My mother is quite plain on the outside. She has no style and I have never seen her with make up on or her hair done in any other way than short and combed down. She is very quiet and reserved. Her only real accomplishment in life was raising a bunch of kids and making her husband the happiest man for 47 years. But I am telling you, every man that comes around falls in love with her. She has this inner-elegance and beauty that you can feel without her saying a word. She is so peaceful, content, warm, carefully and well-spoken, and she just has this amazing grace about her. When she had stage 4 terminal cancer she was so calm and meditative, never breaking her peace or character once. The doctors told her she had no chance but she said that God told her she would recover and she refused to believe anything else. In 6 months she was cancer-free and has remained cancer-free 4 years.
Beauty Eclipse wow your mom is so inspiring! The most beautiful women I’ve met are the ones that loved God and they absolutely radiate love, elegance and beauty! I want to see a pic of her ☺️
@Shifter A it's her opinion and preference. It's as normal to dislike something as it is to like something. Not liking something doesn't mean they are "hating" on them. Hating would imply that they are jealous and throwing shots.
I love looking like an IG baddie because I'm in my early 20's (i'm not dating or looking to date - so i have no worries about the type of guys attracted to me). i have the rest of my life to look mature and elegant but ill never get a chance to look like an ig baddie when i'm 30 with kids. so i will enjoy this moment.
Those kinds of girls have low self-esteem and are insecure that's why they take so many pics for likes from people that don't even have respect for them.
7 Elegant Tips Posture Pretend to have a set of angel wings :) Don't hide your height Have a Polished and Defined style Have a head to toe look Look towards more classic style Polite and Positive demeanor Privacy and Mystery Behavioral discretion Serene confidence Feminine grace
I'm 6'1 (I am a girl) and I used to stoop to try and be smaller too, but over the last couple of years I've realised that I should accept myself and be proud, so now I stand (very) tall.
Sophie Westmoreland awhhh I really like this comment, because I’m tall too, and it makes me feel like a dude sometimes, but thank the Lord Jesus I’m starting to accept myself as I am, even without makeup
This may seem pedantic, as I do agree with everything else you said; she's a beautiful example of grace and femininity. However, she isn't a royal b y birth. she married into royalty. Which means that all of us can learn to be feminine, gracious and kind. Much love to you xx
This topic is not exacly about femininity, but could you talk about singleness and how you can use this time wisely as a woman. And maybe on how you can remain patient and satisfied in that time of "waiting" for your partner. That topic botheres me for a while now. Love your videos :) Greetings from Germany
For reaal. Ever since a child I never saw myself dressing like your typical old lady in those ugly grandma clothes. I won't try to dress young either but definitely not in any ugly outfit either. Something simple and cute for my age.
I started hunching my back subconciouslly in middle school when i first started getting a larger chest and ive never grown out of the habit. Thank you for showing me that my body is something to be proud of and not an overly sexual part of me that should be hidden so that I can be taken seriously. You're the first person that I've heard talk about this and its something i deal with all the time. Thank you so much..
This is the first time I’ve heard someone talk about the bigger chest-hunching as well!! It feels nice to know I’m not alone :) I’d love to eventually be at a place of self where I can fix my posture and feel confident about it
wow, same! i'm turning 18 in 2 weeks and i'm only now can feel how feminine i am and why i shouldn't hide it or be embarrased about my body. I want to embrace it and not hide it in all boyish clothes and bad posture, (because i HATE man glare at my body parts and sexualizing me) i want to embrace it either way!
My chest isn’t huge, my cup size is C/D, but I started developing earlier than my classmates, so I also developed “the hunch”. It took a long time for me to accept my body.
Could you make a look book video of a week of outfits or something like that so we could see examples of different types of outfits you enjoy wearing from casual to dressier?
The ideal feminine women to me is most definitely Cinderella from the live action movie. She is so kind yet knows when she needs to stand her ground and she does it with grace.
Your videos are great for men to watch too. Much of what you say can apply to men, if not in the exact form, then in a slightly adapted one. For example, keeping a straight posture works incredibly well for men too, and is masculine. The same goes for keeping order, being frugal, guarding our mind, using our time on self development as opposed to waste it on netflix too often. It also holds true for preparing ourselves for marriage. Although of course from a male perspective, with activities that interest us and more focus on skill development towards repairs, construction, job proficiency and other traditionally masculine activities. Along with acquiring male brotherhoods with other men.
Thank you both for your very kind compliments. Warms me to read. To Cammie. I did consider making one. For now im too private a person for it. Ill consider it for the future if i find my mind and life situation should change, so that I'd enjoy making such a male community channel.
Caitlin, you have truly become an inspiration to me. As someone who has just dedicated herself to Christ and femininity, I look up to you greatly. Thank you!!
I felt so much more feminine and put together when I was a wife with no children. Now 4 kids later and 1 on the way I feel like a hot mess 90% of the time. These videos are a great reminder to focus on my role as a woman and not just being “mommy”!
@@SwanTheQueen having no kids is also an option. Having kids doesn't "increase your feminine self" actually in most cases it decreases it cuz you're stuck taking care of everyone but yourself. Don't fall into the "life plan" if you're really not into it.
I'm a 20 year old male, and I find this very fascinating and can see the importance of your work for people who are seeking this self development. Love what you are doing. Your wisdom can affect many lives and allow women to flow in their nature with comfort and ease while remaining grounded. Thank you for what you do, I learn from this just as much as women do, wisdom is for all who seek it.
@Sarah : Can I ask you why did you feel the need to mention your religion?? We’re all from different religions, backgrounds and nationalities buts lot of us never felt the need to mention our religion, so I’m just curious why did you feel the need to mention that you are a Muslim
Pooja Batti Because she wanted to voice her opinion. If mentioning her religion makes her proud and confident then she has all the right to do so. I didn’t like how you said “a lot of us” making her feel like she’s alienated or different.
You are like the example of a Proverbs 31 woman. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You inspired me to become the best version of myself. Thank you so much 💖
Dude your like a real life princess, I was already imagining you singing off camera and having all the forest animals helping you clean. You remind me alot of a real life Giselle from the movie enchanted
As a teenager myself, I wish to grow into a young and elegant woman and I want to take elegance with me into old age. Elegance is something most teens have lost, I want to bring it back to the new generation that me and my friends will have brought into this world. I think it's important and timeless. Can you explain when you should wear pearls and diamonds. I find it interesting. Some say you can wear diamonds all the time, others say diamonds are for night time. And some say pearls are for night time and yeah. I find it interesting.
My grandmother taught at a finishing school for young ladys back in her days. My mother herself was very successful at beauty pageants and later trained girls for that competions as well. So it was natural that I was very early on educated on being elegant, graceful and cultivate my feminity. As I went to college it was often criticize for being too girlish, fargile and princess like. For a long time I tried to supress it. Recently by entering the workforce and becoming more mature with experiences I decided to become very subborn about it and to keep and develop that poise even further. Unfourtunately I encountered more rejections about it by other women (especially those in higher positions) for not being „feminist“ / „equal“ enough. Men suprisingly reacted very positive (yesss even my superiors in the workplace).
Patiently waiting for a look book or what to wear to church! I have recently started going again after isolating myself for ages and I’m never quite sure how to dress! Thank you for your consistent uploads! They make me feel so calm and clarified in the morning ☺️
Thank you so much for this. Growing up I was always afraid to be sexualized because I wanted to be valued for who I was, so I was terrified of ever being perceived as feminine (when I say terrified, I mean TERRIFIED. I cried at my 8th grade graduation because I wore a dress and felt uncomfortable.) Now at 19, I realize that I shouldn't be afraid of appearing feminine and that being feminine is NOT a bad thing! And that I can be successful and confident AND be feminine! In today's third-wave feminism, femininity is ironically seen as inferior and a subject of the patriarchy and therefore women should strive to be more masculine. Instead, I believe that the feminine element is beautiful and unique and should be embraced, not erased.
Excellent points! Oversharing can make you feel good and relived in the moment, until later when you feel embarrassed and wish you had kept some stuff to yourself. It is good to open up, but judiciously!
Thank you so much for your videos. I just bought some feminine dresses and I feel so good about myself when I put them on. I've never looked good in modern fashion (baggy tshirts, ripped jeans) that everyone seems to look great in but throughout college and into my twenties I wasted money and time trying to adhere to that modern style. I'm starting to accept my femininity and embrace it, I feel like before your videos I was ashamed that you know what, I look best and feel best as a feminine woman. Thanks for sharing your message with other women, it has been more empowering and informative for me than you know.
I'm 18 and my mom is overly masculine, she's yelling at me and gets mad incredibly quickly. So I didn't grew up with anyone teaching me how to take care of myself which is a pity. Thank you for this channel!
I’m so glad and thankful that I found your channel it’s very refreshing to me because everything you say I can relate to that and it feels as if finally someone understood me besides my family . I’m Muslim but I believe that Christians and Muslims have the same values as well as the same opinion when it comes about a lot of things so I want to tell you that I’m really thankful towards you and I’m really proud of you because I’ve seen most of all your videos and your videos show how much it evolved and how much though you put on them Keep going 🥰🤗 Sending lots of love from France ❤️😘
Hello my beautiful French and feminine woman! I am so happy you are enjoying my channel and feel absolutely welcome. Thank you for the continual support and encouragement on this journey! Blessings to you sister!
Flattering, tailored clothing is amazing. It transforms your whole self-image and makes people notice you in a good way - not a trashy way. It gets people interested in who you are on the inside, since you're so put-together on the outside. All you have to do is reciprocate that interest genuinely.
Thank you so much for bringing light to this topic. Growing up I always wanted to be that gracious positive princess, but people often times would misunderstand it for being “too girly” or most often times “weak”. You’re videos mean so much to not only me, but also to the younger me.❤️ Thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to be me and that embracing my femininity is a positive thing. ❤️❤️❤️
I also love when you say "my goodness". Ohh when a woman says that phrase it sends an electric honey feeling through me. It demonstrates class, refinement and there is a type of innocence and purity to it that makes me feel endearing and protective toward her. Also if you think about it it is almost as if she's saying "oh my, something sullied, unfortunate and foul almost got my goodness." It's such a sweet thing for a woman to say.
Mrs Midwest- I’m new subscriber and I appreciate your content here and on your blog. I might be your oldest follower (60+), but one is never to old to learn and be affirmed! Many blessings dear one. 🌸🌺🌸
Omg I admire you so much so when you said you're 5'8" Like me it made me so happy :) could you maybe do a video on outfit ideas to flatter tall figures?
@@caylabrown5550 ah, I've been too scared to try out skirts. I've pretty much worn skinny jeans my whole life, especially because I'm not allowed to show much skin, but I think I'm gonna check out some skirts next time I go shopping:) thanks for the advice and I hope you're having a lovely day ❤
I love how you wear tasteful elegant cloths that accent your femininity in a graceful way. You look fantastic in that dress. You can tell a lot about a woman by how she dresses. BTW I like ruffles and sun dresses are elegant as well.
I LOVED the butterfly metaphor for posture ! 😆 Can you talk about how we, in our feminine energy, can inspire our partner to be more masculine? As we moved into a more serious relationship i noticed i was putting in a lot of masculine energy, trying to control too much and i want to take a step back into my femininity and inspire him again to be in his masculine. 🌹
Tip: Give up drinking more than 1 at most 2 drinks in ANY social situation, no matter how close the friends. Just don't do it. Might seem fun in the moment but the next day you're going to be so embarrassed of the jokes you made.
Hi and thank you for these beautiful videos. I'm a 45 year old homeschooling mom of 3 children. My 12 year old daughter and I just finished watching this video because I believe that you set a good example of what a young Proverbs 31 woman looks like. Also, coincidentally at the ripe age 44 my Chiropractor finally got the courage to ask me about my slumping over posture. I really didnt know that this is how I stood. When he asked me to consciously correct it, I was blown away. He asked how long have you been standing this way? I finally realized that it was since I was a preteen and started hiding my large breast. He said he sees it all the time.This is a sad unconscious effect of protecting ourselves from unnecessary sexual shame which causes a lot of physical problems. Our internal organs need all the space available to function properly. I dont want this for my daughter who is also tall and may develop large breast. We will continue to watch and include your videos into our daily studies.
It is so wonderfull to know that there are other women who behave this way. I am blessed to have a mother who raised my sister's and I to be feminine ladies. But I have never encountered anyone my age who carries herself the same way until now. I watch your videos smiling and nodding along, every point you touch on is the life I live. It warms my heart to know that there is a growing community here that is seeking after this lifestyle as well.
You truly are the epitome of everything beautiful and elegant. How proud your parents must be of you. I want my grand daughters to watch all of your videos when they are older. I absolutely agree with everything you say and conduct my life the same way. You are a breath of fresh air. 🤗
Hello I'm Alexis and in the process of transitioning from male to female im 18 and lost my mother at 15 and didn't have a chance to tell her about my desire to become a woman instead of a man, I'm starting with this video and automatically downloaded a majority of your videos (with youtube red), although manners are apart of my everyday life and my mother did teach me to be a respectful young man and human being but yours are much more to that for me. I love how well you're explaining things in a way that's easy to comprehend, sure I like crop tops and short shirts but I feel as though like you said there is wisdom to flattering attire and that mystery is elegant I'm learning a lot about being the woman I want to be and I want my daughters to become; beautiful, smart, but still elegant and very well mannered thank you so much you are a true role model and the woman I do not aspire to become you but the version of an elegant and beautiful woman I feel I am. Knowing boundaries and limits to relationships and even myself thank you so much love and I hope to learn more about being humble and calm I look forward to your future on youtube you are a true elegant woman not because of your attire and makeup but personality and way of presenting yourself.
This is wonderful! I would love to see your process of thrift shopping items and modifying and tailoring them for yourself for those who seem overwhelmed by that process.💕
What do you do when you attract unwanted attention by being so friendly? I live in an urban area in L.A., so here we HAVE to look unfriendly to survive.
In my opinion I don't think there's anything wrong with having a stricter or uninterested look on your face if you judge for yourself that this is better for you in this specific situation or environment. I think as long as you know that this is just a look you are wearing for the moment but not who you are naturally. Just remember to smile as soon as you are comfortable, and if you feel like it, try just faking a smile just for yourself to get rid of that harsh indifferent feeling. My two cents.
Same problem I don't want to attract unwanted attention I don't want someone to stick their eyes on me everytime I get out of my house, there's this man way older than me and he always wants my attention and so when he is around I pretend to be mad always and roll my eyes if ever I had to interact with him and I hate it I'm not comfortable.
I literally took notes while watching this haha thank you so much for your wisdom, kindness and discreetly giving women back our awareness of our roots!
I love your videos. I’m so glad there are younger women that continue this mindset in this time. I agree with what you are saying but I also believe in a level of vulnerability. I think there is a fine line balance between being stuck up, discrete and vulnerable. By being vulnerable we are able to connect with people more deeply.
Caitlyn, it may be that some people find the butterfly wings concept a little childish. However, I think it is a much more effective idea than the old 'book on the head' scenario. I once proved to my mother that i could a book on my head perfectly, whilst slouching. The string from the head is ok, but the butterfly/Angel wings idea is just perfect! Blessings and love to you and yours xxx
Had to pause the video to tell you from what I've watched so far this is probably my favorite video you have made by far. And I love the reference about the fairy wings :) Ok now back to watching the rest :)
I found myself longing on how to be in touch with my femininity a few months ago, then I came across this channel. You have great advice Caitlin, it is very hard to find this information in this modern world. Thanks for your advice!!
I live for elegance and etiquette. My icon is Audrey Hepburn (always said to my friends to look for an icon to look up to) and it only makes me feel good to live my life respecting these rules you talked about. 🌹 I just subscribed!
I started hunching too when my chest grew large! Kind of thought I was alone in that way haha. I think it was a mixture of the sheer weight of them, but also as you said, not wanting to put them on display. This is a beautiful video 🧡
Every TH-cam video I watch I get told to subscribe and turn on the notifications. Your videos are the only ones I’ve actually wanted to do that for! 💕🎀
I am thinking of Audrey as you are talking about confidence while being fun and natural. Thank you for your video. I am sure it will be helpful to many ladies.
You are so amazing! Your message about femininity is so important. You're going to start making people really mad, but there really are other feminine who totally get what you're saying. This video is spot on!👌 ❤️❤️
I really like that you mentioned speaking with manners to waiters etc, and not talking down to anyone. I'm a bit of a lifelong scruffy tomboy but trying to get a bit more in touch with my feminine energy. Not gonna catch me in a pink ruffly floral dress anytime soon, but I take little bits that suit me/my lifestyle. And even at my most rebelling against femininity stages, this point was a big deal to me. Any date with a man who clicked his fingers impatiently at the waiter would be our first and last.
Wow! The part about becoming a grandmother and remaining elegant and serene gave me goosebumps! I can’t thank you enough for sharing timeless advice with us, and encouraging us to continue growing on this journey of life as a woman in these confusing times! God bless you, darling!
I really enjoyed this video! I just wanted to add a little note, I would suggest not saying that “anyone regardless of how much money you have” because all these things are part of social capital and unfortunately people from poorer communities and for example homeless women do not have access to these things, specially “pretty clothes, makeup, skin care...” just a note of positive feedback:)
Love it! I feel like already having a little more elegant day 🌸 Your work really matters in a world, where elegance and traditional virtues are not being cultivated as they used to. So I hope you ispire many women ... and also inspire men to know what to look for in a woman.
Hello Mrs. Midwest, This is the first video of yours I watch. Yesterday I searched elegant related keywords in TH-cam and found your channel. I am going through some grief and anxiety recently. Your video comforts me. Thank you.
Just found you today. I like your info & presentation. My Mother raised me knowing 'how to be a lady' w/ grace but I got away from it to climb the corporate ladder.. I'm back now to learn & embracing my femininity. Great content...keep it coming!
I like this content! 🤗 Sometimes, some women may feel embarrassed for not having a bust & thus don't always feel womanly and confident. Can anyone else relate?
Lucie Luz yes after 5 children my chest looks like deflated balloons. I struggle with accepting it for a long time but once I did and also got a good padded bra it helped a ton!
I recently found your account and have been binge watching all of your videos! I would consider myself a very feminine feminist (not 3rd wave, just someone that believes in equality and the right to choose your path free of discrimination), but I really enjoy and benefit from your messages! You speak very well, remind me that discretion (modesty) is beautiful and make me think about why I believe what I believe. I look forward to seeing more growth and videos! Thank you!
My ballet teacher said the same! And also "stomach is kissing the back" but the back shouldn't kiss back because then you'll arch it to bad. You are beautiful and inspiring
❤️❤️❤️ my icon is Lupita Nyong’o. She wears simple elegant clothing, styles her natural hair in elegant styles, and doesn’t broadcast her personal life (as far as I know). Of course, she is also gorgeous and talented! She reminds me of that “Old Hollywood” kind of style.
Girl you saved me. I'm 5"8 and thin and busty and my husband keeps telling me I need to stand up straight because I'm beautiful but I didn't want my girls to be out and everywhere, I dress very modestly but I still have that insecurity, thank you for showing me I'm not the only one and that I just need to do it! You're awesome! Thanks!
Thanks to you, I am cooking like a lady, cleaning like a lady, arranging my wardrobe like a lady and so on. My Saturday is filled with calmness and positive thoughts. New subs and loving your personality. Thank you for being such a young elegant lady and christian role model to us!!
What I really like about this is the fact that you can emphasize and accept the merit in elegance or class without taking it from an elitist or ancient perspective. I don't feel as though what your saying is in any way regressive or misogynistic. A lot of other people who talk about class or elegance do seem as though they are taking it from that regressive perspective, but you're not doing that. You're recognizing the merit in the freedom that women have to choose, without completely disregarding the value in elegance itself. It's very refreshing to listen to you.
So much truth on over exposing or communicating. Its truly a bit issue where everyone wants to just talk about their personal problems at home or in general.
I would absolutely love to hear more from your prospective on femininity inside of the home. How to become the around the clock feminine women we would love to be! I absolutely adore your views on femininity! Such an inspiration!
My mother is quite plain on the outside. She has no style and I have never seen her with make up on or her hair done in any other way than short and combed down. She is very quiet and reserved. Her only real accomplishment in life was raising a bunch of kids and making her husband the happiest man for 47 years.
But I am telling you, every man that comes around falls in love with her. She has this inner-elegance and beauty that you can feel without her saying a word. She is so peaceful, content, warm, carefully and well-spoken, and she just has this amazing grace about her.
When she had stage 4 terminal cancer she was so calm and meditative, never breaking her peace or character once. The doctors told her she had no chance but she said that God told her she would recover and she refused to believe anything else. In 6 months she was cancer-free and has remained cancer-free 4 years.
Beauty Eclipse wow your mom is so inspiring! The most beautiful women I’ve met are the ones that loved God and they absolutely radiate love, elegance and beauty! I want to see a pic of her ☺️
Oh wow wanne meet people like her
She is everything a woman should be. Not only elegant but also strong and filled with so much love in her heart. Such an inspiring woman.🙏🏼💜✨
Praise God
Beauty Eclipse wow your mom seems to be such a wonderful woman! I‘d love to get to know her
I would much rather be elegant the rest of my life than be an IG baddie in my 20’s. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
"ig baddies" are a meme in 2019, no self respecting guy is going to take them seriously.
Daniel Flores yeah, although you probably indulge🙄
@Shifter A it's her opinion and preference. It's as normal to dislike something as it is to like something. Not liking something doesn't mean they are "hating" on them. Hating would imply that they are jealous and throwing shots.
I love looking like an IG baddie because I'm in my early 20's (i'm not dating or looking to date - so i have no worries about the type of guys attracted to me).
i have the rest of my life to look mature and elegant but ill never get a chance to look like an ig baddie when i'm 30 with kids. so i will enjoy this moment.
Those kinds of girls have low self-esteem and are insecure that's why they take so many pics for likes from people that don't even have respect for them.
I can tell you're children are going to have a lovely childhood.
This is the sweetest compliment! 🥰
*Life actually🥰
I was thinking the same as I was watching this video. Blessed Be! 💜🌸
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7 Elegant Tips
Posture
Pretend to have a set of angel wings :)
Don't hide your height
Have a Polished and Defined style
Have a head to toe look
Look towards more classic style
Polite and Positive demeanor
Privacy and Mystery
Behavioral discretion
Serene confidence
Feminine grace
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I'm 6'1 (I am a girl) and I used to stoop to try and be smaller too, but over the last couple of years I've realised that I should accept myself and be proud, so now I stand (very) tall.
Sophie Westmoreland awhhh I really like this comment, because I’m tall too, and it makes me feel like a dude sometimes, but thank the Lord Jesus I’m starting to accept myself as I am, even without makeup
Love this
oliviaxvibes Oh, me, too! I’m 6 feet and am feeling so much better about not wearing much makeup at all.
It's so lovely to hear your stories, and know that I'm not the only crazily tall girly girl out there!❤
Tall chicks unite 🙌🏻 (we are the same height x)
If possible could you do an Ettiquette lesson please?
That's a great idea!
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A feminine example for me is Kate Middleton! She is so poised, graceful, and elegant. And of course it helps that she's a royal 😂
This may seem pedantic, as I do agree with everything else you said; she's a beautiful example of grace and femininity. However, she isn't a royal b y birth. she married into royalty. Which means that all of us can learn to be feminine, gracious and kind. Much love to you xx
I love her too 💛
Perfect example. I love Kate. Thank you for mentioning her. ❤️
@@julivillalta agree .
This topic is not exacly about femininity, but could you talk about singleness and how you can use this time wisely as a woman. And maybe on how you can remain patient and satisfied in that time of "waiting" for your partner. That topic botheres me for a while now. Love your videos :)
Greetings from Germany
Greetings beautiful! I absolutely intend on covering this topic in the future. Perfect question! Stay encouraged and know you are not alone
@@MrsMidwest Thank you so much Caitlin! It really means a lot. And thank you for replying to my comment.
God bless you
Wow! Eagerly looking forward to this one. 💜
There is a book called lady in waiting by Debbie Jones and Jackie Kendall. It is really good and insightful.
@@victoryidiake8502 Thank you for the recommendation. I think I'll take look at it.
20:53 "When I'm an old lady I plan on wearing large sunhats, glamorous glasses and just chilling and watching my grandkids play"
SAAAAAAAMMMEEEE!!! 😀😄
For reaal. Ever since a child I never saw myself dressing like your typical old lady in those ugly grandma clothes. I won't try to dress young either but definitely not in any ugly outfit either. Something simple and cute for my age.
I started hunching my back subconciouslly in middle school when i first started getting a larger chest and ive never grown out of the habit. Thank you for showing me that my body is something to be proud of and not an overly sexual part of me that should be hidden so that I can be taken seriously. You're the first person that I've heard talk about this and its something i deal with all the time. Thank you so much..
Holly Rolfs came to the comments to say the same thing
This is the first time I’ve heard someone talk about the bigger chest-hunching as well!! It feels nice to know I’m not alone :) I’d love to eventually be at a place of self where I can fix my posture and feel confident about it
wow, same! i'm turning 18 in 2 weeks and i'm only now can feel how feminine i am and why i shouldn't hide it or be embarrased about my body. I want to embrace it and not hide it in all boyish clothes and bad posture, (because i HATE man glare at my body parts and sexualizing me) i want to embrace it either way!
My chest isn’t huge, my cup size is C/D, but I started developing earlier than my classmates, so I also developed “the hunch”. It took a long time for me to accept my body.
Same for me too! I’m in my late twenties finally learning to accept my feminine energy..
Could you make a look book video of a week of outfits or something like that so we could see examples of different types of outfits you enjoy wearing from casual to dressier?
Yes!
The ideal feminine women to me is most definitely Cinderella from the live action movie. She is so kind yet knows when she needs to stand her ground and she does it with grace.
Your videos are great for men to watch too. Much of what you say can apply to men, if not in the exact form, then in a slightly adapted one. For example, keeping a straight posture works incredibly well for men too, and is masculine.
The same goes for keeping order, being frugal, guarding our mind, using our time on self development as opposed to waste it on netflix too often. It also holds true for preparing ourselves for marriage. Although of course from a male perspective, with activities that interest us and more focus on skill development towards repairs, construction, job proficiency and other traditionally masculine activities. Along with acquiring male brotherhoods with other men.
Well made point 👌👏👏
You'd make a good Male life coach mentor =}
Thank you both for your very kind compliments. Warms me to read.
To Cammie. I did consider making one. For now im too private a person for it. Ill consider it for the future if i find my mind and life situation should change, so that I'd enjoy making such a male community channel.
Keep up the good work, Alexandre! 🙏😇
Caitlin, you have truly become an inspiration to me. As someone who has just dedicated herself to Christ and femininity, I look up to you greatly. Thank you!!
erica too bad she's indoctrinated into religion, tho.
@@davidsirmons We should respect all religions
Hallelujah
Erica! So glad to see that you've been reborn in Christ!
He saved me 2 years ago.
God bless you.
I felt so much more feminine and put together when I was a wife with no children. Now 4 kids later and 1 on the way I feel like a hot mess 90% of the time. These videos are a great reminder to focus on my role as a woman and not just being “mommy”!
Mrs. Patrick I’m scared to have kids because of this...
@@SwanTheQueen having no kids is also an option. Having kids doesn't "increase your feminine self" actually in most cases it decreases it cuz you're stuck taking care of everyone but yourself. Don't fall into the "life plan" if you're really not into it.
@@LongLiveLeonor Good point! You don't have to have kids in order to be a "real woman" or to unlock some 8th shakra of your femininity. 😂
I love the butterfly wing metaphor for posture! Thank you!
I'm a 20 year old male, and I find this very fascinating and can see the importance of your work for people who are seeking this self development. Love what you are doing. Your wisdom can affect many lives and allow women to flow in their nature with comfort and ease while remaining grounded. Thank you for what you do, I learn from this just as much as women do, wisdom is for all who seek it.
I am a Muslim girl and I feel like I could relate so much to you! Thank you for being such a great role model. God bless❤️
@Sarah : Can I ask you why did you feel the need to mention your religion?? We’re all from different religions, backgrounds and nationalities buts lot of us never felt the need to mention our religion, so I’m just curious why did you feel the need to mention that you are a Muslim
Pooja Batti Because she wanted to voice her opinion. If mentioning her religion makes her proud and confident then she has all the right to do so. I didn’t like how you said “a lot of us” making her feel like she’s alienated or different.
@@poojabatti3712 Can I ask you a question? Why did you comment if you don't care?
@@poojabatti3712 Exactly, I 100% agree with you.
Pooja Batti because she mentioned Mrs M cause she’s Christian
You are like the example of a Proverbs 31 woman. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You inspired me to become the best version of myself. Thank you so much 💖
That is THE best compliment anyone could ever give or receive!!!
This really ties into confidence. My posture tends to worsen when I’m not confident
I'm 18 and you're my new mom. I'm recognising the importance of elegance and this video went a long way
I wish i had this video when i was 18.
You remind me of a Disney princess 💗
Rachel she looks and acts like Alice in Wonderland.
Dude your like a real life princess, I was already imagining you singing off camera and having all the forest animals helping you clean. You remind me alot of a real life Giselle from the movie enchanted
Please do some hairstyle tutorial...you have very feminine hairstyles and i love them💕💕
Rakesh Chaudhary thank you! I felt like my hair is a little “off” in this video, so I appreciate your compliment 😍🤣
@@MrsMidwest no!!they look absolutely flawless...sending love💕
I second this! I love all her hairstyles
And a makeup tutorial please!! ❤️
Rakesh Chaudhary Yessss!!
As a teenager myself, I wish to grow into a young and elegant woman and I want to take elegance with me into old age. Elegance is something most teens have lost, I want to bring it back to the new generation that me and my friends will have brought into this world. I think it's important and timeless.
Can you explain when you should wear pearls and diamonds. I find it interesting. Some say you can wear diamonds all the time, others say diamonds are for night time. And some say pearls are for night time and yeah. I find it interesting.
My grandmother taught at a finishing school for young ladys back in her days. My mother herself was very successful at beauty pageants and later trained girls for that competions as well. So it was natural that I was very early on educated on being elegant, graceful and cultivate my feminity. As I went to college it was often criticize for being too girlish, fargile and princess like. For a long time I tried to supress it. Recently by entering the workforce and becoming more mature with experiences I decided to become very subborn about it and to keep and develop that poise even further.
Unfourtunately I encountered more rejections about it by other women (especially those in higher positions) for not being „feminist“ / „equal“ enough. Men suprisingly reacted very positive (yesss even my superiors in the workplace).
That doesn’t surprise me at all. Women also insult me for being girly.
Patiently waiting for a look book or what to wear to church! I have recently started going again after isolating myself for ages and I’m never quite sure how to dress! Thank you for your consistent uploads! They make me feel so calm and clarified in the morning ☺️
Thank you so much for this. Growing up I was always afraid to be sexualized because I wanted to be valued for who I was, so I was terrified of ever being perceived as feminine (when I say terrified, I mean TERRIFIED. I cried at my 8th grade graduation because I wore a dress and felt uncomfortable.) Now at 19, I realize that I shouldn't be afraid of appearing feminine and that being feminine is NOT a bad thing! And that I can be successful and confident AND be feminine! In today's third-wave feminism, femininity is ironically seen as inferior and a subject of the patriarchy and therefore women should strive to be more masculine. Instead, I believe that the feminine element is beautiful and unique and should be embraced, not erased.
Excellent points! Oversharing can make you feel good and relived in the moment, until later when you feel embarrassed and wish you had kept some stuff to yourself. It is good to open up, but judiciously!
Thank you so much for your videos. I just bought some feminine dresses and I feel so good about myself when I put them on. I've never looked good in modern fashion (baggy tshirts, ripped jeans) that everyone seems to look great in but throughout college and into my twenties I wasted money and time trying to adhere to that modern style. I'm starting to accept my femininity and embrace it, I feel like before your videos I was ashamed that you know what, I look best and feel best as a feminine woman. Thanks for sharing your message with other women, it has been more empowering and informative for me than you know.
I'm 18 and my mom is overly masculine, she's yelling at me and gets mad incredibly quickly. So I didn't grew up with anyone teaching me how to take care of myself which is a pity. Thank you for this channel!
I’m so glad and thankful that I found your channel it’s very refreshing to me because everything you say I can relate to that and it feels as if finally someone understood me besides my family . I’m Muslim but I believe that Christians and Muslims have the same values as well as the same opinion when it comes about a lot of things so I want to tell you that I’m really thankful towards you and I’m really proud of you because I’ve seen most of all your videos and your videos show how much it evolved and how much though you put on them
Keep going 🥰🤗
Sending lots of love from France ❤️😘
Hello my beautiful French and feminine woman! I am so happy you are enjoying my channel and feel absolutely welcome. Thank you for the continual support and encouragement on this journey! Blessings to you sister!
Me too im so glad that I found her chanel. It's a blessing from God.
Flattering, tailored clothing is amazing. It transforms your whole self-image and makes people notice you in a good way - not a trashy way. It gets people interested in who you are on the inside, since you're so put-together on the outside. All you have to do is reciprocate that interest genuinely.
Thank you so much for bringing light to this topic. Growing up I always wanted to be that gracious positive princess, but people often times would misunderstand it for being “too girly” or most often times “weak”. You’re videos mean so much to not only me, but also to the younger me.❤️ Thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to be me and that embracing my femininity is a positive thing. ❤️❤️❤️
I also love when you say "my goodness". Ohh when a woman says that phrase it sends an electric honey feeling through me. It demonstrates class, refinement and there is a type of innocence and purity to it that makes me feel endearing and protective toward her. Also if you think about it it is almost as if she's saying "oh my, something sullied, unfortunate and foul almost got my goodness." It's such a sweet thing for a woman to say.
Mrs Midwest- I’m new subscriber and I appreciate your content here and on your blog. I might be your oldest follower (60+), but one is never to old to learn and be affirmed! Many blessings dear one. 🌸🌺🌸
I love your mindset! Lots of love 🌹🌺
Hajare A. ~To you as well! 💕
Omg I admire you so much so when you said you're 5'8" Like me it made me so happy :) could you maybe do a video on outfit ideas to flatter tall figures?
As someone who is feminine and 5'7", long maxi skirts and dresses look magnificent on tall women
I'm on the opposite extreme - 4'10", LOL.
@@caylabrown5550 ah, I've been too scared to try out skirts. I've pretty much worn skinny jeans my whole life, especially because I'm not allowed to show much skin, but I think I'm gonna check out some skirts next time I go shopping:) thanks for the advice and I hope you're having a lovely day ❤
@@MusclesandBooks short women are absolutely gorgeous! :)
@@aishasato465 Thank you so much. I find tall women like you so elegant, graceful, and beautiful!
Obsessed with you! How refreshing to see a channel like yours!💗🙂
omg hi how are you?
Caitlin, you were a really calm and elegant lady in your old videos, which I really appreciate.
You have that Southern Belle charm!!! I love it!!!
I love how you wear tasteful elegant cloths that accent your femininity in a graceful way. You look fantastic in that dress. You can tell a lot about a woman by how she dresses. BTW I like ruffles and sun dresses are elegant as well.
I LOVED the butterfly metaphor for posture ! 😆
Can you talk about how we, in our feminine energy, can inspire our partner to be more masculine?
As we moved into a more serious relationship i noticed i was putting in a lot of masculine energy, trying to control too much and i want to take a step back into my femininity and inspire him again to be in his masculine.
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Rosie R yes this would be so great!!!
Love this idea!!! I would love to know how to do this as well.
Rosie R Mina Irfan over at her channel Universe Guru has a ton of videos and Facebook page on feminine energy inspiring men to be more masculine!
Tip: Give up drinking more than 1 at most 2 drinks in ANY social situation, no matter how close the friends. Just don't do it. Might seem fun in the moment but the next day you're going to be so embarrassed of the jokes you made.
Winston's Julia Learned this hard way lol I didn’t made jokes or anything but I felt really bad I looked “tipsy”.
THIS IS SO TRUE! I am still cringing about going out drinking with my coworkers twice this week. x__x; And exhausted.
I regret none of the jokes I made drunk! They were all funny!!
Hi and thank you for these beautiful videos. I'm a 45 year old homeschooling mom of 3 children.
My 12 year old daughter and I just finished watching this video because I believe that you set a good example of what a young Proverbs 31 woman looks like.
Also, coincidentally at the ripe age 44 my Chiropractor finally got the courage to ask me about my slumping over posture. I really didnt know that this is how I stood. When he asked me to consciously correct it, I was blown away. He asked how long have you been standing this way? I finally realized that it was since I was a preteen and started hiding my large breast. He said he sees it all the time.This is a sad unconscious effect of protecting ourselves from unnecessary sexual shame which causes a lot of physical problems. Our internal organs need all the space available to function properly. I dont want this for my daughter who is also tall and may develop large breast. We will continue to watch and include your videos into our daily studies.
Could you do feminine hairstyles? I never know what to do with my hair, and your hair always looks so feminine and gorgeous!
It is so wonderfull to know that there are other women who behave this way. I am blessed to have a mother who raised my sister's and I to be feminine ladies. But I have never encountered anyone my age who carries herself the same way until now. I watch your videos smiling and nodding along, every point you touch on is the life I live. It warms my heart to know that there is a growing community here that is seeking after this lifestyle as well.
Same :)
You truly are the epitome of everything beautiful and elegant. How proud your parents must be of you. I want my grand daughters to watch all of your videos when they are older. I absolutely agree with everything you say and conduct my life the same way. You are a breath of fresh air. 🤗
Hello I'm Alexis and in the process of transitioning from male to female im 18 and lost my mother at 15 and didn't have a chance to tell her about my desire to become a woman instead of a man, I'm starting with this video and automatically downloaded a majority of your videos (with youtube red), although manners are apart of my everyday life and my mother did teach me to be a respectful young man and human being but yours are much more to that for me.
I love how well you're explaining things in a way that's easy to comprehend, sure I like crop tops and short shirts but I feel as though like you said there is wisdom to flattering attire and that mystery is elegant I'm learning a lot about being the woman I want to be and I want my daughters to become; beautiful, smart, but still elegant and very well mannered thank you so much you are a true role model and the woman I do not aspire to become you but the version of an elegant and beautiful woman I feel I am. Knowing boundaries and limits to relationships and even myself thank you so much love and I hope to learn more about being humble and calm I look forward to your future on youtube you are a true elegant woman not because of your attire and makeup but personality and way of presenting yourself.
This is wonderful! I would love to see your process of thrift shopping items and modifying and tailoring them for yourself for those who seem overwhelmed by that process.💕
What do you do when you attract unwanted attention by being so friendly? I live in an urban area in L.A., so here we HAVE to look unfriendly to survive.
In my opinion I don't think there's anything wrong with having a stricter or uninterested look on your face if you judge for yourself that this is better for you in this specific situation or environment. I think as long as you know that this is just a look you are wearing for the moment but not who you are naturally. Just remember to smile as soon as you are comfortable, and if you feel like it, try just faking a smile just for yourself to get rid of that harsh indifferent feeling. My two cents.
Same problem I don't want to attract unwanted attention I don't want someone to stick their eyes on me everytime I get out of my house, there's this man way older than me and he always wants my attention and so when he is around I pretend to be mad always and roll my eyes if ever I had to interact with him and I hate it I'm not comfortable.
I literally took notes while watching this haha thank you so much for your wisdom, kindness and discreetly giving women back our awareness of our roots!
I love your videos. I’m so glad there are younger women that continue this mindset in this time.
I agree with what you are saying but I also believe in a level of vulnerability. I think there is a fine line balance between being stuck up, discrete and vulnerable.
By being vulnerable we are able to connect with people more deeply.
Caitlyn, it may be that some people find the butterfly wings concept a little childish. However, I think it is a much more effective idea than the old 'book on the head' scenario. I once proved to my mother that i could a book on my head perfectly, whilst slouching. The string from the head is ok, but the butterfly/Angel wings idea is just perfect! Blessings and love to you and yours xxx
Had to pause the video to tell you from what I've watched so far this is probably my favorite video you have made by far. And I love the reference about the fairy wings :) Ok now back to watching the rest :)
I found myself longing on how to be in touch with my femininity a few months ago, then I came across this channel. You have great advice Caitlin, it is very hard to find this information in this modern world. Thanks for your advice!!
She’s a real life Disney Princess! I love it!
I live for elegance and etiquette. My icon is Audrey Hepburn (always said to my friends to look for an icon to look up to) and it only makes me feel good to live my life respecting these rules you talked about. 🌹 I just subscribed!
I started hunching too when my chest grew large! Kind of thought I was alone in that way haha. I think it was a mixture of the sheer weight of them, but also as you said, not wanting to put them on display. This is a beautiful video 🧡
Every TH-cam video I watch I get told to subscribe and turn on the notifications. Your videos are the only ones I’ve actually wanted to do that for! 💕🎀
I am thinking of Audrey as you are talking about confidence while being fun and natural. Thank you for your video. I am sure it will be helpful to many ladies.
Your voice is so soothing.
You are so amazing! Your message about femininity is so important. You're going to start making people really mad, but there really are other feminine who totally get what you're saying. This video is spot on!👌 ❤️❤️
Relating SO MUCH to the hiding chest behavior and the flowy tunics problem. Thank you for being appropriate and bold as a woman.
Thank you! Love love love your videos so much and how you teach elegance and feminine beauty has no age
I really like that you mentioned speaking with manners to waiters etc, and not talking down to anyone. I'm a bit of a lifelong scruffy tomboy but trying to get a bit more in touch with my feminine energy. Not gonna catch me in a pink ruffly floral dress anytime soon, but I take little bits that suit me/my lifestyle. And even at my most rebelling against femininity stages, this point was a big deal to me. Any date with a man who clicked his fingers impatiently at the waiter would be our first and last.
In past videos you talk about thrift shopping. Can you do a video on what you look for when thrifting?
Wow! The part about becoming a grandmother and remaining elegant and serene gave me goosebumps! I can’t thank you enough for sharing timeless advice with us, and encouraging us to continue growing on this journey of life as a woman in these confusing times! God bless you, darling!
I really enjoyed this video! I just wanted to add a little note, I would suggest not saying that “anyone regardless of how much money you have” because all these things are part of social capital and unfortunately people from poorer communities and for example homeless women do not have access to these things, specially “pretty clothes, makeup, skin care...” just a note of positive feedback:)
I’m 17 and I love your videos I feel like I can have confidence in my hight as a girl and to be more feminine 💕
Love it! I feel like already having a little more elegant day 🌸 Your work really matters in a world, where elegance and traditional virtues are not being cultivated as they used to. So I hope you ispire many women ... and also inspire men to know what to look for in a woman.
Hello Mrs. Midwest,
This is the first video of yours I watch. Yesterday I searched elegant related keywords in TH-cam and found your channel.
I am going through some grief and anxiety recently. Your video comforts me. Thank you.
Just found you today. I like your info & presentation. My Mother raised me knowing 'how to be a lady' w/ grace but I got away from it to climb the corporate ladder.. I'm back now to learn & embracing my femininity. Great content...keep it coming!
God really looks out for his children 😭😭 your a true blessing ! Thank you for sharing your infinite wisdom . The lord must be proud 🙏🌺
I'm guilty if trying to shrink down ,I too am 5'8. Wow can't thank u enough
I really like the way how she respects her oponents' opinion...she is wonderful ❤
You should post a look book!!! I would seriously love that ❤️
Thanks for this video. You are a role model for all Christian women!
for ALL women!
For all women.
So much love from South Africa ❤️ your videos always brighten my day and they give me so much knowledge!
Fellow South African ❤️
Woohoo, greetings from Durbs!
Bridget Pearson I’m also from Durban!
@@reya_skye that's awesome!
I’m absolutely obsessed with you! Thank you for inspiring class & elegance in modern women.
Wow thank you so much! Your tip about posture helped a lot and I felt and looked more feminine and gracious 💕
I love how excited you are to have a family! ❤️Elegant grandmas are goals.
I like this content! 🤗 Sometimes, some women may feel embarrassed for not having a bust & thus don't always feel womanly and confident. Can anyone else relate?
Lucie Luz yes after 5 children my chest looks like deflated balloons. I struggle with accepting it for a long time but once I did and also got a good padded bra it helped a ton!
I recently found your account and have been binge watching all of your videos! I would consider myself a very feminine feminist (not 3rd wave, just someone that believes in equality and the right to choose your path free of discrimination), but I really enjoy and benefit from your messages! You speak very well, remind me that discretion (modesty) is beautiful and make me think about why I believe what I believe. I look forward to seeing more growth and videos! Thank you!
I feel at home when I'm on your channel 💕
My ballet teacher said the same! And also "stomach is kissing the back" but the back shouldn't kiss back because then you'll arch it to bad.
You are beautiful and inspiring
You are such an inspiration. I love how you touch so much on feminity, it’s so refreshing to hear and learn more about!
❤️❤️❤️ my icon is Lupita Nyong’o. She wears simple elegant clothing, styles her natural hair in elegant styles, and doesn’t broadcast her personal life (as far as I know). Of course, she is also gorgeous and talented! She reminds me of that “Old Hollywood” kind of style.
Girl you saved me. I'm 5"8 and thin and busty and my husband keeps telling me I need to stand up straight because I'm beautiful but I didn't want my girls to be out and everywhere, I dress very modestly but I still have that insecurity, thank you for showing me I'm not the only one and that I just need to do it! You're awesome! Thanks!
Love the butterfly wing analogy! 🦋
Thanks to you, I am cooking like a lady, cleaning like a lady, arranging my wardrobe like a lady and so on. My Saturday is filled with calmness and positive thoughts. New subs and loving your personality. Thank you for being such a young elegant lady and christian role model to us!!
Fascinating womanhood is such an amazing book to reintroduce to our feminine beauty.
Thank you so much for having the courage to educate women about femininity. Life can be discouraging. You always lift me up with your encouragement.
What I really like about this is the fact that you can emphasize and accept the merit in elegance or class without taking it from an elitist or ancient perspective. I don't feel as though what your saying is in any way regressive or misogynistic. A lot of other people who talk about class or elegance do seem as though they are taking it from that regressive perspective, but you're not doing that. You're recognizing the merit in the freedom that women have to choose, without completely disregarding the value in elegance itself. It's very refreshing to listen to you.
I can't WAIT to get out of my school uniforms and start dressing more girly again. No more khaki pants and darkly colored polo shirts in 2 weeks
Thank you! You're a great role model & I've always wanted to look and be an elegant lady. Xoxo💓
So much truth on over exposing or communicating. Its truly a bit issue where everyone wants to just talk about their personal problems at home or in general.
The duchess of Cambridge is like the embodiment of elegance.
This video is so spot on.
We need more women like you on Utube. God bless you☺💛
How can anyone down vote your positivity and grace? Nuts!
I would absolutely love to hear more from your prospective on femininity inside of the home. How to become the around the clock feminine women we would love to be! I absolutely adore your views on femininity! Such an inspiration!