How Can INFPs Self Improve? | CS Joseph Responds
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CS Joseph answers the Acolyte question how can INFPs self improve?
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Take risks, get humiliated and humbled repeatedly.
Participate in competitive arenas where excuses and delusion are unacceptable, whether that be business, sales or martial arts.
Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Yeah, the only thing that improves me constantly is my relationships. It's hard to initiate, but it's worth it. Thanks to you these days I'm more happy than depressed, instead of crying alone I find friends who are compassionate and understanding. I Still have struggles but nothing going to be perfect, there is always room for improvement.
I think that's pretty good advice, but from an incorrect perspective. What you are saying about power is either inaccurate, or I'm misunderstanding what you mean. As INFPs we don't care about power as in interpersonal power. We don't like playing status games, that's what the whole need for authenticity comes down to. I want to do what I want to do, expectations be damned. We tend to have very egalitarian temperament toward others. The area where we have issues with power is when it comes to power to dictate the outcome of our own lives. The power to make choices, act on said choices, and have a desirable outcome. It's more helpful to use the word responsibility instead of power. We tend to have low self-confidence and get enmired in a victim mentality. Victim mentality is the definition of abdicating personal responsibility and personal power. At the end of the video, there was a brief mention of responsibility, but responsibility should be the main point of this conversation. When you see us getting degrees and such, that's not motivated by some kind of desire for interpersonal power but rather it is a way of showing ourselves that we are actually competent to take action in the world. Proving competence and taking responsibility are the direct ways to fix the issue of low self-confidence. Once we have taken responsibility for our lives, and learned to take action, we have no need to keep building and expanding power beyond our personal lives, we have no need to control the world as long as we have our own lives in order. If we want to change the world, we would rather do it through inspiration than through power.
This is so beautifully written. As an INFP, I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said here.
When the video came on, I was thinking about how valueless it was to exert any kind of authority over a group of people for the sake of having authority, unless something pushed me in that direction, of course.
I think it's more accurate to say that some INFP's, I guess, want more of an authority over their own lives instead. It's true that it's hard to trust others' motives and stuff, as in everyone we allow into our lives does get a piece of that authority over you. And that's because they are important to us.
So it's about being careful
I've noticed lack of criticism makes me lazy. It's what keep the heart blazing.
I felt so much discomfort, pain, and gratitude listening to this. Thanks for speaking the Truth 🙏🏻
Great Video! For me the issue ist how to navigate my HSP sense of "smth is wrong here" properly and finding flexible solutions instead of running away scared / shutting down when I feel that way 😅
Anxiety
I must admit that when I focus too much time on what's good for just me, I get negatively overwhelmed and tasks look more like chores I'm not interested in. My happier moments come when I'm immersed in my relationships. We just need to admit that we need the "uncomfortable" help to feel better about ourselves, despite having Te inferior and being triple control/triple outcome. There were times when I screwed up in my relationships, but I felt more motivated than ever seeing beyond the pain to fix them, and myself.
Can't wait to improve my infp life and wisdom while working and listening to this. Thanks again brother C!
INFP here - very helpful, (and glad to know about all of your resources). I've shared your work (among friends and family).
*Bookmarks*
8:02 Be resourceful
9:42 Transfer authority to others
10:13 What happens when you don’t transfer authority to others
11:55 Feelings of powerlessness has to become their drive
12:20 Key to success
13:00 INFPs are interdependent
14:00 Socialize
15:50 A little hard love to get your butt up
this really hit me in my infp heart when you said "what are you scared?" HAHAHA yes im scared to put myself out there because I am so awkward. Buttt im getting better at it and I realize not everyone is gonna like me and that's fine but I've also gotten to know some really cool people from talking to them.
Thank you CSJ. Prove to your superego you can do it. Powerful words
Yes, that totally rang true with me. I started a business recently that I had been dreaming of since my youth. Now in my 60;s I had to prove it to myself what was in me, whether I could do it or not. I needed to see the transition of having an idea in my mind and bringing it into the physical world. Truly fascinating, challenging beyond my imagination, but totally worth every drop!
I agree with a lot of things you said about INFP, but I don't measure success by power and authority. I never really cared about those things, I just don't want to be controlled. To me, it's about how much freedom I have (including financial freedom) and affluence of time. I am pretty sure I am INFP though I've watched most of your INFP videos and can't relate to INFJ/ISFP
I've worked hard to not be interdependent but I think you are right about it being a natural inclination. For the most part I rely on myself, except to split rent with my roommate. I think if people were more reliable and consistent it would be easier to slip back into it. When I was going through a lot of depression I often reached out to others, but when it felt burdensome to them and they withdrew I mostly coped by myself or would just imagine people being there. Imaginary interdependence is a thing, not sure if you ever thought about that, but on the way to practical independence you can imagine people by your side even if there aren't any really there. Overall I thought it was good advice. I like how you define success meaning different things for different people. I relate to that.
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Proverbs 27:6
Thanks friend 👊🏼
As an INFP & autistic adult, I’m here for this 🥹
May God bless you hon 💖
❤️
My perception of certain outcome refined each time I'm looking at others hardship and meeting people in general.
I literally told myself just few hours befor watching this.
"Okay.....(my name), you need to learn to introduce yourself no matter how unnatural it is😂😂😂"
Bcoz I've always been like everything i do should be natural and not planned bcox then it seems fake.
im getting lectured and i wanna cry lol thanks for the reality check tho tru!
Thank You, like always.
First of all how dare you yell at me with all your facts and common sense!
This was painful. But it's useful. Thank you!
You know.. reflecting on the interdependent, it is clear to me through video games. I would never play anything by myself as a kid, or even anything that didn't have an option to eventually be with my friends. I was too scared I thought, to play anything by myself. But now see 😂
Another amazing lecture.
late to this but you should get rid of all social media for a while. I'd suggest that for everyone tbh.
Lol I miss you and your hair. But thank you as always
Can you explain why you said Ne parent is having to take care of all the Ni children and Ni inferiors in their life...
Doesn't the introverted function (Ni) absorb the extroverted function?
Those SP can be life draining with theirs choices. You want to protect them from bad choice that causes harm to yourself, too.
The Extroverted function ABSORB The Introverted function.
I’m tired of investing my time in trying to get to know people because they almost always don’t fit my standard of friendship and/or do not put in the same effort making it feel on sided. I give up.
Oh no please don't give up yet 😢. I recommend learning negotiation. I mean if they can't meet your standard, at least they can bring something to the table and you're not stuck in idleness.
There are so many interesting things to learn for personal development but I specifically highlight social psychology with other nfs.
Power and authority over the shadow.
you talk a lot about managing the already had power but does not mention anything about ACTUALLY gaining that own power beforehand, does someone have an insight on this?
I'm so hyped up for an octogram
11:13, 11:55, 12:13
This all hurts so much but fuck if it ain’t true…
If all personalities are important, it’s unnecessary for you to be rude telling us “Sucks to be you”.
No one “gives a damn” about me?
It's a hard truth that some types need to hear to grow.
The loser is rage baiting like every other low life on the internet. They always act though but when they get confronted they shrink like the little pu$$ies they are. So I think you should just ignore him cause it's the worst thing you can do to him. It gives him flash back of when his dad left and his mom ignored him as a child.😂
If this is a legacy for your son - smoking a cigar might be a bad influence on him.
True
How so?
Well, personally I would say yes and no, that really depends on how you look at it and how it’s treated, so imo I wouldn’t necessarily rule it out exclusively being so
@@oofles5514 so I think might was the operative word
See that chase - 10 likes and counting - the people have spoken - have a midlife crisis in other ways
OK, how do you prove that last part.
Amazing video as always and this is fairly random and off topic but do u have any book recommendations for intjs wanting to work on their Ne nemesis along with the rest of their unconcious
Acid
@@celticdeamon567 author?
@@nmorg1616 GOD
Wait nobody respects us? Then wtf is the point?
Sucks to be us.
I do have skills, but no one actually wants them. I am looking for a job, maybe this why I am writting this lol. I know everyone is telling you this, but please stop smoking, it is unhealthy and it makes me cringe. May God bless you.
What sort of job are you looking for @LF?
@@shabaka6406 Something about adminstration, I love this kind of stuff, classifying, working on computer, writing things, organising and so on.
@@superXfairXgirl it's really cool that you know what you love doing :)
@@sharpiesarecool814 Took me long enough lol, but yes, at least I know the things I like doing.
Nice haircut. You look like Rude from FF7.
lol. He has the sunglasses, he just needs the all-black suit.
It’s coming
He looks like a cancer patient
Another ENTP to get his hair shaved. But i think it looks good on you
Just stop crying and start grinding
@@aram6436 yessir
You know that commenting something like this doesn't help at all, and can be taken like you're just shitting on INFPs more than actually trying to HELP. Which is the point of typology.
Hopefully you're not that lame and arrogant.
Eh too lazy...
@@duckbacon3117 get over urself then
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs choose the one in which you find more certainty and not as much suffering if possible
Why are you so rude in your delivery
Because I am not a pussy
@@CSJosephyour chinless face structure tells me otherwise. Your beard isn't fooling anyone. No one uses those sh!tty sunglasses anymore!
Infp here ,After asking my dad to let me redo the exam that would allow me to change schools and study in a diffrent field , well he didn't let me , so i decided to re do it alone without telling him i am having the worst ideas in my head like what if i fail what if he finds out ( we live in a conservative country where it's not okey to disobey ur father )because i will have to study 2 things both the exam and my uni studies but if i don't do this im afraid I'll be miserable for the rest of my life , wish me luck 🥲🥲 i won't feel better about myself till i enter med school or I'll feel like a failure for the rest of my life
Best of luck 🤗