@@CircumlunarFeasibility Someone isnt mature enough to understand the message in these videos. It isnt for everyone. We all need the NPC's to illustrate how important it is to be responsible and accountable for our life and actions.
@@CircumlunarFeasibility When you understand that your life is just a temporary experience similar to a movie and you are the director and producer of that experience you realize that giving those important roles over to others is cowardly by not taking the bull by the horns and being solely responsible for the results of your life.
@@CircumlunarFeasibility Did you listen to the video? You must be one of those toxic people because this guy just said he's been silently detaching which is brave not cowardly. I've tried to reason with people like these energy vampires or narcissists and all it does is make it worse. Especially if you have to tell them not to contact you anymore. It's much less of a headache not even letting them know you're cutting them off. They don't respect you so WHY do they deserve an explanation? Sorry you feel threatened by this, perhaps you should see a psychologist and get some help.
start from good intention, righteousness will follow, harmonize and be sincere, these will level you up to a higher conciousness to understand more of your fellowmen. its contagious.
There's not many genuine people about these days, there's no trust or much concern for one another, there's so many ways to look at a subject your involved with, getting rid of them or it, is the ONLY way!♡
There are three levels of emotional and intellectual maturity. The Ego is the lowest form of maturity which is very reactionary having little or no concern for the outcome. Then there is the Intellect which is the next level of maturity where we have learned to think through situations to have the best outcome for all concerned. In this regard the highest level of maturity is the Observer where we are not reactionary to other's expressions toward us. We see that the less than desirable way people treat us is really about them and not us so we do not react to it. Many times it is necessary to limit our exposure or outright walk away from people in this regard. There can be consequences for us in doing so and if we are emotionally and intellectually mature enough we learn to do this with minimal negative effect to us and them.
Very good, tough to achieve all this at first but with continued practice and application it is definitely worth it!! You achieve a much more peaceful life because you get it from within ❤❤❤
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As an observing and thinking man, I find many people who choose to stay in mean, pointless and superficial relationships rather than be alone. As a Stoic, I feel both contempt and compassion for these people. But I try to keep these feelings under control. But true friendship is a rarity. As a stoic, I choose life as a lone wolf where the light of self-respect illuminates my existence. I never give it up. Thoughtful people with a depth and pathos and code of honor. I love them .
Absolutely!Better to be rich in peace than miserable with money. It’s alright to make money,but this is more about peace,and u don’t need many if not,anyone’s perspective in how important it is to listen to toxicity.
If detaching is in principle with ones inner values, then that is the price to pay. Buying others shallow approval unaligned with ones own values, is moral prostitution, the lowest form of treachery.
I did! I gave it my best and ultimately decided to detach from family and most 'frienemies'. I moved 900 miles away where I didnt know anyone. During the assimilating process I spent a lot of time alone meditating and doing deep introspection into why the things that bothered me did so. I learned a lot about myself during that time...I am still learning about myself and others. I learned there are three parts to who I am...the Ego, the Intellect & the Observer. The Ego loves drama and conflict. The Intellect finds rational solutions to situations and the Observer is who I truly am when I go through life not being affected by every little thing. If you have confidence and self esteem & dress & act well people will treat you well. It takes time if you are new to the area. I moved to the south and most people treat me well but there are those who are still fighting the Civil War and there is nothing I can do about that except limit my exposure to them.
@@elonever.2.071 doesn't feel so good WHEN u cant find one good soul in an entire community that would have made u to stay back and removing ur self u get rid of the negativity ...but u Also loose a lot of relationships and acquaintance. Good luck amd God bless.
@@mariagabriel9488 Thank you. It is hard and requires a lot of work looking at who you really are compared to who you think you are. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself to move away from the toxicity. I lived in the land of the narcissist so there weren't any real good relationships. The only real acquaintances available to people are when you join clubs (cults) where you have to sacrifice a freedom to two to show your dedication.
All these advices are good but they ignore 1 crucial thing. We all have to work and feed our families. We have to mix with people at work. We can't cut off people or ignore people even though they are horrible to us. Only rich and carefree people can apply these theories.
This can't be Stoicism, - calling other flawed human beings bad names like narcissists and vampires, when they are human beings with trauma, flaws, ill health, toxic from environmental influence and today's poor lifestyle, and with stress, can it? Treating others poorly and cruelly is never all right, you aren't justified or good for doing so!Nothing gets better from it inthe world, exept your own superficial egoism. We are on Earth partly to love and help one another. Giving warning and explanation why they are being difficult, annoying, straining, tiring, doing harm or whatever the problem is, is decent. Just turning your back to them is not. People aren't aware of what they are doing, not fully, and there are different parts of us fighting inside. We have to address the king/queen in one another to help them emerge and rule, because we are not animals with direct help by instincts from their group soul, but have to use our free will and fere choice between good and evil.Since we don't get well brought up learning the right ways and bvalues anymore, it can often be very difficult to have the know.how, soundness, be in touch with one's feelings and with what is right. Being toxic to toxic humans is not OK.Ostracising andturning your back to silently is cruel, because they are unwell and lost and need help to know what they are doing Being wrong etc. It can't be Stoicism.
Valid points; however, in my long years I find that there are some "unredeemables"...those people whose skill at tearing you down little by little (and in such clever and devious ways), are simply not worth my effort to "save" from themselves. In the end I ask, why ought I suffer for others' insecurities? I will try a few times, until I conclude that I am being expertly played and then I see that precious sand has fallen down the hourglass, and it is simply time to move on.
There are some people who just need a little guidance and yes you do help them understand their shortcomings. However there are those that have been traumatized beyond your ability to help them if they are not willing to help themselves. These are the people, after seeing which group they are in, that it is in your best interest to avoid.
Detaching as promoted here is not that practical in life. We cannot always avoid toxic people. Coping with them as best as possible is the Stoic thing to do.
**on** your own(?) I kind of agree with you too. I, also, feel we have a duty to uplift and support those who can't necessarily support themselves, children,/teens, elderly, infirm etc... plus we need to Foster good ŕelationship and support networks as we never know when we, ourselves, might need support off others. It's also good to have people who may see things differently to us so we can learn from each other, guide each other, not get stuck in an echo chamber of people who only ever agree with us and to learn tolerance of our differences. So long as its done respectfully and from a place of love on both sides, I see it as a good thing. However, I don't think this video is referencing the normal, flawed individuals we have relationships with but those who undermine us, tell lies to us or about us, steal our items or even our inner peace, physically, mentally or spiritual harm us, use us with no intentions of matching our energy or helping us or even others in return. Those types of people would never have our backs in 'battle' anyway. Cut them loose. As the video said at one or two points, once you've told them your boundaries and possibly even reminded them, if they continue to cross them and it causes us physical or mental harm or if they continue to put us even at risk of some type of harm then they've got to go from our lives. Plus letting them go opens up a vacancy for good people to be part of our little army. @@woldebazizew9385
It's ridiculous to say someone who advises you not to start a business is being negative. Maybe the business idea is bad and this will save them from wasting their money. A lot of people have ideas that don't turn out well
Sounds alot like separation and division. Sounds about like demonic to me. I do realize that you need to be cautious with certain individuals. I get that. So this must mean I am perfect and nobody measures up to me. Wow ,sounds like a pretty lonely existence. 🙏
Lonely, but PEACEFUL. To each his own. If I get in the mood for drama, I watch a TV show. I've had enough useless drama in my life. I'm good. Thank you.
Supreme form of ghosting
yeah its some real chickenshit
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Someone isnt mature enough to understand the message in these videos. It isnt for everyone. We all need the NPC's to illustrate how important it is to be responsible and accountable for our life and actions.
Been doing this all my days for 64 years
sounds cowardly
@@CircumlunarFeasibility
When you understand that your life is just a temporary experience similar to a movie and you are the director and producer of that experience you realize that giving those important roles over to others is cowardly by not taking the bull by the horns and being solely responsible for the results of your life.
@@CircumlunarFeasibility Did you listen to the video? You must be one of those toxic people because this guy just said he's been silently detaching which is brave not cowardly. I've tried to reason with people like these energy vampires or narcissists and all it does is make it worse. Especially if you have to tell them not to contact you anymore. It's much less of a headache not even letting them know you're cutting them off. They don't respect you so WHY do they deserve an explanation? Sorry you feel threatened by this, perhaps you should see a psychologist and get some help.
We are supposed to detach from more than 90% of people we know
Not practical
"supposed to"? Says who and why
If that’s what it takes. You think successful people have time to waste entertaining negative energy? Time is the most valuable thing we have.
start from good intention, righteousness will follow, harmonize and be sincere, these will level you up to a higher conciousness to understand more of your fellowmen. its contagious.
Good advice if everyone lived like a Stoic there would be alot less trouble in the world!!!
I am going to become more stoic in my daily dealings.
Right, I'm throwing out the razor and hitting the gym daily.
There's not many genuine people about these days, there's no trust or much concern for one another, there's so many ways to look at a subject your involved with, getting rid of them or it, is the ONLY way!♡
There are three levels of emotional and intellectual maturity. The Ego is the lowest form of maturity which is very reactionary having little or no concern for the outcome. Then there is the Intellect which is the next level of maturity where we have learned to think through situations to have the best outcome for all concerned. In this regard the highest level of maturity is the Observer where we are not reactionary to other's expressions toward us. We see that the less than desirable way people treat us is really about them and not us so we do not react to it. Many times it is necessary to limit our exposure or outright walk away from people in this regard. There can be consequences for us in doing so and if we are emotionally and intellectually mature enough we learn to do this with minimal negative effect to us and them.
Yes, agree that detachment can help all concerned while we still love the person.
Very good, tough to achieve all this at first but with continued practice and application it is definitely worth it!! You achieve a much more peaceful life because you get it from within ❤❤❤
Remember you are number one ❤
@terrymcdermott8320 Just rest in yourself.
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Live by principle, this in my mind includes virtue, Truth being the highest, honesty towards oneself and others. Lead by example. Treat others, including oneself, the way one wants to be treated.
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I am a stoic 💯 The stoic community has helped me grow tremendously. Thank you for taking the time to create these videos ✨
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this is very valuable, thank you.
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Tq sir. Smart move and thinks
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Half of these comments are people bragging how stoic they are, which goes against stoicism
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As an observing and thinking man, I find many people who choose to stay in mean, pointless and superficial relationships rather than be alone. As a Stoic, I feel both contempt and compassion for these people. But I try to keep these feelings under control. But true friendship is a rarity. As a stoic, I choose life as a lone wolf where the light of self-respect illuminates my existence. I never give it up. Thoughtful people with a depth and pathos and code of honor. I love them .
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I think Epicureanism is more effective in teaching us how to detach from toxic people and circumstances.
If you're reading this comment, I hope you become a billionaire 💸
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Why wish such a horrid thing on me?
We are what we think
But you don't have to believe everything that you think.
😢 these days if you are not a rich person or person of influence people do not treat u well... And would u detach from every one?
Absolutely!Better to be rich in peace than miserable with money. It’s alright to make money,but this is more about peace,and u don’t need many if not,anyone’s perspective in how important it is to listen to toxicity.
If detaching is in principle with ones inner values, then that is the price to pay. Buying others shallow approval unaligned with ones own values, is moral prostitution, the lowest form of treachery.
I did! I gave it my best and ultimately decided to detach from family and most 'frienemies'. I moved 900 miles away where I didnt know anyone. During the assimilating process I spent a lot of time alone meditating and doing deep introspection into why the things that bothered me did so. I learned a lot about myself during that time...I am still learning about myself and others. I learned there are three parts to who I am...the Ego, the Intellect & the Observer. The Ego loves drama and conflict. The Intellect finds rational solutions to situations and the Observer is who I truly am when I go through life not being affected by every little thing.
If you have confidence and self esteem & dress & act well people will treat you well. It takes time if you are new to the area. I moved to the south and most people treat me well but there are those who are still fighting the Civil War and there is nothing I can do about that except limit my exposure to them.
@@elonever.2.071 doesn't feel so good WHEN u cant find one good soul in an entire community that would have made u to stay back and removing ur self u get rid of the negativity ...but u Also loose a lot of relationships and acquaintance.
Good luck amd God bless.
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Thank you. It is hard and requires a lot of work looking at who you really are compared to who you think you are. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself to move away from the toxicity.
I lived in the land of the narcissist so there weren't any real good relationships. The only real acquaintances available to people are when you join clubs (cults) where you have to sacrifice a freedom to two to show your dedication.
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All these advices are good but they ignore 1 crucial thing. We all have to work and feed our families.
We have to mix with people at work. We can't cut off people or ignore people even though they are horrible to us.
Only rich and carefree people can apply these theories.
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This can't be Stoicism, - calling other flawed human beings bad names like narcissists and vampires, when they are human beings with trauma, flaws, ill health, toxic from environmental influence and today's poor lifestyle, and with stress, can it? Treating others poorly and cruelly is never all right, you aren't justified or good for doing so!Nothing gets better from it inthe world, exept your own superficial egoism. We are on Earth partly to love and help one another. Giving warning and explanation why they are being difficult, annoying, straining, tiring, doing harm or whatever the problem is, is decent. Just turning your back to them is not.
People aren't aware of what they are doing, not fully, and there are different parts of us fighting inside. We have to address the king/queen in one another to help them emerge and rule, because we are not animals with direct help by instincts from their group soul, but have to use our free will and fere choice between good and evil.Since we don't get well brought up learning the right ways and bvalues anymore, it can often be very difficult to have the know.how, soundness, be in touch with one's feelings and with what is right. Being toxic to toxic humans is not OK.Ostracising andturning your back to silently is cruel, because they are unwell and lost and need help to know what they are doing Being wrong etc.
It can't be Stoicism.
Valid points; however, in my long years I find that there are some "unredeemables"...those people whose skill at tearing you down little by little (and in such clever and devious ways), are simply not worth my effort to "save" from themselves. In the end I ask, why ought I suffer for others' insecurities? I will try a few times, until I conclude that I am being expertly played and then I see that precious sand has fallen down the hourglass, and it is simply time to move on.
There are some people who just need a little guidance and yes you do help them understand their shortcomings. However there are those that have been traumatized beyond your ability to help them if they are not willing to help themselves. These are the people, after seeing which group they are in, that it is in your best interest to avoid.
Jesus taught us to be long suffering and kind, not to cruelly cut people off
Detaching as promoted here is not that practical in life. We cannot always avoid toxic people. Coping with them as best as possible is the Stoic thing to do.
Exactly. It's unrealistic to detach from people who are part of your life. Just learn not to let them affect you is much more practical and kind
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Don't cut people off is my advice
Why?
@@Antonio_Todd you can't beat your enemies with your own
**on** your own(?)
I kind of agree with you too. I, also, feel we have a duty to uplift and support those who can't necessarily support themselves, children,/teens, elderly, infirm etc... plus we need to Foster good ŕelationship and support networks as we never know when we, ourselves, might need support off others.
It's also good to have people who may see things differently to us so we can learn from each other, guide each other, not get stuck in an echo chamber of people who only ever agree with us and to learn tolerance of our differences. So long as its done respectfully and from a place of love on both sides, I see it as a good thing.
However, I don't think this video is referencing the normal, flawed individuals we have relationships with but those who undermine us, tell lies to us or about us, steal our items or even our inner peace, physically, mentally or spiritual harm us, use us with no intentions of matching our energy or helping us or even others in return. Those types of people would never have our backs in 'battle' anyway. Cut them loose.
As the video said at one or two points, once you've told them your boundaries and possibly even reminded them, if they continue to cross them and it causes us physical or mental harm or if they continue to put us even at risk of some type of harm then they've got to go from our lives. Plus letting them go opens up a vacancy for good people to be part of our little army.
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Good luck with that some people are not meant to be part of every chapter in your life if you think otherwise you have a fear of being alone
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We are interdrpendant, i disagree with this
We are interdependent with healthy people. We are codependent with traumatized or toxic people.
Yes, I disagree too. Too harsh and unforgiving. Detaching doesn't mean you will be happy
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It's ridiculous to say someone who advises you not to start a business is being negative. Maybe the business idea is bad and this will save them from wasting their money. A lot of people have ideas that don't turn out well
BTW does being aloof count as being stoic, LOL
" high value people" is BS.
Sounds alot like separation and division. Sounds about like demonic to me. I do realize that you need to be cautious with certain individuals. I get that. So this must mean I am perfect and nobody measures up to me. Wow ,sounds like a pretty lonely existence. 🙏
Lonely, but PEACEFUL. To each his own. If I get in the mood for drama, I watch a TV show. I've had enough useless drama in my life. I'm good. Thank you.
I agree with Rick. You can identify problem people and don't let them affect you but try to help them
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