How to quickly ruin the rest of your life
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I've been waiting for this! Thank you.
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This comment put a smile on my face
More like dr victor blame, funny as hell
@@imagindraco7971victor blane
Good one
I actually like how severe and unforgiving the writing and direction of this is. These destructive lifestyles are no joke and our awareness is all we have to catalyst change. Nice
I also really like how it's not focused on motivation to succeed, but rather motivation to not live destructively. Its something i think the self help genre could use alot more of
Just a note: catalyst is a noun, catalyze is the verb.
Sources: I'm a chemist :)
Word. Awareness is simply the X-factor that makes people who have failed 1000 times in trying to live better actually do it the 1001th time
I wonder what is the worst thing this guy has ever had to overcome, to feel like this condescending motivational talk is beneficial to anyone but already successful individuals.
Play RuneScape.
Reversing these self development videos by pointing out how to screw one's life as opposed to how to just do things correctly really makes it more relatable and easier to point out what is wrong. I needed this.
Also, the playing runescape part really caught me off guard 😂
every thing he said is my brain . now how do i change it ?
@@laxmanCPWDJE One step at a time?
@@laxmanCPWDJEDo the opposite
What did the RuneScape players do.
this pretty much just described my major depressive episode in 2020 in the beginning of quarantine after I caught a cold, I couldn't do anything. I sat in my room all day, ate chips, gained so much weight while watching youtube videos. I honestly feel so incredibly proud of myself, because I cleaned my room that had garbage everywhere, there was so much you couldn't even see my floor. There were centipedes and other bugs crawling on my floor, and my biggest regret is while I was neglecting myself, I was neglecting my sweet little snake Mike. He did nothing to deserve it and I still beat myself up for it, he would go months without eating. I love seeing how far I've come though, I've been feeding him regularly for an entire year, I go to the gym daily in the morning, and I've lost 60lbs since 2020.
i’m really happy to hear that you made all that progress! hopefully i get through my current slump, it’s easy to watch videos like this, recognise that i’m doing things all wrong but consistent change is much harder
Go internet stranger!
You probably still believe what MSNBC told you to believe.
I wish you and Mike all the best. Go for it!
@@scientistmilorad9735 sad news, he died of old age a few weeks ago. i loved him dearly but he lived a long life
Been following this tutorial for the better part of 30 years, working out just fine so far
oooooo you wanna play runescape ooooooooo
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Ha! Nice one!
Impossible. The video was made 2 months ago.
Well done
The runescape one was a quick jab even Mike Tyson wouldn't be able to dodge quickly enough.
Yeah, glad he said nothing about Old School Runescape though. Phew!!!
Hey guys what’s the dealio with RuneScape here, does our hero actually like it? Is it a running joke I’ve forgotten?
@@josephmercier7291 it’s something he used to play all the time. It’s gameplay never ends. There is always something bigger or better or more impressive to achieve
The 85'-91' Tyson would.
yep that one hit me in the feels
The part about risk/overthinking hit too close to home. I can't even imagine how my life would look right now if not for the countless times when instead of just doing something that I knew was right, in my mind I played out every possible outcome (99% of which were just projecting my fears) ending up either not doing it in the end, or missing the opportunity...
and when you actually fail and never have anything to show for it
I didn’t realize how much I was falling back into bad habits again until watching this video. I don’t socialize, I don’t take risks, I overthink about everything, and I have been struggling with my growing resentment towards people and beginning to believe that this is just how much life must be. Thank you for the wake up call, hearing someone clearly lay out problems you’ve been trying to not think about is really eye opening
I'm in the exact same situation, I intend to watch this video everyday to remind me what I'm doing wrong, and how to be better. Feels like we're up against the world, but it's just us, our minds. We will win this mate.
same, whole video sounded like one big roast to me :D
@@thirsty7281 you are the universe and it is you against yourself... ALWAYS
@@GolfMessiah2005 Absolutely. Responsibility is everything, nothing else to blame except myself, gotta take ownership and push forward. People that blame other things except themselves ruin their own lives.
We shall win
it's wild how on point this is. i'm 22 and i regularly have to remind myself that my life isn't basically over just because i'm currently in this frame of mind
yeah im 21 and pretty much the same experience, especially since i feel like im slave to univeristy, didnt get in yet, but i dont seem to be free until i do pass in one, and until then or until i find some other full time job or something my health is just continuosly degrading to the point of having to go to a doctor for sitting down too much and not walking enough
I turn 30 in a month, I remember being 22. I hate to tell you this but we don't usually start getting better until around 23-24. But trust me, we do get better, at least as people we do. 24 was the year I forced myself to improve. Granted, my life is still kind of a mess, but it's less of a mess.
I was 22 when I thought my life was basically over. Then I introspected deep inside myself, with a little help from my friends, and I became aware of what I was doing and how my life was passing. Then, after several processes and growth, now I feel like I've just started my journey in life. :) Introspect in yourself and go to the roots that make you not be you.
Now I'm 23 btw. Just turned 23 in August.
I’m 20 and this is basically my frame of mind. This video helped me reflect
This video works as a great chart of the progress I’m making from me at my worst. It was initially quite scary to watch as it felt too much of a reminder of my failings. But then I thought I owed myself to face-up to it. And thankfully, it actually had the opposite effect to what I expected. It made me realise how much better I’m doing, how far I’ve come, how I’m progressing, and the things I still need to address. Thanks, great video, great concept. EDIT: I wrote this comment before hearing the sign-off, and yeah, I suspected that was the intent of the video from the beginning, but to hear you say it outright, as an “anti-tutorial” (literally what I thought in my head), shows just how perfectly you executed this film.
Thank you! I'm already following most of this guide, waiting for the few rays of hope to wither away. Only a few weeks left
that sounds bad
I don't care how depressed its going to be. I never stop watching this lovely bald guy.
the balder the bolder!
I second that motion!
He makes us really think. Pessimism is murdering me to no return 😭😥😢
Me neither
i will
Went to the comment section to see how many of us actually struggle with relating hard to that video, me included. I hope every single one of us is going to take the chance to learn, to act, to forge a healthy attitude toward our own selves, on the self consciousness we've built. Thank you for entertaining and showing us a painting that we can absorb from safer distance.
Hope and wish all the best for you too friend ❤️ have a blessed day and the Lord is there for you
I certainly, unfortunately related a lot with the video. I really need to get my shit together.
We are goint to do it, I have faith in myself, and in you, who are reading this
Although I agree with many aspects of this video, the exact opposite mindset can also ruin your life. One must find a balance between both mindsets. Many people will die never having a meaning for being here. And there is nothing wrong with that btw. And believe it or not, that will be the majority of us. The hardest part to come to terms with is the acceptance/simplicity of being. "We just are, for a little while" - George Carlin
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I'll keep it that way unless it's broken, I'll try to come back
It's my 30th in a few weeks and I've never really been this low on life with everything going on with my lack of confidence and self worth. It's safe to say i needed to hear this
Step 9 caught me completely off guard, I was so into this and getting dark and serious, then that came and I just burst out laughing 💀
I come back to this video every once in awhile to keep myself in check, I use to be all of these but i’m slowly working on myself and building back up after being in this reclusive state for 7 years of my life (i’m 18 right now)
Thanks.
This was an incredible video. I'm actually feeling pretty good about myself right now and I still think I do these more than I'd like to admit. Thanks for the reality check man
I love the utter gut punch of every point being broken up by "Play Runescape"
That joke aside, the point about pessimism really resonates. Often self improvement is marred by thoughts of "If you could do this you'd already do so? See, you just made a mistake so you can't do it" and it's an incredibly vicious cycle
Yeah why the hate on Runescape :( probably made more friends on there than irl.
@@myleswillis That's the telling part of it: it's repetitive and time-consuming behaviour that doesn't require much effort but feels "productive". The fact that you made more friends on there doesn't mean that it's any more productive for making friends than other things that interest you, it just means you spent more time on Runescape than on those things.
I'm realising now myself that if you have more online friends than offline, it's not because you're incapable of making offline friends. It's simply because online ones match with your current patterns of behaviour.
Good video. It's strangely, truly a known exercise to think about how to get the opposite of what you want from life.
CGP Grey's version is 7 Ways to Maximise Misery th-cam.com/video/LO1mTELoj6o/w-d-xo.html
I have some maxims I live by that amongst much other Psychology and Philosophy has really improved my life.
"Hope for the best, prepare for the worst" - Unknown, often attributed to Aurelius. Perhaps Disraeli?
"We are more often frightened and pained than we are harmed" - Seneca
"Who is my master? He who decides what I do or do not like" - Epictetus, born a slave and rose to being the most sought-after Philosopher of his time in ancient Rome.
"Be water" - Bruce Lee's philosophy extremely oversimplified.
"Do not overly rely on others, for in complete darkness, even your own shadow leaves you" - A very medieval islamic scholar named Ibn Taymiyyah with some disgusting thoughts very much of his time, but also some great quotes like that.
"Obsessively hating your enemies is like you yourself drinking poison, then expecting them to die" - unknown, often attributed to Buddha but no clear origin.
"If you're going through hell, the best course of action is to keep going" "Solitary trees, if they grow at all, grow strong" - Churchill. I'm putting playlists together on this new 'brand' account in the hope people somehow check them out, and get some use out of them.
@@clickpause8732 Eh, I think this is complicated:
1. Online friendships are a partial, but not a complete, substitute for offline friendships.
2. People vary in how capable they are of forming offline friendships. Some of this is inherent, but a lot of it comes down to what fraction of people in their current offline environment they're well-suited to be friends with. Some of the latter comes down to what sort of offline environment they're currently in (and how capable people are of changing that environment at present varies), and some of it comes down to what fraction of people _in general_ they're well-suited to be friends with.
3. Online friendships are often *much* easier to make for people with unusual sets of needs and capabilities, because the internet lets you filter (not perfectly, but way more efficiently than just about any offline space) for people with specific characteristics, from a truly vast pool of potential contacts.
4. Relatedly, but somewhat distinctly, it also lets you filter for people with _shared interests_ that may be quite uncommon. That's not only true for shared interests that are themselves online, but also for those that aren't -- if you're deeply into weaving (as in, production of woven cloth from yarn or thread), there may be only a handful of people within commuting distance of you who share your passion, and finding even those few may be challenging (not to mention that you may happen to not get along with them for one reason or another). Online? r/weaving has over 45,000 members, and Reddit isn't even a particularly good platform for fiber arts discussions!
5. All of which means that making friends online can be good, insofar as it provides a partial substitute for offline friendships that you _weren't going to have regardless_ (either in general, or specifically with regards to friends who _get you_ when it comes to a particular thing that's important to you), but it can also be bad, insofar as it provides _only_ a partial substitute for offline friendships that you would have otherwise made, had you spent less time online. For a given person, either _or both_ of these may be true.
@@clickpause8732 This was brilliantly said. I recently quit an mmo I had been playing for the past 3 years non-stop. I justified it because it made me feel productive even though it would all amount to nothing one day when I finally was no longer satisfied. I'm now stuck in a game of catch-up as I try to make up for all the lost time that I invested in Realm, that I should've invested in bettering myself and my relationships with the people around me. I'll be alright, but I'm glad I quit when there's still time. MMOs can be quite dangerous of an addiction that can be tough to get out of without the right mindset.
Timestamp:
0:03 - Step 1: Eliminate Your Goals
0:45 - Step 2: Stay Inside
1:19 - Step 3: Avoid Risk
2:09 - Step 4: Overthink
2:32 - Step 5: Consume
3:16 - Step 6: Avoid Criticism
3:59 - Step 7: Be Secretive
4:38 - Step 8: Avoid Conflict
5:34 - Step 9: Play Runescape
5:37 - Step 10: Be Pessimistic
This video hit too close to home. Thank you for making it
Step 11 : drink green goo
i check all of them, i think myself has ruined for 22 years 😅
@Have a Pie, Bill Gates same
@@hanif6065 me too
thanks, you have saved myself the heartache of watching it
I haven’t done literally anything for four days, not leaving my home except for work and I really needed this, thank you. Even though sometimes you need rest and can’t be productive 24/7, there is the time when you need to get back at it.
It’s crazy to come back to this video when doing a lot better. Last time I saw this I was living it
I literally gave up on life 2 and a half years ago and am doing all of these things in this video. It was hard hearing this because I felt every single one on a personal level. It’s a good thing I found this video to challenge my perspective. It’s time to get back on track and try to fix the wrongs I’ve done
Thats awesome man I hope things work out well for you let me know how it goes
Hey, I feel you.
If you’d like someone to chat with and exchange experiences you made, feel free to contact me.
in your bio is a IG name and it said if interested it would be the right account to chat with you, but I can’t find the profile with it, so if you are still interested in chatting, let me know a account name or something.
What if you have a skin disease that keeps you from socializing? What if you CAN'T overcome it, bc people laugh and or stare. And this is where it gets interesting - using antiacne creams make my face appear to look normal again, but it isn't permanent. It can change during temperature changes, or just because, and you're back to square one, people looking at you with pity, laughing or just simply staring, avoiding you. I've been diagnosed with BDD, but I don't believe I have it, the hospital I was in struggled so much to come up with a diagnosis, and this was in 2006, mind you, in a time when NONE of the psychiatrists I was going to even knew what that was.
My face can appear normal, but also can appear too childish for my age and puffy + ugly. That's when people stare. I never had a woman. I was mercilessly being bullied in highschool bc of my illness.
Yes, I resent people, hide in my room, and I'm 34 now.
I can't snap out of it. All I can do is live with this face and feel the pain of life passing me by.
So, what if all you tried failed? And I tried many things. I failed at life, hate this life, people (who laugh at the thing I cannot change), and have no support from my family. I have no goals and nothing brings me joy anymore. My depression is so severe that without meds I would lie in bed 24/7, constantly thinking negatively. I love those videos such as this, bc they are for normal people, but not for those condemned to be ridiculed. Some say "ignore them", you can't, at some point you just can't.
@@belladonnahigh9206 “CAN’T overcome it” is bullshit. I don’t want to be too harsh, but if you say that you CAN’T overcome something, then thats the reason you can’t. I’m not going to tell you to just ignore the assholes, because obviously that’s a monumentally hard task, but you CAN overcome it through consistent action. Start going out more, bit by bit, as much as you can possibly tolerate, every day. Don’t try and cover your face, don’t try and disappear into the crowd. Talk to people, it doesn’t matter if it’s awkward, just start talking more. Start assuming the best in people rather than the worst. Don’t assume someone is an ass unless they prove themselves to be, and if they are an ass, move on. It’s very hard to do, and I doubt there’s many that could pull it off without failing over and over, but you need to accept those failures and keep trying. Otherwise, you’ll never dig yourself out of that hole, or even see the light at the top.
COVID hit you that hard?
The RuneScape step really caught me off guard but I feel it.
Me too, I was not expecting that! I put ~12,000 hours into RS from 2005-2019 & I have nothing to show for it outside of my accounts. I could have been anything.
@@iAWP- should of been play overwatch instead 🙄
@@iAWP- Dude, the feels. So many guys are playing daily, building up a character with virtual strengths. I had a second screen open, grinding away, while the other was doing my primary job. I was addicted. Nothing gained at all.
@@iAWP- bro that’s over a whole years worth of playin runescape are you ok bro ?
it can ruin you
I love this video so much. It challenges the things we just automatically do and think in our day to day lives . More content needs to be like this starting the internal conversation. Making change.
This is brilliant. Very well written and made. It resonates so much. Discovered your channel today. Watched many of your videos and have already subbed.
The more the video continued, the more I realized I've been consciously and subconsciously doing this to myself for half my life, slowly but surely. It's gotten so bad that I find myself in bed 70% of the day and only finding the energy to do things I have no choice but to do. I don't have goals, I don't have friends, no job or education and I have an extremely destructive and addictive personality that's turned me into a consumer, everyday it feels like I'm stuck in a loop of the same hell I've built for myself. I've given up on every dream I've had, squandered every opportunity I was given to succeed, pushed everybody away to "protect" myself which in the end was a load of bullshit because it did way more damage than I could've protected myself from. I've developed severe depression and anxiety over the years, developed trust issues and pair that up with overthinking it makes it hard to believe anything that comes from someone who claims to care about me. I grew up an optimist, but have slowly turned myself into the pessimist that I am today. As bad as it all feels for me, at least I don't play runescape. Jokes aside though, the only reason I haven't given up on life is due to the fact that I don't know what any of that feels like, to be successful, healthy, loved, happy and progressing through life in a way where I feel safe within my own mind and life, if anything its definitely worth striving for, its the best parts of life I see no reason to let your life end without having experienced those things one way or another. All in all I hope everyone lost like me or lost in general finds their way.
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I completely understand how it feels to be in a loop everyday of a hell you created yourself and you’re a strong person for being able to see it for what it is. I’ll pray for you 🙏🏻
You’re getting by without a job?!? I’m intrigued 🤔
(watching from bed at 5:30pm)
I’m going through the same thing I can literally feel your pain the unfair thing about life is it is so hard to escape the hole you’ve digged your self because after all the procrastination and when you finally make your faitted attempt to change it gets to become the most challenging thing to be “Normal” and knowing you used to be, why can’t you now.And either you slip back to being stuck or you face it and feel a pain that is mind numbing.Right now I’m trying to face it but the one thing that kills me even though I’m young have I wasted my life?
@@AdamPDFs The one thing that helps me with that is remembering that your life isn't wasted unless you die without ever trying to make a change, no matter how long it takes, whether its months or years if you put effort into changing your life and fill it with your own gratification, your life isn't wasted. Don't get me wrong, it's going to be hard as fuck to break those habits but i've been reading a lot of comments similar to mine and I see that most people are lost in their own way, you're not alone in that struggle, but finding your way through life is what gives your life meaning and no one can walk that path for you, only you can, but there's beauty in the unknown, you already know what it is to suffer, why not find out what is to live and thrive. You and I deserve that just as much as anybody else.
I needed to read this. Thank you and I feel the same way.. I guess I’m really not alone? But it’s really hard to convince myself things will be okay
Entertaining yourself is a big one, if you let it go unchecked you start to entertain yourself like it’s a full time job and you begin to avoid improving yourself or pushing goals aside as it doesn’t fit in your schedule of consuming media for the day. It’s good to take steps and limit some of those forms of entertainment, changing the time spent on that to something more productive for you. I always think about how much of my goals would be completed if I didn’t focus so much on being entertained.
I've been struggling with this for years, it will literally ruin your life.
@@GraveRave Me too. I've been trying so hard to overcome this. I think it's one of the main modern-days addictions.
I see the data on my iPhone and I’m consistently consuming media 50 hours a week. It’s extremely crippling I don’t do anything else with my free time. I need to figure out a way to actually stop. I’ve been watching Better Ideas for years now and nothing has worked.
@@markm0000 Healthy gamer GG is good for these sorts of things.
This one is hard and mostly because some people dont understand it and only see the good parts in you doing and changing stuff about you.
I also struggle with some of my hobbies like playing video games, watching shows or just relaxing sometimes. I procrastinate my entertaining/relaxing time in some cases.
It is very important to know these darker aspects of ourselves and know how to avoid them. Personally, I was struggling with overthinking, being secretive, avoiding conflict and being pessimistic a lot. little did I know that the things that I had eating up my mind were actually a thing. We have to acknowledge that as human beings we have to deal with these parts of ourselves and know how to deal with them.
4:37 I'm not sure what it is about this shot that is so powerful to me. Something about it castrated itself into my brain and I can't stop seeing it. I have had multiple periods of my life where I acted like the 2 videos in this series. Luckily I was able to recognize it quickly and have enough willpower to pull myself out of those dangerous times. This frame is so vivid to me because I have been in this exact shot before. It's a very dark and lonely place. It's easy to stop trying and let life take its course, but you have to keep resisting the temptation and keep moving foward. Awesome vids and I always rewatch them when I start to feel myself get off track. Cheers!
are you sure castrated is the word you meant? That's a weird image lol
@@dbryn2 I second that haha
This channel is the best in the genre. I love how you’re not a douchey influencer/entrepreneur/redpiller/pickup artist and stick to the genuine growth and improvement. I sincerely feel calmer and reminded to be better when I watch these. Plus the cinematography is consistently outstanding
I agree, but you should check out Struthless, this guy leeds also one of the best channel in this genre (and is also bald, so there are 2 reasons to check him out XD)
@@korneliusoderso A Better Ideas / Struthless collaboration would be amazing!
@@korneliusoderso yess he's so good too! I've watched so many channels about self-improvement and anything about ourselves actually, but really Struthless was the first channel that made me actually at least try to apply what he had mentioned in his videos. Better Ideas definitely is great too with all of the great shots. I also like how he scripts his videos.
My content is much the same.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
This style of self improvement content is genuinely so much more effective than anything ive ever seen great work
so true
i agree, this videos really hitting me hard
Pointing out what are the mistakes is much more effective than suggesting ways to improve
this doesnt help at all its just obvious stuff, they just say whats wrong its not how to improve
you cant just not do it
@@return4887 some obvious things dont seem obvious until someone points it out to you
I put this on as I was going to sleep last night. I just woke up 150lb heavier and the most depressed I have ever been. Thanks a lot.
Amazing tutorial! Been applying it in my day to day 😊
This was an unsettlingly accurate description of my last 5 years. Great analysis, we humans really are archetypal! What gives me motivation is that , judging by how painfully relatable this video is , you obviously walked this path yourself and came out of it a better man. You walk the talk, and that just DESTROYS my five million arguments of "wHy NOne Of THis wOuLd Ever WoRk for mE!!11". Damn you , Joey! ❤️
Oof, mane. That's all I really have to say
Yeah it hurt me too... Man I need a change, I'll change, I'm changing
How do you break the cycle though without it being obvious, how can you suddenly become more optimistic without it being fake
@@davewinst1 You can't let that fear stop you from trying to change. If you want to become better, you'll have to accept failure as part of the journey. Balance comes with experience.
@@Flyx8 your commitment is now carved in stone in this comment section, haha!
I hate that I relate to most of this
I feel like my pre-pandemic self was different. I moved countries, travelled alone, took risks and although all of it scared me I did it anyway,
Post pandemic me is basically this entire video. I moved back in with my parents, got a safe job that's repetitive and easy, and now I'm starting to become slightly agoraphobic, socially anxious and I make excuses for it because of how the world is now compared to back then...
Thank you for this. I need to make a change.
Nah, you don't :P
@@jorisbonson386 boi what
@@xxqino What boi?
@@jorisbonson386 tf u mean
@@xxqino tf u mean brah
Thanks for the easy to follow tutorial, helped a lot
I definitely have some of these and had some of these until currently facing more people with face to face classes. With this, it really proves a point with the pandemic really affecting people for emotionally and its just, sad honestly
This really hurt...seeing my life laid out like a book in front of me with the exact path I am on and the end so clearly defined. Thank you for this video and for not being afraid to put things into a new perspective. We so often search for ways to improve our lives and then brush them off as if they are meaningless. Placing everything in this context really forces our mind to start turning a different. A way that I truly hope for me would actually be for the better
I saw the original one of these a couple of weeks ago and it's genuinely changed my whole perspective and called me out for a lot of the things I was doing eromg every day. Since then I've been going out of my way to do the exact opposite and I've started working on a project I never had the motivation to do before. Good luck to you, we've got this!
Agreed, I need to stop avoiding confrontation and avoiding discipline so much. I do have to say that these videos helped me get back in the gym and I go consistently 2 days a week now, which might not seem like a lot but for 3 years i was basically doing nothing but drinking and watching youtube so i know im on the right track.
@@audacityx Dude, that's big! The gym can be an enormous hurdle for people to get past, so if you're in there, good, and keep at it!
check the "How to stay miserable for the rest of your life" video too. I was rewatching it every time I came across it and then something snapped and I changed my life. keep it up.
I was in your shoes as well. In my case: Christianity had really helped me tremendously. And I don't mean the "let's read some Bible and sing kumbaya" for feelgoods. I went in hardcore solo ultra-nightmare full no-sin "Your will be done, Lord" mode. And now the life's like an adventure quest with no addictions and with the most clarity and peace of mind I've ever had - It's truly Glorious. It's easy to give up everything and deny yourself, when you have nothing while you are nothing. The hard part is being truthful to yourself - for that I thank God, because he was truthful and forthcoming to me when I needed him, even though I was against him and all that he is for.
I honestly didn't think i would feel anything by watching this video. "Avoiding risk" did it for me. That was the most constructively provocative point.
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REPENT OF YOUR SIN AND TURN TO JESUS, FOLLOW GOD OR YOU WILL NOT GO TO HEAVEN, READ BIBLE AND GET TO KNOW GOD BEFORE ITS TOO LATE, GAIN WISDOM FROM THE ALMIGHTY
The "Avoiding Risk" section resonated with me as well...
I mean, have a backup plan tho, like, wear a helmet.
Everyone says that it's a bad thing. Avoiding risk. But if you don't have the financial prospects to recover then your better off sticking with potentially safer options.
Some people, like me. Stick their heads out. Only to have the police called, get pepper sprayed, and loose thousands of dollars over the course of a week that they never financially recover from.
There are very few times I come across what I really need for my self.Thank you for this video because you might just have saved my life.I recently turned 19 and could without doubt tick ALL OF THE ABOVE happening in this video and it is now that I realise what sort of a black hole I’ve been stuck in for the past month.If you are reading this, realise that it is never too late to be your best self.
This video motivated me to write a comment about my actual thoughts, which came up while watching.
First off all: I'm glad that I clicked on this video instead of one that would melt my brain and make me hook to the next ones for a few hours.
And secondly: I'm really happy to see that I'm not alone with these problems. It was like looking in a mirror and seeing the reflections of my past and the temptations of my future.
My life kinda just feels like a loop, so I am glad that this video made me think a bit more.
Thanks.
I used to feel this way when I was 18. I was working at Tacobell and I never stepped foot outside of my city. I was depressed and often dealt with it by locking myself in my room watching TH-cam and Netflix all the time. One day I snapped out of and and stop telling myself “this is it, you’re comfortable here” and started saying “you can and you will be better”. I’m now working at a pharmacy and going to uni for biomedical engineering. I’ve met tons of friends and go out pretty often. If you are reading this and are just like I was, and you feel like you want more out of life. You can. Beleive that.
Please can you engineer Taco bell to not run through me.
I am 17 and I am still in this stage... I know what I want to do but when i start working on it, I just can't for some reason. I start wasting my time . Sorry i don't have good English and it is hard for me to express myself...
@@myleswillis they're an engineer, not a wizard
glad you got out bro love to hear it keep going higher believe that
Very inspirational. Just one thing though, it's "set foot" rather than "step/stepped".
- Set Clear Goals
- Get Outside, Get Inspired by New Ideas
- Take Risks, Fail and Go Again
- Don't Overthink
- Produce Something you Want
- Have an Open Mind
- Be Open to People
- Don't Avoid Conflict, Stand for What you Stand For, Don't be a Doormat
- Try to be Optimistic, Don't be your own Demon
Dont play Runescape
@@gordistador 😂
"Don't avoid conflict" *I don't want peace, I want problems, always!*
You forgot the most important of all.
@@gordistador I think you got it wrong
i've been looking for a tutorial like this everywhere! thanks!
Thank you for the guide! Just gave up all hope and stopped doing anything and staying in my bed all day thanks to the awesome video!
I love these "how to do [the exact opposite of what you claim to want]" guides. It's so easy to see where you're going wrong when put into terms like this.
Ong
To complete this
1: Orient yourself to goals, find your passion
2: Go Outside, talk with friends, enjoy life.
3: Don't let risk be the make or break in a lot of things, be willing to take risk and enjoy what comes with it.
4: Don't Overthink, sometimes a situation went down, and that's all you need to care about, don't hurt yourself by constantly wearing yourself down thinking your improving yourself through self-criticism
5: Take a break, don't constantly be taking in content, put your own opinions out instead of regurgitating what you see online
6: Don't avoid criticism, if someone corrects you then accept that and take pride in gaining knowledge, don't shy from being wrong because through being wrong that is the only way you can become right
7: Voice your problems, don't hide your life from those around you, tell people when you need help because that is something that you shouldn't feel guilty about
8: Feel free to correct others, if someone has a different viewpoint then you, discuss, learn, and grow, don't agree with them blindly for no reason
9: don't be pessimistic realize that there are so many good things in your life, and if there aren't work to gain good things. if that doesn't work, I'd love to talk and help out as much as possible
Know that you are loved, your life can be a good one, so don't ruin it, live it.
You only get one chance, so make sure its worth it
And most importantly, don't play runescape.
@@TUDEMAIZALGUMACOISA don't play genshin impact either
The good version
You're Comment is even Stronger with your Nickname; "@ someone random"! Because if "someone random" says that??? Why don't others????
Great Post! Thanks for the Synchro! PEACE for you and all you "Will to" too!
Sometimes i do need someone to talk with but damn, i have ghosted or straight up ignored a fuck ton of people whilingly just for the sake of being alone and thinking it is better, and the friends i do have i just dont know what to even say and if i do i just think that all the shit i talk about (my passion for animation or games i do like) will be boring for them or worst that i talk too much about myself with too many's "i did x thing/i liked that/i think" and so on, like there is a point that i dont even know what to do for that, i dont have social skills anymore and im even scared of looking at people when im outside and the people who start trying to talk to me randomly i just say the most npc like response, i wont kill myself over this but i will neither want to live like this
The world needs more videos, honesty, like this.
My uncle spent some time with the San people in Africa when he was in the military. He told me that they were always happy because to them life was simple. Things like anxiety and depression where not really known for them because they hunted, grew, cooked and ate real food together and talked to each other every day.
I can relate to most of this, and I'm glad to know I'm efficiently achieving my goal of ruining my life. 10/10, keep it up.
RULE 1#!!! DON'T HAVE ANY GOALS
you messed up you have a goal
Damn, guess I can't even mess up my life correctly. 😂
@@duke4459 and that's how u messed up ur life
@@Name-kz7cd it’s a paradox
This brought me to tears because that's how I lived for 4 years due to depression. I finally got help, found my passion, and I'm trying my best to achieve that. Not gonna lie, that 4 years had almost destroyed all my opportunities for the future. Please get help, people, you all deserve it.
gr8 to hear Vivian you're getting the help you need
as well as giving people the help they need.
glad to hear that you got Help, I was in a similar situation the entire 2021 till September 2022, finally I decided to make a change, even if sometimes is hard to go through everything every single step is important to keep moving ahead. Stand up straight people, keep fighting and the results will come.
I left it over a decade. Now it’s too late, it already did ruin my life. Now I’m scrambling just to be average.
And failing.
@@Forkuh Today at 4am i started to think about this video and how miserable my life. Since I have thinks to do and always do nothing, do not think about my future and so on. At 4am I started to think that I am just had ruined my life completely.
However, when I watched this video, some how I started to thin that is nothing over and I could rebuild my life. I hope that a really will do it, not just motivated for one day.
And I hope you will fine and it is nothing over for you to.
@@Forkuh you watched this video. you typed your thoughts on a device, someone invented, who probably thought they were failing at some point. and most importantly you still breathing. nah not easy ~ just possible you still in some ways are succeeding
I would say this is one of few motivation videos that really can help you reach your goal.
Needed to hear this today. Thank you
I got scared after realizing that every single of these points apply to me, my life and my way of living. I only opened the video out of curiosity because youtube suggested it, and it genuinely gave me the chills how every single point abd every single line was true about me. Its just really scary to be confronted with it, like, you KNOW how you're living and you know, deep inside, the self destructive things you do and think, but to be so openly confronted about them and made to directly think about it its uncanny, uncomfortable. And kinda sad. Its really making me sad to think about it. You know what you're doing wrong and why your life is miserable, but you cant just suddenly bring yourself to stop doing and thinking the things this video says, because thats just how you've lived your whole life. Its scary.
Boo-womp
at this point i stopped feeling anything about this kind of thing and i just watch them to see how many laziness points i have
Ehh I think I'm fine I don't play Runescape
cry
ik i felt so targeted but it was needed, im going to have to watch this video a few times to really get it in my head
I needed to hear this, thank you. I just turned 20 today, and yet, I have to keep reminding myself that my life isn't over just because of some terrible circumstances in life. This is the stark reminder which I (and I'm sure many others as well) needed.
Happy birthday🎉
@@lmackenzie9198 Thank you!!! Means a lot 😊
20 is pretty young to be worried about that stuff I’m 27 and have ruined my life so I would know unfortunately
I turned 20 this month too! I'm in a really similar place, alot of this video felt directly targeted and that's an awkward feeling lol
@@operatorsenko8291 Aw congrats! :D
I agree it does feel directly targeted, but I think that's just because these are common issues.
I don't know why i am binging all of those ruin your life videos
Nice video, i'm already following most of the steps,will try to follow the rest as well🙂
Man, this video hits different. I've been isolating myself more and more lately, and letting my addictions win on a daily basis. I know I could stop if I tried but its always more comfortable not to. Thanks for waking me up for a brief moment, I need to fix this, before its too late, I'm scared I might be pushing everyone I love away and I'm only 22. I feel so jaded towards the world and it needs to stop, I'm awake for now, hopefully I don't fall back into sleep. Thank you.
@shock kk I hope things pick up man
I feel you im 23 and ive noticed myself to this as well.
I’m 21 and I’m in the same position brother. I smoke weed and drink almost daily dude and I feel like a complete shell of who I used to be. Everything and everyone feels different, just my whole perception of reality feels fucked. I need help, but I can’t stop because I love the feeling of being high and drunk, but I want to stop so I can become normal again 😞
Me too man but we MUST stop this... We need to focuse on ourselves and syart with the little things Rome was not built in a day my friend stay strong. I know you all can do it.
Yeah man it’s kinda sad that I’m only 19 years old and I can relate to most of these. Ever since I moved to a different state I haven’t been able to adjust nor make long-lasting friendships, nor the urge to look for a relationship.
5:35 I've been doing step 9 for over 15 years already, looks like I'm doing great!
Thank you for this wonderful advice I will be implementing it into my life right away.
“It’s okay to hate everyone around you, as long as they don’t hate you” that one hit that one hit.
The “how to be miserable” video genuinely changed my life. This video also has deeply important life tips which many of us participate in yet are unaware of.
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u just change ur life within a month ohh bullshit
@@Jason-eh7of you can change your habits tomorrow boss it’s not that hard you just gotta do it
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For some reason these hit harder and work way better than the positive videos on how get a better life or how to improve in life. This *forces* me to think about my current life while the other videos are more like: "Yeah, okay, I could improve my life if I did that... maybe later or maybe tomorrow. I can always change and do that if I like..."
Yes it's brilliant
There was a point every single beat of this video broke me. I hit a very low part in my life and saw this in my watch later and tried to see if I needed to watch this again.
I'm glad I don't relate to much of this, if any of it at all! Thank you for scaring the shit out if me a couple years ago, for the better!
Thanks, Joey! Added this video to my favourites to watch regularly.
The writing on this is something else, Joey. „Have an elephant in every room“? I am in awe. Yes the cinematography, editing & music selection is awesome. But the writing is lucid, transparent, poetic. Thank you for taking the time to make this. I’ll rewatch this often.
This video is way more effective at telling people to get their life turned around than rather telling people to do it because it shows how miserable you will be later in life. I've done a couple of things on this list and it's made me see how bad it actually is for my wellbeing
Change only comes when being the same hurts more than changing.
runescape?
@@roeI good thing I don’t play runescape
Thanks for the tutorial. Following this path for years and I also want others to follow this path 😊
I don't know why I am getting this recommended this now, but it certainly is sticking with me and going into my life things playlist. Great video.
0:05 *Don't orient your goals*
0:48 *Stay inside*
1:20 *Avoid risk*
2:09 *Overthink*
2:34 *Always consume*
3:18 *Avoid criticism*
3:59 *Being Secretive* I believe one should always be a bit elusive to keep interests up, but don't try to appear perfect.
4:39 *Avoid conflict*
5:37 *Play Runescape..And Be pessimistic*
I lost it at play runescape, I mean true, but didn't think I'd see it here lmao
had to see if runescape was in the video but alas no reference
@@Albertrossy 5:35
@@pugh.joseph nooooooooooooooooooo i just played runescape for 3 hours too just now. :( should i stop. i played it all the way through high school
@@Albertrossy you’re only hurting yourself. I’m still kinda mad at myself for wasting so much of my twenties
As I crawl through my 30s, single and unsatisfied with my job and lack of hobbies, I’m shocked at how much of this actually sounds like the stuff that goes through my head…
You and me both friend.....
I have too many hobbies, lol. Lots of unfinished projects that are stacked behind unfinished projects. I should probably play some piano today. Need to be playing a little every week at least.
Even if you are unsatisfied with the way your life is right now while you're still striving to achieve your goals, assuming you have any, you should always remember that youre still on the right track that youve set for yourself in the past, or that you can always get back to it, and to move on
Right there with you dude. I'm about to turn 31 and am not happy with where I am in life
WHAT is holding you back? answer truthfully to yourselves
The video is great for people who have the opportunity to change their life and get better mentally. I know most advices nowdays but i will still watch the video to the end cause of your amazing voice over and rocket league at the start hahaha. Im a drug addict and also have a gaming addiction.. i rarely go out and i broke contacts with all my friends. Have neither a goal nor do i like myself. Cant say that i didnt try to change it. Many times. Did it work? Nope,sadly not. Im still in the same boat. Sometimes i go trough my childhood photos to see how happy i was and how healthy i looked like. I dont wanna talk about sucide here since there are some kids here but i had some crazy stories too. Was homeless for some time,then not again. Its a cycle..Ultimatly life has no goal .. all the advice most nowdays give. That is mainstream advice which is good for people who dont really know what to do. But leads to an endless loop. You should figure out yourself what life you wanna live. Sure all the working out and get friends,travel is good. But some folks are build diffrent. But its good video to save some people like me who are not that far into their addictions
I'm almost 70, watched this video and still have a question as to 'where/how' to motivate myself to do what I'm capable of, and what I know is the right thing to do to bring purpose and meaning into my life.
Damn this is chilling to the bones, not because of the video itself but the message it brings, many of us are on this path too often
My content will wreck your life then.
The message was made more impactful by invoking a tone of antiphrasis, i.e. saying the opposite of what was really meant. We are supposed to be in on the joke from the onset that no one wants to give nor accept advice on how to ruin their lives.
Only #1 deals with anything foundational; the rest are basically just bad habits. They may as well have included smoking, drinking, and gambling.
@@BigBri550 I see it not so much as a joke, but as a mindset that a person gets when gets bitter with life, one hates himself so much that he sabotages his own life, sometimes semiconscious, sometimes its a buterfly effect but the origin is resentement twoards life. i really believe its the foundation for most addictions
um br aq 😳
@@MunicipioChapadaodoCeu Português, mas irmão de BR
Never have I listened to such words that described my entire being in a short 7 minute video. Although I believe I've changed no one else thinks I have, in their mind I'm still the bad person. I made friends purely by chance and lost them immediately when trying to get closer when they realized what I did. Trusting someone and then immediately getting ignored and hated upon for stupid mistakes I regret, hurts immensely which creates this exact worldview which I believe further escalates a problem rather than fixes it. Bad people, remain bad for as long as those unrelenting negative opinions exist all you're left with is a man/woman who will commit same or similar mistakes, because no matter how despicable some form of comfort exists in it. I believe every bad person is only guilty as long as he/she normalizes it. Bad people don't just want forgiveness they just want to be accepted as societally normal.
God will definitely forgive you. The Muslim community will forgive you as well, since every new Muslim is as sinless as a newborn baby.
@@WasifSikder Religion is important for some persons, I'm afraid I don't really believe in man-made religions but those who do I'm glad people can find guidance and support in religious communities. I've come to accept my atheistic beliefs for skeptical philosophy. I don't see bad, and good using those terms is merely an easier understanding of our core values. I'm merely remarking on how "bad" people are and will continue to be ostracized in our cancel culture which does not encourage reform, merely humiliation and shame. People prefer black and white when it comes to right and wrong, is that a bad thing? Absolutely not. Can it be greatly exaggerated towards those who've done wrong? Yes. Ask yourselves how many times you've likely passed a convicted felon of course you don't know but now I ask, who would you assume is a convicted felon? How does that change your opinion when you're able to walk past or even engage with a convicted felon on a walk, in the grocery isle or even your employee. Did they seem like bad people? Certainly some you may say, but not all. That's the problem the more we push ourselves into Right and Wrong mentality everyone who's ever convicted a crime will be seen differently despite the story or regret or guilt they feel and have changed people will always see you as the bad person until they learn crime should not affect a lifetime but it does.
Too clarify I'm not saying every bad person deserves forgiveness or more chances than 1-2 as some people unfortunately never see the problem in their behavior and thus never change it.
In simplified terms:
Good people can be good, good people can be bad, bad people can be good, and bad people can be bad.
It's not good person = good because they didn't commit a crime
Or
Bad person = bad because they committed a crime.
There's far more layers than black and white you must take into account the varying shades of gray.
What did you do
Yeah, what exactly *did* you do anyways?
@@Styrofoam-ee I completely understand your point. But in a world without God, what incentive does one have to be a good person apart from things like how others see them and whether they might get caught? There are many who seem good on the outside, but will do bad the second they are sure no one will find out.
Another point is that who even decides what is good? I live in the US, where a hundred years ago, only 10% of people had intimacy before marriage. But today, everyone thinks there's no need to save yourself until marriage. So 98% of Americans today are having intimacy before marriage. But the Bible and Quran speak out against this. And we now have 18 million American children living in single parent homes. Many more adults grew up in single parent homes. And the cycle will just continue as long as everyone agrees that there's nothing especially bad about intimacy before marriage.
But God didn't leave us on our own to figure out what is good. God sent us messengers with revelations so we know about God and we know what is good and bad. Messengers include Moses who got the old testament, Jesus who got the new testament, and the final prophet Muhammad SA who got the final testament.
And God gave these messengers miracles so we know the message is true. Because Prophet Muhammad SA is the final messenger, and the Quran is the final message, God made the Quran a permanent miracle. And God promised to preserve the Quran so it is never changed.
If you want to change a single letter in the Quran, there are an estimated 200 million Muslims who have memorized it who will call you out on it. Compare that to the Bible, where the catholic, protestant, and greek orthodox bibles all have a different number of books. Unlike the Bible, there is only one version of the Quran. And God promises there will never be any changes to it the future as well.
idk why i found these tutorials so comforting
you just described my whole personality, i needed to hear this, thank you.
If you start to get nauseous watching this, you're doing so well. Disassociation is a trap. You're feeling, and I'm proud of you. If you can feel, even for a second, then you can write that book, draw that character, record that song, build that house, do whatever your thing is. Let every step be an accomplishment, and soon you'll have a strong foundation.
thank you so much, i needed this
I love this comment
Thanks man, it's hard sometimes but being hopeful keeps dreams alive
Tyler Durden thanks you for the informative update taking into consideration the societal changes that happened the last two decades
Awesome video. Love the cinematography
I watched the other video by the same creator uploaded a year ago called “How to make your life miserable”. It was very similar to this one; brutally honest and informative. But at that time, I was deeper in my depression. I was drinking and smoking all day long. No friends, family didn’t know how to help, constantly overdrawing my bank account due to my addictive behaviors. I stole thousands from my family, and the bank. I’m doing better now. Mentally and physically. But not completely there yet. The thing that really frustrates me is that even though I understood everything in the video first hand, I wasn’t able to do anything about it while I was depressed. Only now that I’m better am I able to actually watch it and have it resonate with me. And only now I feel like i’m ready to handle depression in the future. I just wish I could see it then. I wonder how many other people are going through something that need help to get past those temporary emotions. It makes me sad.
Being in a really deep depression, the reason I can't change is deeply because I have no vision for my future, no life, no anything.
I just.... Don't know. Thats it.
This video hits hard, it gave me a boost, but I'll probably forget about it in minutes.
idk what to do
Happy you're doing better.
@@sethsrc792 look the bright side, at least you're not mentally dependant on 4chan
@@sethsrc792 Sounds like you are deeply unhappy. Maybe there's a person in your life that you could endow with a bit of kindness. Being kind to someone might open up the possibility to receive some kindness yourself, and it might make it easier for you to be kind towards yourself, and being kind might make you a bit happier and give your life at least a little bit of meaning. The time also might have come to apologize to yourself.
That is the most perplexing thing about life. You can’t do anything about it until you suddenly can. It eventually feels less like an accident you stumbled across and more like a decision
This hit really hard. I’ve lived my life like this for 3yrs. I’m just depressed and I’m trying to get out of this horrible cycle. I literally avoid risk and I’m scared of exposure. I just hold my self to a high standard and me not meeting that, makes me just want to hide. I shouldn’t care about peoples opinions but sometimes it gets to me when they just point it out and it just bring you down. This type of lifestyle can really ruin friendships and relationships with family. I feel like I hate that I’m such a burden to my parents because I’m such a failure. Most of my highschool peers are graduating from whatever college they went to and here I am just wasting time and my youth. I don’t want pity but I just need to let these emotions out. I lost my old self, I just wanna be happy again.
It's never too late to start over
I feel exactly the same, just 15 years later than you. Took me 10 years to finish my MSc, now doing a PhD for another 5. Something my peers did both within 10 years.... I have accepted it just takes me longer, but the regret of not trying would be worse than the pain I feel right now, feeling incompetent every day thinking why am I so slow in comparison to my peers... Maybe try to develop a FOMO for your goals 🙂 and just remember, we're all gonna die anyway, so not much of what we do matters to anyone because they're worried about themselves. Do it for you as a challenge for yourself. For the high standards part - what helped me (unfortunately) was when enough time had passed and everyone sort of gave up on me I could not meet their expectations anymore, yes it was embarrassing but then I could finally relax, I had nothing to lose and I could do it for me. It is that typical "when you hit the bottom, the only way is up"-thing. You are not alone . Just take a deep breadth and do just the next step that you can. Don't forecast the future. I am not saying one should want my life or that I became great at what I do, but at least it is something, it has waves, ups and downs, good times and bad...and even though I am depressed now, I know it can't stay like this forever. I got myself out of the hell of my MSc degree, I will do the same for the PhD. Pick your own monster to conquer and eat at it one day at a time. FOR YOU. You deserve it. People who love you will love you regardless, people who judge you, will judge you regardless. The only thing that will be different is that you will feel better knowing you gave it your all and with your fight you will inspire other to fight too 💪🏻
Don’t be hard on yourself. Try to count your blessings and practice gratitude. I feel like the problem with this sort of culture is that it focuses only on external judgment of one’s life. Rather than developing peace within ourselves, we let our experiences of the external world dictate how we should feel or how we live or how we should think. Embody the the philosophy that reality is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced, and remember, ALL of this is part of your journey
I feel exactly the same. Wasted time but we can’t lament on that no longer. This video slapped me too lol
I'm 25 and same..
today i finally woke up, i saw this video and realised i have fell into this trap for around a year now, and the worst part is that this kind of lifestyle have affected my university grades. I need to develop my self discipline and improve my social lifestyle.Hopefully its not too late
Thanks for the tutorial 🙏💯
This is unusually more motivating than motivational videos, more inspiring than inspirational videos, more accurate than most tutorials are. Well done, amazing work!
Sometimes punishment is more motivating than rewards. Both are necessary to maintain a balance.
I’m actually so full of these so I’m glad to hear some of yours. My favorite is: whenever you have a goal you want to achieve, just don’t. In fact, try to think about it so much that it becomes too complex in your mind is too much to overcome. Then learn to fear it because even the thought is overwhelming. Next, slowly accept that you will never have your dream.
so true, well spoken
I swear to god I do this constantly.
Thanks for this tutorial! Gonna try it out this year
Thanks for the tutorial! Will be using this soon! ❤
I don't normally consume self help content but damn is this a well put together and impactful piece of writing and videography. Gets straight to the point, isn't trying to sell you some course and does not pull punches.
Man I appreciate your ability not only to continue to provide value in the ideologies you have but in how your creativity and storytelling continues to evolve. It makes the information that much more digestible and really seems to resonate unlike other videos on YT.
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I’ve been looking for how to guide, thanks!
Thank's man, gonna follow those steps for sure😊
As someone with C-PTSD that can't really control a lot of this... This is spot on, these things will ruin your life and getting it back (especially after 30) is astoundingly difficult but can be done. You don't have to be a positive person or even social, just don't lock yourself inside a little box... Even if if it's only social media put your thoughts out there, let others challenge them, welcome it. You'll likely make more freinds than enemies. One of the most negative things I hear people say is that life is hard/scary/terrible... We can't look at life that way no matter what's going on or we'll just become furniture in our homes.
I hear you, abd with C-PTSD myself, I often find myself in this place. Right now I'm challenging myself with a more involved and thought requiring job in a new field and it's taking its tole on these usual routines. I'm pushing forward which is good, but as it's WFH I am literally locking myself away and finding myself stuck in at of these routines. Being 30+ and now realising the trap I'd put myself in now is a lit harder than if I'd had done it sooner, but it cam be done. You just have to keep going and ask for help if you need it
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ive always have had trouble with accepting criticism; whenever someone criticizes my work it tends to affect me alot though i dont show it to others and just brush it off - i dont know why its hard for me to just accept criticism and not to feel this way about it
@@thedraninjachronicles3693 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria - please look into it. It may help you identify nuances of your condition or perhaps lead to discovering the different name for it- but I think this is what you are describing.
No they won't ruin your life, what ruins your life is external factors, whether you struggle or not.
The sad truth is, everyone is drifting, and we don't have much control over our lives. We can just slightly nudge the direction we're heading, but in the end everything depends on external factors. You can have vision, work hard, do everything for them, know everything, be positive and careful and all that shit, and than suddenly your most trusted person throws one small wrench into your life and everything collapses. And what will you do than? Get up and try again? And again? And again? And again? Sounds nice, but doesn't change reality. You will still lie on the bottom because you got unlucky. "BuT iF yOu DoN't TrY..." yeah yeah, the chances you will get lucky are like winning a lottery, and the cost of trying is too high for it to make sense.
You work hard, you expect things to happen. They don't happen, you fall into depression. Want to be happy? Enjoy small things, treat preciously short term satisfactions. Don't have any hopes, expect nothing and you will never be disappointed. You will spend some time in this purgatory whether you struggle or not, so at least enjoy what you can.
I always was so hopeful, and now I'm 27, after my life collapsed few times, with nothing able to help me. And I realized how toxic hope can be.
I isolated myself for around 3 years after the death of my baby brother. I did a lot of the things that were mentioned in this video, and I was the most miserable I've ever been. Over this last year, I've been steadily working on improving myself, meeting new people, and facing all the pain that I have--both circumstantial and self-inflicted.
I'm doing a lot better now, thankfully, but there's still a ways to go.
Damn I'm so sorry about your loss may your little bro rest in peace and that's good you improving in life you are a very strong person keep grinding in life and good things will come your way
in literally every religion believing in the afterlife, your brother goes to heaven, so he can rest easy no matter what.
rest in peace baby brother
Thanks for your help!
A couple of days ago I realized that i've been waiting start my life for years and years and analyzing everything. I'm 24 now and I went nowhere... but the good news is that I decided to start now. Thank you for making this video and confronting me and a lot of people that have been waiting to start our lives
Happens to the best of us. Let's go.
I love it, go go go! You’ve got this!
You love to see it! I actually had a similar realisation after watching the first one of these videos a few weeks ago and since then I've genuinely had a whole new perspective on things, and I've started working on a whole new project I never had the motivation to start before.
I think this happens when people miss normal milestones in life like having a relationship or having sex. And while normal people are moving up the Maslow's hierarchy some people are still stuck at the lower levels.
24? Time is still on your side. Just realizing this reality at 48.
I’ve been drowning out my own conscience with music. Your videos are everything I’ve been deaf to. Every word applies to me. I never realized how deep in the hole I was til now. Thanks.
wow finally something im good at, been ace-ing this list for years
It is unbelievable how precisely you described my vision of the world. I’m am legitimately impressed by the wisdom you expressed in this video. I have decided that i will watch this video every day to remember everything i am doing wrong. Thank you for posting this.
My content will blow your mind too then.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
Also please try and think of things you did right :)
I needed this video 12 months ago, I definitely let myself slip into a lot of these habits, I was a shut in who hid my emotions and just wanted to consume content rather than express my own ideas. Watching this video now that I am a healthier person and in a much better place emotionally and mentally really put into perspective how dangerous my actions were to myself. To anyone who sees this and is struggling, just stop, breath and know that you can climb out of it. Step one is realizing it and seeking support, work on yourself and try to consciously develop healthier habits until you don't have to try to do them anymore. Sending love.
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@@thegoddamnsun5657 RIP bro
@@Zuriki_ sthu
@@thegoddamnsun5657 I’m so happy I’m not you
@@Zuriki_ i am happy tho