Thank you for posting this for free. Seriously, I am a first time mom and it is so difficult to stay calm and collected when your experiencing post partum and then your child is crying. You just forget all the logic and reasoning. I really want to be a good mom, because I want my son to grow healthy mentally and physically
You are already a great mum for watching this video and seeking ways to better your parenting! Can I just say that every new mum will feel that way but know that you are doing the best that you possibly can be doing, it is a very hard thing to go through and know that you will get through this stage! You can join our FB private group for more support: facebook.com/groups/Montessoriathome0to3years
I do this this "acknowledging feelings" with adults, my friends etc. It works awesome. But as a kindergarden teacher idk why i didnt think about trying this with my students 🤦🏻♀️ nowadays i struggle with some of them so much they keep creating problem in the class. Definetly try this on monday inshaallah
Thank you for posting these helpful videos! What's the best approach to help an 18-month old to ride in the buggy after nursery, rather than be carried? The parent has back problems and finds it difficult to carry the child and push the buggy at the same time.
I think it is important to understand why the child has a hesitation to ride in the buggy and also acknowledge their feelings, then it is about offering them a choice on what to do other than the parent carrying them. it is hard after nursery as the child just wants to reconnect with the parent so it is understandable they wish to be carried, it is about allowing them to connect to the parent as well as understanding the parents circumstances.
Great tips. I have a 2 month old and when she cries i would say its okay its okay, now I realize I shouldn't say that. Although she doesn't quite understand my words right now, im sure this is great practice. Especially when she is SCREAMING.
I do try this, although admittedly not all the time. Whenever I do something that he either doesn't like, or thinks he wont like (for example, if I need to adjust his clothes and he thinks I'm going to take something off him) he starts thrashing around and crying. If I'm not quick enough to catch him, he'll throw himself backwards on the floor (hitting his head if it's a hard surface), or he'll bang his forehead on the nearest surface. If I hold him to stop him falling, he'll thrash around in my hands until I pick him up, then proceed to headbutt me. He's 16 months old, only saying 3 words and, while he understands some things, doesn't seem to understand when I try and acknowledge his feelings. How can I get him passed this self-hurting phase? His tantrums aren't great but they're made worse when he hurts himself.
Hi my 3.8 year old throws tantrum when his wish is not satisfied.. We went to mall and he wanted to play the dinosaur video game... Since he's obsessed with it we ignored Later we took him out of the fun city He got very angry and was screaming pinching biting rolling and whatever he could.. We couldn't able to control him Can u give a idea on how to handle his tantrum
It is one of the hardest situations to deal with when a child is really wanting something they can't have. It is so important to make sure their feelings are heard, they feel validated and always setting up the expectation before they go somewhere or do something to prevent the big meltdowns. To support a child when they feel angry or upset you really need to validate their emotions, let them know it's okay to feel angry but hitting you or pinching is not okay. Sometimes they just need our support through these moments.
I love your videos. Great examples they really helps to picture the situacion.
I'm so glad you are finding them helpful :)
Thank you for posting this for free. Seriously, I am a first time mom and it is so difficult to stay calm and collected when your experiencing post partum and then your child is crying. You just forget all the logic and reasoning. I really want to be a good mom, because I want my son to grow healthy mentally and physically
You are already a great mum for watching this video and seeking ways to better your parenting! Can I just say that every new mum will feel that way but know that you are doing the best that you possibly can be doing, it is a very hard thing to go through and know that you will get through this stage! You can join our FB private group for more support: facebook.com/groups/Montessoriathome0to3years
I do this this "acknowledging feelings" with adults, my friends etc. It works awesome. But as a kindergarden teacher idk why i didnt think about trying this with my students 🤦🏻♀️ nowadays i struggle with some of them so much they keep creating problem in the class. Definetly try this on monday inshaallah
From this I got, acknowledge feeling, state expectations and provide choice. I will try this steps and see
Yes, those are the exact steps! Let us know how you go :)
Thank you for posting these helpful videos!
What's the best approach to help an 18-month old to ride in the buggy after nursery, rather than be carried? The parent has back problems and finds it difficult to carry the child and push the buggy at the same time.
I think it is important to understand why the child has a hesitation to ride in the buggy and also acknowledge their feelings, then it is about offering them a choice on what to do other than the parent carrying them. it is hard after nursery as the child just wants to reconnect with the parent so it is understandable they wish to be carried, it is about allowing them to connect to the parent as well as understanding the parents circumstances.
Great tips. I have a 2 month old and when she cries i would say its okay its okay, now I realize I shouldn't say that. Although she doesn't quite understand my words right now, im sure this is great practice. Especially when she is SCREAMING.
Children pick up on your words and emotions from birth they sense and feel everything absolutely best time to start 😊
i'm picking up some tips before i visit my gran nieces, thank you Sylvia
You're welcome they will come in handy I'm sure!
I often say something like "I know sweetie, you feel sad to leave the park". So now my daughter says "I know, I know" when she's upset.
Yes! See how amazing when you use the skills, children will learn them and use them too :)
Same lol 💗
Everyone wants to “feel felt”.
100% especially children
I do try this, although admittedly not all the time.
Whenever I do something that he either doesn't like, or thinks he wont like (for example, if I need to adjust his clothes and he thinks I'm going to take something off him) he starts thrashing around and crying. If I'm not quick enough to catch him, he'll throw himself backwards on the floor (hitting his head if it's a hard surface), or he'll bang his forehead on the nearest surface. If I hold him to stop him falling, he'll thrash around in my hands until I pick him up, then proceed to headbutt me.
He's 16 months old, only saying 3 words and, while he understands some things, doesn't seem to understand when I try and acknowledge his feelings.
How can I get him passed this self-hurting phase? His tantrums aren't great but they're made worse when he hurts himself.
Hi my 3.8 year old throws tantrum when his wish is not satisfied.. We went to mall and he wanted to play the dinosaur video game... Since he's obsessed with it we ignored
Later we took him out of the fun city
He got very angry and was screaming pinching biting rolling and whatever he could.. We couldn't able to control him
Can u give a idea on how to handle his tantrum
It is one of the hardest situations to deal with when a child is really wanting something they can't have. It is so important to make sure their feelings are heard, they feel validated and always setting up the expectation before they go somewhere or do something to prevent the big meltdowns. To support a child when they feel angry or upset you really need to validate their emotions, let them know it's okay to feel angry but hitting you or pinching is not okay. Sometimes they just need our support through these moments.