Why you should NEVER make conversation with "the woman"
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"If you don't respect intimacy, you're going to abuse somebody." So true, thank you for saying it as it is
"You make conversation when you have nothing to say" Wow, I felt that.
That is totally correct. It is about chemistry ad levels. Shut the fuck up when you are so stupid and find people to disscus when you are their level.
Wow...... do you really believe that? Just think about it for a while..... that means some of my best conversations with family, and friends, were meaningless....
@@michaeldamato9466 actually he didn't say anything , but that was the spin I got out of it .... meaning just not sexual ...
@@michaeldamato9466 context
@@michaeldamato9466 you 'make' conversation with family and friends? Interesting.
I am Protestant by parental design and i never grasped the views and translations the same way that Rabbi Manis translates the world and how we are. I've gotten more out of his lessons with 10 videos than i ever did in church. Thank you.
Orthodox Church is the original church.
Protestant or any of the churchianity spinoffs are going to leave you devoid. Orthodox Christian or Traditional Catholic (which I am) are authentically Christian.
The wisdom of the church is based upon the OT / Torah.
@@styroreality it's very evident!
I love how quickly you answered the splendidly shallow "Isn't that sexist?" question our sick culture always throws at this. No hesitation! "Yes. If respecting the differences is sexist, absolutely."
Yes but it's about shaking hands not menstrual pads.
I can listen to him talk all day long…
Brilliant!
Good technique.....he answererd to the point then qualified it with a precise definition.
"you make conversation when you have nothing to say". Spot on. Beautiful talk 👍
Fantastic clarity. I had to re-watch this one because for some reason my guitar keeps ringing every time the Rabbi was talking. That's never happened before, but watching the video the second time I realized that this truth and understanding is what is lacking in our modern culture. I feel it and live in it. I hope we can get it back.
Rabbi and truth in the same sentence is hilarious.
Devil don't want you listening to this
This is Torah wisdom, been around for thousands of years, well articulated by the Rabbi.
Agreed...through the palms of the hand there is energy transference...sharing feeling of intimacy, attraction...even repulsion
Muslim woman are taught against shaking of hands...form of protection
It can cause 'problems' for one or both parties
It's good that Muslims have that practice.
It's OK for Muslim women to shake hands with one another but not with men, based on my observation.
hmmm , um yeah I don't think anybody can say that across the board , You know if that is how you feel then that is how you feel . But just know not everybody gets that . Not everybody has 'problems' just from handshaking .
@@davidfriend1919 men & women especially those who are married...shouldn't be touching unless there are good reasons...every time human beings touch there is an exchange of energy...that ultimately can lead to infidelity
@@shalizalacombe6330 With all due respect . That sounds like a personal problem . Again , you can say that YOU feel that way and that is why YOU don't want to touch in even a casual way , you don't speak for the entire human race though . I certainly don't feel that way ,
I'm a Catholic woman and do not shake hands with men either. Makes my husband happy :)
I'm Catholic as well, but I was taught the opposite. Shaking hands is merely showing RESPECT for another human being. It's only intimate if you ALLOW the encounter to be intimate. I was taught to always put my hand out first to initiate the RESPECTFUL gesture. If someone interacts with me and doesn't shake my hand I take that as an insult and very disrespectful.
@@beccamcdonald9846 I'm a Catholic woman and was taught the same thing. 😊
@@leonaheraty3760 I was just raised with old fashioned morals and values
@@beccamcdonald9846 Same here. I thank God every day for parents who are in Heaven and were from the Greatest Generation. 🥰
@@leonaheraty3760 Amen to that 🙏🏻
So much truth in this short video! Thank you for the thought provoking content!
If you have to shake hands remember this: there is shaking hands appropriately (that’s 3 seconds) and there’s the inappropriate shaking of hands (more than 3 seconds) that is too intimate and bordering on sexual contact. The tone in your voice and the eye contact is also important.
I don't need to know Rabbi Manis to be his friend. I like his beard and his funny hat, and I find it enjoyable to listen to him so this is more than enough for me.
Rabbi, this is the first time I come across you. We don't have to be friends but let's be friendly!
I asked about it the man that shook the hand of my husband but not mine about this, he said because the rabbi told us. I found that hurting because to me not shaking my hand it meant "you are not worth my recognition as a human being".
I shake hands as I was taught as a sign of friendship and trust, "I see you as another human being." Also all we can learn in a business setting from a handshake! I would prefer to see if someone is creepy to avoid it through a handshake than to come closer and be in big trouble.
I never thought that this gesture could be seen as something sexual at all.
Thanks for sharing. It brings some understanding.
I glad to thank God there is someone wisdom with right teaching It's true that's the reality.
Omg “if sexist means recognizing the differences between sexes,” I’ve said that myself!!
Interesting. I'm a Christian who shares a lot of what you said. Well in my belief Christianity is the perfect continuation and fulfilment of the Judaism of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and Moses and all the other Jewish prophets in between so there could be a connection there. Funny thing is that most of my fellow Christians don't share that with me. Although another more Orthodox group does. But I'm like that inside and outside the Church temple, but especially inside.
Judaism is complete within itself. Your ideas to rationalize your religion do not constitute fact or truth. It's insulting to us, if we take it that way.
The only 'temples' were destroyed thousands of years ago. The Third Temple will be built by Moshiach.
You're 'complete' yet here you are. Won't find us on a Christian channel. What does that tell you?
Mr. Friedman this was very good. I always think I am smart, and I know I am :) because I feel I already knew this. However thank you for clarifying and articulate it. The knowledge has now moved from my unconscious to the conscious part of my brain. Great insight. You Rabbis Rock. Cheers
What is intimate about shaking hands? Dude just admitted to being intimate with men.
Shaking hands does NOT indicate closeness, it's a greeting of people who DONT know each other.
Not very complex.
A healthy, straight, man showers with other men. Nothing intimate there. Showering with women is different.
@@malachi405 hahahahaha yes, showering with other men is disgustingly homoerotic and intimate. You're just in denial. Especially since there are homosexuals out there.
Showering in a communal shower with anyone is going to be a little weird, but there is nothing different about doing it with men or women. Some people will be perverts and look, others will be polite.
How about you don't be a weirdo, and just go home and shower by yourself?
@@malachi405 plus, you didn't respond to any facts I mentioned about shaking hands.
This is why it's a good idea to have respect for religious traditions. For those with little or no self-control or discipline, these ideas would be beneficial to practice. They're all-encompassing and keep you out of trouble. But if you're capable of recognizing and maintaining boundaries on your own and keeping your impulses under control, then you don't need all these stringent restrictions on yourself. It takes patience, understanding, and intelligence but it's perfectly within reason for people to adapt their behavior to any situation based on the circumstances around them. But these ideas are still good ones to follow as a general rule of thumb.
Respectfully, in modern times, we don't like to admit to our vulnerabilities and weaknesses (especially the idea of temptation I think). As a male, I understand the fear to not be seen as a creep or an animal specifically in a sexual situation. Because there's an element of truth to it, I am not an animal, but I do have an extremely powerful one in me that I must harness. If you need somewhat of proof, consider how many modern males cannot stop themselves from consuming this content. (To make ourselves feel better, we pretend that it's a good thing, or a necessary thing, but if you take uncompromising steps to stop it, without worrying what the world will think, you can.
Thank you for the enlightening message of wisdom Rabbi. Shalom!
Not Jewish, don’t agree completely, but very respectable & articulated thought process on intimacy & what it means not just casual open contact.
The man has always treated me like I am invisible. I am beginning to think that I am 🤔
That's awful.
You're not. If someone doesn't see you, your abilities, humor, joy, pain, etc, that's them. Not you. If they don't, they don't. It doesn't mean you're not valuable.
You don't need to be seen through the eyes of another. Only the One Above, which will be reflected in the eyes of your "soul mate".
Sad to say, but I would rather be invisible, than a reality show. I hope you have a few friends that can make up for the current chill in characters expressed. It really is sad. Feeling you on the flip side!
I practice trying to be invisible in crowded places.
Both orthodox Jewish men and woman usually keep this law and don't touch anyone of the opposite sex unless they're very very close relatives or in certain circumstances where the Torah may look bad.
On a kqbbalistic level, the touch is suppose to transfer energy
Thank you so much. You've taught me a lot how to understand men
That's why I hate shaking hands with people I don't know that well.
I find this perspective interesting and there's something to appreciate in it but the truth is, 8 hours on a plane, man or woman, I love conversation. I'll gladly talk with anyone because I think every person is living an experience that can be learned from and through which we can learn about ourselves.
I can appreciate the angle that especially as a married guy, I shouldn't make conversation with a woman when it's my little head making the call but when it's this pure curiosity and quest for perspective, how is that wrong? I need more context.
Because intimacy should be protected. We are creatures that empathize and sympathize. Like you said, conversations are good way to get to know other people . The more people get to know each other, the more they become intimate and build chemistry. This is especially true for a male and female, where attraction will continue to build as they become closer to one another. This kind of attraction is even stronger than the superficial physical attraction, and could become dangerous if not between spouses.
@@metsrus thanks for your feedback. I think there’s something special about the kinds of relationships that can be born and die in a day on a train. I’m not yet ready to believe that will inevitably lead to adultery if that is what’s being implied here
@@LiamDangerPark haha, I hear ya. Just as long as you don't get her name and phone number and start looking her up on the internet, i guess it would be fine. But I think the point is that intimacy should be kept between spouses, and by getting to know another woman, you are opening a door for another possibility, no matter how improbable it is.
@@metsrus what if you see her as a potential spouse?
@@zeeqayum4834 i think that would be great if you aren't already married.
Spot on....
Touching someone even in an innocent way can send signals that can be distorted. The body holds memory for a lifetime
This makes sense to me. I have made conversation with “the woman” and I couldn’t stand it.
Even as a Christian the Rabbi resonated!
You are talking about shaking a woman's hand. Why is the click bait title "don't converse with the woman?" Is conversing always intimate?
Conversation can lead to intimacy. Unless the woman speaks up about being married, of course. And men need to talk to their wives, not other women.
@M H T Men and women can have fruitful philosophical discussions and they might as well both have paper bags over their faces and call each other comrade for all their gender comes into it.
I disagree with this guy’s conclusions, but I agree with his reasoning: that we need to respect intimacy, and that we have missed out on respecting intimacy, and that we are not making connections between the inner feelings and meanings of things, and outer performance.
I think the Japanese have the best solution to the handshake problem. The bow, as a sign of mutual respect. [It also also has the benefit of social distancing.]
Bowing shows subservience. It is a gesture I reserve for G-d, not people.
@@nomorecensoringmeJews and Muslims only bow to the one and only creator
Social distancing lol gimme a break
The head title is hilarious
I wonder how many people watching this have said to their black friend "I don't even think of you as black". "you have plenty of faults but I look beyond the color of your skin!" (7:00)
Alot
Good video❤️good morning. Everyone
Agreed. Thank you for the greetings I'm seeing after morning.
Thank you! I had wondered why.
I am in a world of pain. I am a devout Christian and I got married to who I thought was a Christian, we had two kids, a house with a picket fence, and a kitten.
My mother in law called my house everyday for 22 years at random times on our landline phone that rings out loud with a voice message machine that is also audible.
So, I blocked her number and asked my wife to use cellphones.
Boom: a year later of no sex, my wife goes to her sisters and writes an order of protection against me, and then files for divorce.
No infidelity. My wife was just upset because her mother made her upset by complaining all the time about being blocked.
Now I am alone.
Actually thats quite understandable.Did you have to block the Mother in law totally??Anyone sane would question that.
Good advise Rabbi!
He has a GREAT point!!
I love how religious people are able to twist the plain meaning of things like, "Don't make conversation with the woman" to mean "don’t objectify women." What a stretch!
He looks so adorable and resembles like dumbledoor in Harry Potter 😍😂
Very interesting.. but this piece of advice is almost impossible to apply in any group outside of the Orthodox Community.
'stopping the 'sin' before it happens...(genius!!)..'💙'..."The GooD'S!!"
Being intimate with the opposite sex is not a 'sin'. It's one of the greatest gifts G-d gave to man. Whether we appreciate, acknowledge or see the specialness of it is another story.
I think you meant that by not shaking hands the appreciation and respect of the other is retained, and the potential for sin, dramatically reduced? That’s what I got from your point, am I wrong?
@@nomorecensoringme How old are you?
Avoiding the occasion of sin, I learned this concept from a good Catholic lady.😇
Free love existed long before the 60s. Since we existed. But I agree with some of his points. I understand his position.
Not true.
It needs to be said that the roav created his own meaning here. The text quoted is: ואל תרבה שיחה עם האשה but next to it, it explains why the expression 'the woman' is used: באשתו אמרו their own wife is meant. (I.e. 'a woman' = any women, 'the women' = the wife.) I like the roav's explanation though, that a woman must not be seen as an object.
Not familiar with 'roav' I looked it up. Think you spelled it wrong. A 'rav', there are many, is a treasured/respected rabbi or sage.
@@nomorecensoringme 'Rav' (Aramaic 'rabbi') in its plain meaning means 'more' or 'great' in the sense of someone being more superior in knowledge than others. I use 'roav' because I learned Hebrew the Yemenite way, where the 'a' vowel in modern Hebrew is more like an 'o'. See 'kamatz' on wiki, under the sub: 'pronunciation and transliteration'.
@@RudydeGroot okay, so it's a typo. Noted.
Say "Baruch Hashem" with folded hands in a corporate workplace if men/women need to collaborate.
Very insightful
Amazing
I am an atheist and I found peace in his voice
Sounds like he is not socially adjustable to me. I have traveled all over the world and had great conversaions on planes with both sexes. I don't think he's an expert on relationships even though he might know about a lot about his religion.
He didn't live duringthe depression either, as my father did, and told me "there was a time in this country, when a man could have nothing but his word" and his handshake meant everything in a business deal".
I do agree with his statement that we have lost our respect for intimacy.
are we really over complicating basic human interaction
No mating rituals are an important form of information exchange.
I’m confused. So being friendly is too sexual? 🤷♀️
You don't know where anything can or will lead. Ever heard people say "it just happened"? How about: "We spent so much time together, it just happened"?
Don't, particularly in work, or you'll end up reported to HR.
Respect the intimacy.
Interesting.
I went right to the comment section.
Whe I was going to this church, on 15 birthday party the pastor shake hands with mi and run his finger in palm of my hand I felt discusting because he was the pastor and gave me confuse thoughts about him, I kept going to that churche but I never shake hands with him anymore....
That's a shame that the man violated your space that way. It's unfortunately his problem, that he tried to make yours. Good for you that you set up the boundary.
FYI this rabbi downplayed child sex abuse and his own son, Nisson Friedman was investigated and arrested for molesting boys at yeshiva. Be careful who you listen to
It's in Marx and Engels. Approximately at the middle.
I like his sentiments but that interpretation of "don't make conversation with the woman" is charitable to put it lightly. What that was meant at the time it was written is don't talk to the opposite sex in a casual way because we're prudes. He's putting a new age spin on it like most contemporary religious "teachers"
What you say it 'meant' and what we understand that it meant is different. This is not a cut and dry thing. Rabbis and sages discussed it at length.
This is religion. And. If you're more spiritual, you tend to play with this idea of 'skill,' as a human being, because how you learn about spirituality is not from texts, so much as it comes from insights into skill itself. So. If you're spiritually skilled, you tend to be alone, but you reserve the right to converse or not to converse. And you might be more attractive than average, or maybe the word is more 'skilled,' and when it's time to be 'tested' by life . . you don't make conversation, generally speaking, but you're always walking the 'razor's edge.' If religious people think things are getting boring and that they have a grasp on the teachings they have been studying, they should give themselves some leeway . . or not. Religion, alone, is a tough thing to focus on, when spirituality offers more freedom. And religious people can sometimes make inroads into spiritual freedom rather quickly. But. I think a religious teacher could see when someone, who wants more excitement, will end up taking 10,000 steps backwards. It's on you to decide.
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I appreciate the part about shaking hands.
I rarely shake a woman's hand. Because I don't offer and women rarely do. But I would rather do that than the constant hugging that goes on in many churches. I hug my wife and that's good enough for me.
I love this Rabbi!!!!!!!!! Awesome answers!!!!
Do you love this Rabbi or the style he use to talk about various topics?
Wow.
I actually wish you guys would stop complaining. That seems to be the only conversation you all have. Negative people with little to give but complaints.
I respect your view, but I think you can respect a person of the opposite sex for their non-sexual attributes making a handshake meaningful without the inappropriate feeling being a part of it. If there is attraction it could be problematic, but discipline is part of every social interaction.
Very meaningful post.
Easy to understand intelect, While being of a high intelect
Revelation 12:11
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You don’t touch anyone that’s not your wife … out of respect for her. That’s why you don’t shake her hand
The Torah is clear. Mitzvot.
Do not shake hands.
Do not salute.
Do not bow to any one except our Sovereign Creator.
Plato said something to the same effect: the wise speak because they have something to say. Fools speak because they have to.
Don't force interactions. Let them happen naturally.
Wtf is naturally though? My rhetorical question
As i remember, right here in America, there was a time that men did not shake a women's hand. If a man and women approached, you shook the man's, and nodded and acknowledged the woman. This seems to have gone away this century.
I will shake a woman's hand only if she offers hers first.
I love touching beautiful women. I force it
welcome to equality
There is no need to hug and kiss a woman on greeting them “it’s friendly” maybe. It’s also a breach of personal space, you’ve read the old poems…it can only take the whiff of her hair and the man has romantic notions. 😂 save yourself.
Just say hello, don’t offer your hand but receive hers.
Hand on your heart, respect.
Should I be kissing and hugging another man’s or my brothers wife. Obviously not. Boundaries.
as a person who view small talk as painful as getting your teeth pulled, I agree with this man.
I used to engage in small talks, especially with the ladies not because I wanted but rather because I sort of felt obligated. Same with the hand shaking but now, especially after recent experiences, over the last couple of years I decided to stop doing that. I have my reasons. And I'm 56 years old so I guess you never really stop growing.
Of course I've gained a lot of enemies who think I'm rude or what not but... couldn't care less. My few true friends (I probably have no more than four!) are okay with it. That's good enough for me!!!! 😉
I despise small talk.
@@archangelliii2536 curious why do you feel more obligated to make small talk with a woman than a man? does gender really matter?
@@metsrus Every time I see or hear a statement starting with "curious" that means you have a problem with it. Don't... that's my business! I guess with guys is different because psst...women and men ARE different. It's how GOD meant it to be. I don't give three rats what anybody else, especially freaking feminists, think. And THANK GOD for that! I don't want to be equals with women and vice versa... I hate it when women try to be equals with men! Never happens no matter how much libs have tried to change nature (that includes men pretending to be "women" and vice versa)...a woman is a woman will ALWAYS be a woman no matter what and the same with men. No freaking sex mutilation operation or mental illness or simply stupidity will ever change that.
@@archangelliii2536 “you’ll have to forgive me if I don’t shake hands” -doc holiday in tombstone film
The more the world becomes crazy more of us who never care about G-d are now caring. As an ex atheist I never though that I would ever listen to a Rabbi in my life. And here I am.
"God uses the foolish to confound the wise." The world runs out of answers, and it brings you here: to God! Welcome.
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That's wonderful.
i think there has been such ignorance and misunderstanding - by non-Jews - about the teachings of the Torah, when they are explained by someone as wise and eloquent as Rabbi Friedman these teachings and wisdoms are so beautiful that they make instant sense to so many that hear them and know them to be true
If I may ask. What convinced you to become ex atheist?
_"Is that sexist?"_
_"Yes."_
Rabbi Chad Friedman
Lol
I LOVED the silence and eye contact he gave after saying that. Just let it sit there and BURN
@@hotice8885 burn? you sound invested in hurting women. maybe Rabbi will find a lesson next time for the boys
@sardonyx Your reasoning skills have betrayed you. You are wrong both about whether the Rabbi was attacking girls AND about whether I was interested in _burning_ girls.
@@sardonyxsky By the way, this _entire lesson_ was "for the boys."
As a blind person, I can safely say that I feel at home when a person shakes my hand, being that person a man or a woman. It's like a substitute for the eye contact sighted people have.
I find long time married couples holding hands the sweetest thing, also there is a way of saying something without saying anything by sending flowers.
There are many gestures, men and women, can make to show caring and affection.
Lol, naked poetry 👌 I suppose nakedness in itself can be poetic and not just speaking in the physical sense.
How many people can say they have been emotionally naked?
“How naked go the sometimes nude”
It’s a poem
What can you say to a man
Well that's how humans are. We need marriage we need family. Too many women being single these days. And like the rabbi said sexual liberation hasn't worked out well for society
Me as a Latin American 🤭 where in our culture we tend to greet male and females with kisses on the cheek 💋
In our culture it could be considered rude not to.
Love the Rabbi tho
And as another Latino I tell you that's a bunch of bull. I couldn't agree more with the Rabbi. I hate hugs, handshakes and especially kisses. Although I agree the Latino culture tend to be like that, there are a few exceptions. I'm one of'em. I guess that's why I'm viewed as a "bicho raro" or weirdo where I grew up and even among family members although the latter got used to it a long time ago.(I'm 56!). Guess that's why I don't have too many friends. So be it. The four or so I have is all I want.
PD Males don't kiss each other where I grew up though...unless they were gay! (or Muslims 😅). Now kissing your dad is different of course.
Covid mudou esse costume, de shake hands, na minha opiniao.
That's true! Hugging and kissing on the cheeks is considered normal or common greetings and part of our Hispanic culture
@@archangelliii2536 I can't imagine life without hugs or kisses. You are strange, indeed. At least imo.
@@archangelliii2536 I know!!! I am mexican and I totally hate hugs and kisses... Unless is my mother or girlfriend... But that's It.
it's been a long time since i've seen someone of any religion have an authentic connection to deep wisdom.
thank you for devoting so much time and love to others!
I work in an office with lots of new professional clients coming in. They always reach out to shake hands. As a Muslim women who wears head scarf, I politely decline, but I also put my palm under my collar bone and say " nice to meet you". And I find people are very accepting of this alternative gesture.
I appreciate you clarifying this. I attended an after work social last month, and one of my Muslim colleagues invited his wife and kids to the event. Upon their departure, I reached out to his wife to shake hands, and she respectfully declined saying that she does not shake hands.
The social norm is for a man to wait for a woman to shake his hand.
A guy approached me with his fist for a fist bump 😆 I reciprocated, but I'm also not "married".
Everybody has different comfort levels.
I've seen a lot of Muslims hugging and cheek air kissing...I was told you don't kiss the cheek, but kiss past the cheek and any of that would be too close or uncomfortable for me if that person is not a close friend or relative...but that's not how I interact with friends or relatives. I guess interactions are what you agree to communicate based on your cultural background.
I wouldn't be offended of a rabbi not shaking my hand or making conversatio .
Plenty of other people available to engage in that manner. It's his preference and I can respect that.
@@lazy-gaga In the 1950s.
Shaking hands is not meaningless. Professional relationships are based on trust. I agree with the comment on free love- it never worked. Hippie guys used it to get laid.
I swear, the amount of things I've always known by intuition without ever having been told, taught, but, still doubted...only for some wise Rabbi to so solemnly confirm after all these years.
The difference with savvy and ignorants is the ability to explain complex concepts
'Wizened'?
@@nomorecensoringme Bro, what if I told you that was some silly choice of words on my part? For some reason, I always associated the word 'wizened' with 'wisdom from experience or old age'. Your asking made me check the dictionary just to spot the unintended meaning. Thanks.
It's the fitrah that God has put inside you
If you're interested in what it means, it means that Allah has put some inherent morals onto you, but it can be corrupted over time by the environment and cultures you're living in/with. It's a Muslim belief, if you're interested in this concept then you will have no hardships understanding Islam and it's fundamentals
Irony is: Don't make conversation
Me: Immediately scrolls down to post a comment in the conversation.
What he says doesn't just apply to intimacy
It also applies to intimate thoughts and protecting mental health.
Hence the Echochambers & Gaslighting Marathons & depression.
another layer to the irony is that strangers can obligate themselves to small talk when face to face, potentially even so-called friends, but still never know the depth of a person's psyche as conveyed in a comment
and it's all so impersonal ...
two women might make conversation because they feel more comfortable with each other...and maybe two men will too...I would feel uncomfortable conversing with a man...but what the Rabbi says is so true...flirting can get people into trouble and misunderstandings happen...and someone gets hurt...
I agree. Simple conversation, not even 'flirting', can be misunderstood and problematic.
The 😅
@@JohnCFee lol
I’d rather read the bs in flight magazine or stare at the seat in front of me than speak to anyone next to me. 🥱 people are draining
I like this man already before the 1:00 minute time stamp. That honest “yes” was powerful.
I love this topic. You made it so clear.
Yes he did.
It all makes sense to me now. I go to this yoga studio and have shaken hands with a couple of girls and wonder why there is this invisible field of animosity between me and them.
I am always learning. The handshake was less than a second long. I thought I had the right intentions but now I know better. I should completely respect the opposite sexes space.
Thank you for your insight!
Personally, I don't initiate hand shaking with either gender. They have to initiate. A nod is fine.
Extending a hand for a shake isn't disrespecting someone's "space", they don't have to put their hand out if they don't want to. If someone shakes your hand then its done willingly
@@SeamHead33 That’s a fair point
Sounds like they belong to the Hate group that's called Feminism
Used as an opportunity to make you feel uncomfortable 😊
I'm not a Jew but most of what he's saying is correct.
Atleast now I don't have to worry about not being able to talk to girls.
Good for you. I'm sure when you meet the girl you'll marry, you'll talk fine.
No. You need to learn to talk to girls. Then you'll have the freedom to ignore the ones you aren't interested in.
My wife never talks to me. Sandbags every conversation. She's left me 4 times. Making initial conversation with her was the biggest mistake of my entire life.
I never thought I'd be listening to a rabbi giving such practical wisdom
So glad for him. Wish it had been many years ago.
Shabbat Shalom to all, including your family and friends, who will enjoy being "intimate" with Hashem on this Yom tov.
Shalom!
“You can’t fool Mother Nature” 🎯💯✊🏽
I think, Rabbi Friedman, you gave the group a more comprehensive talk than they thought you might. It's refreshing, no matter how many talks I see you giving.
Billie Crystal has aged well and became wise.
First off, I think I've seen this guy in many stores at Christmas time sitting in a big chair with his red suit on taking orders from children of what's on their lists. Secondly, I wonder if he's really read all those books on the shelves behind him.
Isn’t he at a library?
I think you confuse him with someone, that's the headmaster of Hogwarts.
I too grew up in a culture where we dont talk too freely with the opposite sex. I always thought of it as a respectful cultural aspect. If there 8s something important to be said, it is different
I deliberately shake hands too long. I love the awkwardness it creates. There's a hint of innocence that resides in that moment.
The animal impulse
All the more reason not to shake your hand, man or woman.
@@nomorecensoringme yeah, in the end it doesn't really matter.
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@@Nomad1025 sounds like you were raised to assume that everyone knew beforehand how long a handshake should take. And anyone that differed was "slow"? Hahaha, intellectual insecurity in a nutshell.