How to Respond to Passive Aggressive People & Judgmental People: Communication Skills Training Video
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In this professional communication training video on how to respond to passive aggressive people & judgmental people, communication skills expert, communication coach Dan O'Connor shows you how questions can turn the tables on people who want to fight while they appear totally innocent. Dan gives you the words to shut down people who attack you while claiming not to do so and attempting to appear innocent. This professional communication skills training video teaches you simple, powerful, and easy-to-use visual communication strategies that you can start using today to be seen as more powerful and competent at work. #judgmental #respondingtojudgment #communicationskillstraining
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The first time I saw a certain therapist I questioned him with one of your sayings. "Why would you say that?". His reply to me was "I don't think we are going to get along". He was right!
Good, I hope I helped save you a little money on that one Claudia. :)
Dan
"Experts" are often in their field, to play games, to lord over others. Their definition of "getting along" means others "bowing down", letting them rule them. They're in it for (abuse of) Power.
His response was: I don't think I can manipulate you, you are smart enough to not let me fool you.
Amazing that this person was exposed right away 🤗💪
@@TheWizardOfWords
FYI:
A Resource for your Subject:
*A Sociologist/Behavioralist's quick Summary on the subject:*
Judgemental is a trait associated with our Human Lower Mind, aka (Ego Mind, aka Adolescent Mind).
🔹All negative Thought Energies reside in the Lower Mind: (fear, prejudices, Judgemental, envy, jealousy, hate, anger, etc, it is also the area of thought that includes "the Lackings": lack of balanced Self-Love, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, etc.)
*The Higher Mind aka Mature Mind is where all Positive Thought Energies are found: Love, Joy, Creative, Laughter, Passion, Wellbeing, Happiness, Compassion, Inspirations, etc, it is where Wisdom resides.*
*In order to establish a Mature Mind*, we must first make a habit of being *"Conscious in Thought" (present in the Now) + "Apply the Higher Mind".
With the desire to gain greater Harmony in life and to be a fully Mature Person, the desire + "patience and continued practice", *ne will form a new habit in time.
Considering the "Universal Law of Attraction" defines that we each Create all of our own experiences/Reality through our:
*"Thoughts+ Feelings X Beliefs"*
*= "our Reality"*
Then clearly it 8s in our best interest to establish a habit of Higher Minded Thoughts.
🔹Our Thoughts are literally our Power, to worry over what others think or say about us is to give our Power away.
The Emotional Development of an individual varies from (child like, to adolescent, on to Adult, and continues to Mature Minded, even further to Wise.)
The level is directly related to the Higher or Lower Mind, and often a blend of both.
Most never have the information on this to realize there's an opportunity to improve and once mastered, it offer a whole other level of happy and vast positive benefits.
Each when they are ready, will find this info, and they will grow, evolve up into their Higher Value of Self.
Beth
a Sociologist/Behavioralist
PS:
How to respond? (Don't)
"Judgemental people always say more about themselves than You when they are Judging others."
If they are Gaslighting, then they are a Narcissist Personally Disorder and the answer is "Do not respond", detach from the individual and seek advise from a Therapist that specializes in "NPD Victim Therapy".
I would encourage these be considered when producing content on the subject.
... and I'm neither reviewing nor Judging your video. I'm merely sharing sound professional information.
Best Thoughts...
This is great. The typical response I get from passive aggressive people when I go with step 2 is a justifying statement such as "you're being too sensitive" or "Don't take it so personally". The irony of it though, is that... What I come to find is that they're the ones that are "too sensitive" or "taking things personally" as if they're projecting their own insecurities on to other people & using it as a verbal defense mechanism.
that's a very good comment shechshire that I deal with too. They also tend to try to make fun by saying "no haha Did i get you mad?" or something saracastic.
I agree, I get told this even though I am more resilient to these petty judgments than most and get told I'm too sensitive by my family. BUT........ if I believed that a person were sensitive, I would HOLD BACK from telling them what I thought/what to do!! Why go ahead and heap a load of criticisms or judgments on a person if you already believe that they're too sensitive.
Yup the PERFECT narcissistic way...PROJECTION!
@@asstanley8438 SO TRUE & WISE! VERY WELL PUT TY!!!
@Deanna Andrade Use sarcasm creatively.
Thank you! My mother in law is TOXIC and I have had enough. She’s driven 4 of her children away and she thinks she’s the victim. 🙄
i'm a mother in law, a term i hate because i'm not my DIL's mother, i want to be her friend, so I continually try to act like a ffuend. Sorry you have a MIL so shortsighted in what she's giving up
Omg this is sooooo helpful. I have friend who is always doing this and I can’t be myself anymore. She’s critical and judgmental. It’s a huge turn off.
I think this is becoming the age of the Passive Aggressive... I don't understand why people are like that, but does anyone else agree? 😃
+Rick G I agree--because when your behavior is passive-aggressive (rather than overtly aggressive) you can always say "Well, I was just joking" or "You misunderstood." You don't have to take responsibility for your behavior as you would if you were being overtly aggressive.
YES!!!!
i agree
Rick G .... um yeah, my spouse is so very passive aggressive
Yeah they're childish cowards.
“What gets rewarded get repeated.”
Wow! Thank you for this powerful phrase and EXCELLENT strategy of repeating back the judgement in an exaggerated way with a closed ended question. SO grateful to you💙🙏
"are you saying i'm trying to make myself ugly?" I like that!
I really appreciate this insight on how to train them not to pick you for their audience, since you can't change another adult's attitude or communication habits. Helpful! Thank you.
"Judges don't like to be judged." This concept works great. If you have a sort of toxic or abusive boss like I do, one who doesn't always know how to control himself at times, but one who also ISN'T narcissistic and will accept feedback, you can win with a well-crafted critique and "review" of them and their behavior and how it affects people. I've done this during one on one meetings and some bosses can be left stunned. If you document everything, bring examples that they know are true, bring proof of things (if applicable), it is hard for them to deny and they may not even realize they are this bad. This is especially true if you outline specifically how it ruins productivity and people's morale. It takes you from someone who at the start...might be taking some unfair criticism or abuse at the beginning of the meeting, and ends with your boss feeling like they have no place to criticize you at all and maybe even feel afraid to be fired in the event that other coworkers may feel the same way and it gets to the wrong person. Of course, even if you hate your bosses guts, you have to fake and do this in a constructive way.
Interesting, Mulder's Mayhem. And of course the manner in which you approach your boss is critical (hopefully constructive). Kudos to you for realizing that not all difficult bosses are narcissists. In fact--very few of them are, but that's the brush with which they're smeared. Most difficult people are just doing the best they can--and can withstand criticism if presented in a non-threatening manner.
I am watching your videos back to back! At first, I found myself in a "pickle" and lacking the tools to effectively handle a problem I am having. Now I am more confident about my stance and I am taking notes on how to be a power, positive, and productive communicator. Thank you for the advice!
+Colby Alexandre You're very welcome Colby!
Dan
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***** Hey Matthew, I greatly appreciate your comments, even the ones where you don't agree with me. (The passive-aggressive video, e.g.) Go ahead, I CAN TAKE IT!
For years I rewarded judgemental personal comments by getting upset (sad, shocked, indignant) and trying to explain that the judgement was unfair.
I've been practising seeing that it's all about them, not me.
I'm going to try your 2 steps, Dan. Thanks.
1. Repeat the judgement in an exaggerated way, and
2. Ask a clarifying, closed-ended question which makes them confirm or deny their intention.
Accept that he has an issue, like a mental disorder, and ignore. You can’t help him, nor he can do you any good.
You’re so comforting and a wonderful mentor. So glad that I found you! It feels as if you truly care.
Please make a video on how to talk to people that are simply aggressive in nature and accusatory!
That would be my Grandmother. You cannot win-for-losing with her!
These videos are a godsend. I'm going back into the work place. I have to deal with these people all the time. You're about to make my secular life a lot easier. Thank you so much!!!
You're welcome Brittany, and be sure to subscribe and share!
Dan
Effective Communication Skills With Dan O'Connor Already did ☺
Awesome! I'm a new manager and I'm so scared of putting a foot wrong or saying something that could be used against me and these are definitely tips I will use in engaging with negativity! Thank you!
Thank goodness I found someone to help me, actually discover tools to use to 'handle' individuals that like to push my buttons; and on and on, with communication issues i've tried to learn more about (but until now, most advice didn't nail it!) Thank you!
Thanks, I'll put this to use.
Antagonists are my thorn at work. I have a thin skin and some people seem to just smell it and needle me in ways that only myself and they know they're needling while we're in the presence of others/bosses. So, I've learned of course not to bite the hook but there are those times when I can't resist. That's when I'm around a really skillful antagonist. I've read books, done transformational seminars and talked to a therapist. I still seem to almost be a slave to my need to aggressively confront these individuals sometimes. Antagonism is so vast and vague, explaining why there's no 'how to' around the subject. AND, I'll still watch your vids and vids like it. Great to have folks like you out there making a difference. Thanks.
I am that person! I HATE that part of me - that critical spirit. Ugh! I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut but it’s ALWAYS on my mind.
You teach people how to be smart-asses. Love it.
+Aneeda Love Hewitt Aneeda, I sincerely hope I help people become clear communicators.
Ha! Wish I had watched this video earlier. Deal with this personality with my manager all the time. I have 4 weeks of work left and will practice this and enjoy my last days! Thank you!!
Good points. Do not tolerate passive aggressive behaviors against you.
So what would you do, if the person had a pattern of conjuring blatantly false accusations, and never tolerating the truth? Like, you're being the quiet one in the conversation, and they angrily accuse you of talking too much, while in blatant fact, they are the one who is going on and on? No one can tell this person anything, they won't tolerate it; everyone knows it, so no one tries. It's not like their strife-mongering, accusations or abuse is a reaction to someone else's antagonism. They just strike out of the blue, blindsiding the listeners, as though they are deluded, irrational, outside of Reality. They ask questions, seemingly sincere, like regarding a shopping list, for example, but don't tolerate answers. Brief, direct answers are accused. One can answer them with Yes or No 4 times, and they still come back with an angry " It's a Yes or No question! Just answer the question!" It's like they aren't listening, and they have no hearing problem, at least not with their ears. What if one can't just cease contact, at least for the present?
Brilliant, thank you for sharing this, Dan. It’s important not to let these outside judgements aggravate us because opinions are not facts - more a reflection of people’s own criticisms of themselves projected onto others. Standing by our decisions and staying calm (as best we can) in these situations builds resilience. #ThreeSecondLook 🙌🏻
Excellent, Linette. I couldn't agree more.
I LOVE this one. It's such great advice. It's easy to do and really makes the judge take a step back and look at how what s/he says affects others. My favorite line, "You can train others how to act around you." -Michelle
Dan, doing my MBA at the moment and really wish they had more of this! Fantastic insight, and you've been more helpful than you think! Keep it up!
Thanks for the encouragement, SI.
Dan
I often find just keeping a blanks face works. for example when my colleague is being passive aggressive I look blankly at them and when they are being genuine I am too.
Squigg, I threw my back out turning sideways to examine your picture, to prove to myself you are not my brother. You are almost identical twins; scary. . . . BTW, I agree that the blank face can be effective. Takes a certain personality type to pull it off--e.g. my brother--and you.
Dan
Hi Dan, I am a newbie subscriber to your TH-cam page. I wanted to send you a big thank you for your life changing tutorial video on communications. I can say by recently following some of your advice. It tremendously made a difference on how I interact with my co-workers as well as my relatives. I am extremely grateful to come across your video. I enjoy watching your show and I look forward to seeing your upcoming post. Thanks again!
Thank you so much for this. I believe communication is the key to understanding one another, and maybe even the key to peace and happiness. Thank you for Mr. O'Connor
Thanks, Rosetta. I agree that we'd have more personal peace and certainly more global peace if we were better communicators (and simply better people). Dan
ha, an oldie but a goodie! and this inspires me to search your channel to see you've addressed judgmental anywhere else, thanks!
I don't want to be a judge. I give my opinion when not asked sometimes. Im changing this. Thanks for this.
You're welcome, Kyle; please remember to like and share.
Dan
Omg 😂 you imitate excellently . It’s fun to watch you 😂
I highly appreciate your work. Have my like.
I am really liking your videos. It's great to have all these new social experiments to try! You give me a lot of food for thought. And I find your presentations here very charming. Thank you.
I think it’s a great idea, however, I wouldn’t chance it in my work situation.
I have a boss who would like to feel that he’s BFFs with me and this other guy. But, as this other guy wants my job, he seems to try to want to embarrass me in front of our boss - and my boss doesn’t seem to recognize this blatant effort - until it looks like I don’t like it. Then, thinks I should talk to them both about whatever “my” issue is.
When my boss later asked if I was OK as, he knew that I’d said I hadn’t gotten much sleep the night before, I replied that there was a problem, but that it wasn’t mine and he mumbled, “I know.”
Of course, my feeling was, if you know, why don’t you say something!? I’ve even tried to kern it so our meetings aren’t set up so this coworker can play the asshole, but the boss says that it’s OK, until we get to more difficult projects and we have another one of those meetings again, later this week. This is although I have decades of experience doing more complex work.
I know that most people’s advice is to go find another job but, this is actually the best job I’ve had and I’m not at an age and stage in my life where I’m going to purposely seek out a new job, unless I absolutely have to.
While I’ve given this freak the cold shoulder, which seems to make him nervously turn on some temporary BS charm, the moment we’re in a meeting again, he will start being an absolute jerk. Apparently, 3 other people have had issues with this guy also.
While I don’t know for sure, I think this guy “may” be a narcissist. I’ve had to study narcissism so, at minimum, this guy has some sort of problem, in addition to the fact that he wants my job. And one finds that a narcissist in the workplace even can have more than one enabler. My boss is one and another guy, who’s been subjected to the abuse, seems to want to support this freak.
Boy, when you’re stuck, you’re stuck. The good thing is that I can hold my own and know that I’m looking at someone who has a real problem. It isn’t me. I may not be the most jovial employee but, I don’t attack my coworkers. If this guy is narcissistic, I know what his triggers are, as well.
Flawless Video! Just what I needed Dan! Thanks so much. I have been in slavery with a Passive Aggressive wife for years and didn't know why I was always feeling like a victim until I learned about PAD. I used your 2 step way of dealing with her and "magic!", I got some clarity in her! Dan, I subscribed! Will hit your site asap, and intend on ordering your class soon. Thanks!!! You are a Cyber Diamond!!!
Thank you for your videos. Ive subscribed :) For too many years Ive been letting people get away with saying just about anything to me. Well not anymore! Im going to take more time to think and respond with these techniques and not carry the torch of negative energy theyre trying to pass on.
+Tenyka
YOU GO TENYKA!! And I'm grateful that I could be of help to you!
Dan
I really need to learn with your video how to deal with my workmates. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome!
Great ideas ... again ! Thanks you are inspiring and very savvy with your suggestions. I really appreciate and love to hear your presentations... I've learned so much. Cheers
Thanks, Steve. I appreciate your taking time to write. I have several new presentations coming up soon, and I welcome you aboard!
Dan
That's awesome...thanks! I have someone at work who is constantly complaining and judging, I will try this.
I'm so loving your material and the fact that you come across as genuine every time. In the past I have had people attempt to deliver some of these messages, but their body-language and tone were so... hmm, fake?... that I didn't really ever take their 'words' on board. Love your work. Lover your engagement. Love you:) Ah, in a 'love ice cream and chocolate' kind of way. Not stalker kind of way. Cheers
Dude! I love your videos! Keep up the great work!
The sound effect after “are you saying she is deliberately trying to dress like a prostitute to gain attention from men?” killed me, thank you though
I think I died with joy when you said do the "3-second look"! LOL!! Hallelujah! I'm so sharing this 😍👍👍💖💕💖💕✨
Thank you Sensie Victoria Whitfield!
Great channel. I like the way you communicate. Great man can help a lot of people who neglect the fundamentals of proper communications. I love the suggestions and have been using them for a long time to stop the behavior of the people around me. Believe it or not teachers as well. So very interesting stuff, There is nothing better than being a very good communicator. It will serve you endlessly in every situation.
Omg! This was soooo helpful. Thank you so much, I'm so glad I found your channel :)
Hey Iam; I'm glad we found each other too! Please be sure to comment as you watch other videos--and of course like and share. That's what allows me to keep producing these videos.
Dan
Thankyou Dan! I wish you would share some advice on how to train your "kids" to behave around you and to train them to be confident, "good hearted" people. Wud really appreciate something to that effect. Bless you!
Malee, I can tell you in one sentence: YOU be an example of the confident, good-hearted person you wish your children to become :) :). Your example is by far the best teacher.
I made a statement to a gentleman once and he said "are you calling me a liar"? I said to him " I already made my statement, it is up to you to interpret that. I had to put the ball back in his court. Occasionally that backfires, Dan. I don't have those circumstances very often because I try not to judge so I'm not very good at this.
Excellent. This really works. Thanks
So great! Thank you!
I love the horn sound affect it makes it so cute and funny I love it thanks
Uff ur amazing.... but the coworker that would be brave enough to talk about my kiddos deserves my attention outside the office👊🏾👊🏾
Yes, I'm sure you mean you're going to give them a verbal dressing down. RIght???? :) :)
Lol at the one about your mother :)) thanks for all the super informative videos!!
You are the best! Thank you for great advice
This was fun, and helpful. Thanks!
Way to communicate, Dan! Thank you for sharing this :D
AAAAAAAAAAH I LOVE THIS!
how I always did this was by asking : Why would you say that? Or why would you say this about him/her.
But i find this video waaay better than how i did before! LOVE THIS SO MUCH THANK YOU
Never judge a book by it's cover. And so true. Agree
You're great! Thanks for sharing your helpful advice.
Thanks, Erin--and please like and share!
Dan
Don’t encourage me… I had a stupid lady ask me,(the wrong person lol) “are you calling me a liar?” I said “uh…yes I am” she imploded & didn’t know what to do🤣
Nina, I'm guessing you don't need any encouragement :).
@@TheWizardOfWords i love your videos! lol
Thank you my Dear
You are so welcome!
Thank you very much sir! As introvert I need it badly... when someone say bad too me... i cant answer.. just quiet moment...& mind....loading...loading... loading... subscriber from ph🇵🇭
Many thanks for your comment, Ebyong Cantonese. There are many introverts in the same boat as you and I hope these videos help so that you can convert all those thoughts into thoughtful speech! Grateful to have a subscriber from the Philippines!
This is so hilarious! Wow I have to try it!
Works like a charm practically every time, doesn't it?!
I like. Very good tips. Thanks for sharing and keep sharing.
Thanks Chinkyfist-- Dan
The problem with exaggeration is it's a strawman argument is it not? Could I be called out by the judge for putting words in their mouth? I could see this backfiring.
TacticsTechniques&Procedures My thoughts exactly. It seems like it could end up appearing like you are irrational or something.
My thoughts exactly. It’d be better to take the judgment to its logical conclusion.
Are you planning to do the party next year then? Would it have been better if she didn’t plan the party at all? What theme did you vote for (knowing they didn’t participate)
Exaggeration can easily be called Dishonesty, a dishonest Ploy. Commenter Paloma de pdx shared an apt (and I feel, a wise) response in this comment-thread.
What I find works for me is a simple, "What do you mean by that?" and other questions that will make them answer it themselves so you can't be accused of making false assumptions. Most of the time, they will just walk away because they're not going to let other people know that they really have ill intentions.
This video just gave me life!! Loved it.
Well thank you and I'm glad you're alive. Keep breathing!
Dan
@@TheWizardOfWords 😆 Thanks, Dan. Yes! Lol
Best approach❤🎉
what happens if they don't polarize, and defend their judgement?
great tips. and hilarious sound effects.
I think that might be a great time for a hamburger followed by a navigational phrase. For example, "Jean, when you judge people like that, I feel uncomfortable because I care about these people, and I care about you too. Why don't we change the direction of this conversation and talk about what we're going to bring to the party. . . (or whatever you want to talk about instead)."
Of course, there are a million ways to:
1) don't reward the behavior or take the bait, and
2) change the subject.
For example, don't know what to say? Just give the three second look, and start a sentence with, "That reminds me . . ." and talk about whatever you wish.
I hope that helps!
HAHA! I'm glad you liked the sound effects. I try.
yeah they really support your energy, and help to carry the video and keep the viewer watching. thanks for the advice. i'll keep honesty in mind. i'm an honest and blunt person anyway, so i'm not too worried.
@@TheWizardOfWords What if they are such a belligerent person, that they won't tolerate a sensible, countering reply from anyone? One could never get a reply (like you suggested) out of their mouth without this person cutting them off with another belligerent false accusation. No one can tell them anything.
@@cacatr4495 Give them what the relationship requires--distance. Why would you want to hang out with such a person? And even if it's a boss--don't defend; don't argue. Give them silence and distance. Remember, it is all about you. No one can force you to be defensive or aggressive and no one can force you to cry. WALK AWAY.
Dan
Hi Dan! I'll have to give these tips a try. Usually when dealing with passive aggressive judgemental people, I would just answer their judgement by pointing out something that THEY are not excelling in. For instance I'd say, "Oh you don't like Mary's party theme? Why didn't you help her? You're always so quiet when we ask for ideas. You should offer to pitch in more or are you not a very creative person." Translation: Don't talk crap about Mary when you had nothing to offer.
Does that make me passive aggressive as well or just aggressive? Hmm...
Thanks for the post!
Your the greatest... Thank you 00
Empowering retort using excellent psychology!
:) :) :). Thanks, Bonnie.
Are you saying I should engage with passive aggressive people? to hell with that, tell them f-off before you kick the living crap out of them, this method works so well that you never have to speak to them again. ;).
+Joss Cues You sound like a fun guy, Joss!
+Joss Ignoring it is not a solution. There are times when people in charge will try being passive aggressive with you.
That doesn’t work when it’s someone you have to work with often. You have to be tactful
I just ignore them. It's useless. It's just your imagination and I focus on the now. So what they think? It really doesn't matter. Won't get me what I want.
I swear by jesus I will put your advice to action today, am fed up . I will come back and update you on how it went! Yessss!
Thank you so much for the tips...it is really helpful...love your videos....
Great Video! Love the 2 part questions. But how do you deal with a passive aggressive supervisor. I have a supervisor that purposefully leaves me out of a team meeting, and takes away duties from me without explanation or feedback.
Exit every and all situations that are unproductive/unpredictable. I don't mean run away, but learn the first rule of combat, to retreat in order to assess the enemy. Everyone is different, there is no right or wrong strategy, but not knowing our adversary in battle is why the silence, pause, retreat, regroup, or exit is rule number 1....for me anyway
I really enjoy your sense of humor Dan!
:) :) :) "^^"
What works for me is definitely not to reward them by getting angry, then say "your too negative for me" and make your getaway.
Ohhh I love this, thank you for all of your amazing videos! They are so entertaining and informative!
watched a couple of your videos a while back. thank you for giving my life confidence. yes it was me.. but if not for you!
Glad I found this site! Been dealing with, at his best, a passive aggressive man at church.... however, it's CHURCH, so what can you do?
You treat someone in a religious environment the same way you would treat them in a social environment, Jennifer--hopefully mindfully. :)
Dear @Jennifer M I should think the Bible (in other words, God!) has a few things to say about certain behaviors. I think I would sit down with a concordance and seek out the passage in Scripture that deal with those. Then use them as ammo. For starters. ;-)
Dan, I’m glad you use your superpower for good instead of evil. Otherwise we’d be in real trouble. 😂
Remember that when you vote in November. Vote for the good guy :)
Hi Dan! Thanks for this great video! I will practice this!
I was just wondering though, what if you are with a good friend who makes a comment about a country-themed party, for example. I mean, sometimes friends will comment about things together. Do you ever do that with your friends, or do you never make a judgement of dislike about something? I am genuinely asking this because I am trying to learn how to best interact. Or is this for extreme cases of constantly judgmental people or people that are hitting at you? Thank you!!
Yes, GG, this isn't for casual comments or observations or judgments. There is nothing wrong with disagreeing. However, this video is for people who are judging YOU OR YOURS and are trying to put you down. They're not judging something you're doing (though that's bad enough), they are judging who you are--as a parent, as a child, as a . . . .
@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you!!
Love love love your work!!!
I normally deal with this situation by talking about it with someone! Because I can’t read body language due to my visual impairment and I worry about what that person might do if I tell them myself lol!
your vids are sooo AWESOME!! Thank you!!!
Love love love this. Nailed it!!
You might not realize it, but that "3 second look" is actually very confrontational.
very good video thanks a lot.
Oh I Love You Thank you so much i have to write up a difficult incident report and this particular video was just awesome. :)))))))
Luv u. Finally concrete examples.
Thnx Dan for the great advice! 👍
Hi Suus: Just trying to change the global dialogue, one conversation at a time. Please feel free to continue commenting and hopefully sharing!
Dan
YOU. ARE. GOOD.!!!! LOVE YOUR CONTENT!
I LOVE THIS
This was great. Thanks Dan.
Thanks Elizabeth and Edward for the encouragement. Be sure to share.
Dan
Like your video! This method works in most of the cases. I agree with you. From my own experience, sometimes it started a bigger fire. I got into a few arguments, some people are hot-temped and have bigger mouths than mine.
You're awesome Dan!
Thank you ☺
Another brilliant video, thank you
Thanks, Torna, and please continue to comment--like--and share. I very much appreciate it.
Dan
Thank you for the tip, sounds like a powerful tool I can definitely use!