I’m fascinated by this idea that depression is like a “deep-rest”. It’s a way of our bodies forcing us into a period of deep introspection because the lives we’re living aren’t serving us in the way they should and our souls are bursting to come alive. I have experienced depression and it can be agonisingly painful - but looking at it this way and learning from it can be helpful.
mspixiedust100 , of course it's pretty awesome. Buy it from Amazon and it will answer many of your questions, and it will help you in stopping procrastination, ending stress, anxiety or depression. And it will make you a better person in every respect (if you act on it).
Duggy Dugg , you know how I do end my anxiety or depression? Whenever I feel stressed or depressed I go to make congregational prayer in mosque, I feel so peace and relieved that there is one creator of mine who love me and is with me , who fed me and clothed me. And at the end I have to return to him. And sometimes I listen Quran and get relieve of my anxiety. I will give you a link why don't you give it a try.
Mel said something that changed my mindset once. She said you should think of working out like you unload the dishwasher...No one wants to do, but we do it anyway. That’s how i think of exercise now...i do it every day even though i don’t like it. Until recently i have begun liking the physical activity! Thanks Mel
What really pushed me out of that self-destructive spiral is the fact that nobody was going to rescue me. Deep inside, we all have to acknowledge that we´ve been waiting so long for the change to come, instead of creating it. It´s great how the 5 second rule has always an invitation ;)
Guys,this is actually a quote from Seneca I think, hopefully I'm right. It's like : dont wait for others tk save you and your soul save yourself. So happy you are better now❤
I'll be honest. I've been utilizing her advice for a bit now and I have a completely new outlook on my life. I view my brain as a tool versus something to be ruled by. I won't lie. There are still days where the doom and dreariness takes over... But when I come to this comments section and read all the fantastic ways everyone else has learned to cope and move forward, it's like hitting a reset button. It's like, fuck yeah, I'm in control. Fuck no I won't let my emotions define me. Emotions are just visitors. Why would I let temporary feelings effect the way I feel about myself to my core? Effect how I move, talk, and navigate the world as I have been doing all of my life? Nope. Not anymore. I may have moments where the depression is so strong that it convinces me otherwise, but I remind myself I am in control. I am the master of my mind, the writer of my story, NOT my sad brain!!!
I LOVE how his mother keeps soothing her son on stage. May be just to be sure that he takes Mel's inputs in right spirit or not to be overwhelmed about being on stage with so many people looking. Shows the solid support system his mom would be in his fight against depression. Much love to them and Mel.
Even a 15 minute walk is pretty powerful when suffering from depression. When you do it consistently that is when you will see results. It really does help especially when out in nature. At least it has helped me.
I will forever carry that quote with me. Thank you for all that you do 👌❤ "Depression doesn't rob you of making the choice, it tricks you into making the wrong one" -Mel Robbins
This is amazing. I suffered from depression for many years before learning to overcome it. Now my nephew who is still a child is dealing with it. He just wrote me a note that said, "I am garbage." 😢 I am going to explain it to him in this way because it's so simple in it's language that even a kid can understand. "Oh there's my brain being sad again, and it's lying to me!"
Hope things are doing better with you nephew. This was the first thing I learned dealing with depression "Don't Believe What You Think". And within it is a gift....it pushes us to look deeper in ourselves and learn who we are and what gifts we have to share with the world. It also teaches us compassion for anyone in pain.
I’ve suffered from anxiety / agoraphobia for 4 years. I love how Mel consistently is transparent with her own struggles of anxiety. Taking her advice on pushing myself out the door at least once a day has made a positive change. One small step leads to another step... and for someone who is agoraphobic this is HUGE. Thanks Mel , and please continue to shed positivity and light on mental health 💗 you are truly appreaciated.
Loved it, because in this 4 minute video Mel condenses the 2 key elements to beat the vicious spiral of depression. 1) Movement, 2) Ignore how you feel. And the best way to start movement in spite of your feelings (as far as I know) is the 5 second rule. She unwittingly has found a trick to out-wit 6 million years of evolutionary biology. This is a massive feat, and could (hopefully) improve the lives of millions of people, and who knows (?) reduce some health care costs, because movement can not only be good for the mind, it does wonders for overall health: Think obesity, diabetes, heart desease and a host of other illnesses caused by our modern day sedentary lives. Well done Mel!
Also, you know someone is a great speaker when a person in the audience who didn't even want to be there starts enjoying it and asking questions! I can't wait to hear you in person someday Mel!!!
In my personal experience, there is no specific hours or days of the week... what worked for me was getting physically tired with a hobby (gardening/gym/cooking/painting), going to trips, working on my feet throughout the week that I had no time to sit and think about being depressed :)
well I work in a hospital so I have a physically demanding job, then I hike/go for walks around town/go to gym with my bf during my days off. i got lazy, sedentary days... but too many of them in a row is what got me depressed in the past.
I was depressed because I was surrounded by toxic people who abused me. I don't recall any happy memories of my childhood and teenage years. Both my parents suffered from a mental illness and they had addictions too. I may not feel happy today but I am resilient and I move on with my life. When I tell people I am depressed they avoid me and treat me like I have leprosy.
I've suffered from depression my whole life. I was diagnosed in my early 20s of moderate depression. I never want to see severe. I'm just now understanding that my brain is sprained and, just like a sprained ankle, the are triggers that cause the sprain again and again. After watching this video a couple of times, I'm going to do the 5 second method she talks about. Perhaps it will shock my system enough to help me claw my way out of this. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤
As someone working to manage depression and recovery-this is everything. Thank you! I know behavior activation works when it’s followed, but I was still having trouble following it. Going to try the countdown. Thank you!
I think Mel is now the top person I would love to meet. It's been Simon Le Bon and David Jason for 40 years. She is amazing. Just have to remind myself to take action rather than keep hiding and the denial ❤️❤️🙏🙏
I think that forcing ourselves to do the things that we don't want to do but that must be done actually helps against depression 》 you proove to yourself that you can still make it
I have a book about depression in Africa and how we close to never get help through it but the same depression has been stopping me from finishing it. So in 54321 I’m going to go back again and again. I didn’t know the rule works for depressed people. Thanks a million Mel
I'm so glad I found your content, Mel. I was diagnosed with depression in 2011 and was having a particularly hard day. Haven't felt this low in a long time. Going to watch more of your videos. Need to get my life on track. I so wish I could ask you a few questions. Thank you, Dee
You are a life saver. I mean the advice & tools are a fantastic reminder as depression loves being sedentary so movement, exercise interferes with the gloom & wakes up the brain!
Hey from Brazil 🇧🇷 You’re such an inspiration and watching your videos has really changed the way I think and how I manage to become everything that I want to become. Thank you so much
Que maravilhosa! I suffer with depression for years, and I'm using her techniques, and love to listen to her speaches too! Makes me strong! Really Grateful! PS: when I listen "you gonna make me cry", I was like: "now you gonna make me cry too" rs I see real and true in your path! 💛✨
This is very interesting. It might be difficult to do, but all those that are suffering from depression are doing it already. I suck, 12345 yes I do. Instead, 12345 lets go for a walk etc. I dont think that just the 5 seconds are important, but that you actually do something to change. Walk another way. Since you already doing it down the drain, why not try to do it another way? Same thing. Got nothing to loose, if it does not work everything still sucks and you have lost nothing. Does that make sense? Another trick that you can use, and that I use myself is to get yourself in order. Like this guy here, cut your hair, shave and put on something else. I know I know..but it really helps! Look somewhat neat and feel somewhat better.
This is going to be the most difficult thing I've ever done, but when I reach my next low, I will definitely 54321 and I trust it is going to change everything. So simple yet so deeply touching... Thank you
Mel Robbins I'd love to tell you everything now, but the story gets so unbelievable I want to wait a bit more to check what's behind the corner first :)
Very nice video. One more suggestion. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I'm definitely not depressed. But most of the time there's no synchronization in between my thoughts and emotions, which are mostly blank. I know I should want to try harder, but there's always the feeling that there's gonna be no point in trying, and I'll end up the same way eitherway. I feel like this ever since a little over a month, when I decided to quit all my hobbies to focus on my examinations as I had been spending way too much time on my hobbies. I used to write a lot of code, and my projects and my progress on them used to be a source of self-esteem for me, and now that I don't, it's all completely different. I don't really feel like I have the strength to do what it takes now. I'm not sad or anything, just quite blank. I've tried to use reward systems and all sorts of study techniques, none of which work for me any longer.
Never have had an issue with depression... but some great advice here. BUT... I gotta say, the dynamic here between this adult and his mother really gives me the willies. WATCH what his mother does while Mel is talking. She refuses to let this young man grow up. (Also possible he has manipulated her into this position. But they have some pretty tangled crap together.) Who has conditioned who here? Lady... glad you love your kid, and want him to do better in life... but when are you going to quit treating him like the helpless little boy you and he seem to believe he is? Sad how parents destroy their children by trying to protect them from THEIR fears, and turn their kids into "helpless victims".
Thank you so much for this simple and powerfull advice. I was feeling like crap the last few days/weeks and today i found your video.alot with being depressed has to do with feeling so overwhelmed by life!
I overcame depression long time ago but the personality features in me that caused me to get depressed still lingers in me.. I have been getting therapy for a really long time now but one thing I realized is that you should be your own therapist first. You should diagnose yourself first, and the imporatnt thing is you should be able to do that ofcourse. Ofcourse with the help of therapy experience, I'm now able to see myself from afar, from a point of observation. I can see the thinking patterns I have like perfectionism (which is a killer thought) or things like that. They were the habits that got me into depression at the beginning, 7 years ago, and you can't ever delete them from your DNA completely. The thinking patterns or habits are still there. You just should recognize them and they get silent or lose their effect. Things like perfectionism or the habit of overthinking, always blaming others. What I mean is, even if you aren't depressed anymore, some things are still hard to do because, like you say in the video, your inner self-conscious voice tells you that they are. It tells you you can't do this or that thing. I have it in me and I recognize it. Therefore I believe I'm gonna overcome it some time soon.
I beat depression and so can you. I had a doctor who didn't want to give me medication. I kept insisting on it and he eventually gave it to me along with a good kick in the caboose. He said to me..(not verbatim, cause it was so long ago I don't remember the words) "you want medication, ok fine I'll give you f$^%^%ing mediation, (proceeds to scribble on a prescription slip furiously then slams the paper down) here, here's your damn medication, I want you to take this, fill it, put it in your medicine cabinet and I don't want you to touch it, I want you to look in the mirror every morning and say "not today, maybe tomorrow, but damn it not today, I 'm not going to feel like this" and I want you to get your f$^%ing shit together cause you got 3 kids that need you". don't you know I was sobbing like a baby but I did exactly what he said and in 6 months I was a completely different person, I know how it feels to be at the lowest there is and I REFUSE to ever feel like that again. I am a powerful positive person today because I got the kick in the ass that I needed. I only wish I remembered that doctors name because I owe him big time and would love to thank him. if I can do it ANYONE can. YOU GOT THIS, ALL OF IT!!!!
Great that this worked for you- but it's important to realize that there is a big difference between chemical depression and depression that is a result of sadness or events. Chemical depression needs more than positive thinking. I think the ideas in this video are extremely helpful for both types, but without meds, some people could never even entertain her suggestions.
a feeling is nothing bad or good its just a feeling but the mind gives meaning to it for me boredom and hopelessness feels like relaxing this two feelings are not really diffrent... for me atleast... i dont know about u but i think every feeling can be something good its up to you... yin and yang what do you choose? if i dont want to be bored, hopeless or in other words realxing and resting i just do something going outside or what ever and move my body... greetings from germany btw she is really pretty
You should highly consider speaking at assembly's for high school's Mel. Imagine the kids lives you could MASSIVELY transform. They are about to transition into adulthood and the majority of them wonder wants the point anymore.
- I don't care about how you feel, I care about what you want. And if you listen to how you feel when it comes to what you want. You will not get it, because you will never feel like it. Mel Robbins
I don't know if it would help but try minimalising your surroundings as much as possible. Simplify your life/surroundings. I think 'stuff' has the ability to sap a persons spirit.❤
She says depressed people can’t move, so her advice is to move. I don’t see how this is helpful. Also, she seems to assume all depressed people can’t get out of bed in the mornings, but this isn’t always true.
I think Mel is always able to use language that's appropriate to topic. And this was probably a conversation after some speech, where she never curses.
sorry to say but I think this is bs...I go to the damn gym 5 times a week and yet it has no effect on helping me cure my depression. I just get back from the gym and everything is the same...
You can not beat depression with physical activity or the 5 second rule. Medicin will not fix it. Find a therapist and get professionel help. Then you will learn why you have a depression or have felt depressed for years. You have to get to the root of the problem.
Ma'm, I am Hirak Nath from a small town DUDHNOI, in INDIA. I saw your videos in youtube regarding anxiety, and I felt That You can help me. Ma'm I am *Struggling with anxiety* , I cannot even sit still, random negative Thoughts Come to mya Mind and my Heart Starts beating faster. I feel a sense of Unknown fear. Will I recover? *Please Help Me Mam* , plz
Some suggestions for this gentleman: get decent haircut, different clothes, start to work out and get the hell away from your mother, that is treating you like a little boy. I found that mother really annoying! She is part of his problem! All what Mel said is true! I'm a martial arts instructor with 25 years of experience in that field, and I saw that with student so often! They start to be depressed. Lost their job, failed a test at school or the university or their relationship or marriage broke. They start to disappear for months or at all. They do exactly the opposite of what is good for them: getting out of the house, move and workout and stay in that martial arts school with all those people. It gives strength and a hold in life!
I’m fascinated by this idea that depression is like a “deep-rest”. It’s a way of our bodies forcing us into a period of deep introspection because the lives we’re living aren’t serving us in the way they should and our souls are bursting to come alive. I have experienced depression and it can be agonisingly painful - but looking at it this way and learning from it can be helpful.
Love that phrasing.
I am Suffering from depression for 2-3 years. This is the only video where I feel that I can overcome it. I'll use this 5 second rule.
rajul singh I hope you feel better soon. Focus on yourself. ❤
rajul singh , bro have you read 5 second rule
+Kamran Abbasi Is it good?
mspixiedust100 , of course it's pretty awesome. Buy it from Amazon and it will answer many of your questions, and it will help you in stopping procrastination, ending stress, anxiety or depression. And it will make you a better person in every respect (if you act on it).
Duggy Dugg , you know how I do end my anxiety or depression?
Whenever I feel stressed or depressed I go to make congregational prayer in mosque, I feel so peace and relieved that there is one creator of mine who love me and is with me , who fed me and clothed me. And at the end I have to return to him. And sometimes I listen Quran and get relieve of my anxiety. I will give you a link why don't you give it a try.
This how a mother prevents a depression from developing into suicidal behaviors, by soothing his son and just being with him.
Mel said something that changed my mindset once. She said you should think of working out like you unload the dishwasher...No one wants to do, but we do it anyway. That’s how i think of exercise now...i do it every day even though i don’t like it. Until recently i have begun liking the physical activity! Thanks Mel
Amazing news!
What really pushed me out of that self-destructive spiral is the fact that nobody was going to rescue me. Deep inside, we all have to acknowledge that we´ve been waiting so long for the change to come, instead of creating it. It´s great how the 5 second rule has always an invitation ;)
Ram Carter I actually said that to myself so many times, "nobody it's going to save you, you have to save yourself". Feeling much better lately.
Guys,this is actually a quote from Seneca I think, hopefully I'm right. It's like : dont wait for others tk save you and your soul save yourself. So happy you are better now❤
How are you doing now ?
I'll be honest. I've been utilizing her advice for a bit now and I have a completely new outlook on my life. I view my brain as a tool versus something to be ruled by. I won't lie. There are still days where the doom and dreariness takes over... But when I come to this comments section and read all the fantastic ways everyone else has learned to cope and move forward, it's like hitting a reset button. It's like, fuck yeah, I'm in control. Fuck no I won't let my emotions define me. Emotions are just visitors. Why would I let temporary feelings effect the way I feel about myself to my core? Effect how I move, talk, and navigate the world as I have been doing all of my life? Nope. Not anymore. I may have moments where the depression is so strong that it convinces me otherwise, but I remind myself I am in control. I am the master of my mind, the writer of my story, NOT my sad brain!!!
@@sativadva Kudos to you!
I LOVE how his mother keeps soothing her son on stage. May be just to be sure that he takes Mel's inputs in right spirit or not to be overwhelmed about being on stage with so many people looking. Shows the solid support system his mom would be in his fight against depression. Much love to them and Mel.
Even a 15 minute walk is pretty powerful when suffering from depression. When you do it consistently that is when you will see results. It really does help especially when out in nature. At least it has helped me.
Steven Hill Yes, I've suffered with depression for years and always feel better out in nature, I hike with my dog:)
I will forever carry that quote with me. Thank you for all that you do 👌❤
"Depression doesn't rob you of making the choice, it tricks you into making the wrong one"
-Mel Robbins
This is amazing. I suffered from depression for many years before learning to overcome it. Now my nephew who is still a child is dealing with it. He just wrote me a note that said, "I am garbage." 😢 I am going to explain it to him in this way because it's so simple in it's language that even a kid can understand. "Oh there's my brain being sad again, and it's lying to me!"
Hope things are doing better with you nephew. This was the first thing I learned dealing with depression "Don't Believe What You Think". And within it is a gift....it pushes us to look deeper in ourselves and learn who we are and what gifts we have to share with the world. It also teaches us compassion for anyone in pain.
RainWanders i really hope he is doing better. Is there some type of abuse, neglect? Hope he gets the support and help he needs.💙
How are you doing now ?
I’ve suffered from anxiety / agoraphobia for 4 years. I love how Mel consistently is transparent with her own struggles of anxiety. Taking her advice on pushing myself out the door at least once a day has made a positive change. One small step leads to another step... and for someone who is agoraphobic this is HUGE. Thanks Mel , and please continue to shed positivity and light on mental health 💗 you are truly appreaciated.
Loved it, because in this 4 minute video Mel condenses the 2 key elements to beat the vicious spiral of depression. 1) Movement, 2) Ignore how you feel. And the best way to start movement in spite of your feelings (as far as I know) is the 5 second rule. She unwittingly has found a trick to out-wit 6 million years of evolutionary biology. This is a massive feat, and could (hopefully) improve the lives of millions of people, and who knows (?) reduce some health care costs, because movement can not only be good for the mind, it does wonders for overall health: Think obesity, diabetes, heart desease and a host of other illnesses caused by our modern day sedentary lives. Well done Mel!
Also, you know someone is a great speaker when a person in the audience who didn't even want to be there starts enjoying it and asking questions! I can't wait to hear you in person someday Mel!!!
“ Anything you have in life is it sum of all the decisions you’ve made. “Wow, so true and empowering
It's true. Moving decreases depressiion, people! But only you can initiate it.
+Saro M I think 30 minutes a day
In my personal experience, there is no specific hours or days of the week... what worked for me was getting physically tired with a hobby (gardening/gym/cooking/painting), going to trips, working on my feet throughout the week that I had no time to sit and think about being depressed :)
well I work in a hospital so I have a physically demanding job, then I hike/go for walks around town/go to gym with my bf during my days off. i got lazy, sedentary days... but too many of them in a row is what got me depressed in the past.
I am so moved by his mother’s body language. She loves him more than anything. Bless them. All strength to you. ❤️
Also I would say : "enjoy the little things in Life everyday" because as you age life takes alot of the things you took for granted.
Ive seen so many doctors over the last 20 years, this is the best advice ive ever heard.
To treat depression = movement, do stuff (1:13) 》 exactly the opposite of what you want to do (lay in bed all day) + meds (for me) Thx Mel♥️♥️♥️
I was depressed because I was surrounded by toxic people who abused me. I don't recall any happy memories of my childhood and teenage years. Both my parents suffered from a mental illness and they had addictions too. I may not feel happy today but I am resilient and I move on with my life. When I tell people I am depressed they avoid me and treat me like I have leprosy.
This is such an important video! Love how enthusiastic this man is after seeing you and the hope of his adorable mom! Thank you Mel for all you do.
Thank you so much Mel for putting it so candidly. Depression has robbed me of too much of my life. I look forward to trying your suggestions.
Please give it a try :)
I've suffered from depression my whole life. I was diagnosed in my early 20s of moderate depression. I never want to see severe. I'm just now understanding that my brain is sprained and, just like a sprained ankle, the are triggers that cause the sprain again and again. After watching this video a couple of times, I'm going to do the 5 second method she talks about. Perhaps it will shock my system enough to help me claw my way out of this. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤
As someone working to manage depression and recovery-this is everything. Thank you! I know behavior activation works when it’s followed, but I was still having trouble following it. Going to try the countdown. Thank you!
Nicole Pittman
It totally works
I'm in recovery and add and depression
5 4 3 2 1 💖💖💖
I think Mel is now the top person I would love to meet. It's been Simon Le Bon and David Jason for 40 years. She is amazing. Just have to remind myself to take action rather than keep hiding and the denial ❤️❤️🙏🙏
🥺🥺🥺 That was some of the easiest, most concise, and powerful advices I've ever heard.
They are so sweet supporting each other.
I think that forcing ourselves to do the things that we don't want to do but that must be done actually helps against depression 》 you proove to yourself that you can still make it
I have a book about depression in Africa and how we close to never get help through it but the same depression has been stopping me from finishing it. So in 54321 I’m going to go back again and again. I didn’t know the rule works for depressed people. Thanks a million Mel
I'm so glad I found your content, Mel. I was diagnosed with depression in 2011 and was having a particularly hard day. Haven't felt this low in a long time. Going to watch more of your videos. Need to get my life on track. I so wish I could ask you a few questions. Thank you,
Dee
Hey how you're doing now?
You are a life saver. I mean the advice & tools are a fantastic reminder as depression loves being sedentary so movement, exercise interferes with the gloom & wakes up the brain!
Man, I love all that you do... thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Great video. Thank you. Yes, depression does lie and keeps us stuck. It is all about doing those things that help us, despite not wanting to do it.
It's horrible, I have it since 17, I'm 23 fuck this shit desease, Mel is right once again !
Much love to you Mel ♥️♥️♥️
I've struggled with depression and anxiety for years. Nothing seems to work.
I just wish I could be rid of it as it is a vile existence.
SOLID SOLUTIONS from her. I feel it will work. Thank you so much Mel!
she's perfectly right. thank you
Mel you inspire me everyday!
How real you are, how you speak and what you say just everything is really true and it actually works!
Hey from Brazil 🇧🇷 You’re such an inspiration and watching your videos has really changed the way I think and how I manage to become everything that I want to become. Thank you so much
Que maravilhosa!
I suffer with depression for years, and I'm using her techniques, and love to listen to her speaches too! Makes me strong! Really Grateful!
PS: when I listen "you gonna make me cry", I was like: "now you gonna make me cry too" rs I see real and true in your path! 💛✨
What is you gonna make me cry, a song ?
@@karine8738 is a phrase she said in the video.
@@jurogge oupsss ok sorry
OMGoshhhhh Mel this is EXACTLY what I needed today! Perfect timing!
This is very interesting. It might be difficult to do, but all those that are suffering from depression are doing it already. I suck, 12345 yes I do. Instead, 12345 lets go for a walk etc. I dont think that just the 5 seconds are important, but that you actually do something to change. Walk another way. Since you already doing it down the drain, why not try to do it another way? Same thing. Got nothing to loose, if it does not work everything still sucks and you have lost nothing. Does that make sense?
Another trick that you can use, and that I use myself is to get yourself in order. Like this guy here, cut your hair, shave and put on something else. I know I know..but it really helps! Look somewhat neat and feel somewhat better.
This is going to be the most difficult thing I've ever done, but when I reach my next low, I will definitely 54321 and I trust it is going to change everything. So simple yet so deeply touching... Thank you
Can't wait to hear how things change for you! xo
Mel Robbins I'd love to tell you everything now, but the story gets so unbelievable I want to wait a bit more to check what's behind the corner first :)
Very nice video. One more suggestion. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I'm definitely not depressed. But most of the time there's no synchronization in between my thoughts and emotions, which are mostly blank. I know I should want to try harder, but there's always the feeling that there's gonna be no point in trying, and I'll end up the same way eitherway. I feel like this ever since a little over a month, when I decided to quit all my hobbies to focus on my examinations as I had been spending way too much time on my hobbies. I used to write a lot of code, and my projects and my progress on them used to be a source of self-esteem for me, and now that I don't, it's all completely different. I don't really feel like I have the strength to do what it takes now. I'm not sad or anything, just quite blank. I've tried to use reward systems and all sorts of study techniques, none of which work for me any longer.
Never have had an issue with depression... but some great advice here. BUT... I gotta say, the dynamic here between this adult and his mother really gives me the willies. WATCH what his mother does while Mel is talking. She refuses to let this young man grow up. (Also possible he has manipulated her into this position. But they have some pretty tangled crap together.)
Who has conditioned who here? Lady... glad you love your kid, and want him to do better in life... but when are you going to quit treating him like the helpless little boy you and he seem to believe he is?
Sad how parents destroy their children by trying to protect them from THEIR fears, and turn their kids into "helpless victims".
Bit of a big assumption to make based on, what, four minutes of interaction... who really knows what’s going on here? Less judgement might be helpful.
You don’t have a clue about them. So silly.
Create the momentum out of depression by small choices at a time.
I assume this means go to bed on time, even if you don't feel like it.
Yup - get to bed on time helps too :)
Thanks so much Mel gonna add this to one of the many life tips you've provided me thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this simple and powerfull advice.
I was feeling like crap the last few days/weeks and today i found your video.alot with being depressed has to do with feeling so overwhelmed by life!
Thank you Mel I wanna give you one big hug
Thank you for this VERY useful and doable advice and for all the work and care that went into offering it💛
Wow 😍 I'm speechless. She is so amazing.
I need to hear more about it. How can we get rid of depression? Is movement sufficient? If it is then thank you mam. You are so kind
Don't know, trying it but still struggling with depression anxiety fibromyalgia.
I overcame depression long time ago but the personality features in me that caused me to get depressed still lingers in me.. I have been getting therapy for a really long time now but one thing I realized is that you should be your own therapist first. You should diagnose yourself first, and the imporatnt thing is you should be able to do that ofcourse.
Ofcourse with the help of therapy experience, I'm now able to see myself from afar, from a point of observation. I can see the thinking patterns I have like perfectionism (which is a killer thought) or things like that. They were the habits that got me into depression at the beginning, 7 years ago, and you can't ever delete them from your DNA completely. The thinking patterns or habits are still there. You just should recognize them and they get silent or lose their effect. Things like perfectionism or the habit of overthinking, always blaming others.
What I mean is, even if you aren't depressed anymore, some things are still hard to do because, like you say in the video, your inner self-conscious voice tells you that they are. It tells you you can't do this or that thing. I have it in me and I recognize it. Therefore I believe I'm gonna overcome it some time soon.
I beat depression and so can you. I had a doctor who didn't want to give me medication. I kept insisting on it and he eventually gave it to me along with a good kick in the caboose. He said to me..(not verbatim, cause it was so long ago I don't remember the words) "you want medication, ok fine I'll give you f$^%^%ing mediation, (proceeds to scribble on a prescription slip furiously then slams the paper down) here, here's your damn medication, I want you to take this, fill it, put it in your medicine cabinet and I don't want you to touch it, I want you to look in the mirror every morning and say "not today, maybe tomorrow, but damn it not today, I 'm not going to feel like this" and I want you to get your f$^%ing shit together cause you got 3 kids that need you". don't you know I was sobbing like a baby but I did exactly what he said and in 6 months I was a completely different person, I know how it feels to be at the lowest there is and I REFUSE to ever feel like that again. I am a powerful positive person today because I got the kick in the ass that I needed. I only wish I remembered that doctors name because I owe him big time and would love to thank him. if I can do it ANYONE can. YOU GOT THIS, ALL OF IT!!!!
WOW. That's a very powerful share. How fortunate to have a doctor willing to give a damn enough to say those kinds of things to you.
That is awesome!! My doctor want me to take medication but I refuse but I pray
Great that this worked for you- but it's important to realize that there is a big difference between chemical depression and depression that is a result of sadness or events. Chemical depression needs more than positive thinking. I think the ideas in this video are extremely helpful for both types, but without meds, some people could never even entertain her suggestions.
@@mstracymiles that is me I think, trying everything for depression anxiety but maybe need medication again
@@karine8738 good luck!
I can rewire my brain & change the external crap that has made my life terrible it's the up & down that depletes me
Uuh that was sooo good👌🏽..... Couldn't be more clearer 👌🏽Thanks Mel🙏🏼
Mel is Good.....
a feeling is nothing bad or good its just a feeling but the mind gives meaning to it for me boredom and hopelessness feels like relaxing this two feelings are not really diffrent... for me atleast... i dont know about u but i think every feeling can be something good its up to you... yin and yang what do you choose? if i dont want to be bored, hopeless or in other words realxing and resting i just do something going outside or what ever and move my body... greetings from germany btw she is really pretty
You should highly consider speaking at assembly's for high school's Mel. Imagine the kids lives you could MASSIVELY transform. They are about to transition into adulthood and the majority of them wonder wants the point anymore.
Such a motivational speaker, love your work ❤️
Thanks Mel! Needed to hear this.
mazing lady...Thank you dear Mel...Carmel
Thanks for that Mel. I really needed that. Regards from Greece.
What happens when you go 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and start crying because that’s all you can do? And feel like a huge failure because of it.?
You’re amazing Mel!
شكرا ميل
I love this and needed to hear it, thank you!
- I don't care about how you feel, I care about what you want. And if you listen to how you feel when it comes to what you want. You will not get it, because you will never feel like it.
Mel Robbins
Thank you. It helped me getting out of bed today. I’ll try to use the 5sec rule
Love it, thank you Mel.
I like your style so much you are the blast of inspiration
Mel is a legend!
I don't feel good. I feel so overwhelmed and I can't function anymore. I feel like I was pretending to function and I just can't do that anymore.
I don't know if it would help but try minimalising your surroundings as much as possible. Simplify your life/surroundings. I think 'stuff' has the ability to sap a persons spirit.❤
Thank you mel
Oh I love it how that woman covers her mouth in awe! 💙 Thank you, Mel!
She says depressed people can’t move, so her advice is to move. I don’t see how this is helpful. Also, she seems to assume all depressed people can’t get out of bed in the mornings, but this isn’t always true.
She doesn't know what shes talking about. Perhaps shes only looking at one side of the coin and unaware of the full details.😊
There are only so many times you can count down from 5 before whatever is left of your energy doesn't make you a mathematician.
Wow. Just wow.
Thank you!
I've lost hope I'm just existing
Thanks Mel. That was great.
Well said thanks so much u explain so well and easy to understand 😘😘
I want to do this so bad but I just feel so embarrassed when I go around people I know that's the hard part
Awesome & ALL GLORY TAH GOD ... Thank you frm Australia
Thanks Mel! I love the 5 second rule!
Oh, mom! They love us so!
So right
The young man in this video reminded me of my step-son. :(
I’m crying. 😭
Mel, thank you for not cursing on this video. You are so much more lovely that way.
I think Mel is always able to use language that's appropriate to topic. And this was probably a conversation after some speech, where she never curses.
Thank you
Hardly can hear the guy
OMG !! It was as if you were speaking to me. Bong and everything, but you're right I just need to fucking do it! I love you!
If exercise cures depression then does that mean that athletes and people that exercise regular cannot get depression?
sorry to say but I think this is bs...I go to the damn gym 5 times a week and yet it has no effect on helping me cure my depression. I just get back from the gym and everything is the same...
First step - know depression is LYING TO YOU 🙉🙉🙉🙉🙉🙉 so true.
You can not beat depression with physical activity or the 5 second rule. Medicin will not fix it. Find a therapist and get professionel help. Then you will learn why you have a depression or have felt depressed for years. You have to get to the root of the problem.
Ma'm, I am Hirak Nath from a small town DUDHNOI, in INDIA. I saw your videos in youtube regarding anxiety, and I felt That You can help me. Ma'm I am *Struggling with anxiety* , I cannot even sit still, random negative Thoughts Come to mya Mind and my Heart Starts beating faster. I feel a sense of Unknown fear. Will I recover? *Please Help Me Mam* , plz
Some suggestions for this gentleman: get decent haircut, different clothes, start to work out and get the hell away from your mother, that is treating you like a little boy. I found that mother really annoying! She is part of his problem! All what Mel said is true! I'm a martial arts instructor with 25 years of experience in that field, and I saw that with student so often! They start to be depressed. Lost their job, failed a test at school or the university or their relationship or marriage broke. They start to disappear for months or at all. They do exactly the opposite of what is good for them: getting out of the house, move and workout and stay in that martial arts school with all those people. It gives strength and a hold in life!