Good topic. I find as an INFP once I get formal training and then practice it, I am unstoppable. The Ne patterns just come out as pure genius. Te is no longer an issue. I find when I talk to some people with the knowledge I gain, I get deer in the headlights. It astounds me sometimes and the next time I choose my words carefully. Great subject.
I completely agree with you on that! My Ne is unique and brilliant at times and I know that now. It's truly freeing when I speak up and don't even have time for my usual Te inferior issues lol. I can push those to the side and it's really a powerful feeling.
INFP here. As a child I skipped a solid 1/3 of school because I absolutely needed to know why there was so much horror in the world and in my personal life, and that's not what's taught in school, so I learned from non-fiction. From there you can develop your Te, because when you learn enough in general, you know how to do things like delegate tasks, criticize, and see through people's bullshit, and you'll know how much you DON'T know (Socrates reference). If you can truly absorb non-fiction and engage with your Ne, it's actually full of "fantasy". When you realize how things like history, psychology, economics etc invisibly controls everyday life, both the societal large picture and interpersonal small picture, you find out that "magic" is all too horrifyingly real. This is where your focus will shift to, and you'll no longer be a citizen of INFP fairyland rainbowville. Most fiction, and art in general, especially modern, is corny and a waste of time unless it transcends indulgent self expression/escapism to do what its true purpose is which is to poetically portray insights into humanity and spirituality that can't otherwise be expressed rationally, which very few fiction writers or artists achieve.
As a teacher INFP, you got this all right. My biggest challenge is the public speaking, but it also is what fascinates me the most. How can I put across my message as clear, confident and inspiring as possible. And still be an authorative figure. But my biggest challenge is within myself... My fear of people's opinions
When I was a kid I had a teacher with a narcissist disorder (I know that now). And she made us all feel stupid, small, inadequate. We all developed a fear of stating our opinion freely for fear of being seen as STUPID. Also later on, the peers made me feel stupid if I say my opinion out loud. Took me years to even REALIZE I have a problem and then to get rid of that inferiority feeling. It is still here but now that I can recognize it I can harness it. Yes, inferiority complex never goes away. In conclusion, adults can make young INFPs feel stupid, inadequate or not enough.
So true bro. Used to be a hard core objectivist. I used to prop up my ego by destroying Christians in debates. The most growth I’ve experienced over the last decade was picking up a bible and reading. Now i have two books on my self which have been the most influential in developing who i am as a person today at age 46. A hard cover copy of Atlas Shrugged and a Holy Bible sitting right next to it. Conflicting ideologies sure, but finding value in both. Basically the ideologies differ at the premise. Objectivists think that humans are by nature “good”, the bible rests on the premise that human beings are by nature “evil”. They both build abstraction upon abstraction on those basic premises. Well after living here on this rock for 46 years, simple observation has helped me determine that human beings are a blank slate in the beginning, and that good and evil are learned based on the environmental factors they grow up in. So both books have a place on my shelf, both perspectives have a place in my heart. And yes, i do believe in God. Our very DNA is evidence of of creation. Atheism is just as much of a religion as the dogmatic belief of an invisible man in the sky.
In my case, I grew up with a very chaotic family that constantly pull each other down. Everyone's critical of one another. I learned to be very disciplined as a kid hoping that my self-discipline will get me and my family out of our bad situation. More money, less problem yknow? Hoped that if I bring home some money and a better reputation people will just be finally happy. But no. I got money and a little bit of power now but my main problems didn't get solved. My own father still see me as lacking unless I bring in more money and respect to our name. People tell me to work more and achieve more and make myself useful. Inwardly I feel like I'm just a machine or a cash cow. Now that I'm older, I feel like I didn't achieve anything in life. No respect. No authority to people that matter still. What's worse is I never got to knowing what it is I truly want in life. Scared that if I indulge in some of that rest and happiness, I'll be even more of a failure to others. Sucks to be called lazy when I feel like I never was. But I don't know. This might all be lies I tell myself since no one ever tells me I've done enough. It sucks cuz that's how my father tried to raise me. He literally left me dying from sickness SO MANY TIMES before to teach me how to survive. On my graduation day he printed a tarpaulin of the movie 300 and likened me to the hero -- receiving all those arrows! 😅
As an INFP, I always aware that there are so much opinion and thoughts in the world with each of them based on their unique principles, which cause many conflicts. For example when it comes to science VS morals and ethics I do disagree with some of them but I constantly ask why I’d like to do efforts to understand the structure of their theory, and think about the background and influence to the society. I hope I could manage a way to integrate them essentially.
I know that INFP’s, especially the males will always reach out to me, mainly because they know that I understand them and accept them unlike with most of the other MBTI. They often come across us unstable, insecure, odd and crazy; but I understand the potential and brilliance that these INFP males have.
I used to read when I was younger but it's been a while. What I've been doing lately is watching all sorts of various topics, including real time news and actual events, and I go straight to the comments. I simply love reading people's opinions. I don't put too much stock into something that I find which is agreeing, but I find people's experiences fascinating. TH-cam can be used as a valuable tool. It's where I found you anyway :p hah
Thank you for addressing this issue for infp's. I wanted to point out that I definitely always held my opinions back when I was younger because of confidence issues. However, now that I'm a little older I realize if I want to have my opinion be more "powerful", I don't want to be known as someone who freely gives it away, if that makes sense? I really try to choose "wisely" as far as when and where is the right time to speak up because I want people to notice when I do decide to speak. Like I want it to count. Especially, like while at work or within any group I plan on getting ahead in. But I'm older now and understand I don't want to "waste" what clout I have earned among the group. It actually works well for me because I do take the time to fully analyze any potential situation and then speak on it. I've been at my job for over three years and it's funny to me how I have more authority than our manager does. But I really worked hard for it and have always tried to lead by example. Sometimes, it is wise to fall back when deciding when to be heard. I pick my battles carefully:)
You are completely right on this strategy. I was extremely lucky in that as a very young child I was a ravenous reader... this never ended, by high school I was reading Homers epics in verse, mythology, Tolstoy and poetry of all types. I wrote also and got the scholarship to college. Philosophy, psychology and literature in Spanish followed, along with astronomy, physiology and astrology. That wealth of information is priceless for self confidence, as well as for personal satisfaction.
This makes sense. I recently downloaded an app called headway and basically its like a rundown of books that you can read in 5 to 10 minutes. It summarizes what the book is about, mainly non fiction like self care or psychology. 😊
(INFP here) I personally have a hard time with reading, but not writing. Tho audio books and podcasts have honestly been a great source to help with gaining more of that knowledge. Currently listening to 48 laws of power (since CSJ keeps recommending it) and I'm getting so many history lessons from it omfg. So far so good tho, I see why he keeps recommending it
Thank you so much for this lecture, Mr. C.S. Joseph. When I was listening to the lecture, it reminds me of my INFP roommate. She reads much more books and watch much more movies than me. I would like to be as good as her someday! Thank you for guiding me to a better direction of life!
Its weird but when you had read about an specific subject for a while, by nature you are good at speaking about it, like for example im really invested into psychological issues, understanding human nature and motivation, and whenever a friend of mine wants advice or i see his making a mistake, i just go around and explain them why something is like this or like that and they listen, because i sound so confident and i know my stuff to actually do that, i cant fool myself and pretend something that im not but heck, if come at me about specific subjectes that i know, you better be prepared
I do this with music/poetry I will play it/read it over and over and over for weeks, until I’m satisfied that I’ve derived something relevant to our egos and existence. Then I lock it in baby. Ready to unveil things I have learned to a grandpa somewhere on a bus. 🙂
yeah agree to this it seems like all what we say is hurtful to others or somewhat lie. if we speak the truth which we value more, it is perceived in a negative way or misinterpreted as offensive.
I know extraverted intuition is about exploring new ideas which books are full of, but it’s an extraverted function. Don’t you have to be engaged in the outside world to develop it well? To learn from other people? Isn’t that the whole point of an infp (which I am) developing Ne? Having more experiences helps them to personally empathize and connect with people better. But those experiences need to be with other people.
Good advice. I never had an issue expressing myself. I practiced alot when I was young by always raising my hand in class and made sure I had definitive opinion on what was being talked about (except math, fuck math). So I got very comfortable talking about my opinion in public. What I never got good at was public speaking in terms of giving speeches. I had a big tendency to stutter for a minute on one sentence. But in a less formal expectation I really thrived like in a class or Bible study or conversation between friends. As long as the pressure to succeed wasn't there I was easily the best. In a formal debate or speech I would sound incompetent like I just learned how to talk. Teaching English overseas in China in front of a class helped me gain more confidence and face my fears. Shout out to Soren Kierkegaard, one of my favorite college papers was on one of his works.
I'd also like to add that I do encounter times when I'm VERY aware and educated on my subject matter, but when I choose to speak on it people always end up telling me that "I sound like I'm better than everyone else" for some reason? It's a tricky sort of "art form", which I think us infps need to ALWAYS be working on. No one likes a "know-it-all"-Lol!!!LOL!!!! So, sometimes I try to fall back when necessary.
Hi Chase, great lecture. Where would an INFP start with reading? What do you mean with read by author don't read by title. Do you mean read every book an author has wrote ? F.e. Kierkegaard and then move on to the next ? Just wondering. Hope you don't mind the questions.
If you’re anything like me, you’re probably socially liberal and need to get back in touch with conservative ideas/thoughts/beliefs, or at least more heterodox thoughts. These non-fictions were game-changers for me: Economics in One Lesson - Henry Hazlitt Coddling of the American Mind - Jonathan Haidt Closing of the American Mind - Allan Bloom Atomic Habits - James Clear Deep Work - Cal Newport Bronze Age Mindset - BAP Skin in the Game - Nassim Taleb Inner Game of Tennis - W. Timothy Gallwey Hope someone finds this list useful 🤙🏾
If i go author by author, should i re-read the books i already read? author by author it's kinda hard. it gets boring slowly, and I lose my motivation to continue. I tried it before. it seems the author repeats himself. Maybe reading some other books between helps.
As a fellow Fi hero(ISFP), I know this is also the thing that I need to overcome. But for me, reading is like the hardest thing ever, meaning I just can't sit still and read. it's so tiring and draining, and I would probably pass out in 20 minutes lol Also this is probably just a Se user thing, but I just keep forgetting what I've read and can't remember anything of it, so what's the point anyway? Nothing really sticks to my head lol Gosh, I'm so dumb 😂
It's probably not social anxiety but your si inferior getting very uncomfortable in some places or around some people so you go intriverted mode , that's why they say enxps are the most introverted extroverts . Also your te , maybe you should work on it like in this video to become more confident , te child is awesome at learning fast .
3 Books. How to Win Friends and Influence people by Dale Carnegie, The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holliday, How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne. You can find them on offers.csjoseph.life/reading
confirmation bias, the tendency to process information by looking for, or interpreting, information that is consistent with one's existing beliefs. This biased approach to decision making is largely unintentional and often results in ignoring inconsistent information.
He's definitely the most well studied INFP. Perhaps Alan Watts and Eckhart Tolle could be considered but that is for a specific niche in Taoism and the Power of Now in terms of books. You can find more successful INFPs to learn from on offers.csjoseph.life/famous but they won't all be as good as Robert Greene
I actually find Robert Greene to be unbelievably shallow in his "insights" And we really need to redefine what success is because we don't know anything about the guy mostly you won't know anything about infps unless they tell you lmao
What did you mean by reading authors biography and their references? By references do you mean the authors other books or does it mean other authors books?
If I learned anything important in this damn life, it's that you should shut up, and listen to the people who know what they're talking about. But the moment someone has their facts all wrong then step up. Sounds kind've petty, but if you share valuable info, then it's on them to take it, or leave it.
I thought ISFP. Like he always needed money because of the debts, so he ran abroad and gambled... I don't know, in my head "gambling" is stitched to ISFPs 😅
ENFPs def can, I would say INFPs can too as long as their Ne is well developed. They have enough Fe going on. Their Ne parent can be really good at understanding and advising people to give a better future . I'm not exactly sure of the role Fi and Te plays but i think maybe in knowledge/research and of course sympathy. Their Fi hero/fe nemesis might get a little burned out tho. Boundaries would be important
Would like to point out that you contradict yourself by saying it's important to read books by authors the same type as you and also by authors that you do not agree with.
@@Lev-The-King both of these statements are true! It’s not necessarily true my any means depending on circumstances, but I find that extremelyyyy often we share the same worldviews. That being said I also find when we get to specifics that’s when things can start to diverge a bit more
He didn't contradict himself, read authors with the same type as you to gain knowledge in how to function better as your type. Separately, you read authors who you disagree with to gain perspective. Read two diff kinds of authors to gain two diff outcomes.
When an INFP displays a certain hability to listen and understand others emotionally, to the point where he/she is verbalizing the emotions and thoughts of others, would that be his/her Ne Parent working on discovering their desires and Te Inferior feeding on external data, or would it be his ENFJ shadow taking the wheel, with Fe Nemesis turning the INFP more initiating for a brief moment?
I guess in most cases it's a shadow. But sometimes ego can also go like "oh, that person's opinion reminds me of the opinion of the character from the book I read, so I probably shouldn't get all emotional and triggered and listen a little more, so latter we might become friends, I will make them join my party and it all will lead to success" 😌
@@victoriamarfina9819 lol I get it. An opportunity for bonding with depth. Can we however affirm that, also in most cases, when an INFP gets out of their shell and starts focusing on other's emetion, they are cognitive transiotining? For example, as a teacher dealing with children in classroom or as a friend going out their way to check on somebody?
@@victoriamarfina9819 I just want to understand the mechanics of this particular set of cognitive funtions better. Also to prevente me from spreading misinformation, you know Like, how can an INFP read people differently from an INFJ (or other idealist type? When I'm supporting somebody, am I actually empathizing with them, or am I just fulfilling a need for their emotions (just like when I replay the scene of a movie or read again the chapter of book only to feel it). Sometimes, I feel like that monster from Power Rangers SPD, that lured one of the rangers to tell him about his father, who died in battle, and how that motivated him to become a hero himself. After, the monster says: "That's one of the saddest memories I've been given... Thank you for that." Which provoked the ranger's rage, and he wound up shedding a tear. The monster only needed the reflection to get out of his prison. Have I never been like an emotional vampire, who moves only by reflecting and sucking others' experiences? If that's the case, how can I turn that into something good, something useful you know. Can you relate to that, Miss Marfina?
@@soumavoz8949 interesting! Actually I was called an emotional vampire once by another INFP 😄 Then I read a book about emotional vampires, realized that they sound like some manipulative bitches, so since I never Fe-ed people to harm them I guess I am cool 😎 Plus, if you worry that Fe is bad, does it mean you think all ENFJs are bad? I mean, I like Fe in other people. Honestly, people listening to my stupid Fi and validating my emotions is such a rear thing, I don't mind even if that Fe is being kind of manipulative 🙈 And since I spend some time in ISTP mode sometimes, to tell the truth, to Ti all that "good vs bad" thing sounds like some "playing God". Good and bad is not objective. INFP side thinks too highly of people, like they are some fallen angles who have to be good to be transported to heaven. But people are more like monkeys than angles, their goal is to survive, to get what they want and to have fun. In other words, if you have Fe needs, it's in your right to have them met.
Because they can't tell the difference from Te inferior going aspirational and Se inferior going aspirational. They can't imagine that an INFP would create something as pragmatic as The 48 Laws of Power
Good topic. I find as an INFP once I get formal training and then practice it, I am unstoppable. The Ne patterns just come out as pure genius. Te is no longer an issue.
I find when I talk to some people with the knowledge I gain, I get deer in the headlights. It astounds me sometimes and the next time I choose my words carefully.
Great subject.
I completely agree with you on that! My Ne is unique and brilliant at times and I know that now. It's truly freeing when I speak up and don't even have time for my usual Te inferior issues lol. I can push those to the side and it's really a powerful feeling.
INFP here. As a child I skipped a solid 1/3 of school because I absolutely needed to know why there was so much horror in the world and in my personal life, and that's not what's taught in school, so I learned from non-fiction. From there you can develop your Te, because when you learn enough in general, you know how to do things like delegate tasks, criticize, and see through people's bullshit, and you'll know how much you DON'T know (Socrates reference). If you can truly absorb non-fiction and engage with your Ne, it's actually full of "fantasy". When you realize how things like history, psychology, economics etc invisibly controls everyday life, both the societal large picture and interpersonal small picture, you find out that "magic" is all too horrifyingly real. This is where your focus will shift to, and you'll no longer be a citizen of INFP fairyland rainbowville. Most fiction, and art in general, especially modern, is corny and a waste of time unless it transcends indulgent self expression/escapism to do what its true purpose is which is to poetically portray insights into humanity and spirituality that can't otherwise be expressed rationally, which very few fiction writers or artists achieve.
As a teacher INFP, you got this all right.
My biggest challenge is the public speaking, but it also is what fascinates me the most.
How can I put across my message as clear, confident and inspiring as possible.
And still be an authorative figure.
But my biggest challenge is within myself... My fear of people's opinions
When I was a kid I had a teacher with a narcissist disorder (I know that now). And she made us all feel stupid, small, inadequate. We all developed a fear of stating our opinion freely for fear of being seen as STUPID. Also later on, the peers made me feel stupid if I say my opinion out loud. Took me years to even REALIZE I have a problem and then to get rid of that inferiority feeling. It is still here but now that I can recognize it I can harness it. Yes, inferiority complex never goes away. In conclusion, adults can make young INFPs feel stupid, inadequate or not enough.
You're a good person Chase. I appreciate the work you do. Thank you.
*I'm an INFP and I want to write this excellent article on my blog. I wish I could speak as well as I can write, but hopefully I will with age.*
Don't wish, take steps
So true bro. Used to be a hard core objectivist. I used to prop up my ego by destroying Christians in debates. The most growth I’ve experienced over the last decade was picking up a bible and reading. Now i have two books on my self which have been the most influential in developing who i am as a person today at age 46. A hard cover copy of Atlas Shrugged and a Holy Bible sitting right next to it. Conflicting ideologies sure, but finding value in both. Basically the ideologies differ at the premise. Objectivists think that humans are by nature “good”, the bible rests on the premise that human beings are by nature “evil”. They both build abstraction upon abstraction on those basic premises. Well after living here on this rock for 46 years, simple observation has helped me determine that human beings are a blank slate in the beginning, and that good and evil are learned based on the environmental factors they grow up in. So both books have a place on my shelf, both perspectives have a place in my heart. And yes, i do believe in God. Our very DNA is evidence of of creation. Atheism is just as much of a religion as the dogmatic belief of an invisible man in the sky.
Love your expressive manner of speaking! 🔥
As INFP Ok, I'll bury myself in books.
In my case, I grew up with a very chaotic family that constantly pull each other down. Everyone's critical of one another. I learned to be very disciplined as a kid hoping that my self-discipline will get me and my family out of our bad situation. More money, less problem yknow? Hoped that if I bring home some money and a better reputation people will just be finally happy. But no. I got money and a little bit of power now but my main problems didn't get solved. My own father still see me as lacking unless I bring in more money and respect to our name. People tell me to work more and achieve more and make myself useful. Inwardly I feel like I'm just a machine or a cash cow. Now that I'm older, I feel like I didn't achieve anything in life. No respect. No authority to people that matter still. What's worse is I never got to knowing what it is I truly want in life. Scared that if I indulge in some of that rest and happiness, I'll be even more of a failure to others. Sucks to be called lazy when I feel like I never was. But I don't know. This might all be lies I tell myself since no one ever tells me I've done enough.
It sucks cuz that's how my father tried to raise me. He literally left me dying from sickness SO MANY TIMES before to teach me how to survive. On my graduation day he printed a tarpaulin of the movie 300 and likened me to the hero -- receiving all those arrows! 😅
I completely forgot about being consistent with reading ( i didnt but was too lazy to get back on track). I needed this reminder.
As an INFP, I always aware that there are so much opinion and thoughts in the world with each of them based on their unique principles, which cause many conflicts. For example when it comes to science VS morals and ethics
I do disagree with some of them but I constantly ask why
I’d like to do efforts to understand the structure of their theory, and think about the background and influence to the society.
I hope I could manage a way to integrate them essentially.
I know that INFP’s, especially the males will always reach out to me, mainly because they know that I understand them and accept them unlike with most of the other MBTI. They often come across us unstable, insecure, odd and crazy; but I understand the potential and brilliance that these INFP males have.
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I used to read when I was younger but it's been a while. What I've been doing lately is watching all sorts of various topics, including real time news and actual events, and I go straight to the comments.
I simply love reading people's opinions. I don't put too much stock into something that I find which is agreeing, but I find people's experiences fascinating.
TH-cam can be used as a valuable tool. It's where I found you anyway :p hah
Thank you for addressing this issue for infp's. I wanted to point out that I definitely always held my opinions back when I was younger because of confidence issues. However, now that I'm a little older I realize if I want to have my opinion be more "powerful", I don't want to be known as someone who freely gives it away, if that makes sense? I really try to choose "wisely" as far as when and where is the right time to speak up because I want people to notice when I do decide to speak. Like I want it to count. Especially, like while at work or within any group I plan on getting ahead in. But I'm older now and understand I don't want to "waste" what clout I have earned among the group. It actually works well for me because I do take the time to fully analyze any potential situation and then speak on it. I've been at my job for over three years and it's funny to me how I have more authority than our manager does. But I really worked hard for it and have always tried to lead by example. Sometimes, it is wise to fall back when deciding when to be heard. I pick my battles carefully:)
You are completely right on this strategy. I was extremely lucky in that as a very young child I was a ravenous reader... this never ended, by high school I was reading Homers epics in verse, mythology, Tolstoy and poetry of all types. I wrote also and got the scholarship to college. Philosophy, psychology and literature in Spanish followed, along with astronomy, physiology and astrology. That wealth of information is priceless for self confidence, as well as for personal satisfaction.
Never find his suggestions annoying or impolite. Always inspiring and to the point 🥂
This makes sense. I recently downloaded an app called headway and basically its like a rundown of books that you can read in 5 to 10 minutes. It summarizes what the book is about, mainly non fiction like self care or psychology. 😊
(INFP here) I personally have a hard time with reading, but not writing. Tho audio books and podcasts have honestly been a great source to help with gaining more of that knowledge. Currently listening to 48 laws of power (since CSJ keeps recommending it) and I'm getting so many history lessons from it omfg. So far so good tho, I see why he keeps recommending it
Thank you so much for this lecture, Mr. C.S. Joseph. When I was listening to the lecture, it reminds me of my INFP roommate. She reads much more books and watch much more movies than me. I would like to be as good as her someday! Thank you for guiding me to a better direction of life!
Its weird but when you had read about an specific subject for a while, by nature you are good at speaking about it, like for example im really invested into psychological issues, understanding human nature and motivation, and whenever a friend of mine wants advice or i see his making a mistake, i just go around and explain them why something is like this or like that and they listen, because i sound so confident and i know my stuff to actually do that, i cant fool myself and pretend something that im not but heck, if come at me about specific subjectes that i know, you better be prepared
Jane Eyre is the ultimate INFP fiction character for an INFP to emulate.
I loved Jane Eyre when I was a kid. Thank you for reminding about it 🌸
Great question and thanks for sharing, Chase! Hope you’re doing well. You’re work is very appreciated
Read history! Its so surprising how knowing the origins of things can empower you to make better decisions and give better opinions.
I do this with music/poetry I will play it/read it over and over and over for weeks, until I’m satisfied that I’ve derived something relevant to our egos and existence. Then I lock it in baby. Ready to unveil things I have learned to a grandpa somewhere on a bus. 🙂
yeah agree to this it seems like all what we say is hurtful to others or somewhat lie. if we speak the truth which we value more, it is perceived in a negative way or misinterpreted as offensive.
I know extraverted intuition is about exploring new ideas which books are full of, but it’s an extraverted function. Don’t you have to be engaged in the outside world to develop it well? To learn from other people? Isn’t that the whole point of an infp (which I am) developing Ne? Having more experiences helps them to personally empathize and connect with people better. But those experiences need to be with other people.
I was wrong, you're smoking it right.
Good advice. I never had an issue expressing myself. I practiced alot when I was young by always raising my hand in class and made sure I had definitive opinion on what was being talked about (except math, fuck math). So I got very comfortable talking about my opinion in public. What I never got good at was public speaking in terms of giving speeches. I had a big tendency to stutter for a minute on one sentence. But in a less formal expectation I really thrived like in a class or Bible study or conversation between friends. As long as the pressure to succeed wasn't there I was easily the best. In a formal debate or speech I would sound incompetent like I just learned how to talk. Teaching English overseas in China in front of a class helped me gain more confidence and face my fears.
Shout out to Soren Kierkegaard, one of my favorite college papers was on one of his works.
Thank you, brother
Great video thanks for understanding and helping INFPs
Thanks Chase. I would say I am already doing that, but some books are not available in my country still so sometimes I have to wait.
INFPs are awesome people ☺️ I love them
I'd also like to add that I do encounter times when I'm VERY aware and educated on my subject matter, but when I choose to speak on it people always end up telling me that "I sound like I'm better than everyone else" for some reason? It's a tricky sort of "art form", which I think us infps need to ALWAYS be working on. No one likes a "know-it-all"-Lol!!!LOL!!!! So, sometimes I try to fall back when necessary.
Hi Chase, great lecture. Where would an INFP start with reading? What do you mean with read by author don't read by title. Do you mean read every book an author has wrote ? F.e. Kierkegaard and then move on to the next ?
Just wondering.
Hope you don't mind the questions.
If you’re anything like me, you’re probably socially liberal and need to get back in touch with conservative ideas/thoughts/beliefs, or at least more heterodox thoughts.
These non-fictions were game-changers for me:
Economics in One Lesson - Henry Hazlitt
Coddling of the American Mind - Jonathan Haidt
Closing of the American Mind - Allan Bloom
Atomic Habits - James Clear
Deep Work - Cal Newport
Bronze Age Mindset - BAP
Skin in the Game - Nassim Taleb
Inner Game of Tennis - W. Timothy Gallwey
Hope someone finds this list useful 🤙🏾
I wouldn't say that describes me too well.
@@CSJoseph was directed to the INFPs in the comments section, sorry 👍🏾
I'll keep these books in mind, thank you.
Other than the authors you mentioned in this video, who are the top five you would recommend an INFP read?
Great advice as usual 👍🏼 👍🏼👍🏼
"Sucks to be you"
If I someday speak my opinion to 20+ people:
D-Day, getting off the boat.
Listen him guys. Very good video.
Hi Chase! Could you please suggest some advice on how to retain what you’ve read for an INFP ?
If i go author by author, should i re-read the books i already read? author by author it's kinda hard. it gets boring slowly, and I lose my motivation to continue. I tried it before. it seems the author repeats himself. Maybe reading some other books between helps.
Right, it happens a lot. Then I start reading about another topic.
As a fellow Fi hero(ISFP), I know this is also the thing that I need to overcome.
But for me, reading is like the hardest thing ever, meaning I just can't sit still and read. it's so tiring and draining, and I would probably pass out in 20 minutes lol
Also this is probably just a Se user thing, but I just keep forgetting what I've read and can't remember anything of it, so what's the point anyway? Nothing really sticks to my head lol
Gosh, I'm so dumb 😂
Can you recommend some books for an ENFP dealing with bad social anxiety ? *or a video about the solution?* Its starting to kill me-
It's probably not social anxiety but your si inferior getting very uncomfortable in some places or around some people so you go intriverted mode , that's why they say enxps are the most introverted extroverts . Also your te , maybe you should work on it like in this video to become more confident , te child is awesome at learning fast .
practice is the only solution...and good friends
3 Books. How to Win Friends and Influence people by Dale Carnegie, The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holliday, How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne.
You can find them on offers.csjoseph.life/reading
confirmation bias, the tendency to process information by looking for, or interpreting, information that is consistent with one's existing beliefs. This biased approach to decision making is largely unintentional and often results in ignoring inconsistent information.
This Into is epic!
You are only referencing robert greene. Is he really the only most successful infp?
Infp are most successful in politics and fiction writing.
He's definitely the most well studied INFP. Perhaps Alan Watts and Eckhart Tolle could be considered but that is for a specific niche in Taoism and the Power of Now in terms of books. You can find more successful INFPs to learn from on offers.csjoseph.life/famous but they won't all be as good as Robert Greene
Considering Shakespeare is one among many others
I actually find Robert Greene to be unbelievably shallow in his "insights"
And we really need to redefine what success is because we don't know anything about the guy mostly you won't know anything about infps unless they tell you lmao
Yay an infp video wooohoo
What did you mean by reading authors biography and their references? By references do you mean the authors other books or does it mean other authors books?
I dont have money, i cant buy books
You can download free pdf version of books :)
There are tons of audiobooks on TH-cam ,plus you can also download pdf of books online
Libraries, lol.
@@victoriamarfina9819 we dont have public libraries
can you restrain those cigars. Doesnt fit.
man it's a problem I always had, am I an INFP??? :OOOOOOOOOOO
Thanks you for your advice
If I learned anything important in this damn life, it's that you should shut up, and listen to the people who know what they're talking about. But the moment someone has their facts all wrong then step up. Sounds kind've petty, but if you share valuable info, then it's on them to take it, or leave it.
I can't stand many infps. - istj
Conflict types
Thanks chase
Chase have you read the philosophy of Bernardo kastrup?
Not related but UDJA have been is lagging since a couple of days for me, is anyone in this case?
Is smoking cigars healthy?
How should infps overcome their insecurity?
Don’t be lazy
Kierkegaard is one of my favorite philosopher. do you know his type? what about Dostoyevsky?
Isn't dostoevsky an infp ?
I know two INTP who love him. I would say INxP.
I thought ISFP. Like he always needed money because of the debts, so he ran abroad and gambled... I don't know, in my head "gambling" is stitched to ISFPs 😅
Love FD. Kierkegaard as well but haven’t read much of him
can INFPs be good psychiatrists?
Yeah
@@qasimimtiaz9668 thanks, why do you think so?
ENFPs def can, I would say INFPs can too as long as their Ne is well developed. They have enough Fe going on. Their Ne parent can be really good at understanding and advising people to give a better future . I'm not exactly sure of the role Fi and Te plays but i think maybe in knowledge/research and of course sympathy. Their Fi hero/fe nemesis might get a little burned out tho. Boundaries would be important
@@bobbyjean1581 what i know It that Te inferior can listen a lot cuz Is does not really care about their opinion (ti demon)
Ask CS Lewis! ❤ 😢b😮
Would like to point out that you contradict yourself by saying it's important to read books by authors the same type as you and also by authors that you do not agree with.
Just because the author is of the same type as you, does not mean they hold the same beliefs as you.
Read all the books, but prioritize non-fiction authors you instinctually disagree with first.
@@Lev-The-King both of these statements are true! It’s not necessarily true my any means depending on circumstances, but I find that extremelyyyy often we share the same worldviews. That being said I also find when we get to specifics that’s when things can start to diverge a bit more
He didn't contradict himself, read authors with the same type as you to gain knowledge in how to function better as your type. Separately, you read authors who you disagree with to gain perspective. Read two diff kinds of authors to gain two diff outcomes.
When an INFP displays a certain hability to listen and understand others emotionally, to the point where he/she is verbalizing the emotions and thoughts of others, would that be his/her Ne Parent working on discovering their desires and Te Inferior feeding on external data, or would it be his ENFJ shadow taking the wheel, with Fe Nemesis turning the INFP more initiating for a brief moment?
I guess in most cases it's a shadow. But sometimes ego can also go like "oh, that person's opinion reminds me of the opinion of the character from the book I read, so I probably shouldn't get all emotional and triggered and listen a little more, so latter we might become friends, I will make them join my party and it all will lead to success" 😌
@@victoriamarfina9819 lol I get it. An opportunity for bonding with depth. Can we however affirm that, also in most cases, when an INFP gets out of their shell and starts focusing on other's emetion, they are cognitive transiotining?
For example, as a teacher dealing with children in classroom or as a friend going out their way to check on somebody?
@@soumavoz8949 yes. If it's about others' emotions, it's shadow's work.
I'm wondering why you are asking 😂
@@victoriamarfina9819 I just want to understand the mechanics of this particular set of cognitive funtions better. Also to prevente me from spreading misinformation, you know
Like, how can an INFP read people differently from an INFJ (or other idealist type? When I'm supporting somebody, am I actually empathizing with them, or am I just fulfilling a need for their emotions (just like when I replay the scene of a movie or read again the chapter of book only to feel it).
Sometimes, I feel like that monster from Power Rangers SPD, that lured one of the rangers to tell him about his father, who died in battle, and how that motivated him to become a hero himself. After, the monster says: "That's one of the saddest memories I've been given... Thank you for that." Which provoked the ranger's rage, and he wound up shedding a tear. The monster only needed the reflection to get out of his prison.
Have I never been like an emotional vampire, who moves only by reflecting and sucking others' experiences?
If that's the case, how can I turn that into something good, something useful you know.
Can you relate to that, Miss Marfina?
@@soumavoz8949 interesting! Actually I was called an emotional vampire once by another INFP 😄 Then I read a book about emotional vampires, realized that they sound like some manipulative bitches, so since I never Fe-ed people to harm them I guess I am cool 😎
Plus, if you worry that Fe is bad, does it mean you think all ENFJs are bad? I mean, I like Fe in other people. Honestly, people listening to my stupid Fi and validating my emotions is such a rear thing, I don't mind even if that Fe is being kind of manipulative 🙈
And since I spend some time in ISTP mode sometimes, to tell the truth, to Ti all that "good vs bad" thing sounds like some "playing God". Good and bad is not objective. INFP side thinks too highly of people, like they are some fallen angles who have to be good to be transported to heaven. But people are more like monkeys than angles, their goal is to survive, to get what they want and to have fun. In other words, if you have Fe needs, it's in your right to have them met.
Why people say Robert Green is INTJ,
Because they can't tell the difference from Te inferior going aspirational and Se inferior going aspirational. They can't imagine that an INFP would create something as pragmatic as The 48 Laws of Power
Stereotypes
Denial... Of anything else than Ti/Te being pragmatic... Basically.
Hey buddy, are you okay?
You looked a little distraught here
Life has ups and downs, work continues regardless.
Indeed, life goes on
Lets get to work
THankyou Chase, i hate when templars stupid zone me in the first ten minutes🥲
Same
wait you said reading non-fiction but I love romance books a lot 🥲
Use fiction to cleanse your palate once in a while after reading non-fiction.
*Edited for clarity.*
@@fificore 🤣 lol