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hello, i have a question based on your video, why are humans then attracted to pornography if the way God created our sexuality is good and all good? if Pornography is a mockery of Heaven, why do some humans feel the want/need to watch it and keep on with their fantasies although we're created in God's image and likeness, who is pure and holy but yet we are attracted to sin. why is this?
@@ziliflax4689If I may, because perversions of the original purpose provide a draw of their own. We were intended to eat real food, but nasty synthetic versions play upon the same physical pathways and are prone to addiction. Dopamine is intended to create rewards for our healthy pursuits but drugs directly stimulate the same systems and create unhealthy and addictive responses.
I have a remorse about how I have treated my wife sexually for many years. We were very young when we got married. I'm so ashamed with my thinking when we got married. I thought NOW I can have all the sex I want and it won't be a sin! I've seen her as someone who can satisfy my lust. After seeing your videos on what marital union is, I feel like scum. But I have trust that God can unravel my twisted life and give me freedom to see the beauty of my wife. Please pray for me and our marriage . God bless your ministry.
Dr Christopher, if there is nothing wrong with the naked body and our naked bodies tell a Divine story 3.14 and God says it is Good, and we need to go back to our original innocence, is looking at naked images "heaven womens body" in a redeemed way with transencent, erotic prayer and love, a sin or is it considered pornography? Thankyou brother i really appreciate your work 🙏 im praying for you 🙏
@@1saamor897 yea exactly man I have started reading the Bible it literally gives calmness to the soul but I have it on a app on my phone but it’s better than nothing, we all should spend time there everyday tbh it draw us closer To God
I fasted social media for my version of the 21 day Daniel fast, and in that time I felt way less horny, and in the meantime happened to get a girlfriend. I recommend all men, if you want to attract a Godly wife, quit social media, quit porn and start working on bettering yourself. You'll emanate a much more attractive aura if you're spending your free time working on yourself and no longer being a slave to your fleshly urges. It is hard for the first few days, but then you begin recognizing a beautiful transition. A revelation if you will. I was so surprised how quickly my mind started being disgusted with the thought of watching porn, and the frequency at which I had the thought to do so drastically decreased. I'm not claiming quitting social media is the only thing, nor was this change in my life all my works. It was also the incredible work of God and His grace. As long as you intend to humbly grow in your relationship with the Lord while you are fasting, he promises us He will work through us. ("Reward" Matthew 6: 18) I conditioned myself that if there ever was a thought in my mind I'd begin to pray. It also especially helped having a new woman in my life, and such a Godly woman at that. If I ever began to get horny, I'd pray to God to keep me loyal. I'd think of her and her innocence and how brutally vile the pornography industry is. How I'd never, EVER want this girl to end up in porn. That there are thousands of Father's daughters selling themselves, lowering themselves to the same status as a sex doll. And millions of men who exploit women by treating them like objects. I thought to myself to quit porn, not only for myself, but for the better of mankind, my future wife, my future children, and to be righteous in the eyes of the Lord- and when we are, He will reward us....my reward was God healing my pornified mind.
I dont indulge nor have a "corn" issue or addiction but I still deleted social medias for other reasons.. it's damaging our society so badly. I talk about this on my channel a bit.
This video was very helpful as I continue the journey of untwisting the paper of my life that got the way because of an 8 year long pornography addiction. In 2 days I will be 4 months free and I can’t describe the feeling that is radiating from my heart and soul the more I dive deep into Theology of the Body. Thank You so much for these videos!! Also today is my 24th Birthday and my parent’s 30th wedding anniversary!! God Bless You
@@KattarCatholic-th8wz Thank You! I to have had the same struggle but I’m 24 days free from masturbation. You can break free. I just wanted to say one more thing that I’m a not a brother, I’m a sister. Ha ha 😄It’s ok. God Bless You!
Keep the focus on God love for you and bringing God's kingdom here. By loving God first and loving our neighbour as ourself what can you do to do that keep your eyes on God's kingdom brother and sister.
That’s amazing! I’m in a similar spot as you. 10 years addicted, I’ll be 3 months clean tomorrow. Having the word put out there has helped me so much and I’m happy you’ve gotten this far in your journey. I read a book called Unwanted by Jay Stringer. It’s a great Christian perspective of human sexuality and it helped me not feel such great shame for sexual sin. I hope you can read it and continue your journey. God bless!
All men need this. Women don’t understand that ALL men are addicted to sex. Once we figure out what a woman is, we’re addicts. But we as men are very much so commanded to deal with women with honor. The real problem is as a society, women no longer allow men to respect them the way God wants us to.
I certainly needed this. I'm 24, I've been addicted to porn for more than a decade. I've found my way back to God thanks to my girlfriend, but my pornified brain has damaged our relationship many times. I'm working hard to stop this twisted corruption. No matter how many times I fail, no matter if I can't clean myself 100%. I won't let porn destroy everything that I love and everything I have. May God be with you all!
I was addicted to porn for 9 years. Growing closer to God over the last year and change helped me finally take that leap to step away from porn. I am currently four-months sober and give all glory to God for this change.
This video is GOD SENT! I’ve struggled with very similar thoughts and images and even dreams and last night and this morning,I asked God to help me over come these thoughts and dreams. What are the chances that this video comes across my TH-cam feed. It was uploaded 1 HOUR AGO! God is good and He cares about the children HE LOVES!!! HE CARES!!
Here are two things that have helped me. I have been porn free for 15 years now: Be mindful of what you watch, not just porn but social media which can be tempting. Jesus says, “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” (Matthew 6:22-23; Luke 11:34). Secondly: Don’t try to resist temptation on your own strength. When you feel the porn temptation in your brain, begin praying to God and ask for His help right there and then. Ask him to take the temptation away. When you ask Him for help in resisting sin and temptation He will help you. Blessings everyone.
@@Jontheinternet with a connection to Jesus and others would probably be the best way to do so. Not only are you helping yourself but your friends, family and significant others.
@@Jontheinternet if you have no choice but to do it by yourself thats also works because like you said is about the connection and believing in your heart that Jesus is the true God and he loves us all but we need to give up our wickedness and let him guide us through prayer and reading the bible.
i backslid very heavily recently, been fighting porn addiction and pleasure seeking for about a year now. I had a low moment and the first thing i see when i get onto TH-cam is this video. I long to not have pornographic thoughts entering my mind... it happens most when im tired, when im weakest. I feel like a failure, i feel like im nothing more then a disappointment to the Lord. I am very disappointed in the actions i have partaken in. I have a hard time forgiving myself when i fail, and that starts the loop i was once in. See i have been a Christian all my life, though up until about a year ago it was professing Christian and not active Christian. I decided to come clean and dedicate myself to the teachings of the Lord. It started off well enough, managing to get through a week before thoughts would enter my head. I even dedicated an entire week to reading the bible and worship and it was amazing. But now i've just kinda stopped and its been nothing but a bombardment of pornographic thoughts and sexual urges... I'm getting back up, off the ground and out of the muck once more. I'm dedicating myself to this even though its hard as my fleshes wants are opposed to my own.
You are not alone brother, I've been dealing with exact same issue, for me my triggering point is use of social media (phone addiction), stress about future. pornographic thought only appears when I'm feeling weak/stressed, or on the days when I skip spending my time with the Lord.
reading this, it is like everything I've been feeling and going through..i relate to you so much you have no idea. so reading your solution just helped me. thank you i hope you're staying strong. you can do it. if you fall keep getting back up and keep going. The Lord will see you through
I feel the exact same way. I, too, am fighting to kick my addiction, but God gracefully gives us another day to start a new one, and as long as we draw breath, God isn't finished with us yet.
I’m right there with you brother. I’ve been addicted for 3 years and now starting to take this seriously because it had taken a toll on my thoughts as well. I will be praying for you. I love you, and I truly mean that.
Don't give up, you can do this. This is where you need God's strength. I say this from experience, I also was once heavily addicted to porn and the filth that came with it. I would fall back into it over and over. And towards the end I would fall with all the pornographic images I had in my head. It was so hard, I felt so dirty and unworthy, but I didn't give up. I would run back to the Lord for forgiveness every time. I would fight this over and over and one day It went away. I was so serious about wanting to live for God and one day I received victory over this struggle. It's been close to 8 years now since the last time I watched porn. All glory to God, I don't doubt that He is the one who gave me the strength I needed to overcome this. I personally just had to be serious about serving Him.
I've never openly said to anyone aloud, or in comment, only God Himself, but man I'm trying to stop and it's been hard and for the most part, it's the one major sin I'm struggling with. I'm happy for that, but still I feel so gross for dishonoring Jesus when I let that bestial part of me take over. I genuinely cry over this. I always skip these videos but tonight I finally clicked on this one. Thanks man. And thanks be to God.
Hey man. I'm in the same boat. One thing that helps me is realizing Jesus died for us while we were still in our sins. He knew all the heinous things we would do and still chose to die for us. Don't let the devil trick you into avoiding God because of your sin :). I will keep you in my prayers.
Christopher - that's really good. I recently heard about "desexualizing" your brain. I LOVE reframing it as "de-pornifying". This rings so much truer to me. edit: Btw - reading your book "Eating the Sunrise". Only a short way into it, but already, I'm hooked. Great work!
Thank you for this, I quite back in the summer of 2022 but since then have had an extremely negative view towards anything sexual in general. I get angry when anyone ever brings it up and completely stopped looking for any romantic relationship for the time being. Seeing sexuality as a corporeal version of a higher Divine pattern brings me some peace in the matter. I have a very long way to go. Please pray for me.
Wow, same, why is this so common? That anger and discontent birthed from moving away from trauma and perversion has seeped into romantic hope for me as well.
Please talk more about this. So many young men are struggling so hard against this. The Internet has made it so, so easy to access all that darkness. This needs addressing and many people need actual help.
Crazy how many people on this thread leave out the women who need help with sex addiction. Men aren't as shamed for sex socially, so more women don't talk about it, but it's there. Human beings like pleasure… both genders think about it.
@@DevinBryantfilms Come on dawg are you kidding me? Women have porn addiction?! Only men have that addiction because men have lust and only men want the pleasure not women😐
We underestimate the power of image. There is no addiction without the image. The image triggers thoughts and feelings from the past to blend them into new thoughts and feelings. Add to the physical sensation and fantasy is played out and it can be addictive. Take away the image and the feelings and thoughts disappear. Images - sexual or not - are far more manipulative than we give them credit for. Meditate and focus on the feeling and removing the image. Images show what your desire is. Question what you desire. Because you don't desire the image, which is not real. You desire something deeper. You don't crave images - which are perceptions of something you desire. You desire love and connection.
this is so good this knowledge just opened the door to healing and i fully understand how you can be delivered from lust. i recently just realized how porn really distorted my relationships and created a thought process to whenever i even looked at ANY guy… i can now look at men and not sin with my heart
Wow, just wow, I opened up the video thinking, "Here we go another guilt trip.. BUT NO.. This spoke to me on so many levels. THANK YOU, Thank GOD. The distinctions you made is what I needed the most to understand!!
needs to focus of the greater sweetness and joy of sexuality within the beauty of marriage. Continue to wash your mind and soul in the word, community and prayer and in good things of life such as serving others. Sex is such a beautiful but small part of life. Theres so more to life than just sex.
Oxygen is something you take for granted until you aren’t getting enough and suddenly it’s all you think about. Just like sex. I’ve always thought of sex as dirty and something to overcome. My sex drive is more a torment than a pleasure. I want it to just leave me alone.
I've cut back tremendously in recent months. I still slip but the infrequency is increasing and I'm hoping this time around I can end it. I've been going to Confession each time I slip and that has been helping me in resisting temptation and turning to God instead.
I am praying that the Holy Spirit can transform you and empower you to walk as the man of God that God has called you to be. Specifically pray for the Holy Spirit to empower you. As a woman, the feeling of men looking at me in that way is so uncomfortable and demoralizing. God created women for his glory, and their beauty to be cherished by their husband; please don’t continue to violate the young ladies who probably were all violated as children. God hopes to redeem them, and for their sexuality to be valued by a loving husband. My best friend was coerced into this industry as a teen and took her life from all of the trauma. I’m sorry to single you out, for I am not free of sin either, but to any person who consumes porn, it causes pain to those who God created. Your viewership fuels an industry that promotes misogyny and runs on the abuse of both men and women. I would encourage you to regularly pray about Genesis 19:26; God commanded Lot’s wife not so much as to look back over her shoulder, and when she disobeyed Him, she turned to a pillar of salt. God isn’t messing around when He commands us to do something. He doesn’t say cut back, He says FLEE. (1 Corinthians 6: 12-20) Take care 🤍
Your not alone , for Christ is our righteousness, one thing , never ever try to condemn your self , for if you do then Jesus died for nothing , once you slip into it get down on your knees genuinely tell God am sorry , for he is ready to listen to use no matter our situation no sin is greater for him not to forgive , as far we are on earth our flesh will want his own desire , that’s what apostle people said we need to die of the flesh every day I too I am in the same situation getting to be healed 😊
To be honest, I just relapsed. I sincerely need prayers but I'm sincerely afraid to ask for prayers about this because I'm afraid that people will walk away if they find out. Currently, I don't have an addiction to pornography but more like struggle with relapses. Pray for me that I may have the strength to ask for help and prayers.
My brother in Christ, everyone has issues with addiction. It can be drugs, food, porn, money, domination, or manipulation. No one is free from a vice or struggle. If you can't approach the body of christ with your sins without social retribution, it's not the body. They are no different from you. They are just as tainted. Your peers are the strongest physical ally you have in the struggle against sin. We can help hold each other accountable without overzealous judgment or retribution. If you do find that those ppl in your life have treated you poorly for your openness, find a new church or new friends. If you have to be alone, then so be it. More time with God. Heres what I've found to be helpful. Just jerk off without it first. Srsly. I know it seems vulgar, but it can help you kick the habit of porn. Look up a dopamine detox on youtube. Take a break from phones, internet, tv, video games... go camping for a few days. Fast for a week. If you can not eat for a week, you can kick the habit of masturbation or porn. Before you decide to do anything. Pray or read scriptures for 5 or 10 minutes. Get into the habit of checking yourself. You must be aware of what you are doing. Where are your thoughts coming from? You dont have to act on then if you remain vigilant and aware, let them flow away.
bro GOD works in the most wonderful ways!! I love that this came at the right time God always finds a way to speak to me, I prayed about this, this has been on my mind because i want to be rid of it to grow with God!! i’m young and due to my past of sexual assault and other things i’d rather not speak on, it hits hard for me. God knows me he knows my heart he KNOWS I want to grow. THANK YOU❤❤
I found a lot to think on in this video, and I like where you come from in it. I like your energy and enthusiasm and your attitude towards this subject; I didn't feel as though I was being shamed at any point in this video, speaking as a straight man with perfectly natural urges who has been single and celibate for 8 and 6 years respectively. (I've got a couple of reasons for that happening, focusing on self protection in a world gone mad) Subscribed, because I want to see more of what you have to say here, sir.
I’m so glad God blessed me with this video. I discovered porn when I was 14 and I was immediately addicted. I felt and still feel very guilty and conflicted about it. I have just recently been praying about it and am now been 3 days without it. I am very proud of myself and very thankful for God being down in the trenches with me and getting me out again. I am very thankful that you made the clarification that we as Christian’s shouldn’t try and “De-sexualize” our brains but to “De-pornify” our brains. I believe this is a very important thing to know because when, as you said, we try to de-sexualize our brains, we just throw out the good alongside the bad. Anyway thank you for this amazing video and I can’t wait to watch more.
We're so glad it blessed you! Keep going deeper and fighting the good fight, we're praying for you. Also subscribe and share so that it may reach as many people as God intends.
I’m not but 2 some minutes in but already, you pointing out these proper important distinctions between what it is good and evil, but also how and why; it’s refreshing and not often something that I see folks get right. You point out how the devil twists what is good, and that God made everything good, and that our sexuality between man and woman is a Good creation of God. God Bless You!
Thank you for giving Lisa Shields all the signed copies of your T.O.B For Beginners for our book group. Our journey has just begun but I can already tell that this is going to be a formative time together. Thank you!!
I quit porn 5 days ago and I've never been happier but theres still much more work to be done so ill continue to walk with God even after the battle is won🙏🏾
Thank you for this video, every little bit helps. Our salvation is now and not yet, anyone fighting this must fight one day at a time. Ive been struggling for so so long and often times I dont feel in control of my own brain, by Gods grace ive been the most free from porn theses past few years as i have ever been but the images and temptation still return when i feel weak. This is a curse and a burden on all men but especially on my generation (millennial/Gen z) I pray that all of us will be rescued from this culture of constant pornography.
I'm glad you're one of the few who brings out the distinction of words. When people say "de-sexulize" they often don't realize they are giving a broad umbrella term. One could argue the Virgin Mary is sexualized because of the idea of still being a virgin after giving birth. It can also be extended to shows where female characters are fully clothed, but wear latex, leotards, etc falls under that category with no pornographic material in the show to begin with. Thank you for making this distinction because it is being weaponized to this degree.
@@commenter5901 Again, interpretation is key. One could theorize the concept of the Virgin Mary is a sick fetish of pedophilia considering her age at that time. Then loosely tie that to the countless numbers of priests molesting young boys as some sick ritual or something preordained by peoplelike Jim Jones and Elijah Muhammad both thought they were biblically ordained. They can even go as far as saying God was pro-pedophilic considering he chose a young girl to birth Jesus. Again, interpretation is the trick. They just have to sell the idea to the majority.
This was a beautiful and insightful analysis, Christopher. Amazing work! This really helped me see things through a healthier perspective. Keep up the great content my friend!
oh my gosh, just like how you mentioned, there were several songs that wrought havoc on me as a child in this way. these things can influence us so deeply and is exactly why we ought to bring our burdens to the Lord and rest in Him!
Bro this is 10stars. I love the progression. God bless you and special blessing on this channel . May he continue to give you the insight and words to proclaim his glory in the way he has given you.!
Was addicted to qorn since i was 9, last year (when i was 19) God removed the desires of qornography overnight (no fighting against desires or anything, just woke up with a new sense of blessing). Yet the horrific images that ive seen are engraved in my mind, and left spiritual wounds (many people dont even know about spiritual wounds)
This is what I need to get over too. Since turning back to Christ and beginning the process to convert to Catholicism I've been much better; however, I have definitely slipped a few times. I think the main reason is that sometimes when day dreaming the thoughts might come in. Kinda in an intrusive way, cuz once im aware of it i stop it, but the visuals are pretty strong and i think each time it happens, it weakens me, and that combined with concupiscence, I fall... flat on my face.
@@carolinpurayidom4570 yeah something that has been helping me more recently, has been trying to really keep Christ's sacrifice on the cross always present in my mind. especially in those week moments, but i've been trying to just keep it as present as possible throughout the day. obviously growing in my prayer life has been helping, but i've seen a bit of a mindset change very recently where i'm starting to embrace suffering to some degree. whether the suffering be some minute annoyance, or genuine emotional or physical pains. i've found it's also been helpful for those minor annoyances of getting a task i'm not fond of given to me at work, and i just immediately offer it up. it's been a minute since i've been tempted by lust, so i'll see how i do, when i really have to put this to the test, but I feel like i have more strength behind me now.
Helpful and interesting perspective. The redeeming perspective. (The details were new to me.) Romans 12:2 and Philippians 4:8 is also helpful, along with the knowledge that our brains can change all our lives, and whatever we choose to think about will become easier and easier to think about! It´s like working out - we gradually get in better shape. So keep choosing the right thoughts and don´t allow condemnation to get you. For girls and women, maybe we don’t struggle with watching porn, though I know many also do, but maybe an even more common temptation is to indulge in the emotional, romantic, sensual and sexual narratives that eventually can lead to the same result of pornified thinking.
@@sosukeaizen2723 It’s trauma from infant circumcision. People don’t realize how damaging modern circumcision is on the male anatomy. Biblical circumcision took 95% less foreskin. It was essentially just the rim of the foreskin removed leaving all the important features intact. Modern Men self medicate the trauma and damage with all forms of substances, porn being one of them.
Over he years I’ve come to realize that acknowledging and accepting bad thoughts, wether they’d be of a pornographic nature or not, is the first step I can take towards changing those thoughts and avoiding self condemnation. I just have to be honest with myself and be mature about my sinful nature
I like this approach, and I heard something similar in Mere Christianity, though it was pointed towards casual sex, or sex outside of marriage more specifically. The kind of resentments that some Christians have towards sex, and towards women, come from trying to repress their sexual desires, whereas you should be be focusing on not allowing your healthy sexuality to be corrupted. Direct the natural impulse God gave you to building a strong, loving relationship, as was always meant.
As a christian who is not catholic, I struggled with the association of david's psalms about God's temple and dwelling place with mary. However, this video and this channel continue to bless me. And I am so grateful that God led me here. May God continue to use you and this wonderful channel.
@@anthonybrown7650 “evil”? Give me a break. Christ Can not be the ark of the covenant, the ark of the covenant carried the word of God and the bread of God, Christ is the word of God and the bread, he is God himself.
This video is amazing, especially in its enthusiasm for what is good, true and beautiful! :-) I was never really a porn addict, but I still watched it sometimes and get images into my head still that are really clingy. I still really need to depornify! Let us all depornify to purify our minds and glorify God! And: I think gender mainstreaming brought us to a point where we actually need to "resexualize" humanity. It is good to be male and good to be female and to be attravted by the opposite sex. The question is how to live sexuality in a natural loving way!
I dont indulge nor have a "corn" issue or addiction but this problem, HUGE problem gives me trust issues with men.... I can go into detail if anyones curious, but my standards go higher and if someone is away from that then its automatically a really really good thing. God Bless.
@@kgross no no, if they have issues with that now then yes it would be hard for me.. but if they’re away from that now and even somewhat in the near past then that’s a very very very good thing.
I was just talking to a neighbor boy and we were talking about baby pictures and we both said sometimes we wish we could go back and be babies again. Sometimes I wish I could go back in the womb. It feels the safest ❤
I have a testimony to give on the act of grace in me. I had been addicted to p*rn since I was 8 years old up to april of last year, when I was 27 yo. I was protestant. But for lots of reasons I took interest in learning about the Catholic faith. I went to watch a catechism playlist. And then as I watched, looking at the clerical collar of the priest I started remembering priests have a vow of celibacy. And started wondering if it's really true they manage. Since then I seem to have gotten supernaturally mortified in that sense. Yes, being married I can still enjoy being intimate with my husband, but it's no longer the same as before. Now every time its been feeling like it's my first time with him. And I feel pure. And my mind pure. I just have to watch out my memory a bit.
I've struggled with porn off and on for the last few years now, its been almost 3 months since I stopped. Pray that God would give me Wisdom, Self Control, and Faith, that I might trust in Him to get me through this.
God has also gifted us each with a guardian angel who can help remind us of things. They can also help us forget or repress certain images. So ask your guardian angel for help. Angels can speak to us in images, so if you experience a lot of suggestive images from the past, it may be a temptation from a fallen angel. Pray and visit the Sacraments, but it's also very important seek support from others! You're not alone in your journey!
Great video, Christopher! Thank you! I love the advice you're giving, but I am having a hard time wondering how I can put your advice to practice in my life. How can I do this?
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God really wanted me to hear this message. I oassed by this video earlier today and all day while I was out, flashes of the thumbnail for this video flashed through my mind multiple times.
This is one of the most theologically and sexually confusing words I’ve ever heard. It’s pretty clear to me that you didn’t talk to anyone else about exactly what you were going to say before recording it. There were so many VERY weird interpretations of scripture in here and I would strongly caution any believer watching it to either not watch it altogether or strip the squirrel meat off the bones of this one and made sure to spit every bone out.
I prayed to God. To help me stop, and that I was powerless. I felt different the next day. I haven't watched or even had the urge. It's been five months now. Praise be to God...
This video was very helpful. The images and random recalls are tough to deal with. De-pornifying for brain is vital! However, you lost me at the women's womb being the sanctuary of God that we want to return to. I need further explanation.
one thing i use all the time is: Lord I choose an act of my will to loose out of my soul, anything that resembles darkness in anyway (and you can fill anything in, like i constantly loose lust out of my soul, images I've consumed over the years, porn etc...) I wait a minute and image these parts leaving me out of my soul, then i say: And I call back to my soul any parts of me I have given away, anything i have left in people, places, and things, any parts deeply stuck in anything. (you can fill in whatever you need to loose out, that's the beauty of this) . It's worked for me, I've been delivered from porn consumption though i admit I am not perfect, and at times when its so easy to look at it, its important to self-discipline, think about What would Jesus do? and a good reminder to myself that GOD is always watching, IN ALL THINGS!
Question for you, Dr West: have you read CS Lewis’s Space Trilogy? So much of what you say resonates/even appears in these books (especially in the third book “That Hideous Strength”). All three books lead to such a beautiful view of the beauty of man and woman and what we’re meant to be through God’s will. It predates both ToB and Humanae Vitae and, honestly, it’s a bit prophetic of the dangers of the sexual revolution and the transhumanist waves we’ve been enduring lately. I would be interested to hear your thoughts on the books. As always, excellent work and I so appreciate all that you and your team are doing to help us wayfarers get through this night of trial here. God bless!
Hello! We are big fans of Lewis and his Space Trilogy at the Institute. We actually have a week long course on the writings of Lewis and Tolkien and will be going on a pilgrimage to their homeland next year. selectinternationaltours.com/product/pilgrimage-to-england-july-16-25-2024-24ja07uktobi/?kuid=e1580f74-a7b3-458d-b8c0-0477bf793623&kref=WpuBwGUoAslF
Thank you! Although I found the singing a bit hard to sit through (I must admit, U2 is not a band that speaks to me), there was so much here. Espescially the 'seeing God through a womans womb' part, I think I will need to sleep over that message to really understand it, but it resonated so much in me. I thank you for all you do! It really helps!
@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute keep it up brother. Just discovered you; instantly followed. May God bless you. Also, I just had a God moment with this video! I was connecting deeply with your words when you mentioned U2 and the lyrics from All Because Of You. It’s one of my favorites!
I don't want to take away from anyone this actually helped, but for me this video was just half semantics about the question, and then half generic things about Christianity, without giving any real practical steps that could help. The question was basically "I'm a Christian, I've given up watching porn, I've put my faith in God and given it all to him, and I still can't get porn out of my head. What do I do now?" The response was basically "Give everything to God". 😑
It may help to consider the process. When you look at porn, you are triggering past thoughts and past feelings (felts). Your thoughts and felts trigger new feelings and new thoughts. You are disconnected from the world and from others. You begin to mix those into a fantasy, forming the images to suit you. You may touch yourself, now using sensations to strengthen the image, which strengthens the feelings, thoughts and even disconnection from reality. There is no addiction without the image. What we look at and what we hear and even touch our guiding and sometimes controlling what we feel and think. But we feel and think are deeply interconnected. Thinking things make you feel a certain way and feeling a certain way make you think things. Images begin to steer if not outright hijack you're thinking and you're feeling feeling. And they disconnect you. From reality and from others. When you find yourself in deep meaningful relationships you have no desire for the fake images. The false images. The false idols
I notice I fall most when I feel alone or when I’m discouraged as a result of my attempts to date, often leading to the fear that I’ll never have a wife. I resist temptation most when I have my eyes firmly set on the Lord and when I trust that God will connect me with the right woman in due time, rather than trying to project what I want onto a woman who does not fit with me.
Other videos that might be helpful to all those who are sincerely looking for healing:
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hello, i have a question based on your video, why are humans then attracted to pornography if the way God created our sexuality is good and all good? if Pornography is a mockery of Heaven, why do some humans feel the want/need to watch it and keep on with their fantasies although we're created in God's image and likeness, who is pure and holy but yet we are attracted to sin. why is this?
@@ziliflax4689If I may, because perversions of the original purpose provide a draw of their own. We were intended to eat real food, but nasty synthetic versions play upon the same physical pathways and are prone to addiction. Dopamine is intended to create rewards for our healthy pursuits but drugs directly stimulate the same systems and create unhealthy and addictive responses.
@ziliflax4689 because we live in a fallen world its in the first chapter of the bible...
I have a remorse about how I have treated my wife sexually for many years. We were very young when we got married. I'm so ashamed with my thinking when we got married. I thought NOW I can have all the sex I want and it won't be a sin! I've seen her as someone who can satisfy my lust. After seeing your videos on what marital union is, I feel like scum. But I have trust that God can unravel my twisted life and give me freedom to see the beauty of my wife. Please pray for me and our marriage . God bless your ministry.
Dr Christopher, if there is nothing wrong with the naked body and our naked bodies tell a Divine story 3.14 and God says it is Good, and we need to go back to our original innocence, is looking at naked images "heaven womens body" in a redeemed way with transencent, erotic prayer and love, a sin or is it considered pornography?
Thankyou brother i really appreciate your work 🙏 im praying for you 🙏
Step 1 Avoid social media, it’s where all begins! May God protect all🙏
I deleted minds last Thursday ✊🏾👏🏾
it's not just that. you have to replace watching p*rn with something else. for example, reading the Bible.
@@1saamor897 yea exactly man I have started reading the Bible it literally gives calmness to the soul but I have it on a app on my phone but it’s better than nothing, we all should spend time there everyday tbh it draw us closer To God
I fasted social media for my version of the 21 day Daniel fast, and in that time I felt way less horny, and in the meantime happened to get a girlfriend. I recommend all men, if you want to attract a Godly wife, quit social media, quit porn and start working on bettering yourself. You'll emanate a much more attractive aura if you're spending your free time working on yourself and no longer being a slave to your fleshly urges. It is hard for the first few days, but then you begin recognizing a beautiful transition. A revelation if you will. I was so surprised how quickly my mind started being disgusted with the thought of watching porn, and the frequency at which I had the thought to do so drastically decreased. I'm not claiming quitting social media is the only thing, nor was this change in my life all my works. It was also the incredible work of God and His grace. As long as you intend to humbly grow in your relationship with the Lord while you are fasting, he promises us He will work through us. ("Reward" Matthew 6: 18) I conditioned myself that if there ever was a thought in my mind I'd begin to pray. It also especially helped having a new woman in my life, and such a Godly woman at that. If I ever began to get horny, I'd pray to God to keep me loyal. I'd think of her and her innocence and how brutally vile the pornography industry is. How I'd never, EVER want this girl to end up in porn. That there are thousands of Father's daughters selling themselves, lowering themselves to the same status as a sex doll. And millions of men who exploit women by treating them like objects. I thought to myself to quit porn, not only for myself, but for the better of mankind, my future wife, my future children, and to be righteous in the eyes of the Lord- and when we are, He will reward us....my reward was God healing my pornified mind.
I dont indulge nor have a "corn" issue or addiction but I still deleted social medias for other reasons.. it's damaging our society so badly. I talk about this on my channel a bit.
This video was very helpful as I continue the journey of untwisting the paper of my life that got the way because of an 8 year long pornography addiction. In 2 days I will be 4 months free and I can’t describe the feeling that is radiating from my heart and soul the more I dive deep into Theology of the Body. Thank You so much for these videos!! Also today is my 24th Birthday and my parent’s 30th wedding anniversary!! God Bless You
Happy birthday and congratulations for your journey and for your parents anniversary 😊!!
@@KattarCatholic-th8wz Thank You! I to have had the same struggle but I’m 24 days free from masturbation. You can break free. I just wanted to say one more thing that I’m a not a brother, I’m a sister. Ha ha 😄It’s ok. God Bless You!
Praise God! Keep fighting the good fight.
Keep the focus on God love for you and bringing God's kingdom here. By loving God first and loving our neighbour as ourself what can you do to do that keep your eyes on God's kingdom brother and sister.
That’s amazing! I’m in a similar spot as you. 10 years addicted, I’ll be 3 months clean tomorrow. Having the word put out there has helped me so much and I’m happy you’ve gotten this far in your journey. I read a book called Unwanted by Jay Stringer. It’s a great Christian perspective of human sexuality and it helped me not feel such great shame for sexual sin. I hope you can read it and continue your journey. God bless!
So many young men need this.
All men need this. Women don’t understand that ALL men are addicted to sex. Once we figure out what a woman is, we’re addicts. But we as men are very much so commanded to deal with women with honor. The real problem is as a society, women no longer allow men to respect them the way God wants us to.
Let's pray that this message reaches all of them!
I certainly needed this. I'm 24, I've been addicted to porn for more than a decade. I've found my way back to God thanks to my girlfriend, but my pornified brain has damaged our relationship many times.
I'm working hard to stop this twisted corruption. No matter how many times I fail, no matter if I can't clean myself 100%. I won't let porn destroy everything that I love and everything I have.
May God be with you all!
@@riukasoulripper8252 Count on my prayers, God Bless.
...and young women 💯
I was addicted to porn for 9 years. Growing closer to God over the last year and change helped me finally take that leap to step away from porn. I am currently four-months sober and give all glory to God for this change.
Praise God! Keep fighting the good fight!
This video is GOD SENT! I’ve struggled with very similar thoughts and images and even dreams and last night and this morning,I asked God to help me over come these thoughts and dreams. What are the chances that this video comes across my TH-cam feed. It was uploaded 1 HOUR AGO! God is good and He cares about the children HE LOVES!!! HE CARES!!
All glory to God! Please pray that this message reaches all the people that God intends to reach.
Here are two things that have helped me. I have been porn free for 15 years now:
Be mindful of what you watch, not just porn but social media which can be tempting.
Jesus says, “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” (Matthew 6:22-23; Luke 11:34).
Secondly: Don’t try to resist temptation on your own strength. When you feel the porn temptation in your brain, begin praying to God and ask for His help right there and then. Ask him to take the temptation away. When you ask Him for help in resisting sin and temptation He will help you.
Blessings everyone.
"The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it is connection"
Jesus said to turn away from your sins meaning to stop the addictions and then we will be holy
@@JustLoco100 and do you turn away from your sins alone or with a connection to Jesus and others
@@Jontheinternet with a connection to Jesus and others would probably be the best way to do so. Not only are you helping yourself but your friends, family and significant others.
@@Jontheinternet if you have no choice but to do it by yourself thats also works because like you said is about the connection and believing in your heart that Jesus is the true God and he loves us all but we need to give up our wickedness and let him guide us through prayer and reading the bible.
@@JustLoco100 when you're out connecting with people, you're not on the computer is another way to look at it.
i backslid very heavily recently, been fighting porn addiction and pleasure seeking for about a year now. I had a low moment and the first thing i see when i get onto TH-cam is this video. I long to not have pornographic thoughts entering my mind... it happens most when im tired, when im weakest.
I feel like a failure, i feel like im nothing more then a disappointment to the Lord. I am very disappointed in the actions i have partaken in. I have a hard time forgiving myself when i fail, and that starts the loop i was once in. See i have been a Christian all my life, though up until about a year ago it was professing Christian and not active Christian. I decided to come clean and dedicate myself to the teachings of the Lord. It started off well enough, managing to get through a week before thoughts would enter my head. I even dedicated an entire week to reading the bible and worship and it was amazing. But now i've just kinda stopped and its been nothing but a bombardment of pornographic thoughts and sexual urges...
I'm getting back up, off the ground and out of the muck once more. I'm dedicating myself to this even though its hard as my fleshes wants are opposed to my own.
You are not alone brother, I've been dealing with exact same issue, for me my triggering point is use of social media (phone addiction), stress about future. pornographic thought only appears when I'm feeling weak/stressed, or on the days when I skip spending my time with the Lord.
reading this, it is like everything I've been feeling and going through..i relate to you so much you have no idea.
so reading your solution just helped me.
thank you
i hope you're staying strong. you can do it.
if you fall
keep getting back up and keep going.
The Lord will see you through
I feel the exact same way. I, too, am fighting to kick my addiction, but God gracefully gives us another day to start a new one, and as long as we draw breath, God isn't finished with us yet.
I’m right there with you brother. I’ve been addicted for 3 years and now starting to take this seriously because it had taken a toll on my thoughts as well. I will be praying for you. I love you, and I truly mean that.
Don't give up, you can do this. This is where you need God's strength. I say this from experience, I also was once heavily addicted to porn and the filth that came with it. I would fall back into it over and over. And towards the end I would fall with all the pornographic images I had in my head. It was so hard, I felt so dirty and unworthy, but I didn't give up. I would run back to the Lord for forgiveness every time. I would fight this over and over and one day It went away. I was so serious about wanting to live for God and one day I received victory over this struggle. It's been close to 8 years now since the last time I watched porn. All glory to God, I don't doubt that
He is the one who gave me the strength I needed to overcome this. I personally just had to be serious about serving Him.
This video made me realise that the issue is much greater than I could have imagined.
I've never openly said to anyone aloud, or in comment, only God Himself, but man I'm trying to stop and it's been hard and for the most part, it's the one major sin I'm struggling with. I'm happy for that, but still I feel so gross for dishonoring Jesus when I let that bestial part of me take over. I genuinely cry over this. I always skip these videos but tonight I finally clicked on this one. Thanks man. And thanks be to God.
Hey man. I'm in the same boat. One thing that helps me is realizing Jesus died for us while we were still in our sins. He knew all the heinous things we would do and still chose to die for us. Don't let the devil trick you into avoiding God because of your sin :). I will keep you in my prayers.
A lot of women struggle with this too, I urge you to make more videos speaking to young women struggling with pornography. Thank you for this video
Thank you for the feedback! Will certainly consider it.
Christopher - that's really good. I recently heard about "desexualizing" your brain. I LOVE reframing it as "de-pornifying". This rings so much truer to me.
edit: Btw - reading your book "Eating the Sunrise". Only a short way into it, but already, I'm hooked. Great work!
We're so glad it blessed you! Keep us posted on what you think about the book.
Thank you for this, I quite back in the summer of 2022 but since then have had an extremely negative view towards anything sexual in general. I get angry when anyone ever brings it up and completely stopped looking for any romantic relationship for the time being. Seeing sexuality as a corporeal version of a higher Divine pattern brings me some peace in the matter. I have a very long way to go. Please pray for me.
We're all on the journey! Keep fighting the good fight, we're praying for you.
yes! because of all the corruption it brought some anger out in me and untrustworthiness.
Wow, same, why is this so common? That anger and discontent birthed from moving away from trauma and perversion has seeped into romantic hope for me as well.
Please talk more about this. So many young men are struggling so hard against this. The Internet has made it so, so easy to access all that darkness. This needs addressing and many people need actual help.
We hope this reaches as many people as possible! Please pray that it would.
Crazy how many people on this thread leave out the women who need help with sex addiction. Men aren't as shamed for sex socially, so more women don't talk about it, but it's there. Human beings like pleasure… both genders think about it.
@@DevinBryantfilms Come on dawg are you kidding me? Women have porn addiction?! Only men have that addiction because men have lust and only men want the pleasure not women😐
All it takes is one click and one look and I’m trapped for the night. I’m trying to keep myself from the click.
Keep fighting the good fight! Praying for you.
We underestimate the power of image. There is no addiction without the image. The image triggers thoughts and feelings from the past to blend them into new thoughts and feelings. Add to the physical sensation and fantasy is played out and it can be addictive. Take away the image and the feelings and thoughts disappear.
Images - sexual or not - are far more manipulative than we give them credit for.
Meditate and focus on the feeling and removing the image. Images show what your desire is. Question what you desire. Because you don't desire the image, which is not real. You desire something deeper. You don't crave images - which are perceptions of something you desire. You desire love and connection.
this is so good this knowledge just opened the door to healing and i fully understand how you can be delivered from lust. i recently just realized how porn really distorted my relationships and created a thought process to whenever i even looked at ANY guy… i can now look at men and not sin with my heart
Praise God!
Wow, just wow, I opened up the video thinking, "Here we go another guilt trip.. BUT NO.. This spoke to me on so many levels. THANK YOU, Thank GOD. The distinctions you made is what I needed the most to understand!!
I saw the Spirit of Guilt. It moves like an oil. Black.
Just like Hexxus from FernGully, the cartoon.
needs to focus of the greater sweetness and joy of sexuality within the beauty of marriage. Continue to wash your mind and soul in the word, community and prayer and in good things of life such as serving others. Sex is such a beautiful but small part of life. Theres so more to life than just sex.
Its a small part until one person is not getting what they want and need...
Oxygen is something you take for granted until you aren’t getting enough and suddenly it’s all you think about. Just like sex. I’ve always thought of sex as dirty and something to overcome. My sex drive is more a torment than a pleasure. I want it to just leave me alone.
@@dosstodd8014 you only feel that way about it becasue you have been taught to villainize it.
I've cut back tremendously in recent months. I still slip but the infrequency is increasing and I'm hoping this time around I can end it. I've been going to Confession each time I slip and that has been helping me in resisting temptation and turning to God instead.
I am praying that the Holy Spirit can transform you and empower you to walk as the man of God that God has called you to be. Specifically pray for the Holy Spirit to empower you. As a woman, the feeling of men looking at me in that way is so uncomfortable and demoralizing. God created women for his glory, and their beauty to be cherished by their husband; please don’t continue to violate the young ladies who probably were all violated as children. God hopes to redeem them, and for their sexuality to be valued by a loving husband. My best friend was coerced into this industry as a teen and took her life from all of the trauma. I’m sorry to single you out, for I am not free of sin either, but to any person who consumes porn, it causes pain to those who God created. Your viewership fuels an industry that promotes misogyny and runs on the abuse of both men and women. I would encourage you to regularly pray about Genesis 19:26; God commanded Lot’s wife not so much as to look back over her shoulder, and when she disobeyed Him, she turned to a pillar of salt. God isn’t messing around when He commands us to do something. He doesn’t say cut back, He says FLEE. (1 Corinthians 6: 12-20) Take care 🤍
Keep fighting the good fight! We're praying for you.
Your not alone , for Christ is our righteousness, one thing , never ever try to condemn your self , for if you do then Jesus died for nothing , once you slip into it get down on your knees genuinely tell God am sorry , for he is ready to listen to use no matter our situation no sin is greater for him not to forgive , as far we are on earth our flesh will want his own desire , that’s what apostle people said we need to die of the flesh every day I too I am in the same situation getting to be healed 😊
To be honest, I just relapsed. I sincerely need prayers but I'm sincerely afraid to ask for prayers about this because I'm afraid that people will walk away if they find out. Currently, I don't have an addiction to pornography but more like struggle with relapses. Pray for me that I may have the strength to ask for help and prayers.
Praying! Keep fighting the good fight.
My brother in Christ, everyone has issues with addiction. It can be drugs, food, porn, money, domination, or manipulation. No one is free from a vice or struggle. If you can't approach the body of christ with your sins without social retribution, it's not the body. They are no different from you. They are just as tainted.
Your peers are the strongest physical ally you have in the struggle against sin. We can help hold each other accountable without overzealous judgment or retribution.
If you do find that those ppl in your life have treated you poorly for your openness, find a new church or new friends. If you have to be alone, then so be it. More time with God.
Heres what I've found to be helpful.
Just jerk off without it first. Srsly. I know it seems vulgar, but it can help you kick the habit of porn.
Look up a dopamine detox on youtube. Take a break from phones, internet, tv, video games... go camping for a few days.
Fast for a week. If you can not eat for a week, you can kick the habit of masturbation or porn.
Before you decide to do anything. Pray or read scriptures for 5 or 10 minutes. Get into the habit of checking yourself. You must be aware of what you are doing. Where are your thoughts coming from? You dont have to act on then if you remain vigilant and aware, let them flow away.
bro GOD works in the most wonderful ways!! I love that this came at the right time God always finds a way to speak to me, I prayed about this, this has been on my mind because i want to be rid of it to grow with God!! i’m young and due to my past of sexual assault and other things i’d rather not speak on, it hits hard for me. God knows me he knows my heart he KNOWS I want to grow. THANK YOU❤❤
We're so glad it blessed you! Keep fighting the good fight,
I found a lot to think on in this video, and I like where you come from in it. I like your energy and enthusiasm and your attitude towards this subject; I didn't feel as though I was being shamed at any point in this video, speaking as a straight man with perfectly natural urges who has been single and celibate for 8 and 6 years respectively. (I've got a couple of reasons for that happening, focusing on self protection in a world gone mad) Subscribed, because I want to see more of what you have to say here, sir.
I’m so glad God blessed me with this video. I discovered porn when I was 14 and I was immediately addicted. I felt and still feel very guilty and conflicted about it. I have just recently been praying about it and am now been 3 days without it. I am very proud of myself and very thankful for God being down in the trenches with me and getting me out again. I am very thankful that you made the clarification that we as Christian’s shouldn’t try and “De-sexualize” our brains but to “De-pornify” our brains. I believe this is a very important thing to know because when, as you said, we try to de-sexualize our brains, we just throw out the good alongside the bad. Anyway thank you for this amazing video and I can’t wait to watch more.
We're so glad it blessed you! Keep going deeper and fighting the good fight, we're praying for you. Also subscribe and share so that it may reach as many people as God intends.
I’m not but 2 some minutes in but already, you pointing out these proper important distinctions between what it is good and evil, but also how and why; it’s refreshing and not often something that I see folks get right. You point out how the devil twists what is good, and that God made everything good, and that our sexuality between man and woman is a Good creation of God. God Bless You!
De- lustyfy the brain of the human being. With the grace of God. Thank you Christopher. God bless your mission.
God bless you too!
Thank you for giving Lisa Shields all the signed copies of your T.O.B For Beginners for our book group. Our journey has just begun but I can already tell that this is going to be a formative time together. Thank you!!
Praise God! Let us know how it went.
I quit porn 5 days ago and I've never been happier but theres still much more work to be done so ill continue to walk with God even after the battle is won🙏🏾
My god be with you pray for me to overcome it
Keep fighting the good fight! We're praying for you.
Also pray The Angelus; 6:00 am, noon, and 6:00 pm.
What is an Angelus?
Thank you for this video, every little bit helps. Our salvation is now and not yet, anyone fighting this must fight one day at a time.
Ive been struggling for so so long and often times I dont feel in control of my own brain, by Gods grace ive been the most free from porn theses past few years as i have ever been but the images and temptation still return when i feel weak. This is a curse and a burden on all men but especially on my generation (millennial/Gen z) I pray that all of us will be rescued from this culture of constant pornography.
This is truly needed in the world we are in today 🙏🏽
Wish everyone the best on their journey
Thank you brother. This video helped me as a 30 year old child before God recieving his grace to become the man he wants me to be. Non pornographic.
Glory to God! Keep going deeper, brother! This playlist may help: th-cam.com/play/PLAbqXQaOvkM5bCz689gTJM4IdMr7Qd5gb.html&si=6r54ZpFe63T9Ieqe
Wow I was subscribed to you before. Not sure why it shows unsubscribed. Thank you so much for this video!
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What a sincere, good, honest presentation. Praise God
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Thank you Christopher for all you do for the Kingdom of God.
You're so welcome! Please pray for us.
I'm glad you're one of the few who brings out the distinction of words. When people say "de-sexulize" they often don't realize they are giving a broad umbrella term. One could argue the Virgin Mary is sexualized because of the idea of still being a virgin after giving birth.
It can also be extended to shows where female characters are fully clothed, but wear latex, leotards, etc falls under that category with no pornographic material in the show to begin with.
Thank you for making this distinction because it is being weaponized to this degree.
That implies that Mary stayed a virgin after she was married and had other kids.
@@commenter5901 Again, interpretation is key. One could theorize the concept of the Virgin Mary is a sick fetish of pedophilia considering her age at that time. Then loosely tie that to the countless numbers of priests molesting young boys as some sick ritual or something preordained by peoplelike Jim Jones and Elijah Muhammad both thought they were biblically ordained. They can even go as far as saying God was pro-pedophilic considering he chose a young girl to birth Jesus.
Again, interpretation is the trick. They just have to sell the idea to the majority.
This was a beautiful and insightful analysis, Christopher. Amazing work! This really helped me see things through a healthier perspective. Keep up the great content my friend!
oh my gosh, just like how you mentioned, there were several songs that wrought havoc on me as a child in this way. these things can influence us so deeply and is exactly why we ought to bring our burdens to the Lord and rest in Him!
Bro this is 10stars. I love the progression. God bless you and special blessing on this channel . May he continue to give you the insight and words to proclaim his glory in the way he has given you.!
All glory to God! Thank you for watching and allowing it to reach as many people as God intends.
This is a good video. I gotta admit I laughed at the garden reference but that shows my thoughts arent pure. Thanks alot for this!!
You're so welcome! Keep fighting the good fight.
The very finest gold is not just a mineral. Thank you,
Absolutely loved the singing at 11:15
Was addicted to qorn since i was 9, last year (when i was 19) God removed the desires of qornography overnight (no fighting against desires or anything, just woke up with a new sense of blessing). Yet the horrific images that ive seen are engraved in my mind, and left spiritual wounds (many people dont even know about spiritual wounds)
i had the exact same experience, praise be to God. let us keep praying and seeking Him and letting Him transform our minds and hearts🤍
This is what I need to get over too. Since turning back to Christ and beginning the process to convert to Catholicism I've been much better; however, I have definitely slipped a few times. I think the main reason is that sometimes when day dreaming the thoughts might come in. Kinda in an intrusive way, cuz once im aware of it i stop it, but the visuals are pretty strong and i think each time it happens, it weakens me, and that combined with concupiscence, I fall... flat on my face.
Keep fighting the good fight! Praying for you.
Call Gods help in your vulnerable times.
@@carolinpurayidom4570 yeah something that has been helping me more recently, has been trying to really keep Christ's sacrifice on the cross always present in my mind. especially in those week moments, but i've been trying to just keep it as present as possible throughout the day. obviously growing in my prayer life has been helping, but i've seen a bit of a mindset change very recently where i'm starting to embrace suffering to some degree. whether the suffering be some minute annoyance, or genuine emotional or physical pains. i've found it's also been helpful for those minor annoyances of getting a task i'm not fond of given to me at work, and i just immediately offer it up. it's been a minute since i've been tempted by lust, so i'll see how i do, when i really have to put this to the test, but I feel like i have more strength behind me now.
Thank you!!! This was wonderful.. Very helpful!!! Thank you!!! I'm healing from my childhood.
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Helpful and interesting perspective. The redeeming perspective. (The details were new to me.)
Romans 12:2 and Philippians 4:8 is also helpful, along with the knowledge that our brains can change all our lives, and whatever we choose to think about will become easier and easier to think about! It´s like working out - we gradually get in better shape. So keep choosing the right thoughts and don´t allow condemnation to get you.
For girls and women, maybe we don’t struggle with watching porn, though I know many also do, but maybe an even more common temptation is to indulge in the emotional, romantic, sensual and sexual narratives that eventually can lead to the same result of pornified thinking.
Thank you for this. It has been years since i have used pornography, yet i still feel wounded by it.
Same it’s been almost 3 years for me and I’m still hurting so badly 💔
You're so welcome! Keep fighting the good fight.
Wounded how do
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@@sosukeaizen2723 It’s trauma from infant circumcision. People don’t realize how damaging modern circumcision is on the male anatomy. Biblical circumcision took 95% less foreskin. It was essentially just the rim of the foreskin removed leaving all the important features intact.
Modern Men self medicate the trauma and damage with all forms of substances, porn being one of them.
The best ever message heard on this topic , really blessed God bless you 👑✝️
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Over he years I’ve come to realize that acknowledging and accepting bad thoughts, wether they’d be of a pornographic nature or not, is the first step I can take towards changing those thoughts and avoiding self condemnation. I just have to be honest with myself and be mature about my sinful nature
That was a great Word! Blessings to you!
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I like this approach, and I heard something similar in Mere Christianity, though it was pointed towards casual sex, or sex outside of marriage more specifically. The kind of resentments that some Christians have towards sex, and towards women, come from trying to repress their sexual desires, whereas you should be be focusing on not allowing your healthy sexuality to be corrupted. Direct the natural impulse God gave you to building a strong, loving relationship, as was always meant.
As a christian who is not catholic, I struggled with the association of david's psalms about God's temple and dwelling place with mary. However, this video and this channel continue to bless me. And I am so grateful that God led me here. May God continue to use you and this wonderful channel.
Mary is the ark of the new covenant…
Same here. I came to the comments to see if I’m alone
@@pezequilibradohace5anos538 stop praying to mary. our God is a jealous God
@@pezequilibradohace5anos538 you have no clue how evil you sound. Jesus is the Ark of the new covenant if anyone is.
@@anthonybrown7650 “evil”? Give me a break. Christ Can not be the ark of the covenant, the ark of the covenant carried the word of God and the bread of God, Christ is the word of God and the bread, he is God himself.
This video is amazing, especially in its enthusiasm for what is good, true and beautiful! :-)
I was never really a porn addict, but I still watched it sometimes and get images into my head still that are really clingy. I still really need to depornify!
Let us all depornify to purify our minds and glorify God!
And: I think gender mainstreaming brought us to a point where we actually need to "resexualize" humanity. It is good to be male and good to be female and to be attravted by the opposite sex. The question is how to live sexuality in a natural loving way!
We're glad you enjoyed it! Amen, "Let us all depornify to purify our minds and glorify God!"
Thankyou for delivering this word brother. Blessings to you 🙏🙏🙏🙏
You're so welcome! Praying for you.
I dont indulge nor have a "corn" issue or addiction but this problem, HUGE problem gives me trust issues with men.... I can go into detail if anyones curious, but my standards go higher and if someone is away from that then its automatically a really really good thing. God Bless.
So you mean if someone had those issues in the past, it will be hard for you to accept it when I comes to partner choice? Just trying to understand
@@kgross no no, if they have issues with that now then yes it would be hard for me.. but if they’re away from that now and even somewhat in the near past then that’s a very very very good thing.
Wonderful message ❤️
I was just talking to a neighbor boy and we were talking about baby pictures and we both said sometimes we wish we could go back and be babies again. Sometimes I wish I could go back in the womb. It feels the safest ❤
this is genius. Theology of the body should be read by every man who wants to study for the priesthood.
That is one of the goals of the TOB Institute! Please pray for us.
Thank you very much for this video. May Father God bless us all! 🙏📿
Humanity is not just about men. I was expecting during the whole video to also hear an advice for girls/women
I have a testimony to give on the act of grace in me. I had been addicted to p*rn since I was 8 years old up to april of last year, when I was 27 yo.
I was protestant. But for lots of reasons I took interest in learning about the Catholic faith. I went to watch a catechism playlist. And then as I watched, looking at the clerical collar of the priest I started remembering priests have a vow of celibacy. And started wondering if it's really true they manage.
Since then I seem to have gotten supernaturally mortified in that sense. Yes, being married I can still enjoy being intimate with my husband, but it's no longer the same as before. Now every time its been feeling like it's my first time with him. And I feel pure. And my mind pure. I just have to watch out my memory a bit.
Wow! This is real was a high thinkings! Thank you!
You're so welcome!
I loved this video. You are fantastic man, subscribed!
I've struggled with porn off and on for the last few years now, its been almost 3 months since I stopped. Pray that God would give me Wisdom, Self Control, and Faith, that I might trust in Him to get me through this.
Praying for you, brother! Keep fighting the good fight.
this is a great way to put it. helps me dignify women instead of just looking at them for sex
Amen!
God has also gifted us each with a guardian angel who can help remind us of things. They can also help us forget or repress certain images. So ask your guardian angel for help.
Angels can speak to us in images, so if you experience a lot of suggestive images from the past, it may be a temptation from a fallen angel. Pray and visit the Sacraments, but it's also very important seek support from others! You're not alone in your journey!
Great video, Christopher! Thank you! I love the advice you're giving, but I am having a hard time wondering how I can put your advice to practice in my life. How can I do this?
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This is so good!!!! Praise be to God 🌟🙏✨❤️✨
We're so glad it blessed you!
God really wanted me to hear this message. I oassed by this video earlier today and all day while I was out, flashes of the thumbnail for this video flashed through my mind multiple times.
Excellent Christopher !
Has given me a new beautiful perception on sexuality, thank you. And God bless you.
Got my sub from now on
All glory to God! Welcome aboard and we encourage you to keep going deeper.
Thanks Christopher for this video this means a lot for me
We're so glad it blessed you! Please pray for us.
This is one of the most theologically and sexually confusing words I’ve ever heard. It’s pretty clear to me that you didn’t talk to anyone else about exactly what you were going to say before recording it.
There were so many VERY weird interpretations of scripture in here and I would strongly caution any believer watching it to either not watch it altogether or strip the squirrel meat off the bones of this one and made sure to spit every bone out.
I agree. Sometimes he goes completely over the top
Brilliant, thank you I needed this exactly and this video just showed up for me.
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i keep not thinking of it then videos like this make me start thinking of it again
Very helpful video, even though I am not Roman Catholic. Thank you.
It says for christians, not roman catholic they are not interchangeable
Indeed. I only used Roman Catholic in reference to the portrayal of Mary as “Our mother”. It is a very helpful video despite that.
Indeed. I only used Roman Catholic in reference to the portrayal of Mary as “Our mother”. It is a very helpful video despite that.
Indeed. I only used Roman Catholic in reference to the portrayal of Mary as “Our mother”. It is a very helpful video despite that.
Indeed. I only used Roman Catholic in reference to the portrayal of Mary as “Our mother”. It is a very helpful video despite that.
I prayed to God. To help me stop, and that I was powerless.
I felt different the next day. I haven't watched or even had the urge. It's been five months now.
Praise be to God...
Praise God, indeed!
Thank you, God bless you and your family!
You're so welcome! Thank you for being a regular viewer.
Thank you for this video I really need this.
We're so glad it blessed you! Please pray for us.
Thank you ❤
Shalom
God bless you!
This video was very helpful. The images and random recalls are tough to deal with. De-pornifying for brain is vital! However, you lost me at the women's womb being the sanctuary of God that we want to return to. I need further explanation.
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Thanks for this video and God bless!
one thing i use all the time is: Lord I choose an act of my will to loose out of my soul, anything that resembles darkness in anyway (and you can fill anything in, like i constantly loose lust out of my soul, images I've consumed over the years, porn etc...) I wait a minute and image these parts leaving me out of my soul, then i say: And I call back to my soul any parts of me I have given away, anything i have left in people, places, and things, any parts deeply stuck in anything. (you can fill in whatever you need to loose out, that's the beauty of this) . It's worked for me, I've been delivered from porn consumption though i admit I am not perfect, and at times when its so easy to look at it, its important to self-discipline, think about What would Jesus do? and a good reminder to myself that GOD is always watching, IN ALL THINGS!
Wonderful analogy!!!
Thank you for watching!
Question for you, Dr West: have you read CS Lewis’s Space Trilogy? So much of what you say resonates/even appears in these books (especially in the third book “That Hideous Strength”). All three books lead to such a beautiful view of the beauty of man and woman and what we’re meant to be through God’s will. It predates both ToB and Humanae Vitae and, honestly, it’s a bit prophetic of the dangers of the sexual revolution and the transhumanist waves we’ve been enduring lately. I would be interested to hear your thoughts on the books.
As always, excellent work and I so appreciate all that you and your team are doing to help us wayfarers get through this night of trial here. God bless!
Hello! We are big fans of Lewis and his Space Trilogy at the Institute. We actually have a week long course on the writings of Lewis and Tolkien and will be going on a pilgrimage to their homeland next year. selectinternationaltours.com/product/pilgrimage-to-england-july-16-25-2024-24ja07uktobi/?kuid=e1580f74-a7b3-458d-b8c0-0477bf793623&kref=WpuBwGUoAslF
Thank you!
Although I found the singing a bit hard to sit through (I must admit, U2 is not a band that speaks to me), there was so much here.
Espescially the 'seeing God through a womans womb' part, I think I will need to sleep over that message to really understand it, but it resonated so much in me.
I thank you for all you do! It really helps!
We're so glad it blessed you! Keep going deeper.
Your comment about his singing wasn’t necessary
Thank you for talking about this ❤
You're so welcome!
Thank you, Mr. West. You always seem to know the right words. I am on a quest to defeat some of my most recurrent sins. Pray for me guys.
Keep fighting the good fight! Praying for you.
Same here. Let's do this together.
Been there, it was not good, I'm working on myself with God.
I was addicted by porn for so long time but now I'm free for the grace of my Lord Jesus Christ
Glory to God!
This is the fight of our time. Not politics. Not geopolitics. Porn.
Let's keep fighting the good fight!
@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute keep it up brother. Just discovered you; instantly followed. May God bless you.
Also, I just had a God moment with this video! I was connecting deeply with your words when you mentioned U2 and the lyrics from All Because Of You. It’s one of my favorites!
I don't want to take away from anyone this actually helped, but for me this video was just half semantics about the question, and then half generic things about Christianity, without giving any real practical steps that could help.
The question was basically "I'm a Christian, I've given up watching porn, I've put my faith in God and given it all to him, and I still can't get porn out of my head. What do I do now?" The response was basically "Give everything to God". 😑
It may help to consider the process. When you look at porn, you are triggering past thoughts and past feelings (felts). Your thoughts and felts trigger new feelings and new thoughts. You are disconnected from the world and from others. You begin to mix those into a fantasy, forming the images to suit you. You may touch yourself, now using sensations to strengthen the image, which strengthens the feelings, thoughts and even disconnection from reality.
There is no addiction without the image. What we look at and what we hear and even touch our guiding and sometimes controlling what we feel and think. But we feel and think are deeply interconnected. Thinking things make you feel a certain way and feeling a certain way make you think things.
Images begin to steer if not outright hijack you're thinking and you're feeling feeling. And they disconnect you. From reality and from others. When you find yourself in deep meaningful relationships you have no desire for the fake images. The false images. The false idols
Amazing talk!
We're so glad it blessed you!
I notice I fall most when I feel alone or when I’m discouraged as a result of my attempts to date, often leading to the fear that I’ll never have a wife. I resist temptation most when I have my eyes firmly set on the Lord and when I trust that God will connect me with the right woman in due time, rather than trying to project what I want onto a woman who does not fit with me.
I thank the Heavenly Father, God, that the algorithm put this vid in my recommended.
What parnography could lead on?
Thank you! I learned and changed my view on the topic. Such a beautiful way of seeing it. But, what about mastrubation?
The bible says masturbation and lust is a sin to your own body