My late husband was shorter than me and I would give anything for him to still be here with me. Stature doesn't matter. As long as he takes care of you, loves you beyond reason and is always there for you, who cares? Spencer I miss you baby.
Crystal, 1st sympathy for your loss. 2nd, I'm glad you got to experience true love, and now you are sharing it with others so they know what to look for. Blessings to you and a hug.🙅⛪🔯😇🙏❤
Sooo I always dated tall, athletic types. They liked me, approached me, possibly because I’m 5’10 myself (over 6 feet with heels). And please believe I wasn’t hurting for no dates. And I believed the big feet big hands hype (lies). This guy at work approached me/ he was sweet, brought me breakfast everyday, said he had a “crush” on me. OMG y’all he was 5’4” with shoes on! I looked down and laughed in his face like “Dude, you cannot be serious right now.” But damn he was confident. And sweet. And he had really really nice eyes. Fast forward to today that’s my husband y’all. I can’t really wear heels without him looking like my little son, but we 3 kids and 15 years in. Don’t sleep on short guys!!
When I first met my husband, I dismissed him as a potential boyfriend. I was 5’10”. He was 5’6”. I was setting him up with a friend when I checked myself: if he was a great catch for someone else why wasn’t he a great catch for me? We’ve been together over 18 years. 🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰
@@jmeiahb2608 agreed! I’m 4’10! They gotta at least be 5 feet 🤣🤣🤣 I think we are good sister. We ain’t gotta worry about it but why the 6’2 & 6’4 want me! Like I would rather be with a 5’8 or something. Both my ex husbands were 6’. Height isn’t a big deal for me but I would rather a tad on the shorter side than the really taller side considering how short we are
@@crystalortega2156 5’6” or taller for me 😭😭 i think the tallest I’ve dated was 6’-6’2” but that is kinda interesting.. I saw something on IG that was like tryna say it’s kinda pedo___ 😳 and it low key hurt my feelings 🤣🤣
I’m only 5’2 so I don’t tend to meet guys shorter than me. Dated a guy who was my height once. He was a great guy and we were a cute pocket sized couple lol.
I can't date anyone near my height. While I try to give it my best effort, my mind can't let go of the fact that my limbs are longer than theirs. And so it ends up going nowhere. I seem to attract short guys, too. Oh well lol.
I definitely feel like people miss out on some good ones because they are looking for what they think would make them happy. Nothing wrong with having standards tho, but people tend to forget that value is important too.
Yes! I agree 100%! I missed out on some good men because I wanted a taller man I'm 5'9" and many men passed me.over for shorties. After dating some shorties who treated me right I found I valued being treated right than height. If they have both though thats a plus.
I have dated short and tall men. My preference in height is over 6ft, but my first husband was 6ft 1 and he didn't treat me right. And then I fell in love with this gorgeous chocolate intelligent man who treats me like God's gift to him! He's 5ft 8.. same height as me, lol. I couldn't be happier with my current husband. ❤
Exactly! What WANTED in a man was not what I NEEDED. My husband is only an inch taller than me but he is the most hardworking, loyal and loving man I know. Sometimes you you have to adjust your preferences.
Exactly! I dated guys 5’10” and taller since college; none of them were anywhere near as healed or as genuinely kind and giving as my 5’6” boyfriend. Baybeee it’s the compatibility for me 🥰
I've been on the receiving end of the conversation that "I'm not physically attracted to you, but everything else about you will help me in a marriage. So I'm willing to settle physically." And that is not a good feeling to know your partner is not attracted to you. So while it might be shallow, I said if I ever dated again, I would never put a guy in the position that I was put in.
Yeah...this is my story. I'm always friend zoned, but im often told I'm a great guy, but i stay single...especially after I disclose that we will not be having sex until we are in a committed and monogamous relationship with each other.
I lost it with baked foil breath🤣 I'm about 6ft tall and while height isn't a dealbreaker for me, the last guy I dated really had a problem with me being taller than he was. Had to let him go, I'm not retiring my heels for anybody ✌🏽
My twin sister is 6'9 barefoot,and always wears custom heels.shortest heel height she has,6 inch stilletto. Her husband is just about 3 feet tall.similar form of dwarfism as vern troyer.sis has giantism.
I'm 6'1 and I prefer my height or taller but I've dated guys a tad shorter than me and you're right, they are the insecure ones and tend to be intimidated. I just got back comfortable wearing heels and I shouldn't have to retire mine either lol. Tall men typically want short women anyway.
In my opinion I don't think standards and preferences are the same or equivalent I prefer Colgate over Crest toothpaste but my standard is to brush and clean my teeth. You can prefer someone taller than you but your standard is the treatment of you which doesn't change regardless of height. Again just my opinion ☺️
“They dead to me now” 😂😩 I feel many of us have preferences and yes we are missing out! After a few bad relationships and aging those standards change bc we learn what is truly valuable.
I dated a short guy once. He is dead to me as well. I just want people to not block their blessings with all of their ideas of a perfect man. God bless the Single ladies. And I THANK GOD for my husband, because woooh! I can tell it's rough out in those dating streets
I remember thinking when I was younger, that I wanted someone tall and dark, and my husband came in a shorter/lighter complexioned package 🤣 I thank God I didn't brush him off because he was not "typical" guy that I dated. Long story short, we've been married over 10 years now. Praying for these single folk, I know it's hard out there!
I think preferences are fine. Everyone likes what they like. I believe we should value the inner person more than the outward however, I prefer someone taller. LOL
It's just weird to me because black men "prefer" light skinned, skinny women and we judge them. With that said I prefer and have a husband taller than me. But I know 90% of men are under 6 ft tall
@@cynthiaholland13 as a woman it is odd to date someone shorter than I am. Same height, maybe? It will just be weird when I decide to wear heels. As far as complexions go, is just weird, and colorist. Colorism isn’t the the same thing as preferring someone taller or shorter than you bcus those traits exists in all people; however color does not.
I don't wanna overshare or anything but I am recently discovering that there CERTAIN THANGS short men can do that taller men can't. That's all I'll say lol.
I think there's a difference between having a preference and imposing some kind of beauty standard on a gender in general. Like, there's a difference between being like, "Ooh, I like it that he has some height on him," and "I think you're less of a man because you're not six feet tall. This is because we've decided as a society that masculinity means being tall." With some girls it really is like they're not even men to them. But yeah, I agree with you! There's nothing wrong with having likes and dislikes. Impossible to avoid actually lol
Agree I'm 5 foot 5 which means for me any man taller than that is tall to me. But I have seen women who are like 5 feet looking for 6.5 tall men which is very specific. I just feel if women expect a specific height then men will argue that they expect specific weight from women as its only fair.
I can say I’ve seen a lot of masculine men that are shorter and stockier and it’s sexy how they carry themselves. I personally don’t even like shorter guys but I’ve definitely seen some I’m attracted too.
@@aishas2497 that actually wouldn’t be fair. It would actually be rather stupid because if they ask for a specific weight they’re probably not accounting for other things with women. 160 is going to look very different on one person then it will on another. They could ask for a specific BMI or something like that. Plus men already have standards that they’re looking for anyway, so why shouldn’t women? Also, why does it matter if they did have something specific. They just won’t ask you out or will turn you down and you can move on to the next. Not that big a deal unless they are rude about it 🤷🏾♀️
Everyone has their right to have preferences. But, as for me years ago I started dating a man that's 5'4 and I'm 5'11. This was the best decision that I could have ever made. Twenty-three years of marriage later we're still so in love. I thank God for my husband every day. 💗
My husband's crazy blended well with mine. He wasn't my type appearance wise, he's way shorter than me, but I don't see what that has to do with being happy.
So many people are waay to shallow. On another note, Just found your channel last night and have enjoyed watching your past videos. Thanks for all the laughter over the past 24 hours. :-)
My sister almost missed out on her now husband because she didn't want to date anyone shorter than she. I'm glad she gave in because they are a really cute couple!
“They dead to me now, but there was a time…they were alive.”😑🤣 I felt that line deep in my spirit to my core🙌🏾 There was a time, not now🙅🏾♀️, but there was a time.
Everyone should have standards which are generally about character and compatibility. Preferences are for the most part superficial. There's nothing wrong with preferences as long as they don't supercede what's really important.
My ex was shorter than me (I'm 5'9 he was 5'6) however it was the best relationship I've ever had and I had some AMAZING times with him. Although we didn't work out for other reasons, I'm happy for the time we had together. I've never cared about dating someone shorter, my ex before that was 6'4 and he treated me terribly so don't pass up on your blessings ladies! You never know!
I’m not going to lie I dated a very heavy guy he was an absolute sweetheart. Treated me like gold but to be in honest I wasn’t attracted to him physically. At first it was ok but eventually it wasn’t good 😌I realize now you can’t just fake it until you make it.
😂😂😂 I don't care what anyone wants to say, I'm not forcing myself to be attracted to anyone. Not every man will find me attractive and the same goes for me. That's my rule and I'm sticking to it bc I know myself and I know I would get repulse bc it happened to me when I was very young!
I have tried to date men that I was not remotely attractive to and they really enjoyed my company , I made them laugh, they enjoyed just being with me but I could never develop any romantic feelings for them. One guy really thought I was into him because I would call him and we would go to dinner, movies and sometimes I would pay and sometimes he would pay....I was being a friend but he thought that meant I wanted him romantically....So I just decided that I would not date any man I was not romantically attracted too because we are not going to do nothing in the romance department, and I mean nothing.....
Preach! I never turned down dates in college regardless of attraction and treated all my dates well. Eventually I found myself having to explain to people that I was NOT their girlfriend and it was usually the ones who weren’t my type that thought I was. When we don’t like something about someone we often overcompensate and it’s probably cruel to give false hope, so I say have fun but don’t lead anybody on
There's nothing wrong having preferences when dating bevaus you're not going to settle for just anyone. It's hard for tall men like me (6'7") to find a woman over 6ft, but it's not a deal breaker because I look for someone that's mentally compatible with me. My wife is 5'5 and she's a thick dark chocolate woman 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾 Date based on your preferences and not what society thinks you should!!
Omg can you imagine how tall your children would be with a 6 ft woman lol!? Also, I didn't know tall men preferred tall women. I honestly thought men only cared if the woman was taller than them, not shorter
@@ShelbySteele23 most tall men do, but the tall women that we know of........either we know them and it'd be hard to date a friend OR they're not "interested" in men. Although there's nothing wrong with either one.......I've seen both of those instances in my lifetime
@@HosCreates it's similar to what I said to Shelby. It also depends on where you live too. There aren't alot of tall women in my hometown (STL)........but I've seen more of them since I moved to Sacramento a couple 9f years ago lol
@@_Tree in the Missouri Kansas City area and in Salt Lake City when I was dating around tall men generally prefered shorties. It was frustrating... hope you find a lovely tall woman maybe lower your expectations and go for 5'9" women tall men have passed over and have giants for children. just make sure to save your money for tall clothes for em cause they are hard to find ..trust me 😅.
A lot of people say looks aren’t everything but they really are. I rather someone pursue a person they’re physically attracted to and get heart broken or it doesn’t work out vs. forcing it / and or settling with someone you’re not attracted to. It’s nothing wrong with having a type and preferences because years down the line you gonna get tired of waking up next to or having sex with someone you’re just not attracted to. It may not be a big deal upfront but It’s gonna creep up down the line. Trust and believe.
Siiiissss you done said a word. Cuz I done tried it before...connecting with somebody on things other than the phy, trying to give it time. I grew in disgust and avoided anythng phy. Tried to just go with the flow and almost 🤮 on that man when he tried all his moves🤢🤮🙄. I CANT DO IT!!!! There has to be some level of phy attraction for me or itsano4me🖐🏾.
Yeah you are right.. It can still happen with someone you are attracted to.. Things always change with time and when you live with someone for long. You get bored, you can equally get attracted to someone else.(there are always hotter people outside). Just has to be a decision to stay truthful. Its same as you can be with the physically attractive one and if he keeps Maltreating you, over time you will not find h attractive any longer. But prefentially, go for someone you are attracted to, but not just that, go for someone who had values that will hold you and your family together
… this is a mindset. Looks should be a pass fail is all she’s saying. If the guy grosses you out, he’s a fail. Period. There’s a difference between preferences and superficiality. Most people who have shallow/dumb/ridiculously “high standards” in the looks department do end up dating people who are constantly treating them badly so it’s a choice, but one that can be resolved with therapy and learning to let your spirit and not your eyes lead. I’m grateful to mu 20 year old self for sitting on that couch, I’ll tell YOU THAT MUCH.
Most people preferences are superficial and immature. Just find someone you are actually HAPPY with should truly be your true preference. But at minimum if you do have to have a standard or preference please fit the bill meaning be what you desire!
Looks aren’t everything but they definitely still count. It’s very important to be attracted and be seen as attractive to your partner regardless of any romanticized notion that it shouldn’t matter. You know when someone is into you or not or settling and that extends to how affection is shown and what goes on in the bedroom. It’s ok to have preferences and don’t be ashamed to stick to them. These 2 didn’t have an issue but that doesn’t mean you have to do the same to be happy ✌🏽
"Height DOES NOT make a man!" My mother taught me that from a young age. I was taller that everyone in my class from the 1st grade. I'm now 6' tall and have been since high school. All of my uncles and male cousins on both sides of the family are 6'4 and over 😳. So that was pretty much what I was used to seeing, tall men. 🙃 I met and dated a few tall men, but, like I said, HEIGHT DOES NOT...🤦🏽♀️ When I prayed for a husband, God answered my prayers with a wonderfully blessed Christian man, who is more than a blessing to my life and family. He happens to be 5'8. He's my soul mate and the love of my life for the last 25 years! ❤❤❤ Best thing that ever happened to my life!! 🙏To God be the Glory!! 🙌🏼🙏
I prefer a educated, good, clean, working man. Somebody who got me like I got him. He’s got future plans and is building towards our future with me together. Damn the height, with me it’s the heart and passion a man has. Now let a good man find you…good things come in small packages. Excluding the Johnson 😎
I think you said it best. It is okay for someone to have their preferences. They just need to be aware of the good people they could be passing up. You have to go with what you think is best for you because you are the one who will have to deal with that person
I've dated men shorter than me but the problem was that taller men would flirt with me saying I need to step up and get with a real man. It didn't bother me much about the height difference until my boyfriends ask me to stop wearing heals. I was done; I also came to realize I wasn't as comfortable with dating short men as I thought. If I can look you in the eye or if I have to look down to look in your eyes you're too short for me.
Before I was married, back in my dating days 😂...... I normally wouldn't date a man shorter than me. I think a lot of girls like the "feeling" of a bigger man to hold them. I know I did. My soul mate is slightly shorter than me (he swears we're the same height though). And he holds and protects me just fine 💕
I feel like one of the only times it’s seen as shallow is when a taller woman says she wants a taller man. That really irritates me. I’m 5”11 and I would prefer someone that’s taller than me.
67 years young, second husband and not either of them were/are my preference. However, they both treated/treat me like a QUEEN. So, preach, girl. Shout out from Puerto Rico. Keep safe!
The Bible says “Mankind looks at outward appearances, but God looks at the heart.” Imagine if God only loved you if your outward appearance met his standards or qualifications of what He believes perfection should be...
I think it’s fair to have preferences. With that said, that should not be the only “disqualifier” for dating. I honestly don’t see how a person’s height will affect a relationship.
Girllllllll.... got me a good man! Treats me amazing!! Same height as I am, white, older but no baby mama drama, no drama. We get along well... I thank God that I did something different to finally get something different!!! #4yearsstrong. #thingringiscoming #iknowthiscauseiwasbeingnosyoneday
I just don’t like how when people discuss women not wanting to date shorter people always talk about the 5”8 woman who wants a 6” man but don’t acknowledge us 5”11women who don’t want a 5”6 man just because he’s nice.
Precisely RoseShell. Tall women desiring someone height compatible is dismissed. She is supposed to be happy to have anyone. Another thing not mentioned is the male ego will creep in eventually when involved with a taller woman. Most men who are shorter than their partners will start to over do it to "dominate" their taller partner. He tries to prove " he is the man" in the relationship. I have seen that translate to cheating, mind games, or physical aggression to prove "they are the man" to a taller woman. The whole they shorter but nice guys routine goes out the door, once they accomplish the goal of getting you. I have seen these scenarios since childhood. It has been a sad sight watching women accept negative and/or abusive behavior from guys way smaller than their stature. Men are not encouraged to compromise on what they find physically desirable. Particularly if a man is halfway attractive.
I am a 6ft2 woman and I have dated shorter men in the past but 5ft10 and up is a personal preference for me. I have never felt comfortable with shorter men.
I have dated many short men. It's all on how they treat me. I didn't mind short men cause some of them were tripods 👀😝😂 I do prefer taller men, everyone is tall in my family. But I'm not blocking my blessings
I’m almost 6’ tall. I’ve dated someone taller than me twice. The average man in the US is 5’9”. My husband is a little shorter than me. Just don’t let someones height stop you from giving them a chance. Like EJ said, it’s how they treat you that’s important. Compatibility goes far beyond the physical.
I agree. To each their own. Many men have physical standards as well- some guys arent attracked to overfat women...some like short women etc etc. People like what they like simple as that.
as a 5ft 10in big girl, height is very important to me. i'm already big, i don't wanna be/feel bigger than my man. granted, i have dated shorter guys, but that was also at a much lower place for me emotionally & confidence wise. i'm ok with enforcing my preferences now & i'm ok with whoever don't like it..just like i hope they're ok with me not giving a da...idc. 🤷🏾 edit: i don't mind being friends & hanging out with shorter men, they're just not my romantic preference.
Attraction is important. if women arent attracted to short dudes, then it is what it is. When women have a preference it's always pushed back they are missing out on a good guy, like women arent allowed to want attraction to be a part of the list. I dont see the same energy for men with preferences. Esp when it comes to size and shape. Not a lot of "you could be missing out a good woman" conversations around that. Its accepted they like who they like.
You may not see it but the energy is the same. Most men understand that, even though men mostly agree there is "objective" 1-10 attractiveness scale, that attraction is ultimately an individual thing and that guys have a wide variety of things they find attractive. That and it's not the end all be all and sometimes can even get you in trouble. I once heard this older man say "Vaseline is cheaper than aspirin" lol. Just a crude way of saying he'd rather have peace than a 10 that disturbs his peace. You shouldn't go out of your way to date someone you think is unattractive. But if you're preferences are complicating your life or keeping you single (man or woman) you don't get to complain about it.
I grew up with my dad being shorter than my mom. Never knew this was such an issue. I have no preference, and honestly don't have a type in any regard (like race, height, weight, etc.) Without coming off smug or self righteous, it truly is the personality and qualities for me. You can be model gorgeous, but if you are ignorant or toxic immediately the ugly shines through.
In my opinion, preference is a good foundation to start with but not set in stone. I do believe, for example, if people say they only want a certain high like 6'5" instead of 6'3" then I definitely agree with you. Some of those people may miss out in a wonderful relationship. Being flexible and still preferring can go hand in hand.
I’m pretty short myself so at first I thought it wasn’t fair to prefer taller men. But honey I tried to give chances to these shorties but they were crazy. I mean manipulative, controlling, borderline abusive. Not saying all short men are like that but hell I’m not about to risk it anymore. 🤷🏾♀️
I believe what you said is true. We all have our ideal in mind but when most of those preferences fall in the physical category, we may end up accepting less in the emotional because we are too focused on creating that perfect picture. I don't have any height preferences myself but I do have other physical ones - we can't really help but to have them, they just be there. I do, however, put in conscience effort to not make any of those things deal breakers. Because if I'm only using my eyes to place value on people, I'm going to attract those that are doing the same with me. I don't want that.
I love this video and thank you. In my thirty years experience as a shorter man at 5'5 and been single for 30 years (not by choice) because of my height. I know this because every rejection I received was a negative body-shaming comment in person and thousands more online specifically about my height. Anyways I finally learned to ask politely and tactfully when a woman's typical rejection is "sorry but I don't do the short guy thing" I started asking " if you don't mind me asking why is that though" and it never fails... I always receive a confused dumb look on their faces and finally a shoulder shrug following with something like "I just like wearing my high heels too much". It's always something superficial why women don't want to date short men even if she is only 4'10 and hardly ever a logical reason. Basically, most of these women don't even know why they don't want to date short men (even if the man is a couple of inches taller than them) but they just won't. Notice that black and white men 5'6 and shorter have it the hardest. The shorter the man is usually the more children the single mother has from other men (usually 3-5 kids from other 6-foot men) that will settle for the shorter guy for consideration if he has resources to help support her kids that isn't even his. Not only have I been rejected and probably heard everybody shaming comment a woman can think of that could be said about short men but now for the past maybe ten years I said screw it and just sit back and relax... now when a short man walks away from a woman rejecting him for his height I get to hear the trash talking and jokes that these women say about how short the guy was. I had a friend who didn't believe me that women are not attracted to short men, I had $1000 cash in my pocket and I told him lets walk around this club and if you introduce me to a girl any girl here in this club who doesn't have kids and not obsessively overweight and she is interested in me and doesn't reject me for my height I'd give this $1000 right here on the spot. However, each girl that he introduced me to would reject me for my height he would have to buy me a beer, that was the deal. We walked around for hours and he tried really hard to introduce me to a lot of women at that club and just like I said, they all rejected me for my height only.
I USE to have a "type", but the man I ended up marrying didn't check any of those boxes. But baybaa...when I tell you he is the man I KNOW God meant for me, believe it! We have been together 21 years and I DON'T regret any of them!!🥰
We should care about the heart and thats what attracted me to my husband then I noticed he can be handsome in his own way and that helps. Plus its harder for short men to do certain things..ya know cause of height differences. Also how tall are you? I'm 5'9" and rejection by taller men when I was dating and other tall.women can attest to this frustration. Women who are shorter have greater selection.
I already know the person I fall in love with is gonna be shorter than me. No man above 5'8" talks to me, all 5'6"-5'7" like dang. Ok. I'm 5'9.5" and I wear heels. No children. No smokers of anything. Those are 2 I will not compromise on.
@@djosephine I dont know why tall men aren't approaching me. I prefer men my height or taller. However, over the past year men shorter than me have been stepping up so...clearly the package isn't going to come the way I'd like it to. I mean, height doesn't really bother me. I like substance. I won't stop wearing heels though.
@@djosephine I had the same problem at 5'9" . Married a shorty 5'6" cause no tall dudes we either worth my time (had self esteemed issues /were boring ) ignored me for shorties 5'6" and under
I'm 5'7, but I really don't need them to be really tall. Personally looking up at a 6'5 man is not comfortable. If he's eye level without heels and doesn't care that I may be a few inches taller with heels then that's ok.
Often times, we hide our prejudices under the guise of preference. -Big Meach You hit it on the nail EJ, you find a person who meets all of your criteria, and it still doesn't work or you're giving up something. And here's another angle to view this from, YOU CANNOT HAVE IT YOUR WAY...at first glance, this person may have everything you want, however later you will soon find out the cost, what you're giving up to be with that person.
Sometimes you cant help a preference... you're just attracted what you're attracted to... ive tried dating a shorter man.. I just couldnt do it.. and im 5'3 🤷🏾♀️
I'm 5'9" lots of tall men passed me over for shorties 5'6" and under so short they looked like children next to them. It was crazy to me. I was in the best shape of my life had beautiful hair etc. Still passed over for pixies. So I decided to try and date one short man he was nice and was ok. He stopped dating me for a shorty because his family hated me 🙄. So I set standards that a man had to not have short man's syndrome. Short man's syndrome is when short men feel like they have to be extra macho and show off so they are larger then life to makeup for their lack of height. They are the worst! I ended up married to a short man that didn't have short man's syndrome because he treated me right cause none of the tall men would have me -their loss cause I'm awesome ! It does make somethings hard when doing the deed or dancing. But other than that I'm happy to be with someone who loves me for me.
I'm 5'9...the love of my life is 5'6 ish...I love this man with all of my heart...in my eyes he is 6'7... his height means nothing to me....don't let it stop you from getting a good man 😁
As a woman who is 5'11", late 30s, and hella single, I always wonder how tall the women are who are saying they wouldn't date a shorter man. I would prefer a taller man but I also recognize I'm taller than most Americans. Men over 6' make up 13% of the US population. The average height of a man is 5'9". Yes, I did my research and I understand I can't be picky. NOW, I will say if he is 5'6", he has to be a unicorn to grab my attention meaning bomb personality and everything I need and didn't know I needed. He just comes into my life swinging and knocking down walls... Ya feel me. Love your channel!!!
I'll be honest, I definitely have a preference for taller men. There's this guy that's interested in me and he's 5'2 and I'm 5'8. I'm trying my best to get over the height, but it's difficult. I'm going to give it a fair shot.
Would he give you a fair shot, if you did not meet the physical standard he finds attractive? You are making the exception though you are not truly attracted to "be nice" or "open" as our gender is taught. Remember to ask yourself if he would reciprocate if something about your physical being changed to something he did not find attractive.
@@sunnygold6988 that's fine if he didn't! Preference is preference! The one thing about it is, I'm not for everybody. He's not for everybody. You're not for everybody... And so on and so forth
I tend to keep my eyesight level or looking up. That is not a planned event just where my view naturally falls. However, I have never excluded a man or been above a nice view that captures my attention to look down, visually!! Presentation is everything and that is not exclusive to looks. I have been attracted to guys in my past that at first, I would have said never, no, not him. Just not my type or my look! Then the more I grew to know him as a person the sexier he became to me. Like I was not looking at the same guy!! I have preferred certain looks but ever excluded.
My understanding is that the preference for a taller man is hardwired. But I agree that it’s important to keep an open mind to find the person who is right for you.
Was just talking about this with my homegirl today! This is me🙋🏿♀️! I'm 5'9 and I have not dated a shorter man and I do not plan to. The man for me will be taller than me + be the man I need. That is all.
The way I see it there are so many things you have control over that would make it break a relationship so your height being something you can’t help don’t bother me none🤷🏿♂️
People's preferences are their preferences however I would advise that regardless of what you like for the packaging, ALWAYS pay attention to the inside/character bcuz that's the thing that'll last for the long run.
It's OK to have preferences and standards bc men certainly have them. There aren't a lot of comments here on a man's "spiritual" health!! I am not talking about "going to church" or "saying they are a Christian", but a man that has an undeniable relationship with God and is not ashamed of it. Short or tall spiritually matters too....
I really believe this. If it ain’t right in the bedroom it’s not gonna be right anywhere else. (Not sure if that what you meant but that’s how I took it lol)
When I was in my twenties, I dated a young man that was a bit shorter and younger……….. Bless his heart, that young man OPENED my eyes. 😉 sorry y’all..
THE CACKLE I JUST LET OUT!!!
I know for a fact, BIG thing's, come in small packages
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I can absolutely attest to this!
My late husband was shorter than me and I would give anything for him to still be here with me. Stature doesn't matter. As long as he takes care of you, loves you beyond reason and is always there for you, who cares? Spencer I miss you baby.
Crystal, 1st sympathy for your loss. 2nd, I'm glad you got to experience true love, and now you are sharing it with others so they know what to look for. Blessings to you and a hug.🙅⛪🔯😇🙏❤
Aww Crystal he sounds amazing. May the good LORD wrap you in his arms of love and comfort❤️
You must have lovely memories...Peace to you.
May God rest his soul and embrace you with endless comfort. 🙏🏼💗
Awwww!
Sooo I always dated tall, athletic types. They liked me, approached me, possibly because I’m 5’10 myself (over 6 feet with heels). And please believe I wasn’t hurting for no dates. And I believed the big feet big hands hype (lies). This guy at work approached me/ he was sweet, brought me breakfast everyday, said he had a “crush” on me. OMG y’all he was 5’4” with shoes on! I looked down and laughed in his face like “Dude, you cannot be serious right now.” But damn he was confident. And sweet. And he had really really nice eyes. Fast forward to today that’s my husband y’all. I can’t really wear heels without him looking like my little son, but we 3 kids and 15 years in. Don’t sleep on short guys!!
This is the content I'm reading Obama's Intranets for! 💖
I hate I laughed at my little son. But girl!!! This is a beautiful story!!!! I love it!!!
@@Nikki-ci5ze 😂😂thank you!!
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Wow
When I first met my husband, I dismissed him as a potential boyfriend. I was 5’10”. He was 5’6”. I was setting him up with a friend when I checked myself: if he was a great catch for someone else why wasn’t he a great catch for me? We’ve been together over 18 years. 🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰
dang! I love this story! You were like "HOLD ON!" and got your honey!😍
Well when you’re tall, it’s different .. I’m 4’11” and if he’s shorter than me .. it’s an ABSOLUTE NO ‼️😖 .. I’m sorry 😭
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@@jmeiahb2608 agreed! I’m 4’10! They gotta at least be 5 feet 🤣🤣🤣 I think we are good sister. We ain’t gotta worry about it but why the 6’2 & 6’4 want me! Like I would rather be with a 5’8 or something. Both my ex husbands were 6’. Height isn’t a big deal for me but I would rather a tad on the shorter side than the really taller side considering how short we are
@@crystalortega2156 5’6” or taller for me 😭😭 i think the tallest I’ve dated was 6’-6’2” but that is kinda interesting.. I saw something on IG that was like tryna say it’s kinda pedo___ 😳 and it low key hurt my feelings 🤣🤣
I'm 5'6"....us short guys need love too.
You sure do. It will just give me a whole bunch of joke material.
Is 5'6 really short? Like who told you such things?
@@jessicakelley6096 I never get that either. I'm 5"4 everyone taller than me 🤣
@@jessicakelley6096 it's kinda short for a man. I think the average height for men is about 5'10"
Still a good three inches taller than me ...it works🤷♀️✌
I’m only 5’2 so I don’t tend to meet guys shorter than me. Dated a guy who was my height once. He was a great guy and we were a cute pocket sized couple lol.
Same! I'm 5'3. It rare finding guys any where near my height.
I'm 5'2" too, I'd be cool dating someone my height, I think it would be cute lol
Well I definitely prefer a guy who is taller than me. I am only 5 feet (5’0”). I need help reaching the shelves 😂
I can't date anyone near my height. While I try to give it my best effort, my mind can't let go of the fact that my limbs are longer than theirs. And so it ends up going nowhere. I seem to attract short guys, too. Oh well lol.
@@shermurr9566 😂 me too Sis.
I definitely feel like people miss out on some good ones because they are looking for what they think would make them happy. Nothing wrong with having standards tho, but people tend to forget that value is important too.
Yes! I agree 100%! I missed out on some good men because I wanted a taller man I'm 5'9" and many men passed me.over for shorties. After dating some shorties who treated me right I found I valued being treated right than height. If they have both though thats a plus.
I have dated short and tall men. My preference in height is over 6ft, but my first husband was 6ft 1 and he didn't treat me right. And then I fell in love with this gorgeous chocolate intelligent man who treats me like God's gift to him! He's 5ft 8.. same height as me, lol. I couldn't be happier with my current husband. ❤
Exactly! What WANTED in a man was not what I NEEDED. My husband is only an inch taller than me but he is the most hardworking, loyal and loving man I know. Sometimes you you have to adjust your preferences.
Exactly! I dated guys 5’10” and taller since college; none of them were anywhere near as healed or as genuinely kind and giving as my 5’6” boyfriend. Baybeee it’s the compatibility for me 🥰
True. Yes, I have my preference, but I'm not expecting a perfect man. There is NONE.
I've been on the receiving end of the conversation that "I'm not physically attracted to you, but everything else about you will help me in a marriage. So I'm willing to settle physically." And that is not a good feeling to know your partner is not attracted to you. So while it might be shallow, I said if I ever dated again, I would never put a guy in the position that I was put in.
It's not a good feeling. Especially when it's something I can't help like my height. Needless to say those were the last convos with those guys
Yeah...this is my story. I'm always friend zoned, but im often told I'm a great guy, but i stay single...especially after I disclose that we will not be having sex until we are in a committed and monogamous relationship with each other.
@@DarkLight6Tv omg you say no sex & they look like 😵😱
@@teniaosayande6355 right! I'm very big on energy and way too many people walking around with soul ties and sexually transmitted DEMONS.
There's nothing wrong with preference.... Nothing wrong with standards either as long as you remember that applies to someone bypassing you as well.
Very well said!!
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Exactly!
I just wish we'd call it what it is. "Preference" is just a pretty way of saying "I don't want you."
I lost it with baked foil breath🤣 I'm about 6ft tall and while height isn't a dealbreaker for me, the last guy I dated really had a problem with me being taller than he was.
Had to let him go, I'm not retiring my heels for anybody ✌🏽
My twin sister is 6'9 barefoot,and always wears custom heels.shortest heel height she has,6 inch stilletto.
Her husband is just about 3 feet tall.similar form of dwarfism as vern troyer.sis has giantism.
Girl and damn 5 inches of em. I don't wear flats for nobody.
As long as you don't complain about the foot pain...
I can relate I'm six one and a half 💯
I'm 6'1 and I prefer my height or taller but I've dated guys a tad shorter than me and you're right, they are the insecure ones and tend to be intimidated. I just got back comfortable wearing heels and I shouldn't have to retire mine either lol. Tall men typically want short women anyway.
Height doesn’t matter until you fall short in confidence - KN
In my opinion I don't think standards and preferences are the same or equivalent I prefer Colgate over Crest toothpaste but my standard is to brush and clean my teeth. You can prefer someone taller than you but your standard is the treatment of you which doesn't change regardless of height. Again just my opinion ☺️
Agree, as I prefer taller men. But it's not at the top of my list
Well said Lynn.
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Well put Lynn! I prefer someone taller but it doesn't mean I will overlook character flaws and such.
THIS!!! 👏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
“They dead to me now” 😂😩 I feel many of us have preferences and yes we are missing out! After a few bad relationships and aging those standards change bc we learn what is truly valuable.
I dated a short guy once. He is dead to me as well. I just want people to not block their blessings with all of their ideas of a perfect man. God bless the Single ladies. And I THANK GOD for my husband, because woooh! I can tell it's rough out in those dating streets
Yes, be thankful girl. Not only do singles have to worry about baby mommas & stds, now we gotta worry about covid, variants & shedding.
@@penetrasean I'm cryyyin' 😂😂
Girl,you ain't lying!
I remember thinking when I was younger, that I wanted someone tall and dark, and my husband came in a shorter/lighter complexioned package 🤣 I thank God I didn't brush him off because he was not "typical" guy that I dated. Long story short, we've been married over 10 years now. Praying for these single folk, I know it's hard out there!
Dead to you lol
I think preferences are fine. Everyone likes what they like. I believe we should value the inner person more than the outward however, I prefer someone taller. LOL
I just can't lol, take it how you wanna. To each their own🤭😜.
It's just weird to me because black men "prefer" light skinned, skinny women and we judge them. With that said I prefer and have a husband taller than me. But I know 90% of men are under 6 ft tall
@@cynthiaholland13 as a woman it is odd to date someone shorter than I am. Same height, maybe? It will just be weird when I decide to wear heels. As far as complexions go, is just weird, and colorist. Colorism isn’t the the same thing as preferring someone taller or shorter than you bcus those traits exists in all people; however color does not.
@@shai2137 but it's something that no one can help, so if heightism against is fine, then why isn't colourism? And none of that "I feel" bull, either.
@Lonely Pluto what's the difference, sweetheart?
My honey is short, please Lord let him pop the question cause I love him like mad, no matter his height.
So sweet. Praying!
@@cynthiaholland13 aww, YOU'RE sweet, thank you
I don't wanna overshare or anything but I am recently discovering that there CERTAIN THANGS short men can do that taller men can't. That's all I'll say lol.
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 I mean….. I can’t agree or disagree with that 😅🤷🏽♀️
Factss
Like what sis? Spill
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I think there's a difference between having a preference and imposing some kind of beauty standard on a gender in general. Like, there's a difference between being like, "Ooh, I like it that he has some height on him," and "I think you're less of a man because you're not six feet tall. This is because we've decided as a society that masculinity means being tall." With some girls it really is like they're not even men to them. But yeah, I agree with you! There's nothing wrong with having likes and dislikes. Impossible to avoid actually lol
Very well said
Agree I'm 5 foot 5 which means for me any man taller than that is tall to me. But I have seen women who are like 5 feet looking for 6.5 tall men which is very specific. I just feel if women expect a specific height then men will argue that they expect specific weight from women as its only fair.
Very good comment!
I can say I’ve seen a lot of masculine men that are shorter and stockier and it’s sexy how they carry themselves. I personally don’t even like shorter guys but I’ve definitely seen some I’m attracted too.
@@aishas2497 that actually wouldn’t be fair. It would actually be rather stupid because if they ask for a specific weight they’re probably not accounting for other things with women. 160 is going to look very different on one person then it will on another. They could ask for a specific BMI or something like that. Plus men already have standards that they’re looking for anyway, so why shouldn’t women? Also, why does it matter if they did have something specific. They just won’t ask you out or will turn you down and you can move on to the next. Not that big a deal unless they are rude about it 🤷🏾♀️
Everyone has their right to have preferences. But, as for me years ago I started dating a man that's 5'4 and I'm 5'11. This was the best decision that I could have ever made. Twenty-three years of marriage later we're still so in love. I thank God for my husband every day. 💗
My husband's crazy blended well with mine. He wasn't my type appearance wise, he's way shorter than me, but I don't see what that has to do with being happy.
I feel like the best relationships happen when two people put happiness above vanity
It doesn't to me. I'm happy for you both
So many people are waay to shallow. On another note, Just found your channel last night and have enjoyed watching your past videos. Thanks for all the laughter over the past 24 hours. :-)
My sister almost missed out on her now husband because she didn't want to date anyone shorter than she. I'm glad she gave in because they are a really cute couple!
“They dead to me now, but there was a time…they were alive.”😑🤣 I felt that line deep in my spirit to my core🙌🏾 There was a time, not now🙅🏾♀️, but there was a time.
Everyone should have standards which are generally about character and compatibility. Preferences are for the most part superficial. There's nothing wrong with preferences as long as they don't supercede what's really important.
Exactly. Standards are different than preferences.
That’s exactly what I was thinking and I had to learn the difference.
Well put...I'mma print this comment on a shirt.
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My ex was shorter than me (I'm 5'9 he was 5'6) however it was the best relationship I've ever had and I had some AMAZING times with him. Although we didn't work out for other reasons, I'm happy for the time we had together. I've never cared about dating someone shorter, my ex before that was 6'4 and he treated me terribly so don't pass up on your blessings ladies! You never know!
I’m not going to lie I dated a very heavy guy he was an absolute sweetheart. Treated me like gold but to be in honest I wasn’t attracted to him physically. At first it was ok but eventually it wasn’t good 😌I realize now you can’t just fake it until you make it.
😂😂😂 I don't care what anyone wants to say, I'm not forcing myself to be attracted to anyone. Not every man will find me attractive and the same goes for me. That's my rule and I'm sticking to it bc I know myself and I know I would get repulse bc it happened to me when I was very young!
I have tried to date men that I was not remotely attractive to and they really enjoyed my company , I made them laugh, they enjoyed just being with me but I could never develop any romantic feelings for them. One guy really thought I was into him because I would call him and we would go to dinner, movies and sometimes I would pay and sometimes he would pay....I was being a friend but he thought that meant I wanted him romantically....So I just decided that I would not date any man I was not romantically attracted too because we are not going to do nothing in the romance department, and I mean nothing.....
Preach! I never turned down dates in college regardless of attraction and treated all my dates well. Eventually I found myself having to explain to people that I was NOT their girlfriend and it was usually the ones who weren’t my type that thought I was. When we don’t like something about someone we often overcompensate and it’s probably cruel to give false hope, so I say have fun but don’t lead anybody on
I’m a tall woman and all I know is short men are tall where it counts! Take that how y’all wanna take it. LOL! 😎
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🤔I have found this to be true...shorter men have some hidden assets in my experience..its kinda like Christmas morning you know🙂
Blessed insurance ☺!!!
Not really the short guy I dated was small in that department
@@djosephine I’m 5’10 so 5’9 and up I can do anything under for me idk I can’t do
There's nothing wrong having preferences when dating bevaus you're not going to settle for just anyone. It's hard for tall men like me (6'7") to find a woman over 6ft, but it's not a deal breaker because I look for someone that's mentally compatible with me. My wife is 5'5 and she's a thick dark chocolate woman 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Date based on your preferences and not what society thinks you should!!
Omg can you imagine how tall your children would be with a 6 ft woman lol!? Also, I didn't know tall men preferred tall women. I honestly thought men only cared if the woman was taller than them, not shorter
I wish you had told me this at 21. I'm 5'9" and all the men 6' and up only wanted women 5'6" and under. I was always passed over for shorties.
@@ShelbySteele23 most tall men do, but the tall women that we know of........either we know them and it'd be hard to date a friend OR they're not "interested" in men. Although there's nothing wrong with either one.......I've seen both of those instances in my lifetime
@@HosCreates it's similar to what I said to Shelby. It also depends on where you live too. There aren't alot of tall women in my hometown (STL)........but I've seen more of them since I moved to Sacramento a couple 9f years ago lol
@@_Tree in the Missouri Kansas City area and in Salt Lake City when I was dating around tall men generally prefered shorties. It was frustrating... hope you find a lovely tall woman maybe lower your expectations and go for 5'9" women tall men have passed over and have giants for children. just make sure to save your money for tall clothes for em cause they are hard to find ..trust me 😅.
A lot of people say looks aren’t everything but they really are. I rather someone pursue a person they’re physically attracted to and get heart broken or it doesn’t work out vs. forcing it / and or settling with someone you’re not attracted to. It’s nothing wrong with having a type and preferences because years down the line you gonna get tired of waking up next to or having sex with someone you’re just not attracted to. It may not be a big deal upfront but It’s gonna creep up down the line. Trust and believe.
Siiiissss you done said a word. Cuz I done tried it before...connecting with somebody on things other than the phy, trying to give it time. I grew in disgust and avoided anythng phy. Tried to just go with the flow and almost 🤮 on that man when he tried all his moves🤢🤮🙄. I CANT DO IT!!!! There has to be some level of phy attraction for me or itsano4me🖐🏾.
That attitude is fine, until it's your partner who wakes up one day and realizes you aren't lookin as hotty mctoddy as you used too and leaves you.
But she wasn't saying best with someone physically unattractive. She was saying don't rule out an attractive man whose not 6 ft tall
Yeah you are right..
It can still happen with someone you are attracted to.. Things always change with time and when you live with someone for long. You get bored, you can equally get attracted to someone else.(there are always hotter people outside). Just has to be a decision to stay truthful.
Its same as you can be with the physically attractive one and if he keeps Maltreating you, over time you will not find h attractive any longer.
But prefentially, go for someone you are attracted to, but not just that, go for someone who had values that will hold you and your family together
… this is a mindset. Looks should be a pass fail is all she’s saying. If the guy grosses you out, he’s a fail. Period. There’s a difference between preferences and superficiality. Most people who have shallow/dumb/ridiculously “high standards” in the looks department do end up dating people who are constantly treating them badly so it’s a choice, but one that can be resolved with therapy and learning to let your spirit and not your eyes lead. I’m grateful to mu 20 year old self for sitting on that couch, I’ll tell YOU THAT MUCH.
Most people preferences are superficial and immature. Just find someone you are actually HAPPY with should truly be your true preference. But at minimum if you do have to have a standard or preference please fit the bill meaning be what you desire!
Agreed! No 4 should demand an 8, no 6 should demand a 10 (I'm referring to ratings on a physical attraction scale).
Looks aren’t everything but they definitely still count. It’s very important to be attracted and be seen as attractive to your partner regardless of any romanticized notion that it shouldn’t matter. You know when someone is into you or not or settling and that extends to how affection is shown and what goes on in the bedroom. It’s ok to have preferences and don’t be ashamed to stick to them. These 2 didn’t have an issue but that doesn’t mean you have to do the same to be happy ✌🏽
The Lord made me 5'2" - EVERYBODY is taller than me! LOL
4’11” .. same!
5’3 so I don’t usually have that issue
5 ft exactly. Just short.🤣🤣
"Height DOES NOT make a man!" My mother taught me that from a young age. I was taller that everyone in my class from the 1st grade. I'm now 6' tall and have been since high school. All of my uncles and male cousins on both sides of the family are 6'4 and over 😳. So that was pretty much what I was used to seeing, tall men. 🙃 I met and dated a few tall men, but, like I said, HEIGHT DOES NOT...🤦🏽♀️ When I prayed for a husband, God answered my prayers with a wonderfully blessed Christian man, who is more than a blessing to my life and family. He happens to be 5'8. He's my soul mate and the love of my life for the last 25 years! ❤❤❤ Best thing that ever happened to my life!! 🙏To God be the Glory!! 🙌🏼🙏
All the time!❤️
I don’t care about height, it’s the Short Man Syndrome for me 🤷🏽♀️
It can be exhausting! That Napoleon complex!😒😒😒
Yuuup that's what I'm saying. It's not the height that's unattractive to me, it's the compensating energy he's bringing into the relationship
@@Southern.Nappiness When tall men are angry, do they have a "complex" or are they just angry?
Thanks for making my brother snd his wife famous over one picture.👍🏽
Have your preference. But always remain open to other possibilities. Simple.
FACTS.
I prefer a educated, good, clean, working man. Somebody who got me like I got him. He’s got future plans and is building towards our future with me together. Damn the height, with me it’s the heart and passion a man has. Now let a good man find you…good things come in small packages. Excluding the Johnson 😎
At this point, I'll take what the good Lord and universe sends me. 🤦🏽
Do you hear me sis!!! As long as he respectful, loves the lord...brings his happy to join my happy...We happy!
@L Cam LOL How you correct somebody’s prayer?
@@SacredOne right 💀
Amen sis!
@L Cam The lord is man made so yes,Universe
I think you said it best. It is okay for someone to have their preferences. They just need to be aware of the good people they could be passing up. You have to go with what you think is best for you because you are the one who will have to deal with that person
I'm under 5ft, my hubby is waaaay under 6ft... we're happy!!! He's an amazing human being!!!
I've dated men shorter than me but the problem was that taller men would flirt with me saying I need to step up and get with a real man. It didn't bother me much about the height difference until my boyfriends ask me to stop wearing heals. I was done; I also came to realize I wasn't as comfortable with dating short men as I thought. If I can look you in the eye or if I have to look down to look in your eyes you're too short for me.
Before I was married, back in my dating days 😂...... I normally wouldn't date a man shorter than me. I think a lot of girls like the "feeling" of a bigger man to hold them. I know I did. My soul mate is slightly shorter than me (he swears we're the same height though). And he holds and protects me just fine 💕
You was doing real good until you said “the size of a smurf”🤦🏾♀️I was nodding my head yes the whole time UNTIL that statement right there🤣🤣
right? LOL!!
God fearing, respectful, honest (good or bad) sometimes honesty can make you feel good or bad at times those are standards to uphold
I feel like one of the only times it’s seen as shallow is when a taller woman says she wants a taller man. That really irritates me. I’m 5”11 and I would prefer someone that’s taller than me.
I can't😁
Same sis.
A good man is a good man... Short or tall! Period
67 years young, second husband and not either of them were/are my preference. However, they both treated/treat me like a QUEEN. So, preach, girl. Shout out from Puerto Rico. Keep safe!
The Bible says “Mankind looks at outward appearances, but God looks at the heart.” Imagine if God only loved you if your outward appearance met his standards or qualifications of what He believes perfection should be...
Convicting & true, sis! 😔
God isn't real
@@user-je7pp2wg3m oh no. I'm so sorry you believe that 😢🙏🏾
I think it’s fair to have preferences. With that said, that should not be the only “disqualifier” for dating. I honestly don’t see how a person’s height will affect a relationship.
You know what SORRY comes in all shapes and sizes. As,well as, GOOD ONES.......
Girllllllll.... got me a good man! Treats me amazing!! Same height as I am, white, older but no baby mama drama, no drama. We get along well... I thank God that I did something different to finally get something different!!! #4yearsstrong. #thingringiscoming #iknowthiscauseiwasbeingnosyoneday
I just don’t like how when people discuss women not wanting to date shorter people always talk about the 5”8 woman who wants a 6” man but don’t acknowledge us 5”11women who don’t want a 5”6 man just because he’s nice.
Precisely RoseShell. Tall women desiring someone height compatible is dismissed. She is supposed to be happy to have anyone. Another thing not mentioned is the male ego will creep in eventually when involved with a taller woman. Most men who are shorter than their partners will start to over do it to "dominate" their taller partner. He tries to prove " he is the man" in the relationship. I have seen that translate to cheating, mind games, or physical aggression to prove "they are the man" to a taller woman. The whole they shorter but nice guys routine goes out the door, once they accomplish the goal of getting you.
I have seen these scenarios since childhood. It has been a sad sight watching women accept negative and/or abusive behavior from guys way smaller than their stature.
Men are not encouraged to compromise on what they find physically desirable. Particularly if a man is halfway attractive.
Thank you Sis!
@@sunnygold6988 I have both experienced and witnessed the “dominant shorter boyfriend” situation you mentioned, you are right on that!
@@sunnygold6988 I've seen this, too, unfortunately.
Ive never been first! Anyway, you can have a preference but don't let it stop you from finding happiness!!!
I am a 6ft2 woman and I have dated shorter men in the past but 5ft10 and up is a personal preference for me. I have never felt comfortable with shorter men.
I have been stalking your page everytime yt recommends it. Imma go ahead and subscribe. Just know you're making people happy out here.
I have dated many short men. It's all on how they treat me. I didn't mind short men cause some of them were tripods 👀😝😂 I do prefer taller men, everyone is tall in my family. But I'm not blocking my blessings
I’m almost 6’ tall. I’ve dated someone taller than me twice. The average man in the US is 5’9”. My husband is a little shorter than me. Just don’t let someones height stop you from giving them a chance. Like EJ said, it’s how they treat you that’s important. Compatibility goes far beyond the physical.
I've always had a preference for tall but have dated short. Married tall.
I agree. To each their own. Many men have physical standards as well- some guys arent attracked to overfat women...some like short women etc etc. People like what they like simple as that.
as a 5ft 10in big girl, height is very important to me. i'm already big, i don't wanna be/feel bigger than my man. granted, i have dated shorter guys, but that was also at a much lower place for me emotionally & confidence wise. i'm ok with enforcing my preferences now & i'm ok with whoever don't like it..just like i hope they're ok with me not giving a da...idc. 🤷🏾
edit: i don't mind being friends & hanging out with shorter men, they're just not my romantic preference.
Most taller guys seem to prefer shorter women though I've noticed
@@cynthiaholland13 agreed! i've noticed that too..so annoying. 😆 it makes the guy feel big & strong & the girl gets to feel small & dainty.
Attraction is important. if women arent attracted to short dudes, then it is what it is. When women have a preference it's always pushed back they are missing out on a good guy, like women arent allowed to want attraction to be a part of the list. I dont see the same energy for men with preferences. Esp when it comes to size and shape. Not a lot of "you could be missing out a good woman" conversations around that. Its accepted they like who they like.
You may not see it but the energy is the same. Most men understand that, even though men mostly agree there is "objective" 1-10 attractiveness scale, that attraction is ultimately an individual thing and that guys have a wide variety of things they find attractive. That and it's not the end all be all and sometimes can even get you in trouble.
I once heard this older man say "Vaseline is cheaper than aspirin" lol. Just a crude way of saying he'd rather have peace than a 10 that disturbs his peace. You shouldn't go out of your way to date someone you think is unattractive. But if you're preferences are complicating your life or keeping you single (man or woman) you don't get to complain about it.
I grew up with my dad being shorter than my mom. Never knew this was such an issue. I have no preference, and honestly don't have a type in any regard (like race, height, weight, etc.) Without coming off smug or self righteous, it truly is the personality and qualities for me. You can be model gorgeous, but if you are ignorant or toxic immediately the ugly shines through.
In my opinion, preference is a good foundation to start with but not set in stone. I do believe, for example, if people say they only want a certain high like 6'5" instead of 6'3" then I definitely agree with you. Some of those people may miss out in a wonderful relationship. Being flexible and still preferring can go hand in hand.
There are preferences, and then their bottom line must haves.
I'm 5'8 and she is 6'3 and she is amazing 🥰
I’m pretty short myself so at first I thought it wasn’t fair to prefer taller men. But honey I tried to give chances to these shorties but they were crazy. I mean manipulative, controlling, borderline abusive. Not saying all short men are like that but hell I’m not about to risk it anymore. 🤷🏾♀️
I believe what you said is true. We all have our ideal in mind but when most of those preferences fall in the physical category, we may end up accepting less in the emotional because we are too focused on creating that perfect picture. I don't have any height preferences myself but I do have other physical ones - we can't really help but to have them, they just be there. I do, however, put in conscience effort to not make any of those things deal breakers. Because if I'm only using my eyes to place value on people, I'm going to attract those that are doing the same with me. I don't want that.
I'm 5'2" I want to look up at least a little bit. He can be at least 5'8". + I don't wear heels.
I love this video and thank you. In my thirty years experience as a shorter man at 5'5 and been single for 30 years (not by choice) because of my height. I know this because every rejection I received was a negative body-shaming comment in person and thousands more online specifically about my height. Anyways I finally learned to ask politely and tactfully when a woman's typical rejection is "sorry but I don't do the short guy thing" I started asking " if you don't mind me asking why is that though" and it never fails... I always receive a confused dumb look on their faces and finally a shoulder shrug following with something like "I just like wearing my high heels too much". It's always something superficial why women don't want to date short men even if she is only 4'10 and hardly ever a logical reason. Basically, most of these women don't even know why they don't want to date short men (even if the man is a couple of inches taller than them) but they just won't. Notice that black and white men 5'6 and shorter have it the hardest. The shorter the man is usually the more children the single mother has from other men (usually 3-5 kids from other 6-foot men) that will settle for the shorter guy for consideration if he has resources to help support her kids that isn't even his. Not only have I been rejected and probably heard everybody shaming comment a woman can think of that could be said about short men but now for the past maybe ten years I said screw it and just sit back and relax... now when a short man walks away from a woman rejecting him for his height I get to hear the trash talking and jokes that these women say about how short the guy was. I had a friend who didn't believe me that women are not attracted to short men, I had $1000 cash in my pocket and I told him lets walk around this club and if you introduce me to a girl any girl here in this club who doesn't have kids and not obsessively overweight and she is interested in me and doesn't reject me for my height I'd give this $1000 right here on the spot. However, each girl that he introduced me to would reject me for my height he would have to buy me a beer, that was the deal. We walked around for hours and he tried really hard to introduce me to a lot of women at that club and just like I said, they all rejected me for my height only.
You betta come on with that Tabitha Brown pic insert lol.. 🤣😂
I USE to have a "type", but the man I ended up marrying didn't check any of those boxes. But baybaa...when I tell you he is the man I KNOW God meant for me, believe it! We have been together 21 years and I DON'T regret any of them!!🥰
people need to be worried less about the physical looks/superficial things of someone and be more worried about the spiritual and heart of person.
We should care about the heart and thats what attracted me to my husband then I noticed he can be handsome in his own way and that helps. Plus its harder for short men to do certain things..ya know cause of height differences. Also how tall are you? I'm 5'9" and rejection by taller men when I was dating and other tall.women can attest to this frustration. Women who are shorter have greater selection.
Im 6' tall...
I'm right here with EJ on this one. If you can't see the "whole package" then you miss out on a lot of good people in your life.
I already know the person I fall in love with is gonna be shorter than me. No man above 5'8" talks to me, all 5'6"-5'7" like dang. Ok. I'm 5'9.5" and I wear heels.
No children. No smokers of anything. Those are 2 I will not compromise on.
Wait you’re not that tall. Why don’t tall men talk to you?
@@djosephine I dont know why tall men aren't approaching me. I prefer men my height or taller. However, over the past year men shorter than me have been stepping up so...clearly the package isn't going to come the way I'd like it to. I mean, height doesn't really bother me. I like substance. I won't stop wearing heels though.
@@solointheburbs ohhh that’s why. It’s because you’re wearing heels. They’re intimidated by you.
@@djosephine I had the same problem at 5'9" . Married a shorty 5'6" cause no tall dudes we either worth my time (had self esteemed issues /were boring ) ignored me for shorties 5'6" and under
@@djosephine that's their problem. Not hers. My man doesn't care if Im wearing heels . Men who are intimidated by tall women are chumps.
I've been with my shorter husband for 36 years, we've known each other since we were kids. We couldn't be happier!! 🥰🥰🥰
I'm 5'7, but I really don't need them to be really tall. Personally looking up at a 6'5 man is not comfortable. If he's eye level without heels and doesn't care that I may be a few inches taller with heels then that's ok.
I’m short.... soooo bless y’all in this single 🌍
I don’t mind dating short men. I’m 5’0 though so everyone seems tall to me lol.
Often times, we hide our prejudices under the guise of preference.
-Big Meach
You hit it on the nail EJ, you find a person who meets all of your criteria, and it still doesn't work or you're giving up something.
And here's another angle to view this from, YOU CANNOT HAVE IT YOUR WAY...at first glance, this person may have everything you want, however later you will soon find out the cost, what you're giving up to be with that person.
Sometimes you cant help a preference... you're just attracted what you're attracted to... ive tried dating a shorter man.. I just couldnt do it.. and im 5'3 🤷🏾♀️
Well a man shorter than 5' 3" is pretty extreme.
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@@cynthiaholland13 Exactly lol. I don't think that's asking for too much lol. 😆
I'm 5'9" lots of tall men passed me over for shorties 5'6" and under so short they looked like children next to them. It was crazy to me. I was in the best shape of my life had beautiful hair etc. Still passed over for pixies. So I decided to try and date one short man he was nice and was ok. He stopped dating me for a shorty because his family hated me 🙄. So I set standards that a man had to not have short man's syndrome. Short man's syndrome is when short men feel like they have to be extra macho and show off so they are larger then life to makeup for their lack of height. They are the worst! I ended up married to a short man that didn't have short man's syndrome because he treated me right cause none of the tall men would have me -their loss cause I'm awesome ! It does make somethings hard when doing the deed or dancing. But other than that I'm happy to be with someone who loves me for me.
He can be shorter than me. As long as we’re “equally yoked,” we good-.✌🏾
Amen! The best comment I’ve come across!
I'm 5'9...the love of my life is 5'6 ish...I love this man with all of my heart...in my eyes he is 6'7... his height means nothing to me....don't let it stop you from getting a good man 😁
You like who you like and you're attracted to who are attracked to.
As a woman who is 5'11", late 30s, and hella single, I always wonder how tall the women are who are saying they wouldn't date a shorter man. I would prefer a taller man but I also recognize I'm taller than most Americans. Men over 6' make up 13% of the US population. The average height of a man is 5'9". Yes, I did my research and I understand I can't be picky. NOW, I will say if he is 5'6", he has to be a unicorn to grab my attention meaning bomb personality and everything I need and didn't know I needed. He just comes into my life swinging and knocking down walls... Ya feel me. Love your channel!!!
I'll be honest, I definitely have a preference for taller men. There's this guy that's interested in me and he's 5'2 and I'm 5'8. I'm trying my best to get over the height, but it's difficult. I'm going to give it a fair shot.
Would he give you a fair shot, if you did not meet the physical standard he finds attractive? You are making the exception though you are not truly attracted to "be nice" or "open" as our gender is taught. Remember to ask yourself if he would reciprocate if something about your physical being changed to something he did not find attractive.
@@sunnygold6988 that's fine if he didn't! Preference is preference! The one thing about it is, I'm not for everybody. He's not for everybody. You're not for everybody... And so on and so forth
Don't force yourself. I think you already know NOW that you're not interested.
Definitely preference. Just like some ppl may be attracted to thicker women or men. But also u can meet ppl that make u put that aside
I tend to keep my eyesight level or looking up. That is not a planned event just where my view naturally falls. However, I have never excluded a man or been above a nice view that captures my attention to look down, visually!! Presentation is everything and that is not exclusive to looks. I have been attracted to guys in my past that at first, I would have said never, no, not him. Just not my type or my look! Then the more I grew to know him as a person the sexier he became to me. Like I was not looking at the same guy!! I have preferred certain looks but ever excluded.
My understanding is that the preference for a taller man is hardwired. But I agree that it’s important to keep an open mind to find the person who is right for you.
It's ok to have a preference. Me personally i wouldn't mind dating a guy who is shorter than me. The shortest i would go is 5'5 that's it😂😂
Not even 5'4. I'm 5'4 and for some reason don't think of myself as short but average height
Was just talking about this with my homegirl today! This is me🙋🏿♀️! I'm 5'9 and I have not dated a shorter man and I do not plan to. The man for me will be taller than me + be the man I need. That is all.
The way I see it there are so many things you have control over that would make it break a relationship so your height being something you can’t help don’t bother me none🤷🏿♂️
People's preferences are their preferences however I would advise that regardless of what you like for the packaging, ALWAYS pay attention to the inside/character bcuz that's the thing that'll last for the long run.
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It's OK to have preferences and standards bc men certainly have them. There aren't a lot of comments here on a man's "spiritual" health!! I am not talking about "going to church" or "saying they are a Christian", but a man that has an undeniable relationship with God and is not ashamed of it. Short or tall spiritually matters too....
An old wise woman told me, "It all lines up in the bed." 😂
I really believe this. If it ain’t right in the bedroom it’s not gonna be right anywhere else. (Not sure if that what you meant but that’s how I took it lol)
@@djosephine lololol she meant sexually😂😂 Body parts
gon' and give them this wisdom EJ!!!
I can do just about anything but bad breath. I have straight attitude when I smell something stank!
Hello! Because, why?!?
As a 6'0" tall woman, I support this message 😁