Even as a woman I removed all dating apps. Its horrible. Talk to me in the streets, when I go for a hike or do grocery shoppings. Seriously I see it as a compliment when a guy talks to you. Even if he isnt my type at first sight, I still admire and respect him daring to strike up a conversation. Besides wouldnt it be a compliment knowing you maybe made his day by just being that friendly stranger talking back to him when he puts himself out there taking risks and acknowledge him as a fellow human being?
I wish all girls were like you. Many of them act freaked out for no reason and look at you like you're a kidnapper and/or be somewhat vexed by your attempt. In London. I'm somewhat new here but I feel like if you don't have any prospects at school/work/hobby activity, then you're at a lost because cold approaching is not something that's well received here and I don't ever see any guys attempting it.
@@dillonmason4503 It's not well received anywhere. Just be normal nigga, the thing is what can you lose? It's just not something for anyone (and me) since its still randoms your speaking to, they know as much of you as you do of them. Lol. But heck i wish girls would do that shit. What they do is complain on Twitter why they single. 😭 But we men should be encouraged to do it even more, we are grown men! Men are very feminine these days, some say they have a easy job Dating cauz there's no real competition. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
28 year old woman and agreed completely. I did tinder for less than a week (looking for marriage) and it creeped me out too much I deleted it. I was also so inundated with matches but many of them creeped me out. It kinda made me hate men a little cause it started to make me believe no men actually wanted a real relationship. But then I realized tinder was playing tricks on me so I deleted it immediately
yes right? I feel the same. the online world is such a crazy hateful and toxic place, that sometimes I have the impression it is not ruled by real people. I have never seen or meet people as the people you see online on youtube comments, etc. something doesnt add up in how diferent the real world and the online world seem to be
Last year, I went to the mall to buy a watch while I was training in LA. The manager of the store and I ended up chatting for two hours, a really pretty, bubbly woman; when she finally talked me into the watch I bought, I made sure she dropped her phone number in the bag. We dated until I left. You'll never find more success than through generating organic chemistry.
Yea but you left so it basically went nowhere? I don't understand what you're saying. I get you had a conversation and so on but in the end if you ended up leaving, that's kind of a loss not a win. I also get you were training, but why invest in someone when you know you're leaving.... Not A great story to be honest
@@homelander718 the point is that our contact initiated naturally, not virtually. It was a genuine, quality connection, we're friends after dating, whereas the ones I've made through apps are non-existent. It's similar to the concept of workplace friends, where the only reason you're friendly is because you have to be, because you're both there. There's a desperation among app users that inspires them to adjust their behavior, in order to make a connection.
What he’s saying is true. I’ve had more success with dating men in real life than meeting online. I absolutely hated tinder because of all the creeps that would ask me naked pictures of my boobs. It generated low self esteem in me that men don’t see me attractive and they have high expectations. A simple friendly Hi and a genuine compliment to a guy I liked in my advanced computer engineering class got me my first boyfriend. The rejections from men taught me a lot, it felt good some men rejected me because it taught me my value. A pattern I’ve noticed with some men I’ve dated is they never forget a compliment. Some men told me it’s rare to receive a compliment and I was the first woman who genuinely complimented them and treated them kindly.
dude i love your short style content, u say so much so quick. i have long form ppl on youtube i adore but as u kno so many of us waste so much time in mental masturbation watching self help etc. ur style is the FUTURE
Wow, such great advice! Men need to simply get to know women by interacting with women without being super serious about snagging a date with a woman immediately. If you're comfortable engaging with any woman, regardless if you want to be with her, will help you be comfortable and at ease around mist women. Women will pick up on this and feel safe enough to engage with you, which leads to better dates.
As a girl if I’m attracted to a guy and there’s good chemistry I would love for him to ask me out immediately.. I am also 28 though, I didn’t have this attitude at 22 I was in no rush. So my advice to dudes is date mature women.. not 22 year olds
Also I want to add that tinder is notorious for gold diggers, content creators and pay for sex aka sugar babies. So whatever they offer you're gonna think to settling for that because that's all being offered
might be wrong but i read some article at some point that tells how the algorithm works, essentially the less profiles you swipe right on (the more picky you are) the higher your profile is ranked. so the app doesnt "rate" your profile by it self, rather it tries to estimate the users standards and use that as a measuring device.
You are assuming that people that use tinder don’t also strike up conversations in public. There is a huge movement against “men invading women’s personal space in public”. When I try and talk to a woman on the “street” they often get weirded out. Like the “do I know you?” Kinda reaction.
As a woman I agree it's hard to find the balance. I have tried keeping a neutral face as it's the norm in other countries where you don't smile at strangers. I've been told it was weird when I used to do it and frankly it wasn't necessary for me to do it. My social anxiety has been getting worse and I've been gaining weight and having difficulty finding clothes that I like. If I have to take the bus somewhere it makes me more anxious especially because I can't just drive off or get away from creeps at bus stops. I shop mostly at home decor stores or clothing stores and I'm not really into shoe stores so I don't really end up even seeing guys my age even if I got a ride and feel comfortable enough to chat with a stranger. I think food places might be a better bet but it gets pricey and people don't usually go single. I'm not legal for going into bars and clubs, almost am but I don't really plan to do that stuff the drinking and dressing provocatively. So my looks have been going downwards but I never was really popular with guys. Only got a little attention when texting guys first. I'm not a 10/10 but I think I look okay and at least modest and clean compared to a lot of girls I see in everyday life. I already know I need to work on personality, but I mean if I am friendly I get branded as cute and am not taken seriously. I am shy and anxious so it is not easy being warm and inviting. I also live in a city that's dubbed one of the worst for singles...
Theres a very thin line between starting a conversation and coming off as creepy. Even the most "ugly" guys can start a smooth conversation with a human, if they do it correctly.
The fact that straight people have even resorted to mostly using online apps is kind of crazy to me. Nearly 50% of everyone you see on the STREET is a potential partner for you. You all have no excuse, truly. This is especially true of straight men that risk NOTHING by going on a date.
Yes I agree with this this advice. But I’d like to add that some of us approached constantly by men in public when we’re obviously doing everything we can do avoid it, such as not acknowledging the fact we’re being “checked out “ by a guy. And even though I’m not encouraging these many encounters at all, I still find myself having to usually repeat myself over and over again bc the first & polite no thank you he didn’t understand! I’m literally an old lady now (54) and still find myself drained often in the large city I live in with me having so much of my time taken from me when I’m always trying hard to avoid it!! Also I’m picky about looks (like probably most men seem to be) and so when I’m interested in a guy, it will be known to him by me somehow❤ I have a a 32 yr old son and 26 yr old daughter who handle their dating life pretty much as their mom does fyi. Oh and also, I’ve never ever been on or used a dating app as I’ve heard too many negative things about them ‼️
If im ever lost in life and not sure if im doing something healthily, I just ask myself. "Is this even healthy?" And ponder that for a week or so or less And sometimes this question too. "Can wesurvive without this modern thing?" If no. I can just drop it really. And ask, without this trivial modern thing, what would people back then do instead? Like for example tinder. RL socializing is the onle way to go
I see videos of women swiping through tinder saying all of the men suck. And they are only being shown the top 10% of men on that app . The woman who said it looked like Shailene Woodley
I can attest that the men on tinder look like creeps and the ones who are actually attractive just want a hookup so it’s basically a useless app for women
even as a women it's not recomendable to use this. I nevre used it but I just heard bad experiences. the app dehumanizes people as if we are all amazon packages that you order, its like ordering a date online. like going on a supermarket seeing some products and chossin one for the looks of it. People are much more than a profile. You cannot see the value of a man just by a photo. when I felt in love very deeply in life, I could have never guessed I would fall in love with that person just by a photo. believe it or not , people fall in love with the energy someone emanates, with the connection with that person , not with just physical traits or common interests. it would work if we were AI beings, but we aren't-
Uhh maybe don't try to pick up a random woman on the street...a bar or other social event perhaps, but someone on the street getting groceries probably isn't looking to do this right now.
@@Mr.L9 It's the "pick up" part. If you're good with the "pick up", fine. If you're not good at it, you should probably stop and develop a better strategy.
As a 28 year old girl if you’re an attractive young man you can approach me anywhere I’d appreciate it tbh. Any male attention and I’m just flattered honestly
The idea that you will "learn more" about women from cold opening them is not exactly true. You will learn nore about how to cold open someone. So you can, ever time, get better at picking up people off the streets. This is like a salesman getting good at selling things door to door. You simply will become better at it. But you will definitely experience rejection just as much as on Tinder, if not more, on the street practicing cold open. And you dont know anything about the woman you cold open. I liked Tinder (before I married my Tinder-met wife) more than meeting strangers on the street. Why? Simply because I already knew some basic facts about them. Why go on a date or even chat up a woman who I already have no common ground with. Tinder works. (This comment not a paid advertisement for Tinder)
I do not recommend just going up to a random woman on the streets. Find a social environment, be a 7/10 and don't be creepy. Get yourself an 8/10 wingman. You got this.
Real talk. Don't cold approach if you're not a 7/10 (or at the very least a 6/10). If you're not, focus all energy on getting better looking. Looks are everything when it comes to cold approach.
I get girls numbers following then to thier car in the grocery store parking lot. Just keep it simple and under a min and call her pretty lol barely works but sometimes u get a good number mostly flakes tho
@@Krelian4400 cold approach doesn't work that well in general, but it can be helpful if you're looking to increase your options. If you're any less than a 7 90% of the time you'll get rejected and branded a "creep". Not worth it, find other things to focus your energy into.
It's only creepy to zoomers. It just normal ass human behavior. You're brainwashed by feminism. Seriously. It's not creepy to strike up a conversation. And I am not going to qualify every little social norm a man you should hold himself to when doing that, because everyone knows them and it's pointless. Just don't be weird about it.
Just watched one video and have been binging you now. Most of what you say is excellent 👌 This will help beat down other fake alpha losers like andrew tate etc.
Even as a woman I removed all dating apps. Its horrible. Talk to me in the streets, when I go for a hike or do grocery shoppings. Seriously I see it as a compliment when a guy talks to you. Even if he isnt my type at first sight, I still admire and respect him daring to strike up a conversation. Besides wouldnt it be a compliment knowing you maybe made his day by just being that friendly stranger talking back to him when he puts himself out there taking risks and acknowledge him as a fellow human being?
The problem really is you will be a creep really fast If you do something wrong. It's kinda sad. And its not even the fault of the guys sorry.
I wish all girls were like you. Many of them act freaked out for no reason and look at you like you're a kidnapper and/or be somewhat vexed by your attempt. In London. I'm somewhat new here but I feel like if you don't have any prospects at school/work/hobby activity, then you're at a lost because cold approaching is not something that's well received here and I don't ever see any guys attempting it.
@@dillonmason4503
It's not well received anywhere. Just be normal nigga, the thing is what can you lose? It's just not something for anyone (and me) since its still randoms your speaking to, they know as much of you as you do of them. Lol. But heck i wish girls would do that shit. What they do is complain on Twitter why they single. 😭 But we men should be encouraged to do it even more, we are grown men! Men are very feminine these days, some say they have a easy job Dating cauz there's no real competition. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
28 year old woman and agreed completely. I did tinder for less than a week (looking for marriage) and it creeped me out too much I deleted it. I was also so inundated with matches but many of them creeped me out. It kinda made me hate men a little cause it started to make me believe no men actually wanted a real relationship. But then I realized tinder was playing tricks on me so I deleted it immediately
Well comming from a guy that had a business helping men make better tinder profiles. This is saying a lot.
Did he?
@Lifelover-zj3oo yeah, earlyer video. Spent I night binge watching
@@luishion Crazyyy
Yeah he sounds like the kind of guy that did all that bad stuff hes telling everyone not to do now.
@@jakeedwards4454 Yeeee. We eventually learn and see the bad in such things good he had a change of mind and teaches a different way.
The real demographics of Tinder like anywhere else online? 90% bot, 10% actual people!
yes right? I feel the same. the online world is such a crazy hateful and toxic place, that sometimes I have the impression it is not ruled by real people. I have never seen or meet people as the people you see online on youtube comments, etc.
something doesnt add up in how diferent the real world and the online world seem to be
Last year, I went to the mall to buy a watch while I was training in LA. The manager of the store and I ended up chatting for two hours, a really pretty, bubbly woman; when she finally talked me into the watch I bought, I made sure she dropped her phone number in the bag. We dated until I left. You'll never find more success than through generating organic chemistry.
Heck yeah man
Yea but you left so it basically went nowhere? I don't understand what you're saying. I get you had a conversation and so on but in the end if you ended up leaving, that's kind of a loss not a win. I also get you were training, but why invest in someone when you know you're leaving.... Not A great story to be honest
@@homelander718 the point is that our contact initiated naturally, not virtually. It was a genuine, quality connection, we're friends after dating, whereas the ones I've made through apps are non-existent. It's similar to the concept of workplace friends, where the only reason you're friendly is because you have to be, because you're both there. There's a desperation among app users that inspires them to adjust their behavior, in order to make a connection.
What he’s saying is true. I’ve had more success with dating men in real life than meeting online. I absolutely hated tinder because of all the creeps that would ask me naked pictures of my boobs. It generated low self esteem in me that men don’t see me attractive and they have high expectations.
A simple friendly Hi and a genuine compliment to a guy I liked in my advanced computer engineering class got me my first boyfriend. The rejections from men taught me a lot, it felt good some men rejected me because it taught me my value.
A pattern I’ve noticed with some men I’ve dated is they never forget a compliment. Some men told me it’s rare to receive a compliment and I was the first woman who genuinely complimented them and treated them kindly.
Says a guy hiding behind a mask 😂
Following an ad from Bumble
This isn't the case in the UK ... Most men on my tinder app are not top 5% , believe me. Maybe the app is trying to match me with my peers 😂
dude i love your short style content, u say so much so quick. i have long form ppl on youtube i adore but as u kno so many of us waste so much time in mental masturbation watching self help etc. ur style is the FUTURE
Wow, such great advice! Men need to simply get to know women by interacting with women without being super serious about snagging a date with a woman immediately. If you're comfortable engaging with any woman, regardless if you want to be with her, will help you be comfortable and at ease around mist women. Women will pick up on this and feel safe enough to engage with you, which leads to better dates.
Aka be a flirt with multiple woman. A good woman is not gonna like her man talking to every woman in town.
As a girl if I’m attracted to a guy and there’s good chemistry I would love for him to ask me out immediately.. I am also 28 though, I didn’t have this attitude at 22 I was in no rush. So my advice to dudes is date mature women.. not 22 year olds
In today's day and age, going outside solely to talk with women is considered being a simp at best, a creep at worst. Wonderful times.
Also I want to add that tinder is notorious for gold diggers, content creators and pay for sex aka sugar babies. So whatever they offer you're gonna think to settling for that because that's all being offered
might be wrong but i read some article at some point that tells how the algorithm works, essentially the less profiles you swipe right on (the more picky you are) the higher your profile is ranked. so the app doesnt "rate" your profile by it self, rather it tries to estimate the users standards and use that as a measuring device.
This video gave me so much confidence
Remember in early days of dating apps everyone was like "its the future" and now most of the dating apps are pure scams...
You are assuming that people that use tinder don’t also strike up conversations in public.
There is a huge movement against “men invading women’s personal space in public”. When I try and talk to a woman on the “street” they often get weirded out. Like the “do I know you?” Kinda reaction.
As a woman I agree it's hard to find the balance. I have tried keeping a neutral face as it's the norm in other countries where you don't smile at strangers. I've been told it was weird when I used to do it and frankly it wasn't necessary for me to do it. My social anxiety has been getting worse and I've been gaining weight and having difficulty finding clothes that I like. If I have to take the bus somewhere it makes me more anxious especially because I can't just drive off or get away from creeps at bus stops. I shop mostly at home decor stores or clothing stores and I'm not really into shoe stores so I don't really end up even seeing guys my age even if I got a ride and feel comfortable enough to chat with a stranger. I think food places might be a better bet but it gets pricey and people don't usually go single. I'm not legal for going into bars and clubs, almost am but I don't really plan to do that stuff the drinking and dressing provocatively. So my looks have been going downwards but I never was really popular with guys. Only got a little attention when texting guys first. I'm not a 10/10 but I think I look okay and at least modest and clean compared to a lot of girls I see in everyday life. I already know I need to work on personality, but I mean if I am friendly I get branded as cute and am not taken seriously. I am shy and anxious so it is not easy being warm and inviting. I also live in a city that's dubbed one of the worst for singles...
@@brittanys505oh yeah well what city are you in miss?
Theres a very thin line between starting a conversation and coming off as creepy. Even the most "ugly" guys can start a smooth conversation with a human, if they do it correctly.
The fact that straight people have even resorted to mostly using online apps is kind of crazy to me. Nearly 50% of everyone you see on the STREET is a potential partner for you. You all have no excuse, truly.
This is especially true of straight men that risk NOTHING by going on a date.
very good informative channel man keep it up
I got a dating app ad before the video 😂😂😂
I like u man ... I don't know how I found u... Thx dude .. plz stay like that and don't change.
I got a Hinge ad right before lol
Where is the link to your newsletter, it's not in your bio?
Very true
Yes I agree with this this advice. But I’d like to add that some of us approached constantly by men in public when we’re obviously doing everything we can do avoid it, such as not acknowledging the fact we’re being “checked out “ by a guy. And even though I’m not encouraging these many encounters at all, I still find myself having to usually repeat myself over and over again bc the first & polite no thank you he didn’t understand!
I’m literally an old lady now (54) and still find myself drained often in the large city I live in with me having so much of my time taken from me when I’m always trying hard to avoid it!!
Also I’m picky about looks (like probably most men seem to be) and so when I’m interested in a guy, it will be known to him by me somehow❤
I have a a 32 yr old son and 26 yr old daughter who handle their dating life pretty much as their mom does fyi.
Oh and also, I’ve never ever been on or used a dating app as I’ve heard too many negative things about them ‼️
I wish I had this problem (28 year old girl btw)
I don’t alwasy agree with this guy but he is spot on with this
If im ever lost in life and not sure if im doing something healthily, I just ask myself. "Is this even healthy?" And ponder that for a week or so or less
And sometimes this question too.
"Can wesurvive without this modern thing?" If no. I can just drop it really.
And ask, without this trivial modern thing, what would people back then do instead?
Like for example tinder.
RL socializing is the onle way to go
Facts
I started talking to crackheads and they wint leave me alone. Now what?
Somebody get this man the Nobel Prize
Should i watch your shorts following your advise ? xD
I see videos of women swiping through tinder saying all of the men suck.
And they are only being shown the top 10% of men on that app .
The woman who said it looked like Shailene Woodley
I can attest that the men on tinder look like creeps and the ones who are actually attractive just want a hookup so it’s basically a useless app for women
100%
even as a women it's not recomendable to use this. I nevre used it but I just heard bad experiences.
the app dehumanizes people as if we are all amazon packages that you order, its like ordering a date online.
like going on a supermarket seeing some products and chossin one for the looks of it. People are much more than a profile.
You cannot see the value of a man just by a photo.
when I felt in love very deeply in life, I could have never guessed I would fall in love with that person just by a photo.
believe it or not , people fall in love with the energy someone emanates, with the connection with that person , not with just physical traits or common interests.
it would work if we were AI beings, but we aren't-
I dont think it's true unless I'm in the 5% and I'm nocap in 15% (photofeeler)
Uhh maybe don't try to pick up a random woman on the street...a bar or other social event perhaps, but someone on the street getting groceries probably isn't looking to do this right now.
Not even with normal conversations at markets?
@@Mr.L9 It's the "pick up" part. If you're good with the "pick up", fine. If you're not good at it, you should probably stop and develop a better strategy.
I don't recall anyone in the comments asking you 🤔
As a 28 year old girl if you’re an attractive young man you can approach me anywhere I’d appreciate it tbh. Any male attention and I’m just flattered honestly
First off who tf is looking for a serious relationship on a dating app 😂
A lot of people ….. what other options do we have ?
And then if you live in a less populated place like the East Midlands (England) your golden as theirs far less people on the app
Wait for the AI gf
I kid you not!!!
Ignore the fuck out of your female coworkers and neighbors and some of them will become interested in you.
The idea that you will "learn more" about women from cold opening them is not exactly true. You will learn nore about how to cold open someone.
So you can, ever time, get better at picking up people off the streets. This is like a salesman getting good at selling things door to door. You simply will become better at it. But you will definitely experience rejection just as much as on Tinder, if not more, on the street practicing cold open.
And you dont know anything about the woman you cold open. I liked Tinder (before I married my Tinder-met wife) more than meeting strangers on the street. Why? Simply because I already knew some basic facts about them. Why go on a date or even chat up a woman who I already have no common ground with.
Tinder works. (This comment not a paid advertisement for Tinder)
I do not recommend just going up to a random woman on the streets. Find a social environment, be a 7/10 and don't be creepy. Get yourself an 8/10 wingman. You got this.
Real talk. Don't cold approach if you're not a 7/10 (or at the very least a 6/10). If you're not, focus all energy on getting better looking. Looks are everything when it comes to cold approach.
I get girls numbers following then to thier car in the grocery store parking lot. Just keep it simple and under a min and call her pretty lol barely works but sometimes u get a good number mostly flakes tho
@@Krelian4400 cold approach doesn't work that well in general, but it can be helpful if you're looking to increase your options. If you're any less than a 7 90% of the time you'll get rejected and branded a "creep". Not worth it, find other things to focus your energy into.
@@maxgill6738 that's... divisive. Doesn't work for most people honestly.
It's only creepy to zoomers. It just normal ass human behavior. You're brainwashed by feminism. Seriously. It's not creepy to strike up a conversation. And I am not going to qualify every little social norm a man you should hold himself to when doing that, because everyone knows them and it's pointless. Just don't be weird about it.
Yeah i wouldn't suggest going up to random women on the street, that's a bit creepy imo
If you’re an attractive good looking guy it’s really not
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I disagree. Sorry
Yeah garbage opinion this dude
Mathematically online dating is proven to be a waste of time for men.
It’s a waste of time for girls who don’t want hookups too
I fucking feel this so much
Just watched one video and have been binging you now. Most of what you say is excellent 👌
This will help beat down other fake alpha losers like andrew tate etc.
Facts