing what it's like to be autistic and to do those things. For that, you should consider watching "Reframing 'Severe' Autism" by Damon Kirsebom, a boy diagnosed with "severe autism".
Your mother just failed her parenting job.
I'm sorry
people don't TRULY understand if they aren't autistic
@@0ctoCraftso?
If you can’t behave in society you belong in an institution
'Excuse me....'
'ExCuSe Me...'
'eXcUsE mE...’
'What Cameron?'
'nO'
AJ Delgado its not funny its not Lmao pls stop
Lololololoollllll 🤣
I laughed lol
@I'm addicted to musicals it was a joke bro you need to relax and just take the damn joke
The 10 year old kid in my special education class does this too. He also will speak in commercials (I've heard the Cookie Crisp and Fruity Pebbles commercial for 7 hours straight before) or TV shows and he'll say, "Excuse me," until you acknowledge him in some way or he'll go over and tap you and then when you do acknowledge, he'll just launch into an explosion sound. It might seem funny to others and sometimes it is because it seems really important and then you acknowledge and all it is is an explosion sound effect. It's something you just get used to.
I was attacked by an autistic person at work. It was brutal and left; me unable to work, in chronic pain, with a lifelong impact. When he was convicted, it was his 3rd conviction and he was only 21. Disabled people being violent to their family or people who work with them is an issue that no one wants to talk about. When families, quite rightly want more support, we've got to remember that the carers and workers will be the ones who are subjected to their violence.
Bro an autistic man was arrested isn’t that what you’re saying *(Janetdonald9801)?*
💯
When I was a kid 15 or so years ago we had this massive autistic kid in our class who was larger than everyone else and had the mental age of probably a 6 year old when we were all 10 years old. Was able to hurt and lash out at whoever he wanted, due to me being so small I was a victim of these rage attacks a few times, all of which came without consequences for him. Anyways one day I’d had enough and smashed him over the head with a tin lunchbox and he fell to the floor like a sack of spuds. He shouldn’t have been in mainstream education and his condition shouldn’t have been our problem to face daily
I wonder if Mexican families have kids act up like this?
I am Mexican-American and I’m just saying, our parents have our ass in check🩴😂
It is t right that the general public has to deal with the sick disabled and addicted. They’re not educated or equipped to but here we are. Their right over everyone’s safety. Yes the parents don’t can t care for them so then workers will be the ones to deal with it. It is very freighting
I live in America and have an adult schizophrenic son. This country provides very little help with the mentally ill. After 18 parents have no say so in their child's treatment. If the person shows indications of harm to self or others, a therapist can put them in the hospital for 72 hours...that's it. The adult patient has to agree to continue treatment as if the ill can make good decisions. I know this video is regarding Autistic people, but the whole mental health issue is wanting.
I am in Canada; same here. My AS son could not handle work anymore but will not seek help. I cannot do anything. I know he is becoming a hoarder ( I am not allowed in his home, and now my husband isn't either). He sits his whole day at the computer. My other kids keep saying how much he has gone downhill since he is on his own. Nothing I can do; he will become a street person and likely freeze to death someday. Governments do not care. All I can say is you are not alone, but sadly real help just isn't available.
Prut Wekker My mom and I worry about him ending up on the street as well. Brad does get some government help, but not enough to live on. He won't live in a group home and of course, no one can live with him and vice versa. I absolutely feel your worry and pain. Mental illness is no longer such a social stigma, but it is an ignored illness . Contact me any time.
Oh my, you must be glad that you get any help from your country. In Ukraine, if kid with autism or other growth disorders will born, 90% that you won't get any help on regular base. You are alone with this. Now that kind of scary you know. Be grateful for what your government gives you in that situation.
The system definitely needs reformation. There’s to much advancement regarding our knowledge of the wife spectrum of mental illness, laws and practices need to catch up
My girlfriend is a single mother of an autistic child. The boy is 14 now and has a strengthen of a bull. She lives in Florida now and at least they have schools and some help from the local gov. I'm worrying what would happen to her and the boy.
This is why i get annoyed when people try to tell me that Autism is not a disability. It absolutely is and it is important that we keep it labeled a disability so that people qualify for care.
Autism is, but only severe, myself consider asperger not.
Edit: No matter what, Im still tired of people speaking of autism in such voice tone, that it is the worst thing one can possibly have and autism rates in the world must be supressed at any costs
@@pauliriekkinen7519 ignoring that in the US the Asperger's is not a thing anymore. I would say that is should still be considered a disorder since their are therapies that can be helpful and accommodations necessary to be employed. I think it is like Obsessive Compulsive people and OCD. they should make the distinction. You can have some traits that can even be helpful but you add the disorder when it is causing dysfunction. ... Maybe you are right since they no longer call it Asperger's we can you that as the term for the characteristics but not the disorder
@@pauliriekkinen7519Asperger is a disability and I’m saying it as a person with Asperger. We still work very different than casual people do and it’s not bad to say we are disabled, just NOT retarded
On this same line of thinking, where people ignore or belittle these types of issues: are when people say that “it isn’t real and people just make it up to get pity”
When people say those things I get absolutely livid, because clearly it’s an issue and people are hurt by it.
@@cover_mystic545many people are not seeing severe autism unfortunately where I am you have kids that have sensory issues and they are diagnosed, we have way to many misdiagnosed and that’s ruining the resources to help those that have it for severe. D
LOL why they play "mask off" by future in the background while showing the parent's injuries lmao
They need the molly and perks
yup, think the editors liked the song too much 😂 doesnt fit the moment at all.
Tink yeah poor choice of music. A little distracting 😅
lmaoo i'm glad i'm not the only one who noticed that
there was also a weeknd instrumental in there i think
That high-pitched repetition would bring me to a breaking point, without a doubt.
Late term abortion
Me too. I know i could NOT do this. I have trouble with neurotypical children screaming, I absolutely could not be around an autistic kid. My fault, not theirs.
You get used to having to here this and similar it’s called learned helplessness.
@@Louis-lu5wh I’ve had 10 years of it with my brother and you don’t, you slowly begin to resent them for it more and more, even tho it’s not their fault
@@mgz_lxw4492 ik I've had 15
His voice "excuse me"....this would drive me insane!!!
At least he's polite, so I get where he's coming from
@@robinjohnson1485 that's disgraceful.
@@robinjohnson1485
Could you please explain your reasoning?
Robin Johnson nO u
@@Iusti06 you are so inconsiderate and self centered 🤦🏼♀️
I really respect these parents.
My autism isn't that bad but I know sometimes I'm hard to deal with.
Me too
Please be my 23rd friend.
Same it's really hard because i'll start having a meltdown and no-one will know what to do so they'll try to intervene and obviously that doesn't help...
I’m on the spectrum aswell but on the high functioning side and since I’m female it got missed for years.
Jem Star that happened to me(Am male btw) and It’s been 2yrs since we started trying to get a diagnosis My School were calling it anxiety because i was doing good I’m school (They don’t care about your feelings) But my mum kept fighting and just got the diagnosis a week ago. I just feel bad for people that schools don’t care like me
I work in an SEN college for autistic adults and one thing no one tells you about is that the more comfortable they get with you, the more likely you are to become their target during a meltdown as your reaction isn’t as unpredictable to them as that of a stranger.
That is so sad and terrifying
Yes i totally agree with you. I have worked with autism for years, now retired, i had a lot of bad days, getting hit and punched, the sad thing is on a good day it is really good, but the bad days are very bad. These parents are working hard to make the best of their lives, and for their son, very sad for them.
The person most likely to be at the receiving end when I 'm so distressed that I get violent is my mum.
I'm generally respectful, teachers found me to be well behaved, but with my classroom assistant it was a different story. I was never violent, but I was still difficult with her.
Yes I agree, just a sign they are comfortable and feel safe to tell you how they feel in the only way they know how
@@Niki-mp8qeor they see you as a pushover and know you’ll never retaliate so you’re an easier target to attack than someone that doesn’t put up with their abusive behaviour.
These parents don’t get enough credit the tiredness and mental strain must be alot to deal with but we see you. mum and dad your doing a job👏
You are absolutely right. many people when hear you are raising a child with autism act like it's nothing special. If I would left many of them for a day with autistic child many of them would beg to take ac child back within an hour if not less... it's a very hard job
@@Muhabbatik Firstly the situation is caused by the parents and societies choices (epigenetic onset) secondly it only ever get's this bad if the guardians themselves are totally unfit and abusive...as is seen here...I have aspergers and don't even have to think about it nd or nt crowd i'm over with kanner..n as you look around the world don't forget typicals are the kings of social masking/interpersonal manipulation infact it's the only thing typicals are good at on their own.. ALL of the tech you enjoy in your life from the pencil on up you can thank autistic people for...
it's a very different culture within your own circles this is showing you will not adapt even for your own children so prehaps they should be locked away for their crimes here and the general welfare the so called parents that is who only stupid/very dumb people could miss where extremely abusive
These fucks are in no way sensitive to their children they don't even think of them as such their getting this predator view of someone only mimiking their own responses stressors and such...Don't want timmy to grow up hitting you don't raise him hitting him..otherwise when you get clobbered it's all fair..Might makes right parenting approaches often lead to an overthrow..
Sensory issues yet we are in quiet active places with camera crews staring down people that typically arent found of attention and uncomfertable with eye contact...I could go on and on but there's o many problems here I would not be the least bit surprised if one of those kids killed their parents and i used the term kill because in my eye's it wouldn't be murder after enduring all that but self defense to stop it from continuing
@@allenbrodess8510 i respect your opinion since you have an inside view but as a mother who is waiting for her child to be assessed for autism I just have to say that I have to work 10 times harder than any average parent just to keep my child safe, fed in a healty way and not stuck in a tv all day. It is a tough job. You know about autism and how it it is autistic but you don't know how hard it is to raise a child that you don't understand and don't know how to help.
@@5040115 LOVE your child...depathologize your thoughts....instead of looking at stimming as a bad thing acknowledge it's a self regulatory process that we shouldn't interfer with unless it's violent for we can induce burnout which brings with it skill regression,increased tendency towards violence ect...We treat that with a more love lover type approach if it even begins to get there...everything short of sex throw the dayspa,sound therapy,wooing it's a time of recovery the body is forcing to protect itself...Ignore it and get intellectual co's/disability maybe even physical.
Look for spd sources of issue like florescent lighting,various sounds,combinations of,textures explore the world again with them to and pay a devoted attention to taking notice....Be about them for awhile observe not to judge/change them but first what can be changed to be better for their lives...Frequent breaks as you shift from topic to topic with a fun distraction so they can 'fall out' of the gear they where in and get ready for the next one..
@@5040115 Really need much more comprehensive information to go beyond generalized best practice tho... you're just now coming to this conclusion soooo chances are regression/burnout has recently started time off vacation toss out that rulebook and let em live a bit see what they do on their own with help rather than trying to force conformity and what you/society wants...THis is critical longer it progressed the more damage will be done...Short term can usually have full recoveries IF you get to the issues and help em move forward,But when sustained symptoms worsen skill loss and trouble obtaining new ones is a sure fire bet and everything just degrades and spirals out....Catching at this point if you treat correctly you could find there's more than than you ever knew....
Not joking at all if their at that point i'll do it myself if you'll bring em...Don't like the results there'll be a plethera of charges you can push...went where i said not to (likely to happen)'kidnapping',the dayspa stuff can easily be twisted and it doesnt take much of an imagination..easy sell to the town who's witnessed a 'closeness' the uber protective nature of what needs to be for awhile i'd be cooked but it works and is worth it.never failed to get another out of burnout yet
People drive me insane thinking they have the solution when they wouldn't last a week in the shoes of a parent who goes through this. Even if you work in a group home on a typical 8 or 12 hour shift it isn't the same as living 24/7 with a child on the spectrum. You have no idea how isolating it is, how frightening it is, and how it feels to have a child that grew within your body trying to kill you during a meltdown.
You just need to learn to parent .
I don't know what traditional therapies there are to help families manage the 'meltdowns' and aggressive behaviour of their children these days. Years ago castration was done in order to make aggressive, autistic boys/men calm and gentle. This happened to my husband's cousin about 60 years ago. Is hormone treatment to make males easier to manage and to help make them less volatile and happier individuals?
@@Robinicat corporal punishment helped for centuries
@@svetavinogradova4243 Why don't you use it on yourself?
@@filipeflower 😂
I’m going through the same thing. My son was such a content, happy child growing up. Since he started puberty he’s become a monster. And it’s horrible to be scared of your own child but I am.
;;ad to be kidfree
Talk to your pediatrician. There is help. I worked in the autism field. There are aides through schools too. If your pediatrician writes a "prescription" for your child for behavior health help, you can get help!
This background music has me dying, they really started played High for This by The Weeknd at one point 😂
I absolutely love that song 🤣🤣
Lol 😂
The bbc always has top notch background music 😂
For real lmaoo was looking for this comment
4:08 mask off by future??
I pray he doesn’t hurt his parents when they get old and when he gets old
@Dr Yuching Lee stop peddling your fake herbs , herbs dont cure autism. its offensive. and i am a parent of an autistic child!
I am dealing with the same situation! I would not wish this on anyone!
von reeves love to you. Hope things get better
I am autistic and your behavior disgusts me. When you had a child you signed up for anything. You should not expecting a child that will be perfect or how you want it. Imagine the struggle your child has!!
Dopepe shut up troll. No parent ever expects that their child will be violent towards them or others. This has nothing to do with having unrealistic expectations for your child, being negative towards people with autism or not loving them as they are either. You imagine being scared of your own child? You imagine how painful it must be to watch your child in so much distress and pain on a daily basis?
Routine and rules work.
"My child hurts me and people I care about, but it's ok because they are probably upset too" Doesn't work like that pal.
shoutout to those parents for having such love, compassion, & patience. i don’t think i could handle it honestly.
They took the risk when they had children
@@daleburrows2662I’d rather be infertile than that being a chance my god
@@daleburrows2662 not really, before modern times the unfit would likely pass away due to being too much burden for families to manage 24/7. It's only due to the parents' decision to be so considerate to deal with the abuse that the kid has made it this far, they have really gone above and beyond to be there for the child.
@@google1030 yeah that's true... 200 years ago... when people had lot of children to help out on farms. In the 21st century however there's no excuse to abandon a child
@@daleburrows2662 I wish your mother had just sucked his dick and swallowed you.
The choice of music in this is horrible
aaa aaa yeah like they’re playing future over an autism documentary
I know right. who would put wolves on this? lmao
Why would they freaking put Logic 1-800.
AGREE
Zip Zap I died lmao
everyone needs to understand every person with autism is different just like any human being on this planet I have autism
Me too!!!!!! Merry Xmas! !!!!😺😺😺
Kiddly3000 same
I have autism as well but on a very low level
jep. there is such a huge spectrum.
Same. So many people believe that autistic people are always violent people who view the world as bad people and kill people in cold blood. The media makes this worse as well, immediately saying that somebody who has commited murder or terrorism is somebody who has autism or other forms of mental disablities.
Why are you overlaying rap music tho lol
eggplant iguana it fits with the theme
lmao i thought i had another tab open
eggplant iguana Haha your random comment made me burst into laughter.😂
I was like I know this ain't mask off playing while showing these folks bruises lmao
eggplant iguana IKR WHAT IS UP WITH THE LOGIC LIKE
The mental toll it takes on the parents is heartbreaking. Parents need support too.
Having an autistic child is extremely mentally and physically draining 😢
Does anyone ever consider the person with autism? How hard do you think it is for THEM? Quit talking about their parents for fucks sake. Imagine how it feels to be autistic and how hard that is to deal with? There’s nothing wrong with them, they just have no support in society because most people don’t give a fuck about disabilities. They don’t care about anything unless it’s personal.
@@beckee6282 thank you I am autistic and it's great to see someone who supports disabilities
@@beckee6282 The parents are getting physically assaulted by the child, and have no way to stop it, so yes it is hard for them. Jesus christ how can you be so self centered? We know it's hard for the child, but being physically abused without any way to stop the abuse is ALSO a difficult sitation to live in. No autistic person would want to have to be in a situation where they are on the receiving end of that type of behaviour either.
Completely agreed. I'm autistic and saying that someone is scared of their autistic child hurts me.@@beckee6282
As someone with Asperger's, I think it's incredibly unfair to the parents to have to deal with that for the rest of their lives. It's not the autistic kids' faults, and they're lashing out in pain and frustration, but at the same time they are burdening their families. They need to be put in a home of some sort where trained professionals can take care of them.
I don't blame them for living in fear. The most extreme cases, those kids have almost superhuman strength. They have the potential of causing serious damage and harm. These parents need help.
I watched several videos of the Neeson Family. They are in Australia and have a 19 year old son. He bloodied his head by bashing with his fists ...screaming and but his father. I have seen the Guardian Helmet which can protect them against self harm. I also read an article about a parent in Wisconsin that had vocal cord surgery done to soften the loudness of screaming meltdowns in 2013. A family should NOT live in fear of adukt child with Severe Autism causing harm to themselves ....property destruction etc.
their parents who who did who just prayed all their lives and some of them have been healed of autism they don't have Asperger's they don't have that autism and doctors psychologist said they received a miracle you have to put your faith in the word you don't know things have happened to people in group homes institutions
@@lesliemillni8715 ummm... haha people can't be healed from autism... but thanks for playing I guess
I am normal person and I have autism and in my opinion autism is just an excuse
This world is such a crazy whack backwards place there's little kids that are perfectly well-behaved being beaten and abused daily, right taken away, put it put into foster homes and then we got this family ....they're the ones getting abused, don't give up on their kid wouldn't dream of hurting him. Can someone tell me how to help? The government clearly isn't, and quite frankly I don't think they ever will. I feel so bad for this mother. .. just....
Stop voting Tory then.
You do realize it's because he's having a meltdown due to overstimulation right? I myself am autistic and bit my sister once because I was melting down, I was terrified and everything hurt, so don't make it about the parents, they're actually ignorant.
you where terrified so you bit your sister, now i know what goes through my bros head
Kairo's Workshop blame the O V E R S T I M U L A T I O N
Tomo Rainns I was scared so I lashed out, look I was 7
Big kid. Seems like a grown man physically. Dangerous to himself and others. Sad business.
what the are you talking about? 😒😡 this was never said about non-autistics who cut themselves or hurt themselves in anyway ! ! ! ! !
fairymairah That's literally exactly what people say about people cutting themselves what the hell are you talking about.
+MaskedScorpio I'm talking about these so called autistic experts calling autistics' anger and being upset an OutBurst but they don't call a non autistics behavior that! it's bad enough people judge autistics and give out all this un-needed Love and Care which probably disables autistics from learning how to be independent in the first place! but every time a non autistic person get so angry and upset! it's not considered an OutBurst! but when an autistic person does it! than that's when it's called an Outburst! and it makes me want to extremely DisLike these kinds of people! And also! when a non autistic person hurt themselves like cutting themselves! that's when they're considered needing help! but when an autistic person hurt themselves like biting themselves! they get kicked out of Schools! Programs! Camps! and get to be treated like Criminals and they get Judged like alot of people before being actually Known! That's What I'm talking about ! ! ! ! !
+MaskedScorpio and I feel like I just want to HATE these kinds people and want justice for autistics
fairymairah an autistic person having an outburst is completely different from a non autistic person having an outburst. Autistic people have outbursts because they are feeling overwhelmed with sensory input or because they can't communicate what is making them uncomfortable. But outbursts CAN be very violent and intense. And unfortunately there is no way to reason with them, they just have to get through it. That is incredibly difficult for parents and caretakers to deal with. But it's just because of their condition, they can't help it. Their brains simpky work differently. A non autistic person having an outburst is different, but can certainly be just as dangerous. But those with no mental conditions don't have outbursts as frequebtly or intensely as those who do have conditions such as autism. But I have no idea where you seem to get that people are not concerned about non autistic people having outbursts. But someone cutting themself as a way of coping with stressors is nowhere near the same as someone having a violent outburst due to a mental condition.
What a horrific nightmare. It would destroy my peace of mind and qualify of life. I couldn’t do it.
i know right? i cant deal with this, im too weak
Nor should you be expected to
My daughter is 23 years old and autistic. Although she is no longer physically violent, she definately was when she was a child. I wound up addressing this in two ways 1) I started training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. BJJ is a grappling art that allows the practitioner to use holds so as to control a person's body without inflicting injury. The knowledge that I could physically control my daughter without hurting her, allowed both us to feel safe. 2) Medication. While pharmaceutical intervention is never an ideal solution, I have to admit that it made a huge difference in my daughter's life. It did not solve all of our problems, or make her more 'normal', but it did help calm her down to the point where she could eventually attend classes at a regular school without being a risk to teachers and fellow students.
Why didn't you call the Police?
@@SMCwasTaken Because OP said that the violent impulses were when her autistic daughter was a child..? And besides, it seems like OP managed to help her daughter cope with them just fine.
And parents of autistic kids don’t want to cause a big negative incident between our kids and the police. One bad experience means that our kids will panic every time they encounter a police officer and are more at risk of behaving unpredictably and being subjected to excessive force in the future.
you could've just parented the child nicely instead of doing all that
@@0ctoCraft Expert in parenting violent children, are you?
I'm over 40 now, still not regretting my decision to not have kids.
Yeah and remember not to ever get kids either because once you get older there is a high risk of autism in you children
@@coryindahus7319 No way I want kids now. My head hurts just thinking about the stress...
@@GnosticAtheist I feel bad for you man
When people say that they don't want kids at the age of 40 it usually means they do, it's just an excuse for why someone can't get a boyfriend or girlfriend.
@@almunumm9069 I'm gay. Not saying that automatically remove those natural feelings for reproduction, but it does alter it. There are ways to have children (including adoption) but its more of a choice. Having a child is something that cannot happen by accident thus its much easier to ... skip it.
I'm sorry but other children didn't ask to be beaten,to be afraid in their own home. They feel invisible, unwanted, betrayed, they ARE victims - phenomenon of glass children is frightening. The parents have to protect ALL CHILDREN,not only the sick one....
It's an impossible dilemma for a parent to be in when other siblings are clearly being impacted. A lot of outside support is required to limit damage done to brothers & sisters in these circumstances, which sadly is is rarely adequate.
Are you volunteering to go to their house and give them some respite hours? If not, then STFU.
If that was my child, he would be in a facility.
It's just too dangerous to keep him at home, end of.
And that story of somebody else in this thread, of the autistic child trying to kill his sister, is terrifying.
That is a ticking time bomb and it is so unfair for the younger sister to have to share a home with an older sibling that tried to strangle her.
This makes me realize how incredibly lucky most parents are, to have a child that behaves even reasonably normally.
Honestly…I can’t help but think about this. I also can’t help but think so children/adults who go through things that cause trauma, who more than likely also don’t know exactly what’s going on, how to express it or how to deal with it, that act out afterwards will be told to take care of their shit and more than likely will hear shitty things about themselves due to judgement, but an autistic child or adult will consistently violently lash out and possibly physically and mentally damage people like these stories I’m seeing here…some for life…but we all need to be more understanding and accepting. That is blasted all over media now yet I don’t see this level of autism being shown or talked about much yet. I just hope this is not what we are accepting. I can’t give a person with a disability/disorder who’s consistently violent a pass. It doesn’t feel right or fair. It’s still violence. It’s still damaging and unacceptable. Anyone other than parents and caregivers who are made fully aware these things could happen and consent to still caring for them albeit the possible violence, shouldn’t have to deal with this. I know that may come across cut throat and cold, I’m just stating my honest thoughts and feelings here. I do understand there is things going on that drive this more than someone who does not have severe autism yet I still feel If it’s repeatedly harmful to innocent by standers, it needs to be dealt with. Kinda feels like a double standard to me when trauma can act as a disorder/disability to people as well. Just doesn’t sit right with me because I feel it’s given more of a pass yet the damage to other people doesn’t discriminate.
@@emmajones8590 Do you know there are no facilities in most countries? And those that exist have years long waiting lists.
Percocet molly Percocet!
Mask off
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Off mask
i'm trying so hard to take this seriously but I cant with this music lmao
excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me ..
ay, look on the bright side - he has manners!
He actually had something to say but nobody acknowledge it .. he said "I can't see you" and seemed to do something weird with his eyes... Maybe he had a problem.. I feel sorry for him his mother didn't even asked him what's wrong why cannot he see her...
@@shanimarie409 im so happy he is able to communicate because when they are non verbal it's a guessing game on what is bothering me
Kagan Roy start acting mature instead of picking on people in the comment section
Why didn't th mother just move out of his way. He clearly doesn't like her talking to a third party about him.
WolfGang THAT is just your interpretation! That he doesn’t like his mum talking with someone else. In reality this happened to me all the time in my son’s first decade & it took me years to work out that he has no problems with my talking with another person. He has a problem with having ANY free time on his hands. Now that he is such a happy young man, I see that he needs to be busy all the time with doing stuff he very much enjoys like composing, playing or performing on the piano/working out at gym, watching new trains on Ipad, etc. He has no problem & is happy with my talking with strangers at his gym, supermarket, etc. But it looked the opposite way when he was younger as I thought as you did! My autistic son just wanted my personal attention rightaway in order to give him, some simple & clear instructions or something enjoyable immediately to engage him (or else his autistic mind returns to a state of fear of the unknown/uncertainties, which realised fear triggers a meltdown).
I just don't get why the parents are being interviewed in front of their kids when they're literally 5 feet away. They're sitting there saying that they're scared of their kid, all while they're right next to them and ignoring them. That shit would fuck me up if I heard my parents talking about me like that.
People do this all the time. I see people on my fb page complaining about their kids all day. They definitely either hear it or feel it from their parents.
You never look at pictures of your baby/little one and imagine this life for them. It’s unimaginably hard, but you don’t love them any less.
😭
I wouldn’t love them at all
@@annabelenko1611no one should love u
@@annabelenko1611life is a cruel lottery. You choose to create life then you have to bare accountability if the child doesn't come out correct. Noone asks to be born
@@daleburrows2662 I wouldn't say that, there's circumstances that are beyond what a parent can reasonably be expected to work with. Being physically assaulted is not okay and it's normal to not be able to deal with that or other extreme behaviour problems and care requirements.
I salute these parents, I could not do the same
Kelsea Moore, what about the Autistic child? Aren’t you going to salute the kid too? Oh, that’s right, we’re all burdens.
I salute this kid even though I’m on the spectrum I still couldn’t live a day in this kids shoes every case is different/unique
Carlos SpiceyWeiner Me too...
@@emmarose4234 It's called a spectrum for a reason. If you can type that comment and have autism then you're much higher functioning than these individuals who cannot properly communicate or learn about their condition and feelings and thus resort to physical outbursts. No one is saying all autistic children are a burden and I'm sure they aren't when they're young children but caring for an adult for many decades as you the parent gets old and more concerned for your safety and happiness is not a way for either human being to live. I was attacked suddenly by an autistic individual during an outburst and it'd be impossible for anyone who has also been victim to one to say it doesn't take a physical and mental toll.
@@emmarose4234 It's called a spectrum for a reason. If you can type that comment and have autism then you're much higher functioning than these individuals who cannot properly communicate or learn about their condition and feelings and thus resort to physical outbursts. No one is saying all autistic children are a burden and I'm sure they aren't when they're young children but caring for an adult for many decades as you the parent gets old and more concerned for your safety and happiness is not a way for either human being to live. I was attacked suddenly by an autistic individual during an outburst and it'd be impossible for anyone who has also been victim to one to say it doesn't take a physical and mental toll.
I am Autistic myself and having gone through years of struggling and meltdowns, I can tell you that my parents suffered a great deal having to care for me. If I was any more severely Autistic I don't know how they would have coped - how these families are doing it is beyond me. These parents need so much more support than they're getting, and their children need to be dealt with better by professionals so that they can actually target the issues and help those who are more high-functioning develop coping methods. It's terrible that more isn't being done.
GetSetPet I always thought that myself. I mean yeah we autistics had hard times but as a parent, they struggle so much becuase seeing their child having meltdowns and having trouble having friends and getting bullied alot brings alot of stress to the parent and it saddens them. I know that if I was any more low functioning, my mom will struggle with me becuase she don't know exactly how to support and make me happy and all and it hurts her to see me hurt all the time and atrugling with life.
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GetSetPet nutritionfacts.org/video/best-foods-for-autism/ This may help.
Thanks for your help but I really don't think broccoli sprouts are gonna cure me. I don't eat animal products and eat a large amount of those foods anyways (including broccoli sprouts.) Foods won't get rid of a neurological condition.
GetSetPet Sulphoraphane won't cure you but it will buffer the 4 main components that make up what is known as autism. Also one important thing is that sulphoraphane can only be gotten from eating raw broccoli. That's because an enzyme in broccoli breaks down a compound into sulphoraphane when being digested in your gastric juices. The enzyme breaks down at temperatures of 118 to 127°F. So if you have not eaten raw broccoli then I would suggest trying to eat a cup of raw broccoli and see if you can sense any effect :).
God I was getting stressed watching him getting up in hes mums face saying excuse me over and over again I cannot even imagine what it would be like for them.
Absolute hell on earth.
exactly what their chosen actions brought upon them and if they don't change will continue to bring upon them...reaping what they sew..autism and it's worsening are epigenetically induced...There's no debate left to be had there 90% of the human population has the potential to go that way with the same/like conditions less than 1% does cause their conditions where different..
Oh sure, feel for the parents but not the child, how totally lovely of you. You need to read "Two Houses" by Henry Frost, an autistic boy who is just like the one in this video, because you don't know or care about how people like this boy feel about situations like these.
@@natesportyboy4939 you need to grow up a bit before you start commenting on here. Never said I don’t fell bad for the child.
@@allenbrodess8510 I’m sorry can you just explain what you mean please as I was confused with what you said
I have a friend w a violent autistic child and he’s made the family life a living hell at times. I feel so sorry for them and all families who have to put up w this. Watching this and knowing that this is a prison they’ll never be able to escape is just tragic.
the real tragedy is how your friends family seems to treat them
@@0ctoCraft What do you mean? I never said anything about how my friend treats her child -- which, by the way, is with excellent care and love. My comment is on how the entire family is and always will be held hostage by the behavior on one child.
@depnewshound their family isn't ''held hostage'' by anything
@@0ctoCraft I would describe being stuck with a violent child as being held hostage in a way
@@Blopusanian not when you make the child violent
Dude I love hip hop as much as the editor, but there is a time and place for it outside of a video of autistic children
Sorry comment is true but funny at the same time😢😂
Yea I was like "Is 'Mask Off' really appropriate right now?"
LMAO
nachowarrior1 THEY PUT THE INSTRUMENTAL OF THE WEEKND’s “HIGH FOR THIS“
@papa shrek no u
I have aspergers syndrome depression and anxiety, I'm 32, I was not diagnosed until about 10 years ago. I live in the united states and I'm considered too high functioning to get help with adult living skills by my medical insurance provider, so I can't get help unless I'm in an absolute crisis. I'm very smart but I'm hard to motivate, I can't reign in the obsessive behavior and I get fatigued after more than a couple of hours out in public. My comprehension skills take a dive after a couple of hours out in public. I'm so sensitive to noise that I have to wear headphones in public and that buys me maybe another hour or two of mental strength before my awareness starts to take a dive. People don't understand, they think if I don't act like the rain man I'm not sick. But I can't focus and progress to become self sufficient without guidance, and I need money to do that. I can't work to get that money so I'm stuck here.
It should be that if you need something, mental illness wise, you get it. But the reality is that even in countries with socialized medicine like Britain NOBODY CARES.
Let’s count our lucky stars it’s not quite as severe for us as it is for the kids in this video!
Don’t lose help, we have some self awareness so we can at least try and get better... ✌️
This needs to be talked about more
So something can be done. Your points are very valid
You are saying what I was thinking. At least this is in the UK where there is a government effort to provide for the needs of people who can't fully take care of themselves due to medical conditions.
I can't imagine how families in the US with the same needs manage with little government support.
@@lisakulp4639 Besides money (insurance companies don't want clients that need therapy because pills are cheaper), there's a movement inside the US government to try and destroy/privatize services for the most vulnerable people. Flint MI was an example of one way this can backfire horribly. But they want as few people sympathetic to the mentally ill as possible and they want as much money as they can gouge without having to work. These people will happily label anyone who cares about the wellbeing of their community as being communist, when in reality they're misusing the term in an effort to divide our society. Privitizing these services is a big mistake and would allow corporations to legally rob disability and social security.
That’s no way to live. I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.
Yet there are people that say, it better to have an autistic child then to have , measle, mumbs..
@@karenkas81 shut up karen, you are a divorced soccer mom
THE MERCURY INSIDE THE VACCINES ARE MOST LIKELY THE CAUSE OF AUTISM IN CHILDREN. MERCURY IS A GOOD CONDUCTOR AND MOST LIKELY CREATED ELECTRICAL PATHS IN THE BRAIN CAUSING THESE AUTISTIC CONDITIONS. I USED REVERSE OSMOSIS WATER TO CURE PEOPLE OF IRON OVERLOAD/HEMOCHROMATOSIS AND IT WORKS. SINCE REVERSE OSMOSIS IS THE PUREST WATER IN THE WORLD AND HAS A TENDENCY TO ATTRACT MINERALS/METALS. FOR CHILDREN WITH AUTISM IT COULD HELP TO REMOVE THE MERCURY DEPOSIT IN THE BRAIN CAUSING THIS CONDITION. REVERSE OSMOSIS FILTERING SYSTEMS ARE CHEAP AND I WOULD HIGHLY RECOMMEND INSTALLING ONE AND GIVING THE CHILD THIS WATER DAILY TO DRINK ONLY. ITS WORTH TRYING BUT ALSO REMEMBER TO BALANCE IT OFF WITH A VITAMIN MINERAL SUPPLEMENT. BECAUSE IT CAN ALSO REMOVE GOOD MINERALS FROM THE BODY. IN THE BEGINNING ALLOW THE CHILD TO CONSUME THE WATER WITHOUT THE VITAMIN MINERAL SUPPLEMENT TO SEE IF THERE IS AN IMPROVEMENT. THERE IS ALSO MANY BOTTLED WATERS THAT ARE REVERSE OSMOSIS WATER LIKE DASANI MADE BY COCA COLA, AND ALSO THE NESTLE WATER IS ALSO REVERSE OSMOSIS WATER. YOU CAN START OF WITH BOTTLED R.O WATER FIRST.
@@coryindahus7319 lmaaaoo
Karen Soares not all autistic people are like this, I never hurt anyone
I am really sorry for this parents, it’s so difficult to live like this.. Their poor children look really terrified. I can’t imagine how much love and patience have this parents. I couldn’t live like this..
I used Dr Oyalo herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on speech delay and ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
Idk WHO is in charge of the music but 😂😂THANK YOU for making me laugh
lmao was thinking the same
misshay mask off fuck it mask aye
right,😂😂😂
misshay MASK OFF
Logic, Sam Smith, Mask Off... this song list...
I'm autistic. My parents were overwhelmed and didn't want more children after me. Thank God I'm independent and non violent. I used to be terrified of people and of change. I have learned to cling to God, Consistency and routines are nice but never effective 100%.
Even God I not 100% effective if there is one.
@bilingualeducation7666
Don’t let other’s questionable comments about God disturb you one bit. A true follower of God and his written word is all that you need, along with following his guidance with prayer 🙏. Bless you and your family and keep the faith. In Jesus’ name: Amen. ✝️
I really hope we find a way to help these families. How will parents cope when they are elderly?
Good point
I worry about that everyday.
@@piscesempress1978me too
@@piscesempress1978Me too.
I'm on the spectrum myself and the thought of possibly putting my family through this when I was younger makes me so depressed..
Aww sorry that you felt that way I’m sure family doesn’t want you to feel bad 😞
me too. i'm on the spectrum and i'm still a kid and the thought of putting my family through this makes me sad, so i try not to bother them too much.
Aww
Luckilly most Autistic people aren't like that, Unless they said you did you probablly didn't.
@@kathleenh2782 Prehaps it's required for your particular situation to keep going forward but that's a really unhealthy mindset...If they are family rather than loose relatives their job is to help you and yours to help them..Your autism was created by your parents epigenetically it's not some random aliment there are conditions in the womb and just after which cause it made by your parents,socieities choices...About 90% of the worlds population HAD the potential to go that way..Those parents made other choices and got different results
These kids don't get therapy or medication. They should have emphasized that more in this video.
dinolandra The thing is, i got therapy even though i was top of my class, I had autism, but it was very minimal, but my younger autistic brother, who is more severe than mine, didn't get much treatment.
SparkyTheFox that's pretty messed up. My husband is high functioning and did well without therapy but his family members who are low functioning didn't get as much help and aren't nearly as successful in life
chibi hungary yeah but they focused more on the parents' struggle rather than the children's, and i don't feel like that will really help the children.
chibi hungary i think educating the parents as well as giving therapy to the students will help them. I am lucky to live in a metro area where i can receive both for my son. Autistic children are not emotionless machines who can't be understood. They just react to things differently and think a different way. Too many parents with children on the spectrum don't understand that.
dinolandra The thing is therapy and mess don't completely stop meltdowns. It certainly helps don't get me wrong but you can't completely get rid of their "challenging behaviour" (as the new pc term goes).
Please buy Elliott a pair of noise cancelling headphones. All autism or PDD-NOS affected people are different in their specific challenges and behaviors, but MANY share an issue with Sensory processing. This means that they may not be able to filter sights and sounds the way neuro-typicals do. Sensory overload X 5! When your child puts their fingers in their ears, or tells you to stop talking, they are trying to explain that they've reached their tolerance for sound bombardment. It can be very calming to them when they are allowed periods of rest from all the noises of life. 😊🤗
My son won’t wear ear defenders, they might have tried and not worked out.
This
Diana G that sounds nice in hindsight but most people with autism hate things on their ears and head! He’s just stimming, it calms us down!
This and many other reasons is why I’m never throwing the dice and having kids.
Amen
Exactly.
I sometimes wish I had kids...but seeing this....I am glad now I haven't.
I applaud you for that, people that can't handle their child being anything but healthy, cis, straight, mentally stable, etc etc, just shouldn't have kids
@@nottodaynint.nottoday2235 It's funny how you assumed she hates all these other groups just because she doesn't want to have an extremely autistic child. I bet it would be really difficult for such a dense person like you to raise an autistic kid. In fact, you wouldn't handle it a day. Imagine having a kid that screams all day and all night because he doesn't understand that he's in an environment and he's supposed to behave! That's what you'd be dealing with. It's much easier said than done.
I was a single mother of 2 girls. One SEVERE ADD/ADHD AND SOCIOPATHIC and it completely destroyed my life. By the time she was 12 and my other 18, my mother took custody due a total nervous breakdown on my part. I lost every job i had, both homes i owed, every vehicle, forget any normal relationship with any man. I became a suicidal drug addict. She will be 18 in 2 weeks and shes on her own. Where i think she'll be better off than ever. Her ability to deal with authority is miniscule. Through it all i still very much love her and dont blaim her. Sometimes God makes things happen for a reason and im just now learning that. You cant have regrets and must have God in ur heart. I pray these parents can stay married and get their blessings from being parents to these tortured children.
Hi Dwayne how are you doing now? I really hope you're off drugs for good and are stable and much happier.
Oh wowww...such an old post!! And how my life has changed since then! Crazy! My kids are now 21 and 28 and my very beat friends. I no longer believe that my daughter is a psychopath!! She lives with my mom still but now has cancer. My oldest we got away from a very abuse man, the father of my grandson. Who are now thriving and so much happier! Myself and my boyfriend whose account this actually is (Superman) have stayed together and got clean together.. have been clean since January 2020!!! It saved our life and made a huge difference in our life!! July 19th was my bday and we took all the kids and grandkids to our local water park for the because we now have a car!!!
@@dwaynescrutchings7018 great to hear things improved for you
Bring back sanatoriums already, then these degenerate children won't be roaming our streets and causing mayhem.
The problem is that these kids needed EARLY and intensive therapies and didn't get them. This is the result. Also, the parents should have been given proper training. The system has failed families like these. I'm a mother of 3 kids on the spectrum, the youngest most severe. He was nonverbal and violent. Luckily he received early and intensive therapies at age two, although I had complained about odd symptoms in him since age one, which was ignored by doctors. We also taught him sign language which lessened his violence, which was from frustration from being unable to communicate. Before all that, before his violent outbursts were under control, our home was entirely "baby proofed" and I had learned martial arts self defense blocking techniques. I would block his attacks until he realized he was getting nowhere, or tired out. Anyway, long story short, today he is like a TOTALLY different person. He can speak, engage with people, he is very outgoing, he can learn just like other kids, and is no longer violent. His only issues now is just oral sensory aversion, staying on task at school (he needs frequent breaks), and the occasional irrelevant or nonsensical speech. He only 8 now though, and I can envision him overcoming all that before he is over 18.
Dan Drs also helps these kids out with under lining medical problems
Depends. My son has had therapies since 18 months. His speech never came back, and he often still backslides. He's 8 now. Still therapies every day. Not much improvement.
BootzbaobaoGaming lol I quit my job, and have been with him at home full-time doing over 60 hrs a week of therapy for 7 years. Trust me. We are always trying different things, and always will. The hard truth is that this can be a massively serious disability that not only won't improve in some, but unfortunately worsen with time as they age, hit puberty or develope seizures. You should always try your best, be flexible, and hope for better. But that's no reason not to be aware of the statistics or reality. Every case is different.
Look nothing works. They will be a problem all their lives will never hold down a job or keep a relationship going .they will self medicate when they are old enough on illegal drugs . Sad but true .country is broke no help any more no solution forget the kind fancy words i know many of them .do not make yourself ill share with other family members
Not all autistic children respond to therapy. My 28 month old son is being assessed for autism and doesn’t like people near him and doesn’t respond much to his therapist. He isn’t interested in learning signs or picture cards gets aggressive when shown things. I have just bought lots of sensory toys, lights and a dark den and he seems to be attracted to these. I have made his bedroom into a sensory light room and he seems to get excited over these things and is a little more settled through lights. It’s different for each child with autism. My son doesn’t like to touch certain things and doesn’t like certain sounds or going out. I am also trying some weight therapy with him. He is non verbal at 28 months and doesn’t respond to commands.
I don’t think I could cope with this. In fact there’s no way I could deal with it. These poor parents.
Stay strong
Marcel Szpak that's terrible. Why would you say that?
Marcel Szpak you're freaking disgusting.
Having more children after you realize you have a violent child is abuse. Being a good parent to your disabled child is wonderful but stop brining innocents into a situation they didn’t ask for. It’s guaranteed trauma and neglect.
My sisters 14 old girl have ADHD with autistic traits. It feel like a curse in my family. I have a mild form o Down syndrome. My family never understand I thougt diferent. Translated them wrong. They never saw when I was confused or needed an other explanation. I never understood their facewrinkle they made. I was sad, angry and confused. I never understood my 'friends'.
In reading the comments here. It makes me sad to see how much ignorance there is surrounding autism. I work with children with mental health and developmental disabilities. I live and work in the States where we have a lot of resources.
On my current caseload I have several children who are all on the autism spectrum. Each one of them is different some have aggressive tendencies and get really agitated, and don't have the verbal or communication skills to express what they need. For youth like this therapy and meds work. There are many ways in which youth like this can be helped. Sending them to an asylum or in to care of some kind is just apaulling to me. Yes you have to be tough on them put in a very specific way. There is no one side fits all approach to treating youth with Autism there are certain similarities in the methods but approach may differ. Everyone on this page who hasn't had direct experience with youth on the spectrum should know, these can learn, they many times their ability to communicate improves greatly from treatment, which for many helps to reduce agitation because, a lot of time it's linked to communication issues. However most youth on the spectrum are smart, can communicate and may be aggressive to themselves but aren't towards others. Just like Neurotypical people autistic people have wants and needs, and want to connect with others they just need help to connect and communicate with others. Some may need a little bit of help some may need a lot it is very individual.
So if you have never lived with, interacted on a regular basis or work in the field you really don't understand. I may work with children with autism but I don't live with one so I don't know how I would be if it were day in and day out. So please don't judge what you don't understand.
Yea, how many times have you been bit, hit and spat on?
I am 12 and my brother is autistic so I am learning things about autism and I want to own my own businesses and be an autism therapist #autismawarness
I read your comment a few times and I really do not know what you're trying to say.
Um, we have “a lot of resources” for helping families with severely autistic children in the States?! Are you joking?! I know that some of my fellow professors had children who needed help, and we have very good health care at our university. But it won’t pay for many, many things (just like most plans - ours is one of the top five in the country) and long term care often comes out of family resources. Same with many other aspects. Unless you are one of the very very lucky few who has some super extra fantastic health care plan selected by your employer, health care for mental issues including autism is woefully poor in the US. People have no idea what their healthcare doesn’t pay for - and when it comes to these issues it’s a lot. 99% of families with children who have profound behavioral issues in addition to learning difficulties etc must take their child to a psychiatrist (though it’s often a far cheaper doctor) who does a quick assessment and then dopes the kid up on meds so he/she will sit in her seat all day and be quiet or at least as quiet as possible. That’s before he/she even gets the chance to attend a special school. They are often on five or more meds everyday - and the long term effects on brain development aren’t even well-known.
Colleen McDermott my brother in law's fourth son is autistic... He is 7 years old by now still he hasn't gone verbal...the parents have to go out of the city every two days a week for his treatment sessions...what is the probability when he will speak ??? Thanks a million in advance.he is very active
Cams parents must be soooo stressed. I can’t believe they’re still married with the amount of work to care for their child
They probably can’t afford to split up because they can’t take care of him by themselves
Maby because they still love eachother I don't think it plays a part
@@nathanandcherelle sadly many couples do break apart due to having complex needs children (severe autism included- particularly if it has a violent behavioural element). Even a strong marriage can’t always stand these life events
I know several families with sons with autism and all the parents are divorced.
I know people who don't get divorced. They care for each other.
The issue with autism is it's not one thing. Autism is like having a sore throat. It could be allergies, strep throat, or bubonic plague. All cause sore throat, but the rest of the symptoms can may be minor to almost deadly.
I'm lucky my children are very high functioning, and most of the issues are social queues. Other than that fine. I know many that is not so.
I just wanted to say I love your analogy!
@Jack park You obviously have no idea what you're talking about. I have high functioning autism and sure, I can act appropriately and people always like me (at first). But whenever I have to spend en extended amount of time with people they will always get the feeling that something is off, hence why I have very few friends who stick around. It's also absolutely exhausting for me to be social with people, I need about maybe 6 hours of just sitting at home completely alone to not burn out, which makes managing uni/work/social life extremely difficult.
You make it sound like a disease when you use that analogy. Everybody on the spectrum is unique with their own set of challenges and abilities. I'm autistic myself. I can make friends but sometimes struggle to maintain friendships. Just like any other human my ability to do things can vary.
Denise I’m high functioning (Aspergers) and it’s very hard at times but I am always glad that I’m not as low functioning as others.
@@Samuel-ku1qb me too. It just saddens me that ALL people on the Spectrum (us high functioning types mainly) are lumped together with the lower functioning types) and are all seen as intellectually delayed, violent and otherwise a burden to society.
Why do these videos always get so many dislikes?
Russian trolls.
*whisper* bc (it seems that) most people, who are logged in to hit the thumbs, are trolls and don't know how to rate this, except bad, so they give it a bad rating and don't believe in autism etc. Always cringe worthy!
How about the fact that this report is villifying an already grotesquely misunderstood group. As someone who had worked in SEN, the constant negative attention the BBC gives to conditions like ASD is frankly disgusting.
Alan Chenery yeah let's portray it as happiness and rainbows, let me live in the illusion of safety when I'm around these creatures, well until I get shoved down the stairs and some sense gets knocked into me
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This is a way bigger problem than most realize. We really do need institutions for these kids. This kills parents, emotionally and ultimately physically. The long term stress these parents are under is unimaginable and will contribute to illness that will ultimately make them unable to care for their other children. It's shameful we can't do more to help.
I don't think we need institutions, institutions back then were really neglectful with little staff to care for those with disabilities. Sometimes, abuse would take place in institutions. I think these families need TONS of support from programs who are supposed to help those with autism and they're families.
At the end of the day parents will be too old to cope so they’ll end up in adult care anyway
Here in Montreal, Canada, there are residences for adult children with intellectual handicaps but they are not institutions. They are set up in homes as families. There are two systems. Some live in the home of a person who has elected to welcome them into their home. Another system is where the same few caregivers come and go to the home bought and owned by parents. Most have their own bedrooms. The higher functioning 'clients' live in different homes than those who are lower functioning. And those who work with lower functioning adults are paid more. Their workload and stress are heavier.
Life in the homes is excellent. Very nutritious meals are offered (government regulations). Almost all of the higher functioning clients work and some can even be trained to take a bus to their jobs. Others go in taxis. So the house is empty during the day. The caregiver oversees the health of the clients, taking them to medical appointments etc.. The clients are expected to be neat and tidy, load and empty the dishwasher, make their beds, collect laundry from the rooms etc.. There is a chore roster on the wall. Volunteer musicians often visit on a Sunday for sing-alongs. The clients are signed up for different activities in the evenings and weekends such as bowling, swimming, a dance party, cooking and crafts. They have special outings to a nature reserve etc... They are kept active and engaged....just as we are.
The lower functioning adults cannot work. They may go swimming and to a gym program and even to a special summer camp and they have volunteers to entertain them with singing, drawing, dancing etc..
Families of the clients are welcome to visit, take their children out for the day or the weekend or on holiday as they like. Basically by age 21 it is the norm for parents to place their adult, intellectually handicapped children in a residence but they are still in contact with them....just as our 'normal' children leave home and make friends, work and live independently.
Life is excellent for those with intellectual handicaps...as it should be.
@@Sarah-yy6hv It's not always the first child who has special needs.
@@Sarah-yy6hvautism often Shows at the earliest Point at 1,5 - 2,5 years. Many mothers that want more children will BE pregnant by that point
I can‘t imagine what a struggle it must be for ALL of them. The parents and children. The ableism in the comments hits hard though
These parents are remarkably patient. I don't know how I would deal with a child like this. May God give them strength to continue to parent their children with patience and may they get the help and support from the authorities which is so desperately needed.
Thank you ❤
How do you think the child feels dealing with a disability everyday for the rest of their life? Why does everyone ignore the pain of the person who actually has the disability?
@@winning3329 for what
@@beckee6282 we know they have a hard time, but they are also being physically abusive to others so they are the cause of the people who are standing by them getting abused. Why are you so eager to overlook that fact? Maybe they are having a difficult time, but the people getting abuse need help and support and shouldn't be expected to just live getting abused.
OH SHUT UP!! serisouly.... caregivers need help too! I have ADHD so I am not exactly neurotypical either..@@beckee6282
"The system is not working for all autistic children" - you're right, and YOU are a part of that. We don't grow out of it. All too often everyone acts like the only ones in need of support are children, and that once we hit a certain age we are somehow miraculously cured.
I’m doing my part by paying council tax for adult social care lol
One hundred percent agreed, friend.
I can't believe how many of us do this alone as single parents
No parent should have to deal with this. This is a form of domestic violence or even domestic terrorism. I know these kids cannot help Ky, but that changes nothing for the family members who are effectively victmized by these disabled children. I couldn't and wouldn't manage. No one can be forced to care for anyone, even their child. Leave it to the state. Save yourselves and your healthy children.
"No parent should have to deal with this"
Then don't have kids in the first place. If you don't want to take the chance that your child could be extremely disabled.
@@catguy4996 That depends on a lot of factors.
Sadly, the care required to care for children with severe autism can cost the parents their marriage, fracture family life. Other children suffer with their mental health and physical well-being. It’s not always the best solution to provide care in the home. My heart goes out to the parents and the siblings.
I have autism but I'm not violent
Neither am I but that’s not y we’re here
Many people who have autism aren't. But those who are can be very very dangerous. And it's terrible how they don't get help.
Same here
Black Phoenix same
Me too!stop hating on autistic people
There Meltdowns NOT tantrums
(That's what there called cause there not the same as temper tantrums).
They shouldn't even be called "meltdowns".
THANK YOU!
@@wolfgang7812 it makes me Mad when Autistics are treated like we just Happen to get Violent 😡😠 !
@@fairymairah Violence can happen at the flick of a switch through completely off guard with triggers that cannot be controlled or understood if the individual is unable to communicate.
@@MsBhappy 😠 that's what usually makes so Mad about Autism! It's People like you Labling it as a Bad Thing! And Autistics are Not being treated like they have Feelings or Something 😒 !
My auntie work in a facility with adults on this spectrum. She told me one day a man was mad and pulled the door off it’s henges. The medicine they take makes them extremely strong. I can only imagine a large child attacking his mother on it. Also, know a older lady who baby sits a young boy with it and she had to tell the mom she won’t be able to watch him because he’s strong and hits her almost knocking her down. The mom got his medicine adjusted and he’s no longer violent. I can imagine how hard it is for these parents.
I though the medicine supposed to make them less violent
I feel so sorry for these poor parents and the siblings who have to put up with this. What a tragedy.
Don't feel sorry for the parents- they decided to have kids in the first place! So this is exactly what they signed up for.
@@catguy4996 Were those parents even aware of autism?
@Dr Yuching Lee spam, bots, are against TH-cam terms of service
Autistic children are not a burden they're still a blessing in their own right. So, no one "puts up with" them...They're just like any other family member...Except it takes a little more work and patience. Please be more mindful of how you use your words. Stay blessed.
@@MatyaJones you are so right our heavenly father the God of all creation created autism to bless his children, remember that your Lord knows best.
Not all Who are Autistic are violent
THANK YOU!
exactly! It just depends on the severity. I have a friend who has autism and he is really smart. Very socially awkward. But still smart. Graduated high school and recently graduated from college
Ocean Dabney agreed. I believe it is in the parenting. I believe many parents use autism of their child as an excuse to not train and discipline. They excuse the behavior for the diagnosis. The reality is, autistic children are more prone to be violent, but parents can be strict with the consequences and be consistent and that will help teach them violence is not acceptable. I have family with autism. They aren't violent, because early on they were taught it wouldn't be ok.
said no one ever
Ashlie Leavelle Again it depends on the severity. if they are really low functioning they really have no concept of right or wrong. it’s really just depends on the degree. Autism is such a broad spectrum
Elliot parents have a realist view. Cameron's mom let's her guilt get in the way. She can ask him to stop interrupting her. She could try to teach him some social skills. She let's him walk all over her, complains about it, but does nothing. Just because a child has a disability doesn't mean one must feel sorry for it. Early intervention could help if the state stepped in and offered programs.
Bag Obeans mentally, Cameron is a baby, at this point he’s likely incapable of learning new behaviors and applying as actions
Carley Hinman I disagree. I work with young teens, and yes, they can be taught. But they must have the support of the parents. Some parents like to be victims, and enjoy the attention they receive.
Bag Obeans I agree. She doesn't seem patient with him. Its wrong to put Autistic children away in a Looney bin. Its not Their fault.
These poor kids. I hope we can find a way to communicate with them so that we can help them and their families
But also, if you have a child with severe health issues, why would you have more children?
What if the disabled child is the youngest? Most autistic kids don't display their symptoms until they are around 3 or even older. Also, just because you have one disabled child doesn't mean ALL your children will be disabled. Also, what if you have an accidental pregnancy later on. Should parents be forced to terminate because they have a disabled child?
Maybe he wasnt like that in the beginning...
I work with children like this. I used to be scared of being clocked/bit/shoved about by the ones that are my size, but one has to understand that they don't mean to hurt anyone and they're just frustrated because they can't communicate. When they're taught the right coping skills, they're just like anyone else.
I think anyone who works in that field should read the poem "Two Houses" by Henry Frost, an autistic boy who is just like the children you used to work with, and they should read it before they start their first day on the job.
@@natesportyboy4939 I still work with them. But yeah, people really should stop saying all that nonsense about them being a burden or "lucky" to have what any neurotypical child does. They can't help their condition and they're only "difficult" if one refuses to understand them.
The ones who clock/bite/shove will get arrested and charged with mayhem, battery, and grievous bodily harm, and the handcuffs will not come off their wrists until they are placed in their jail cells. Their way of communication is a criminal offence.
Can you share some coping skills that work and stop them having violent outbursts that can hurt other children?
The logo in the bottom left is incredibly distracting... not sure why it's there.
Ikr and it’s not even in the corner
My neighbour has autistic daughter. My neighbour is young woman of around 29 or 30 and her daughter is 12. The child's father left them when the daughter was diagnosed with severe autism at the age of 8. Two years ago she was also diagnosed with epilepsy. I always see her alone with the child. She told me her family dad Mom and siblings dont live far but they distanced her because they dont want anything to do with her child and think she is liability... The mother is constantly with the daughter N cannot leave her side. The kid becomes aggressive at times and will try to hurt her Mom but i always see the mother happy and never complaining. Autistic ppl when they are aggressive it is due to the lack of communication and many of them have meltdowns. My neighbour's daughter is kind sweetheart and she taught me alot about ppl and the world we live in. We r all different lets appreciate difference :-))
What did she learn? That she's somebody else's lesson?
I wish my neighbors were like you. Mine completely ignore us and never invite my autistic son to play with their kids. They only talk to me if they need something. So I don’t even wave at or acknowledge them anymore.
Living with an older sibling with severe behavioral problems would be a nightmare to me.
I worked in a school for Autistic children I always wondered how they coped at home, I couldn’t live like that,
I was punched, bitten badly, fingers broken and bruised at school but I can go home or leave they can’t, poor people 😩
Very sad. I believe if the autistic child is putting others in dangers, they should put the child in a group home. Also, routine and consistency is very important with autistic children. I know that the parents have their hands full.
@@suziepeaches321
Fuck off
"Very sad. I believe if the cat is putting others in dangers, they should put the cat in a group home. I know that the owners have their hands full."
Alicia Welsh their family shouldn’t have to deal with this
@@suziepeaches321 have you heard of opinions you dip
Residential school might be appropriate.
My son has autism but has never been violent, but is kind and sweet and loving > he's almost 30 now and still lives at home.
This gives me hope.. I ve been anxious after this video.
30 and STILL hasnt moved out.
I moved out when i was 23 and even I felt i moved out little late.
@@masonnix9566 Cool story bro.
@@tiptoes9847 No need to be sarcastic.
I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.
I used to be a behavior therapist for children with autism. I also used to raise 2 little boys, (now adults). Raising an autistic child is equal to raising 5 kids all the same age and with lots of different personalities. Whenever I showed up to spend time with the kids I could see how relieved the parents were to have that break...It's hard and exhausting to be a parent no matter what the case, but raising an autistic child is a whole other ball game that takes immense patience, skilled training and long term consistency. I do hope that someday they create places that is exclusively for just autistic children. They have a different way of seeing things, learning things, interacting with things, the list goes on and on with just how unique autistic children are. The population for children being born on the spectrum is growing and we need to do something to help provide better care for these amazingly smart children.
May I know do you have a personalized behaviour plan for autistic kid?
As a childfree woman the risk is too high if things go wrong.....
Ok? You came on this video of people struggling to make yourself feel superior?
@@mizz308stop talking shite, her point is completely valid and she has a right to say it.
Honestly. I'm on the spectrum myself and know for sure I wouldn't be able to manage a disabled child.
Absolutely. Having children is a leap of faith.
@@eurekamreum5458 Same, it would be so overwhelming. Imagine if it would be neurodivergent as well, unmanagable.
It should be easier to put kids (and adults) with this type of condition in a care home or some other sort of facility. This is beyond what a normal family can, and should have to, deal with. They need help from professionals to care for them. No mother should have to worry about her son pushing her down the stairs.
I can sympathise with these parents, the exhaustion and strain of not knowing when help will come. I hope they can get help soon.
Title correction; - 'I'm scared of my own severe autistic child'
severely
Agreed
Thank you :)
Max Piper no, high function can be like this also
Max Piper see a Dan dr to treat under lining medical issues that is common with those in the spectrum
My baby brother has autism i love him so much,he is very scared of the dark and he prefers when I sleep by him i couldn't stand him being by himself, and i wouldn't be able to stand him dying, the thought of it or if it does happen would make me commit suicide I get help to cope with it but it doesn't work my bond is too strong with my baby brother.
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I am not have autism but SCARE of the dark ,
Many, many people don't like to walk at dark ,
So many idiots in this world harm the enocent good people
They just STUPID DUMMY IDIOTS 😔so sad
Don't worry. Autism doesn't mean someone will have a shit life. The examples given were actually very bad, because most people with autism I know (of) are not like this. This might happen if you don't know what to do. Seek help early. Get help, maybe from a therapist. Try to understand how he is thinking when he is older and try to adjust to it, because he probably won't be able to understand the way you are thinking.
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this is why you need institutions; these parents are not qualified to deal with certain extreme forms of mental illness and they are not going to live forever to take care of their offspring, it is cruel to both parent and child to expect them to
Wanetta Renay autism is not a mental illness
I work in a kindergarten/daycare center in Germany and we take care of an severely autistic child. I had experience with autistic children before, but I never experienced behavior like his before. He would scream endlessly and what really pushes our boundaries is the violence. The child is scratching, hitting, biting us, throw hard things after us, but would do these things to the other children as well. We feel really helpless sometimes and even though we are doing our best we don't know what else we could do.. If there is someone out there able to give me some advice I would be really grateful
@@80YearOldWoman... Truth is never cruel. The nasty piece of work needs to be given boundaries that his mother failed to provide. Are you one of those crocodile mothers, as Dolto says?
@@80YearOldWoman... Well, if you try to call the treth false, you need to visit a doctor. I advise you study Lovaas, who used electricity on little brats to immediately cure self-harm and aggression, and Dolto, who compared mothers of autistic to crocodiles swallowing the child. Oh, and Bettelheim.
However, aged 80 you might have little cells left.
@@80YearOldWoman... Tell us whose life you swallowed, Ms Crocodile?
Your child is trying to communicate with you. Words and speech are not the only way we communicate. Aggression is a sign of frustration and needs not being met and not being able to communicate those needs. Autistics are sensitive - look at the environment. Lights and sounds in particular. Is their clothing tight, itchy, or uncomfortable? Poor interoception - Are they tired, hungry, need to use the bathroom?
Use techniques to increase communication. Picture boards, speech devices, sign language.
@@svetavinogradova4243 You are entirely ignorant and incorrect. Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder, not bad behavior or parenting. You're a monster.
Not a long time ago, we used to seperate violent beings from the society. There is no reason for a sane non-professional to put up with that.
What the hell?
Ashley Zeigafuse I know that but there are better ways to prevent these children from lashing out that aren’t taking them away from their families or killing them
Yes! You are right and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Violence is WRONG!!!
Verity Anderson What does that mean in this context? For some people on this spectrum, it would be more violent to move them somewhere unfamiliar
The system is helping but their money is being missed used.
Group homes owners, adult homes owners, converlecent homes and nursing homes should be check visited weekly without notice.
And they should give proper account of how funds are used for these wonderful humans with special needs!
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Yes, I worked in a Youth Services group home, and indeed you are correct. While the owner drove a Mercedes, BMW, or a Hummer; depending on which she felt like driving that day, the children were never taken out and locked in the home being fed enormous amounts of psychotropics-while Children & Families' Case Workers and Gaurdian Ad Litem, could care less. The entire infrastructure from the top down needs sone serious changes.
than why can't it can't it be possible for so-called Special needs to prevent other people from putting them in ANY kind of home at all ? ? ? ? ?
I'm currently dealing with this with my 19 year old. He's a sweetheart most of the time but when that rage comes out, God help me. When he was little, I could control it more but now he's bigger than I am and has the strength of a large man. God bless this family. I hope more services become available to them.
Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one. His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
what pisses me off about the medias attention to autism is that it is almost always focused on boys. i know girls are less likely to have autism but girls can still have autism.
katie whitham yes, and it can manifest in girls very differently as well.
Katie Ahronson makes you think why. I would love to know what causes autism. It would be so cool to FINALLY get that answer.
katie whitham apparently it’s to do with the fact that, at a younger age, girls are more socially developed and can mask the symptoms more easily.
Katie Ahronson it's so bizarre. On the plus side,it makes people so unique. I just wish that all of society would see it that way and not in a prejudiced manner.
That's what pisses you off? Really?
Do you think the reason we are seeing more and more cases like this is because back in the day, they would have left babies with challenges out in the cold to die or something similar? I know you can’t tell if a baby is autistic but if a child had an issue, very rarely would they have survived back when things were very different. There was no doubt people on the spectrum but I don’t think there were many with very severe autism and behaviour.
Oh yeah I agree with you. This makes me think about the case of The Boy In The Box, I don’t know why but I just have this gut feeling the poor little baby boy had some type of mental disability and was abandoned by his parents because of it. I think they mentioned something about him being a “difficult child”, back then they did this.