I have no social skills. I have made no friends in college only acquaintances and I get very lonely. People think this is common sense but to me I just don’t understand conversation. Thanks :(
I made friends in college by attending study groups, we would meet up either on campus or outside of campus like at a library or a coffee shop. That worked for me because I'm an introvert, but there was sonething to bond over and strike a convo like how example in lecture that day it was so confusing trying to understand the Krebs cycle or anything regarding the class you have.
@@darilsandoval7452 I highly highly suggest this!!! I made sooo many friends by sending out a mass email saying "does anyone want to meet up before the exam to review?" it works!
I think its the Canadian tone. I say Conversation the same way. I think its because our accents are sing songy. She sounded normal to me. I had to re listen and still didnt pick it up haha
I didn’t know how much I needed this video until I realized how awkward and quiet I felt having dinner with some of my extended family I hadn’t seen in awhile. Thank you!!!
Summary: 1. You have something in common with everyone 2. Do an activity together 3. Show that you are welcoming and attentive spirit 4. Practice conversation frequently and on a variety of people Thank you for this video! Learnt a lot❤️
The problem I have with talking to people is that I tend to start worrying about how I'm being perceived, thus I don't actually listen to what they have to say. But thank you for your tips :) very helpful x
The more comfortable you are in your own skin, the more you will be able to loosen up and strike up conversations with total strangers. Practice self-love and apply these tricks, the results won't make you wait too long.
This is fantastic. 🌸 I was scrolling and wondering if it’s weird for a 16 year old to need help with having conversation and questioning if I should be having these issues and I saw this comment and it just made my night😊. I’m extremely excited for the 1st day of school now.
As a introvert I find small talk so difficult, but I've discovered that if I listen and can turn the conversation around to something that I am interested in then go a lot better.
I need more of these videos xD I’m trying to make friends. I’m pretty shy and sometimes I get very impatient with all of this. I usually think that people don’t like me. I have many acquaintances mostly older people, they consider me as a friend but I still feel kinda sad about not having friend my age. I tend to feel more comfortable with guys but I sometimes end up having feelings for them and ruining the potential friendship. So every time I get more connected, I push the person away. People usually forget about my existence so when I actually see them again and go to say hi to them they don’t remember me . Help?!!🥺🥺🥺
I get this feeling. There's something about our self-esteem that keeps us from developing healthy and durable relationships. You need to first understand what to love YOURSELF for, think about why YOU would be a great person to be friends with. Spend time getting to know yourself first, understand which qualities about you should be nurtured and which gotten rid of. Grow into a person you want to be and you will feel confident enough to share yourself with other people. Just remember to give yourself time.
I feel like past experiences play a major role in this. Like, if you have been bullied or not gotten the response you wanted it’s extremely off putting as your brain is trying to protect yourself from being hurt again emotionally. I think I could potentially be a very chatty person as I am with people I feel comfortable around but otherwise I’m like a closed book. I think it scares me that I don’t truly know what someone is thinking or how they will react. In the video she gives examples of what they would probably say back but you can’t guarantee they will be that nice or give the response you want and could give you a d**khead answer and make you even more introverted. Also your delivery has to be good as well, sometimes I say what I gunna say in my head first then it comes out as a big mess because of the adrenaline of social anxiety and putting sooo much emphasis on getting through a conversation and getting the response you want as you’ve convinced yourself it’s so important and if you mess up you’ll feel like an idiot who can’t get to know people. Sorry for the rant.
I know this feeling so well. Guess we just need time and practice. Try drilling into your head some positive thoughts, like "I am good enough", "I am an interesting person" etc. Practice self-love!
Jessy Lawless lol late but also remember you don't have to get everyone's like or approval, if someone gives you a rude response or is closed off to conversing just leave the conversation. And just relax (easier said than done) but don't put too much pressure on exchanging pleasantries
As a 15 years old girl who's growing in a modern world with an almost totally modern family, I've never had chats where women tell me how to be a better girl/women. I feel you as the women on the family who teaches me how to grow in a lovely way. Thank you❤ and sorry if my english isn't good, it's not my mother lenguage
Que bonito que jovencitas como tú esten interesadas en la feminidad y aprender de mrs midwest ☺️ me hubiera encantado saber muchos de sus tips a tú edad👍 yo ya tengo 30 soy casada y sin hijos, pero creo que nunca es tarde para aprender más asi que tambien me encanta mirarla e inspirarme con sus consejos 😊 ¡Saludos Micaela y la mayor de las suertes en tú viaje por la vida! ☺️✊
✨💕✨💕✨✨ Great video✨ 01:30 Many ppl weren’t taught by their parents 🙋🏼♀️ 01:50 Don’t blame yourself.. many of us need extra teaching 11:52 💥☄️ 12:07 02:50 1) You always have something in common with ppl .. remind urself ✨03:24 03:44 Start ups at a wedding “How do u know the bride “ “Oh tell me what she was in high school like “ “Do u still play basketball “ 04:40 Start ups at a cafe with a cute guy “Ask what he usually gets there to eat” 05:38 CUT DOWN the eye contact *red sparrow* 06:27 👀 facing someone head one 😖 can be stressful e.g ) dnyal arshad, ibbi malik . Thanks for this genuine tip coz a lot of videos suggest on maintaining eye contact .. where’s its other way around 08:55 more start ups 10:45 Don’t over look ppl just bcoz they aren’t ur first choice of best friend
Your lip colour looks beautiful on you! Suits you very well, thank you for sharing your tips on this. I especially liked the way you emphasised on building connections rather than to fill in time. Recently, I have been finding myself in a situation where I have more acquaintances in university than close friends so this is perfect timing. Have a wonderful day Mrs. Midwest 😝🥰
Just got back from a wedding and I was so grateful I had been taught how to have a conversion with anyone!! It’s a great skill to have!! Thanks for the refresher tips, appreciate it!!!
Most people tell me I’m great with conversation, it’s part of what I do for a living. However, I find myself mildly uncomfortable meeting new people and tend to overly make it all about them. I ask a lot of questions and latch on to the things I find that they’re interested in. It may seem like it’s going well, but I feel this is what prevents me from making solid connections with people. I don’t open up, but I manage to get others to do so. I’ve done this with “friendships” too, so much that I resent the other person for not knowing who I really am or “getting” me, when I was never really honest about myself from the start.
M H Wow I feel exactly the same! I’m always so kind and try to make people feel comfortable by talking about themselves, but I find I never get the same attention. People can leave a conversation without even asking anything about me. It happens, like you say, even with former friends. Since a couple of months I decided not to listen to anyone anymore, like why?
I have such social fear. Idk why it’s so difficult for me and I’ve been striving to be better when getting to know new people. It comes so naturally to my husband. I wish it came naturally to me. I always fear that I’ll over step.
Caitlin, I'm so grateful for your videos as a 17 year old woman who is trying to develop better character and womanly maturity. Feel like your videos are a gift from God, honestly ❤
Be well-read and well-traveled. Learn many languages. Have a good level of knowledge on many subjects. Expand your vocabulary. Master your voice and keep your throat, lungs, teeth, etc in great health...these organs help you with speaking clearly and well.
@@angel1xoxo ooooor you could just skip that video if Caitlin does end up filming a faith related one. Creating an entirely seperate channel is silly if Caitlin doesn't do many faith related videos.
Lovely points Caitlin! I also noticed, that if someone opens up about them self, something slightly embarrassing and funny, I feel more comfortable in their company , like we are already friends. I like to do this with shy people, it makes the whole conversation less scary 😊
You eluded to this in the video but didn't say it explicitly, which is asking open ended questions. I work in customer service and it really has taught me the importance of asking questions that start with how, why, tell me about, etc. That really opens people up and it gives you more to work with than a yes or no answer. Although sometimes starting with a closed-ended question is a good start for someone who may seem shy. Because once they respond with yes or no they may feel more comfortable to answer longer open ended questions. Awesome video! Sending hugs as always!
How would you deal with a person constantly talking about themselves and fishing for compliments? You would be a perfect target for such individuals who only take your attention and are way into themselves.
my best tip: find the loneliest looking person in the room (or if that's you, find someone else who looks lonely) and go over and talk to them. they are likely new and want someone to talk to. Then, bring them around and introduce them to other people who may be just acquaintances to you. Also, I used to be a tour guide in college. You learn quickly how to read people, and tailor your talk or responses to questions based on their wants/needs.
I’m not the most confident person at first and have always had the “shy” label follow me 🙁 I really liked the tips, especially the final one! It’s a good idea to practice especially when you may never see the people again (say you make an awkward conversation).
Could you please make a video about the "physical relationship" in a couple, a believing couple. What are the woman's and the man's duties and rights in that area? 🙏🏻🌸🌸🍃
This video is winner for best video of the day for me today. I think I have learnt something very usefull here. Sometimes I am mastering conversation and sometimes like not at all ... but it also realy depends on my mood and if I have enough energy for meaningful communication.
I just wanted to say thank you for this. I spent the years that I was trying to develop these traits I was in a highly abusive relationship for 5 years. Since then I went from outgoing to being shy and intervort never wanting to talk to others. I've wanted to develop this habit, my husband tries to help but talking is different then strangers.
I am so sorry you went through that experience! But I am also so proud that you are still focused on your own growth and on continuing your personal development. Sending you so much love my dear! Xoxo
You are a class act and so wise. I would add don’t forget to make efforts in conversation within your own family/extended family. I have observed that people sometimes get lazy or self-absorbed and forget to make conversation with family members they don’t see often maybe thinking they know all about them. You family time is so much more enjoyable if you make the effort to converse and your family will feel closer.
Excellent tips to become confident person I am very grateful for your ideas for sure I am going to use your ideas in my daily life to improve my confidence
Where I live, if you do all these friendly gestures and kindness then you are a wimp and loser chasing people - i do All of that and that is why i don't have friends but I'm ok with that.
Great video - you are so on point! 😊I love your emphasis on conversation as a nurturing trait and it’s distinction from girlishness. I made a video about conversation about a month ago- I’d love for you to check it out! Sending you love from Canada 🇨🇦 😊💕🌸
I've watched some of your videos! You have a great channel as well! 👍 It's always great seeing other content about modesty and femininity. I feature some of this on my channel too 💕
B-Anne The Bombshell I have been subscribed to your channel for a while 😊. I think it’s so important for women in this small niche to support each other 😊💕
These tips were super helpful! I am sure you are a pleasure to talk to :) Love your positive feminine energy. Keep shining the way you do. God bless you 💗
Your tips are always on time! I’m trying to learn the art of better conversation. I can be very introverted and get a little nervous when it’s time to talk to others or when I have to initiate conversation. Also I’m very blunt so I’m learning how to speak well, too.
1. You have sth in common with EVERY human. (Food, work, life, clothes etc.) but also sth related to the context like asking another wedding guest: „and how do you know the bride?“ 2. The key is essentially trying to learn about the other person and REMEMBER the info!! Also try establishing a couple of commonalities 3. Do sth while talking (reduces eye contact & takes off the pressure) 4. Try facing the person from a slight angle instead of dead-on eye contact 5. Show that you are a welcoming and attentive person. Some people like talking about themselves, but some are afraid to trust/bore you, so make sure you are welcoming and aren‘t grilling them with an ulterior motive in mind. TIP FROM ME: also it helps to greet them, and then start your question like this: tell them sth about yourself and then ask them what they think of xyz that you talked/asked about. Ok, on with Caitlin‘s tips: 6. Practice practice practice. With various people and in various situation. 7. Don‘t be nitpicky with your convo partner, everyone has sth valid to say! 8. invite people around you to join the conversation. TIP FROM ME: open body language!!! Open the circle to let someone in!! Bonus tip: I heard this advice once, that when you feel really awkward or shy at a new setting/party etc., imagine you‘re the host. Friendly, genuinely happy everybody came, and now you‘re making meaningful connections with your guests, making sure they‘re feeling good, too. This tip has seriously never failed me, even when it‘s not a party, if it‘s at work gatherings/breaks- people there often just WAIT for someone to take out the pressure to be serious, stuffy and uptight. You can be respectful while making jokes and meaningful connections. It‘s desired even in those very challenging environments- often people around you are just waiting for someone who‘s brave enough to get a conversation going. And you can be that person.❤️❤️❤️❤️ all the love to you guys and girls!!
Great points Caitlyn! 💕 So true that these days we all tend to text instead of speak on the phone or communicate virtually instead of connecting in person. Really love what you said about how we all have so much in common. I always think like this- we are much more alike than different! 💕💕xo
In less than 3 hours I'll have to meet a bunch of strangers I'll have to spend 4 years with in high school, and youtube just dropped me this, thank you for advices to connect with them! :)
I am at least 15 years older than you and married with small children, but I find myself watching your videos over and over and learning so much. I also appreciate that you are welcoming and kind to people who don’t share your faith.
You're thoughts on that topic a so well thought through. I loved it. But I have to say - Even though I am not really shy I do struggle to talk to stranges from time to time. Especially if you feel that they are kind of judgemental or negative. Do you have any tips how to master those situations? Lots of love from Germany!
any suggestions on how to relate/connect with other married couples with kids when you don't have any? I find for some reason when I'm with a bunch of couples they all have children and I can feel like an outsider
I have been watching the Joe Rogan Experience and it seems like he can have a fabulous conversation with literally any human being about literally any topic. He puts people at ease, he asks all the right questions, and always has something of his own to contribute in a unique and positive way.
This video was so helpful, thank you for sharing your tips. I’m usually quite introvert and like to keep to myself in crowds but you really encourage us as your audience to open up and be the best versions of ourselves
My sister and I call you mom as a term of endearment since you’re teaching us to be ladies. We both look up to you! Our dad did the raising us so I love getting to learn about embracing our femininity! When we take your advice we say, “mom says...!” 😂💕🎀
@mrsmidwest I observe your outfit and make up applications A LOT. It looks so good, All of the time. How do you determine your make up look and the application. I never learned good tips about make up growing up from my mom, what compliments my face, my outfit, my tone, ect. I love looking at yours...it's never overdone. It's always subtle and complimentary, and it always brings out your natural beauty more. I'd love to learn your thoughts/knowledge on make up if your able/comfortable to share it💜
oh honey i know how to start a conversation i just cant continue it
Ikram Abbas me too
Me three
Ikram Abbas Same.
Exactly I’m so bad
Same 🤣🤣🤣
I can’t be the only one who was constantly triggered by the way she pronounced the S in conversation, I feel abused
yeah me too
Me too
Converzation
I don’t even know how to say conversation anymore
Zzzzzzation
I’m delighted you posted this!! :) social skills are a weakness of mine
Same here!
Admir Barucija I have zero lol
Admir Barucija same😔
Xochitl Rizo Lol it’s not easy! everyone requires different communication methods and it sucks being super shy
We are all growing! So happy you’re here :)
I have no social skills. I have made no friends in college only acquaintances and I get very lonely. People think this is common sense but to me I just don’t understand conversation. Thanks :(
don't be so hard on yourself. your current situation doesn't have to stay that way. you can build your skills I'm sure. I'm rooting for you!
Xochitl Rizo same here :(
I made friends in college by attending study groups, we would meet up either on campus or outside of campus like at a library or a coffee shop. That worked for me because I'm an introvert, but there was sonething to bond over and strike a convo like how example in lecture that day it was so confusing trying to understand the Krebs cycle or anything regarding the class you have.
get yourself a job that requires you to talk to people. you can put on your work face and play a part until it starts feeling more natural =)
@@darilsandoval7452 I highly highly suggest this!!! I made sooo many friends by sending out a mass email saying "does anyone want to meet up before the exam to review?" it works!
The way she says converzzzation lmao great video !
Even her mistakes are the cutest! Lol
I think its the Canadian tone. I say Conversation the same way. I think its because our accents are sing songy. She sounded normal to me. I had to re listen and still didnt pick it up haha
@@lifewitholga_ !!
@@kaylag9579 OH wow didn't know she was Canadian! Got it! In the US, it's pronounced more like an s, love phonetics!
Mariah G i lived there from 1 to 19 :)
Introverts unite haha!! I’ve come a long way with my social skills, but still have much room for improvement. Thank you for this video! 💛
If Aurora from Disney had a TH-cam channel ❤️
True True 😌
Or Rapunzel! :)
Yes! They look almost identical!
Off topic but she'd look like a real life Ariel with a deep red hair color😍
I DID IT! I MADE IT HAVE 160 LIKES HAHAHAH YOU'RE WELCOME🤣
O yes!
I didn’t know how much I needed this video until I realized how awkward and quiet I felt having dinner with some of my extended family I hadn’t seen in awhile. Thank you!!!
Same! Wish I had seen this earlier. Thank you for this video.
who are your parents wow . your parents rlly raised an amazing woman
melody gerardo I would love to see her mum on the channel
Summary:
1. You have something in common with everyone
2. Do an activity together
3. Show that you are welcoming and attentive spirit
4. Practice conversation frequently and on a variety of people
Thank you for this video! Learnt a lot❤️
The problem I have with talking to people is that I tend to start worrying about how I'm being perceived, thus I don't actually listen to what they have to say. But thank you for your tips :) very helpful x
Think of strangers as future friends
omg same 😭
The more comfortable you are in your own skin,
the more you will be able to loosen up and strike up conversations with total strangers.
Practice self-love and apply these tricks, the results won't make you wait too long.
❤️ completely agree
Me working at the bar: What do u usualy get?
The guy: It's my first time here.
Me: Me to
Guy: But u work here..
Goshhhh the way you explain your thoughts is spot on 👌🏻🙌🏻
I don’t know if you will read this Caitlin, but your videos have helped me so much as a 16 year old young woman. This video was perfect for me ❤️💕
This is fantastic. 🌸 I was scrolling and wondering if it’s weird for a 16 year old to need help with having conversation and questioning if I should be having these issues and I saw this comment and it just made my night😊. I’m extremely excited for the 1st day of school now.
As a introvert I find small talk so difficult, but I've discovered that if I listen and can turn the conversation around to something that I am interested in then go a lot better.
I would love some advice geared towards young teenage girls, and how we can be confident enough to express our femininity in a school environment
Bro if Cinderella had a TH-cam channel 💙❤️
I need more of these videos xD I’m trying to make friends. I’m pretty shy and sometimes I get very impatient with all of this. I usually think that people don’t like me. I have many acquaintances mostly older people, they consider me as a friend but I still feel kinda sad about not having friend my age. I tend to feel more comfortable with guys but I sometimes end up having feelings for them and ruining the potential friendship. So every time I get more connected, I push the person away. People usually forget about my existence so when I actually see them again and go to say hi to them they don’t remember me . Help?!!🥺🥺🥺
I get this feeling. There's something about our self-esteem that keeps us from developing healthy and durable relationships. You need to first understand what to love YOURSELF for, think about why YOU would be a great person to be friends with. Spend time getting to know yourself first, understand which qualities about you should be nurtured and which gotten rid of. Grow into a person you want to be and you will feel confident enough to share yourself with other people. Just remember to give yourself time.
I feel like past experiences play a major role in this. Like, if you have been bullied or not gotten the response you wanted it’s extremely off putting as your brain is trying to protect yourself from being hurt again emotionally. I think I could potentially be a very chatty person as I am with people I feel comfortable around but otherwise I’m like a closed book. I think it scares me that I don’t truly know what someone is thinking or how they will react. In the video she gives examples of what they would probably say back but you can’t guarantee they will be that nice or give the response you want and could give you a d**khead answer and make you even more introverted. Also your delivery has to be good as well, sometimes I say what I gunna say in my head first then it comes out as a big mess because of the adrenaline of social anxiety and putting sooo much emphasis on getting through a conversation and getting the response you want as you’ve convinced yourself it’s so important and if you mess up you’ll feel like an idiot who can’t get to know people. Sorry for the rant.
Essie Lawless i feel u
I know this feeling so well. Guess we just need time and practice. Try drilling into your head some positive thoughts, like "I am good enough", "I am an interesting person" etc. Practice self-love!
Jessy Lawless lol late but also remember you don't have to get everyone's like or approval, if someone gives you a rude response or is closed off to conversing just leave the conversation. And just relax (easier said than done) but don't put too much pressure on exchanging pleasantries
Converzation???? Why is she saying it that way?
Idk but it's so funny lol love her
not everyone has the same exact pronunciation for different words. no need to act like it's the end of the world
Shirley M. You are the one acting like its the end of the world, it was just a question
Because I’m a failure 🤣🤣
Mrs Midwest sis no youre not everyone pronounces everything different no biggy💕
As a 15 years old girl who's growing in a modern world with an almost totally modern family, I've never had chats where women tell me how to be a better girl/women. I feel you as the women on the family who teaches me how to grow in a lovely way. Thank you❤ and sorry if my english isn't good, it's not my mother lenguage
Micaela Vallejo what is your mother language?
@@MeccaShields Spanish
Que bonito que jovencitas como tú esten interesadas en la feminidad y aprender de mrs midwest ☺️ me hubiera encantado saber muchos de sus tips a tú edad👍 yo ya tengo 30 soy casada y sin hijos, pero creo que nunca es tarde para aprender más asi que tambien me encanta mirarla e inspirarme con sus consejos 😊
¡Saludos Micaela y la mayor de las suertes en tú viaje por la vida! ☺️✊
@@dulcecarismatica muchísimas gracias, aprecio mucho tu comentario❤
Micaela Vallejo tbh your English is great don’t worry we understand ❤️
Converzations” is distracting me from your message.
✨💕✨💕✨✨ Great video✨
01:30 Many ppl weren’t taught by their parents 🙋🏼♀️ 01:50 Don’t blame yourself.. many of us need extra teaching 11:52 💥☄️ 12:07
02:50 1) You always have something in common with ppl .. remind urself ✨03:24
03:44 Start ups at a wedding
“How do u know the bride “
“Oh tell me what she was in high school like “
“Do u still play basketball “
04:40 Start ups at a cafe with a cute guy
“Ask what he usually gets there to eat”
05:38 CUT DOWN the eye contact *red sparrow*
06:27 👀 facing someone head one 😖 can be stressful e.g ) dnyal arshad, ibbi malik .
Thanks for this genuine tip coz a lot of videos suggest on maintaining eye contact .. where’s its other way around
08:55 more start ups
10:45 Don’t over look ppl just bcoz they aren’t ur first choice of best friend
i love your energy, its changing my heart, my thoughts, my life-everything!
I love how motherly, passionate and confident you are while teaching femininity lessons. :)
I can see you talking for TedTalks!!
Your lip colour looks beautiful on you! Suits you very well, thank you for sharing your tips on this. I especially liked the way you emphasised on building connections rather than to fill in time. Recently, I have been finding myself in a situation where I have more acquaintances in university than close friends so this is perfect timing. Have a wonderful day Mrs. Midwest 😝🥰
Can't wait for the day you give TED Talks!
Just got back from a wedding and I was so grateful I had been taught how to have a conversion with anyone!! It’s a great skill to have!! Thanks for the refresher tips, appreciate it!!!
Yeah
Will love someone taught me this when I was younger.
This video gave me anxiety
XD wtf how
the video starts at 2:46 x
Girl thank you
This video starts at 0:00 lol
The introductions are actually good. It helps frame the concept.
Most people tell me I’m great with conversation, it’s part of what I do for a living. However, I find myself mildly uncomfortable meeting new people and tend to overly make it all about them. I ask a lot of questions and latch on to the things I find that they’re interested in. It may seem like it’s going well, but I feel this is what prevents me from making solid connections with people. I don’t open up, but I manage to get others to do so. I’ve done this with “friendships” too, so much that I resent the other person for not knowing who I really am or “getting” me, when I was never really honest about myself from the start.
M H Wow I feel exactly the same! I’m always so kind and try to make people feel comfortable by talking about themselves, but I find I never get the same attention. People can leave a conversation without even asking anything about me. It happens, like you say, even with former friends. Since a couple of months I decided not to listen to anyone anymore, like why?
I have such social fear. Idk why it’s so difficult for me and I’ve been striving to be better when getting to know new people. It comes so naturally to my husband. I wish it came naturally to me. I always fear that I’ll over step.
Caitlin, I'm so grateful for your videos as a 17 year old woman who is trying to develop better character and womanly maturity. Feel like your videos are a gift from God, honestly ❤
Be well-read and well-traveled. Learn many languages. Have a good level of knowledge on many subjects. Expand your vocabulary. Master your voice and keep your throat, lungs, teeth, etc in great health...these organs help you with speaking clearly and well.
Sorry but this not the key. What i mean: an intelligent educated person might not be good with converstion.
Do this, yes, but then don’t be aloof and unreachable afterwards because you feel everyone is now beneath you. 😉😬
Would you consider doing any bible study/faith related videos?
Yesssss!!!!
Yessssss 👏👏👏👏
A Bible Study would be a beautiful addition. Yes pretty please!🍃
I know this is her channel, but not all of her watchers are religious. Maybe she could start another channel dedicated to that, if she wants to?
@@angel1xoxo ooooor you could just skip that video if Caitlin does end up filming a faith related one. Creating an entirely seperate channel is silly if Caitlin doesn't do many faith related videos.
How do you always post the perfect video? I really needed this advice myself and you seem like a great source of wisdom. Thanks!
I’m really bad at conversations and for some reason I actually have friends 🤷🏿♀️
Ilovechicken lmao! This just made my day! I’m great at conventions and I don’t have a lot of friends
She keeps saying "converZZZation" lol
what's wrong with her?
Sedna Floating Nothing
@@sednafloating7027 wth?
@@sednafloating7027 Absolutely nothing
Lovely points Caitlin! I also noticed, that if someone opens up about them self, something slightly embarrassing and funny, I feel more comfortable in their company , like we are already friends. I like to do this with shy people, it makes the whole conversation less scary 😊
Off topic but she has really nice features
Number 1 conversation tip: ASK QUESTIONS
I read the title really quickly and thought it said "How To Trick Anyone" and I was like "Oh Mrs. Midwest no!"
XD true spirit unleashed!
You eluded to this in the video but didn't say it explicitly, which is asking open ended questions. I work in customer service and it really has taught me the importance of asking questions that start with how, why, tell me about, etc. That really opens people up and it gives you more to work with than a yes or no answer. Although sometimes starting with a closed-ended question is a good start for someone who may seem shy. Because once they respond with yes or no they may feel more comfortable to answer longer open ended questions. Awesome video! Sending hugs as always!
But what if I don’t want to chop the salad with you...I’d rather be getting a drink with the guys.
Jessica Ray yeah or tell the guys to chop salad while we get the drinks 🍷
How would you deal with a person constantly talking about themselves and fishing for compliments?
You would be a perfect target for such individuals who only take your attention and are way into themselves.
Im naturally good at conversation, and expanding the topic. My only problem, a lot of times, I just don’t feel like speaking with anyone
Amelia Etienne sameee
Love all your videos! Could you do a video on careers and how to choose a career suitable to your feminine character and lifestyle?
my best tip: find the loneliest looking person in the room (or if that's you, find someone else who looks lonely) and go over and talk to them. they are likely new and want someone to talk to. Then, bring them around and introduce them to other people who may be just acquaintances to you. Also, I used to be a tour guide in college. You learn quickly how to read people, and tailor your talk or responses to questions based on their wants/needs.
I’m not the most confident person at first and have always had the “shy” label follow me 🙁 I really liked the tips, especially the final one! It’s a good idea to practice especially when you may never see the people again (say you make an awkward conversation).
The way you pronounce “conversation” amuses me😄
By the way love your video and blog !! 💕✨ much love from Puerto Rico
Could you please make a video about the "physical relationship" in a couple, a believing couple. What are the woman's and the man's duties and rights in that area? 🙏🏻🌸🌸🍃
This video is winner for best video of the day for me today. I think I have learnt something very usefull here. Sometimes I am mastering conversation and sometimes like not at all ... but it also realy depends on my mood and if I have enough energy for meaningful communication.
This is worthy of a TEDx talk.. I swear. And she's gorgeous!
“Middle school boys!”
Me: yea that’s not happening I’m deathly afraid of groups of them
M8 just say heyto one on the side and that way u wont have to face the group
I just wanted to say thank you for this. I spent the years that I was trying to develop these traits I was in a highly abusive relationship for 5 years. Since then I went from outgoing to being shy and intervort never wanting to talk to others. I've wanted to develop this habit, my husband tries to help but talking is different then strangers.
I am so sorry you went through that experience! But I am also so proud that you are still focused on your own growth and on continuing your personal development. Sending you so much love my dear! Xoxo
You are a class act and so wise. I would add don’t forget to make efforts in conversation within your own family/extended family. I have observed that people sometimes get lazy or self-absorbed and forget to make conversation with family members they don’t see often maybe thinking they know all about them. You family time is so much more enjoyable if you make the effort to converse and your family will feel closer.
Anne-Lou i agree
Excellent tips to become confident person I am very grateful for your ideas for sure I am going to use your ideas in my daily life to improve my confidence
Can you do family care??? Like proper time with family? How to get to know family more and not feel like you have none
Where I live, if you do all these friendly gestures and kindness then you are a wimp and loser chasing people - i do All of that and that is why i don't have friends but I'm ok with that.
Hi im mr.midwest and im your freestyle TALKING teacher
(Plays music and dances)
I’ve been alone the last couple of days, and TH-cam is now recommending me this😂 Well at least one cares about me🤐😂
Great video - you are so on point! 😊I love your emphasis on conversation as a nurturing trait and it’s distinction from girlishness. I made a video about conversation about a month ago- I’d love for you to check it out! Sending you love from Canada 🇨🇦 😊💕🌸
I've watched some of your videos! You have a great channel as well! 👍 It's always great seeing other content about modesty and femininity. I feature some of this on my channel too 💕
B-Anne The Bombshell I have been subscribed to your channel for a while 😊. I think it’s so important for women in this small niche to support each other 😊💕
@@CynthiaL Oh yes! I subscribed! 💕 Very true, it's important to connect with other like-minded women on this lifestyle! Thanks for following! 👍😊
I have a weird fact about me is that I know how to talk to strangers but I dont know how to talk with my loved one :/
These tips were super helpful! I am sure you are a pleasure to talk to :) Love your positive feminine energy. Keep shining the way you do. God bless you 💗
This is super good. Super helpful! Love your videos lovely woman of God!
Your tips are always on time! I’m trying to learn the art of better conversation. I can be very introverted and get a little nervous when it’s time to talk to others or when I have to initiate conversation. Also I’m very blunt so I’m learning how to speak well, too.
1. You have sth in common with EVERY human. (Food, work, life, clothes etc.) but also sth related to the context like asking another wedding guest: „and how do you know the bride?“
2. The key is essentially trying to learn about the other person and REMEMBER the info!! Also try establishing a couple of commonalities
3. Do sth while talking (reduces eye contact & takes off the pressure)
4. Try facing the person from a slight angle instead of dead-on eye contact
5. Show that you are a welcoming and attentive person. Some people like talking about themselves, but some are afraid to trust/bore you, so make sure you are welcoming and aren‘t grilling them with an ulterior motive in mind.
TIP FROM ME: also it helps to greet them, and then start your question like this: tell them sth about yourself and then ask them what they think of xyz that you talked/asked about.
Ok, on with Caitlin‘s tips:
6. Practice practice practice. With various people and in various situation.
7. Don‘t be nitpicky with your convo partner, everyone has sth valid to say!
8. invite people around you to join the conversation.
TIP FROM ME: open body language!!! Open the circle to let someone in!!
Bonus tip: I heard this advice once, that when you feel really awkward or shy at a new setting/party etc., imagine you‘re the host. Friendly, genuinely happy everybody came, and now you‘re making meaningful connections with your guests, making sure they‘re feeling good, too. This tip has seriously never failed me, even when it‘s not a party, if it‘s at work gatherings/breaks- people there often just WAIT for someone to take out the pressure to be serious, stuffy and uptight. You can be respectful while making jokes and meaningful connections. It‘s desired even in those very challenging environments- often people around you are just waiting for someone who‘s brave enough to get a conversation going. And you can be that person.❤️❤️❤️❤️ all the love to you guys and girls!!
Thank you!
You should change the title to CONVERZAYTION LOL
Can’t unhear it ❤️
Sorry but you are just being kinda rude individual. Try to braodcast your own content that will be perfect in every possible way. Go ahead.
Can you please do a video on empathy? ❤️
I learned a lot. Btw u are beaut. Couldn’t stop staring at u. Omg. I love how you hand talk too!!!
"so chop those garden vegetables with the stranger your husband invited over AND GO WITH THE FLOW"
Great points Caitlyn! 💕 So true that these days we all tend to text instead of speak on the phone or communicate virtually instead of connecting in person. Really love what you said about how we all have so much in common. I always think like this- we are much more alike than different! 💕💕xo
I love your channel and the topics you put out
In less than 3 hours I'll have to meet a bunch of strangers I'll have to spend 4 years with in high school, and youtube just dropped me this, thank you for advices to connect with them! :)
I am at least 15 years older than you and married with small children, but I find myself watching your videos over and over and learning so much. I also appreciate that you are welcoming and kind to people who don’t share your faith.
"So chop some garden vegetables with that random stranger your husband invited over" XD
You're thoughts on that topic a so well thought through. I loved it. But I have to say - Even though I am not really shy I do struggle to talk to stranges from time to time. Especially if you feel that they are kind of judgemental or negative. Do you have any tips how to master those situations?
Lots of love from Germany!
I really needed this rn bc I just started college a week ago and I haven’t really talked to anyone ;((
First tip and probably the most important one, you have to be good looking.
Paulette Serrano false.
Do you think a 14 year old could be feminine and not girly? xD
I'm 13 and thinking the same
any suggestions on how to relate/connect with other married couples with kids when you don't have any? I find for some reason when I'm with a bunch of couples they all have children and I can feel like an outsider
I have been watching the Joe Rogan Experience and it seems like he can have a fabulous conversation with literally any human being about literally any topic. He puts people at ease, he asks all the right questions, and always has something of his own to contribute in a unique and positive way.
This video was so helpful, thank you for sharing your tips. I’m usually quite introvert and like to keep to myself in crowds but you really encourage us as your audience to open up and be the best versions of ourselves
I just discovered your channel,and I'm in LOVE with your videos. I love what you talk about, so féminine and helpful. You're gorgeous. Thank you ♥️
converZations ... have you never heard this before ????????????
hahahahahahah
god job keep it up bro
You always make me feel secure and peaceful like I can do anything and it is going to be okay. :)
That lipstick is stunning on you! What is it?😍
My sister and I call you mom as a term of endearment since you’re teaching us to be ladies. We both look up to you! Our dad did the raising us so I love getting to learn about embracing our femininity! When we take your advice we say, “mom says...!” 😂💕🎀
That's so cute!!
I love your content, thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge. Greetings from Mexico.
Having my first meet up with my ex today. This cane just in time!!!! Thank you so much. 💕💕
God be with you. Can you maybe share how it went?
I start college this Thursday, this video was just in time. Thank you!! 🥰
converzZZZZZZzation
Thanks for sharing!👍
Giggling at the way she pronounces conversation,😊😂. But I love her advice. I really wish TH-cam was around in my young adult hood lol.
What an interesting topic! Great video! 💕
@mrsmidwest I observe your outfit and make up applications A LOT. It looks so good, All of the time. How do you determine your make up look and the application. I never learned good tips about make up growing up from my mom, what compliments my face, my outfit, my tone, ect. I love looking at yours...it's never overdone. It's always subtle and complimentary, and it always brings out your natural beauty more. I'd love to learn your thoughts/knowledge on make up if your able/comfortable to share it💜