8 Ways to Make a Narcissist Respect You
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8 Ways to Make a Narcissist Respect You Forever // In this video, I give you 8 ways to make a narcissist respect you... forever!
Let’s face it, knowing how to make a narcissist respect you isn’t easy. If you’ve ever wondered to yourself or asked yourself the question, “How to make a narcissist respect me?”, then this video is for you.
The truth is, the only way to make a narcissist respect you might surprise you.
What I teach in this video will also apply if you want to know how to make a narcissist obsessed with you, how to make a narcissist miserable, how to make a narcissist miss you, or how to make a narcissist leave you alone.
What I cannot teach you is how to make a narcissist love you or how to make a narcissist fear you. That, my friend, is beyond the scope of this video, and not in any way aligned with what I teach.
What you will learn however, is the dramatic, positive effect of learning how to love and respect YOU more… and the effect that has on how the narcissist perceives you, and thus, how the narcissistic person behaves towards you in the narcissistic relationship.
Enjoy!!
~ Tamie M xx
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Thank you for all you do. 🙏
@@AllieKeim You're so welcome, Allie! Thanks for watching!!
I have been dealing with Two Narcissist parents and they have emotionally hurt me very badly and I feel like I need therapy.
Thank you for all the work !!!
😂
A narcissist will work so hard to impress a stranger, while treating the people they claim to love like monsters.
so true
TAF
Yup smh
Sad, but true. I've experienced that very thing myself many times by someone..!!
I hired a 32 year old male who couldn’t do enough for me or the business. Made Friends with all guests and made huge tips. I believed everything he said. He use to tell me we are so much alike and and text me with praise and I would reply the same. I bought gifts as he help to grow the business. After Month 3 he had his first Flip out and Storm out of the diner. I question something he did and he denied even though I watched it with my own eyes. The following day he couldn’t apologize enough. I was a fool and started giving money gifts to keep him happy because he said he had bills after telling me 3 months prior he makes double the money and loves his job compared to his last job.
With a narcissist, general conversations are always one sided, never back and forth. They never care what is going on in your life, only their life.
So true
Only when they are bragging or trying to one up you, but other than that they don't want anyone to know most details about their life or personal information about their life, but they want to know EVERYTHING about yours.
Information is ammunition to a narcissist and they will use it to their benefit of course.
That has been my experience.
@@rmg2419 👌👌👌👌
@@rmg2419 soooo true! My MIL likes to hide her bad behavior and put up an innocent front. Unfortunately, this didn't help her when she tried to lie about the circumstances and time of her divorce from my FIL. Boy did she look like a deer in headlights when she was shown reciepts proving her side of things to be false...and then came the flying monkeys...
OMG so true. Never once ask u one thing
1.Own your Calm Loving Confident Energy
2.Hold your cards close to your chest
3.Become Bulletproof , heal and recover yourself/Greyrock
4.Present yourself as aloof and strong and slightly superior
5.Develop self-agency, trust yourself, develop boundaries
6.Keep Your Distance, don't overshare
7.Minimal Contact or No contact, don't get sucked into meetings where youll get sucked in
8.Self Sovereignty, be self reliant don't let them have the power
The funny thing is that I've been training a covert narcissist at work, and once I started doing all of this, it actually escalated into vague threats to break into my house. Started asking to borrow my keys, saying she needs to go to a key copying kiosk, and then I got a key kiosk receipt to my personal number. Me becoming strong has made her escalate into insane stalker behavior. I can't win..
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Yep, They are just like-
Charlie Sheen-
The whole time he was Drunk, Completely Strung Out On Drugs, Prostitutes, Ruining Marriage, Children's Lives, His Acting Career, Ends Up With HIV...
HE WAS HIGH AS A KITE VIDEOING HIMSELF SAYING
" I'M WINNING"
over and over and over again...
They are 100% Dilusional
They think ruining peoples lives is WINNING
Saved me a long winded lecture.
These narcissists will literally drain the life out of you 😩😞 it’s insane how they think they never wrong and always shift’s blame
Not this time!
True
Yep, so true.
They are cruel and intend to purposefully hurt you .
@@vickipettiford2028 thank you for saying that, I just need to absorb that now.
You're drained, your head is in scrambles, you're confused and hurt for a while. It sucks. They make you think you're crazy and questioning your own values
👆👆👆👆 i was so weak depressed and sad when i think i lost it all during my divorce custody in court with my ex husband. A friend recommend a group of highly Expert in Forensic Evidence they deal with all legal papers works child custody/abuse/divorce support and property management and can hack into people cellphone's to get you deleted and non deleted messages, call logs, videos, social media messages from all drives without them noticing .
How long does this pain last?
Makes you feel cheated because they sold you a dream.
Facts!!
Yup
Narcissists always treat you as an option, while they want you to treat them as top priority!
“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” - Susan Williams
exact thing
Not he. They! ! !
Or she !
@@inserter400 yes! just went thru this
Very true
If your 30 year old daughter/son are still leaving under your roof...guess WHY??? YUP!!! you guested, ALL those years of claiming ownership on them is manifesting before your eyes. For years you sent out the decree and life gave you in return what you asked for. This is 1 on 1 law of attraction for those that are still puzzled. Thank you Tamie!!!
Being with a narcissist is like a living death. So so happy I now have my life back!
Is it the same?
Yes seriously, this woman is not giving out good advice. We don't need to worry about respect, we need to worry about getting out safely.
Pray for me I'm in the process
@@k.h.307Nah bro you don’t just allow someone to walk all over you once you’re aware of the truth. Unless they’re gonna commit physical harm on you or you can’t mentally handle it then maybe it’s not for you and I don’t mean that as a diss. I’m learning about this stuff again bc my “brother” friend (roommate) basically showed me what he was thinking and I’m very aware of this stuff bc my moms been this way since I was a kid
@@k.h.307Btw she’s not claiming this video is the only thing that will work lol. Be mad tho
Walking away and not saying shit at all is hella effective! I dipped out! 👋
Same! Your life gets better doesn't it! 🙂
@@a.m.9474 It really does. Very peaceful.
Yessss 👏👏
I feel sick all the time....I just keep adjusting my emotions to align with his own per time...I don't even have my life
Facts
Narcissistic abuse feels like your soul has been killed. The most painful experience of my life, i feel like everything was drained from me.
Update: Its almost been a year narc free and no contact ( he tries), im still taking medication for PTSD and i have finished seeing a therapist. While the experience has been painful it's taught me how to value myself, set boundaries and have self-love. I'm even seeing someone new that I'm excited about. Things don't happen to me they happen for me, for my good. To anyone going through this there is light and joy at the end of the tunnel and you will smile again!
I knife to a heart
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@@sppl2892 knife to heart is quite cool. it is sudden, painful, but once.
this is more like a death by a thousands cuts.
How did u leave ?
Its a thousand words kick downs to u and everything u are they he even steals my stories my imagine my sanity then lies its soul taking.
The best way to deal with a narccist is to keep your distance and love them from afar. If you confide in them and share personal information with them they will use your vulnerability against you in the long run. Demeaning people on order to boost their ego is also common.
"You don't have to put me down in order to feel better with yourself". And that's that. Thank you very much 🙏
How to make a narcissist respect you. You respect yourself leave and go on with your life working on yourself to improve your selfworth self-esteem find your values have boundaries. Once you respect yourself who cares if they respect you. You were only an object to them anyway.
So well said! I fully agree this is the way
I've done exactly that.
Being empathetic I had to LEARN how to NOT tell him everything. Still planning my exit …focus on me and my new standards and letting him think that things are good between us.
Smart. Good luck.
That’s my escape route and we’ll just like my counselor suggested you can’t control crazy. I moved out in 2018 filed for divorce last yr and he acted like we just broke up. He still dragging the divorce out✔️. We almost done. MOVE FASTER GET OUT FAST SET STRONG BOUNDARIES
Best way to do it is use his own power against him...attack his pride, it has to be something he is totally afraid of facing and then let him break up with you...if he breaks the tie then you have successfully used reverse psychology and 💯 bounced off his energy, all the best
Good..hope staying / pretending doesn't make you an easy prey to stay.
I did the same thing 4 months free waiting on divorce
I’m struggling right now, having been left by a narcissistic husband of 12 years. I was told I was the problem and that everything was my doing and my fault. It’s been difficult to rebuild my spirit. But I have confidence I’ll make it and end up happier than ever. 🙏🏼 Thank you for this eye-opening video.
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You are a victorious overcomer.
@@angellollar1083 thank you.. Getting stronger every day. 🙌🏼💖
I Promise, you will be Fine and even better than you have ever Been before 🪄 💐🍀💜
@@annabraper5261 thank you. I find myself constantly having to remind myself of this whenever the stomach pains begin. Positive affirmations WORK! 🥰💯💖
I don’t need the respect from a narcissist because I don’t respect them in the first place.
I have become a master to detect them. And when I do I give them the finger and walk away with a big fat smile on my mouth.
Same
Amen. Two finger swing.
I agree with everything apart from the grey Rock technique. I personally feel that it's another way to abuse ourselves. But the other suggestions are very helpful.
How do you detect them, I’m afraid that I’ll bump into another one
@@stephanyemora3501 A narcissist will lure you in with her/his charm and extreme friendliness at the beginning. They will constantly try to impress you to the point where you start to think this is too good to be true. That is because it is. Narcissist will always be at their extreme best behavior.
Obviously there are some people who actually are this friendly but that is rare.
Listen to your body and mind. If you start to feel something is off about the person, then perhaps there is. Stay on guard.
Also look them in to the eyes when you ask normal questions. If the eyes goes from friendly looking to dark and sinister when you ask questions then you most likely encountered one. Eyes never lie.
A narcissist only wants to talk about themselves. If you start talking and you notice that the person seems distracted whenever you speak, then be aware. You are most likely dealing with a narcissist.
Or you are dealing with a person with avoidant issues.
You don’t want either. Get out.
Being confident is the key
Yes!!! Very true.
I feel confident when confronting an individual but not so much when they all attack you at once:/
Yes
It def Takes more than confidence because it's a war if you trying to deal with them in any way fashion or form.
They can kill u for ur over confidence if they see it.. its evil...God saved me
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I am recently divorced from a covert narcissist. It has been exhausting. I’m thankful, I was able to recover from the stress of it. I would be sick and depressed all the time, not realizing it was him. Break free ladies. Silent treatment is really the best way
Yes, me too. I’m waiting on my divorce 6 months later
My brother ex wife, a narc , once told him at a family event “ you know I’m smarter than you”, he responded
“yeah, look who I married and look who you married”
Needless to say she left out the house sat in the car until he was ready to leave.
😮
😂😂 well played
My sister N sister at our grandmother's wake started laughing at me and saying how large my nose was.
Not the first time she's done it. The fact that she even did it at the wake was disturbing.
Girl I’ve been through the worst! But I believe everything you are saying! I pray for those that are in a narcissist relationship!
I've learned to say these things: "I'm not going to accept that so I'll hand that back to you." "I can see you're not open to a conversation. When you can hold one with me, let me know. I have to go."
"I won't allow you to speak to me like that. When you can hold a mature discussion where both of us have an opportunity to talk, let me know." "Yes, I admit I can be sensitive, but name-calling won't be tolerated." Just to name a few.
Love it!
These things may work with some people. My ex would be already talking over you before you could even finish one of them. They are too long. That is why I ended up simplifying to just "No".
Own your frequency: Calm, confident, self-assured, grounded, and respect yourself regardless of any opinion
Hold your card close to your chest: Don't let them know you are unto them
Become bulletproof :
Present with a superior image or status :
Develop self-agency: Capacity to act independently, trust yourself
Being boundaries: less is more, never ever share weakness
Limited engagement :
Self-sovereignty: you don't need narcissism for anything
I love that
THAT'S 💯
Thanks
It works, but only if you're not pretending, either to the narcissist or yourself. You have to maintain that superior position without compromising yourself. If that doesn't work, distance yourself as much as possible. However, if you're genuinely at peace with yourself, you can also address the narcissist directly by saying, 'Oh, you seem to be in a bad mood today.' If they don't respond, you can ask again, 'What's the matter?'
Depending on the severity of their narcissism, they often open up and share the source of their current upset. There's always something. Simply acknowledge that you now understand why the narcissist is in a bad mood. Avoid engaging in further discussions.
Once a day, show interest in a topic that the narcissist loves - something positive. Choose a time when they're not upset; this can also help drain a lot of their negative energy. What works for one person might not work for another, so it's good to keep an open mind and be adaptable in your approach.
Tumpak lahat
They don't change.. never.. no matter how much you love on them, how hard you try to please them, or how much therapy you get into or how much you invest yourself or your years into them.. its a bottomless pit.. just disappears.. Let them go... you are permitted to do so.. safe your sanity and run.. there is a much better life out there for you. Find healthy people that will reciprocate your love and heal your soul again. It's possible and you are worthy to be loved and have a peaceful life🙏💖
They are like a curse!
What's messed up is when a narcissist treats you like trash in front of their friends, then treats their friends like gold in front of you.
Yea, he almost killed my spirit with that one.
That’s exactly my husband did
Experienced this
same happened to me smh
Omg this happened to me!
That really pissed me off enough to finally tell them off. And now I have blocked him.😅
Felt only clarity after removing myself from the narcissist in my life. What hurt worse was the number of family members who became flying monkeys.
13:25 ”when everything you’re saying is being twisted” … “time to stop engaging” YES!! I wish I would have done this sooner
I love these suggestions. Have already been silent for 4 days; answering questions etc but offering no information about anything because it has always been a source of attack and negative opinions.
I always refer to the narc as: "the narc I knew."
"Own your frequency or become narcissist lunch" - genius! Thanks - "Get to an exit strategy" - defo
You're welcome, Scott! Thanks for watching!!
Going no contact is a self love and self care love 💕 . Felt that and doing that and finally so good.
Perfect timing - I just underwent a mobbing by my narc family. I'm proud of how I handled it. I gave myself time, detached from the emotion, then (finally) responded grey rock style. It's a small step, but I feel like David who just killed Goliath. Your work is important. Thank you 💜
Did you say “my narc?!” 😉. Better go back and watch this again!
@@shannonjensen3855 I said, "my narc family". I'm related to dozens of them. I'm confused as to an issue with my referring to them in the manner my choice. After all, they enjoy referring to me in the manner their choice, lol. 💜
@@laurajane4806 I'm teasing you a little bit because in this video the very first thing she said to stop calling them "my narc." (see 0:51). Best wishes at you!
@@shannonjensen8007 My bad - thanks💜
@@shannonjensen3855 You know what he meant, Shannon.
YOU DON'T NEED THEM FOR ANYTHING.
This is the point .Thanks so much Tamie.🌹🌹
You are so welcome, Vina!! 💕
@@TamieMJoyce
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Thank you, I feel empowered by your video
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They are petty and small people....so incredibly Insecure they have to out you down to build themselves up....mature people lift each other and want the other to succeed....wolves in sheep clothes.....
She's not kidding when she said its takes 3 days to recover. Holy moly!
I cannot believe how everything you say describes my last 30 years with my wife. I have never figured out what was truly wrong with her until I heard your videos. Now I know what to zero in on, what to do to protect myself and what to pray about specifically. Having a Narcissist wife is so much more difficult than many other relationships. I'm on the verge of moving out, seriously, living separate may be the only solution. I won't divorce because I will not break my covenant to God. But if she decides to do that I will sign the papers.
You are right they have no respect, but they have a grudging caution with a hidden resentment that surfaces from time to time.
Yup, not so hidden really.
I was watching your silent treatment for a narcissist.. and I was looking into your eyes and hearing what you were saying and how everything resonated with my life.. it just made me want to just hug u and cry... U r sooo right... We r not on this planet to get our energy sucked out of us.. I thank you..
I am blessed to have gotten out🙏🏾 It’s interesting to me that I intuitively did these things in the end BEFORE I had put the pieces together. I had FINALLY gotten to the point of exhaustion and had nothing else to give it. I started staying upstairs in my son’s room so it wouldn’t see me. Also it made the silent treatment ineffective. I began working out, going to the pool and spending time building myself back up. My spirit was broken. Also, I love the advice about not referring to it as “my narc”. I have definitely been doing that. I had stopped calling it by name a while ago. Just “it”. And it is not mine. I am 46 years old and I am just coming to terms with the fact that I am an empath that was raised in a nuclear family of narcs. I’d heard the word empath but it seemed so mystical and powerful. I associated it with psychics. I never viewed myself as mystical or powerful. I’d been told my whole life that I was emotionally unstable because I was so affected by things. I’ve always felt everything deeply. This experience was pure agony. The worst thing I’ve ever been through. But on the other side I can see good that came out of it. I am back in school. I have a greater self awareness and appreciation. Realizing that narcs only choose the best of the best people is actually flattering. The biggest gag is learning that nothing was real. The absolute euphoria and joy I experienced during love bombing…..the remarkable human being I thought it was….all of that was the result of mirroring. I literally fell in love with myself😂 My God is HILARIOUS!!!!!!! One thing I know for sure and for certain, God will do what He has to do to get through to me. He’s proven it time and time again. He has given me some of the toughest life lessons imaginable. But I come out every time not only unscathed but better. Now, I have endless material for my book. Now I have a new passion in life. To warn others about this disgusting experience. I must write!!!✍🏽
I love that! I fell in love with myself
Same experience, you are brave ❤
@@jahnavisepthyd255 Thank You!! I didn’t feel very brave at all but I’m seeing the light now. I truly dodged a bullet. And I’ve recently connected with another ex. Turns out my experience was walk in the park comparatively speaking. I dodged a bullet……literally😳 God is good!!
@@jonihudson90 Mind blowing 🤯 but oh so true. All the beauty I thought I saw in It, was actually all me🤦🏾♀️
It. !!! LOL 😂
Put the whole armor of God on y’all! 🙏🕊🤗♥️ Praise the Lord for this channel.
Amen! He'll protect us and help us through our trials.
Your videos have provided me so much clarity with my current situation. For the first time in such a long time, I am able to use my own voice and not feel ashamed or badly about it. Thank you for all that you do.
You’re welcome!! 🌸💕
Good for you!!!! Stay strong!
I feel you....
More narcissists than ever with cell phones and selfies these days .. very self centered people everywhere
That was so great thank you. Thinking that you're in love with a narcissist was a nightmare. Its way easier to avoid when you're not emotionally invested
I enjoy your videos, I had to leave my wife of 20 years because of her addiction to spending drinking and other things. A true narcissistic person that refuses to get help
OMG... My daughter is a Narcissist! I'm the empath. This is very difficult. On many occasions I ask myself
" how in the hell did I raise this person?"
You have helped me immensely!
Thank you.
I feel your pain.
did u spoil her all narcs i kno where spoiled AS CHILDREN!!! U DO YOUR KIDS NO FAVORS WHEN U PUT THEM ON A PEDISTAL
Doreen.. I have a narcissist son.. They are self centered.. Not Christ centered.. We pray for them..
It’s a generational curse. And whether you want to admit it or not, it’s in the bloodline “somewhere”.. prayer and fasting is needed from here on out. 🙏🏾
@@undercovergirl2944
Yes ma’am, I understand. See…I knew “something” was off with my children’s father but I didn’t know definitively until I dragged him ‘by the skin of his teeth’ into therapy where he was clinically diagnosed.
It’s only by the grace of God, it’s skipped the children, yes lord! 🙌🏾 I learnt about the disorder early enough to RUN 🏃🏾♀️ with the children when they were young and we NEVER looked back.
Today.. present day, they’re well rounded, happy, healthy AND productive citizens! Mind you, it wasn’t easy disappearing but saving the children by ANY MEANS NECESSARY was my hill to die on.
You are so right. I'm going through this and I want OUT so bad I needed this today!!! Thank you!
"keep your distance" and your boundaries no matter what. Great video, Tamie!
Sorry, but I couldn’t care less if a narcissist respects me or not.
I have gone “ no contact “ with the narcs in my life. I’m at peace, and free of them.
As I'm watching this I'm cleaning my house but I'm doing it with a confidence and strength I never had before ✊ this is truly enlightening and empowering and I can feel my frequency and energy changing.
Wonderful!
Good morning everyone. Thank you Tamie for the continuous stream of assistance in my journey. Love ya! 💕 ALL of you out there reading this. 😊💜 Everyone remember to practice self care and self love! Every single day. We can do this!!
So much love back to you, Pewbit! Have a Fabulous weekend!! 😉💕
I live with a narcissist mother. It's temporary until my home is ready (which could take up to a year) but for that time, I have nowhere else to stay. Thank you for your videos, I cannot even begin to expresses my gratitude. I found your channel this morning and I'm convinced you were brought to me by the universe/my guides. Thank you again, Truly.
Take care, my dear. 🙌🏼
God maybe?
Same here.
1. Authentic self love
2. Assert
3. Own my frequency: calm, grounded, confident, self-assured, able to validate myself.
4. Don't let them know you know - I have need for authenticity and I should give myself that.
5. Bulletproof - healing and recovery.
6. Decide " what you are available for and what you are not available for and stick to it strictly.
7. Feel superior (no name dropping and virtue signaling)
8. Freedom class
9. Self agency - without influence from others (know your mind)
10. Boundaries - emotional and otherwise (never ever show any weakness
11. No contact - end conversation calmly
12. Walk away (no, thank you)
13. Self-sovereignity (never be indebt)
14.
Thank you so much for this! I became aware that my partner might be a narcissist about two years ago and spent all of 2021 experiencing anxiety attacks on a daily basis. Once realizing who and what they are I’ve been doing these strategies without even knowing that this is exactly what’s been helping me to not only cope but also begin my exit plan.
I love this video! I was (may still be) the very person Tamie M. Joyce was talking about in this video. I'm 55 years old now. Since I was 18 years old, I have had 3 long-term narcissist relationships in my life. I can tell you that dating a woman with this disorder will only serve to have your soul crushed like a cockroach in the end. It is all an illusion. The great feelings. The great sex. The admiration. All of it takes place in almost a week or two and you're saying to yourself that you've found the woman/man of your dreams. NO!!! This is just a ploy to capture you. NO MATTER how hard you want to believe that he/she must feel the same way, THEY DON"T! It sucks, I know. But, it's the truth and I learned it the hard way. I know I need a lot of therapy from all of it.
Men and women both have to accept that this is a REAL thing and that the future is only dim with heartbreak. It's better to recognize early and get out. It is at the end of these relationships that you break down asking yourself what could have gone wrong. Anger and frustration become your life. You can't eat. Sleep. Or, do anything else for that matter. You have become an addict to her/him and the withdrawal is painful. It's crippling. Therefore, run for your life if you can. Don't give them an opportunity to use you and everything in your life before they move on, like leeches, to the next person. Warn your friends.
I am a survivor of a smear campaign, and have suffered severe anxiety from the daily abuse, at work. Everything you talked about was what I had to do to finally break free, and I am so much happier today. I have a no contact policy because this person is so toxic. This video is a good reminder of the skills you need to gain freedom. Thank you.
Yeah my messed up work they were doing that shit to me too and I surpassed it all you know until like about you know I work there a year and something over a year and I finally just said fuck you motherfuckers and walked out but I know exactly how you feel and I know the word for it it's called community gang stalking and it's bullshit and it makes you feel sick sick sick some people are just horrible people
Is a no contact policy at work a real thing? I don't want no contact "0" contact from my narcissistic manager.. 3 months later he is still bullying me. He cannot let it go and now it's just straight out harassment
@@faritzachavarria1120 I'm going through that right now
My friend revealed her huge narc ways. She tried to trash my relationship with some information from me... Venting my frustration, typical relationship issues.
I made it known she could have chosen to just tell me she didn't want to hear my relationship issues. She's cut me off for 7 months now lol
The only problem, my boyfriend actually can't decide who was wrong? WTF she may just get what she wants, I don't want no weak ass man.
@@teresajura2575I hope you"re ok. I went through this recently as well. Its time consuming & wears you down till you start doubting yourself. Its awful. For me, i applied for another role (within the same organisation ) so i still have to see them here & there but he's already moved onto gaslighting, projecting etc. to others in the team he manages. They know I support them, but from afar, & encourage them to leave his team. Im significantly happier now but it took ages to get over the comments bullying etc. I hope you're ok & can find an out from this empty person 💜
Shifted to me. Since this has been going on for decades and I'm just understanding what it is I'm working on it. Feels like progress and a new life coming soon for me. Free at last !
HOLY CRAP!! EVERYTHING THIS CLASSY LADY JUST SAID IS ABSOLUTELY ON POINT !! UNFORTUNATELY I WAS DRAWN IN BY A NARCISSIST 10 YRS AGO AND IT JUST BLOWS MY MIND THAT SHE JUST CONFIRMED FOR ME THAT IM NOT CRAZY !! WOW I FEEL SUCH RELIEF RIGHT NOW FROM HER POWERFUL SPOKEN WORDS . IVE FELT SO ALONE AND BROKEN DOWN FROM THIS PAST DECADE OF WASTE,THIS HAS EMPOWERED ME AND FLIPPED A SWITCH INSIDE OF ME, SOMETHING I'VE NEEDED FOR YEARS. THANK YOU AND I CANT WAIT TO HEAR MORE . IT'S AMAZING !!
Good point. I will no longer refer to him as "my narc". I actually started referring to him as "cleaning rag" because that was one of his gifts to me ... btw: a used one!
This woman is a MASTER!
He knows what he's doing.
Patriarch Pavle said: Do not let intelligence turn into evil and kindness into stupidity.
She knows what She is doing, woman as She is! 😅
I love it already ! I’m open to anything to better myself and not let people use and take advantage of me
Respect is a big thing for me!!!
Thank you 👍🏼
What you said is so true.
Keepingthe narcissist at work at a distance. Unfortunately, the boss is fuelling the narcissist.
That is exactly what was happening to me at work and I couldn’t see it at the time, so I left !
Going through the same situation at work. It's so toxic.
Thanks Tamie, I love your choice of words, pinpointing exactly the dynamics of
toxic relationships as well as the inevitable
self empowerment resulting from them.
We couldn't heal so fast without trailblazing people like you sharing their insights with us. You are a blessing to so many of us.
Keep up the good work!
Thank you, Sebelzahn! I appreciate the positive feedback!! 😉
Great info, thanks
Thank you Tamie for this video. You have given such great insight into this personality, and helped me navigate through a much needed break from what I thought was a friendship. I’m looking forward to more of your videos! TY!
Hello tamie I need your help. I have a narcissist in my life and I used to consider him as a friend. But I realized that I was just a prop in his life. He had hurt me really bad. And I’ve stopped talking to him blocked him and he shows up at the house. Just recently when going on break walking to my car he pops up with a piece of cheese cake and this after I continuously told him to stop calling me and leave my alone because he’s not a real friend to me. I’ve been standing my ground for months can’t get rid of him. He keeps coming back. He’s taking advantage of my heart by saying things like you are my friend I love you I don’t know why you are acting like this ? What do I do
@@stephanieward6139you should get a restraining order!!! And maybe move if you can….
You are 🌟. Thank you. I walk away and its so peaceful. No contact. No contact. I start to live its worthy of living.
Yeahp been there dine it for 2 years. It was horrible. Ive never been treated like such garbage in my life. No respect, fake love, all bs. I have finally healed from all this bs. I have set myself free. It took a long time. Now i love myself and I respect myself. I am at peace.❤❤❤
This video is amazing. Absolutely validating everything Ive one through for the past 15 years. Sometimes its hard explaining how I feel and the situation as a whole because its like a tangled mess. I am trying to get through it day by day and this video has given me the most clarity ive had EVER. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I Love your tenacity Tamie! The message of upleveling self to live happy without the Narc is loud & clear:) This is one of your best videos! Thx
Thanks, Brad! I appreciate the positive feedback!!
You are 1000% right in every statements....fake meeting callings to extract more information about one; ....you are fantastically direct in your comments which is so super-reassuring! Thanks!
Tamie, you are a wordsmith! Can I just say, this is the best, simply the best video on the whole issue of people like this. The speaker exudes confidence, clarity and great wisdom. God and her only know what she went through to mold her into this caliber of mentor. I feel God drawing me to watch your videos after I've endured verbal slug-fests from hell. Your videos are so healing! Thank You
Thank you Tamir
I agree. She is the bomb !!
Pathological envy, I never heard that. It seems to trigger narcissistic rage.
Wow, your insight is EXACTLY what I've been dealing with! Without being aware of what the person(s) were (Narcissist) I can look back and see nearly all the traits you mentioned and my reaction to their toxic behavior was spot on. Standing my ground brought on increased attacks, lies and slander were their reactions. After dealing with this for months I finally had to distance myself to the point of no contact and that INFURIATED them! No matter, I'm moving on to bigger and better relationships. Your video has confirmed my suspicions that it was them and not me. I just wish I had known this a year ago.
Went through the same...good Luck!
This woman is speaking my language. I like the focus on energy and being empathetic.
She speaks to me...everything...."exactly"
It’s crazy how your whole mind flips with just watching a few of your videos ……. I feel like a changed man …… I was at first going to work on the issues with her , but the more videos I watched I understand completely what has been happening…… it sucks when her behavior is absolutely everything you have explained in your videos……. I’m no longer willing to work on anything with her and have closed all contact completely…..after 3 years of misery….. I feel alive again ❤
I am just learning what I was going through. As I listened to and watching videos I realized that the husband I loved and I in crisis. Thank you Tamie
Absolutely wonderful because I live with a narcissist for 3 years and she faked me out in the first year and then she went nuts and I never knew what it was now I'm learning
My narc came back during a very terrible time in my life,
( I didnt know they were a narc until this recent experience where I became vulnerable)
I'm sure they knew the signs before they reentered my life to play their game so to say.
I did notice myself wondering how they showed up at the right time. I even mentioned this to them.
My self esteem was pretty low due to BS I was dealing with, I have been around these types of situation for most of my life to where I know how to shut them down.
This is where I was attacked while weak.
After remembering who I was and am. I told them that I pull all my energy back and release them to be able to learn to love myself again,
they got so mad, where I am at now I still will send a message if I feel like it.
I know where I am at now, and how firmly I stand to not be phased if they try to come at me sideways.
I did thank them for helping my break this viscous cycle and told them that they dont even realize how much they have helped me.
They got so worried they casted a protection spell on themselves lol, I'm sure they will read this message eventually.
So yeah I knew more than they thought they just so happen to catch me in a weak state, little did they know they would pushed me back in to my power.
Leave and do not look back! Live your best life and learn why we attract these creatures.
Got it! Love this! Didn't need just the scientific, psychological side of narcissistic dealings. So greatly appreciate the info regarding frequencies, owning your space, grounding, etc. Exactly what I was ready to hear right now. Thank you!
Ma'am this is the BEST TH-cam video I have seen so far. SO Clear. So Definitive. I am Pausing every few seconds to take Note. Thanks, every second of this video is Dropping Gold. Wish I had seen this video before my Marriage. God Bless.
Hey Tami, I am so impressed with your videos. You cut right to the heart of the matter while incorporating our upward spiritually ascending concerns with it. Thank you for your help.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom about toxic, narcissism and dysfunctional relationships. 💖
I just wanted to say thank you yet again! I've been free for 3 years and 3 months and yes I'm living not existing! I'm in the UK and 2 years ago I was fortunate enough to go onto your program. So many things hit home and I learnt so much, not just about him but about me. Counselling and your program made me see with different eyes and helped me (more than you will ever know!) heal and become the best version of myself. I was drinking heavily especially in the last years of my horrific 14 year marriage. I've been on my sobriety journey for 3 years and 8 months and I will never look back.
The program is absolutely amazing and such fantastic support! Thank you xxx
Congratulations !!! Well done !! You deserve all the happiness ❤
I love that you speak about our own energy and self talk. I totally resonate with you!
Wow thanks…didn’t know narcissists are capable of respect, unless one is a total stranger to them. There is hope yet…
Oh my goodness, the meetings!! So spot on. This is what my ex “pastor” would do. So much gaslighting and projecting.
OMG! I'm so thankful for this channel ❤️ I see that I'm not alone nor crazy. I give it my all and now there is nothing left to give..... I can't live like this! 💔
You *will* make it out !
The toxic person who inspired me to understand this personality more so I can avoid being affected by it, he hated that I have an affinity with the word sovereign. It came up when he began hurling abuse at me, it makes me incredibly stupid in his eyes to love that word 😂. So I really love that you use the word sovereign thank you for the reminder it is a word worthy of my reverence ❤
Being truthful with them in a calm manner, limiting engaging conversation and silence in response to them.
Thank you again Tamie for sharing! I can not get enough of your instructive video's. Especially the lessons taught in examples. Looking forward to the next one! Xx
You're so welcome, Deborah! Thanks for tuning in!! 💕
I love the power if the "I am"... I have been using it to make positive changes in my life, and the lives of those around me.❤💯❤
That was amazing to listen to. My covert narcissist that I’ve been married to for 19 years brought the devaluation phase to a head in 2023. When I was younger I developed a certain trauma state from violence I was subjected to. I joined the army and eventually got it under control. I separated from her for all of 2023 when she brought my trauma state back out. My trauma state makes it easy to deal with a narcissist. I’ve never laid a finger on a women or any youngsters. That said I did pay her NPD father a visit and had ‘a word’ with him about what he did to her when she was young. The flying monkeys and enablers suddenly changed their approach. I essentially now follow an expanded version of what you describe. Don’t think my approach would work as easily if the genders were reversed but after what I did to her sick father one 👀 from me and she suddenly backs off. Narcissists are essentially bullies and they respond well to the classic stop the bully techniques.
951 years old and 11 and a half years have been with an undercover npd... I maintain through prayer and I'm calling all my ancestors to give me strength.... Stronghawk.....Chickasw
I love how you said a great response to them is you don’t have to hurt me to build yourself up I’m going to put that in my library of awesome coping skills thank you
... my "XFOREVER"... "Own your frequency!" ... "Hold cards close to your chest."🌝 "STOP REACTING."🙏 "Pathological envy" and lying can prove difficult, at best, for empathics.
TAMIE YOUR VIDEOS ARE VERY HELPFUL. KNOWLEDGE IS THE KEY. LEARNING TO COPE AND RESPECT YOUR SELF. HOW TO INTERACT WITH TOXIC PEOPLE.
Excellent! I love that you bring in the energy/frequency aspect. Having that high frequency and internal super power of standing your ground with your aura is powerful and is what I do.
I don’t think I can pick out a favorite. They are all great and so timely for me right now. Thanks so much for another great video!
Wow amazing thank you Tamie....I'm going through ups and downs with my husband and his narcissistic mother and aunts.....crazy people that think they can control you life
This vid really cleared the confusion n gave much clarity on how to deal with toxic narcissist people.
i was emotionally abused by her n it considerably affected my health.
Damaging.
It's ONLY about them ONLY.
Soo grateful it's over.
Thanks Tamie