- What I want in a relationship : affection, care, respect, devotion - What I never want in a relationship: disrespect, lack of value, lack of commitment
@@lawofsuccess101 tell him “oh thank god you were just too afraid to hurt his feeling, you only want to be friends. “ it will make him crazy and chase you
Speak your truth is important. Be kind and polite expressing what you no want and what you really looking for. That’s called boundaries and self respect.
Unless you're dealing w a codependent. They will be generally angry & covertly controlling. Your best approach is to encourage them to seek therapy. Also shift attention to your own well being. 4 pillars. 💞
Merci beaucoup pour le vidéo.it's really important to settle banderies. I'm married with same one but I always told him that I don't allow any man to rise his voice and be violent with me in the mean time be infantful.so if its happen we are done. I always said that gently and same times wuth smile.he thought I was joking. Then when things get hard and complicate I dicide to separate from him and less than one year I move on to another village then to another country.So I raised very quickly because I put my self first and then I conquered my goals 🥰🙏
Thank you Alex I have made the mistakes that you mentioned in my long term relationship...By the time I realized it was all him bossing around...Wish I could have came across your videos earlier Now I showed him the way out and as you said It's time for me to receive Love from Indian sister
I said also, I don’t want yelling. I even told him. My mistake was telling him about my abuse. I was abused emotionally, mentally by family and yelling and fighting was normal. Then I attracted a man that would mentally and physically abuse me. I left that and said I would never allow someone to yell at me. Then I met someone and he was respectful until he yelled at me. And I said no that is it. And he yelled way after when we broke up. That was the last straw. And then he tried saying that he never emotionally abused me like my ex. I said you yelled at me and I told you, I am looking for a healthy relationship not this anymore. And yes I am learning to raise my standards.
Thanks Alex! I actually half 😮part of your advice: I expressed my needs to him and he basically asked me how he should behave around me so he can please me from now on. But I was unsure how to respond tho…. It’s complicated cos we’re in a casual relationship but I will get back to him by setting more firm boundaries
Been 3 years watching your videos and am still learning ... am happy and totally move on from my past relationship exactly 2yrs and 7 months now and am ok being single ,still waiting for the right guy for me 👌😉 Alex more power to your Chanel ,Goodluck
Hey Alex, I have watched plenty of relationship experts and you are by far the best, I love your advice and always very helpful to me, thanks so much for these videos, yes I have subscribed, love from Australia 🦘🤠🇦🇺 and you have a soothing voice, love it, agree girls 👍
"I will never ever allow a man to yell at me". Right! When I was 38 years old, a man did this to me. And I swore to myself, it will never happen again without consequences. To weeks ago I broke up with my dance partner, my buddy, my friend for 2 years after he yelled at me. It's over !
@@FrenchRelationshipExpertthank you Alex, but you don't have to feel sorry about it. I am glad he was finally showing me the dark side of his personality. We had a good time together and nothing bad happened. So, live goes on, and I am enjoying it. Regards
Hahah I didn't use to focus on only one guy but then my boyfriend was REALLY jealous so I had to show him that I'm focused only on him. After 1 year of long-distance (without meeting up in person at all), we reunite. Most of what we did was fight in long distance, but we didn't want to break up over the phone. We meet live and hug at first but I feel that the attraction is gone and that I don't like him like I used to- because I resented how badly he talked to me on the phone. He also snaps at me and tells me to shut up (disrespectful, and the opposite of how he valued me when we were together in person in the past.) After 3 years of long-distance, we couldn't stand each other anymore and disagreed on everything. It's like we were the worst fit for each other. He took me for granted during long distance because he made his life sound more interesting than mine. Long story short it's over and I realized after this experience that I had so much more to learn about love. Here I am, learning everything from the start.
I know it is so hard for us because we always focus on just one man even when there is no committment. Sometimes we believe there isn't anyone else who can love like that person. I learned this is a lie. There are so many men out there who are waiting to meet an amazing woman! There are so many men out there who can care in a different unique way. That is why, it is okay if things don't work out. If this guy won't follow your boundaries, there is a greater liklihood there is someone else who will.
I always give him everything and do everything for him . Anytime he needs something I get it for him. I get scared to talk to him about how I feel because I don’t want him getting mad at me and angry at me . I’ve told him that the reason I talk to other people is because I feel like I can’t talk to him because he might get mad at me or start being mean to me . Him wanting me to start talking to him and opening up to him , him knowing that still does it to me . Every time we have a fight he starts to be real nasty towards me and makes me feel stupid and like I can’t do anything . He has told me I wish u had a brain and insulted me whenever he gets mad or frustrated at me .
Kaye from New Zealand. I have been in a on off Relationship with this guy. He doesn’t have a job, car or place of his own. In the 2 to 3 years I’ve known him, he’s never taken me on a date, has ghosted me sometimes. We both love each other & have been intimate. People say I deserve better. I work, have my own home. He’s 4 years younger than me. I’ve told several times what I expect from him but to no Avail. What should happen, don’t want to Mother him. Regards Kaye
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert guess what Alex I’ve done all the tips you give us when a man is taking you for granted, and after 3 weeks of being silence and focusing on myself he reach out on me. Thank you🤗💃🏽🙏🏽
Hi Coach Alex you are so amazing ,I always follow your advice,me and my boy Long distance relation ship,he is Turki men and live in Neterland and I from Indonesia but actualy we love each,he came Indonesia to met me Oct 2019 but after few months we always fight,cos I ask him give me attation but he never do that,he is selfish,now I follow ypur advice and I go to ignored him then a week ago he text me first,before I alwasy texting him first but now he start to respect me,,hope after covid he can see me again to Indonesia.thks Alex🙏🙏
A friend of mine who is a doc, I have had a confidence in his knowledge to heal people, so I came to him for help, but he behaves as I haunt him and is disrespectful toward me in front of others. I found myself a new doc. I don't need respect from someone who is full of himself and is entangled in his own unresolved emotions.
When I set my boundaries or tell him about it when he comes back ,nothing is changed.He doesn't care what I want.He insists on what he wants and I disagree with him.And everything repeats like before....
This is make from Philippines. Yes youre right I have to let him.go .he just drop me like a hot potato he said i just simply misinterpret his enormous affection to me
Me and my partner have had an argument about how everything goes his way and won't change anything, but wants me to change my whole life to work round his.
How to deal with someone who is trying to challenge your values on purpose? Sometimes he will not listen if we try to address it because he gets away with same behavior with low-value women? How to make this person realize about his behavior?
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Alex you are handsome charming great after hearing you anyone will want to find love I'm like your mothers age I still have a lot of admirers attraction n friendship n relationships build when you are honest n a good human being I'm a retired teacher n Prayer warrior I add your name to my Prayer God bless you dear in every area of your life love and prayers always Amen
Hi there! I have a video on my channel that talks about this! I highly suggest you check it out with this link: th-cam.com/video/KZ5fcvjMvMc/w-d-xo.htmlfeature=shared
Alex he said we both been silent and he is sorry for not reaching out sooner he is been traveling with work and didn't have a clear head on, is he being truthful? I replied then but he went silent again. I asked him whether he feels discouraged and is opinion on communicating openly
The best thing a woman can do is to value herself. Be kind, have a clean heart and not to gossip.
totally agree
Correct
Proverbs 31 contrasts 2 types.
I love how you incorporate "gossiping" . So many of us overlook this
Gossip things ✨️ 😌 😆
- What I want in a relationship : affection, care, respect, devotion
- What I never want in a relationship: disrespect, lack of value, lack of commitment
Yes Jolie, don't settle for any less and stay strong about those values you cannot accept in a relationship. You deserve a healthy relationship.
You always comfort me Alex when I feel alone or unwanted because I set a standard and some men don’t meet those standards
Stay positive and stick to your standards!
Ýp
Keep ur head up sista Queen!💯
I really like this guy but he doesn't value me. 😅 He said we can be friends
@@lawofsuccess101 tell him “oh thank god you were just too afraid to hurt his feeling, you only want to be friends. “ it will make him crazy and chase you
Thanks
Respects !
I'm selfishly in Love and Value myself won't allow disrespect
People say I'm mean now!
I'm not a giver anymore ..im receiver now
Hands down the best relationship coach!!
Hnu
My
I agree
What if a man who doesn't chat on weekends, and only tells you that he goes to his relatives, could he be married?
True.
Setting boundaries respectfully and elegantly is crucial! Overlooking something once will escalate to something bigger 100 percent
Thank you so much for watching!
In my marriage I was too much afraid to speak up fearing his rejection. And he then took control of me and our situations I later realized.
How do you make him fight for you when you’re married? How do I distance myself and put myself on a pedestal if I’m around him all the time?
Speak your truth is important. Be kind and polite expressing what you no want and what you really looking for. That’s called boundaries and self respect.
Thank you so much for your comment!
Alex you have literally changed and saved my life. 😍❤️💞
Yes Alex. We can say anything with a smile, he won't feel we are bossing him, but just expressing
Unless you're dealing w a codependent. They will be generally angry & covertly controlling. Your best approach is to encourage them to seek therapy. Also shift attention to your own well being. 4 pillars. 💞
Merci beaucoup pour le vidéo.it's really important to settle banderies. I'm married with same one but I always told him that I don't allow any man to rise his voice and be violent with me in the mean time be infantful.so if its happen we are done. I always said that gently and same times wuth smile.he thought I was joking. Then when things get hard and complicate I dicide to separate from him and less than one year I move on to another village then to another country.So I raised very quickly because I put my self first and then I conquered my goals 🥰🙏
Alex is a man full of wisdom and i can relate to every word his say very well and clearly.you'er 100% right kudos Alex.
am Congolese but based in South Africa I follow ur videos thank you for advising us and changing our ways and thinking
Thank you for your support so truly appreciated.
Alex you are amazing. Your teachings are great.
Thank you so much! I’m thrilled to hear you find the teachings helpful
Thank you Alex
I have made the mistakes that you mentioned in my long term relationship...By the time I realized it was all him bossing around...Wish I could have came across your videos earlier
Now I showed him the way out and as you said It's time for me to receive
Love from Indian sister
You are so welcome
I watched your videos from Facebook to TH-cam wow you are so amazing alex
Yes respect is the most important things
Thank you Alex for this video it helps me a lot ❤
Thank you so much for watching! I'm glad this video was able to help you 😊
Videos about giving yourself value respect and make him interested in you always
May God reward u abundantly for ur good work
I said also, I don’t want yelling. I even told him. My mistake was telling him about my abuse. I was abused emotionally, mentally by family and yelling and fighting was normal. Then I attracted a man that would mentally and physically abuse me. I left that and said I would never allow someone to yell at me. Then I met someone and he was respectful until he yelled at me. And I said no that is it. And he yelled way after when we broke up.
That was the last straw. And then he tried saying that he never emotionally abused me like my ex. I said you yelled at me and I told you, I am looking for a healthy relationship not this anymore.
And yes I am learning to raise my standards.
Alex your right most of all your suggestions are correct but not all men react the same way.
Which is why we’re always questioning their motives.
Really outstanding advice ! Thank you, Alex ! Greetings from Romania, Europe !
My pleasure!
Thanks Alex! I actually half 😮part of your advice: I expressed my needs to him and he basically asked me how he should behave around me so he can please me from now on. But I was unsure how to respond tho….
It’s complicated cos we’re in a casual relationship but I will get back to him by setting more firm boundaries
Thank you so much for watching and I hope this video is able to help you!
I feel so much better listening to your videos. It gives me strength inside thank you 🙏 ❤
Thanks for watching! I appreciate the support!
Very good advice , it works in long distance relationships too..
Yes it does!
Yes I tell them what I won’t tolerate and I move along rather you change or not is on you sir I’ve already moved along
Thank you so much for watching! hopefully this video was able to help you!
Been 3 years watching your videos and am still learning ... am happy and totally move on from my past relationship exactly 2yrs and 7 months now and am ok being single ,still waiting for the right guy for me 👌😉 Alex more power to your Chanel ,Goodluck
Thank you so much for watching, Angel!
Hey Alex, I have watched plenty of relationship experts and you are by far the best, I love your advice and always very helpful to me, thanks so much for these videos, yes I have subscribed, love from Australia 🦘🤠🇦🇺 and you have a soothing voice, love it, agree girls 👍
"I will never ever allow a man to yell at me". Right! When I was 38 years old, a man did this to me. And I swore to myself, it will never happen again without consequences. To weeks ago I broke up with my dance partner, my buddy, my friend for 2 years after he yelled at me. It's over !
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpertthank you Alex, but you don't have to feel sorry about it. I am glad he was finally showing me the dark side of his personality. We had a good time together and nothing bad happened. So, live goes on, and I am enjoying it. Regards
You are right again in that if a man is ‘perfect’ a woman could lose interest. Woman also like a challenge (just like men do)!
Please do more video on how to communicate in relationship effectively when upset
Acknowledge feelings. Listen. Give positive input. Agree to disagree💞
I'm really re finding myself in these tips. Thank you
Hahah I didn't use to focus on only one guy but then my boyfriend was REALLY jealous so I had to show him that I'm focused only on him. After 1 year of long-distance (without meeting up in person at all), we reunite. Most of what we did was fight in long distance, but we didn't want to break up over the phone. We meet live and hug at first but I feel that the attraction is gone and that I don't like him like I used to- because I resented how badly he talked to me on the phone. He also snaps at me and tells me to shut up (disrespectful, and the opposite of how he valued me when we were together in person in the past.) After 3 years of long-distance, we couldn't stand each other anymore and disagreed on everything. It's like we were the worst fit for each other. He took me for granted during long distance because he made his life sound more interesting than mine. Long story short it's over and I realized after this experience that I had so much more to learn about love. Here I am, learning everything from the start.
Our well meaning intention is to project out fantasy of love onto our suitor. We must identify this issue & elevate our standard. 💞
I know it is so hard for us because we always focus on just one man even when there is no committment. Sometimes we believe there isn't anyone else who can love like that person.
I learned this is a lie. There are so many men out there who are waiting to meet an amazing woman! There are so many men out there who can care in a different unique way. That is why, it is okay if things don't work out. If this guy won't follow your boundaries, there is a greater liklihood there is someone else who will.
Thank you so much for this!
You point something which I never heard any where. Thank you coach❤
Thank you so much for watching!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert you deserve it Doc. So happy having you here💕
Alex your video has help me much
Thank you so much for watching!
I won’t be boring if I meet a man who is very nice and treat me right. That’s what I’m looking for. Someone authentic caring loyal.
You will find your person someday!
Thank you so so much listening from Ghana
Thanks for listening
I have expressed my feelings kindly using "I" statements and he still accused me of criticizing him and ended it.
Teach men to respect women!
I always give him everything and do everything for him . Anytime he needs something I get it for him. I get scared to talk to him about how I feel because I don’t want him getting mad at me and angry at me . I’ve told him that the reason I talk to other people is because I feel like I can’t talk to him because he might get mad at me or start being mean to me . Him wanting me to start talking to him and opening up to him , him knowing that still does it to me . Every time we have a fight he starts to be real nasty towards me and makes me feel stupid and like I can’t do anything . He has told me I wish u had a brain and insulted me whenever he gets mad or frustrated at me .
I'm so sorry to hear about this! You need to stand up for yourself and you don't deserve to be treated in this kind of way ❤️
Kaye from New Zealand. I have been in a on off Relationship with this guy. He doesn’t have a job, car or place of his own. In the 2 to 3 years I’ve known him, he’s never taken me on a date, has ghosted me sometimes. We both love each other & have been intimate. People say I deserve better. I work, have my own home. He’s 4 years younger than me. I’ve told several times what I expect from him but to no Avail. What should happen, don’t want to Mother him. Regards Kaye
That's not your Man.
I really hope you found someone better than that!!!
he was not worthy
Leave him, much better men out there
Oh I am exactly in the same situation
Best relationship coach Alex🤗❤️
Thank you Cleopatra Moyo
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert guess what Alex I’ve done all the tips you give us when a man is taking you for granted, and after 3 weeks of being silence and focusing on myself he reach out on me. Thank you🤗💃🏽🙏🏽
We love you Alex.
Thank you for your support!
hello coach..... I like your all videos, I'm always watching from Kuwait 🇰🇼 ❤️
Wow. This is so good!! Merci
Thank you so much for watching!
Thanks so much our best coach 🙏
Thank you so much for watching!
Love this channel
Thanks Alex
Thé Netherlands 💜
Sara Overwinnaar 😁 Thank you Alex for your good teaching ‼️
I love it it's thé truth 😁
Thank you so much for watching Sara!
Love all your advice!!!
Yes,, stand ur words, be indepndnce
And smile,, no matter what he treat u,,dnt divide w/ him words,☝️☺
Thank you for the good tips
Hi Coach Alex you are so amazing ,I always follow your advice,me and my boy Long distance relation ship,he is Turki men and live in Neterland and I from Indonesia but actualy we love each,he came Indonesia to met me Oct 2019 but after few months we always fight,cos I ask him give me attation but he never do that,he is selfish,now I follow ypur advice and I go to ignored him then a week ago he text me first,before I alwasy texting him first but now he start to respect me,,hope after covid he can see me again to Indonesia.thks Alex🙏🙏
A friend of mine who is a doc, I have had a confidence in his knowledge to heal people, so I came to him for help, but he behaves as I haunt him and is disrespectful toward me in front of others.
I found myself a new doc.
I don't need respect from someone who is full of himself and is entangled in his own unresolved emotions.
You are the best Alex.😊
This is my 3rd video watching of your excellent advice.brilliant
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you Alex God bless
Great video Alex!!!! You're still my bestie!!
Thank you so much for watching my friend!
I will never accept abusive behavior again
You're So helpful to listen to Alex... and that accent ! Soul speaking in love. Couples are better because and narcs are left to the dust!! 🥰🧡🙏🧡thx
Wow, thank you!
it's really important
When I set my boundaries or tell him about it when he comes back ,nothing is changed.He doesn't care what I want.He insists on what he wants and I disagree with him.And everything repeats like before....
same here
Umm same here..
These are not partners. Time to partner emotionally w your Tribe. Let the chips fall where they may.
you are a blessing.thank you for your message
Thanks Akex
Great! Thank you Alex! ;)
Thank you too!
Amber from Lahore Pakistan ✌️💯 you are doing great job 👏
Thank you so much for your support and for watching!
Oh am number one to watch today I thank God
I want that man!!!
Thanks fro watching 😊
This one is beautiful 🤣🤣
My man love's me but he is taken it slow
I like respect...
Hope you answer my coment
How can I assist you?
Thank you so much Alex u are the best
Hey best coach, Alex.
Thank you so much for the support!
This is make from Philippines. Yes youre right I have to let him.go .he just drop me like a hot potato he said i just simply misinterpret his enormous affection to me
Yup that's a back out
Me and my partner have had an argument about how everything goes his way and won't change anything, but wants me to change my whole life to work round his.
Not good
Not good
That's a narcissist
How to deal with someone who is trying to challenge your values on purpose? Sometimes he will not listen if we try to address it because he gets away with same behavior with low-value women? How to make this person realize about his behavior?
Watch his video on narcissism
Thanks Alex so much .. 👍❤️
My pleasure!
Thanks a lot... dear
Thank you Alex for the great advice!
Thanks Sir. it helps me surely.
Most welcome
You are an expert
Thank you so much for watching Hilda!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Alex you are handsome charming great after hearing you anyone will want to find love I'm like your mothers age I still have a lot of admirers attraction n friendship n relationships build when you are honest n a good human being I'm a retired teacher n Prayer warrior I add your name to my Prayer God bless you dear in every area of your life love and prayers always Amen
Hi Alex, doing a great Job
thanks alex m lyn frm phillippines...
i follow ur advice
i start now..
Thank you for being here!
Thank you alex for this video... 😊
My pleasure!
I told him a copule of Times I don t like him playing with his mobile phone while having lunch or dinner but it has revealed to be useless
That's disrespectful on his part.
Hello Alex from Florida, USA.
Morning!
Alex thank you 😊
You're always welcome Pooja!
I don't need a man. I need money to pay my bills.
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😂😂😂😂
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Hi Alex great tips.If someone blocks you on whtssp should we block them back?
Thank you so much for watching! It's not necessary to do so!
Shout out from Wisconsin
"Hello" Wisconsin so good hearing from you!
Thank you, merci, gracias
You are so welcome!
He would be my best friend for sure...lol
Please tell me, how to stop fully dependent ?
Hi there!
I have a video on my channel that talks about this! I highly suggest you check it out with this link:
th-cam.com/video/KZ5fcvjMvMc/w-d-xo.htmlfeature=shared
A man knows how to treat the woman he loves. If he is not treating you like his queen - he is not your king.
Hey Alex. Charmaine from Jamaica.
Love advice TV has amazing and practical videos. Love them❤
Awesome! Thank you!
Thanks alex love to you honey I learned so much from you 😘😘😘😘😘😘
Going through it now....Found my soulmate 35 years ago and it is so hard to pull away from him and put my foot down but it has to be done.
So true Alex
Thank you for being here!
Alex he said we both been silent and he is sorry for not reaching out sooner he is been traveling with work and didn't have a clear head on, is he being truthful? I replied then but he went silent again. I asked him whether he feels discouraged and is opinion on communicating openly
The man I love pulls away yet he told me he has loved me since we met...its so frustrating....
Same here 😏
Stop reaching out to him in order to make him want you more and more