How Can an INFP Know What to Want After High School? | CS Joseph Responds
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CS Joseph responds to the acolyte question how can an INFP know what to want after High School?
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I'm a 25 year old INFP. Got a career in a field I wasn't entirely interested in for job and economic stability, but I didn't regret it in the end. The process was hard and discouraging for awhile. It was the first big thing I did out of my comfort zone to find what I wanted to do and made me realize that as long as I feel like I'm good/useful at what I'm doing (make Te happy I guess?), I can be satisfied doing nearly anything. I'm happy at my job, I make enough to keep myself safe and satisfied with great benefits. It's the "late bloomer" and "slow learner" parts about exploration that I found I hate, not the actual things I would learn. I could become great at something, but the world doesn't wait and give the time and opportunity. While it's true the world waits for no one, I learned this early in my life as an INFP. I just need to find an outlet where intense diligence and taking your time is rewarded instead of frowned upon, but I've yet to discover such an avenue for now. I think if I did and got good at it, I'd feel like people would respect me for having a talent or a skill. But I'm also seeing a pattern of doing things to impress people and caring too much what they think. I've stopped contact with my Ti friend group temporarily to discover just what I REALLY want to do; not letting my Te inferior get the best of me, retraining my Ni critic, unwarping the Ti demon into a Ti angel, and figuring out a way to be happy, despite the opinions of others about how I live my life. The journey continues.
*One lazy way of doing exposure therapy, in the beginning, is by researching on TH-cam. Listen to different people's story times on your interests. You build up courage that way.*
This could also be discouraging due to scope creep fatigue (from being triple control), so take it easy.
@@fificore Could you explain 'scope creep fatigue'?
I would advise high school graduating INFPs not to make big decisions career wise early on, because the minimal experience we have, that Chase pointed out, can really lead to bad decisions and we're then stuck with the repercussions. We're not Ni. We'll change our minds the more experience we get. We go for a degree we think is good for us, but after six months we realize we don't want that anymore, and we're stuck because we put so much money into that. The dead end job is a great idea. I would advise making light decisions that can be dropped easily and that give room to explore life in general, so we can come to a better understanding of the type of future for ourselves we should be working towards.
These are quite good advice, it is worth adding that I am an INFP and I was in about 13 jobs and I am in my 30s. Rober Greens was more than in 50 jobs (or maybe i did understood somethink wrong)! Before he found "himself", he found his calling at the age of 36 when he wrote 48 laws of power. Remember that INFPs are called "late bloomers". We must gather our private philosophy together with our experiences. Incidentally, the young infp is a failure in eyes of sociaty, because he is probably the most lost type that exists, hence INFP, in my opinion, needs as much help as possible, to then give the world the wisdom from which it can then build a better tomorrow. INFP is really a specific type and so much depends on us, so we mature rather later if ever :D.
Greetings and thanks for any advice.
i'm so fucking lost man
@@honestwaylee8368 I know i was the same i mean lost fully. Start loving yourself, boundries, acceptance. Without you you dont have a chance.
@@haihai5293 i see... It's hard to accept yourself when everyone that is the opposite of you seem to be way happier than you so easily,it's just complicated.
@@honestwaylee8368 You are infp 4w5 unhealthy i guess. I know all of your suffering, now i dont care if im diffrent or not. If for me was hope you have it also, belive me.
@@haihai5293 be well my friend
All good advice provided the INFP in question doesn’t have a toxic, controlling family that discourages them from trying new things. At that point you pretty much need to get away from them as soon as possible and discover yourself.
What helped me to find more interests, and function as an individual was leaving the birds' nest. No one deserves to live with people who neglect and shame you for just existing. It negates your growth significantly.
I'm still seriously terrified, and furious with people, but I hope learning typology will help me learn to love people, and to help me teach them to love themselves. If that makes sense.
Ah, life, only if I discovered Jungian psychology 3 or 4 years ago, things would have been so much easier. Thanks, good video 💯
Brainstorm interests
Rank interests & identify why
Identify feasibility on what is profitable
Try new things out of comfort zone for
self-exploration
After having been "traumatized" but as well having gained life experience with a corporate training in an SJ enterprise, I found a topic I'm wanting to learn every part from: psychology of trauma. I almost can recite every video of a person leading in this area 😁
If he started gaining life experience and exposure therapy I think he would never get out of it as an INFP and spend the rest of his life changing jobs, majors, cities... And eventually waste his potential, pick ONE thing with a deep why to it, even if you have to create it, remind yourself constantly of it, stick to it, be creative with it, just stick to something for once INFPs.
Idk about this one. NPs in general are the type that could/should do multiple things at the same time.
"Picking one thing" approach is a better advice for Ni users.
An NP can spend the rest of their lives doing multiple things efficiently.
@@HazLight4426 Yes, on paper, in real life, we should instead choose a single path and be good at it, so we wouldn't end up 40 years old, clueless, losers and disappointed.
@@AB-ps4ob nah overspecialization doesn't allow one to have many options.
you are easily controlled as well, NE makes connections between different experiences they'll become smarter by being generalists compared to specialists.
I disagree because I think INFPs are too judgemental with Fi Hero to continue to be in exploration mode for our whole lives. Our default is to rank and judge what is good and bad decisions so it is naturally very hard to try a bunch of different experiences all willy nilly. But when we get more experience from forcing ourselves to try new things then we will eventually get back to our more comfortable habit of criticizing our decisions and with that previous experience it will be much easier for us to choose the least bad path (In my opinion as an INFP I never actually know what I want I just weed out the things I know I don't want until I have just one action left and that is the one decision that I don't want the least).
@@HazLight4426 doesn't mean NPs shouldn't focus. It's good to focus on a select few things since that's the only way to make progress FAST.
Thanks Chase! This is something very useful to me 🙏🏻
I kinda figured this strategy out by myself awhile back, but you gave me new perspectives🙌🏼
20 years to late for me... hehe, i know now what i want.. After making all the bad decisions in life..
I choose to study computers and i realize now why i choose that. Humans.. humans confused me at the time, got stressed out by them, that's why i choose computers, at least they did what i told them to.
Now i realize it's the humans that i find fascinating and interesting. They still stress me out though, but i get them.
My Ni critic is triggering right now🤯. I mean im currently going through this phase. Is it worth it to pursue comp sci ? If so do you have any advice on that.
@@ammar9279 Hah, i can only speak for myself and please keep in mind that i am not skilled in this whole typing thing ('Your Ni critic is triggered.' I understand the gist of it, but i don't truly understand it. As cs joseph stated a few times about the infp.. i am intelectual lazy.. guilty as charged.. Using these types of videos or any other self-help as a guide for whenever i feel lost in life again)
Anyway, as a kid i liked it, i think that i liked it because it was 'all i got'. Being socially awkward and bit of a loner, made my pc hooked up to the internet a safe way to 'explore' the world and it did taught me a lot.
Now after working for over a decade at the same office. i don't love it anymore, there is no passion in it and upkeeping my skillset is hard to do these days. But i do know it's possible, sometimes when i really get into it, i am able to 'lose' myself and truly focus at my task, it's just.. now i feel that i am at a disadvantage. I think i am a natural born psychologist, seeing/reading/understanding people quite easily. This applies for animals to, i enjoy observing them and thinking about what they are thinking, what's going on in their little minds.
But my colleagues however are more naturally talented in logical thinking then i am. Really feeling like fish out of the water. This in turn, makes me often feel very dumb compared to my fellow coders. I don't pick it up as fast as they do and etc etc.. Going every day to your work and feeling dumb because of it, was a little hell for me, still is actually. It's a miracle i'm still doing it, but to be honest i am now afraid of change.. which i shouldn't be... working on it..
Now, work is just work and i do it because i must. I don't want to be homeless and i want to be free, money can provide me that. Hmm.. it only provides me that when i'm on holidays. SO i guess i am sad sad old man.. haha ;)
add on:
I guess i miss purpose. My job doesn't give me any purpose. I just make money for the boss.
I don't save anything, i don't help anyone. It's an empty existence if you ask me.
@@Daeva83B "I don't pick it up as fast as they do" yes i feel you 😔. I think this is the main problem for me (or maybe this is just an infp thing 😅)
Thanks man this is extremely helpful 👍 hope you doing well.
@@ammar9279 Good luck! Make a new mistake, don't make one others already made ;)
Yeah, i'm doing alright :) Humor is my best friend ;) I highly recommend taking yourself and life not too seriously 😅😅
Great add value here CS! On the day trading specifically…if it makes the priority cut organically…INFPs pair up w/a youngish ENTP CFP and recommend funds to create portfolios to them, while in a marketing/sales position. You will light their nerd fire and help them get organized naturally and focus without a restricting box. Dynamic duo and endless reciprocal motivation and support. And pure fun.
Chase always has the best advice 💯
Great question 👌
Career status for me as an infp. Out of highschool. Parents. Get job that pays not writing. Me. But thats all i like. Parent's. Ok do gap year travelling. Did that. Got traineeship as clerical support officer. Didnt do good job. Failed. Wrote book. Recieved criticism. Stopped writing for years. Became mother. Fell into deeper depression. Only just now returning to who i am. Career now. Be mum and provider for family while making space for writing, drawing, piano, reading and learning on psychology and typology lol 😊
As an INFP I was trying a lot of different thing in my life, raising scout children, religions groups, playing instument, sawing, learning specific language, and I am turning into this different thing from time to the time and I'm sure I will do - it can be even years - and every activity is not expended in expert level but it works when I need money and advantage of this is that I can exchange this things all the time so I never will be boring (routine) of my job
Maybe you should try this as an ENTP :D you look so sleepy and tired
Damn, I really needed to here this.
Thank you, good advice
I think gaining more life experience and exposure, will benefit anyone, irregardless of type. I am Ni hero, and I'm still not fully sure what I want to do after school, simply because I dont know what it means to do specific things or how exactly you would do them.
I dont know about everything that's involved in doing any particular job, and I dont know how to do very many things myself, thus I dont not fully know what I really want go pursue. Yes I have ideas of the very general direction that I'd like to go, or rather more accurately, the endpoint I'd like to reach, based on by Ni hero interests but I have no idea how to get there, and have Ne doubts about whether the paths I'm looking at will even lead me to where I think it will or if I'll even enjoy the path I take.
I know the best thing to do is to just get out there and just do things, and see where life takes you, but with Se inferior I'm really struggling to do that. This video is helpful tho. I think exposing yourself to more experiences benefits everyone, Se users included, because then at least you can see how things are done by those around you so you know how you can do what you want to do, yourself.
Relate to this a lot, thanks for posting it
So awesome! 🦋
Lol an ENTP named Fib… sus
Maybe you should ask him about deez
24 and i'm still struggling to find a job because idk what freakkin job to do based on what are available on my area.
Would you recommend psychiatry for infps?
Like i think that this infp is not really stuck in his "comfort zone". It is more like he is surrounded by stupid people aka his/her parents coz if that person is a infp then that person already knows what they want they just dont know how to get there. Infp or ixxp in general are lazy af so they want easy money with the least amounts of effort. Perfect work for them is where they have no boss and they can expiriance freedom, they are not forced to do things kinda job. Infps most of the time they want to expiriance a intence personal connection with a one person out of the time aka love. In order to get a strong bond they need to be usefull to people if they make a lot of moeny then they are usefull. Then conclusions infps intrests are not monetizable or are not easy to monetise, it is easier for them to do highly valued things even if they will hate themselfs at the end of a day and one day they can have their hobby as a hobby.
Please do this one but for ENFPs.. I am still so lost and I am about to get my masters degree in Computer engineering. I feel like I am getting thr degree just to get it.
:(
why did you choose computer engineering major exactly?
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Your hairline makes your face look like the Iron Man helmet haha
How would a ti-fe user guide themselves to a decision?
Generally speaking they'd rely on their Ni or Si to give context to what's correct and/or socially acceptable.
Guys, how to join the discord server? 🤔
Can an infp be a director or filmmaker with se trickster?
Shout out to Fib
Great 🖐🏻♥️
Can the same thing be applied to isfps
Probably not
You look like Soap MacTavish in CODMW2 except that you should grow your mohawk...
In terms of INFPs "I'll follow what my heart says"🤷♂🤷♂🤷♂
That's not a responsible way of doing things for an INFP.
If you do that, then you can get stuck with nonsense for the rest of your life.
@@HazLight4426 or daydreaming for eternity.
What about ISFP?
Acolytes members actually get one video answer each month, you can sign up at offers.csjoseph.life/acolyte but for ISFPs it'd be different.
Would you say this applies to INTPs as well?
The Ni critic/Si child aspects, yes.
Radical hair is so entp 😈
Cringe intro as fk. Still watching the video tho.
Please update the Entrepreneur 16 list
I don't think I've ever heard Chase mention this - mind explaining to me what it is?
I just realised your voice is like Ben Shapiro's.
Yeah now you gotta tell me what can an ENFP know what to want after college?
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Can anyone invite me to the Discord server?
linktr.ee/csjoseph
ni critic, seems like i might have it
Lol 😂
How on earth could you get Ni hero and Ni critic confused?
@@D14MBK lmao like I'm the first one to do it...pretty common confusion in types. Let me play with my Ti child
@@aladdout9454 you either always know what you want instantly when presented with choices or observing others, (which means you can also change your mind faster) or you never allow yourself to want anything unless you're absolutely sure you're safe in wanting it (which is very rigid in your desires)
Most people get the INFx confused cuz they're unaware of cognitive functions, you have the advantage of understanding them correctly
@@D14MBK is the knowing what you want instantly when presented with choices/observing others INFJ or INFP?
you gotta get rid of the intro man...
Yeah it’s trash 😂
Do you like the outro song? The " you stole my heart of gold".... song
He has officially denied the request.
It's so bad Ive started to like it lookl