Ladies, Men DON'T CARE About Your Job Or Money | Hafeez Baoku
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- In today's video Hafeez tackles a very controversial but much needed discussion of whether men care about a woman's job, money, status, or resources. And the answer is no. Men do not care about a woman's job, money, career, or resources. I never said anything about marriage or long-term relationships because for those things it's a myriad of factors that play into the equation. But when it comes to attraction a job, status or money doesn't matter. Please, watch the whole video as I explain why.
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From my personal experience, men who have been attracted to my job and financial situation are the same ones who didn't have their own...
Yes. They were dusties looking for a woman to tske care of them.
@@Metaphysicalmindspace777 Bingo
No shit, they were the male version of Female gold diggers and hypergamy hunters.
Men who seek dependence on your career, are no different from women look for a guy base off of his financial status and career as well. At least you know what men go through with women.
I met a female lawyer, at a high end bar I worked at, and I noticed she kept smiling at me. I could tell she was lonely, and we ended up sleeping together. This went on for about six months... Basically she was lonely and didn't care about dating down.
A successful/educated woman is like icing on the cake. However, feminine energy wins by far.
Orane H This is ridiculous!😂
Feminity wins everytime over females that are strong, career, bad attitude
BOOMMMM
FACTS 100
Alpha males care more about looks and femininity; beta males on the other hand, care more about your job or money. By alpha male, I mean real alpha males with financial means. I've never heard of a wealthy man whose first trait he desires in a woman is a PhD from Harvard, if anything higher education and a good job are extras to the woman. The richest African American man divorced and remarried an ex-playboy model. Most wealthy men, who have very educated wives married them very early in life i.e. college sweetheart. It is good for women to be ambitious but they should just know that the higher education and high-paying jobs will not attract a successful alpha male, if that is what they want.
Outer beauty attracts him. Inner beauty keeps him.
Thats so true.
Facts
How often do you actually get both inner and outer beauty? I don't understand then why some men complain when these beautiful women who don't have their own career/money then end up taking half the men's money when they divorce?
@@Treatyse beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think it’s likely to find both.
@Shadow Hunter most women are not just one or the other. They are a bit of both. We are not that one dimensional...seriously who have been you been talking to? When it comes to very beautiful people both men and women, they get an easy pass, so they don't work as hard. Most people are not that, therefore are more hard working because they place value on more than just looks alone. This channel you're watching is designed for men who have not gotten what they think they deserve out of women, who are a bit angry and apparently are seeking receptive women. That reads like you want a subservient woman. If you wanna keep all you're money then you go for a woman who can make her own money, you get to keep both when you divorce. Otherwise find a middle ground of beauty and ambition. Am just here curious to see still how some men continue to think. Ambitious women are a growing breed in case some men havent noticed, before you know it that will be most of us in time. So men just need to get used to it. We ain't going back to the kitchen. I can honestly see a future where ambitious women intentionally choose to have children alone without having to deal with certain mindset in some men. Thankfully not all men have that mindset.
As I get older, I’m learning so much about men. Everything I thought men wanted, is totally opposite.
Derrick Jaxn strikes again 😂
Thats cos you've somehow taken the red pill. Your eyes are observing whats not the norm.
Women with money usually live alone or have a dysfunctional family.
Why are older women misleading younger women
@@goodfather2894 This is true from my own experience. Basically all my life I was told by the women in my family that men want a girl that has an education, a good job, can take care of herself...😐 And now I'm sitting here looking confused because it was all a lie.🤦🏾♀️
Men are attracted to:
1) Youth
2) Beauty
3) Fertility
As a woman, being ambitious and/or educated does not make you a "catch" in the dating market. This should be common sense.
@Gerald Long - I would add 'Personality & Emotionally Balanced' ahead of your #3. Who really cares about her fertility if a youthful beautiful woman has no personality & is emotionally damaged?. Who would want to be around her? Would u want to introduce someone like that to your close friends/family/biz associates?? I thinks too many men (not referring to u) put waaay to much emphasis on 'physical' looks (which is important) and overlook the 'inner' person - which is their 'real' self. Ideally, a man should want 'both' - in equal (or almost) measure.
I would also add femininity, compassion, and to some degree a well-kept physique (ie level of fitness, which could go with fertility). High value men want a feminine, supportive woman who keeps her physical appearance up.
Not that men would necessarily overlook ambitious, goal-oriented and career-driven women, just that women should know these are hard-grained traditionally masculine characteristics that most heterosexual men aren’t particularly attracted to.
@@Indefatigible20 are these heterosexual men providing and protecting?
@@Nokss87 what extent of protection and provision are you looking for..?
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My father told me this along time ago “men don’t care about your job or how much money you make” but the way you just broke it down brought it all the way home for me.
We're glad
He is saying that a real man is going to like and love you for you. Not your career or ambition. A real man does not need to be impressed by what you make or have or stress you on that.
Just like a real woman would like and love a man for their character and not his material possessions?
oaklandsoldier8520 Yes. You can definitely tell the difference when someone is just in it for the material things. God has given us intuition to guide us. So use it. A real woman is looking for a provider and protector. Someone stable. Mentally physically emotionally. Which this world has lost. So love yourselves first 💗
@@biancalim22 I don't think someone can be more correct about this. I believe the most attractive trait for a woman to possess is obedience to God. Because if I'm in a relationship with her and things go awry, we need a constant and that constant is God. But, I do agree with you, Bianca. This world is lost in many ways. I can't wait until Jesus's second coming.
@@biancalim22 I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way
In my opinion, what he actually said in this video is that your career/ambition are essentially the leftover crumbs on the plate after you took away all of the pieces of cake that we actually value (physical attraction, mental stability, sexual compatibility etc). You need to impress us without money, career, ambition, success etc because this is what women usually assume of us, therefore we aren't placing any value on you having these same traits since we can already hold it down (albeit in modern capitalist societies it's considerably easier to both work, move into a wealthy area and have a nice life).
Also, ladies, don’t forget femininity! Masculinity is about being a provider, protector, and a leader. This whole bragging about your accomplishments is one of the masculine traits that you don’t want to compete with a man on. I’m a student doctor, but I rarely mention this to men. My career is how I afford a living for myself.
Ismaël GACEM yeah!!! She have to struggle as much as him, but she have to get praised less!!!. Men like you are the reason why I wish I was a lesbian
@@i_only_simp_for_myself800 what u want praise for being an adult lol get the fuck over yourself
"Charm may be false, and beauty may be fleeting,
But the woman who fears God will be praised" Proverbs 31:30
Thanks for adding this x
Truth REVEALED JUSTICE RESTORED AMEN
STFU. Ain't nobody thinking about magical sky daddies when we trying to smash. You missed the whole damn point
@@TheDweeb002 a big baby boy like you needs to be checked by the 'magical sky daddy' so that you can learn how to behave yourself and grow up.
@@CeeceeH1819 and if the magical sky daddy does not exist?
Men are naturally biologically attracted to the physical aspects of a woman no matter what AND then they go and figure out her personality. For woman we look for stability mainly financial and then we look at the physical aspect.
SO TRUE!! for us, physical attraction can grow. For men, it's normally not like that. Hafeez and Chris said this in one of their episodes and it makes so much sense.
agree
Exactly
Not black women they look for stability after they been used up with kids by men they are sexually attracted to in their prime.
@zadose Black women are complaining about alphas the men they want not betas the men they don't want.
I think alot of women aren't understanding his video. What attract a guy is looks but you need personality to keep him. Personality is key. Alot of you women think because yall have good jobs that u can get a man and keep him, but have garbage personality, you not fun, you dont act lady like etc.
Very true but he's focusing on looks not personality
negrita305 he mentions looks aren’t enough in the vid titled Baddies
Have both and you are gold... Wear makeup
I learned from my parents divorce that the men end up envious and resentful of a female breadwinner
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Men are biologically created to spread their seed : makes sense that attraction in women is most important
Women biologically created to have kids & nature. Makes sense that’s their attracted to stability in a man.
Good post man I say this all the time...we are beholden to our biological urges!!! Makes sense
Hafeez, this is so true. Men are attracted to women for whole different reasons than women are attracted to men. The sooner women start realizing that the better. That's just the way it is...it's just nature at it's best! Great video!
There is a pitcher and a catcher. They both throw and catch but each do their roles better than the other. Better together than apart. 2 catchers there’d be no strike outs and with two pitchers there would be a lot of stolen bases.
I'm a woman and I care about men looks than status
@@창세기-f9h nah these dating coaches be thinking they know everything😭 everyone is different 💀💀I’m very visual girl too.
@@창세기-f9h Correct. Women want more. But women are also easier to replace.
But as soon as a man actually is attracted to you bc of your csreer and income you will never support him long term. So, ladiesz you set the rules, we just adapt.
You see male lawyers, doctors, Engineers marrying a hairdresser or even jobless women but you never see vice versa
I know a lawyer who married a women with no kids or job and all she does is stay home with. The pets
There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting a professionally successful woman, but the relationships I’ve seen when the woman is the breadwinner end in a breakup or divorce. Plus how can you protect a woman when she’s financially secure and you aren’t ? Protection goes beyond physically protecting a woman.
@@Divinia93 plus men start to compete with their successful wife.
I have seen a lot of woman, settle for a man that is not financially stable.
@Chantele Nkomo yes doctors mostly date doctors but that doesn't mean male won't date low earners. For men financial situation doesn't matter much. You think engineers are all marrying acedemics? Cause less than 20% of engineers are female. But you won't see a female engineer marrying some dude who works in a warehouse
I have told a hell of a lot of my female friends this exact same information. They tell men about their success like we are the female in the situation. And I explain that only a broke guy will be attracted to this because he wants to use you. And then when you raise his sexual market value, he'll cheat with the hot girl. Sad but true. Great job brother 👍
Could be true but it’s sad. Men marry these women based off physical attraction but then become divorcees and emotionally unavailable years later because life happened and all she had to offer as a help meet was her looks.
On point💯
If a man tries to be with a successful woman, then she won't give him a chance because he doesn't meet her financial standards, and she doesn't feel he's at the same level in status. So it's a lose-lose situation for a guy. Guys rather lose a girl that he was physically attracted to and have fun while it lasted, then to lose a girl he was never attracted to and invested in the first place.
It’s not all about looks, but it’s important, and it will get you a chance at an interview to fill the position. It’s the same with women, the only difference is you guys care about our ability to provide on top of it. We don’t need you for that.
So true! Men (and women) who are *only* interested in the physical will end up with trash relationships. Everyone is attracted to different physical characteristics, but character should not be put so low on the list if you want a happy, healthy, and long lasting relationship.
Britani Anthony character/personality was literally the second thing
Its fine to have a career, money, degree etc but he is right. We as men don't care, its not an attraction to us. An example, a gorgeous women with a great figure who looks after herself working as a waitress or a highly educated women with money, career etc whos overweight and doesn't take pride in her appearence. Guess which one a guy would choose 99% of the time? . And it not about being intimidated its about attraction.
@tommy good points...I always laugh when a women says that the reason why a man she can’t find a man is because men are intimidated by her success...that Tells you that she is clueless about how attraction works lmao....guarantee you that the real reason she is single because she is overweight and physically unattractive, exudes masculine energy and wants to dominate men, OR she she is dating all Aphla males and such males of course refuse to commit because of their vast options lol
@Swelihle Nyathi thats great you are doing that. No one saying dont do the best u can in life and that u can look after your self. The point being made is that those things mean nothing to a man in terms of attraction which is what we are talking about. Now to many women a handsome guy is an attraction plus having a career, education, house, car, confidence blah blah blah . But for men none of these things matter. Its simply be pretty, slim/nice figure, be feminine end of. Women seem to think men want what they want in a partner. They don't.
Lol. What about a fine ass looking woman,gorgeous,educated,makes good money,she is cool as hell plus she is good in bed. I mean,in addition to being physically attractive,women should have it together. I am an educated person in a relationship with a no brainer. He wants marriage. But I don't want to marry a no brainer
@@maritzarodriguez3168 are you all of those? Then come my way haha.
Send me your resume. I am sure is impressive 😉
Men, please stop asking women "what do you do for a living?" on a date if you do not care. Because I honestly dont feel like answering the question lol
Soo true ! It's honestly annoying and gives off "interview" vibes. If the conversation flows and we're on that subject then we're both going to share what we do for a living.
I ask the woman because I want to know if is happy with her choice of job if she isn't happy that's bad and if she like it and earns good money it's even better and it's not because the man wants your money it's because the man think LONG TERM potential partnership ... Or has plan to be long term even if it's short
@@Fitwarlock thats a relationship question not a first or second date question. Ive never talked about my job or career with men because I felt like it was just a question they asked because they couldn't think of an interesting topic to start. The reasoning for why a picked a job does not correlate to how I will be as a partner. I could hate the job but be there for years. Does that mean if I hate the relationship I'm going to stay in it?
Women are more likely to ask this question than men. What are you bitching about?
There's a difference. Women ask of a man's job occupation to verify what his financial status looks like. Men just ask so to keep the conversation going while both are on a date.
Finally, a man speaking the TRUTH on what men look for in a woman! And there is NOTHING wrong with it! Men being attracted to beauty and femininity isn't "wrong" just like women being attracted to strength and financial security isn't "wrong". The only people who think it is are those who can't attract the opposite sex because they don't have the qualities to attract them. And are so full of themselves they think everyone else should change what they're attracted to (as if its something that can be controlled) because they can't be assed changing themselves.
I'm a woman and I don't care about strength and financial security
I care more about looks and personality.
Such a honest message. I’m a PROUD domestic Goddess! Since my childhood I knew I wanted to take care of my husband and family. I can go to work and make money if I want to but, I’m true to myself and I know my heart is at home. I’ve been married for 24 years and have raised 3 kids and I feel just as proud of myself just as the career woman who earned 20 degrees and a great career. I’m proud of any woman doing what she loves and what makes her happy! Man know Thyself!!! ❤️
That's exactly how I feel
I wanna take care of my family ♥️
We need to talk about how men award points subconsciously. A woman with a great career will get cool points from a man. But not neccessarily "sexy" or "attractive" points. He will admire and respect you. But it will not make him desire you.
Absolutely not, I’d rather a woman have time for family and children. Could care less what she does for a living
Right
I strongly agree and concur with you. Having being born and raised in Kenya 🇰🇪. One thing that I always tell my peers is to go for ladies they can fit in their budgets and income and refrain from saying all ladies are after money.. Simple
Asante Sana. So true!
You have represented us well 😂😂
Then once their pocket grows fat they go an cheat on her anyway?
No! A woman should only go for a man who is filled with the Spirit of God because the Spirit of God keeps a man or woman accountable and basically runs the relationship between them.
A word is enough for the wise!
Maybe I'm alone in this but I think an ambitious, educated, and successful woman is very attractive and very important to me.
I married this kind of woman. It's not that I'm less ambitious and successful; it's because I have high aspirations and ideals and I want someone who is my equal. I prefer a strong woman who I can achieve great things with.
I feel like the man who doesn't care about the woman's career and success, lacks purpose. If you're not striving for greatness, you're probably not searching for it in your future spouse either.
Lucky woman.
Nope, you're not alone in this. I've dated highly educated and successful men and not one would consider marriage to someone who was not their equal!
Thank YOU! No Broke Chicks Allowed over here!
Facts I think a lot of men are intimidated by successful women
Doug Joseph or both ..intelligence is sexy
It boggles my mind that people don’t understand this. I think it’s very dangerous for us women and men to be walking around not knowing or being confused about our natural instincts. So mislead by society that ppl can’t understand innate desires.
For real
Fantastic point
Man brain ,wowan brain
Job and income makes no difference to me but a woman passionate about something is in fact a big turn on. That being said, it's still icing on the cake. It only matters if she's hot to begin with. Just being honest.
Don't be afraid to be a woman. Stop being so hard allow yourself to be feminine. Once you get the right one. Don't forget to kiss him awake. Then love him to sleep. Make him feel special. Be his peace. Don't be a nagging always unhappy woman. Keep your body and house clean.
❤️❤️❤️
I agree with this to a certain degree. However, I will challenge you Hafeez(everyone)and Christian men to read Proverbs 31. This is the letter King Solomon's mother gave to him about a wife. I do agree attractions helps, but I think society has trained people to just look at the outer appearance. Proverbs 31 talks about a woman of noble character, a woman who cares for her husband and family and those in need, a successful career woman (she has 3 jobs) and most importantly she is devoted to God.
When a person is just concerned with looks I question what's their goal is for marriage. Are you looking for a trophy wife or a woman who will be your helpmeet? I also would recommend that spirituality be bumped up to #1. I agree you have the initial attraction, but once you start engaging with that person spirituality should be #1, 2. character, and 3 looks. If looks and character or top of the list you might as well marry a really fine, nice satanist. LOL
I think this is why so many people get caught up in the dating game because we are trying to drive forward while in reverse. I have way more to say, but I'm tired of typing and have a hair appointment ... because looks are the most important ;) HA!
Would love to hear others point of view after studying proverbs 31....
-remember beauty fades(due to age, sickness, accidents, etc.) and charm is deceptive
Women’s empowerment and women’s abandonment are two sides of the same coin; you never get one without the other. This is because an empowered woman will necessarily drive a man away since a man cannot contribute to a woman safely or effectively when the woman is ‘in charge '. There are men however who will be attracted to an empowered woman and these are the men who want to abandon women, who don’t want to provide for and protect women. These men will prefer an empowered woman so that they will be ‘off the hook’ in terms of their
duties as men.
The truth of the matter is that feminism has never spoken for all women. They have created this mess we have now and made men not want to take on any personal responsibilities for women. So now women have to take on a man’s burdens as well as putting up with their traditional ones. Marriage and divorce has become a never-ending war between the sexes. First it’s marriage where both spouses fight over who does what and women whining and complaining about “having” to work, (Some women complain about working just as hard as a man, but they won’t consider going back to tradition, especially if that includes reinstating the word “obey” in those wedding vows and giving preference to men in hiring and pay) then it’s divorce where all laws are gender-neutral so it becomes a battle to get the upper hand over the other out of spite as well as get a good financial deal and welfare package out of it. edifythebody.org/curriculums/
Well said! He fine but when we fall on hard times or difficulties..can homeboy get a prayer through to God? Can he fast and pray? Can be pray in the Holy Ghost. And yes I got that deep. Cause guess what? The enemy ain't playing out here so we (as Christians) shouldn't be either. #watchandpray
*he..typo..sorry I got excited..lol
NaturallyCandace C girl thank you! People don’t be understanding... I don’t care if you the CEO of Apple,if your not following Jesus you can be blessed and keep walking. There is no security financial security that can replace spiritual security. It’s a spiritual war out here and if it’s the Lord’s will I get married my future husbands has to be able to lead in this capacity.
He never said that men only focus on physical attraction. He's just simply describing the biological factors that come into play when men scope for women. Men will biologically see physical attraction as a priority and women will usually seek men who can provide (financially, since there are many ways men can provide outside of finances). Then, for women, attraction will grow.
He's not saying that spirituality, personality and intellectual connection aren't important. He's just describing the difference between what attracts men vs what attracts women.
Looks are deceiving just remember that not everything is glitter is gold so Choose Wisely who you have in your life
Amen
Looks are deceiving, yes, but energy isnt. Not saying all beautiful women have good, feminine energy, but men are more likely to check on Tyra Banks than Hillary Clinton with her pants suit and law degree. I mean, she even switched up to appear more feminine during her bid for the presidency. Food for thought.
Plain looking is honest?
Spot on- men are to easily fooled with looks
@@nunyadambiz8034 lol not always. I've been fooled before.
I agree on the fact that we don't care about career/job (at all!). But I don't agree that it is just looks/beauty. Sure, in the beginning it may be true, but female beauty is nothing when a woman doesn't have good character, strong values and a loving heart!
Agreed, but he saying looks is what attracts a man, inner beauty is what keeps him. But no real man cares about her finances tbh not if as a man you have your shit together
Meanwhile if she's not your type, you completely ignore her or *then* care about her finances. Seen this over and over again.
A few years ago I would've disagreed but now I totally understand.
This , maturity is so weird , just last year I would’ve disagreed, taking heed to a married woman completely changed my mindset 💯.
Wth would there be to disagree about 😂 so funny how women try to tell men what MEN like.. y’all don’t listen
That is so danm true. That is a wake up call ladies take care of yourself enhance your beauty stay and look healthy. Stay on top of your game. It's very competitive out there cause Men were created visually incline and they will always stay and die visually incline.
And stay on top of that attitude as well
oaklandsoldier 😂 that’s true as well.
@L Nixon amen. You can have both physical attraction and good character! You just have to be patient and you don't have to settle. No one wants to be someone's "might as well". I think we all want to be our first choice's first choice.
"Charm is deceitful, and beauty fades, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
Anything I do will be for me and me only. Any woman “competing” for a man is pathetic. Either he wants you or he doesn’t.
@Celeste Jacobs That's why supermodels get paid so much.
Thank you for speaking on this. As a woman of color I can say that alot of us were taught the exact opposite of this! Great job!
Respect your comment! As a man I’ve been taught the exact opposite as well...I was taught the more the more you please a women, the more you make her happy, the more you express your feelings to them, the more u open up and place women on a pedestal, the more u bring a women flowers and capitulate, the more she will favor u....it’s the opposite....Beta providers lose, and alpha fuck boys win..bottom line is women invest more in alphas than they do betas...Thanks to Rolo Tomossi and the red pill community i know female nature
@@cyes1156 I do not agree. I'm not attracted to pride in any way.
@@cyes1156 And most women want the opposite of what they say. Watch what she does before listening to what she says she wants
@BL&S I totally agree always watch who she chooses not what she describes in a man!!!
You were taught that independence bullshit from the rappers and pop artist. If women had enough common sense they'd notice the people screaming independence are the most needy in the world. The artist needed 100 people to release a hit but he's independent. That talk show host didn't produce their own show but their independent. Even gangsters have alliances that can't be broke.
Oh Lord, Derrick Jaxn did a response to your video. 😂
That guy continuously gives single Black women info they WANT to hear, and not what they NEED to hear. They will continue to be single listening to that scammer.
The problem with black women while 70% of black women are single, most of them still have kids. Aka they're baby mamas. Most single black women come with a ready made family.
Sis I listened to that bullshit and was shocked people listen to it.
This comment haunts me so much , because it predicted the future
Wow this did not age well aha
MOST men want a woman who has the ability to take care of herself and not TOTALLY dependent on him financially for EVERY little thing.. No more no less..🤷🏿♂️
Woke Manishboi ideally that’s what we want. But even if a woman can, she still wants to be provided for. That’s just the insanity of women
@@joewill9967 yup a woman making $75k wants a dude to be making $80k or more.
A guy making $75k have absolutely no problem dating a girl making less than that. Silly I know
All you guys commenting here are on point 100%, all of this is called hypergamy.
@@kerbysaintil3774 Correct however the level of respect and admiration has left and has now been replaced with entitlement and EXPECTATION by women. So MOST men are reluctant to participate in it..
Exactly
I think about taking care of a woman but I have not seen even 1 marriage that I would want to trade places with the husband. Attracting men is easy but to keep us interested takes way more than the physical !!!
What's the issue with the marriages you're seeing? I'm genuinely curious.
@Demarcus I agree man Marriage is absolutely antiquated and dangerous for men...You’re at the mercy of a women’s emotional whims and vast options (social media, dm’s, and dating apps, and the like) . Divorces rates are high, gender roles have changed, and traditional marriages are of the past!!! Women are modern and men want traditional simple as that
@@cyes1156 okay. I think it would be much better if you did not generalize and say all women do XYZ. Everything that you're saying is absolutely not true. Marriage is not Antiquated. It's a beautiful Covenant that God established between one man and one woman for life. There are people, both men and women, out there who believe in marriage and want to get married and have families. I'm not sure what you mean by men being at the mercy of women's emotional wins. What does that mean? Many women would probably disagree with you when you're saying that more men want traditional marriage than a modern one. There are many women out there who do desire healthy traditional roles within marriage and a lifelong relationship with a man who will love, lead, protect, provide 4 his wife and or children.
At the same time, I do believe modern-day toxic feminism and toxic masculinity has really messed up the beautiful picture of marriage. Not to mention sexual liberation. Everyone wants to swap DNA with whoever they can whenever they want, and no one wants commitment. A lot of people just want to use others for their pleasure and throw them away afterwards. It's really sad.
@britini I said emotional whims not wins...in other words women are emotions first/logic second....hence highs and lows of a relationship can be determined by how a women is feeling in the moment...I’ve experienced this lol....Marriage is antiquated indeed....men get jammed in family courts and our resources are transferred to women...no thanks...check the marriage rates and divorce rates in America today...utterly ridiculous
Britani Anthony The issues I am seeing are the fact that:
*people aren’t raised to be traditional they only fantasize about it from movies but aren’t equipped nor are they willing to really put in the work.
*I see many women saying they want the traditional man who provides but they are not the traditional woman who is a homemaker (cook, cleaner, teacher of children & etc)!
* Literally all the marriages I know of are people just fighting wishing they never married each other.
*Adultery is the only biblical reason for divorce but people get divorced for any reason now & women file for about 70-80% of divorces.
*The risk I would take on getting married is not worth it. If a woman can keep me away from my children, take my home, put me on child support, spousal support, alimony & etc my life would be ruined. What could be worth that happening to me?
I am haven’t been able to justify signing a marriage contract, bringing a secular government into my relationship & putting my life & happiness in the hands of this Godless government🤷🏾♂️💯
When u get money for yourself. Its for yourself. Your getting those things for your life. Not for a man. Men care about looks and how you strok their ego. That's it. Your money is for you. Your looks is for them. So use your money to look good too.
Your looks is for them?
Agreed! I work in IT where it is heavily male dominated. Even in the workplace my appearance takes precedence over my intellect. It is just the way men are designed.
Well... Not all of us. You don't know every man on this planet and humans are more than aninals who only care about material things and sex
@@vasilismetallinos2234 😂😂😂
Are you the best of the best?
@@SimonKnight1023 yes, I have a growth mindset and have gotten to my position based on merit. Certain men will still belittle for whatever reason based on my appearance and gender.
@@Tonia_tips Belittle? You said your beauty takes precedence. So you’re the best of the best , an asset and yet a bunch of nerds mock you for being a woman?
Ladies get your education if that what you want but when it comes to relationships, don't try and lead with your education, degree and/or your paycheck because if he is interested in that you don't want him, but if he has his own and confidence, you and many other women wants him.
Thank God for how simple men are ❤️
Kaya Jackson that part is
lol
For sureeeeeeee 🙌🏽
Well the lesbian divorce rate is 2x higher than the gay divorce rate...so even women cant stand each other.
A lot of women dont get us because of how simple our needs are ...
Alpha males care more about looks and femininity; beta males on the other hand, care more about your job or money. By alpha male, I mean real alpha males with financial means. I've never heard of a wealthy man whose first trait he desires in a woman is a PhD from Harvard, if anything higher education and a good job are extras to the woman. The richest African American man divorced and remarried an ex-playboy model. Most wealthy men, who have very educated wives married them very early in life i.e. college sweetheart. It is good for women to be ambitious but they should just know that the higher education and high-paying jobs will not attract a successful alpha male, if that is what they want.
Successful Men are attracted to looks first. Any man who is attracted to you for your career or assets is looking for a come up. Being a successful woman in a city with a shortage of high earners, I get approached by men quite often who look at the car I drive and think that I have money. They want to be linked to you. They start using terms like we and ours pretty quickly. That’s when I show them the door.
The funny thing is that a lot of guys don’t even realize they don’t care until they are told. I never used to think about it (because it mattered that little to me). Then I heard this perspective and was like, ohh yeah, you’re right I could care less about her career😂
Thanks so much for this! I appreciate your directness. It feels like a wake up call for women to live fully into the attributes we naturally have (beauty and feminine energy) and to highly value those things in ourselves, even if culture isn't. I' know in my own experience when I was hustling way too much in business, I didn't feel right. Honestly, I don't think it's in alignment with my true nature as a woman to spend most of my time hustling. But to share that opinion in today's culture feels like an affront to women in some circles.
@Tom Jones You are right on the money my brother. Many times, those 40-year-old women have, in a sense, went against the purpose God has designed for women by living and thinking more like a man than of a woman. Women are created by God to be nurturers. Feminists don't come with your pitchforks and torches, please.
Men care about Looks, sex, peace of mind procreation and nurturing of the household like cooking and taking care of the family. Women care about Money , physical security, looks, doing things to show you care and doing things she can’t do. These are the fundamentals of the sexes and it won’t ever change.
So what if I’m not the prettiest girl ever? Can I still get a man? I’m 22, I work out, but I’m not the prettiest. I’ve been told by guys that I’m cute, I would say on a scale from 1-10 I’m like a 7 or 7.5. So do I have a chance?
@@melaniebrown1443 if you have redeeming qualities like compassion , empathy , accountability and sex appeal I think you can. The soft skills can get you further then a woman who’s a 10 if used correctly.
@@ackshonlife I've been told by alot of people that I'm a very sweet girl. But it's still hard for me. It's hard to meet guys during this pandemic. I've been using dating apps and I know that it's not the best approach, but idk how else to meet dudes given the circumstances rn. Also, I'm a virgin too so that makes things harder since guys care about sex and I'm not willing to give it up very quickly. I'm talking to this one guy that I met online and he seems nice, but idk. It's just so hard, and I feel like as a girl there's so much pressure to get married and find that right guy before 30. It's so hard and frustrating.
@@melaniebrown1443 keep trying and be more open minded.
@@melaniebrown1443 I don't like saying this but having sex on the first date could easily get you into a relation, even if you consider yourself to be less attractive. My ex thought I was out of her league but if you can make a man feel comfortable you'd easily get into a relation. The thing about sex is it's a great way to be more comfortable with each other. It worked for me but would also consider having a moral life. It's all about making him feel comfortable.
Finally a man who speaks the TRUTH. Pay attention ladies!!! Thank you for sharing this video.👏👏👏👏
I feel sorry for American women in comparison to European women or cultured women. Their ambition for success and capitalism anyways let me shut up!! I'm glad I was raised in London England. My mom had her own career as a midwife but she also relied on my Dad, that's how it should be.
Women match with men who are equal or above their own market place value.
Or, in Dr. Peterson’s words “They choose across and up dominance hierarchies.”
(Not exactwording)
When a woman increases her standing, her pool of available men decreases.
Barack Obama would disagree. You need to get on a higher level.
Exactly ! Derrick Jaxn has an excellent response to this video...Young ladies...have your own dreams and goals...be able to take care of yourself and any children you may have because if he decides he don't want you; you need to be able to move on .When he matures he will understand that beauty is only skin deep...it fades...look for someone who understands how two strong people makes a healthy foundation for relationship success. If he lose his job...what does being cute got to with it? He need some help!!! ...Mrs. Obama is educated and gorgeous!!!! Barack Obama chose wisely!!!!
Michelle Obama is not a bad looking woman though. You seen those cakes?
Obama proposed to a white woman 3 times...Michelle was his backup plan.
Alpha males care more about looks and femininity; beta males on the other hand, care more about your job or money. By alpha male, I mean real alpha males with financial means. I've never heard of a wealthy man whose first trait he desires in a woman is a PhD from Harvard, if anything higher education and a good job are extras to the woman. The richest African American man divorced and remarried an ex-playboy model. Most wealthy men, who have very educated wives married them very early in life i.e. college sweetheart. It is good for women to be ambitious but they should just know that the higher education and high-paying jobs will not attract a successful alpha male, if that is what they want.
Obama's priority of his attractiveness to Michelle had nothing to do with her money or a degree. Those were just accessories.
Second: that couple is in the minority. This is not the case for most couples.
Great video. We as women need to be healthy, beautiful and tapping into our feminine energy. Nicole Michelle- Inner Beauty Movement would be a GREAT guest.
Nicole Michelle is great!!! She's very balanced and down to earth. I second this motion!
sensational point
I understand what your saying. The reality is that more and more women are earning more and more and this isn't going to suddenly stop. If he doesn't care about her ambitions etc..., that's a step towards seperation/divorce down the line. We women care, we need to see him care too, if he doesn't care, at some point its going to be a huge problem.
I met a female lawyer, at a high end bar I worked at, and I noticed she kept smiling at me. I could tell she was lonely, and we ended up sleeping together. This went on for about six months... Basically she was lonely and didn't care about dating down.
JayBailzZz good lord and your both still together.
She used u for sex. High status women do that often
So you were the downgrade?? 😂
Judging by the comments section, women are still missing the point. It’s not about your job sweetie. The topic is still going over women’s heads. To spell it out for you, MOST.. MEN... AREN’T... ATTRACTED... TO... YOUR... JOB... STATUS... POSSESSIONS... PERIOD!!!! THEY... ARENT... LOOKING... FOR... YOU... TO... SUPPORT... THEM... OR... SUPPORT.. 2.5... CHILDEREN...
Even the guys who are, if they find a woman that is compatible and willing to let him be a man, he will eventually leave you. Whatever you believe is irrelevant.
Tell this to the men in my country. They want BOTH the best looks and the best finances from us. "God forbid" we use them for a cup of coffee 🙄
@@EvaMarise Not going to go back and forth with female trolls, I said what I said.🙄
@@LukaDonesnitch So whoever has a different experience from yours "is a troll" 🙃 "great logic". Do you live in Eastern Europe, to know how much is expected from women here and how little is expected from men? No? Then what *you* think is irrelevant.
@@LukaDonesnitch My life would actually be easy af if what you say was universally true. I would LOVE IT if I could get what I want for just being gorgeous and pleasant, but the expectations on us are nowhere near this little. I'm single exactly because I'm not willing to invest in my looks and *still* have to p@y for a man. Not gonna happen.
@@EvaMarise Not sure why you don’t understand English bye troll.✋🏽
Unfortunately, there are men who look for financially secured women. I met one guy who kept asking me what I did for a living. When I told him I was only a shop assistant, he just laughed. He was a preacher and widower with 4 children, whose wife had passed away after a heart attack.
Bro!!!!
Thank you for saying this so we dont have to. It sounds insensitive when you say this on a date 🤣
I go on dates where some women lead with their job and money and I really could not care less 🙄🙄. That's not what we look for in a woman. Last thing a man wants is someone to take care of us financially.. Unless we are bum dudes or mamas boys..
Big ups for this one 💯💯❤
yoo facts! women nowadays really don't understand us men. Attraction is not symmetrical for the sexes. This is why men and women are complimentary.
And yet, if a woman doesn't have her own or bring her own into the relationship, the first thing you holler is that she's a gold-digger or she wasn't shooting in the gym. Men are just as indecisive and hypercritical as they claim women to be.
@@StardustSJ_ did you even watch the video or just read the comments? He made a near perfect analysis of what happens and here you go spouting one liners perpetuating stereotypes and labelling. If that's the conclusion you drew from watching this video then you were not listening or don't care to understand men. Only blame them. Smh
@@StardustSJ_ You can your own, but just don't TALK about it.
@@domeretaylor4437 I did listen to the video and even agreed at some points.
My response was geared towards your comment.
At the beginning they dont care, initial attraction after that then I don't know, she got to have something going
Exactly. Thank you!!!
exactly
Riiiiight. I heard something like: "looks get you in the door, but personality keeps you in the room."
Also when men say they want an independent woman with her own a lot of them are talking about the basics of being an adult. A decent car, a decent place, and a job that pays all your bills with some money left over. In other words, she’s fully able to sustain herself without outside assistance. Not that she’s a CEO with a brand new Benz living in a gated community and 10000 shares in Amazon.
Women generally don’t like to look below their financial level as they move up the ladder. Look at how much flack women get when they have money and “date down”. It’s the norm for men date down financially.
Disclaimer: Not all
Alonzo Barnes lmao I agree with this but my ass still want a Benz.
Les Lavy lol go get it and become a CEO💪🏿
you hit it on the head
Ladies, hit the gym and stay consistent.
Always 💪🏽💪🏽
You do the same
susiq1121 😂😂😂
That part!
lol
IDK maybe I'm weird about this but if I'm a high value man I wouldn't want my partner to be on a drastically lower level than me. For example if i were a multi-millionaire I wouldn't want my girl to be working at walmart with a Ged. At least for me part of having a relationship is it being a partnership.
So you're cheap. At least you're being honest.
Wow. I never, and I mean NEVER comment on TH-cam videos, but this cannot go without saying. If anyone’s long term objective (and this goes for women and men) is to find not just a partner but the best person for you to share and build a life with, you won’t limit yourself to these shallow parameters. The level this guy is suggestions you operate on is completely ego based and immature. Ladies, if you have ambition and can find the right balance between pouring into your passions and taking care of yourself you will naturally attract the right man for you. That’s it. That’s all you have to do. And guys, of course attraction is important, it’s important for women to. But if you’re serious about finding the right woman for your life, look for a balance of looks, self care and passion. Your ego will try to convince you that only one of those things matter. But a lasting and fulfilling relationship requires connection and compatibility...you’ll never find the right woman for you if looks are prioritized far and away from everything else.
100% true..I can not believe how many women are willing to dumb themselves down to have a piece of a relationship..if your shine is too bright for him...he better put some shades on! NEVER ever ever allow someone to clip your wings...Eagles fly high...be the best you can be Ladies....stop looking for him to validate you....in due time someone who is on your level will appreciate your hard work and drive...level Up...stop going to clubs...attend charity events...give back to the underprivileged....go to events where people are not into surviving but about living life to the fullest..this video is only trying to get you to lower your standards and become low hanging rotten fruit...so the buzzards can pick and eat off the ground....fly high ladies..the oxygen is thin up here...,,but it chokes out the buzzards...lol
@@er2850 Great post.
If you read in the description and watch the video in it's entirety, I think you may have misunderstood. He is speaking strictly about attraction and in the description he says that he is not talking about marriage specifically
Men are more visual, so yes they notice looks first. But a grown man who wants a real relationship and wife recognize that he needs to be partnered up with someone of similar ambition and equally yoked. You can't build with someone who doesn't even know how to lay a brick.
Wow I love your way of putting things! Ive always had this mindset. But strangely enough I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a business owner millionaire who could provide for a wife and family if he wanted to. All he talked about was career and money and the woman must work to the bone basically and pay the bills. He was totally caught up in my salary and career and said it wasnt good enough. Also if we got married he wanted me to go back to work right away after having children even though his income could provide . We ended it pretty much because my career wasnt what he liked despite saying I had looks,character, and personality and a good heart. I have a masters degree which is way above him . He only has an associates. So this video is very realistic but I came across a very strange situation that opened my eyes. I think some men are very wrapped up in a womans career. To be honest its a turn off to me. I think men should want to provide and be glad to support family and wife.
You want another human soul to give money but you don't want yourself to give money... So in other words he take cares of you but you don't take care of him...
I completely agree 100% with this. Money and job does nothing for me as a man. My fiancé is a chemical engineer, she made 80k straight out of undergrad, and could make up to 250k in upper management, BUT none of that does anything for me in terms of my attraction to her. Im a doctor, I never envisioned myself needing a woman for money. If anything her having a high paying high demanding job probably frustrates me more than it excites me, because she spends all this time at a job that I know she's going to leave once we start having kids.
Dude, you're marrying a chemical engineer. So you'd still be as attracted to her if she worked at a fast food place?? Don't tell me you're not proud to say 'my fiancé is a chemical engineer'.
Be a househusband
Pretty, feminine, pleasant waitress - is more desirable than beautiful, masculinised CEO.
I just bought a treadmill not that long ago and this video appears lol
smart move
You’re in alignment! #GoForthQueen lol ❤️
Omg...but please make sure that you're doing this for you!! A fat woman can get a man if she's feminine. Character is also important. It's not just looks. Many slim in shape black women are still single ....or they're "baby mamas."
Fitness does not guarantee relationships or commitments with black men
hahahaahha
@@Mrs.T305 you are coming from a place of bitterness...you trying to convince this sister that she should stay fat?.
All Men (regardless of status) are naturally attracted to (For the long term)
1) The original feminine nature of a woman (which never grows old)
2) emotional intelligence, caring
3) Beauty (obviously, and this could be subjective and related to '1' and '2' above)
4) 1, 2,3 are hard to resist , and can make a man always choose a woman that possesses 1, 2, 3 over a woman that appears more outwardly beautiful (by media standards) and financially successful or ambitious
Naturally Never attracted to
4) Wealth of a woman or career success, property etc (which is nothing wrong but we are talking about what attracts a man genuinely to a woman, except for where theres some agenda)
5) Real men still do and will always hold the old values and order of things which are fading away fast
Then why exactly are they so eager to ask women what do they do for a living? I can't stand this question and will either tell them it's not their business or straight up leave them.
Lol so true. When I’m on a date, and she starts talking about her career/education, my mind starts wandering haha.
That's pretty sad.
@Alex Don't mind these betas. I agree. Could care less about her job.
Males are naturally provider and hunter, they always want to be the provider. That makes them feel a sense of pride and respect.
Its just natural...I man can pull to a drive thru window and desire that woman
@@scotty196769 exactly
Men don’t care if a woman is using him .. only like him for his money? a woman who would abandon him in his time of need? Wow .. sad
KiKi Carr we already know most women don’t actually like us. We just got the bill at the time and she can’t find anyone else to deal with her crazy behind so yea. We know when women are using us. You’d be surprised how often it happens, especially in the beginning stages of dating
Nah we don’t want to provide for others. We want to provide for us. Social programming tries to make us think we’re supposed to provide and sacrifice for others. A lot more men are becoming educated and self-aware; that’s why it’s becoming less likely to find a “traditional” man these days
Preach Hafeez! I can care less where she work (as long as she has a job). What’s important to me is her character and spirituality (and of course looks)
Nothing better about a woman who embraces her femininity!
Men will definitely go blind for beauty they miss all the other negative qualities. But we can also agree that men don't want gold diggers either.
Many men don’t care about their own career either, and that’s a major issue in attracting a woman.
RC Blake would be a great one to have on your podcast. He has lots of wisdom on this topic and value adds.
Yes!! I would LOVE to hear his response.
Hafez is Becoming more Red-Pilled every week. It’s good to see him grow
Civil Shaman that facts bro. I’m here for it
Modern feminism is definitely a cancer. I could write a thesis on all the problems it has caused and will continue to cause. We need and want good men. Men are a valuable part of society and our lives. But as long as he and Chris don't turn into toxically masculine, sexist, misogynistic jerks as a result of some red-pill beliefs, we should be good. :)
@@SanctifiedSista117 you've obviously been affected by feminism from reading the latter part of your comment. Most western women are feminist in their values & ideals & don't know it.
@@donblackwell5564 so... Believing women are equal and created in God's image just as men are is feminism? Sexism, misogyny, and toxic masculinity are cancers just like modern day feminism is. They are 2 sides to the same coin. And if you don't see a problem with women any of the things I mentioned, you're the problem.
I been red pill, I'm just being nice lol
That's why a woman will never be my partner. She will only be my helper and that's a great position. If you are my helper you will be well taken care of.
I live in super-expensive Hawaii, I need someone who makes $ and doesn't have a ton debit lol. That being said, a physical attraction and a compatible lifestyle mean a whole lot as well.
Excatly , a woman who makes money no matter how much is always a good help , also women don't need men, women can make money and adopt kids , that's what independent women mean
Its because most of the men can't bear that the women are better than them.It makes them feel inferior. Go girls,make the career.Guys are not reliable.Its better to have money and career ,then to lick someone's feet or to be someone's slave .We must try to make a good career ,and to marry someone equal in our profession.eg Marie Curie
r s that’s an L. You’ll realize u played yourself too late with that ideology
I'll emphasize the word ATTRACTION. When it comes to the context of what men are attracted to, your job, career, or money are irrelevant factors. Not that a man can't appreciate the effort and sacrifice that went into your career, but it just doesn't matter as far as his attraction is concerned.
Single mothers living off child support, no job and living at their mom's crib? Yeah, she might be thick, but I'm not getting with her in any shape or form, that'll be lowering my standards. I don't care how much a woman makes or what she does for a living, but she does have to have a source of income and be able to provide for herself.
Then why exactly should she offer you anything if you're not willing to provide?
I agree. The only way I imagine that this wouldn't apply is if said woman was beatiful yet her personal life is a trainwreck.
I must be weird, because as a straight woman - have been told I’m about an 8 (I’m 6’0” and a size 4), I have always gone for looks first (with a genuine, kind, and personality) and worried about finances later. I make sure I can support myself in case a man leaves. Plus, who wants ugly kids?! 😱 I look for good genetics - taller than me and in good shape like me - 6 pack preferred. FYI, I have Emily Ratajkowski’s body type 💁🏽♀️
Which means u shaped like a broom 😂😂😭 no ass at all Fuxk outta here goofy
El-Hajj Malik El-Shabazz right... that’s why she has millions of male followers that *would literally die to marry her* 🤨🤔 and if I had said I was 5’4” and 200 lbs - u would call me a fat ugly biatch. So there’s just no pleasing you pathetic dusties. Just admit you’re a bitter troll who doesn’t respect women 💁🏽♀️
That's something women need to be more honest about. We are also visual creatures, its just that we tend to be more willing than men, to look at other qualities as well. But that's only because were the ones raising children, so we have to be willing to consider other qualities to make sure we choose a man that is physically and financially strong because their role is to protect the family while we raise the kids.
I get your point. Obviously beauty fades, just as much as yours will eventually. Then the question will be: So, what's left? Looks may be deceptive if you focus on it, you might even tell yourself that the person you are dating has good character, because they look good.
Jonathan Edward looks aren’t the only thing I look for in a man (just as it shouldn’t be the only thing they look for in a woman). It’s just that I’ve literally been told be other females to go after the highest earning man I can get - not even considering his looks in the equation - which I think isn’t the best approach. I want a man who is physically (and sensually) attractive to me personally - so that I am emotionally connected to him, that includes height, because I am tall - I prefer a man who is at least as tall as me if not taller, a man who shares my interests such as physically fitness workouts and healthy eating, traveling and exploring all that life has to offer, and animals - he has to love animals - particularly dogs 🐕😍. We have to have things in common so we have something to talk about when we’re alone together. As well as yes, I would prefer a man who has a good job to at least support himself on, because I currently have a good job that supports me. I am an egalitarian - I see nothing wrong with requesting the no more from a man than you would request from yourself. 💁🏽♀️
Can’t believe this triggers people. You would think this is just common knowledge. Recognizing reality these days is like gazing at those “Magic Eye” posters that were popular in the 90’s. Just relax your eyes. You’ll see it. 👍
It took me years to understand this being an uber successful woman BUT it makes so much sense to me now.
The economic independence of a woman is something that should have always been natural, yet it's only recently becoming a reality. Economic independence shouldn't be just for men or women; it should be for all human beings, as it also gives you the chance to be emotionally, socially, and sexually independent - to be yourself. Independence shouldn't be confused with forsaking the feminine traits that make us amazing beings, traits that connect with those beautiful masculine qualities. It shouldn't be confused with dominance, and definitely shouldn't lead us to forget our self-love, care, and sensuality. Striking a balance in our lives is crucial.
Arguing that economic independence isn't important for women is to perpetuate the same corrosive cycle that has enslaved not only women but also men. It's a cycle of lacking love, freedom, damaging and painful relationships marked by jealousy, insecurity, commitment issues, monotony, disinterest, abandonment, infidelity...
Well, this explains the reason why some men have "crazy" baby mamas.
Yes ...this is exactly why they're prone to these dysfunctional relationships. All physical attraction leads to is good sex and unwanted babies....then misery and in many cases, poverty follows.
Well a mans natural/ biological sexual strategy is to mate with unlimited women and have unlimited access to such women
While a women’s sexual strategy is mate with the highest value male (alpha males) so that their genes can survive, flourish, be strong, and protective....
We all know that women (especially black women) mate with the bad boys during their 20’s then become single mothers...then later on between 29 and 31 (epiphany stage) now they want to “settle” with the Beta male providers....that’s a women’s strategy in a nutshell
Smart men like myself are realizing this fact and dating women casually and hookups that’s it...not taking care of another mans kids for the mistakes/mishaps of a women!!
Then here comes the shaming language “u not a real man if you don’t step up for somebody else kid” OR she’ll say “we come as a package deal” (referring to herself and her children)
More and more men are realizing that as long as we remain alpha and high value, we can ultimately get what we want from which is SEX and no strings attached
As a woman, I want physical attraction for sure, and there isn’t anything wrong with that.
Girl go get that degree please, get that job,it's not about what men want, it's about you. It's the same men that ask you what you do for a living on the first date and if you got nothing going on they can't be with smn who doesn't know what they want. Do you siz it's not about Men please.
We don’t ask what you do because we care. We ask because there’s nothing else to ask.
Yes
I know men don't care about my degrees and career accomplishments. I do. I'm proud on what I have been able to do with my intelligence and skills. I do not center men in a good amount of my life choices so why would I expect them to do the same for me.
I have never had a problem dating or attracting a man. But my father was from the West Indies , so I married a man from my paternal culture. I feel many black women limit themselves with only dating Black American men. Be cosmopolitan and enjoy dating men of color from the 7 continents. You never run out of opportunities...
I'm too old and exhausted now but nice to know I had some knowledge and that I was right on some things he said
😂😂
As my perspective, and I come from a different culture and country, this guy is 100% accurate. I can care less about a woman's education, profession, etc. unless we are going to be soley business partners.
If men don’t care about our job or money that’s great. Just make sure you provide 100% financially for our lives and lifestyle. We want the Chanel handbags, cars, vacations, food, everything completely funded by men. Don’t complain and call us gold diggers and don’t you dare ask us to go 50/50 on anything ever!
All women need to watch this!
Say it again, cause a lot of men out there married female that doesn't have anything.
But more than likely she was feinine and pretty, and he wanted to be with her. Women have been taught opposite in the black community.
Freespirit30338 facts. say it loud
Freespirit30338 definitely not me. Lol 😂
Very true
But I've seen those situations in Africa. Those women end up abused and have no where to go.
We been saying it for yrs it’s honestly a waste of breath at this point
It all comes down to nature...women look for smart financial stable men to take care of there children , men look at the feminine ,physical beauty and youth for fertility
At the end of the day, humans are the same as they've been since they were first created. Before modern society, before civilization, before agriculture, human males and females had certain roles. These roles have been embedded in our DNA and have never changed. A person can live however they want, take on whatever role they want. But at the end of the day, your natural, biological role will always win and you will feel better as a human being if you just follow it instead of a current trend.
I agree with what this guy is saying. There was a lady that I wanted to marry, had bought the ring, talked to her dad, and everything. The problem was that because she valued her career so much, we couldn't make it. When I told her that "I don't care about your job", she thought I was being an a$$hole, but I wasn't. We both made $100K a year and but we lived 400 miles apart and someone was going to have to move. When we broke up I told her that even if she doesn't choose to be with me, she would die alone if she kept that career oriented mindset because men don't want that. Not trying to be negative, just trying to help some ladies out there and at the same time help myself find a noncareer oriented lady because I do want to get married one day.
Too bad you are not in Nc
So she should choose u over 100$k a year. That’s a huge demand
@@swiitdoll 3 things.
#1 People can choose whatever they want. It's America.
#2 It's not a huge ask to trade a job for a family. During CoVid, a bunch of employers showed that they wouldn't choose you (the worker) so why are you being so loyal to them? Jobs come and go.
Nobody that I'm aware of on their death bed, looking back over their lives regrets missing a promotion, they yearn for having more family interaction.
#3 My biggest thought though is let's say it's a big ask ..$100k... ok.. so then for what salary would you trade a job for a family? Not a bf/gf relationship, but guaranteed marriage. Remember, we (African Americans) have the lowest marriage rate (1/4). So if marriage is something you desire, at what age & salary do you cash out as a woman?
Respectfully asking.
Wtf would she give up her job?? Why didn’t you ?
@@rubyreign289 that's easy.
Why wouldn't she give up her job? It's just a job, and most of the time you don't even like the job, you just like the check.
But no a side note, you're not the first woman to take that stance so I'm realizing many women prioritize career over family, so having said that, I see she wasn't an outlier. No shade, but it is what it is. Everybody do what's best for them.
Clearly the dilemma was somebody was going to have to move, we stayed hundreds of miles apart. So if you want a man to provide, then how is he going to do that with no job? I don't look for a woman to provide, that's what y'all want typically. Now if I move where she was, then that's fine, but then I would be financially dependent on her, and that's not what I assume most women want, to have to take care of a man. Most women say they want a man to pay bills, cool & no problem, so if we both make the same amount of money, then why wouldn't you move and let me carry the financial load?
Jobs come and go. As we just saw, employers will lay you off in a minute. You can always replace a job, you can't always find a man to marry you. Somethings only come by a few times in life.
Just my opinion. But I would love to hear your response.
There is a market for every type of woman and man. Get men within your market. Simple.
Some men like beauty first, other like capacity first.
Do not downplay your achievements or capacity for people who contributed nothing to your struggles or efforts. You became successful because you worked hard and in most cases also because your parents worked hard while they were in charge of you.
Get a man that appreciate your success, even if he is 60. If you are successful and you are not attracting men, the problem is your research methodology, not your money.
I think what you say is basically true but I also think that that is why relationships suck. If a woman only wants status/money the relationship will fail if a man wants only physical attraction the relationship will fail.
I'm an extremely spiritual and religious guy, and this is the truth. We could be a perfect match in any other area, but if I'm not attracted to you physically, I can't do it. I am not saying women need to have their cleavage out, tight clothes on, or even makeup (I'm going to judge you by how you look without the makeup), to get our attention, you never do, unless you're hooking, but most of us need physical attraction, period.
If you're the "one" though, you could become horribly disfigured, and I'll take care of you for the rest of my life. The stuff after the looks, the wifely qualities are what get you there.
Agreed. Never had a guy care about my money or lack thereof lol. Also never had a guy worry about paying for me or feel frustrated about providing. It’s not a man’s nature to care about these things. Men care about feminity, personality, attitude and looks. Women are much pickier then men are in my experience lol men are pretty simple in what they look for and value in the opposite sex.
You must be a 1% of women when it comes to looks (meaning the best of the best). *Only they* get treated so well that they think like this.