Jess, your videos are awesome, especially for those people who are going through the schema therapy or just getting acquainted with its concepts. And it is so nice of you, as a therapist, to open up with your past issues and use it as an example and explain what would be a healthy way of managing the problem with the approach of schema therapy, well done. And yes, if you add a few more examples like these (this one was already an excellent one), it would help to understand and remind yourself what you should do to redirect yourself to a healthy pattern of thinking. I already did the biggest part of schema therapy with my therapist for over half a year and found it the most effective, which changed my life towards the good and helped me to become myself (we used it to cure my sociophobia). And your videos and materials are a great support to keep oneself on track. Keep on going! Greetings from Germany :)
Watching this on my lunch break at work on 3hrs sleep because I felt too guilty to cancel on my clients. Also came from a childhood with a single mother working very hard to make ends meet. Resonated with this so much! I did actually consider calling in sick depending on how tired I was when I woke up, but felt OK in the morning. My healthy adult shone through and said that the decision should be my own and I decided to go to work. :)
I just wanted to say a big thank you for sharing the insights of your fibromyalgia. I have ME/CFS and have historically been a quite a sensitive person and a hard worker/ perfectionist. Your video really came at the right time. The more my condition progresses, the more I’m having to face my vulnerable child and learn new coping mechanisms other than achieving or avoiding. Your own experiences really helped me understand myself better and possibly the unhealthy reactions I may be receiving from other people. The tools are exactly what I need right now and I’ll look into learning these Thanks so much
Great vid Jess. So nice to hear vulnerability from you - it’s a great example too..!! Take care - good to know you will take a sick day (or mental health day) when you need..!
Very helpful. It’s a problem that I have myself, only not with a punitive parent. More like a parent that doesn’t see mee, so I need to do all kinds of things just to feel I am living. Doing nothing, home alone will make me literally feel like I disappear.
The examples are fantastic help :) Would so appreciate more ways of how that negotiation table looks like... From an IFST perspective, there are no "bad" parts... just Parts that lost their way and are stuck in an unhealthy rote. Approaching them with the Kind Firmness of the Healthy Adult is what I'm fascinated by.
Great video. There doesn’t seem to be much content on TH-cam about keeping your healthy adult at the forefront of our being. You should definitely do more videos about it 😊
I've just started schema mode therapy and nothing has ever made more sense to me. I feel hopeful for the first time that I'm going to overcome my eating disorder. I love all of your videos and must admit my perfectionist overcompensator is urging me to take copious notes, driving even when I'm in threat level zone rather than self soothing. But I'm learning. Your videos and resources are changing my life. Thank you. Ideas for healthy adult dialogue walkthrough: eating disorders and oversharing our vulnerabilities. I also have fibro so thanks for sharing that. I have this conversation several times a day.
Thank you so much. I really appreciated you walking through the thoughts/emotions/modes with a real life example. I have a request, could you walk through a fear of abandonment example and how that plays out depending on the coping style (avoidant, overcompensator, surrender). Thank you for these videos! Warm wishes!
I always enjoy your videos and the way you explain things with personal stories and humour👍I was introduced to schema therapy along with ERP to help with my anxiety, my therapist found I had the abuse and mistrust schemas, which resulted in avoidant protector and the perfectionistic modes, I think schema therapy is very effective but unfortunately my therapist in Orange NSW left I'm looking forward to checking out your schema handbook and im glad i found your channel a while ago, keep up the good work 😉
This is really useful Jess. Always appreciate the videos from you and Al which I have found so helpful. Thanks for sharing your own personal example, I would definitely be keen to see a few more scenarios.
Resonates - helps me a lot for myself and also parenting my daughter trying to prevent passing unhelpful patterns to her. Trying to be a cycle breaker :)
Examples are always very welcome! I think you actually have just a TH-cam channel where you just provide examples and analyse them using schema terapy :)
I really appreciate your videos. so definitely keep going. 👏 I have a question? I only see two unhealthy adults in schema therapy. the punishing and the demanding. there must be more, e.g. cold-hearted adult, the belittling, irritated and many more. where do they fit in?
In the schema therapy model that I learned in therapy there is actually a third one, called the "guilt inducing parent" (not sure if this is the correct term, I translated it from Dutch). Not exactly sure if what you mentioned falls under this mode though, I think this mode is kind of vague to me. But belittling for example could also fall under the punitive parent maybe?
This was so very helpful. When doing the worksheet with a client, is it necessary that they understand all the modes and theory or can it be a learn as you go sort of thing?
Can you do one with a detached protector, please? I've found that the detached protector and the healthy adult often sound very similar in my head because both use logic and rationality as tools (but the former does that not to feel any negative feelings). I'd really appreciate that :)
@@thePSYCHcollective Thank you for the answer. Yeah, I've seen that video twice, actually, and I've referenced it in my last session with my schema therapist. It's been really helpful and source of a lot of insight on how my detached protector has been hindering my growth
Jess, your videos are awesome, especially for those people who are going through the schema therapy or just getting acquainted with its concepts. And it is so nice of you, as a therapist, to open up with your past issues and use it as an example and explain what would be a healthy way of managing the problem with the approach of schema therapy, well done. And yes, if you add a few more examples like these (this one was already an excellent one), it would help to understand and remind yourself what you should do to redirect yourself to a healthy pattern of thinking.
I already did the biggest part of schema therapy with my therapist for over half a year and found it the most effective, which changed my life towards the good and helped me to become myself (we used it to cure my sociophobia). And your videos and materials are a great support to keep oneself on track. Keep on going! Greetings from Germany :)
Watching this on my lunch break at work on 3hrs sleep because I felt too guilty to cancel on my clients. Also came from a childhood with a single mother working very hard to make ends meet. Resonated with this so much! I did actually consider calling in sick depending on how tired I was when I woke up, but felt OK in the morning. My healthy adult shone through and said that the decision should be my own and I decided to go to work. :)
I just wanted to say a big thank you for sharing the insights of your fibromyalgia. I have ME/CFS and have historically been a quite a sensitive person and a hard worker/ perfectionist. Your video really came at the right time. The more my condition progresses, the more I’m having to face my vulnerable child and learn new coping mechanisms other than achieving or avoiding.
Your own experiences really helped me understand myself better and possibly the unhealthy reactions I may be receiving from other people. The tools are exactly what I need right now and I’ll look into learning these
Thanks so much
Great vid Jess. So nice to hear vulnerability from you - it’s a great example too..!! Take care - good to know you will take a sick day (or mental health day) when you need..!
Very helpful. It’s a problem that I have myself, only not with a punitive parent. More like a parent that doesn’t see mee, so I need to do all kinds of things just to feel I am living. Doing nothing, home alone will make me literally feel like I disappear.
Yes please !
Love the way you explain things!
Thank you so much for putting your knowledge and experience out here for us.
Please keep up the good work. :)
You’re incredible, thank you so much for sharing your story while explaining things so clearly and efficiently!!! As a therapist this helps so much!
Nice to see part 2! We are a big fan of you on r/SchemaTherapy. Your videos are very helpful!
The examples are fantastic help :) Would so appreciate more ways of how that negotiation table looks like...
From an IFST perspective, there are no "bad" parts... just Parts that lost their way and are stuck in an unhealthy rote. Approaching them with the Kind Firmness of the Healthy Adult is what I'm fascinated by.
This is great. Please do more of these. Makes it easy to understand and apply in real life
Thanks so much for sharing this example. It was very VERY helpful. 😊
Awesome! Yes please more examples :)
Great video. There doesn’t seem to be much content on TH-cam about keeping your healthy adult at the forefront of our being. You should definitely do more videos about it 😊
I've just started schema mode therapy and nothing has ever made more sense to me. I feel hopeful for the first time that I'm going to overcome my eating disorder. I love all of your videos and must admit my perfectionist overcompensator is urging me to take copious notes, driving even when I'm in threat level zone rather than self soothing. But I'm learning. Your videos and resources are changing my life. Thank you. Ideas for healthy adult dialogue walkthrough: eating disorders and oversharing our vulnerabilities. I also have fibro so thanks for sharing that. I have this conversation several times a day.
That’s great to hear. If you get the workbook, you won’t need to take notes.
@@thePSYCHcollective Already have it and refer to it several times a day at the moment! :)
That’s awesome
So, so helpful!!!
Thank you so much. I really appreciated you walking through the thoughts/emotions/modes with a real life example. I have a request, could you walk through a fear of abandonment example and how that plays out depending on the coping style (avoidant, overcompensator, surrender). Thank you for these videos! Warm wishes!
Just discovered your videos the other day and I am hooked! Love that you're aussie too :) Looking forward to delving more into your videos
Thank you. Always applicable and realistic.
This helps so much! ❤️ grateful if you can make more videos like this ❤
Oh this video resonates so deeply! I can relate to you Jess. Work in progress here too. Yes, more videos would be great! Love you work 💜
This is *exactly* what I need
Thank you for the personal example.
I would love you to do some videos with examples of how you work with these issues in the therapy work.
Super helpful Jess ! Thank you
You’re welcome!
I always enjoy your videos and the way you explain things with personal stories and humour👍I was introduced to schema therapy along with ERP to help with my anxiety, my therapist found I had the abuse and mistrust schemas, which resulted in avoidant protector and the perfectionistic modes, I think schema therapy is very effective but unfortunately my therapist in Orange NSW left I'm looking forward to checking out your schema handbook and im glad i found your channel a while ago, keep up the good work 😉
This is really useful Jess. Always appreciate the videos from you and Al which I have found so helpful. Thanks for sharing your own personal example, I would definitely be keen to see a few more scenarios.
You're so welcome!
Love this, helps it make sense. Please do more 🙏 ☺️
Resonates - helps me a lot for myself and also parenting my daughter trying to prevent passing unhelpful patterns to her. Trying to be a cycle breaker :)
Such a great video ❤ more examples videos would be awesome
Serious mode on display thanks for sharing this. Very helpful
Examples are always very welcome! I think you actually have just a TH-cam channel where you just provide examples and analyse them using schema terapy :)
The monitor btw looks better but it is too small
Great scenario. More please!
please do more such videos! And more examples!
I really appreciate your videos. so definitely keep going. 👏
I have a question? I only see two unhealthy adults in schema therapy. the punishing and the demanding. there must be more, e.g. cold-hearted adult, the belittling, irritated and many more. where do they fit in?
In the schema therapy model that I learned in therapy there is actually a third one, called the "guilt inducing parent" (not sure if this is the correct term, I translated it from Dutch). Not exactly sure if what you mentioned falls under this mode though, I think this mode is kind of vague to me. But belittling for example could also fall under the punitive parent maybe?
Would love some examples of how you work with these issues in your therapy work
This was so very helpful. When doing the worksheet with a client, is it necessary that they understand all the modes and theory or can it be a learn as you go sort of thing?
I ask all my schema patients to watch the overview video a few times so they become familiar with the language and then we fine tune as we go.
Please do one with detach mode and demanding parent 😊❤
Can you do one with a detached protector, please? I've found that the detached protector and the healthy adult often sound very similar in my head because both use logic and rationality as tools (but the former does that not to feel any negative feelings). I'd really appreciate that :)
We will do some more videos in the new year. In the meantime, have you seen this th-cam.com/video/cMMU3i8iykw/w-d-xo.html
@@thePSYCHcollective Thank you for the answer. Yeah, I've seen that video twice, actually, and I've referenced it in my last session with my schema therapist. It's been really helpful and source of a lot of insight on how my detached protector has been hindering my growth