I'm a practicing Catholic. I love this channel! Thank you for your help and wisdom. I am very grateful for your advise. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Rabbi.
Such helpful, wonderful, spiritual advice, and so thankful to this man, Rabbi. Does not matter one’s religion to benefit from his wisdom, knowledge, and perceptiveness.
That's also how the nazis came to power. Meaningless; proving only that succeeding generations are as stupid as their forebears. (Worms don't have legs for the same generational reasons.)
Probably because that contentment he talks about women having…does NOT describe the majority of modern women most men are exposed to. Like at all. “Happy wife, happy life” is a meme about the nagging discontented wife. Women make memes making fun of men being happy with undecorated apartments. Modern women’s dating standards can be defined as “more;” while women go on dates, men go on boyfriend job interviews. Wherever a relationship starts just sets a baseline for bigger future expectations. I’ve known very very few contented women. I’ve known far more that are willing to cheat than be happy with what they have.
Many of us women were raised to be men by home and society. Conditioned to have the masculine drive and initiative and reject our natural inclination. God is leading us back to being women
“her only real choice is to justify it…….or spend the rest of her life alone and unloved”. Why do you say that? Plenty of women leave an abusive relationship to find another, much healthier one. She is only unloved in a secular sense. If she is religious or spiritual she will know (even if she has buried it), that she IS love and IS loved by something far bigger than a human being.
A woman is designed to be cared for, loved, and cherished by her husband. Even if she leaves a bad relationship she will be forever wounded by not being loved as she was designed for.
Rabbi, I am not going to justify physical abuse in any situation or circumstance. I am a woman and I was raised in a family where there was never any peace or tranquility. I was unnecessarily abused as a child. I think it was cruel and inhumane and should never be allowed.
As a woman myself. What about what men wish women knew about males for a change? I've noticed that society these days seems to care almost solely about what women want and need, but never about men. Maybe that's what's led to lot of men facing psychological issues that are never dealt with, and many women feeling so entitled. Our boys are failing in school because of the gynocentric education system, so many of men are choosing to leave the world each year, they have no spaces left to call their own, I could go on. Men need us as much as we need them which makes them just as important, but even on here on TH-cam, all I ever see is pandering to women about how men need to do better for women. It's at the point where it seems that they can never do enough. Men are the ones who build everything and maintain it, not to mention protecting our society with their very lives, but there isn't much acknowledgement of that let alone appreciation.
I think it's because it's men's nature to provide and contain a woman, or more generally to provide and protect his tribe. So it's quite essential for men to know what women or society expect from them so that they can be useful.
I love the humour. It’s all true.. So marriage is actually about being what you really are at the highest frequency- husband and wife. Spark of life. One. The highest angels, at the highest level of heaven, are according to Emanuel Swedenborg, male and female as husband and wife .. as one. Eternally. Creating as one.
A woman who stays with a man even if it's a difficult relationship because she has children and the children need a father not because of other things it's not easy for a woman to just leave her husband and take care of the children
Woman can stay in relationships and signal everyday how unhappy she is. That's the most popular option. After some time her man totally disconnects emotionally to protect himself. Then she divorces. "Lack of emotional engagement" is the most common reason for divorce. I'm not surprised 😂 Cutting from my life my mother, sisters and wife gave me huge space to breathe and spread my wings emotionally. Finally I can be myself without constantly being on defense. In case of some "just punishment". If women don't stop this crusade against "abusive behavior" which is reacting with aggression to any discomfort they will be alone. Rightly so.
Husband and wife simply entwine like a vine,growing abundantly,and adapting together to become a stronger vine!Like separate ingredients in a cake,when mixed,we become sweeter and delicious!
Thank you 🙏🏽 and I realize more and more that the Rebbe is always right at least to me. This knowledge is buried in my soul and I was told that I am crazy … I am Jewish thats all.
Thank you, Rabbi, for answering a burning question for me about why men start wars when all I want is peace and contentment 😊. I do not understand why men do not learn from their mistakes in marriage. This is another burning question.
WRONG on every count. Lazarus Long devoted a chapter demonstrating that male/female relationships are MUCH simpler than all the modern waffle; and that we exist today BECAUSE of that simplicity. (and uses a lion pride to make the point). viz. ANY species exists because of two FACTS 1. The female's entire INSTINCT is to produce offspring (and that those living things have existed for a few billion years before god arrived proves that reality). 2. The male's entire instinct is to protect and nurture his offspring. Therefore: a Male lion will fight to the death to secure 'territory' (more lions die from that pursuit than all other causes combined). Lionesses (which nobody could call sissies) flock to the holder of territory and drop their knickers for two reasons: 1. Territory provides protection and a food-supply for her offspring, and 2.The lion who can win and defend territory against all comers is obviously the best GENETIC choice (from any point of view) to father her babies. END OF STORY. (and the first thing Leo does on winning the territory is to kill ALL the offspring of the previous owner: a task the lionesses have no argument with, since their father was not the carrier of the best possible genes. Even our millions of generations of ancestors understood and accepted that principle (otherwise we wouldn't be here today, talking bullshit!) What we call 'civilisation' and 'social standards' and 'morality' is scarcely more than a terminal cancer that's eating away at our species' existence. And cancers are always more vigorous and self-justifying than any other living cell. God will die when our species lies rotting where it falls. Probably sooner rather than later if the bible is anything to go by. (and the rest of creation will give a huge sigh of relief.)
"How could she justify that?" As someone with a female relative who has hopped from one abuser to the other to the other, it is rooted in psychological trauma. She believes she deserves abuse because of what happened to her.
Yes to this.The Creator created Something from Nothing. He saw something in nothing. Seeing the something in nothing is looking down from above, seeing the nothing in something is looking from below
"Creating something from nothing" would qualify as the MOST STUPID comment I've ever seen on TH-cam. (or anywhere else for that matter). It's JUST NOT POSSIBLE. And there are ample, undeniable PROOFS to demonstrate that. And to take it a step further, the FACT is that neither matter nor energy can be 'created' OR 'annihilated'. ie. the universe is INFINITE in both time and substance. ( helluva concept to get one's mind around; but still far simpler and demonstrable! the fairy-tale 'god' created just a few heartbeats ago by ignorant desert nomads to justify their existence.
A man needs to accomplish, A man needs to acquire, A man needs to create change, To produce something. To fight a war and win... Because if not then who needs him? Then he's nothing. Thats why men are aggressive. Aggressiveness is the need to accomplish. I fought a "war" once and lost. It was a war to prove to my self that everything I had been through in life... All of the (bad), The wrong decisions, All of the misfortune I faced, And some of my circumstances were not... or did not simply happen just because I was a failure. Or bad, Or because I made bad choices. Because I never "measured up" to some standard I cannot even quite tell you where is. I never learned how to "succeed". In a way I think that maybe I never really cared enough too. I just found a "reason" for it all. Other than my self I guess. And I found a fight. And that gave me and (it all) purpose and meaning. It justified why I had experienced all that I had out of life and I think some time while I fought that war I stopped looking at my self. I lost that war. And then after that I realized that it did not really bother me so much as I might have anticipated. Because I think I knew all along I would loose it. And that took from me all I had, Except an often challenging and miserable existence.
Rabbi Friedman saying men and women cannot understand each other is wrong. Hearing his explanation makes sense to me. I understand how men are and how we women are. This actually helps to understand each other.
I think it's fear.... A woman will fear leaving someone like that... Especially when children are involved.. I see what your saying though ... the thought processes you're talking about within gender...some Men can be so scary though... From experience they're usually incredibly insecure and unhealed.. too much pride and a false over inflated ego to ever look within and address themselves! Male or females can be like that.. I find a lot of men intimidating though!
also msm has completely screwed up with minds of woman. there is so much man on woman violence on netflix and news channels and hollywood and music videos, that how can you not be afraid of man ?
@@maklame3318 yes indeed projection and or possibly protecting my own fears definitely, males always shout at me 🤷 makes me nervous and I'm not the type of women to compete and or be 10 steps ahead.. gobby.. uses up to much energy plus you've got to be angry to get to that state and its too time consuming.. be nice in time if a nice gentle soul comes along..I actually do love men although it may sound otherwise ❤️
@@mariebarrett7177 i understand but we need to conquer our fears. Im a man and i was scared of talking with woman because all I could see is rejection. Good luck in your journey!!
From everything I'm hearing him say, except basically the first part, it make me think he dealt with a different species than I have for most of my life.
No need to convert to a religion. That peace is already inside of you. It’s from knowing something not believing something someone (a rabbi) said. He simply triggers your knowing that you know already. We are all teachers to one another.
Read the Torah and follow it . The whole Bible starting from genesis. But keep his Torah the first 5 books. We are grafted into Israel . We are gentiles able to be grafted into gods people and become an Israelite by faith .
That kind of man feeling useless if he has no project to work with is just one kind of man. My husband was not like that at all. It sufficed him if he had books to read, chess parties to play and I am the same way but I do study instead of chess. No kids alas, sorry.
Heres the sad reality. a GOOD woman will want to understand the man she is with and KNOW what he deals with. A woman is designed to complement a man. Not try to outdo him, not try to compete with him and NOT meant to just bear his children. NONE of those. They are needed to do as much EQUALLY as a man and not let their estrogen be an excuse for her gender.
What an interesting way to think about this. 🤔Men flee because they are afraid of being annihilated, women stay because of justification. But... That's not entirely true... The justification wasn't her own... Meaning it didnt come from her... She just accepted it as justification. He broke my arm because I scratched the car. Who told her that? Him. Justifying to himself why he hurt her. Why he chose to take out anger that he is holding inside out on her, that has nothing to do with her scratching the car. Which begins an emotional war within herself, because she HAS to find a way to justify it because someone who is abusive in that manner, has fully convinced her by that point that he is the only one in the whole world who would ever even love the likes of her. So her only real choice is to justify it... Or spend the rest of her life alone and unloved. Imagery is a very powerful tool used for manipulation. Male or female... We ALL have a conscience. Let's be frank here Rabbi. Men SUCK at dealing with emotions. Not just womens, but their own as well. Though some men have mastered the art of manipulating a woman's emotions to get what they want. 🤷♀️ Even before the society that started discouraging men from feeling, expressing, or even acknowledging their emotions, men just sucked at it. 🤷♀️ Its nothing personal. Its not even a flaw in their design. It is an imperfection that is made perfect with balance. We were created to compliment each others weaknesses... Meaning, where he is weak in dealing with his emotions when left unchecked, a woman is weak in controlling her emotions when left unchecked. But by working together they can bring balance to each others emotions.
That's merely a rationalisation of 'modern' philosophy; and is full of psychobabble holes. The ACTUAL explanation lies entirely in the realms of physical chemistry and (successful!) evolved instincts which are the product of the 'Laws of Nature'. Though your mis-spelling of "compliment" IS emblematic of today's (socially-inflicted) parameters. Haggling with a (female) creature so far from MY reality when a smack in the ear settles the issue immediately is an absolute waste of MY time/life. (AND, as ALL the evidence demonstrates: the most basic solution to any issue! ) As god SHOULD'VE said (in support of the Laws of Nature he 'created from nothing'): "Might makes Right".
@@dabbbles 🤔 I have no idea what pointing out my misspelling was supposed to show, but FYI... It was one of two things... I am slightly dyslexic and didn't catch the error... Or... I spelled it correctly and my spell correct changed it because I have misspelled it before and I did not catch it this time. 🤷♀️ Which is a far cry from being "socially inflicted". 👍 As far as everything else... Well. It sounds to me like you've done far more book learning than actual learning through experience. You ought to try it. 👍 Those lessons include Wisdom... Which your comment was devoid of. 🤷♀️ Have a nice day. 🙋♀️ P.S. You misspelled rationalization. 👍😂
@@observeroflife0000 Wasn't meant to show anything. And of course we all make typos. Yours ('compliment' in place of 'complement' was very funny in the light of your general comments: suggesting men and women should "Say something to each other that expresses praise"
@@observeroflife0000 PS Check out 'Wordweb' or ANY dictionary. Not only is 'rationalisation' a valid optional spelling, but is used far more than the archaic 'rationaliZation'. As for 'wisdom/experience/booklearning/ etc.:- At 78yo and with and ( OFFICIAL IQ of 162) ~ along with 'experiences' beyond what you could imagine (including making the front pages of the newspapers here and overseas more than once) and a fairly comprehensive list of (mostly classical though many contemporary) books read I'd match my 'wisdom' with yours or anyone else's. Much of that came from a thorough knowledge of Shakespeare.
@@dabbbles You have no idea how much I scrutinize over my comments and their accuracy... And how much TH-cam messes with me sometimes... Seriously. I had to retype the last half part of that last comment three times to get it right... I thought... Until I saw the "he" instead of "be" and decided I was tired of retyping the whole thing because the last half disappeared when I went to edit... One stinking word... 😵💫 Forget about it man... I know you know what I meant... 😂 Oh but no. Expressing praise is different than simply complimenting each other's weaknesses. That's not literal like... Oh hey... You suck at this but I like it anyway... Or I am going to "fix" it. Simply put it is men are not aware enough of their emotions, and women are over aware... But together we can bring balance to each other. 👍
In a way a woman ( wife) civilized her husbansd.. Teaches him to learn to Intuitive side of being a FULL Human Being & to "educate him" from the Intuitive side of the Ying/yang Divine Masculine & Divine FEMININE. Her Husband Needs to be Appreciated Acknowledged ( Thanked) for his efforts. Taken for Granted kills relating to each other properly.
marriage has nothing to do with relationships. my god said it is old technology to pass on estates and assets when his calling comes. togetherness is a better term
As men and women were not supposed to get along, we just need eachother to make life happen, we will never get eachother or understand eachtoher on a deep level it's all just surface level, get to the point type of thing.
goodness! I hope while the Rabbi is speaking or presenting, individuals will refrain from interrupting. It's acceptable to laugh at humor during the lecture, but interruptions are disruptive.
This does not apply to hunting gathering societies. The anthropological pattern is the family & dwelling belongs to mom. Judaism retains hunting gathering roots in that being Jewish is matrilineal. Hunting gathering societies are gender equal. Except for the artic (where hunting brought in more food than gathering) women brought in more food than men. Except for the artic 8O % of what was eaten were plants & were gathered.
@@sofiayudelzon4830 If it's part of human psychology, hunting gatherers did it. If you define human as homo sapiens we were hunting gatherers for 99% of the time we've been here (for those of us who accept evolutionary theory; the rabbi may not . . . .)
Basic flaw: There is no such thing as 'equality' anywhere in the universe. It's no more than a concept we've invented in order to make our arithmetic work.
Human earthling dna was tweaked by ET’s. It’s all through the Old Testament. So the bible is about the battles between Enlil who hated the humanity that his brother Enki (the progressive geneticist) created to be sovereign and powerful just like him (Enki) We are Extraterrestrial beings. Enlil/Yahweh won the battle over humans by dumbing us down .. tweaking our 12 strand dna. Making us slaves. Husband and wife creating are the spark of life .. fractal of Source.
Every person can only speak from Himself or herself. The biggest mistake is someone speaking about people in groups. We are All individuals each one specially crafted and made in the exclusive image of God that is why we can ALL be unique and different. If not even the fingerprints of two people match, we can be sure that it is a fact that no person is "made of dust" as this man puts it. Don't hang any label around your neck listening to the opinion of one person. Look to God and remember YOU ARE WHAT GOD SAYS YOU ARE. love someone or leave them alone. It is just your opinion about them.
Where are those women Jewish and gentile,as they get educated to be free &indipendent,and have every thing what man can provide, Sadest part is never in history of mankind,Educated single women whole life provided free sex,,as Every natural man dreams to be one with woman,to provide her meterial needs for being his wife.Women are equal to men,but In older days women were thier own responsibilities,in life and in family,but now when women have every thing they need,Men are puzzled what woman need in present days other than paying the bill,even woman are working,and have almost equal salaries.Woman have become just like men snd strong snd mischievious and verbal abusers,that man can't face. Working as single is not, to the plan of gods intentions.
Instead he runs and accomplishes his work needs for other men's vehicles. 3 marriages and 3 divorces from this same man. Promises much, delivers slim. So this is not true for all relationships. He abuses me now with name calling and gets in my face. I'm content in a home I bought myself and studying TORAH. He doesn't want that. He loves his metal car works, doesn't seek Hashem😢
I'm a practicing Catholic. I love this channel! Thank you for your help and wisdom. I am very grateful for your advise. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Rabbi.
Same, as a Catholic this channel is very helpful
Same here! 😉
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Such helpful, wonderful, spiritual advice, and so thankful to this man, Rabbi. Does not matter one’s religion to benefit from his wisdom, knowledge, and perceptiveness.
Men need to feel needed and respected, women to feel special and appreciated 😊
Both men and women need what you just said. What the rabbi is trying to say is that women are morally intuitive and men are self-preserving.
Basics that have been lost to many people and not passed down from generation to generation
That's also how the nazis came to power. Meaningless; proving only that succeeding generations are as stupid as their forebears. (Worms don't have legs for the same generational reasons.)
how does this not have millions of views? it could help so many people. thank you!
Probably because that contentment he talks about women having…does NOT describe the majority of modern women most men are exposed to. Like at all.
“Happy wife, happy life” is a meme about the nagging discontented wife. Women make memes making fun of men being happy with undecorated apartments. Modern women’s dating standards can be defined as “more;” while women go on dates, men go on boyfriend job interviews. Wherever a relationship starts just sets a baseline for bigger future expectations.
I’ve known very very few contented women. I’ve known far more that are willing to cheat than be happy with what they have.
Jewish wisdom, I always resonate with it. Sometimes it's on a very simple level and sometimes it's very deep.
I am catholic too and enjoying Rabbi Manis Friedmans great spiritual advice!
Many of us women were raised to be men by home and society. Conditioned to have the masculine drive and initiative and reject our natural inclination. God is leading us back to being women
“her only real choice is to justify it…….or spend the rest of her life alone and unloved”. Why do you say that? Plenty of women leave an abusive relationship to find another, much healthier one.
She is only unloved in a secular sense. If she is religious or spiritual she will know (even if she has buried it), that she IS love and IS loved by something far bigger than a human being.
you know males are dishonest.
A woman is designed to be cared for, loved, and cherished by her husband. Even if she leaves a bad relationship she will be forever wounded by not being loved as she was designed for.
@@MaryAnnNewsom She can heal. It's not so Black and White.
@@MaryAnnNewsom 🎯🎯🎯🎯
Maybe she was wounded before so now it's very easy to hurt her?
It's how it usually goes.
Rabbi, I am not going to justify physical abuse in any situation or circumstance. I am a woman and I was raised in a family where there was never any peace or tranquility. I was unnecessarily abused as a child. I think it was cruel and inhumane and should never be allowed.
As a woman myself. What about what men wish women knew about males for a change? I've noticed that society these days seems to care almost solely about what women want and need, but never about men. Maybe that's what's led to lot of men facing psychological issues that are never dealt with, and many women feeling so entitled. Our boys are failing in school because of the gynocentric education system, so many of men are choosing to leave the world each year, they have no spaces left to call their own, I could go on.
Men need us as much as we need them which makes them just as important, but even on here on TH-cam, all I ever see is pandering to women about how men need to do better for women. It's at the point where it seems that they can never do enough.
Men are the ones who build everything and maintain it, not to mention protecting our society with their very lives, but there isn't much acknowledgement of that let alone appreciation.
Good point - that one's coming tomorrow... 🙂 Stay tuned!
The reality you're describing is sadly true, of course.
But have you explored the rest of Rabbi Friedman's channel?
I think it's because it's men's nature to provide and contain a woman, or more generally to provide and protect his tribe. So it's quite essential for men to know what women or society expect from them so that they can be useful.
Wow!
The Rabbi did say that men need to be needed and ironically what you are pointing out Mmmm.
Thanks!
I love the humour.
It’s all true..
So marriage is actually about being what you really are at the highest frequency- husband and wife. Spark of life. One.
The highest angels, at the highest level of heaven, are according to Emanuel Swedenborg, male and female as husband and wife .. as one. Eternally. Creating as one.
A woman who stays with a man even if it's a difficult relationship because she has children and the children need a father not because of other things it's not easy for a woman to just leave her husband and take care of the children
So she justifies her staying with those reasons
Woman can stay in relationships and signal everyday how unhappy she is.
That's the most popular option.
After some time her man totally disconnects emotionally to protect himself.
Then she divorces.
"Lack of emotional engagement" is the most common reason for divorce. I'm not surprised 😂
Cutting from my life my mother, sisters and wife gave me huge space to breathe and spread my wings emotionally.
Finally I can be myself without constantly being on defense.
In case of some "just punishment".
If women don't stop this crusade against "abusive behavior" which is reacting with aggression to any discomfort they will be alone.
Rightly so.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!!
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Wish you and everybody here a blessed and positive day!!
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Husband and wife simply entwine like a vine,growing abundantly,and adapting together to become a stronger vine!Like separate ingredients in a cake,when mixed,we become sweeter and delicious!
Thank you 🙏🏽 and I realize more and more that the Rebbe is always right at least to me.
This knowledge is buried in my soul and I was told that I am crazy … I am Jewish thats all.
God must love morons (aka jews??) because he made so MANY of them.
OMG!!! Are you suggesting the 'rebbe' is my mother-in-law??? SHE"S always right, too. Just ask her!
Wow! Love this conversation, it makes so much sense.
Beautiful knowledge and wisdom, thanks for sharing 😊
Great and supportive idea, thanj you!
This was very useful, toda rabah!
Thank you, Rabbi, for answering a burning question for me about why men start wars when all I want is peace and contentment 😊. I do not understand why men do not learn from their mistakes in marriage. This is another burning question.
TRUE. They go through changes and 'expect' what a woman should do to please them.
WRONG on every count. Lazarus Long devoted a chapter demonstrating that male/female relationships are MUCH simpler than all the modern waffle; and that we exist today BECAUSE of that simplicity. (and uses a lion pride to make the point). viz. ANY species exists because of two FACTS 1. The female's entire INSTINCT is to produce offspring (and that those living things have existed for a few billion years before god arrived proves that reality). 2. The male's entire instinct is to protect and nurture his offspring. Therefore: a Male lion will fight to the death to secure 'territory' (more lions die from that pursuit than all other causes combined). Lionesses (which nobody could call sissies) flock to the holder of territory and drop their knickers for two reasons: 1. Territory provides protection and a food-supply for her offspring, and 2.The lion who can win and defend territory against all comers is obviously the best GENETIC choice (from any point of view) to father her babies. END OF STORY. (and the first thing Leo does on winning the territory is to kill ALL the offspring of the previous owner: a task the lionesses have no argument with, since their father was not the carrier of the best possible genes. Even our millions of generations of ancestors understood and accepted that principle (otherwise we wouldn't be here today, talking bullshit!) What we call 'civilisation' and 'social standards' and 'morality' is scarcely more than a terminal cancer that's eating away at our species' existence. And cancers are always more vigorous and self-justifying than any other living cell. God will die when our species lies rotting where it falls. Probably sooner rather than later if the bible is anything to go by. (and the rest of creation will give a huge sigh of relief.)
Marriage is a perversion of the laws of nature AND god. One cannot learn from a mistake WITHIN a mistake.
So men can learn from their mistakes after the marriage is over, I’ve noticed.
@@MariaElena51185 Mmmm, interesting observation.
"How could she justify that?"
As someone with a female relative who has hopped from one abuser to the other to the other, it is rooted in psychological trauma. She believes she deserves abuse because of what happened to her.
Deep wisdom !
Thank you Rabbi !
Thank you Rabbi.
I'm so glad I found your videos. I've been binging on them ❤
The new VIP invitation is clever :)
Such an important message for our times!!!
You're BRILLIANT Rabbi!!!!❤❤❤
wHEN A PERSON BECOMES NOTHING IT DOESNT TAKE MUCH LOVE TO MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE EVERYTHING.
Yes to this.The Creator created Something from Nothing. He saw something in nothing. Seeing the something in nothing is looking down from above, seeing the nothing in something is looking from below
"Creating something from nothing" would qualify as the MOST STUPID comment I've ever seen on TH-cam. (or anywhere else for that matter). It's JUST NOT POSSIBLE. And there are ample, undeniable PROOFS to demonstrate that.
And to take it a step further, the FACT is that neither matter nor energy can be 'created' OR 'annihilated'. ie. the universe is INFINITE in both time and substance. ( helluva concept to get one's mind around; but still far simpler and demonstrable! the fairy-tale 'god' created just a few heartbeats ago by ignorant desert nomads to justify their existence.
So much wisdom ! ..Thankyou so much Rabbi Manis Friedman I am Grateful for the wisdom you teach ....
When a man keeps finding fault in a woman to fix. When there’s nothing to be fixed. Let people be!
Both sexes errantly try to “fix” eachother.
A man needs to accomplish,
A man needs to acquire,
A man needs to create change,
To produce something.
To fight a war and win...
Because if not then who needs him?
Then he's nothing.
Thats why men are aggressive.
Aggressiveness is the need to accomplish.
I fought a "war" once and lost.
It was a war to prove to my self that everything I had been through in life...
All of the (bad),
The wrong decisions,
All of the misfortune I faced,
And some of my circumstances were not... or did not simply happen just because I was a failure.
Or bad,
Or because I made bad choices.
Because I never "measured up" to some standard I cannot even quite tell you where is.
I never learned how to "succeed".
In a way I think that maybe I never really cared enough too.
I just found a "reason" for it all.
Other than my self I guess.
And I found a fight.
And that gave me and (it all) purpose and meaning.
It justified why I had experienced all that I had out of life and I think some time while I fought that war I stopped looking at my self.
I lost that war.
And then after that I realized that it did not really bother me so much as I might have anticipated.
Because I think I knew all along I would loose it.
And that took from me all I had,
Except an often challenging and miserable existence.
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Rabbi Friedman saying men and women cannot understand each other is wrong. Hearing his explanation makes sense to me. I understand how men are and how we women are. This actually helps to understand each other.
What do you say about the curse over men and women in Genesis 3,16 and 17?
Before the curse, things seemed to be going well between Adam and Eve.
Weehhhh, how i love his teaching.
Thank you rabbi
wOMEN ARE ONLY IN IT FOR THE LOVE AND EFFECTION ,WE WILL GO THROUGH HELL TO BE WITH YOU.
Thank you
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I think it's fear.... A woman will fear leaving someone like that... Especially when children are involved.. I see what your saying though ... the thought processes you're talking about within gender...some Men can be so scary though... From experience they're usually incredibly insecure and unhealed.. too much pride and a false over inflated ego to ever look within and address themselves! Male or females can be like that.. I find a lot of men intimidating though!
all fear is projection
also msm has completely screwed up with minds of woman. there is so much man on woman violence on netflix and news channels and hollywood and music videos, that how can you not be afraid of man ?
@@maklame3318 yes indeed projection and or possibly protecting my own fears definitely, males always shout at me 🤷 makes me nervous and I'm not the type of women to compete and or be 10 steps ahead.. gobby.. uses up to much energy plus you've got to be angry to get to that state and its too time consuming.. be nice in time if a nice gentle soul comes along..I actually do love men although it may sound otherwise ❤️
@@mariebarrett7177 i understand but we need to conquer our fears. Im a man and i was scared of talking with woman because all I could see is rejection.
Good luck in your journey!!
@@maklame3318 thank you. And you.
Blessed be the Donator of your brain🤲🏻
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That's so true feeling justified for the abuse you get you feel you deserve it
It's what every abuser does: framing abuse as a justice.
Thank you!!!!
From everything I'm hearing him say, except basically the first part, it make me think he dealt with a different species than I have for most of my life.
Thank you Rabbi Manis Friedman! As always you are saying something here regarding men and women which is making lot of sense for our learning.
Thank You Rabbi. Shalom/ Salahm/ ✌
How do I be part of a Jewish faith if I wasn't raised Jewish. I have been here to listen to you speak for weeks now and I find peace in your faith.
Y'can get the same ignorant effect from Alice in Wonderland. Or 'The life and times of Donald Duck' (and at least we can PROVE that ducks exist.
Forget it Toots! ANYthing that depends upon 'belief' simply means there's not a scrap of EVIDENCE to support it. Proof doesn't require 'belief'.
You have to go to a Rabbi and start studies to convert unless you want to be a Noahide.
No need to convert to a religion. That peace is already inside of you. It’s from knowing something not believing something someone (a rabbi) said. He simply triggers your knowing that you know already. We are all teachers to one another.
Read the Torah and follow it . The whole Bible starting from genesis. But keep his Torah the first 5 books. We are grafted into Israel . We are gentiles able to be grafted into gods people and become an Israelite by faith .
Most man want to take they dont give...only if they recrive first
a taker has a past history of being used. most men now dont even have loving mothers let alone a woman in their life.
What about when they move in the house and the wife starts finding something wrong with the house?
I got so emotional after listening to you I am so confused
Wooow ❤so true
This should be tought
This is so amazing 😲😍. Do not accept men and women who ain't sync with values amazing ...comments
So good !!!!!!!
Wow thats so true
That kind of man feeling useless if he has no project to work with is just one kind of man. My husband was not like that at all.
It sufficed him if he had books to read,
chess parties to play and I am the same way but I do study instead of chess. No kids alas, sorry.
Heres the sad reality. a GOOD woman will want to understand the man she is with and KNOW what he deals with. A woman is designed to complement a man. Not try to outdo him, not try to compete with him and NOT meant to just bear his children. NONE of those. They are needed to do as much EQUALLY as a man and not let their estrogen be an excuse for her gender.
But what if a woman does have the desire to accomplish? I feel i have a strong need and desire to accomplish
Sometimes GOD puts something my way...thankyou
so much wisdom
Do all men agree with what he is saying?
Good question
What an interesting way to think about this. 🤔Men flee because they are afraid of being annihilated, women stay because of justification.
But...
That's not entirely true...
The justification wasn't her own... Meaning it didnt come from her... She just accepted it as justification.
He broke my arm because I scratched the car.
Who told her that? Him. Justifying to himself why he hurt her. Why he chose to take out anger that he is holding inside out on her, that has nothing to do with her scratching the car.
Which begins an emotional war within herself, because she HAS to find a way to justify it because someone who is abusive in that manner, has fully convinced her by that point that he is the only one in the whole world who would ever even love the likes of her. So her only real choice is to justify it... Or spend the rest of her life alone and unloved.
Imagery is a very powerful tool used for manipulation.
Male or female... We ALL have a conscience.
Let's be frank here Rabbi. Men SUCK at dealing with emotions. Not just womens, but their own as well.
Though some men have mastered the art of manipulating a woman's emotions to get what they want. 🤷♀️
Even before the society that started discouraging men from feeling, expressing, or even acknowledging their emotions, men just sucked at it. 🤷♀️
Its nothing personal. Its not even a flaw in their design. It is an imperfection that is made perfect with balance.
We were created to compliment each others weaknesses...
Meaning, where he is weak in dealing with his emotions when left unchecked, a woman is weak in controlling her emotions when left unchecked.
But by working together they can bring balance to each others emotions.
That's merely a rationalisation of 'modern' philosophy; and is full of psychobabble holes. The ACTUAL explanation lies entirely in the realms of physical chemistry and (successful!) evolved instincts which are the product of the 'Laws of Nature'.
Though your mis-spelling of "compliment" IS emblematic of today's (socially-inflicted) parameters. Haggling with a (female) creature so far from MY reality when a smack in the ear settles the issue immediately is an absolute waste of MY time/life. (AND, as ALL the evidence demonstrates: the most basic solution to any issue! ) As god SHOULD'VE said (in support of the Laws of Nature he 'created from nothing'): "Might makes Right".
@@dabbbles 🤔 I have no idea what pointing out my misspelling was supposed to show, but FYI... It was one of two things... I am slightly dyslexic and didn't catch the error...
Or... I spelled it correctly and my spell correct changed it because I have misspelled it before and I did not catch it this time. 🤷♀️ Which is a far cry from being "socially inflicted". 👍
As far as everything else... Well. It sounds to me like you've done far more book learning than actual learning through experience.
You ought to try it. 👍 Those lessons include Wisdom... Which your comment was devoid of. 🤷♀️ Have a nice day. 🙋♀️
P.S.
You misspelled rationalization. 👍😂
@@observeroflife0000 Wasn't meant to show anything. And of course we all make typos. Yours ('compliment' in place of 'complement' was very funny in the light of your general comments: suggesting men and women should "Say something to each other that expresses praise"
@@observeroflife0000 PS Check out 'Wordweb' or ANY dictionary. Not only is 'rationalisation' a valid optional spelling, but is used far more than the archaic 'rationaliZation'.
As for 'wisdom/experience/booklearning/ etc.:- At 78yo and with and ( OFFICIAL IQ of 162) ~ along with 'experiences' beyond what you could imagine (including making the front pages of the newspapers here and overseas more than once) and a fairly comprehensive list of (mostly classical though many contemporary) books read I'd match my 'wisdom' with yours or anyone else's. Much of that came from a thorough knowledge of Shakespeare.
@@dabbbles You have no idea how much I scrutinize over my comments and their accuracy...
And how much TH-cam messes with me sometimes...
Seriously. I had to retype the last half part of that last comment three times to get it right... I thought... Until I saw the "he" instead of "be" and decided I was tired of retyping the whole thing because the last half disappeared when I went to edit... One stinking word... 😵💫
Forget about it man... I know you know what I meant... 😂
Oh but no. Expressing praise is different than simply complimenting each other's weaknesses. That's not literal like...
Oh hey... You suck at this but I like it anyway... Or I am going to "fix" it. Simply put it is men are not aware enough of their emotions, and women are over aware... But together we can bring balance to each other. 👍
True 👍
I dont get this completely because from my own experience I felt the need to prove something. Maybe not as a woman, but as a child in special ed
Christian Church do not talk about this kind of stuff. Never heard of it. Modern Church has failed?
We can reach absolute zero here. Men have been struggling too I know.
In a way a woman ( wife) civilized her husbansd.. Teaches him to learn to Intuitive side of being a FULL Human Being & to "educate him" from the Intuitive side of the Ying/yang Divine Masculine & Divine FEMININE. Her Husband Needs to be Appreciated Acknowledged ( Thanked) for his efforts. Taken for Granted kills relating to each other properly.
If they live on separate islands, how you gonna keep the men away from the women's island?
Now I know there is so much difference in between male an d female 😮
It might just be where I live though lol
Woman, women, girl, not female. Female is an adjective, not a noun.
This is profound to me. Thank you
marriage has nothing to do with relationships. my god said it is old technology to pass on estates and assets when his calling comes. togetherness is a better term
As men and women were not supposed to get along, we just need eachother to make life happen, we will never get eachother or understand eachtoher on a deep level it's all just surface level, get to the point type of thing.
Now I know why my marriage failed. 😢
who and what decided my discernment.
i WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A REAL CONVERSTION WITH YOU BUT DONT KNOW HOW.
ND INTIMACY IS THE KEY.
lol ded read your comments.. But YES!! That's why God created Marriage.
Broken emotions,her contribution
goodness! I hope while the Rabbi is speaking or presenting,
individuals will refrain from interrupting.
It's acceptable to laugh at humor during the lecture,
but interruptions are disruptive.
It’s so nice to hear this from him, confirming everything the great Patrice O’Neal talked about
I Believe 1 of. Woman's Role is to encourage & Inspire & Appreciate her Husband.
Nope. The role is to have children and look after them when they are little, he is to support them.
Not saying she won’t appreciate him for his care..
Some people are givers, others are takers, If only I could be a taker, so I could just get stuff, ez lifee.
no you pay for it later with your conscience getting dirtier
Moral judgment is involved in all thinking.
Making excuses for immoral behaviors destroys logical thinking.
Morality protects both parties involved.
This does not apply to hunting gathering societies. The anthropological pattern is the family & dwelling belongs to mom. Judaism retains hunting gathering roots in that being Jewish is matrilineal. Hunting gathering societies are gender equal. Except for the artic (where hunting brought in more food than gathering) women brought in more food than men. Except for the artic 8O % of what was eaten were plants & were gathered.
I think Rabbi was talking not on a social equalty, but psycological differences...
@@sofiayudelzon4830 If it's part of human psychology, hunting gatherers did it. If you define human as homo sapiens we were hunting gatherers for 99% of the time we've been here (for those of us who accept evolutionary theory; the rabbi may not . . . .)
Basic flaw: There is no such thing as 'equality' anywhere in the universe. It's no more than a concept we've invented in order to make our arithmetic work.
Human earthling dna was tweaked by ET’s. It’s all through the Old Testament. So the bible is about the battles between Enlil who hated the humanity that his brother Enki (the progressive geneticist) created to be sovereign and powerful just like him (Enki)
We are Extraterrestrial beings. Enlil/Yahweh won the battle over humans by dumbing us down .. tweaking our 12 strand dna. Making us slaves.
Husband and wife creating are the spark of life .. fractal of Source.
The part in this video where he suggests men are never content is literally backwards…
Halelulah
שבת שלום לך ולשלך אמן אמן ואמן😊
You don't say??!!!
Every person can only speak from Himself or herself. The biggest mistake is someone speaking about people in groups. We are All individuals each one specially crafted and made in the exclusive image of God that is why we can ALL be unique and different. If not even the fingerprints of two people match, we can be sure that it is a fact that no person is "made of dust" as this man puts it. Don't hang any label around your neck listening to the opinion of one person. Look to God and remember YOU ARE WHAT GOD SAYS YOU ARE. love someone or leave them alone. It is just your opinion about them.
Husband has a greater responsibility…a wife has her responsibilities 👍🏾
I see so many twisted and upside down models
Where are those women Jewish and gentile,as they get educated to be free &indipendent,and have every thing what man can provide,
Sadest part is never in history of mankind,Educated single women whole life provided free sex,,as Every natural man dreams to be one with woman,to provide her meterial needs for being his wife.Women are equal to men,but In older days women were thier own responsibilities,in life and in family,but now when women have every thing they need,Men are puzzled what woman need in present days other than paying the bill,even woman are working,and have almost equal salaries.Woman have become just like men snd strong snd mischievious and verbal abusers,that man can't face.
Working as single is not, to the plan of gods intentions.
???? I've ALWAYS been "one with women"; lots and lots of them.😉
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Instead he runs and accomplishes his work needs for other men's vehicles. 3 marriages and 3 divorces from this same man. Promises much, delivers slim. So this is not true for all relationships. He abuses me now with name calling and gets in my face. I'm content in a home I bought myself and studying TORAH. He doesn't want that. He loves his metal car works, doesn't seek Hashem😢
I love you and tuerd you
GOD the FATHER, created ADAM in HIS IMAGE & LIKENESS. & GODDESS the MOTHER created EVE in HER IMAGE & LIKENESS.
I would go to war with no quarter over my family but won’t go to war for honor
Gr888😂
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No way Rabbi