I’m 26, just got my first apartment. With everything going on, with all these crazy women screaming and shouting nonsense, it honestly makes me want to stay single. Sex isn’t valued anymore and a faithful wife seems hard to find. Plz pray for me and all other single men/women who are actually looking for a good relationship
Where you are with crazy women screaming is a puzzle. You're talking about things in a confused way. Sex isn't supposed to be valued. It's a carnal act between people. Let me guess if you 'stay single you'd still have sex since you don't want to do without that. Right? Just the responsibility of what it is and what it's meant for. IntImacy is supposed to be valued. That's between a husband and wife. Not between a man and woman. Women aren't to be faithful anymore than men are. A husband should be. A wife should be. That faithfulness is not limited to the bedroom. It's to the marriage. To the family. Husband and wife versus man and woman isn't simply word play. It's reality. I hope you learn what it all means. I pray that you learn more so that you marry, have a family as G-d intended for us to do. It's not good to be alone.
Just keep doing the right thing. Based on what you wrote in your comment you are already on the right track. Being single is not the worst thing at all but being with the wrong person for the sake of being with someone can cause a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering. I have 2 boys that are 29 and 30. God Bless you and all our younger generation.
I’m a 47 year old man, and losing my virginity when I was 15, I still always felt that once I had sex with a girl, we had a bond. It was a special bridge we crossed together and created a bond I had never before known. She didn’t always feel that way, needless to say. I later got married for 9 years and we had a son together. I divorced her for cheating on me with 2 different men. I simply can’t empathize with any human being that would flush everything meaningful down the toilet for a few minutes of lust and pleasure. I’m not a perfect man and I won’t throw stones. I just felt I could no longer respect my wife the way I should after the infidelity. My son is now 13 and I never speak badly about his mother. She has gone on to online dating and showing herself on social media. I remain respectful and focus on raising my son to be a good man. I hope this helps someone struggling with a relationship. God bless you all!
My father walked out of the picture a long time ago, it warms my heart to see you doing your best for your child. I know he'll raise his kids right too.
I applaud you sir. My parents divorced and my father was always running down my mom. It screws up a kids mind. The high road is best but not always easy to take.
It's one thing to say an ex cheated but when you say how many people they cheated on you with, shows you're still holding onto a lot of pain. You're also telling us what she's up to which isn't a good sign. The pain is still consuming you, otherwise you wouldn't have gone into that much detail. Maybe that's why she cheated as you're showing us all you're weak. Your child will always be a reminder of your pain, of what she did to you. Sadly, being a good man dont get you far in this world. Women will walk all over you talking the way you are.
This man is speaking absolute sense, we have lost a lot of the value of intimacy due to the pornographers and the attitudes that go with it, it’s taken me till my 50’s to really learn this, great speech!
@@b.m.t.h.3961 Its also the only option for a shit ton of guys. Hundreds of millions of us use it every day, some more than others. I think in moderation it does some good for us lonely men.
@@b.m.t.h.3961Why is there demand for it in the first place? Probably due to inter-male competition resulting in clandestine behaviour due to institutionalized amatonormativity (cooperation maintenance hypothesis: not peer reviewed). Probably depends on a specific socioecological environment: pan troglodytes proactive political games over status, dispersed fertile females and offspring compared to pan paniscus society based on more or less egalitarian female/male coalitions and playful prosociality/sociosexuality for promotion of group stability regardless of age and gender as a byproduct of domestication syndrome (Richard Wrangham). Not sure about Trobrianders, Kaluli, Sambia people, Marind Anim, Piraha, Big Namba, Ache, Mosuo and all the extinct undocumented hunter-gatherer societies with different effects on epigenetic expression.
I’m 24. People my age are so self centred it’s all about what they want and need and not about anyone else. How are you supposed to find intimacy with someone who doesn’t care about anyone but themselves? We are living in a narcissistic world now. People are scared of being vulnerable especially men that’s why suicide in men is massive now because there’s no intimacy or vulnerability so therefore no safe space for them to express their feelings. Intimacy comes from expression! So then the women act all tough and think well I don’t need them I can do it alone, they then let go of the intimacy for fear of being used. The lack of intimacy in the world now is LITERALLY killing people.
The best part is dying and never having to remember the intellectual hatred of "men" and other ways of obsessing about us without loving us like this dipstick talking 👄
Unfortunately men can't open up. Both men and women shame them for being emotional. It's just part of being a man. You go on because you have no choice.
ummm women don't open up about their feelings & work on them either. I've not met many females or males who actually deeply wanted to become a better person.
Give me strength Heavenly Father, I come to you today asking for your blessings as a single mom. My husband is in heaven with you. I’m raising my children with strength and courage, despite the challenges I face with my sons both being autistic. Lord as I struggle to pay my rent every month and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. I ask that you bless me with your wisdom and guidance, as I navigate parenthood on my own heal my lupus and heart disease and continue to give me strength to keep going so I may watch my sons grow into men. ❤
I have reported you again. Four years of scamming. You should be ashamed. I am sorry i ever beleived you. Gave you advice. Seek help elsewhere and quit spamming and begging. FOUR YEARS !!!
You have your share of challenges to overcome. That can enrich your existence. Blessings to your family. My friends son has autism. He's 32 now. He was in school from age 2-20, including in a public high school. He's been working at Home Depot for over 8 years, after working for a few other places. He's a very valued employee at all of them since he's consisrent. What I'm saying is autism now isnt autism 50, 70 or even 30 years ago. There are plenty of services and programs available, partly due to what my friends did to get them for their son. You're not alone. There are resources available.
Get the evil spirit of lust out of your soul! Confess and Repent of all sexual sins! Many are not properly married because of existing demons ruling their lives!
@@stephen2975 Stop blaming the devil for every thing and start taking responsibility for your own choices and actions. Not properly married because of demons. Please refer scripture or book chapter that you base this on..??
@@unclewazza777 don't you know that to whom you you yield yourselves servants to obey, his servant you are to whom you obey? From the very beginning this was made plain! GOD said to Cain, Sin is at the door and his desire is for you, but you must rule over him! But Cain obeyed Sin and became his slave! Not hard to understand! Was this a physical master? No sin is spiritual! Likewise as many as have fornicate with the sin of lust are his slaves, and if they marry without repentance take that sin to the marriage bed! Don't you understand this? This is why many Christians marrage beds are defiled!
Agreed, people today have taken twisted and perverted what God meant to be beautiful. It's a shame and we only do ourselves harm by not keeping it sacred.
I feel nervous, like butterflies are in my stomach when I hold my fiancée hand. I'm very glad we started our relationship slow an it doesn't depend on Sex to survive. We can talk all night long an just hold each other, that is our intimacy.
The butterflies in stomach are normal response when women are attuned with their spirituality... it's a very positive and rare sign, it means you are a healthy person and that you can feel your partners emotions resonate with yours. Such couples are truly blessed!
@@NezarEvangeline sorry not that I know of. In my experiences danger alert alla ''spider-sense tingling'' occurs in form of a mild chest pain in the heart chakra, or numbing in the finger tips. That's when someone wishes to harm you and emits strong emotions about it that you can pick up on. Native Americans had those very acute senses so they were impossible to sneak up on, even during sleep :)
I’m not Jewish, nor am I married, nor am I subscribed to this channel, yet this video was in my feed. However, I very much appreciate the wisdom I’ve garnered from this sermon. Jewish people always provide fruitful wisdom. I just wanna say thank you.
Jews know the art of surviving pretty well. They have a lot of wisdom in regards to what life is, centuries of being persecuted, annihilated and their stubbornness to keep going have made them pretty tough people.
@@MODERNWHAMIN-are-trashh I don’t know the talmud as I haven’t studied. But I have met jews and I can tell they are tought and intelligent, but they are quite stubborn too.
Anything can be intimate if the INTENT, is intimate. And perhaps someone is feeling unwell, even within a loving marriage, and not feel comfortable with sex at the time. That doesn't mean the couple do not have intimacy. IMHO.
God protected my spirit/soul from having sex through high school but I was stubborn and pushed through the anxiety and grieved the spirit . Every time I have since then I felt apart of me leave and also gained a part of the other person. This is such a serious subject and I pray if you haven’t yet wait until marriage and don’t become joined with ghosts of the past
I agree. I also resisted through my schools years but feel in my 20s. It is much better to wait for marriage. Intimacy is sacred and you want to get to know the person without a clouded judgment.
@@trudykearney883 In my opinion: You haven't forgiven yourself during that time & the chains of sin poisened your being. We don't know anything until it's realized. Realization should be liberating for the things you might not fully know or your intentions left in disappointment. There's this prison saying - I need all of you to really pay attention now - "YOU DO THE TIME, DON'T LET THE TIME DO YOU". We become when we forgive; momentum happens. Time is too valuable to let something own you. There's no way outside obaying guidelines that you'd realize the sin. Because of opening the package. Sin always appears new in the way it sells itself. It's always defective merchandise & the store knows it. There will always be another buyer on clearance simply because of the appeal to desire at an unbelievable fortune. It's a sick game it seems, but with anything it not only tells the truth of value, but the meaning of something no matter right or wrong. Free will absent of choice to make a decision. Time is nothing & something but a bookmark. This its were I leave off because the next talking point deals with stories & it can warp a mind if not ready & too dangerous for open discussions here.
Hmmm😭😭😭😭😭 I have great sin. My husband left, and went missing for 5yr. I hate myself. I don't know if I will ever be found by a male, again. I don't want to have sex without been married. Self-control it's not been easy to cultivate
Marriage is a picture of the reality of God and His people so it's very holy.... Reflecting such glory!!! God forgive us for shattering such beauty. Im orthodox Christian and thank God for His Torah.
People who seek sex only as a simple purpose for pleasure, considering only physical pleasure, are unaware - or forget that carnal union at this level of intimacy creates a spiritual bond.
@@Y1836Y yes, that is correct. I mean to say, as someone else pointed out, I wont say all Catholics “went woke,” but that clergy members used to speak about deep, meaningful, heartfelt issues like this with the same level of the rabbi’s equal amounts of passion, conviction, and coherence. I love being catholic because it used to be at least that revering and upholding tradition was more important than trying to placate people and not trying to say things that are provocative (even though nothing about this is provocative but common sensical and objectively virtuous.) I always had a lot of Catholic and Jewish friends because both faiths operated in this similar way. It is understandable because Jews uniquely know the need for preserving tradition and some dogma to keep their community cohesive. Christians can get very caught up and seduced by the feel-good parts of the faith that emphasize compassion. No one is comfortable talking about heaven or hell anymore or the presence of evil. The Jews know that they can’t afford to not talk about the really important and uncomfortable things. Because we have had different experiences in the last couple of centuries, we have a blind spot and incorrectly are in wishful thinking that we are in a time of anything less than existential spiritual warfare. I think it is why Christianity is falling out of mainstream. My point was that priests used to engage in liturgy and preaching with similar tone and conviction, and that is really hard to find these days. I hope we don’t have to go through the same kind of collective trauma in order for us to get back on the same page. The 53 Catholics who upvoted know what I meant haha hopefully this clarifies for those who didn’t get it. Hope this helps, Thanks for the comment 🩷
@@allisonleighandrews8495thanks for your explanation. Despite what presumably well meaning xians think, we're not on the same page. Our page is filled with what G-d needs from us and from non Jews. Your pages are filled with other things which presumably you know what they are. Different pages. Different books. There is no comraderie either. I'm.not Judeo-xian. I'm a Jew. That's it. You don't mind aligning with us since we're not compromising your belief system. Aligning with you compromises ours. We're not converting. You don't have to convert to listen to us. We can't listen to you. G-d told us what He wants and needs. He didn't say to collaborate. He said to us to be a light to the nations. Not walk in your light. Not walk with you, with xians. Nor with anyone else. Not coordinate with your light. If our beliefs weren't different people wouldn't listen here saying they hear things they never heard before and that disagree with xian doctrine. If our beliefs weren't different you'd be Jews. You'd be waiting as we are for Moshiach, for the Redemption, for an amazing world united with G-d's essence here instead of trying your best to get to heaven. Heaven isn't our goal. More and more differences. Notice them now? Why is that reality uncomfortable? After the world is perfect, soon, Moshiach will be coming to finish the perfection with the building of the Third Temple. All will be united as one people with G-d as our One. Isn't that enough that unity will be then? Until then we have separate jobs to do. Non Jews bring earth to heaven (increasing G-dliness) while Jews bring heaven to earth by sharing all that G-d shared and shares with us, as Rabbi Friedman does, and the rest of us do. You see Moshiach as saving people thousands of years ago though I see nothing much improved by your salvation. People too focused on sin while they're losing the battle. I do live in this world too. We dont focus on sin. We see Moshiach as finishing our efforts at improving the world for G-d to dwell here. I think the differences are apparent. Each of us has value. Each of us is important. To G-d. For different reasons that involve unique missions for each person. That should make everyone thrilled. It doesn't somehow.
We lost respect for intimacy. Why do you think we are all so stressed, depressed, lonely, confused, bitter, angry, etc? True love is having reverence for one another, working together, creating together, planting together, building together, but how many are doing this today that you know? How many? ◑
@@TH-camVideoViewerDELadd my family and I too ❤ so at least 20 . God is good. There’s a whole other world of people loving and appreciating each other. Reverence belongs to God. We just love each other as God loves us and it’s magical. I pray everyone puts God at the center of their family so they too can have love and peace that only come from knowing God ❤
Unfortunately they are now the baby boomer generation who brought this mess upon us. The sins/ignorance of the grandparents are visited upon the grandchildren.
My Parent's Talked Like This To Me When I Was A Young Girl! Thank Heaven's They We'rent Into That Wonky Stuff! Shalom And Amen!✝️✝️🛐🛐📛🕊️🕊️🕊️❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥🤰🤱🧬🤰🤱✨👑✨🦁🦁🦁❣️❣️❣️🌺🌺🌺😇🌟🤗🙏🙏🙏🇨🇦🇮🇱♾️🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🗽🦅‼️
@@dannyHighfruitif you are Gen Z and you speak like this or have those ideas you will be crucified and called a religious nut or 1nc311. It’s incredibility rare now and even catholic faith they’re becoming more lenient.
I loved a boy 10 years ago, now I'm 30 years old. Since then I no longer accept casual relationships. He showed me how deep and intimate love is and through love, sex. When you love, sex is holy and that's how it should be. If I don't love again, I'll be single, but I certainly won't get dirty with casual sex.
Same here. My sex was always intimate and I just can't do it without it. Even tho I'm now single, I just can not hook up for fun. I date, I meet different men. But untill we have a connection I just can not do it. My friends sometimes say stuff like "you should have some fun" or ask if I slept with the guy after 1st date. What's fun in that? It's exactly the same as any other biological need then.
I'm 31 with a similar stance, I met a man at a bar when I was 18, this was close to the first time I ever went to a bar or had alcohol. I was completely taken advantage of by him. I did not consent but I blamed myself for being drunk. I never hated him, I liked him but what he did was wrong and messed me up. So I haven't been able to have a relationship with anyone even up until this day. It wasn't supposed to turn out that way, even back then, I knew. I've been trying to get to know some men since then but they don't have the patience to wait nor do they appreciate the fact that I'm not doing anything before we're married. I just can't be casual about it either. Especially since I've been single so long, my whole life.
@@thepracticalmystic8525 like every single mother is a representation of content. Maybe fulfillment to some degree, but this is also not guaranteed. Having a relationship or a baby won't save you. Never. It can help you to grow, but it's not a recipe for content. How many marriage's tried to fix themselves with a baby and they failed?
@tajakjejtam I'm 45 now, friends are going through the change, having never had children and it's so sad. I'm glad I had two messed up relationships in my 20s , that produced three amazing children, then I found God and grew up with the children. I see women today going through app and treating men, like it's a job interview and wasting precious time.....time waits for nobody
I’m asexual but I’ve always felt this is a world without true intimacy. Or at least it is very rare. I’m not even talking about sex. I’m talking about mental, emotional, and spiritual intimacy. I’ve never felt that with anyone in this world. It’s been devastating. I think the problem is most people don’t even have or want true intimacy with themselves, so how could they have or want it with another?
But how can you feel what intimacy is if you’re asexual? You said you feel like this is a world without real intimacy but how do you know it’s very rare ?
I am an atheist but I agree with every word. We have been married for 53 years and faithful to each other. We share a bond of love, children, respect & responsibility for each other’s well- being.
@fatarsemonkey Please do not tell me what I should do. I find it arrogant & judgmental. I would never question anyone about their beliefs or lack of. It is a very personal thing. We are all individuals with the capacity for critical thinking & common sense.
He is absolutely right! Sex is without a spiritual connection and intimacy is when you can’t get enough of the other person, you feel as one when your intimate
Iss infinitely easier with two virgins as a couple not focused on basing the relationship around sex, when the man only is in love with the women’s flesh & body instead of her spirit it’s a recipe for disaster.
I have two sons and never married, society I grew up in has polluted any and everything that could be considered sacred and holy. We live in a spiritual war zone!
I literally told someone this today & how pointless sex is NOT intimate at all… that’s mankind’s downfall …as it’s NOT respected as an intimate act, but as selfish act of pleasure
Its narcissistic. Lots of people these days are much higher on the narcissistic scale than ever known before. People might aswell have sex with themselves than use another person as an object. Porn industry has made things much worse since the pandemic lockdown. I'm meeting old men of my age 50s to 60s and they have lost their minds to porn and can't even manage a simple date with a woman without wanting a hookup. They don't enjoy a women's company or have any value. You can see them pretending to enjoy your company but underneath they're thinking soni really have to put up with this women to have sex. It's narcissistic and weird.
So refreshing to hear somebody talking like this. So rare to hear somebody actually talk about sex with some grace and sanctity instead of talking about it like we’re all just rugged animals in a jungle. This world needs God back. ✝️
❤God Bless you Rabbi, my maternal grandmother is Jewish and this is the first time I've been blessed to hear a Rabbi speaking. This touched my heart because I LOVE my husband and my four sons ❤️ I love everything about my husband and I think about this subject all the time.
In my eyes, you are the rabb of all rabbis. You’re not afraid to talk about the conversation that everybody’s running away from you have answers for everything especially simple answers, listening to you. Everything makes sense all of a sudden I love listening to you
Sex is a covenant and one day I decided I couldn’t let this person leave my life without loving him intimately just once. I’ve never left an open ended covenant like this before, but I knew long term he would not be the one so I ended it. 2 days later this entity tried to sexually assault me in my sleep, but I broke out of its grasp. The next few months I was battling the heat of sexual urges. I stopped dating for a year now and this has pushed me further into spiritual healing and awareness. I broke a few generational curses and I still have more to grow. I can no longer dishonor myself. I would rather be highly selective with strong moral and boundaries and live life in peace than to go through that turmoil of grief again.
@@queenieburgers50 I didn’t see anything, for better or worse. I just felt it like it was actually there. I’m not much of a light sleeper either. I found when I wake up at night I need to pray not just for myself but for others who God places in my heart.
A married man asked me once "my wife has a problem. We can never be on the same page at night, what do you suggest?" I was not happy with this coversation so I said. "You need foreplay. Try taking out the trash, and puttimg the toilet seat down. By the way don't leave your dirty socks on the living room floor. Are you waiting for her to water them?" There are many nice men and women out there. Pray you find each other.
@@mwendapolephiri5692your duties? You teach your kids at about 3-4 years of age to out the dirty sock and dishes away....and here is you making your duties to teach your bum husband to behave like a 2 yers old. I hope you don't have sons and raise them that well....if you trach them to expect to disrespect the house like that and expect a woman to out up with it! Geez.
God willingly I’ll be turning 23 years and I’m a straight up virgin. So which means that I’m undefeated 22-0 regarding not falling for temporary pleasure by giving away a piece of myself to someone I’m not married to. I shall wait for marriage.❤️😁💯
You can do it. I’m a complete virgin too and I’m turning 27 next month. I don’t plan on losing it anytime soon and I waiting for that special person. So can you (:
Assuming you are a woman, a few years after you lose your virginity, you'll realize it's not all that it's supposed to be. (If you are a man, this applies even more.) What really matters is commitment and loyalty in the relationship you are in. That's relationship -- not a one-night stand. In fact dating a few people will help you understand what kind of person you want in life. And remember, there's only a 50% chance that your marriage will work. If it fails, and you get married again, you're not going to be a virgin anyway.
He had me until he said separate beds. Even when my husband & I aren’t being intimate in our bed we’re cuddling or holding each other while we sleep. I couldn’t imagine sleeping in a bed without him.
@@triplejmom7826 the same applies for your statements. Its YOU. So you shouldnt imply Rabbi Manis is wrong. He has a different perspective with fits in for some people like ME. Hope its clearer now. My first bf agreed with the separate bedrooms. Yes it is sinful. We werent married.
I knew he was going to say that the hippie woman started crying in the office when he wouldn’t close the door. It made me think about going around to family or social functions and having to hug people and kiss them on the cheek. I wish the older men would not touch me, in fact I have stopped doing things like that in public. It took me until my 30s and a pandemic to realize that the real men would refuse to go along with this pantomime of intimacy between anyone other than their wife. Everyone just plays along, and it confuses everyone and cheapens the real thing. It’s crazy that there aren’t more grown men protecting women in this way. Or any adults protecting children in this way. Everyone seems to be self exploitative and commodified. We need to bring back true intimacy and keep it safe and sacred. I see the light in everyone’s eyes dimming, and people are too afraid to speak up and talk about these things we seem to have forgotten.
@@peopleofearth6250 Yeah, giving up on people is totally the answer for her...no. It's true that people cheapen marital intimacy by getting whatever they can from anyone, but that doesn't mean the answer is to give up on people in general. That's ridiculous, and I hope you were joking.
This is a very important talk because western culture has forgotten that it was actually during the 1960s that the world was turned upside down, By 1972 in the US, abortion, a former taboo became legalized as well as another taboo, "Pornography" that suddenly was shown in the most elegant movie houses in New York around 1972, with limousines arriving in front of those movie houses with local TV personalities as an example that it was ok to surrender into that way of thinking, The most affected at first were those coming of age, turning 18 years in 1972, like myself, the legal age to be allowed to get exposed by that soul destruction..
Oh please! read the Canterbury´s tale (14th century) among many other books, filth and pornography has been present since humanity appeared on the face of the earth, it was not invented in the 60s . how ridiculous !
@@MSSHARIII Treating women like shit and taking away all their rights, taking away all freedom of speech and paying terrorists abroad to murder people in the name of religion , is that your preferred culture ?. Do you happen to be from Iran?
I am 19 nd my wife is 27. Once a night I caught her with my dad at same bed I was sleeping. So she told it was random bcoz when she wake up she found my dad's fully inside her nd her nipple was in my dad's mouth. nd she told that she so much tightness that she lost her control. It was ok ...but next day when she did it again in front of me then she told I love u so much babe but I can't ignore ur dad . In ur eyes he is old man but in my eyes he is raw man with abs , 6 feet body with broad chest nd a lengthy plus too much thick dick a woman can't ignore nd when also his one shot timing is 20mints nd total shots are 5 to 6 ....nd u know ur size is about equal to my lipstick 😭😭
I am confused 😭😭what should I do?? In 2022 my dad dropped his semen about 88 times in 11 nights.finally my wife got pregnant nd become mom of 6 kg son...in July 2023
I was blighted by the dark forces of this evil era. I started my late teenage with these kind of easy relations. I did not understand the curse I was bringing over my life. But now that I am 37yrs old I understand that I stepped out of THE CREATOR'S LAW. THAT IS WHY I SUFFER EVEN NOW.😢😢
This is amazing. Soup itself may not be intimate but I find eating a meal with anyone intimate, so sometimes uncomfortable. This video tells me something I have always known deep down to be true, but it is a relief to hear someone validate that discomfort. What is intimacy today? What a mess my parents' generation made (60's and 70's - acid, the pill, 'free' love).
He’s right about this. I’m a total atheist, but I’ll tell you, meaningless sex is just using someone for masturbation. A lot of people can’t even have true intimacy, and it’s a shame. It’s cheezy and lame and all that but deep down true closeness, acceptance, understanding and love with someone that has come to really mean something to you is one of the few best things you can experience in life. It’s amazing how many folks go around with zero intention of finding love, and have no respect for the folks that are trying to find it.
@rely Deep down you don’t want to be atheist You just haven’t heard What you needed to hear You are intelligent and have a keen sense of observation Just don’t be so called too intelligent for your own good
@@Relyt345 The truth lies outside the realm of what is comforting, what is real. People never made dreams happen by staying on the most logically significant path. Grounding yourself in reality is essential for survival, but if you're to achieve any spiritual truth at all, this is not where you can remain. You will remain stuck in rigid patterns, backed by knowledge or science of objects and making presumptions about spirituality from how objects interact in the universe. You must go past the material, to what is immaterial; illegible; non-being; quantum in nature, that which cannot be observed. Quantum mechanics itself has infinite potential when not observed even. Immaterial things also include mental concepts, such as mysticism, spiritualism, the concept of math, etc. These things obviously did not arise from objects, because the intelligence itself is proof of that. Objects cannot create intelligent concepts by themselves. Now you probably understand where the idea that infinite potential lies in devotion to a higher power comes from.
I see it like that too, for me sex is to be bonded with someone who you want to show all your deep and vulnerable feelings... It's an trusting thing, you're giving your body to someone, so you should at least feel safe and connected with this person...
I am 68, and both me and the wife were virgins because we had strong beliefs about sex. We are still married. Turns out she had a low sex drive. You are very right about your explanation of intimacy. I will not let myself be alone with a woman in that manner. It all starts that way though.
Note friends this does not mean you cannot hve sex in the day or in the evening when there is natural lighting. His emphasis on intimacy in the dark is only to highlight the lengths at which we go to glorify imagery over intimacy.
Often times, a lot of people, regardless of whether they are a man or a woman, cannot distinguish between two rather different acts, that is, love making and having sex. Sex is an instinctive and bio-mechanical act and everyone can do it. On the other hand, making love is considered to be a sensual, slow, and not goal-oriented act that gives us the opportunity to experience the metaphysical being of oneness and it is considered to be an art in itself.
Where does G-d fit in to your understanding? I think I missed it. Sex and making love, a nauseating phrase, are the same. No intimacy. Not as G-d intended. You know G-d, the Creator of intimacy and marriage.
I remain alone. No kind of thing to do with those pleasures. Yes, rather have nothing and hope someday I find someone who knows what a Man and woman do is sacred. Shouldn't talk to your friends what you do with your spouse. Absolutely scary to interact physically with someone who is into lying, cheating and obviously deceitful. Maybe I don't have a somebody I am meant to be with. Truly accepting what is strength.
Honorable sir...I would like to thank you for this extremely important information. I will share this with my sons, brothers and friends. Peace be with you.
This was beautiful and true! If only this was the way of the modern world. I could cry knowing/feeling that I may never have someone that shares these same views of marriage/relationships/sex/intimacy.
I'm Muslim and subscribed and listened to you because you are a Jew like the Jews I grew up with and studied in their school back in Iran. The basis of our religions is almost the same, especially regarding morality and values.
I am happy too have run into this video about intimacy because i have been celibate for approximately 10 years because of no real love and true intimacy 😢
I used to tell people they were confused and had sex and love mixed up. Today when you hear people talk about love they mean sex and when some talk about sex they mean love they don't know what they mean
I’m 26, just got my first apartment. With everything going on, with all these crazy women screaming and shouting nonsense, it honestly makes me want to stay single. Sex isn’t valued anymore and a faithful wife seems hard to find. Plz pray for me and all other single men/women who are actually looking for a good relationship
Amen
Amen
Where you are with crazy women screaming is a puzzle. You're talking about things in a confused way. Sex isn't supposed to be valued. It's a carnal act between people. Let me guess if you 'stay single you'd still have sex since you don't want to do without that. Right? Just the responsibility of what it is and what it's meant for. IntImacy is supposed to be valued. That's between a husband and wife. Not between a man and woman.
Women aren't to be faithful anymore than men are. A husband should be. A wife should be. That faithfulness is not limited to the bedroom. It's to the marriage. To the family.
Husband and wife versus man and woman isn't simply word play. It's reality. I hope you learn what it all means.
I pray that you learn more so that you marry, have a family as G-d intended for us to do. It's not good to be alone.
Just keep doing the right thing.
Based on what you wrote in your comment you are already on the right track.
Being single is not the worst thing at all but being with the wrong person for the sake of being with someone can cause a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering.
I have 2 boys that are 29 and 30.
God Bless you and all our younger generation.
Stay single, they will destroy your life and finances. They will trick you if you let them and they will want full control of you.
I’m a 47 year old man, and losing my virginity when I was 15, I still always felt that once I had sex with a girl, we had a bond. It was a special bridge we crossed together and created a bond I had never before known.
She didn’t always feel that way, needless to say.
I later got married for 9 years and we had a son together. I divorced her for cheating on me with 2 different men. I simply can’t empathize with any human being that would flush everything meaningful down the toilet for a few minutes of lust and pleasure.
I’m not a perfect man and I won’t throw stones. I just felt I could no longer respect my wife the way I should after the infidelity. My son is now 13 and I never speak badly about his mother. She has gone on to online dating and showing herself on social media. I remain respectful and focus on raising my son to be a good man.
I hope this helps someone struggling with a relationship.
God bless you all!
My father walked out of the picture a long time ago, it warms my heart to see you doing your best for your child. I know he'll raise his kids right too.
I applaud you sir.
My parents divorced and my father was always running down my mom.
It screws up a kids mind.
The high road is best but not always easy to take.
It's one thing to say an ex cheated but when you say how many people they cheated on you with, shows you're still holding onto a lot of pain. You're also telling us what she's up to which isn't a good sign. The pain is still consuming you, otherwise you wouldn't have gone into that much detail. Maybe that's why she cheated as you're showing us all you're weak. Your child will always be a reminder of your pain, of what she did to you. Sadly, being a good man dont get you far in this world. Women will walk all over you talking the way you are.
Yes when you have sex before a covenant commited marriage you develop soul ties!
you were right god bless you both
This man is speaking absolute sense, we have lost a lot of the value of intimacy due to the pornographers and the attitudes that go with it, it’s taken me till my 50’s to really learn this, great speech!
Pornography has done terrible damage to humans.
Intimacy isn't just sex
@@b.m.t.h.3961 Its also the only option for a shit ton of guys. Hundreds of millions of us use it every day, some more than others. I think in moderation it does some good for us lonely men.
@@b.m.t.h.3961Why is there demand for it in the first place? Probably due to inter-male competition resulting in clandestine behaviour due to institutionalized amatonormativity (cooperation maintenance hypothesis: not peer reviewed). Probably depends on a specific socioecological environment: pan troglodytes proactive political games over status, dispersed fertile females and offspring compared to pan paniscus society based on more or less egalitarian female/male coalitions and playful prosociality/sociosexuality for promotion of group stability regardless of age and gender as a byproduct of domestication syndrome (Richard Wrangham). Not sure about Trobrianders, Kaluli, Sambia people, Marind Anim, Piraha, Big Namba, Ache, Mosuo and all the extinct undocumented hunter-gatherer societies with different effects on epigenetic expression.
45 still learning.
I’m 24. People my age are so self centred it’s all about what they want and need and not about anyone else. How are you supposed to find intimacy with someone who doesn’t care about anyone but themselves? We are living in a narcissistic world now. People are scared of being vulnerable especially men that’s why suicide in men is massive now because there’s no intimacy or vulnerability so therefore no safe space for them to express their feelings. Intimacy comes from expression! So then the women act all tough and think well I don’t need them I can do it alone, they then let go of the intimacy for fear of being used. The lack of intimacy in the world now is LITERALLY killing people.
The best part is dying and never having to remember the intellectual hatred of "men" and other ways of obsessing about us without loving us like this dipstick talking 👄
Unfortunately men can't open up.
Both men and women shame them for being emotional.
It's just part of being a man. You go on because you have no choice.
Women of present day run away from men with romantic feelings.
ummm women don't open up about their feelings & work on them either. I've not met many females or males who actually deeply wanted to become a better person.
@@r0se_777 Strange. 😅
Old fashioned, time tested, sensible values, gently delivered. Thank you.
Well they called it dinosaur age shit and abandoned it all for short term thrills 🙄
Give me strength Heavenly Father, I come to you today asking for your blessings as a single mom. My husband is in heaven with you. I’m raising my children with strength and courage, despite the challenges I face with my sons both being autistic. Lord as I struggle to pay my rent every month and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. I ask that you bless me with your wisdom and guidance, as I navigate parenthood on my own heal my lupus and heart disease and continue to give me strength to keep going so I may watch my sons grow into men. ❤
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I have reported you again. Four years of scamming. You should be ashamed. I am sorry i ever beleived you. Gave you advice.
Seek help elsewhere and quit spamming and begging. FOUR YEARS !!!
You have your share of challenges to overcome. That can enrich your existence. Blessings to your family.
My friends son has autism. He's 32 now. He was in school from age 2-20, including in a public high school. He's been working at Home Depot for over 8 years, after working for a few other places. He's a very valued employee at all of them since he's consisrent. What I'm saying is autism now isnt autism 50, 70 or even 30 years ago. There are plenty of services and programs available, partly due to what my friends did to get them for their son. You're not alone. There are resources available.
Blessings and healing your way🎉
AMEN
The man is right. I don't care whether he is jewish or christian or muslim or whatever. He's right with what he's saying.
No, no he isn’t.
@@dbuck1964why?
@@dbuck1964🤡
buck wont tell you why, just another internet nobody. there are lots who cant back up their beliefs@@yaniiswong
Yeah, the message is universal. Doesn't matter if a Rabi says it or a Priest.... or anyone else.
We need to be more intimate, marriages need to be more passionate, sex needs to be more holy. ❤
lol. Lucky dreams are free. Maybe some time you can join us in the real world.
Get the evil spirit of lust out of your soul! Confess and Repent of all sexual sins! Many are not properly married because of existing demons ruling their lives!
@@stephen2975 Stop blaming the devil for every thing and start taking responsibility for your own choices and actions. Not properly married because of demons. Please refer scripture or book chapter that you base this on..??
@@unclewazza777 don't you know that to whom you you yield yourselves servants to obey, his servant you are to whom you obey? From the very beginning this was made plain! GOD said to Cain, Sin is at the door and his desire is for you, but you must rule over him! But Cain obeyed Sin and became his slave! Not hard to understand! Was this a physical master? No sin is spiritual! Likewise as many as have fornicate with the sin of lust are his slaves, and if they marry without repentance take that sin to the marriage bed! Don't you understand this? This is why many Christians marrage beds are defiled!
Agreed, people today have taken twisted and perverted what God meant to be beautiful. It's a shame and we only do ourselves harm by not keeping it sacred.
I feel nervous, like butterflies are in my stomach when I hold my fiancée hand. I'm very glad we started our relationship slow an it doesn't depend on Sex to survive. We can talk all night long an just hold each other, that is our intimacy.
Good stuff
The butterflies in stomach are normal response when women are attuned with their spirituality... it's a very positive and rare sign,
it means you are a healthy person and that you can feel your partners emotions resonate with yours.
Such couples are truly blessed!
@@TheFutureIsOurs-qu5qobut the butterflies can also be a warning sign & indication that it’s not safe right?
@@NezarEvangeline sorry not that I know of. In my experiences danger alert alla ''spider-sense tingling'' occurs in form of a mild chest pain in the heart chakra, or numbing in the finger tips. That's when someone wishes to harm you and emits strong emotions about it that you can pick up on.
Native Americans had those very acute senses so they were impossible to sneak up on, even during sleep :)
God bless you, that’s very special.
“We need intimacy, we don’t know where to find it.”… Wow
I’m not Jewish, nor am I married, nor am I subscribed to this channel, yet this video was in my feed. However, I very much appreciate the wisdom I’ve garnered from this sermon. Jewish people always provide fruitful wisdom. I just wanna say thank you.
Jews know the art of surviving pretty well. They have a lot of wisdom in regards to what life is, centuries of being persecuted, annihilated and their stubbornness to keep going have made them pretty tough people.
@@JuanRamónSilva-Pianoexcept for the part in their talmud where they are supposed to rule over all non Jews as they please
@Ninjaturtle999 they're allowed to lie too, when they're dealing with goyim. Pharisees covered all the bases
@@MODERNWHAMIN-are-trashh I don’t know the talmud as I haven’t studied. But I have met jews and I can tell they are tought and intelligent, but they are quite stubborn too.
@juanramonsilva1
067 You cannot Make Categorical assumptions about people based on superficial criteria. Unless you just like being wrong.
Even someone's presence can be intimate...
Sharing silence can be intimate...
Just a mere play of fingers while holding hands can be intimate....
Yes. I love comfortable silences
Even eye contact!
@@andreiadetavora8471 of course!
Anything can be intimate if the INTENT, is intimate.
And perhaps someone is feeling unwell, even within a loving marriage, and not feel comfortable with sex at the time. That doesn't mean the couple do not have intimacy. IMHO.
@@npats550 very well said! Ultimately it's the INTENT that matters more than anything
God protected my spirit/soul from having sex through high school but I was stubborn and pushed through the anxiety and grieved the spirit . Every time I have since then I felt apart of me leave and also gained a part of the other person. This is such a serious subject and I pray if you haven’t yet wait until marriage and don’t become joined with ghosts of the past
I agree. I also resisted through my schools years but feel in my 20s. It is much better to wait for marriage. Intimacy is sacred and you want to get to know the person without a clouded judgment.
I had sex before marriage and didn t allow myself to enjoy sex for 10 years iin my marriage I knew it was wrong and God didn t like it
@@trudykearney883 In my opinion: You haven't forgiven yourself during that time & the chains of sin poisened your being.
We don't know anything until it's realized. Realization should be liberating for the things you might not fully know or your intentions left in disappointment.
There's this prison saying - I need all of you to really pay attention now - "YOU DO THE TIME, DON'T LET THE TIME DO YOU".
We become when we forgive; momentum happens. Time is too valuable to let something own you. There's no way outside obaying guidelines that you'd realize the sin. Because of opening the package. Sin always appears new in the way it sells itself. It's always defective merchandise & the store knows it. There will always be another buyer on clearance simply because of the appeal to desire at an unbelievable fortune. It's a sick game it seems, but with anything it not only tells the truth of value, but the meaning of something no matter right or wrong. Free will absent of choice to make a decision.
Time is nothing & something but a bookmark. This its were I leave off because the next talking point deals with stories & it can warp a mind if not ready & too dangerous for open discussions here.
I graduated high school as a virgin I'm glad I waited.
Hmmm😭😭😭😭😭 I have great sin. My husband left, and went missing for 5yr. I hate myself.
I don't know if I will ever be found by a male, again. I don't want to have sex without been married. Self-control it's not been easy to cultivate
Marriage is a picture of the reality of God and His people so it's very holy.... Reflecting such glory!!! God forgive us for shattering such beauty.
Im orthodox Christian and thank God for His Torah.
I can listen to Rabbi Friedman ALL DAY. Sooooo wise!
People who seek sex only as a simple purpose for pleasure, considering only physical pleasure, are unaware - or forget that carnal union at this level of intimacy creates a spiritual bond.
What you think is a spiritual bond is an illusion. It always was. Pornography merely exposed this problem it didn't create it.
After I had felt this, but lost it with my girlfriend who cheated, I've been very wary to become too intimate with women, too quickly.
People that want to live like animals whilst still having the privilege of being humans. Following satans agenda to the T
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I’m Catholic. I miss the days of hearing homilies like this. Thank you for this!
The Catholics got woke. Too.
I'm Catholic too and I think he's making sense as well.
This isn't a homily. It's a teaching at an event. The rabbi isn't affiliated with a synagogue that way. Not all are.
@@Y1836Y yes, that is correct. I mean to say, as someone else pointed out, I wont say all Catholics “went woke,” but that clergy members used to speak about deep, meaningful, heartfelt issues like this with the same level of the rabbi’s equal amounts of passion, conviction, and coherence. I love being catholic because it used to be at least that revering and upholding tradition was more important than trying to placate people and not trying to say things that are provocative (even though nothing about this is provocative but common sensical and objectively virtuous.) I always had a lot of Catholic and Jewish friends because both faiths operated in this similar way. It is understandable because Jews uniquely know the need for preserving tradition and some dogma to keep their community cohesive. Christians can get very caught up and seduced by the feel-good parts of the faith that emphasize compassion. No one is comfortable talking about heaven or hell anymore or the presence of evil. The Jews know that they can’t afford to not talk about the really important and uncomfortable things. Because we have had different experiences in the last couple of centuries, we have a blind spot and incorrectly are in wishful thinking that we are in a time of anything less than existential spiritual warfare. I think it is why Christianity is falling out of mainstream. My point was that priests used to engage in liturgy and preaching with similar tone and conviction, and that is really hard to find these days. I hope we don’t have to go through the same kind of collective trauma in order for us to get back on the same page. The 53 Catholics who upvoted know what I meant haha hopefully this clarifies for those who didn’t get it. Hope this helps, Thanks for the comment 🩷
@@allisonleighandrews8495thanks for your explanation. Despite what presumably well meaning xians think, we're not on the same page. Our page is filled with what G-d needs from us and from non Jews. Your pages are filled with other things which presumably you know what they are. Different pages. Different books. There is no comraderie either. I'm.not Judeo-xian. I'm a Jew. That's it. You don't mind aligning with us since we're not compromising your belief system. Aligning with you compromises ours. We're not converting. You don't have to convert to listen to us. We can't listen to you. G-d told us what He wants and needs. He didn't say to collaborate. He said to us to be a light to the nations. Not walk in your light. Not walk with you, with xians. Nor with anyone else. Not coordinate with your light.
If our beliefs weren't different people wouldn't listen here saying they hear things they never heard before and that disagree with xian doctrine. If our beliefs weren't different you'd be Jews. You'd be waiting as we are for Moshiach, for the Redemption, for an amazing world united with G-d's essence here instead of trying your best to get to heaven. Heaven isn't our goal. More and more differences. Notice them now? Why is that reality uncomfortable?
After the world is perfect, soon, Moshiach will be coming to finish the perfection with the building of the Third Temple. All will be united as one people with G-d as our One. Isn't that enough that unity will be then? Until then we have separate jobs to do. Non Jews bring earth to heaven (increasing G-dliness) while Jews bring heaven to earth by sharing all that G-d shared and shares with us, as Rabbi Friedman does, and the rest of us do.
You see Moshiach as saving people thousands of years ago though I see nothing much improved by your salvation. People too focused on sin while they're losing the battle. I do live in this world too. We dont focus on sin. We see Moshiach as finishing our efforts at improving the world for G-d to dwell here. I think the differences are apparent. Each of us has value. Each of us is important. To G-d. For different reasons that involve unique missions for each person. That should make everyone thrilled. It doesn't somehow.
We lost respect for intimacy. Why do you think we are all so stressed, depressed, lonely, confused, bitter, angry, etc? True love is having reverence for one another, working together, creating together, planting together, building together, but how many are doing this today that you know? How many? ◑
Agreed. And how the world has deteriorated...very sad.
At least two... 😊
@@TH-camVideoViewerDELadd my family and I too ❤ so at least 20 . God is good. There’s a whole other world of people loving and appreciating each other. Reverence belongs to God. We just love each other as God loves us and it’s magical. I pray everyone puts God at the center of their family so they too can have love and peace that only come from knowing God ❤
Very few
Well said
If you have self respect, being intimate with someone you don't love is awkward and awful.
Very true ❤
I'm an atheist, but Jewish rabbis make the most sense about life to me....this man is 10000 percent correct about sex and intamacy
This one appears to be fine but many others are involved the p o r n industry and in bizarre rituals in tunnels.
❤❤❤ i wish we had more older people that still talked like this.
Unfortunately they are now the baby boomer generation who brought this mess upon us. The sins/ignorance of the grandparents are visited upon the grandchildren.
My Parent's Talked Like This To Me When I Was A Young Girl! Thank Heaven's They We'rent Into That Wonky Stuff! Shalom And Amen!✝️✝️🛐🛐📛🕊️🕊️🕊️❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥🤰🤱🧬🤰🤱✨👑✨🦁🦁🦁❣️❣️❣️🌺🌺🌺😇🌟🤗🙏🙏🙏🇨🇦🇮🇱♾️🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🗽🦅‼️
I know loads of older friends who speak up like this. They are not that rare in my eyes
@@dannyHighfruitif you are Gen Z and you speak like this or have those ideas you will be crucified and called a religious nut or 1nc311. It’s incredibility rare now and even catholic faith they’re becoming more lenient.
We do. Maybe we just need them more on social media. Enough of the fake relationship guru.
As a single man thank you for explaining the sanctity of the marriage bed. And the respect that I need to show myself and other people.
By making everything easy and available to us without any strings attached, we’re lost SO much.
I loved a boy 10 years ago, now I'm 30 years old. Since then I no longer accept casual relationships. He showed me how deep and intimate love is and through love, sex. When you love, sex is holy and that's how it should be. If I don't love again, I'll be single, but I certainly won't get dirty with casual sex.
Same here. My sex was always intimate and I just can't do it without it. Even tho I'm now single, I just can not hook up for fun. I date, I meet different men. But untill we have a connection I just can not do it. My friends sometimes say stuff like "you should have some fun" or ask if I slept with the guy after 1st date. What's fun in that? It's exactly the same as any other biological need then.
I'm 31 with a similar stance, I met a man at a bar when I was 18, this was close to the first time I ever went to a bar or had alcohol. I was completely taken advantage of by him. I did not consent but I blamed myself for being drunk. I never hated him, I liked him but what he did was wrong and messed me up. So I haven't been able to have a relationship with anyone even up until this day. It wasn't supposed to turn out that way, even back then, I knew. I've been trying to get to know some men since then but they don't have the patience to wait nor do they appreciate the fact that I'm not doing anything before we're married. I just can't be casual about it either. Especially since I've been single so long, my whole life.
Life is short, you'll be 50 and barren, if you can't find love, let it go and just get pregnant, barren women, end up very bitter.
@@thepracticalmystic8525 like every single mother is a representation of content. Maybe fulfillment to some degree, but this is also not guaranteed. Having a relationship or a baby won't save you. Never. It can help you to grow, but it's not a recipe for content. How many marriage's tried to fix themselves with a baby and they failed?
@tajakjejtam I'm 45 now, friends are going through the change, having never had children and it's so sad. I'm glad I had two messed up relationships in my 20s , that produced three amazing children, then I found God and grew up with the children. I see women today going through app and treating men, like it's a job interview and wasting precious time.....time waits for nobody
I’m asexual but I’ve always felt this is a world without true intimacy. Or at least it is very rare. I’m not even talking about sex. I’m talking about mental, emotional, and spiritual intimacy. I’ve never felt that with anyone in this world. It’s been devastating. I think the problem is most people don’t even have or want true intimacy with themselves, so how could they have or want it with another?
I believe the final words in your comment are very closely related to the first.
But how can you feel what intimacy is if you’re asexual? You said you feel like this is a world without real intimacy but how do you know it’s very rare ?
@@graciekattan6618If your asexual you can still experiences nonsexual attraction and being intimate in other ways.
That's exactly it!
It all starts with SELF.💖💎
I am an atheist but I agree with every word. We have been married for 53 years and faithful to each other. We share a bond of love, children, respect & responsibility for each other’s well- being.
Do you ever question your faith as an atheist?
@fatarsemonkey Please do not tell me what I should do. I find it arrogant & judgmental. I would never question anyone about their beliefs or lack of. It is a very personal thing. We are all individuals with the capacity for critical thinking & common sense.
@@play2win570 I just believe in 1 less god than the many that have been popular over the ages.
@@steveath Sir, do you have a while to talk about our savior Lucifer and beloved Lilith - daughter of hatred?
@@smarterideas7148 Are you OK?
I understand. Good lesson. I still love to sleep beside my husband of 45 years. Even when he snores, it brings me comfort 🎉
He’s a lucky man 🙏
@gig
Wow
That’s awesome
Your husband is a lucky man
He is absolutely right! Sex is without a spiritual connection and intimacy is when you can’t get enough of the other person, you feel as one when your intimate
Almost sounds like you are talking about lust
I don’t think you watched the entire video-
oy vajayjay
Iss infinitely easier with two virgins as a couple not focused on basing the relationship around sex, when the man only is in love with the women’s flesh & body instead of her spirit it’s a recipe for disaster.
This rabbi is so right. I write with tears in my eyes. I must return to the innocence of intimacy.
I have two sons and never married, society I grew up in has polluted any and everything that could be considered sacred and holy.
We live in a spiritual war zone!
This message is absolutely amazing and profound. But yet this is a message that EVERYONE must hear.
I, who “came of age” in the sixties and am now 80, could write a long article about why/how intimacy got lost. It surely did in my family.
What’s one thing you can say to someone born in the 90s?
Please share!
Please share with us younger people we would love to learn from your wisdom. 💛
Good Lord 😵
It’s easy . Everyone is up there own ass
I literally told someone this today & how pointless sex is NOT intimate at all… that’s mankind’s downfall …as it’s NOT respected as an intimate act, but as selfish act of pleasure
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What was their response?
@@CodyHomes they agreed & never had anyone tell them that before actually
@@Nina-vv3ev glad to hear. Just as it should be.
Its narcissistic. Lots of people these days are much higher on the narcissistic scale than ever known before. People might aswell have sex with themselves than use another person as an object. Porn industry has made things much worse since the pandemic lockdown. I'm meeting old men of my age 50s to 60s and they have lost their minds to porn and can't even manage a simple date with a woman without wanting a hookup. They don't enjoy a women's company or have any value. You can see them pretending to enjoy your company but underneath they're thinking soni really have to put up with this women to have sex. It's narcissistic and weird.
Bravoo 👏🏻 Im Muslim and I agree %100 .. I hope everyone listen to him
...you are being intimate without any intention of being intimate,well said,sign of our times😢... Thank you ,Rabbi for those powerful ,true words😊
This was the best message and talk from anyone in a long time. Actually halfway, had me in tears.
Very deep meaning to this...." sex stopped being intimate while we all want to be intimate" . Thank u Rabbi🙏
It can feel good to literally sleep together even if you don't actually have sex
Yeah, it is the closeness. The actual act of intimacy is so much more beautiful and fulfilling than the sheer act of sex.
This is a feeling you have but no guarantees your partner will not feel ignored.
True I’m out when a chick is in my bed like a new born baby really don’t care about sex but it make sleep so much better
@@KRAFTWERK2K6 i agree. Much nicer feeling
Who wanna sleep with me tonight🎉
So refreshing to hear somebody talking like this. So rare to hear somebody actually talk about sex with some grace and sanctity instead of talking about it like we’re all just rugged animals in a jungle. This world needs God back. ✝️
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This is very wise, Rabbi. Respects from Poland.
Thank you Rabbi for always being so you ! God bless. You are a gift to so many.
I do listen to him for hours. I do and my life is making sense now applying the Rabbi recommendations.
I hear you sir
Yes boss sir
Thank you Rabbi for putting this topic into perspective. Your message was tremendous
Intimacy is being soul naked, and totally vulnerable to your spouse.
Totally innocent.
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He makes so many good points that I am rethinking how I view sex. We need more conversations around sex and spirituality and how they are connected.
Read or read a summary of J. D. Unwin's book Sex and Culture.
@@CircleWedge Thank you
Rabbi is speaking the truth he knows exactly what is talking with facts too. Much respect to you. ❤
The courtship and morality used to mean something, now it is scoffed at and laughed at. It's a terrible shame
If you don't like something then stop complaining about it.
@peopleofearth6250 that's not a complaint! It's the truth! Even if it was a complaint, it's a valid complaint.
@@bl8680 stop complaining.
@@peopleofearth6250 the only complainer is you. And a mocker and a troll. Stop complaining!
@@bl8680 Quit whining.
❤God Bless you Rabbi, my maternal grandmother is Jewish and this is the first time I've been blessed to hear a Rabbi speaking. This touched my heart because I LOVE my husband and my four sons ❤️ I love everything about my husband and I think about this subject all the time.
If your maternal grandmother is Jewish, that would make you Jewish by Jewish law.
Excellent!
In my eyes, you are the rabb of all rabbis. You’re not afraid to talk about the conversation that everybody’s running away from you have answers for everything especially simple answers, listening to you. Everything makes sense all of a sudden
I love listening to you
Sex is a covenant and one day I decided I couldn’t let this person leave my life without loving him intimately just once. I’ve never left an open ended covenant like this before, but I knew long term he would not be the one so I ended it. 2 days later this entity tried to sexually assault me in my sleep, but I broke out of its grasp. The next few months I was battling the heat of sexual urges. I stopped dating for a year now and this has pushed me further into spiritual healing and awareness. I broke a few generational curses and I still have more to grow. I can no longer dishonor myself. I would rather be highly selective with strong moral and boundaries and live life in peace than to go through that turmoil of grief again.
Entity? Like a demon?
@@queenieburgers50 I didn’t see anything, for better or worse. I just felt it like it was actually there. I’m not much of a light sleeper either. I found when I wake up at night I need to pray not just for myself but for others who God places in my heart.
@@Handleitt1 Succubi or Incumbi - sexual demon
A married man asked me once "my wife has a problem. We can never be on the same page at night, what do you suggest?" I was not happy with this coversation so I said. "You need foreplay. Try taking out the trash, and puttimg the toilet seat down. By the way don't leave your dirty socks on the living room floor. Are you waiting for her to water them?"
There are many nice men and women out there. Pray you find each other.
lol that would make me feel bad. Those are my duties. Foreplay for me would be going to church or seeing him serve God in any way. Now that’s fire 🔥
@@mwendapolephiri5692😮 so cool
@@mwendapolephiri5692your duties? You teach your kids at about 3-4 years of age to out the dirty sock and dishes away....and here is you making your duties to teach your bum husband to behave like a 2 yers old. I hope you don't have sons and raise them that well....if you trach them to expect to disrespect the house like that and expect a woman to out up with it! Geez.
As a woman, I totally agree with everything that you’ve said
So true
You are too engaging and captivating man . Your each word is pouring down into my Heart. Hatts Off
He's a very good speaker . I'd listen to him all day.
God willingly I’ll be turning 23 years and I’m a straight up virgin. So which means that I’m undefeated 22-0 regarding not falling for temporary pleasure by giving away a piece of myself to someone I’m not married to. I shall wait for marriage.❤️😁💯
You and me both hon'💫😅
You can do it. I’m a complete virgin too and I’m turning 27 next month. I don’t plan on losing it anytime soon and I waiting for that special person. So can you (:
Yaye good on you!
Good for you! It’s also better for you psychologically.
Assuming you are a woman, a few years after you lose your virginity, you'll realize it's not all that it's supposed to be. (If you are a man, this applies even more.)
What really matters is commitment and loyalty in the relationship you are in. That's relationship -- not a one-night stand.
In fact dating a few people will help you understand what kind of person you want in life. And remember, there's only a 50% chance that your marriage will work. If it fails, and you get married again, you're not going to be a virgin anyway.
That thought at the end about separate seating is AMAZING 🤯
He had me until he said separate beds. Even when my husband & I aren’t being intimate in our bed we’re cuddling or holding each other while we sleep. I couldn’t imagine sleeping in a bed without him.
Not everyone likes that. I dont want to be bothered or touched if both decided its sleeping time. I cant fall asleep being bothered by someone.
@@etcwhatever well that’s you. Hope you’ve found someone who feels the same
@@triplejmom7826 the same applies for your statements. Its YOU. So you shouldnt imply Rabbi Manis is wrong. He has a different perspective with fits in for some people like ME. Hope its clearer now. My first bf agreed with the separate bedrooms. Yes it is sinful. We werent married.
@@etcwhatever I never said he was wrong. I said I disagreed with him. We also had a discussion, but he deleted it. I truly don’t understand why.
I had the same with my beloved and sherushed dog.
Sleeping together on the same bed felt like heaven on earth.❤
As a Christian, I endorse this video!
Intimacy is the sum of attraction, connection, and feeling.
Thank you Rabbi. It has beocme transactional.
Kiss, hugging etc is all an illusion .
So much pain in the society.
It was always transactional. You just didn't realize it.
I knew he was going to say that the hippie woman started crying in the office when he wouldn’t close the door. It made me think about going around to family or social functions and having to hug people and kiss them on the cheek. I wish the older men would not touch me, in fact I have stopped doing things like that in public. It took me until my 30s and a pandemic to realize that the real men would refuse to go along with this pantomime of intimacy between anyone other than their wife. Everyone just plays along, and it confuses everyone and cheapens the real thing. It’s crazy that there aren’t more grown men protecting women in this way. Or any adults protecting children in this way. Everyone seems to be self exploitative and commodified. We need to bring back true intimacy and keep it safe and sacred. I see the light in everyone’s eyes dimming, and people are too afraid to speak up and talk about these things we seem to have forgotten.
@@allisonleighandrews8495 Just stop interacting with people in general.
@@peopleofearth6250 stop with you. You're a complainer
@@peopleofearth6250 Yeah, giving up on people is totally the answer for her...no. It's true that people cheapen marital intimacy by getting whatever they can from anyone, but that doesn't mean the answer is to give up on people in general. That's ridiculous, and I hope you were joking.
This is a very important talk because western culture has forgotten that it was actually during the 1960s that the world was turned upside down, By 1972 in the US, abortion, a former taboo became legalized as well as another taboo, "Pornography" that suddenly was shown in the most elegant movie houses in New York around 1972, with limousines arriving in front of those movie houses with local TV personalities as an example that it was ok to surrender into that way of thinking, The most affected at first were those coming of age, turning 18 years in 1972, like myself, the legal age to be allowed to get exposed by that soul destruction..
Western culture is so soul crushing.💯
Thank you for the history-perspective.
Oh please! read the Canterbury´s tale (14th century) among many other books, filth and pornography has been present since humanity appeared on the face of the earth, it was not invented in the 60s . how ridiculous !
@@MSSHARIII Treating women like shit and taking away all their rights, taking away all freedom of speech and paying terrorists abroad to murder people in the name of religion , is that your preferred culture ?. Do you happen to be from Iran?
Thank you Rabbi Friedman for your common sense and wisdom
Thank god for this man's wisdom. Feels like I'm at home. Please don't stop spreading the message...
Thanks!
I think this video might get my daughter home. My boys so appreciate the way you said this. This is so important. I’m so grateful God sent you my way.
I am 19 nd my wife is 27. Once a night I caught her with my dad at same bed I was sleeping. So she told it was random bcoz when she wake up she found my dad's fully inside her nd her nipple was in my dad's mouth. nd she told that she so much tightness that she lost her control. It was ok ...but next day when she did it again in front of me then she told I love u so much babe but I can't ignore ur dad . In ur eyes he is old man but in my eyes he is raw man with abs , 6 feet body with broad chest nd a lengthy plus too much thick dick a woman can't ignore nd when also his one shot timing is 20mints nd total shots are 5 to 6 ....nd u know ur size is about equal to my lipstick 😭😭
I am confused 😭😭what should I do?? In 2022 my dad dropped his semen about 88 times in 11 nights.finally my wife got pregnant nd become mom of 6 kg son...in July 2023
I was blighted by the dark forces of this evil era. I started my late teenage with these kind of easy relations. I did not understand the curse I was bringing over my life. But now that I am 37yrs old I understand that I stepped out of THE CREATOR'S LAW. THAT IS WHY I SUFFER EVEN NOW.😢😢
We need repentance and get back on our feet ,start practing the right and things will be good and perfect again .
This is amazing. Soup itself may not be intimate but I find eating a meal with anyone intimate, so sometimes uncomfortable. This video tells me something I have always known deep down to be true, but it is a relief to hear someone validate that discomfort. What is intimacy today? What a mess my parents' generation made (60's and 70's - acid, the pill, 'free' love).
Sublime wisdom. Romance and intimacy revolution is here, and it makes me proud a Rabbi is talking about this
I need intimacy with the Creator because without Him I do not know love at all.
Amen
Totally worth my full attention. I love your holy perspective. Thank you for sharing this beautiful insight! God Bless!
SHALOM RABBI,thank you for this excellent oration about intimacy,which the work has forgotten
Thank you Rabbi Friedman for sharing this relevant teaching with us.
Rabbi Manis Friedman I so totally agree with you. I find the society has decayed so badly. Respect is missing.
We are society. It's not outside people. It doesn't just happen. We allow and encourage it to.happen.
First video I've seen with this man. I am an instant fan. Very articulate and poignant. Well done!!! 🙏👏
He’s right about this.
I’m a total atheist, but I’ll tell you, meaningless sex is just using someone for masturbation.
A lot of people can’t even have true intimacy, and it’s a shame.
It’s cheezy and lame and all that but deep down true closeness, acceptance, understanding and love with someone that has come to really mean something to you is one of the few best things you can experience in life.
It’s amazing how many folks go around with zero intention of finding love, and have no respect for the folks that are trying to find it.
@rely
Deep down you don’t want to be atheist
You just haven’t heard
What you needed to hear
You are intelligent and have a keen sense of observation
Just don’t be so called too intelligent for your own good
@eharris deep down I just want the truth.
I have no use for comforting lies.
@@Relyt345 The truth lies outside the realm of what is comforting, what is real. People never made dreams happen by staying on the most logically significant path. Grounding yourself in reality is essential for survival, but if you're to achieve any spiritual truth at all, this is not where you can remain. You will remain stuck in rigid patterns, backed by knowledge or science of objects and making presumptions about spirituality from how objects interact in the universe.
You must go past the material, to what is immaterial; illegible; non-being; quantum in nature, that which cannot be observed. Quantum mechanics itself has infinite potential when not observed even. Immaterial things also include mental concepts, such as mysticism, spiritualism, the concept of math, etc. These things obviously did not arise from objects, because the intelligence itself is proof of that. Objects cannot create intelligent concepts by themselves.
Now you probably understand where the idea that infinite potential lies in devotion to a higher power comes from.
I really needed this... Thank you Lord.
I see it like that too, for me sex is to be bonded with someone who you want to show all your deep and vulnerable feelings... It's an trusting thing, you're giving your body to someone, so you should at least feel safe and connected with this person...
I am 68, and both me and the wife were virgins because we had strong beliefs about sex. We are still married. Turns out she had a low sex drive. You are very right about your explanation of intimacy. I will not let myself be alone with a woman in that manner. It all starts that way though.
Note friends this does not mean you cannot hve sex in the day or in the evening when there is natural lighting. His emphasis on intimacy in the dark is only to highlight the lengths at which we go to glorify imagery over intimacy.
I totally agree with everything you've said.
Me too except for the sleeping in separate beds part.
Often times, a lot of people, regardless of whether they are a man or a woman, cannot distinguish between two rather different acts, that is, love making and having sex.
Sex is an instinctive and bio-mechanical act and everyone can do it.
On the other hand, making love is considered to be a sensual, slow, and not goal-oriented act that gives us the opportunity to experience the metaphysical being of oneness and it is considered to be an art in itself.
Exactly!!
Where does G-d fit in to your understanding? I think I missed it. Sex and making love, a nauseating phrase, are the same. No intimacy. Not as G-d intended. You know G-d, the Creator of intimacy and marriage.
@@Y1836Y You have proved my point.
You think making love is not goal oriented? 🤣
@@ThisReckless I think not. There's sex and there's intimacy. Nothing else.
Thanks, Rabbi Friedman, for the amazing lecture and the shared wisdom! ❤👍👏🎯😎🙏
I'm not Jewish and I´m not even a religious person. But I recognize wisdom when it is presented to me. Thank you for the wonderful video.
I remain alone. No kind of thing to do with those pleasures. Yes, rather have nothing and hope someday I find someone who knows what a Man and woman do is sacred. Shouldn't talk to your friends what you do with your spouse. Absolutely scary to interact physically with someone who is into lying, cheating and obviously deceitful. Maybe I don't have a somebody I am meant to be with. Truly accepting what is strength.
Between a man and a woman is not sacred. Between a husband and a wife is. Incredible difference.
Everything he's saying is true we have become so callous and hard. We've lost our interest in real Love.
wow! confirming what I always felt was true about intimacy vs sex. Thank you
Thank you, Rabbi, for being so awesome 💫 🩵 🇮🇱
I thank God for gathering us to listen to this wisdom 🙏🏿
Honorable sir...I would like to thank you for this extremely important information. I will share this with my sons, brothers and friends. Peace be with you.
Deep insight. Thank you Rabbi for this guidance.
This was beautiful and beautifully explained. You’re absolutely right, Sir. Thank you for this sermon.
This was beautiful and true! If only this was the way of the modern world. I could cry knowing/feeling that I may never have someone that shares these same views of marriage/relationships/sex/intimacy.
I'm Muslim and subscribed and listened to you because you are a Jew like the Jews I grew up with and studied in their school back in Iran. The basis of our religions is almost the same, especially regarding morality and values.
I appreciate the wisdom Rabbi, thanks for posting things like this is light when it's dark.
I am happy too have run into this video about intimacy because i have been celibate for approximately 10 years because of no real love and true intimacy 😢
Give this man an applause.
Dude is on point here.
Yes I am ready to receive financial wisdom.
Thank you rabbi you are truly a brother's keeper
I used to tell people they were confused and had sex and love mixed up.
Today when you hear people talk about love they mean sex and when some talk about sex they mean love they don't know what they mean
? You shouldn’t be having sex with someone you don’t love. That’s the whole point of this conversation.
I was told my moon in Leo meant that I was in love with the idea of love if I actually had it I would probably fuk it up. Funny but absolutely true 😂