- What I want in a relationship : affection, care, respect, devotion - What I never want in a relationship: disrespect, lack of value, lack of commitment
@@lawofsuccess101 tell him “oh thank god you were just too afraid to hurt his feeling, you only want to be friends. “ it will make him crazy and chase you
Unless you're dealing w a codependent. They will be generally angry & covertly controlling. Your best approach is to encourage them to seek therapy. Also shift attention to your own well being. 4 pillars. 💞
Speak your truth is important. Be kind and polite expressing what you no want and what you really looking for. That’s called boundaries and self respect.
Merci beaucoup pour le vidéo.it's really important to settle banderies. I'm married with same one but I always told him that I don't allow any man to rise his voice and be violent with me in the mean time be infantful.so if its happen we are done. I always said that gently and same times wuth smile.he thought I was joking. Then when things get hard and complicate I dicide to separate from him and less than one year I move on to another village then to another country.So I raised very quickly because I put my self first and then I conquered my goals 🥰🙏
Thank you Alex I have made the mistakes that you mentioned in my long term relationship...By the time I realized it was all him bossing around...Wish I could have came across your videos earlier Now I showed him the way out and as you said It's time for me to receive Love from Indian sister
Hahah I didn't use to focus on only one guy but then my boyfriend was REALLY jealous so I had to show him that I'm focused only on him. After 1 year of long-distance (without meeting up in person at all), we reunite. Most of what we did was fight in long distance, but we didn't want to break up over the phone. We meet live and hug at first but I feel that the attraction is gone and that I don't like him like I used to- because I resented how badly he talked to me on the phone. He also snaps at me and tells me to shut up (disrespectful, and the opposite of how he valued me when we were together in person in the past.) After 3 years of long-distance, we couldn't stand each other anymore and disagreed on everything. It's like we were the worst fit for each other. He took me for granted during long distance because he made his life sound more interesting than mine. Long story short it's over and I realized after this experience that I had so much more to learn about love. Here I am, learning everything from the start.
I said also, I don’t want yelling. I even told him. My mistake was telling him about my abuse. I was abused emotionally, mentally by family and yelling and fighting was normal. Then I attracted a man that would mentally and physically abuse me. I left that and said I would never allow someone to yell at me. Then I met someone and he was respectful until he yelled at me. And I said no that is it. And he yelled way after when we broke up. That was the last straw. And then he tried saying that he never emotionally abused me like my ex. I said you yelled at me and I told you, I am looking for a healthy relationship not this anymore. And yes I am learning to raise my standards.
Thanks Alex! I actually half 😮part of your advice: I expressed my needs to him and he basically asked me how he should behave around me so he can please me from now on. But I was unsure how to respond tho…. It’s complicated cos we’re in a casual relationship but I will get back to him by setting more firm boundaries
Hey Alex, I have watched plenty of relationship experts and you are by far the best, I love your advice and always very helpful to me, thanks so much for these videos, yes I have subscribed, love from Australia 🦘🤠🇦🇺 and you have a soothing voice, love it, agree girls 👍
Kaye from New Zealand. I have been in a on off Relationship with this guy. He doesn’t have a job, car or place of his own. In the 2 to 3 years I’ve known him, he’s never taken me on a date, has ghosted me sometimes. We both love each other & have been intimate. People say I deserve better. I work, have my own home. He’s 4 years younger than me. I’ve told several times what I expect from him but to no Avail. What should happen, don’t want to Mother him. Regards Kaye
When I set my boundaries or tell him about it when he comes back ,nothing is changed.He doesn't care what I want.He insists on what he wants and I disagree with him.And everything repeats like before....
Been 3 years watching your videos and am still learning ... am happy and totally move on from my past relationship exactly 2yrs and 7 months now and am ok being single ,still waiting for the right guy for me 👌😉 Alex more power to your Chanel ,Goodluck
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert guess what Alex I’ve done all the tips you give us when a man is taking you for granted, and after 3 weeks of being silence and focusing on myself he reach out on me. Thank you🤗💃🏽🙏🏽
I always give him everything and do everything for him . Anytime he needs something I get it for him. I get scared to talk to him about how I feel because I don’t want him getting mad at me and angry at me . I’ve told him that the reason I talk to other people is because I feel like I can’t talk to him because he might get mad at me or start being mean to me . Him wanting me to start talking to him and opening up to him , him knowing that still does it to me . Every time we have a fight he starts to be real nasty towards me and makes me feel stupid and like I can’t do anything . He has told me I wish u had a brain and insulted me whenever he gets mad or frustrated at me .
"I will never ever allow a man to yell at me". Right! When I was 38 years old, a man did this to me. And I swore to myself, it will never happen again without consequences. To weeks ago I broke up with my dance partner, my buddy, my friend for 2 years after he yelled at me. It's over !
@@FrenchRelationshipExpertthank you Alex, but you don't have to feel sorry about it. I am glad he was finally showing me the dark side of his personality. We had a good time together and nothing bad happened. So, live goes on, and I am enjoying it. Regards
How to deal with someone who is trying to challenge your values on purpose? Sometimes he will not listen if we try to address it because he gets away with same behavior with low-value women? How to make this person realize about his behavior?
I know it is so hard for us because we always focus on just one man even when there is no committment. Sometimes we believe there isn't anyone else who can love like that person. I learned this is a lie. There are so many men out there who are waiting to meet an amazing woman! There are so many men out there who can care in a different unique way. That is why, it is okay if things don't work out. If this guy won't follow your boundaries, there is a greater liklihood there is someone else who will.
Hi Coach Alex you are so amazing ,I always follow your advice,me and my boy Long distance relation ship,he is Turki men and live in Neterland and I from Indonesia but actualy we love each,he came Indonesia to met me Oct 2019 but after few months we always fight,cos I ask him give me attation but he never do that,he is selfish,now I follow ypur advice and I go to ignored him then a week ago he text me first,before I alwasy texting him first but now he start to respect me,,hope after covid he can see me again to Indonesia.thks Alex🙏🙏
Me and my partner have had an argument about how everything goes his way and won't change anything, but wants me to change my whole life to work round his.
A friend of mine who is a doc, I have had a confidence in his knowledge to heal people, so I came to him for help, but he behaves as I haunt him and is disrespectful toward me in front of others. I found myself a new doc. I don't need respect from someone who is full of himself and is entangled in his own unresolved emotions.
When you are in a relationship and all of a sudden every time you call he's always to busy to talk and he takes hours before he calls back, what do you think
This is make from Philippines. Yes youre right I have to let him.go .he just drop me like a hot potato he said i just simply misinterpret his enormous affection to me
Alex he said we both been silent and he is sorry for not reaching out sooner he is been traveling with work and didn't have a clear head on, is he being truthful? I replied then but he went silent again. I asked him whether he feels discouraged and is opinion on communicating openly
Hi Alex, I feel my husband dsnt respect me, when I tell what is bothering me. He says you are in a habit of making issues and complaining. What should I do?
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Alex you are handsome charming great after hearing you anyone will want to find love I'm like your mothers age I still have a lot of admirers attraction n friendship n relationships build when you are honest n a good human being I'm a retired teacher n Prayer warrior I add your name to my Prayer God bless you dear in every area of your life love and prayers always Amen
Hi there! I have a video on my channel that talks about this! I highly suggest you check it out with this link: th-cam.com/video/KZ5fcvjMvMc/w-d-xo.htmlfeature=shared
The best thing a woman can do is to value herself. Be kind, have a clean heart and not to gossip.
totally agree
Correct
Proverbs 31 contrasts 2 types.
I love how you incorporate "gossiping" . So many of us overlook this
Gossip things ✨️ 😌 😆
- What I want in a relationship : affection, care, respect, devotion
- What I never want in a relationship: disrespect, lack of value, lack of commitment
Yes Jolie, don't settle for any less and stay strong about those values you cannot accept in a relationship. You deserve a healthy relationship.
You always comfort me Alex when I feel alone or unwanted because I set a standard and some men don’t meet those standards
Stay positive and stick to your standards!
Ýp
Keep ur head up sista Queen!💯
I really like this guy but he doesn't value me. 😅 He said we can be friends
@@lawofsuccess101 tell him “oh thank god you were just too afraid to hurt his feeling, you only want to be friends. “ it will make him crazy and chase you
Thanks
Respects !
I'm selfishly in Love and Value myself won't allow disrespect
People say I'm mean now!
I'm not a giver anymore ..im receiver now
How do you make him fight for you when you’re married? How do I distance myself and put myself on a pedestal if I’m around him all the time?
Hands down the best relationship coach!!
Hnu
My
I agree
What if a man who doesn't chat on weekends, and only tells you that he goes to his relatives, could he be married?
True.
In my marriage I was too much afraid to speak up fearing his rejection. And he then took control of me and our situations I later realized.
Setting boundaries respectfully and elegantly is crucial! Overlooking something once will escalate to something bigger 100 percent
Thank you so much for watching!
Yes Alex. We can say anything with a smile, he won't feel we are bossing him, but just expressing
Unless you're dealing w a codependent. They will be generally angry & covertly controlling. Your best approach is to encourage them to seek therapy. Also shift attention to your own well being. 4 pillars. 💞
Speak your truth is important. Be kind and polite expressing what you no want and what you really looking for. That’s called boundaries and self respect.
Thank you so much for your comment!
Alex you have literally changed and saved my life. 😍❤️💞
Alex is a man full of wisdom and i can relate to every word his say very well and clearly.you'er 100% right kudos Alex.
Merci beaucoup pour le vidéo.it's really important to settle banderies. I'm married with same one but I always told him that I don't allow any man to rise his voice and be violent with me in the mean time be infantful.so if its happen we are done. I always said that gently and same times wuth smile.he thought I was joking. Then when things get hard and complicate I dicide to separate from him and less than one year I move on to another village then to another country.So I raised very quickly because I put my self first and then I conquered my goals 🥰🙏
May God reward u abundantly for ur good work
Thank you Alex
I have made the mistakes that you mentioned in my long term relationship...By the time I realized it was all him bossing around...Wish I could have came across your videos earlier
Now I showed him the way out and as you said It's time for me to receive
Love from Indian sister
You are so welcome
I watched your videos from Facebook to TH-cam wow you are so amazing alex
Videos about giving yourself value respect and make him interested in you always
am Congolese but based in South Africa I follow ur videos thank you for advising us and changing our ways and thinking
Thank you for your support so truly appreciated.
Hahah I didn't use to focus on only one guy but then my boyfriend was REALLY jealous so I had to show him that I'm focused only on him. After 1 year of long-distance (without meeting up in person at all), we reunite. Most of what we did was fight in long distance, but we didn't want to break up over the phone. We meet live and hug at first but I feel that the attraction is gone and that I don't like him like I used to- because I resented how badly he talked to me on the phone. He also snaps at me and tells me to shut up (disrespectful, and the opposite of how he valued me when we were together in person in the past.) After 3 years of long-distance, we couldn't stand each other anymore and disagreed on everything. It's like we were the worst fit for each other. He took me for granted during long distance because he made his life sound more interesting than mine. Long story short it's over and I realized after this experience that I had so much more to learn about love. Here I am, learning everything from the start.
Our well meaning intention is to project out fantasy of love onto our suitor. We must identify this issue & elevate our standard. 💞
Really outstanding advice ! Thank you, Alex ! Greetings from Romania, Europe !
My pleasure!
Please do more video on how to communicate in relationship effectively when upset
Acknowledge feelings. Listen. Give positive input. Agree to disagree💞
I said also, I don’t want yelling. I even told him. My mistake was telling him about my abuse. I was abused emotionally, mentally by family and yelling and fighting was normal. Then I attracted a man that would mentally and physically abuse me. I left that and said I would never allow someone to yell at me. Then I met someone and he was respectful until he yelled at me. And I said no that is it. And he yelled way after when we broke up.
That was the last straw. And then he tried saying that he never emotionally abused me like my ex. I said you yelled at me and I told you, I am looking for a healthy relationship not this anymore.
And yes I am learning to raise my standards.
Thanks Alex! I actually half 😮part of your advice: I expressed my needs to him and he basically asked me how he should behave around me so he can please me from now on. But I was unsure how to respond tho….
It’s complicated cos we’re in a casual relationship but I will get back to him by setting more firm boundaries
Thank you so much for watching and I hope this video is able to help you!
Alex you are amazing. Your teachings are great.
Thank you so much! I’m thrilled to hear you find the teachings helpful
Hey Alex, I have watched plenty of relationship experts and you are by far the best, I love your advice and always very helpful to me, thanks so much for these videos, yes I have subscribed, love from Australia 🦘🤠🇦🇺 and you have a soothing voice, love it, agree girls 👍
Very good advice , it works in long distance relationships too..
Yes it does!
Yes I tell them what I won’t tolerate and I move along rather you change or not is on you sir I’ve already moved along
Thank you so much for watching! hopefully this video was able to help you!
Alex your right most of all your suggestions are correct but not all men react the same way.
Which is why we’re always questioning their motives.
I have expressed my feelings kindly using "I" statements and he still accused me of criticizing him and ended it.
Yes respect is the most important things
Thank you Alex for this video it helps me a lot ❤
Thank you so much for watching! I'm glad this video was able to help you 😊
I feel so much better listening to your videos. It gives me strength inside thank you 🙏 ❤
Thanks for watching! I appreciate the support!
You point something which I never heard any where. Thank you coach❤
Thank you so much for watching!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert you deserve it Doc. So happy having you here💕
I'm really re finding myself in these tips. Thank you
Thank you so so much listening from Ghana
Thanks for listening
Kaye from New Zealand. I have been in a on off Relationship with this guy. He doesn’t have a job, car or place of his own. In the 2 to 3 years I’ve known him, he’s never taken me on a date, has ghosted me sometimes. We both love each other & have been intimate. People say I deserve better. I work, have my own home. He’s 4 years younger than me. I’ve told several times what I expect from him but to no Avail. What should happen, don’t want to Mother him. Regards Kaye
That's not your Man.
I really hope you found someone better than that!!!
he was not worthy
Leave him, much better men out there
Oh I am exactly in the same situation
Love this channel
hello coach..... I like your all videos, I'm always watching from Kuwait 🇰🇼 ❤️
When I set my boundaries or tell him about it when he comes back ,nothing is changed.He doesn't care what I want.He insists on what he wants and I disagree with him.And everything repeats like before....
same here
Umm same here..
These are not partners. Time to partner emotionally w your Tribe. Let the chips fall where they may.
Love all your advice!!!
This is my 3rd video watching of your excellent advice.brilliant
Glad it was helpful!
Been 3 years watching your videos and am still learning ... am happy and totally move on from my past relationship exactly 2yrs and 7 months now and am ok being single ,still waiting for the right guy for me 👌😉 Alex more power to your Chanel ,Goodluck
Thank you so much for watching, Angel!
You are right again in that if a man is ‘perfect’ a woman could lose interest. Woman also like a challenge (just like men do)!
Alex your video has help me much
Thank you so much for watching!
Best relationship coach Alex🤗❤️
Thank you Cleopatra Moyo
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert guess what Alex I’ve done all the tips you give us when a man is taking you for granted, and after 3 weeks of being silence and focusing on myself he reach out on me. Thank you🤗💃🏽🙏🏽
Thé Netherlands 💜
Sara Overwinnaar 😁 Thank you Alex for your good teaching ‼️
I love it it's thé truth 😁
Thank you so much for watching Sara!
I always give him everything and do everything for him . Anytime he needs something I get it for him. I get scared to talk to him about how I feel because I don’t want him getting mad at me and angry at me . I’ve told him that the reason I talk to other people is because I feel like I can’t talk to him because he might get mad at me or start being mean to me . Him wanting me to start talking to him and opening up to him , him knowing that still does it to me . Every time we have a fight he starts to be real nasty towards me and makes me feel stupid and like I can’t do anything . He has told me I wish u had a brain and insulted me whenever he gets mad or frustrated at me .
I'm so sorry to hear about this! You need to stand up for yourself and you don't deserve to be treated in this kind of way ❤️
Thank you Alex God bless
Thanks Alex
You are the best Alex.😊
We love you Alex.
Thank you for your support!
"I will never ever allow a man to yell at me". Right! When I was 38 years old, a man did this to me. And I swore to myself, it will never happen again without consequences. To weeks ago I broke up with my dance partner, my buddy, my friend for 2 years after he yelled at me. It's over !
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpertthank you Alex, but you don't have to feel sorry about it. I am glad he was finally showing me the dark side of his personality. We had a good time together and nothing bad happened. So, live goes on, and I am enjoying it. Regards
Wow. This is so good!! Merci
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you for the good tips
it's really important
Thanks so much our best coach 🙏
Thank you so much for watching!
How to deal with someone who is trying to challenge your values on purpose? Sometimes he will not listen if we try to address it because he gets away with same behavior with low-value women? How to make this person realize about his behavior?
Watch his video on narcissism
I know it is so hard for us because we always focus on just one man even when there is no committment. Sometimes we believe there isn't anyone else who can love like that person.
I learned this is a lie. There are so many men out there who are waiting to meet an amazing woman! There are so many men out there who can care in a different unique way. That is why, it is okay if things don't work out. If this guy won't follow your boundaries, there is a greater liklihood there is someone else who will.
Thank you so much for this!
Amber from Lahore Pakistan ✌️💯 you are doing great job 👏
Thank you so much for your support and for watching!
Hi Coach Alex you are so amazing ,I always follow your advice,me and my boy Long distance relation ship,he is Turki men and live in Neterland and I from Indonesia but actualy we love each,he came Indonesia to met me Oct 2019 but after few months we always fight,cos I ask him give me attation but he never do that,he is selfish,now I follow ypur advice and I go to ignored him then a week ago he text me first,before I alwasy texting him first but now he start to respect me,,hope after covid he can see me again to Indonesia.thks Alex🙏🙏
Great! Thank you Alex! ;)
Thank you too!
Me and my partner have had an argument about how everything goes his way and won't change anything, but wants me to change my whole life to work round his.
Not good
Not good
That's a narcissist
Great video Alex!!!! You're still my bestie!!
Thank you so much for watching my friend!
Thank you Alex for the great advice!
You're So helpful to listen to Alex... and that accent ! Soul speaking in love. Couples are better because and narcs are left to the dust!! 🥰🧡🙏🧡thx
Wow, thank you!
Thank you so much Alex u are the best
Hi Alex, doing a great Job
Thanks Akex
The man I love pulls away yet he told me he has loved me since we met...its so frustrating....
Same here 😏
Stop reaching out to him in order to make him want you more and more
A friend of mine who is a doc, I have had a confidence in his knowledge to heal people, so I came to him for help, but he behaves as I haunt him and is disrespectful toward me in front of others.
I found myself a new doc.
I don't need respect from someone who is full of himself and is entangled in his own unresolved emotions.
When you are in a relationship and all of a sudden every time you call he's always to busy to talk and he takes hours before he calls back, what do you think
Shout out from Wisconsin
"Hello" Wisconsin so good hearing from you!
Thanks Alex so much .. 👍❤️
My pleasure!
you are a blessing.thank you for your message
This is make from Philippines. Yes youre right I have to let him.go .he just drop me like a hot potato he said i just simply misinterpret his enormous affection to me
Yup that's a back out
I won’t be boring if I meet a man who is very nice and treat me right. That’s what I’m looking for. Someone authentic caring loyal.
You will find your person someday!
Thanks a lot... dear
Thanks Sir. it helps me surely.
Most welcome
Hey best coach, Alex.
Thank you so much for the support!
Alex, what if when you bring up your feelings and he tells you you are trying to cause drama?
Thank you alex for this video... 😊
My pleasure!
Alex he said we both been silent and he is sorry for not reaching out sooner he is been traveling with work and didn't have a clear head on, is he being truthful? I replied then but he went silent again. I asked him whether he feels discouraged and is opinion on communicating openly
Yes,, stand ur words, be indepndnce
And smile,, no matter what he treat u,,dnt divide w/ him words,☝️☺
I like respect...
Hope you answer my coment
How can I assist you?
thanks alex m lyn frm phillippines...
i follow ur advice
i start now..
Thank you for being here!
So true Alex
Thank you for being here!
Alex thank you 😊
You're always welcome Pooja!
Hey Alex. Charmaine from Jamaica.
Love advice TV has amazing and practical videos. Love them❤
Awesome! Thank you!
Hi Alex, I feel my husband dsnt respect me, when I tell what is bothering me. He says you are in a habit of making issues and complaining. What should I do?
Stop complaining and focus on yourself
Ignore him
Leave
You are an expert
Thank you so much for watching Hilda!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Alex you are handsome charming great after hearing you anyone will want to find love I'm like your mothers age I still have a lot of admirers attraction n friendship n relationships build when you are honest n a good human being I'm a retired teacher n Prayer warrior I add your name to my Prayer God bless you dear in every area of your life love and prayers always Amen
Please tell me, how to stop fully dependent ?
Hi there!
I have a video on my channel that talks about this! I highly suggest you check it out with this link:
th-cam.com/video/KZ5fcvjMvMc/w-d-xo.htmlfeature=shared
This one is beautiful 🤣🤣
My man love's me but he is taken it slow
Hello Alex from Florida, USA.
Morning!
What happens when you go silent after a quarrel the after a NC he comes back and you slow then he disappears? what is the man thinking about?
That's revenge & covert.
Hi Alex if I try to set boundaries within our relationship or discuss our plans with my boyfriend, he told me I am not able to make decisions for us.
Thank you, merci, gracias
You are so welcome!
How can you distance from him when you're married
Oh am number one to watch today I thank God
Thank you so much for the video Alex , really helps me 🙏
My pleasure!
What will happen if I ask him to delete my number and he does must I call him again to restore
Yes
Thanks alex love to you honey I learned so much from you 😘😘😘😘😘😘
Hi Alex great tips.If someone blocks you on whtssp should we block them back?
Thank you so much for watching! It's not necessary to do so!