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  • @peachydandy2570
    @peachydandy2570 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Of course not! They want to be able to fit every single one of their supplies on the shelf so that they're available whenever the narc is ready.

  • @michelezeug5206
    @michelezeug5206 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    My ex narc gave me closure & then had the audacity to come back after the new supply dumped his ass. I then gave him closure! Clowns, dysfunctional, delusional!

  • @Chosenfavor1
    @Chosenfavor1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This!!! They never want to leave you alone. Run your name through the mud, they move on only to rub their new supply in your face, play head games aka manipulation.. a mess! A plum hot mess. Smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ attention seeking demons

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 2 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    They are angry and upset because they didn't expect you to move on and succeed without them and it would be a reminder to them, they had made a wrong decision for leaving you! If they believed you were the one for them, they wouldn't have walked away in the first place. They knew how great and talented you were, but they didn't want to acknowledge it because it would be a reminder to them, they are worthless and insignificant! They treated you with disdain and contempt and made you feel less of a human being and tried to mold you into who they wanted you to be because they didn't feel comfortable with you being your authentic, true self! They saw you as competition because they knew you were bigger, better and greater than them and they were envious and jealous of you! They know you can be fine on your own, but they will never be fine without you because they knew they needed you more than you needed them! The problem is they don't deserve your appreciation and validation because they have no value! If they are coming back, it is to finish you off and they will act like they have changed so they can have you under their influence and control and punish you for leaving them and ruin your destiny and destroy your life and it will be worse than before! Stick to your strong boundaries and don't let them deceive you because they don't wish you well! They want to continue to use you for their own needs and self-interests. Who do they think you are? You are not a robot or puppet and you certainly not anyone's human sacrifice! They should attend to themselves and take responsibility for their own lives but not you!

  • @Samantha-cp1qm
    @Samantha-cp1qm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Don’t need the closure! Bye!

    • @user-tu6py7de5w
      @user-tu6py7de5w 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same here kick rocks💯

    • @coreybeats3335
      @coreybeats3335 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@user-tu6py7de5w yep ! With no socks on 😂

    • @coreybeats3335
      @coreybeats3335 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@joshuaanzalone2060 that’s the best way , there behavior was the closure and now you control everything! Live your best life and stay blessed

    • @marieglatt6656
      @marieglatt6656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      MY Ex Married the side Piece because she bought him a car. He then came to my house right after he returned from his honeymoon. I told him don't come here anymore. What the hell.

    • @christinacirillo54
      @christinacirillo54 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol that IS the closure! Byeeeeeee!!!!! Nice to know you, wouldn't want to be you, insidious narcissististic big bird

  • @reneemassey-2827
    @reneemassey-2827 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Eating correctly, sleeping adequately, increasing my therapy sessions, increasing my gym time, increasing my time with my grandchildren, and above ALL...HEALING AND WORKING ON ME IS MY CLOSURE😢❤❤❤❤❤

  • @1991-present
    @1991-present ปีที่แล้ว +9

    After being discarded.. I hoovered the narc so that I could devalue and discard them. Yes, I am petty.

  • @paulinamartinez3234
    @paulinamartinez3234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    They want but we don't. Once you are out, never come back. Detach and do not react.

    • @coreybeats3335
      @coreybeats3335 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      The funny part is they will discard you but they can’t detach from you , which most people don’t understand. So when you remove that trash off your lawn and ignore them drives them crazy and forces them to see who they truly are. The way you felt after the breakup is how they feel all the time , you can heal they can’t.

    • @ShunCarter
      @ShunCarter ปีที่แล้ว

      Facts

  • @carylsue.
    @carylsue. ปีที่แล้ว +9

    How codependent I've been.
    Someone else's pain, anger or instability-
    I'd make it all my responsibility.
    The pleaser. The rescuer and martyr.
    Even though I knew, I was always smarter.
    But always felt guilty.
    And didn't know how to be me.
    And everything was always fine...
    When it wasn't. It's the shame that does it.
    So when I made my first boundary it felt selfish and crazy.
    And when I found the courage to respond with my real needs, I discovered my humanity.
    And realised that helping others doesn't begin with them, it starts by healing me.
    With the words I'm worthy.

  • @1991-present
    @1991-present ปีที่แล้ว +11

    They do move on.. but isn’t that what we all want? I don’t want that demon anywhere near me,

    • @PC-pe3tg
      @PC-pe3tg หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Lol.. ur funny.

  • @MissTia777
    @MissTia777 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    F the closure! Just get the F on!

  • @leongarcia2842
    @leongarcia2842 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    You are CORRECT!
    The real closure was when they showed their behind. It took me some years to understand that. Until earlier this year when I had ENOUGH. My final discard from them.
    THE CLOSURE I NEED FROM THOSE PEOPLE IS NEVER HEAR FROM THEM AGAIN..
    TILL LIFE OR DEATH DO THEM APART.
    GOD ALREADY ALREADY SET ME FOR HIM ONLY. IN JESUS NAME AMEN!

  • @patricebeene646
    @patricebeene646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I moved on and after the last time I saw him and read him. I told him he to get the h ... out of my face and don't you better not ever speak to me again in life. Have not seen or heard from him. He is blocked on all angles. DONE. At Peace.

  • @MaesRemedy
    @MaesRemedy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The closure was how they disrespected and made our relationship look despicable, dysfunctional and the way he belittled me. That was my closure. I don't need an explanation. The behavior towards me said more than enough. I am so grateful to be free. Time to shine and show that I am wonderfully made because they clearly was envious.

  • @dimondsjewls4236
    @dimondsjewls4236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    No revolving doors HERE, when am done I'M DONE!!!

    • @Surfbicardi
      @Surfbicardi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I said what I said and didn’t stutter when I said it

  • @susantodd7169
    @susantodd7169 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    KARMA IS FOR REAL

  • @818Luxx
    @818Luxx ปีที่แล้ว +2

    BACKWARDS WALKIN GIRAFFES TAKES ME OUT EVERYTIMEEEE 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

  • @reneemassey-2827
    @reneemassey-2827 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The cheating, the disrespect, trying to sleep with my daughter, the lieing. The embarrassing, the discard, was my closure😢😢😢

  • @IMTinaMarieJ
    @IMTinaMarieJ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    This makes so much sense. My ex husband told my bestfriend that I “changed” after I received an inheritance from my mom who passed some months ago. The TRUTH is HE changed once I received it even tho I helped him a lot finally to a point where I almost about to pay for him to get a certificate as a person trainer AND help him start a business so we could get right & build together. He even threatened for me to give him money in order for him to move out when I tried to make him leave after he cheated, and emotionally abused me during my grieving period. I was so hurt to hear these lies but it’s been 3 months since I left and I give myself the closure

    • @lauradelregno99
      @lauradelregno99 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      They are greedy. Good for you. Good riddance!!

    • @IMTinaMarieJ
      @IMTinaMarieJ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@lauradelregno99 yes they are! Thank u💕

    • @reddmann4340
      @reddmann4340 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      All mann..... I had to laugh when I read this because I received the same treatment and could not wrap my finger around it. I guess me wife didn't know that the Ring-Cam records Audio also because I heard her telling someone on the phone "After he finishes cooking, he leaves the kitchen a horrible mess". I was trying to figure out why would she say that when I am constantly cleaning up her Cake Baking Operation after she bakes for customers. I never leave my kitchen a mess, but she will have Cake batter all over the fridge, walls, and floor, and would leave if for weeks if I didn't clean in the morning. At the time i never knew why she would create a lie for no reason. Coach Tea said it "They only confess to what they are doing"

    • @krys1205
      @krys1205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's same with my ex he currently won't leave and tryna make me give him money to leave and tryna take everything in the entire household and leave me with a bed and I just had his child in April... maaaan it's so crazy

    • @beverlyjackson5053
      @beverlyjackson5053 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Oh Honey!!! Mine left on Valentine's day in 2018! Moved out the entire upstairs of our home while I was at work. He tried to move clothes back in the home and I sent him right back out the door! He then sued ME for improper marital conduct. Sued me for a portion of my 401K. He said he wanted a substantial amount! He wanted money that I worked for! It was his last snatch and grab!!! I had no choice but to give him a portion because it was so called marital property! He lied on me to so many people and he is STILL LYING! He thought he was going to break me financially....BUT GOD!!! I just bought a new home worth ten times what I had to give him. My family is restored from the division that he caused and my life is soooo much healthier and better! I don't need closure and nor do I want it from him because it will just be another lie! Best revenge is to move on and do well! Be Blessed Sister!

  • @change5156
    @change5156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Don't need nor want the closer! Buh-bye backwards giraffe 😂😭💀

  • @simcastpodvids
    @simcastpodvids 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Omg you are speaking my language. The Narc is indeed terrified of being without supply.

  • @andisboljat7801
    @andisboljat7801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My closure was having the sharif escort that stubby necked Geraff out of my home 8/4/21 !

  • @isntshelovely5063
    @isntshelovely5063 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    YES MAAM, THAT PART, MANIPULATION, WHEN THEY BLAME YOU FOR YOUR REACTION TO THEIR ABUSE!!

  • @LorrCri
    @LorrCri 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Closure is something that you give yourself. I did and it was the best thing that I did.

  • @brianstewart9470
    @brianstewart9470 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I SMASHED that cockroach AND the like button...

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @patricebeene646
    @patricebeene646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    One more thing ... What demon cheats on you with a friend you've known for over 40 years. Then turns around and gets another supply in the same apartment building you live in and walks in your face with her. Then turns around comes back and smiles in your face as close as a kiss!!! Who does that!!! Rotten garbage. NEVER EVER AGAIN IN LIFE!!! SO DONE!! Ain't worth s....!!!

    • @ninath13
      @ninath13 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dam they're just dangerous mine messing with the drunk down the street from him the entire time we were together scandalous unities I think she is a narc too back burner supply she looks at me like she took my man really they look good together If that thing is supposed to make me Jealous then I know you stone crazy BYE BIRD 🕊️🐔🕊️ Crow shut it down 👇

    • @treid1369
      @treid1369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Totally agree with Joshua. Many of the things I already knew, despite him lying about it. My gut instincts were never wrong. They look at you as an idiot because you were being kind, and led with your heart towards them and never argued or went into a rage the way they did. Thank them for being the eye opener you needed in life to build and fortify yourself because if you were not broken in some way, they would have never slid their snake self into your life. Build yourself, thank them for being a hot piece of garbage to you, because this is the last time and it will as you stated , happen “NEVER EVER AGAIN IN LIFE”. Stay in knowledge and strength.

    • @Shirley-t9b
      @Shirley-t9b 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This happened to me I married a malignant narc when I told him I didn't want him cause of his cheating would not speek to him so he goes with another the upstairs neighbour sick . But I didn't give a shit gone lol

  • @pallasathena1369
    @pallasathena1369 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Narc "I will only let you see me if you accept the harem ticket".
    They are working on your broken desperation.

  • @wendyperalta3300
    @wendyperalta3300 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They think they can cheat and abuse you and get away with it and play this game and when you say get the f out they are shocked and surprised 😮 you know what so funny they say to you? your never going to change. I say; I don’t need to change you do!

  • @toniwilliams9817
    @toniwilliams9817 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    They never think you will leave. The ex narc looked surprised when I came home with friends from out of town and a Uhaul truck to help me move out. He couldn't believe it because I always put him out and took him back. After I moved out, I never took him back. His punishment for that was brutal but I stayed no contact when he really escalated. It's been 3 1/2 years no contact even after all he has done since I left him.

  • @Idiopathogen
    @Idiopathogen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Closure comes when you realize the entire relationship was fraudulent and rape, and you forgive the narcissist. If you focus on how they cheated out of it and ended it, that’s when you’ll never have closure. You will be thinking they broke something that was good and real, and it makes no sense. It was never real. Once you see that, and that’s much harder to accept but unfortunately true, closure comes soon after. You must decide to forgive. Your anger doesn’t mean you haven’t forgiven, but decide to forgive and the anger subsides as well over time.

  • @Red-Iceberg
    @Red-Iceberg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Hi Lady Tea, sat up last nite listening to your older videos, the ones that got me thru 2yrs AGO!!! Been loving Thursday Nites!! Keep being the blessing that you are. Tilted my crown upright (Holla) No Contact 27 months. Took my closure. Checkmate

  • @latonyakelson9576
    @latonyakelson9576 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Exactly I did the disgarding and I don’t need an apology or closure. He thought I wasn’t going to leave because he told me he wasn’t going anywhere but god.

    • @latonyakelson9576
      @latonyakelson9576 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@joshuaanzalone2060 I’m glad you had the strength to leave her. Better days are coming! 😊

    • @sandraevans8337
      @sandraevans8337 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mines said he was not gonna never leave Me I showed him How I controlled that Divorced that Monster BYE!!!!

    • @latonyakelson9576
      @latonyakelson9576 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@sandraevans8337 Exactly, Good for you. Never say never. 😍

  • @pyt3204
    @pyt3204 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I didn't need closure either... I just ended the whole relationship! I walked away. Once I saw him... I SAW him. I was like, oh hell no! Good Bye- Buh Bye- Adios! My spirit was ready! I left and never looked back. I was only in that relationship for 4 months.

  • @lisag31
    @lisag31 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This message is powerful. I have been "stuck" in anger over this person. Stop dating, dressed homely, put on a ton of weight, so much weight I don't even look the same. I reached a point of where I was over men. Like no. My patience had run dry, and I just wanted to chill and just eat what I wanted and drink my beer. I am an still just so freaking angry. I shut that person down, out of my life three years ago, totally locked my facebook, gave this person NO CONTACT. But I still have residual anger. Lots of it. I never realized that the plan of the devil was to keep me "stuck" in that anger. And I am releasing that today. And I am going to continue to fight against this anger, because this person pissed me off! Because I decided to soften myself, not be so hard...I was so freaking nice to him. Grrrrrrrr.....I am going to keep pushing to release this anger and to start getting back to me, because I locked me up 3 years ago and refused to share!

    • @alxdgr8806
      @alxdgr8806 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't beat yourself up too much! There is something called righteous ANGER and I don't think it's a bad thing. Instead of letting it go transmute it and use it to better yourself

  • @Samantha-cp1qm
    @Samantha-cp1qm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    With that behavior, YES they do! Gangrene toxic!

  • @djstickxb2615
    @djstickxb2615 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    My situation was so crazy .. these videos have really helped me get closure. And understand what really I was dealing with... 3 months no contact...after 5 years.. getting better every day❤️

    • @Cali001
      @Cali001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I totally understand. I’m Narc Free finally. Sista T has been and such a blessing 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽💕💕💕

    • @cupsoflove1245
      @cupsoflove1245 ปีที่แล้ว

      It keeps getting better ..not that it's easy ..healing ones self is not easy but so worth it .

  • @veraobsessed9809
    @veraobsessed9809 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    They called me to tell me the dog was sick. I swear they put him down for no reason just to get me back. . Sick

  • @jannaw9000
    @jannaw9000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I’m so glad I found your channel! You’re helping me so much! 4 years of dealing with the cheating, lies, and BS! 😢

    • @jeremiahgjames3565
      @jeremiahgjames3565 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ME TOO😭😭🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ItsMeMatt1986
      @ItsMeMatt1986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too ... I left middle of the night and took a one way ticket to my Parents. It's been about 3 weeks and it's all been unraveling day by day ... I'm proud that you got the courage! Don't give up!

  • @DinahRead
    @DinahRead 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I know you are speaking the truth, you must have
    been through it! I am still
    being hovered and I left 2 years ago! No contact
    and don’t need him but
    he acts like a teenager,
    with dumbass tactics and driving by! 😂 it’s
    just sad that people don’t correct themselves or evolve.
    I’m listening to you and
    I know you’ve been there! I just want to let you know you are appreciated and that
    you sharing is going to
    help a lot of people finally understand what
    these narcissists do; so
    we can stop trying to
    make sense of this low
    vibbing behavior and get
    back to helping ourselves to heal and
    become our best selves
    despite of the damage
    they are projecting onto
    us to keep us from living
    free of toxic manipulation. That belongs to them, let them own it! Don’t look back, go live to the fullest and protect your
    beautiful heart! Surround yourself with
    genuine souls that share
    in your joy, you will get better and you don’t need the chaos! Be Blessed to success 😎

  • @fionalee7360
    @fionalee7360 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This explains everything. I couldn't understand the no closure part. If we were really friends wouldn't you want to work this out? So glad the narc is GONE. The smear campaign was crazy. 'Friends' dropped me like I was hot with no explanation. I'm glad I found you channel, Miss Tea.

    • @coreybeats3335
      @coreybeats3335 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The no closer is so they can come back to finish you off ! Nope keep it moving!

  • @Cali001
    @Cali001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    🚪🚪I told him I don’t need closure..!! 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿I’m good

  • @ZFosterZ
    @ZFosterZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yeah.
    When it was over: only after she knew I caught her out trying to monkey branch to another man while exploiting me; only then was I on the discard.
    In the end, when she was caught she resorted to a lot of crazy making antics, shaming and lies to avoid accountability and somehow still shift the blame onto me.
    I was out.
    I made the final discard.
    I was done.
    She still wanted to be “friends”… whatever that was supposed to mean..?! (cough, me as “supply” and backup just in case new supply doesn’t work out).
    Wouldn’t treat her enemies as bad as she treated me…. But, she still wanted to be friends…?!
    I made my own closure on her.
    That Fog period lifting after I went No Contact…
    That was… unpleasant…as realisation after realisation hit me and I knew the truth about what I had lived with and overlooked with her for almost ten years.
    It was however, freeing.
    I didn’t go back, I didn’t contact her, I didn’t ask for answers to questions I already knew the truth about.
    She did try to Hoover me on four occasions over as many months.
    I ignored.
    She didn’t contact me again as she met new supply and made a life with him.
    Her closure to me was,
    “It’s all in your head. Nothing is going on. You need help. If anything, you took advantage of me,“
    She was never going to say:
    I used you.
    I tried to exploit you financially and emotionally and physically.
    I lied and manipulated you.
    I smeared you to friends, family and strangers.
    I was having an affair.
    I cheated on you multiple times in the past.
    I planned to destroy you for my own benefit.
    No.
    Those are things you cannot give closure on, as they are things a person simply should not do to another.
    Even if she did, what would that really change?
    I’d still be gone, and she would have to hear herself speak that awful truth… and would she care?
    Likely not, as no one else would hear it to know it, so she could go about her existence unknown and hidden to others, so no judgment would come her way.

    • @treid1369
      @treid1369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hear you! When that fog lifts and you deal with the reality of what happened, the facts of the situation starts to hit you from all angles. You are right, she was never your friend. Friends do not treat friends as disposable garbage. That “friend” card is to keep you as a supply and I am glad you recognized that and didn’t allow it. Whenever I get a hoover, I just keep remembering what Telsha said a while back. Remember the person they were in the end towards you and NOT the beginning because that is who they genuinely are. Also, facts over feelings. Keep repeating that and you will NEVER be drawn in again. They will be as intriguing to you as a blank piece of paper. That also is giving them too much credit because a piece of paper is useful to you, they are not.

    • @ZFosterZ
      @ZFosterZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@treid1369 I can still remember a haunting moment with her.
      5 months before it finally ended with her.
      It was when I caught her out in a massive lie.
      Unknown to me then, although I think in my heart I knew the truth:
      She was having an affair with her older Nlp Lifecoach, and man in his mid fifties versus her in her early thirties.
      When I caught her out, she stood in front of me, it was her in looks and yet suddenly she seemed very alien and hostile: a total stranger.
      That moment stuck with me.
      Who on earth is this person I’ve been with for over nine years?
      She had no remorse, no sadness, just annoyance and anger at being caught, at being held accountable.
      But, she was still able to wing it and gaslight me as I didn’t have the full facts.
      I was crushed.
      I didn’t want to face the truth, and she was right too, I didn’t have the full facts.
      My gut instinct was screaming at me, this is who she really is and what she was doing.
      I knew her better than anyone else, Jekyll and Hyde and all. Yet she showed me a side I hadn’t considered was possible.
      When that Fog lifted. All that I pushed to one side, ignored and pretended wasn’t real, really did come back around and sledgehammer into my chest over and over again. All of it was right there, and now I had to face it.
      A blank piece of paper, is how I chose to live my life after her.
      Make a fresh start.
      Write my own present moving on into the future.
      I think of her, as best I can, as nothing.
      No malice.
      No anger.
      No love.
      Just nothing.
      I’ve been no contact going on three years now.

    • @cupsoflove1245
      @cupsoflove1245 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes exactly.

    • @Mousey168
      @Mousey168 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same happened to me. So I sent recordings of him crying on my voicemail to his new supply family😂. Cause don’t play with me!!

  • @kimsmith9426
    @kimsmith9426 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    At first I thought I needed closure but I see it’s a trap. I’m good.

  • @KnowYourWorthPodcast
    @KnowYourWorthPodcast 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I believe this 😮 they act like you obligated to them

  • @susantodd7169
    @susantodd7169 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    U r correct . He contacted all my friends, family and acquaintances during the smear campaign!

    • @coryskizm
      @coryskizm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      My ex did the same and was a girl none of my fam or friends believed them cause Im honest about everything.

  • @shaylanewlife
    @shaylanewlife ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That's why I left after the love bomb stage lol 😂

  • @ninjawarriorsword4798
    @ninjawarriorsword4798 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    After a few years ago I found a song called fighter ,I listening to it and I feel great blessed , I Protect my Power = Fire🔥🔥🔥🔥after I took it Back !!! The Narc couldn't handle Seening me looking sooo good because I unblocked him to show I'M doing great without him and he unblocked to try to hurt me by tryna start an argument tried to insult ,lie, gaslight , use my age 😂😂, smear campaign against me cause he knows I moved on and he was Angery living in his pathetic, denial ,delusional, pretence life , oh yea he was Desperate 😂 . The mask came OFF ...I Remained Silent and healthy Confident living in my Joy , yes he did exactly "confessed through projections" I got so many different numbers harassing, stalking on Instagram and Facebook, obsessing on my old phone I didn't know about it until he told me I'm like WTF 😂😂and new phone and I changed my number first ... I was Raised to stay on my Guard 😎........I felt indifferent

  • @peacefaith560
    @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    shut them dowm..they will come back as long as you let them

  • @jmashack1
    @jmashack1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you my sister, thank you my sister, thank you my sister. I hit the like button. You are telling the truth. These backwards walking giraffes don't mean no one no good. Well my ex narcissistic boyfriend demonize me in his mind because he couldn't control me. He knew that I was a much better person than he could ever be and he left. It was 3 months of him losing his mind and his demons chasing him and he left after close to 7 years of us being together. But dig this my sister he left his son with me that's how grimy he is. He left on April 2nd 2021 and I blocked him from having any access to me May 2nd of 2021. So he discarded me first and I discarded him right back . His son is with me and he discarded his father as well. It has been 1 year and 8 months and I don't need no closure because that chapter in my life is already closed. Thank you again my sister. Powerful message

  • @womensupportministrymentor5761
    @womensupportministrymentor5761 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Confirmation no closer and u apologetic I just had to walk off on that. Keeps coming back good but with the power of God I am moving forward

  • @LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024
    @LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You definitely have to leave them ‼️‼️‼️. But what's crazy I have another Narc that I got rid of a couple years ago that's trying to come back smh...🙄🙄🙅🏿‍♀️🙅🏿‍♀️

  • @stewartforeal1079
    @stewartforeal1079 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He said he's the happiest in one week without me than being with me for 7 years 💔...that really hurt me. I divorced him...after the fact his sister said he was lying. I'm divorced now almost 2 years. P.s. I helped him make life in America 🇺🇸. The word of the day is USED. I'm so much better now.

  • @damienwelch9067
    @damienwelch9067 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Desperate for your attention

  • @genevas-grace
    @genevas-grace 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    He told me everything was my fault and that I was the worst woman he ever had in his life. He said he could never see himself with me ever again. I learned later he had secretly recorded me I don't know to this day how many videos. This whole ordeal has shook my world and changed everything. The smear campaign is the worse. I have never reached out to him and I never will. I just want him out my brain. I even had a dream about him just last night that I do not understand. 😭😭🥺🥺

    • @lauradelregno99
      @lauradelregno99 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How did you find out that he recorded you?

    • @treid1369
      @treid1369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The dreams happen to me as well. Whenever I have a dream about him, there is usually a text or call soon to come. 😢. It’s disturbing.

    • @CanWeHeal
      @CanWeHeal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wake up real early in the morning with him on mind. I pray the dreams stay gone but the ruminations are very overwhelming and I hate that my body goes into triggered mode when I think about him at all !!
      I can’t wait until this process is complete but I’m fighting

    • @genevas-grace
      @genevas-grace 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lauradelregno99 oh he was cocky enough to show me when he knew he was tired of me. The look of satisfaction on his face. Times where he provoked situations just to record my reactions. All of this was before I knew about reactive abuse. He wanted me to know probably to keep me quiet and it worked for a while. I am still triggered thinking about who he has shown and the light they put me in. Because honestly I do look crazy on them.

    • @genevas-grace
      @genevas-grace 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@CanWeHeal when I was in the beginning of my healing he consumed my mind. The pain was so bad my heart felt like it was broken I mean literally I have never felt that type of pain before. I would push through work with crying breaks in my car or bathroom clean my face go back to work all the while praying to God. The ruminating I still have but each day gets better and better.

  • @johnmoya2826
    @johnmoya2826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Many women have done wonderful things, but you've outclassed them all!"
    Beautiful One, all of creation bows before Your great name. I bow before You Lord because even as I grow old, even when I get grey hairs, You are my God, You are He who will sustain me. You have made me, and You will carry me; You will sustain me and rescue me because of Your nature. Through You I am saved, cleansed and protected, I thank You for who You are. Amen

  • @davinawilkins2125
    @davinawilkins2125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Been no contact since 10/27/22 🙏🏽💜

  • @Peacealways247
    @Peacealways247 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I thank you for these messages. Truly makes me know that it's nothing but demonic behaviors. Narc married 10 mos after the discard. I do agree that he wants me to be stuck just like him because married or not...he's STUCK, I'm not. I'm free and truly happy and my life shows it, I don't have to tell anyone that I am. Told someone he finally got married and he's happy. When a person gets married, they don't have to tell anyone they are happy. This is just craziness. Same behavior different person. The behaviors NEVER change. If someone has truly moved on from you, there are no hoovers, there's respectful, adult conversation and agree to move on. These narcs be narcing...crazy fools.

  • @parisaddie7792
    @parisaddie7792 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Heard somewhere… The disrespect is the closure.

  • @kieshaspady4923
    @kieshaspady4923 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Happy Saturday Everyone

  • @leniecelewis3415
    @leniecelewis3415 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He Is so Wounded That I Believe He Has Someone Out There To Hurt Me Too Many Strange Signs Happening And Am Feeling Unsafe

  • @Samantha-cp1qm
    @Samantha-cp1qm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Indeed I will move on!

  • @malapersad7310
    @malapersad7310 ปีที่แล้ว

    On april 03 2023 the little boy and coward didnt have the guts to face me. He discarded me through my Sister. He also tried to ill speak me with my sis. She didnt fall for it. He has smeared me. I take most of the blame because i was told by more than one person to stay away from him. One of his co workers even said he is a very stink person. He is such a demon. His life is nothing but lies and betrayal. We have to cut that cancer. Thank you so much my dear. Bless you so much❤

  • @danielleholliday7519
    @danielleholliday7519 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes Ma'am! Was Hoovered by text yesterday. He is blocked but his text messages come through he can't see that I was read. He keeps texting since you have me blocked, I'll just come over after I get off of work.... I have gotten that one for the last two months... Sir you are talking to yourself... It's bad because everytime he Hoovers me I laugh, Because It's the audacity... I love myself more this time around.....

  • @syoirryng8283
    @syoirryng8283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ✨️Here in these holy days the inner light is so bright, it yields blessings of unspeakable joy. 🙏🏽So appreciate, the awesome outpouring of Most High Over All 👑 joy divine, via the vessel that is you.✨️

  • @Deakkon_and_the_Diplomat
    @Deakkon_and_the_Diplomat 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Seek closure for yourself. When you actually look back at it you'll seenyou were loving yourself anyway cuz they mirrored you. Understand the reason they act like that is because they are empty.

  • @wolfhernandez7713
    @wolfhernandez7713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She said that I wasn't worth the effort (after I exposed her to her family), and that was her closure. So for she's kept her word, but she spiritually Hoovered me in my dreams EVERY NIGHT for 6 mos! Everytime I feel happy, become close to another woman, give up all hope that she will be normal. It's a nightmare, I WISH NEVER MET HER.

    • @treid1369
      @treid1369 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I get spiritually hoovered as well. It’s an awful feeling. Majority of the times it leads to physical world hoovering.

  • @lizhicks7562
    @lizhicks7562 ปีที่แล้ว

    He put his hand around my throat. I called the police and packed his stuff.

  • @anthonyburton2172
    @anthonyburton2172 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why now in these times is this disorder seem rampant.?!?
    They are literally everywhere ..

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are a chosen object from day one. I love this channel for morale support. I went no contact and life got BETTER IMMEDIATELY.

  • @loubo3285
    @loubo3285 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your style and energy . You have that spark like fireworks. I learn a lot from you, even after the discard from the narc 4 months ago. Thank you

  • @cynthiabrooks2785
    @cynthiabrooks2785 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hellughjah 😢 Praise God for the message my Sister I don't need no Closure I know who I am a child of the most High God Shouting Time ✋✋💋 Everybody keep God first he will heal and keep you from falling 🙏

  • @ItsMeMatt1986
    @ItsMeMatt1986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I would love for all these TH-camrs to get together and spread the wisdom at events across America ...

    • @Datb2
      @Datb2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That would be amazing

  • @leandraherring1824
    @leandraherring1824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ME LEAVING YOU TO DEAL WITH THEM DUCKS AND CROWS IS MY CLOSURE.. 💯 YOU PLAYED THE GAME AND LOST..I PLAYED THE GAME AND WON BLOCKED AND NO CONTACT 💯❤️4 EVA LOVE YOU QUEEN TELSHA 💖💖

  • @Shirley-t9b
    @Shirley-t9b 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Backward walking 🦒 giraffes love it I said it lol ha ha 😂😂

  • @lizhicks7562
    @lizhicks7562 ปีที่แล้ว

    I gave myself closure!!!. I'm done. That's it and That's all

  • @anndra1160
    @anndra1160 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    God Bless You!!! Your BEST message yet!!! 🤗 And just to add to it, do something nice for someone else - a complete stranger. We're in the "season of giving", just like Christ gave for us. Hold a door open, give a smile or encouraging word... nothing grandiose, but you never know who's life you may touch with the simplest of gestures of kindness! ☺ Love you Lady! You are a blessing to SO MANY people! ❤🙏

  • @ladyvirgo013
    @ladyvirgo013 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband discarded me for the secretary at his work. He was grooming her and devaluing me at the same time. He filed for divorce on the 8th so,ya he trashed me like I meant nothing.
    The discard was brutal

  • @c4m774
    @c4m774 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi Telsha thanks for your advice and wisdom,on these oxygen Thief’s they cause nothing but chaos,drama and pain on anyone they come into contact with! I wish anyone still around the narcissist the power and strength too run and not look back. I’m a few months healing and I can feel my old feelings and life coming back! No contact really works,there is some days the pain is real but keep the faith! Love and respect too yourself from 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 👊🏼❤️

  • @Starpple38765
    @Starpple38765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That's true Telsha the Narcissists is cheating again no matter how nice you're

  • @roddywilliams9957
    @roddywilliams9957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I needed to hear this for some messed up reason! I sent a video of her flipping out on me throwing a wine glass at me shattering against the wall.. to her mom! Who my wife held up the biggest front . 2 days later I was served with an order of protection siding, harassment, menacing, an elderly abuse… I guess because I sent the video to her mom, but I was allowed to stay under the same roof .. any time we got into a disagreement she would point at me, saying menacing, menacing your menacing mean as a threat to call the police about three weeks later she ended up calling the police. I was in Bronx lock up for three days straight behind the guise of spitting in her face and breaking a glass in front of her, which never happened of course right now I’m out of the house I know I’m entitled to spousal support because when we met I was on Social Security I was a stay at home spouse cleaning taken care of by Kevin Shepherd, my emotional support dog doing laundry, etc. any side jobs I got I gave her all the money do you think you’ll divorce me

    • @hatchingofthegods648
      @hatchingofthegods648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Good on you mate you took care of business, just keep learning and sharing your experiences , I’m only 30 I feel our stories are similar, I’ll see you man

  • @jeffunderwood6235
    @jeffunderwood6235 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mine has started calling and inviting me over 😅

  • @FranciaMalone
    @FranciaMalone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow I am dealing with these desperate Hoover attempts left and right but I have remained no contact for 5 months. I filed for divorce and I'm waiting on him to be served. Sis Telsha you are a godsend. Your channel has empowered me and helped me to stand strong and remember the Narc and his demonic and insidious behavior the day I said and realized enough is enough and he has been given over to a reprobate mind.
    Yes the Smear Campaign is hot and heavy and he is desperate and lying trying to get me to call him but I refused to play these childish games. I know my worth, who I am and whose I am a daughter of the most high God. I would be lying if I said im healed but im taking this new journey to healing and wholeness one day at a time. I HAVE STRAIGHTENED UP MY CROWN 👑 💪🙏🏽🙌

  • @yankee52goblue78
    @yankee52goblue78 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    5 yrs of my life dealing with him and his clan of evils, twisted users. Good riddance!!!

  • @mercedezdeleon9139
    @mercedezdeleon9139 ปีที่แล้ว

    but the more I hear you the more I'm understanding it all!! All that you have said is sooo very true!!! The night he left me,I'm pretty sure he had been crying!!

  • @1fancychik4God
    @1fancychik4God 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do they think about the abuse? He won’t get another chance to do that and more! Days like this are difficult but I really did the best thing for me and my family. ❤🎉 The closure was more manipulation and lies plus opened old wounds that I could have done without bringing up and re-block his evil soul

  • @PurpleReels
    @PurpleReels 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The closure yes, was you showing your natural behind!

  • @tanyahiggs4919
    @tanyahiggs4919 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are a blessing. I used to talk to him daily. And now I listen to you daily. And he is in NO contact. He's blocked on everything. If I could block his thoughts I would. I sleep better. Work better. Got a new job. When I get weak, I read my journal, remember how this BIRD did me, and then I listen to you.❤

  • @regina9894
    @regina9894 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This narc told me he had black magic powers and that he wanted full control over me

    • @angelablaney4575
      @angelablaney4575 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And, it is a fact! All the tactics narc uses is the projection of demonolgy! Every single move they make, every word they speak! Especially if you are a child of light in God! Narcs aim is to destroy you and to make you think you are just like them, but without ever admitting to it! Narc wants to ensnare you in the dark side, so you are living in hell, and want you to end up in hell! Get away from narc as fast as you can! Heal again in the Light if God through Jesus Christ!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @challengeus247
    @challengeus247 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am in the midst of the flying monkeys, and his daily deceit and disrespect. He keeps lying about cheating with someone in our home. I feel so alone.

  • @sandrabrouwers5797
    @sandrabrouwers5797 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi Telsha 🤗
    Parasites to the core.

  • @PatriciaPigee
    @PatriciaPigee 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Probably Not But Mentally I Was Done 😢😮 And The Discard Was Very Messy And Nasty 😢😮The Marriage Was is a Coverup,
    Joining Church was a Coverup 😮 See Things Was Unfolding already. Him and His Friend Were involved in some unspeakable things 😮the friend got caught up 😮 as I speak he’s in ((Jail) for his actions 😮 he Discarded his friend for over 45 years 😮😮Talk about him pointing the finger his way… he wasn’t there but he knows all the details 👀🧐but the whole time I know he’s that third wheel and fifth wheel 👀👀‼️💯🚩🚩 Distance himself from the group he adore 🥰 so much and joined church!! Hide behind the walls of the church ⛪️ was acting strange but still an asshole…. Talk about how he was forgiven because he got Baptized 😮and nothing he done matters anymore 😮😮 you the one going to hell, I don’t care what you go back and tell, but if you were my friend you wouldn’t do that to me 👀👀👀🚩🚩🚩why is it important for me to stay friends I know too,too much 🧐🧐or you want me around to drain energy from just marriage 😂to someone you know for six months 😮and the end discarded was down right planned and plot and twist towards his own family members 😮🤨🥺😭 and you’re brothers with 😮talk about his Niece like her and her kids wasn’t shit 💩 honestly came in town on bullish 😮 15:16 😅😅and I thought 💭 it was about me 😮it was I was part of the discard but his family wasn’t expecting it 😮what’s so sad ‼️🚩🚩 is I confronted him about his brother wife,,,,,, he will slip up and say something about her, and he defended her over his brother 👀💯and they spent nights talking on the phone and FaceTime said she was talking about his brother 🧐👀🚩🚩👀 I figured out what the entire trip was about the wife and to discard me and his family
    Now the brothers wife and him not together 😂😂and he ran away back out of town and Got Married 😂😂😂On The Brothers Wife 😮😮😂😂😂😂😂
    She’s sick her post or sad 😂😂she knew about me and went along with the bullshit, now she’s alone 😂😂sad every day and God going to punish her every day 🤲🏽🚩 She lost her husband and his brother 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂He done her and jumped up and got married 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
    In her face 😂🤲🏽 her karma came soon as he got back to Indianapolis 😂few months later I Do 😂 😂 poor brother wife 😂

  • @deandreorumorum14
    @deandreorumorum14 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I LOVE YOUR VIDEO TRUE VIDEO

  • @LivingandstillLearning
    @LivingandstillLearning ปีที่แล้ว

    Ooh wee! Yas! Backwards walking giraffes! I never realized (that they were playing) like they didn’t want/you/need you, bust were desperate!HA! Knowledge is power ya’ll!

  • @mercedezdeleon9139
    @mercedezdeleon9139 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello,I love the way you put it into words!!! He's done it eight times with this one!! I believe what you say,but I still don't see him coming back!! He never contacts me when he leaves with his baby mama!!

  • @Ann-rg4si
    @Ann-rg4si ปีที่แล้ว

    You’re saving lives with this content!

  • @charleneterrell
    @charleneterrell 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As soon as the dog started barking in last video (towards the end).

  • @bonniecraig1316
    @bonniecraig1316 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He gave me an STD I got blamed for and he's telling everyone this is why he left me. What a damn joke. ❤❤❤❤😁😁😁😁

  • @marks9876
    @marks9876 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I rock with you in Holy Jesus Christ Name Hallelujah Lord Amen and Blessings

  • @gionagrace6279
    @gionagrace6279 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    T...... Every word that you just stated is TRUE!!

  • @operationgetthugs232
    @operationgetthugs232 ปีที่แล้ว

    Psychopath-narc wife walked out on me and our 6 children.