In that parallel universe, People suffer from their peak of success and struggle to regress to a state of despair, distress, and disaster. Being a failure, penniless on the streets is what they aspire.
This one eats me up alive. The most present one in my life. I made past mistakes, specifically talking to people, and I cannot let go and stop thinking over it, even after I apologized and changed.
My haters throw rocks at me and IT hurts. I hope they don't throw The Rock at me because I like him as an actor. GAGAGAGAGA!!! I am funny!!! I am the funniest TH-camr EVAH! Please agree, dear taran
@@mahoolumOk hear me out, cause it is hella complicated, first you wanna close your eyes, then turn your brain 180° so it does the inverse of processing, EXACTLY 180°, a bit more and your brain will overunprocess and you may become a child again, a bit less and there won't be enought unprocessing power Keep your brain at that for about a bit more than the moment you read the reply Obviously you will forget anything you've learn in that lapse of time so i recomend someone to help you since you will unprocess this comment I hope this helps Oh yeah and before i forget, after all of that, you can open your eyes
I’ve been listening to this every day trying to get myself out of the pit I dug for so many years. Really trying to be a better person. It’s hard to give up old habits. But I’m trying the best I can.
@@robertagren9360 bro throw those self help books in the trash, theyre written by nepotist freaks and the whole self-help market was created by rich californians on acid who were trying to find a reason to justify building golf courses.
@@robertagren9360that sounds like that stems from a personal experience not what they should actually be doing. Because those books were written by people too, you know
Step 6 really hit hard for me. I tell everyone ‘no’. My closest friends, my family, everybody. And he’s right. Eventually, after you say no for so long, people just stop asking you to do things. And that is the loneliest feeling in the world
Thats why every 2 no's 1 yes gotta come. Introverts gotta develop a system to navigate the social world. Too much yes to people and you burn out, too much no and you are left alone.
@@kobbehh I suppose. Idk sometimes I get these periods in my life where I just wanna be alone. Like I don’t wanna do dick. I come home from work, watch porn play video games and go to sleep 😂 and one of my friends will ask me if I wanna go out and I’m like ‘fuck no I’m tired.’ Idk sorry I’m ranting. I think my issue is that once I get in a rut, it makes me more introverted, which drives me further into the rut and it’s an endless cycle
I was really worried that I might find happiness at some point, but I realized that I'm already doing most of the things in this video. Thanks so much!
A few steps si would add: 1. Live in the past and hold grudges 2. Seek validation in others 3. Criticize other people 4. Surround yourself with equally negative people
@@melancoholicmake your self worth dependent on the attention and opinion of others, for best results makes sure it’s strangers you will never interact with again
@@rodneyhamilton2562i disagree, i think you learn a lot of the good things about yourself when you take the time to be alone and be with your thoughts. being surrounded by equally negative people will only bring you down more (in my opinion).
1.) Wake up whenever you want to. 2.) Make sure your house is a complete disaster. 3.) Procrastinate. 4.) Look busy. 5.) Wait for opportunities. 6.) Be default no. 7.) Be suspicious of people. Never give anyone the benefit of the doubt. 8.) Never fix the things you dislike about yourself. 9.) Focus on things you can't control. 10.) Use fear as a motivator. 11.) Only do what is comfortable. 12.) Believe you're special. 13.) See life not as it is, but what you want it to be.
This is EXACTLY what my severe crippling and chronic depression, anxiety, and PTSD does to me, despite therapy and 3 different medications. I would kill to feel true joy just once, because at 54, I can’t remember the last time I felt it.
@@DogBiter3000 starting when I was 20, I was diagnosed with severe Crohn’s disease, and stage four intestinal cancer. I’m now 55. I’ve had 37 surgeries removing 95% of my entire gastrointestinal tract, which led to kidney failure. I’ve been clinically dead three minutes, the cancer came back three more times, I barely survived each time, I’m just an empty shell of who I used to be, and it’s a lot more than my brain process. God knows I’ve tried, people tell me I should be thankful to be alive, but just to live isn’t enough, not when you can’t go anywhere or do anything because you’re daily medical regime takes up almost all your time. Sorry to be a downer, but that’s the truth.
You are a hero! 👑️ Don't worry about your age! You are never too late! Do anything you think which would make you happy, even tho it's a very little thing. And don't be sad or worried about your life, because you already won! And I think the reason you overcame death and heath problems is you deserve to enjoy ur life. May be reducing overthinking, constant negative feelings and doing any little thing which bring u joy will help. I know its hard at first, but it does a big impact (Eg- watching sunset, having dinner in your favorite restaurant, giving food to birds, watching a plant grow, meditating, having a little convo with a stranger or a neighbor, watching ur favorite tv show, dressing nicely, wearing ur favorite perfume) I know they are very little things, but they bring joy. Plus get rid of phone addiction and social media addiction. They mess up our mental health and happiness. Removing social media accounts and reducing screen time is the best decision I ever took. U are same age as my parents. I don't want to see them unhappy, neither you. I know you will definitely feel true joy. Waiting for happiness to come to you won't help. It must come from within you..because it is how you feel. So be happy!!! You got this. Love you! ❤️
@@itzricky4091 I was stuck deep for 5. Can’t tell you how long it will take but your guaranteed success if you don’t give up. Hit every day as hard as you can.
People live like this? I know maybe one person and he suffers from a very debilitating depression. Otherwise, everybody else I know is so fucking busy working/studying they can’t afford to live like this.
@@ConMan97 Being busy working or studying won't protect you from any of the points mentioned. Being "fucking busy" is actually what leads a lot of people to start checking things off this list, including me.
@@ConMan97 but, the people who are mostly busy working are probably avoiding there inner problems.... Fun trick take all of someone's distractions away and see how long they can go with there own thoughts.... Because I've never met anyone who can just sit there and deal with them yet....
I say that would be suspicious in itself, only snake oils peddler make something ordinary into a problem. They make something that isn't normally a problem, and make it one, so you want to solve it, and it just so happen they have this book/program/method for you to solve this very big problem of yours. Be careful of those who make the mundane problematic.
Extra step for people who want to go the extra mile to be miserable: focus on how much better the past was and how the future will never surpass it, it will really make you feel like you are never going to be happy again.
Or how much worse the past was and that you didnt change for the better at all and are the same. Also care about what others think too much. And beat yourself up over every little mistake you make. And care about looks alot
the magic behind this video is just brilliant… instead of telling us what to do in order to be successful in life, it tells us how to become a miserable piece of garbage because it is more effective to reflect upon ourselves and understand what we do wrong to become exactly that what we dont want to be.
I mean not really. Just listing a set of problems doesn't help anyone to solve them. I know very well that I am in a hole but not how I can get out of it.
I wake up at 9 but work from bed then I end up napping cos my brain doesn't work during daylight. Then I research at night and repeat til the weekends.
This was suggested to me at the best time possible. This is currently my life right now, with the exception of "think I'm someone special". I've realized it ages ago, and I've tried to change it countless times, but it never works. Just got out of High School, and, sometimes, it feels like I'll never make it and dying would be easier, since living is too much of a chore for someone as lazy as me. It's like a cycle: I get motivated, I start doing stuff, I get distracted with something and then, hours or days later, I completely forget what I was supposed to be doing, indulging in something that won't bring me a better future, and then, I reach the state I'm in right now. Rinse and repeat. Despite that, I'm still not giving up. I know someday I'll be able to leave this cycle and be someone fully productive and happy with myself. It's not easy, but I'm gonna make it, somehow. The same goes for whoever is reading this, the first step is to realize that you're in this state and probably try to create some small habits and better your life slowly. The hardest part is the beginning. Apologies for the rant.
I had a realization moment the other day that motivated me some, but the energy is hard to grasp for long. This is a great message to my eyes, as will it be for others. Thank you for this 🍉
Specially where he said the fantasy part. I have such a fiction in my mind and it is so detailed, Im so scared to let it go. It’s either diving out of the 16th floor window or putting in effort , and the first has never been more appealing.
This video is a mirror to me and showed me exactly how deeply flawed my way of thinking and how garbage my mind really is. Being miserable is a mindset, not an emotion. But I’ll try my best to get better.
Having your eyes opened to your backwards mindset was the hardest part. Now that the veil has been lifted and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, you are presented with a choice: Will you stay as you are, content to let your darkness consume you? Or now, having tasted light, will you crave it with all your might and stop at nothing to achieve the peace you desire? Fight my friend, fight with all the strength and resolve you can muster. And know that you do not fight alone.
"I'll try my best" I hate those words, and i hate them more when they come out of my mouth. I'm just so good at giving up on things even if i developed an habit, i'm miserable.
This is painfully accurate. You don't realize the dangerous cycle your in until someone else shows you like this. Sort of a wake up call for a lot of us, thank you for this.
I honestly thought I was the only one in this cycle! I guess I feel less alone. I've lived this cycle for so many years I don't know how to change it.. :(
@@Anonymous-fj2uo Maybe this could help, maybe not. Ask yourself, ok, if I had the courage, if I was the person I envision myself to be, what would I do? What excites me to do the most? Don't rush it, spend some time with yourself and answer this question. Then, and believe me, this works! If you have instagram, twitter facebook and other garbage, please do this. Delete your accounts, complete DETACH yourself from this garbage. The reason why I'm telling you to delete your accounts instead of just ignoring them is because, you won't ignore them, you already have it in your instict to open them. After you did these 2 things, now here comes the hardest fight yet. After you know what you want to do, or at least, if you have an idea of what would make you accomplished and proud of yourself, you need to do start small. Do it a little now, a little tomorrow. But here's the catch. Consistency is key, not how much you do in a day. Don't overpush yourself, do it a little each day, and have patience, you won't become amazing next week or next month, but you sure as hell will become better next year, and the years ahead. Also remember, do not waste time thinking about shit that you have no control over. Politics, economy all that other garbage, when you think about it and how unfair it seems, push it out of your head ASAP. Good luck stranger from youtube! PS: Cutting down youtube altogether will also help massively.
@@ionutluchian9720 about the last part, TH-cam is kinda one of my best sources of educational content, so I can't really cut it out, i just try to minimize all the pointless bullshit videos that don't really help me
I feel the same way. It gives me a wonderful feeling of accomplishment. I've reached the top of Misery Mountain. It hasn't been easy, but I've persevered in spite of temporary setbacks.
1.) Wake up whenever you want 2.) Make sure your house is a complete disaster 3.) procrastinate 4.) Pretend to be busy 5.) Wait for opportunities 6.) Always say no 7.) Be suspicious of people 8.) Never fix the things you dislike about yourself 9.) Focus on things you can’t control 10.) Use fear as motivation 11.) Only do what is comfortable 12.) Believe you are special 13.) See life not how it is, but how you wish it to be
1) I need to work on that. I wake up at a decent time but I don't get out of bed for 2 hours, just sit on my phone. 2) It's not that bad, I'm comfortable in it. 3) Oooof, big time. My problem is, though, I get tired so quickly of just the simplest stresses, like literally tired, it's almost like it's impossible to stay productive for long (and people will tell me, oh you just don't WANT to...) but really it seems almost impossible. 7) This is something I can't help. After over 20 years of mental abuse in my life I have become severely paranoid and unable to trust anyone. 8) I simply accept what I cannot change. I used to be a better person but it's definitely slipped in the recent years. 9) Thankfully I don't focus on those things 11) Life is short. I do put effort into things, but minimal. I might need to work on putting more into it, but I still believe it's important to stay comfortable and happy. I'm a moderate hedonist. 12) It was actually a recent revelation, a few months ago in fact, where I realized I am not special. I'm glad I realized this, it helped me a ton. I'm not happier per se, but a lot more realistic. More of a note to self and venting.
You pretty much described how I was feeling the whole video. Like the reverse psychology here is so strong that I immediately got up and started being productive as soon as the video was over.
Funny how it was the opposite for me, it actually motivated me to be more disorganized and hedonistic, and made me ingrain the belief more than I should support prodigality.
This is an amazing video, it’s hard to show people who live like this how what they’re doing is affecting them and how they can change but framing it like this makes it very clear
At first I thought that being miserable in life would be difficult due to the vast amount of amazing experiences it has to offer but after watching this it gives me the motivation I need to make life miserable.
This is just the description of depression and its an extremely difficult circle to escape. I mean every single thing this person says is 100% on point
@@thijsboss1246 well these are all signs of depression but it doesn't mean you are 100% depressed if you can relate to it and I wouldn't use this video as a form of diagnosis but there is a reason it's called "how to be miserable for the rest of your life"
@Acave give up social media, stop watching the news, stop consuming junk food, hang out with positive people, get a restful sleep schedule, get lots of sun, exercise often, start every morning with a purpose in mind, and I believe your depression will soon subside.
Change your environment. It helps. Structure that’s forced can make you feel anxious at first and then really good. I promise you that you are way more impressive then what you think!
Semen retention for 4 weeks see how you feel. Just see yourself as Spartacus and think... Is he a drunk loser? Does he use social media? Does he watch porn? Does he use tinder? Does he talk like a bitch? FUCK NO. Good luck bro
Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day Fritter and waste the hours in an offhand way Kicking around on a piece of ground in your hometown Waiting for someone or something to show you the way Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today And then one day you find ten years have got behind you No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun
@@george1449 that's such a common and easy escape for not fixing your life, saying that it's too late since you're too old now. it's never too late to fix yourself and not live a miserable life. don't wait for opportunities to come to you, take action
I feel this one the most. I've been doing my best to change however and so far I've been doing somewhat better with taking chances instead of being too scared to do it. it truly feels so refreshing and nice.
1-wake up whenever you want to 2- make sure your house is a complete disaster 3- procrastinate 4- look busy 5- wait for apportunities 6- be default "no" 7- be suspicious of people 8- never fix the things you dislike about yourself 9- focus on the things you cant control 10- use fear as motivation 11- only do what is comfortable 12- believe you are special 13- see life not as it is, but how you wish it to be
0:04 - 1. Wake up whenever you want to. 0:30 - 2. Make sure your house is always a complete disaster. 0:53 - 3. Procrastinate. 1:15 - 4. Look busy. 1:42 - 5. Wait for opportunities. 2:10 - 6. Be default "no". 2:35 - 7. Be suspicious of people. 2:53 - 8. Never fix things you dislike about yourself. 3:14 - 9. Focus on things you can not control. 3:43 - 10. Use fear as motivation. 4:04 - 11. Only do what is comfortable. 4:24 - 12. Believe you are special. 4:56 - 13. See life not as it is, but how you wish it to be. 5:40 - Audible.
Depression for men is especially hard to crawl out of. We always have this idea in our heads that we need to be strong and unwavering pillars of might and masculinity, but in reality everyday is a struggle and we just need help without being pitied. We got this bros, take everything step by step and reclaim our happiness.
@@Tweezer510 I'm literally trying to make you guys realize is left to yourself to change what toxoc masculinity is like but its harder when you want blame feminist or some shit for this
This wasn't motivational. This was a call out to all the people in the world that do this, and are perpetually stuck in their own self misery that they just can't get out of. It's not about being miserable, it's about not wanting to go on or keep going.
The fact that I can relate to most of these really tells me that I need to make a 180º turn on my lifestyle, however, I’m just an introverted teen so it’s kinda normal I guess, but if I want to improve myself for the future, I better start doing it now, before it’s too late…….
Just because it's normal doesn't mean it is right. I believe in you homie, break the mold. I'm trying myself, I just gave up again today, but this video inspired me and I'm now pushing myself again. I wish you the best.
@@ithinkimtherealcam7628 the worst feeling is when you realize you were a better person before, when you actually tried, but now just stupid jaded and lazy
That, and the really good production of the videos is just a bonus honestly. It's told from a different narrative, and not just people telling Random stuff with no context or explanation
It’s crazy how much in detail he goes. Because at some point in his life he felt it all. Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been struggling and I am crawling out of this hole I’ve been in day by day.
This was an eye-opener. I'm so used to seeing how people say "you can do it!" and "believe in yourself!" It feels so shallow. They mean well, but when you have chronic depression, it feels like telling a drowning person to swim. My entire life I've been saying to myself "this time, things will be different. I will change," and failing every time, sinking me lower and lower into the belief that it's *me*, inherently, that is the problem. That I can't get better. That I won't get anything accomplished, because I'm not like everyone else. Everyone will surpass me, because they always have, because I am incapable of change. I've watched the world around me grow and change while I am trapped, because I am inferior. But this video wasn't telling me what to do to change my life for the better. It was, instead, telling me what to do to make myself miserable. It was not preachy or shallow. It felt like having a hand to hold, eyes that saw pain and grief and understood. The video along with all the comments starts to loosen the grime that has built up in my psyche from repeated failures and idling as everyone else's successes had seemed to prove my own worthlessness and inferiority. I wouldn't call this video life-changing. Hell, I'd only first watched it an hour ago. But what I can say is this: this has helped me feel more human. I'm so thankful I've stumbled across it. I'm gonna keep this as a reference for a long time.
Now that you've seen it, you gotta do better. Just better than last time. As long as you take one step ahead, you might get a bit closer. Or theres always the option to follow this video, sit in the same spot and never move.
An eye opener, huh? Point 12. Believing that you're special will make your life miserable! You know what you're supposed to do? Think of your life as a pathetic worthless pawn of society! I guess doing so will cherish your life bro. Just don't be feeling that you're unique. *Try it!* absolutely dogsht.
Amazing comment, relating to you a lot right now. A LOT. I’m 19 and feel so scared to turn 20 as I feel I’m nowhere in life and have accomplished nothing, struggling to even feel human at all. I hope you enjoy your life a little more after this video
@@mhazg6621 nah mate, he's got a point. People who are geniuses are often extremely depressed, or get depression later in life. That idea of entitlement is what he's referring to, that nobody else can be like you are, nobody else suffers like you do, that you're unique. The point is that other people have gone through what you've gone through, and that other people are similar to you. There's always someone else out there that's gone through what you have and made it out the other end.
I started to watch to procrastinate and just ended up realizing I do everything on this list I really need to work on myself honestly thank you for this video
Glad someone else said it too, well done mate. I did the same sitting worrying and began to watch to realise I'm feeding the depression. Time to change ways, it's exhausting.
I've improved myself in many ways over the past couple of years, but a few of these still hit pretty hard and remind me that I still have a lot to learn and improve on.
1st minute: "Haha this is funny." 2nd minute: "Hmm, he got a point, might wanna overthink some stuff in my life! Hehe!" 3rd minute: "Oh noooo... I feel miserable now, it's such an accurate description of my life..." 4th minute: *sniff* "I hate myself."
I was born in 1971 with a family that’s was together 40 years todays kids have split families and mobile phones were invented this is what becomes the problem of today. Split family and phones and social media. One life live it enjoy it. Too much common sence is missing google has all the answers yet books were there for hundreds of years before. Listen to this The more technologically advanced man gets the more he’s killing himself to live. I’m glad I never had a phone till I was 35 I enjoyed and gathered many good memories of my life. Too much gossip mongering online. Life is for the living.
Wow, this is crazy. This is crazy. It is like you’re summing up my life. Each step describes my descent into whatever this life I’m living is now. This life I live is so pathetic. Thank you for making this video.
This was an eye opener, I have issues with procrastination, being uncomfortable with anything that requires real life social skills, and just being downright lazy. Not giving a damn about what I should be doing rather doing what I want to do giving myself excuses as to why it’s okay like having more time down the road to do it or some other lame excuse or just having trouble giving myself an image to others thinking they’d judge me negatively for that so I wouldn’t do it in the first place. It brought up a whole bunch of unnecessary anxiety, which was all in my head. I keep telling myself I want to change and become a better person, I’ve started going to the gym regularly which is a start but I still feel like sometimes I make it an excuse for people not to judge me or an excuse to not be lazy I don’t know why, yet after watching this video I feel as if that shouldn’t come across my mind as an excuse because it isn’t, it’s just something I want to do and that I shouldn’t use it as a reason to not be lazy and do my daily tasks. Because for one, being lazy gets you nothing in life, no accomplishment, no productivity, just dragging yourself into a deep hole of missed opportunities. Which this video helped me realize all of this, thank you for making this.
Hey man it’s not about the start it’s about the finish set minor goals for YOURSELF at the gym and in life and don’t worry about the noise of trying to come across as someone being productive all that is a facade. If you do that you will be that person that makes yourself happy. Once you get out your own trenches you won’t be looking back 👏🫡
@@dbad9664 keep trying. Do it a million times and eventually you’ll get it. Then there’s no chance of failure, because you already took the first step.
You are NOT miserable. Don’t let urself tell you that by someone who obviously doesn’t have fucking mental problems. These are symptoms of depression and I have it too. Please don’t let this put u down u are amazing
@Tom Van Loenen course i am. I’m the one trying to make someone feel better about themselves bc i have depression myself. You did nothing so in this situation YOU are the one NOT HELPING.
As Alejandro Jodorowsky said after maybe the biggest disappointment of his life: "Some things in life come towards you and say yes; some things go the opposite direction and you say yes anyway". He referred to the acceptance of the circumstances in life, even after you have worked so hard but you failed eventually. Maintaining balance is key, without focusing exclusively on the tragedy, but absorbing it to gain perspective concerning what will come after.
@@lorenzomoro9286 I've grown into a sense of being careless, when a tragedy happens I simply accept and move on from it, in a way it's good, but lacking that specific emotion is also not that nice I'd say
I was doing this for many years, so lost within it. But every passing moment is another chance to turn it all around, it doesnt always have to be this way.. no matter how impossible it feels to break away and save yourself from yourself, it isnt. ❤️🔥
@@breetoldyouso not really as the only way to know what's good is by differentiating from the bad. The same way if you want to be truly happy, you have to know what sadness is like.
If you tick most of the boxes, y probably should het diagnosed for ADHD, sometimes it's impossible tonget out of the miserable life without help. I found this video extremely toxic cause most of my life i tried to be like the other people, and this self help stuff puts all the burden on you. The senescence "get up late and be already behind everyone else" Everyone else in the rat race i think. Get up any time you want, and and try to use what you are good at to live your life, also i only recently discovered that i can say "NO" and don't feel bad about it.
I cried a lot watching this because I just noticed how pathetically I was living my life. You made me realize that instead of trying to become any better, I was just making up excuses. I'm aware that it'll take me some time in order to change, but I'll try my very best to do so. Thanks a lot!
It is an admirable decision, Good luck! (・∀・) I also learned that sometimes the change in life does not need to be that drastic. It might even be subtle shifts in perspectives and mentality that can end up having a substantial impact on the improvement of your life's quality. ( ╹▽╹ )👍
The fact that 1 million+ people have the courage to watch this video proved that there is a motivated and determined part of ourselves who do not want to be THAT guy in the video. I wish you all the best on improving yourselves.
@@DanSchweitzer yeah, i still watching this video, i just want to say that this man always make a video about the problems that i faced now, such as how to be productive, how to start your morning, and etc
It doesn't. It made me feel worse. And I'm in this ongoing shit hole since 8 years now. I thought this was like a video on giving tips in reverse psychology. Instead this video just told me to stop every aspect of my life immediately and I dont feel comfortable with that.
@@Gitarrist85 I don't know if what I am gonna say is any better or worse but I leave it to you to react to it : It is not meant to be comfortable , changing from this kind of life to a better one is not going to be a comfortable first step and road . "11- only do what is comfortable" , related to this point. I am no different than you and I understand that it's not gonna be a comfortable idea to "improve" , at least not for the current me. But I do hope that some time in the future I will be proud of myself for making a step forward. That being said , good luck in your journey : ( , or our journeys.
@@David_99778 Hi , thanks for your reply. I feel like I still don't find my answers yet , I try to stick to small habits for now like practicing how to write with my left hand and try learning some vocabulary with the "word of the day" method (I like learning languages) in hope that it makes me feel a bit proud of my achievements in the mid term. So to answer your question , no I haven't really made an improvement ; it still feels like I am stuck in a boring routine that doesn't benefit me that much with only few minutes of actual "lucrative work". I mentioned that I like learning languages but I feel unable to commit and that's why I am learning at a very slow pace right now (I happen to have times when my mood is high and I feel very energetic where I spend hours but that's rare , I wonder if I have BP). For the past days , I haven't been feeling too well but yesterday my mood got better and I am hopeful for today.
“Only the disciplined ones are free. If you are undisciplined, you are a slave to your moods and your passions.” -Eliud Kipchoge, marathon world record holder.
But your moods and passions drive everything you do to some extent. And either way, whether you enslave yourself to discipline and rules or to random urges and comfort you're still a slave. Some people like to feed themselves delusions to boost their monkey brain egos.
@UCuJk7g8o46qo5sbBNAhkUnA I think what this author was trying to say when he distinguished being disciplined and free versus undisciplined and a slave to your passions is that when you're undisciplined, you only do what feels good in the short-term regardless to the long-term consequences. I'm angry, I'll yell at my wife. I'm horny, I'll masturbate to porn. But if you're disciplined, you have the freedom to do what is right and beneficial in the long-term regardless of your current mood or carnal passions. Personally, I don't think anyone could be a slave to discipline. It's easy to be undisciplined. You can walk away anytime, call it quits with one drink, or maybe one unethical move at work. To be disciplined is to put in a portion of yourself toward discipline in order to have the freedom to do the best thing for yourself whenever you can.
@@juankroosfrausto7411 he's not saying it's false. He's saying constantly thinking that way and dealing with something only when it's dangerous to avoid it is a great way to live miserably
You always see people giving the positive advice like “exercise, read a book, think positive etc…. But putting it this way is a way that people can relate . It’s the truth and the truth can be shameful and embarrassing but you can’t change the things you don’t acknowledge
I do all this but I am happy. Happiness is not in what you do but in accepting yourself as you are. Succes you have today, you may not have tomorrow. But you have yourself for the rest of your life.
As a guy who is really miserable, I can confirm this works. 👍 I also found that regret coupled with nostalgia first thing in the morning is double effective.
@@alio6051 imagining a future where current problems don’t exist is bad enough, coupling that with remembering the past where current problems also didn’t exist makes things worse.
a lot of this stuff comes across as “ if you’re not career driven you’re a miserable loser” … there’s so many people who work hard and make good money but are still miserable
I don't think it's about being career driver, just about simply making an effort in every aspect of your life. It's about a mindset that doing hard things and making an effort is the only way forward. You don't necessarily need to be career driven, just do the work you chose as good as you can. That's what I find. And entertainment, vacations and fun feels much better after you know you've already worked and did all you needed to!
Watching this makes me realize I'm not as miserable as I thought, while I do half the things listed, it makes me wonder how much of my sub-conscious has been fighting back at trying to not be miserable, my mind can think all the bad thoughts it wants , but my sub-conscious will always be there being buried deep in the back fighting the good fight against absolute misery.
No lie😭 I was over here crying because I procrastinated watching this video thinking my life's miserable... I don't like predicting what I do , I normally let it happen depending on my mood. I just need to find that thing that wakes me up; and makes me feel like living... but I can never find it. I always expect it would come back like it always does.
For people who do not want to be miserable for the rest of their lives: 1. Wake up at the same time everyday. 2. Make sure your house is always clean and tidy. 3. Don’t procrastinate. As soon as you think of something you need to do, do it. 4. Keep busy doing tasks you need to accomplish. 5. Always be searching for opportunities. Be proactive. 6. Be default yes. Say yes most of the time. 7. Always give the benefit of the doubt. 8. Fix things you dislike about yourself; that are within your power. 9. Focus on the things you can control. 10. Use potential success to motivate you. Visualize your ideal self. 11. Leave your comfort zone on a daily basis. 12. Be humble and resonate with others. 13. Be a realist. See life as it truly is. It will show you what you need to do to improve.
Umm if I may, for 6, say yes especially to the divine call that you should serve and not be served. Say yes to the call to serve people even if you know they don't deserve it. Because you yourself received undeserved privileges. Because you yourself is the same as them. Undeserving of the privilege that you've received and that you will now share(-the privileges) to them, to make the world a better place before you leave.
Yeah like Marie Antoinette when she was beheaded for being inside her mansion all the time, eating cake, enjoying her life, being happy, and what about the people that she was meant to serve. She was beheaded and she did not even know why until the end. She was happy. You know what's happening around the world, what are you doing? You can look away. However, you can never say you did not know. Serve and not be served. That's how life should be. We know people are suffering right now, what are we doing? What am I doing? Yeah sorry for lashing it out on you. I just feel like I'm sacrificing other people when I feel comfort. Especially when I'm just sitting on our dining room lashing it all out in the comment section of a comment section of a youtube video. Like yeah what am I doing? I imagine people right infront of me in a single line waiting for me to reach out to them one by one. And it's a long line of people. Right now and in the long run of things, how can I help them? How can I make their lives better? "Some don't deserve it." "I don't care."
1 minute in and this hit me like a truck. My living room in front of me is a mess, I haven’t even brushed my teeth, I woke up way too late, and I’m depressed. Jumping in the shower right now and taking the day by the horns.
Took a while to watch this video and it hurts that I've met all of the steps especially procrastinating, doing what is comfortable, and look busy. I just realized that I've been miserable for almost 5 years since I decided to stop my academic career and never went to college since then. Until now, I still keep playing video games whatever I want because it's my comfort and scrolling to social media to look busy when my family see me to avoid them encouraging me to go to college and improve myself. For 22 years my life, I'm at the point where I'm so hard to myself. I feel that I'm special because maybe I have undiagnosed ADHD (step 12), and everything is fine (step 13) since still have time to do something to improve my life and fix my bad habits (step 3 and step 8). Until the day that I have to do something or else I fail (step 10). I don't know, maybe I'm still miserable even after this reflection to myself. I hate this.
In a parallell universe, this is the ultimate goal
in that parallel universe imagine a parallel universe where in that parallel universe this isn’t the ultimate goal
In that parallel universe, People suffer from their peak of success and struggle to regress to a state of despair, distress, and disaster. Being a failure, penniless on the streets is what they aspire.
:((
@@paige172 ok....
@@andrassbb yes that's our world !
You missed a step which is constantly beating yourself up about past mistakes/negative experiences and not letting go
Yes
I love this one! Works like a charm
This one eats me up alive. The most present one in my life. I made past mistakes, specifically talking to people, and I cannot let go and stop thinking over it, even after I apologized and changed.
Because he doesn't have a solution for us overcoming our past mistakes. Only Jesus does.
what you've mentioned can be counted as a subset of point no. 9, I believe!
This hit harder than I thought it would, but in a good way
My haters throw rocks at me and IT hurts. I hope they don't throw The Rock at me because I like him as an actor. GAGAGAGAGA!!! I am funny!!! I am the funniest TH-camr EVAH! Please agree, dear taran
Same
Right?
O great I'm already expecting it to..
Same here
My biggest problem is procrastination. Oh well, I'll get over it, later.
Lmao
funny
if you're procrastinating, just procrastinate later, you'll achieve stoic sigma godmode status
@@ryndrssn how do i unread a reply
@@mahoolumOk hear me out, cause it is hella complicated, first you wanna close your eyes, then turn your brain 180° so it does the inverse of processing, EXACTLY 180°, a bit more and your brain will overunprocess and you may become a child again, a bit less and there won't be enought unprocessing power
Keep your brain at that for about a bit more than the moment you read the reply
Obviously you will forget anything you've learn in that lapse of time so i recomend someone to help you since you will unprocess this comment
I hope this helps
Oh yeah and before i forget, after all of that, you can open your eyes
This was the most painful roast of all time
Word
Take it for granted that we all here felt that way
I swear bro
I got 12 out of 13 let's go
Fr just woke up at 5pm again..
When you realize you are doing all of these things, every single one, and still wondering why you are unhappy.
All 13 a perfect match!
This is me too!!
it has definitely been an eye opener for me
yes happiness and unhappiness based on reasons.
me too
This was the kinda tone i needed someone to talk to me in to make me snap out of my lifestyle
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@@pinkfedoras Are you ok??
I’ve been listening to this every day trying to get myself out of the pit I dug for so many years. Really trying to be a better person. It’s hard to give up old habits. But I’m trying the best I can.
last step listen to self help books instead of listen to people in your life.
@@robertagren9360Why not both
@@robertagren9360 bro throw those self help books in the trash, theyre written by nepotist freaks and the whole self-help market was created by rich californians on acid who were trying to find a reason to justify building golf courses.
hey bro how is the progress coming along? i hope all is well spencer
@@robertagren9360that sounds like that stems from a personal experience not what they should actually be doing. Because those books were written by people too, you know
Step 6 really hit hard for me. I tell everyone ‘no’. My closest friends, my family, everybody. And he’s right. Eventually, after you say no for so long, people just stop asking you to do things. And that is the loneliest feeling in the world
Thats why every 2 no's 1 yes gotta come. Introverts gotta develop a system to navigate the social world. Too much yes to people and you burn out, too much no and you are left alone.
Yea I did that for so long and it's true. Now I'm all alone
Yeah ive ran into this problem but even if people stopped asking i just ask them instead it's a two way street
@@kobbehh I suppose. Idk sometimes I get these periods in my life where I just wanna be alone. Like I don’t wanna do dick. I come home from work, watch porn play video games and go to sleep 😂 and one of my friends will ask me if I wanna go out and I’m like ‘fuck no I’m tired.’ Idk sorry I’m ranting. I think my issue is that once I get in a rut, it makes me more introverted, which drives me further into the rut and it’s an endless cycle
@@dungusglumbus9946 yeah im the same but life goes on and my friends knows how i am so we chilling
I was really worried that I might find happiness at some point, but I realized that I'm already doing most of the things in this video. Thanks so much!
@N Gonzales same
damn same this is the first time i can follow a tutorial
bro don't be a bum get work done try to be happy man its a good feeling
@@Beylatheshepherd yo stop make life miserable try to be happy its a good feeling
Uh being miserable is bad
my god, first yt tutorial i actually followed 100% correctly.
edit: Ok this hits me insanely hard, i actually do all of this.
its a match !
lmao
😀😁😂
@@samgalloway3012 im close to being 100%
A few steps si would add:
1. Live in the past and hold grudges
2. Seek validation in others
3. Criticize other people
4. Surround yourself with equally negative people
can u explain a bit more number 2?
@@melancoholicmake your self worth dependent on the attention and opinion of others, for best results makes sure it’s strangers you will never interact with again
Surrounding yourself with equally negative people is better than being alone. They will all have a lot to talk about.
@@rodneyhamilton2562i disagree, i think you learn a lot of the good things about yourself when you take the time to be alone and be with your thoughts. being surrounded by equally negative people will only bring you down more (in my opinion).
No you don’t want anyone equally negative around you, they must be less so that you’re the most negative!!! If they are 4mica you must be 5mica
1.) Wake up whenever you want to.
2.) Make sure your house is a complete disaster.
3.) Procrastinate.
4.) Look busy.
5.) Wait for opportunities.
6.) Be default no.
7.) Be suspicious of people. Never give anyone the benefit of the doubt.
8.) Never fix the things you dislike about yourself.
9.) Focus on things you can't control.
10.) Use fear as a motivator.
11.) Only do what is comfortable.
12.) Believe you're special.
13.) See life not as it is, but what you want it to be.
Only do what is comfortable*
Well thanks!
You know what this sounds exactly like my dad...... I need to change 180° I'm 21 is not too late
Just pinned this on my wall. My goal is to do 6/12 opposite things each day, when that becomes a routine 8/12 and so forth
14.) Post long comments on TH-cam videos
please don’t take this down. this is a wakeup call and I’m going to cry. Thank you, more than you know.
Waking up is harmful and toxic, this video should be removed or at least censored.
@Lazar It's a j-j(burps) joke man. Ugh.
I think you underestimate how much time and effort go into making a video like this. Don't worry, he won't be taking it down.
I'm new to this channel. Does he usually take down vids or what?
@@arturo8475 can always happen to any video on youtube
This guy knew all of us who suffer from this stuff are wasting their time on youtube at midnight instead of going to sleep.
Yup
Jokes on you it’s 8:42am here
@@_kilex_3538 same
By that definition, we're wasting our time right now lol ...and he just called us out on that. 😅
@@David_K_C it's 8:42 AM here RIGHT NOW lol (4 hours behind you apparently).
This is EXACTLY what my severe crippling and chronic depression, anxiety, and PTSD does to me, despite therapy and 3 different medications. I would kill to feel true joy just once, because at 54, I can’t remember the last time I felt it.
What happened
@@DogBiter3000 starting when I was 20, I was diagnosed with severe Crohn’s disease, and stage four intestinal cancer. I’m now 55. I’ve had 37 surgeries removing 95% of my entire gastrointestinal tract, which led to kidney failure. I’ve been clinically dead three minutes, the cancer came back three more times, I barely survived each time, I’m just an empty shell of who I used to be, and it’s a lot more than my brain process. God knows I’ve tried, people tell me I should be thankful to be alive, but just to live isn’t enough, not when you can’t go anywhere or do anything because you’re daily medical regime takes up almost all your time. Sorry to be a downer, but that’s the truth.
You are a hero! 👑️ Don't worry about your age! You are never too late! Do anything you think which would make you happy, even tho it's a very little thing.
And don't be sad or worried about your life, because you already won! And I think the reason you overcame death and heath problems is you deserve to enjoy ur life. May be reducing overthinking, constant negative feelings and doing any little thing which bring u joy will help. I know its hard at first, but it does a big impact
(Eg- watching sunset, having dinner in your favorite restaurant, giving food to birds, watching a plant grow, meditating, having a little convo with a stranger or a neighbor, watching ur favorite tv show, dressing nicely, wearing ur favorite perfume) I know they are very little things, but they bring joy.
Plus get rid of phone addiction and social media addiction. They mess up our mental health and happiness. Removing social media accounts and reducing screen time is the best decision I ever took.
U are same age as my parents. I don't want to see them unhappy, neither you.
I know you will definitely feel true joy. Waiting for happiness to come to you won't help. It must come from within you..because it is how you feel. So be happy!!! You got this. Love you! ❤️
Please read quran book @Paranormalin416
Please read quran
I think the reason this is relatable is because everyone’s been there at some point. Just make sure you don’t stick around to long. Take care guys!
I exited the video came back to say I did it again, have a good night
@@ViiRaLChaoticGamerTM23 fuck...
Still in this rut. Been 7 years. Really don’t know what else to do but I’ll keep trying
@@itzricky4091 Today is the day you turn it around.
@@itzricky4091 I was stuck deep for 5.
Can’t tell you how long it will take but your guaranteed success if you don’t give up. Hit every day as hard as you can.
The accuracy of this video is shocking and confronting. This is what I need, not another goddamn morning routine video.
!!!
Yes bro you’re so right
It's basically a "reverse" morning routine video that you just reverse engineer.
Agreed!
Me too man
The fact that this sounds exactly like the average person’s life is simultaneously discomforting and humorous
People live like this? I know maybe one person and he suffers from a very debilitating depression. Otherwise, everybody else I know is so fucking busy working/studying they can’t afford to live like this.
@@ConMan97 Being busy working or studying won't protect you from any of the points mentioned. Being "fucking busy" is actually what leads a lot of people to start checking things off this list, including me.
Stop trying to act smart
@@ConMan97 but, the people who are mostly busy working are probably avoiding there inner problems.... Fun trick take all of someone's distractions away and see how long they can go with there own thoughts.... Because I've never met anyone who can just sit there and deal with them yet....
I say that would be suspicious in itself, only snake oils peddler make something ordinary into a problem.
They make something that isn't normally a problem, and make it one, so you want to solve it, and it just so happen they have this book/program/method for you to solve this very big problem of yours.
Be careful of those who make the mundane problematic.
Being able to say no and prioritize yourself is actually really important advice...
Make sure to say that to your wife then.
@@DuncanWilliamsOFFICIAL Sounds like a You problem, to borrow that self-help parlance you weirdos are so fond of.
Yes but always saying no leaves you alone with no opportunities while you “prioritize yourself” as a way to keep yourself lazy and underworked
“If you stress too much about something before it happens, you basically put yourself through it twice.”
Damn I needed that perspective, thanks
Thanks bro i needed that
so true, thanks!
100% true
Bad thing is when you're actually right about something happening, ugh.
Extra step for people who want to go the extra mile to be miserable: focus on how much better the past was and how the future will never surpass it, it will really make you feel like you are never going to be happy again.
this is a good one ):
Get some psychotherapy.
Or how much worse the past was and that you didnt change for the better at all and are the same. Also care about what others think too much. And beat yourself up over every little mistake you make. And care about looks alot
and if something good ever happens, dread the future since it will be worse
Thank you
It scares me how close to home every single point in this video hit.
I do literally every single of these points!
Hello from the other end of the spectrum. I was where this video is a decade ago.
I promise it's worth it to seek peace and happiness.
@@baranobama5375 what I'm on currently.. dont know how to escape it
As someone who has been doing these things for almost 3 years, I can confirm that this is very good for me.
the magic behind this video is just brilliant… instead of telling us what to do in order to be successful in life, it tells us how to become a miserable piece of garbage because it is more effective to reflect upon ourselves and understand what we do wrong to become exactly that what we dont want to be.
Werd dawg
@@jacobgivich2581 So you wanna be a playa??
Iooooo
Oooô
Spot on
This is so much better than self-improvement books, videos, etc.
Literally. It’s kind of a “reverse psychology” method which I appreciate
Self destruction book
Yes, sometimes the contrasting view is important like this video.
I mean not really. Just listing a set of problems doesn't help anyone to solve them. I know very well that I am in a hole but not how I can get out of it.
@@iamchris6033 yeah
its like I don't wanna be like this
I started the video by thinking "I'm sure I don't most of the things he talks about" and then he starts with waking up at unreasonable hours
Lol
I wake up at 9 but work from bed then I end up napping cos my brain doesn't work during daylight. Then I research at night and repeat til the weekends.
Lmao 🤣
@@chrisspeed270 yeah, but they wake up late because they work. I wake up late because I waste hours in the night staring at screens
I legit woke up at 2pm after clicking on this.
smh...
This is so much better than those annoying videos of trying to make your life better
But he is trying to make your life better just in a different way.
This was suggested to me at the best time possible.
This is currently my life right now, with the exception of "think I'm someone special". I've realized it ages ago, and I've tried to change it countless times, but it never works. Just got out of High School, and, sometimes, it feels like I'll never make it and dying would be easier, since living is too much of a chore for someone as lazy as me.
It's like a cycle: I get motivated, I start doing stuff, I get distracted with something and then, hours or days later, I completely forget what I was supposed to be doing, indulging in something that won't bring me a better future, and then, I reach the state I'm in right now. Rinse and repeat.
Despite that, I'm still not giving up. I know someday I'll be able to leave this cycle and be someone fully productive and happy with myself. It's not easy, but I'm gonna make it, somehow. The same goes for whoever is reading this, the first step is to realize that you're in this state and probably try to create some small habits and better your life slowly. The hardest part is the beginning.
Apologies for the rant.
No apologies needed - you're absolutely right. I'm in a similiar spot but I think we can leave the vicious cycle. Let's do it!
It's a journey. You got this, we believe in you.
I have always been the same way and I’m trying to break free! love myself more, you got this brother
I had a realization moment the other day that motivated me some, but the energy is hard to grasp for long. This is a great message to my eyes, as will it be for others. Thank you for this 🍉
Haha same
The moment when you realize he's basically describing your life
Real.
He just made me hate myself more
@@swiftblaqness same
Pain..
Specially where he said the fantasy part. I have such a fiction in my mind and it is so detailed, Im so scared to let it go. It’s either diving out of the 16th floor window or putting in effort , and the first has never been more appealing.
This video is a mirror to me and showed me exactly how deeply flawed my way of thinking and how garbage my mind really is. Being miserable is a mindset, not an emotion. But I’ll try my best to get better.
just do it
Good luck, you can do it!
Having your eyes opened to your backwards mindset was the hardest part. Now that the veil has been lifted and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, you are presented with a choice:
Will you stay as you are, content to let your darkness consume you? Or now, having tasted light, will you crave it with all your might and stop at nothing to achieve the peace you desire?
Fight my friend, fight with all the strength and resolve you can muster. And know that you do not fight alone.
You probably won't, but I you do
"I'll try my best" I hate those words, and i hate them more when they come out of my mouth. I'm just so good at giving up on things even if i developed an habit, i'm miserable.
Comparing yourself to others.
Focusing on what you don’t have
The "you can do it" tone of motivation never does it for me. Feels like someone is lying to my face. This on the other hand... this is different lol
Or it just feels like idealistic bullshit
This cuts deep for sure...
Feels like it slaps me back to reality
Well i don't know, this is a good video, but it's not gonna change my way of living.
@@destructo3457 no TH-cam video is gonna change your way of living sadly
This is painfully accurate. You don't realize the dangerous cycle your in until someone else shows you like this. Sort of a wake up call for a lot of us, thank you for this.
I honestly thought I was the only one in this cycle! I guess I feel less alone. I've lived this cycle for so many years I don't know how to change it.. :(
@@Anonymous-fj2uo Maybe this could help, maybe not. Ask yourself, ok, if I had the courage, if I was the person I envision myself to be, what would I do? What excites me to do the most? Don't rush it, spend some time with yourself and answer this question. Then, and believe me, this works! If you have instagram, twitter facebook and other garbage, please do this. Delete your accounts, complete DETACH yourself from this garbage. The reason why I'm telling you to delete your accounts instead of just ignoring them is because, you won't ignore them, you already have it in your instict to open them. After you did these 2 things, now here comes the hardest fight yet. After you know what you want to do, or at least, if you have an idea of what would make you accomplished and proud of yourself, you need to do start small. Do it a little now, a little tomorrow. But here's the catch. Consistency is key, not how much you do in a day. Don't overpush yourself, do it a little each day, and have patience, you won't become amazing next week or next month, but you sure as hell will become better next year, and the years ahead. Also remember, do not waste time thinking about shit that you have no control over. Politics, economy all that other garbage, when you think about it and how unfair it seems, push it out of your head ASAP. Good luck stranger from youtube! PS: Cutting down youtube altogether will also help massively.
@@ionutluchian9720 thanks for the advice.
Same
@@ionutluchian9720 about the last part, TH-cam is kinda one of my best sources of educational content, so I can't really cut it out, i just try to minimize all the pointless bullshit videos that don't really help me
Finally, a life coaching video i can watch and honestly say 'i've nailed it'.
I feel the same way. It gives me a wonderful feeling of accomplishment. I've reached the top of Misery Mountain. It hasn't been easy, but I've persevered in spite of temporary setbacks.
Hahah this is funny
I have accomplished 11 out of 13. Only 2 more to go!
@@phatmonkey11 Don't give up! You can succeed!
I actually felt good watching this.
escape this living hell, and find a book called 'Unveiling your hidden potential' by Bruce Thornwood, it changed my life
There's no such book
1.) Wake up whenever you want
2.) Make sure your house is a complete disaster
3.) procrastinate
4.) Pretend to be busy
5.) Wait for opportunities
6.) Always say no
7.) Be suspicious of people
8.) Never fix the things you dislike about yourself
9.) Focus on things you can’t control
10.) Use fear as motivation
11.) Only do what is comfortable
12.) Believe you are special
13.) See life not how it is, but how you wish it to be
1) I need to work on that. I wake up at a decent time but I don't get out of bed for 2 hours, just sit on my phone.
2) It's not that bad, I'm comfortable in it.
3) Oooof, big time. My problem is, though, I get tired so quickly of just the simplest stresses, like literally tired, it's almost like it's impossible to stay productive for long (and people will tell me, oh you just don't WANT to...) but really it seems almost impossible.
7) This is something I can't help. After over 20 years of mental abuse in my life I have become severely paranoid and unable to trust anyone.
8) I simply accept what I cannot change. I used to be a better person but it's definitely slipped in the recent years.
9) Thankfully I don't focus on those things
11) Life is short. I do put effort into things, but minimal. I might need to work on putting more into it, but I still believe it's important to stay comfortable and happy. I'm a moderate hedonist.
12) It was actually a recent revelation, a few months ago in fact, where I realized I am not special. I'm glad I realized this, it helped me a ton. I'm not happier per se, but a lot more realistic.
More of a note to self and venting.
Sigma rules
I'm seeing how it is and it's still making me Miserable
I see all these things in myself but i always remember rule 8 baby 💯
@@breadfan590 never thought i'd see a 20+ yr old saying oooooof lmao
This has been my daily life style since I graduated high school 2 years ago
Since covid
Me too
It's time to change. Bro get up. *GET THE FUCK UP!*
Same, except I graduated in 2010. Lol.
What should we do
The fact that he's being so sarcastic with this whole ordeal just makes it even more motivating to the point its pressuring
You pretty much described how I was feeling the whole video. Like the reverse psychology here is so strong that I immediately got up and started being productive as soon as the video was over.
Thats not sarcastic if you want to have a bad life than follow these steps, man is spitting some truth lol
@@TheOneAndOnlyJinglebi it's sarcasm
Funny how it was the opposite for me, it actually motivated me to be more disorganized and hedonistic, and made me ingrain the belief more than I should support prodigality.
However, from the tone of the video, and his looks, the video does look a little sarcastic if I'm being honest.
This is an amazing video, it’s hard to show people who live like this how what they’re doing is affecting them and how they can change but framing it like this makes it very clear
this whole video is just a huge fucking “haha, i do that” vine over and over again it’s like a jumpscare every time i saw something i do in this video
I know its too scary when you realize you might be doing the things that steels away happiness
jorji i always gave you access. i hope you found yourself
Exactly my thoughts
I feel better knowing that Jorji from Cobrastan feels so similar to me. We've got this Jorji, we'll make it through
Nah his house looks so clean mine looking like a trash can
At first I thought that being miserable in life would be difficult due to the vast amount of amazing experiences it has to offer but after watching this it gives me the motivation I need to make life miserable.
Meh, I'm too lazy to go through 13 steps just to be miserable.
I'm fine with being half miserable.
@@kakarusakusei6194 Then what is the other half of you feeling?
@@kakarusakusei6194 1 zero
H and I don't know if hk.
@@kakarusakusei6194 mbo
This is just the description of depression and its an extremely difficult circle to escape. I mean every single thing this person says is 100% on point
If this is depression im depressed
@@thijsboss1246 me too 🥲
@@thijsboss1246 well these are all signs of depression but it doesn't mean you are 100% depressed if you can relate to it and I wouldn't use this video as a form of diagnosis but there is a reason it's called "how to be miserable for the rest of your life"
@Acave give up social media, stop watching the news, stop consuming junk food, hang out with positive people, get a restful sleep schedule, get lots of sun, exercise often, start every morning with a purpose in mind, and I believe your depression will soon subside.
This is a recipe for depression, not the illness itself.
Most powerful video I’ve seen all year. Thank you.
“How to be miserable for the rest of your life”
Just stay the way you are…
Perfect 👍.
Perfection.
That’s harsh but true
i cried
Objective accepted
This video got to me... I'm so deep in this hole rn, every day is hell
pain.
You'll get out of it friend. Not gonna be easy but you will
Change your environment. It helps. Structure that’s forced can make you feel anxious at first and then really good. I promise you that you are way more impressive then what you think!
Semen retention for 4 weeks see how you feel. Just see yourself as Spartacus and think... Is he a drunk loser? Does he use social media? Does he watch porn? Does he use tinder? Does he talk like a bitch? FUCK NO. Good luck bro
Everyday is a struggle, I'm tired of waking up
God this is painfully accurate.
It hurts doesn't it.
hi hawk!
Why arent you in team tribe videos anymore?
God codm is just an app that makes ppl through their life away and the bad thing is I want to do it even tho I’m 14
Bro.. I haven't played cod in 2 weeks...
The fact is that this guy has accurately described my whole person for the past 6 years is really scary...
Same man, same
your not alone
I hope you're better now
same...
Same bro
This video: *exists*
My ego halfway through: STOP STOP I'M ALREADY DEAD
frrrrrrrrrrr
The truth is too real
Omae wa mou shindeiru
@@maxwellsequation4887 Nani!?
I feel so called out at the “wait for opportunities”.
Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day
Fritter and waste the hours in an offhand way
Kicking around on a piece of ground in your hometown
Waiting for someone or something to show you the way
Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain
You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today
And then one day you find ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun
I feel called out at every single one of these wtf I am screwed
@@Tommy-gk6bh me too, we must change
@@symblesurfing7666 how? It's easy in theory but it in practice is almost imposible, at least when you are 30
@@george1449 that's such a common and easy escape for not fixing your life, saying that it's too late since you're too old now. it's never too late to fix yourself and not live a miserable life. don't wait for opportunities to come to you, take action
Followed the guide. Actually started enjoying life. Thanks, chief!
Another one: Be so afraid of making mistakes that you do nothing instead.
I feel this one the most. I've been doing my best to change however and so far I've been doing somewhat better with taking chances instead of being too scared to do it. it truly feels so refreshing and nice.
Yeah this is me
Alternatively, be a perfectionist, but let that stop you from trying new things. After all learning requires failure and failure is bad.
@@TylireousGaming that one hit a bit too close to home
Or try to make changes hundreds of times and give up, because nothing works.
1-wake up whenever you want to
2- make sure your house is a complete disaster
3- procrastinate
4- look busy
5- wait for apportunities
6- be default "no"
7- be suspicious of people
8- never fix the things you dislike about yourself
9- focus on the things you cant control
10- use fear as motivation
11- only do what is comfortable
12- believe you are special
13- see life not as it is, but how you wish it to be
Thank you my friend.
Needed this
The last one hits too hard im about to cry
@@leviliam5702 dont cry over the things you can change❤
I literally do all this but I don't find my life miserable. But I'll try my best to change it before it starts to become miserable
0:04 - 1. Wake up whenever you want to.
0:30 - 2. Make sure your house is always a complete disaster.
0:53 - 3. Procrastinate.
1:15 - 4. Look busy.
1:42 - 5. Wait for opportunities.
2:10 - 6. Be default "no".
2:35 - 7. Be suspicious of people.
2:53 - 8. Never fix things you dislike about yourself.
3:14 - 9. Focus on things you can not control.
3:43 - 10. Use fear as motivation.
4:04 - 11. Only do what is comfortable.
4:24 - 12. Believe you are special.
4:56 - 13. See life not as it is, but how you wish it to be.
5:40 - Audible.
The last one is enough
**...do nothing but listen to audible...**
"no no he's got a point-"
@@insectslayer1374 lmafoo
suspicious
13 Rules for Unlife
"Only do what is comfortable" hits hard
Depression for men is especially hard to crawl out of. We always have this idea in our heads that we need to be strong and unwavering pillars of might and masculinity, but in reality everyday is a struggle and we just need help without being pitied.
We got this bros, take everything step by step and reclaim our happiness.
Fym reclaim happiness its not hard to find something to be happy about including yourself. Its a literal mindset change thats all
@Nobody Others men make fun of men who do that, so is technically their own fault 🤷♂️
@@ohnaw223 spoken like someone that’s never experienced major depressive disorder
@@atanaZion
It's one person's fault what another person does? Seems legit. Stop generalizing bruh
@@Tweezer510 I'm literally trying to make you guys realize is left to yourself to change what toxoc masculinity is like but its harder when you want blame feminist or some shit for this
This was the longest 7 minutes of my life because I am guilty of all of this. Insanely motivational
wait, I didn't even realize this video was 7 minutes after reading your comment.😬
This wasn't motivational. This was a call out to all the people in the world that do this, and are perpetually stuck in their own self misery that they just can't get out of. It's not about being miserable, it's about not wanting to go on or keep going.
@@dr.dreamer8914 it’s called sarcasm 😂🤦♂️
I felt bad at first because I've done all these things, but then I realized that I have made a concerted effort to correct all these things as well.
No it’s not. You will go back to doing nothing.
The fact that I can relate to most of these really tells me that I need to make a 180º turn on my lifestyle, however, I’m just an introverted teen so it’s kinda normal I guess, but if I want to improve myself for the future, I better start doing it now, before it’s too late…….
Just because it's normal doesn't mean it is right. I believe in you homie, break the mold. I'm trying myself, I just gave up again today, but this video inspired me and I'm now pushing myself again. I wish you the best.
@@ithinkimtherealcam7628 the worst feeling is when you realize you were a better person before, when you actually tried, but now just stupid jaded and lazy
Crazy how everyone here feels the same way
Same bro, same........
same…
Making excuses is another one not mentioned here, that I am extremely guilty of. I need to stop doing that.
i think the fact that this is more motivating than "motivation" videos and channels are says a lot
This!
Right cause it speaks to you on a different level
That, and the really good production of the videos is just a bonus honestly. It's told from a different narrative, and not just people telling Random stuff with no context or explanation
The irony in the fact that if this video is motivating you it's actually your fear of failure motivating you.
True but have you done anything productive today? Or was this just temporary hype?
It’s crazy how much in detail he goes. Because at some point in his life he felt it all. Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been struggling and I am crawling out of this hole I’ve been in day by day.
Keep on grinding fam
Yes its the detail. Very much that
Not being focused and consistent had been my greatest weaknesses in life, I only start getting better after experiencing dark night of the soul
But he had his own house and white collar job living in US.
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This was an eye-opener. I'm so used to seeing how people say "you can do it!" and "believe in yourself!" It feels so shallow. They mean well, but when you have chronic depression, it feels like telling a drowning person to swim. My entire life I've been saying to myself "this time, things will be different. I will change," and failing every time, sinking me lower and lower into the belief that it's *me*, inherently, that is the problem. That I can't get better. That I won't get anything accomplished, because I'm not like everyone else. Everyone will surpass me, because they always have, because I am incapable of change. I've watched the world around me grow and change while I am trapped, because I am inferior.
But this video wasn't telling me what to do to change my life for the better. It was, instead, telling me what to do to make myself miserable. It was not preachy or shallow. It felt like having a hand to hold, eyes that saw pain and grief and understood. The video along with all the comments starts to loosen the grime that has built up in my psyche from repeated failures and idling as everyone else's successes had seemed to prove my own worthlessness and inferiority.
I wouldn't call this video life-changing. Hell, I'd only first watched it an hour ago. But what I can say is this: this has helped me feel more human. I'm so thankful I've stumbled across it. I'm gonna keep this as a reference for a long time.
Now that you've seen it, you gotta do better. Just better than last time. As long as you take one step ahead, you might get a bit closer. Or theres always the option to follow this video, sit in the same spot and never move.
An eye opener, huh?
Point 12. Believing that you're special will make your life miserable!
You know what you're supposed to do? Think of your life as a pathetic worthless pawn of society! I guess doing so will cherish your life bro. Just don't be feeling that you're unique. *Try it!*
absolutely dogsht.
Amazing comment, relating to you a lot right now. A LOT. I’m 19 and feel so scared to turn 20 as I feel I’m nowhere in life and have accomplished nothing, struggling to even feel human at all. I hope you enjoy your life a little more after this video
@@mhazg6621 nah mate, he's got a point. People who are geniuses are often extremely depressed, or get depression later in life. That idea of entitlement is what he's referring to, that nobody else can be like you are, nobody else suffers like you do, that you're unique. The point is that other people have gone through what you've gone through, and that other people are similar to you. There's always someone else out there that's gone through what you have and made it out the other end.
@@birb2200 hahaha, no. The 12 and 13th 'advice' is stupid. Wishes motivates people, not making ones life miserable.
The most important step to be miserable is to be born kind person
Instructions unclear, managed to get my life back together and is now living happily with a family and a loving wife
same, i hate when it happens to me
>loving wife
Those don't exist anymore, they have mutated into thots and e-girls.
@@anti-semitickrogothonitswa8406Who hurt you?
@@Прыжкивводу-ц7в His wife's boyfriend
holy shit you messed up
I started to watch to procrastinate and just ended up realizing I do everything on this list I really need to work on myself honestly thank you for this video
Glad someone else said it too, well done mate. I did the same sitting worrying and began to watch to realise I'm feeding the depression. Time to change ways, it's exhausting.
I was the 69th like ( i should propably start working on that presentation and study for exams ).
Exactly the same.
Totally agree with ya. It's scary how relatable this video is.
I'm in the same boat as you man. I'm 25 but I'm pretty much 18 or 19 because I have absolutely nothing to show for being 25
As someone who is living a miserable life, I can confirm this is the ultimate tutorial.
Well take this video as a sign to start improving your life and lifestyle.
then change it.
@@King-mz8xe yeah mate. Number 1 and 2 I need to get rid of the habit. I wake up when and go downstairs without showering😭😭
Good for you I guess..?🤷
You can start changing it now
Im glad im on the right path!
I've improved myself in many ways over the past couple of years, but a few of these still hit pretty hard and remind me that I still have a lot to learn and improve on.
I was a boi. They were two girls. Can I make IT any more obvious? I am TH-cam's ALPHA MALE. Acknowledge IT, dear rss
Knowing that you’re not perfect is the first step to improvement. Way to go!
why do people always think they have to improve? we die anyway
Same man
@@MetalGuitarTimo step 8
1st minute: "Haha this is funny."
2nd minute: "Hmm, he got a point, might wanna overthink some stuff in my life! Hehe!"
3rd minute: "Oh noooo... I feel miserable now, it's such an accurate description of my life..."
4th minute: *sniff* "I hate myself."
Let's continue procrastinating
@@kevin-ru6oe exactly!
imagine you the last 3 minutes
@@kevin-ru6oe im down, if we wait long enough something good will happen??? T_T
@@coreeater8677 no always :l
Finally, a motivational video I can actually achieve!
the best motivation video ever
Ikr
So you are motivated by fear
@@Pyraman yea... :(
@@edberaga6357 same ;-;
I was born in 1971 with a family that’s was together 40 years todays kids have split families and mobile phones were invented this is what becomes the problem of today. Split family and phones and social media. One life live it enjoy it. Too much common sence is missing google has all the answers yet books were there for hundreds of years before. Listen to this
The more technologically advanced man gets the more he’s killing himself to live. I’m glad I never had a phone till I was 35 I enjoyed and gathered many good memories of my life. Too much gossip mongering online. Life is for the living.
Wow, this is crazy. This is crazy. It is like you’re summing up my life. Each step describes my descent into whatever this life I’m living is now. This life I live is so pathetic. Thank you for making this video.
Hey, wish you the best, hopefully you have more luck getting out of these habits than me.
I'm on the same boat. Life will get better.
Most people live like this
Ok
@@JesseGelatnis It will, thats why we dont need to worry about it. Just keep living a sloppy life and it will all work out 👍
This was an eye opener, I have issues with procrastination, being uncomfortable with anything that requires real life social skills, and just being downright lazy. Not giving a damn about what I should be doing rather doing what I want to do giving myself excuses as to why it’s okay like having more time down the road to do it or some other lame excuse or just having trouble giving myself an image to others thinking they’d judge me negatively for that so I wouldn’t do it in the first place. It brought up a whole bunch of unnecessary anxiety, which was all in my head. I keep telling myself I want to change and become a better person, I’ve started going to the gym regularly which is a start but I still feel like sometimes I make it an excuse for people not to judge me or an excuse to not be lazy I don’t know why, yet after watching this video I feel as if that shouldn’t come across my mind as an excuse because it isn’t, it’s just something I want to do and that I shouldn’t use it as a reason to not be lazy and do my daily tasks. Because for one, being lazy gets you nothing in life, no accomplishment, no productivity, just dragging yourself into a deep hole of missed opportunities. Which this video helped me realize all of this, thank you for making this.
14. pretend like you have FINALLY REALIZED something at least once a year
I'm too lazy to read all that, but I'm sure it's great or whatever. Good job 👍
Hey man it’s not about the start it’s about the finish set minor goals for YOURSELF at the gym and in life and don’t worry about the noise of trying to come across as someone being productive all that is a facade. If you do that you will be that person that makes yourself happy. Once you get out your own trenches you won’t be looking back 👏🫡
and people will always judge whether it be good or bad
@@matthiasthulman4058 same
This is actually the life I’m living right now unfortunately.
Same, gettin out of the cycle is rly hard
@@tommyfanzfloppydisk Same here. Tried a dozen times. After few days I return to the usual lifestyle 😶
Same smh and I talk the most, smile the most and I’m very outgoing. I constantly want to sleep so I guess that’s depression reminding me it’s there.
@@dbad9664 keep trying. Do it a million times and eventually you’ll get it. Then there’s no chance of failure, because you already took the first step.
@@xxxx-jh5vc what if I already failed, even if I took the first step?
So many people needs to see this
Everyone: "OMG this is so sad..."
Me: "I wish I was this guy, he actually has friends, a job, and a house."
Him: "I wish I was this guy, he's so lucky."
Me: "I wish I had Kentucky Fried Younglings' name"
@@cjgreen4331 me : I wish I had a name
You deserve it more than him
Don’t wish. Go chase ur dream
Well lad your name is Kentucky fried younglings you should be swimming in bros
Im crying so hard because this is the perfect description of my own life. Every point coincides perfectly with me. Thank you so much
lol why are you crying, bro?
You are NOT miserable. Don’t let urself tell you that by someone who obviously doesn’t have fucking mental problems. These are symptoms of depression and I have it too. Please don’t let this put u down u are amazing
Stay strong bro u have time to change
@Tom Van Loenen course i am. I’m the one trying to make someone feel better about themselves bc i have depression myself. You did nothing so in this situation YOU are the one NOT HELPING.
Me too except for the part about believing that I'm special.
"Not everything is a lesson Ryan. Sometimes you just fail..."
As Alejandro Jodorowsky said after maybe the biggest disappointment of his life: "Some things in life come towards you and say yes; some things go the opposite direction and you say yes anyway".
He referred to the acceptance of the circumstances in life, even after you have worked so hard but you failed eventually.
Maintaining balance is key, without focusing exclusively on the tragedy, but absorbing it to gain perspective concerning what will come after.
most underrated quote of the office
@@lorenzomoro9286 I've grown into a sense of being careless, when a tragedy happens I simply accept and move on from it, in a way it's good, but lacking that specific emotion is also not that nice I'd say
Thank you Lego man in a cart
@@Lucas_Nuts sounds very stoic, it's called ataraxia I believe.
I was doing this for many years, so lost within it. But every passing moment is another chance to turn it all around, it doesnt always have to be this way.. no matter how impossible it feels to break away and save yourself from yourself, it isnt. ❤️🔥
This is the video I watch to motivate me everyday
this is not good
That seems to check off one of the rules, “motivate yourself through fear,” no?
@@breetoldyouso not really as the only way to know what's good is by differentiating from the bad. The same way if you want to be truly happy, you have to know what sadness is like.
6 days later and u havent replied to any comments, u sure u r watching everyday?😂
@@Dav0yt and why should he reply, if he’s watching this everyday I think he’s busy turning his life around
I've never felt more miserable than finding out that almost every single one of these steps applies to me. Great video.
@somerandomperson834Yes your right, until our last breath we can strive to be a better version of ourselves.
If you tick most of the boxes, y probably should het diagnosed for ADHD, sometimes it's impossible tonget out of the miserable life without help. I found this video extremely toxic cause most of my life i tried to be like the other people, and this self help stuff puts all the burden on you.
The senescence "get up late and be already behind everyone else"
Everyone else in the rat race i think.
Get up any time you want, and and try to use what you are good at to live your life, also i only recently discovered that i can say "NO" and don't feel bad about it.
@@zwloki0 Proofreading before posting is a good habit.
@@AB..__.. agree, but i often get distracted while typing and i forget to do this 😉
Nah. Don't worry about it. It's just a video.
I cried a lot watching this because I just noticed how pathetically I was living my life. You made me realize that instead of trying to become any better, I was just making up excuses. I'm aware that it'll take me some time in order to change, but I'll try my very best to do so. Thanks a lot!
I wish you the best bro 🙌
@@aymanxp8044 Thanks for your kind words!
Well,you already identified the root of the problems now just start to solve then and your life you change!
Good luck
It is an admirable decision, Good luck! (・∀・)
I also learned that sometimes the change in life does not need to be that drastic. It might even be subtle shifts in perspectives and mentality that can end up having a substantial impact on the improvement of your life's quality. ( ╹▽╹ )👍
@@l_m_a_o_ You have no idea how those words mean to me right now! Thank you so much!
I’ve got that part figured out. I’ve basically been miserable most of my life. I’d like a little bit of happiness before I die.
The fact that 1 million+ people have the courage to watch this video proved that there is a motivated and determined part of ourselves who do not want to be THAT guy in the video. I wish you all the best on improving yourselves.
Dang
you got a point
Or just bad at english and don't know what the word "miserable" mean (like me)
@@Meow-eh8qs it means very unhappy
Nah, I just watched it so I could feel like I’m doing something good
Ngl, I just came here to read funny comments so count me out.
This man really knows my problems.
the video came out 60 seconds ago lmao you haven't seen the video yet
@@DanSchweitzer yeah, i still watching this video, i just want to say that this man always make a video about the problems that i faced now, such as how to be productive, how to start your morning, and etc
@@TheNuclearBolton don't cheating, just telling tge truth okay
This video is an accurate representation of me... perhaps too accurate. Is he spying on me? 👀
@@TheNuclearBolton i don’t know, maybe he can read our minds 😶
Damn, this actually is motivating. Reverse psychology does indeed work
It doesn't. It made me feel worse. And I'm in this ongoing shit hole since 8 years now. I thought this was like a video on giving tips in reverse psychology. Instead this video just told me to stop every aspect of my life immediately and I dont feel comfortable with that.
@@Gitarrist85 I don't know if what I am gonna say is any better or worse but I leave it to you to react to it :
It is not meant to be comfortable , changing from this kind of life to a better one is not going to be a comfortable first step and road . "11- only do what is comfortable" , related to this point. I am no different than you and I understand that it's not gonna be a comfortable idea to "improve" , at least not for the current me. But I do hope that some time in the future I will be proud of myself for making a step forward. That being said , good luck in your journey : ( , or our journeys.
@@nana00037 Keep your head up!
Did you make any improvement since you replied to him?Be honest
@@nana00037 hey future NaNa how's it going. Keep it up.
@@David_99778 Hi , thanks for your reply. I feel like I still don't find my answers yet , I try to stick to small habits for now like practicing how to write with my left hand and try learning some vocabulary with the "word of the day" method (I like learning languages) in hope that it makes me feel a bit proud of my achievements in the mid term. So to answer your question , no I haven't really made an improvement ; it still feels like I am stuck in a boring routine that doesn't benefit me that much with only few minutes of actual "lucrative work". I mentioned that I like learning languages but I feel unable to commit and that's why I am learning at a very slow pace right now (I happen to have times when my mood is high and I feel very energetic where I spend hours but that's rare , I wonder if I have BP). For the past days , I haven't been feeling too well but yesterday my mood got better and I am hopeful for today.
These are not absolute truths. Some people love to wake up late, some love to dress casual, some are happy with their career etc
“Only the disciplined ones are free. If you are undisciplined, you are a slave to your moods and your passions.” -Eliud Kipchoge, marathon world record holder.
This quote doesn't make much sense, you can say the same shit just reversed
so you live your whole life in discipline ? wtf ? for what ? wake up 5 am sleep 9 pm ..like a time table ? wow
But your moods and passions drive everything you do to some extent. And either way, whether you enslave yourself to discipline and rules or to random urges and comfort you're still a slave.
Some people like to feed themselves delusions to boost their monkey brain egos.
@UCuJk7g8o46qo5sbBNAhkUnA I think what this author was trying to say when he distinguished being disciplined and free versus undisciplined and a slave to your passions is that when you're undisciplined, you only do what feels good in the short-term regardless to the long-term consequences. I'm angry, I'll yell at my wife. I'm horny, I'll masturbate to porn. But if you're disciplined, you have the freedom to do what is right and beneficial in the long-term regardless of your current mood or carnal passions.
Personally, I don't think anyone could be a slave to discipline. It's easy to be undisciplined. You can walk away anytime, call it quits with one drink, or maybe one unethical move at work. To be disciplined is to put in a portion of yourself toward discipline in order to have the freedom to do the best thing for yourself whenever you can.
@@mrwho.7163 you are disciplined to reach a goal, that's what he means. How can you criticize this comment?
"remind yourself that your entire life could fall apart if you don't keep your head above water" this is what we're TAUGHT.
Lmao ur pfp 🤣🤣
I disagree agree with him on this one
@@juankroosfrausto7411 he's not saying it's false. He's saying constantly thinking that way and dealing with something only when it's dangerous to avoid it is a great way to live miserably
@@Timdeuces So we basically just love to pay bills then die ?
@@cosmic_gate476 true, rather than tread water just to survive, its better to learn how to swim so you know you wont drown.
You always see people giving the positive advice like “exercise, read a book, think positive etc…. But putting it this way is a way that people can relate . It’s the truth and the truth can be shameful and embarrassing but you can’t change the things you don’t acknowledge
People can't relate to the idea of exercising everyday? Why not?
@@3rdStoneObliterum because they live online.
@@SpazzMatticusTheGreat 👍 yep
I do all this but I am happy.
Happiness is not in what you do but in accepting yourself as you are.
Succes you have today, you may not have tomorrow.
But you have yourself for the rest of your life.
Got instructions wrong: now stuck with a million dollars, a million friends and motivation to change the world.
Damn bro, sorry it didn’t work out
I feel sorry for you
Really man. Now I gotta hire BILL GATES to do my laundry.
LMAO
You ruined your life bro
As a guy who is really miserable, I can confirm this works. 👍
I also found that regret coupled with nostalgia first thing in the morning is double effective.
Nostalgia? Why?
@@alio6051 imagining a future where current problems don’t exist is bad enough, coupling that with remembering the past where current problems also didn’t exist makes things worse.
@@Carnage1948 wow man
@@alio6051 because it draws you back to the past without being able to enjoy the present. Nostalgia is good. Too much and its a bad thing.
What for? The past is in the past. Live now.
"How to be miserable for the rest of your life"
Ah yes, finally the tutorial i was looking for
Let's be a miserable chad together Brother
finally a real tutorial on this
a lot of this stuff comes across as “ if you’re not career driven you’re a miserable loser” … there’s so many people who work hard and make good money but are still miserable
I don't think it's about being career driver, just about simply making an effort in every aspect of your life. It's about a mindset that doing hard things and making an effort is the only way forward. You don't necessarily need to be career driven, just do the work you chose as good as you can. That's what I find. And entertainment, vacations and fun feels much better after you know you've already worked and did all you needed to!
Watching this makes me realize I'm not as miserable as I thought, while I do half the things listed, it makes me wonder how much of my sub-conscious has been fighting back at trying to not be miserable, my mind can think all the bad thoughts it wants , but my sub-conscious will always be there being buried deep in the back fighting the good fight against absolute misery.
I wish you the best day, Smug Woody.
No lie😭 I was over here crying because I procrastinated watching this video thinking my life's miserable... I don't like predicting what I do , I normally let it happen depending on my mood. I just need to find that thing that wakes me up; and makes me feel like living... but I can never find it. I always expect it would come back like it always does.
Hello Freud
Hello Freud
@@playground5359 this video just called us out, use it as motivation
For people who do not want to be miserable for the rest of their lives:
1. Wake up at the same time everyday.
2. Make sure your house is always clean and tidy.
3. Don’t procrastinate. As soon as you think of something you need to do, do it.
4. Keep busy doing tasks you need to accomplish.
5. Always be searching for opportunities. Be proactive.
6. Be default yes. Say yes most of the time.
7. Always give the benefit of the doubt.
8. Fix things you dislike about yourself; that are within your power.
9. Focus on the things you can control.
10. Use potential success to motivate you. Visualize your ideal self.
11. Leave your comfort zone on a daily basis.
12. Be humble and resonate with others.
13. Be a realist. See life as it truly is. It will show you what you need to do to improve.
I agree but don't agree with the waking up thing. I love to wake up whenever I feel ready to wake up.
the default yes thing can go wrong easily but the rest i agree with.
Umm if I may, for 6, say yes especially to the divine call that you should serve and not be served. Say yes to the call to serve people even if you know they don't deserve it. Because you yourself received undeserved privileges. Because you yourself is the same as them. Undeserving of the privilege that you've received and that you will now share(-the privileges) to them, to make the world a better place before you leave.
JuSt Be HaPpY
Yeah like Marie Antoinette when she was beheaded for being inside her mansion all the time, eating cake, enjoying her life, being happy, and what about the people that she was meant to serve. She was beheaded and she did not even know why until the end. She was happy.
You know what's happening around the world, what are you doing? You can look away. However, you can never say you did not know. Serve and not be served. That's how life should be. We know people are suffering right now, what are we doing? What am I doing?
Yeah sorry for lashing it out on you. I just feel like I'm sacrificing other people when I feel comfort. Especially when I'm just sitting on our dining room lashing it all out in the comment section of a comment section of a youtube video. Like yeah what am I doing?
I imagine people right infront of me in a single line waiting for me to reach out to them one by one. And it's a long line of people. Right now and in the long run of things, how can I help them? How can I make their lives better? "Some don't deserve it." "I don't care."
1 minute in and this hit me like a truck. My living room in front of me is a mess, I haven’t even brushed my teeth, I woke up way too late, and I’m depressed. Jumping in the shower right now and taking the day by the horns.
That's awesome! Keep it up.
Hell yea!
Hi how was your day so far?
@@mar_7055 Pretty good I’m on a roll with homework and daily tasks. Thanks for asking.
Keep doing man. Sometimes we feel motivated just at the beggining. KEEP DOING IN IT, PLEASE
Took a while to watch this video and it hurts that I've met all of the steps especially procrastinating, doing what is comfortable, and look busy.
I just realized that I've been miserable for almost 5 years since I decided to stop my academic career and never went to college since then. Until now, I still keep playing video games whatever I want because it's my comfort and scrolling to social media to look busy when my family see me to avoid them encouraging me to go to college and improve myself.
For 22 years my life, I'm at the point where I'm so hard to myself. I feel that I'm special because maybe I have undiagnosed ADHD (step 12), and everything is fine (step 13) since still have time to do something to improve my life and fix my bad habits (step 3 and step 8). Until the day that I have to do something or else I fail (step 10).
I don't know, maybe I'm still miserable even after this reflection to myself. I hate this.