I'm a young black girl and I've been told that "I don't act black" because I'm very reserved and have a particular way of speaking. I have family members who are in prison, do drugs, and are gangbangers. And even more family who had children very young, and are to this day unmarried with multiple kids. We need to do better. It breaks my heart to see us like this. No other race is as divided as we are.
Stay far away from people who say shit like that. You won’t get anywhere in life if you surround yourself with ignorant people like that. Anytime someone says that shit to me, I automatically know to keep my distance.
I honestly don't understand how black Americans don't feel utterly insulted that "acting black" means being late, low test scores, mispronouncing words etc. if I were a black man I would feel completely insulted that there are absolute lower expectations for me. If I were a black man hired via affirmative action or diversity policies, I wouldn't want the job. White liberals enact these policies expecting easy black votes. Someday black Americans will realize they are being condescended to. That they ARE just as capable and intelligent as us white Americans. Thomas Sowell is one of the few black academics who has never backed down from speaking against corrosive behavior from any demographic.
What's sad about that I see and maybe it's just me but the blacks that want better are automatically called white. The message that sends is at the end of the day they themselves are saying the white race does a better job with their lives than the black race.
Great video. I'm European, I'm white, I'm male, and I'm old. We are worlds apart, but I feel connected on a human and moral level. If you were my neighbor, we would be friends. Everything you describe, I recognize. And believe me, it's not only a problem in the black community. Keep doing what you're doing, To many people stay silent.
Im white, 42 years old i live in London England and Please believe me when I say every issue you talk about is not just limited to a black community, I see the exact same issues within the white community, its actually very sad that there is just no personal responsibility or accountability... its a very shameful world we live in, and it's gone too far now, so God knows what it's gonna be like in 10 years' time.
@Featherfinder .. I don't personally believe in God, but you don't need to, to be a decent human with morals and integrity. I've been raised well and so have my children, I of which is now an adult, hoping the cycle continues on to my grandchildren and so on.
Don't overlook who promotes this? The most gutter-like music by Sexy Red was written by a yte man and promoted by a yte company. Most Blacks don't behave in the manner portrayed by media, SO WHY IS IT BEING PROMOTED? Why are the fringe elements of the Black community being promoted -- don't fall for the okey-doke!
black culture and ghetto culture are two different things do you judge all people in white culture because some are poor in live in trailer parks using illegal substances (no) remember black people are not a monolith that eat fried chicken and twerk all day degenerate behavior is not exclusive to black people or the black community if you want to talk about violence white people start wars around the world that cost billions of dollars
Dey still won’t take your name boi Dey have no respect for any of you Maybe you could get a jobbie job Women run African homes….full stop Even on public street you never see the African male driving. He is always riding in his woman’s car.
Hello Thomas. My apologies. I am just seeing this response for some reason. Thank you for your kind words and for not only becoming a subscriber, but a member. Welcome to the family! ❤️
My own dad berated, insulted, and yelled slurs at me because I said that black people need to stop covering felons and start taking accountability (I was assaulted by a black man but was told to shut up because I was mixed and they didn’t want a “brotha” in jail) And it was that moment that I lost most respect for him. He bullied my brother and I for being half white, abused his power in the house hold, and at points attacked me for having different ideas from him He’s getting better now, but 20 years of that doesn’t get erased after one year of help
Hello, I'm mixed too but have only grown up with my white mother and I think this is horrible and you shouldn't of been treated like this at all. It was HIS choice to sleep with the woman not your's. I mainly wanted to say this because growing up mixed is hard, especially when I was dark making me stick out in my all white neighborhood. I just feel like if we don't belong in the white community nor the black, we should try and form a strong bond between each other. Stay strong brother/sister.
@hxjjdjd606 U are on point . I'm sick and tired of this (NO snitching) in Africa American community. That's why so much crime is committed knowingfully well no one pointing finger at u .
Your father is a hypocrite. He berates you for being half-white, but he's the one who helped make you. He hates himself and he's jealous of you, and that's not your problem. I'm so relieved that my biracial nieces don't date blk men. I'd suggest you do the same. Keep being beautiful. ❤
The curse of Fatherless in the community. An old African proverb says " an old bull elephant keeps the young rogue elephants from trampling the garden "
Look up where Africa really is. LOOK UP, All places called Africa... Now, what you're saying is ALKEBULAN... My ancestors weren't from ALKEBULAN... So far as fatherless, The father's back then had sense... Think about it!
54% of BW choose to make babies outside of marriage with 16% of BM. Plus 90% of welfare to single mothers. Along with the you go girl arrogance. It's time to take responsibility.
54% of BW choose to make babies outside of marriage with 16% of BM. Plus 90% of welfare to single mothers. Along with the you go girl arrogance. It's time to take responsibility.
I’m a 14 year old black girl who’s about to be in high school when summer ends. One of the biggest issues is kids and teenagers. Most of us don’t have good role models and just generally aren’t raised well. I live in Jackson MS, so where I am, the issues facing this community are extremely prevalent. Honestly, it saddens me just being around my classmates. Many of the boys want to be gangbangers and the girls want to be only fans models. I know I’m a kid still and it’s hypocritical for me to say this, but kids these days don’t have aspirations or role models. They don’t have passions or goals, all they really want is to be “cool,” regardless of where they end up. Even further, kids are extremely disrespectful to their teachers like you said. It’s only worsened by new younger teachers who are just graduating college. They’re not mature and encourage the bad behavior by laughing at jokes and even contributing to bullying. Also, parents like you mentioned. My mom is an amazing parent, always encouraging me to be myself and be passionate, but I never really had a father, and that had tremendous mental effects on me that I’ll probably never get rid of. I’ll admit that I’m very fortunate with my circumstances compared to my peers, but these problems are real and affect everyone. Furthermore, many black kids bully other kids who choose to be engaged in learning, follow rules, respect teachers, etc. I always have all A’s in class and put in effort in school to learn. I love learning and always have, and I love following along with the teachers, but other kids harass me for that. They call me a “try hard” and make fun of me for the way I talk because I speak standard English. Honestly it’s all just sad.
It's all jealous acts of others. You'll realize it later in life. Folks that joke on others are usually just jealous they can't have what you have. Weather it's a good attitude to having nicer clothes. Always be kind to others, it goes much further
Keep to what you believe is good behavior. I used to tell my son that he would never marry someone from high school so just to do his best and don't worry about being the most popular. High school ends quickly and you have a whole lifetime to accomplish your goals.
As an independent black male, I don’t give a 💩 about what the black community think about me. I don’t live by the black community rules, agenda, dress, etc. I will always carry myself in a very respectful way in my dressing, my appearance, attitude, professional, etc.
_Unwin also stated "In the past, too, the greatest energy has been displayed only by those societies which have reduced their sexual opportunity to a minimum by the adoption of absolute monogamy (para. 168). _*_In every case the women and children were reduced to the level of legal nonentities, sometimes also to the level of chattels, always to the level of mere appendages of the male estate._*_ Eventually they were freed from their disadvantages, but at the same time the sexual opportunity of the society was extended. Sexual desires could then be satisfied in a direct or perverted manner... _*_So the energy of the society decreased, and then disappeared."_*_ He points out that "No society has yet to succeeded in regulating the relations between the sexes in such a Way as to enable sexual opportunity to remain at a minimum for an extended period." - _*_and thus all societies have collapsed._* - J. D. Unwin, _Sex and Culture_ circa 1930s 💊
Is getting non American blacks up outta here. Wow, they are over here acting rogish and mannish as hell. Good grief they act like black Americans and critique us at the same time.
I'm African-American and girl keep speaking on it! My parents raised us in educated middle class homes. I'm middle age Gen X and I don't recognize the community anymore. It's gross.🤮
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Like I said in the video, there are African-Americans who also hate what's happening and they fear speaking up and out. I know this because I talk to them, I'm friends with them. It's sad. Girl, if people don't enjoy my message, they can choose not to watch or block my channel. It's as simple as that. I'm tired of the foolishness. I live in the US and I want us, as a people, to do better and be better. End of story. Thanks again!
black culture and ghetto culture are two different things do you judge all people in white culture because some are poor in live in trailer parks using illegal substances (no) remember black people are not a monolith that eat fried chicken and twerk all day degenerate behavior is not exclusive to black people or the black community if you want to talk about violence white people start wars around the world that cost billions of dollars
@@ThisBahamianGyal black culture and ghetto culture are two different things do you judge all people in white culture because some are poor in live in trailer parks using illegal substances (no) remember black people are not a monolith that eat fried chicken and twerk all day degenerate behavior is not exclusive to black people or the black community if you want to talk about violence white people start wars around the world that cost billions of dollars
@@ThisBahamianGyal every culture has degenerates and degenerate behvior this stuff is not exclusive to only the black community and black people (turn on the tv and look at all of the wars and destruction some white people create around the world)
As a black woman, it's truly embarrassing that my people have sunk this low. Worse, the words king and queen are given to ignorant fools who don't deserve to even be called that.
it's one thing to feel like a king or queen, on a good day etc., having achieved something outstanding for yourself, however... if you "need" or "insist" to be called a king or queen, there's something seriously wrong with you - you're seriously deluded with your self-importance.
Black culture was WEAPONIZED and MERCHANDISED by the people you can't talk about who worked in collaboration with the alphabet agencies that brought white power into the black community... References: Gary Webb - ' Dark Alliances'. Pastor Stephen Darby's videos: the hidden hand and it's time to see the wizard
I am a white woman who lives in a small town in Oregon and I have to say you are 100% right. These youths today have no respect for anyone or anything not even themselves. I know you are speaking of Black issues but in all it's a National crisis of all our communities. It's heart breaking.
As a white woman I agree 100%. I would like to add this quote: Your diet is not only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read, the people you hang out with and the things you subject your mind and soul to. Always be mindful of the things you put into your body emotionally, spiritually and physically.
Everything said here is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but! I don't understand it but it's fostered through the music, media but most importantly allowed in the homes that ingrain the behavior. This is the lost generation with no direction because the ones before them lost their way, their hope, their pride. I commend you for sending out this message because someone needed to put it out there!
I’m a white lady who stumbled on your channel and I’m glad I did! You are a good role model for women of any race, and I wish more ppl thought and spoke with your eloquence and moral clarity!
Hi. I am a black female who's almost 70, and I agree with you 110%. It is so sad to see what is happening to the black community. I have talked to my daughter and son about this very same topics yesterday and the day before. You could not give me all the tea in China to be 20, 30, 40, or even 50 nowadays. I feel and pray for my people. This is our future. SMH😢
I'm a 73 years young Black American Woman 🖤 who agrees with you 💯 I am continuing praying for my Children, grandchildren and my 1 great Grandchild 🙏.These are perilous times we are living. Wrong is Right is being pushed upon our young adults and youth. We can see the degradation spreading around us everywhere 😢
Black guy here, not from the States, but Europe... I was hanging out at a bus stop, waiting for a friend (white female) when another black dude came up to me in a stereotypical 'hey brother, whazzup?'. Told him, I am waiting for a friend and that she should be here any moment and we will be on our way. 'She? Your GF?' - Nah, just a friend... 'Hey take her to my place, I got sum drugs'n stuff, we can listen to Hiphop and have fun with her.' Kinda lost it at that moment and asked if he is out of his f***ing mind. Should be quite obvious, I am not into Hiphop (Goth/Metalhead and looked like that, especially when right out of a club) and told him what I think of his approach to women... ...I will always remember his last words to me: 'You are a disgrace to our race!' - If that is the case, I continued to be. Oh... and that was over 20 years ago, and the situation has not improved. To answer your question about the biggest challenge in facing the black community: For me, it is considering myself as being part of it again, as it was in my teens. For what I mostly see and experience of it today, I feel absolutely detached and disgusted by it. Thank you for this video and your open words, as well as your courage to share them with us.
As a retired educator of 27 years, I recognize that one of the biggest issues we have right now is the lack of solid, consistent and loving parenting. Everything begins at home. Teachers, preachers, coaches , etc.. can only do so much. A child’s home life is largely one of THE main determining factors on how that child will turn out or become a positive or negative influence in society as a whole.
Unfortunately, the government is not blameless and has incentivized single parent homes, so now 3 out of 4 children are raised by one parent, usually their mom. Which today is not automatically the best choice. Read or watch Thomas Sowell, who explains the government's culpability in this far better than I could ever hope to.
@@manonthemoog the discussion isnt about whatever the government is at fault or not. did you even read his comment? i have a question for you. what exactly can or should the government do to improve the black image? youve had the first black president. everything starts in the family thats just a fact. government isnt the one making you doing bad choices or making at fault for bad parenting. what i do often see within the black community is the pride of being potrayed as inherent victimes and for every bad decision its everyones fault but yours. no culure has i ever come across that worship the getto thug culture as afro americans does.. is that the government at fault?
If I assaulted a teacher back in HS circa 1970, the police would have taken me to jail. I would be more afraid of my old man's punishment than anything the law would dish out.
@@beyond_the_infinite2098 exactly!!! My PARENTS were my discipline and what I was worried about. But when you don’t fear police and when you have no parents to fear…..then there is nothing to deter this ridiculous behavior.
Same here. My siblings and I, were told what was expected of us before leaving the house. The rules were repeated inside the car. If we acted any different in public, we already knew our parents would know about it. Punishment was coming.
See sister, you are telling the truth. I was born in 1968. Black Americans used to be very classy. This is the reason why I like my good old soul black music. She's telling the truth
I am an 80 yr old black American woman, and here in this country, when I was growing up, the dreaded words that we never wanted hear were " I'm going to tell your mother!"
Thank you for saying loss of mature father and not just blindly imply men not being in the home there are plenty of men in homes who are themselves just as broken as the family's they help create, MATURE in capital letters, 👏👏😆 I heard that, thank you.
Exactly! Conservatives claim that not having a father is the problem but they’re not concerned with the quality of the father. Some times father can be lazy losers that could care less about their kids, and even tho they’re in the home, they’re not a positive role model. One problem I’ve seen is black father disrespect the mother of their children and wonder why they’re children disrespect their mothers.
Tell the truth, YES, absolutely onboard with you there. But shame the devil? One of the enforcers for cultleader turns whistleblower and calls the cultleader out for his excessive bullying. The cultleader throws a hissyfit, throws the enforcer out and magicks him into a red winged faun with a trident, forever exiled to guard an imaginary place of neverending fire, where the cultleader imprisons any humans that do not unquestioningly obey him. His rationale for inflicting infinite torture for infinite duration, is that he "loves" the victims. Now we humans, instead of calling the cultleader out as a monster justifying abuse with wifebeater reasoning, are supposed to just think of this creep as THE ultimate good guy, and the whistleblower as THE ultimate bad guy? I mean, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck... I might hold it against the whistleblower that he used to be an enforcer for the cultleader, but honestly, he makes a lot of good points now he's an exile. Look at the Satanist commandments, and compare those to the Christian ones. Tell me one of those doesn't sound like a narcissistic abuser, and the other doesn't sound like a wonderful humane member of society. I'm with the whistleblower, honestly. The cultleader sounds too much like trump.
This is crucial to all humans. We all descend from East Africans, and the shapes and colours are random mutations that meant better adaptation to one climate or another. Nobody will make me see " black" people, and I am not " white" ( I am piggy pink at best). And nobody will call me " Caucasian" to my face, much less US Americans who could not find the Caucasus on a map if they tried. As a German I will likely never travel to the US, because I will never fill out nazi nonsense like " race" on forms.
I can't stand the word African American. I'm an American just like every other black human being. We are freaking Americans. I'm no better than you'll and you'll ain't no better than me. I guarantee you if you were to sit down and talk to me. You'd like me. We have to get past the negative B's that the media and everyone else that tried to keep us apart. It's a damn shame that we will never reach our full potential because of stupid crap
I love your message. When Monique spoke out about how young black women are wearing bonnets and pajamas in public, she received major backlash. I agreed with everything she said
Well done for speaking out! I am not either American, black or white, I am foreigner from Asia who once visited the USA in 2019 and was surprised by abnormal behavior of some black young guys in MA. I don't wanna describe here whole story what happened, but honestly I did not expect that action from black-colored Americans. I was discriminated about my race and ethnicity being foreign tourist. Wow. This is not America I used to imagine in the past.
As a Black man, I’ve faced the most disrespect and mockery from fellow African Americans, not Latinos, Whites, or Asians. Why are we so hard on each other? As Malcolm X said, “Not only does America have a very serious problem, but our people have a very serious problem.
I agree. I've seen this my whole life. I'm mixed dad is black mom white. I am very light skinned. And some of the most racist disrespectful people I've ever seen in my life are black people to other black people and to white people. But for 30 years I've seen it overlooked. It's Terrible. It's heartbreaking. This is not tru for all members of the black community. But there are enough that make it a big problem for most of the community.
@@AbrahamAlazar-n4f one reason were so hard on each other is because we see some of us doing well in life and if were not doing well we dont want to see another do well. Another thing is that there are generational courses on people, there are demonic forces that ate territorial and have brought this way of thinking. The bible says the enemy is crafty and cunning and he works in every culture and race in some kind of way. Absent fathers is another reason, immature fathers and young girls and women who dont know how to be just that! A life absent without Jesus Christ is asking for a death sentence. 😔🙏🏽💕
I Totally agree with you. Most criticism comes from African Americans especially when you are trying to improve yourself by going to school or learning a new language they seem think that you are acting as if you are better than them simply because you want to do something to enhance your life.
Thank you! I am a 62 year old white man, and, as such not permitted to say any of the things you did without immediately being labeled a racist. Once again, thank you. You are doing your community a great service.
@@wesleyauburn1324 @richardbetz1555 as a Latin American black person, I've got to say that i understand the gentleman's position. In the era of social media, saying something harmless, criticizing things that need critique, etc, can ruin a person's whole life. From false accusations to doxing, it is truly unfortunate that we can't call things by their name.
Thank you. I have not let my little lady listen to and over sexualized music. I listen to that on my headphones, my little one doesn’t need to hear pound town or wap
I came across this video pretty late but as a black teenager living in this day and age, I strongly agree with everything you are saying. I truly believe the biggest problem is the influencers, The people who promote this kind of behavior to other young black people and others who follow the trends. I want to be able to step out of that bubble of following the bad trends make my route to success and class and help whoever I can break out of that cycle. Thank you so much for speaking on this and I'm subscribing because this is a conversation we need to have.
Thank you so much, sweetie. I love to see teenagers in my comments section. Warms my heart. 🥰 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and leave such thoughtful feedback.
I remember going to my daughters school play. I dressed up like my parents did when I was a kid. I got stares and the hostile side-eye to the point I went in jeans and t-shirt the next time they had a play. I miss when everyone went out looking so dignified and graceful.
No. You continue to dress nice. The side eye lookers are ashamed of themselves. Instead of them finding their own dignity, they would rather find fault in you
I am a black woman and Ma'am, I am soooo glad that you are speaking on this. I have been called all the names and I'm ok. Somebody needs to say something and I am glad to see someone else speaking the truth. Thank you and God bless you!
I’m 71 and the pride we had when I was young, was really something. My dad was always in a suit and tie. My mom was always put together. Those were very wonderful times for me as a young black girl to see. Respect. We gave it to each other and we certainly got it from each other.
I am a black woman and I agree with everything you said in this video. It's disgusting. The sagging pants, bad wigs, bonnets everywhere, disrespect toward black women, and disrespecting our selves. Just gross!! Shameful.
I am from South Africa, and we have the same problem. I think we need to look at Dr Thomas Sowell's work on the origins of black culture. It wasn't always like this. In South Africa, we also were not always surrounded by such barbaric culture amongst our black people as we are now. So let's find the root of the problem, and reverse engineer our way out of it. Also, all of us who are concerned must associate with each other to overcome this evil which threatens our children and grandchildren.
Sadly, society as a whole has gone into the gutter. Morals, values, respect for self and for others, decency, integrity, caring, etc have been eroded away. It is a bigger force that has been pushing this with advertising, with policies, laws, education, entertainment, retail, etc. But it's people like you who are standing up against it and reaching out to help others. Keep up the good work.
I'm 55 and once I'm able I will be using my passport to go explore other pastures outside the u.s. because this part of black culture in America may be beyond redemption unless it's a meteorite where we got to start over and that's unfortunate for us and our ancestors who wanted the best for us as future generations beyond their time. That's why it's alot of black Americans leaving this country because they saw the righting on the wall and that's why we got a group from amongst us here in America called passport bros whose left America to go seek better pastures elsewhere. Most of some black Americans don't want to hear this because the truth even in this instance is too hard to swallow. But it is what it is. And black Americans like I saw someone on another platform wellas Bahamian say that we must be mindful on realizing that black culture permeates world wide and is not restricted to just the United States.
White people created hip hop gangster rap in 1968. by 1994 they talked 1 million black men into jail/prison. In 1983 , I met one of them. He told me he had a doctorate degree in Quantum physics mechanics & could do the math in his head ! Mind control!
@@swampsprite9 Is that how you were raised to act in public? I was brought up to act like an adult and a lady. I dress like an adult and I conduct myself like an adult, not like an unruly toddler who missed their nap and needs a spanking!!
Thank you for your video. I am a white woman in the south and a librarian. My first assignment was in the library in the predominantly poor black community. I did my best for three years to help people get what they needed as best as I could and every day I took verbal and occasionally physical abuse. People needed help with computers, getting signed up for benefits, getting thier kids enrolled in school or programs, getting forms filled out, having safe library programs for thier kids to attend after school. And at least twice a week I was threatened by someone saying they’d get me fired for “disrespecting” them (though they were never able to tell me exactly how I did that, usually it was after I tried to enforce some behavior rules), I get cursed out for telling them not to eat around the computers, or to please keep their children from climbing on the shelves. I caught some kid writing obscenities on the children’s furniture, and the mother screamed at me and called me a racist. People would get into domestic arguments and fistfights in our doorways. Men would come in staggering drunk and scream at us when we told them to leave. I have so many stories, and it broke my heart to think I was really not doing any good there no matter what I did. It was a culture I didn’t understand. Of course, there were some who are not like this. The community actually valued their Library greatly took pride in it, it was brand new, small, but nice, and one time some kids spray painted the side of the wall, and last I heard the community made sure they didn’t do it again. If some teens acted up and got suspended for a week, there were some parents who came up to get them and we’re quite upset at the kids and not us for their misbehavior in the library. But not always. Eventually, for my own emotional health, I asked to be transferred to another branch. Eventually, I was taken off public services altogether due to the verbal abuse and micro aggressions now endemic in the public in general causing me severe stress and now work in technical services, but so many of my coworkers continue to try to help the public while being verbally abused by it. We see everything you’ve described in your video, and it makes me sad.
Yes these behaviors are horrible. However out of control behaviors is prevalent in your community too. I do hope you share your input about their behaviors as well.
@@lovehealsforever what kind of passive-aggressive comment is this? She can do it when the topic is appropriate. In this case it is a about Black community and her experience with it. So don't downplay her emotions and experience. And if you think only members of the community can judge a community you are a part of the problem.
@@cliomaniac while I understand your stance, advising that OP transferred to a different branch to get away from this behavior insinuates this behavior is exclusive to the Black community. This simply is not true. Both the OP and dissenting commenter can be correct; these are not mutually exclusive statements.
Also a white person here, your make-up is great. On a deeper note, you are clearly a very thoughtful and intelligent person who others should hear out with an open mind. I hope you are successful in that, at least.
Dear white family, thank you for adding your voices to these convos. Feel free to comment critically and constructively on it as well. Let no name calling, racial tagging or branding silence you. This is our society for us all. Heck our kids sit in schools together, may marry one another, do business together or make policies together. We need to understand one another and feel for ourselves like a community is supposed to be. Dear black family not in the USA, if you've been following the dynamics and history in any way, your opinions are likewise welcome. We don't need to agree to welcome your comments. They just must offer solutions or helpful perspectives. Any form of bigotry is still bigotry no matter the skin color of who's making it. Let's save our communities together, please. Our common future depends fully on it. Blessings to this channel and its creator.
My sister and I are Dominican and we grew up in the hood. I was more articulate and well-behaved. They called me "the white one" "the wierd one" I was the least desired one, in terms of friendship and dating. After my sister got into her physics program her vocabulary improved and she controlled herself more as to finish school proper. Black folks stopped associating with her as much. That goes to show you the state of black culture today.
@@jeremyweems4916 Some dead, some in jail, pregnant. Idk anyone she associated with that's doing well, maybe one guy. The nerdy kids I hung out with seem to be doing well though. I know I shouldve expected the majority of the people I grew up w to not do well cause thats just the way of things but for some reason I was still surprised.
You are absolutely right. I’m white and Portuguese but the degradation of values is seen a bit all over modern societies. The worst of all is the lack of respect for children, immature parents and in general there is no social protection of children! They are exposed to profanity all over, sexuality explicit contents on TV, supermarkets, etc…decades ago certain contents were only show after a certain hour, when children were in bed, now it’s at any hour of the day. It’s urgent to bring back protection of children and in general respect for others and good behaviour.
I totally agree with you 💔 children need to be children and protected as they grow up. A combination of parents + community. It feels like a steep hill....
@@ThisBahamianGyal ( Martin Luther King in the last book he wrote Where Do We Go From Here? Chaos Or Community? Was assassinated because he was trying to prevent the CHAOS he saw developing in the ghettos of Chicago. Dr. King has a Federal Government Platform in regards to Education, Housing and Employment. He goes in to great detail about the steady breakdown of the black family structure in America. His instructions was that America could correct the negative affects of slavery, Jim Crow and inadequate government programs with these laws. About 4 months after Dr. King was assassinated his brother AD King was found dead in his backyard pool in Atlanta. So none of Dr. Kings family or inner circle even mention this. The Black Panthers fought for reparations. Both groups saw the problems looming with the black family structure. Both were killed by the Federal Government and the black community family structure gave us all that you see today. )
I'm a 65 year old Black woman. I totally agree with every point you made. The only thing I will say is that it's not prevalent in all Black neighborhoods. I'm from a small town, and we still care about our community. Keep up the great work.
I am an immigrant from Africa, Nigeria to be exact, and have been here in the States for 26 years. I agree with everything you said. I work at a High School which is now about 48% Black and Hispanic. When I started work there in 2011, it was 82% white. The school has gone absolutely downhill. Fights in the hallway, sagging, complete and total disrespect for the Admin and Academic staff, smoking weed in the bathrooms etc. Each and every year, the percentage of white students decreases as more and more parents pull their children out of school because it's no longer considered safe. Black Ghetto culture, from their music, to their fashion, to their criminality has ruined Black America, probably beyond repair.
@evaristus4821 The parents have to care more about the way their child acts and dresses for school. The school can contribute to the students character and control what is more acceptable behavior. I do not mean kicking children out of school because of their hair styles and such... we have enough of that silly mess at other schools. But control what CAN BE controlled. Give reasonable goals for the parents to follow. I don't know why parents are shirking their responsibilities towards their children probably because they think the school is responsible while they are there. When my kids were in school and I was alerted to things they were doing I was there in a hurry job or no job. The parents have to care and do something when things are going awry. You have to be able to depend on your kid to do what is supposed to be done so you have to come down on them if they are not or fix it if they cannot. These years last just so long and you want to raise healthy adults you have to care and pour into them.
@@misterwhipple2870 Let’s just say that Nigeria has a very weak economy and isn’t the safest country to live in. The politicians care more about their own tribes/ethnic groups rather than the country as a whole so corruption is rampant, national unity isn’t a thing leading to multiple internal conflicts, crime is widespread, social mobility is nonexistent, and the country’s infrastructure is poorly maintained. Every country struggles with these issues but many countries like Nigeria struggle with them way more than others and America is a much nicer country in comparison.
@@luke_cohen1 Your posts show what happened when certain people are allowed to make decisions. You have harmed America by even being here. You should gather up your courage and go back and fix Nigeria, instead of running away and hiding. And no, not EVERY country struggles with these issues; only those that have been foolish enough to offer sanctuary and are consequently overrun.
I'm from the Caribbean. I live in Maryland for the past 35 years. I can see a major decline in the black community. It's not getting better. Everything you said you are on point
Thank you!!!! It is getting worse. I hate when people shoot the messenger. The know that I am speaking the truth. They just hate hearing it from my Caribbean lips. This is why I could never be a politician. I don't have the energy to coddle people. Thanks for watching, babes. ❤️
@@ThisBahamianGyalw is it getting worse crime is the lowest it's been in 39 years fathers in homes went from 50 percent to 70% black people in college is up the highest it's been in years but it's getting worse 😂😂😂
I’m a 63 year old white woman from Houston. My entire nursing career I worked with many, many black women. Other nurse, doctors and other ancillary personnel. They were ALWAYS well groomed and tidy. It showed respect for themselves, their profession and their patients. I honestly blame a lot of this on social media. I mean, if you go back “To Kill a Mockingbird “ when Calpurnia takes Jem and Scout to her church one Sunday when Atticus is gone.Scout describes how Calpurnia scrubbed them within an inch of their lives, and her dress was so stiffy starched she could barely move. Calpurnia says it because y’all are my company! This is not only black culture, but I think culture’s across the board. For example, the way people feel like it’s ok to dress and behave on airplanes. It is a loss of civility,period.😢😢
I’m an African American ELA teacher who works in an inner city environment for the past 25 years. You are absolutely right. I feel like I have had a front row seat to the decline of my culture. I makes me so sad. I have high expectations for my students because I want to change this. However, it’s an uphill battle. Between bad parenting, bad curriculum, and teachers that make excuses for students turning them into victims instead of holding them accountable, I am finding it more and more difficult to teach.
I left teaching ELA for this exact reason. Let alone that the school systems move these kids along who can’t read, a lot of our culture champions ignorance and a divisive mindset right from the beginning. It’s hard to combat years and years of low standards in ten months.
First step: If I were black, I would not call myself black. (I see you said you are AA.) Black is usually a negative term. Blackmail Blacklist Blackball. Blackness as absence of Light Do not base your identity upon a negative term. You may simply feed off of that negativity.
I have been a NJROTC instructor in two different inner-city schools for 15 years. It has been the equivalent of an MA in Sociology. Even before becoming an instructor, I've followed education for 40 years, having been an involved parent for my two daughters. Schools are expected to solve all of our cultural ills that bubble to the surface in a school. Schools can't do the impossible. A school cannot put back together a broken family. Many commentators, researchers, economists, social workers, criminologists, and others across many fields argue that fatherless and broken families are THE (italicized, bold, in red) biggest problem this country faces. It took generations to get here. Let's truly pray it doesn't take generations to fix.
One thing I find odd about the US is that if you're african-American you're basically expected to act a certain way and if you deviate from it you get people saying you're acting white or what have you. Here in the UK, my godfather is my dad's best friend and he's a black feller. He's got roots from St Lucia (Carribbean) so he identifies with Carribbean culture, but he was also born in Canning Town, a very working class cockney part of London, so he has a thick cockney accent and uses Londoner lingo, and is a massive west ham fan, but he's also into metal and punk music so wears the denim sleeveless jacket with metal band patches. So he exhibits all three of these cultural/societal traits and no one bats an eye or says he's not black, he's just Lenny from the block. But if he was in the US I feel like people would be calling him white washed or acting white. Feel free to challenge me if you are an American, but that is the lens in which African-Americans have been given or put themselves in on the international stage.
I got called a racist for telling a black woman that she looked really nice and told her I appreciated her for dressing up for class,and of course someone took it the wrong way. It's doesn't take an American to see we are all doomed if things don't change. Regardless of your nationality, you speak nothing but facts. I'm glad I clicked on your video. Keep up the good fight.
Hi,I'm a (black) woman and I just get shock when a non black woman compliments a black woman and immediately gets called racist..I mean they are racist ppl for sure but some ppl will just being nice sometimes I feel that it's just too much and it's embarrassing 🤦🏾♀️🫤
I was in a mall and a black woman and I almost ran into each other. It was crowded and we didn't see each other. I told her she was beautiful as she was stunning. (I am a white woman and was with my husband.) She looked at me like I was dirt after I said that. And she walked away.
Wouldn't it be racist to not compliment because she is black? As in they are asking to be treated in a racist way. When I see a woman in a nice sun dress and I think she is pretty I try to give her a respectful compliment. If I were to choose not to do that to someone because they are black that would be insane! I held a door open for a feminist and she told me she didn't need a man to hold a door open for her. I would hold a door open for anyone! It would be sexist for me to choose not to hold the door open for you! But that's what you want? You want me to be sexist to you. I can't call a black woman pretty. You want me to be racist then.
West African male physician here, live and work in the US. My word, you’re spot on! I’ve got 3 young kids and my prayer is to be wholly present as a father and a role model for these children. I believe the decline of proper parenting plays is big role in the social and moral decay that plagues us. Preach on You got one new subscriber to your channel (well maybe more, including my wife and kids😂) Blessings to you sista!!
I agree with every single word you've said! I am a 66 year old black man who have always had a great sense of pride about myself, and my people. Over at last five decades, at least, I have been appalled at the consistent deterioration of our people, our communities, and downright lowliness that so many embrace and actually applaud! You are hitting the nail right on the head! I love the way you are addressing these most important issues. God bless you, and you keep on keeping on sister! ❤😊
54% of BW choose to make babies outside of marriage with 16% of BM. Plus 90% of welfare to single mothers. Along with the you go girl arrogance. It's time to take responsibility.
One of the best and most realistic videos I have seen. I am an 85 year old white woman and I remember black families that were wonderful neighbors. We lived between black families who were great friends and just wonderful people. I’m so sorry this has happened to many communities.
A lot of Black women speaking up are pointing out the high abuse rate black women had to deal with at home for decades. Staying married doesn't mean people have a SUCCESSFUL marriage. All Americans have had a high woman and child abuse rate since our beginning, and we're just now recognizing the dynamics of abuse. The internet has gotten anonymous people opening up more - things were simply hidden more in the past
Young people need to understand that if your father or mother is a drug addict or criminal, you do not have to follow that mistake, but it has been proven that 80% do.
😂 just leave out all the other data and facts people have done the work behind in those subjects and just keep the solution as telling the kids “You don’t have to” Ok we all can go home now to our non drug using kids 😂 Just admit you’re lazy and don’t really care but it’s easy to have an opinion. Much harder to do something about it
@@magnificent9784 everything about addiction is 50%dna an genetics the other is 50% about where you live and how, had you done any research you wouldn't be spewing this fake bs out
I’m black, I’m American, and agree 100% with everything you’ve said. I’ve seen these things since I was a little girl and I rejected it. I was always incredibly insulted by what counted as black culture. Today it makes my skin crawl that these pornographic performances are held up as examples of black excellence. I hated any idea that said because I’m black, that means X. No. I’m human and I am open to all the same experiences as everyone else. We’re more than this.
Ms. Bahamian Gyl. Thank you very much for telling the truth. You have every right to speak on the plight of the African American community. I like to remind people that slave ships transported enslaved Africans from the United States to Brazil, South America. You are doing an excellent job. Keep speaking the truth.
The main problem is that their isn’t good family structures. There isn’t good fathers in the homes. Mothers aren’t honoring themselves and their bodies therefore being horrible examples for their children. There’s a common trend I have seen not only online but in my actual life too.
A lot of black parents can’t take criticism of their child . Teachers have tried but parents get upset and blame teachers for their child’s behaviors . There no accountability
The biggest challenge facing black culture today? Ourselves. Nothing more, nothing less. There is no race that claims to be limited by other races, that also inhibits themselves and others quite like us black folk. Great video, you make excellent points.
YESSSSS! I have always loved to read. The library was my escape in my childhood from my chaotic family and bullies at school. I'm dark skinned. Do you know how many times I was told I was a sellout or acting white because I loved to read? I was not 'keeping it real' because I graduated high school. SMH🤨
@@msJjbluematrix As someone that went to a private school, I completely relate. Even as a very young child I always remember feeling ostracised by black people (and even family) because they thought that we thought we were better than them. As I got older that turned to being classified as white for being knowledgeable and speaking "correctly". It was a tough time.
Even the ones who wanna help destroy us. If you keep your kid in a wheelchair so they don’t have to risk falling you’re hurting them. We do this with the destructive elements of our community, not wanting to get rid of the cancer
this shouldn't only apply to black culture but the world we all should carry ourselves with a bit more self respect and dignity, because how can you respect others when you don't even respect yourself
One additional thing I've noticed is responsibility with money. Buying designer clothes, making payments on $2,000 rims for a $500 car, and all the other ways that money gets wasted adds up fast.
Listen to me.....that is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I spoke about that in another video....the one where I say we've gotten entitled. I just don't understand the logic. Even back home in The Bahamas, I would see people with $75,000 cars parked at an apartment. If I have a car like that, I am gonna have a house.
@@ThisBahamianGyal just an example that opened my eyes to this was that young lady who made up a kidnapping story about how she pulled over to rescue a toddler walking along the highway, then abandoned her car and was believed to be abducted. I reacted to the fact that she was very young and a student, and driving a very expensive Mercedes SUV. I'm middle class middle income and that vehicle is way out of my budget. It's possible her family was very wealthy but otherwise why does a young woman feel the need for such a luxury car and for what money? This flaunting of non-existing wealth is prevalent across many cultures today and it's so destructive and steals young people's futures from them.
@@ThisBahamianGyalI agree with u on everything. but it’s not just a black issue when it comes to money it’s a people issue u have people with $75,000 dollar cars in the driveway of houses they can’t afford lots off people are just frontin.
This only applies if there is statistical evidence to support this theory...... that is how you hold people accountable. Develop a hypothesis and then proved it....... This would mean all the soldiers at war or those who died their kids would have the same outcome.....
I agree to some extent but I was raised by my mother after dad passed in an accident and yet I was raised well. It's better to be raised by a self-respecting and morally upright mom who knows how to impact moral decency in her kids than having an immature, disrespectful and abusive dad. So being raised by one or two parents in not the total reason why we turn out the way we do but how discipline is instilled.
Thing to remember the thief in that store is not stealing from the store they are stealing from you paying extra to cover the loss.😡That will piss ya off for sure.
@@byronwhite6398 so it’s someone else’s fault? We’re too dumb to not know how to act right and we just follow “the media”? We’re not responsible for our own behavior?
I am an old white man that as a kid in the sixties i lived in a poor neighborhood and many of my friends were black. I can relate to everything you say i have seen the social change for the worst. Thank you for your honest commentary, I enjoy listening to you.
I'm races toward any disrespectful peoples. They think their butt and bodies are for everyone to see. They don't have respect for no peoples. They are simple they do anything to be seen. They like to hang with their kind . Their fathers didn't raise them so they raise their selves. God gave them over to demons.
Of course you have seen decline. But its white people too. Have you not seen the tents filled with white folks in every city in the USA? White folks living in their cars? White women on street corners in most cities. Every race is suffering. It’s not just Black people on the decline. This finger pointing is absurd.
I am a UK white woman, I have grown up in a multi-cutural society and as a teenager was in awe of the strong parenting, the closeness to the church and support of the community I saw in the neighbourhoods in London. I taught in an independent school in Lagos, Nigeria, and saw the same with those parents. If the students got in trouble at school, the parents would punish them again. In London among the predominantly black communities now we have riots and knife crime, gangs and thieving. Its so sad. The godliness and love for community is still there but it is not supported by society. Being strict is somehow seen as cruel. This abandonment of pride and structure creates lawless chaos.
I am a black man over 60, as bad as things are today, its nice to see a black woman that talks 1000% truth. Keep up the good work and maybe one day they will understand!
I live in upstate NY and we’ve had three pharmacies close because of theft. When you go to Walmart everything is locked up. It is very irritating when you have to wait for an employee to come and open the cases. 🙄
I'm Poles and I living in the Poland, however so sad about future of USA. I remember when I was kid in 80' ( in Poland was still comunism) and we were dreaming to Poland become so rich and developed as America. After 30 yeas I realize that now we are living better and saver in Poland then citizens of America. I'm not happy about it at all. I hope collapsing of American state and people will stop and America will be great place to live again. I whish you good luck. Gretings from Poland
Look where diversity is taking the USA and also the European countries. Nothing but turmoil and chaos. Poland and a number of European countries are wise ,not to take in Muslims refugees.
Okay. I’m not black but I feel concern for my fellow humans. Present day is not what I acknowledge as “black” culture. I’m a boomer. These aren’t the black people I remember and admire and respect. Why do these people (white included) want to dress like this? Black culture that I acknowledge is nuclear family, clean, neatly dressed, religious and respectful of each other especially the women. Even the poor people had pride and it was obvious and garnered respect. We hear “black pride” today but it’s a lie. There’s no pride when your two year old daughter is twerking and your sons pants are around his knees or you’re happy to be treated like trash. Sorry this comment is so long and I know some may be offended. I really wish y’all would reject the people that are destroying you. Thanks for sharing. You are beautiful. …from a place of love, peace. Afterthought: today’s young black people would not have been able to gain the civil rights ground that was gained initially. Think about it. They wouldn’t be taken seriously. I’m sure someone will have a good argument against that lol.
I am black and a fellow boomer. Growing up in the sixties we learned to respect people who were older than us even on the play ground. When I was 14 years old I wanted to hang around older guys who I thought were good mentors and they were! They made sure to keep me out of trouble and they instilled boundaries because of my age. These guys wore banlon knit shirts with dress pants and the latest style loafers. This is when pride was taken in combing the afros and talking respectfully to the women who were dressed to impress when they went to house parties and club venues. Muscle cars and luxury cars were the normal mode of transportation. Society has changed so much from back in the day as we say. I miss those brothers and especially the around the way girls (respectfully) who would braid our hair into corn rolls for us. The neighbors who looked out for us like Aunties did their part in keeping us on the strait and narrow. Back then there were more male teachers in the schools and things were settled when there was trouble in the class room. I actually feel depressed seeing the new normal if I can call it that. The people I have referred to are slowly gone away having done their part in the neighborhood and leaving their mark on us boomers who learned from them. I have hope that our efforts to instill decency to our grandchildren will leave a mark on society that yearns to get back to the days of pride and respect for others.
@@jairushughes2884being a white Irish patriot and traditional Catholic, I totally agree and I’m only age 53 - in my 30 years in supermarket retailing and 22 years living in the U.K., I’ve noticed this decline and descent into degeneracy happening at a far faster pace in my native Ireland much faster than here in the U.K. - I was a teenager in the 1980’s and many of the pop stars back then had real class and real self-respect, but not now
I shared ur video on fb. I'm a light skin Puerto Ricn married to a black woman. Dated many black females. Always had and hung out with black men. I grow up in Brooklyn NY. So it kills me to see this. I saw it coming since the early 90s late 80s. I tried speaking up, but was told to shut up. Was even called a racist by some of my own family members. When for yrs, I was the only light skin person on Thanksgiving day dinner or Christmas etc,etc. For years. Truly sad. Only God can turn this around.
American Indian here (Cherokee & Apache). Born & raised in East Baltimore City Md. I agree with you. I used to call my “family” out on their bs often but I was met with arguments & confrontations. Unfortunately I was born into a family that thrived & continue to thrive on ignorance and bs (Excluding my 2nd eldest sister who’d agree with you as well) I knew at age 7 that I was going to move far away from them AS SOON as I grew up. My mom was abusive and turned my siblings and I against one another (I’m the youngest of 4, 2 sisters & 1 brother) my mom’s side of the family are degenerates and my dad’s side are more conscious aware. My mom’s mom raised me to “know better” that caused my “mom” & her side to treat me differently. Once I was old enough & met my now husband (1997) it was a wrap. I left in 1998 & NEVER looked back. My husband purchased our home in 2004 in Northeast Baltimore. I always tell my husband that I wish there was some way that a dress code could be implemented for EVERYONE and those who violate it by coming out of their home unkept should be heavily fined. I used to be a preschool teacher & some parents would bring their children to school still in pajamas with cole in their eyes smelling like sleep & musk wanting to talk all in our faces. I had to tell them not to come dressed that way when picking up our dropping off their children. They’d get VERY angry & a few wanted to fight. I didn’t care & we didn’t fall back on our rules. It was either follow the rules or place your child somewhere else. One thing I will say is I grew up with all races & I can say I have seen domestic violence in Asian homes. My father was in the Air Force & was very close friends with SEVERAL Asian families who took care of my sisters & I when our “mom” would be admitted to an asylum on & off for her mental illnesses. One guy was Mr. Jon Kim Lee. He was so hateful to his wife & daughters but treated his sons like gold. He would drink the moment his feet hit the floor in the morning until his head hit the pillow at night. We used to help in the store and helped tailor clothing. (I know how to make any type of clothing item & handbags by hand thx to them & my mom) They just don’t report the abuse to the world but it DEFINITELY takes place. My father (Apache) was an AMAZING man who never cursed us or our mom and never raised his hands to ANY of us even though she constantly cheated on him & fought on him every chance she got. He taught me what a man should be & he & my grandma taught me how to dress, respect, & carry myself. I’ve been with my husband for 27 years and married to him for 18.5 years. He’s such a wonderful man he’s most from perfect but he’s DEFINITELY perfect for me. I hope one day “Our People” open up their eyes & realize the power & beauty they possess. I don’t understand what the lore about this “death” music and “no respect” dress culture comes from. I get sick to my stomach seeing these folk sag their pants and wear undergarments outside as clothing thinking it’s cute. It’s SICKENING & needs to stop. Continue to speak your mind & ignore the ignorance and ignorant comments. Some folk hate the truth.. keep speaking it we’re listening.💜🖤💙💚
Hey there. Some weeks ago I met an Apache and felt honored. Anyhoo... my son borrowed a little bit of money to finish an excellent university where he almost had a full scholarship. He has his dream job and was really lucky. He's an engineer. Now, my thoughts are that the same situations hold true for economists, social workers, teachers, theologists, chefs, healthcare workers, librarians, legal professionals, and all the workers who move communities and civilizations forward. These types of people make live stable and predictable. So which of these disciplines are LESS important to civilization than athletics? Are teachers LESS important than hockey players? They must be. When you can get the same scholarship to work in the law as you can to kick a damned ball, pants will stop sagging. I HATE sagging and those hair bags, but I understand it. They're trying to look like they don't care about what people think of them. You only care when you need approval, and that means being weak. Being "black" means being strong, like the star athletes who get the big bucks. That's why they love fighting, because "black" people are strong and no one can doubt that. They might fight you for anything. The problem is the lie... like it always is. Car tires are black. African Americans are brown, so they're trying to be something they're not. They, and most African Americans, and for that matter most Americans... are confused. Tragically confused. "White" people are usually pinkish. Natives used to be called "red". There are injustices at play with the Native American, Latino, African American, and poor Caucasian America populations, and justice requires truth. This game is rigged. Borrow to become just about anything else but get paid to play a game, which is to waste people's time. On top of that, pro athletes used to have to wear suits when they were on TV, used to have to get college degrees, couldn't have tattoos. Not anymore. They normally (but not always thank god... but still they NORMALLY) look and sound like clowns at best, and thugs at worse, so again. The game is rigged against these kids.
Wait, wouldn’t you just be Native American? Indians are people from Indian Subcontinent. Native Americans were mistakingly termed “Indians” by Christopher Columbus as he set out for India but stumbled across North America. Wouldn’t “American Indian” mean an American born to Immigrant Parents from India?
@@cxssetteman182 American Indian is the preferred descriptor for some tribal people. When Europeans started calling tribal people in the Americas "Indians", India wasn't even called India - it was called Hindustan. The area of the Caribbean where they landed is called the West Indies, so they called the people they found there Indians.
During the part about the explicit music in the urban store, a lot of people think "well, I hear them saying the same words to their children so they must not mind" or "no one else has complained"
The universality of the decline of our community is so troubling to me. I'm a South African dark-skinned woman, and the utter disrespect, disregard and contempt that our men have for us and our children is here is disheartening. The heinous attrocities that they commit, daily, towards each other and their own women and children is just unfathomable. It's like we've completely lost our moral compass. There's seemingly just no sympathy or empathy for one's fellow human being anymore. So sad. Powerfully honest video. Thank you so much.
Men have been attacked for years, and put down that their masculinity has been ruined. Women saying, we don't need men, but then turn around and say where are all the men
Can you give us a comparison between the African American ghettos & South Africa? which is worse & why? (please give details) I'v herd that South Africa is worse for black now then under the racist apartheid government is that true? thank you.
I think there is a growing divide between the black SAns that have and those that don't. I definitely wouldn't say that it's worse than Apartheid, absolutely nothing is comparable to that period. But I will say the social effects of removing fathers in the homes of black families (through mines, Group Areas Act) are being suffered now and we're having to deal with fatherlessness, men with undiagnosed PTSD with many self medicating, lack of socialization of kids and desensitization to violence. I think we have mental health issues that we're only now taking about and campaigns to destigmatize mental health services. I think also enforcing the law is hard, because so many of the young boys commiting crime don't have any family support and putting them in jail will expose them to hardened criminals that will recruit them. It's a catch22 Being SA and in the NGO space, it's all races that are affected by this. Some have fathers but they are not present and are abusive. Men need to all learn how to be good men again and women need go learn to be good women.
I am an asian woman, i have black husband and kids. And his family don't act or behave ghetto. They well reserved and nice black people. I like listening to you, you make sense, said all the things you said are so true.
I can relate to the teacher! As an educator, I have had 3rd graders, yes, 8-9 year old students show total disrespect to other educators. Habitual ones, are the worst. Yet, all they get is a pat on the hand and they will tell you right to your face that "nothing gonna happen to me" and dare you to say otherwise.
OMG!!! I went to Catholic school. I got spanked (caned as we call it) and that was IT for me. I was so ashamed. It worked. I got caned in front of my classmates no less.
I'm sorry that happened to you. You look at schools ,even in third world countries and those kids line up straight as a pin. Usually with their little uniforms on.
I understand your point on the non authority I feel like that’s a major problem but I don’t get the religious angle, white and Asian communities despite having a higher rate of irreligiousity are more likely to display good behavior and strong family ties since it’s just common sense for them
Fear is not the same as respect. You should not only treat authority with respect, but everyone. Treating everyone with respect is a sign of being a good person. If you are only doing because you are afraid of getting caught, you are not.
That's right, their appears to be about two generations of all ethnic groups in America, that had no business having children 🙄, because they did not raise them to be productive members of society, and have respect for others, as well as for their selves
@@LinuxUser00 I believe colonization ruined everything. Before that, people were living and evolving in nature. Now phones and new society has destroyed the minds of children. Everywhere colonization is, there is a problem.
I'm a young black girl and I've been told that "I don't act black" because I'm very reserved and have a particular way of speaking. I have family members who are in prison, do drugs, and are gangbangers. And even more family who had children very young, and are to this day unmarried with multiple kids. We need to do better. It breaks my heart to see us like this. No other race is as divided as we are.
Stay far away from people who say shit like that. You won’t get anywhere in life if you surround yourself with ignorant people like that. Anytime someone says that shit to me, I automatically know to keep my distance.
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I honestly don't understand how black Americans don't feel utterly insulted that "acting black" means being late, low test scores, mispronouncing words etc. if I were a black man I would feel completely insulted that there are absolute lower expectations for me. If I were a black man hired via affirmative action or diversity policies, I wouldn't want the job. White liberals enact these policies expecting easy black votes. Someday black Americans will realize they are being condescended to. That they ARE just as capable and intelligent as us white Americans. Thomas Sowell is one of the few black academics who has never backed down from speaking against corrosive behavior from any demographic.
@@denisebarber7323 Nice argument!
I think all people are divided. It’s not a race problem, it’s a sin problem. All people have that devastating problem.
A wise person once said, "People don't want to hear your opinion. They want their opinion to come out of your mouth."
Wow.....never heard that, but that is 100% true. People love when I vocalize their thoughts and opinions.
@@ThisBahamianGyal Black Americans would be taken out for disrespecting Bahamians in their own country.
So simple yet so profound
Wow this is so spot on
THAT'S A GOOD ONE!!!!!!!!
The ones brave enough to call out the real problems in their communities and risk the backlash are the ones that care the most.
Well said and I absolutely agree! Thank you for watching.
Absolutely correct!
Don't sell out your race. Don't be like Whitey.
What's sad about that I see and maybe it's just me but the blacks that want better are automatically called white. The message that sends is at the end of the day they themselves are saying the white race does a better job with their lives than the black race.
@@ThisBahamianGyalAnd we are told to stop caring.
Great video. I'm European, I'm white, I'm male, and I'm old. We are worlds apart, but I feel connected on a human and moral level. If you were my neighbor, we would be friends. Everything you describe, I recognize. And believe me, it's not only a problem in the black community. Keep doing what you're doing, To many people stay silent.
That is soooo true that these issues are not just limited to black people. I think all of the problems in our society come from turning away from God.
@@Featherfinder . Spot on
Im white, 42 years old i live in London England and Please believe me when I say every issue you talk about is not just limited to a black community, I see the exact same issues within the white community, its actually very sad that there is just no personal responsibility or accountability... its a very shameful world we live in, and it's gone too far now, so God knows what it's gonna be like in 10 years' time.
@Featherfinder just mostly black people
@Featherfinder .. I don't personally believe in God, but you don't need to, to be a decent human with morals and integrity. I've been raised well and so have my children, I of which is now an adult, hoping the cycle continues on to my grandchildren and so on.
The Black Culture of America has fallen so far from grace that it truly is heartbreaking
It has spread outside of the US
It’s all manufactured.
Don't overlook who promotes this? The most gutter-like music by Sexy Red was written by a yte man and promoted by a yte company.
Most Blacks don't behave in the manner portrayed by media, SO WHY IS IT BEING PROMOTED? Why are the fringe elements of the Black community being promoted -- don't fall for the okey-doke!
I would have loved to live in the 60’s everyone was so beautiful back then the way they dressed. What happened?
black culture and ghetto culture are two different things do you judge all people in white culture because some are poor in live in trailer parks using illegal substances (no) remember black people are not a monolith that eat fried chicken and twerk all day degenerate behavior is not exclusive to black people or the black community if you want to talk about violence white people start wars around the world that cost billions of dollars
I am a black man, and I honor you for this truthful message. I am a subscriber now
Dey still won’t take your name boi
Dey have no respect for any of you
Maybe you could get a jobbie job
Women run African homes….full stop
Even on public street you never see the African male driving. He is always riding in his woman’s car.
Black women run all African homes
They won’t even take your last name
💯. It's a shame people being open and honest about the issues are pushed to the side.
Hello Thomas. My apologies. I am just seeing this response for some reason. Thank you for your kind words and for not only becoming a subscriber, but a member. Welcome to the family! ❤️
Great message. 30:25 ... Accountability and fatherless homes. I subscribed too.
My own dad berated, insulted, and yelled slurs at me because I said that black people need to stop covering felons and start taking accountability (I was assaulted by a black man but was told to shut up because I was mixed and they didn’t want a “brotha” in jail)
And it was that moment that I lost most respect for him. He bullied my brother and I for being half white, abused his power in the house hold, and at points attacked me for having different ideas from him
He’s getting better now, but 20 years of that doesn’t get erased after one year of help
Hello, I'm mixed too but have only grown up with my white mother and I think this is horrible and you shouldn't of been treated like this at all. It was HIS choice to sleep with the woman not your's. I mainly wanted to say this because growing up mixed is hard, especially when I was dark making me stick out in my all white neighborhood. I just feel like if we don't belong in the white community nor the black, we should try and form a strong bond between each other. Stay strong brother/sister.
Mixed is so beautiful though so he must have been jealous that he made beautiful children 😂. Ugh I’m sorry you had to deal with that
Tjats fkn messed up😢..im sorry
@hxjjdjd606 U are on point . I'm sick and tired of this (NO snitching) in Africa American community. That's why so much crime is committed knowingfully well no one pointing finger at u .
Your father is a hypocrite. He berates you for being half-white, but he's the one who helped make you. He hates himself and he's jealous of you, and that's not your problem.
I'm so relieved that my biracial nieces don't date blk men. I'd suggest you do the same.
Keep being beautiful. ❤
"A lot of the behaviour exhibit happen because we stop being ashamed"
"Shame is very powerful and useful sometimes, because it does curb behaviour"
The curse of Fatherless in the community. An old African proverb says " an old bull elephant keeps the young rogue elephants from trampling the garden "
Truly Beautiful. "Isa"
Look up where Africa really is. LOOK UP, All places called Africa... Now, what you're saying is ALKEBULAN... My ancestors weren't from ALKEBULAN...
So far as fatherless,
The father's back then had sense... Think about it!
I like that.
54% of BW choose to make babies outside of marriage with 16% of BM. Plus 90% of welfare to single mothers. Along with the you go girl arrogance.
It's time to take responsibility.
54% of BW choose to make babies outside of marriage with 16% of BM. Plus 90% of welfare to single mothers. Along with the you go girl arrogance.
It's time to take responsibility.
I would say the lack of consequences of actions is one of the biggest problems facing all young communities.
Lack of consequences and lack of role models and mentors😢
Yup.
Same in the white community
Right this is problem in this generation not just black
You are a very smart woman!!
I’m a 14 year old black girl who’s about to be in high school when summer ends. One of the biggest issues is kids and teenagers. Most of us don’t have good role models and just generally aren’t raised well. I live in Jackson MS, so where I am, the issues facing this community are extremely prevalent. Honestly, it saddens me just being around my classmates. Many of the boys want to be gangbangers and the girls want to be only fans models. I know I’m a kid still and it’s hypocritical for me to say this, but kids these days don’t have aspirations or role models. They don’t have passions or goals, all they really want is to be “cool,” regardless of where they end up. Even further, kids are extremely disrespectful to their teachers like you said. It’s only worsened by new younger teachers who are just graduating college. They’re not mature and encourage the bad behavior by laughing at jokes and even contributing to bullying.
Also, parents like you mentioned. My mom is an amazing parent, always encouraging me to be myself and be passionate, but I never really had a father, and that had tremendous mental effects on me that I’ll probably never get rid of. I’ll admit that I’m very fortunate with my circumstances compared to my peers, but these problems are real and affect everyone. Furthermore, many black kids bully other kids who choose to be engaged in learning, follow rules, respect teachers, etc. I always have all A’s in class and put in effort in school to learn. I love learning and always have, and I love following along with the teachers, but other kids harass me for that. They call me a “try hard” and make fun of me for the way I talk because I speak standard English.
Honestly it’s all just sad.
It's all jealous acts of others. You'll realize it later in life. Folks that joke on others are usually just jealous they can't have what you have. Weather it's a good attitude to having nicer clothes. Always be kind to others, it goes much further
Keep to what you believe is good behavior. I used to tell my son that he would never marry someone from high school so just to do his best and don't worry about being the most popular. High school ends quickly and you have a whole lifetime to accomplish your goals.
Watch this utuber woman and follow what she’s saying ok? 🙂 Also the bible can help the best to set your paths straight!
Keep holding your head up high, wear your crown well.
Hang in there and please don’t change! I hope you belong to a wonderful church. That can help so much.
As an independent black male, I don’t give a 💩 about what the black community think about me. I don’t live by the black community rules, agenda, dress, etc. I will always carry myself in a very respectful way in my dressing, my appearance, attitude, professional, etc.
@@mr.independent3501 Amen!
The biggest challenge facing the black community today is……..
-personal accountability.
_Unwin also stated "In the past, too, the greatest energy has been displayed only by those societies which have reduced their sexual opportunity to a minimum by the adoption of absolute monogamy (para. 168). _*_In every case the women and children were reduced to the level of legal nonentities, sometimes also to the level of chattels, always to the level of mere appendages of the male estate._*_ Eventually they were freed from their disadvantages, but at the same time the sexual opportunity of the society was extended. Sexual desires could then be satisfied in a direct or perverted manner... _*_So the energy of the society decreased, and then disappeared."_*_ He points out that "No society has yet to succeeded in regulating the relations between the sexes in such a Way as to enable sexual opportunity to remain at a minimum for an extended period." - _*_and thus all societies have collapsed._*
- J. D. Unwin, _Sex and Culture_ circa 1930s 💊
I agree 100%
At some point, we must look at ourselves and our behaviors. Our misfortunes can’t always be the result of someone else.
@@DTreatz : Just more word salad.
Is getting non American blacks up outta here. Wow, they are over here acting rogish and mannish as hell. Good grief they act like black Americans and critique us at the same time.
Say it again for the people in the back and the balcony
I'm African-American and girl keep speaking on it! My parents raised us in educated middle class homes. I'm middle age Gen X and I don't recognize the community anymore. It's gross.🤮
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Like I said in the video, there are African-Americans who also hate what's happening and they fear speaking up and out. I know this because I talk to them, I'm friends with them. It's sad. Girl, if people don't enjoy my message, they can choose not to watch or block my channel. It's as simple as that. I'm tired of the foolishness. I live in the US and I want us, as a people, to do better and be better. End of story. Thanks again!
💯It went so downhill over last 2 decades it’s beyond disg💯💯🫣
black culture and ghetto culture are two different things do you judge all people in white culture because some are poor in live in trailer parks using illegal substances (no) remember black people are not a monolith that eat fried chicken and twerk all day degenerate behavior is not exclusive to black people or the black community if you want to talk about violence white people start wars around the world that cost billions of dollars
@@ThisBahamianGyal black culture and ghetto culture are two different things do you judge all people in white culture because some are poor in live in trailer parks using illegal substances (no) remember black people are not a monolith that eat fried chicken and twerk all day degenerate behavior is not exclusive to black people or the black community if you want to talk about violence white people start wars around the world that cost billions of dollars
@@ThisBahamianGyal every culture has degenerates and degenerate behvior this stuff is not exclusive to only the black community and black people (turn on the tv and look at all of the wars and destruction some white people create around the world)
As a black woman, it's truly embarrassing that my people have sunk this low.
Worse, the words king and queen are given to ignorant fools who don't deserve to even be called that.
Oh, I hate that, too. Everyone is a "KANG" not king...people who act like absolute fools.
it's one thing to feel like a king or queen, on a good day etc., having achieved something outstanding for yourself, however...
if you "need" or "insist" to be called a king or queen, there's something seriously wrong with you - you're seriously deluded with your self-importance.
Black culture was WEAPONIZED and MERCHANDISED by the people you can't talk about who worked in collaboration with the alphabet agencies that brought white power into the black community...
References: Gary Webb - ' Dark Alliances'. Pastor Stephen Darby's videos: the hidden hand and it's time to see the wizard
We wuz kanggzz 😅😅😅
@@hoidoei941 en shiiiiieeeet🤣🤣
I am a white woman who lives in a small town in Oregon and I have to say you are 100% right. These youths today have no respect for anyone or anything not even themselves. I know you are speaking of Black issues but in all it's a National crisis of all our communities. It's heart breaking.
As a white woman I agree 100%. I would like to add this quote:
Your diet is not only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read, the people you hang out with and the things you subject your mind and soul to.
Always be mindful of the things you put into your body emotionally, spiritually and physically.
My mother always said the same thing.
DONT FEEL SAFE. THIS POISON IS INFECTING WHITE CULTURE ALSO!
@@Constanze29, I concur Totally Young Lady!!!
Everything said here is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but! I don't understand it but it's fostered through the music, media but most importantly allowed in the homes that ingrain the behavior. This is the lost generation with no direction because the ones before them lost their way, their hope, their pride.
I commend you for sending out this message because someone needed to put it out there!
True!
I’m a white lady who stumbled on your channel and I’m glad I did! You are a good role model for women of any race, and I wish more ppl thought and spoke with your eloquence and moral clarity!
Thank you so much, Julie. That's very kind of you! Thanks foe watching!
I have to agree.
Wht people can’t say what they really think about this in YT comments because algorithms block everything but the mildest comments.
I am white and I agree!
Same
Hi. I am a black female who's almost 70, and I agree with you 110%. It is so sad to see what is happening to the black community. I have talked to my daughter and son about this very same topics yesterday and the day before. You could not give me all the tea in China to be 20, 30, 40, or even 50 nowadays. I feel and pray for my people. This is our future. SMH😢
thank you!
I'm a 73 years young Black American Woman 🖤 who agrees with you 💯 I am continuing praying for my Children, grandchildren and my 1 great Grandchild 🙏.These are perilous times we are living. Wrong is Right is being pushed upon our young adults and youth. We can see the degradation spreading around us everywhere 😢
Black guy here, not from the States, but Europe... I was hanging out at a bus stop, waiting for a friend (white female) when another black dude came up to me in a stereotypical 'hey brother, whazzup?'. Told him, I am waiting for a friend and that she should be here any moment and we will be on our way. 'She? Your GF?' - Nah, just a friend... 'Hey take her to my place, I got sum drugs'n stuff, we can listen to Hiphop and have fun with her.'
Kinda lost it at that moment and asked if he is out of his f***ing mind. Should be quite obvious, I am not into Hiphop (Goth/Metalhead and looked like that, especially when right out of a club) and told him what I think of his approach to women...
...I will always remember his last words to me: 'You are a disgrace to our race!' - If that is the case, I continued to be.
Oh... and that was over 20 years ago, and the situation has not improved.
To answer your question about the biggest challenge in facing the black community: For me, it is considering myself as being part of it again, as it was in my teens. For what I mostly see and experience of it today, I feel absolutely detached and disgusted by it.
Thank you for this video and your open words, as well as your courage to share them with us.
Why are you in Europe? I don't understand why you Africans absolutely need to live with us in every single one of our countries.
As a retired educator of 27 years, I recognize that one of the biggest issues we have right now is the lack of solid, consistent and loving parenting. Everything begins at home. Teachers, preachers, coaches , etc.. can only do so much. A child’s home life is largely one of THE main determining factors on how that child will turn out or become a positive or negative influence in society as a whole.
How your comment doesn’t have 5K likes is beyond me! Thank you for sharing.
This is true in every society, certainly not just those of color.
So true. This also applies to all walks of life but is nvr addressed. I guess it’s easier to point the finger at the government or this and that
Unfortunately, the government is not blameless and has incentivized single parent homes, so now 3 out of 4 children are raised by one parent, usually their mom. Which today is not automatically the best choice. Read or watch Thomas Sowell, who explains the government's culpability in this far better than I could ever hope to.
@@manonthemoog the discussion isnt about whatever the government is at fault or not. did you even read his comment? i have a question for you. what exactly can or should the government do to improve the black image? youve had the first black president. everything starts in the family thats just a fact. government isnt the one making you doing bad choices or making at fault for bad parenting. what i do often see within the black community is the pride of being potrayed as inherent victimes and for every bad decision its everyones fault but yours. no culure has i ever come across that worship the getto thug culture as afro americans does.. is that the government at fault?
If I assaulted a teacher back in HS circa 1970, the police would have taken me to jail. I would be more afraid of my old man's punishment than anything the law would dish out.
@@beyond_the_infinite2098 exactly!!!
My PARENTS were my discipline and what I was worried about.
But when you don’t fear police and when you have no parents to fear…..then there is nothing to deter this ridiculous behavior.
I have never ever even thought of
Talking back to my parents 🙁😲😨 respect is #1
Same here. My siblings and I, were told what was expected of us before leaving the house. The rules were repeated inside the car. If we acted any different in public, we already knew our parents would know about it. Punishment was coming.
@beyond_the_infinite2098 this is so true. Id be terrified of what my Mom would do more than what my dad would do.
I love the seed analysis. Not sure how many will understand the significance.
See sister, you are telling the truth. I was born in 1968. Black Americans used to be very classy. This is the reason why I like my good old soul black music. She's telling the truth
1969 here and I agree 😎
Not listening to C Delores Tucker in the 1990s😢
Imma DC nucca. I think that this woman is wet behind the ears. Maybe she should listen to different hip-hop or wipe the lip-stick off. born 1974.
Ignorance is a learned behavior. And when this behavior is celebrated instead of corrected society suffers.
I told my cousin that what affects one eventually affects all.
I think your platform is refreshing. As a proud black man, nobody talks about black family values anymore. Great commentary.
I am an 80 yr old black American woman, and here in this country, when I was growing up, the dreaded words that we never wanted hear were " I'm going to tell your mother!"
That wasn't just black kids, white kids got butts torn up too. All through the community.
I'm willing to bet that it was also friends mothers, fathers, or adult neighbours who said that... As in there was a sense of "community" am I right?
AND WAT TIL YOUR FATHER GETS HOME!
Now we mothers acting no different than their unruly children
I am a 77 year old whitey boy and thats exactly how things were at our house!
One big cause is the loss of MATURE fathers. Key word mature. Even if a father is present if he’s not mature. It’s just the blind leading the blind.
Thank you for saying loss of mature father and not just blindly imply men not being in the home there are plenty of men in homes who are themselves just as broken as the family's they help create, MATURE in capital letters, 👏👏😆 I heard that, thank you.
Women love immature black fathers
Exactly! Conservatives claim that not having a father is the problem but they’re not concerned with the quality of the father. Some times father can be lazy losers that could care less about their kids, and even tho they’re in the home, they’re not a positive role model. One problem I’ve seen is black father disrespect the mother of their children and wonder why they’re children disrespect their mothers.
In my whole life I talkied to my father maybe 6 hours. I'm 34. And we lived in one home.
More like a loss of good parental figures overall.
Like the old folks used to say, “Tell the truth and shame the devil.” The only thing I can add to your words of wisdom: AMEN!
I remember that saying, I must be old, lol!
Tell the truth, YES, absolutely onboard with you there.
But shame the devil? One of the enforcers for cultleader turns whistleblower and calls the cultleader out for his excessive bullying. The cultleader throws a hissyfit, throws the enforcer out and magicks him into a red winged faun with a trident, forever exiled to guard an imaginary place of neverending fire, where the cultleader imprisons any humans that do not unquestioningly obey him. His rationale for inflicting infinite torture for infinite duration, is that he "loves" the victims.
Now we humans, instead of calling the cultleader out as a monster justifying abuse with wifebeater reasoning, are supposed to just think of this creep as THE ultimate good guy, and the whistleblower as THE ultimate bad guy?
I mean, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck... I might hold it against the whistleblower that he used to be an enforcer for the cultleader, but honestly, he makes a lot of good points now he's an exile. Look at the Satanist commandments, and compare those to the Christian ones. Tell me one of those doesn't sound like a narcissistic abuser, and the other doesn't sound like a wonderful humane member of society. I'm with the whistleblower, honestly. The cultleader sounds too much like trump.
Everybody fears to talk about the real issue, eye Q
@@realitycheck4960 the irony of that username... wow
@@InservioLetum Care to explain yourself, or is that your best?
This is the most important channel to the black community. The media and elites have conditioned black culture to degeneracy to profit
Black culture itself is its biggest challenge. We see ourselves as black, rather than as human.
You said it. I'm a man first
Or as AMERICANS first.
This is crucial to all humans. We all descend from East Africans, and the shapes and colours are random mutations that meant better adaptation to one climate or another. Nobody will make me see " black" people, and I am not " white" ( I am piggy pink at best).
And nobody will call me " Caucasian" to my face, much less US Americans who could not find the Caucasus on a map if they tried.
As a German I will likely never travel to the US, because I will never fill out nazi nonsense like " race" on forms.
@@kathrinscharrer3923 *applause*
I can't stand the word African American. I'm an American just like every other black human being. We are freaking Americans. I'm no better than you'll and you'll ain't no better than me. I guarantee you if you were to sit down and talk to me. You'd like me. We have to get past the negative B's that the media and everyone else that tried to keep us apart. It's a damn shame that we will never reach our full potential because of stupid crap
I love your message. When Monique spoke out about how young black women are wearing bonnets and pajamas in public, she received major backlash. I agreed with everything she said
I agree. I was 1,000% with her when she spoke out about those bonnets in public.
I was so happy that she said something. There's nothing wrong with giving your Best.
Monique needs to fight harder now and push her community into obey ALL laws
As a Latino this is also a growing concern in our race. My generation, just those before me, were taught respect, especially to elders.
The media and rap music is to blame.
Same. Worried for my children esp my sons. Trying to be more conservative in our family values to raise them carefully.
@@MrJohnnyDistortion No God, no peace.
@@SandsTimeDiscoBiscuitShow
Same
Latino isn't a race…
Well done for speaking out! I am not either American, black or white, I am foreigner from Asia who once visited the USA in 2019 and was surprised by abnormal behavior of some black young guys in MA. I don't wanna describe here whole story what happened, but honestly I did not expect that action from black-colored Americans. I was discriminated about my race and ethnicity being foreign tourist. Wow. This is not America I used to imagine in the past.
I think the biggest problem facing the community is lack of accountability, and lack of expecting better from oneself.
Its like the "Crabs in the bucket" effect
@@Uta_Chandra.H not familiar with that one. Is it like the black and red ant analogy?
To many immigrants that don't love America enough to maintain it.
I agree with you 100%
lack of fathers also
As a Black man, I’ve faced the most disrespect and mockery from fellow African Americans, not Latinos, Whites, or Asians. Why are we so hard on each other? As Malcolm X said, “Not only does America have a very serious problem, but our people have a very serious problem.
I agree. I've seen this my whole life. I'm mixed dad is black mom white. I am very light skinned. And some of the most racist disrespectful people I've ever seen in my life are black people to other black people and to white people. But for 30 years I've seen it overlooked. It's Terrible. It's heartbreaking. This is not tru for all members of the black community. But there are enough that make it a big problem for most of the community.
We lost a lot when we lost Malcolm X
@@AbrahamAlazar-n4f one reason were so hard on each other is because we see some of us doing well in life and if were not doing well we dont want to see another do well. Another thing is that there are generational courses on people, there are demonic forces that ate territorial and have brought this way of thinking. The bible says the enemy is crafty and cunning and he works in every culture and race in some kind of way. Absent fathers is another reason, immature fathers and young girls and women who dont know how to be just that! A life absent without Jesus Christ is asking for a death sentence. 😔🙏🏽💕
I Totally agree with you. Most criticism comes from African Americans especially when you are trying to improve yourself by going to school or learning a new language they seem think that you are acting as if you are better than them simply because you want to do something to enhance your life.
When your own brothers do this really they are hurting inside, they have the problem,
Thank you!
I am a 62 year old white man, and, as such not permitted to say any of the things you did without immediately being labeled a racist.
Once again, thank you. You are doing your community a great service.
@@richardbetz1555 You should focus your attention on all those meth out school shooters plaguing the white suburbs
She is paid by white men to post comments like yours so sure.
As a black mam i can tell u not all of us think like that and its important to take criticism please speak your mind
@@wesleyauburn1324
@richardbetz1555
as a Latin American black person, I've got to say that i understand the gentleman's position. In the era of social media, saying something harmless, criticizing things that need critique, etc, can ruin a person's whole life. From false accusations to doxing, it is truly unfortunate that we can't call things by their name.
Thank you. I have not let my little lady listen to and over sexualized music. I listen to that on my headphones, my little one doesn’t need to hear pound town or wap
I came across this video pretty late but as a black teenager living in this day and age, I strongly agree with everything you are saying. I truly believe the biggest problem is the influencers, The people who promote this kind of behavior to other young black people and others who follow the trends. I want to be able to step out of that bubble of following the bad trends make my route to success and class and help whoever I can break out of that cycle. Thank you so much for speaking on this and I'm subscribing because this is a conversation we need to have.
Thank you so much, sweetie. I love to see teenagers in my comments section. Warms my heart. 🥰 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and leave such thoughtful feedback.
I remember going to my daughters school play. I dressed up like my parents did when I was a kid. I got stares and the hostile side-eye to the point I went in jeans and t-shirt the next time they had a play. I miss when everyone went out looking so dignified and graceful.
No. You continue to dress nice. The side eye lookers are ashamed of themselves. Instead of them finding their own dignity, they would rather find fault in you
@@sheilaconcitis8385THIS!
Don't ever lower yourself because of some jealous haters
Be yourself. Never give in to mediocrity.
I’ll bet you looked beautiful ❤
I am a black woman and Ma'am, I am soooo glad that you are speaking on this. I have been called all the names and I'm ok. Somebody needs to say something and I am glad to see someone else speaking the truth. Thank you and God bless you!
Thank you so much, babes. It actually gives me hope when I see people in the comments section speaking out against this foolishness going on.
@@ThisBahamianGyal
- the fact that male abuse & neglect didn't even factor into your video says EVERYTHING about your modern woman mentality. 🤦🏽♂
@@ThisBahamianGyal
- the fact that you left out how we ALSO treat our men (by modern bw) shows that you are just as much of the problem 😁
@@ThisBahamianGyal
- turns out you're a farrr more americanized woman than bahamian. ah well. 😌
I’m 71 and the pride we had when I was young, was really something. My dad was always in a suit and tie. My mom was always put together. Those were very wonderful times for me as a young black girl to see. Respect. We gave it to each other and we certainly got it from each other.
I am a black woman and I agree with everything you said in this video. It's disgusting. The sagging pants, bad wigs, bonnets everywhere, disrespect toward black women, and disrespecting our selves. Just gross!! Shameful.
On average that’s what black women enable.
@@shanashay1399 Any colour of wigs
@@shanashay1399 hopefully KAMALA WILL FIX THEM,,!!!
Not to mention walking around in broad daylight half naked - such a shame😞
And then the us of the N word. You never Malcolm X or MLK use that word the way it's used today; it's mind boggling.
I am from South Africa, and we have the same problem.
I think we need to look at Dr Thomas Sowell's work on the origins of black culture. It wasn't always like this.
In South Africa, we also were not always surrounded by such barbaric culture amongst our black people as we are now.
So let's find the root of the problem, and reverse engineer our way out of it. Also, all of us who are concerned must associate with each other to overcome this evil which threatens our children and grandchildren.
I’m African American, it’s so many of us that feel the Exact way you feel! I’m so grateful that you are putting out this kind of content❤
Thank you so much!!
I don't see anyone speaking up very loudly. That's for sure.
Seventy six years old man here, you, young and beautiful lady have spoken the honest truth. God Bless you.
Honestly when customers ask, "so what's stopping me from stealing right now?" I say "nothing, just your conscious"
*conscience
Yes, right moral values. Stay Strong US!
Do customers often ask this? 👀👀
Sadly, society as a whole has gone into the gutter. Morals, values, respect for self and for others, decency, integrity, caring, etc have been eroded away. It is a bigger force that has been pushing this with advertising, with policies, laws, education, entertainment, retail, etc. But it's people like you who are standing up against it and reaching out to help others. Keep up the good work.
I’m a 43 year old black woman, and I’m proud of what you’re doing. Continue to speak the truth
I'm 55 and once I'm able I will be using my passport to go explore other pastures outside the u.s. because this part of black culture in America may be beyond redemption unless it's a meteorite where we got to start over and that's unfortunate for us and our ancestors who wanted the best for us as future generations beyond their time. That's why it's alot of black Americans leaving this country because they saw the righting on the wall and that's why we got a group from amongst us here in America called passport bros whose left America to go seek better pastures elsewhere. Most of some black Americans don't want to hear this because the truth even in this instance is too hard to swallow. But it is what it is. And black Americans like I saw someone on another platform wellas Bahamian say that we must be mindful on realizing that black culture permeates world wide and is not restricted to just the United States.
Music industry encourages this a lot.
That's an excuse, I don't see Asian kids acting out because of Asian gangster rappers ...this is all community
@@vibezlogistics7453music is part of the community bro
Then stop listening to it and that type of music must be discouraged. For any realistic problem, there is a solution.
White people created hip hop gangster rap in 1968. by 1994 they talked 1 million black men into jail/prison. In 1983 , I met one of them. He told me he had a doctorate degree in Quantum physics mechanics & could do the math in his head !
Mind control!
@@vibezlogistics7453 Can you please name one Asian gangster rapper?
Let's see what would their name be... san numbchuksalot?
Not only the bonnets and PJs, but eyelashes a mile long, nails a mile long, yelling profanities on their phones for the whole world to hear! Classy!!
I call them caterpillars. One of them fell off of a student's eye and I thought it was a caterpillar. Ever since then, that's what I call them.
And their way to "win" an argument when you point out something they don't like is to start twerking.
No one should be disrespected just because they don't act classy, as long as they aren't hurting or disrespecting anyone else.
We call them eyelashes Hamburger Helper hands
@@swampsprite9 Is that how you were raised to act in public? I was brought up to act like an adult and a lady. I dress like an adult and I conduct myself like an adult, not like an unruly toddler who missed their nap and needs a spanking!!
You are absolutely right in what you are posting. So true. I wish you could post this video all over the world. Everyone needs to hear this truth❤✌🏼
Thank you for watching!
Thank you for your video. I am a white woman in the south and a librarian. My first assignment was in the library in the predominantly poor black community. I did my best for three years to help people get what they needed as best as I could and every day I took verbal and occasionally physical abuse. People needed help with computers, getting signed up for benefits, getting thier kids enrolled in school or programs, getting forms filled out, having safe library programs for thier kids to attend after school. And at least twice a week I was threatened by someone saying they’d get me fired for “disrespecting” them (though they were never able to tell me exactly how I did that, usually it was after I tried to enforce some behavior rules), I get cursed out for telling them not to eat around the computers, or to please keep their children from climbing on the shelves. I caught some kid writing obscenities on the children’s furniture, and the mother screamed at me and called me a racist. People would get into domestic arguments and fistfights in our doorways. Men would come in staggering drunk and scream at us when we told them to leave. I have so many stories, and it broke my heart to think I was really not doing any good there no matter what I did. It was a culture I didn’t understand. Of course, there were some who are not like this. The community actually valued their Library greatly took pride in it, it was brand new, small, but nice, and one time some kids spray painted the side of the wall, and last I heard the community made sure they didn’t do it again. If some teens acted up and got suspended for a week, there were some parents who came up to get them and we’re quite upset at the kids and not us for their misbehavior in the library. But not always.
Eventually, for my own emotional health, I asked to be transferred to another branch. Eventually, I was taken off public services altogether due to the verbal abuse and micro aggressions now endemic in the public in general causing me severe stress and now work in technical services, but so many of my coworkers continue to try to help the public while being verbally abused by it. We see everything you’ve described in your video, and it makes me sad.
Yes these behaviors are horrible. However out of control behaviors is prevalent in your community too. I do hope you share your input about their behaviors as well.
@@lovehealsforever what kind of passive-aggressive comment is this? She can do it when the topic is appropriate. In this case it is a about Black community and her experience with it. So don't downplay her emotions and experience. And if you think only members of the community can judge a community you are a part of the problem.
@@cliomaniac 👍
@@cliomaniac while I understand your stance, advising that OP transferred to a different branch to get away from this behavior insinuates this behavior is exclusive to the Black community. This simply is not true. Both the OP and dissenting commenter can be correct; these are not mutually exclusive statements.
@@lovehealsforeveryour comment is accurate. It happens in poor white areas also.
White guy here, and stumbled on this video being suggested by TH-cam. You are a role model, and I wish your message resonates as much as possible!!
Black guy here, you r 100% cool.
Thank you bruh I think that was great what you said to the young lady.😎👏😊
White woman here. I really enjoyed your video. It's my first. You have beautiful eyes BTW.
Also a white person here, your make-up is great. On a deeper note, you are clearly a very thoughtful and intelligent person who others should hear out with an open mind. I hope you are successful in that, at least.
Dear white family, thank you for adding your voices to these convos. Feel free to comment critically and constructively on it as well. Let no name calling, racial tagging or branding silence you. This is our society for us all. Heck our kids sit in schools together, may marry one another, do business together or make policies together. We need to understand one another and feel for ourselves like a community is supposed to be.
Dear black family not in the USA, if you've been following the dynamics and history in any way, your opinions are likewise welcome. We don't need to agree to welcome your comments. They just must offer solutions or helpful perspectives.
Any form of bigotry is still bigotry no matter the skin color of who's making it.
Let's save our communities together, please. Our common future depends fully on it.
Blessings to this channel and its creator.
My sister and I are Dominican and we grew up in the hood. I was more articulate and well-behaved. They called me "the white one" "the wierd one" I was the least desired one, in terms of friendship and dating. After my sister got into her physics program her vocabulary improved and she controlled herself more as to finish school proper. Black folks stopped associating with her as much. That goes to show you the state of black culture today.
They feel intimidated.
Where are they now?
@@jeremyweems4916 Some dead, some in jail, pregnant. Idk anyone she associated with that's doing well, maybe one guy. The nerdy kids I hung out with seem to be doing well though. I know I shouldve expected the majority of the people I grew up w to not do well cause thats just the way of things but for some reason I was still surprised.
It's called systematic racism. Biden is one of them MOST closeted racists imaginable.
You're not black...mind your business
As a Latino, my mother was born and raised in Mexico I see similar trends within Hispanic groups. Thank you for your courage!!!
You are absolutely right. I’m white and Portuguese but the degradation of values is seen a bit all over modern societies. The worst of all is the lack of respect for children, immature parents and in general there is no social protection of children! They are exposed to profanity all over, sexuality explicit contents on TV, supermarkets, etc…decades ago certain contents were only show after a certain hour, when children were in bed, now it’s at any hour of the day.
It’s urgent to bring back protection of children and in general respect for others and good behaviour.
@@teresarocha599 Totalmente de acordo. Um caboverdiano que cresceu na linha do Estoril e mora em Roterdão.
I totally agree with you 💔 children need to be children and protected as they grow up. A combination of parents + community. It feels like a steep hill....
One of the biggest problem is our values, we turn vices into values
Agreed! So true.
It started with Michael Jackson grabbing his crotch & wanting to be Bad.
and in school, nowadays, it is time out. back in the day, paddling...
@@ThisBahamianGyal ( Martin Luther King in the last book he wrote Where Do We Go From Here? Chaos Or Community? Was assassinated because he was trying to prevent the CHAOS he saw developing in the ghettos of Chicago. Dr. King has a Federal Government Platform in regards to Education, Housing and Employment. He goes in to great detail about the steady breakdown of the black family structure in America. His instructions was that America could correct the negative affects of slavery, Jim Crow and inadequate government programs with these laws. About 4 months after Dr. King was assassinated his brother AD King was found dead in his backyard pool in Atlanta. So none of Dr. Kings family or inner circle even mention this. The Black Panthers fought for reparations. Both groups saw the problems looming with the black family structure. Both were killed by the Federal Government and the black community family structure gave us all that you see today. )
Thats deep, never thought of it like that. Thank you for sharing
I'm a 65 year old Black woman. I totally agree with every point you made. The only thing I will say is that it's not prevalent in all Black neighborhoods. I'm from a small town, and we still care about our community. Keep up the great work.
Is your community a strong knit Christian community? That’s what makes the difference! I am going to assume that your answer is yes.
Too much freedom without sense of responsibility destroys people in the same way that oppression does.
I am an immigrant from Africa, Nigeria to be exact, and have been here in the States for 26 years. I agree with everything you said.
I work at a High School which is now about 48% Black and Hispanic. When I started work there in 2011, it was 82% white. The school has gone absolutely downhill. Fights in the hallway, sagging, complete and total disrespect for the Admin and Academic staff, smoking weed in the bathrooms etc. Each and every year, the percentage of white students decreases as more and more parents pull their children out of school because it's no longer considered safe.
Black Ghetto culture, from their music, to their fashion, to their criminality has ruined Black America, probably beyond repair.
💯💯it’s very tragic to witness the degener. and rising viol. in lightspeed
@evaristus4821 The parents have to care more about the way their child acts and dresses for school. The school can contribute to the students character and control what is more acceptable behavior. I do not mean kicking children out of school because of their hair styles and such... we have enough of that silly mess at other schools. But control what CAN BE controlled. Give reasonable goals for the parents to follow. I don't know why parents are shirking their responsibilities towards their children probably because they think the school is responsible while they are there. When my kids were in school and I was alerted to things they were doing I was there in a hurry job or no job. The parents have to care and do something when things are going awry. You have to be able to depend on your kid to do what is supposed to be done so you have to come down on them if they are not or fix it if they cannot. These years last just so long and you want to raise healthy adults you have to care and pour into them.
Tell me, why did you leave Nigeria?
@@misterwhipple2870 Let’s just say that Nigeria has a very weak economy and isn’t the safest country to live in. The politicians care more about their own tribes/ethnic groups rather than the country as a whole so corruption is rampant, national unity isn’t a thing leading to multiple internal conflicts, crime is widespread, social mobility is nonexistent, and the country’s infrastructure is poorly maintained. Every country struggles with these issues but many countries like Nigeria struggle with them way more than others and America is a much nicer country in comparison.
@@luke_cohen1 Your posts show what happened when certain people are allowed to make decisions. You have harmed America by even being here. You should gather up your courage and go back and fix Nigeria, instead of running away and hiding. And no, not EVERY country struggles with these issues; only those that have been foolish enough to offer sanctuary and are consequently overrun.
I'm from the Caribbean. I live in Maryland for the past 35 years. I can see a major decline in the black community. It's not getting better. Everything you said you are on point
Thank you!!!! It is getting worse. I hate when people shoot the messenger. The know that I am speaking the truth. They just hate hearing it from my Caribbean lips. This is why I could never be a politician. I don't have the energy to coddle people. Thanks for watching, babes. ❤️
What about your homeland (
Keep voting for the same liberal politicians!
@@ThisBahamianGyalw is it getting worse crime is the lowest it's been in 39 years fathers in homes went from 50 percent to 70% black people in college is up the highest it's been in years but it's getting worse 😂😂😂
and what about the Caribbean? its trash over there
I’m a 63 year old white woman from Houston. My entire nursing career I worked with many, many black women. Other nurse, doctors and other ancillary personnel. They were ALWAYS well groomed and tidy. It showed respect for themselves, their profession and their patients. I honestly blame a lot of this on social media. I mean, if you go back “To Kill a Mockingbird “ when Calpurnia takes Jem and Scout to her church one Sunday when Atticus is gone.Scout describes how Calpurnia scrubbed them within an inch of their lives, and her dress was so stiffy starched she could barely move. Calpurnia says it because y’all are my company! This is not only black culture, but I think culture’s across the board. For example, the way people feel like it’s ok to dress and behave on airplanes. It is a loss of civility,period.😢😢
If you think that the black church is going to serve this problem you are sadly mistaken
Wow she tackled a lot of issues affecting the Black Community and eloquently addressed them with a mixture of common sense, wisdom, and directness.
yes, sir....
You echoed my very sentiments exactly 1000%
Agreed 💯
I’m an African American ELA teacher who works in an inner city environment for the past 25 years. You are absolutely right. I feel like I have had a front row seat to the decline of my culture. I makes me so sad. I have high expectations for my students because I want to change this. However, it’s an uphill battle. Between bad parenting, bad curriculum, and teachers that make excuses for students turning them into victims instead of holding them accountable, I am finding it more and more difficult to teach.
I left teaching ELA for this exact reason. Let alone that the school systems move these kids along who can’t read, a lot of our culture champions ignorance and a divisive mindset right from the beginning. It’s hard to combat years and years of low standards in ten months.
First step: If I were black, I would not call myself black. (I see you said you are AA.)
Black is usually a negative term. Blackmail Blacklist Blackball. Blackness as absence of Light
Do not base your identity upon a negative term. You may simply feed off of that negativity.
This is African and Caribbean trash culture in America.
Our culture is being ruined by Black immigrants.
I have been a NJROTC instructor in two different inner-city schools for 15 years. It has been the equivalent of an MA in Sociology. Even before becoming an instructor, I've followed education for 40 years, having been an involved parent for my two daughters. Schools are expected to solve all of our cultural ills that bubble to the surface in a school. Schools can't do the impossible. A school cannot put back together a broken family. Many commentators, researchers, economists, social workers, criminologists, and others across many fields argue that fatherless and broken families are THE (italicized, bold, in red) biggest problem this country faces. It took generations to get here. Let's truly pray it doesn't take generations to fix.
One thing I find odd about the US is that if you're african-American you're basically expected to act a certain way and if you deviate from it you get people saying you're acting white or what have you.
Here in the UK, my godfather is my dad's best friend and he's a black feller.
He's got roots from St Lucia (Carribbean) so he identifies with Carribbean culture, but he was also born in Canning Town, a very working class cockney part of London, so he has a thick cockney accent and uses Londoner lingo, and is a massive west ham fan, but he's also into metal and punk music so wears the denim sleeveless jacket with metal band patches. So he exhibits all three of these cultural/societal traits and no one bats an eye or says he's not black, he's just Lenny from the block.
But if he was in the US I feel like people would be calling him white washed or acting white.
Feel free to challenge me if you are an American, but that is the lens in which African-Americans have been given or put themselves in on the international stage.
I got called a racist for telling a black woman that she looked really nice and told her I appreciated her for dressing up for class,and of course someone took it the wrong way. It's doesn't take an American to see we are all doomed if things don't change. Regardless of your nationality, you speak nothing but facts. I'm glad I clicked on your video. Keep up the good fight.
Hi,I'm a (black) woman and I just get shock when a non black woman compliments a black woman and immediately gets called racist..I mean they are racist ppl for sure but some ppl will just being nice sometimes I feel that it's just too much and it's embarrassing 🤦🏾♀️🫤
I was in a mall and a black woman and I almost ran into each other. It was crowded and we didn't see each other. I told her she was beautiful as she was stunning. (I am a white woman and was with my husband.) She looked at me like I was dirt after I said that. And she walked away.
@@roravenclaw7797 So sorry that happened to you.
@@razorramon7573 Oh well. It's not going to stop me from giving someone a compliment. I don't care who they are.
Wouldn't it be racist to not compliment because she is black? As in they are asking to be treated in a racist way. When I see a woman in a nice sun dress and I think she is pretty I try to give her a respectful compliment. If I were to choose not to do that to someone because they are black that would be insane! I held a door open for a feminist and she told me she didn't need a man to hold a door open for her. I would hold a door open for anyone! It would be sexist for me to choose not to hold the door open for you! But that's what you want? You want me to be sexist to you. I can't call a black woman pretty. You want me to be racist then.
West African male physician here, live and work in the US. My word, you’re spot on! I’ve got 3 young kids and my prayer is to be wholly present as a father and a role model for these children. I believe the decline of proper parenting plays is big role in the social and moral decay that plagues us. Preach on You got one new subscriber to your channel (well maybe more, including my wife and kids😂) Blessings to you sista!!
not a direct response but want to say g'luck to you. do your best. all we can do.
I agree with every single word you've said! I am a 66 year old black man who have always had a great sense of pride about myself, and my people. Over at last five decades, at least, I have been appalled at the consistent deterioration of our people, our communities, and downright lowliness that so many embrace and actually applaud! You are hitting the nail right on the head! I love the way you are addressing these most important issues. God bless you, and you keep on keeping on sister! ❤😊
54% of BW choose to make babies outside of marriage with 16% of BM. Plus 90% of welfare to single mothers. Along with the you go girl arrogance.
It's time to take responsibility.
I’m 49 years old white man and agree with you 100%
One of the best and most realistic videos I have seen. I am an 85 year old white woman and I remember black families that were wonderful neighbors. We lived between black families who were great friends and just wonderful people. I’m so sorry this has happened to many communities.
A lot of Black women speaking up are pointing out the high abuse rate black women had to deal with at home for decades. Staying married doesn't mean people have a SUCCESSFUL marriage.
All Americans have had a high woman and child abuse rate since our beginning, and we're just now recognizing the dynamics of abuse. The internet has gotten anonymous people opening up more - things were simply hidden more in the past
I am a 76 year old white woman and I'm in total agreement with your comment!
My neighbors are black and they’re excellent people it’s not like black families are suddenly bad neighbors.
Young people need to understand that if your father or mother is a drug addict or criminal, you do not have to follow that mistake, but it has been proven that 80% do.
😂 just leave out all the other data and facts people have done the work behind in those subjects and just keep the solution as telling the kids
“You don’t have to”
Ok we all can go home now to our non drug using kids 😂
Just admit you’re lazy and don’t really care but it’s easy to have an opinion. Much harder to do something about it
Yeah because,not only are they around that lifestyle and see it all the time. But it’s also in the DNA sometimes to have that addictive mindset.
@@tracigreen4786 Nothing in the DNA, just your surrounding.
@frankwest858 Now, they are born addicted to Crack! They are Crack babies!
@@magnificent9784 everything about addiction is 50%dna an genetics the other is 50% about where you live and how, had you done any research you wouldn't be spewing this fake bs out
The woman who stealing the purse from the car accident is just the lowest I've ever seen. That's an animal.
It's her own purse and she is the one who caused the accident in the first place. There is a video of the whole incident.
💯
Excuse you that’s a woman no matter what.
@@angelacooper8973 definitely a human acting worse than an animal. We can call her an animal if we want.
@@angelacooper8973 of course not!
I’m black, I’m American, and agree 100% with everything you’ve said. I’ve seen these things since I was a little girl and I rejected it. I was always incredibly insulted by what counted as black culture. Today it makes my skin crawl that these pornographic performances are held up as examples of black excellence. I hated any idea that said because I’m black, that means X. No. I’m human and I am open to all the same experiences as everyone else. We’re more than this.
I am black American and I approve this message ❤
Ms. Bahamian Gyl. Thank you very much for telling the truth. You have every right to speak on the plight of the African American community. I like to remind people that slave ships transported enslaved Africans from the United States to Brazil, South America. You are doing an excellent job. Keep speaking the truth.
Me 3
@@CarlosLawson-lc2iq Who put them on those ships? Who traded them not looking for trouble but stating facts.
Have you been taught African American history? I have. Go do some basic research, then comment.
@@CarlosLawson-lc2iq Another EBT BLM boofer no wounder they don't claim you.
I just don't understand what happened to home training, it's like parents no longer teach their children how to act any more.
This is Caribbean an African trash culture in America. Let's be clear.
The main problem is that their isn’t good family structures. There isn’t good fathers in the homes. Mothers aren’t honoring themselves and their bodies therefore being horrible examples for their children. There’s a common trend I have seen not only online but in my actual life too.
The parents were raised in degeneracy. What are they going to teach their children? The same thing
A lot of black parents can’t take criticism of their child . Teachers have tried but parents get upset and blame teachers for their child’s behaviors . There no accountability
Unfortunately, soft parenting in previlant in all levels of society and cultures. It does not work. Structure and discipline is gone.
The biggest challenge facing black culture today? Ourselves. Nothing more, nothing less. There is no race that claims to be limited by other races, that also inhibits themselves and others quite like us black folk. Great video, you make excellent points.
YESSSSS! I have always loved to read. The library was my escape in my childhood from my chaotic family and bullies at school. I'm dark skinned. Do you know how many times I was told I was a sellout or acting white because I loved to read? I was not 'keeping it real' because I graduated high school. SMH🤨
@@msJjbluematrix As someone that went to a private school, I completely relate. Even as a very young child I always remember feeling ostracised by black people (and even family) because they thought that we thought we were better than them. As I got older that turned to being classified as white for being knowledgeable and speaking "correctly". It was a tough time.
Even the ones who wanna help destroy us. If you keep your kid in a wheelchair so they don’t have to risk falling you’re hurting them. We do this with the destructive elements of our community, not wanting to get rid of the cancer
You say “ourselves” but is it myself when someone treats me poorly because of what people that look like me do?
We are our worse enemy
Imagine how Black People were facing inhumane discrimination around the 40’s-60’s yet, they were very dignified and graceful.
Bravo to you for encouraging DIGNITY and SELF RESPECT.
agree
Totally agree also
This is a message that we can all take and apply it in our own lives!
Agreed 👍💯
this shouldn't only apply to black culture but the world we all should carry ourselves with a bit more self respect and dignity, because how can you respect others when you don't even respect yourself
One additional thing I've noticed is responsibility with money. Buying designer clothes, making payments on $2,000 rims for a $500 car, and all the other ways that money gets wasted adds up fast.
Listen to me.....that is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I spoke about that in another video....the one where I say we've gotten entitled. I just don't understand the logic. Even back home in The Bahamas, I would see people with $75,000 cars parked at an apartment. If I have a car like that, I am gonna have a house.
@@ThisBahamianGyal just an example that opened my eyes to this was that young lady who made up a kidnapping story about how she pulled over to rescue a toddler walking along the highway, then abandoned her car and was believed to be abducted. I reacted to the fact that she was very young and a student, and driving a very expensive Mercedes SUV. I'm middle class middle income and that vehicle is way out of my budget. It's possible her family was very wealthy but otherwise why does a young woman feel the need for such a luxury car and for what money? This flaunting of non-existing wealth is prevalent across many cultures today and it's so destructive and steals young people's futures from them.
When that money could of been invested in something long term like at stocks , cds, etc
f*ck spinning rims BUY SOME LAND BUY SOME LAND
@@ThisBahamianGyalI agree with u on everything. but it’s not just a black issue when it comes to money it’s a people issue u have people with $75,000 dollar cars in the driveway of houses they can’t afford lots off people are just frontin.
Lack of accountability (calling out bad behavior) and number one issue would be fatherless homes
I like that....I agree!
This only applies if there is statistical evidence to support this theory...... that is how you hold people accountable. Develop a hypothesis and then proved it.......
This would mean all the soldiers at war or those who died their kids would have the same outcome.....
@@mariejane1567 you have got to be kidding me🤦
I agree to some extent but I was raised by my mother after dad passed in an accident and yet I was raised well. It's better to be raised by a self-respecting and morally upright mom who knows how to impact moral decency in her kids than having an immature, disrespectful and abusive dad. So being raised by one or two parents in not the total reason why we turn out the way we do but how discipline is instilled.
Those homes are fatherless because men keep failing as men
Thing to remember the thief in that store is not stealing from the store they are stealing from you paying extra to cover the loss.😡That will piss ya off for sure.
The culture elevates the worst while tearing down the best. It is upside down and backwards.
That's why it's called "devolution".
This is by design from the media and other sources.
@@byronwhite6398 I know it is. Look who is in charge…
Damn that's a deep quote. Well Said Austin!!!
@@byronwhite6398 so it’s someone else’s fault? We’re too dumb to not know how to act right and we just follow “the media”? We’re not responsible for our own behavior?
I am an old white man that as a kid in the sixties i lived in a poor neighborhood and many of my friends were black. I can relate to everything you say i have seen the social change for the worst. Thank you for your honest commentary, I enjoy listening to you.
The boomer generation knows she it telling truth... because we grew up in better times and have seen the changes for the worse...
Me too .
I'm races toward any disrespectful peoples. They think their butt and bodies are for everyone to see. They don't have respect for no peoples. They are simple they do anything to be seen. They like to hang with their kind . Their fathers didn't raise them so they raise their selves. God gave them over to demons.
Of course you have seen decline. But its white people too. Have you not seen the tents filled with white folks in every city in the USA? White folks living in their cars? White women on street corners in most cities. Every race is suffering. It’s not just Black people on the decline. This finger pointing is absurd.
It all started to change when MLK was assassinated. Before that we got along just fine.
I am a UK white woman, I have grown up in a multi-cutural society and as a teenager was in awe of the strong parenting, the closeness to the church and support of the community I saw in the neighbourhoods in London. I taught in an independent school in Lagos, Nigeria, and saw the same with those parents. If the students got in trouble at school, the parents would punish them again. In London among the predominantly black communities now we have riots and knife crime, gangs and thieving. Its so sad. The godliness and love for community is still there but it is not supported by society. Being strict is somehow seen as cruel. This abandonment of pride and structure creates lawless chaos.
Sure
They teach how to scan the government in their church
I am a black man over 60, as bad as things are today, its nice to see a black woman that talks 1000% truth. Keep up the good work and maybe one day they will understand!
I live in upstate NY and we’ve had three pharmacies close because of theft. When you go to Walmart everything is locked up. It is very irritating when you have to wait for an employee to come and open the cases. 🙄
Well .....I would say that is theft overall not just bound to race
@@rawgab4439to say one race doesn’t do it more than other races would be disingenuous.
@@just2genders668 yes, how can you solve a problem if you cannot even talk about it honestly.
I'm Poles and I living in the Poland, however so sad about future of USA. I remember when I was kid in 80' ( in Poland was still comunism) and we were dreaming to Poland become so rich and developed as America. After 30 yeas I realize that now we are living better and saver in Poland then citizens of America. I'm not happy about it at all. I hope collapsing of American state and people will stop and America will be great place to live again. I whish you good luck. Gretings from Poland
Too much immigration. Don't let this happen to your country.
Look where diversity is taking the USA and also the European countries.
Nothing but turmoil and chaos.
Poland and a number of European countries are wise ,not to take in Muslims refugees.
The US was hot in the 20th century but that was due to the Europeans who migrated there
America is fine, it continues to be a rich developers countries but no country 300 million strong is without problems
Thank-you for saying out loud what many non black people are afraid to say.
I'm not afraid to say it. I've lost a couple of woke white friends because of it.
@@billmorrison9068 You're better off without those "friends"
It's actually non black people who are the biggest consumers of this music. So if you could get them to stop buying it, that would be great.
Okay. I’m not black but I feel concern for my fellow humans. Present day is not what I acknowledge as “black” culture. I’m a boomer. These aren’t the black people I remember and admire and respect. Why do these people (white included) want to dress like this? Black culture that I acknowledge is nuclear family, clean, neatly dressed, religious and respectful of each other especially the women. Even the poor people had pride and it was obvious and garnered respect. We hear “black pride” today but it’s a lie. There’s no pride when your two year old daughter is twerking and your sons pants are around his knees or you’re happy to be treated like trash. Sorry this comment is so long and I know some may be offended. I really wish y’all would reject the people that are destroying you. Thanks for sharing. You are beautiful. …from a place of love, peace. Afterthought: today’s young black people would not have been able to gain the civil rights ground that was gained initially. Think about it. They wouldn’t be taken seriously. I’m sure someone will have a good argument against that lol.
I am black and a fellow boomer. Growing up in the sixties we learned to respect people who were older than us even on the play ground. When I was 14 years old I wanted to hang around older guys who I thought were good mentors and they were! They made sure to keep me out of trouble and they instilled boundaries because of my age. These guys wore banlon knit shirts with dress pants and the latest style loafers. This is when pride was taken in combing the afros and talking respectfully to the women who were dressed to impress when they went to house parties and club venues. Muscle cars and luxury cars were the normal mode of transportation. Society has changed so much from back in the day as we say. I miss those brothers and especially the around the way girls (respectfully) who would braid our hair into corn rolls for us. The neighbors who looked out for us like Aunties did their part in keeping us on the strait and narrow. Back then there were more male teachers in the schools and things were settled when there was trouble in the class room. I actually feel depressed seeing the new normal if I can call it that. The people I have referred to are slowly gone away having done their part in the neighborhood and leaving their mark on us boomers who learned from them. I have hope that our efforts to instill decency to our grandchildren will leave a mark on society that yearns to get back to the days of pride and respect for others.
I agree with you
@@jairushughes2884being a white Irish patriot and traditional Catholic, I totally agree and I’m only age 53 - in my 30 years in supermarket retailing and 22 years living in the U.K., I’ve noticed this decline and descent into degeneracy happening at a far faster pace in my native Ireland much faster than here in the U.K. - I was a teenager in the 1980’s and many of the pop stars back then had real class and real self-respect, but not now
Millennial/genZ raised by a boomer.
Have all the old school raisings. Feel like a fish out of water.
I had that same thought you put in your after thoughts, glad I'm not the only one
I shared ur video on fb. I'm a light skin Puerto Ricn married to a black woman. Dated many black females. Always had and hung out with black men. I grow up in Brooklyn NY.
So it kills me to see this. I saw it coming since the early 90s late 80s.
I tried speaking up, but was told to shut up. Was even called a racist by some of my own family members. When for yrs, I was the only light skin person on Thanksgiving day dinner or Christmas etc,etc. For years.
Truly sad. Only God can turn this around.
My favorite part is how in the 50* and 60s they fought to end segregation and today they want segregation. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
*In my opinion. SOCIETY listens to argue, NOT to comprehend*
Lov your videos 😘
I’m the type of black person that agrees with EVERYTHING you said and how you feel.
American Indian here (Cherokee & Apache). Born & raised in East Baltimore City Md. I agree with you. I used to call my “family” out on their bs often but I was met with arguments & confrontations. Unfortunately I was born into a family that thrived & continue to thrive on ignorance and bs (Excluding my 2nd eldest sister who’d agree with you as well) I knew at age 7 that I was going to move far away from them AS SOON as I grew up. My mom was abusive and turned my siblings and I against one another (I’m the youngest of 4, 2 sisters & 1 brother) my mom’s side of the family are degenerates and my dad’s side are more conscious aware. My mom’s mom raised me to “know better” that caused my “mom” & her side to treat me differently. Once I was old enough & met my now husband (1997) it was a wrap. I left in 1998 & NEVER looked back. My husband purchased our home in 2004 in Northeast Baltimore. I always tell my husband that I wish there was some way that a dress code could be implemented for EVERYONE and those who violate it by coming out of their home unkept should be heavily fined. I used to be a preschool teacher & some parents would bring their children to school still in pajamas with cole in their eyes smelling like sleep & musk wanting to talk all in our faces. I had to tell them not to come dressed that way when picking up our dropping off their children. They’d get VERY angry & a few wanted to fight. I didn’t care & we didn’t fall back on our rules. It was either follow the rules or place your child somewhere else. One thing I will say is I grew up with all races & I can say I have seen domestic violence in Asian homes. My father was in the Air Force & was very close friends with SEVERAL Asian families who took care of my sisters & I when our “mom” would be admitted to an asylum on & off for her mental illnesses. One guy was Mr. Jon Kim Lee. He was so hateful to his wife & daughters but treated his sons like gold. He would drink the moment his feet hit the floor in the morning until his head hit the pillow at night. We used to help in the store and helped tailor clothing. (I know how to make any type of clothing item & handbags by hand thx to them & my mom) They just don’t report the abuse to the world but it DEFINITELY takes place. My father (Apache) was an AMAZING man who never cursed us or our mom and never raised his hands to ANY of us even though she constantly cheated on him & fought on him every chance she got. He taught me what a man should be & he & my grandma taught me how to dress, respect, & carry myself. I’ve been with my husband for 27 years and married to him for 18.5 years. He’s such a wonderful man he’s most from perfect but he’s DEFINITELY perfect for me. I hope one day “Our People” open up their eyes & realize the power & beauty they possess. I don’t understand what the lore about this “death” music and “no respect” dress culture comes from. I get sick to my stomach seeing these folk sag their pants and wear undergarments outside as clothing thinking it’s cute. It’s SICKENING & needs to stop. Continue to speak your mind & ignore the ignorance and ignorant comments. Some folk hate the truth.. keep speaking it we’re listening.💜🖤💙💚
Hey there. Some weeks ago I met an Apache and felt honored. Anyhoo... my son borrowed a little bit of money to finish an excellent university where he almost had a full scholarship. He has his dream job and was really lucky. He's an engineer. Now, my thoughts are that the same situations hold true for economists, social workers, teachers, theologists, chefs, healthcare workers, librarians, legal professionals, and all the workers who move communities and civilizations forward. These types of people make live stable and predictable. So which of these disciplines are LESS important to civilization than athletics? Are teachers LESS important than hockey players? They must be. When you can get the same scholarship to work in the law as you can to kick a damned ball, pants will stop sagging. I HATE sagging and those hair bags, but I understand it. They're trying to look like they don't care about what people think of them. You only care when you need approval, and that means being weak. Being "black" means being strong, like the star athletes who get the big bucks. That's why they love fighting, because "black" people are strong and no one can doubt that. They might fight you for anything. The problem is the lie... like it always is. Car tires are black. African Americans are brown, so they're trying to be something they're not. They, and most African Americans, and for that matter most Americans... are confused. Tragically confused. "White" people are usually pinkish. Natives used to be called "red". There are injustices at play with the Native American, Latino, African American, and poor Caucasian America populations, and justice requires truth. This game is rigged. Borrow to become just about anything else but get paid to play a game, which is to waste people's time. On top of that, pro athletes used to have to wear suits when they were on TV, used to have to get college degrees, couldn't have tattoos. Not anymore. They normally (but not always thank god... but still they NORMALLY) look and sound like clowns at best, and thugs at worse, so again. The game is rigged against these kids.
Wait, wouldn’t you just be Native American? Indians are people from Indian Subcontinent.
Native Americans were mistakingly termed “Indians” by Christopher Columbus as he set out for India but stumbled across North America.
Wouldn’t “American Indian” mean an American born to Immigrant Parents from India?
@@cxssetteman182 American Indian is the preferred descriptor for some tribal people. When Europeans started calling tribal people in the Americas "Indians", India wasn't even called India - it was called Hindustan. The area of the Caribbean where they landed is called the West Indies, so they called the people they found there Indians.
During the part about the explicit music in the urban store, a lot of people think "well, I hear them saying the same words to their children so they must not mind" or "no one else has complained"
The universality of the decline of our community is so troubling to me. I'm a South African dark-skinned woman, and the utter disrespect, disregard and contempt that our men have for us and our children is here is disheartening. The heinous attrocities that they commit, daily, towards each other and their own women and children is just unfathomable. It's like we've completely lost our moral compass. There's seemingly just no sympathy or empathy for one's fellow human being anymore. So sad. Powerfully honest video. Thank you so much.
Men have been attacked for years, and put down that their masculinity has been ruined. Women saying, we don't need men, but then turn around and say where are all the men
Can you give us a comparison between the African American ghettos & South Africa? which is worse & why? (please give details)
I'v herd that South Africa is worse for black now then under the racist apartheid government is that true?
thank you.
@@AncientRylanor69 apartheid wasnt racist. the blacks have been
I think there is a growing divide between the black SAns that have and those that don't. I definitely wouldn't say that it's worse than Apartheid, absolutely nothing is comparable to that period. But I will say the social effects of removing fathers in the homes of black families (through mines, Group Areas Act) are being suffered now and we're having to deal with fatherlessness, men with undiagnosed PTSD with many self medicating, lack of socialization of kids and desensitization to violence. I think we have mental health issues that we're only now taking about and campaigns to destigmatize mental health services. I think also enforcing the law is hard, because so many of the young boys commiting crime don't have any family support and putting them in jail will expose them to hardened criminals that will recruit them. It's a catch22
Being SA and in the NGO space, it's all races that are affected by this. Some have fathers but they are not present and are abusive. Men need to all learn how to be good men again and women need go learn to be good women.
@@Tt-iu4vk Thanks
Wow. You left no stone unturned. Excellent video. You're very insightful and real. Keep up the great work.
I am an asian woman, i have black husband and kids. And his family don't act or behave ghetto. They well reserved and nice black people. I like listening to you, you make sense, said all the things you said are so true.
Well you have been raised with high standards of family values but most others didn't experience that privilege
@dandance46 Is your husband African or of direct African lineage (Second generation African) by any chance?
@@nt3264 He's from the US, born and raised in the US.
@@dandance46 I think she means, is he a black American derived from slavery, or an AFRICAN raised in the US.
@@britneyt9253 Thank you :)
I can relate to the teacher! As an educator, I have had 3rd graders, yes, 8-9 year old students show total disrespect to other educators. Habitual ones, are the worst. Yet, all they get is a pat on the hand and they will tell you right to your face that "nothing gonna happen to me" and dare you to say otherwise.
@@j.m.8951 in Africa or the Caribbean that child would get corporal punishment and not even dare complaining
No fear of the Lord
No respect for authority
Nuns with rulers worked for me.
OMG!!! I went to Catholic school. I got spanked (caned as we call it) and that was IT for me. I was so ashamed. It worked. I got caned in front of my classmates no less.
I'm sorry that happened to you. You look at schools ,even in third world countries and those kids line up straight as a pin. Usually with their little uniforms on.
I understand your point on the non authority I feel like that’s a major problem but I don’t get the religious angle, white and Asian communities despite having a higher rate of irreligiousity are more likely to display good behavior and strong family ties since it’s just common sense for them
Fear is not the same as respect. You should not only treat authority with respect, but everyone.
Treating everyone with respect is a sign of being a good person. If you are only doing because you are afraid of getting caught, you are not.
Madam, you are real Fighter for The Truth.
Geetings from Poland,Eu.
It's not just black culture. It is all of society that is devolving.
Yeah but we all know and can admit b folks are THE most socially and psychologically fd up . The evidence shows.
That's right, their appears to be about two generations of all ethnic groups in America, that had no business having children 🙄, because they did not raise them to be productive members of society, and have respect for others, as well as for their selves
...thanks to black culture aka nihilism.
@@LinuxUser00 I believe colonization ruined everything. Before that, people were living and evolving in nature. Now phones and new society has destroyed the minds of children. Everywhere colonization is, there is a problem.
True,but it affects the black community more,