What is absolutely amazing about this video is that this young mum did not once place the blame for her recent mental health issues relapse on the medically-challenging triplets!! It’s really laudable that she explains clearly from where her mental health issues stem. Surely going through what they go through would be more than challenging for many of us. Bravo to this couple for being aware of the sources, the reasons and the treatment! Thank you for sharing a video that will surely help many with similar issues!
@@nancyfarkas3592I don't think the commenter was saying it like that... one can (usually anyway) inference that she's meaning the complexities that are related to her situation regarding her children's health. This is a completely understandable concept if you're willing to see what was meant (inferred) in the comment.
On top of everything else, having a child with special need or having multiples puts so much more strain on a marriage and personal mental health and you are dealing with both scenarios. Recognizing and addressing mental health issues shows great strength, not weakness. Sharing your story will help many people.
You are mature beyond your years & a perfectly normal young, hard-working Mama, partner, daughter, sister, friend & colleague. Sending you continued love & strength from Australia 🇦🇺 XO
I have the same diagnosis with addiction....self medicating. Been on meds for depression and anxiety for nearly 30 years, sober for 20 years now. Rough road. Sending my love and admiration for your bravery. Those boys are adorable. You're an awesome mom!
Thank you for what you said about ADHD; people think it’s “squirrel!” but it’s very destructive, painful, difficult to manage, and it IS a mental heath issue. Good for you for talking about all this, you never know who needs to hear all this 😗💋
My daughter also was recently diagnosed with ADHD and as her mom I have learned so much and very supportive of her mental health. Yes having a strong supportive husband and family makes such a difference. You are so validated and thank you for sharing and you will be helping so many struggling. Bless you❤
I’m 27 and alcoholism runs in my family too. I’ve chosen not to drink, and I get it that it does make you feel like the odd one out sometimes. I guess I just feel like anyone who judges me for not drinking I don’t really want to be friends with them. Also remember that alcohol is a depressant so probably not the best for those of us who struggle with depression.
I totally agree with the not drinking. I watched my son who didn’t drink until his 30’s become an alcoholic by 33. Hit rock bottom when he missed hitting a busy farmer’s market by about 50ft. Hit the telephone pole at the corner and totaled his car. That was more than a year ago and he struggles with it everyday. It’s not worth it.
One of the things you said made sense to me. We do different things at different times to calm ourselves. I really hadn't thought of it this way but I have multiple calming rituals. You are simply an amazing woman. ❤
Aubrey, you are amazing. You both are - you've come so far even just in the year or so (?) I've been watching this channel. You're so self aware and willing to recognise and work on things. And all at the same time as being an amazing mum and studying and working - wow. How you have enough hours in the day I have no idea!
I have always admired you. Also the upmost RESPECT. Raising children/ kids.... Has to one if the hardest things in Life to do. Plus dealing with day to day challenges. Even thier health issues. Be proud of yourself and ehat you done thus far. What an accomplishment. Also taling steps to ensure your healthy physically and mentally too ❤
I was misdiagnosed for 11 years then got a diagnose and now 7 years later I’m finding out I was given the wrong diagnosis. My new, accurate diagnose is the exact same as yours and your description of struggling to regulate emotions is my struggle to which is why I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder for the last 7 years instead of for ADHD. I am also on mood stabilizers and am learning how to turn adhd into a super power. We both got this girl!
I suffered most of my life I had what I think in today’s standards I had ADHD . My moods were all over the place. At 42 I was finally diagnosed as B-Polar disorder. Schizoid effective disorder. It’s been a journey. I also had an addiction personality and drank to masked my feelings. I’ve finally gotten my mental health is very stable. My only concern is get help for your mental health there is so much help out there. I’m a senior citizen and the last 23 years have been the best.
You’re SO strong for being the best mom to the boys. Even though your life is chaotic and you’ve jumped through so many hoops to get it, I believe it was all in gods plan for everything to work out the way it did, and he knew you were the right person to care for these special little boys. Ive been going back and watching your old videos from when the boys were in the NICU then you brought each of them home. I CAN’T imagine how hard it was to have one baby home, eventually two, and just be waiting for your whole family to be back together when Ezarh came home. I’ve heard you mention that the only way for him to get of the ventilator is to do trials, can you explain that process further? Almost 11 years ago when I was 5 I had surgery for something, and the surgery went horribly wrong and that ended me up with a trach and ventilator. I was in the hospital for 7 weeks because there were a lot of other complications with the surgery that made me not be able to talk or move even my finger tips, after a VERY LONG recovery fast forward ten years later I got off the Vent and just started my junior year of highschool, and I’m thankful every day that I was able to overcome the HARDEST challenge I’ve had to face to date all because of the support around me and the miracle of God. I’m not sharing my story to scare you or invalidate your life, I just wanted to share my Story to give you and anyone else who has gone through this journey a glimmer of hope. Finding your channel gave me a whole new perspective on medically complex kiddo through the eyes of a parent, I really make me appreciate all the things my parents do for me and understand how hard medical things affect them. Again I can not THANK YOU ENOUGH for sharing your life, the good times, the bad time, and everything in between!!!! P.S I just saw your q&a from a month ago, and you mentioned Ezarh is fully off the vent during the day, when do you think he will get of the vent completely?
Hugs! Thanks for sharing! Depression, Anxiety and PTSD here. I get it also not a mom of 3 medically fragile boys, just 1 total care medically fragile boy and I’m not sure how you do it. You are doing well and in my mind keeping it real and talking about it is truly inspiring. Great video.
I was deserted by my mother when I was 13 years old. She took my 16 year old sister with her. The judge told my dad that I needed counseling. He gave my dad some custody of me. But the judge gave me his card with his work number and his home number so if my mother gave me any problems I could call him and get help. I used it one time my sister had convinced me to go to my mother's apartment. When we got there my mother opened the door and there was a man sitting at the table. I recognized him as the peeping tom .I walked out of the apartment and headed for the phone down the hall . I told my mother I was going to call my dad and have him pick me up. She said I was going to spend the night. She also said she didn't want my dad to know where she lived . I got to tell her he already knows where you live . That was fun maybe not so nice . She told me again I was going to spend the night. I ran out the back door of the apartment complex. I ran away I found a pay phone I tried to call my dad he wasn't home from work yet . That's when I called the judge. I told him what was going on and I just wanted to go home . He sent a Sheriff's deputy to pick me up and take me home.He wouldn't leave until my dad got home.kerp up the good work you are doing great. Prayers 🙏 and Love 🤟 From Oklahoma
As well as having a life limiting medical condtion and heart fauilre i have anxiety and mental health issues i feel ashamed because of how people have reacted to me for it and have autism to which is my super power and strength but again i feel upset and ashamed as people in the public have made me feel that way not my family or partner or close friends their all incredible and my carers are amazing but lives hard im 35 and find life can be really hard especially with how sick i am people dont understand but your incredible for all that has been thrown your way you show up your an incredible mom even on the good and hard days alway know that 💖
I understand the part about alcohol. I have ADHD and when I was younger, I felt I had a tendency to self medicate with alcohol. Approaching age 40, I will not drink if I am not in a good mood. I also won't drink around people who will encourage me to drink more than I want to.
I deal with anxiety and depression. I am not a fan of alcohol which might be a good thing. I'm not sure if I'd have a problem because one aunt was an alcoholic. My mom drinks alcohol to sleep but has never been drunk. She knows she has a problem and hasn't shown signs of struggling with her 'only on weekends' rule. Alcohol is a stigma either way. You're lame for not drinking but some also argue you're a drunk for drinking even if it's on weekends and even a limit if 3 drinks. I've seen people argue alcohol should be illegal, stop being made etc. Uh how about we address the real issues? How people pressure each other to rrink period and several drinks or because mental health is taboo especially for men, people choose to drink. I deal with this. It's gotten to the point where I am better off keeping quiet. Forget life goals n stuff. So i suppose it's good i don't drink. Even if i had a bottle of the one alcohol i like, it lasts a year.
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What is absolutely amazing about this video is that this young mum did not once place the blame for her recent mental health issues relapse on the medically-challenging triplets!! It’s really laudable that she explains clearly from where her mental health issues stem. Surely going through what they go through would be more than challenging for many of us. Bravo to this couple for being aware of the sources, the reasons and the treatment! Thank you for sharing a video that will surely help many with similar issues!
Why would she place the blame on her kids?
@@nancyfarkas3592I don't think the commenter was saying it like that... one can (usually anyway) inference that she's meaning the complexities that are related to her situation regarding her children's health. This is a completely understandable concept if you're willing to see what was meant (inferred) in the comment.
On top of everything else, having a child with special need or having multiples puts so much more strain on a marriage and personal mental health and you are dealing with both scenarios. Recognizing and addressing mental health issues shows great strength, not weakness. Sharing your story will help many people.
You are mature beyond your years & a perfectly normal young, hard-working Mama, partner, daughter, sister, friend & colleague. Sending you continued love & strength from Australia 🇦🇺 XO
I have the same diagnosis with addiction....self medicating. Been on meds for depression and anxiety for nearly 30 years, sober for 20 years now. Rough road. Sending my love and admiration for your bravery. Those boys are adorable. You're an awesome mom!
Love your honesty Aubrey!!!! You guys are a beautiful family!!!!!❤
Thank you for what you said about ADHD; people think it’s “squirrel!” but it’s very destructive, painful, difficult to manage, and it IS a mental heath issue. Good for you for talking about all this, you never know who needs to hear all this 😗💋
My daughter also was recently diagnosed with ADHD and as her mom I have learned so much and very supportive of her mental health. Yes having a strong supportive husband and family makes such a difference. You are so validated and thank you for sharing and you will be helping so many struggling. Bless you❤
I’m 27 and alcoholism runs in my family too. I’ve chosen not to drink, and I get it that it does make you feel like the odd one out sometimes. I guess I just feel like anyone who judges me for not drinking I don’t really want to be friends with them. Also remember that alcohol is a depressant so probably not the best for those of us who struggle with depression.
I totally agree with the not drinking. I watched my son who didn’t drink until his 30’s become an alcoholic by 33. Hit rock bottom when he missed hitting a busy farmer’s market by about 50ft. Hit the telephone pole at the corner and totaled his car. That was more than a year ago and he struggles with it everyday. It’s not worth it.
Thanks for the talk you are wise beyond your years! Blessings to You Braxton and the boys!
Your growth is amazing...so proud of you 🎉
Saying it out loud is important ❤
One of the things you said made sense to me. We do different things at different times to calm ourselves. I really hadn't thought of it this way but I have multiple calming rituals. You are simply an amazing woman. ❤
Aubrey, you are amazing. You both are - you've come so far even just in the year or so (?) I've been watching this channel. You're so self aware and willing to recognise and work on things. And all at the same time as being an amazing mum and studying and working - wow. How you have enough hours in the day I have no idea!
Love your sit downs...always interesting ❤
I wish nothing but the very best❤️🙏🏻
you are such a strong person you don't even know ,as hubby,felt every words you said,tell it perfectly,bless❤❤❤❤❤and yes you probably helped someone💌
Love that relationship you have with your sister❤️ You speak so clearly and intelligent. I really enjoy listening to you. I'm 7 months sober 🤗
Very good video. You are very smart and very wise talking about mental health.
I have always admired you. Also the upmost RESPECT. Raising children/ kids.... Has to one if the hardest things in Life to do. Plus dealing with day to day challenges. Even thier health issues. Be proud of yourself and ehat you done thus far. What an accomplishment. Also taling steps to ensure your healthy physically and mentally too ❤
I was misdiagnosed for 11 years then got a diagnose and now 7 years later I’m finding out I was given the wrong diagnosis. My new, accurate diagnose is the exact same as yours and your description of struggling to regulate emotions is my struggle to which is why I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder for the last 7 years instead of for ADHD. I am also on mood stabilizers and am learning how to turn adhd into a super power. We both got this girl!
I suffered most of my life I had what I think in today’s standards I had ADHD . My moods were all over the place. At 42 I was finally diagnosed as B-Polar disorder. Schizoid effective disorder. It’s been a journey. I also had an addiction personality and drank to masked my feelings. I’ve finally gotten my mental health is very stable. My only concern is get help for your mental health there is so much help out there. I’m a senior citizen and the last 23 years have been the best.
Thanks for sharing!! I can relate so much! ❤️
You’re SO strong for being the best mom to the boys. Even though your life is chaotic and you’ve jumped through so many hoops to get it, I believe it was all in gods plan for everything to work out the way it did, and he knew you were the right person to care for these special little boys. Ive been going back and watching your old videos from when the boys were in the NICU then you brought each of them home. I CAN’T imagine how hard it was to have one baby home, eventually two, and just be waiting for your whole family to be back together when Ezarh came home. I’ve heard you mention that the only way for him to get of the ventilator is to do trials, can you explain that process further? Almost 11 years ago when I was 5 I had surgery for something, and the surgery went horribly wrong and that ended me up with a trach and ventilator. I was in the hospital for 7 weeks because there were a lot of other complications with the surgery that made me not be able to talk or move even my finger tips, after a VERY LONG recovery fast forward ten years later I got off the Vent and just started my junior year of highschool, and I’m thankful every day that I was able to overcome the HARDEST challenge I’ve had to face to date all because of the support around me and the miracle of God. I’m not sharing my story to scare you or invalidate your life, I just wanted to share my Story to give you and anyone else who has gone through this journey a glimmer of hope. Finding your channel gave me a whole new perspective on medically complex kiddo through the eyes of a parent, I really make me appreciate all the things my parents do for me and understand how hard medical things affect them. Again I can not THANK YOU ENOUGH for sharing your life, the good times, the bad time, and everything in between!!!! P.S I just saw your q&a from a month ago, and you mentioned Ezarh is fully off the vent during the day, when do you think he will get of the vent completely?
Hugs! Thanks for sharing! Depression, Anxiety and PTSD here. I get it also not a mom of 3 medically fragile boys, just 1 total care medically fragile boy and I’m not sure how you do it. You are doing well and in my mind keeping it real and talking about it is truly inspiring. Great video.
Love your videos.Thanks for sharing your a awesome mom
Ur so brave girl watched u long time have such respect for u. Love ur content
Thanks for sharing. I was surprised to hear you have ADHD, as you are one of the most organized people I have ever seen.
I’m not officially diagnosed with generalized anxiety, but I have experienced a lot of that a lot lately and it’s hard not gonna lie
Loving the sit down content🫶🏼
Love your videos. Found it so helpful as I suffer from anxiety as well.
Well done for sharing, it’s always so helpful to know you are not alone.
Great Video !! Love your channel! And keep up the fight!! 😊
You are very wise ❤
I was deserted by my mother when I was 13 years old. She took my 16 year old sister with her. The judge told my dad that I needed counseling. He gave my dad some custody of me. But the judge gave me his card with his work number and his home number so if my mother gave me any problems I could call him and get help. I used it one time my sister had convinced me to go to my mother's apartment. When we got there my mother opened the door and there was a man sitting at the table. I recognized him as the peeping tom .I walked out of the apartment and headed for the phone down the hall . I told my mother I was going to call my dad and have him pick me up. She said I was going to spend the night. She also said she didn't want my dad to know where she lived . I got to tell her he already knows where you live . That was fun maybe not so nice . She told me again I was going to spend the night. I ran out the back door of the apartment complex. I ran away I found a pay phone I tried to call my dad he wasn't home from work yet . That's when I called the judge. I told him what was going on and I just wanted to go home . He sent a Sheriff's deputy to pick me up and take me home.He wouldn't leave until my dad got home.kerp up the good work you are doing great. Prayers 🙏 and Love 🤟 From Oklahoma
What a brave strong resourceful person you are. Well done you. Take good care. ❤
Love you, and so proud of you for speaking out ❤
Love to YOU, sweet mama. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing 😊
As well as having a life limiting medical condtion and heart fauilre i have anxiety and mental health issues i feel ashamed because of how people have reacted to me for it and have autism to which is my super power and strength but again i feel upset and ashamed as people in the public have made me feel that way not my family or partner or close friends their all incredible and my carers are amazing but lives hard im 35 and find life can be really hard especially with how sick i am people dont understand but your incredible for all that has been thrown your way you show up your an incredible mom even on the good and hard days alway know that 💖
Wise woman. Very self aware...depression by itself is no joke.
Love the beautiful family picture 😍
You are so amazing ❤
Thank you.
THANKS!
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I understand the part about alcohol. I have ADHD and when I was younger, I felt I had a tendency to self medicate with alcohol.
Approaching age 40, I will not drink if I am not in a good mood. I also won't drink around people who will encourage me to drink more than I want to.
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I deal with anxiety and depression. I am not a fan of alcohol which might be a good thing. I'm not sure if I'd have a problem because one aunt was an alcoholic. My mom drinks alcohol to sleep but has never been drunk. She knows she has a problem and hasn't shown signs of struggling with her 'only on weekends' rule. Alcohol is a stigma either way. You're lame for not drinking but some also argue you're a drunk for drinking even if it's on weekends and even a limit if 3 drinks. I've seen people argue alcohol should be illegal, stop being made etc. Uh how about we address the real issues? How people pressure each other to rrink period and several drinks or because mental health is taboo especially for men, people choose to drink. I deal with this. It's gotten to the point where I am better off keeping quiet. Forget life goals n stuff. So i suppose it's good i don't drink. Even if i had a bottle of the one alcohol i like, it lasts a year.