OP's parents and grandfather taught Dan to be a parasite. They taught him that he deserves everything and no one else matters. They didn't teach Dan empathy. Dan only learned THINGS matter, not people. Dan doesn't want to help but doesn't want to be seen for what he is. Love, apparently Dan doesn't know what love is - it's not something he can spend after all. As for Dan - he has a college degree and can work and pay those debts off. It's called budgeting and living within your means.
All this dread, and no one said anything to the grandfather. Especially when his daughter had to sell her home for medical. An his golden grandson is just out here living his best life. Op is not the AH
No, OP is an asshole; adoption is a sensitive issue and adopted children can suffer all kinds of trauma even in great homes. To tear away someone's entire identity like that, in front of everyone, is horrific.
@@SH-qs7eedid you not follow the story the parents give him everything risk them own Health and savings and when the mother need his help, not only he refuse but say also to op let her die. He ask for it. That he has bin disownd by the family and banned form the will was all justice and not selfishness
@@anthonywyckaert698The parents are the problem. They did it all to themselves. They were too proud to ask grandpa for help but not too proud to ask their children? They spoiled Dan, they went broke doing so, they are owed nothing for being stupid and irresponsible.
All the money, love and permissions Dan was given by his PARENTS, he showed total disgusting contempt for his Mother having cancer. I am so PROUD of OP for doing what he did. OP tried everything in his power to confront his brother and fix the situation, as any family member would. The total uncompassionate brother was the LAST STRAW, in my opinion. Who treats their Mother like that? OP, you are a good son. God Bless you.
Dan was supported by people who were not blood but yet he felt he could be little trash and look down on the parents who gave him so much. Hope Dan has a wake up call
While Dan DID deserve what he got, 100%, I wouldn't say he was COMPLETELY at fault here. Yes, what Dan said was horrible, and valuing parties over family is cruel, but OP's parents and grandpa also contributed to this situation. OP's parents and grandpa were wrong for spoiling Dan. There should've been a "no" somewhere down the line. This likely gave Dan the mindset that he could get away with anything. So, while OP's parents were nice to be thankful, they did get karma for raising Dan as a golden child and not seeing the monster they were creating. Had they heeded OP's warning, this situation could've been avoided. For OP's grandpa, he was wrong for giving 100% of his inheritance to Dan. Yes, Dan did some good things, but that didn't completely outweigh the bad, and it wasn't fair to those other family members who likely did nothing to be written out of a will. I can understand the decision to a certain degree, and would understand if maybe Dan got a little more than everyone else, as this was prior to his actions towards the family being made public, but 100%? Come on.... Surely not EVERY SINGLE COUSIN was a bad egg, and OP wasn't one. Dan got what he deserved, but I hope OP's parents and grandpa feel guilty for their roles as well. Sure, it might not explain EVERYTHING, but it certainly was a contributing factor.
You know I lost my dad to cancer and to hear Dan say he should have let his mom pass. That’s the worst thing I think anyone could say. I was begging GOD to let me keep my dad. I hope Dan learned a lesson. Good for OP he did the right thing. No one should have been mad at OP he did what he had too. I’m glad his mom alive and they are all doing well.
Dan is too selfish and would probably be selfish until the end. OP did Dan a favor. Now he understands the value of money and family, now that he doesn’t really have neither.
I'm sorry but no Dan got help alot he demands this n that sorry but they didn't have to give Dan all these expensive shit. Or pay for his college but they did. And he didn't think for them DAN is a Villian. Op did right if grandad would remove him from will instantly and he suffers as he cries. Op may not get anything or help from granpa as he gave all to Dan. I even make a public post about Dan without it linking to OP Then the update comes showing Dan to be true Villain moment he looses his income he attacks he's bad I would plan his ruin Edited I agree with OP actions. All of u see n find dan entitled brat and he deserved it OP grew normal but working hard and but i do agree that parents where at fault for keeping the secret or just giving what dan wanted it as they treatee him higher as if he was king. But Dan is big villain he wanted the mother to die and anyone supporting dan actions then ur evil. I hoped the inheritance would of been shared among the family. And what OP did buying a home for his parents he was great dan could done the great thing n help them but no he was Scum If i were op i train on how to fight and defend.
Why are people so obssessed with the idea that successful and adult children don't have a responsibility to take care of their parents? I understand not helping if they are abusive & terrible people. But kind parents deserves to have their children support when they are older.
It says in the Bible to honor your mother and father. When my mother got cancer in 2009. I went over to her house every day to clean her house and to help her.
Maybe they didn't want to bother the grandfather to ask for help in fear of Dan getting exposed for being a horrible son to his adoptive parents since they didn't want to hurt him because he was adopted and felt that they should provide the best for him and not hold him accountable, it was moreso pity for being adopted.
I call bs on the entire story. In 6 months he goes from struggling, fresh out of college, to buying an entire apartment complex and house for his parents? With what, the $ he got, from the $ he got, from his inheritance? Never mentioned gramps dying. On a channel note... Dude... you got a face for radio and voice for book. Less full face intros and don't be so nasal with your speech.
I totally agree with Op, happy to know he is doing very well and his parents at good place. Please avoid negative comments as people they must have abundant their parents when their parents needed them so to justify their own actions they put u down through their comments here. I'm Indian Buddhist lady and I know importance of having parents in our life. Have a great life ahead. Love from Nagpur, India.
I’m torn between this particular story, what op did isn’t something I would have done, especially putting it on social media, however, the outcome was wonderful, especially op helping out his parents, that to me is top tier 👍🏼
My Grandma may not have had any significant money that was really considered inheritance, but she had items of sentimental value in her home that she specifically gave away about a couple years before she passed. She gave them one by one to the person she wanted to have said items. It was her way of giving them their “inheritance” She had practically nothing for those last couple years, but it was her way of knowing there wouldn’t be a fight over anything, because there would be nothing left to fight over.
The adults in this story failed Dan as he was growing up and never taught him the importance of compassion or generosity. He was never shown how to care about others so all he ever knew was that his wants and needs took precedent over every one and every thing else. It's not OP's fault that he couldn't get through to his brother when he tried to talk to him about his parents' problems. Dan just didn't care and there wasn't any way Dan would ever care until he got hit with the reactions from others on social media. This was the only way to get him to respond because Dan only cared about the admiration of strangers. He lived only for being popular and material possessions. For people to act like Dan is in the victim really makes me sick though. Despite the fact that he was never made to go without he was not stupid or blind. He knew his family was struggling but he chose not to care or do anything about it because there was no benefit to him helping his family. These people did nothing to harm him in anyway. In fact, they went out of their way to do whatever they could to show him love and devotion. Dan, however, did not appreciate it. Instead he took all he could from them and ignored their suffering. He turned a blind eye to the very people that showed him love and devotion even when they were on the verge of becoming homeless. So in that regard, I guess they didn't fail him. He failed them.
Dan is just a nasty, cruel, and mean man who has no respect for anyone, not even his own adoptive brother, parents, and grandfather. What the grandfather did was correct and OP had every right to be upset and blab the news to the rest of the family. I sent Mr. Reditto another e-mail with a family drama in it and I hope that he gets to read it and shares it on here.
Well, I think Dan is suffering the consequences of his actions. The biggest hole here is definitely that grandfather. Because it sounds like he encouraged and spoiled Dan. So much that Dan turned out that way, and once he was then found out to not being biologically related, not my biological grandchild. Well, too bad, I don't want you anymore
I get hes pissed amd jealous but hoqvhis parent's spent their money isnt his business. He was in college not young n depending on parent's to be taken care of. So its on them what happens also. They put money into one child not the other so he can walk away without feeling bad or not helping. Hes a good kid wanting to help even after how he got treated. But hes also one that lets it keep going. Hes older now and keeps this story on and on. He'd rather play the martyr by taking the care of parents after all they did while the golden boy got everything handed to him. So hes feels validated being the martyr. But this is all my own opinions n i think no matter what advice we give he wants everyone to tell him hes right and are on his side. He doesn't want any other comments back. I feel sorry for him. To keep this going long after. To not to just to cut ties and go on without the bullshit coming from family. But he chooses to keep wallowing in it and hes only hurting himself. None of the family don't care if how he talked about them is true. I hope he gets help with therapy. He went so far in the end that he had no right to say. So hes got his revenge to his brother. Hope he feels better but to me he's worsethann his brother. The very end of thus showed his evil hatred
Dan was treated better than OP was for his entire childhood, teenage years and early adult years etc and OP just had to deal with it.. anyway OP told the truth, if people are mad at OP announcing that then it’s their fault for not being honest and telling Dan and others the truth in the first place. Kids should know they’re adopted in case they ever want to find their biological family members like they have the right to.
Also the day he said that he hoped OPs mum died soon and stuff like that, is the day he lost the right to call her his mum or believe she is his mum; the fact he said that when he believed he wasn’t adopted shows how evil he is so yeah all so so deserved.
OP seems way too obsessed with Dan in the original post. If the parents werent so full of pride, they could have asked the grandfather for financial aide rather than asking their children and the internet.
Are these stories actually from Reddit anymore? The timing doesn’t line up to say Christmas was a two days ago and it’s going months into the future. I’ve been wondering this from a bunch of recent videos lately.
@SH-qs7ee and what was his identity based on? Family that he didn't care about, didn't value, thought it would be financially beneficial to let his mother die and wouldn't lift a finger to help. So was his identity based on being a right *rick?
I remember a story that the mom says "just do it for dan..." when they try to force op to give his house to dan and still pay the mortgage just because he has a family and op don't....
OP, the first thing the parents should have grown was a backbone. They are the reason Dan was such an ahole. Parents who give their child everything at the cost of losing their are fools. OP, since you had the guts to spill the beans about the adoption, why didn't you go to Grandpa for help when Mother was sick. You could have prevented a lot of the crap Dan put you through by telling grandpa how Dan reacted to helping parents. One thing is for sure. Dan didn't deserve to be sole beneficiary of any will.
Parents were just terrible in general; the fact they would rather make OP struggle to make money for food and rent for all of them, while staying in his one room studio apartment, making him eat on the floor, rather than swallowing their pride and asking their father for help is just terrible! What parent worthy of the name chooses pride over their child.
I'll bet commenters who scolded him that parents give and you have no obligation to help are "hash tag hey fam! ❤" people born after 1990, strangers above those who truly supported you.
As for ops question of being the ah well yes but you were a pragmatic ah given the circumstances. That being said you shouldn't beg be a man and figure it out. It's not easy but youl find a way the Internet is not that helpful with life 😂.
I really can't buy this story. Grandpa was rich op could of gone to Grandpa at anytime and asked him to help out his family. They didn't need to suffer. That Grandpa would entirely disinherit Dan means he's a jerk. Op is a jerk for not going to his grandpa earlier to tell him what a terrible situation his family was in. They wouldn't have lost their house. Instead he went with his revenge scheme. So when he buys them a house in the end he's no hero . He shouldn't of let them suffer in the first place. Stupid story.
This is so not true, why would parents but themselves in debt for one child. Then the absurdity of thinking this supposed child should take care of everyone because he's successful....there would have to be reason he cut everyone off. Then the real ridiculous part, rich grandfather doesn't help, doesn't care about the cancer and somehow doesn't know Dan is adopted? Stop it 🙄😊😊
So, yeah, I was thinking that OP was going too far, until the brother said what he said about the mother and what he thought should have happened when she was sick. As a cancer patient myself, someone saying that it would be more convenient for me to d13 than to invest in my treatment? Yeah, scorched earth wouldn’t be dire enough to describe how I would react. And the funny thing is, most of the brother’s downfall was of his own doing. OP is def NOT the AH.
I don’t what really happens nowadays,the first commenter in the video said that,can’t blamed Dan for not helping and not Dan’s responsibility to support their parents…god..let me tell something…his parents done the responsibilities perfectly to him..yes..its not responsibilities but a courtesy for any children to help their parents in need…especially when they’re financially capable
What op did is what exactly what I'll do. There's nothing wrong on wanting revenge. Sometime it can be the catalyst that would drive someone to a better life. If you made bad choices in life you should accept the consequences that follow. I love the ending. As children we should respect your parents and should try to give them happiness in their old life. Dan is an ungrateful son to wish bad things to happen to his parents. I just hope there are much more son like op in the real life. People should take this story as an example how they should lead their life.
I hate it when parents think or pushes that their children should payoff their parenting when the children are adults. This is a very stupid crab mentality. Children should never be forced to payoff their parents or take care of their parents. It should be on the children's own volition and free will to do things for their parents...
It's not op's place to tell that secret but his parents. He should have just told the family how they struggled while their brother didn't care and never helped and also what he said about their mom regarding her cancer.
So did Grandpa change his Will and then die as I am confused how they got their inheritance if grandpa is still alive or did he just gift them all their shares?
I think what younger brother did was write he had every right to complain because he wants his older brother was showered with money his parents spoiled him and supported him and he's showing no sympathy they spoiled the kid spoiled the kid now hes feel he he doesn't owe anybody anything
Excuse me it's only appearance position to make sure the children and I do mean children graduate from high school as of the age of 18 they are adults and it is their choice and their problem to get from a which is home into college and finish college on their own that is get their asses out there get a job and get themselves through school that is their problem not the parents' problem if there's anybody out there in this great big old world that feels that it is the parents is position in life to make sure that they have a free ride through life on the backs of their parents and their pocketbooks is wrong grow up
Dan should had helped out his parents in time of need with the bills to a place to stay. But he had chosen not to help to keep up with his own life style. Towards the end after many attempts to get help by his brother then going on social media for advice. This all came done to Dan very own actions.
While it's a good story, it just feels too set up to me. Feels fake. OP doesn't address things like why the grandpa didn't step in. When he posts online, family and friends donate... if there was family who donated, was there no one who could take in the parents? The mother had cancer for frick sake (if real). Then OP snoops through some drawers out of no where and finds adoption papers? Did thr parents bring furniture with them and randomly slip the adoption papers at the top of a pile of paper? Wouldn't the paper be kept somewhere safe and sorted? Why would OP look through a stack of papers he clearly doesn't recognize? Why would his brother punch him out of the blue with no prior warning or words? Also, when the brother storms in and says OP could have just asked for money, that's what you say in front of people to save face. There was no one the brother needed to save face with there at the time. He was putting an act on for no one. I unfortunately have a pathological liar for a brother. He has a number of psychological issues but is super charasmatic and covers them up well. This brother, if real, certainly has some pathological issues and emotional/relationship detachment from his family. I would empathize as someone with a monster for a brother. I'm just not buying this story. OP is either terrible at telling things right or is writing the story as he goes and just picking random things out of a hat to make the story more interesting. "Oh, we had a rich grandpa who i will proceed to never mention again." "Oh, he became rich and left." "Oh, my post blew up overnight, literally and even though apparently thousands of people would have let me know if I was an Asshole for posting, i also am posting here for more validation!" "Oh, distraction time, look! My brother punched me! Drama!!!" "And now he's adopted! Wow! So out of left field!" Reads fake to me.
Also, HOW did the rest of the family not know the brother was adopted and suddenly at the family meeting grandpa changes his will but still didn't help OP's parents???
NTA and I would expose the adoption too. But I would have gone nc with the parents because they and the grandfather enabled this. Dan is the ah, but the parents and grandpa created the monster. I would still take my piece of the inheritence but that does not absolve the grandparent, especially since it was his own 'bloodline' obsession that both caused- and ended- douchedan
I wouldn't go THAT far. Yes, the parents shouldn't have spoiled Dan, BUT OP never mentions himself being negatively effected by it, at least not directly. OP's parents were unwise, sure, but not evil. They didn't do anything for Dan at OP's expense that we know of, which would've been worth mentioning. What OP's parents went through was also sufficient karma for what they did. Yes, the parents were wrong, but they suffered enough to realize they messed up. As for the grandpa... I understand him to a degree. No, he shouldn't have given ALL of his inheritance to Dan, but he had no way of knowing about Dan's actions towards OP or his parents. All he saw was the hardworking side of Dan, and not the side that OP saw, which was full of entitlement. Yes, OP's parents and grandpa were bad, but not THAT bad.
@@justarandomsasquatch1480 We don't really know if the adoption thing was a factor, though. Yes, OP mentioned it, but also mentioned Dan's statement. If the adoption was a factor in Dan's downfall, then you'd be right, but the truth is we just don't know.
Its not about expectation but its about apprecation for parents sacrifice and hardships of putting dan through college. He didnt value what they did for him as parents and he had no sympathy for their parents when the mother got sick
I wonder why OP's parents hid the fact that Dan was adopted. And Grandpa really over-reacted to this information. Why his love for Dan so abruptly changed was unbelievable. All he had to do was change the Will to divide everything among 'all' his grandchildren, including Dan. Just because Grandpa found out that Dan was adopted, and not a blood relative, shouldn't have changed how he felt about Dan. If he loved him as his grandson, what really changed?
I would have said that too but the fact he refused to help his parents and said he wished his mother died sooner would have me resent and disowned that grandchild even if he wasn't adopted.
@@oumryeternity7871But that is separate from being adopted. Change the reason to Dan being gay. Is Dan still an a*shole. Yes? Should Dan be disinherited? Yes. Should Dan be disinherited due to being gay? Hell the f*ck NO.
There's one thing I don't get for your whole life there has been a golden child and it was very apparent even your parents disregarded you to an extent but not completely but and I say this but you still have high hopes for them and you even gave them a house in the end of the story just forgetting about the treatment you went through. Sure I guess it's okay to have a caring life to an extent but you can never forget the treatments they gave you no matter how hard you forget since it's quite literally a huge chunk of your life
I understand that OP is pissed about how he was treated & he was petty with somethings but I get it, but I also feel sorry for Dan not knowing he was adopted then having that bomb dropped on him in front of every1 that would've changed his whole world so in that perspective I think OP is an AH
Tbh, I don't think the fact Dan was adopted was nearly as damaging as his statement about OP's mom. The point wasn't that Dan was adopted. The point is that Dan cared nothing about his family who gave so much to him.
@@AutismTakesOn No, finding out he was adopted, especially like that, is likely what destroyed Dan the most. My dad as adopted as a baby, and in spite of him growing up in a loving, well rounded home, and knowing he was adopted from an early age, there was quite a lot of personal trauma from it.
What Dan said about his mother removed any sympathy I might have had for him. Truly disgusting.
OP's parents and grandfather taught Dan to be a parasite. They taught him that he deserves everything and no one else matters. They didn't teach Dan empathy. Dan only learned THINGS matter, not people. Dan doesn't want to help but doesn't want to be seen for what he is. Love, apparently Dan doesn't know what love is - it's not something he can spend after all. As for Dan - he has a college degree and can work and pay those debts off. It's called budgeting and living within your means.
I didn't spoil my children! But they ended up loving their friends more than family.
So instead of telling Grandpa how dan been acting
He's just tells him (hay he's adopted)
All this dread, and no one said anything to the grandfather. Especially when his daughter had to sell her home for medical. An his golden grandson is just out here living his best life. Op is not the AH
No, OP is an asshole; adoption is a sensitive issue and adopted children can suffer all kinds of trauma even in great homes. To tear away someone's entire identity like that, in front of everyone, is horrific.
Because the story is FAKE. Rich grandfather but doesn't help, especially with the wife having cancer. Yeah super fake
@@SH-qs7eedid you not follow the story the parents give him everything risk them own Health and savings and when the mother need his help, not only he refuse but say also to op let her die. He ask for it. That he has bin disownd by the family and banned form the will was all justice and not selfishness
@anthonywyckaert698 not saying brother isn't an asshole; he is. But Op is an asshole as well as the parents.
@@anthonywyckaert698The parents are the problem. They did it all to themselves. They were too proud to ask grandpa for help but not too proud to ask their children? They spoiled Dan, they went broke doing so, they are owed nothing for being stupid and irresponsible.
All the money, love and permissions Dan was given by his PARENTS, he showed total disgusting contempt for his Mother having cancer. I am so PROUD of OP for doing what he did. OP tried everything in his power to confront his brother and fix the situation, as any family member would. The total uncompassionate brother was the LAST STRAW, in my opinion. Who treats their Mother like that? OP, you are a good son. God Bless you.
Oh HECK NO, OP DID NOT GO TO FAR! So happy he brought his adopted brother DOWN because of his SELFISHNESS!
WOW...JUST WOW!! Good for OP..Living well is the best REVENGE!!
Dan was supported by people who were not blood but yet he felt he could be little trash and look down on the parents who gave him so much. Hope Dan has a wake up call
They adopted from the trash can
No, they were just trash themselves
While Dan DID deserve what he got, 100%, I wouldn't say he was COMPLETELY at fault here. Yes, what Dan said was horrible, and valuing parties over family is cruel, but OP's parents and grandpa also contributed to this situation.
OP's parents and grandpa were wrong for spoiling Dan. There should've been a "no" somewhere down the line. This likely gave Dan the mindset that he could get away with anything. So, while OP's parents were nice to be thankful, they did get karma for raising Dan as a golden child and not seeing the monster they were creating. Had they heeded OP's warning, this situation could've been avoided.
For OP's grandpa, he was wrong for giving 100% of his inheritance to Dan. Yes, Dan did some good things, but that didn't completely outweigh the bad, and it wasn't fair to those other family members who likely did nothing to be written out of a will. I can understand the decision to a certain degree, and would understand if maybe Dan got a little more than everyone else, as this was prior to his actions towards the family being made public, but 100%? Come on.... Surely not EVERY SINGLE COUSIN was a bad egg, and OP wasn't one.
Dan got what he deserved, but I hope OP's parents and grandpa feel guilty for their roles as well. Sure, it might not explain EVERYTHING, but it certainly was a contributing factor.
You know I lost my dad to cancer and to hear Dan say he should have let his mom pass. That’s the worst thing I think anyone could say. I was begging GOD to let me keep my dad. I hope Dan learned a lesson. Good for OP he did the right thing. No one should have been mad at OP he did what he had too. I’m glad his mom alive and they are all doing well.
Dan has a good degree. If he really wanted to get back on his feet, all he would have to do is quit feeling sorry for himself.
No matter if they have a PhD, if they are slackers, then there's point in having any education.
Dan is too selfish and would probably be selfish until the end. OP did Dan a favor. Now he understands the value of money and family, now that he doesn’t really have neither.
I'm sorry but no Dan got help alot he demands this n that sorry but they didn't have to give Dan all these expensive shit. Or pay for his college but they did. And he didn't think for them DAN is a Villian. Op did right if grandad would remove him from will instantly and he suffers as he cries. Op may not get anything or help from granpa as he gave all to Dan. I even make a public post about Dan without it linking to OP
Then the update comes showing Dan to be true Villain moment he looses his income he attacks he's bad I would plan his ruin
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I agree with OP actions.
All of u see n find dan entitled brat and he deserved it OP grew normal but working hard and but i do agree that parents where at fault for keeping the secret or just giving what dan wanted it as they treatee him higher as if he was king. But Dan is big villain he wanted the mother to die and anyone supporting dan actions then ur evil.
I hoped the inheritance would of been shared among the family.
And what OP did buying a home for his parents he was great dan could done the great thing n help them but no he was Scum
If i were op i train on how to fight and defend.
Why are people so obssessed with the idea that successful and adult children don't have a responsibility to take care of their parents? I understand not helping if they are abusive & terrible people. But kind parents deserves to have their children support when they are older.
It says in the Bible to honor your mother and father. When my mother got cancer in 2009. I went over to her house every day to clean her house and to help her.
But be quiet about Dan being adopted and saying you should’ve let her die.
@@2muchzenBible says love your enemies.. but deal with them. If u want to know…
I don’t understand why they didn’t turn to grandfather when his mom got cancer and needed help. This doesn’t sound right.
Maybe they didn't want to bother the grandfather to ask for help in fear of Dan getting exposed for being a horrible son to his adoptive parents since they didn't want to hurt him because he was adopted and felt that they should provide the best for him and not hold him accountable, it was moreso pity for being adopted.
I call bs on the entire story.
In 6 months he goes from struggling, fresh out of college, to buying an entire apartment complex and house for his parents?
With what, the $ he got, from the $ he got, from his inheritance?
Never mentioned gramps dying.
On a channel note...
Dude... you got a face for radio and voice for book.
Less full face intros and don't be so nasal with your speech.
I totally agree with Op, happy to know he is doing very well and his parents at good place. Please avoid negative comments as people they must have abundant their parents when their parents needed them so to justify their own actions they put u down through their comments here. I'm Indian Buddhist lady and I know importance of having parents in our life. Have a great life ahead. Love from Nagpur, India.
Definitely NTA. Comes around, goes around ❤️☺️
If Op and Dan's parents hadn't spoiled Dan, then they would e had emergency money
I’m torn between this particular story, what op did isn’t something I would have done, especially putting it on social media, however, the outcome was wonderful, especially op helping out his parents, that to me is top tier 👍🏼
So everyone got their inheritance but grandfather never died? This whole story makes no sense.
My Grandma may not have had any significant money that was really considered inheritance, but she had items of sentimental value in her home that she specifically gave away about a couple years before she passed. She gave them one by one to the person she wanted to have said items. It was her way of giving them their “inheritance”
She had practically nothing for those last couple years, but it was her way of knowing there wouldn’t be a fight over anything, because there would be nothing left to fight over.
The adults in this story failed Dan as he was growing up and never taught him the importance of compassion or generosity. He was never shown how to care about others so all he ever knew was that his wants and needs took precedent over every one and every thing else. It's not OP's fault that he couldn't get through to his brother when he tried to talk to him about his parents' problems. Dan just didn't care and there wasn't any way Dan would ever care until he got hit with the reactions from others on social media. This was the only way to get him to respond because Dan only cared about the admiration of strangers. He lived only for being popular and material possessions. For people to act like Dan is in the victim really makes me sick though. Despite the fact that he was never made to go without he was not stupid or blind. He knew his family was struggling but he chose not to care or do anything about it because there was no benefit to him helping his family. These people did nothing to harm him in anyway. In fact, they went out of their way to do whatever they could to show him love and devotion. Dan, however, did not appreciate it. Instead he took all he could from them and ignored their suffering. He turned a blind eye to the very people that showed him love and devotion even when they were on the verge of becoming homeless. So in that regard, I guess they didn't fail him. He failed them.
All I can say is remember the saying 'you reap what you sow'. I feel no pity for Dan.
Dan is just a nasty, cruel, and mean man who has no respect for anyone, not even his own adoptive brother, parents, and grandfather. What the grandfather did was correct and OP had every right to be upset and blab the news to the rest of the family.
I sent Mr. Reditto another e-mail with a family drama in it and I hope that he gets to read it and shares it on here.
I'm glad you told everybody he didn't deserve anything especially after what he said about your mother
Being adopted he would still be family, if he was not such a horrible person
Op I can't believe your whole family enabled dance spoiled entitled behavior.😂😂
I think what ops issue is his brothers lack of appreciation for the sacrifice their parents made the lack of care of the mothers illness
Well, I think Dan is suffering the consequences of his actions. The biggest hole here is definitely that grandfather. Because it sounds like he encouraged and spoiled Dan. So much that Dan turned out that way, and once he was then found out to not being biologically related, not my biological grandchild. Well, too bad, I don't want you anymore
I get hes pissed amd jealous but hoqvhis parent's spent their money isnt his business. He was in college not young n depending on parent's to be taken care of. So its on them what happens also. They put money into one child not the other so he can walk away without feeling bad or not helping. Hes a good kid wanting to help even after how he got treated. But hes also one that lets it keep going. Hes older now and keeps this story on and on. He'd rather play the martyr by taking the care of parents after all they did while the golden boy got everything handed to him. So hes feels validated being the martyr. But this is all my own opinions n i think no matter what advice we give he wants everyone to tell him hes right and are on his side. He doesn't want any other comments back. I feel sorry for him. To keep this going long after. To not to just to cut ties and go on without the bullshit coming from family. But he chooses to keep wallowing in it and hes only hurting himself. None of the family don't care if how he talked about them is true. I hope he gets help with therapy. He went so far in the end that he had no right to say. So hes got his revenge to his brother. Hope he feels better but to me he's worsethann his brother. The very end of thus showed his evil hatred
Dan was treated better than OP was for his entire childhood, teenage years and early adult years etc and OP just had to deal with it.. anyway OP told the truth, if people are mad at OP announcing that then it’s their fault for not being honest and telling Dan and others the truth in the first place. Kids should know they’re adopted in case they ever want to find their biological family members like they have the right to.
Also the day he said that he hoped OPs mum died soon and stuff like that, is the day he lost the right to call her his mum or believe she is his mum; the fact he said that when he believed he wasn’t adopted shows how evil he is so yeah all so so deserved.
Dan's problem for having mismanaged his assets. He had plenty. He could have just gone on if he had continued with his jobs.
OP - payback was AWESOME!
OP seems way too obsessed with Dan in the original post. If the parents werent so full of pride, they could have asked the grandfather for financial aide rather than asking their children and the internet.
Op went just far enough. ❤
Are these stories actually from Reddit anymore? The timing doesn’t line up to say Christmas was a two days ago and it’s going months into the future. I’ve been wondering this from a bunch of recent videos lately.
I'm glad Dan got his karma he was a cruel person.
Interesting that a man who treated his family like absolute poop was so distraught to find they were not his biological family.
Really? You don't understand how traumatic it would be to have your entire identity torn apart like that?
@SH-qs7ee and what was his identity based on? Family that he didn't care about, didn't value, thought it would be financially beneficial to let his mother die and wouldn't lift a finger to help. So was his identity based on being a right *rick?
I feel like this was balanced. His privileged little spoiled entitled but had no love or gratitude for the people who put him where he was
For the people on Dan's side, you clearly don't know that parents are capable of raising their kids to be nothing but leeches.
I remember a story that the mom says "just do it for dan..." when they try to force op to give his house to dan and still pay the mortgage just because he has a family and op don't....
I just watched that one before this one
I’m starting to feel that Dans are the worse 🤧
OP, the first thing the parents should have grown was a backbone. They are the reason Dan was such an ahole. Parents who give their child everything at the cost of losing their are fools. OP, since you had the guts to spill the beans about the adoption, why didn't you go to Grandpa for help when Mother was sick. You could have prevented a lot of the crap Dan put you through by telling grandpa how Dan reacted to helping parents. One thing is for sure. Dan didn't deserve to be sole beneficiary of any will.
Parents were just terrible in general; the fact they would rather make OP struggle to make money for food and rent for all of them, while staying in his one room studio apartment, making him eat on the floor, rather than swallowing their pride and asking their father for help is just terrible! What parent worthy of the name chooses pride over their child.
I foresee another post saying my parents gave my adopted brother the house I bought them.
Toxicity knows no socioeconomic class.
What comes around goes around I don't feel sorry for him,plus he wanted his mama would dìe.
What happened? Just after1600 it skipped during the Xmas party.
I'll bet commenters who scolded him that parents give and you have no obligation to help are "hash tag hey fam! ❤" people born after 1990, strangers above those who truly supported you.
However. Its not Dans responsability. Not asking grandad for help and selling the house is just stupid..
Nta
Sounds like grooming to me 🙎🏽♀️🙎🏽
As for ops question of being the ah well yes but you were a pragmatic ah given the circumstances. That being said you shouldn't beg be a man and figure it out. It's not easy but youl find a way the Internet is not that helpful with life 😂.
I really can't buy this story. Grandpa was rich op could of gone to Grandpa at anytime and asked him to help out his family. They didn't need to suffer. That Grandpa would entirely disinherit Dan means he's a jerk. Op is a jerk for not going to his grandpa earlier to tell him what a terrible situation his family was in. They wouldn't have lost their house. Instead he went with his revenge scheme. So when he buys them a house in the end he's no hero . He shouldn't of let them suffer in the first place. Stupid story.
I love MY BROTHER DAN…he’s the very BEST and c👀lest bro 😎 EVVVA!!! 🤜🤛🥰🍻
Dan not guilty op not guilty. Parents only guilty ones and OP is their doormat.
Adoption isn’t something to announce cold like that. Yes, DN was a jerk, but 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
I do not feel sorry for OPs parents because they spoiled Dan and Dan became toxic!
This is so not true, why would parents but themselves in debt for one child. Then the absurdity of thinking this supposed child should take care of everyone because he's successful....there would have to be reason he cut everyone off. Then the real ridiculous part, rich grandfather doesn't help, doesn't care about the cancer and somehow doesn't know Dan is adopted? Stop it 🙄😊😊
So, yeah, I was thinking that OP was going too far, until the brother said what he said about the mother and what he thought should have happened when she was sick. As a cancer patient myself, someone saying that it would be more convenient for me to d13 than to invest in my treatment? Yeah, scorched earth wouldn’t be dire enough to describe how I would react. And the funny thing is, most of the brother’s downfall was of his own doing. OP is def NOT the AH.
I don’t what really happens nowadays,the first commenter in the video said that,can’t blamed Dan for not helping and not Dan’s responsibility to support their parents…god..let me tell something…his parents done the responsibilities perfectly to him..yes..its not responsibilities but a courtesy for any children to help their parents in need…especially when they’re financially capable
What op did is what exactly what I'll do. There's nothing wrong on wanting revenge. Sometime it can be the catalyst that would drive someone to a better life. If you made bad choices in life you should accept the consequences that follow. I love the ending. As children we should respect your parents and should try to give them happiness in their old life. Dan is an ungrateful son to wish bad things to happen to his parents. I just hope there are much more son like op in the real life. People should take this story as an example how they should lead their life.
I would say duck your parents! They wanted you to be quiet. So yeah, this is fake.
I hate it when parents think or pushes that their children should payoff their parenting when the children are adults. This is a very stupid crab mentality. Children should never be forced to payoff their parents or take care of their parents. It should be on the children's own volition and free will to do things for their parents...
Dan is a certified jerk and deserved his comeuppance but throwing out his adoption was too far out on the revenge scale.
They created a monster..OP was a jealous hater
It's not op's place to tell that secret but his parents. He should have just told the family how they struggled while their brother didn't care and never helped and also what he said about their mom regarding her cancer.
So did Grandpa change his Will and then die as I am confused how they got their inheritance if grandpa is still alive or did he just gift them all their shares?
I think what younger brother did was write he had every right to complain because he wants his older brother was showered with money his parents spoiled him and supported him and he's showing no sympathy they spoiled the kid spoiled the kid now hes feel he he doesn't owe anybody anything
Excuse me it's only appearance position to make sure the children and I do mean children graduate from high school as of the age of 18 they are adults and it is their choice and their problem to get from a which is home into college and finish college on their own that is get their asses out there get a job and get themselves through school that is their problem not the parents' problem if there's anybody out there in this great big old world that feels that it is the parents is position in life to make sure that they have a free ride through life on the backs of their parents and their pocketbooks is wrong grow up
Dan is a jerk. Grandpa and mom and dad are fools to put all in Dan. OP is a great guy to take care of his parents.
What did dan do at the Christmas? It cut out and skipped to his job telling him to not take clients.
fake story!!! how did nobody know he is adopted?
I don't feel bad for the parents they caused this to happen
Why isn't the father working to help?
I'm sorry but it's not on him to take care of the rest of his family now if it was put in his heart to do so then yes but he is not obligated to do so
Dan should had helped out his parents in time of need with the bills to a place to stay. But he had chosen not to help to keep up with his own life style. Towards the end after many attempts to get help by his brother then going on social media for advice. This all came done to Dan very own actions.
Not the A H
Dan got what he had coming karma is a bitch.
Nta, your brother is greedy
most annoying voice ever
While it's a good story, it just feels too set up to me. Feels fake. OP doesn't address things like why the grandpa didn't step in. When he posts online, family and friends donate... if there was family who donated, was there no one who could take in the parents? The mother had cancer for frick sake (if real). Then OP snoops through some drawers out of no where and finds adoption papers? Did thr parents bring furniture with them and randomly slip the adoption papers at the top of a pile of paper? Wouldn't the paper be kept somewhere safe and sorted? Why would OP look through a stack of papers he clearly doesn't recognize?
Why would his brother punch him out of the blue with no prior warning or words?
Also, when the brother storms in and says OP could have just asked for money, that's what you say in front of people to save face. There was no one the brother needed to save face with there at the time. He was putting an act on for no one.
I unfortunately have a pathological liar for a brother. He has a number of psychological issues but is super charasmatic and covers them up well. This brother, if real, certainly has some pathological issues and emotional/relationship detachment from his family. I would empathize as someone with a monster for a brother. I'm just not buying this story. OP is either terrible at telling things right or is writing the story as he goes and just picking random things out of a hat to make the story more interesting. "Oh, we had a rich grandpa who i will proceed to never mention again." "Oh, he became rich and left." "Oh, my post blew up overnight, literally and even though apparently thousands of people would have let me know if I was an Asshole for posting, i also am posting here for more validation!" "Oh, distraction time, look! My brother punched me! Drama!!!" "And now he's adopted! Wow! So out of left field!" Reads fake to me.
Also, HOW did the rest of the family not know the brother was adopted and suddenly at the family meeting grandpa changes his will but still didn't help OP's parents???
NTA and I would expose the adoption too.
But I would have gone nc with the parents because they and the grandfather enabled this. Dan is the ah, but the parents and grandpa created the monster.
I would still take my piece of the inheritence but that does not absolve the grandparent, especially since it was his own 'bloodline' obsession that both caused- and ended- douchedan
I wouldn't go THAT far. Yes, the parents shouldn't have spoiled Dan, BUT OP never mentions himself being negatively effected by it, at least not directly. OP's parents were unwise, sure, but not evil. They didn't do anything for Dan at OP's expense that we know of, which would've been worth mentioning. What OP's parents went through was also sufficient karma for what they did. Yes, the parents were wrong, but they suffered enough to realize they messed up.
As for the grandpa... I understand him to a degree. No, he shouldn't have given ALL of his inheritance to Dan, but he had no way of knowing about Dan's actions towards OP or his parents. All he saw was the hardworking side of Dan, and not the side that OP saw, which was full of entitlement.
Yes, OP's parents and grandpa were bad, but not THAT bad.
@@AutismTakesOn maybe not on that front. But the 'bloodline' stuff is.. thats bad
@@justarandomsasquatch1480 We don't really know if the adoption thing was a factor, though. Yes, OP mentioned it, but also mentioned Dan's statement.
If the adoption was a factor in Dan's downfall, then you'd be right, but the truth is we just don't know.
I would to see an update on Dan again?
Why are all the OPs all wimps.
DO IT FOR DAN reference?
Dude...Your voice!
Tell Grandpa!!
I don't understand why the parents expected him to help out 😂😂😂
Its not about expectation but its about apprecation for parents sacrifice and hardships of putting dan through college. He didnt value what they did for him as parents and he had no sympathy for their parents when the mother got sick
I wonder why OP's parents hid the fact that Dan was adopted. And Grandpa really over-reacted to this information. Why his love for Dan so abruptly changed was unbelievable. All he had to do was change the Will to divide everything among 'all' his grandchildren, including Dan. Just because Grandpa found out that Dan was adopted, and not a blood relative, shouldn't have changed how he felt about Dan. If he loved him as his grandson, what really changed?
I would have said that too but the fact he refused to help his parents and said he wished his mother died sooner would have me resent and disowned that grandchild even if he wasn't adopted.
@@oumryeternity7871But that is separate from being adopted. Change the reason to Dan being gay. Is Dan still an a*shole. Yes? Should Dan be disinherited? Yes. Should Dan be disinherited due to being gay? Hell the f*ck NO.
Simp
There's one thing I don't get for your whole life there has been a golden child and it was very apparent even your parents disregarded you to an extent but not completely but and I say this but you still have high hopes for them and you even gave them a house in the end of the story just forgetting about the treatment you went through. Sure I guess it's okay to have a caring life to an extent but you can never forget the treatments they gave you no matter how hard you forget since it's quite literally a huge chunk of your life
I understand that OP is pissed about how he was treated & he was petty with somethings but I get it, but I also feel sorry for Dan not knowing he was adopted then having that bomb dropped on him in front of every1 that would've changed his whole world so in that perspective I think OP is an AH
Tbh, I don't think the fact Dan was adopted was nearly as damaging as his statement about OP's mom. The point wasn't that Dan was adopted. The point is that Dan cared nothing about his family who gave so much to him.
@@AutismTakesOnExactly
It that you Dan
@@AutismTakesOn No, finding out he was adopted, especially like that, is likely what destroyed Dan the most. My dad as adopted as a baby, and in spite of him growing up in a loving, well rounded home, and knowing he was adopted from an early age, there was quite a lot of personal trauma from it.
Dan wished death on his mother who gives af how he feels
Good for you.
Karma
Sorry OP you were wrong in doing that. You hurt your family & it wasn't your place to tell the family that.
Thank you for the video
Thanks for watching!
@@Mr.Reddito You're welcome. Appreciate your work! 😄
What sort of advanced society exists where people have to sell their house to pay for medical treatment.
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