not member of order except in spirit, and avid follower of her channel, does it count? :) she has bettered my opinion about US of A in general and California in particular. :D (i am from Russia's neighbouring country)
I lost my fiance yesterday and I'm watching these to gain some comfort. I made it clear that I WILL be the one to do his hair and get him ready for cremation. I wouldn't want it any other way, and that's thanks to you. I'm advocating for him and me.
I was uncomfortable with the idea of burial for most of my life, I thought because I was afraid of death, then I realized I'm not afraid of death at all, just the burial traditions I knew of were all giving me heebie-jeebies. However, it turns out THE MOMENT I hear about human composting I'm like... well that sounds cozy, dignified, and beautiful. I want that. Not because it's environmentally friendly (although I love that it is), but because it seems spiritually friendly to me personally. Like, I am completely happy to think of myself decomposing this way. I wouldn't know about it were it not for Caitlin, so THANK YOU, CAITLIN!
(Caitlin, as a Californian, I'm sure you know this already...) due to its history of destructive earthquakes, one of San Francisco's nick names is "the city that waits to die." Also, due to the high cost of land in San Francisco, there are no big cemeteries, so for years, corpses have been buried in a suburb called Colma. And so one of Colma's nicknames is: The city that waits for "the city that waits to die" to die. Cool, huh?
Enjoyed the part you spoke of the Cementary in the past. The part you mentioned that people use to make a social event of going to the Cementary. This I remember when I was about 5 yrs old that my Mom, Grandmother and other family members gathered. We had gobs of food that people brought. After eating all the grown ups did work on the grounds such as cleaning brush and trash, pulling weeds from graves, checking the tombstones and making sure they were level and secure. It was never a sad or scary place. I knew at the young age to respect the grounds and never walk over a grave which was disrespectful. Thank you!
2 things that warm my heart, Moscow and Caitlin. I visited Russia as a student ambassador in 1993 and fell in love with the country and her people. It is a beautiful place and I was treated very well. I have great respect for the resilient, intelligent and compassionate people I encountered. As for Caitlin, I found her Ask A Mortician channel 3 years ago when I was diagnosed with a serious illness. I was looking for information about funerals and found that and so much more. She is witty, very pretty and most importantly very knowledgeable about death, and its surrounding cultures. I count myself amount the “deathling" and death enthusiasts. I truly feel more empowered and less fearful of death.
i think you would love this book: Mastering the Art of Soviet Cooking: A Memoir of Food and Longing, by Anya von Bremzen. "Moscow, the cruel city"... but moscvitchi love her even more for that. she is here on youtube too, of course: th-cam.com/video/87lMFkCQaUM/w-d-xo.html
My family in the south celebrate decoration once a year. We gather at the family cemetery to attend a church service first. After church there is a huge picnic. The family spend the afternoon eating and visiting. Every cemetery has a set date once a year for this event.
Vending machines… 😆 Ikr… come to think about it: it actually is… maybe they can invent some sort of jukebox/burial/vending machine… visit mom and have them play their favorite song
I just though of being composted after I die and on my soil grows a beautiful flower or a little berry bush or something. That’s a kind of calming thought tbh
...the japanese and israeli models are very elaborate... ...here in Germany we have something called 'Ruheforst' (resting forrest), there's a forrest/cementary where you can get burried under a tree, and that tree works as your headstone...!
I hang on your every word in these talks, Caitlin. Fascinating. I've seen something like a thick hessian 'pod' that the corpse is wrapped up in, which includes tree seeds and is buried normally. Now THAT IS cool! Any info on this please? xxx
. So, because of another video, "Caitlin Doughty, Mortician/Author - XOXO Festival (2019)" that had commenting blocked (oh, I understand. I do.) I am now looking for more videos by you, but I also want to react to 17:35 where you said "One of the most iconic corpses of all time." . I have to admit, I never thought of them that way. . Mao Tse Tung comes to mind. (Older standard spelling.) But also the bones of the Saints of the Church, their scattered class one relics, huge mausoleum memorials with the bones of thousands, unable to be sorted, such as the Douamont Ossuary from WWI, or some of the collected remains from the Pol Pot regime. . These give rise to memories, histories, crises of state, sacrifices of holy ones, noble personalities and cries for justice. . Weighty, far reaching and relevant stuff. . You are telling us how out of life is not out of mind. . Some of us are listening.
Her TH-cam channel is called Ask A Mortitian. She has so many awesome videos on about every subject surrounding death and dying and what happens and talks about the dying process and the death positivity movement. She has a podcast called death in the afternoon. She's also written 3 books. She changed my opinion so so much about dying and my being so terrified to die. I'm not as scared as I used to be, thanks to her. She also uses humor to help everyone fell better about death.
Well, I stand corrected. It would appear that Russia not only are they accepting of Caitlin’s subject matter and delivery, they do have a sense of humor and understand her humor.
Caitlin, since I don't know how/where to post this, I thought this might get to you eventually....I. have had to endure twice, horrific deaths for both my mom and a VERY, very, good friend. In both situations, they died horribly, in pain, and kept in agony, with their living Will's, etc., ignored by both the medical field and funeral directors. With my mom, I was told that if I didn't have all the money by the next day, I could "come and get her." Where did they think I would put her?.!!?? Anyway, I digress, we treat our animals more humanely than people where we, as thinking, intelligent beings we can make end of life decisions even if that means ending their lives. Sadly, pets cant tell us when its time, but people can. In that vain, how to you feel about assisted death? Or rather, taking control over your own death as to when, where, and how (reasonably of course.) I know there would be the few who could do harm so of course regulations can be put in place. The ones they have now are ridiculous, too prohibitive, and still causes intractable pain and suffering due to the time frame the few states have put into effect. For instance, what about those suffering daily in never-ending pain for years on end with NO end in site until a "natural" death occurs? Especially for those of us who have terminal illnesses only we don't know when the end will come for us. Is it fair to us/them to make us suffer for year after interminable year praying to whatever god you may/may not believ in to end it now??? Just wondering what your thoughts are on this? Maybe do a video? Thanks. Shantiann
Hi, thank you for your comment. May be this link on Caitlin`s blog will help you, she writting about it: www.orderofthegooddeath.com/please-help-pass-the-end-of-life-option-act
she has a youtube channel, and have talked about those kind of situations.. you can have your deceased family in your house for a couple of days if you feel confortable and also the funeral industry is so nasty like that.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this extremely hard process by yourself - and not once, but twice. I don't know where you live, but I am in California, and for us, as well as nine other states, there are assisted suicide laws in place which allow the terminally ill person to get help when they can no longer manage the pain, suffering and indignity of a slow death. It's a huge relief to me, personally, to have this law in place. It may be worth moving, or encouraging the legislation in the state where you live, if you are in the U.S. Good luck to you.
I recommend u go to her official TH-cam channel Ask A Mortitian. It has a lot of info on all these questions. Your family shouldn't have ever been left in pain when there's so much strong medication. And euthanasia is legal in many places in the world. Look into it. Lastly, use hospice who will help u and the person passing on thru the death process. They will make sure they r comfortable till the and and comfort both her and u or the rest of the family who r there. Also there's something called a death doula. I hope I spelled that right. They really help comfort all of u and really help the one passing by lighting candles and singing stuff like that. The thing is that this is planned with u and the person passing ahead of time. So they can tell them what they would like during the time of passing. I've heard it's a really beautiful thing. Go to Caitlins TH-cam channel Ask A Mortitian and u can find a few videos on this subject. Its really beautiful. I'm so sorry u had to go thru this and I know they appreciated all that u did for them. U r amazing.
You do know morphine exists right? I don’t see why euthanasia is ever necessary, but you should be upset if your dying loved one can’t have access to plant based meds like marijuana and opium. End the war on drugs.
Hello there caitlin. Doughty it's me again bubba I miss you so much, when I hear you speak about the dead I'm somehow drawn to you .like metal to a magnet.bubba more
My fiance loves supernatural and the open air pyr looks like a humters funeral. I wonder if they would allow outsiders if/when the time comes cause he would love that.
Why not make a big barge for a graveyard. It can have different options like the traditional burial plots, natural burial, a place for cremains , etc.....the oceans have unlimited space so when it's full, they can build a new one. Just an idea.
background kills my eyes, must put audio only. looks like there's some bad missynch between recording camera and background screen. am so sorry, cannot watch it; need to see person speaking to understand really :)
Bill Fuller Idk why but you had this future corpse laughing. I tried to ignore her outfit and listen to the important message but now I’m wondering if it’s her boots that’s not wrkn. I love watching her too.
I see Death Mother and I click. Proud Deathling! Also, I love your boots.
Death Mother would be a cool name for a band.
Those boots are big!!
😆 “Death Mother”
Any fellow deathlings here?
Future corpse here.
🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️
Pick me!!
not member of order except in spirit, and avid follower of her channel, does it count? :) she has bettered my opinion about US of A in general and California in particular. :D (i am from Russia's neighbouring country)
Yup
I lost my fiance yesterday and I'm watching these to gain some comfort. I made it clear that I WILL be the one to do his hair and get him ready for cremation. I wouldn't want it any other way, and that's thanks to you. I'm advocating for him and me.
Good for you!🙏🏼❤️
I was uncomfortable with the idea of burial for most of my life, I thought because I was afraid of death, then I realized I'm not afraid of death at all, just the burial traditions I knew of were all giving me heebie-jeebies. However, it turns out THE MOMENT I hear about human composting I'm like... well that sounds cozy, dignified, and beautiful. I want that. Not because it's environmentally friendly (although I love that it is), but because it seems spiritually friendly to me personally. Like, I am completely happy to think of myself decomposing this way. I wouldn't know about it were it not for Caitlin, so THANK YOU, CAITLIN!
(Caitlin, as a Californian, I'm sure you know this already...) due to its history of destructive earthquakes, one of San Francisco's nick names is "the city that waits to die." Also, due to the high cost of land in San Francisco, there are no big cemeteries, so for years, corpses have been buried in a suburb called Colma. And so one of Colma's nicknames is: The city that waits for "the city that waits to die" to die. Cool, huh?
Enjoyed the part you spoke of the Cementary in the past. The part you mentioned that people use to make a social event of going to the Cementary. This I remember when I was about 5 yrs old that my Mom, Grandmother and other family members gathered. We had gobs of food that people brought. After eating all the grown ups did work on the grounds such as cleaning brush and trash, pulling weeds from graves, checking the tombstones and making sure they were level and secure. It was never a sad or scary place. I knew at the young age to respect the grounds and never walk over a grave which was disrespectful.
Thank you!
You are an amazing speaker! I can’t get over how much I have learned from you. Not just about the funeral industry but just things in general!
2 things that warm my heart, Moscow and Caitlin.
I visited Russia as a student ambassador in 1993 and fell in love with the country and her people. It is a beautiful place and I was treated very well. I have great respect for the resilient, intelligent and compassionate people I encountered.
As for Caitlin, I found her Ask A Mortician channel 3 years ago when I was diagnosed with a serious illness. I was looking for information about funerals and found that and so much more. She is witty, very pretty and most importantly very knowledgeable about death, and its surrounding cultures. I count myself amount the “deathling" and death enthusiasts.
I truly feel more empowered and less fearful of death.
i think you would love this book: Mastering the Art of Soviet Cooking: A Memoir of Food and Longing, by Anya von Bremzen. "Moscow, the cruel city"... but moscvitchi love her even more for that. she is here on youtube too, of course:
th-cam.com/video/87lMFkCQaUM/w-d-xo.html
YOU CAME TO RUSSIA AND YOU SPOKE AT AN EVENT???? I’m so jealous of everyone in attendance
МОСКВИЧИ! Я вам завидую!
I've heard you on TED talk. Great thing to teach.
Your hair is surreal. So beautiful.
When politicians are the enemies, then comes Caitlin and put together Moscow and Washington...oh, maybe LA. I love you 💜
Yep she is a force.
Future corpse here!🙋♀️
hahaha
Charles Franklin: “No one gets out of this life alive.“
My family in the south celebrate decoration once a year. We gather at the family cemetery to attend a church service first. After church there is a huge picnic. The family spend the afternoon eating and visiting. Every cemetery has a set date once a year for this event.
Human composting looks beautiful
I enjoyed the teeeny tiny response from the interpreter. Made me laugh out loud. But on a serious note, great presentation!
Caitlin deserves a Nobel prize
Deathling here awesome presentation.
I love Caitlin! Im hoping to get all of her books and would love to meet her in person some day!
The Japanese now literally have vending machines for everything
Vending machines… 😆 Ikr… come to think about it: it actually is… maybe they can invent some sort of jukebox/burial/vending machine… visit mom and have them play their favorite song
@@equalivent_auxiliumchina3286 you could fill mine up with Red-bull and CCR haha
Very interesting, Caitlin. Love the Colorado pyre. The picnics at the gravesite reminded me of Day of the Dead in Mexico, beautiful tradition.
I just started this video, and already, I feel for Caitlin, as I’m afraid they won’t have the same morbid sense of humor we have. Good luck CD!
I just though of being composted after I die and on my soil grows a beautiful flower or a little berry bush or something. That’s a kind of calming thought tbh
I like walking through cemateries as its so peaceful
...the japanese and israeli models are very elaborate...
...here in Germany we have something called 'Ruheforst' (resting forrest), there's a forrest/cementary where you can get burried under a tree, and that tree works as your headstone...!
Yes! Compost me and send my soil to the Ultimate Organic Recycling Orchard! Yes! Plant Berry bushes! Have a tiny plaque that says Eat me!
Она прекрасна, я очень уважаю эту женщину за то, что она делает. И книги её всем советую, с юмором писать о таких темах не каждый сумеет
You are miraculous and I have loved your work since the beginning !
Fascinating video
Wow that was awesome. Too bad I’m in the Midwest that usually is far behind times
I wanted to be cremated until I've seen her videos, now I want to be composted.
Personally, I consider it an improvement, hehehe...
Wonderful presentation!! I learn new things from every one of your videos and love it! Keep it going and we will be there!! Blessings!
I hang on your every word in these talks, Caitlin. Fascinating. I've seen something like a thick hessian 'pod' that the corpse is wrapped up in, which includes tree seeds and is buried normally. Now THAT IS cool! Any info on this please? xxx
absolutely great ! thanks for what you do, thanks for progress
Soooo. Watched many vids of yours. But after watching this? ... would greatly enjoy a speaking event in person..
Кейтлин выступала в России и я узнала об этом только сейчас 😱😭😭😭
Im glad i seen this because i read all about these in her book its cool to see it.
You could see a huge companion mausoleum in Calvary Cemetery in East L.A.
Omg Caitlin talking about Singapore! There is actually more than one cemetery, wish I could talk to you about it
I love Caitlin!
Even in Canada jogging through a cemetery is way more of a thing than in the U.S.
just joined very entertaining slightly on the lines of dave allen. super Caitlin
Well done darlin
Kind of like the idea of going on a rollercoaster ride, every time my family visits. Hope it won't break down like rides at Disney.
. So, because of another video, "Caitlin Doughty, Mortician/Author - XOXO Festival (2019)" that had commenting blocked (oh, I understand. I do.) I am now looking for more videos by you, but I also want to react to 17:35 where you said "One of the most iconic corpses of all time."
. I have to admit, I never thought of them that way.
. Mao Tse Tung comes to mind. (Older standard spelling.) But also the bones of the Saints of the Church, their scattered class one relics, huge mausoleum memorials with the bones of thousands, unable to be sorted, such as the Douamont Ossuary from WWI, or some of the collected remains from the Pol Pot regime.
. These give rise to memories, histories, crises of state, sacrifices of holy ones, noble personalities and cries for justice.
. Weighty, far reaching and relevant stuff.
. You are telling us how out of life is not out of mind.
. Some of us are listening.
she has a lot of videos on her youtube channel about iconic corpses and other interesting thing!!
Her TH-cam channel is called Ask A Mortitian. She has so many awesome videos on about every subject surrounding death and dying and what happens and talks about the dying process and the death positivity movement. She has a podcast called
death in the afternoon. She's also written 3 books.
She changed my opinion so so much about dying and my being so terrified to die. I'm not as scared as I used to be, thanks to her. She also uses humor to help everyone fell better about death.
Her sound effects are amazing. Lol.
Spasiba😊
I'm disappointed she didn't mention Russian Mod tombstones, prob the best thing ever tbh.
I'm in Moscow and I had no idea Caitlin gave a talk here. :(
Same :(
I think that it wasn't planned as she said about the earthquakes.
Well, I stand corrected. It would appear that Russia not only are they accepting of Caitlin’s subject matter and delivery, they do have a sense of humor and understand her humor.
Caitlin, since I don't know how/where to post this, I thought this might get to you eventually....I. have had to endure twice, horrific deaths for both my mom and a VERY, very, good friend. In both situations, they died horribly, in pain, and kept in agony, with their living Will's, etc., ignored by both the medical field and funeral directors. With my mom, I was told that if I didn't have all the money by the next day, I could "come and get her." Where did they think I would put her?.!!?? Anyway, I digress, we treat our animals more humanely than people where we, as thinking, intelligent beings we can make end of life decisions even if that means ending their lives. Sadly, pets cant tell us when its time, but people can. In that vain, how to you feel about assisted death? Or rather, taking control over your own death as to when, where, and how (reasonably of course.) I know there would be the few who could do harm so of course regulations can be put in place. The ones they have now are ridiculous, too prohibitive, and still causes intractable pain and suffering due to the time frame the few states have put into effect. For instance, what about those suffering daily in never-ending pain for years on end with NO end in site until a "natural" death occurs? Especially for those of us who have terminal illnesses only we don't know when the end will come for us. Is it fair to us/them to make us suffer for year after interminable year praying to whatever god you may/may not believ in to end it now??? Just wondering what your thoughts are on this? Maybe do a video? Thanks. Shantiann
Hi, thank you for your comment. May be this link on Caitlin`s blog will help you, she writting about it: www.orderofthegooddeath.com/please-help-pass-the-end-of-life-option-act
she has a youtube channel, and have talked about those kind of situations.. you can have your deceased family in your house for a couple of days if you feel confortable and also the funeral industry is so nasty like that.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this extremely hard process by yourself - and not once, but twice. I don't know where you live, but I am in California, and for us, as well as nine other states, there are assisted suicide laws in place which allow the terminally ill person to get help when they can no longer manage the pain, suffering and indignity of a slow death. It's a huge relief to me, personally, to have this law in place. It may be worth moving, or encouraging the legislation in the state where you live, if you are in the U.S. Good luck to you.
I recommend u go to her official TH-cam channel Ask A Mortitian. It has a lot of info on all these questions.
Your family shouldn't have ever been left in pain when there's so much strong medication. And euthanasia is legal in many places in the world. Look into it.
Lastly, use hospice who will help u and the person passing on thru the death process. They will make sure they r comfortable till the and and comfort both her and u or the rest of the family who r there. Also there's something called a death doula. I hope I spelled that right. They really help comfort all of u and really help the one passing by lighting candles and singing stuff like that. The thing is that this is planned with u and the person passing ahead of time. So they can tell them what they would like during the time of passing. I've heard it's a really beautiful thing. Go to Caitlins TH-cam channel Ask A Mortitian and u can find a few videos on this subject. Its really beautiful.
I'm so sorry u had to go thru this and I know they appreciated all that u did for them. U r amazing.
You do know morphine exists right? I don’t see why euthanasia is ever necessary, but you should be upset if your dying loved one can’t have access to plant based meds like marijuana and opium. End the war on drugs.
Exellent
Can you recommend any natural funeral directors in Christchurch New Zealand that follow what your way of thinking?
Nobody gets out alive!!!!
Hello there caitlin. Doughty it's me again bubba I miss you so much, when I hear you speak about the dead I'm somehow drawn to you .like metal to a magnet.bubba more
Don't be selfish, donate.
My fiance loves supernatural and the open air pyr looks like a humters funeral. I wonder if they would allow outsiders if/when the time comes cause he would love that.
Why not make a big barge for a graveyard. It can have different options like the traditional burial plots, natural burial, a place for cremains , etc.....the oceans have unlimited space so when it's full, they can build a new one. Just an idea.
Those look more like and apartments and not for dead bodies.
Orbiting Meadows National Cemetery.
Lol the crowds sense of humor is not like people in the USA. I’m over here laughing at all your jokes!
Deathling here
#caitlyndoughty #askamortician
background kills my eyes, must put audio only. looks like there's some bad missynch between recording camera and background screen. am so sorry, cannot watch it; need to see person speaking to understand really :)
That outfit you are wearing is attractive on you, very complimentary.
And there’s future corpses waiting to be conceived and born, live & then die of old age!!👶👦🏼🧒🏽👩🏻🦲🧓🏻👵🏻🧠⚰️
Japan baby
Kaitlin love watching you but honey that outfit is not flattering
Bill Fuller Idk why but you had this future corpse laughing. I tried to ignore her outfit and listen to the important message but now I’m wondering if it’s her boots that’s not wrkn. I love watching her too.
It's Russian
This broad will make a huge corpse