Thank you for this video. I just had the realization in therapy that I’m fearful avoidant and it honestly feels like the missing piece I’ve needed in my recovery. It does feel a little gloomy though, such a complex thing. I can’t even imagine how to begin healing this.
Thank you, and I am happy to know you find the video helpful! In terms of change, awareness is the first and, coincidently, the biggest step. Once you are aware and set your mind to change, it's just knowing how and taking steps to make it happen. Best wishes!
As a FA, I was with my DA boyfriend for a year. We lived together and I loved him so much. But, like my childhood, he kept leaving ( abandoning). So now? Yes. I will happily be alone. I was fine being alone before but, never want another relationship...ever!!!
I hear you. Relationships with people that are insecurely attached can often times be difficult, even for those that are mostly securely attached. Do you know your predominant attachment style?
Great video, love your channel. I'm half secure half anxious and just got dumped by what I assume was FA guy. He is going through struggles in his life but everything was really good between us. He thought being with me whilst he's depressed is not fair on me but now I am sad and hurt because he left when I have been patient with him.
Relationships are not easy. We are looking not just for a good person, but also meeting them at the right place and time. It takes two to make a relationship work, and only one to severe it. Give him the space he wants; if he reaches back and you happen to still be available one day, there's still an opportunity to reconcile. In the meantime, move on and live your best life. No matter what he chooses to do, that's always your best path forward.
Teagan, I am the same and experienced the same, I believe he split me and has BPD as well. They are very insecure and believe they aren't capable of committing and don't deserve love. So they find flaws and issues to end it first.
@@fatatabata Oh yes, FAs unhealed will pull away and need space. By "Insecure avoidant" you mean dismissive avoidants I suppose, it's the same. Both are insecure styles. And if they needed a secure they would be secure and healed themselves
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Thank you for this video. I just had the realization in therapy that I’m fearful avoidant and it honestly feels like the missing piece I’ve needed in my recovery. It does feel a little gloomy though, such a complex thing. I can’t even imagine how to begin healing this.
Thank you, and I am happy to know you find the video helpful!
In terms of change, awareness is the first and, coincidently, the biggest step. Once you are aware and set your mind to change, it's just knowing how and taking steps to make it happen.
Best wishes!
As a FA, I was with my DA boyfriend for a year. We lived together and I loved him so much. But, like my childhood, he kept leaving ( abandoning).
So now? Yes. I will happily be alone. I was fine being alone before but, never want another relationship...ever!!!
I hear you. Relationships with people that are insecurely attached can often times be difficult, even for those that are mostly securely attached.
Do you know your predominant attachment style?
Thank you for your work!
You are so welcome, thank you for letting me know!
I love your videos, also i can listen to what you say while I drive. As usual, packed with great explanation and advice!
And I listen to your videos too for advice on stress management. Thank you Lolita!
Great video, love your channel. I'm half secure half anxious and just got dumped by what I assume was FA guy. He is going through struggles in his life but everything was really good between us. He thought being with me whilst he's depressed is not fair on me but now I am sad and hurt because he left when I have been patient with him.
Relationships are not easy. We are looking not just for a good person, but also meeting them at the right place and time.
It takes two to make a relationship work, and only one to severe it.
Give him the space he wants; if he reaches back and you happen to still be available one day, there's still an opportunity to reconcile. In the meantime, move on and live your best life. No matter what he chooses to do, that's always your best path forward.
Teagan, I am the same and experienced the same, I believe he split me and has BPD as well. They are very insecure and believe they aren't capable of committing and don't deserve love. So they find flaws and issues to end it first.
@@MissSarahGM a FA doesn't need "space". This is what an insecure avoidant would suggest. A FA needs a secure attached person to work with
@@fatatabata Oh yes, FAs unhealed will pull away and need space. By "Insecure avoidant" you mean dismissive avoidants I suppose, it's the same. Both are insecure styles. And if they needed a secure they would be secure and healed themselves
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