I have no sympathy for cheaters. If they didn't want to risk having their "dirty laundry" aired out in public, they shouldn't have made any "dirty laundry" in the first place. If you want out of a marriage, get a divorce FIRST, THEN go find someone new.
Cheaters only love their affair partners when they sneek around trying to keep it hidden, affairs aren't as exciting when others know as it turns the affair into a normal relationship. Take away the excitement and the affair ends. OPs cousin and wife only fed on the excitement but now everyone knows the affair is boring. 😅
OP did the right thing. His cheating wife and his cheating may have been cruelly punished, but I don't feel sorry for them in the slightest. They could've just gotten divorced if they wanted out of their marriages so badly, but they chose to cheat. They made their bed and now it's time for them to lie in it together. But of course, they broke up as soon as they got divorced. How typical. 🙄 And I won't lie. Vanessa is braver than me that's for sure. What a rockstar! And good for her and OP for getting a good divorce settlement. 😊
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him. But that's me. Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer. And he would have no Idea where I moved
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him. But that's me. Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer. And he would have no Idea where I moved
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him. But that's me. Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer. And he would have no Idea where I moved
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him. But that's me. Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer. And he would have no Idea where I moved
Well, he collaborated with a private investigator. Technically, OP and the PI did all of the "heavy work" and he paid for it to be done. He shared the information with her after, I believe it was 3 1/2 to 4 months. Remember, he thought the affair had ended and let the P.I. go, then he later found the "burner phone" in her work case. That's how they covered their tracks once they thought they'd been caught. I think OP did fine. Why stress out a young Mom with a young child. Get the ironclad evidence and hit them where it hurts.🏘🏚🏠🏡🚗🛻🚘🚙🛥💰💰💰
It's all in the timing. He shortened the time of pre-divorce revelation and the divorce. He waited to set off the Vanessa bomb, until when all the relatives who would need the truth revealed, before the two love birds spread their version, were present in one place. I'd give this guy the "Golden Gotcha!" Award. I'll add the "Muwahaha Star" to his Attaboy Badge. He just set it up to automatically dump the garbage on them in one go, with Vanessa as his ally. Very, very good, boys and girls. Everyone gets a cookie.
Nta. Expose your cheating wife and cousin. Good looking doesnt equal a good person. Help the cousins wife drag him through the gutter. These ppl are despicable
@@raindancer1872: Little man was 2 years old. He's not going to remember what happened that day. He'll eat, play with other cousins, and open presents and eat birthday cake.
@kathymills3476 just because he is 2 it is OK to ruin his birthday party with adult issues? That is, unfortunately, the same thing that the ladies who fist fight at chuck E cheese and the ones who bring guns and shoot and kill others at babies birthday parties say.
I think he handled it the best he could all things considered. He tried to break them up and salvage his marriage but once he realized they continued seeing each other. OP decided his marriage was over and then informed Vanessa on the eve of a family gathering. It sounds like that was quite the spectacle when all was revealed.
Cheaters have no regrets according to psychological studies conducted by the APA (American Psychology Association). Cheaters are just afraid of being caught, they have no morality to be honest. In order to get ahead of these cheaters is to never dwell as a victim but to move past it living your best life. Do what you want for yourself. Live your life happily.
It seems like he took so long because he was letting his hope of fixing this situation fool him into dragging it out. I can understand why he chose to Vanessa handle the confrontation, if he was truly afraid he couldn't restrain himself it shows more emotional self awareness and maturity than most people. It's also equally likely he just couldn't hack it, and left her to do the heavy lifting. Honestly though, I think he should have taken his evidence to Vanessa as soon as he got confirmation and evidence, he would have been just as able to let her handle the confrontation if he'd done it earlier. But it wasn't until he realized that his feelings for his wife had turned to disgust and contempt rather than love that he made his move.
I'm sure that OP struggled with having to tell his sister-in-law about her cheating husband -- however, gathering the evidence against them and then showing it to Vanessa, I believe was the right move -- after-all -- the main reason he didn't say anything in the first place was because he believed that the affair had ended -- so in the end he decided to teach them both a lesson -- and in any case -- Vanessa needed to know the truth and would have found out eventually -- it isn't OP's fault that he didn't let her know right away. Ultimately -- the two spouses were having an affair with each other's significant other -- therefore, there shouldn't be any "blame" being cast around other than to the two cheaters!! Karma is a Bitch, isn't it? Peace!
Keeping Vanessa in the dark, for a while, prevented the cheaters from knowing the spouses knew. In the long run, it helped also Vanessa to get prove for the divorce case. It's normal for her to dislike not being told rightaway but 6 weeks versus 2 years in total is not going to save anything. If he exposed it and Vanessa and he would have slapped his wife or punch his cousin in the process, it would not have been so looked over as when Vanessa did it. A cheated wife gets more leniency than a cheated husband by police, family and judge. He would have possibly lost his divorce case.
@@JaakJacobus Yeah. That's why I'm not mad at OP like some people are. I get the argument that he should've manned up and exposed them himself, but Mr. Reddito pointed out something important. Some people don't think rationally after finding out they've been cheated. And I can understand OP being afraid of confronting them without getting violent. And I could see that happening. And then, OP's cheating wife would be able to paint herself as the victim. Then he'd be absolutely screwed in the divorce. Because attacking and abusing your spouse is even worse than cheating. Even with the prenup they signed, had he tried to confront them himself and got violent, he would've lost A LOT in the divorce. And he'd probably be arrested. And let's face it. Those cheaters were going to get caught eventually anyway, because at some point, cheaters get careless. It's almost like they want to be caught sometimes.
@@PrincessQ-fj9lybut his wife did get careless, not having her phone secured because she trusted Op wouldn't look through it and see their messages. She even slipped up with the burner phone being unsecured. She was too arrogant and cocky and messed up leaving the phone out of her sight. 🤦🏽♀️
@@misstasha That's human nature. Always become confident on their wrongdoing until they get caught because they went everytime a bit further. A sudden lock on her first phone would also have been a red flag. If he also her when exposing her, it would have been "a proof" that his violence was the reason for cheating. In a cheater's mind he/she is never wrong.
He did well; got the evidence; realised he wasn’t in love anymore and set off the time bomb. It worked out well and with all the evidence both the cheaters got what they deserved!
i would've went to jail the moment i found out! i know me 🤣🤣🤣 i'm crazy when it comes to cheating. the last dude who cheated on me was my former fiancée and he had a baby on me with a meth addict... who now runs when she sees me lol i made her touch everything in the frozen food aisle in a grocery store when she had the nerve to attack me. she was so sure she was the girlfriend but the look on her face when i told her me and him were engaged and she was nothing but a side hoe. that's when she went after me. oh i may have went to jail but she went to the hospital and went to jail. the security footage proved she attacked me and i was just defending myself and she got extra charges because i'm physically disabled. she lost custody of their affair baby and then my ex had the nerve to ask me if we could raise his affair baby together. i laughed and told him if he cherished his life then he better run home to mommy before he never sees her again. to this day, this man will make social media accounts to try and beg me to come back to him. it's been 13 years since the day i left him. i'm so glad i didn't marry that cheating POS
He did the right thing because he could have ended up in jail. It’s his cousin!! Not a stranger family. One of his best friends. That was rough. When she fell into that grill im sorry but I fell out laughing! I can’t stop and the illustration was so funny!!! 😂😂😂
Pay back is good. I would have done the same. If they wanted to be together they should have left their spouse. They chose to be dishonest disloyal and above all they betrayed themselves. Their spouses held the Ace of Spade, and they were the Jack's or the jokers in their own downfall in their marriage. HIP HIP HORRAY TO THEM BOTH.
So he didn’t tell her for a month the affair went on for years before he found out. Everybody handle situations differently until you’re in somebody’s shoes. You can’t say how you would react I think the way he handled. It was just fine . They both came out on top if he had beat the crap out of either one of them it would’ve ended up completely different, so I think he handled it perfectly fine.
What's a month without him telling her when she didn't know anything throughout her whole marriage? If he hadn't done it the way did she'd never had known!
I probably would of told her once I had enough proof. Though I don't blame him for not telling her right away. When things like that happen you go through many different phases of emotions and reactions and he was trying to break them up so he could have his wife back. It's not like he let it go on for a very long time before telling his cousins wife.
Sounds like OP'S marriage unfortunately had a foundation of dishonesty. The dishonesty was unfortunately before and during the marriage. OP did right in how he handled it. Unfortunately he does come across as a Simp in his attempts to salvage and save his marriage and failed. Regardless of being a Simp or not, cheating is an unacceptable behavioral trait. Sex isn't the same when cheating is found out.
Op said that he tried to scare them into ending the affair. When he didn’t see any more chats, he called off his pi because he thought the affair was over. It wasn’t until he found her burner phone that he realized it was still going on and that’s when he informed Vanessa. I think op did right.
the way it was done to oust them was done well so the cousin and the ex-wife couldn't manipulate the narrative. if the husband had of told his cousins wife earlier things wouldn't have played out well . its sad a child's birthday was the go time for all of this. people may say op should have been honest earlier etc.. but when someone find's another person is cheating on another persons partner its hard to think what to do because people can swing around denial
Im petty. I would have printed out allthe photos and screenshots of their convos from both the original and burner phones and sent copiesto everyone that knew either of them along with both families. Cousins wife would have had them hand delivered first so she wouldn't have been blindsided.
Funny that all they wanted was to be together and WISH the other wasn't married. When they get what they want.... They couldn't be bothered. Funny how that works ;-)
I would have done it differently and orderd everyone at court in short notice straight away, with a court order and choose to bring them in with force= s.w.a.t team.
Attempting to scare them straight wasn't a bad move. In my opinion, it just showed OP how irredeemable they were. If it had succeeded in ending the affair, another chance, albeit with a lot of trust to rebuild, can be given. The results OP had gotten would have had a similar ending from me...I just don't know how I would have handled it besides divorce and letting the other victim know the ordeal. I can have a vindictive side when I think about it.
He didn’t string his cousin in law around. For a month he collected evidence. Anyone who thinks he should have told the wife with just text messages and no actual proof is ridiculous .
I think OP did it the right way for him. He did try to stop the affair at the start, rather than just confronting his wife. Telling Vanessa in the end was the best move as her public reveal was the best possible move, as in public with all that evidence, they couldn't talk their way out of it. AND OP's wife's reaction of being angry at Vanessa shows her true character, again, in front of everyone. So they couldn't lie about how it went down later. If you really want someone else, leave the person you are with first. Or as someone is sure to say, become poly. I am not a fan of that if any kids are involved.
OP could not predict Vanessa's reaction. She might have already known, and if not might have gone off on them and made it harder for OP to secure the evidence he might have needed for divorce court. I would have waited too until I had things lined up and then informed her.
Weird he puts himself through a month of a PI following them. And he just doesn’t end it. And file for divorce. So he sends them pictures without a blackmail message. I hope he changed his password because with his all his actions he outed himself. So he plays a game she plays a game. They deserve each other.For goodness sake just hand over the divorce papers and pull the bandage off and dump her. He acts like a woman. Oh he will leave her and things will go back to normal. Until the next person he finds attractive comes along.
If Vanessa is over as far as the secret he hailed, then people shouldn't be mad. It's none of your busiyes Terry. He told a story get over it if you're mad about how he did it
If I was the OP, and this happened with me, I would have made Venessa bring in even a bigger crowd, and especially call people from Work. Name and shame the cheaters so bad that they forget to even how to have sex.
This title alone put a smile on my face.😈... My friends idiot son was married to a Drill Sergeant who had a particularly nasty reputation for having an explosive temper even among the other Drill Sergeants. Normally she was a delightful woman but you did NOT test her patience. Me and my friend caught his idiot son making out with one of her new recruits at an outdoor cafe. So I quickly snapped a picture while my friend called his wife and told her what we saw. She got there very quick. Was kinda surprised the moron didn't notice the sound of the tires screeching just across the street from where he was. We showed her the picture and to pointed where he was. Then we watched as she gave them the biggest and loudest chewing out and public shaming of their lives in full view of everyone in the vicinity with smiles on our faces. My friend recorded it to play it back to their whole family during a gathering that was happening the next day.😈 (edit) 🤣 it ended as well as I thought it would.
Ohh, I'm a strong woman and so would have hooked up with my cousin's wife to plot out the ultimate revenge. If I had been in the equation I would have made sure parents, grandparents, bosses and coworkers were there. We would have had so much dirt on them that they would be lucky to have a cardboard box to call home. Just ask the last person who cheated on me. They still have nightmares well over twenty years later about the day I let the cat out of the bag.
No I think if OP cousin in law knew for longer she would have been destroyed. OP gatherered the info which helped Vanessa in the long run. I've never understood how anyone cheating thought to be ok?😮
Oh my god somebody's hair was on fire and people just stood there. Maybe she wasn't the best person in the world but how could you just stand there while somebody's on fire?
I say good job...same thing happened to me but I found out years later he was set up by then it was too late I had moved on sigh I don't understand how people can be so evil...😔😔😔
Up and disappeared ? can't but want OP to UPDATE 5 a gloat how, like in song "The Night The Lights Went Out In Georga", how.... "they won't find her"....
I think the guy is a little bit of a coward when it comes to perseverance and standing up for himself. He should have approached the other woman that was being cheated on by George and talk to her about it and say you know what I'm not good at this confrontation and I'll be violent I don't know what to do. But she was strung along. And it wasn't cool but other than that both of these people were the victim of cheaters
Would I have handled the situation differently? Yes. Do I think OP was wrong with the way he handled it? Well... I think he should've contacted Vanessa WAY sooner than he did. Sure, OP was sure he'd mess something up, and allowing another person to do what needs to be done in that case IS understandable. Not all of us have what it takes to do what's right in a situation like this. Some get more stressed than others. However, Vanessa didn't deserve to be left in the dark. I will be fair, however, and it's possible that OP may have forgotten about Vanessa. As for Jane losing her hair, she didn't deserve it, but I'm willing to bet that part was unintentional.
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304!wife and cousin made their own bed, NOW they must lie in it !!!
I agree
I have no sympathy for cheaters. If they didn't want to risk having their "dirty laundry" aired out in public, they shouldn't have made any "dirty laundry" in the first place. If you want out of a marriage, get a divorce FIRST, THEN go find someone new.
Or don't marry the guy you are cheating on in the first place.
Cheaters only love their affair partners when they sneek around trying to keep it hidden, affairs aren't as exciting when others know as it turns the affair into a normal relationship. Take away the excitement and the affair ends. OPs cousin and wife only fed on the excitement but now everyone knows the affair is boring. 😅
OP did the right thing. His cheating wife and his cheating may have been cruelly punished, but I don't feel sorry for them in the slightest. They could've just gotten divorced if they wanted out of their marriages so badly, but they chose to cheat. They made their bed and now it's time for them to lie in it together. But of course, they broke up as soon as they got divorced. How typical. 🙄 And I won't lie. Vanessa is braver than me that's for sure. What a rockstar! And good for her and OP for getting a good divorce settlement. 😊
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Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him.
But that's me.
Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer.
And he would have no Idea where I moved
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him.
But that's me.
Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer.
And he would have no Idea where I moved
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him.
But that's me.
Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer.
And he would have no Idea where I moved
Personally for me I would have had the evidence on the burner phone But before then I would have had all of my clothes. Packed and reddie to to my new place. I would have just disappeared on him.
But that's me.
Although he still would be getting divorce papers but through my lawyer.
And he would have no Idea where I moved
If I was him, I would’ve collaborated with the cousin’s wife! Having somebody helping me through this would be a lot better than doing this alone!
Well, he collaborated with a private investigator. Technically, OP and the PI did all of the "heavy work" and he paid for it to be done. He shared the information with her after, I believe it was 3 1/2 to 4 months. Remember, he thought the affair had ended and let the P.I. go, then he later found the "burner phone" in her work case. That's how they covered their tracks once they thought they'd been caught. I think OP did fine. Why stress out a young Mom with a young child. Get the ironclad evidence and hit them where it hurts.🏘🏚🏠🏡🚗🛻🚘🚙🛥💰💰💰
That was my first thought!
The more evidence, the better. They were given time to end the affair, but they chose to continue (burner phones). Karma is real
It would not have been able to work that way because she would not have been able to hold it in.
Op I'm glad you exposedyou're cheating wife and your cousin and I'm glad that the cousin's wife out at the fair to the whole family.😂😂
It's all in the timing. He shortened the time of pre-divorce revelation and the divorce. He waited to set off the Vanessa bomb, until when all the relatives who would need the truth revealed, before the two love birds spread their version, were present in one place. I'd give this guy the "Golden Gotcha!" Award. I'll add the "Muwahaha Star" to his Attaboy Badge. He just set it up to automatically dump the garbage on them in one go, with Vanessa as his ally. Very, very good, boys and girls. Everyone gets a cookie.
i agree, if they were alone without all the family there, she clearly could've gaslit everyone in to hating OP, with everyone there everyone saw.
Nta. Expose your cheating wife and cousin. Good looking doesnt equal a good person. Help the cousins wife drag him through the gutter. These ppl are despicable
Nobody brings these stories to life like MR REDDITO
Bro sounds like Heath Ledger’s Joker.
OP well chosen and well done. I'm glad you turned to Vanessa for help to expose the "lovebirds" ❤️☺️
Yes. But I'd replace lovebirds with cheaters, because let's face it. I doubt there was any genuine love. Passion and lust sure, but love? No way!
OP didn't 'turn' to Vanessa for help. He 'used' her to do what he couldn't do himself...
Ruining a child's birthday because he wasn't man enough to face them himself doesn't say well done , it says coward who doesn't love his nephew.
@@raindancer1872: Little man was 2 years old. He's not going to remember what happened that day. He'll eat, play with other cousins, and open presents and eat birthday cake.
@kathymills3476 just because he is 2 it is OK to ruin his birthday party with adult issues? That is, unfortunately, the same thing that the ladies who fist fight at chuck E cheese and the ones who bring guns and shoot and kill others at babies birthday parties say.
I think he handled it the best he could all things considered. He tried to break them up and salvage his marriage but once he realized they continued seeing each other. OP decided his marriage was over and then informed Vanessa on the eve of a family gathering. It sounds like that was quite the spectacle when all was revealed.
I would think since the cheating predated the wedding that he could have sued for an annulment?
Cheaters have no regrets according to psychological studies conducted by the APA (American Psychology Association). Cheaters are just afraid of being caught, they have no morality to be honest. In order to get ahead of these cheaters is to never dwell as a victim but to move past it living your best life. Do what you want for yourself. Live your life happily.
As a wise man once said "everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face"
I believe the actual quote was “Ethyone hath a plan until they get punth in the mouth.” 🧐
I loved the way OP handled it! It's unbelievable that the relationship was going on BEFORE OP married his wife! Disgusting, downright DISGUSTING!
It seems like he took so long because he was letting his hope of fixing this situation fool him into dragging it out. I can understand why he chose to Vanessa handle the confrontation, if he was truly afraid he couldn't restrain himself it shows more emotional self awareness and maturity than most people. It's also equally likely he just couldn't hack it, and left her to do the heavy lifting. Honestly though, I think he should have taken his evidence to Vanessa as soon as he got confirmation and evidence, he would have been just as able to let her handle the confrontation if he'd done it earlier. But it wasn't until he realized that his feelings for his wife had turned to disgust and contempt rather than love that he made his move.
Nope, he handled it well and played it like a savage
I loved how Jane's hair caught on fire and she is now bald. Now that is awesome justice!!!
Hell yeah lmao
I'm sure that OP struggled with having to tell his sister-in-law about her cheating husband -- however, gathering the evidence against them and then showing it to Vanessa, I believe was the right move -- after-all -- the main reason he didn't say anything in the first place was because he believed that the affair had ended -- so in the end he decided to teach them both a lesson -- and in any case -- Vanessa needed to know the truth and would have found out eventually -- it isn't OP's fault that he didn't let her know right away. Ultimately -- the two spouses were having an affair with each other's significant other -- therefore, there shouldn't be any "blame" being cast around other than to the two cheaters!! Karma is a Bitch, isn't it? Peace!
Keeping Vanessa in the dark, for a while, prevented the cheaters from knowing the spouses knew.
In the long run, it helped also Vanessa to get prove for the divorce case. It's normal for her to dislike not being told rightaway but 6 weeks versus 2 years in total is not going to save anything.
If he exposed it and Vanessa and he would have slapped his wife or punch his cousin in the process, it would not have been so looked over as when Vanessa did it. A cheated wife gets more leniency than a cheated husband by police, family and judge. He would have possibly lost his divorce case.
@@JaakJacobus Yeah. That's why I'm not mad at OP like some people are. I get the argument that he should've manned up and exposed them himself, but Mr. Reddito pointed out something important. Some people don't think rationally after finding out they've been cheated. And I can understand OP being afraid of confronting them without getting violent. And I could see that happening. And then, OP's cheating wife would be able to paint herself as the victim. Then he'd be absolutely screwed in the divorce. Because attacking and abusing your spouse is even worse than cheating. Even with the prenup they signed, had he tried to confront them himself and got violent, he would've lost A LOT in the divorce. And he'd probably be arrested. And let's face it. Those cheaters were going to get caught eventually anyway, because at some point, cheaters get careless. It's almost like they want to be caught sometimes.
@@PrincessQ-fj9lybut his wife did get careless, not having her phone secured because she trusted Op wouldn't look through it and see their messages. She even slipped up with the burner phone being unsecured. She was too arrogant and cocky and messed up leaving the phone out of her sight. 🤦🏽♀️
@@misstasha That's human nature. Always become confident on their wrongdoing until they get caught because they went everytime a bit further. A sudden lock on her first phone would also have been a red flag.
If he also her when exposing her, it would have been "a proof" that his violence was the reason for cheating. In a cheater's mind he/she is never wrong.
He did well; got the evidence; realised he wasn’t in love anymore and set off the time bomb. It worked out well and with all the evidence both the cheaters got what they deserved!
Vanessa has the biggest balls of the bunch.
i would've went to jail the moment i found out! i know me 🤣🤣🤣 i'm crazy when it comes to cheating.
the last dude who cheated on me was my former fiancée and he had a baby on me with a meth addict... who now runs when she sees me lol i made her touch everything in the frozen food aisle in a grocery store when she had the nerve to attack me. she was so sure she was the girlfriend but the look on her face when i told her me and him were engaged and she was nothing but a side hoe. that's when she went after me. oh i may have went to jail but she went to the hospital and went to jail.
the security footage proved she attacked me and i was just defending myself and she got extra charges because i'm physically disabled. she lost custody of their affair baby and then my ex had the nerve to ask me if we could raise his affair baby together. i laughed and told him if he cherished his life then he better run home to mommy before he never sees her again.
to this day, this man will make social media accounts to try and beg me to come back to him. it's been 13 years since the day i left him. i'm so glad i didn't marry that cheating POS
He did the right thing. You have to get as much ingormation before you strike.
He did the right thing because he could have ended up in jail. It’s his cousin!! Not a stranger family. One of his best friends. That was rough. When she fell into that grill im sorry but I fell out laughing! I can’t stop and the illustration was so funny!!! 😂😂😂
Pay back is good. I would have done the same. If they wanted to be together they should have left their spouse. They chose to be dishonest disloyal and above all they betrayed themselves. Their spouses held the Ace of Spade, and they were the Jack's or the jokers in their own downfall in their marriage. HIP HIP HORRAY TO THEM BOTH.
No seeing how she is a hands on lady , he probably kept her from jail time. It was handled just right 😅 .
So he didn’t tell her for a month the affair went on for years before he found out. Everybody handle situations differently until you’re in somebody’s shoes. You can’t say how you would react I think the way he handled. It was just fine . They both came out on top if he had beat the crap out of either one of them it would’ve ended up completely different, so I think he handled it perfectly fine.
No sympathy for OP 1. Who raises these ballless men ?
I think he wasn't able to deal with the cheating healthily so it was better he let Vanessa handle it.
In California OP would still get the shaft
What's a month without him telling her when she didn't know anything throughout her whole marriage? If he hadn't done it the way did she'd never had known!
I probably would of told her once I had enough proof. Though I don't blame him for not telling her right away. When things like that happen you go through many different phases of emotions and reactions and he was trying to break them up so he could have his wife back. It's not like he let it go on for a very long time before telling his cousins wife.
Sounds like OP'S marriage unfortunately had a foundation of dishonesty. The dishonesty was unfortunately before and during the marriage. OP did right in how he handled it. Unfortunately he does come across as a Simp in his attempts to salvage and save his marriage and failed. Regardless of being a Simp or not, cheating is an unacceptable behavioral trait.
Sex isn't the same when cheating is found out.
Op said that he tried to scare them into ending the affair. When he didn’t see any more chats, he called off his pi because he thought the affair was over. It wasn’t until he found her burner phone that he realized it was still going on and that’s when he informed Vanessa. I think op did right.
12:08 Her weekend with OP means, she is pregnant with George's baby. (imo)
What a punk.
The whining AI voice is grating.
I don't think OP kept his cousin's wife stringed alone for a long time. He just sent her the information/photos the night before the birthday party.
the way it was done to oust them was done well so the cousin and the ex-wife couldn't manipulate the narrative. if the husband had of told his cousins wife earlier things wouldn't have played out well . its sad a child's birthday was the go time for all of this. people may say op should have been honest earlier etc.. but when someone find's another person is cheating on another persons partner its hard to think what to do because people can swing around denial
Im petty. I would have printed out allthe photos and screenshots of their convos from both the original and burner phones and sent copiesto everyone that knew either of them along with both families. Cousins wife would have had them hand delivered first so she wouldn't have been blindsided.
Vanessa could have gotten pregnant during the time he held onto the secret. So yeah he probably shouldn't have done that.
They never end voluntarily.
Why keep married, oh yeah cause this never happened.
Creative writing.
I feel bad for the kid. It was his birthday party.
“And most importantly my dog “ these few words say a lot about op
Cheaters get what they deserve.
Funny that all they wanted was to be together and WISH the other wasn't married. When they get what they want.... They couldn't be bothered. Funny how that works ;-)
How do people have time to have affairs?
he should have told Vanessa immediately however I can understand why he was not able to go through with that plan
I would have done it differently and orderd everyone at court in short notice straight away, with a court order and choose to bring them in with force= s.w.a.t team.
If they don't agree they cheats also. I would have been said sumtin
Attempting to scare them straight wasn't a bad move. In my opinion, it just showed OP how irredeemable they were. If it had succeeded in ending the affair, another chance, albeit with a lot of trust to rebuild, can be given. The results OP had gotten would have had a similar ending from me...I just don't know how I would have handled it besides divorce and letting the other victim know the ordeal. I can have a vindictive side when I think about it.
I dont see why the majority of the world applys "at fault" laws, it kinds fucks over the person thats been cheated on.
He didn’t string his cousin in law around. For a month he collected evidence. Anyone who thinks he should have told the wife with just text messages and no actual proof is ridiculous .
He didn’t string along his cousin’s wife. He just didn’t provide her the information immediately. It was his to share and did so in his time.
I think OP did it the right way for him. He did try to stop the affair at the start, rather than just confronting his wife. Telling Vanessa in the end was the best move as her public reveal was the best possible move, as in public with all that evidence, they couldn't talk their way out of it. AND OP's wife's reaction of being angry at Vanessa shows her true character, again, in front of everyone. So they couldn't lie about how it went down later.
If you really want someone else, leave the person you are with first. Or as someone is sure to say, become poly. I am not a fan of that if any kids are involved.
What you do, is make a good plan, then carry it out.
I don't care how much you love someone if you're stupid enough not to sign a prenup you deserve to lose everything you have
The ending was hilarious 😂😂😂
If I was him and couldn't do it I would have told the wife sooner
Sounds like she wound up being ok w it. That's just a tough situation to be in...
OP could not predict Vanessa's reaction. She might have already known, and if not might have gone off on them and made it harder for OP to secure the evidence he might have needed for divorce court. I would have waited too until I had things lined up and then informed her.
Karma seved well.
OP...FABULOUS PAYBACK!!
The OP is no better than his wife and cousin.
Think he handled it well. Would not have had the patience to hold it in as he did though
op should have went to a lawyer and just make do everything and ghosted her
The conclusion I came to here is Bro shoulda Ben left this marriage
Took him long enough to decide
Op is spineless, Vanessa rules
Change the locks on your doors dude that's the first thing you need to do
No, changing any joint financial accounts is first.
Weird he puts himself through a month of a PI following them. And he just doesn’t end it. And file for divorce. So he sends them pictures without a blackmail message. I hope he changed his password because with his all his actions he outed himself. So he plays a game she plays a game. They deserve each other.For goodness sake just hand over the divorce papers and pull the bandage off and dump her. He acts like a woman. Oh he will leave her and things will go back to normal. Until the next person he finds attractive comes along.
The audacity how are you going to have Affair with her husband and try to step to her in her house And you know she's stronger than you.
If Vanessa is over as far as the secret he hailed, then people shouldn't be mad. It's none of your busiyes Terry. He told a story get over it if you're mad about how he did it
If I was the OP, and this happened with me, I would have made Venessa bring in even a bigger crowd, and especially call people from Work. Name and shame the cheaters so bad that they forget to even how to have sex.
30 minutes to tell 10 minute story!
Nice tale
This title alone put a smile on my face.😈... My friends idiot son was married to a Drill Sergeant who had a particularly nasty reputation for having an explosive temper even among the other Drill Sergeants. Normally she was a delightful woman but you did NOT test her patience. Me and my friend caught his idiot son making out with one of her new recruits at an outdoor cafe. So I quickly snapped a picture while my friend called his wife and told her what we saw. She got there very quick. Was kinda surprised the moron didn't notice the sound of the tires screeching just across the street from where he was. We showed her the picture and to pointed where he was. Then we watched as she gave them the biggest and loudest chewing out and public shaming of their lives in full view of everyone in the vicinity with smiles on our faces. My friend recorded it to play it back to their whole family during a gathering that was happening the next day.😈
(edit) 🤣 it ended as well as I thought it would.
You say "Let's talk about it" but there are ZERO super likes or comments from you. Dont you at least have employees to do that kind of thing for you?
I view OP as a coward cause that is what his is
Cowards stay married.
Ohh, I'm a strong woman and so would have hooked up with my cousin's wife to plot out the ultimate revenge. If I had been in the equation I would have made sure parents, grandparents, bosses and coworkers were there. We would have had so much dirt on them that they would be lucky to have a cardboard box to call home.
Just ask the last person who cheated on me. They still have nightmares well over twenty years later about the day I let the cat out of the bag.
No I think if OP cousin in law knew for longer she would have been destroyed. OP gatherered the info which helped Vanessa in the long run. I've never understood how anyone cheating thought to be ok?😮
I probably would have her right away but he was scared ant thought he could fix things but it back fired .
Oh my god somebody's hair was on fire and people just stood there. Maybe she wasn't the best person in the world but how could you just stand there while somebody's on fire?
I say good job...same thing happened to me but I found out years later he was set up by then it was too late I had moved on sigh I don't understand how people can be so evil...😔😔😔
First and last video. I had to hear the story, but dude, that fucking voice..
In this story the first one how could you put up with your wife cheating for that long. And just take it. Fake 😢
If that had been me they both would have been dead and I would be in jail
Op1 is a very weak simp
Nta. The worst op could have done, he didn't do. As for vanessa, qll i can hear is the song that's my girl playing in my head
I love the part where OP scared them to death😂😂😂
Up and disappeared ? can't but want OP to UPDATE 5 a gloat how, like in song "The Night The Lights Went Out In Georga", how.... "they won't find her"....
Some situations are better handled with finesse and some by a woman scorn thumbs up five times lol
Why is the focus so much on how he went about it why not about the two cheaters
I think the guy is a little bit of a coward when it comes to perseverance and standing up for himself. He should have approached the other woman that was being cheated on by George and talk to her about it and say you know what I'm not good at this confrontation and I'll be violent I don't know what to do. But she was strung along. And it wasn't cool but other than that both of these people were the victim of cheaters
Does dude always talk like this?
Would I have handled the situation differently? Yes. Do I think OP was wrong with the way he handled it? Well... I think he should've contacted Vanessa WAY sooner than he did. Sure, OP was sure he'd mess something up, and allowing another person to do what needs to be done in that case IS understandable. Not all of us have what it takes to do what's right in a situation like this. Some get more stressed than others. However, Vanessa didn't deserve to be left in the dark.
I will be fair, however, and it's possible that OP may have forgotten about Vanessa. As for Jane losing her hair, she didn't deserve it, but I'm willing to bet that part was unintentional.
Not pri ve. It’s privy
Simp!!!!!😩😩
Can someone please tell me what op means I feel slow lol
Simp.