The TRUTH about husbands
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I'm a Christian man, and I can say without a doubt that Rabbi Manis Friedman is purely wise. You can't make this wisdom up -- it can only come at old age. Thank you for freely and calmly sharing your wisdom to us, Rabbi.
I also respect the work here. I'm just clarifying what I understand from his words.
If you approach marriage as a power negotiation, don't be surprised when it plays out as a power struggle.
Right.
Competition
I feel maintaining respect is about seeing the best in each other. In difficulty do not assume the worst. I try to see my mates perspective in a positive light and if i cannot do that I think of 5 things I am grateful for that he brings into my life. I must admit I really appreciate how much he really is a man. He is willing to be kind and thoughtful and still plan and take charge. He asks me what I want and is not afraid to offer help. I do make an effort to ask him to do the things that I really want. He likes fixing things and putting things together. I could do it but I like that he would rather do it so I receive it and I let him know that I appreciate his contributions. I thank God every day he is in my life. I feel I make his life better and he makes my life better. Respect is important to him and it is important to me that he can see I respect him. He is truly a blessing.
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There is very little true, unadulterated, devoted and pure love in the world. This precious gift is very rare. Passion is usually called love.
You nailed it! 💯
Love is a heavenly plant and it must be nurtured and developed. Loving hearts, truly loving words,
Yes, cultivated as a husbandman cares for his viney! Watched over continually with dedication. See why this old word is used!
thank you for your common sense and clarity.
my wife and i do not understand how couples enter into marriage and maintain "seperate" lives (bank accounts, friends, and even faiths) expecting the marriage to be happy, fulfilling, and lasting.
You don’t. That is living with a roommate, not marriage!
Because, although u are married, u may not always be married. There is no guarantee that your partner will love u forever. He may decide to leave.
I have heard stories of one spouse taking all the money from the joint account.
Great teaching!
@@user-xu9ib9cd6d Yes, and fights over money are one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Sometimes it's better to keep separate accounts.
Please post part 2 about how to maintain respect after the other person becomes predictable!
Introduce a “Random Act of Respect” day
Designate one day a week when you both try to show extra respect for each other. This could include writing a love note, bringing flowers or simply thanking them for everything they do.
Remember why you fell in love
Cultivate common interests
Laugh together
remember that predictability is often a sign of stability and security in a relationship. Instead of fighting it, embrace it and be thankful that you have someone who is always there for you, no matter what
@@calmchill7583 thank you so much for your reply. Such valuable wisdom!
I knew you were going to say that.
😊 endlich ein Mann, der es versteht. 😊danke!
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!!💪🔯🙏❤☀🎶
God gave us the rule of marriage we can follow as a woman (wife) & as a man (Husband) responsibilities of marriage life, in a way that doesn't hurt both parties when they live together. The secret of marriages is very huge. We need to understand about marriage responsibilities before marriage. Otherwise, it will be fragile after honeymoon.
Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪 Thank you RabbiFriedman
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Most men run from women who are in need of
They run from a woman who is needy, not a woman who needs
There's no difference
@@NightinGal89 Yes there is. The difference is this: if a man doesn't do for me something I can't already do for myself he's not a man I can respect or desire. It might be he grows and catches food. It might be he knows how to maintain a house physically. It might be he knows how to manage and invest money so it grows. It doesn't matter what it is. It matters that he adds something to our lives.
@@NightinGal89 There is a HUGE difference between a person in need and a person who is needy, the difference is the "OTHERS" or in other words: "what will others say".
For a person who needs something, the "what will others say" do not exist.
A person who has a need to fulfill, will ask for help from those related to him, in order to fulfill the need. Once the need is fulfilled, he stops and can now help others.
if there is a need to fill, it is filled according to the ability, the amount needed and according to the manner, a lion eats meat, an elephant eats grass and also an ant.
On the other hand, a needy person uses need, to impress.
And in order to impress, everyone related to is used as a means to achieve the goal. An unattainable goal, because it is in an inner layer, therefore this need will never be fulfilled and as a result, the person will never stop use people as a means and never be able to help others who are not directly related to the goal of impressing the "others".
Wow. This was deep. You had me at the first sentence. ❤ Thank you for sharing.
This is clarifying and true in so many ways
Marriage is vitally important to the divorce courts.
People have two lives. The second life begins when they realize they only have one.😂
Very powerful solid and to the point marriage advice Rabbi! Loved this!
Father Abraham & Sarah had separate tents! This helps to maintain unpredictability. Today we'd say they each had their space & she still was a mystery to him therefore the romance was always there.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤
This man gets it. Wise words.
This was good ❤
Lots of wisdom here 🙌
This is incredible!!
You speak such wisdom.
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Thank you ❤
The vocabulary on the bottom left is a nice touch!
Ah, thanks for mentioning that. I missed the last one tznius for modesty
Thank you Rabbi.
thanks rabbi🙏🏼
It is beyond logic and nature , but also explains the theory !
תודה רבי
🤗It's just I was raised by a very angry woman. I then went out into the world as a giver - raising these two kids by myself, etc. This is not who was Created to be. 🥰Now, I am 50 years old, the kids grown now, and I am learning day by day to be softer and to RECEIVE and this is who I am. It all began with RECEIVING the love of the Father - we love Him b/c He first loved us. 😇I was not able to RECEIVE at all before - not even the love of my own children - so if anyone wanted to GIVE to me - I would reject it and stay alone - I am glad to understand now - may more and more Revelation Knowledge come to me as I am able to RECEIVE more EACH day - even though I am under the blessing of Abraham, I could not walk in my own inheritance b/c I did not know it and I could not RECEIVE God's many blessings each day. 🙏🙏
Thank you for this❤️ blessings unto you!
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Rabbi, can Fatimah linage be divinely connected to David's linage and both the Jewish and Muslim people be waiting for the same person?
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All women need men. we're just made to think these days that we can do it all.. it spoils it for real women because men then think that all women think like that. Allow the women to be a women and the man be a man.. it's natural for us to need each other it should go without saying but people just won't let it be..
No, not true for me. I do not need a man any longer. In my marriage I was r*ped from the beginning, mutilated, hurt, abused, burnt, my body is covered with scars, my soul broken - and I did everything, I never complained, never said no, until he started hurting the kids as well. AND I was the breadwinner, he came with nothing and left with nothing.
For what do I need a man?
Se*ually? No desire, thanks, I have suffered enough.
Financially? I have enough to afford a single home, a horse, a car, couple of dogs and pay the bills.
Protection? I have large bulldogs and I am able to call 911.
Biologically? I have kids, healthy, smart.
So tell me for what I need a man?
And do you say this same thing to women in real life too? By the way, I agree women need men and men need women (it doesn’t matter what I put first - both need each other in life).
Men and women need one another. And I disagree that everyone should get married. That's a recipe for domestic violence, child abuse and neglect and worse. Most people wouldn't push marriage and Parenthood on the young people not everybody wants that.
A woman can hire men to do anything she can't do. No woman needs to have a personal relationship with a man to live a good life. My father was dependent on ME in the final years of his life. A man who can't take care of himself is burdensome and that is typically how all men end up--dependent on women.
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We'll the same could be said about women. Think about it there are so many lonely successful ladies out there. A carrier will never replace intimacy and companionship. What about all those women who have no one to care for them in the end. Especially if they never had kids because they were deceived into believing it's not as important as having a carrier and multiple romantic partners. And there's no guarantee that any one from their work would even go to their funeral, truly heartbreaking. Life is both simple and difficult. It's simple because God already told us how we should live, but it's difficult for us to obey.
שבועה מבורך לך ושלך אמן אמן ואמן
Can someone interpret the last Hebrew Word used in the video?
I don't know how to spell it and I am not Jewish or familiar with the term.
Please and thank you.
The word rhymes with "sneeze" and is the Rabbi said you need it to keep respect in the marriage.
Tznius means modesty
@@amandamclaughlin3436 thank you so much
@@amandamclaughlin3436so modesty will save a marriage,? I don't get it.
@@cynthiaalsup3585 modesty isn’t just what you wear but how you act in judaism.
Rabbi is dropping some Red Pill truths
It is called the Stoning of Soriya M
How many Rabbi's get divorced by their wife?
Straight facts
you make good points to think on but I wonder about a woman with everything(job, house etc)- what’s your opinion about what she would need from a man? bc in my opinion it’s companionship so I think it fits your point, just differently
Emotional support: "How was your day?"
Just because you have one house does not mean you don’t need a second one that you share with your husband 🙌🏼 You just make money out of yours by renting it out, quit your job and dedicate your time to stay healthy and sane for your family, be the best wife and mother you can be, with no job stress 🎉😊
Genesis 3:16 tied to acts 19:25, for results in Revelation 18 is ACCURATE❤RABBE A STUDY OF MINE SINCE 1996
HA YAH & ❤YAH HA
A lack of what at the very end?
BH' Rabbi Torah explains the G-d particle within its blueprint !
No one wants a doormat
Men and women almost speak different languages. You never do anything equates to you never taking initiative, or when women complain about something, men assume they want whatever broken fixed when in fact they just want to vent and be heard.
I can't disagree.
@@ms.d5195 It's not a dig, just a fact. Men and women think very differently, one is more logical and uses more technically descriptive words, while the other more emotional and uses an emotional expression instead of a technical breakdown. If you recognize it, whichever you are when dealing with the opposite, it helps with communication.
I never understood women don't want something fixed when they complained till years after my wife and I were married. She got tired of it, knew how logical/technical I was, and simply explained it since "You're not listening" didn't equate to me, I think I replied "I am listening, this is how you fix ...." - problem solved, I quit doing it. 🤷♂
Thanks for the Tips Rabbe❤"the proof is in the pudding" as them say
Thank you, Rabbi fr
Freidman, for this beautiful message. ❤
Baruch Hashem!
The GOOD NEWS❤
I doubt understand the word Rabbi is using to explain how the way to keep respect. It sounds like he is saying sneeze, can anyone help please.
Tzinuis. It means modesty.
There you go.😊
Tznius means Modesty
Haha Your the only friend I have
Peace Love Cool
Proverbs 31? What does she need from you?
Yasher koach.
May I please ask you, how do I attract this kind of man into my life. I’ve been praying to God every day for a Godly husband 🙏
One Rabbi said:
The greatest thing you can do to advance your destiny is to help a groom or bride - especially those who are in need.
Help, in this case, can mean money (tzedakah). Setting aside a certain amount of money for this charitable cause every single day is a good place to start, particularly in denominations of 18, like 18 cents (the thought and the repetition factor also count).
But it will be even better if you can help with your time, which is what many brides and grooms really need. Can you drive them around? Help them shop? Help them move, set up a new apartment, toivel the dishes, you name it.
If anybody you know gets engaged, instead of getting jealous, call them up and say, “When you need help with anything, please, call me first.” It’s an opportunity that is rare, but very effective.
A young man I know who was looking to get married a few years ago heard the above advice in my synagogue. Not long afterwards, a friend of his who was engaged needed a ride around Manhattan to find some sort of clothing accessory for the wedding - a silly detail, in fact. He would have said “no,” if not for this advice.
So he drove around Manhattan, searching for a store that simply did not exist, with a groom who was somewhat unappreciative. Could you imagine anything more frustrating?
But this young man did it all with a smile, as he was glad for the opportunity. And what do you know? Shortly after that, his future wife found out about him and, out of the blue, he met Mrs. Right.
The other segulot the rebbe would often suggest is to resolve to take on an additional mitzvah observance or new Torah study that one would not have otherwise, with the specific intention that it should help find a match. The fact that the urgency of the matter is pushing you to do something that is normally out of your reach has a profound spiritual effect.
That special person is out there for you. Don’t give up. You will find him.
One Rabbi said the best way is to help others who are getting married
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Faithful marriage is sacred till death. death and birth are facts. Resurrection is true by G and or cloning. I perfected cloning. Please help me to legalize it
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Not true. Depending on someone isn’t healthy. We stay with those we want to stay with the we happy. If we stay cause we have no choice cause need them and depend on them, that’s like easily turns to personal hell. Desperate to leave but unable. Not good.
EVERY GOD AND EVERY DEMON ON EARTH WAS SUCKED INTO MY SCARS
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I thought marriage was about love?
..lack of what???
What is tisneeze?
Two 18 year olds getting married because he got her pregnant. They think they love each other. What can they understand at this point?
There is a document! Because her husband wanted a younger wife!
Sorry for all the lies about the Iceage which never existed. Our control addiction has been detected.
How about, don't marry him if he's not your best friend.
Real authentic love has nothing in common with this bs! Maybe arrangement / marriagge, but not love😅
What is real love? Women say it's an emotion. Men say it's a choice. All I know is that there are a lot of divorced men who didn't listen to this wisdom and are going through it. Feelings come and go, but the consequences of our actions follow us till we die and meet the maker.
@@TheJavsolo69 i never said its just feelings. Real love doesnt rely on this "calculations" its extremely rare. His advices are suppose aqurate for arrangements and marriage, but not love
@@Alice-ts3vl well a small amount of people do have unshakable chemistry. But there is an insane amount of failed marriages. This man is right on the most basic level. It may sound harsh.
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Don’t marry him unless he needs you
tf he needs you for you going half?
@@kiddkurk5876 the fuck she needs him for? women can work and pay their own bills now
How’s that working out for you?
It’s a lot different for women than for men. Natural law...Law of Gender.
He will be wife then😅
He takes to long to explain he just likes to hear himself talk just get to the point already sheesh
Is Judaism a dynasty?
No
@@FuriousMoses What is a dynasty in your opinion? Has Judaism never been a dynasty to you?
@@HisMessenger-wf5qd it has been, but it isn't anymore. Maybe some aspects remain in the chassidic and orthodox streams
@@FuriousMoses Why did the dynasty end?
@@HisMessenger-wf5qd There wasn't a Jewish political entity since the last exile, nearly 2000 years ago.
Yeah these are your Muslims !
But you’re single…
Sounds good in theory. But in the West, wives are encouraged to make the world about them, while husbands are shamed into sacrificing their lives.
This is the exact opposite of what young men should be doing. What awful advice. What a great idea, a woman who can’t live her life without you, who needs you for the most basic tasks, who could support the children if something happened to you. This is just more Iron Age patriarchal bullshit. Grow up people
"Needs you for the most basic tasks"? Sounds like the point missed you by a mile.
How many divorces are you going to cause? Don't make other people responsible for your emotions
@@TheJavsolo69 “Don’t make other people responsible for your emotions” but you’re also supposed to not marry a woman who doesn’t need you. Aren’t you then responsible for her emotions? Did you think about this at all?
@@cb1623 What do you consider a basic task? Earning money? Putting a roof over your head? Food? These are all basics. You are advocating marrying a woman who needs you for these things. It seems that you’re the one missing the point. Women aren’t chattel
@@Slohoffman01 when you in a marriage you and your partner become one person. So choose wisely. If a woman does not need a man she will eventually leave him. It's a natural consequence. Totally understandable because she will look for a man she does need. I think this truth might trigger some people. And coming from there emotions speak against it. And that's what I meant by saying don't make other people responsible for your emotions. Men and women need each other. This is a universal truth. This man's advice will help whoever is wise enough to listen.
Feminists would interpret this ss h8 speech.
They'd be flattered with your obsession with them, though.
So you're the one out here giving these men such terrible advice? Shame on you, Rabbi. Shame on you.
Yet he's been married for 50 years. How about you..??
Thanks!