Spilling My ENTIRE Dating History // Queer Intimacy, Being a Late Bloomer, and More
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ส.ค. 2024
- While I keep the video light and fun, I think this message touches on something more human and universal, which is why I felt compelled to share these EMBARRASSING AT BEST moments with all of you. If anything I hope you find this video entertaining and fun 🕺🏻 Title inspiration from Matt Spear.
Chapters 🌱
0:00 Intro
1:58 I Saw an Astrologist
2:50 How I Make Queer Art as a Virgin
4:30 Complete Dating History Timeline
4:52 In the Beginning ...
6:02 Girl 1
6:23 Girl 2
9:36 Girl 3
10:24 Boy 1
13:57 Boy 2
16:51 First Kiss
18:59 Going on Dates
19:48 Grindr Man 1
20:40 Grindr Man 2
21:51 Grindr Man 3
25:23 The Situationship
35:46 Post Situationship
37:12 A Letter to Virgins
39:32 Outro
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The gay loneliness that comes over us in the late teens/early twenties period needs to be talked about more!
It's the hardest time to find something stable and caring, in my experience and many of my friends have discussed it too.
Media makes it seem like that time of our lives will be the most exciting and full of sex and socialising, but as a gay person it can get really isolating. Thank you for this video!
As a queer woman with a Muslim family I can really relate to this because I never had the opportunity or even thought about being so bold as to act on any of my feelings or emotions towards the same gender but now that I am in University its like the whole world has opened up and i don't know what the heck to do lmfaoo. I am quite jealous of how far you have come in terms of understanding your sexuality.
Wow sending you so much positive energy! I definitely don’t understand my sexuality at all haha! I feel like im on a everlasting journey of faking it till I make it 😫 but we are in this together 😤🫶🏼
21 y.o. virgin here! I repressed my lesbianism for years, and, as a result, have never even dated 😭🤚
This is honestly so comforting to see another artist "come out" and talk about this. I always feel so behind in the lesbian/wlw community because we are so heavily sexualized, sapphics work to "reclaim" that sexuality - and then so much ends up still being about sex! Some days I feel like less of a queer person because of it, but we are all on our own journeys - including us late bloomers 💅
Edit: 7:42 seriously, please start a podcast 🏃♀️
I relate to this COMPLETELY so glad someone out there can relate 😫
This is me precisely! Honestly it’s overwhelming I think just coming to terms with sexuality instead of reverting to repression is the hardest part. So FELT this smmm!
Gay 31 year old here. I came out at 15 in Florida and didn’t lose my virginity until I was 24. It was really stressful, but now I’m in my longest relationship of over a year (which is like 5 straight cis years) and am very fulfilled romantically, intimately, and sexually. Late blooming isn’t late, we’re just more like agaves blooming, beautiful and majestic.💜
better a late bloomer than a boomer, babe!
LMFAOAOOAAOA
Honestly this makes me feel a lot better about my Virginity as a 20 year old as I’m focusing on collage at the moment and I just am not ready yet sometimes I feel behind as I haven’t even had my first kiss but yeah thank you for you vulnerability
looove longer videos like these btw like yes please give us more of you to watch
YASSSS noted will do !
@@brettpaint yay ! okay - they don't even have to be crazy edited btw you could just hit 'record' and paint for an hour and I'd be hyyyyped babe
ur so real for being out there! I feel like there's so much shame about being "behind"and still being a virgin or not having had a relationship and every time someone shares their story we can all chill a lil more. also i think there's actually so many of us that think and talk about sexuality in a theoretical way rather than tons of practice lol. currently going thru it since I've only had sex once (one night stand), made out w/ppl at clubs but no real relationships and now im catching feelings for someone and idk how to actually get intimate with someone i know and care about that isn't a total rando.
As a young queer person I could not connect with this more, I really enjoyed it thank you!
do you have a podcast? i can legit listen to you all day lol
Literally why is everyone just now talking about gay loneliness like where was this when I was in senior year of high school 😭
Capricorn artist here too 🧡🧡🧡 i relate with art being everything 🧡
Capricorns unite 😤
🐐 yaaas
love these longer videos where you just talk about your life!!
Nothing wrong with being one, I'm a virgin too. Some people just don't want to have intercourse yet. That's fine! U do it when you're ready!
😫🫶🏼💅🏻💅🏻💆🏻♀️👩🏻🏫🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️ real
okay i just finished the video as always thank you for sharing your experiences with us !! you're so funny and such a vibe and I really admire how open you are with all of your supporters
Understanding someone’s background definitely makes things a lot different and makes the choices they make or made make a lot more sense. I think the whole getting told not to park there situation happened for a reason. Part of you might have been wanting to try something and pushing yourself a little but weren’t ready. And even though nothing has actually happened, at the same time, a lot has. You shouldn’t push yourself to do things if you aren’t ready. When you meet someone that you do want to try things with, then see how that goes. As time goes by, it does make things seem a lot more serious and scary when you decide, "Okay, I want to have sex with this person." Or in general, it makes you think more about every person you talk to or any situationships you get into. You sort of ask yourself, "Do I really want them to be my first? Will this feel right to me and satisfy me, or will it leave me feeling worse?" I feel that with women because I’ve had all my experiences with men. So if I find a man attractive and he’s cool, and we get to talking, if we kiss or anything else happens, I don’t think about it too much. But when there’s a girl, I put walls up and think, "Wait, do I really want this? Am I ready? Is this going to be special enough for me, or do I wait for someone else because I’m not feeling that connection?" It’s difficult because I get with the last person you talked a lot, and you finally reached that point where you felt comfortable and wanted it to be with them. You felt okay with the idea of things potentially happening, even though nothing happened. I think it was a good learning experience. For me, at least, there have been girls that have showed interest in me, and part of me plays with the idea because I want to experiment. But also, the other part of me isn’t fully there because I have felt a connection with a girl before, and that felt special. I felt comfortable enough to be okay with the idea of something potentially happening between me and her. So moving forward from that, I navigate my experiences with girls a lot different than guys due to the lack of experience and wanting the perfect environment. This approach has its pros and cons because sometimes it can lead to missing out on getting to know people further and taking that next step. I believe it's important to act when you feel ready with someone you're comfortable with, but also avoid self sabotage by overstaying your comfort zone due to fear or overthinking. Even when I was talking to that special girl, I found myself overthinking, and now we don't speak anymore. Looking back, I wish I had made a move because we both felt ready and comfortable with each other. It's annoying because now having felt what that was like to feel ready with someone, I don’t know when that feeling will arise again. I am now able to recognise in that situation I was making excuses or postponing things, but now I have clarity. Maybe with the last guy, he didn't clock that you were comfortable with him and willing to wait to develop a connection, despite having multiple conversations.
you have no idea how helpful this was for me rn girl
you are so fun to listen to!! i'm only in my teen years so i'm not really worried about virginity but sometimes i feel really insecure as a lesbian cause unlike my sapphic friends, i haven't dated nor kissed yet
this video was very cozy and i just wanted to say that you look absolutely stunning! as an artist myself i would absolutely draw you right away
Love your content - personal and funny all at once
Hi Brett! I'm a big fan of your artworks and channel! ❤
I think you look amazing, like looking at your face it associates to me with the word cute, so idk don't be shy about your appearance bro
Also you inspire me with your coloured nails 💅🏽 it really suits you
Love these sit down vids
omg loved listening to this and your other longer videos You need a podcast!!!
this is actually so comforting, it's really difficult to figure out sexuality whilst in a relationship so I completely respect you not rushing into anything ❤
you’re back!!!
i'm back 🕺🏻
i enjoyed watching this. thanks!
Of course !! Trying to make more long videos
That was beautiful and very comforting Brett🙏🏾 as an 18-19 yr old I really struggle with this whole sex thing and relationships, and hearing your story makes me think ya, we are on a journey but we’ll be ok
Exactly ❤
20 Year gay virgin and sometimes I get caught up in between wanting to experience what all of my straight and some of my gay friends get to do so freely and without worry, but also being deathly afraid of the intimacy and potential regret of doing it with the wrong person, or having a bad overall experience as my first time.
I've had experiences with grindr, tinder and such but it never really goes any further than a coffee date because I get scared and bail out and it makes me wonder if I'm doing it more so because the apps make "dating" easy to do and conveniently available or if it's something I actually want and feel ready to do.
Situationships and relationships never go anywhere either because I have no idea how to express my desire to try new things while also being apprehensive to commit to someone because of the uncertainty caused by the unknown and also not having any experience with intimacy or relationships, while also not making the other person feel like they're being used as an experiment.
In short, I'm trapped and I have no idea how to work my way out of this but I really enjoyed your story and it's nice to know I'm not the only person out there that struggles with problems like mine
❤❤❤❤ you go gurlll!!! 🎉🎉🎉
yasssss
Pls do more videos like that ❤ love you ❤❤
Me a wizard: Interesting, young apprentice
not exactly sure what this means but slay 🙈
@@brettpaint a wizard is an...rather old virgin...30 years old
actually, you should take your time and be happy
I think you are a hard working person , deep down not a bad person (actually!!) I do think you take everything as one big piece, and when something comes to you that makes you insecure , can make you sink more insecure (your childhood) - your prom story I didnt listen to it all but I heard you got the courage to come up to her ❤ that’s good! -- and that’s all I know but your normal, natural , seeker like me, and slow too like me!!?? ^ ^ there are things that I’m not good at, I’m not good at, but this is where you can find the determination, you can see , you can learn, you can pick. ❤
the religous woman and you making out is actually so funny
babe im not even done with the video yet but I am SOOOOO pissed at the situationship like I'm actually at a loss for words y'all literally spoke about that stuff beforehand what do you meaaaan 😭
Brett❤
Loved the video, related to a lot of time things, you're not alone ig queer loneliness is a thing amongst young adults
Hey new to your channel ❤ love the video and gald you were welling telling your story. I am aslo 22 year old Virgin but for I'm asexual and it hard for people/ family and friends to understand that they think it in valed because im young and haven't date but I know myself and it not gonna happen. But I love myself and gonna live my life the way I want 😊
This is so fierce
I love your videos feel like I’m on facetime with a good friend. (Side note also a virgin 🫡 still don’t know if I’m bi, lesbian, or asexual 🤷🏻♀️. Feelings are weird. Though I am autistic and statistic say we are more likely to be lgbt because we don’t understand the concept of gender 😎)
They’re my fav
gay virgin Capricorn artist club 🤚 thank you for making this video. I have so many fellow friends who have never been intimate with another person and after while it’s so hard to not blame yourself.
Just started the video, you’re definitely attractive 🤩🤩🤩
this is really funny because i kind of had the same situationship two years ago. and i am just so confused what was happening bc we were already going there, and suddenly, he wanna stop bc he thought we were just friends. like we were literally making out everytime we see each other
Ur so funny ily
Oh my God, that’s crazy
no literally crazy
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❤️❤️❤️
Ima 33yr old virgin ,and LOVIN it lol !!!
PLEASE START A PODCAST
Went on a date with this man 💀
And the virgin part.. there this guy I know in college, so smart and perfect , I wish there was spark between us.. but he was perfect .. he was a virgin up to 30 or something until I found out he got married on FB ; ) so the virgin part is actually smart!! And safe!!
known your not the only one, i'm also gay and the last of my line sadly
Please keep your face, thank you!
okay werk !
Hi Girlies! Please share this video, somebody might need to watch this. Say no top gatekeeping lmaoo (but seriously, though)
okay werkkkkk
I remember I was so down bad to get rid of my V card, that I agreed to meet a girl from VALLORANT and she took me to a basement bar that was FILLED with neo-nazis (hi, I'm jewish???), and in the toilet (where on the wall of one of the stalls it literally had in writing something wishing death upon my entire people???) two of them forced me to do the salute, but I did not bat an eye because a woman being actually interested in me was a more pressing issue to me. Should I say that I went on, like, five more dates with her, which destroyed my mental health at the time?? One of which involved her making out with two other people in front of my face and another her getting high and drunk and getting hit on by russian war criminals for a free pizza? After which she couldn't even tell me my name??? I have not DARED to go into the (nonexistent) dating pool since lmaoo
(should say, that while she is a whole blue-eyed blonde, she was very much not with the skinheads there, neither was the bar, which refused to serve them a little bit after that day, and covered up the writing)
okay glad im not the only one. Im turning 20 in like 4 months and I KNOW i’ll still be a virgin by then. I hear abt 14 15 yr olds losing it and i feel like a f loser but I’m not readyy thooo
he's hott
22 year old and you are vergin is this realy somthing to talk about 😅 isn't it obvious 22 year old would definitely be virgin mostly man it's so young 😅
😅😅😅
honestly the "yuhs" made this unbearable to listen to
Lol your problem
did anyone count the amount of yuh's
I could def count them for yall but I wanna see who can get the right answer …
Was interesting to here your stories dating relationships can be very difficult traumatic at times why I also have been reluctant to date especially dating apps not touching them. Was getting so invested in your story unfortunate things didnt work out But wishing you all the best hope you meet the loml. Meeting people organically is hard but rather be single then going through whatever. Also coming to terms with that im realising im ace (spec)this year so thats fun for me 🫠 the way everyone be getting crushes from literally preschool like you said Ive made up having crushes on people especially in elementary it was the cool thing to do but I didnt like anyone never have on more deep level so I just made up having a crush on this boy in my school in middle high school everyone absolutely hated and ignored me so nothing there now getting older realising how people want physical intimacy realising that not quite my thing that much 🥲so potential for demi after forming emotional connection being attracted s£xually to people so. Its all a work in progress very confusing Idk who I want to be attracted to for time being gonna say just guys/men thats the thing you do just hetero is much easier for everyone to make sense of it but then in this questioning faze do like girls like that as well Im like idk its homosocilality/aesthetic/platonic/romantic/s3xual Sometimes Im attracted to one so I dont anything in life just walking in the dark for absolutely everything figuring out along the way. But currently I’m feeling content with being single yassss. ☺️☺️🥳🥳But like you said just looking at people I get mini crushes but then no actions I don’t even wanna act on it evendont really want to have kids no rush marriage either
Also I cant do one night stands or hookups wdym being intimate a literal stranger that freaks me alot I need to know you first well before anything so thats difficult a whole another wall. Then im like no I need to sleep with someone to prove im ace (spec)but then im like why and why would I put myself through that its just so complicated nothing comes easy in life while my bsf is literally engaged at 20 im still no where