HELLO MY LOVES!!!! THIS WAS A HARD ONE TO MAKE BECAUSE IT REQUIRES PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY FIRST!! LETS CONTINUE TO BE STRONG, POWERFUL AND INFLUENTIAL WOMEN ❤️ ps. What should my next topic be? Watch till the end to decide xxx
Breeny Lee My biggest question is that I completely understand and agree 100% with your perspective, but how do you continue to have faith you’ll find the right guy? For me I’m 24 so I have time and have hope and patience it’ll happen and I’m completely over settling, but what about the women who want families and a man and are 40+. What is your advice for what seems like time is ticking?
“You cannot put yourself on the sales rack because a man refuses to pay full price for you.” So impactful! Thank you for your true wisdom and sharing your experiences so that we gain even more self love 🙏🏾❤️💫
@Flaccid Clitoris Quean not Queen Bru That comment was way outta line homie. She may not be your cup of tea but thats about as bad as a comment and insult that you can give a black person. I am a MGtow as well and I disagree with all of what this woman says. But for you to call her an orangutan is on another level bru. With a name like yours I cant expect you to honestly give 2 fucks but as a black man I couldnt let this comment go without a response.
what do you mean you "Dating down"? Was it his career, status, height, income, physical Fitness ? Was it his confidence or self-esteem? Or was it his personality? Was he a Nice guy, was he an Asshole? There is so many things that could mean...
Now you know how most men feel regularly. If you don't date down that means you're automatically admitting that you will always be below your partner. Just think about that.
I believe that the man that the Most High has in store for you will never be intimidated by you. In fact, he will either meet your requirements/match your standards or he will exceed them 💁🏾♀️
Yahuah Is My Everything it’s not about your standards/requirements that will turn a good or high quality man off though. Of course if you guys don’t match each other it’s a no go. But it’s the mentality that can come with it. No man wants to compete against the world all day and then come home and compete with you. Just like you shouldn’t want to compete with him. You’re supposed to be each other peace, safe space. a place that, while not always perfect, you can let your guard down and chill and be you as much as possible.
DeWayne Phoenix Of course. It’s not about competition between the two sexes. I meant that if you know your value as a woman and you respect and know the value of a good man and then you will complement each other well to the point where nobody’s intimidated. If y’all know what y’all bring to the table and there’s no egotistical behavior involved then y’all will be great together.
James Parker No, it doesn’t. If colleges and jobs can have standards and requirements that they want us to meet, then so can someone who takes marriage seriously 💁🏾♀️
My ex actually said I intimidated him at the beginning of the relationship, and then when he broke up with me said 'you deserve better than me'. Too many red flags I just didn't see them.
Narc men say you're too good for me hoping that you'll lower your standards....when I hear that I agree then block... standing in my power and loving myself first. Great video!
"Narc men say you're too good for me hoping that you'll lower your standards....when I hear that I agree then block... standing in my power and loving myself first. Great video!" Nar·cis·sist : a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. "narcissists who think the world revolves around them"
"Your value does not decrease based on some else's inability to see your worth" i really really enjoyed your video it came about time. Thank you, new follower from horn of africa
I swear to God, these videos make me feel so confident and realize that it's okay to be patient and wait for the right person for you instead of jumping from one relationship to another just for the sake of being in one. Being single used to frustrate me when everyone around me were in relationships but now I feel like I owe it to me to find someone I deserve and who deserves me. Thank you❤️
Even when you are successful and you downplay it. Once they find out who you are they get insecure. You can be soft gentle and feminine and humble but when the man finds out your success when you downplay it, he gets twisted. Trust me girl I've experienced that.
You met shitty men who couldn’t look ur worth Real man is happy complementing each other success without bringing them down I will b proud of my lady if she succeed - thats my lady If u keep the same dynamic happy Jus lik before success Without changing in attitude or behaviour then thats ❤❤
@@TopFlightSecurity415 no lol. When you have a certain lifestyle, why be with someone who doesn’t match that ? When you’re successful and reached where you want to be in your life. Be with someone who’s on the same level , so if you’re someone who prefers to go to fancy restaurants (which are expensive) you wouldn’t want a guy to offer you let’s say McDonald’s as a date (didn’t say it’s bad thing but I think you get where I’m going with this)❤️
@@j.inkstv No, however if a lady walks in the building and you can tell you’re just not on her level , you simply wouldn’t approach her. It doesn’t have to be about the money. It can even be based on how she carries herself, you get what I mean ? I noticed guys sometimes feel comfortable with girls who don’t have higher standards.
If you cannot pay for it yourself then it isn't YOUR lifestyle, i would get the point if the guy you're with NEVER takes you to good/expensive places, but if you get mad cause your man is responsable with HIS money and doesn't wanna blow HIS savings giving YOU gifts/expensive food that you wouldn't aford by yourself then you're just delusional about your own finacial situation
@@tinamakoni1105 look up her video how to be feminine. Also look up how to increase your feminine energy/power. It's about operating in your feminine, we all possess masculine/feminine but as a woman you want to lead with your fem so it will allow room for the man to operate in his masculine.
A true high value woman right here !! And for those in the back row I’ll say it again...A true high value woman who knows her worth. A lady who isn’t prepared to be second best to anyone and who also wisely knows that all love stems from SELF-LOVE !! Love ya Breeny, you are beautiful and just simply amazing queen 💓
Classic Man I think every woman thinks this which is a problem , not saying she isn’t but she came off narcissistic and self centered and very arrogant!
Shenniee Why do you all keep repeating these same tropes that you got out of the 82 gossip magazines and 31 TV shows you watch a week? Oh, and the 764 Instagram posts. And 942 FaceBook posts. 🤣🤣🤣
James Parker The chik in the video wouldn’t even get noticed by me. I would personally rather date a woman with a bald head, than a woman with fake hair. That goes for Black, White, and Latina. I would throw Asians in there, but I don’t really fuck with them. Hilarious.
I'll be honest, I read the title and I was ready to eye roll the video when I heard that black women are too masculine and I thought it would follow on with that "we need to submit" etc, etc, like a lot of video's I've seen. But Breeny you brought a lot of perspective on why being seen as intimidating can affect women pursuing healthy and fulfilling relationships. I'm married btw, so I'm not looking, but this message extended beyond being a single woman looking for a relationship. You made some salient points about understanding your worth, and knowing that you might not be necessarily intimidating, but people, especially men feel intimidated because they know they lack the resources in what it takes to value a woman who already understands what she's worth. I will say this, I do think a lot of men are unable to value women who have healthy self-esteem because a lot of men come from a place of inequality, ownership, possession and belief that a woman is there to absorb their insecurities. Quite frankly, men need to do a lot of work on themselves, because a woman with self-worth will no longer settle for the aforementioned. Great video!
I dated my ex for 4 years and he brought down SO low that I used to be so full of life and fire but now I’m slow and it’s hard to leave my house. I’m not depressed or sad but going outside was so draining to him that’s his energy still feeding me
I'll make this really short. This woman is telling what you want to hear and not the truth follow her advice and you either end up single or end up with a low quality men
@@dacymark1688 I will rather be single than in a bad relationship which will destroy my life . It advice means settling and it won't take u anywhere . No one has time for unnecessary things
@@dacymark1688 would you like to be more specific about your concern? This isn't very constructive feedback. Regardless, I believe all advice should be taken with a pinch of salt because all humans are not the same, nor do they think the same, nor are all their triggers the same, etc etc. I'm sure many of us, like me, are not here looking for a blueprint to enact without applying wisdom to application. As far as I'm concerned, her views are about setting standards, and we should all maintain that across all areas of our lives.
I’m 💯 agree with you. Sometimes as successful women, we forget our feminine side. It’s so important nowadays that we teach women empowerment to also highlight to the fact of not losing our femininity even if we are strong ❤️
I agree with your competition comment- some men will say you are intimidating if your being soft, gentle and feminine. These are men who although you have agreed to date them, (in their own minds), although they may want to be with you... THEY TRULY INSIDE THEMSELVES don’t believe they “deserve “ a women like you and are just insecure. I have dated down... just recently ended a relationship with a narcissist who stated at the beginning of the relationship that he was “intimidated “ by me because I was so feminine, soft, gentle...blah blah. He ended up using those traits to bring me down. HE WAS A NARCISSIST.
Just make sure you give back equally to your “ high maintenance “ personality. Some people expect and want so much but give so little and end up being single.
@@christophersmith9683 or we give and give and give to selfish men who take and give nothing in return. Men who expect to be treated like kings but act like jokers. THAT part.
@@LevityBrevity NEVER make the same mistake twice 💯💯💯 go with the genuine man (the good man) he'll give his heart freely right back as long as he knows you'll do the same 4 him 💯
Food for thought of the day -"Do you have the ability and the capacity to put somebody else's needs above your own or are you just plain selfish".....Thank you💕
I’m very selfish but I’m working on it. I don’t like giving anything materialistic and my time because I have done those things and wasted my time and did things for people and got back stabbed.
I am not selfish BUT I don’t believe in this whole 50/50 relationships. I want a traditional household where the man pays the bills and I take care of the home.
"You are intimidating" can also be a way of saying "I am done here". Some guys from the very beginning only wanted a play. So pay close attention to the before and after. Lol
Have you not heard the saying “it’s not you, it’s me”? It’s BS. It’s used to dump you in the nicest way. “You are intimidating” rolls on similar lines, much like “thank you and goodnight”.
Very powerful comment Queen I feel bad for you though so many women have opposing attitudes against real ideal authentic women like you....being nurturing is a woman's TRUE nature....
When you are single for so long - doing things for yourself is a habit - it's not fun, it's not a hobby, it's not enjoyable, it's not a nuisance - it's how it is is. If a guy wants IN, he has to do MORE than what I can do by myself, FOR myself. Done. If I can do as well on my own - what do I need him for?! If you need to play yourself down or dumb yourself down or do whatever "down" this BOY is not for you. Move on. I do not have the ability to put anyone else's needs before my own. Thank God.
"I'm not too high maintenance, i can maintain myself." Yassss!!! Babe pleeease can we have a Makeup tutorial!!! I swear i just be focused on your flawless makeup 💕💕💕 Keep the slayage coming!
Love your wisdom and inspiring words. . . I sincerely pray that a good man finds you and treats you like the Queen that you are! please don't ever settle, its beautiful seeing a young Christian woman living holy..... God bless you xx
Why does anyone put any energy into disliking anything...the energy of it is.....empty to negative. There is no lying going on. Equality of men and women is inherent in the facts: It’s how we all got here. It’s not complicated. Love the good in everything. You have be you ti ful yin and yang. Thanks for being you. Haters always do their jobs too. Beautiful video! You’re beautiful to look at visually and mindful too! WOW
Pleas do a video on father issues/ father abandonment and how women who have these issues should grow from it!! That will really help me on your point of view!
Good points but I like to add- also be very careful of men who prey and play on your insecurities because you are too afraid to be proud of your accomplishments and abundance. Happened to me. I don't see men as competition, but I also refuse to downplay the life I've built for myself. If he can't take it - next!!!
Hello from America. This comment will be longish. I saw your video in my feed and at first glance at the title I thought to myself "Oh, here we go". But...I stayed and watched the entire video. I have to say that I agree with most of what you have to say. As a Black Man (BM) that is into coding & technology, I really do not care if a Black Woman (BW) has 2 master degree's, a minor, and working on her PhD thesis. If that doesn't translate into you genuinely being feminine and us being interdependent on each other and building a life together then your degrees can kick rocks. A BW degrees and accomplishments while yes are something to be proud of are not a substitute for not having to do this or that. Yes I did say I am into coding & technology in the beginning, I'm not going to use that as something to beat a BW down with. It's a tool used to build our relationship between me and that BW. I'll be looking at your upcoming videos to listen to your points.
Lynell I appreciate this comment. Nicely articulated in a way that isn’t defensive or putting women down. I think sometimes some men don’t realize the reasons why women are proud of what they’ve made of themselves - going from nothing to something in a somewhat male dominated world is huge. It goes against expectation and also against what a lot of women are taught growing up. But I also realize we leverage who we’ve become and weaponize it, which isn’t right either. It’s a balancing act.
How about a female with no degrees or nothing and still not feminine? Is it the degrees that is the issue or the nature of the woman? What my grandmother told me like it is said in the video, if you start off with a man with low self esteem, or who is below your level, it will be problematic. For example, a woman like Michelle Obama to some guys will come across as not worth a shot. But to a strong man she comes off as best. So as much as it depends on the woman's nature, it also definitely on the man's nature. First thing I look for in a man is where are they in terms of their maturity and ability to be with strong woman. As in would this person feel intimidated by my qualifications? Folks like this will want to tie every marital problems to your qualifications. And always accuse of disrespect. Similarly to guys. If you feel more qualifications compared to woman is a problem, best thing is don't be with her. Find one who doesn't have any. However, be mindful somebody's nature can be great or not whether they have qualifications or not 😊.
I have been in more situations of "dating up" not down. It takes great confidence in taking ownership of one's identity to feel worthy to "date up". I haven't always internalized that but I realize the men were responding to my capacity, not my present circumstances or the things that happened to me. Therefore, don't date on your level, date on capacity. It takes insight, foresight, and God-given discernment to date based upon the capacity and grace that you are designed with. Be a person of purpose and vision and only allow those in your life who align with this.
Thought I wasn't gonna like this vid after the first 5 secs but this woman spoke so much sense. I see nothing wrong with having high standards however I personally feel that alot of woman (of different colours from different backgrounds) have a checklist of requirements for men that they themselves haven't achieved i.e own house, great job, great body, good looking etc but when it comes down to it all us men are looking for is a kind humble girl that we can work with. Like Breeny says, this isn't an opposition sport, were both supposed to be working as one but alot of the times women and men be like "look at all I have, if you don't have this your not good enough for me" when truth be told you could be missing out on a great partner
I have dated guys who told me that, I do not really like them, I'm just telling myself that. I never understood this until I found myself and came face to face with my flaws and all. Dating is vital and I don't understand why so many people over-sexualise it. Also, when I visited a specific part of France last year, this guy approached me. We danced. At the end of the night, he asked me the same thing. I was like I appreciate your courage but that's not my style and walked away.
@Amikah Stewart : It’s a terrible turn-off when a man offers or expects sex immediately (or very early in a relationship.). It indicates that: A). He has nothing substantial to offer (or does not want to offer it) and/or B). He doesn’t think the woman he propositions has anything substantial to offer HIM (or does not want it). His reason/s don’t matter. It’s just a straight up admission of defeat.
A Masion most definitely. It was a weird encounter that he was so straightforward. But I realise it is apart of the culture in that side of France. It’s crazy how so many men objectify women’s body. We have a mind you know.
Dating DOWN is a serious problem. We sell ourselves short and don't have the patience to be at peace alone. Many of us put our needs LAST... which is appealing to men, particularly men who won't be able to love you back... and we do this (people pleasing) to feel loved.... but that's not love. It's a disservice to ourselves. Everything you've said here is true. It's a journey. A balance. A test of patience and self-awareness. We have to love and value ourselves... be able to deal with how the world views us and treats us while we develop who we really are underneath all that garbage... and then still be willing to date in a world full of men who also don't know or understand or value themselves (or us). It's a whole job, every day. A lot of men are not interested in or willing to "level up." Society (American society at least) perpetuates ignorance, low-level behavior, lack of self-discipline, lack of morality, an overly independent (selfish) mindset, etc. "Love us correctly and we will become twice the woman you thought you knew" - REAL TALK!!!!!
I pray you find the One man God has for you, and mainstream parties and music are things too far from what God has for his children :) Be blessed Godly Royalty!!
My goodness, what an eye-opener! I’ve had several similar interactions with men like you described. Even in very casual, non-romantic (at least on my part) situations. Even gentlemen I genuinely liked and respected and wanted to know better. Wanted to add that men can become “competitive” with “non-competing” women to “overcompensate” for their feelings of being “out of league”.
20:44 - 21:31 - Exactly what I needed to hear. It's time to be done giving losers a chance because you're trying to be accepting when what you're really doing is settling, and eating literal crap for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. You'll never be satiated. I want a full meal! I'm done starving!
I have been told im intimidating by women and men and i get happy when i hear that, whenever i am In the friendly or flirty mood i will turn off that but im normally more on the feeling superior side and its not good for me
Wow, I wish I would have seen this video earlier. I was just dealing with a guy that told me he wouldn't be able to treat me the way I deserved. Low and behold, I ended up getting hurt a few months later. The sad thing about it was we always had so much fun together and I felt so comfortable being myself around him, but he lacked confidence. He was insecure and didn't understand why I wanted to be with him regardless of how many attempts I made to show him I only wanted him. Now I know to never do that again lol. Don't waste your time with these types of guys.
I been there a few times with some guys I met, and date two guys who were super insecure about themselves that I had to ended it because it pushed me to where I couldn't help them anymore. and I couldn't understand it either myself, but I guess majority of the guys these days are honestly just straight cowards in disguise. But there still some good men's out there, we just have to be patient for the right one!🤷🏽♀
Oh, girl! I hope I had heard this before, I got into a relationship with a guy that was "lower" than me. He used to say "You are too good for me", "why do you like me"... And I thought oh poor thing he is so cute, oh... He was always checking other women when he was out with me and not being mean but they were always in his level and not mine, so something inside of me always thought, why does he never look more to women that are more like me, now I know just because he knew they were too good for him. To make it short yesterday we broke up and he said really bad things like I am too demanding, too much... Bingo, he is right, and he broke me and I LET HIM DRAG ME DOWN! So my advice for women, girls out there is like you said if a man says "You are too good for me" run and don't look back!
Sis you were really speaking to me. I'd never understood why men would say that I was high maintenance or intimidating but it all makes sense now. Thank you!
I just want you to know, I am so glad you popped up in my TH-cam recommendations. You are literally helping me get through a rough period regarding this guy I really care about but refuses to match my efforts with time dedicated to us building. I am currently trying to work to get back to building myself up after the damage has been done. So thank you for being you and reassuring me see the value I bring to the table. 😊😊
Leah T: I think statements like that can “sting” because we read into it and take it a closeted insult, ie “He means I’m snobby.” In general, good (or even decent) men tend to be very honest about their FEELINGS about women. If a man is saying, “You’re too good for me,” or “You don’t (or can’t) really love me,” etc., he really means it. That’s his perceived reality. This becomes an exercise in frustration because women are CONSTANTLY chided in most societies for NOT lowering their standards and considering men “in a lower league” to themselves. So women give these men their time and attention and are rejected or mistreated for being “too good.”
He said that as a parting sentiment. His real reason is you were not feminine, I.e you were too masculine for him to stick around. Men do not like butch masculine women. Men are naturally attracted to feminine women.
rugssean : That’s his problem, isn’t it? It’s not a woman’s job to “sell” herself to a man. He either sees and appreciates her worth or he doesn’t. Just because he fails to recognize her worth doesn’t make her less worthy.
A guy told me that I was too good for him. I honestly thought it meant that he really valued me. He treated me like trash.... you’re definitely right, listen to them!!!
I need to chime in on this. As a myers-briggs INTP-A, i am a true Alpha Female 0.3% of populous). l recognize and revel in my arrogance and intimidating nature because i know what I’m capable of. I compete fiercely in certain scenarios, and yes, if we’re on a date it’s an interview. I agreed to interview this man as a prospect because my time is valuable and i wont tolerate it being put to waste. Not to mention that I have high expectations for everyone, myself included, so even if he’s “good on paper”, i need to gauge him in public to determine if he lied or not. I also have to assess safety levels, strictly for my benefit. I’ve no issue with my requirements, demands, and standards as i make sure that they will always be met. Am i humble? No. Am i thankful/grateful for what i have and been able to do and be? Yes. Am I considerate and compassionate? Yes. Am i kind? No. You (man on date) are there to show me how you are, how you’ll treat me, and why you’re worth my time. Otherwise, I’m not going to waste a single neuron on a thought of you (him).
Laydees.... when a guy says ‘your too expensive ‘ it means he thinks you lack feminine qualities that he values. That he knows you are a gold digger and not worth his time or effort. That the juice is not worth the squeeze.
This one was so good I went to like it 3 times after liking it once 💯 Lmao looking at all the butthurt men in the comments who wanted to know why they are struggling with quality women, but weren’t ready for the truth 😂😂💯💯
First of all.. Have you even watched the video and heard what she has to say? Second.. I'd better use a vibrator for all my life than settle for some shitboy, so don't worry about us :D Being a decent man who values his woman is not unrealistic and delusional. If you, for some reason, think it is, then please guys, date each other and leave the heck us alone, most of you are only usable just for a dick anyway. :D
Omg yesss best advice! Many occasions guys have said you need to be with someone better smh. I should’ve listened. Do not put yourself on the sale for a man 🙏🏾🙏🏾
This video made me very emotional. A guy who will love you for WHO YOU ARE and not for WHAT YOU DO. I felt that 300%. Praying to God that He will give me wisdom in all aspects of life especially when it comes to LOVE. Truly grateful I stumbled upon this. God has made all things beautiful in His time. Patiently waiting for God's promise. I just subscribed! :) May God bless you. Thank you for your wisdom.
Almost in tears from gratitude. I love and appreciate what your videos have done for me. Ive lost myself ....for almost a year now. You are helping me "re-find" me.
when she said the woman comes to the table with all of her degrees (debt) her career (not in the stem fields or anything that pays well) her material items (No money cos she spent it) her own house (debt) her own car ( debt) and her beauty ( make up costs a lot of money). This delusional mentality needs to stop. Kids end up suffering in the end having to live with these single mothers. JUST stop already.
@UCIWQTZH_r-ohmuOf-QWN51Q I never said women cant be "great" whatever that means. Im saying the majority of women put on the illusion of being successful. The problem with being "great" is that it goes to thier head. Women make terrible leaders because they dont know how to be humble. Youve made my point by bragging about yourself for a paragraph. In the end children lose. Look outside of yourself for one minute. Its not about me or you.
Alen Mustlovski Again you are misunderstanding, how am I bragging about myself? I’m simply disproving your previous statements about women bringing debts to relationships. You’re just upset because as we keep saying, YOU CANNOT AFFORD HIGH CALIBER WOMEN SO YOU’RE GETTING UPSET. Have a nice day, I’m done now ;*
I get what you are saying in this and agree. We shouldn't be all about competition when it comes to our personal lives, we are supposed to both bring things to the table and compliment each other. I pride myself on being able to care for myself especially because all the women in my family earn more and have always told me to provide for myself. But at the same time I am humble and don't worry too much about all the material things because those can be taken away at any time, and when they are what do you have left? It is hard though because I naturally intimidate men because I am tall and being independent and self sufficient can be even more intimidating. I think I have actually more feminine than masculine energy, but at the same time it is hard to let someone do things for you.
Exellent Video Mademoiselle. If I understand you correctly, Guy says, “You are to high maintenance for me” Your comeback, “Nah mate, you are just not in a position to maintain me, I worked very😓😓 hard to get where I am. It was not an overnight 1 day process. So look, Deal With It.
Thank you for explaining the difference. I never knew I was using my accomplishments as a weapon just thought I was protecting myself by showing I am capable. THANK YOU FOR BEING SUCH A COOL BIG SIS
Love this!!!! A team mate it is so TRUE! Not someone you can walk all over. Love your videos, for real. They get better and better. Keep them coming love. You certainly help me with my content. - From a self love content creator! ❤️
Love us women correctly and will become twice the woman you thought you knew and on that note I understand now why my ex said to me "your just too much a woman for me" and all he was saying was "your just too much for me to keep up & maintain on the level that you are on" so thts wen I realized I wasted 7yrs of my young looking self on a old run down olds mobile but I knew tht bs wen I moved wit him, I jus at the time of me elevating needed a place to stay but I got extremely ILL and lost both of my jobs which is y I now have my own damn business bcuz im still battling this rare cancer and so I was jus surviving and it went to a level I wasn't even trying to seek, but I learned alot from his 57 year old ass tht dont get wit men wit INSECURITY ISSUES bcuz wen they see u dont have them, THEY THEN PARADE DOWN ON WHAT THEY WISHED THEY HAD, and suck the GOD LIVING LIFE OUT OF U....SO I AM NOW LEARNING ALL OVER AGAIN MY WORTH ALL BCUZ HE CAUSED ME PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES, EMOTION ISSUES, MENTAL ISSUES, tht wen other ppl see me and say to me " ur one gorgeous girl " I then reply " REALLY" all bcuz I let this man get sooooooo deep into my head, I now question my beauty, my age, my wisdom, me not being young no more, me having to start all over again, me isolating myself bcuz I dont want no one to see me like this, and so listening to ur videos inspire me to continue to write about what kind of men are out there and how to spot then and how to discern everything their shooting ur way....but love you BREENY LEE @BREENYLEE
HELLO MY LOVES!!!! THIS WAS A HARD ONE TO MAKE BECAUSE IT REQUIRES PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY FIRST!! LETS CONTINUE TO BE STRONG, POWERFUL AND INFLUENTIAL WOMEN ❤️ ps. What should my next topic be? Watch till the end to decide xxx
Breeny Lee My biggest question is that I completely understand and agree 100% with your perspective, but how do you continue to have faith you’ll find the right guy? For me I’m 24 so I have time and have hope and patience it’ll happen and I’m completely over settling, but what about the women who want families and a man and are 40+. What is your advice for what seems like time is ticking?
Breeny Lee self sabotage/procrastination! Great video, thank you 😊 really made me look within myself
you should do a video about "Why are you intimidated by men" and how to change that mindset idk ofc low self esteem topic again but useful still
Self love🍹❤
Affection please ❤️
Your value does NOT decrease due to someone else’s incapability to see you worth ....
If nobody else sees your value maybe you're over evaluating yourself?
Amen! Just like race doesn't determine your value, neither does gender 😊
Agreed
Amen
yes!!!!
"The reason why men and women are different is so that their strengths compliment each other, not compete."
yessss!!!
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i see you tae 🤔
last i checked nagging and fatness doesnt compliment me
@Rolston Mayers y'all men always talk about money
wise word tho
"I have accepted that I'm too much for some people"
Clarissa Stevens : And this is applicable to all relationships, not just romantic ones.
What makes you too many for some people?
So your for sale?
@@pressurebusspipesmakesdiam1366 true that's what it sounds like
Same sis.
“You cannot put yourself on the sales rack because a man refuses to pay full price for you.” So impactful! Thank you for your true wisdom and sharing your experiences so that we gain even more self love 🙏🏾❤️💫
Well she should, what man is going to pay full price for something that was used for free by dozens of men and is now 2nd hand ?
@@raregrimebeats1352 Savage lol!
@Flaccid Clitoris Quean not Queen Bru That comment was way outta line homie. She may not be your cup of tea but thats about as bad as a comment and insult that you can give a black person.
I am a MGtow as well and I disagree with all of what this woman says. But for you to call her an orangutan is on another level bru.
With a name like yours I cant expect you to honestly give 2 fucks but as a black man I couldnt let this comment go without a response.
Lacita Fleming you’ll be self loving yourself to an old spinster if you buy into the video blogger bullshit.
Then go trick. I am sure there are alot of Johns waiting.
„When he says you’re too good for him, RUN” sooo true
Why?
My ex fiance always tell me that. I stupidly tried to reassure him 😩
Ex
Guilty of dating down!! He just brought my whole aura down.
Ofcourse now you will keep on trading up
what do you mean you "Dating down"? Was it his career, status, height, income, physical Fitness ? Was it his confidence or self-esteem? Or was it his personality? Was he a Nice guy, was he an Asshole? There is so many things that could mean...
Angel Mata he was probably an asshole
Aura...?? The fuck is yall talking about?? Yall swear yall be glowing.
Now you know how most men feel regularly. If you don't date down that means you're automatically admitting that you will always be below your partner. Just think about that.
I believe that the man that the Most High has in store for you will never be intimidated by you. In fact, he will either meet your requirements/match your standards or he will exceed them 💁🏾♀️
Yahuah Is My Everything it’s not about your standards/requirements that will turn a good or high quality man off though. Of course if you guys don’t match each other it’s a no go. But it’s the mentality that can come with it. No man wants to compete against the world all day and then come home and compete with you. Just like you shouldn’t want to compete with him. You’re supposed to be each other peace, safe space. a place that, while not always perfect, you can let your guard down and chill and be you as much as possible.
DeWayne Phoenix Of course. It’s not about competition between the two sexes. I meant that if you know your value as a woman and you respect and know the value of a good man and then you will complement each other well to the point where nobody’s intimidated. If y’all know what y’all bring to the table and there’s no egotistical behavior involved then y’all will be great together.
Lol “ meet your requirements”?? That doesn’t sound narcissistic and arrogant to you?? Geeze lol
James Parker No, it doesn’t. If colleges and jobs can have standards and requirements that they want us to meet, then so can someone who takes marriage seriously 💁🏾♀️
Yahuah Is My Everything a real man doesn’t worry what a job or college thinks though sis, that’s a programmed person
My ex actually said I intimidated him at the beginning of the relationship, and then when he broke up with me said 'you deserve better than me'. Too many red flags I just didn't see them.
Same.
Lie,he left you coz you were horrible
The same thing literally happened to me!
Going through this right now
Why is that a bad thing though? Like he telling you your worth so he don’t waste anymore of your time. That’s better than if he jus cheated
Narc men say you're too good for me hoping that you'll lower your standards....when I hear that I agree then block... standing in my power and loving myself first. Great video!
Tia As a men all I can say is that these men arent motivated to accomplish sth in life
Tia hahha this happend to me one time one told me I had a picky high standards hehe.
Because they want to dump your ass
"Narc men say you're too good for me hoping that you'll lower your standards....when I hear that I agree then block... standing in my power and loving myself first. Great video!"
Nar·cis·sist
: a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. "narcissists who think the world revolves around them"
@@madmax209 I think she is mental or just don't understand who exactly a narcissist is.
"Your value does not decrease based on some else's inability to see your worth" i really really enjoyed your video it came about time. Thank you, new follower from horn of africa
I swear to God, these videos make me feel so confident and realize that it's okay to be patient and wait for the right person for you instead of jumping from one relationship to another just for the sake of being in one. Being single used to frustrate me when everyone around me were in relationships but now I feel like I owe it to me to find someone I deserve and who deserves me. Thank you❤️
@jimmydean lol ahahahahahahahahah, a pandemic came… funny
@jimmydean i would love if you would avoid me as well bye
@@ach0i pop of, queen
Even when you are successful and you downplay it. Once they find out who you are they get insecure. You can be soft gentle and feminine and humble but when the man finds out your success when you downplay it, he gets twisted. Trust me girl I've experienced that.
You met shitty men who couldn’t look ur worth
Real man is happy complementing each other success without bringing them down
I will b proud of my lady if she succeed - thats my lady
If u keep the same dynamic happy
Jus lik before success
Without changing in attitude or behaviour then thats ❤❤
“I’m not too expensive, you just can’t afford me”
Me: screams “period”🤣‼️💯& *likes the video*
So women are supposed to be a transaction?
so women are suppose to be walking bills ?
@@TopFlightSecurity415 no lol. When you have a certain lifestyle, why be with someone who doesn’t match that ? When you’re successful and reached where you want to be in your life. Be with someone who’s on the same level , so if you’re someone who prefers to go to fancy restaurants (which are expensive) you wouldn’t want a guy to offer you let’s say McDonald’s as a date (didn’t say it’s bad thing but I think you get where I’m going with this)❤️
@@j.inkstv No, however if a lady walks in the building and you can tell you’re just not on her level , you simply wouldn’t approach her. It doesn’t have to be about the money. It can even be based on how she carries herself, you get what I mean ? I noticed guys sometimes feel comfortable with girls who don’t have higher standards.
If you cannot pay for it yourself then it isn't YOUR lifestyle, i would get the point if the guy you're with NEVER takes you to good/expensive places, but if you get mad cause your man is responsable with HIS money and doesn't wanna blow HIS savings giving YOU gifts/expensive food that you wouldn't aford by yourself then you're just delusional about your own finacial situation
"Am I a human doing, or am I a human being?" - Breeny Lee
You need to release a book of all your quotes! I would totally buy it!!!
That's a question men ask themselves all the time. Most women only love men for what they do for them.
I just BLOCKED and DELETED a man that told me he felt like I was too good for him. this isn’t high school go somewhere else with the bull.
Omorose Outkast
Idk what he was seeing. Your comment reads like you stress niggas out🤣
Shit, you can go ahead and block and delete me too if you want🤣
Would that be the same as when a guy tell you “ I’m not good enough for you “ ?
A scary man's way of saying you not the one...plenty of fish in the sea tho. 🙏
An ex told me THAT I DIDN'T NEED HIM FOR ANYTHING.He turned out to be a pain in my ass!
I know better now!
Remember girls, there’s a difference between strong independent feminine women and strong independent masculine women.
Princess Tee Thank you! That’s what I think was missing in this.
What’s the difference please tell me
@@tinamakoni1105 look up her video how to be feminine. Also look up how to increase your feminine energy/power. It's about operating in your feminine, we all possess masculine/feminine but as a woman you want to lead with your fem so it will allow room for the man to operate in his masculine.
Think I fall under the masculine women. Either or Remain Strong Females 💯
@@AnikkaForbes yh i think im too masculine as well, but oh wellsies, it is what it isssss
A true high value woman right here !! And for those in the back row I’ll say it again...A true high value woman who knows her worth. A lady who isn’t prepared to be second best to anyone and who also wisely knows that all love stems from SELF-LOVE !!
Love ya Breeny, you are beautiful and just simply amazing queen 💓
Rebekah Campbell What exactly makes you a high value woman particularly?
Classic Man I think every woman thinks this which is a problem , not saying she isn’t but she came off narcissistic and self centered and very arrogant!
James Parker why are y’all intimidated by a confident woman? Having a high self esteem doesn’t mean your are arrogant. You’re just insecure lol
Shenniee Why do you all keep repeating these same tropes that you got out of the 82 gossip magazines and 31 TV shows you watch a week? Oh, and the 764 Instagram posts. And 942 FaceBook posts.
🤣🤣🤣
James Parker The chik in the video wouldn’t even get noticed by me. I would personally rather date a woman with a bald head, than a woman with fake hair. That goes for Black, White, and Latina. I would throw Asians in there, but I don’t really fuck with them. Hilarious.
I'll be honest, I read the title and I was ready to eye roll the video when I heard that black women are too masculine and I thought it would follow on with that "we need to submit" etc, etc, like a lot of video's I've seen. But Breeny you brought a lot of perspective on why being seen as intimidating can affect women pursuing healthy and fulfilling relationships. I'm married btw, so I'm not looking, but this message extended beyond being a single woman looking for a relationship. You made some salient points about understanding your worth, and knowing that you might not be necessarily intimidating, but people, especially men feel intimidated because they know they lack the resources in what it takes to value a woman who already understands what she's worth.
I will say this, I do think a lot of men are unable to value women who have healthy self-esteem because a lot of men come from a place of inequality, ownership, possession and belief that a woman is there to absorb their insecurities. Quite frankly, men need to do a lot of work on themselves, because a woman with self-worth will no longer settle for the aforementioned.
Great video!
I dated my ex for 4 years and he brought down SO low that I used to be so full of life and fire but now I’m slow and it’s hard to leave my house. I’m not depressed or sad but going outside was so draining to him that’s his energy still feeding me
Feminity is so beautiful! The art of being strong yet gentle is amazing.
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RIGHT! I love this!!
femininity*
And I bet all u who are feminist r single
Don't mean to be hateful but women these days are neither feminine nor strong
I think you should get a qualification as a therapist and be a therapist part time or something. Whatever your journey I enjoy watching you. Thanks!
Maybe a pastor too. I could listen to you all day 😂
I'll make this really short. This woman is telling what you want to hear and not the truth follow her advice and you either end up single or end up with a low quality men
@@dacymark1688 I will rather be single than in a bad relationship which will destroy my life . It advice means settling and it won't take u anywhere . No one has time for unnecessary things
@@dacymark1688 would you like to be more specific about your concern? This isn't very constructive feedback. Regardless, I believe all advice should be taken with a pinch of salt because all humans are not the same, nor do they think the same, nor are all their triggers the same, etc etc. I'm sure many of us, like me, are not here looking for a blueprint to enact without applying wisdom to application. As far as I'm concerned, her views are about setting standards, and we should all maintain that across all areas of our lives.
I’m 💯 agree with you. Sometimes as successful women, we forget our feminine side. It’s so important nowadays that we teach women empowerment to also highlight to the fact of not losing our femininity even if we are strong ❤️
Kaylissim The Angry Black Woman its disgusting if im honest moving like man
I agree with your competition comment- some men will say you are intimidating if your being soft, gentle and feminine. These are men who although you have agreed to date them, (in their own minds), although they may want to be with you... THEY TRULY INSIDE THEMSELVES don’t believe they “deserve “ a women like you and are just insecure. I have dated down... just recently ended a relationship with a narcissist who stated at the beginning of the relationship that he was “intimidated “ by me because I was so feminine, soft, gentle...blah blah. He ended up using those traits to bring me down. HE WAS A NARCISSIST.
Just make sure you give back equally to your “ high maintenance “ personality.
Some people expect and want so much but give so little and end up being single.
That part 💯
@@christophersmith9683 or we give and give and give to selfish men who take and give nothing in return. Men who expect to be treated like kings but act like jokers. THAT part.
@@LevityBrevity NEVER make the same mistake twice 💯💯💯 go with the genuine man (the good man) he'll give his heart freely right back as long as he knows you'll do the same 4 him 💯
Food for thought of the day -"Do you have the ability and the capacity to put somebody else's needs above your own or are you just plain selfish".....Thank you💕
This is the most important thing attribute to keep in mind ladies. The fellas will definitely appreciate you to the highest degree.
I’m very selfish but I’m working on it. I don’t like giving anything materialistic and my time because I have done those things and wasted my time and did things for people and got back stabbed.
@@Lovelyminidonuts I honestly know how that feels! but don't change for nobody, keep doing good, it will definitely pay at a point
@@FourthRaikage87Exactly! people will definitely appreciate you.
I am not selfish BUT I don’t believe in this whole 50/50 relationships. I want a traditional household where the man pays the bills and I take care of the home.
Yes would love for you to do a video on how to be feminine & masculine balance in us.
"You are intimidating" can also be a way of saying "I am done here". Some guys from the very beginning only wanted a play. So pay close attention to the before and after. Lol
Have you not heard the saying “it’s not you, it’s me”?
It’s BS. It’s used to dump you in the nicest way. “You are intimidating” rolls on similar lines, much like “thank you and goodnight”.
Men love nurturing women.... Not show off women... Or being so full of themselves.... Wrong energy indeed....
Very powerful comment Queen I feel bad for you though so many women have opposing attitudes against real ideal authentic women like you....being nurturing is a woman's TRUE nature....
@Sa Ra I agree but unfortunately most women don't want security they want luxury
Jess M 💯
@@treking544 thanks dear
@@dacymark1688 you're right
When you are single for so long - doing things for yourself is a habit - it's not fun, it's not a hobby, it's not enjoyable, it's not a nuisance - it's how it is is. If a guy wants IN, he has to do MORE than what I can do by myself, FOR myself. Done. If I can do as well on my own - what do I need him for?! If you need to play yourself down or dumb yourself down or do whatever "down" this BOY is not for you. Move on. I do not have the ability to put anyone else's needs before my own. Thank God.
"I'm not too high maintenance, i can maintain myself." Yassss!!! Babe pleeease can we have a Makeup tutorial!!! I swear i just be focused on your flawless makeup 💕💕💕 Keep the slayage coming!
I like your skin color ☺️ so glowy!
Martha Janet
The blonde just makes it pop
RIGHT!! She's so beautiful!!!
i wonder what would happen if a man, especially a non-POC one, made this same comment?
Egie Asemota that's wuzup
Not me...she looks like a turd w/blonde wig!
Love your wisdom and inspiring words. . . I sincerely pray that a good man finds you and treats you like the Queen that you are!
please don't ever settle, its beautiful seeing a young Christian woman living holy..... God bless you xx
"I'm not too expensive, you just can't afford me"
"I am the KING'S kid!" Amen sister!
Never lower you're standards to be with a man if that man can't respect you he doesn't deserve you .
Love you breeny .
Definitely, "Do not cast your pearls before swines, they will trample to pearls and turn and attack you ". Thank you for sharing Breeny.
Even if u put loads of ads in I would watch them so u can make them coins girl♡
Why does anyone put any energy into disliking anything...the energy of it is.....empty to negative. There is no lying going on. Equality of men and women is inherent in the facts: It’s how we all got here. It’s not complicated. Love the good in everything. You have be you ti ful yin and yang. Thanks for being you. Haters always do their jobs too. Beautiful video! You’re beautiful to look at visually and mindful too! WOW
I’m not religious but I enjoy how you relate Bible verses to life and it makes sense .
Didn’t even watch till the end yet but I looove today’s topic ☕️
Pleas do a video on father issues/ father abandonment and how women who have these issues should grow from it!! That will really help me on your point of view!
'No I'm not too expensive you just can't afford me' I luurrvvveeee it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 that comment made me gasp but by golly I FELT that 😂
Christy A so stupid
@@bhuvhggcuj8294 wow I really care
@emmanuel de la cruz wrong
Bhuv Hggcuj 🤣💯
Thank you Christy, very cool!
Good points but I like to add- also be very careful of men who prey and play on your insecurities because you are too afraid to be proud of your accomplishments and abundance. Happened to me. I don't see men as competition, but I also refuse to downplay the life I've built for myself. If he can't take it - next!!!
Hello from America. This comment will be longish.
I saw your video in my feed and at first glance at the title I thought to myself "Oh, here we go". But...I stayed and watched the entire video. I have to say that I agree with most of what you have to say. As a Black Man (BM) that is into coding & technology, I really do not care if a Black Woman (BW) has 2 master degree's, a minor, and working on her PhD thesis. If that doesn't translate into you genuinely being feminine and us being interdependent on each other and building a life together then your degrees can kick rocks. A BW degrees and accomplishments while yes are something to be proud of are not a substitute for not having to do this or that.
Yes I did say I am into coding & technology in the beginning, I'm not going to use that as something to beat a BW down with. It's a tool used to build our relationship between me and that BW.
I'll be looking at your upcoming videos to listen to your points.
Lynell I appreciate this comment. Nicely articulated in a way that isn’t defensive or putting women down. I think sometimes some men don’t realize the reasons why women are proud of what they’ve made of themselves - going from nothing to something in a somewhat male dominated world is huge. It goes against expectation and also against what a lot of women are taught growing up. But I also realize we leverage who we’ve become and weaponize it, which isn’t right either. It’s a balancing act.
What does feminine female mean to you?
How about a female with no degrees or nothing and still not feminine? Is it the degrees that is the issue or the nature of the woman? What my grandmother told me like it is said in the video, if you start off with a man with low self esteem, or who is below your level, it will be problematic. For example, a woman like Michelle Obama to some guys will come across as not worth a shot. But to a strong man she comes off as best. So as much as it depends on the woman's nature, it also definitely on the man's nature. First thing I look for in a man is where are they in terms of their maturity and ability to be with strong woman. As in would this person feel intimidated by my qualifications? Folks like this will want to tie every marital problems to your qualifications. And always accuse of disrespect. Similarly to guys. If you feel more qualifications compared to woman is a problem, best thing is don't be with her. Find one who doesn't have any. However, be mindful somebody's nature can be great or not whether they have qualifications or not 😊.
YES BREENY WITH THE FACTS!!! Literally, love you, Please make fem video! - A Nigerian TH-camr ( Your biggest fan)
How to Date Up
How to Beat Perfectionism
Looking forward to theeeeeeeeeese!!!
(I especially have been trying to work on the last one lately.)
This was the most nuanced discussion of the "they're intimidated by you" concept. Eye-opening
I have been in more situations of "dating up" not down. It takes great confidence in taking ownership of one's identity to feel worthy to "date up". I haven't always internalized that but I realize the men were responding to my capacity, not my present circumstances or the things that happened to me. Therefore, don't date on your level, date on capacity. It takes insight, foresight, and God-given discernment to date based upon the capacity and grace that you are designed with. Be a person of purpose and vision and only allow those in your life who align with this.
Loved this!
@@Divine-Sage Thank you!
Thought I wasn't gonna like this vid after the first 5 secs but this woman spoke so much sense. I see nothing wrong with having high standards however I personally feel that alot of woman (of different colours from different backgrounds) have a checklist of requirements for men that they themselves haven't achieved i.e own house, great job, great body, good looking etc but when it comes down to it all us men are looking for is a kind humble girl that we can work with. Like Breeny says, this isn't an opposition sport, were both supposed to be working as one but alot of the times women and men be like "look at all I have, if you don't have this your not good enough for me" when truth be told you could be missing out on a great partner
This video was CALLING me. Breeny you are a legend ❤️
YOU ARE MY SPIRIT ANIMAL
Just randomly scrolling through the comments, as if YOU watch my channel?! I LOVEEE yours girl, so informative!
I have dated guys who told me that, I do not really like them, I'm just telling myself that. I never understood this until I found myself and came face to face with my flaws and all. Dating is vital and I don't understand why so many people over-sexualise it.
Also, when I visited a specific part of France last year, this guy approached me. We danced. At the end of the night, he asked me the same thing. I was like I appreciate your courage but that's not my style and walked away.
@Amikah Stewart : It’s a terrible turn-off when a man offers or expects sex immediately (or very early in a relationship.). It indicates that: A). He has nothing substantial to offer (or does not want to offer it) and/or B). He doesn’t think the woman he propositions has anything substantial to offer HIM (or does not want it). His reason/s don’t matter. It’s just a straight up admission of defeat.
A Masion most definitely. It was a weird encounter that he was so straightforward. But I realise it is apart of the culture in that side of France.
It’s crazy how so many men objectify women’s body. We have a mind you know.
Amikah Stewart Women objectify mean as well, duh!
They came run game and you accept whatever they're giving. You hold them accountable. Good job girl.
Dating DOWN is a serious problem. We sell ourselves short and don't have the patience to be at peace alone. Many of us put our needs LAST... which is appealing to men, particularly men who won't be able to love you back... and we do this (people pleasing) to feel loved.... but that's not love. It's a disservice to ourselves. Everything you've said here is true. It's a journey. A balance. A test of patience and self-awareness. We have to love and value ourselves... be able to deal with how the world views us and treats us while we develop who we really are underneath all that garbage... and then still be willing to date in a world full of men who also don't know or understand or value themselves (or us). It's a whole job, every day. A lot of men are not interested in or willing to "level up." Society (American society at least) perpetuates ignorance, low-level behavior, lack of self-discipline, lack of morality, an overly independent (selfish) mindset, etc.
"Love us correctly and we will become twice the woman you thought you knew" - REAL TALK!!!!!
So men should never date down also, huh? Yall think so backwards 😂
🔥💯🔥Wisdom on deck, pay attention folks!
Daddy issues video please!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I have a lot of daddy issues 😭🙄
I pray you find the One man God has for you, and mainstream parties and music are things too far from what God has for his children :) Be blessed Godly Royalty!!
Christelle N
Well said, very classy. 😏
@@Candaicelovesjesus ok lol that is from a place of love and of solidarity with another sister in Christ! Be blessed
@@christellen3077 exactly!!! People don't like truth these days.. And to think you said that the nice way possible... Psalm 1:1.
There’s a lot of truth in everything stated in this video from both sides. Love the perspective.
Wow .... That "masculine energy attracts feminine energy" statement blew me away..... Yup that was me.
You have made me getting over my last relationship so much easier, because I am learning to love myself and view my value.
Jazmin from Aladdin says "I am not a prize to be won!" lol boy did she have it wrong and fell for a street rat liar. lmao
Like my father explained to me "all that glitters is not gold." ✊🏾
My goodness, what an eye-opener! I’ve had several similar interactions with men like you described. Even in very casual, non-romantic (at least on my part) situations. Even gentlemen I genuinely liked and respected and wanted to know better.
Wanted to add that men can become “competitive” with “non-competing” women to “overcompensate” for their feelings of being “out of league”.
20:44 - 21:31 - Exactly what I needed to hear. It's time to be done giving losers a chance because you're trying to be accepting when what you're really doing is settling, and eating literal crap for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. You'll never be satiated. I want a full meal! I'm done starving!
I have been told im intimidating by women and men and i get happy when i hear that, whenever i am In the friendly or flirty mood i will turn off that but im normally more on the feeling superior side and its not good for me
Wow, I wish I would have seen this video earlier. I was just dealing with a guy that told me he wouldn't be able to treat me the way I deserved. Low and behold, I ended up getting hurt a few months later. The sad thing about it was we always had so much fun together and I felt so comfortable being myself around him, but he lacked confidence. He was insecure and didn't understand why I wanted to be with him regardless of how many attempts I made to show him I only wanted him. Now I know to never do that again lol. Don't waste your time with these types of guys.
jasmine!!!! this just happened to me today!!!! like what in the freakkk.... like what is that, insanity
I been there a few times with some guys I met, and date two guys who were super insecure about themselves that I had to ended it because it pushed me to where I couldn't help them anymore. and I couldn't understand it either myself, but I guess majority of the guys these days are honestly just straight cowards in disguise. But there still some good men's out there, we just have to be patient for the right one!🤷🏽♀
Girl I love this advice you’re giving to people. Self worth and self love is everything and should always come first 💯👌
Oh, girl! I hope I had heard this before, I got into a relationship with a guy that was "lower" than me. He used to say "You are too good for me", "why do you like me"... And I thought oh poor thing he is so cute, oh... He was always checking other women when he was out with me and not being mean but they were always in his level and not mine, so something inside of me always thought, why does he never look more to women that are more like me, now I know just because he knew they were too good for him. To make it short yesterday we broke up and he said really bad things like I am too demanding, too much... Bingo, he is right, and he broke me and I LET HIM DRAG ME DOWN!
So my advice for women, girls out there is like you said if a man says "You are too good for me" run and don't look back!
Sis you were really speaking to me. I'd never understood why men would say that I was high maintenance or intimidating but it all makes sense now. Thank you!
I just want you to know, I am so glad you popped up in my TH-cam recommendations. You are literally helping me get through a rough period regarding this guy I really care about but refuses to match my efforts with time dedicated to us building. I am currently trying to work to get back to building myself up after the damage has been done. So thank you for being you and reassuring me see the value I bring to the table. 😊😊
Damn I just realized that I’m dating down........ 😱😱😱... thanks breeny
My ex literally broke up with me bc he said I’m too good for him. Thank you for the video Breeny, your content never fails to speak to me ❤️
Leah T: I think statements like that can “sting” because we read into it and take it a closeted insult, ie “He means I’m snobby.” In general, good (or even decent) men tend to be very honest about their FEELINGS about women. If a man is saying, “You’re too good for me,” or “You don’t (or can’t) really love me,” etc., he really means it. That’s his perceived reality.
This becomes an exercise in frustration because women are CONSTANTLY chided in most societies for NOT lowering their standards and considering men “in a lower league” to themselves. So women give these men their time and attention and are rejected or mistreated for being “too good.”
emmanuel de la cruz : exactly. Nobody dumps someone they DO feel good enough to date.
He said that as a parting sentiment. His real reason is you were not feminine, I.e you were too masculine for him to stick around.
Men do not like butch masculine women. Men are naturally attracted to feminine women.
rugssean : That’s his problem, isn’t it? It’s not a woman’s job to “sell” herself to a man. He either sees and appreciates her worth or he doesn’t. Just because he fails to recognize her worth doesn’t make her less worthy.
A guy told me that I was too good for him. I honestly thought it meant that he really valued me. He treated me like trash.... you’re definitely right, listen to them!!!
I need to chime in on this. As a myers-briggs INTP-A, i am a true Alpha Female 0.3% of populous). l recognize and revel in my arrogance and intimidating nature because i know what I’m capable of. I compete fiercely in certain scenarios, and yes, if we’re on a date it’s an interview. I agreed to interview this man as a prospect because my time is valuable and i wont tolerate it being put to waste. Not to mention that I have high expectations for everyone, myself included, so even if he’s “good on paper”, i need to gauge him in public to determine if he lied or not. I also have to assess safety levels, strictly for my benefit. I’ve no issue with my requirements, demands, and standards as i make sure that they will always be met. Am i humble? No. Am i thankful/grateful for what i have and been able to do and be? Yes. Am I considerate and compassionate? Yes. Am i kind? No. You (man on date) are there to show me how you are, how you’ll treat me, and why you’re worth my time. Otherwise, I’m not going to waste a single neuron on a thought of you (him).
Laydees.... when a guy says ‘your too expensive ‘ it means he thinks you lack feminine qualities that he values. That he knows you are a gold digger and not worth his time or effort. That the juice is not worth the squeeze.
false, it means hes broke so isnt a man... and is looking for a man to be with lol
This one was so good I went to like it 3 times after liking it once 💯
Lmao looking at all the butthurt men in the comments who wanted to know why they are struggling with quality women, but weren’t ready for the truth 😂😂💯💯
To all the women in this comment section please stay single to the day you die. From all of us men. Thank you.
Lol right
Lol bruh, u know them females delusionsl
BRUUUHHHH.... LOOLOLOLLL... BRRUUUUHHHH!!!!!
First of all.. Have you even watched the video and heard what she has to say? Second.. I'd better use a vibrator for all my life than settle for some shitboy, so don't worry about us :D Being a decent man who values his woman is not unrealistic and delusional. If you, for some reason, think it is, then please guys, date each other and leave the heck us alone, most of you are only usable just for a dick anyway. :D
@@DemonRuby😍😘
Omg yesss best advice! Many occasions guys have said you need to be with someone better smh. I should’ve listened. Do not put yourself on the sale for a man 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Jim Richmond hi Jim I promise you that you couldn’t be more wrong 🙏🏾god bless you
This is like food for my self worth, i am 18 years and i am glad that i find this. It’s better that you learn it early than too late!❤️
this is what a real feminist is. i love you woman
Wow pleasantly surprised by the video! I saw the title and deffo thought I was not gonna enjoy but this deffo deserves a thumbs up!
This is such a good breakdown you’re giving me cancer vibes that’s my sign too and I really do see girls doing this. You’re spot on
Why? Cancers are good at dating and flirting I thought 😂
@@isabellalora6533 cancer vibes due to her personality. “Girls doing this” was a general statement not directed at cancers babe. ❤️
@@NatoshRenee aaa okay 😍 I’m a Taurus by the way :)
It’s amazing how you maintain balance in your reasoning. Men and women can learn a lot from that alone.
This video made me very emotional. A guy who will love you for WHO YOU ARE and not for WHAT YOU DO. I felt that 300%. Praying to God that He will give me wisdom in all aspects of life especially when it comes to LOVE. Truly grateful I stumbled upon this. God has made all things beautiful in His time. Patiently waiting for God's promise.
I just subscribed! :)
May God bless you. Thank you for your wisdom.
I’m feminine but I’ve been doing stuff for myself for so long!
SR K
Feminine can do things on their own. Masculine can do things on their own AND then some.
Yay. You're an adult. Here's a cookie. And a cat.
“I’m not too expensive, you just can’t afford me”. If my date said that to me, I would think she used to be a prostitute.
Ladies never talk about equal responsibility in the whole equality talk.
and never will
Almost in tears from gratitude. I love and appreciate what your videos have done for me. Ive lost myself ....for almost a year now. You are helping me "re-find" me.
I’m really not offended by any of this! I can relate a lot actually I agree with this Breeny
In order for God to connect you to your husband You have to be spiritually equal! First!
i assume you never read the bible darling
LOVE THIS!!
when she said the woman comes to the table with all of her degrees (debt) her career (not in the stem fields or anything that pays well) her material items (No money cos she spent it) her own house (debt) her own car ( debt) and her beauty ( make up costs a lot of money). This delusional mentality needs to stop. Kids end up suffering in the end having to live with these single mothers. JUST stop already.
Well said that's all they have to offer debt and used up cookie
Alen Mustlovski you’re exactly the type of man she is referring to.
@UCIWQTZH_r-ohmuOf-QWN51Q I never said women cant be "great" whatever that means. Im saying the majority of women put on the illusion of being successful. The problem with being "great" is that it goes to thier head. Women make terrible leaders because they dont know how to be humble. Youve made my point by bragging about yourself for a paragraph. In the end children lose. Look outside of yourself for one minute. Its not about me or you.
@The Age of Z Exactly
Alen Mustlovski Again you are misunderstanding, how am I bragging about myself? I’m simply disproving your previous statements about women bringing debts to relationships. You’re just upset because as we keep saying, YOU CANNOT AFFORD HIGH CALIBER WOMEN SO YOU’RE GETTING UPSET. Have a nice day, I’m done now ;*
Omg this is so helpful!! This can really give you a total new way of thinking about yourself! This was needed to feel the worth we really are
I get what you are saying in this and agree. We shouldn't be all about competition when it comes to our personal lives, we are supposed to both bring things to the table and compliment each other. I pride myself on being able to care for myself especially because all the women in my family earn more and have always told me to provide for myself. But at the same time I am humble and don't worry too much about all the material things because those can be taken away at any time, and when they are what do you have left? It is hard though because I naturally intimidate men because I am tall and being independent and self sufficient can be even more intimidating. I think I have actually more feminine than masculine energy, but at the same time it is hard to let someone do things for you.
Exellent Video Mademoiselle. If I understand you correctly, Guy says, “You are to high maintenance for me” Your comeback, “Nah mate, you are just not in a position to maintain me, I worked very😓😓 hard to get where I am. It was not an overnight 1 day process. So look, Deal With It.
Thank you for explaining the difference. I never knew I was using my accomplishments as a weapon just thought I was protecting myself by showing I am capable. THANK YOU FOR BEING SUCH A COOL BIG SIS
Breeny.... you cracked the code! It’s them!!!!
Love this!!!! A team mate it is so TRUE! Not someone you can walk all over. Love your videos, for real. They get better and better. Keep them coming love. You certainly help me with my content. - From a self love content creator! ❤️
100% agree. If a man wants to be attentive to you, let him be. Why square up. Yes we as women are more than capable but let a good man do his job LOL
Love us women correctly and will become twice the woman you thought you knew and on that note I understand now why my ex said to me "your just too much a woman for me" and all he was saying was "your just too much for me to keep up & maintain on the level that you are on" so thts wen I realized I wasted 7yrs of my young looking self on a old run down olds mobile but I knew tht bs wen I moved wit him, I jus at the time of me elevating needed a place to stay but I got extremely ILL and lost both of my jobs which is y I now have my own damn business bcuz im still battling this rare cancer and so I was jus surviving and it went to a level I wasn't even trying to seek, but I learned alot from his 57 year old ass tht dont get wit men wit INSECURITY ISSUES bcuz wen they see u dont have them, THEY THEN PARADE DOWN ON WHAT THEY WISHED THEY HAD, and suck the GOD LIVING LIFE OUT OF U....SO I AM NOW LEARNING ALL OVER AGAIN MY WORTH ALL BCUZ HE CAUSED ME PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES, EMOTION ISSUES, MENTAL ISSUES, tht wen other ppl see me and say to me " ur one gorgeous girl " I then reply " REALLY" all bcuz I let this man get sooooooo deep into my head, I now question my beauty, my age, my wisdom, me not being young no more, me having to start all over again, me isolating myself bcuz I dont want no one to see me like this, and so listening to ur videos inspire me to continue to write about what kind of men are out there and how to spot then and how to discern everything their shooting ur way....but love you BREENY LEE @BREENYLEE