Enmeshment Marriage Therapy & Differentiation
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Enmeshment marriage therapy is explained through the lens of differentiation of self. I take a deep dive into the application of differentiation in real life relationships using real couples therapy footage with couples talking about real problems in their daily life. Murray Bowen's concepts of differentiation of self apply to all sorts of situations, the most obvious is working with enmeshment in marriage or couples counseling. We will look at what Bowen says about an enmeshed relationship in a nutshell, look for techniques using examples from the show and snippets of a session
Please don't give up on this channel. This is so helpful and easy to understand
yes please. clips are interesting.
I found it very helpful to have real examples shown and explained so that I could hear/see/interpret what people are saying when they speak. I've seen several videos of SOFT explained, yet this really helped with understanding/application.
this is wonderful to read- thank you for sharing your thoughts! i am thrilled it found you ;)
More? Yes please! I love your approach. The simplicity of the visual aids. Thank You.
Aw -thank you - so glad you're enjoying the way my weird brain works :)
@MyPeoplePatterns well, my brain most probably is weird as well cause I SO appreciate the way you present the concepts. In fact, your videos inspired the use of sliders in my vocal coaching work. It works so much better than flat either/or pass/fail language, and gives space for movement in increments. Your enthusiasm is contagious in the best way! Keep going. 😊
I watched and shared with a client asking for a resource on this topic. Thanks, Oliver!
No way! That’s so cool - I’ve not shared any of these with clients yet! 🙉🙈🙊
I'm a family system's coach and I enjoy your vids
awww! that's so great to hear from another systems person! thanks for saying hi and am thrilled these found you :)
I wonder: can one have too much of self-differentiation? If one has perfectly separated their thoughts and feelings and self and other, and their other has no influence on their self, they would seem psychopathic. Beyond any impact of human emotions of shame or guilt which stem from what we think we did (or didn’t) to the other. I realize it’s a distant possibility but still. The perfectly self-differentiated would be psychopathic, wouldn’t they?
No, I don't think so. Shame and Guilt are feelings - which have evolved as ways to make us feel bad and to follow rules, to avoid rejection from society and tribe, which we need for protection. A differentiated person has a separated Self, and Other doesn't mean they are not influenced by them; it means they would listen to Others, think about what they said, notice their own emotional reaction, and then CHOOSE to act however they do (vs undifferentiated which is more reactive to what other people say). Psychopathic person would not have a very imbalanced SELF and other) and have very small feelings and probably lots of THOUGHTS ... crap, I might have to do a video for you on this.
@@drakeford299 also, are narcissists highly self-differentiated?
@@annaczarna2733 Highly differentiated people do not have psychopathology.
A fully differentiated person is like the most HEALTHY version of our self. If you believe in Jesus, we might wonder if he was all the way at the 100% and fully differentiated. 🤷♂️ Narcissists don’t have much of “Other” it’s all Self. They have difficulty accessing feelings. So all thoughts, No feels!
@@drakeford299 As a researcher, I appreciate your clinical insights. I'd gladly respond in an email.