Everyone likes to think they would not be conned, but emotional manipulation is a very powerful thing. When you love someone you're willing to overlook the things that should be red flags. I've been emotionally manipulated. Not in a financial way, but you still feel stupid after. It's easier than people think to fall prey and no one should judge these ladies.
looking back with a decade's worth of therapy, wisdom and hindsight, i can see where the redflags were in the 1st 6 months, i kick myself for staying another 7yrs :( wasted my time, and got pushed off the property ladder, lost my savings, my health
Such a beautiful, intelligent, trusting woman. Thank God she didn't end her life. I pray she comes to see herself through the eyes of those who truly love her.
That judge SERIOUSLY said that she wouldn't make him pay any money back because it would just result in him conning again??!!?? What kind of an IDIOT judge is she?? He's going to con other people regardless! He's a CONMAN. That's what they do! She just basically gave him permission to do it again, knowing he wouldn't face any consequences. These woman are facing financial repercussions that will last for years, and he just walks away scot-free, after barely a slap on the wrist, to do it again. My blood is boiling over that judge's abjectly idiotic decision.
10-15 yrs ago I used dating sites, not to meet anyone just to learn behaviours The amount of men portending to be soldiers was astronomical They'd be deployed and have no access to money...ironic really. Not a penny from me. I'm resigned to stay single and keep as mentally fit as possible. Stay safe folks. It's not the be all and end all to be in a relationship. Much better things to be doing!))
At the end of the day...there is nothing to beat leaving the house and coming home to find ie Exactly as you Left it, no crumbs on the floor, no dirty pots in the sink, no dirty washing in the bathroom! Best of all is Being in Charge of the T.V. Remote! Long live Singledom!!!
YR CLEARLY LOOKING IN THE WRONG PLACES IF THAT'S THE ONLY TYPE OF PEOPLE YR COMMING ACROSS, REMEMBER NOT ALL MEN ARE BAD & FOR MANY IT'S WHEN YR LEAST EXPECTING IT THAT LOVE WILL COME YR WAY. THAT'S HOW IT WAS FOR ME & NOW WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER NEARLY 14 YRS. SO, DON'T GIVE UP ON MEETING SOMEONE JUST YET.
My best mate and I were on the same online dating site at the same time for a short while. We happened to be approached by the same men quite a few times (they didn't realise we were friends) and used to catch up and compare notes about what we'd been told. In most cases, the details we'd been given were different and it was a real shocker how many shallow fraudsters there are out there. We're both happily settled now in our respective relationships, but I'm so glad we had that realisation moment back when we were a lot younger and more open to believing a load of guff.
If anyone, man or woman, gets comfortable enough to borrow money after only a short time knowing each other - RUN. I’d be so uncomfortable to remain friends after declining to lend them anything… I’d be too embarrassed for them
I had a guy try to horn in on my life, he basically had nothing and tried to manipulate me, i could see where he was headed, love bombing constantly but as soon as i said no thank you very kindly he got nasty-showed his true colors.
I can feel your pain. I too dealt with a true classic psychopathic narcissist. The gas lighting was by far the worst. Took about 15k from me. Never saw it again. Thought he was my true love. To only find out he is married with a harem of women. Took 2 years to heal. I'm so sorry you had to go through this kind of pain. 🙏 you are worthy, strong, and more than enough. Hugs 🤍
If anyone asks you for money then they’re not worth your time , genuine people don’t ask for anything, sorry for you and all the other people who get dooped by con artists
What a heartless judge, not awarding any money back to the victims expecting this psychopath to feel guilty and change his ways. He doesn't know what guilt or shame is.
All romance conmen are either a doctor, a pilot or a secret agent 😂 For the brief period of time in my early 30's when I did online dating, I've met several so-called conmen and emotional wanna be manipulators. I'm very grateful for my strong intuition and the ability to read people well. I'd kick them out of my life after few dates. By the way, if a man seems not to rush which is seen as a good sign, there is actually a reason for that. He is seeing other women so there's no rush for him. Another red flag, overly too polite ones who perfected their conventional romance skills taking you for trips, flowers, door opening, chair moving, etc...That's why I also stopped online dating because for me personally it felt like a waste of my energy and time. I'd rather invest in myself and people who are already important part of my life. No time for loosers!
I’ve worked since the age of 16 and always paid my bills, rent, car finance etc. I can’t even imagine anyone- family, friend or partner living with me and not contributing financially. Not victim blaming but no matter how much I love someone or think I love them, if we move in together, they would have to contribute towards the costs. I respect the women for sharing their stories though and nobody’s perfect, we can all learn from our mistakes. Men and women scam and con money from people through their looks, personality, MLM schemes, and in other ways so we just have to learn to act on their red flags, be guided by a person’s actions instead of words, and love ourselves enough to know what we deserve in a relationship. Someone who cares about you won’t watch you struggle in debt or lie to you, or take everything from you.
@@Liitebulb you are right, those kinds of people aren't only men. A lot of women do the same to men. That's why it's so important to learn about these behaviors and about the personalities. That was the most important learning in my life. I can spot the mfs early on, and not get involved with them in any ways.
The new norm should be if you meet a man online, check him out thoroughly before going further. As well, one should not be fooled by documents and other things, which can be very elaborate. A lot to do but really, when you buy a car, how much research do you do?
My first/worst wife did the exact same thing and she never repaid a single penny. Devastating for a single dad with two daughters. It destroyed us financially.
I always made good money but I suck in the man department. Last two men had great jobs and had been employed a long time. Before I knew it - I was paying for everything as they both ended up being layed off. Nothing like turning your lover into your momma. Dumped them both. If I wanted another child I would have adopted one.
Same here. Except for my husband I'm very happily married to now, my 2 previous relationships were similar Guy had a job, that he quit to move in with me, promised to look for a job immediately, and had savings plus a credit card paid for by his parents to tide him over until he got a job. He lived with me for a year and a half, without any effort whatsoever to get a job, not paying for much (like, he'd only eat rice + beans and cheap shit like that, refused to pay for anything 'not his' even if it was something I used to make dinner for him or something ('I don't use stick butter, I'm not paying for it' etc, bullshit like that), and though we both had cars we almost exclusively drove mine, he did not want me even to ride in his car w him, it seemed. And, being my car, it was my 'responsibility to pay for gas', even if I was taking him somewhere! And if my car was out of gas or in the shop and I needed a ride to the emergency room, he refused to either drive me or let me use his car.) When I kicked him out, I didn't speak to him for days, except for approaching him after about 5 days to ask him if he had started arranging to move out, and he just looked at me and said 'oh I didn't think you were serious. I didn't think you meant it' He ended up moving back in with his parents.
So for better for worse for richer for poorer meant nothing to you then if you love someone you support them through anything not expect a ready made perfect life
More fool you. No man worth anything gets a lady to pay. I bet you look no deeper than the skin. Here is a tip. Do the fools you date use your or you're and secondly don't even let them touch you for at least 2 months.
When I heard that she gave man she’d only known for a few months her bank information, my mouth dropped! Why would you do that? As well, wouldn’t it cross your mind that he would ask other people closer to him to borrow money? Who borrows money from a virtual stranger. and when someone makes you “feel stupid” why wouldn’t you have the self respect to walk away?
You have to be in that situation with a master manipulator, as someone who went through it , you don’t understand this happening to you until it’s too late
Don't forget, this happened in the, somewhat, 'earlier' days of internet dating - almost 20 years ago. It's 2022, you'd think people know better, but A LOT of people are still being scammed
@@kitjeab Not only "talk"........I was reading a Casanova -Biograpy from Rives Childs and it is said that the real Casanova was a very tall and handsome man. Women were crazy about him. I can 't imagine this guy would woke up a fly in winter!
So sorry for her pain! Moving in with someone you do not know well is a bad idea (even though we all know people for whom it worked out). She had great friends - thank goodness for that.
Pathological liars will gaslight you, shame and blame you to get what they want. They also are masters of picking their victims - vulnerable and with low self-esteem.
I’m just trying to remember when I first met my ex. I was 24 then. Would I have leant him money? At the time I probably would have. I was very naïve then and I thought I was ‘in love’. Eight years later, we bought a house together. He turned into a monster. A drinker, gambler and a liar. I had bailiffs at the door and he was taking loans out to fund his habits, and not making payments. He was also a bully and a cheat and nasty. We split up in 2000 and I stood out for a payment from the house. I am 67 now, still single and love the single life. No man would do that to me ever again. He wasn’t exactly a con man like this Gage chap, but I guess in a way, he was. Life teaches you some valuable lessons, and my 24 year old self is worlds away from the 67 year old me.
Many people are good natured, and they evaluate others from that level, they trust because that's how they are themselves. Call them naive? Maybe but how is that their fault? Neverthless, we all should learn that knowledge about the conmen and about the narcissistic behaviors, because those people are everywhere, men and women. That was the most important learning in my life, I can avoid getting involved with these kinds of people early on when I meet them.
From glancing through a few comments it's pretty sad to see that many are basically blaming the ladies for getting used! RIDICULOUS!!! When you think the man you meant was the perfect man that you've dreamed of and you've fallen in complete love with I. Can definitely see how this happened. He's a giant P.O.S!! ITS HIS FAULT!! AND SHOULD BE IN PRISON FOR EVER!!
Well he didn't steal their bank and personal details did he? The ladies, in their wisdom gave them to him with not that much thought or question (because they loved him ahhhh how sweet). So yes they are to blame, whole heartedly to blame. The Judge in the case knew it too as he made no order for compensations.
The judge must have been into him also. "If I make you pay compensation, you'll just go out and con another woman?" Being a judge I guess doesn't necessarily make you smart, what an ass judge.
So sad to see this woman devastated by this low life form. However, why would you move in with someone after a couple of months? I’m quite careful of my hard-earned money and I certainly wouldn’t be tolerating a man who had no money. He would be asked to leave really, really soon.
These people are lazy and don’t like the work it takes to fund yourself and train. Much easier to sit on your ass and manipulate these women. I imagine he is really a misogynist. I wonder what age he went to live with his foster mother, what happen to his biological mother and what was their relationship.
😂 that's what I was thinking but I believe he really enjoyed the benefits he was getting from all these women, he wouldn't have had time for that if he was a pilot
omg so feel for her reminds me of the tinder swindler, they go to very great lengths these con men and they hardly get a jail sentance,tinder swindler served less than a year so bad
Mrs Richards: "I paid for a room with a view !" Basil: (pointing to the lovely view) "That is Torquay, Madam." Mrs Richards: "It's not good enough!" Basil: "May I ask what you were expecting to see out of a Torquay hotel bedroom window? Sydney Opera House, perhaps? the Hanging Gardens of Babylon? Herds of wildebeest sweeping majestically past?..." Mrs Richards: "Don't be silly! I expect to be able to see the sea!" Basil: "You can see the sea, it's over there between the land and the sky." Mrs Richards: "I'm not satisfied. But I shall stay. But I expect a reduction." Basil: "Why?! Because Krakatoa's not erupting at the moment?"
Real men can’t even feel good asking a woman for money .. they would be ashamed to.. ladies , do not ever lend or give an able bodied man money under any circumstance
Unfortunately I think many of these women are lonely and really wanted a romantic partner. They are also caring and empathetic people who are easily manipulated. They have difficulty saying No.
What a beautiful empathetic woman, she has a huge heart, my heart broke when she said, " I remember putting my foot on the accelerator" , narcissists do things to drive you to insanity, they take advantage of kind hearted people, I'm so glad she didn't end her life, she will be blessed she is a good hearted woman. Beware there are narcissists everywhere!!👀🏃♀️
Ladies, don't move in with a guy for a year. If he starts pressing you to do so ask what's the rush? If he doesn't have a good reason, and they don't, break it off. Your either being used for sex and or a meal ticket.
@@saafiiiraa Sometimes victim blaming is actually smacking come sense into their thick skulls. You are catering to keeping women defenseless by not opening their eyes to how they can avoid problems in their lives.
These Casanova conmen are like gamblers or people who do extreme sports - they get addicted to the "game" and the adrenaline rush. It was very brave of Stella to tell her story.
Drive the guy to the recruiting office. Or get him a bus pass. Visit him at the homeless shelter and show him the food bank. Or just volunteer at these places and meet some down-and-outs to date. You don't need to pay the dating app fees.
The earlier women realize life is not a *fairytale* and there is no such animal as a *perfect man* the better. Also, some realistic self-criticism would be useful - why would a pilot/doctor surrounded by beautiful stewardesses/nurses be searching for a romantic partner online?
I've had at least 20 random men ask me for money. I say what my dad told me to say: "I don't hang out with bums". It works every time. They always get offended which is exactly what I want. Then I block them. Seriously if a guy is bumming money, he clearly doesn't have his financial life together.
Even if you fell in live with a poor man, if he's even half a decent person, he would be gratefull for living with you and have the house expenses and food payed for. Then he would make a good starting point of that, by getting a job and geting his life together. A conman is never gratefull, he keeps stealing.
These creatures are very real. Mine told me he was a pilot (lol) and I was financing his package delivery business in north Western Africa as money he said he had to repay me was in Austin, TX. He said his name was Ryan Dzain(?). Uuugg. I needed help from anyone. I felt desperate. I see these same women as myself “a deer in the headlights.”
A narcissist does exactly what this.Nick.guy did, as a victim you begin to doubt yourself about everything. Takes years to overcome the damage a narc does on you
I'll bet he didn't even buy the condoms. "I love you! I have a great, high-flying job! I still need your bank account details!". Never give a sucker an even break.
The sad reality is that some women would move heaven and earth to get their man the money, by borrowing, fetti g more credit cards. Anything. Why? For the abusive man they love? How sad to be so desperate for "love". It truly is blind!
I completely understanding these ladies, I was almost taken in by a good looking Marine Surgeon, after a year of wooing me on line and telling me he was coming to meet me, he asked me for R700.oo for oil and rice for the underprivileged in Ghana, he turned really nasty when I refused.
If you had not met him, how do you know he was a good looking Marine Surgeon? Because of the pictures of "himself" he sent and what HE told you. In some ways he didn't reveal his real identity about who he was, but by getting nasty like that he DID reveal his real identity about who he was.
Don't rush into any relationship until you've had time to get to know a man and they've EARNED your respect and trust. Many women are too quick to commit their hearts and their means and jump into bed. Just STOP and take your time. This is why these conmen succeed. Forget the charm. That's normally nothing but a facade to get your attention. Yes, it's flattering that they will make you their project. Not because they're genuine about you, but because they're focus is to scam you! Also, do your background checks and do not run round after strangers or lend money or pay for stuff. Scammers always create constant mystery to conceal their lies and have fantastic, exciting sounding lives!
I can totally relate to the all of the above mentioned topics. I'v been approached by too many so called casonovas. Fortunately for me I'm not interested in having relationships so that doesn't get them very far with me, They have asked me about my life, such as are you married with children.. I say that I don't want anyone, they up the charm defensive. I really empathise with these women because they want to trust and believe that they are in a genuinely loving, relationship 🙄 with these horrible people these despicable men 😒
It's always gone on and always will. In the Victorian period there was something of a tradition of it. Rich unattached ladies on holiday at seaside resorts like Bournemouth, would be swept off their feet by a handsome stranger. After a whirlwind courtship, the charming man would then set about depriving them of their fortunes and sometimes their lives
auhhh I HATE when people say "perfect", no such thing....with that mindset you will definitely get tangled in some bs🙄, and there's always usually 95% of the time red flags waving but more times than not ladies choose to ignore them thinking "oh its small" or "I can change him"...or they catch him in a lie but blow it off....is he a piece of ish...YES...but ladies need to focus more on what he does rather than what is being said and material stuff
In psychological terms, it's called "idealizstion". We are brainwashed by movies, social media that there are people living perfect lives out there somewhere. People are not perfect. And really, opening a door is free, moving a chair is free. It takes time to get to know someone. Moving in with someone a month after you've met them or their family is just nuts! NEVER give money to someone who is making you feel you are obliged to save their lives!
@@fredahwiwu5219 Absolutely! I watched one poor woman who said she was SOOOOO impressed because the con man held the door open for her. Or pulled out a chair!!!!! And that's all it took to convince her to fall in love in 5 minutes!!! When you have low standards, you are a sitting duck for these guys!
@@wandakowalski7063 its absolutely sad really ... women read this kinds of things from harlequin and mills and boons books and think that rich men who behave as their puppets do exist
At the point where she lent him money and he “repaid” her into the wrong account and then said “it’s your fault you’ve lost it all now”… why didn’t her feelings for him immediately turn from affection to hatred? There is something wrong with these women. They see terrible moral flaws in their lover - and then choose to continue the relationship. I think it’s an indictment on the women morals actually. It reflects on who THEY really are too.
I actually met that prick and shook is hand when a friend of mine was very briefly involved with him.prior to the events in this documentary. It was the airline pilot BS, promising to fly her to Milan or other big gestures which would always not happen at the eleventh hour. Fortunately she had seen through him fairly early on and she strung him along for.entertainment value. I can recall.he was really struggling to hide his irritation at my presence that day.
So many people get scammed in one way or another, that means how little allerted we are. It was me too, fortunately didn't cost me money, just the shame of being so naive. One year later after it happened and I'm grateful for that experience, because I've learned the lesson, and lowered my trust in people, and increased my boundaries. Sometimes I still feel angry when I hear someone was hurt in that way, but I realize that I don't have any control over that except just protecting myself from such people. That's why I continue learning about those kinds of behavior, and stay away from such people whenever I recognize them.
This guy is a sociopath! Sounds just like my ex husband, the only difference is his name! Manipulation and charm are their "tools of the trade" and they look for women who have compassion and empathy (they have neither of these). I am a giver, never a taker and he used it to his advantage. Most of them stay just under the radar and are not brought to justice. Cold hard fact of life. Those who think they would not fall victim, beware these people (men and women) are a step ahead of the honest person.
Many European countries have court systems that are WAY too lenient on some criminals. I know that here in the US we are often TOO harsh on some crimes, but I am left flabbergasted at times when I see some of the super light punishments of criminals in Europe- ESPECIALLY violent criminals that perform SA (or other terrible crimes). This guy should’ve AT LEAST served 4-6 years AND should’ve been forced to pay back ALL of his victims. Unbelievable.
42:40 The judge was smoking crack and needs to be sued. Nick should have at least gotten 5 years and had to pay back everything. The judge is dumb. Nick stole money and he needs to pay it back. The courts could have least transferred the women's debts to him.
14.47 I just wanted to give her a hug . Tell her its ok . It's not her fault . These kind of things happen to lots of people. Weather is for wealth or just to control someone.
It IS her fault! She gave money she didn't have to someone who made her feel bad about herself because she was desperate and was hoping the charming and generous man she had first met would re-emerge. A month of bliss, the.months of misery. She should have figured out who the real person was. When will women stop buying into the idea of a prince charming who will come and whisk them away to live happily ever after? When I see little girls wearing princess outfits, in 2022, I want to scream! STILL? Mothers: teach your little girls to know their own worth so that when a conman comes round, they will see through the disguise!
@@wandakowalski7063 no im not gonna blame the victim . You are what is wrong the world these days. Instead of placing blame where it belongs you blame the victim. I guess there should be no rules or laws either .
These sorts of documentaries serve as cautionary tales. I appreciate the women speaking out as to what happened to them in order to warn others.
Everyone likes to think they would not be conned, but emotional manipulation is a very powerful thing. When you love someone you're willing to overlook the things that should be red flags. I've been emotionally manipulated. Not in a financial way, but you still feel stupid after. It's easier than people think to fall prey and no one should judge these ladies.
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looking back with a decade's worth of therapy, wisdom and hindsight, i can see where the redflags were in the 1st 6 months, i kick myself for staying another 7yrs :( wasted my time, and got pushed off the property ladder, lost my savings, my health
@@profhortsunlover1536 I do hope, you are surrounded with caring family and friends for support. 💜
If a mans asking a lady for money I’d be putting the brakes on that friendship. Hardly knows them and he’s asking for cash.
Master conmen can convince anyone.
The moment they ask for money, get out and don't look back!
Not true unless you're not on cloud nine
I love comes with cash
Exactly, and it starts out with smaller amounts which they pay back, in order to groom you for the larger amounts!
Such a beautiful, intelligent, trusting woman. Thank God she didn't end her life. I pray she comes to see herself through the eyes of those who truly love her.
Intelegent ... ?
Which one?
14:23 She is crying,
she is a sensitive woman
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If she was intelligent, she wouldn't have been Suckered.
Red flags, moving in straight away, borrowing money and anyone who sounds too good to be true,
Money money money! Plus manipulation of the so called weaker sex is vile. There's a burning pit just waiting for these oxygen stealers.
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There is a saying "No one falls in love faster than a guy that needs a place to live."
That judge SERIOUSLY said that she wouldn't make him pay any money back because it would just result in him conning again??!!?? What kind of an IDIOT judge is she?? He's going to con other people regardless! He's a CONMAN. That's what they do! She just basically gave him permission to do it again, knowing he wouldn't face any consequences. These woman are facing financial repercussions that will last for years, and he just walks away scot-free, after barely a slap on the wrist, to do it again. My blood is boiling over that judge's abjectly idiotic decision.
The judge is h h his wife sssssstt don"t tell it..................
She should have had him taken out rather.
agreed. not everyone with a degree has knowledge of life or are intelligent.
Absolutely agree. What kind of justice is that for the victims or punishment fir the perpetrator???
He's probably a master manipulator too, so doesn't recognise it as a crime
I do not care how nice someone is, any partner of mine better be working and helping to pay his way.
Definitely, why saddle yourself with a burden!
10-15 yrs ago I used dating sites, not to meet anyone just to learn behaviours The amount of men portending to be soldiers was astronomical They'd be deployed and have no access to money...ironic really. Not a penny from me. I'm resigned to stay single and keep as mentally fit as possible. Stay safe folks. It's not the be all and end all to be in a relationship. Much better things to be doing!))
The days of meeting at the pub and getting to know ow them hS gone. Rush, rush and rush. Slow down
I have done that, too....
At the end of the day...there is nothing to beat leaving the house and coming home to find ie Exactly as you Left it, no crumbs on the floor, no dirty pots in the sink, no dirty washing in the bathroom! Best of all is Being in Charge of the T.V. Remote! Long live Singledom!!!
These ‘soldiers’ are all over FB as well. And all, apparently, widowed. Lol.
YR CLEARLY LOOKING IN THE WRONG PLACES IF THAT'S THE ONLY TYPE OF PEOPLE YR COMMING ACROSS, REMEMBER
NOT ALL MEN ARE BAD & FOR MANY IT'S WHEN YR LEAST EXPECTING IT THAT LOVE WILL COME YR WAY.
THAT'S HOW IT WAS FOR ME & NOW WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER NEARLY 14 YRS.
SO, DON'T GIVE UP ON MEETING SOMEONE JUST YET.
When a man asks for money and you’re not completely committed eg. married. That’s a signal to run.
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You mean when anyone ask for money it's a signal to run. Women con people also.
On every thang..you may get me on some emotional stuff but not money all these bills got no sir
Yup I will only lend and take money from a husband NOT online boyfriend.
Just finished watching one where the conman was a bigamist.
My best mate and I were on the same online dating site at the same time for a short while. We happened to be approached by the same men quite a few times (they didn't realise we were friends) and used to catch up and compare notes about what we'd been told. In most cases, the details we'd been given were different and it was a real shocker how many shallow fraudsters there are out there. We're both happily settled now in our respective relationships, but I'm so glad we had that realisation moment back when we were a lot younger and more open to believing a load of guff.
this is when a girl needs the guidance of a strong parent and the protection of a father. God bless her...
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If anyone, man or woman, gets comfortable enough to borrow money after only a short time knowing each other - RUN. I’d be so uncomfortable to remain friends after declining to lend them anything… I’d be too embarrassed for them
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I had a guy try to horn in on my life, he basically had nothing and tried to manipulate me, i could see where he was headed, love bombing constantly but as soon as i said no thank you very kindly he got nasty-showed his true colors.
You are astute and wide awake
GOOD WOMAN!!!👏 Everyone should be instructed on how to avoid such people and protect themselves.
Was his name Jayson Hampton 😂
I can feel your pain. I too dealt with a true classic psychopathic narcissist. The gas lighting was by far the worst. Took about 15k from me. Never saw it again. Thought he was my true love. To only find out he is married with a harem of women. Took 2 years to heal. I'm so sorry you had to go through this kind of pain. 🙏 you are worthy, strong, and more than enough. Hugs 🤍
So sad for you
If anyone asks you for money then they’re not worth your time , genuine people don’t ask for anything, sorry for you and all the other people who get dooped by con artists
I'm glad you healed.. you'll make your money back, and Karma will get him in the end. Don't worry
What was the final straw for you? How did you decide to get away from him? What happened?
That little feeling, that "hmmm" thought, ladies, is your intuition trying to get your attention. Listen to it!!
It was very wrong of the judge not to make him pay for what he did. Now that’s scot free
The law doesn’t pay victims ever unfortunately.
However if you don’t pay a bus fair you have to pay a victim cost to the person who coughed you!
Twenty months for what this narcissist did to his victims is criminal.
Being a narcissist should be criminalized .. but you can’t even describe the mine f** ckery these subhumans do .😵💫
Let him out to do it again
yall call anything narcissism
I’m surprised he even got charged … these women do things voluntarily …
@@michaelmaniatakos3970 Emotional blackmail, coercive control is now illegal in Australia, as of a new law here about 3 years ago.
What a heartless judge, not awarding any money back to the victims expecting this psychopath to feel guilty and change his ways. He doesn't know what guilt or shame is.
Yes,true, sadly
All romance conmen are either a doctor, a pilot or a secret agent 😂 For the brief period of time in my early 30's when I did online dating, I've met several so-called conmen and emotional wanna be manipulators. I'm very grateful for my strong intuition and the ability to read people well. I'd kick them out of my life after few dates. By the way, if a man seems not to rush which is seen as a good sign, there is actually a reason for that. He is seeing other women so there's no rush for him. Another red flag, overly too polite ones who perfected their conventional romance skills taking you for trips, flowers, door opening, chair moving, etc...That's why I also stopped online dating because for me personally it felt like a waste of my energy and time. I'd rather invest in myself and people who are already important part of my life. No time for loosers!
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YOU Have the right idea.......and well awake!!Con men all over the place
Every country has them......be very aware ladies.
GOOD COMMENTS......I WISH YOU WELL.
@@kathrynshields8221 Thank you, you too 😊
It wasn't your intuition honey, and it's losers not loosers
I’ve worked since the age of 16 and always paid my bills, rent, car finance etc. I can’t even imagine anyone- family, friend or partner living with me and not contributing financially. Not victim blaming but no matter how much I love someone or think I love them, if we move in together, they would have to contribute towards the costs. I respect the women for sharing their stories though and nobody’s perfect, we can all learn from our mistakes. Men and women scam and con money from people through their looks, personality, MLM schemes, and in other ways so we just have to learn to act on their red flags, be guided by a person’s actions instead of words, and love ourselves enough to know what we deserve in a relationship. Someone who cares about you won’t watch you struggle in debt or lie to you, or take everything from you.
Exactly 💯
This is so interesting. I was conned and cornered in different ways by several individuals. When confronted, these people can become dangerous.
She is so brave to tell her story -I know how she felt -getting out was the best thing ever
The answer is a narcissist can do this.
those psychopaths know exactly what type of women to target. The more naive, trustful, feeling lonely, sad really...
Many of them are not lonely, they're just indifferent
...not to mention, "desperate"
@@paulyoung3504 unfortunately, yes. Self esteem lacking.....
Insecurities can make a woman do alot of things.
Women? Lol guess they forgot all the men who gave away their life savings to the first female who looked slightly cute
@@Liitebulb you are right, those kinds of people aren't only men. A lot of women do the same to men. That's why it's so important to learn about these behaviors and about the personalities. That was the most important learning in my life. I can spot the mfs early on, and not get involved with them in any ways.
Is everyone going to ignore the hair growing out of his nostrils in the photo?
My goodness, your comment cracked me up 😂😂😂😂😂 Happy Holidays to you and your loved ones 🎄🍾🥂
Oh no. God. No.
Right? That nose hair situation is gross. They make trimmers. Lol
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He doesn't deserve a flattering photo 🤣
The new norm should be if you meet a man online, check him out thoroughly before going further. As well, one should not be fooled by documents and other things, which can be very elaborate. A lot to do but really, when you buy a car, how much research do you do?
My first/worst wife did the exact same thing and she never repaid a single penny. Devastating for a single dad with two daughters. It destroyed us financially.
i cant get over the nose hair..... no one ever told him to trim it if not wax it? its excessive
Nick is a very cruel person......ladies don't give A man any money!!
His sentence was extremely light,out in a short time to do it all again.
men should not give any woman money.
I always made good money but I suck in the man department. Last two men had great jobs and had been employed a long time. Before I knew it - I was paying for everything as they both ended up being layed off. Nothing like turning your lover into your momma. Dumped them both. If I wanted another child I would have adopted one.
Why did you even pay for them .. I have zero tolerance for that
Your last sentence is funny! 🤣
Same here. Except for my husband I'm very happily married to now, my 2 previous relationships were similar
Guy had a job, that he quit to move in with me, promised to look for a job immediately, and had savings plus a credit card paid for by his parents to tide him over until he got a job. He lived with me for a year and a half, without any effort whatsoever to get a job, not paying for much (like, he'd only eat rice + beans and cheap shit like that, refused to pay for anything 'not his' even if it was something I used to make dinner for him or something ('I don't use stick butter, I'm not paying for it' etc, bullshit like that), and though we both had cars we almost exclusively drove mine, he did not want me even to ride in his car w him, it seemed. And, being my car, it was my 'responsibility to pay for gas', even if I was taking him somewhere! And if my car was out of gas or in the shop and I needed a ride to the emergency room, he refused to either drive me or let me use his car.)
When I kicked him out, I didn't speak to him for days, except for approaching him after about 5 days to ask him if he had started arranging to move out, and he just looked at me and said 'oh I didn't think you were serious. I didn't think you meant it'
He ended up moving back in with his parents.
So for better for worse for richer for poorer meant nothing to you then if you love someone you support them through anything not expect a ready made perfect life
More fool you. No man worth anything gets a lady to pay. I bet you look no deeper than the skin.
Here is a tip. Do the fools you date use your or you're and secondly don't even let them touch you for at least 2 months.
It's kind of gross that in the only photo they have of of such a "handsome" man, he has hair coming out of his nose. How disgusting is that?
I know, right? Every time I saw his pic I gagged!
The hairs are money sensors.... that's WHY they were sooo far out!!!....
@@mollybrolly4717 🤣😂🤣 money sensors, good one 😂😂
Well pommy men with green long teeth like Jack on the buses yuk women find them attractive eeww
Be very wary of "romantic" partners who move too fast ....
@@kitjeab 😆
When I heard that she gave man she’d only known for a few months her bank information, my mouth dropped! Why would you do that? As well, wouldn’t it cross your mind that he would ask other people closer to him to borrow money? Who borrows money from a virtual stranger. and when someone makes you “feel stupid” why wouldn’t you have the self respect to walk away?
Because she found him attractive and that’s all that matters.
You have to be in that situation with a master manipulator, as someone who went through it , you don’t understand this happening to you until it’s too late
Don't forget, this happened in the, somewhat, 'earlier' days of internet dating - almost 20 years ago. It's 2022, you'd think people know better, but A LOT of people are still being scammed
Because he’s a narcissist and until you have been involved with one of them no one understands.
narcissistic abuse is on another level, they can dupe anyone
He's not exactly Brad Pitt is he?
Brad Pitt sucks, so.. not much of a better analogy
Brad Pitt is no prize! Like Ted Bundy, why does every woman think he's so attractive?? Now Simon Baker is another story.🤫
Lol. WW2 was won by Tom Hanks and Bratt Pitt. 😂
These women are amazing. I am a victim of financial crime myself, it is devastating. I wish them all (we all) the best in life ❤
He isn 't good looking at all, far from a "Casanova"! What did this young women see in him?
Casanova wasn"t good looking at all. But WOW he knew how to TALK 🤗🤗🤗🤗
@@kitjeab Not only "talk"........I was reading a Casanova -Biograpy from Rives Childs and it is said that the real Casanova was a very tall and handsome man. Women were crazy about him. I can 't imagine this guy would woke up a fly in winter!
He's gross 🤢
So sorry for her pain! Moving in with someone you do not know well is a bad idea (even though we all know people for whom it worked out). She had great friends - thank goodness for that.
Pathological liars will gaslight you, shame and blame you to get what they want. They also are masters of picking their victims - vulnerable and with low self-esteem.
What he only got 20 months out in 8 ridiculous where is the justice in that!
Maybe the judge put more blame on those blind soft hearted ladies who let themselves to be conned on broad daylight.
Soft judgment!!! 😩😩😩😩
I’m just trying to remember when I first met my ex. I was 24 then. Would I have leant him money? At the time I probably would have. I was very naïve then and I thought I was ‘in love’. Eight years later, we bought a house together. He turned into a monster. A drinker, gambler and a liar. I had bailiffs at the door and he was taking loans out to fund his habits, and not making payments. He was also a bully and a cheat and nasty.
We split up in 2000 and I stood out for a payment from the house. I am 67 now, still single and love the single life. No man would do that to me ever again. He wasn’t exactly a con man like this Gage chap, but I guess in a way, he was.
Life teaches you some valuable lessons, and my 24 year old self is worlds away from the 67 year old me.
If he had issues with his bank account wouldn't he go into the bank and sort it out? Why would they believe something so stupid?
Sometimes some people are just so good at lying
Many people are good natured, and they evaluate others from that level, they trust because that's how they are themselves. Call them naive? Maybe but how is that their fault? Neverthless, we all should learn that knowledge about the conmen and about the narcissistic behaviors, because those people are everywhere, men and women. That was the most important learning in my life, I can avoid getting involved with these kinds of people early on when I meet them.
From glancing through a few comments it's pretty sad to see that many are basically blaming the ladies for getting used! RIDICULOUS!!! When you think the man you meant was the perfect man that you've dreamed of and you've fallen in complete love with I. Can definitely see how this happened. He's a giant P.O.S!! ITS HIS FAULT!! AND SHOULD BE IN PRISON FOR EVER!!
Never ever pick a ‘Partner’ from a lucky dip.
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100 %
Thank you people forget that emotions tend to impair judgement and when you love and trust someone you want to believ them
Well he didn't steal their bank and personal details did he? The ladies, in their wisdom gave them to him with not that much thought or question (because they loved him ahhhh how sweet). So yes they are to blame, whole heartedly to blame. The Judge in the case knew it too as he made no order for compensations.
The judge must have been into him also. "If I make you pay compensation, you'll just go out and con another woman?" Being a judge I guess doesn't necessarily make you smart, what an ass judge.
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Judge got it all wrong!!This criminal
Should have got a long jail term.
So glad that the only fish I have ever reeled in was one that can't breath on land 🤣🤣
What a ridiculous sentence. He will be doing it again in no time, since the consequences are not so bad. What a shame.
The first lady what a lovely soul hope your life is better now.
So sad to see this woman devastated by this low life form. However, why would you move in with someone after a couple of months? I’m quite careful of my hard-earned money and I certainly wouldn’t be tolerating a man who had no money. He would be asked to leave really, really soon.
That's shallow
@@prochoicenotantivax119 no it isn't. It's common sense
Wouldn't it have been easier just to train up and become a pilot
I would say he is only good at lying and cheating but not in academics..
These people are lazy and don’t like the work it takes to fund yourself and train. Much easier to sit on your ass and manipulate these women. I imagine he is really a misogynist. I wonder what age he went to live with his foster mother, what happen to his biological mother and what was their relationship.
😂 that's what I was thinking
but I believe he really enjoyed the benefits he was getting from all these women, he wouldn't have had time for that if he was a pilot
omg so feel for her reminds me of the tinder swindler, they go to very great lengths these con men and they hardly get a jail sentance,tinder swindler served less than a year so bad
This case could have been settled out of court...NY Style Beat down!
The greatest question.....did any of learn anything?
I don't get it - he's not by any means a good-looking man but apparently attractive enough for lonely women.
It breaks my heart, I thought only women were capable of emotional blackmail in order to fleece their partners.
Mrs Richards: "I paid for a room with a view !"
Basil: (pointing to the lovely view) "That is Torquay, Madam."
Mrs Richards: "It's not good enough!"
Basil: "May I ask what you were expecting to see out of a Torquay hotel bedroom window? Sydney Opera House, perhaps? the Hanging Gardens of Babylon? Herds of wildebeest sweeping majestically past?..."
Mrs Richards: "Don't be silly! I expect to be able to see the sea!"
Basil: "You can see the sea, it's over there between the land and the sky."
Mrs Richards: "I'm not satisfied. But I shall stay. But I expect a reduction."
Basil: "Why?! Because Krakatoa's not erupting at the moment?"
Faulty Towers was marvelous.
@@joanodom2104 BREAKFAST KAPUT !
These guys are not master manipulators...they know exactly the kind of people to pick .
Real men can’t even feel good asking a woman for money .. they would be ashamed to.. ladies , do not ever lend or give an able bodied man money under any circumstance
Absolutely, I certainly wouldn’t!
Unfortunately I think many of these women are lonely and really wanted a romantic partner. They are also caring and empathetic people who are easily manipulated. They have difficulty saying No.
So true.
What a beautiful empathetic woman, she has a huge heart, my heart broke when she said, " I remember putting my foot on the accelerator" , narcissists do things to drive you to insanity, they take advantage of kind hearted people, I'm so glad she didn't end her life, she will be blessed she is a good hearted woman. Beware there are narcissists everywhere!!👀🏃♀️
I,m training to be an astronaut ladies wink wink
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Sign me up 😄🤣
Oh boy thought you owned a department store wink, wink
I'm sorry, but that guy is not very attractive at all. All his pics he has nose hair that is growing out of his nose.
Could be worse, his nose hair could be growing out his ears.
Lol
Ladies, don't move in with a guy for a year. If he starts pressing you to do so ask what's the rush? If he doesn't have a good reason, and they don't, break it off. Your either being used for sex and or a meal ticket.
Con people akways have a reason for those who are willing to believe it. There are loads of confemales out there who are deadlier than the males.
Shawn, stop victim-blaming. You're not helping.
@@saafiiiraa Sometimes victim blaming is actually smacking come sense into their thick skulls. You are catering to keeping women defenseless by not opening their eyes to how they can avoid problems in their lives.
Shawn Newell victim blaming is wrong grow up little boy
These Casanova conmen are like gamblers or people who do extreme sports - they get addicted to the "game" and the adrenaline rush. It was very brave of Stella to tell her story.
Drive the guy to the recruiting office. Or get him a bus pass. Visit him at the homeless shelter and show him the food bank. Or just volunteer at these places and meet some down-and-outs to date. You don't need to pay the dating app fees.
Funny comment
Before you move in together make sure you see a check stub make sure you talk to his mom or somebody do a police investigation
The earlier women realize life is not a *fairytale* and there is no such animal as a *perfect man* the better. Also, some realistic self-criticism would be useful - why would a pilot/doctor surrounded by beautiful stewardesses/nurses be searching for a romantic partner online?
Because nurses and............ don't earn so much MONEY 😴😴😴🤗🙄🤗🤗🤗🤗
I've had at least 20 random men ask me for money. I say what my dad told me to say: "I don't hang out with bums". It works every time. They always get offended which is exactly what I want. Then I block them.
Seriously if a guy is bumming money, he clearly doesn't have his financial life together.
Even if you fell in live with a poor man, if he's even half a decent person, he would be gratefull for living with you and have the house expenses and food payed for. Then he would make a good starting point of that, by getting a job and geting his life together. A conman is never gratefull, he keeps stealing.
These creatures are very real. Mine told me he was a pilot (lol) and I was financing his package delivery business in north Western Africa as money he said he had to repay me was in Austin, TX. He said his name was Ryan Dzain(?). Uuugg. I needed help from anyone. I felt desperate. I see these same women as myself “a deer in the headlights.”
A narcissist does exactly what this.Nick.guy did, as a victim you begin to doubt yourself about everything. Takes years to overcome the damage a narc does on you
I'll bet he didn't even buy the condoms. "I love you! I have a great, high-flying job! I still need your bank account details!". Never give a sucker an even break.
his nose hair makes me feel sick
Thank you...just nasty!
I need him in my life so I can stick to my diet lol
When it's about debts, contact the lenders. Maybe they can write them off because you were scammed/frauded into taking them
Sounds like it's possible to be fooled, but then he'd realize very soon I wouldn't be worth it 😂
Less feelz and more thinks = no con. 😉
😂 😂
Or perhaps, too smart ? 😎
🤭 Being told you look like a million sometimes mean someone's looking for an easy million
The sad reality is that some women would move heaven and earth to get their man the money, by borrowing, fetti g more credit cards. Anything. Why? For the abusive man they love? How sad to be so desperate for "love". It truly is blind!
I completely understanding these ladies, I was almost taken in by a good looking Marine Surgeon, after a year of wooing me on line and telling me he was coming to meet me, he asked me for R700.oo for oil and rice for the underprivileged in Ghana, he turned really nasty when I refused.
If you had not met him, how do you know he was a good looking Marine Surgeon? Because of the pictures of "himself" he sent and what HE told you. In some ways he didn't reveal his real identity about who he was, but by getting nasty like that he DID reveal his real identity about who he was.
😂😂😂 there was no marine surgeon hunie ...it was all a ruse ... this online con artist steal other peoples photos and use them
Most of the online romance scams come out of Ghana and Nigeria.
Narcissistic is the term the psychologist is looking for.
Don't rush into any relationship until you've had time to get to know a man and they've EARNED your respect and trust. Many women are too quick to commit their hearts and their means and jump into bed. Just STOP and take your time. This is why these conmen succeed. Forget the charm. That's normally nothing but a facade to get your attention. Yes, it's flattering that they will make you their project. Not because they're genuine about you, but because they're focus is to scam you! Also, do your background checks and do not run round after strangers or lend money or pay for stuff. Scammers always create constant mystery to conceal their lies and have fantastic, exciting sounding lives!
I can totally relate to the all of the above mentioned topics.
I'v been approached by too many so called casonovas.
Fortunately for me I'm not interested in having relationships so that doesn't get them very far with me,
They have asked me about my life, such as are you married with children..
I say that I don't want anyone, they up the charm defensive.
I really empathise with these women because they want to trust and believe that they are in a genuinely loving, relationship 🙄 with these horrible people these despicable men 😒
Holy cow! What is with that guy's lips?
and nostril hair
sore from all the bullshit flowing out.
Those lips are clearly a tool to suck the life out of anyone who will let them
Aww! so sad, poor woman, listen I have been there also by a con and an evil guy ....take it easy and may God helps you ....OX
How you could go in for a second look has got me.
His lips are a dead giveaway. Creepy.🤢
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Not just the lips, the nostrils had black hairs sprouting out of them.
It’s his nose hairs for me
Not the protruding nose hair? Haha
His lips are a turn-off.
It's always gone on and always will. In the Victorian period there was something of a tradition of it.
Rich unattached ladies on holiday at seaside resorts like Bournemouth, would be swept off their feet by a handsome stranger.
After a whirlwind courtship, the charming man would then set about depriving them of their fortunes and sometimes their lives
Well, he certainly has a type! These women are all very pretty, and resemble each other quite a bit.
I thought that too.
auhhh I HATE when people say "perfect", no such thing....with that mindset you will definitely get tangled in some bs🙄, and there's always usually 95% of the time red flags waving but more times than not ladies choose to ignore them thinking "oh its small" or "I can change him"...or they catch him in a lie but blow it off....is he a piece of ish...YES...but ladies need to focus more on what he does rather than what is being said and material stuff
In psychological terms, it's called "idealizstion". We are brainwashed by movies, social media that there are people living perfect lives out there somewhere. People are not perfect. And really, opening a door is free, moving a chair is free. It takes time to get to know someone. Moving in with someone a month after you've met them or their family is just nuts! NEVER give money to someone who is making you feel you are obliged to save their lives!
😂😂😂 aaah the mr perfect imagination will always reel them in
@@fredahwiwu5219 Absolutely! I watched one poor woman who said she was SOOOOO impressed because the con man held the door open for her. Or pulled out a chair!!!!! And that's all it took to convince her to fall in love in 5 minutes!!! When you have low standards, you are a sitting duck for these guys!
@@wandakowalski7063 its absolutely sad really ... women read this kinds of things from harlequin and mills and boons books and think that rich men who behave as their puppets do exist
At the point where she lent him money and he “repaid” her into the wrong account and then said “it’s your fault you’ve lost it all now”… why didn’t her feelings for him immediately turn from affection to hatred? There is something wrong with these women. They see terrible moral flaws in their lover - and then choose to continue the relationship. I think it’s an indictment on the women morals actually. It reflects on who THEY really are too.
I actually met that prick and shook is hand when a friend of mine was very briefly involved with him.prior to the events in this documentary. It was the airline pilot BS, promising to fly her to Milan or other big gestures which would always not happen at the eleventh hour. Fortunately she had seen through him fairly early on and she strung him along for.entertainment value. I can recall.he was really struggling to hide his irritation at my presence that day.
Around 2001, I was lucky to know someone online was a liar. Fake photo. I never got in those again. To this day I'm single, never married and happy.
and if guy even ask me for fiver he be blocked
If it seems too good to be true… take your money and run!
So many people get scammed in one way or another, that means how little allerted we are. It was me too, fortunately didn't cost me money, just the shame of being so naive. One year later after it happened and I'm grateful for that experience, because I've learned the lesson, and lowered my trust in people, and increased my boundaries. Sometimes I still feel angry when I hear someone was hurt in that way, but I realize that I don't have any control over that except just protecting myself from such people. That's why I continue learning about those kinds of behavior, and stay away from such people whenever I recognize them.
. Perhaps the education system should add an extra subject to its' curriculum?.....especially for girls
Hg Tudor US excellent on utube about narcissists. Recommend for everyone dealing with one
He got nose hair sticking out. Gross
Nick Gage is probably not even his real name. There was a famous author with that name who had passed away years ago.
Not with those lips buddy!
Seriously disturbing!
This guy is a sociopath! Sounds just like my ex husband, the only difference is his name! Manipulation and charm are their "tools of the trade" and they look for women who have compassion and empathy (they have neither of these). I am a giver, never a taker and he used it to his advantage. Most of them stay just under the radar and are not brought to justice. Cold hard fact of life. Those who think they would not fall victim, beware these people (men and women) are a step ahead of the honest person.
Exactly. People like this are a step ahead.
These players “work” people .
Many European countries have court systems that are WAY too lenient on some criminals. I know that here in the US we are often TOO harsh on some crimes, but I am left flabbergasted at times when I see some of the super light punishments of criminals in Europe- ESPECIALLY violent criminals that perform SA (or other terrible crimes). This guy should’ve AT LEAST served 4-6 years AND should’ve been forced to pay back ALL of his victims. Unbelievable.
I have never given money to no man
Cheap Charly buy me a beer.
42:40 The judge was smoking crack and needs to be sued. Nick should have at least gotten 5 years and had to pay back everything. The judge is dumb. Nick stole money and he needs to pay it back. The courts could have least transferred the women's debts to him.
It would be so hard to trust again
14.47 I just wanted to give her a hug . Tell her its ok . It's not her fault . These kind of things happen to lots of people. Weather is for wealth or just to control someone.
It IS her fault! She gave money she didn't have to someone who made her feel bad about herself because she was desperate and was hoping the charming and generous man she had first met would re-emerge. A month of bliss, the.months of misery. She should have figured out who the real person was. When will women stop buying into the idea of a prince charming who will come and whisk them away to live happily ever after? When I see little girls wearing princess outfits, in 2022, I want to scream! STILL? Mothers: teach your little girls to know their own worth so that when a conman comes round, they will see through the disguise!
@@wandakowalski7063 no im not gonna blame the victim . You are what is wrong the world these days. Instead of placing blame where it belongs you blame the victim. I guess there should be no rules or laws either .
@@wandakowalski7063 Absolutely. Self esteem is what it's about.
He was so damn gross!!