Had a question. You said attachment is unnecessary but can you say you truly love somebody without being attached to them? Can a child feel the connection to his parents without being attached?
@@animenmusic16 Great question! In my view you can love someone deeply and show compassion, but learning detachment is challenging because it’s part of being human. While it may not be what everyone wants to hear I believe that keeping the end in mind allows us to live more meaningfully. It’s not about stopping love but rather about being at peace with letting go-leaving the world and the people in it to follow their own paths, without clinging or control.
@@kristinethevideo but does attachment mean always to control? Do you believe that your view on this might change in the future in order to keep growing as a person and seek the truth a/c to you at the end or is this your final view limit?
TH-cam is really weird, yesterday I was just watching a programming tutorial and now I am listening to a woman about her opinions in life and being captivated by her
Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍 James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” Repent of your sins to God, my friend! ❤😊
i ABSOLUTELY ADORE this video. it gave me some consolation in this dark, scary world. "we come alone and leave alone" is something I needed to hear. Death constantly haunts me, and what scares me more is having to do it alone. be it myself or family. the fact that death is something so inherently unknown to us, and it is yet something all of us are forced to go through. Life is beautiful, and I'm extremely grateful to God that I was given a chance to even take a single breath and experience living. all in all, I love this video and hope you continue.
What if I create a tulpa(for anyone unfamiliar - a fully conscious thoughtform very similar to an imaginary friend)? Will that count as not leaving alone?
@@thwartificer I wouldn't recommend it good chance you'll be inviting something very dark into your life, that's just my view as a Christian, and it's also what God would tell you. Anything spiritual that is outside of God's divine authority that you conjure up, it's probably gonna backfire really, really badly.
That was absolutely breathtaking, truly a breath of realism blown in my face. I find myself often realizing what my lotus is, telling myself I will water it later. Only to realize my lotus is the very essence of "later". Waiting to take action on things I know I need to do now. Thank you for your words I will do my best to carry them forward with me every second from now to grow my lotus into a tree.
Quite possibly one of the most human videos I’ve seen in a while. Thank you for sharing and creating community in this warm corner of the internet. Have a good one :)
This is probably one of the best simple videos ive ever come across. Glad to see this format making a return and this is one really good advice and a healthy outlook to have in life
Wow everything you said is so true, feels like this is just for me. Especially when you said: "Unlearning is difficult, but it's essential for growth." My mind blew up. Its hard, and going through that time was rough, still going through it but way better, and I've genuinely became so much more knowledgeable about the world around me.
idk who you are, but the youtube algorithm working in your favor lol. thank you for this message, being courageous enough to shed old beliefs and sharing your growth progress with the world to learn from. it’s people like you that are a beacon of light and inspire hope for others to learn from. congrats on your journey! 🎉🫂
These are the lessons i've learned from 25 to 29 in my self love journey after a 7 year relationship ended. I also have a tattoo of the lotus flower that blossomed from the mud I went through. The newest lesson i've learend is that, Sacrifice can lead to Love or Suffering and Joy is what sets them apart.
There are many takeaways in this video. Every perspective inspires me a lot. As someone said, when you look back at this video in retrospect in the future, you must feel proud and your higher self feels a sense of accomplishment.
This is really , like ur talk was magnetic and before i could have a thought i JUST STUNTED BY THE POINTS U DESCRIBED IN THE WHOLE VIDEO, AND yes “THE ONLY THING WHICH DOESNT CHANGE, IS CHANGE ITSELF””
I really appreciate that you took the time to create and share this! It really resonated with me! I've realized very similar things about life lately, and am happy that others are also on the same path. I would rather work hard and endure the pain of letting go of bad habits or admitting and fixing my flaws for example, than endure a pain caused by refusing to change, and live out the rest of my life letting the struggles I've always dealt with continue to increasingly negatively impact my life. It can be even harder when the things keeping us from progressing weren't our faults, yet it is our responsibility to fix the damage. That could be another example of a perspective I held onto for so long because I felt wronged and it felt unfair, but was actually a very unhelpful way to view my situation, it kept me in a negative headspace when trying to resolve it. I'm starting to see it in a different way now, I want to make sure that I as a person have a good foundation as I advance through life. I want to create a meaningful, comfortable, and expressive life for myself, and I believe that's worth the brief uncomfortableness of how life feels right now. In fact stepping outside of my old "comfort zones" has actually been really fun and encouraging!! Ahhhh haha I'm probably just yapping at this point, but I hope i made some sense! :)
I love this!! I think it's a great thing to normalize reflecting on how our views change and the reasons for that change. Too often people get stuck into the idea that you form a belief/opinion and that's it. You stick with it and it never changes and it should never change. However, for most beliefs this isn't how things happen generally. Thank you for sharing your changes with us!!
Hey. I wanted to tell you that this video has hit me with particular importance. I'm living a particular time of my life and I rarely encounter someone that shares the same perspective on things as I do. This video made me cry, completely wetting my face already from the few lines, because you've basically said everything I needed to hear and that I probably wouldn't have found elsewhere if not from inside me. Thanks for making me resonate with you for 3 minutes.
I'm very grateful to have come across this video. Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I'm very thankful that you used your freedom of speech on this kind of thing. Luv u, girlie.
Timestamp of... What she believes, and something that I've realized, thanks to her :) 0:26 She no longer believes in certain ideas that keep her in unhealthy patterns 0:39 ''I no longer believe in talking poorly about your previous partner''
literally needed to hear this. a high schooler here who recently dropped a hard AP class, and felt guilty due to the competitive culture and my surroundings. I also personally have extremely high standards for myself. Its fine though. The stress was not worth it for my friends, or peers, or even colleges, to think that little extra bit more highly of me. It'll work out, and I'll still stay ambitious while loving myself. Hope that whatever else everyone else is going through will be alright. Just as she said, its temporary. You're temporary. So enjoy life as it passes, not after it has passed. YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN YOUR LIFE - JUST KNOW THAT LIKE I LEARNED RECENTLY.
I love this video. My journey is quite the opposite of yours. I no longer believe in doing everything by myself, in only depending on myself. I want to depend on other people. I want attachment. "We are born alone and we die alone" has been ingrained in me since I was a girl because my parents wanted me to be independent. There were times when I needed them but it felt like they were only focused on making sure I was okay being without them. They were trying to survive. They were working. I've connected the dots for why I'm like this and now I want to fix it. It's so easy for me to detach and leave but it's not always a good thing because you end up hurting people along the way.
You are say the same things I’ve learned over the last year. I love the messages you’re putting out here because this is the kind of mentality we all need to have. I’m proud of you and I thank you for inspiring me.
This is so true and it stems from buddhist and hindu philosophy tbh, i remember that everything here is temporary whenever i read the sutras and books like bg, thanks for this video on detachment
The belief in a Creator summarises all the truths she mentioned in her video, as it leaves you with a mindset free from materialistic thinking and clinging to problems and bitterness. I'd add the Quran as an example.
@@thyroft6448 yeah, that works as well, most religious and philosophical concepts always work towards removing oneself from materialism and hedonism tbf
@@pioneer7855 It is not the matter of agreeing that all religions supports this idea, it is on if it speaks the TRUTH. The GENUINE truth. And I wonder, you did not bring on the fact that the other person was "trying to proselytize" after they recommended the Quran. Why are you on a defeat mode with the Bible? I simply asked a question and your instinct interpreted thus. Why?
i loved your previous video and now this one, the ambience, the lighting, the music and your voice. it's all so perfect and the way you articulate yourself/words is incredibly moving, thank you for sharing this ! :) im glad youtube recommended me your previous video & now this one
This video nigh on moved me to tears. I was unhealthily attached to an ex-partner for almost a decade. I could never forgive myself for the useless and selfish behavior (excessive escapism, victim-mentality, need for control) that led to our breakup, even though we were both young, and stupid, and there is likely some trauma in my past. I always thought I could - and should - right these wrongs one day, even though the only person still even thinking about them was me... me and no one else. I was always thinking "I met her too early, I wasn't ready." I idolized her and originally thought we would be friends forever, but last year, I finally bade goodbye. She was barely keeping in touch, forgetting our arrangements, never reaching out, and my heart was growing sad and bitter, and twisting into something I didn't like. I then, probably having grown addicted to pain and being in a state of longing, fell for another woman right away. She was too young, and too scared of love. For every day she happily spent with me, there were weeks or months of unwarranted coldness and outright ghosting. For every moment of truth and trust, there were months of fear and silence. I tried to communicate, and she tried to avoid anything remotely uncomfortable. I was always thinking "I met her too early, she isn't ready." I thought I could stick it out and make her come out of her shell... I promised, even, that I would stay, causing her to cry tears of happiness... but it eventually destroyed me. I had to leave, it was tearing me apart. Guilt has been, and is, such an overwhelming part of me. I always think about how - and where - I should have done better. How I should have let go sooner, or how I should have stayed no matter what. About how I made promises, and then failed to keep them, and just how irresponsible that is. I confess: Some nights, I feel irredeemable. Too sad, and too messed up, and too removed from reality - too much work for any reasonable person. I know I have good qualities, too. I have kind friends. I have treasured responsibilities. I will even seem like a functioning individual to most. But secretly, there is so much baggage and such a messed-up heart, too. This world sometimes seems so intent on choosing the successful, the optimized, the easy-going, the no-less-than-perfect, that I feel like, would I ever fully open my heart to anyone again, they would flee from the mere sight of it. But... you know what? Maybe not. There is more after all. I am no longer a seedling, I am a tree, ever growing. I have kept learning, even if some lessons took years. Everyone grows at their own pace. Long as they grow, that's fine. Wanting healthy bonds is normal, and making a bond work takes two commited people, not one superhuman. So does good communication. Breaking one promise to the wrong person is worth it if it means I can keep it with the right person down the line. I also have a right to be on the receiving end of promises. Attachment is okay, so long as you are strong enough to move past it when it starts harming you. I know that now. From ten years of misguided attachment to only one year of it - that is a massive leap. Next time, it will be even less. I wouldn't be who I am now without my suffering. I wouldn't be where I am now if I didn't regret my mistakes. If didn't try to do better, be stronger, be more forgiving, more empathetic, than I once was. Some people will be blind to how much of a gift it is. That doesn't make it worthless. Some people will not now how to work with it. That doesn't make it useless. Yes. Maybe I /did/ meet everyone at the right time. And maybe, if I keep working on myself and on healing myself up, I /will/ find love when the time is right. I guess I can endure a fair bit more mud-sloshing to find the Lotus I am looking for. And I'll take pride in growing ever stronger legs along the way. Thank you.
Good to know I'm not alone in these thoughts. I've accepted all of these things and it has brought me a lot of peace. I'm not phased by anything anymore.
honestly, i already have the same mindset as yours, and i dont really struggle with these type of stuff anymore, but im still glad i saw this video 😊it just assured me that im on the right path
w video, only one thing for me, the possibility of having that attachment is what's keeping me here, and I'm more than willing to change with that one person, everything else was so nice, thank you for uploading this
“You need to be whole and love yourself before letting anyone else in. Invest in yourself to attract te same”. This is simultaneously so true and also not true. The reason my previous relationship ended was because I couldn’t become the person and partner I wanted to be. On the other hand, I wouldn’t be the person I am today if it wasn’t for the support I got in that relationship. Becoming the person you want to be is such a long and complicated process, but it would never happen if it wasn’t for the love of other people.
You need to be whole and love yourself before letting anyone else .. Because if you always depend your problems on people,they would feel drained by you if you also don't take responsibilities to care for yourself
These are the lessons I’m trying to learn. After the woman I loved left me, without an explanation. A situation ship we had. I tried to make it work but things just didn’t work out. I can blame her for not trying but I realised it’s me who needed the work it’s me who have to learn to love myself. To focus on what I can control. To keep myself whole before finding another person and stop being anxious. It was so painful being thrown away like that. It really hurts, but I take it with grace and love. Life gave me a lesson that I needed to learn so I can become a better person. Hopefully a loving person once again.
Amazing on your part, I'm sorry to hear you've been hurting. It's admirable that you have taken this hurt and are learning from it. I'm wishing you the best with your healing and learning
Thank you for sharing this, it truly is beautiful. The way you word things, and I’ve also learned the same lessons you’re saying. Shedding your old-self allows for new growth and opportunities to come. I no longer hold onto things that don’t serve me. I’ve learned not to be bitter from old situations, nor talk badly about people who have been disrespectful from the past. Change is so difficult, like you said near the end. But I’ve grown fond of change. Thanks for sharing! :)
Yes! Totally agree and love that you're aware of it and intentional about how you live. And, reminder to also not be attached to these things you no longer believe in, because it's okay if one day you believe in them again though it may be brief❤
You know what’s so beautiful about life when you’re an intellectual that’s constantly challenging your bias? In 10yrs even these beliefs will change. ❤
some of these lessons i've learned (or unlearned) already, some of these i still have yet to learn. thanks for the wisdom drop, and i also just wanted to say that you have a beautiful smile :)
I find your voice very soothing. I think your voice is something someone might sleep to. Love your vid. The vibe and the thoughts you gave, its very very nice.:)))
Know that you help others by these kind of videos. It gives perspective and food for thought in a world where WE are scrambling to find fulfillment and purpose. Keep at it ya mentor ! x
Interesting to note that her first three points are direct Christian teachings: - Forgiveness - Trusting the Lord/logos - Not being attached to earthly things The last 2 points talking about love and partners again, I think people spend too much time thinking about relationships.
this was nice ,kinda help me let go of some anxiety , when you said 'we come in this world alone and leave alone' i couldnt help but disagree only in the sense that i am Christian and i believe and for anyone who needs a reminder that God is with us through all stages of life even when we feel he is 100s of miles away , the lords favor is always on us as along as we allow so remember when you actually do feel as if you are always alone , there is someone always just a prayer away that can lift the rest of the anxiety that you face. i hope everyone that is struggling with the feeling of loneliness can remember that Gods presence is everywhere, always he is the creator after all , everything you see has ultimately been crafted by the creator. when you are a lone pull up a seat for his son to join you , before you eat thank the lord that you have food and when you sleep and wake up (personally) i like to let him know , hey thanks for waking me up this morning :) it helps knowing that God is the provider of your life therefore always present in your life and he always makes time for you: :) if you do not know Jesus, the first step is actually hearing about him and anyone who is unsure needs to know that knowing jesus should not stir anxiety or the feeling of not being good enough cuz after all he died for our sins he didnt die for the ones who were "already clean" because no one is without sin. Christianity isnt about perfection its about purpose. loving others , loving yourself and loving God because he gives you the tools to live a new way of life.
i love getting to see someone being so reflective! My favorite point of yours was number 2. Being a doomer gets you nowhere. tie your shoes and get moving! When you mentioned 'attachments,' i wanted to instead invite you to frame it like expectations. Sometimes we talk about attachment like it’s a mistake to care deeply or invest in someone, but that framing takes away from our own role in managing expectations. Instead of seeing it as an 'attachment,' maybe it’s worth reflecting on the expectations we set and whether they were appropriate or clearly communicated. We have the agency to ask for more clarity and manage those expectations in real time. I also tend to think it's less about lowering expectations, and more so being prepared and able to process your emotions faster and healthier. By reflecting on where we had control versus what was out of our hands, it can lead to deeper self-responsibility and, ultimately, more peace. Just a thought to consider as you continue your journey. Excited for who you'll become!
I just discovered this channel last night, your content is really amazing it really helped me mentally and emotionally im really thankful and grateful to you.
hi kristine, i totally love your outlook on life and what it means to you. i’m so happy i came across ur video and what totally changed me is when u mentioned not speaking ill of ur past partner bc that’s only reinforcing more mixed emotions and dwelling on what could’ve been done or what has already happened instead of simply letting it go into the past. hope ur doing well and have a goodnight!
Do you live alone? What circumstances made you recognize these thoughts and go onto the self-improvement path? Sorry if that first question was uncomforting but I always figured you can get to the answers faster when you're not distracted. Glad I came across this TH-cam channel.
A breakup is easier than suffering the loss of a person you loved but ultimately had to let go because there is nothing to cope or give reasons to validate ourselves,just pure guilt.
I’m very glad you made this video. Thank you so much and I’m happy I found it tonight. I needed it… well, I definitely found it useful and with great timing for me :)
I wouldn't mind if this kind of content becomes the new standard of modern media art, this is really aesthetically pleasing, the framing, background music, why does it blend so well lol
Lot of people think the same way probably. It’s the works you put in and how dedicated you are to your own words. Respect yourself and don’t lie to yourself, keep working and make sure you set your boundaries before you put in the work. Know why you do it before you put in the work. An house build on sand is easily destroyed, but an house build on solid ground stands strong. Keep it up G’s💯
I remember my Thích Nhất Hạnh phase, but then I saw the great teacher stone cold dead on a live stream one day, and the stark brutal reality of death came running back. Christ is risen. Lord have mercy. God bless you.
I don't agree with everything said in this video but I can appreciate some of the thoughts. I like to think in life that when we go through these painful experiences, its equivalent to running enough red lights that eventually we get pulled over. It's like life saying, you've had this unhealthy behaviour for long enough, now its time to pay the price a little. That's not to say we deserve when bad things happen to us, I think the cruelest lessons are the ones that didn't have to happen, and yet they did. I do also think, as sad as it is, these experiences make us better versions of ourselves. I used to people a people pleaser and now I feel more than comfortable telling people to fuck off. I think those around me actually appreciate this more genuine version of myself that stands up for what I believe in and others I care about, rather than just saying what I think people will want to hear. It also helps that I was able to move away from home completely and essentially start a new life in a new city. I feel so at peace now and I wonder if I would have had the strength to do this move without the world ending misery that I experienced beforehand. After going through the start of 2024, I don't feel anything in my life will be harder to overcome.
happy for you, environment can play such a big role in our mental wellbeing and growth. it's amazing you've learned to become a better version of yourself through, (what it sounds like), hardship.
This video looks like one of a movie scenes where the protagonist records herself in laptop camera talking some deep shit. Before the movie turns into most traumatic suspense thriller.
I like the attachment part because recently I've been letting go of everything (including myself) and holding on to the next life and my calling that comes from it. Thanks for the positive energy
Thank you, i just really needed this when im really thinking about my ex. Hard passing the time knowing that she doing better without me. Finding yourself and being the one that someone wants to find
I got busy so I didn't listen to anything except the last part when you said its hard to unlearn but its worth it. I pressed subscribe as I'm in the unlearning phase and its indeed hard. Thanks and all the best
Absolutely beautiful. A lot of Buddhist philosophy in regards to how change is the only constant and that attachment is the root of suffering, i really enjoyed this :)
What's sad though about letting go of external factors to focus on the self is that those external factors will try to drag you down if they think your personal journey contradicts with their social expectations. If you're just trying to lose weight or learn a new hobby it's often got reinforcement but if it contradicts predetermined roles for sociopolitical reasons then it's gonna be a long time to remove all that mud. I learned that the hard way.
I LOVE THIS!!! I could imagine meeting with you and discussing those revelations for hours!!! It's amazing how different people can come to the same conclussions. Sending nothing if not love your way.
For the past couple of weeks, I was conflicted. Something, a feeling, ignited in me. Which is a lie I told myself. I was a suppressing a feeling which I had managed to fool myself by telling it doesn't exist anymore, but it did. And it hurt, even when I wasn't aware of it. Your reminder of life being transient was very, very necessary for me to realise what I need to do let go. Well, I'm still in the process so can't really say that I'll be successful but, I gotta give it a shot. Thank you for making all of us realise that we need to be whole before we let somebody else in. We shouldn't hold onto feelings and memories which can harm and alienate us, just for the sake of familiarity or nostalgic pleasure. We deserve better. We should love ourselves a little more. Great video.
1:22 typo: instead of “a necessary” read as “unnecessary”
You smart, you sophisticated, you... get it
Believe in Jesus Christ not the Antichrist (666)!
Had a question. You said attachment is unnecessary but can you say you truly love somebody without being attached to them? Can a child feel the connection to his parents without being attached?
are you a vietnamese by any chance?
@@animenmusic16 Great question! In my view you can love someone deeply and show compassion, but learning detachment is challenging because it’s part of being human. While it may not be what everyone wants to hear I believe that keeping the end in mind allows us to live more meaningfully. It’s not about stopping love but rather about being at peace with letting go-leaving the world and the people in it to follow their own paths, without clinging or control.
@@kristinethevideo but does attachment mean always to control? Do you believe that your view on this might change in the future in order to keep growing as a person and seek the truth a/c to you at the end or is this your final view limit?
TH-cam is really weird, yesterday I was just watching a programming tutorial and now I am listening to a woman about her opinions in life and being captivated by her
bro no way, me too 😂 😂
You're not alone brother😂
bruh fr 🤣 they be recommending outta pocket videos
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us bro us😂😂
This is the kind of media I pay my internet bills for
since no one replied to this one - i will.
Dat part!!!🫰🏾🫰🏾
@@differentone_p thank you! I have never gotten this much like too.
Jesus Christ is coming soon believe in him for salvation to be saved and guaranteed heaven ❤️
From the depth of the self-hating “it’s so over” I’ve pulled myself into the inner-peace of “we’re so back”
Real.
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YES REAL
AHAHAHAH one of the best comments i've ever read
Jesus Christ is coming soon believe in him for salvation to be saved and guaranteed heaven ❤️
mythical fyp pull
Once in a year typa thing
On my soul🙏🙏🙏
Who tf calls the recommended page "fyp"?
@@YehudiNimolpeople who use instagram
@@YehudiNimol Tiktok addicted people
this part of TH-cam feels like a safe place
Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍
James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” Repent of your sins to God, my friend! ❤😊
Legendary 2am algorithm pull. I fw this heavy. Keep making this type of video
My time is 1:50 am HAHAH
I pulled this literally at 4pm am i cooked?
its literally 2AM rn. WTF
3:45 actually
2:20 am bro😎😎
this is how i was when i was trying to be positive after breakup.
😅 when you know, you know…
Me at 2am self talking into the mirror after crying from breakup few days ago be like
Damn yall are lucky someone ever wanted to date you
@@Kiara_kh you'll get there. time will take you there, just wait
Literally lol video is fake af. Happy music. Nothingness phrases and belief changes. All censored.
There's something magical about the way she speaks.
For some weird reason, this video showed up in my recommended when I needed it. Thanks for these wise words.
when you said “in the end you’ll find a way” and smiled that made me smile too ❤ thanks for the video
i ABSOLUTELY ADORE this video. it gave me some consolation in this dark, scary world. "we come alone and leave alone" is something I needed to hear. Death constantly haunts me, and what scares me more is having to do it alone. be it myself or family. the fact that death is something so inherently unknown to us, and it is yet something all of us are forced to go through.
Life is beautiful, and I'm extremely grateful to God that I was given a chance to even take a single breath and experience living.
all in all, I love this video and hope you continue.
We are scared of death because we exist but if you really think about it theres nothing to be scared of once we do not exist.
What if I create a tulpa(for anyone unfamiliar - a fully conscious thoughtform very similar to an imaginary friend)? Will that count as not leaving alone?
@@thwartificer I wouldn't recommend it good chance you'll be inviting something very dark into your life, that's just my view as a Christian, and it's also what God would tell you. Anything spiritual that is outside of God's divine authority that you conjure up, it's probably gonna backfire really, really badly.
@@noxplay4906 Uhh, just to make sure we're on the same wave, do you know what a tulpa is?
That was absolutely breathtaking, truly a breath of realism blown in my face. I find myself often realizing what my lotus is, telling myself I will water it later. Only to realize my lotus is the very essence of "later". Waiting to take action on things I know I need to do now. Thank you for your words I will do my best to carry them forward with me every second from now to grow my lotus into a tree.
Quite possibly one of the most human videos I’ve seen in a while.
Thank you for sharing and creating community in this warm corner of the internet.
Have a good one :)
This is probably one of the best simple videos ive ever come across. Glad to see this format making a return and this is one really good advice and a healthy outlook to have in life
your voice sounds so calming it’s UNREAL. like I’m listening to an old cassette tape it’s so..nostalgic
Wow everything you said is so true, feels like this is just for me. Especially when you said: "Unlearning is difficult, but it's essential for growth." My mind blew up. Its hard, and going through that time was rough, still going through it but way better, and I've genuinely became so much more knowledgeable about the world around me.
idk who you are, but the youtube algorithm working in your favor lol. thank you for this message, being courageous enough to shed old beliefs and sharing your growth progress with the world to learn from. it’s people like you that are a beacon of light and inspire hope for others to learn from.
congrats on your journey! 🎉🫂
These are the lessons i've learned from 25 to 29 in my self love journey after a 7 year relationship ended. I also have a tattoo of the lotus flower that blossomed from the mud I went through. The newest lesson i've learend is that, Sacrifice can lead to Love or Suffering and Joy is what sets them apart.
I don’t understand the last part
I will love myself and create a beautiful life for myself.
Unlearning is difficult but it’s essential for growth.
Living is realizing everything is temporary and in the end you inevitably leave everything.
It's only about the journey and living with Christ.
There are many takeaways in this video. Every perspective inspires me a lot. As someone said, when you look back at this video in retrospect in the future, you must feel proud and your higher self feels a sense of accomplishment.
i love your voice, and your words of course! it felt like a hug. tysm 💗
feels like I just went to the church and the priest gave a wholesome christmas speech
This is really , like ur talk was magnetic and before i could have a thought i JUST STUNTED BY THE POINTS U DESCRIBED IN THE WHOLE VIDEO, AND yes “THE ONLY THING WHICH DOESNT CHANGE, IS CHANGE ITSELF””
This video feels like a message sent on perfect timing, it’s just right
I really appreciate that you took the time to create and share this! It really resonated with me! I've realized very similar things about life lately, and am happy that others are also on the same path. I would rather work hard and endure the pain of letting go of bad habits or admitting and fixing my flaws for example, than endure a pain caused by refusing to change, and live out the rest of my life letting the struggles I've always dealt with continue to increasingly negatively impact my life. It can be even harder when the things keeping us from progressing weren't our faults, yet it is our responsibility to fix the damage. That could be another example of a perspective I held onto for so long because I felt wronged and it felt unfair, but was actually a very unhelpful way to view my situation, it kept me in a negative headspace when trying to resolve it. I'm starting to see it in a different way now, I want to make sure that I as a person have a good foundation as I advance through life. I want to create a meaningful, comfortable, and expressive life for myself, and I believe that's worth the brief uncomfortableness of how life feels right now. In fact stepping outside of my old "comfort zones" has actually been really fun and encouraging!! Ahhhh haha I'm probably just yapping at this point, but I hope i made some sense! :)
It takes someone truly enlightened to live with attachment while knowing that nothing is permanent
I love this!! I think it's a great thing to normalize reflecting on how our views change and the reasons for that change. Too often people get stuck into the idea that you form a belief/opinion and that's it. You stick with it and it never changes and it should never change. However, for most beliefs this isn't how things happen generally. Thank you for sharing your changes with us!!
Hey. I wanted to tell you that this video has hit me with particular importance. I'm living a particular time of my life and I rarely encounter someone that shares the same perspective on things as I do. This video made me cry, completely wetting my face already from the few lines, because you've basically said everything I needed to hear and that I probably wouldn't have found elsewhere if not from inside me. Thanks for making me resonate with you for 3 minutes.
I'm very grateful to have come across this video. Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I'm very thankful that you used your freedom of speech on this kind of thing. Luv u, girlie.
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What she believes, and something that I've realized, thanks to her :)
0:26 She no longer believes in certain ideas that keep her in unhealthy patterns
0:39 ''I no longer believe in talking poorly about your previous partner''
literally needed to hear this. a high schooler here who recently dropped a hard AP class, and felt guilty due to the competitive culture and my surroundings. I also personally have extremely high standards for myself. Its fine though. The stress was not worth it for my friends, or peers, or even colleges, to think that little extra bit more highly of me. It'll work out, and I'll still stay ambitious while loving myself. Hope that whatever else everyone else is going through will be alright. Just as she said, its temporary. You're temporary. So enjoy life as it passes, not after it has passed. YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN YOUR LIFE - JUST KNOW THAT LIKE I LEARNED RECENTLY.
I love this video. My journey is quite the opposite of yours. I no longer believe in doing everything by myself, in only depending on myself. I want to depend on other people. I want attachment. "We are born alone and we die alone" has been ingrained in me since I was a girl because my parents wanted me to be independent. There were times when I needed them but it felt like they were only focused on making sure I was okay being without them. They were trying to survive. They were working. I've connected the dots for why I'm like this and now I want to fix it. It's so easy for me to detach and leave but it's not always a good thing because you end up hurting people along the way.
that's why balance is everything
You are say the same things I’ve learned over the last year. I love the messages you’re putting out here because this is the kind of mentality we all need to have. I’m proud of you and I thank you for inspiring me.
I feel like if I had people like you around i’d feel waaay less lonely.
I really loved every single word that you said
This is so true and it stems from buddhist and hindu philosophy tbh, i remember that everything here is temporary whenever i read the sutras and books like bg, thanks for this video on detachment
The belief in a Creator summarises all the truths she mentioned in her video, as it leaves you with a mindset free from materialistic thinking and clinging to problems and bitterness. I'd add the Quran as an example.
@@thyroft6448 yeah, that works as well, most religious and philosophical concepts always work towards removing oneself from materialism and hedonism tbf
Hmm. How about reading the Bible?
@@Neyduu if you're going to suddenly proselytise me that's not going to work, I've agreed all books can be attributed to this way of thinking
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It is not the matter of agreeing that all religions supports this idea, it is on if it speaks the TRUTH. The GENUINE truth.
And I wonder, you did not bring on the fact that the other person was "trying to proselytize" after they recommended the Quran. Why are you on a defeat mode with the Bible? I simply asked a question and your instinct interpreted thus. Why?
You've embodied the Goddess! We are truly in the Golden Age when it's this simple, and everyone understands it, too. Thank you 💛
i loved your previous video and now this one, the ambience, the lighting, the music and your voice. it's all so perfect and the way you articulate yourself/words is incredibly moving, thank you for sharing this ! :) im glad youtube recommended me your previous video & now this one
This video nigh on moved me to tears.
I was unhealthily attached to an ex-partner for almost a decade. I could never forgive myself for the useless and selfish behavior (excessive escapism, victim-mentality, need for control) that led to our breakup, even though we were both young, and stupid, and there is likely some trauma in my past. I always thought I could - and should - right these wrongs one day, even though the only person still even thinking about them was me... me and no one else. I was always thinking "I met her too early, I wasn't ready."
I idolized her and originally thought we would be friends forever, but last year, I finally bade goodbye. She was barely keeping in touch, forgetting our arrangements, never reaching out, and my heart was growing sad and bitter, and twisting into something I didn't like.
I then, probably having grown addicted to pain and being in a state of longing, fell for another woman right away. She was too young, and too scared of love. For every day she happily spent with me, there were weeks or months of unwarranted coldness and outright ghosting. For every moment of truth and trust, there were months of fear and silence. I tried to communicate, and she tried to avoid anything remotely uncomfortable. I was always thinking "I met her too early, she isn't ready."
I thought I could stick it out and make her come out of her shell... I promised, even, that I would stay, causing her to cry tears of happiness... but it eventually destroyed me. I had to leave, it was tearing me apart.
Guilt has been, and is, such an overwhelming part of me. I always think about how - and where - I should have done better. How I should have let go sooner, or how I should have stayed no matter what. About how I made promises, and then failed to keep them, and just how irresponsible that is.
I confess: Some nights, I feel irredeemable. Too sad, and too messed up, and too removed from reality - too much work for any reasonable person. I know I have good qualities, too. I have kind friends. I have treasured responsibilities. I will even seem like a functioning individual to most. But secretly, there is so much baggage and such a messed-up heart, too.
This world sometimes seems so intent on choosing the successful, the optimized, the easy-going, the no-less-than-perfect,
that I feel like, would I ever fully open my heart to anyone again, they would flee from the mere sight of it.
But... you know what? Maybe not.
There is more after all. I am no longer a seedling, I am a tree, ever growing. I have kept learning, even if some lessons took years. Everyone grows at their own pace. Long as they grow, that's fine.
Wanting healthy bonds is normal, and making a bond work takes two commited people, not one superhuman. So does good communication. Breaking one promise to the wrong person is worth it if it means I can keep it with the right person down the line. I also have a right to be on the receiving end of promises.
Attachment is okay, so long as you are strong enough to move past it when it starts harming you. I know that now. From ten years of misguided attachment to only one year of it - that is a massive leap. Next time, it will be even less.
I wouldn't be who I am now without my suffering. I wouldn't be where I am now if I didn't regret my mistakes. If didn't try to do better, be stronger, be more forgiving, more empathetic, than I once was.
Some people will be blind to how much of a gift it is. That doesn't make it worthless. Some people will not now how to work with it. That doesn't make it useless.
Yes. Maybe I /did/ meet everyone at the right time. And maybe, if I keep working on myself and on healing myself up, I /will/ find love when the time is right.
I guess I can endure a fair bit more mud-sloshing to find the Lotus I am looking for. And I'll take pride in growing ever stronger legs along the way.
Thank you.
*heavy on the attachment part*
as they said in avatar, you need to let go it order to flow
i was thinking about the jedi philosophy
@@thebap4596 Haven't seen anything Star Wars related. I'm sorry
I no longer believe in fearing to be in solitude. Almost killed myself trying to be with people, I'm learning who I am now.
This is unironically one of the best fyp I’ve ever had.
Good to know I'm not alone in these thoughts. I've accepted all of these things and it has brought me a lot of peace. I'm not phased by anything anymore.
honestly, i already have the same mindset as yours, and i dont really struggle with these type of stuff anymore, but im still glad i saw this video 😊it just assured me that im on the right path
w video, only one thing for me, the possibility of having that attachment is what's keeping me here, and I'm more than willing to change with that one person, everything else was so nice, thank you for uploading this
“You need to be whole and love yourself before letting anyone else in. Invest in yourself to attract te same”. This is simultaneously so true and also not true. The reason my previous relationship ended was because I couldn’t become the person and partner I wanted to be. On the other hand, I wouldn’t be the person I am today if it wasn’t for the support I got in that relationship. Becoming the person you want to be is such a long and complicated process, but it would never happen if it wasn’t for the love of other people.
You need to be whole and love yourself before letting anyone else .. Because if you always depend your problems on people,they would feel drained by you if you also don't take responsibilities to care for yourself
Preach. I no longer believe in authority outside of my own higher self
These are the lessons I’m trying to learn.
After the woman I loved left me, without an explanation. A situation ship we had. I tried to make it work but things just didn’t work out. I can blame her for not trying but I realised it’s me who needed the work it’s me who have to learn to love myself. To focus on what I can control. To keep myself whole before finding another person and stop being anxious. It was so painful being thrown away like that. It really hurts, but I take it with grace and love. Life gave me a lesson that I needed to learn so I can become a better person. Hopefully a loving person once again.
Amazing on your part, I'm sorry to hear you've been hurting. It's admirable that you have taken this hurt and are learning from it.
I'm wishing you the best with your healing and learning
Thank you for sharing this, it truly is beautiful. The way you word things, and I’ve also learned the same lessons you’re saying. Shedding your old-self allows for new growth and opportunities to come. I no longer hold onto things that don’t serve me. I’ve learned not to be bitter from old situations, nor talk badly about people who have been disrespectful from the past.
Change is so difficult, like you said near the end.
But I’ve grown fond of change. Thanks for sharing! :)
Yes! Totally agree and love that you're aware of it and intentional about how you live. And, reminder to also not be attached to these things you no longer believe in, because it's okay if one day you believe in them again though it may be brief❤
You know what’s so beautiful about life when you’re an intellectual that’s constantly challenging your bias? In 10yrs even these beliefs will change. ❤
Thank you for being part of my fyp. I love hearing this kind of new perspective.
some of these lessons i've learned (or unlearned) already, some of these i still have yet to learn. thanks for the wisdom drop, and i also just wanted to say that you have a beautiful smile :)
Very calm voice 晏❤
having this recommended to me at 5am and I couldn't have asked for anything better. Thank you.
This is Beautiful! Forgive, Don’t forget.
I am Whole.
I no longer Attach because in the end I’ll leave this realm alone.
I find your voice very soothing. I think your voice is something someone might sleep to. Love your vid. The vibe and the thoughts you gave, its very very nice.:)))
Yea it has that whispery soft tone in it that makes it relaxing
Thank you for this video, I'm going through grief right now
Know that you help others by these kind of videos. It gives perspective and food for thought in a world where WE are scrambling to find fulfillment and purpose. Keep at it ya mentor ! x
Interesting to note that her first three points are direct Christian teachings:
- Forgiveness
- Trusting the Lord/logos
- Not being attached to earthly things
The last 2 points talking about love and partners again, I think people spend too much time thinking about relationships.
this was nice ,kinda help me let go of some anxiety , when you said 'we come in this world alone and leave alone' i couldnt help but disagree only in the sense that i am Christian and i believe and for anyone who needs a reminder that God is with us through all stages of life even when we feel he is 100s of miles away , the lords favor is always on us as along as we allow so remember when you actually do feel as if you are always alone , there is someone always just a prayer away that can lift the rest of the anxiety that you face. i hope everyone that is struggling with the feeling of loneliness can remember that Gods presence is everywhere, always he is the creator after all , everything you see has ultimately been crafted by the creator. when you are a lone pull up a seat for his son to join you , before you eat thank the lord that you have food and when you sleep and wake up (personally) i like to let him know , hey thanks for waking me up this morning :) it helps knowing that God is the provider of your life therefore always present in your life and he always makes time for you: :) if you do not know Jesus, the first step is actually hearing about him and anyone who is unsure needs to know that knowing jesus should not stir anxiety or the feeling of not being good enough cuz after all he died for our sins he didnt die for the ones who were "already clean" because no one is without sin. Christianity isnt about perfection its about purpose. loving others , loving yourself and loving God because he gives you the tools to live a new way of life.
this was such a peaceful, positive video! thank you!!
i love getting to see someone being so reflective! My favorite point of yours was number 2. Being a doomer gets you nowhere. tie your shoes and get moving!
When you mentioned 'attachments,' i wanted to instead invite you to frame it like expectations. Sometimes we talk about attachment like it’s a mistake to care deeply or invest in someone, but that framing takes away from our own role in managing expectations. Instead of seeing it as an 'attachment,' maybe it’s worth reflecting on the expectations we set and whether they were appropriate or clearly communicated. We have the agency to ask for more clarity and manage those expectations in real time. I also tend to think it's less about lowering expectations, and more so being prepared and able to process your emotions faster and healthier. By reflecting on where we had control versus what was out of our hands, it can lead to deeper self-responsibility and, ultimately, more peace. Just a thought to consider as you continue your journey. Excited for who you'll become!
I just discovered this channel last night, your content is really amazing it really helped me mentally and emotionally im really thankful and grateful to you.
Your voice is so calming and pleasant to listen to!! I feel like its perfect for a cinematic narration in a movie.
hi kristine, i totally love your outlook on life and what it means to you. i’m so happy i came across ur video and what totally changed me is when u mentioned not speaking ill of ur past partner bc that’s only reinforcing more mixed emotions and dwelling on what could’ve been done or what has already happened instead of simply letting it go into the past. hope ur doing well and have a goodnight!
Do you live alone? What circumstances made you recognize these thoughts and go onto the self-improvement path? Sorry if that first question was uncomforting but I always figured you can get to the answers faster when you're not distracted. Glad I came across this TH-cam channel.
A breakup is easier than suffering the loss of a person you loved but ultimately had to let go because there is nothing to cope or give reasons to validate ourselves,just pure guilt.
im simple man
when this angel speak
i listen
its calming and soothing especially when u r exhausted
YESSSS whole heartedly agree! Ilysm for this! Please believe in yourselves everyone!
some really great points made in this video. fyi, for those who didn't know: the lotus is often associated with the concept of detachment.
I’m very glad you made this video. Thank you so much and I’m happy I found it tonight. I needed it… well, I definitely found it useful and with great timing for me :)
this video is strangely very unsettling (even uncanny) and very calming/therapeutic simultaneously.
I wouldn't mind if this kind of content becomes the new standard of modern media art, this is really aesthetically pleasing, the framing, background music, why does it blend so well lol
I actually realized all of this quite a while ago already. But I like what you're saying and how you say it. Keep up the good work :)
Beautiful video! It’s always about being the right person! Not finding the right person.
you said a lot of things i needed to hear. out loud, things I knew but hadn't voiced. thanks!
This really helps thank you btw✨️
Lot of people think the same way probably. It’s the works you put in and how dedicated you are to your own words. Respect yourself and don’t lie to yourself, keep working and make sure you set your boundaries before you put in the work. Know why you do it before you put in the work. An house build on sand is easily destroyed, but an house build on solid ground stands strong. Keep it up G’s💯
This video remembers me of the book "A gentle reminder"
so cozy and uplifting
I remember my Thích Nhất Hạnh phase, but then I saw the great teacher stone cold dead on a live stream one day, and the stark brutal reality of death came running back. Christ is risen. Lord have mercy. God bless you.
I don't agree with everything said in this video but I can appreciate some of the thoughts.
I like to think in life that when we go through these painful experiences, its equivalent to running enough red lights that eventually we get pulled over.
It's like life saying, you've had this unhealthy behaviour for long enough, now its time to pay the price a little.
That's not to say we deserve when bad things happen to us, I think the cruelest lessons are the ones that didn't have to happen, and yet they did.
I do also think, as sad as it is, these experiences make us better versions of ourselves. I used to people a people pleaser and now I feel more than comfortable telling people to fuck off. I think those around me actually appreciate this more genuine version of myself that stands up for what I believe in and others I care about, rather than just saying what I think people will want to hear.
It also helps that I was able to move away from home completely and essentially start a new life in a new city. I feel so at peace now and I wonder if I would have had the strength to do this move without the world ending misery that I experienced beforehand. After going through the start of 2024, I don't feel anything in my life will be harder to overcome.
happy for you, environment can play such a big role in our mental wellbeing and growth. it's amazing you've learned to become a better version of yourself through, (what it sounds like), hardship.
This video looks like one of a movie scenes where the protagonist records herself in laptop camera talking some deep shit. Before the movie turns into most traumatic suspense thriller.
LOL
true🤣🤣
I like the attachment part because recently I've been letting go of everything (including myself) and holding on to the next life and my calling that comes from it. Thanks for the positive energy
Thank you, i just really needed this when im really thinking about my ex. Hard passing the time knowing that she doing better without me. Finding yourself and being the one that someone wants to find
I was listening to jazz and this showed up. I agree. These are good habits you say! Thanks
THIS IS SO BEAUTIFUL
I got busy so I didn't listen to anything except the last part when you said its hard to unlearn but its worth it.
I pressed subscribe as I'm in the unlearning phase and its indeed hard.
Thanks and all the best
there is a soft gradient between the benefits gained from wisdom and the losses incurred from the removal of what makes us human
Absolutely beautiful. A lot of Buddhist philosophy in regards to how change is the only constant and that attachment is the root of suffering, i really enjoyed this :)
Love your voice. It's so calming. Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤
What's sad though about letting go of external factors to focus on the self is that those external factors will try to drag you down if they think your personal journey contradicts with their social expectations. If you're just trying to lose weight or learn a new hobby it's often got reinforcement but if it contradicts predetermined roles for sociopolitical reasons then it's gonna be a long time to remove all that mud. I learned that the hard way.
I LOVE THIS!!! I could imagine meeting with you and discussing those revelations for hours!!! It's amazing how different people can come to the same conclussions. Sending nothing if not love your way.
idk what my reccommendation is but im glad i came across her smooth voice
Thank you, Kristine.
For the past couple of weeks, I was conflicted. Something, a feeling, ignited in me. Which is a lie I told myself. I was a suppressing a feeling which I had managed to fool myself by telling it doesn't exist anymore, but it did. And it hurt, even when I wasn't aware of it. Your reminder of life being transient was very, very necessary for me to realise what I need to do let go. Well, I'm still in the process so can't really say that I'll be successful but, I gotta give it a shot. Thank you for making all of us realise that we need to be whole before we let somebody else in. We shouldn't hold onto feelings and memories which can harm and alienate us, just for the sake of familiarity or nostalgic pleasure. We deserve better. We should love ourselves a little more.
Great video.
Give her applause, thank you.