Fun fact! I, a woman, was pulled into a one to one meeting because "my tone in emails could be abrasive" and I had the satisfaction of pulling up every email my male manager had ever sent to compare. We came to the conclusion that I do not, in fact, email in an abrasive tone. I just email 'like a man' and the only people who had ever found it abrasive were men who didn't enjoy being plainly told what to do by their female manager. It was never mentioned again
When you write an Email in Germany, there is no small talk whatsoever. It is considered polite to keep the Text as short as possible, because we all have to deal with a lot of them every day.
Omg, I love your username reference!! And fr, I, a trans man, have been told I was too "passive aggressive" because I used... A period. A f#@king period??? (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻
Here’s a recommendation add this “:D” to all your happy texts I do it and it always feels so much more fun😊 (also I’m sapphic so this made me happy :D)
Grace Segers: "I'm using an exclamation point so you know I'm friendly and excited! But now I'm using a period so that you know I'm not crazy. Here's another sentence with a period as a buffer, proving my normalness. Thanks so much!"
This! This exactly, it's been put into words! Unless I'm not feeling like being nice, then they get roasted or get short and to the point answers. Outlook introduced reactions to mails, which is a godsdamned life saver
I-..... The amount of time I waste when sending work emails... "Does this sound too flat? Maybe the exclamaition point is too casual...No emoticons. But watch your periods. Remember to add 'no worries if not', this is to your boss, dammit" And it only takes them a milisecond to read and respond
A male friend of mine has a name that could be read as feminine. The tone in the emails he receives are starkly different depending on whether people think he's a man or a woman, and change when they realize he's a men. People are a lot more cross and harder to work with when they think he's a woman. The self policing women live under doesn't come from nowhere
I write with exclamation points all of the time. I'm a dude. I don't understand all this. I'm not trans or gay either. I think some people just don't exist in the same reality.
On the phone sometimes people think I'm a man and sometimes they think I'm a woman. Some people really talk to me differently based on which gender they think I have. Both men and women do it. One time I had a woman on the phone and the way she spoke very condescending to me. Transitioning to woman now so I'm sure I'll experience it much more in the future.
I’m a man and it both infuriates and confuses me when I get a glimpse of how badly women are treated when they are perceived as being without a man’s protection for the time being. It’s disgusting. And I know that these people know how to be respectful, because they act F-ing normal and respectful when talking to me. You can tell what a person is really like by seeing how they treat undefended women and children.
@@allyrose6437at the end when the guy comes in and says “Is this the class on how to disrupt a presentation?” There’s a sketch American high (most of the people in the video) do where they go through a door and ask “is this how to ___ class?” it starts normal like “is this AP math 101” but then gets more and more ridiculous. Let me know if that makes sense
I ALWAYS end with: "Have a great day! ^_^" Even if I've just verbally destroyed someone over email. 😂😂😂 Edit: Lol y'all are so pressed about "unprofessionalism" and "abusive emails" when nowhere did I say I did either. I often need to disagree with people via email and then educate them in regard to subject matter. Like an adult. "Verbally destroyed" in this context was, yes, perhaps a bit far when it's never really that serious. But isn't it crazy how two different people on opposite ends of the planet can read the same sentence and have completely different context in their minds about it? (You visualize abuse of power while I have clear memories of myself pushing back against abuse of power in a professional - if somewhat petty - way). People are different everywhere and it's important to keep in mind that this is the internet and getting upset for people that may not even be real, because let's be honest people lie online all the time, is only really taking your mental energy when it could be used for better things. Especially when given so little context to work off originally. Have a great day! ^_^
Omg not the ^_^ emoticon! I’m bringing that back! It’s so cute and a lot easier than right clicking and trying to find the right emoji when I’m on desktop
I’m a dude and even I’ve noticed this. I always thought it was weird how my female colleagues all write their emails in such an overbearingly positive way, then I remembered that a large portion of society literally calls when a woman has a neutral expression “resting bitch face” and it clicked im such a depressing way for me
I am slowly learning to take those stupid phrases out of my emails. They can either do what I ask or don't. Whether they have worries is their own problem
I think it has some use. There a bit of a culture of trying to guess whether someone is willing to do something before you ask. This leads to "can you do X?" sometimes coming off as "I need you to do X" even though that's confusing and causes misunderstandings. So sometimes you need to specify "this is a genuine question" or "I'm not reliant on you doing this".
“And that’s fine! No worries!” Yeah, I see what you mean. We “read” as insipid people-pleasers, and you better believe I’d like to add “lol” right here so you know I’m just a friendly friend.
Me too! I'm a dude, but a serially anxious people pleaser, and I'm finally kicking all these habits of apologizing for my existence, lol. Also I think its lowkey funny how exclamation points are literally just tone indicators. Like text messaging is so so much easier if you can indicate your tone very specifically with a /s or /gen or whatever.
All I've ever learned from corporate emailing is that the tone of the email is set by the person reading it. If you are in a good mood, no email will bother you. If you're in a bad mood, or dislike the emailer, then the emails will piss you off. This video is pretty accurate. A lot of my female colleagues write emails like this. I've seen a few guys add the exclamation from time to time, but not often. Some of my female coworkers write a regular email, with no exclamation. Just know that anyone can write their email however they want. Nobody should call you out.
I'm a man and people reply back to me "ma'am" or "Ms." half the time in emails. It's even funnier when I meet them in person for the first time. A few of them have actually admitted they thought I was a woman before they met me. After knowing me, some have said my personality does not match my emails, that I'm more easy going. I may be a chill dude, but I'm a boss a$$ bish. 😎🖕🏾👠
Out of curiosity, what is your name? I wonder because I assume people would know if you are a man or woman based on the name, lol. Unless your name is a gender neutral one 🤔
I really like that teams just lets you “react” with an emoji. Kinda nice to just throw a thumbs up rather than have pretend youre thankful for every single minor interaction from a coworker
Same! I feel very called out by this video lol Its whatever, I'm just trying to treat people with respect. If they come back with some BS though, the ! and "no worries" immediately stop lol
I had a female boss who never texted or emailed like this, I loved it because i could simple be straight with her as well. I look up to woman that are straight and feel no need to sugar coat anything in writing or verbally with their voice tone and inflections.
Fuck this is so accurate. I used to work as a paralegal and caught myself totally falling into this pattern. My chakras felt rebalanced once I started tone matching my male boss 😌
I think it has to do with self confidence, generally women won’t be as confident in certain jobs cuz of sexism and all that fun stuff, but the same idea applies to guys like me. Passive vs active language
@@Roach_Dogg_JR That's an interesting way to look at it. I also don't really know if I am exactly the same cause my emails are pretty anti-formal. Like yeah they're polite but I also make an active effort to tow the line of informality because FUCK formal email culture that shit can lick rocks
@@Roach_Dogg_JRIt has nothing to do with self confidence and everything to do with how women are expected to express themselves in the workplace by men.
@@calmcuke6865 this manner of speaking? This overly apologetic voice? Has nothing to do with self confidence? You’re telling that to me, someone who has dealt with this for my entire life? Thanks. I said nothing about how women are expected to talk, I only have an explanation as to why someone might talk like that, regardless of gender
This is so true but it happened with me by a woman. She thought my tone was aggressive and gave extremely negative feedback to my manager. 😢now it will afect my increments. But the rest of the team members were happy with me because I asked the right questions which led to right solutions and they were struggling with her from a year.
@Qyubij nobody knows how to communicate anymore. language is completely symbolic to people on the internet. words function more like hieroglyphs now, where people just say certain words or phrases to signify something arbitrary.
I liked writing emails in Germany. There was so little BS. Greeting, message, kind regards/mit freundlichen Grüßen and then my name. I'd usually put something friendly in the first sentence, like "I hope you day is going well" or, "thank you for you reply". But it was pretty much copy paste! So easy!
@@JoonasD6 I don't think it needs anything else? All you really need is a greeting, what you're emailing the person about, maybe a thank you, and a goodbye word such as "regards."
I quickly run out of energy for this. My work and academic emails are factual and to the point. If people get hurt feelings over a professional email being too professional, they can figure it out on their own.
@@-Couch_Potato- Except it does cost some people too much energy (ahem autism). Small talk and worrying about your social image are what in-person encounters are for. Keeping emails concise and getting to the point work better for some people. That way you can get back to your actual job, save your energy, and save both you and the email recipient's time
@@-Couch_Potato- except it cost me SO MUCH. I have adhd, and writing emails are my worst nightmare because it's so time consuming to make it "professional AND friendly". I much rather have a phone call or talk in person
This is so painfully accurate. When I first started working, I sent an email to my boss without “!” In it and he pulled me into his office to ask me why I felt the need to be “passive aggressive” in my email. Like, huh? Now I have to use it all the time
You should have said “well I would have assumed that adding an exclamation point would have been considered outright aggressive, given that it’s supposed to _exclaim.”_
Hahahahaha! Once had a meeting reduced to "the tone in the email was too strong", "we are old enough to be your father", and I am JUST a woman trying to show power! I say what I say, and put no effort to blow over hot egos
I'm a straight black man in his 30s and I add exclamation points on essentially all work chats to not seem too prickly. And I prefer using "and if not, no worries at all *shaka emoji*". No shame in wanting to be approachable.
Hey - Black woman here. Are you one of the few Black people in your workplace? I ask because I've seen Black men alter ther speech and/or writing style so that they don't unintentionally come off as aggressive to their white peers. I've done the same in some professional environments.
I’m a trans lady and I wasn’t expecting this to be another early warning sign that I had some ✨G E N D E R✨ stuff going on, but here we are! Legit, I feel like such a jerk if I do not use an exclamation point to make it clear I’m not mad at people😬
The one thing I will not do is email like that, I say what I gotta say and go and if no one respects that then I follow up and CC the manager and HR. I already find it hard enough to be respected by certain coworkers and emailing like that will not help lmao
I remember my dad teaching me ab punctuation and he told me not to over-use exclamation marks because "women tend to" and it stuck with me - and now I know why. dad if they over-use them, it's out of pure fear of being rude - despite men not being considered rude if they talk the same, or worse
My favourite girlie expression is “GIRL DINNER 💅💅” and their girl dinner is half a tin of sardines, an apple slice and a packet of salt from McDonalds.
This is really funny and accurate but I’ve started to try to write emails like a man because you get taken more seriously so basically do the opposite of all that
I started a new job a couple years ago and I was so taken aback becasue everyone just used periods. I hurt my own feelings for literally the first year until i started to let go of the needless exclamation points. I am now at peace 😌
This is totally how I email! And you've always gotta be assertive playfully by thanking them for things they haven't done yet! Like saying thank you for solving this issue I am currently asking you to solve! And no lols but you can use emoticon tone indicators is what I do :)
Is it really that big of a deal? /genuine question Would an email written this way really give it away or is it just gender affirming to write it in a masc way? Not familiar with emails culture in general
might I suggest watching some Manifestelle or some Tonya TKO, they really lay out the BS ways women are expected to perform and show up in society. It could help you to see the invisible guardrails and adjust your actions more intentionally. Best of luck and safety to you. ❤
Lol...!!!!!...no worries....sorry to bug you, sorry for the inconvenience....are my fallback when I'm talking to someone who doesn't know me that when...to assure them that they can like me ;) Also, I love how you dressing in business casual makes you look like you're playing dress up bc that's how I feel when I'm dressed in business casual ...I'm 40 😂😂😂
This is one of the most incredibly clever and accurate skits I've seen in the past year! ... trying to explain this to my parents was useless, though (!)
I remember being told my emails were too “hostile” for a work place but I literally emailed like everyone else. Got called into a meeting with a few other people as he pinpointed them as getting the most “aggressive” emails from me. They just were the guys I worked with most frequently and none of them viewed my emails as being hostile or aggressive so nothing happened as they pointed out how I email the same way as them and since I was the only female it was becoming a little clear that some of the guys were implying that our boss was being sexist. Anyway I quit like a month later, I know a few other guys did as well but the company still doing fine which sort of sucks.
yeah the exclamation point is useful for when you're trying to let the person know that you like them and don't take the issue too serious but just need to get through the day.
Tommy was a red herring. You think the sketch will end with Tommy doing some wacky thing that will ruin the presentation, but instead they threw us a curve ball and had one of the "lost students looking for their oddly specific classes" from the other sketch come in instead.
LOL THIS IS SOOOO TRUE I GENUINELY CANT TEXT OR EMAIL WITHOUT EXCLAMATION POINTS OR I FEEL SOOOO MEAN😭😭😭😭 AND I HSE THE NO WORRIES IF NOT ALL THE TIME TOO😭😭😭
Fun fact! I, a woman, was pulled into a one to one meeting because "my tone in emails could be abrasive" and I had the satisfaction of pulling up every email my male manager had ever sent to compare. We came to the conclusion that I do not, in fact, email in an abrasive tone. I just email 'like a man' and the only people who had ever found it abrasive were men who didn't enjoy being plainly told what to do by their female manager. It was never mentioned again
I'm feeling second hand satisfaction. I'm in my 30s and still I wanna be you when I grow up
When you write an Email in Germany, there is no small talk whatsoever. It is considered polite to keep the Text as short as possible, because we all have to deal with a lot of them every day.
This brings me such joy! Bravo 👏🏻
Slay
😂 Damn, that’s awesome.
Lmao I hate how accurate this is! I feel so passive aggressive if I don’t write in an overly friendly tone lol!
Omg, I love your username reference!! And fr, I, a trans man, have been told I was too "passive aggressive" because I used... A period. A f#@king period???
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Hey Sapphic! Love your comment! I'm making this comment today to see if you could tell me how to write such great comments, no worries if you can't!
As a man I agree lol😂😂😂
Here’s a recommendation add this “:D” to all your happy texts I do it and it always feels so much more fun😊
(also I’m sapphic so this made me happy :D)
@@dogthievery101A PERIOD??? Also love the little dude throwing the table😂
The safety pin earrings are such an exquisite touch
I have those too! I got so happy when I noticed them, they’re some of my favorite earrings
I love them so much theyre so cute I want some 😭 i dont have my ears pierced tho. They would match my necklace 😔
@@cheeseflamingo Don't worry, safety pins could pierce them for you!
Real
I pierced my belly with a safety pin once. Wouldn't recommend.
Grace Segers: "I'm using an exclamation point so you know I'm friendly and excited! But now I'm using a period so that you know I'm not crazy. Here's another sentence with a period as a buffer, proving my normalness. Thanks so much!"
Omg this is so true
EXACTLY. WHAAAT!
This! This exactly, it's been put into words!
Unless I'm not feeling like being nice, then they get roasted or get short and to the point answers.
Outlook introduced reactions to mails, which is a godsdamned life saver
I-.....
The amount of time I waste when sending work emails...
"Does this sound too flat? Maybe the exclamaition point is too casual...No emoticons. But watch your periods. Remember to add 'no worries if not', this is to your boss, dammit"
And it only takes them a milisecond to read and respond
From Terry Pratchett: "Five exclamation marks. The sure sign of an insane mind..." So true about "here's a normal sentence so I don't look crazy now"
“I’m JUSTT a little LADY! And I’m not gonna come for your JOB! 😄”
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I LOVE YOUR JINX PFP
JINX! TODAY IS THE DAY
JINX 2024 🫡
A male friend of mine has a name that could be read as feminine. The tone in the emails he receives are starkly different depending on whether people think he's a man or a woman, and change when they realize he's a men. People are a lot more cross and harder to work with when they think he's a woman.
The self policing women live under doesn't come from nowhere
I write with exclamation points all of the time. I'm a dude. I don't understand all this. I'm not trans or gay either. I think some people just don't exist in the same reality.
Always notice the difference when people think my online profiles are male. People actually listen to and respect my opinions far more 🫣
On the phone sometimes people think I'm a man and sometimes they think I'm a woman. Some people really talk to me differently based on which gender they think I have. Both men and women do it. One time I had a woman on the phone and the way she spoke very condescending to me.
Transitioning to woman now so I'm sure I'll experience it much more in the future.
@@donder91 As a trans woman I would say you definitely will :) best of luck on your journey though!
I’m a man and it both infuriates and confuses me when I get a glimpse of how badly women are treated when they are perceived as being without a man’s protection for the time being. It’s disgusting. And I know that these people know how to be respectful, because they act F-ing normal and respectful when talking to me. You can tell what a person is really like by seeing how they treat undefended women and children.
Grace spitting and then saying "B***H!" had me cackling 😂
I lost it on that 😂
Nobody gives a shit
I can literally NEVER predict what Grace is about to do, yet she always nails it!
She said it with such contempt 😂
Best part! 😂
Ugh the "no worries if not" got me hard. Like yikes, thats my exact anxiety quiter line x0
The wording of this comment is... interesting 💀
Tobias funke ahh comment @@heylol55555
What the fuck is the wording that you used there 😂😂
@@hannabottomley9746 Hey now lets not kink shame XD
@@hannabottomley9746bottomley
“Is this the class on how to disrupt a presenta-“
The callback!
Crossover!!!!!!!!!
Holy callback
What a throwback 😂
@@syan2240 New response just dropped
The sketch crossover!
Iconic
The way we can all recall what that bit refers to is just showing how iconic american high shorts is 😭
@@brownfamily1892help what is it referring to!
Fr what an abosulte icon was the sketch about the wierd classes it was actually what got me to watch this channel lol
@@allyrose6437at the end when the guy comes in and says “Is this the class on how to disrupt a presentation?” There’s a sketch American high (most of the people in the video) do where they go through a door and ask “is this how to ___ class?” it starts normal like “is this AP math 101” but then gets more and more ridiculous. Let me know if that makes sense
Me trying with all my might not to use this guy :) in professional emails lmao
LMFAOOO😂😂😂
Me trying and failing*
he's just a little guy though :)
look at him :)
I use the c: sometimes as a treat
Same 😂
I ALWAYS end with: "Have a great day! ^_^" Even if I've just verbally destroyed someone over email. 😂😂😂
Edit: Lol y'all are so pressed about "unprofessionalism" and "abusive emails" when nowhere did I say I did either. I often need to disagree with people via email and then educate them in regard to subject matter. Like an adult. "Verbally destroyed" in this context was, yes, perhaps a bit far when it's never really that serious. But isn't it crazy how two different people on opposite ends of the planet can read the same sentence and have completely different context in their minds about it? (You visualize abuse of power while I have clear memories of myself pushing back against abuse of power in a professional - if somewhat petty - way). People are different everywhere and it's important to keep in mind that this is the internet and getting upset for people that may not even be real, because let's be honest people lie online all the time, is only really taking your mental energy when it could be used for better things. Especially when given so little context to work off originally.
Have a great day! ^_^
You ate hands down
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I do this out of pure rage and pettiness.
Especially if you just verbally destroyed someone
Omg not the ^_^ emoticon! I’m bringing that back! It’s so cute and a lot easier than right clicking and trying to find the right emoji when I’m on desktop
As soon as she said “for women” I knew the exclamation point was coming lmao
I’m a dude and even I’ve noticed this. I always thought it was weird how my female colleagues all write their emails in such an overbearingly positive way, then I remembered that a large portion of society literally calls when a woman has a neutral expression “resting bitch face” and it clicked im such a depressing way for me
I am slowly learning to take those stupid phrases out of my emails. They can either do what I ask or don't. Whether they have worries is their own problem
I think it has some use. There a bit of a culture of trying to guess whether someone is willing to do something before you ask. This leads to "can you do X?" sometimes coming off as "I need you to do X" even though that's confusing and causes misunderstandings. So sometimes you need to specify "this is a genuine question" or "I'm not reliant on you doing this".
“And that’s fine! No worries!”
Yeah, I see what you mean. We “read” as insipid people-pleasers, and you better believe I’d like to add “lol” right here so you know I’m just a friendly friend.
Me too! I'm a dude, but a serially anxious people pleaser, and I'm finally kicking all these habits of apologizing for my existence, lol.
Also I think its lowkey funny how exclamation points are literally just tone indicators. Like text messaging is so so much easier if you can indicate your tone very specifically with a /s or /gen or whatever.
All I've ever learned from corporate emailing is that the tone of the email is set by the person reading it. If you are in a good mood, no email will bother you. If you're in a bad mood, or dislike the emailer, then the emails will piss you off.
This video is pretty accurate. A lot of my female colleagues write emails like this. I've seen a few guys add the exclamation from time to time, but not often. Some of my female coworkers write a regular email, with no exclamation. Just know that anyone can write their email however they want. Nobody should call you out.
lmao that's how so many dudes talk though in a total monotone it's wild. like emote my guy!
"Hi Dave!
Can I have my son back that you babysat?
No worries if not!"
Also the Tommy tomboy reference in the class 😅
Tommy just wanted to learn more about email etiquette for women 101🥺
Tommy is the IT guy about to fix whatever wasn't working lol
The teacher always have a Tommy in the class to fix the computer or other electronics
@@MrCheques90 As an IT guy named Tommy, allow me to give this comment my seal of approbation.
I don't get the whole Tommy bit
I'm a man and people reply back to me "ma'am" or "Ms." half the time in emails. It's even funnier when I meet them in person for the first time. A few of them have actually admitted they thought I was a woman before they met me. After knowing me, some have said my personality does not match my emails, that I'm more easy going. I may be a chill dude, but I'm a boss a$$ bish. 😎🖕🏾👠
Out of curiosity, what is your name? I wonder because I assume people would know if you are a man or woman based on the name, lol. Unless your name is a gender neutral one 🤔
Slay, king 👑🕺
yeah I write with exclamation points just to let people know I am not a jerk and don't want to make their day worse than it already is.
the ending was amazing and i’m here for it
I really like that teams just lets you “react” with an emoji. Kinda nice to just throw a thumbs up rather than have pretend youre thankful for every single minor interaction from a coworker
I'm a guy and I email like this at work 😂😭 Start out so friendly, give people an out, and tell em to have a good one and take care at the end...
Same! I feel very called out by this video lol
Its whatever, I'm just trying to treat people with respect. If they come back with some BS though, the ! and "no worries" immediately stop lol
@MrCheques90 Yeahhh I will stay perfectly polite, but the cheery vibe will go away if it's undeserved 😂
I treat ppl how I want to be treated and I want the exclamation points and no worries 😭😭
Im a guy and sometimes I'll double tap that "!!" Put multiple in one. Maybe it's becuase I work with all woman I kinda picked it up while working 😂
Me too, I don’t think it’s a “women thing” I think it’s just a subordinate thing for trying to not piss someone off and lose your job
I had a female boss who never texted or emailed like this, I loved it because i could simple be straight with her as well. I look up to woman that are straight and feel no need to sugar coat anything in writing or verbally with their voice tone and inflections.
Yesss
Fuck this is so accurate. I used to work as a paralegal and caught myself totally falling into this pattern. My chakras felt rebalanced once I started tone matching my male boss 😌
I’m a guy and I do this too. I’ve never thought of it as a requirement for some people to even be listened to.
I think it has to do with self confidence, generally women won’t be as confident in certain jobs cuz of sexism and all that fun stuff, but the same idea applies to guys like me. Passive vs active language
@@Roach_Dogg_JR That's an interesting way to look at it. I also don't really know if I am exactly the same cause my emails are pretty anti-formal. Like yeah they're polite but I also make an active effort to tow the line of informality because FUCK formal email culture that shit can lick rocks
do you work in HR/customer service?
@@Roach_Dogg_JRIt has nothing to do with self confidence and everything to do with how women are expected to express themselves in the workplace by men.
@@calmcuke6865 this manner of speaking? This overly apologetic voice? Has nothing to do with self confidence? You’re telling that to me, someone who has dealt with this for my entire life? Thanks. I said nothing about how women are expected to talk, I only have an explanation as to why someone might talk like that, regardless of gender
This is so true but it happened with me by a woman. She thought my tone was aggressive and gave extremely negative feedback to my manager. 😢now it will afect my increments. But the rest of the team members were happy with me because I asked the right questions which led to right solutions and they were struggling with her from a year.
Julias outfit is iconic af
edit: why are yall beefing about the word iconic😭
It’s giving Agathaaaa
No it isn’t. That isn’t what iconic means.
@@CardboardUmbrellalmao you are right idk why people use it in that way
y'all are just changing words meanings now
@Qyubij nobody knows how to communicate anymore. language is completely symbolic to people on the internet. words function more like hieroglyphs now, where people just say certain words or phrases to signify something arbitrary.
I liked writing emails in Germany. There was so little BS. Greeting, message, kind regards/mit freundlichen Grüßen and then my name. I'd usually put something friendly in the first sentence, like "I hope you day is going well" or, "thank you for you reply". But it was pretty much copy paste! So easy!
... what *else* should/could there be other than what you listed? 🤔
@@JoonasD6 I don't think it needs anything else? All you really need is a greeting, what you're emailing the person about, maybe a thank you, and a goodbye word such as "regards."
So true. As a woman, e-mail tone is extremely important. Exclamation points make you look kind and agreeable when making a request
i don't get it. guys do the same thing.
@@SlumberBear2kThe difference is that you do this for everyone. Women do this only for men. That’s the difference.
I love writing friendly emails like that because if somebody else didn't write me back in the same friendly tone I'd cry lol
I really need the full version of this lecture with this gorgeous and charismatic woman!!
I quickly run out of energy for this. My work and academic emails are factual and to the point. If people get hurt feelings over a professional email being too professional, they can figure it out on their own.
I rather be professional AND friendly with people I spend the third of my day with. Doesn't cost anything
I rather be professional AND friendly with people I spend the third of my day with. Doesn't cost anything
@@-Couch_Potato-
Except it does cost some people too much energy (ahem autism). Small talk and worrying about your social image are what in-person encounters are for. Keeping emails concise and getting to the point work better for some people. That way you can get back to your actual job, save your energy, and save both you and the email recipient's time
@@-Couch_Potato- except it cost me SO MUCH. I have adhd, and writing emails are my worst nightmare because it's so time consuming to make it "professional AND friendly". I much rather have a phone call or talk in person
This is so painfully accurate. When I first started working, I sent an email to my boss without “!” In it and he pulled me into his office to ask me why I felt the need to be “passive aggressive” in my email. Like, huh? Now I have to use it all the time
You should have said “well I would have assumed that adding an exclamation point would have been considered outright aggressive, given that it’s supposed to _exclaim.”_
me when i sign off all my things with _"Have a lovely day!"_
Hahahahaha! Once had a meeting reduced to "the tone in the email was too strong", "we are old enough to be your father", and I am JUST a woman trying to show power! I say what I say, and put no effort to blow over hot egos
How can y’all make literally ANYTHING so funny?! Please keep blessing us with your skills. This monotonous world needs your creativity 😂😂😂🤲🏼
I'm a straight black man in his 30s and I add exclamation points on essentially all work chats to not seem too prickly. And I prefer using "and if not, no worries at all *shaka emoji*". No shame in wanting to be approachable.
Hey - Black woman here. Are you one of the few Black people in your workplace? I ask because I've seen Black men alter ther speech and/or writing style so that they don't unintentionally come off as aggressive to their white peers. I've done the same in some professional environments.
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@@haute03 you both need to lock in
I love the willy wonka outfit. Perfectly suits the deranged vibe.
Honestly I always write my emails in my way and then go cut the "please, if, should, perhaps"
So accurate 😭 also love the safety pin earrings
I’m a trans lady and I wasn’t expecting this to be another early warning sign that I had some ✨G E N D E R✨ stuff going on, but here we are!
Legit, I feel like such a jerk if I do not use an exclamation point to make it clear I’m not mad at people😬
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The one thing I will not do is email like that, I say what I gotta say and go and if no one respects that then I follow up and CC the manager and HR. I already find it hard enough to be respected by certain coworkers and emailing like that will not help lmao
Yeah fuck those office games. They want to play with flowery "respect" language games then shit can get real
The ending hahaha, plot thickens
Too true!!! I don’t even know where I learned this but I know I HAVE to do it
I remember my dad teaching me ab punctuation and he told me not to over-use exclamation marks because "women tend to" and it stuck with me - and now I know why. dad if they over-use them, it's out of pure fear of being rude - despite men not being considered rude if they talk the same, or worse
For some reason no matter what is said with a (!) I always read it mentally as a USMC Drill Instructor yelling very aggressively
My favourite girlie expression is “GIRL DINNER 💅💅” and their girl dinner is half a tin of sardines, an apple slice and a packet of salt from McDonalds.
I dipped tortillas in soy sauce the other day. Not too bad.
@ just a tortilla? Where’s your fillings at?
That's crazy. I have a full tin of sardines...
my excuse for having a cookie and lemonade for lunch everyday at school this year😂 it’s jsut girl lunch
@@hdajq892ey7 that’s a snack not a lunch 😅😂
This is really funny and accurate but I’ve started to try to write emails like a man because you get taken more seriously so basically do the opposite of all that
Love the callback to one of their older skits 😂
"IS THIS THE CLASS ON HOW TO DISRUPT A PRESENTATION?" I freaking love this recurring joke
"good morning, ___"
"Sorry for the inconvenience"😅
"Have a great day!" 😊
No emojis included, but thats definitely the vibe im trying to give off 😂
WHY IS THIS SO ACCURATE UGHHH
I find this funny because I am so guilty of this and also, Russians use the exclamation point by default often and I'm half Russian.
I started a new job a couple years ago and I was so taken aback becasue everyone just used periods. I hurt my own feelings for literally the first year until i started to let go of the needless exclamation points. I am now at peace 😌
The sad part is the men actually feel like this irl. Truly toxic
Women do it too, they also expect men to have a distinct tone. Very toxic
Lmao love this..also I genuinely can't NOT send a '!' In my emails. Idk why. But without them i feel like I sound crabby or angry 😂
The safety pin earrings are underrated
I can't unsee tommy as jeff buckley.
i'm so glad smbd else sees it too
The jean skirt really sells it 😭
Exclamation points in my mind is like writing in all caps. Feels angry 😅
This is giving SNL. She's good at this!
This is what college humor used to be like 10 years ago
This is totally how I email! And you've always gotta be assertive playfully by thanking them for things they haven't done yet! Like saying thank you for solving this issue I am currently asking you to solve! And no lols but you can use emoticon tone indicators is what I do :)
That's right, I won't come for their job, I want to leave! xoxo
that awkward walk its like looking in a comically apt mirror
As a trans guy… I’m unlearning this all and it’s so difficult cause it’s hardwired in
same
i never got this memo lmao, side effect of being partly raised by assholes on the internet
Same @@thealmightyrat
Is it really that big of a deal? /genuine question
Would an email written this way really give it away or is it just gender affirming to write it in a masc way?
Not familiar with emails culture in general
might I suggest watching some Manifestelle or some Tonya TKO, they really lay out the BS ways women are expected to perform and show up in society. It could help you to see the invisible guardrails and adjust your actions more intentionally. Best of luck and safety to you. ❤
Lol...!!!!!...no worries....sorry to bug you, sorry for the inconvenience....are my fallback when I'm talking to someone who doesn't know me that when...to assure them that they can like me ;)
Also, I love how you dressing in business casual makes you look like you're playing dress up bc that's how I feel when I'm dressed in business casual ...I'm 40 😂😂😂
I love the throwback to the other short at the end
This is one of the most incredibly clever and accurate skits I've seen in the past year! ... trying to explain this to my parents was useless, though (!)
I remember being told my emails were too “hostile” for a work place but I literally emailed like everyone else. Got called into a meeting with a few other people as he pinpointed them as getting the most “aggressive” emails from me. They just were the guys I worked with most frequently and none of them viewed my emails as being hostile or aggressive so nothing happened as they pointed out how I email the same way as them and since I was the only female it was becoming a little clear that some of the guys were implying that our boss was being sexist. Anyway I quit like a month later, I know a few other guys did as well but the company still doing fine which sort of sucks.
I mean to be fair I appreciate the overly peppy emails over the boring “do this for me” ones
yeah the exclamation point is useful for when you're trying to let the person know that you like them and don't take the issue too serious but just need to get through the day.
Love how they bring another series in at the end. The universe is being made
Used to email like this. Now I don't. Anyone who feels insecure is not my problem.
i didn’t get the tommy part can someone pls explain
Tommy was a red herring. You think the sketch will end with Tommy doing some wacky thing that will ruin the presentation, but instead they threw us a curve ball and had one of the "lost students looking for their oddly specific classes" from the other sketch come in instead.
@@desaigamon thank you 🙏
REAL, I feel so rude when I dont use, but so annoying when using it 😂
The safety pin!🤣
PLEASE GET ALL THESE PEOPLE IN THE NEW "THE OFFICE" 😂 so good
i'm a dude, and i literally text everyone like this 😢
we just wanna be polite man! 😂
@@bigmanpictures yeah its a way to let the other person know we don't take it so seriously.
I really love this channel.
I really love this channel too!
I dont want to talk about how much i use the exclamation points! This is too accurate!!
Oh my god! Being the ''It service'' kid in class, that ''tommy'' gave me flashbacks
My students : you better not be dressed as Agatha Harkness when we’re there
Julia :
That damn continuity with the weird classes.... Love it.
No one gonna talk about Julia's earrings😂
Omg i love the safety pins as earings!!
perfect ending
This is totally me! I always use ! In all my sentence and emails cause I think it'll make it sound nicer😂
IS THIS TIED TO THAT ONE VID WHEN THEY DID THE "Is this the class...?" AND THEY KEPT MAKING "HI DAD" JOKES????????!?!????
they've done several of those "is this the class..." videos
It’s so funny how profs whisper to their TAs like that... like, we all see you whisper, some of us hear it, then we all see the TA saunter up 😂
“If not theirs no worries” Silence-
LOL THIS IS SOOOO TRUE I GENUINELY CANT TEXT OR EMAIL WITHOUT EXCLAMATION POINTS OR I FEEL SOOOO MEAN😭😭😭😭 AND I HSE THE NO WORRIES IF NOT ALL THE TIME TOO😭😭😭
"Wrong, its god. This is your new god. All hail, everybody do it." The tone I cant😭
I love every second of this.
Don't forget the happy emotes to show that you're not just shouting at someone in text but are just showing high happy energy.
This is better than The Office Australia, not hard to beat, but still a fact
They way they snuck in the “love you” slide there 😂
I like the outlook smiley face. It's very cute 😂
The was she goes “🧙♀️ha ha ha ha🧙♀️” is funny😂
The skit in a skit *mwah* chef’s kiss 💋🔥🇺🇸🦅🥇✨😱🙏😅🎀🤩🎀🎀🎀🦅👹
The spit and then calling Dave a bitch, caught me with my guard down. Rolling 😂