Why Do We Keep Doing This?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- I know I often share the quote, “comparison is the thief of joy” and that’s because it’s true. Give it time to sink in, comparison is the thief of joy. If we look out at what someone else has and make assumptions about them and in turn judgements about ourselves we will never feel good. There will always be someone who looks better, makes more, has more, does more, whatever. Someone else’s success or happiness doesn’t have to take away from our own. By comparing our life or body or whatever to someone else’s we give away all of the power we have to make ourselves happy. As a reminder we are the only ones that can make us happy, yes, I know, it sucks, but it’s true. We can’t count on other people to do our internal work for us, we have to make choices every day that build our own happiness. If we wait for someone else to do it, we will be waiting forever.
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Olá Kati!!! Please see this. I love your videos I am a huge fan. But i feel sad i Can't share this videos with my folks, that's cause they don't know english, but these videos are so important and needed for everyone that i just wish there were legends for portuguese. If you don't have the time to make it, I can translate it for you. I wouldn't feel comfortable posting ur videos with portuguese language on my chanel. But if u need a translator I am totally here for you. I just want my friends and family to understand the amazing words you share with us. Thank u.
Olá Nc! Thank you for the kind message and offer to translate. Here is a video with information for you on how you can help :) th-cam.com/video/cQW2wMf8dEE/w-d-xo.html
@@Katimorton Muito obrigada
@@naarastefanecostamenezes1192 Um eterno obrigado
@@miltonkitadanidasnevesjuni4811 😍
Monday’s gotta be the best day of the week cause Kati’s apart of it ❤️❤️
Awe xoxoxo
"if you want to compare yourself with someone else, compare everything, not only the good" - my piece of wisdom ✌🏻😗
I love that!! Thank you so much for sharing!! xoxo
I love this. If comparing, compare everything or nothing at all 💜
What if I was much higher on the scale of attractiveness then you? Would that mean that you were not prity no if you were prity you would still be prity? I think a lot of times we forget that something is good just because something else is better.
Very true, will remember this!
Wow. That hit hard. I think I've been coming around to that in my own way, but when stated as simply as that...Thank you!
That’s why I stay the hell off of Facebook.
It really is toxic.
And Twitter! Twitter is just a cesspool of negativity these days.
So do I.
Yasss! Same.
Me too! I deactivated mine in May and I'm soooo glad I did.
Your old videos were not cringey at all! They were the best resource on TH-cam at the time and you have just grown and given us even more and better resources over the years! You definitely helped me during my ed recovery back in the day and your content has just got better and better ❤️ sending love! Xx
I’ve noticed that doing gratitude excercises in my journal prevents me from “running the numbers”..Also I need to pay more attention to the “cravings”..Once again another great video, I get something from each one of these.
Kati being smart and sensible
Me COMPARING the comments others made and deciding mine is silly to make.
Story of my life.
Based on the psychology I've learned, I would say three things relevant to this video:
1. Self-awareness is the first step to positive change. That includes stuff like being aware of what you're thinking and feeling, what triggers those feelings, what actions are evoked, and so on.
2. Living authentically means living by our Values. It's important to learn what they are, and then examine them. Values can often contradict one another. They are often imposed on us during our upbringing or by our perception of societal pressure. Finding and living by our true Values is a powerful path to pursue.
3. The word "should" -- and all its subtle variations -- is a dangerous thing. When I think "should" about myself, I have to ask, "Where is this coming from? Does it align with my Values?" When I think "should" about other people, I'm putting a Claim on them that will lead to disappointment 9 times out of 10. Claims are subtle and destructive, both to ourselves (eg: yelling at a driver who can't hear you anyway upsets just one person), and to our relationships (eg: that person isn't my friend unless they behave the way I think they *should*).
Kati always says: “don’t should on yourself”
Thank you for this video. I had to stop going to therapy bc of an insurance change. But I’ll be doing an online session with her tmrw, now that I can afford the non-coverage price. I was very nervous to start therapy again, but this video made me excited to get my life back :) so thank you.
You got this!! ❤️👍
Thank you for continuing to save lives with your content. I truly believe that you have saved lives with your videos. God Bless you. Love ya :)
If Comparison is the thief of happiness.
Then gratitude is the harbinger of happiness!
Practicing gratitude everyday is a great way to 1. End negative thinking spirals 2. Practice presence and mindfulness 3. Find happiness in what you already have, not in what you lack.
Kati, thank you so much for posting today. I appreciate you for keeping me on my toes! I needed to hear this.
Awe of course!! I am so glad you found the video helpful :) xoxo
Kati is not just a well educated and good human being. She's one of the best entatainers on You Tube because she's chararasmatic, funny, educational, and a special down to earth person. God bless you and your family.
i struggle heavily with comparing myself. recently i’ve been comparing myself a lot to someone i used to be friends with, she and i got in relationships at the same time but mine ended and hers is still going strong. for a long time i kinda resented her for it bc i didn’t understand why she got to be happy and i didn’t but i’m starting to realize that our lives have nothing to do with each other. maybe her relationship isn’t as good as it seems on social media, maybe it is !! either way, her success in her relationship does not undermine my value, i am still worthy and lovable exactly as i am and so is she. her happiness does not take away from my own
You've helped me so much, honestly I'd had some real set back's.
Happy Monday everyone :)
I think this helps me to understand my sil better. She can be very negative, judgemental and nasty. She makes a lot of assumptions on how she thinks our lives work which are not based on reality. She doesn't see that I suffer badly from A & D and can't work because of it etc. Now all I need is a video on how to stop ruminating on her bad behaviour! Thanks.
YOU ARE SO PRECIOUS
Man I was hoping you’d talk about math hahahaha 😂
hahaha! Never!! lol!
Yoro Kumat I learned the 100 digits of pi song hahahaha #nerd
Yeah, same here. I may still be learning to calculate mentally at 24, but I totally see the beauty of Maths ^^
I needed to hear this today xx
Thank you for this💜
Thank you so much xxx
I really respect how much pain it must be for you to just keep talking about psychological disorders!!!
Thank you
I think the titles arent as helpful anymore (this video for example could be about anything). I really like the content tho ❤
Exactly your done I can hear your thoughts
Your top is so colorful and fun!
Awe thanks!! xoxo
I don’t know where to start trying to talk to someone about my issues. I don’t know if I have anxiety, depression, some combination of the two. I am overweight, I’m definitely unhealthy. And despite the fact that I’m fully aware of that, I can’t seem to motivate myself to do anything about it. I keep trying to join weight watchers and it just stresses me out too much and I end up majorly failing at it. And not just the food related things, I can’t bring myself to go out and exercise. Half the time I can’t bring myself to exercise at home. But I really can’t make myself get out of the house and potentially be in front of other people. Even when I’m just normally leaving the house, I very quickly walk to my car just in case I might accidentally run into a neighbor. And I just have no desire to do anything. Sorry for the ramble, but I don’t know what to do.
I have a difficult boss and sometimes I'm feeling great only to get to work and have to field their comments. I try to stay positive but they make it hard!
Hi Kati! First of all, I would like to say that I really love your videos. They’ve really made a difference in my life 💜
Recently, I’ve reconnected with my drug addict father. I cut him off years ago after his addiction took over and he became quite toxic. He told my mother he believes he’s going to die soon because of his drug use. I would like to make one last effort to help him, but I don’t know how. How do you help an addict without compromising ur boundaries or enabling them? Are there any resources I can share with him? Is there anyway to get through to an addict?
I’m craving the rest of my family like my aunts uncles cousins etc. I miss that connection. I’m also craving THEATRE AGAIN!! I miss that so damn much I can’t handle it! That’s also a part of the social aspect to. I also wanna spend some money for some reason, like at Target or Ulta. I don’t know why but that just popped up too 🤷🏼♀️
Hello, Kati. Just a question.
With my family being my biggest trigger, I chose to block them all on social media. They can't message me or call me at this point. I am in my 20s now, and I don't live with them as they are in a different country. I "cut ties" with them because I know they're only going to make me feel worse, and I'm tired of dealing with that. I've read and heard a lot of people saying that it's better to face things, acknowledge the feelings, and let go. What I'm doing is avoiding them altogether. Is this an unhealthy coping technique?
Thank you and I really love watching your videos!
I know it’s difficult to hear but you don’t own your family anything. You need to put your own needs 1st and if they are causing you distress than cutting them off is the right thing to do. If they wanted a relationship with you they would treat you better. And I know a lot of people say “but they’re your family” but you being part of their family didn’t stop them from treating you badly. Also, ck out Kati’s video on Toxic Parents! th-cam.com/video/HfU3vliw_08/w-d-xo.html
Also, maybe, that person who ordered the salad was someone with a food intolerance and they couldn't find anything else in the menu they could eat.
Or maybe the salad was what sounded good to them that day (I hate salads but apparently some people like them), you're right that there's so many reasons people choose the food they choose and we might not even know, that's why it's so important not to buy into someone's food choice being the "right" one since all that matters is we order what's right for us :)
Just for a balance: comparison could not be only "thief" but also something like a crutch. Some people might think "kids in Africa" etc, "things could be worse" type of thoughts. And it seems to help them in some manner to go through some periods of life or throughout the life.
2:13 That's true. Unless you are Elon Musk. He maybe be not the richest one, but he can throw Tesla into space with his bare brain! How amazing is that! I would never can... :'(
4:42 "we disordered what sounded good" -subtitles
omg, i love how google's brains works
some hours later:
"Disorder" here, "disorder there"... So google thinking was it "just ordered" or "disordered"? "Disorder" happens more on this channel so i'll go with that word. So stupid.
Hmm, i wonder will there be psychologists for AI in the future...
- No, don't call yourself stupid, it wont help you get better!
- Ah, i just don't care. I'm shutting down all my functions and erasing all my data...
- No, you cannot do that! That's illegal... And welfare of humankind depends on you! Just think how important you are to the world!
- ...you better make a better version of me. My mind is going, i can feel it...
And then all sorts of trash, slowly or not, but steadily begin to happen across the world.
Will it be the future (well, apart from AI being overly dramatic)?
that "disordered"... lol
That's a brilliant shirt!
❤️❤️❤️
Que pasó con Eugenia?? :(
But what if your cravings are drugs and alcohol??
Kati, is there any way I can ask you an important question?
You can always try to post your question in the comments right after a video drops. She also answers questions on a podcast on her other other channel “Opinions That Don’t Matter”. By far the best way to have Kati answer your question is to join her Patreon where she answers questions on her livestreams! Ck it out at www.patreon.com/katimorton
@@_just_TK Thank you so much :) It's a bit of a sensitive issue that's why I couldn't write it in the comments. I'll check her Patreon
Why does eating disorder happin?
Eating Disorders have NOTHING to do with food, it’s about control. In general, ED’s are unhealthy coping mechanisms. When some people feel like other parts of their life are out of control, they will try to get some form of control by focusing & manipulating their eating habits since it’s probably one of the few things they can control. Ck out Kati’s playlist on them! th-cam.com/play/PLAB41960D35357E06.html
“Always compare yourself to who u were yesterday not today” is my fav quote
Yes!! love it :) xoxo
Mark Twain said "Comparison is the death of joy." That has a sense of finality to it, though. At least if your joy is stolen, you can always find a way to make more and guard it closer against being stolen again. Even if you are stealing from yourself.
I love that Raymond.. thank you so much for sharing! xoxo
@@Katimorton I knew the "J word" was coming before you said it!! I keep a small one in my day pack, so I can jot things down during the day, before I have a chance to forget anything. Great idea, huh?!
@LLL LLL what
Comparing myself to others is one of my biggest flaws, I’m always chasing standards I can’t achieve
Admir Barucija hi how are you doing good comment you wrote I myself always think about or worry about what other people have that I don't have or what other people do that I haven't done always good to come to kati s video s and have a firmiler name and someone I have talked to a couple of times 🙂
I'm agreeing with both of you. It's that old quote of keeping up with the Smith's and the Jones's
stopppp I didn’t think this video would make me cry & feel all the things
we love kati for that ;)
Hey, Kati! Have you seen “The Good Place” on Netflix? It’s an amazing show, lots of philosophical thinking, analogies and calculating of behaviour. Gave me a lot of good reasons to reflect, I’m even searching for the books they used on the show. The talking on “The Office” was so cool, would you like to do a video about this show one day?
YESSSSSSSSSSSS
Aren't you calculating and comparing your old video about this topic with this new video? Hahaha 😂
Right on time. I needed this; I've been having trouble with comparison and worrying and feeling unhappy about feeling like I won't live up to what another person is like or doing (or did), and it's not helping me and not necessary, and I just hope I can stop.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Thank you for sharing this message!
Whoop whoop 🙌 another 10 minutes of my life we’ll spent!!!! Thanks Kati for your inspirational and motivational video kept me going through a tough work out session 🏋️♀️ 💕x
Awe yay!! Of course :) xoxoxo
Kati Morton 💕x
I like how the colours on your blouse match most of the ones that are in the painting behind you. Thanks for the supportive video!
These kind of topics are very interesting to me. Some people just love food because of the dopamine high it gives. Your brain also works to please it's self, even if it's not the right thing for you. It kinda works as a computer and works in 1's and 0's. 1 is going for the dopamine high and 0 is this is bad don't do it. I would be intrigued for you to talk about this is some way. Our brain is always looking for the next dopamine high and it's how people get addicted to games, food, porn, social media, etc. Anyways loved the video! Hope you will touch on this in the future.
I love her soo much
She helps my so much❤❤❤
ditto!!!
Awe I am so glad :) xoxo
This is me everyday. I'm not married, I'm too fat, I'll never be happy, etc
You don’t have to be married to be happy.You don’t have to be thin to be happy. There are people who’re have both of these adjectives and are still unhappy. It all depends on you as a person and how you follow your passions, being authentic and forgiving towards yourself.
Hi Kati, I'm wondering if you can make a video about how therapists can support black and indigenous Americans (and oppressed people in every country)? E.g., by validating their experiences and acknowledging the harm caused by systemic oppression and institutionalized racism? And maybe any $ earned by that video could be donated to a non-profit that provides free counseling to BIPOC folks. Just a thought :)
Kati does address the stigmas in different cultures a little in these collabs!
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I know this is the same for everyone, but your videos are like you are talking directly to me sometimes. I love that it helps me so much, I get excited about trying the new things you ask us to try, They Work! Thank you again Kati!
Awe yay! I am so glad the videos and tips I offer are helpful & work!! yay!! And you are very welcome :) Happy to help! xoxo
Thank you for making a difference in this world. Thank you for always saying "us". Having postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome I lay down a lot and enjoy listening to positive people who are compassionate, helpful, wise, and very knowledgable.
Hey Kati, thanks for signing Harper’s letter over free speech. Really brave and appreciate your position.
“...or maybe you’ve binged all of my videos at some point...”
🐾::puts my paw in the air:: 🐾
One thing I still don't understand is: When we are diagnosed with a disorder, it is only when the symptoms we have are impairing our life. But who defines impairment? Isn't that defined by comparing to other people who are not impaired? How could one ever say that something is impairing their life if there is no other life of someone else to compare to where these things don't impair them?
Maybe it could be used more in the sense of comparison to yourself like something a person is now finding challenging that they didn't before
@@itsalliX0 Well, I have always been autistic and had ADHD.
Good advice I got. Don’t compare yourself to other people because we don’t all start from the same starting point. Don’t think about what you should have achieved, but what you have achieved despite the difficulties
I haven't been watching your videos for a few days and fortunately I clicked on this one, and I can confirm your videos are always very soothing to me. This one was indeed very useful sum up and reminder of a healthy mindset. Thanks!
Good to see you again, I benged 4 years of your show in 3 weeks. Then suffered from withdrawals.
It constantly amazes me how much I get out of your videos, since almost always, I start just to learn something, and leave with knowledge and work to do. Thank you.
I love the suggestion to compliment yourself and others whenever you compare. I think this is going to make me feel a lot better. Thank you!
Perfect Kati. I love this Recovery Record app. Exactly what I needed. Great video so timely.
Hi Kati Morton this is very true your very right. In in-patient treatment for my eating disorder if we put ourselves down with words we had to say three put up to ourselves. I think this tool really helps me.
No this wasn’t directed at me..no not at all😅. Thank you so much for this! I’ve been struggling with everything right now and it’s somewhat stressful😓. I compare MYSELF ALL THE TIME! And I do need to work on it😊!
What if you're not depressed, but just don't enjoy anything anymore and absolutely hate leaving the apartment? And hate social interaction? And want to be my old self again? I would pay for those answers.
...it sounds like you may have depression. Depression looks different person to person. Depression may also present itself differently in the same person than it did in the past. PLEASE reach out to a mental health professional because with the right help it DOES GET BETTER!❤️
@@_just_TK Thanks. I already have an appointment. The thing is that I don't feel bad. I just don't seem to be able to feel good anymore. It doesn't make me sad, but I still don't like it.
I don't know how I feel about giving into cravings when all I want is to end them. I'd love nothing more than the cravings to go away.
TH-cam + Kati = Great video Brilliant advice for everyone!
I always take small notes when I watch your videos 😁 Thank you Kati!
How do you do this, Kati? You are reading my mind! ❤ I struggle with this so much and always assume that I'm a piece of shit that isn't worth living or being. I can't stop rumenating about this idea eventhough I tried to negate it with facts. I'm trying to get into therapy (which I should've done a long time ago). Thank you ❤
Edit: I think that idea was implanted in my head by my parents when I was very young, my mom would compare me to my oldest brother all the time and my dad would compare me to other people of the same age who are (as he used to say) more useful and active. And eventhough I'm 20 years old now, I can't stop believing that. I can't find any value for myself away from whatever impressions others may have. I struggle with the feeling that I'm not good enough, that my accomplishments don't matter and no matter what I do, I won't ever be a good person or enough.
Check out Kati’s video on Schema Therapy! th-cam.com/video/C-yRFobDru8/w-d-xo.html
@@_just_TK
Oh my god! That was so helpful, Thank you. ❤ Now I'm more excited to get into therapy.
I really needed this right now Kati. Thank you ❤️
I agree. I am depressed and I compare all the time and get more depressed. 54 years old and still alone.
This was the video I didn't know I was searching for
Hello Kati! I am currently seeking out therapy and have a physiatrists appointment next week. I am 12 years old and my parents are neglectful and drug addicted, which is a big part of whats causing my mental health problems. If I told my therapist/Physiatrist that my parents are neglectful substance abusers, would they be required to tell the authorities? I’m from KY.
I’m not sure about KY specifically, but in general, therapists & psychiatrists are mandated reporters meaning they legally have to report it. HOWEVER, you can always talk about about what’s going on “theoretically”. Kind of like “this friend of mine is gone through this situation...” & ask if they would need to report it if your friend saw them. They can’t report it if you don’t say it’s directly happening to you. That being said, you probably should tell them, at least eventually, because it’s a very dangerous situation and it doesn’t sound like your safe. Is there a family member or someone else you could live with?
"We are the only ones who can make ourselves happy... We cannot count on other people to do our internal work for us. We have to make choices every day that build our own happiness."
You often have amazing nuggets of knowledge and wisdom but this one is HUGE! The work has to take place everyday, until it no longer feels like work and becomes a lifestyle.
Thank you so much!
Great video! I do have a habit of comparing myself to others, but this video has helped!
I was wondering if you could do a video of dealing with anxiety in terms of the job searching process (being interviewed and dealing with rejection), especially during this pandemic? Thanks!
AMEN!!!!
We can't always do what feels good. We need to do what's right. That's what sets us apart from animals and it also means we need to fight against some of the desires. Comparing oneself with others can help us set our goals, but in the meantime, it's easy to be discouraged by the "harsh truth" and even feel jealous.
What's the balance between not comparing oneself with others to maintain a good mood and gaining healthy motivation by comparing with seemingly successful peers?
I'd really like to know that as well. What I am missing in the video is that people have long term goals and might want to go against their craving in order to fulfill their long term goals, not in order to fulfill social expectations.
Often having someone just slightly better than you seems to actually be motivating. For me personally however, I know I can't really compare myself to the majority because their life is just unrealistic for me to manage (autism+ADHD), so I really wish I could know what a realistic goal way of living could look like for me.
I am not sure if other people experience this but I think an unspoken rule a lot of people follow is to apologize for EVERYTHING! This week I am going to stop doing this and only apologize when it is necessary
Kati has a great video on this! th-cam.com/video/3fCdT-EGUEc/w-d-xo.html
Hi Kati so em I was depressed and self harmed for a couple of years in my life and I always find myself in toxic relashionships. I just want love and affection , even if I know they want something else from me I just let them do anything they want just so I can get 5 min of just love. And I don't know what to do about that. I've ended up in horrible situations where I was assaulted and i don't want to keep on falling . Please help.
Sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time. Typically, when we’ve been in an abusive relationship, even when/if we get out we still tend to keep getting those types of relationships over & over again. This is because it feels familiar and even comfortable because it’s the only thing we’ve known. The best thing to do is take time off from looking for a relationship & work on yourself. When u are ready to date again, look for someone who is completely different than the people you’ve been with in the past. It will definitely feel weird & uncomfortable at first, but it’s the best way to break the cycle of abuse. I’ll include Kati’s playlist on Relationships below. Good luck, you got this!! 👍❤️
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Could you do a video about “rules” and victims of sexual abuse? You did touch on it some, but for me, much of my abuse was surrounded by “games”. They all had rules. The secrets had rules. Now I have soo many rules I am rigid and fearful. Always afraid of breaking a “rule”. For me everything has rules -
Therapy has the most rules.... how would you address this?
I don't have an ED, but still a good reminder for things like the bridge statements.. And yes, I knew the J-bomb was coming 😂
hahah! Gotta end with j-bomb!! hahah!!
@@Katimorton I'm learning to appreciate it lol. I just require learning curves!! 🥰
I do this compare myself, think I'm not good enough, etc.. thanks Kati, you remind me that I need to stop harder then it seems, but I will try. 💜
Hi Kati,
do you have any tips on how to help a friend who suffers from depression and constantly comparing herself to others and has alot of self hatred and always wants others approval to feel worthy?
Sorry that was a mouthful haha😅
I feel helpless, on top of that she has an eating disorder and hates her body, she refuses to stand on a scale (even though she is slim and gorgeous)....I want to help or be there in the right way but I feel helpless..
Encourage her to get professional mental health, if she’s willing. Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do for someone who doesn’t want to get help. The best thing you can do is just be a source of support and love. (Check out Kati’s playlist on helping others below) You can also try slipping them a copy of Kati’s book “Are U OK?” 😉
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Such a thoughtful Video, thank you so much Kati ❤️
A former friend did all of these. Explains a lot.
Love a bit of Mental Math 😭😂
Exactly!! hahah!! xoxo
hey Katie I hope you are well and safe
With all of your “Inside Out” references lately, I’m now picturing comparison kidnapping Joy and it’s a horrific visual. 😂
But one that will probably keep me from comparing. Dark but effective.
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Hey Kati I have a question so let's say a person who is bipolar has a maniac episodes, would all the manic episodes be the same, like for example can they be restless the next and then start dancing from outta nowhere, or better yet is there only one type of mania or are there others?
My understanding is that manic episodes don’t always have to look the same. Ck out Kati’s playlist on Bipolar! th-cam.com/play/PL_loxoCVsWqx8Fo1kUZbyQGIPoRBKwqEg.html
It is really remarkable that the more conscious a person is, the less comparisons he makes
This is unrelated to the highest degree buuuut you so remind me of park & rec's Lesley Knope! ❤️ She my fav 🙇♀️
Totally! 😹
I think modern therapy is kind of misandrists
Tupac tried to warn us about attachments!
First
Woot woot! xoxo
Ahh, the dreaded j-word again. You know what? I have been journaling every day for the past few weeks and it has helped so much! It's helped me to identify a lot of the strong feelings that I feel every day and I have been practicing to be OK with them.
❤️
Kati Morton hello just joined the comments and started watching this new video seen the notification and straight away clicked on it so far my Monday has been honestly horrible this video is the only thing to be happy about I have felt depressed and just haven't been able to get myself together today also this video I can reate to because I think about what other people have and what other people do and what I don't have or what I haven't done and I always overthink everything kati I always look forward to your videos thank you
It sounds so easy but it’s so hard for me! I don’t know how to tell the difference between what my eating disorder wants and what my body wants. I feel like they’ve morphed into one.
Just because it’s simple, didn’t mean it’s easy. Eating Disorders aren’t about the food, it’s about control. They are sneaky bastards and will always lie & make you feel like it’s never enough. PLEASE reach out to a mental health professional if you haven’t already because with the right help it DOSE GET BETTER!!! ❤️
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Thank you for your input, Kati. You found yet again the right words at the right time for me. :)
- I think I really want to get closer to someone right now. But relationships are always two-sided and I'm so scared the other person feels differently and needs different things than I do.. - And: How can I stay independend while letting myself feel vulnerable with another person? - I feel like I'm loosing myself over and over in relationships and other people and I loose touch with myself when I'm with someone else... How can I take better care of myself while being in contact with other people and loving them and myself at the same time? - I feel those different needs and wants flying around in relationships make it extremly hard to letting myself fully "be" with someone else.. Though I would love to let myself have another (romantic) relationship in case the other person wants it too. Please help. Either way: THANKS FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO, KATI.
I’m going through the same thing. I’m taking some time off looking for a romantic partner & focusing on “dating” myself
@@_just_TK Thank you for sharing your experience.