From pain to healing: Navigating complicated grief and trauma

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  • @antithesiscoaching
    @antithesiscoaching 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    This is the 1st time I've heard my experience explained competently. I've been to many therapist over the past 7 years and my grief was dismissed, minimized and ignored.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @beckybennett2
      @beckybennett2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Stay strong. Please remain hopeful. 💜💫✨

    • @antithesiscoaching
      @antithesiscoaching 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@beckybennett2 I appreciate your comment Becky!

  • @Grumpyrome
    @Grumpyrome 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    My only child was murdered at 17 (shot in the back 2x) while looking at a car he was considering on buying. It will be 20yrs this year and it still seems like yesterday. I now suffer from PTSD, depression, recently diagnosed AADHD. I was told my grief was complicated. Thank you for breaking it down. I had my family listen to you.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sorry for your loss. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @okAngelface
      @okAngelface 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I lost my mom in 2010, it's 2022. I feel like the trauma and grief did permanent damage. I've pretended to feel again, hoping something will trigger the old me. I just realized today is mother's day. 😳

    • @Grumpyrome
      @Grumpyrome 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@okAngelface your in my🙏. Remember and think of all your Memories . They do bring a smile & a happy tear.

    • @Dani-cg9hn
      @Dani-cg9hn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss; and for your suffering not being able to find hope , faith and someone to show you and to pull you through. It has to feel incomprehensible. The pain only you know how much it hurts. But you, are still here.
      What son, would want to see his mother suffering through this list you typed? And for this long? 20 long years!?
      Any son, including yours, would want to see his mother set free from this pain and suffering.
      More, any son, would not want to be the cause of this long list of issues for his mother. Think about it.. psychology is is great! But our loved ones want us living in joy until we meet again. God bless you.

    • @MrStudentmom
      @MrStudentmom 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😭😭 so sorry to hear about this tragedy that happened to you. Hugs from someone who feels your pain and cares....

  • @worldgirl5537
    @worldgirl5537 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My sister died leaving behind an 8 year old and an 11 year old. A friend was trying to comfort my 11 year old nephew and told him God needed her in heaven. I saw the look on his face and read exactly how he felt so i said it for him. How could God possibly need our mother more than we do. He looked at me and i knew he understood that i realised what he felt and it ooened up conversation for us.

    • @nopenope3773
      @nopenope3773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm so sorry for your family's loss, and my heart breaks for her children. I hope you and they find solace & support in each other. I'm so pleased he had you to have his back. I think it can help to remember that people mean well and want to say something comforting, but if they've not been through that sort of pain, they just don't know that there *aren't* any words. Please give these children the permission to speak their truths. God didn't need her, this will not make them stronger, she's not in a better place, blah blah blah. Life is unfair and life hurts. I was younger than your sister's children and barely remember my mother, but her loss & my headache still imbues every cell of my body 46 years on. My daughter is now older than my mother ever was, which opens up new opportunities to grieve over every lost moment.
      Warmest wishes to those of you grieving her loss.

    • @Cranky_Crone
      @Cranky_Crone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lord, but people say some idiotic & awful shit! I’m glad you’re there for the kids, and able to call that out!

  • @floweressence2043
    @floweressence2043 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I lost one of my sons, and he is 33 years old. He overdosed. I'm numb. I pray God will hold me together. I want to be strong.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      My condolences. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @lindacarlton3154
      @lindacarlton3154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hugging you with my prayers. I'm so sorry mama. My 21 year old son was an addict too. I watched him take his life with a gun. You're in my prayers. ❤🙏❤🙏

    • @Fluffimuff
      @Fluffimuff 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I'm so sorry. I lost my 33-year-old son as well in 2020. I just want to give you my deepest condolences. It's so very hard. 🙏😥❤️

    • @paulaw9764
      @paulaw9764 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Fluffimuff I feel for you 💕 xx

    • @DJ-nk4dq
      @DJ-nk4dq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I lost my daughter on 10/2/21, just little over 6 months ago, from brain cancer. She went from fine to gone in 8 weeks. She just turned 32 a few days before. I am in shock as well. The pain is unbearable. I am sorry about all your children. The “club” nobody wants to be in. Sending hugs to all of you.

  • @lifeofreilly9943
    @lifeofreilly9943 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is so helpful and healing. It really helps in not only understanding myself in not fully dealing with the sudden loss of my Father last year in July. I emerged myself fully with work as a deterrent. This helps me understand his wife who was left behind as well. The anniversary date is a week away and I am just beginning to come out of my 'fog'. It's so embarrassing to admit that it's taken so long to address my feelings that I have shoved down so deeply--telling everyone around me that I'm okay, when in truth, I have been silently hurting and acting strong for nearly a year. Thank you for this, you are a light that has shown itself to heal fully moving forward.❤️

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sorry for you loss. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

  • @sharonjohnston2351
    @sharonjohnston2351 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Thank you for everything you do for people, I'm learning about how to grieve, lost, all areas of my life from childhood to now I am 51 , trauma body, deaf, homes, childhood, and long term of ctpsd . Again Thank you. Sharon Johnston (JOYFUL TEARS)

    • @color2066
      @color2066 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree with Sharon completely. Thank you for all your time & energy & effort & everything you do! I’m so happy I found your TH-cam channel a few months ago because you’ve helped open my mind & eyes to so many concepts that were new to me, and you’re helping me heal. I share your videos with whoever I think can benefit from them. Blessings to you xxx

    • @405OKCShiningOn
      @405OKCShiningOn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Please take care. Keep going.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @anjlibage1742
      @anjlibage1742 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@color2066 7

    • @brookescott9598
      @brookescott9598 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hugs, dear heart. Prayers too. I get it.

  • @Cosmogirl014
    @Cosmogirl014 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dr Snipes you are an amazing person. You have acknowledged me more than anyone in my life which is full of loss from a very young age. Thank you for all you do here.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Too kind. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

  • @beccikezis8341
    @beccikezis8341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you so much Dr Snipes.... you speak in such an understandable manner to people which makes your infirmation that much better. You're helping me understand so much.

  • @llkellenba
    @llkellenba 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Why is a place to potentially stay stuck - especially with complicated family relationship patterns of estrangement, addiction, cult like tribal exclusion which result in losses that were not anticipated. Not necessarily always a physical death but the “you are dead to me” group exclusion/cutoff feels like multiple losses. The past, present and future all threatened. Illusions held of support and belonging must also be relinquished and grieved. The video applies to dealing with deaths but there are so many losses which also must be accepted and survived. Thank you for shedding light on and validation around grief reactions.

    • @lollipop3136
      @lollipop3136 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly!! I’m trying to work out how the hell do I grieve and move forward after being outcast by my whole family. The loss is so overwhelming sometimes it’s hard to see how my life can ever improve, I lived for my family. The helplessness worthlessness and insignificance I feel is heavy to carry every day.

    • @tahwsisiht
      @tahwsisiht 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I have been going through a nightmare in a cult like situation and it took a lot away from me. It separated from my son who is still underage and would need my support (broke my heart because I miss him and it is also terrible to feel that I should be there for him to try to work on his anxiety and try to make his future safer financially and mentally). It resulted to lose things that were the most precious for me (my pets), the closest relationships, my basic rights as a human being, my dignity, changed my personality that had been loving/trusting/ good intentioned etc... , health (mental and physical)
      and I didn't mention financial consequences. If the actual abuse is denied, how can we heal and even go through the process of natural mourning?
      If they make you financially incompetent, cut you off from psychological recovery and having it done under spiritual narratives, you are left with nothing to protect yourself with.

  • @josephroberts3752
    @josephroberts3752 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really love your long form lectures and I'm using them to supplement a Loss, Grief, and Bereavement class I'm taking for my masters degree.

  • @beckybennett2
    @beckybennett2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you for sharing this information & making it available at our fingertips! I've been in such grief . I can't barely get out bed. Very difficult to get to a bereavement group when you can't even get dressed and get out of the house . Video helped me understand what, I'm going through is perfectly normal. I was mentally beating myself up for not being able to get myself together and get on with my life.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @beckybennett2
      @beckybennett2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DocSnipes Thank you. I've begun to see a psychiatrist we're leaning towards ketamine treatments since, all other antidepressants have not worked for me.

    • @carolmusselman8859
      @carolmusselman8859 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm grieving the death of my Mom, she passed 5/1/22 and I was struggling with depression before her death, even more so now, how have you been?

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@beckybennett2 ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

    • @beckybennett2
      @beckybennett2 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@carolmusselman8859 I'm talking to a psychiatrist and I'm also going through the grieving process. I think, perhaps I wouldn't let myself fully grieve. I suppose that's why I had so much depression be better to let go of the feelings and just cry. I truly believe that my mom is in a better place, I just miss her physical presence. My mom was the one person in my life that I could always count on and I knew was always on my side and truly always happy to see me. I miss her laughter, I miss her unconditional love and her encouragement on days I was feeling down. Now, I've been diagnosed with breast cancer and have to have both of my breasts removed. I think, to myself life has been so hard for me in so many ways but losing my mama was the hardest she truly was my best friend and my confidant.

  • @crissieroserose
    @crissieroserose 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i am grieving for some one who is still alive,

  • @Tapahtumahorisontti
    @Tapahtumahorisontti ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've had MADD for 8 years and a significant factor in its development was a particularly painful break-up. To this day, even thinking about this person causes me so much pain. My therapist said that my symptoms match that of complicated grief and elaborated that it's possible to experience compl. grief even though the triggering event wasn't a death of a loved one, but rather a more figurative death where someone has left my life.
    Even though I think that, overall, death can be much more traumatic, my therapist said there are some ways in which destruction of a personal bond through a break-up or growing apart can be more crippling in terms of closure - for one, it's easier to relapse into bargaining when that person is alive and when there's a hypothetical chance for a reconciliation, whereas death is more final. It can also be a cause of serious damage to self-worth. When someone suddenly dies, you might take comfort in the knowledge that at least they thought you were worthy of their time, love and attention, but when someone leaves you, it's because they've made a voluntary choice to go on living their lives without you. That can cause all kinds of feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. It makes you question whether you are lovable in the first place, whether you are somehow deficient.
    Most resources on compl. grief deal with death, understandably enough. There doesn't seem to be that much material available on complicated grief over someone who's still alive.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  ปีที่แล้ว

      I am sorry you have gone through that and I can understand why feelings of inadequacy would arise in such a situation. Please tell me what tips from the video you are planning to use to cope with complicated grief.
      Also, here are some videos on break-up recovery strategies: th-cam.com/video/8OZdTwfb2Mk/w-d-xo.html

  • @patrickhanson712
    @patrickhanson712 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Tough look at loss on many levels, and as always Doctor you cover so many bases from a basic loss to complicated greif yes, from "basic" to "trauma". Your careful science is greatly appreaciated.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

  • @user-er4nt4dp6q
    @user-er4nt4dp6q 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is very helpful and I am sharing it with some people that I think would also benefit from it.
    Thanks so much!!!
    🙂

  • @sophiabright8371
    @sophiabright8371 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So much rich insight. Thank you. Glad I found your channel!

  • @friarpesel5646
    @friarpesel5646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is deeply relevant. Thank you 🙏

  • @bonniebikowski7478
    @bonniebikowski7478 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Dear beautiful souls.
    I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22.
    I am in unbearable heartache pain to the very core of my soul!😢😭😭💔 Please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜

    • @oophelia46
      @oophelia46 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm so sorry 🙏

    • @stephr.5768
      @stephr.5768 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have no words but just want to let you know I read your comment and my heart goes out to you. I will keep you in my thoughts . Sending love ❤️

    • @DJ-nk4dq
      @DJ-nk4dq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I lost my beautiful daughter on 10/2/21. I am so sorry. It is unbearable heartache, core shattering. I will pray for you. Sending you my love.

  • @hwy138
    @hwy138 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    my doctor new right away that I had complicated grief. I have ptsd also but she put me on Welbutrin for it and it has worked.I lost 2 children.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My condolences. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

  • @muslimwarrior9891
    @muslimwarrior9891 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m basically feeling grief for discovering I never had the mom I thought I did , the one who’s supposed to be my so called mom is a narc psychopath , and corrupt to the core I HATE HERRRRR SHE MADE ME SUFFER

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching.

  • @c1111
    @c1111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    THANK YOU for your videos!!

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are so welcome!

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank You Dr. Snipes!!

  • @mwodny8034
    @mwodny8034 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great video as always! Have you thought about making a video about the effects of weather and climate on mental health and overall well-being? I mean basic stuff like sun = vitamin D etc is well-known but I'm really curious about things like humidity and barometric pressure and in general how these things affect our bodies. For example I have visual snow syndrome and when I lived in Spain for few months it was much less visible but here in Central Eastern Europe (especially during grey, cloudy, dark, cold days) It's so much more visible! So definitely some neurological stuff going on.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for watching and commenting.

    • @kathyadair8552
      @kathyadair8552 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh, yes! - For 30 years, I've wondered if I have Aspie traits, I have around half/ per online, tests, & anephew who is.
      2 Lower-end ASD? - Nasty narcopathic, Nazi bros. - Late, sister: morbdl' Obese, G.Anx. Inverted Narc. - Older 2: ADD?
      I may have Audiitory: 1+ of 4, stray° Hear'g: overlaps w/ ASD.
      When Barometer drops on heavy Atmospheric days; my Hearing is worse. Now, neary 70, they're just weird, & said kinda sore.
      Also, SADD - (occ. mid- Aug., as leaves begin to fade.) ... Dreary, stark November. UGH!
      Brrrrr, and Happy Holidays!!
      Neuro-div., Fam: I'm a "Lefty" who's 98% 'Rt.-handed'. Also, an SLP kid, needing Speech Tx.
      (in K + 2/3 of 1st Grade.) But, was Fluent in "Dolphinese," as a brand new, 4 y.o.
      I always feel and function Better on brighter, 🌞 days!
      Had some fibromyalgia, in my 20s & it's bk 2 Stay, - post Nazi induced, severe C-PTSD!
      Back worse, and found 'Ehlers Danlos' syndrome.
      3 of 4, of my sibs seem to have. Or exhibited. Of many 13-16? ways it may present/ manifest. One, replaced his hips. Mine: Heart? Esp.,Neuro- Musc. & *Skeletal* +. A rare collagen disorder!
      My little 'adhd' Blown in to ADHD. I can Only Focus on legal, Crime, seeking justice, discovery the last 1/3? of an unofficial Masters, in Psych.
      Not, H 4Hyper. I Rock, Read & do Research; like OCD Nazis Can't!* -> Many HOURS/ Day.
      My mild, unknown Dysgraphia, was 💥, too! I Could NOT write 3.75 years, ago!... Along w/ the Bocca region ~ for Speech & Lang.! 💥 🧠 💥. Gone, w/ 60+ Years of Life: Memory, sensory Exps, & All Info & knowledge! Autobiography. No longer you. You are No longer the 'same' You! ... You have their $icK; twisted, Hateful. Aggressive,
      Antagonistic "introjects," inside of you!
      Religiously,* that's about 15 Demons / Narco-Nazipath.
      So, '30ish' BULLY THUGS Destroying my Life, in their Parasitic 'Game' of Energy EXCHANGE! - "Their Nasty Gift"! - HELL 24/7.
      Called, and Ref:d to - as "E°nergy Vampires"!
      Just like, their* D. Trumb! = True, "man-boys," -> just like him. 3 Peas in a Pod!
      Wee Li'l, "entitled" Rich boys who are losers, that never grew up. But, "insist" on having their Own way./ Violence + Crime.
      'Epi + Genetics'+ & by Default, not *CULT*. The very lowest - end of *"Rt.W.A•uthoritarians"!!* $TAY/ $TEER CLEAR - Or, Stand your Ground!!! * I GOT Clobbered. Hammered twice!
      She was Ultra-BLUE! - But, always OFF some; 12- 20° for smallest matters, and 60° to 120° + some 180°s of ~ even a Magnetic course, N.!
      Da Boyz. Usually, Due S.!

    • @JEvrist
      @JEvrist 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! And add the weather manipulation silent weapons of quiet wars. Proof in USC title 15 section 9a

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It builds up for sure, pile it on life!

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching.

  • @oilselevated4808
    @oilselevated4808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    2019 husband confirmed pancreatic inoperable cancer, 2020 sold our home and moved(after 30 years), kids left, 2021 husband told us the wonderful news, that he’s been involved with a young and dumb gold digger for over 2 years!!! (Of course hidden away in another city, where he “kept” our boat…2022 his transactionship crumbles, his cancer spread and he’s really sick now and after 6 months of torture for me, realizing the next level deception, lies, cheating , and abuse, he now wants his family back, wants to make amends. I still have compassion but it’s going to be a lot easier for me. So sad that a person would throw away a great family on his way out like this.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sorry to hear all you are going through. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @oilselevated4808
      @oilselevated4808 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DocSnipes thank you, your videos are helpful 🙏

  • @AE-cz9nh
    @AE-cz9nh 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ive been mourning the lost of my dad going on three years now and i am just now starting to feel a little better to go to work everyday.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My condolences. I am glad you are starting to recover.

  • @lindaandrews4183
    @lindaandrews4183 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    March 29, 1992 my Mother was 56 yrs old. She suffered for 12 weeks while the hospital did nothing. I kept pushing them as she had a previous Cancer. I kept telling them to do a CT scan that I believed the Cancer was back. They finally did the Scan on a Friday. She was full of Cancer. She died in my arms on the Sunday. I was 35. The hospital just looked at me a shrugged their shoulders. No "sorry". No anything. Today is March 29, 2922. 30 yrs today. I died that day too. I don't know why I'm breathing. I'm a shell of a person. I'm just waiting to die too. People see me with a smile but I'm dead inside.

    • @theanonymoushelpline7248
      @theanonymoushelpline7248 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m sorry to hear this. Don’t give up please I know it’s hard sweetie I know it’s so very hard but you have to keep going to see the light. Try EMDR therapy. Keep going, better days are coming and the sun will shine again. It always does.

    • @Alexis-b17
      @Alexis-b17 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Linda, your pain in your own personal loss of your mum is heartbreaking, I miss my mum she passed 7 years ago but I never experienced a close loving relationship with her although I know she prob loved me in her own way, i was one of 8 siblings living plus one who died before I was born, I'm a mother and wife of an only child a son I love with all my heart, has grown up a great child /man a good man/Son/ Husband/Father, despite my parental failures of which I know there were a few🤔 I am very proud to say im so blessed to have had him, I'm a Mil as well and I have 3 beautiful adorable granddaughters, I lived my life contented easygoing, happy to have married someone who genuinely loves me and our son, my husband also a good man and father, we are in our mid 60,s now and adapting to the passing of our parents, hmost recently my father who was 95, life has had its many ups and downs I have had a brother & 2 sis &y friends who have lost a child some just days old and some whose children were older and it was unexpected one thing we all sure to experience is Grief and everyone has to walk down that road sadly,for some a very lonely and difficult road for others not maybe as much but I just want you to know and feel people do care genuinely care, even though i dont know you personally I pray you find inner peace 🙏

  • @joaquinromolor8413
    @joaquinromolor8413 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's hard but practice help daily I wish I can stay positive but sometimes I lose hope.

  • @susangoslin6089
    @susangoslin6089 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So valuable to me right now. Thank you.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so welcome! Thanks for watching.

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again Susan?

  • @desireericheymesser4143
    @desireericheymesser4143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    TY sooo much for this.

  • @lilmayomouldycrouton170
    @lilmayomouldycrouton170 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have no idea if it was by design or not but I lost everything that meant something to me. If the devil can take those things, surely God can restore?

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching.
      Please check out my Bible channel, and consider subscribing. th-cam.com/channels/YYJCD94NU3_qdbkSEyHLrg.html

    • @desireericheymesser4143
      @desireericheymesser4143 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DocSnipes I didn't know you had a Bible channel! I am so glad to learn that bc you are so beyond helpful on this channel in details I've never heard. So I am hoping that channel will help me further. TY for what you do.

  • @gnomechild689
    @gnomechild689 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    My older brother died by herion overdose 29 days after walking me down the aisle. September 3rd 5 years ago and it's still so new.

  • @Intellectual_House
    @Intellectual_House 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for this video

  • @Elizabeth-yp8re
    @Elizabeth-yp8re 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you. There is no relief for this grief. It’s visited upon me daily. Triggers abound. I went through nearly all of the top 10 stressors all at once. Now what?

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @emilycobian9037
    @emilycobian9037 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Losing people very young messed me up a lot

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching.

  • @405OKCShiningOn
    @405OKCShiningOn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Shared experiences. Thank you for helping us.

  • @chrismathew1952
    @chrismathew1952 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very helpful - Thank you! Shared!

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for sharing!! :)

  • @meb3153
    @meb3153 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Many thanks!

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching.

  • @kurt6410
    @kurt6410 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is complicated grief and completed trauma the same thing?

  • @405OKCShiningOn
    @405OKCShiningOn 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes lost personhood, the reality that mom, dad's outcome will be mine illness, loss, suffering and I look to others to think about how strong they are their strength inspires me. It's why all faith and elders or family matters they understand 20-50 and provide perspective, framework, how to think about something I was let down and it's ok. Life isn't about me it's about others.
    I think I should zone out to the gym and art and thats not perfect because I try to check in with TH-cam. They got me away from cognitive rigidity, drinking, needing sedatives, eating issues over TMJ to music, lectures, I don't want to fail after millions of others make content to heal others.
    Then it was said, your failure to thrive on a SSI. Baby steps. Self love self care. I began thinking of old stories to laugh.
    The funeral is livestreamed Friday morning in WV. I went with friend to his home Oklahoma. I needed cleaned up, I left at 93 moved there after mom's and dad cancer stroke and coo curing foreclosure.
    I think life is a series of awakenings milestones changes and my learning how to be a better self parent.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching.

  • @dojo4735
    @dojo4735 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey Dr. Dawn! Can you please do a video on various gene mutations in mental illness such as MTHFR and COMT?

    • @flamingsword777
      @flamingsword777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@browncatwithblurredbackgro2461 because it affects how we process EVERYTHING....

    • @helentee9863
      @helentee9863 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because that isn't her specialist area,it would require a geneticist

  • @hillarymcmahan531
    @hillarymcmahan531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have complicated grief in large part because I HAVE NO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS. The person who died was my only immediate family. No partner. I have one extended family member who can be supportive, and it isn't enough. She has her own life. Where are the supports for people with complicated grief who have to grieve their families alone??? I cannot find a book or a group or ANY resource that addresses people like me.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching! Videos that might help can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=grief

  • @awomansstory.2019
    @awomansstory.2019 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Infidelity discovery on a family vacation and then my father's death from lung cancer that had metastasized to his spine just 2 months later.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

  • @Anna_May
    @Anna_May 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    it's important information

  • @shirleydaniels9310
    @shirleydaniels9310 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    It pains him every day he's alive trust I know loss being orphaned at nine the pain is with u daily

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

  • @marionguernsey4626
    @marionguernsey4626 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    How to heal from last childhood. Also how to heal from losing mother. I was only 14 years old when mother passway. Grief was never talk about when growing up. Now that I'm older

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching!

  • @kpmarete1984
    @kpmarete1984 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks!

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks so much for the tip! It really helps. 😃

  • @sr2291
    @sr2291 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What if a person is suffering ongoing emotional abuse and no one is listening.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You may want to look for a local, licensed professional counselor to speak with.
      -You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search:
      allceus.com/Psychology_Today_Therapist_Search
      -There is a Domestic Violence hotline at:
      allceus.com/Domestic_Violence_Hotline
      OR Dial 911 for assistance in the U.S.
      Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

    • @tahwsisiht
      @tahwsisiht 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am sorry to hear that you are going through that. I feel that the most cruel things are: denying reality/gaslighting, invalidating feelings and reactions that are biologically just plain normal and "victim" blaming. How can you heal if the wound itself is not allowed to be recognized?
      I hope you will be able to find a counselor that is on top of relational trauma. I hope you are physically safe!
      I wish you the very best! Everybody is entitled to their own life. Nobody is entitled to take control of your life. You are worthy of your basic rights!

  • @dmix2263
    @dmix2263 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After I lost my Mom twice- Dimentia.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching.

  • @pureenergy4578
    @pureenergy4578 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can anyone tell me why the souls creating us are so cruel? I read in the book AN ASCENSION HANDBOOK that we are the products of an experiment. Why is it so important to create us to go through all this pain just so these experiments happen? Aren't there enough souls without creating more?
    I tell my soul all the time to stop creating me. But I am not heard.

  • @tanchingyueen7854
    @tanchingyueen7854 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is there any perspective on why the ones who passed on ,had a reason to think that I would b better off if they leave_2 of my diff close relatives ,a year 3 mths apart_??

    • @carolmusselman8859
      @carolmusselman8859 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm grieving the death of my Mom, how are you doing

  • @jefesalsero
    @jefesalsero 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How about when your spouse dies and you soon learn that they had been engaged in financial deception (financial infidelity) for years? $80K+ of credit card debt and thousands of dollars of other debt (loans, etc.) - you had no knowledge of this and, because of state law, you are now responsible for that debt as the surviving spouse (the debt was incurred during the marriage, so you're on the hook to pay it). Think that circumstance may be a factor in CG? 🤔😳

    • @helentee9863
      @helentee9863 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes,because you are then grieving not only the loss of your spouse by death, but the loss of what you believed the relationship to be.
      That then undermines your understanding of who you thought yourself to be be,because you think how stupid you must have been all that time ,to have not realised something was wrong in the relationship
      So,really,you are grieving three separate things ,
      The spouses death
      The relationship
      Your understanding of your self

  • @donroderick7599
    @donroderick7599 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why does everyone feel compelled to focus on 'that topic'. It's not gonna turn out well for those people.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching.

  • @jdrichardson39
    @jdrichardson39 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Workbook company is unethical.

    • @DocSnipes
      @DocSnipes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching.