DISCLAIMER: this video is not extensive. But, We are NOT talking about stay at home moms, we are NOT talking about a man who is providing for his family, we are NOT talking about desiring someone who is financially stable and we are NOT promoting struggle love. We ARE talking about the dynamic between SOME rich men and young women aspiring for that type of lifestyle. Context is important and Comprehension is key.
Thank you for this video and message. I wish more women could see through the facade of this lifestyle: it looks good on instagram, and you look good whilst living it but that's it. Your self-esteem becomes so fragile and tangible to another individual and whether or not they see your worth. The more you desperately attempt to blend into that lifestyle, the more you lose yourself and your sense of individuality. You become vacuous. The worst part is, however beautiful you are, one day you're going to lose it and when your self-worth is built on being a 'trophy wife' and you no longer look like a trophy, then what? He'll simply replace you with someone that does. I think what so many people fail to realise is that a lot of these men are successful for a reason: they're always looking for the next best thing, the next deal etc. The money will not make you happy, maybe after the first Chanel bag you'll get a high, or a luxury car. But after a while it'll all become meaningless. Find your worth in something that doesn't have an expiry date, in something that won't go out of fashion and you'll find contentment. This lifestyle will only breed a mindset of lack, even if it looks like abundance. Your self-worth should never be made tangible.
@@lurb1557 I wish people could really see what’s happening on the inside of certain sects of society. That would kill a lot of the idolatry and fantasy about The Lifestyle. Most of the men I’ve met in the 7-8 figure range have been miserable. The money, hustling, serial acquisition of things and people + all the rest functions as a cover for their low self worth, unrelenting self hatred and misery. The ‘next best deal’ guy is rarely ever a well adjusted man.
@@Misssixty510 Exactly! I've found this too. Their mindset might make them superficially successful but they're seldom happy or content. Which is probably why they are seeking out attractive young women in the first place, to boost their fragile ego. Most of them are, at their core, desperately insecure and unhappy and thus enjoy making others feel the same.
Look at your females rappers. Look at what they rap about and look how they live. "Don't need a man" but married with kids. They just want your likes and streams so they can be paid. Even they are not happy.
@@damienresendez yep. Same with many male rappers. They say, "Bitches ain't shit" or "We don't love deez hoez," yet they're married too. It's all a fascade. These celebs say inflammatory things just to generate attention and controversy.
God bless your mum. 👏🏾 By the way, I believe this can be applied everywhere not just relationship- aim to be able to stand on your own two feet, otherwise some people will take that as an opportunity to abuse in some way.
She is telling the absolute truth! I was a housewife for 5 years...now I didn't have an allowance, I had free range to buy what I wanted however, when we divorced, everything Breeny said is completely accurate. I had to start completely over, move back home with my parents and rebuild. I was so embarrassed. Now that God has blessed me to get back on my feet, I have my own house, car and good job. I will never ever put myself in that position again. Ladies, it's not as glamarous as it looks... Always have your own!
@@zero1188 Maybe she didn't want his money. Which i would've done the same i am not going to ask for money from this dudes just so they could feel the pleasure of seeing me broke and needy. Even if it would take me time i prefer the struggle. Well that's just my opinion. Also men think your a golddigger all along if you want part of his money like tf didn't we agree on being a team you provide i take care of the house and children. Men are really complicated well some women as well.🤣
I don't think getting half is the rule. Every divorce case might be different and the legislation varies depending on what you live. Maybe she was not financially literate and he was good at hiding his assets.
YESSS. Talk on it! Emotionally unavailable men who worship money. Many guys will prioritise their values / morals for money, the old age adage of money is the root of all evil truly applies here.
@@lFrenzied that is a specific type of HVM. Those types are like that cause they have been working like that for so long that it consumes them and that's all they end up knowing how to do.
Would u rather stay in a cheating & miserable relationship just bc u wanna “secure the bag” or just have ur own money so u don’t even have to tolerate bullshit .
I'd rather cry over a cheating husband in a Ferrari rather than on a city bus. The surrounding aesthetic perserves your blown dignity alittle..in my opinion.
@@onechildsband that's why you have a prenup. Look at Janet Jackson. Her prenup stated she got so much money for years seat was married and so much if she had a child
"happy women arent flexing" this is so true. all these people on social media just wanna look like theyre living their best life but in reality they care so much about what others see of them that they waste their time trying to look like they feel good instead of actually feeling good.
@@loveself6396 y u care about what people over the Internet think . They don’t even know u or probably have sh!t in they’re name . & if u too sensitive y have social media ????? Let’s take accountability
@@king1ut275 She's right though, our culture already objectifies us... men just continue the trend, many of them do not know any better, their bros won't object either cause 'boys will be boys'.
Honestly the Diary of a Mad Black Woman always runs through my head when I think of that lifestyle. I'm not trying to go from rich to thrown out on the streets like that
But see the woman wasn’t intelligent with what she had. Women enter these relationships and think everything is ok because they’re well taken care. If you don’t have your own, at least go into the relationship to obtain something of your own instead of jewels and vacays.
that is correct. Beyonce singing about "independent ladies" and "single ladies" and she is a "feminist" but going home submitting to Jay-Z. love queen Bey but she is no feminist! Then CardiB talking about how she "don't cook or clean"-WAP but she don't have to! she got a chef and a maid. Also she can't drive and has a chauffer taking her everywhere! Look at Sawte, after she and Quvo broke up he took back the car because it was leased!!! these people are NOT relationship goals. Women need to smarten up. social media is nothing but fakes, liars with smoke and mirrors!
@@Pursuepeace0715 except no one here knows what Bey is doing when she goes home. Which makes this whole dialogue pointless. The bigger issue is how pathetic people are (especially if they’re grown) to seek identity in other people, especially when It’s entertainment 🤦🏾♀️ That can’t be blamed on social media. That is deadass the fault of the individual/lost soul.
I am currently a housewife and stay at home mom to three kids. My husband is an entrepreneur and is out of the house most of the time so it is lonely! Also it is hard work looking after a house and three kids. I do have to ask my husband for money if I want something. I’m here to tell y’all that it is lovely and I love it but it is a job just like any other! At least in a normal job you get to come home and have your time to yourself and money that you can spend of your own accord. It is very different as a housewife! If that is your heart to do, don’t worry! You will enjoy it if you choose to, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But if you only want it because it looks glamorous or like an easy life, please please know that it is not! At all! Marriage takes work, kids take work, house takes work. All of life is work 🤣 Joy is where you create it
@@makeitcount2985 it’s definitely not for everybody! Most women I know that are married though still work and split the housecare equally. If they have kids they do the same. But I personally actually enjoy looking after the house and kids and my husband which is why I chose to do this. It’s the worst thing to choose it because it’s what’s ‘expected’ and then hate your life and resent everyone. You can write your own story and there are men who don’t want a housewife! It tends to be the men who work a super high amount of hours who really benefit from having a housewife type situation, and if they are earning enough the wife doesn’t NEED to work. Bur plenty of dudes don’t even want that dynamic and the pressure it comes with. It’s about knowing what you want out of marriage and finding a man who is on the same page!
Ok, I need this printed in every fkg t-shirt, wall, poster, everywhere. And maybe do us a favor and go and post this on the channels of these so-called philosophers who are full of shit. Big hugs from Canada
I wanted to be a housewife until I became one with a wealthy man. It was so boring asf and a toxic codependent relationship 🤦🏾♀️ . Now I love working in technology and building with my husband who is a business owner. So much more satisfying 💕
@@nana8135 thanks sis 🙌🏽. Once i became like his property where he controlled every aspect of my life it was time to go 🤦🏾♀️. Best day of my life was walking away with nothing he gave me and that’s when I started living 💕
I understand but the bible says it is not good for men to be alone AND he who finds a wife, finds a good thing. A wife that has devoted their lives to God is THE prize!
No sweety. There isn't any man out here whose the prize. They don't give birth. Women are and the moment she realizes that she wpuld stop giving her power out here to broke men.
The only person who can save you is yourself. You can't wait around expecting someone of higher "status" to carry you, when you have your own set of legs. Be ambitious. Stay self motivated. And never put yourself in a position to depend on the motivation of others. (They can abandon or discourage you at any point---but never abandon or discourage yourself.) Level up from the princess mentality, ALL women have the POTENTIAL to be QUEENS. 💯👑💯
@@queenofthesouth4205 Peace over everything! My ex was a six figure lawyer and I could not breath the last couple weeks of dating him! I broke up with him and instantly had peace
I hate the false dichotomy of "Would you rather cry in a Bentley or a Honda Civic?" This idea that every man is gonna cheat, be toxic, or bring some type of problems, so why not choose the rich one? I married a man on the same financial level as me and he doesn't make me cry AT ALL. My peace and happiness are priceless!
Yeah, but I don't think many parents are teaching that lesson. I mean look online all these young people putting money on a pedestal. That's unfortunate.
Because the good ones are rare, super rare so we have a preset mentality to expect all that mediocre to eventually happen so the least be finances be not a part of it. Pick a struggle 🤷🏾♀️ I absolutely understand. Imagine emotional turmoil and financial strain added? No
“High Value” is useless jargon. Especially if the “value” is solely attached to money and social status. Proverbs 28:6 Better is the poor that walketh in his uprightness, than he that is perverse in his ways, though he be rich. Ladies, sharpen your discernment and choose *wisely*
Women you don't need a rich man but don't get no dusty either. Hard working man that cherish you, respects you, with good ethics and can put a roof over your head and take care of his children. No lazy, small minded dusties. You must also do your part, be femanine and respect him.
Amen sis. That was the most miserable I have been my entire life. I was like his property in his mind. Got my college degree and now I work in technology. Happiest I have ever been 🙌🏽
You’re so on point! This desire for “high value men” definitely stems from women growing up in poverty. We’re also going through times of financial insecurity so marrying rich seems like an easy solution. Also in most cultures women have been raised to marry well and that’s reasonable but the problem is that people take it to an extreme. It’s not either Elon Musk or an unemployed guy in his 30s who still lives with his mom.
Poverty might be a factor for many but there's the fact that, for most of history and in many cultures, women just do not have a choice. Rich or poor. Being property to be sold to the highest bidder available was and is a reality for some women. Education, self-worth, safety, choice, a career? If you are lucky enough to live in a time and place you are even allowed to choose to and have any of these, expect to be taught he will always be more successful, bc simply, men are given opportunities women simply aren't all the time. One can be made to think you need men to enable your chances of becoming independent even.
Coincidently there is a video on youtube of Elon's Musk's first wife describing their marriage together, and its basically what Breeny said here, almost textbook.
Every time that I have made the mistake of " dating down" I end up with someone who treats me like garbage that being said " dating up" does not always neccesarily mean dating a rich guy sometimes it just means dating someone who challenges you to grow as a person. To me a man can never be a " high value man" if all he cares about is money and looks. That is a shallow man with no real " substance" Those things are not valuable to me.
💯 I married poor, broke man. I rather be with a man who can provide a middle or upper middle class lifestyle for me. I want to choose to work. Not be with a man who needs my income to live.
I can't believe how prominent in today's society it is to idolise rich men! They definitely won't save you and it's soo important to have your self esteem and worth and have your own things going on! 💞
Talking from experience, I met my ex partner when I was working full time and one of the things he told me when we first met was "whether you work or don't work, I'll always look after you". And he did. I worked and he still provided. When we were married I chose to stay home as I wanted to rest, focus on being a wife and have a baby. He continues to financially provide. After baby was born, I worked part time teaching from home. He still financially provided. We are no longer together and guess what : he still financially provides monthly for me and the children, although I work. It really also depends on the character of the man. Sometimes you really can have both. There are plenty of men who are happy to take the alpha male stand and look after their woman and family and are fine with their lady having a job, whether it be part time or otherwise. Many housewives have their own businesses and when the men are that rich they also provide staff for the house such as books, nannies, drivers etc to help the woman. It is possible to have it all and lot need to choose one or the other 😊
I've heard some of these "high value men" gurus on youtube that tell women that a high value man is allowed to cheat on you, just because they have the money to buy you nice things they're allowed to cheat
@@b_a_5_k_i453 your statement doesn't deny the fact that cheating is an action. Like I said, just because you're given permission to do something does not change the action itself
Even a poor man will have expectations of his wife regardless of her employment status. In marriage when compromise is met one person will have given up their right for the good of the union. It will sting less and you'll recover faster if you chose to partner with a man that you trust, love and respect.
It’s important for every woman to established herself financially and “have her own” but to be realistic our natural biologies as women makes us more inclined to seek partners that are financially able to provide so that in case of a pregnancy we feel safe and secure knowing our men can hold it down until you can work again. When this discussion becomes distorted is when women are deliberately seeking the thrill of wanting to be with a rich man (as glamorized in mainstream female rap) for all the perks and materialistic motives, you are what you attract. If the intention is to use a man as a come up or to get things then rest assure he will be using you too.
@@mybeautifuljourney7540 I will get angry or feisty at any man, regardless of income level, if need be. I guess that's why they keep trying to come back...for the challenge LOL! The ones with money know I PREFER to have them, but they know I am capable of getting other wealthy options, just like they have other options of beautiful women. So they tend to not act-up too badly with me 😂😂😂
Any woman/girl reading this. You are worthy. You deserve a man that adores you & respects you. You can make 6+ figures. You can live a fulfilling life with or without a man. Be patient. Don’t settle for a man that doesn’t treat you right because you feel you can’t do any better. Choose peace. A relationship doesn’t define who you are. You define YOU. Take breaks from social media. Prioritize self-care. You are worthy. ✨🦋💫
I hate that we only teach this to women. I want yall to start telling man at young age that they will find a woman who will take care of them and love them. Women are literally conditioned from childhood to seek a partner and " love " sickening.
A stay at home mom or housewife isn't a step backwards 🙄, my mom was briefly when raising us (she's an accountant), after her kids were in high school she started working again part time, and she's happy and accomplished so 🤷🏽♂️. Women choosing to take care of their families isn't oppression. I might do the same also
Forreal, it's in a woman's nature to want to take care and nurture her family. I don't like how women who choose to take care of their family and home are looked at as less than especially when statistics show women who are single, over 30 and make over 100k a year are the least happiest.
honestly, I've met people who just wanted to be housewives. No judgment or anything... I feel like People who don't want to be housewives and people who do.... Just can't understand each other... You're either one or the other.
@@barracuda-s5r ikr, it's fine for a woman to work and have opportunities and all. But if a women who's clearly a professional, or just a worker , decides to spend time to focus on her family, I don't see how she's why she's seen as causing women to regress in society.
@@armamia.1701 exactly career women should stick fully to their own lane. And there are even levels to the whole independent, career woman lifestyle. A woman who works and has a kid with her husband, is different from say the American Vice president. She never had a child, and got married at 50 🤷🏽♂️, so does that mean women should follow that blue print to fully shatter the supposed glass ceiling?
Not all of this is true . My husband is wealthy and we are the same age . He’s putting me through school and we have a kid together. I Cook, clean & do what he ask of me & he does the same for me. There’s nothing wrong with being submissive to your husband if he is the RIGHT one.
@@ANewJerusalem777 how does that not sound good as a woman? And how am I giving FALSE props? DUH im doing all the school work myself it’s like me saying a scholarship didn’t get you through school you did.. girl I don’t understand what your argument is , you reaching for real.
I don’t know if anyone else has noticed but Aunty Breeny has been giving us new looks from the thumbnails, titles, to the outfits, change of background, etc. I love how you continue to always level up Breeny and come with the best content! Love you so much ❤️
As a fan of Disney growing up even Disney princesses went against their norms. Jasmine got Aladdin, Pocahontas got John Smith, Belle got Beast... the list goes on. But those men had... C H A R A T E R.
@3Fresh Lade Aladdin was a theif out of the terms of survival but that didn't compromise his good natured heart. He lied to Jasmine out of shame for who he was not to be malicious. Beast wasn't abusive just short tempered but he knew this and was also ashamed yet Belle saw the person he wanted to learn to be and worked with him. John Smith had a misunderstanding of the Natives but was willing to learn their ways and change other's perspective.... let's not confuse flaws with character integrity.
@3Fresh Lade They were imperfectly good men. The flaws they were had (Aladdin being a thief and the beast being short tempered) were defense mechanisms due to the environment they’re in. They recognized their faults and with the encouragement of the women they love, changed for the better.
Beauty and the beast is bullshit and shouldn't be fed to little girls. He was abusive! You forgot he kidnapped her father, released him to have her be the victim instead, locked her up in a room, and yelled at her to starve if she didn't want to eat with him? lmao yea, a real gentleman. We shouldn't teach little girls that that's CHARACTER. Nor should we believe that that's what it is.
@@lari13s keep thinking that you can change a man. It's goina get you somewhere you don't want to be. The last thing ANY woman should look to for love or dating advice is Disney lmao
Thank you for speaking on this. I see girls on tiktok all day talking about being a “stay at home girlfriend”, being spoiled, taken care of and living care free and I wanted that for myself. I’m starting to realize that’s not the road to happiness though. Depression, sickness, death and other challenges will still come. You need a partner that treats you as their equal and sees your worth outside of your beauty and cooking skills. I am now starting my own business and praying for my future husband. I pray that my sisters will find their purpose and pursue that the same way they want to pursue a rich man. Peace and blessings 💗
Hi dear, Alex Johnson I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am. I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with. I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes. I’m from Austin, Texas United States. I’m about 5.9ft tall, 35 years of age. Are you married now or single?
There's nothing wrong with preferring rich men, but be careful not to make an idol out of money. People with money usually have a lot of power and can have control over you if you let them. A man is not a good man just because he has money, he must also have good character and make you feel safe and comfortable. Don't give up ladies! There are lots of good men who are also rich.
My mom was a stay at home wife to my dad until she passed. I watched my father deny her pantyhose and coats because he didn’t want her to leave the house. It was extremely oppressive for her. Sure, he paid all of her/our expenses, he also caged her. I don’t want to be caged. I’m sorry sisters, dying alone is not a threat to me when I’ve witnessed women die of heartbreak. Treat me well and that’s on period. I only have one heart. I will work and pay my bills in a modest and humble way thankfully. I thank God for my spiritual development.
Mom married a rich guy when I was a kid. The pressure of bending over backwards extends to your kids if you had them before marrying him. I grew up feeling on the edge because our stability relied on whether he’s in a bad mood to provide resources for us or not.
@@prettypoppin_552 that’s because she was probably a gold digger like a lot of u women are and he was smart enough to realise it hence why he sent the signal of if she ever fucked around she was going to find out the hard way.
Obviously we all know not all rich men are heartless but I was referencing the ones who are actually like that, thought that was common sense by now. But I know a lot of these high value men who really give zero fucks about women in general and the good kind are a minority trust me, so to the majority that are heartless yes being with them is like selling your soul bcoz in the end it never ends well, I know plenty of girls who even contracted diseases from these type of men, some had an unimaginable number of abortions and cannot conceive when they finally want to settle, so I'm talking about something I know not heard rumors about
And everything that was spoken here are facts, I'm not saying that don't go for these type of men and as stated in the video if u find urself in a space with these men vert them well. And no one is saying don't go there, do it if that makes you happy the message is just that you should just know what your getting yourself into. And again same applies for a good looking man, if he's into u and u like him go there and be with him no 1 is stopping u but just know just because he looks like an angel doesn't mean he's one
@@veelooolove4118 i mean. Lets not act like all the hoes and crazy b*** are not after the rich guys. So if it actually turned out that most rich guys dont give a f*** about girls i wouldnt be surprised really.
I swear this woman is drop dead gorgeous.. And then what she says is just *chefs kiss. The rescuing complex and how it links to childhood is so real. #StopLivingThatDisneyDream #CultureWatcher
I went to a women's college 25 years ago, so feminism was Class 101 in that school. They did however make a couple of good points. For instance, they taught us to get a degree and some career experience not only for self-edification but also for survival. Not only if the man leaves, what if he dies or gets into an accident where now you have to take care for him and the children. So you definitely want to have your own assets whether they be intellectual or financial. "Smart Women Finish Rich" by David Bach is a good book on this subject.
@LaTeia Deiónn ask a image consultant to rate you that way you can work on your teeth body and facially features. That best way to get a rich man is to compete in beaty and feminine energy. $30k can fix everything on your body
@@thefinancialdominatrix9533 ma'am, your comments are godawful. Based on them I suspect that you're a dude masquerading as a woman. Let people live. God.
I love how you made this video because girls wanted the rich man is so thrown into our faces today and I don't think these girls relies what they're getting themselves into
@@iambloopy a lot of rich man are looking for a prop and not a partner so you have to look 10/10 ALWAYS or else they WILL go find better because of all the options they have but even so MOSR OF THEM CHEAT ON THERE PARTNERS ! because theirs always better out there and like I said in the beginning they don’t tend to go into relationship for “love”. They can also be VERY controlling because money comes with power and so they always prefer to have a women dependant on them so that it’s easier to control.
My Mum ALWAYS taught and raised me to have and make my OWN money and never to be financially reliant on anyone but especially a man. I guess she was speaking from her own experiences and as I witnessed her struggle, from that I always saw money = control/power. Independency and self sufficiency to me is SO key!
High quality man >>> high value ($). I have my own money , as a man yes be financial stable especially if we’re going to have a family but ALSO have morals . Many women think money is all to life . Saying “sis secure the bag or stay were the bag Is secure”. Like girl if the money not in ur name then it’s not yours .
This is true but NOT ALL woman but many are letting this happen. They don't speak out and tell woman to stop trying to be lazy and live off of someone else's money.
@Mind yours I agree. As I mentioned before extra cash is good so you can move forward in life and isn't bad but some SB are just looking to 100% not work at all.
@@Rubigirl33 and there is nothing wrong with that and I completely hope you find or achieve whatever it's is in life your are seeking. Many people in both genders are quite lost.
Still in my 20s but I have always attracted a certain kind of guy: Doc lawyer entrepreneurs. Dating an 8 figure guy is NOT it. He wanted me to drop out of my masters program so we travel the world and I can become a housewife. I'm still a virgin and we align on so many principles but I had to dump him because my education is an investment and no man is worth it. In freshly single but I feel better. Stay the course ladies. Be your own boss and before you settle down make sure you have finished investing in yourself and single freedom. Education and personal financial stability is *key*
OMG! This is so me. Recently I dated a guy who told me he was super rich and stuff. He was really good and we kinda of git along well. But I really wanted to invest in my education and finish my studies whereas he was into looking for a woman who will only be his wife , not studying looking out for his business, ect. Had to choose. I though I did a great mistake but what you said just comforted me in my decision
@@isabellalora6533 he found me. I was just going to professional events trying to learn more about astrophysics and some new technologies. Just dive into something you love or something you're interested in. Then network! You never know who you might meet. Just know there's good, great, and terrible men out there. Even those that are wealthy can be nightmarish.
@@irambonajasmine8155 investing in your education was the right choice! You can have a beautiful life and be educated. The right man will want to provide for you without making you sacrifice the things that are important to you.
I cannot sell my soul just to look good on the outside. I'm an inward-outwards person so that can never be me, I'd probably become depressed and then suicidal. I'm probably wired differently because of being by raised by a decent father who just provided for his family.
@@felicia_rm nah the problem is nobody wants to build anymore like your mom did with your father They all want the already rich, but understand that he got there relying solely on himself so he wont tollerate any bs
Thanks for saying that not everyone wants to be a housewife. , it's true. I'm currently a housewife. I now like it, but in the beginning I wanted to jump out the window. My husband is a mid-level engineer at a tech company. There's ALOT of work that goes into hosting dinner parties, kids' education, moving every 12-18 months. About the money thing, he met me when I was a successful real estate agent. I'm college educated, so he knows my earning potential. Maybe because we are the same age and we married when he was just starting out. His money is our money. I don't ask him for money (that is degrading). Also, make sure you MARRY. Marriage protects you because you get half. If that's not the rule in your state, put it in writing. I've found that couples who have the same values stay together longer. Rearing of children, building wealth, ect is about LEGACY. There's a huge difference between men getting lots of new money or men who want money to build something bigger. Look at Jay Z now v 2003 Jay Z. Legacy matters. Certain circles care more about that than others.
My sentiments exactly! MARRIAGE is the key difference here. If you both hold the same values, principles and views on how to raise a family and live before you marry, chances are it will work, whatever set up you and your partner go for.
@Crave Info So is she not supposed to have compensation for giving up her potential earnings to be a housewife? She's losing out on income, and potentially retirement savings(assuming her husband isn't making contributions for her).
Exactly. You get access to the accounts and your own credit card. You start your own savings and investment accounts. I have no idea where the idea came from about always asking for money or not having your own.
Rich men treat everyone as pawns and toys they get tired of. I love providing for myself and being my own rock. It's less drama and headache🙂 Appreciate your TRUTHFUL CONTENT💋
Hi dear, Alex Johnson I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am. I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with. I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes. I’m from Austin, Texas United States. I’m about 5.9ft tall, 35 years of age. Are you married now or single?
@@alexjohnson2693 Good morning Alex :) I am single but not currently looking to date at the moment. I did say that I want a God-fearing man, just not at THIS moment. I don't think this is the season to be looking for companionship, for me at least. However, I do pray that God sends you the woman that he has set aside for you, all in His time :)
My dad was a high value man,aircraft engineer who turned out to be a malignant narcissist and cheated on my mom for years. High Value is garbage, it's better to have a man who can make the money but is stable minded
If you actually check the definition according to the Guy in the videos thumbnail you'd see that all those characteristics are part of it not just the money component.
What's your definition of a husband? Because a lot of what a man thinks is providing, protecting and leading the family. Which means less time with the actual family at times.
I have dated 2 really rich rich riiiich men and man they have way too much insecurities I got no time to “fix”their brokenness😩🤦🏽♀️. Both had issues with my independence, the fact that I don’t “need”them. Boy I don’t “need”no man I choose who I “want” to be with that is the difference. They don’t tolerate the fact that you are aware of your value by not settling , putting down your standards just because they have money! I broke up with one telling him « you have to know that you will never EVER have enough money to buy,shut down my freedom , thank you goodbye »he tried EVERYTHING (even the most craziest things damn)to get me back but nope my parents haven’t raised a broken woman I’m GOOD😊
Thats not being "insecure" you both had different priorities. That's fine you should have known what you were getting into before you signed up for it.
omg!!! i can't believe how timely this video is! I was randomly getting jealous of women elon musk dated because he's a billionaire haha but then i read an article by his first wife about how his marriage actually was and uh....it was really not pleasant..and i would actually be miserable living like that.. all that glitters really isn't gold. Something that is so shiny and glitzy really is all surface...
If Megan Markel isn’t happy being kept in a palace. Shows you the Disney fairytale isn’t all what it’s cracked up to be. I dated a wealthy man for a while and it was horrible. I was like his property. Best day of my life was walking away with nothing and starting over. That’s when I really started living
Trust me....you care. YOU CARE You say that thinking that will get you chosen. You will attract Mr. Dusty Bucket, $37k yr job with 574 credit score and several baby mamas. You are manifesting poverty and struggle. STOP!!! A woman knows finances matter in romance. Only young girls believe in that Disney fairytale bs
I did have a brief experience with a rich man ( I wasn't looking for it, he approached me). He did try to buy me with material things and made fun of me for being "too independent" when I refused to accept his offers. Later he turned out to act crazy when I also refused to cater to all his sexual needs and tried to make me jealous triangulating me with other women. Girls, be very careful when dealing with these men. Most of them, especially if they're self-made, are narcissists (I'm surprised Breeny didn't use that word) and so money-oriented that they don't know how to have a meaningful relationship with a woman.
I was gonna add narcissism to my comment on this video but it seems to be such a sensitive and/or hot topic online. My observation is that most of them are....
At the end of the day, i’d rather be with a non “high value” man in a beautiful relationship rather than deal with the bs some of them bring by thinking they can treat you however as long as they’re bringing the coin.
They buy you So they can Be unfaithful and triangulate you with other women Sometimes I think to myself is all the gifts and money worth all the pain , unhappiness and embarrassment that some of these women experienced dating a rich man 💔 😢🥵😤😳😫
Every bag and bracelet comes with a price tag. I have been there done that. Was with a wealthy man and after a year he treated me like I was property and eventually was okay was even okay with putting his hands on me. Never again. Independence is where it’s at
@@viennala2528 the earlier the better sis. Best day of my life was walking away with nothing he gave me and starting over from scratch. Got my degree in technology and that’s when I started living 🙏🏾
Breeny!!! I wish you put this video out like 2 years ago 🥲🥲🥲 I’m 26 now but almost 3 years ago I was dating a “rich guy” who was really selfish and never had time for anything (but apparently had the time to talk to 3 other girls behind my back 🧐). He was very unstable (and a player) lol. But my dumbass still wanted him so I put up with it and tried to make a relationship work but it was nearly impossible bc of his immaturity. I got out of that and now I’m happily with someone who treats me a LOTTTT better. The guy I’m seeing now is also financially well off (not as much as the rich guy tho) and quite a bit older than me but he actually treats me the way I deserve to be treated. I was young and naive but I learned a lot since then. At the end of the day I realized it’s not about the money, I just want a man who treats me right. A man can still treat you like a queen and princess without having to be a billionaire. What good is being with someone whos “rich” but doesn’t have time for you or even respect you? I’d rather just stay single then 🤷🏻♀️
I’m 24 I was in a relationship with a wealthy 48 year old man and you just literally described the whole relationship. What you are doing for us is powerful and I’m beyond grateful you made this ❤️
The hilarious part is they have character demands of women but have zero character standards for themselves just because they have money. Sigh! High Value with shitty character is still lower than Walmart great value 😂. It’s disgusting!
Kevin Samuels makes money off women and degrades them a minute later. He doesn't respect women, only women he perceives are worthy. Any men saying "high value women" and "high value man" are putting a price tag on people and treating them accordingly based off some weird code of ethics. I agree 100%
I'm 21 and I was in a "relationship" with a well off 45 year old. He always tried to control me with his money. He thought because he had money that I would do whatever he said and wanted . Once I finally realized that he just looked at me as an object and was trying to groom me, I left . Another thing to add, I am a Christian practicing restraining from sex & he was not going for it. He expected me to always have sex with him whenever he wanted . That was the deal breaker for me. I will always put my relationship with Jesus first !
I'm glad you made it out safely. Grown men and women that "date" people 15+ years younger... It is very odd power dynamic. Especially when the younger person is newly an adult (18-23).
It's predatory for a man old enough to be a girl's father to groom them into being a sexual partner. How would they feel if their own daughter were in this same situation... AMEN 🙌 to you- being true to God is beautiful!
From my personal experience, I 100% approve this video. she’s so on point! Rich man like to be in CONTROL, that’s why they tend to be with “passive, quiet, sweet” type of woman. The moment you dare to speak up, they quickly become offended (their ego is fragile) by anything you do or say.
Finally someone said it.theres this interview with ”the minorites” in the ”freshandfit” channel,and the guys there were talking about how a guy is allowed to cheat sinse he got money and he will take care of you.some of these males (not men) nowdays are getting next level comfortable with their toxicness.
Women that want that lkind of man will have to deal with it. They do say that if youre dating an average man then you shouldn't accept any of that from him. Arend honestly the girls that come on that show are hella confused
@@peremoboeresd No woman likes to get cheated,they get silenced and brainwashed/manipulated into thinkinh they are suppose to take that.u shouldnt accept that kind of behaviour from anyone,regardless of their status,but i do agree the women on that show for some reason arent 100%mentally there,its like the hosts pick the most insecure women to proove their point because those women cannot stand for themselves :/
@@Ihavemadeit999 those are the women in Miami that message them. Those women go to Miami to find men like these and they have a lot of cap. I understand where they're coming from tho as I understand where your coming from. Cheating and lying about it is 100x worse than being upfront and saying this might happen but I love you and will only take care of you. Of course this is only okay if the man is capable in ALL ways. not just being rich, but being the whole package.
@@Ihavemadeit999 We can not like it. Noone expects us to like it. Just have to accept it when it happens for the greater good of the legacy that you're trying to build with this man. Or you leave.
@lolz lolz they are pretty lame ...I used to think they were pretty cool but I notice they just repeat the same talking points about HVM being more of a prize . They get young ladies to appear on their show to sit there and not engage in real discussions that makes them look dumb....Basically just to tear a woman down...Yet none of the men would leave Miami or that lifestyle...
Hell I love being a housewife 😂 it’s mad easy. You don’t have to “ask” for anything, you tell them what is wanted and you shall receive. My man doesn’t make plans and just do it that’s a no no, but you may have to move.!!! It’s not like you’re just by yourself and all that, or just doing just for him. Any car he buys me gets put in my name 🤷🏽♀️ But it is a different life.! And all men are DIFFERENT ladies.! Broke or rich he can still have shitty morals
😳...this video kind of scared me. I know a man with a money who is always talking about marriage, but I don’t feel I’ll be comfortable with him. Even as I was watching, it made me think about how he was so bold to let me know he had options. I felt insulted. I feel like he keeps trying to get at me for sport and he’s not sincere
Wow fam. Thank you!!! It’s been a real dilemma bc we’ve known each other for 10 years. We have talked a bit more “seriously” the past two years. But it’s been disappointing. I think I needed some outside opinion about this issue. Thank you 💞💞💞
Literally everything she’s saying is exactly what Kevin Samuels is saying. There’s a lot more to what he’s depicted as and you can’t really understand what he’s trying to accomplish through small soundbytes. Most of his content is hours long and takes time to digest.
Agree with you 100%. This is the exact reason why I worked my ass off to get into medical school and become a doctor, despite coming from a rich family and having several opportunities to marry fabulously wealthy men. I’ll never put myself in a position where I need anyone besides myself and God. Not my father, not a husband, no one. Because when you need a man to sustain you, you will accept maltreatment and disrespect in order to maintain your lifestyle. Thank you for making this video. More, please.
Everything in this video is so true. I dated a man 10 yrs older than me when I was 20 and it was fun getting all the gifts and going out to nice restaurants. But he constantly wanted me to be available whenever he wanted and if I wasn't he would act as if I was a child and speak down to me.
@@ST-yc7uj he lied to me about his age and by the time i found out i thought i was in love and just brushed it off but in the back of my mind it always bugged me
DISCLAIMER: this video is not extensive.
But, We are NOT talking about stay at home moms, we are NOT talking about a man who is providing for his family, we are NOT talking about desiring someone who is financially stable and we are NOT promoting struggle love.
We ARE talking about the dynamic between SOME rich men and young women aspiring for that type of lifestyle.
Context is important and Comprehension is key.
Thank you for this video and message. I wish more women could see through the facade of this lifestyle: it looks good on instagram, and you look good whilst living it but that's it. Your self-esteem becomes so fragile and tangible to another individual and whether or not they see your worth. The more you desperately attempt to blend into that lifestyle, the more you lose yourself and your sense of individuality. You become vacuous. The worst part is, however beautiful you are, one day you're going to lose it and when your self-worth is built on being a 'trophy wife' and you no longer look like a trophy, then what? He'll simply replace you with someone that does. I think what so many people fail to realise is that a lot of these men are successful for a reason: they're always looking for the next best thing, the next deal etc.
The money will not make you happy, maybe after the first Chanel bag you'll get a high, or a luxury car. But after a while it'll all become meaningless. Find your worth in something that doesn't have an expiry date, in something that won't go out of fashion and you'll find contentment. This lifestyle will only breed a mindset of lack, even if it looks like abundance. Your self-worth should never be made tangible.
@@lurb1557 🗣🗣🗣.......🔥!
@@lurb1557 I wish people could really see what’s happening on the inside of certain sects of society. That would kill a lot of the idolatry and fantasy about The Lifestyle.
Most of the men I’ve met in the 7-8 figure range have been miserable. The money, hustling, serial acquisition of things and people + all the rest functions as a cover for their low self worth, unrelenting self hatred and misery.
The ‘next best deal’ guy is rarely ever a well adjusted man.
Glad to see you back 💕 you are doing amazing job opening eyes to the ones that are blind
@@Misssixty510 Exactly! I've found this too. Their mindset might make them superficially successful but they're seldom happy or content. Which is probably why they are seeking out attractive young women in the first place, to boost their fragile ego. Most of them are, at their core, desperately insecure and unhappy and thus enjoy making others feel the same.
“Woman you see flexing aren’t happy and the actual happy woman aren’t flexing”this is soooooooooooo true
Look at your females rappers. Look at what they rap about and look how they live. "Don't need a man" but married with kids. They just want your likes and streams so they can be paid. Even they are not happy.
@@damienresendez yep. Same with many male rappers. They say, "Bitches ain't shit" or "We don't love deez hoez," yet they're married too. It's all a fascade. These celebs say inflammatory things just to generate attention and controversy.
@@chrsitma it's gone.
no need to flex when your true wealth is within✨
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My mother told me "never enter a relationship without having anything for yourself because the man will control you"
Thank you for sharing this with us ☺️☺️
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God bless your mum. 👏🏾
By the way, I believe this can be applied everywhere not just relationship- aim to be able to stand on your own two feet, otherwise some people will take that as an opportunity to abuse in some way.
Amen to this sister! You have a wise mum! 🙌🏻🙏🏻
That's sad
She is telling the absolute truth! I was a housewife for 5 years...now I didn't have an allowance, I had free range to buy what I wanted however, when we divorced, everything Breeny said is completely accurate. I had to start completely over, move back home with my parents and rebuild. I was so embarrassed. Now that God has blessed me to get back on my feet, I have my own house, car and good job. I will never ever put myself in that position again.
Ladies, it's not as glamarous as it looks... Always have your own!
but what about alimony didnt you get half? why was you broke?
Damn i am glaf u are doing well.U learned it the hard way i see.And what are u looking for in ur next relationship if i may ask?
@@zero1188 Maybe she didn't want his money. Which i would've done the same i am not going to ask for money from this dudes just so they could feel the pleasure of seeing me broke and needy. Even if it would take me time i prefer the struggle. Well that's just my opinion. Also men think your a golddigger all along if you want part of his money like tf didn't we agree on being a team you provide i take care of the house and children. Men are really complicated well some women as well.🤣
Totally agree with you I mean that stage where I'm rebuilding and starting all over
I don't think getting half is the rule. Every divorce case might be different and the legislation varies depending on what you live. Maybe she was not financially literate and he was good at hiding his assets.
A lot of these “high-value” men lack emotional intelligence. They look good on paper but they literally dead on the inside.
New money men are what she was describing. They act like they are the prize.
YESSS. Talk on it! Emotionally unavailable men who worship money. Many guys will prioritise their values / morals for money, the old age adage of money is the root of all evil truly applies here.
If I could like this more than once, I would. Emotional intelligence is so important.
@@miloudivyne exactly. They're sever type of boys/men just ask there are several types of girls/woman.
@@lFrenzied that is a specific type of HVM. Those types are like that cause they have been working like that for so long that it consumes them and that's all they end up knowing how to do.
Would u rather stay in a cheating & miserable relationship just bc u wanna “secure the bag” or just have ur own money so u don’t even have to tolerate bullshit .
Poor people cheat too, so I would rather at least have the money instead of not having both(money and loyalty).
@@Sunshine-ms4ih right. But I think the point is not being financially reliant on the man to the point where you have no option but to stay.
I'd rather cry over a cheating husband in a Ferrari rather than on a city bus. The surrounding aesthetic perserves your blown dignity alittle..in my opinion.
Why do we assume that ALL Rich Successful Men are STUPID and have no culture.
@@onechildsband that's why you have a prenup. Look at Janet Jackson. Her prenup stated she got so much money for years seat was married and so much if she had a child
"happy women arent flexing" this is so true. all these people on social media just wanna look like theyre living their best life but in reality they care so much about what others see of them that they waste their time trying to look like they feel good instead of actually feeling good.
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If they post themselves busted or doing average things yall bash them for that as well. LOL
@@loveself6396 y u care about what people over the Internet think . They don’t even know u or probably have sh!t in they’re name . & if u too sensitive y have social media ????? Let’s take accountability
As soon as a man feels you want him for his money he's subconsciously believes you can be bought and if you can be bought you're an object.
men see us as objects whether or not money is involved so you don’t have a point
@@AkwaIbomDoll ....no. I wish you nothing but positive energy & whatever relationship you went through to adopt that mindset I wish you healing. - ❤
true it's all about how you carry yourself...
@@king1ut275 She's right though, our culture already objectifies us... men just continue the trend, many of them do not know any better, their bros won't object either cause 'boys will be boys'.
This is so true
Honestly the Diary of a Mad Black Woman always runs through my head when I think of that lifestyle. I'm not trying to go from rich to thrown out on the streets like that
Yess👏🏾
Only time a husband would think of that "Mister" shit yall got from color purple is if yall cheat
I remember that
When does that ever happen the man will be paying child support alimony and have to give her half his assets.
But see the woman wasn’t intelligent with what she had.
Women enter these relationships and think everything is ok because they’re well taken care. If you don’t have your own, at least go into the relationship to obtain something of your own instead of jewels and vacays.
So many UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS BC OF SOCIAL MEDIA
Giiiirl trueeeeeeee
Im a man and I 1000% agree with you. I hate it all. It's an agenda and ruining social relationships and humanity
Period.
that is correct. Beyonce singing about "independent ladies" and "single ladies" and she is a "feminist" but going home submitting to Jay-Z. love queen Bey but she is no feminist! Then CardiB talking about how she "don't cook or clean"-WAP but she don't have to! she got a chef and a maid. Also she can't drive and has a chauffer taking her everywhere! Look at Sawte, after she and Quvo broke up he took back the car because it was leased!!! these people are NOT relationship goals. Women need to smarten up. social media is nothing but fakes, liars with smoke and mirrors!
@@Pursuepeace0715 except no one here knows what Bey is doing when she goes home. Which makes this whole dialogue pointless. The bigger issue is how pathetic people are (especially if they’re grown) to seek identity in other people, especially when It’s entertainment 🤦🏾♀️ That can’t be blamed on social media. That is deadass the fault of the individual/lost soul.
Don’t mistake high value with high quality
You mean high profile or high earning
I am currently a housewife and stay at home mom to three kids. My husband is an entrepreneur and is out of the house most of the time so it is lonely! Also it is hard work looking after a house and three kids. I do have to ask my husband for money if I want something. I’m here to tell y’all that it is lovely and I love it but it is a job just like any other! At least in a normal job you get to come home and have your time to yourself and money that you can spend of your own accord. It is very different as a housewife! If that is your heart to do, don’t worry! You will enjoy it if you choose to, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But if you only want it because it looks glamorous or like an easy life, please please know that it is not! At all! Marriage takes work, kids take work, house takes work. All of life is work 🤣 Joy is where you create it
I am glad there are more stay at home wives in the comments who love what they do. That was me 17 years ago and I MISS it so! 🥰
At last one happy, satisfied and fulfilled woman in a sea of bitterness.
A true unicorn 💯👏🏾
@@enmodelife I’m trying to make the most of it now because I know I will miss it! X
Marriage is just getting a man who you have to look after... It seems like a bum deal to me
@@makeitcount2985 it’s definitely not for everybody! Most women I know that are married though still work and split the housecare equally. If they have kids they do the same. But I personally actually enjoy looking after the house and kids and my husband which is why I chose to do this. It’s the worst thing to choose it because it’s what’s ‘expected’ and then hate your life and resent everyone. You can write your own story and there are men who don’t want a housewife! It tends to be the men who work a super high amount of hours who really benefit from having a housewife type situation, and if they are earning enough the wife doesn’t NEED to work. Bur plenty of dudes don’t even want that dynamic and the pressure it comes with. It’s about knowing what you want out of marriage and finding a man who is on the same page!
Men are never the prize, rich or not. A man takes care of his woman and a woman takes care of her man, just in different ways.
Could have fooled me. You need to be a wealthy man and your attitude would change.
Yeah but rich guy can take better care of you than a poor guy
@@uk9383 Exactly! They won't need a woman to cook and clean for them either. She's talking about dusty men who are still building themselves up.
@@uk9383 very true Indeed!!
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My self-worth is so expensive he can't afford it.
lol WORD
Yassssss babe!!!!
Ok, I need this printed in every fkg t-shirt, wall, poster, everywhere. And maybe do us a favor and go and post this on the channels of these so-called philosophers who are full of shit. Big hugs from Canada
Well said
Every. Bit. Of. This!!!
Never give a man the power to feed you, coz they can also decide to starve you. Keep that in mind 😉
@USMC DEVIL DOG What makes you say that??
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Only a broke woman makes a statement like that.
@@gandr.e.5136 oh honey I have my own money😂😂jokes on you
Have your own money. Don't fully depend on a man.
I wanted to be a housewife until I became one with a wealthy man. It was so boring asf and a toxic codependent relationship 🤦🏾♀️ . Now I love working in technology and building with my husband who is a business owner. So much more satisfying 💕
I'm so happy
@@nana8135 thanks sis 🙌🏽. Once i became like his property where he controlled every aspect of my life it was time to go 🤦🏾♀️. Best day of my life was walking away with nothing he gave me and that’s when I started living 💕
Yes 👏🏿!! I am happy for you .
good for u gurl u did good!
Good for you my love ❤️
A man who fears, loves, & has totally surrendered his life to the Lord is a prize
I understand but the bible says it is not good for men to be alone AND he who finds a wife, finds a good thing. A wife that has devoted their lives to God is THE prize!
Man don't need women
@@gregoriopassport ok
No sweety. There isn't any man out here whose the prize. They don't give birth. Women are and the moment she realizes that she wpuld stop giving her power out here to broke men.
@@gregoriopassport nobody NEEDS anyone, we're all adults.
The only person who can save you is yourself. You can't wait around expecting someone of higher "status" to carry you, when you have your own set of legs. Be ambitious. Stay self motivated. And never put yourself in a position to depend on the motivation of others. (They can abandon or discourage you at any point---but never abandon or discourage yourself.) Level up from the princess mentality, ALL women have the POTENTIAL to be QUEENS. 💯👑💯
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@Status DMG Facts. *correction* All women have the POTENTIAL to be queens, it is a complete mentality you must be willing to put effort into.
Without KINGS there would be no QUEENS
Love this comment. 👏 👏 👏
My ex is a six figure CTO and running away from him was the best decision I ever made! Ya’ll can have him!
Gurrrrrrl, have peace of mind....
@@queenofthesouth4205 Peace over everything! My ex was a six figure lawyer and I could not breath the last couple weeks of dating him! I broke up with him and instantly had peace
@@GabbyTeAma I'm glad you made it out of the situation with your sanity! Peace is priceless!💜
@@ariahlea it is! Thank you so much beautiful!
Yes that peace is worth it all
Character over money! A man with Character isn’t a lazy man so u don’t have to worry about being broke. He might not be rich tho and that’s ok.
@M B mines too!
We need more women like you
I hate the false dichotomy of "Would you rather cry in a Bentley or a Honda Civic?" This idea that every man is gonna cheat, be toxic, or bring some type of problems, so why not choose the rich one? I married a man on the same financial level as me and he doesn't make me cry AT ALL. My peace and happiness are priceless!
Yeah, but I don't think many parents are teaching that lesson. I mean look online all these young people putting money on a pedestal. That's unfortunate.
Amen 🙏🏾
Because the good ones are rare, super rare so we have a preset mentality to expect all that mediocre to eventually happen so the least be finances be not a part of it. Pick a struggle 🤷🏾♀️ I absolutely understand. Imagine emotional turmoil and financial strain added? No
“High Value” is useless jargon. Especially if the “value” is solely attached to money and social status.
Proverbs 28:6
Better is the poor that walketh in his uprightness, than he that is perverse in his ways, though he be rich.
Ladies, sharpen your discernment and choose *wisely*
PREACH
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Facts. The way people are describing high value men frightens me. Some of these HVM need assistants not wives.
@@hannahi9355 Haha, this was gold and so fkg accurate!!!
@@hannahi9355 exactly. What strikes you the most about it all?
I want an ambitious man with a lot of money and a great career; however, NO ONE can buy me.
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Mam, dress size?
Yes! Those who are mad don’t qualify.
Can you become an ambitious woman with a lot of money and a great career?
Girl PERIODT
"You can't be a modern women expecting 1960 treatment" this sentence is gold!
Yeah she got it from KS.
Agreed
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That blonde pixie cut is everything Breeny
Thank you sweetie ❤️
This is good! Thanks for the reality check 💕
Hi @I Am Eloho!!🙋🏾♀️💕☺
It’s the unicorn for meeee
ELOHO!
Hello 👋
Thank you boo 😘
Women you don't need a rich man but don't get no dusty either. Hard working man that cherish you, respects you, with good ethics and can put a roof over your head and take care of his children. No lazy, small minded dusties. You must also do your part, be femanine and respect him.
Don't get on our nerve when we reject an unattractive or dark skin lady....
@@bibinthomas5282 its ok to have beauty preference . just dont be loud about it lol
@@iamrodoshi2442 wdym loud about it,i don't give a fk if im racist or not....im never gonna be with a girl im not attracted to
@@bibinthomas5282 this is the epitome of "fighting the air".
@@Aiibh I swear xD
I’ve dated rich men before and I must say, they ain’t sh*t
Same. Most of them are overrated and have deep running issues.
@@Misssixty510 so true ! Very narracist
Rich men look at themselves as the prize because they feel like it will be easy to get a women since it’s what women want now at days
@Supermodel Chick how about a man that just satisfies your needs/wants no matter the money he makes.
Amen sis. That was the most miserable I have been my entire life. I was like his property in his mind. Got my college degree and now I work in technology. Happiest I have ever been 🙌🏽
On Basketball wives they spoke about how their life looks lavish but we don’t see the lonely nights
Yeah also the ladies on Wags🥴
Lonely with 👜👜👜👜👜👜💅 nails done hair done...
Everything done....hypergamy is real.
Y’all be watching that ?
Every point HIT !!! I even learned a lot from watching this. You said it all. 💯💕
I love your channel! Hi Queen! 🥺💖
@@BGOlife hiiiii 👋🏾 💕👑
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Chioma!!!
Chioma ❤
You’re so on point! This desire for “high value men” definitely stems from women growing up in poverty. We’re also going through times of financial insecurity so marrying rich seems like an easy solution. Also in most cultures women have been raised to marry well and that’s reasonable but the problem is that people take it to an extreme. It’s not either Elon Musk or an unemployed guy in his 30s who still lives with his mom.
Poverty might be a factor for many but there's the fact that, for most of history and in many cultures, women just do not have a choice. Rich or poor. Being property to be sold to the highest bidder available was and is a reality for some women. Education, self-worth, safety, choice, a career? If you are lucky enough to live in a time and place you are even allowed to choose to and have any of these, expect to be taught he will always be more successful, bc simply, men are given opportunities women simply aren't all the time. One can be made to think you need men to enable your chances of becoming independent even.
Smh 🤦🏿 I am just learning this now, I never wanted a rich person. I just want someone I can build with .
Coincidently there is a video on youtube of Elon's Musk's first wife describing their marriage together, and its basically what Breeny said here, almost textbook.
"High value man" is not a rich men yall slow "high value" is character and ambition
@@onlykay5023 Depends on the definition
A lot of these "high value men" don't even want to get married but they still think they're high value.. 🤷🏽♀️
Facts 😂
Because not wanting to get married devalues a man? Then I guess women that don’t want kids lose value too, right?
@@RaffineDebauche Yes not wanting to get married devalues a man. No one wants to be your baby mamma. 👍
@@shomshomni2314 well this system does f*** men over at the end when it comes to divorce .men are smart for not getting married until the laws change
@@kingc1198 It's cool if you don't want to get married. You're just not high value to a woman.
Every time that I have made the mistake of " dating down" I end up with someone who treats me like garbage that being said " dating up" does not always neccesarily mean dating a rich guy sometimes it just means dating someone who challenges you to grow as a person. To me a man can never be a " high value man" if all he cares about is money and looks. That is a shallow man with no real " substance" Those things are not valuable to me.
💯 I married poor, broke man. I rather be with a man who can provide a middle or upper middle class lifestyle for me.
I want to choose to work. Not be with a man who needs my income to live.
This woman is heaven sent🥺🥺❤️❤️
Omds I thought it was just me. Beautiful isn't even the word - the crush I have on her! If only..
She is💕💕
She ok but she be lying sometimes frfr KS the only one I know that tell the absolute truth..
Yesss!! She is❤👑🙌🏾
I'm so happy I found her!💕
I can't believe how prominent in today's society it is to idolise rich men! They definitely won't save you and it's soo important to have your self esteem and worth and have your own things going on! 💞
I think it was always a part of society though. It's just more glaringly obvious with social media platforms
Read a history book, this has always been the case, power comes with money and money comes with power.
Talking from experience, I met my ex partner when I was working full time and one of the things he told me when we first met was "whether you work or don't work, I'll always look after you". And he did. I worked and he still provided. When we were married I chose to stay home as I wanted to rest, focus on being a wife and have a baby. He continues to financially provide. After baby was born, I worked part time teaching from home. He still financially provided. We are no longer together and guess what : he still financially provides monthly for me and the children, although I work. It really also depends on the character of the man. Sometimes you really can have both. There are plenty of men who are happy to take the alpha male stand and look after their woman and family and are fine with their lady having a job, whether it be part time or otherwise. Many housewives have their own businesses and when the men are that rich they also provide staff for the house such as books, nannies, drivers etc to help the woman. It is possible to have it all and lot need to choose one or the other 😊
That's a goal for my future husband.
I've heard some of these "high value men" gurus on youtube that tell women that a high value man is allowed to cheat on you, just because they have the money to buy you nice things they're allowed to cheat
Exercising options not cheating
@Marly B allowed doesnt mean he has to
@@b_a_5_k_i453 cheating is cheating, for example just because you're given permission to lie doesn't change the fact that you are still lying
@@peachyrisziiekitaba4013 nah, you know what you are getting yourself into so...not cheating
@@b_a_5_k_i453 your statement doesn't deny the fact that cheating is an action. Like I said, just because you're given permission to do something does not change the action itself
Even a poor man will have expectations of his wife regardless of her employment status. In marriage when compromise is met one person will have given up their right for the good of the union. It will sting less and you'll recover faster if you chose to partner with a man that you trust, love and respect.
“Happy women aren’t flexing”-Breeny
It’s important for every woman to established herself financially and “have her own” but to be realistic our natural biologies as women makes us more inclined to seek partners that are financially able to provide so that in case of a pregnancy we feel safe and secure knowing our men can hold it down until you can work again. When this discussion becomes distorted is when women are deliberately seeking the thrill of wanting to be with a rich man (as glamorized in mainstream female rap) for all the perks and materialistic motives, you are what you attract. If the intention is to use a man as a come up or to get things then rest assure he will be using you too.
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OMG.👏👏👏. Thank you.
Facts!!!
Even some broke husbands are control freaks, it's all about the mentality sis
Exactly! Control freaks, cheaters, immature, etc.
@@enmodelife Mhmm, liars, manipulators, etc. I’m so over men I’m generally at this point 🥱🛀
Yea, but you can still yell at him!
@@mybeautifuljourney7540 I will get angry or feisty at any man, regardless of income level, if need be. I guess that's why they keep trying to come back...for the challenge LOL! The ones with money know I PREFER to have them, but they know I am capable of getting other wealthy options, just like they have other options of beautiful women. So they tend to not act-up too badly with me 😂😂😂
Why'd you pick them?
Any woman/girl reading this. You are worthy. You deserve a man that adores you & respects you. You can make 6+ figures. You can live a fulfilling life with or without a man. Be patient. Don’t settle for a man that doesn’t treat you right because you feel you can’t do any better. Choose peace. A relationship doesn’t define who you are. You define YOU. Take breaks from social media. Prioritize self-care.
You are worthy. ✨🦋💫
❤️
Thanks
I hate that we only teach this to women. I want yall to start telling man at young age that they will find a woman who will take care of them and love them. Women are literally conditioned from childhood to seek a partner and " love " sickening.
A stay at home mom or housewife isn't a step backwards 🙄, my mom was briefly when raising us (she's an accountant), after her kids were in high school she started working again part time, and she's happy and accomplished so 🤷🏽♂️. Women choosing to take care of their families isn't oppression. I might do the same also
Forreal, it's in a woman's nature to want to take care and nurture her family. I don't like how women who choose to take care of their family and home are looked at as less than especially when statistics show women who are single, over 30 and make over 100k a year are the least happiest.
honestly, I've met people who just wanted to be housewives. No judgment or anything... I feel like People who don't want to be housewives and people who do.... Just can't understand each other... You're either one or the other.
@@barracuda-s5r ikr, it's fine for a woman to work and have opportunities and all. But if a women who's clearly a professional, or just a worker , decides to spend time to focus on her family, I don't see how she's why she's seen as causing women to regress in society.
@@armamia.1701 exactly career women should stick fully to their own lane. And there are even levels to the whole independent, career woman lifestyle. A woman who works and has a kid with her husband, is different from say the American Vice president. She never had a child, and got married at 50 🤷🏽♂️, so does that mean women should follow that blue print to fully shatter the supposed glass ceiling?
@Itzdebbieawooo That’s not a housewife
Not all of this is true . My husband is wealthy and we are the same age . He’s putting me through school and we have a kid together. I Cook, clean & do what he ask of me & he does the same for me. There’s nothing wrong with being submissive to your husband if he is the RIGHT one.
That's why she said majority of those men. Not all of them
She didn't say all.. it seems like your husband has character as well as money
Then he’s a good man . His parents did well 💯
Finally a woman that gets it. All these women wanna be the man.
@@ANewJerusalem777 how does that not sound good as a woman? And how am I giving FALSE props? DUH im doing all the school work myself it’s like me saying a scholarship didn’t get you through school you did.. girl I don’t understand what your argument is , you reaching for real.
I don’t know if anyone else has noticed but Aunty Breeny has been giving us new looks from the thumbnails, titles, to the outfits, change of background, etc. I love how you continue to always level up Breeny and come with the best content! Love you so much ❤️
Thank you bubs ❤️
Calling someone Aunty in public platform is weird
There’s no such thang as a “free hand out “
So true
True
My mummy told me this from a very young age, men won't give you anything for free
My mum said exactly same thing to me
@@elizabethtangata326 I was told the same thing nothing in life is free
As a fan of Disney growing up even Disney princesses went against their norms. Jasmine got Aladdin, Pocahontas got John Smith, Belle got Beast... the list goes on. But those men had... C H A R A T E R.
@3Fresh Lade Aladdin was a theif out of the terms of survival but that didn't compromise his good natured heart. He lied to Jasmine out of shame for who he was not to be malicious. Beast wasn't abusive just short tempered but he knew this and was also ashamed yet Belle saw the person he wanted to learn to be and worked with him. John Smith had a misunderstanding of the Natives but was willing to learn their ways and change other's perspective.... let's not confuse flaws with character integrity.
@3Fresh Lade They were imperfectly good men. The flaws they were had (Aladdin being a thief and the beast being short tempered) were defense mechanisms due to the environment they’re in. They recognized their faults and with the encouragement of the women they love, changed for the better.
Beauty and the beast is bullshit and shouldn't be fed to little girls. He was abusive! You forgot he kidnapped her father, released him to have her be the victim instead, locked her up in a room, and yelled at her to starve if she didn't want to eat with him? lmao yea, a real gentleman. We shouldn't teach little girls that that's CHARACTER. Nor should we believe that that's what it is.
@3Fresh Lade Exactly.
@@lari13s keep thinking that you can change a man. It's goina get you somewhere you don't want to be. The last thing ANY woman should look to for love or dating advice is Disney lmao
Thank you for speaking on this. I see girls on tiktok all day talking about being a “stay at home girlfriend”, being spoiled, taken care of and living care free and I wanted that for myself. I’m starting to realize that’s not the road to happiness though. Depression, sickness, death and other challenges will still come. You need a partner that treats you as their equal and sees your worth outside of your beauty and cooking skills. I am now starting my own business and praying for my future husband. I pray that my sisters will find their purpose and pursue that the same way they want to pursue a rich man. Peace and blessings 💗
Hi dear,
Alex Johnson
I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am.
I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with.
I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes.
I’m from Austin, Texas United States.
I’m about 5.9ft tall, 35 years of age.
Are you married now or single?
i hope your mental health is well breeny 💕
This is the comment!
I am thank you sweetie xx
There’s the narrative out there that if a man is rich, it automatically means you’ll have a great life. Everything that glitters isnt gold 😬👀
There's nothing wrong with preferring rich men, but be careful not to make an idol out of money. People with money usually have a lot of power and can have control over you if you let them. A man is not a good man just because he has money, he must also have good character and make you feel safe and comfortable. Don't give up ladies! There are lots of good men who are also rich.
Hows it going for you?
Factsssss he’s not gonna want a busy woman he needs a woman who’s focused on him
AND the kids AND household🙄
Do you think a man likes a busy woman ?
@@moliereshakespeare3730 is she sweet is she pretty.. born a woman? than yes
So TRUE!
@Damien Jones she should be busy by taking care of the house, your kids and you.
My mom was a stay at home wife to my dad until she passed. I watched my father deny her pantyhose and coats because he didn’t want her to leave the house. It was extremely oppressive for her. Sure, he paid all of her/our expenses, he also caged her. I don’t want to be caged. I’m sorry sisters, dying alone is not a threat to me when I’ve witnessed women die of heartbreak. Treat me well and that’s on period. I only have one heart. I will work and pay my bills in a modest and humble way thankfully. I thank God for my spiritual development.
@Shreya Gautam Aww dear one, hang in there until you can improve your situation and flee. It’s a part of the journey but I think you can overcome. ❤️
@Esti Avisti already talking to one here.
Your dad sounds like an insecure individual, the question is what attracted your mom to him.
Bless your heart and soul!💗💖💝
I became overwhelmed by emotion reading your testimony. Spiritual development is the ultimate prize.
She is back!!!!! I miss you Breeny.
I'll drink to that 🍾🥂🎇
Ikkkrrrr I am as Happy as you are ❤️
@@andrialex9454 I screamed.😂😂
Love you Breeny ❤️
Makes the two of us😂😂
That's a big trap. U with someone, don't have money on your own. When things end up bad,u end up with nothinggg
True
Or when things go bad, you take half his money you didn't work for.. Big Joke
Then women wonder why men no longer want marriage
@@journee8724
nailed it !
Mom married a rich guy when I was a kid. The pressure of bending over backwards extends to your kids if you had them before marrying him. I grew up feeling on the edge because our stability relied on whether he’s in a bad mood to provide resources for us or not.
Omg, I felt that.
That's because she married a rich with low character
@@prettypoppin_552 that’s because she was probably a gold digger like a lot of u women are and he was smart enough to realise it hence why he sent the signal of if she ever fucked around she was going to find out the hard way.
True, giving yourself so fully to a rich man is literally like selling your soul.
Yeah. Sure. Next thing you will say is that dating a handsome guy is selling your soul lol
Obviously we all know not all rich men are heartless but I was referencing the ones who are actually like that, thought that was common sense by now. But I know a lot of these high value men who really give zero fucks about women in general and the good kind are a minority trust me, so to the majority that are heartless yes being with them is like selling your soul bcoz in the end it never ends well, I know plenty of girls who even contracted diseases from these type of men, some had an unimaginable number of abortions and cannot conceive when they finally want to settle, so I'm talking about something I know not heard rumors about
And everything that was spoken here are facts, I'm not saying that don't go for these type of men and as stated in the video if u find urself in a space with these men vert them well. And no one is saying don't go there, do it if that makes you happy the message is just that you should just know what your getting yourself into. And again same applies for a good looking man, if he's into u and u like him go there and be with him no 1 is stopping u but just know just because he looks like an angel doesn't mean he's one
@@veelooolove4118 i mean. Lets not act like all the hoes and crazy b*** are not after the rich guys. So if it actually turned out that most rich guys dont give a f*** about girls i wouldnt be surprised really.
Giving yourself fully to ANY man is like selling your soul. Dating poor guys doesn't make you virtuous.
I swear this woman is drop dead gorgeous.. And then what she says is just *chefs kiss. The rescuing complex and how it links to childhood is so real. #StopLivingThatDisneyDream #CultureWatcher
So on point....The culture is living out its trauma. And she is gorgeous!
I went to a women's college 25 years ago, so feminism was Class 101 in that school. They did however make a couple of good points.
For instance, they taught us to get a degree and some career experience not only for self-edification but also for survival. Not only if the man leaves, what if he dies or gets into an accident where now you have to take care for him and the children.
So you definitely want to have your own assets whether they be intellectual or financial. "Smart Women Finish Rich" by David Bach is a good book on this subject.
Dating rich/wealthy men today is overrated . There’s not many of them anyways . Just most who dress the part and know how to bait women .
@LaTeia Deiónn ask a image consultant to rate you that way you can work on your teeth body and facially features. That best way to get a rich man is to compete in beaty and feminine energy. $30k can fix everything on your body
@@thefinancialdominatrix9533 ma'am, your comments are godawful. Based on them I suspect that you're a dude masquerading as a woman. Let people live. God.
@@iambloopy nope, I live in Los Angeles where women spend thousands on their bodies to compete for rich men
@@thefinancialdominatrix9533 There is NOTHING wrong with this ladies' face!
@@SuperShepard1 are you a transwoman?
Only a man can say if a woman is pretty or not
Only a woman can say if a man is cut or not
I love how you made this video because girls wanted the rich man is so thrown into our faces today and I don't think these girls relies what they're getting themselves into
How about not crying at all?.. in an equal relationship.
Realise*
You probably are right but what exactly are they getting themselves into? If you don't mind me asking.
@@iambloopy a lot of rich man are looking for a prop and not a partner so you have to look 10/10 ALWAYS or else they WILL go find better because of all the options they have but even so MOSR OF THEM CHEAT ON THERE PARTNERS ! because theirs always better out there and like I said in the beginning they don’t tend to go into relationship for “love”. They can also be VERY controlling because money comes with power and so they always prefer to have a women dependant on them so that it’s easier to control.
@@alishau3054 oh wow, I never realised that. Thank you for telling me ✨
My Mum ALWAYS taught and raised me to have and make my OWN money and never to be financially reliant on anyone but especially a man. I guess she was speaking from her own experiences and as I witnessed her struggle, from that I always saw money = control/power. Independency and self sufficiency to me is SO key!
High quality man >>> high value ($). I have my own money , as a man yes be financial stable especially if we’re going to have a family but ALSO have morals .
Many women think money is all to life . Saying “sis secure the bag or stay were the bag Is secure”. Like girl if the money not in ur name then it’s not yours .
This is true but NOT ALL woman but many are letting this happen. They don't speak out and tell woman to stop trying to be lazy and live off of someone else's money.
This
Sugardaddy complex is skyrocket these days. Poor women loose their souls ...
Some woman are just looking for extra cash but I see many woman are doing it to avoid actually working.
I am on a mission to retrieve my soul fragments
@Mind yours I agree. As I mentioned before extra cash is good so you can move forward in life and isn't bad but some SB are just looking to 100% not work at all.
@@damienresendez I have always worked. I like my independence. If it when I have a partner I like to know that I'm contributing to the bigger picture
@@Rubigirl33 and there is nothing wrong with that and I completely hope you find or achieve whatever it's is in life your are seeking. Many people in both genders are quite lost.
Still in my 20s but I have always attracted a certain kind of guy: Doc lawyer entrepreneurs. Dating an 8 figure guy is NOT it. He wanted me to drop out of my masters program so we travel the world and I can become a housewife. I'm still a virgin and we align on so many principles but I had to dump him because my education is an investment and no man is worth it. In freshly single but I feel better.
Stay the course ladies. Be your own boss and before you settle down make sure you have finished investing in yourself and single freedom. Education and personal financial stability is *key*
How did u find him?? 😳
preach sis,
OMG! This is so me. Recently I dated a guy who told me he was super rich and stuff. He was really good and we kinda of git along well. But I really wanted to invest in my education and finish my studies whereas he was into looking for a woman who will only be his wife , not studying looking out for his business, ect. Had to choose. I though I did a great mistake but what you said just comforted me in my decision
@@isabellalora6533 he found me. I was just going to professional events trying to learn more about astrophysics and some new technologies.
Just dive into something you love or something you're interested in. Then network! You never know who you might meet. Just know there's good, great, and terrible men out there. Even those that are wealthy can be nightmarish.
@@irambonajasmine8155 investing in your education was the right choice! You can have a beautiful life and be educated. The right man will want to provide for you without making you sacrifice the things that are important to you.
Your skin tone, your beauty, your wisdom. Damn!!! A Queen 👸🏾
Right???!
Right??👑👑👑
I cannot sell my soul just to look good on the outside. I'm an inward-outwards person so that can never be me, I'd probably become depressed and then suicidal. I'm probably wired differently because of being by raised by a decent father who just provided for his family.
You watch too much drama
@@b_a_5_k_i453 Negative 🙂
I was essentially raised by a single mother, but I would not live like that, nor would I become suicidal. I’d walk away and live independently.
@@droosyg252 yeah, I hear you. Probably I was being too dramatic lol but yeah, knowing myself and not standing for BS, I'd LEAVE too.
@@felicia_rm nah the problem is nobody wants to build anymore like your mom did with your father
They all want the already rich, but understand that he got there relying solely on himself so he wont tollerate any bs
“Happy women are not flex-in” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾that’s a WHOLE WORD
Lol the skillshare was a smooth transition
;)
Facts
I swear to god I was thinking the sammmmme thing right as I read this comment I see the smooth ad she slide in there
Thanks for saying that not everyone wants to be a housewife. , it's true. I'm currently a housewife. I now like it, but in the beginning I wanted to jump out the window. My husband is a mid-level engineer at a tech company. There's ALOT of work that goes into hosting dinner parties, kids' education, moving every 12-18 months. About the money thing, he met me when I was a successful real estate agent. I'm college educated, so he knows my earning potential. Maybe because we are the same age and we married when he was just starting out. His money is our money. I don't ask him for money (that is degrading). Also, make sure you MARRY. Marriage protects you because you get half. If that's not the rule in your state, put it in writing.
I've found that couples who have the same values stay together longer. Rearing of children, building wealth, ect is about LEGACY. There's a huge difference between men getting lots of new money or men who want money to build something bigger. Look at Jay Z now v 2003 Jay Z. Legacy matters. Certain circles care more about that than others.
This is such a good point! It’s like everyone forgets that marriage exists! Thank you for sharing 👑❤️
Great comment.
My sentiments exactly! MARRIAGE is the key difference here. If you both hold the same values, principles and views on how to raise a family and live before you marry, chances are it will work, whatever set up you and your partner go for.
@Crave Info So is she not supposed to have compensation for giving up her potential earnings to be a housewife? She's losing out on income, and potentially retirement savings(assuming her husband isn't making contributions for her).
Exactly. You get access to the accounts and your own credit card. You start your own savings and investment accounts. I have no idea where the idea came from about always asking for money or not having your own.
Rich men treat everyone as pawns and toys they get tired of. I love providing for myself and being my own rock. It's less drama and headache🙂 Appreciate your TRUTHFUL CONTENT💋
Forget a “high value man”, give me a God fearing man please 😭
Hi dear,
Alex Johnson
I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am.
I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with.
I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes.
I’m from Austin, Texas United States.
I’m about 5.9ft tall, 35 years of age.
Are you married now or single?
@@alexjohnson2693 Good morning Alex :) I am single but not currently looking to date at the moment. I did say that I want a God-fearing man, just not at THIS moment. I don't think this is the season to be looking for companionship, for me at least. However, I do pray that God sends you the woman that he has set aside for you, all in His time :)
@@iamruthlouis5599 Amen!
I appreciate your advice my dear.
But I’ll appreciate if we can talk more privately if you don’t mind ..
God fearing men cheat the most hahahah
@IAMRUTHLOUIS So you are practicing celibacy at moment is what you're saying.
My dad was a high value man,aircraft engineer who turned out to be a malignant narcissist and cheated on my mom for years. High Value is garbage, it's better to have a man who can make the money but is stable minded
Has the basic capacity for empathy and accountability and is emotionally secure too, I would add.
If you actually check the definition according to the Guy in the videos thumbnail you'd see that all those characteristics are part of it not just the money component.
@Esti Avisti so are rich women, they are also entitled to sleep with anyone.
@@eastafrika728 really? Rich women cheat on their husbands too? 😳
@@isabellalora6533 are you living in wonderland?
This is definitely a conversation that needs to happen everyone wants idea of a rich man but not the lifestyle that comes with being a rich man
sometimes the gifts are given to pacify her from reacting to some foolery he's doing behind the scenes. not all that glitters is gold.
“Your love language is quality time right” 😭😭😭 LMAO
I was surprised mine was when I took the tests like 4 times it was first on the list
A lot of these men want wives but don’t want to be HUSBANDS 🤔
This rite here💯💯💯
Y’all i don’t get it at all
What's your definition of a husband? Because a lot of what a man thinks is providing, protecting and leading the family. Which means less time with the actual family at times.
A lot of these women want a husband and money but don't want to be wives. How ironic is that 🤔
@@itsruffoutchea6636 how ironic is it that I don’t give a fuck 🤷🏾♀️
I have dated 2 really rich rich riiiich men and man they have way too much insecurities I got no time to “fix”their brokenness😩🤦🏽♀️. Both had issues with my independence, the fact that I don’t “need”them. Boy I don’t “need”no man I choose who I “want” to be with that is the difference. They don’t tolerate the fact that you are aware of your value by not settling , putting down your standards just because they have money! I broke up with one telling him « you have to know that you will never EVER have enough money to buy,shut down my freedom , thank you goodbye »he tried EVERYTHING (even the most craziest things damn)to get me back but nope my parents haven’t raised a broken woman I’m GOOD😊
Thats not being "insecure" you both had different priorities. That's fine you should have known what you were getting into before you signed up for it.
You really out here risking your life like it ain’t nothing smh 🤦🏽♀️ this place has to go completely thruu x2 🤮🤮🤮🤮
omg!!! i can't believe how timely this video is! I was randomly getting jealous of women elon musk dated because he's a billionaire haha but then i read an article by his first wife about how his marriage actually was and uh....it was really not pleasant..and i would actually be miserable living like that.. all that glitters really isn't gold. Something that is so shiny and glitzy really is all surface...
If Megan Markel isn’t happy being kept in a palace. Shows you the Disney fairytale isn’t all what it’s cracked up to be. I dated a wealthy man for a while and it was horrible. I was like his property. Best day of my life was walking away with nothing and starting over. That’s when I really started living
@@cookinghealthy8049 stop spamming the comments section sis
@Amirah B ofcourse I agree with you. But she's commented the same thing under several other replies and that's why I said she should stop spamming.
@@maameesiarthur1213 😂😂
@Amirah B we'll just be poly as well
Personally, if a man meets all my standards, i could not care less about how much money he has
Don’t you have any standards in your partner’s income? I understand that love important but you will not put love in a pot
Trust me....you care. YOU CARE
You say that thinking that will get you chosen.
You will attract Mr. Dusty Bucket, $37k yr job with 574 credit score and several baby mamas.
You are manifesting poverty and struggle. STOP!!!
A woman knows finances matter in romance. Only young girls believe in that Disney fairytale bs
I did have a brief experience with a rich man ( I wasn't looking for it, he approached me). He did try to buy me with material things and made fun of me for being "too independent" when I refused to accept his offers. Later he turned out to act crazy when I also refused to cater to all his sexual needs and tried to make me jealous triangulating me with other women. Girls, be very careful when dealing with these men. Most of them, especially if they're self-made, are narcissists (I'm surprised Breeny didn't use that word) and so money-oriented that they don't know how to have a meaningful relationship with a woman.
I was gonna add narcissism to my comment on this video but it seems to be such a sensitive and/or hot topic online. My observation is that most of them are....
Who else got excited to see the notification?😊😊 Glad to have you back Breeny
That melanin is seriously poppin'. You look so beautiful!
At the end of the day, i’d rather be with a non “high value” man in a beautiful relationship rather than deal with the bs some of them bring by thinking they can treat you however as long as they’re bringing the coin.
Amen!!! 🙌💜 Real Love is where it’s AT!
They buy you
So they can Be unfaithful and triangulate you with other women
Sometimes I think to myself is all the gifts and money worth all the pain , unhappiness and embarrassment that some of these women experienced dating a rich man 💔 😢🥵😤😳😫
People only do to you what you allow them to do to you.
Every bag and bracelet comes with a price tag. I have been there done that. Was with a wealthy man and after a year he treated me like I was property and eventually was okay was even okay with putting his hands on me. Never again. Independence is where it’s at
@@cookinghealthy8049 aww, thats what I'm working on. Love u❤ samuels is full of bs
@@viennala2528 the earlier the better sis. Best day of my life was walking away with nothing he gave me and starting over from scratch. Got my degree in technology and that’s when I started living 🙏🏾
@Light4you thanks sis 💝
Breeny!!! I wish you put this video out like 2 years ago 🥲🥲🥲 I’m 26 now but almost 3 years ago I was dating a “rich guy” who was really selfish and never had time for anything (but apparently had the time to talk to 3 other girls behind my back 🧐). He was very unstable (and a player) lol. But my dumbass still wanted him so I put up with it and tried to make a relationship work but it was nearly impossible bc of his immaturity. I got out of that and now I’m happily with someone who treats me a LOTTTT better. The guy I’m seeing now is also financially well off (not as much as the rich guy tho) and quite a bit older than me but he actually treats me the way I deserve to be treated. I was young and naive but I learned a lot since then. At the end of the day I realized it’s not about the money, I just want a man who treats me right. A man can still treat you like a queen and princess without having to be a billionaire. What good is being with someone whos “rich” but doesn’t have time for you or even respect you? I’d rather just stay single then 🤷🏻♀️
I’m 24 I was in a relationship with a wealthy 48 year old man and you just literally described the whole relationship. What you are doing for us is powerful and I’m beyond grateful you made this ❤️
That's whyyyy, i own myselfffff, I'm with a guyyy, I'm not to be controlled. We are both free to be ourselves
Lmao society really sold women lies Aunty came to burst bubbles.
:)
She's not bursting bubble, she's just sharing the truth. So much negativity.
"My momma said marry a rich man, but I was like, 'Momma, I am that rich man'" -Destiny Rogers
The funny thing is I’m SCARED to marry a rich man lol. I always feel like he will have power over me. I wanna be like Kandi burrus.
I intentionally date broke men because I can always kick him out if he say the wrong thing to me.
The hilarious part is they have character demands of women but have zero character standards for themselves just because they have money. Sigh! High Value with shitty character is still lower than Walmart great value 😂. It’s disgusting!
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@Status DMG With all due disrespect, you sound like you have low comprehension if that’s what you got off my message.
Rich men are being attacked but they are still getting all the 10s. I hate that I'm poor 😭😭😭 ladies just 🧢🧢.
@@stephenkamau2591 haha I see you my fresh and fit bro. I tip my no 🧢 to you.
@Status DMG where did the word all come up in her comment? People who misconstrue words for the sake of confrontation on the internet are annoying.
I'm just waiting for the day Kevin Samuels gets exposed like Derrick Jaxn.
He did a year ago
What happened with Derrick Jaxn?
Same girl. Any man making a career off preaching to women is suspect for me
Kevin Samuels makes money off women and degrades them a minute later. He doesn't respect women, only women he perceives are worthy. Any men saying "high value women" and "high value man" are putting a price tag on people and treating them accordingly based off some weird code of ethics. I agree 100%
@@RachelNdumia1 I'm positive there's 10x more about him that hasn't been revealed yet. Starting with his sexuality
I'm 21 and I was in a "relationship" with a well off 45 year old. He always tried to control me with his money. He thought because he had money that I would do whatever he said and wanted . Once I finally realized that he just looked at me as an object and was trying to groom me, I left . Another thing to add, I am a Christian practicing restraining from sex & he was not going for it. He expected me to always have sex with him whenever he wanted . That was the deal breaker for me. I will always put my relationship with Jesus first !
I'm glad you made it out safely. Grown men and women that "date" people 15+ years younger... It is very odd power dynamic. Especially when the younger person is newly an adult (18-23).
It's predatory for a man old enough to be a girl's father to groom them into being a sexual partner. How would they feel if their own daughter were in this same situation... AMEN 🙌 to you- being true to God is beautiful!
Always have boundaries no matter what!
From my personal experience, I 100% approve this video.
she’s so on point! Rich man like to be in CONTROL, that’s why they tend to be with “passive, quiet, sweet” type of woman. The moment you dare to speak up, they quickly become offended (their ego is fragile) by anything you do or say.
Finally someone said it.theres this interview with ”the minorites” in the ”freshandfit” channel,and the guys there were talking about how a guy is allowed to cheat sinse he got money and he will take care of you.some of these males (not men) nowdays are getting next level comfortable with their toxicness.
Women that want that lkind of man will have to deal with it. They do say that if youre dating an average man then you shouldn't accept any of that from him. Arend honestly the girls that come on that show are hella confused
@@peremoboeresd No woman likes to get cheated,they get silenced and brainwashed/manipulated into thinkinh they are suppose to take that.u shouldnt accept that kind of behaviour from anyone,regardless of their status,but i do agree the women on that show for some reason arent 100%mentally there,its like the hosts pick the most insecure women to proove their point because those women cannot stand for themselves :/
@@Ihavemadeit999 those are the women in Miami that message them. Those women go to Miami to find men like these and they have a lot of cap. I understand where they're coming from tho as I understand where your coming from. Cheating and lying about it is 100x worse than being upfront and saying this might happen but I love you and will only take care of you. Of course this is only okay if the man is capable in ALL ways. not just being rich, but being the whole package.
@@Ihavemadeit999 We can not like it. Noone expects us to like it. Just have to accept it when it happens for the greater good of the legacy that you're trying to build with this man. Or you leave.
@lolz lolz they are pretty lame ...I used to think they were pretty cool but I notice they just repeat the same talking points about HVM being more of a prize . They get young ladies to appear on their show to sit there and not engage in real discussions that makes them look dumb....Basically just to tear a woman down...Yet none of the men would leave Miami or that lifestyle...
Hell I love being a housewife 😂 it’s mad easy. You don’t have to “ask” for anything, you tell them what is wanted and you shall receive. My man doesn’t make plans and just do it that’s a no no, but you may have to move.!!! It’s not like you’re just by yourself and all that, or just doing just for him. Any car he buys me gets put in my name 🤷🏽♀️ But it is a different life.! And all men are DIFFERENT ladies.! Broke or rich he can still have shitty morals
This is really nice.. i wish to someday be a stay at one wife too!
😳...this video kind of scared me. I know a man with a money who is always talking about marriage, but I don’t feel I’ll be comfortable with him. Even as I was watching, it made me think about how he was so bold to let me know he had options. I felt insulted. I feel like he keeps trying to get at me for sport and he’s not sincere
Sounds like it’s for sport. Run!
He trying to manipulate you. Create distance. Sounds like a Narc too. If he has options let the options have him
His options can have him. Run
I'm a male and even I say run as fast as you can.
Wow fam. Thank you!!! It’s been a real dilemma bc we’ve known each other for 10 years. We have talked a bit more “seriously” the past two years. But it’s been disappointing. I think I needed some outside opinion about this issue. Thank you 💞💞💞
If more women like Breeny spoken out more about this topic.Than there would not be a Kevin Samuels.
Very true...
This comment is enough proof that western women are lost
@@journee8724 pickmes
@@NoName-sp5dp S.I.G.N 🤣🤣
Literally everything she’s saying is exactly what Kevin Samuels is saying. There’s a lot more to what he’s depicted as and you can’t really understand what he’s trying to accomplish through small soundbytes. Most of his content is hours long and takes time to digest.
Agree with you 100%. This is the exact reason why I worked my ass off to get into medical school and become a doctor, despite coming from a rich family and having several opportunities to marry fabulously wealthy men. I’ll never put myself in a position where I need anyone besides myself and God. Not my father, not a husband, no one. Because when you need a man to sustain you, you will accept maltreatment and disrespect in order to maintain your lifestyle. Thank you for making this video. More, please.
Damn straight! Preach!
Everything in this video is so true. I dated a man 10 yrs older than me when I was 20 and it was fun getting all the gifts and going out to nice restaurants. But he constantly wanted me to be available whenever he wanted and if I wasn't he would act as if I was a child and speak down to me.
Ten years is a big age gap.
If he did not have much money he'd be condescending either way.
@@ST-yc7uj he lied to me about his age and by the time i found out i thought i was in love and just brushed it off but in the back of my mind it always bugged me